Trash Tuesday w/ Esther Povitsky & Khalyla Kuhn - Yung Gravy and Ari Kytsya are in Perfect Sync

Episode Date: March 31, 2026

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Welcome to the show. Let's introduce. We're welcoming back, a fan favorite, someone we love to have in the studio who makes us feel so small in a good way. Thank you. Welcome back Young Gravy. And today, we said,

you're not allowed to walk in here if you don't bring. You're super hot, super amazingly funny, beautiful girlfriend, Arikittia. Thank you. Welcome. We said, we don't want you. We don't want just you.

We want the girl. I love it. I don't know. People say that. How did you guys meet? She said in my DMs. Oh, you did. Oh. Five years ago.

What did you say? I said, add my Snapchat. You said what? Add my Snapchat. We scrolled all the way up recently and looked back at our game that we were to spend to each other. It was cute. I was like, perhaps just this once or something like that.

Like maybe just this once, like trying to act cool. And then I added her because I thought she was hot. I don't know how long after that we first hung out. But we just were like buddies but also kind of homies. What? Wait, this is five years ago. Five years ago. Oh, whoa.

We were like buddies and kind of homies and like we hung out a few times and then I randomly was in Seattle and there was a heat wave and all the hotels got filled up. I needed somewhere to stay. I hit her up and she let me baby no money and like five other people stay at her parents' house. At your parents' house? Yeah. So we stayed at her parents' house for like four days. you introduce yourself just as mad and like they knew our music and stuff um when i say our i just mean me and baby no money me and all my friends were under the impression that we for some

reason had to pretend like i was dating her like like i don't know how i got that from our messages but i was like oh like she's saying that her boyfriend new boyfriend is coming to stay or whatever so then we i also never said that like i didn't know about this until now that he was just pretend they told and i asked her parents about it and they said that they didn't even remember that And no one, all of us on my whole crew were like, all right, like, let's just be like very cute about it. If they ask about it, like, you guys are planning big things for the future.

And I was like, we were like talking as if she like, you know, was a super serious girlfriend at a time. Those same parents, you know, no, no, I'm at tight with them. And I had a good, it was an easy way to come back in because they already liked me. Yeah, I remember me that sweet young man. I skipped over a lot, sorry. Ari, how did you feel like a guy hitting you up

like, I need a place to stay? Like was that like, were you into it? Or were you like, what is this guy's deal? The first time we met, I think there was like three of my sisters with me as well. So like all of them liked him already. And like he was just so nice. Like the nicest person I've ever met and I have always told everyone that. And so I was like, oh yeah, he's so fucking nice.

Like why would I not let him stay? And how does that conversation eventually turn into, hey, what are we doing here? Should we make it official? Like how long into the buddy situation where you guys like, okay, maybe we should figure something out here. No, I think he was just so like playing around back then. At that time, yeah, I mean, I wasn't really looking for a relationship as much. And, and, uh, I didn't realize that she had a crush on me. I don't know. I just, I thought she was on some, like, like, she was more quiet. I felt like maybe she'd be to know each other or maybe you've become more

talkative sense. But I just thought she was like about her business. Like, oh, let's just, you know. And were you like pushing those feelings down or were you like just trying to like, Play it cool. Oh, yeah, because I remember one time I was staying at his house back then and he like missed his flight and I was like, yes, like, thank God. And then he's like, okay, I just booked another one. I was like, what the fuck? And yeah, I was sad. But so definitely I definitely back then I wouldn't have been like, oh yeah, I like you. Like this time I was like, yeah, I like you. Like what are we doing? They're a different breed than us, Esther. We would have two weeks in. We would have been like, where's my rain? We would have already like, I'm in love with you. Don't leave me. Yeah.

Let's move in together. So you were able to play it cool and then eventually what happened? We both got into other serious relationships. Whoa. And I noticed like she had Block Beyond everything. So I knew that. Oh, yeah. Why?

I think I like, one of my friends actually asked like to go to one of your shows or something. And I might have like texted you about that. Yeah. And he always says baby to everybody in life that ever exists. Yeah. And like, my ex was just like, no, what the fuck is he calling? I was like, I promise he just talks like that.

Like he's not trying to. Oh, it was. Oh, yeah, I got you, baby. Or orders from the X. And then he also wrote a lyric that talked about a list that wasn't about me, but my sister was texting me one day and was like, is this about you? And I was like, he definitely wrote that. Why is he writing songs?

I was like, this is not about me, I promise. Was it about her? No, no, no, I just thought I was really clever. If I were you, I wouldn't have even clarified if it was about me. I would forever just think it was about me. I'm like, and even if he doesn't admit it, it's about me. Wouldn't she asked her? Yes.

Stay delusional. We're unhealthy. We're not. We're delusional. Stay crazy. Yeah, yeah. Wait, Ari. How many sisters do you have? Four. The dream. The dream.

So your parents had five girls. Mm-hmm. And five years. So we're all a year apart. Oh my gosh. And no boys. Nope. And are you guys all very close?

Yeah. I'm so jealous. I have one sister that I adore. Like she, her and I are so close. If I had what three more, we'd be unstoppable. You're so lucky. It's so fun. They're so lit.

It's like built in friends. Like that's why I feel like I'm awkward and bad at making friends because like growing up like our mom was just like you don't need to have play dates. You already have four people here. True. You know that's so true because my mom doesn't have friends and she's never had to because she had seven sisters. So she was like, why the fuck do I need to meet new people? Like my best friends are around me all day every day. That's so cool. I'm so jealous. I'm just over here sad now thinking of what could have been. You're just going to have to get pregnant again and again and again. What? I don't have any silly. You don't know, oh yeah, that's right. I grew up without any. I had half siblings that were way older. Right. They were kind of like uncles.

Wait, so you're an only child, right? Pretty much, yeah. I'm on route to never have, never having another baby. I have one baby now. You've one baby? I have one baby. How old? He's 15 months.

Okay, so. I think you met me. I was already, like, maybe pregnant. Brewing? Brewing, yeah. I was cooking. I'm afraid of only children of having an only child, especially if they're boys. I feel like girls sort of like settle a little bit better.

Tell me everything. I should not. I thought it worked out pretty well. Only child. Do you feel like well socialized? Wait, here, I have a couple questions. Do you know how to share food? You should ask her that.

We only share food if we go somewhere. Like we, there's never, I think there's been one single time that we ordered separately. We always ordered two things and just share them both. And does he, is he like, here, have half of this? A feed to her. Now, if you take your fork and you take something of his without permission, does he freak out? Or is he like, I don't care? No, I could take anything like ever from you.

Oh my God, this is such a relief. That's good. I don't think that the only child, like, rumors are always true. I think maybe it's, like, for, like, rich kids or something. But who was around you growing up? Did you have cousins or, like, brother or sibling figures? See, I barely had any family. I have, my dad had a bunch of family in Switzerland.

Yeah, I remember that. But I had no contact with them because they didn't have, like, phones or, I mean, I could call them or, like, email them, but they barely spoke English. And then in the U.S., my mom only had one brother. brother. So I didn't really have much family. When my dad passed, like, it was literally just my mom. Like my mom feels like my only family. Well, not feels like my only family because all my friends are my family now. But if you're lonely? Not really because I got really close with a lot of dudes when I was young and like stayed close with them for forever. And like my friends were my

family. Does it feel like a dream to enter such a big family like hers? It is. It's fun. It's cool to like come, come join a family gathering. and like see like traditions and stuff because I like you know we would make up our own, my mom and I like I just think of our own shit. I had a few friends that were in a similar situation without like much like parents or like their dad gone

so then we would always celebrate together. Oh, that's sweet. Yeah. So I would be me and my mom and then my boy Vaughn who lives in my house right now and helps be works for me. That's such a green flag. When people have like childhood friends in their life,

that's so sweet. When people don't, I'm like, what have you done? Like what horrible shit? I know. When people like remember meeting girls that their friend turnover was so fast. Yes. I talked about this all the time.

And always talking about friend dumping where it's like, oh, her and I don't talk. Yeah. It's like how many friend dumps are we going to go through? How many people are we going to go through in a year? It's scary. Yeah. I was like, how do you do that? Yeah.

I don't even know how you get mad at someone that's crazy. Wait, all right. I love your TikTok. Thank you. And also so you do OF. I don't know much about that. What kind of stuff do you do? Makes a lot of money.

I do. I feel like I only really do like solo content and then like with girls. I basically show everything on there. I don't know how to describe it. It's like diet porn kind of. Oh, okay. Yeah. And have you worked with Stella Berry?

I actually am like next week. Actually on Friday we have something. We love her. We've had her on the show. And she talked about you like. Yeah. Yeah, she's so smart. She's like the smart.

She's so smart. She's so smart. Yeah. I think it's kind of tight. It's just like I made one for the purpose of I voiced. I narrated a video of her and this girl Camilla. Like making it out and doing like a basic little girl girl video. But I narrated the whole thing like seven minutes.

And it's like it's like smutty like poetic like beautiful. I was so proud. I was so proud. of that narration. So I dropped my own only fans also where you could buy it, that video. And they had it like the same videos. So how they like distribute the videos on only fans

is like each person has their own account and they all just drop the same thing for the same price and then people can buy it. So it wasn't even like she made a lot off of it, but like my account just from that and like, what else that I put on there? I posted like a couple like BTS pictures of like her butt like from like my fancy camera.

And I sent like a, I sent some foot picks out. Because people, it was, honestly, I had so much fun with OF because, like, the DMs, like, I just started actually responding to the DMs myself. There was just really funny requests in there or, like, super fans who didn't even want to, like, see anything sexual. I just wanted to talk to me. Anyways, I made, like, I was like 60 grand off of, like, one video, a couple footpicks,

uh, and just being nice to people on there. That's crazy. Now, you're like this specific type. this breed of like girl i see online that i'm obsessed with and i never get to like ask them any questions but like your whole social media is not o f at all it's like just really funny videos like you're super cute you're funny you're just living your life and then like how do people know that you're it's like i don't know i'm just getting nervous with so with like my socials i have to be careful because they don't they hate like people that work in the industry they don't want us like promoting stuff

on there so that's why like my pages are a lot more clean and not related to OF. So it's almost like two separate lives. But I do post people I think find it mostly from like my like get ready with me to like make videos for only fans. So post stuff that is adjacent or like hinting at it a lot. Yeah. I see. People just like we'll use like words for certain like things that are like, like,

I guess like over time people start to learn like what they mean. Bob. Yeah, like Bob or like mattress actress or like movies is like what movies for stuff. And like the more that you talk about it before like, oh, that's what that means. Because I it's crazy. Like your TikTok in its own right seems like it's a huge success and like that's its own career. I actually just got banned. Oh my God.

Why? We're trying to get a bad. What was the offense? Because I know that's how I found Stella Barry. I didn't even know she did O.F. I just thought she was such a pretty girl telling fun stories and then talking about how she had a purple vagina, remember, and the genetics and the science behind it. And I was like, oh, like, this is this girl's fucking amazing. I had no idea for the longest time.

And I think she's like equally as under. She's like, this girl's great. And why did you get banned? Do you know? I think somebody actually paid to get me banned a lot. That happens a lot in the industry weirdly is that like people either like other management companies will do it because. because they want you to like sign with them and they'll like message you right away being like, oh, saw you got banned.

Like our team has a great person that can recover your account. Wait, that is so shady though that they would, you know, intentionally go after and be like, hey, if you need our help. In this case, I think it was someone who's just like mad because there's a lot of like little beef things going around on with OF girls right now. And I think they're just like see you as a potential threat. So they just like got our account banned. What are the beefs just like between the girls or something else?

I feel like right now, like a lot of the stuff, at least is a lot of people that work in the industry are kind of just calling out people that are like scamming and using like social media to do that. What is the scamming? They'll like post on social media and it's like crazy that it's like the people with the biggest platforms that are doing this. But they'll act like they make like certain types of videos and that they show stuff. And then like when somebody goes on their account to buy something, it'll be like them like fully clothed. They're just like in a bathing suit even though they said like, oh yeah, I'm fully getting fucked in balls deep like shit like that. Didn't know I was going to get fucked by young girl or something like that. They're ringing you into it?

Well, just one time. Yeah. But yeah, I guess a lot of girls in the industry are just calling that out because there's like a lot of us that work like super honestly and it just makes everybody else look like scammers. Yeah. All of that. So it's kind of like ruining the industry a little bit. One thing that I feel like I hear a lot about OF is like it had its moment in COVID and like now it's kind of dying off. But it seems like you're absolutely killing it, which obviously.

I accidentally just busted my tiddies out. Sorry. No reason to apologize. Was it hard to get started or like, were you ever like, oh my God, I'm doing this and it's like not making money? Did you ever have like a hard time with it? Or were you like killing it right away? Super quick to Claire. if I had a timeline. Yeah.

When we first hung out, she didn't have an OF or a big social media following or anything. Oh. And then I got blocked on everything and I didn't know that she like was blowing up on the internet with OF and mainly Instagram, TikTok and stuff. And then when we got, we never finished the story. When we both broke up with our significant others and she hit me back, I was like, oh shit. Like she's out here. Yeah.

Suddenly. And then we hung out again. So was it ever like struggle bus? Or was it, were you just like an overnight sensation? When I started, like, I was not making very much money. I also wasn't doing social media. I started only fans before social media. And I didn't know that you had to, like, promote it somehow to get people to, like,

come on your page. So, yeah, I wasn't making much money. And I also was like, there was like multiple, like scamy ass, like men managers that were like, you're going to make millions of dollars. We're going to help you and, like, take all of my money and, like, put me in, like, weird contracts and stuff like that. So, yeah, it was definitely like a, definitely a struggle at the beginning and getting scammed a lot. And, yeah, that's why I always try to, like, post online, like, hey, don't just, like, hop into

this without educating yourself and all that because it can be, like, there's a lot of dangers in the industry that people don't know about. And have you always been, like, super confident? Did you have the, like, thing that we all have with posting of, like, people that know me are going to see this? And, like, did you go through that and just have to be, like, fuck it? No, I think even like back in the day when we were talking, I was just posting like random twerking videos online. So not. You were like, you never cared. No, I don't, I don't think so. I think that it helps also having like all of my sisters because like I'm like if everybody else in the world hates me, then they don't. So do you remember the moment that you first announced on other socials that you were doing OF? And did you use the same social media account that you had from like high school? Yeah. Really? Okay. Yeah. So when I first posted on my.

story. It was just like all guys from high school that were like in my sister's grades, not in mine specifically, unless I just didn't know. But like, yeah. I feel like it's just a power move. It's still kind of a, yeah, kind of a power move. Really the major power move. Yeah, like to make money off of that. Yeah, but also like not even using a new account. I was like, I was scared. Like with my whole rap career, I made a different account and was like, didn't want to look like a lame so I waited until I was really successful to even tell my mom or my good like best friends like my best friend I didn't tell him but I was making music until I had like an album out and I had been doing it for like eight months and why is that? Because I just I don't want to be that guy that's like oh I'm a rapper listen to my shit it was just that was embarrassing and I had my face I didn't show my face for the first two years either it is really hard to like put yourself out there it is it's like people talk about this all the time for a reason. And like I felt the same way. Like I never wanted to be like, come to my comedy show.

Like it just feels. I don't know. Are you kidding me? I don't even tell people I podcast. Because for fear of like someone saying, well, who doesn't podcast? Everyone podcasts. Right. But then I find myself having to explain.

No, I'm an OG. Like I've been around for like 11 years. Like I can't explain that. So people are like, what do you do for a living? I come up with other shit. I don't say, oh, I podcast. Are you kidding me? How embarrassing.

Because then they're like, oh, what do you do it with? Like, they don't, they don't assume that it's like it's my day job. It's my actual job. So I just don't say anything. If you're like in a random, casual, like a waiter or Uber driver or something like, and they ask you what you do? What do you guys say? I say writer, which is like, what?

If I'm like in the mood and like, you know, I'd say maybe half the time. I'm down to have a conversation, I'll say musician. And then if they start asking about it. I'll like just say, we'll tell them the truth. If I'm like hungover or like just tired or something, I usually just say like finance. My DJ and I took an improv class and we were working on what whatever ground legs. That's what it was. We took an improv class during COVID online.

So for like a year or two, we would be traveling everywhere for for tour and to practice improv in the Uber's. One of us would just start, would just make up a story of what we do. and then we'd go off each other. That's fun. So we had like some crazy, crazy explanations for what we did. I feel like finance is a really like stops right there. Exactly. You know,

no one's going to ask anything. You know, if you say comedian, if you say rap or musician, there's more follow-up questions. What do you say? It depends on the situation. Like if I'm going to like the bank or something like that, usually just say like social media or like entertainer. Yeah.

But if it's. It's like people, probably like vibe of people in this room where I would just say like only fans probably. And if it was like maybe an old lady that I wanted to make mad and uncomfortable, I would just be like porn. Yeah. And they usually are just like, don't know what to do. I want to be there for one. I did that. I actually did do that at the border once because the guy was like, he didn't believe that I owned the car that I was driving.

And he was like, well, what are you doing? I was like, porn. He's like, okay, you can go. And I was like, thanks. What would you prefer that I say when people ask me what you do? I feel like usually if someone asks me, I'm like, oh, she's a model, she does some social media stuff too.

That's what I say, a model on some social media. Because I feel like if you say influencer, that's lame. Yeah. Yeah, influencer isn't. I feel like social media, I don't know, I'm not really a model. Also, content creators isn't.

Then it's, dude, you did a full cover shoot with Playboy. You're definitely a model. Model for sure, you're a model. Yeah, okay. And you've done a ton of that. So you're definitely a model, but if you yourself say that, I feel like it feels less cool,

It feels kind of like douchey. I don't know. I don't really mind. I can say model, like, model social media. I like writer. You're such a fraud. But you are a writer. That's why I feel like I can say it.

Yeah, but you know what I say? What? Since I say, I cannot find it in me to say that I podcast. I say I produce podcasts. Oh my God. That's so lame. What? Like not that, but it's just like lame that you'd say that.

No, I say I'm that. Like I. You're so not that. And it's so close to what you are. I can't do it. That's a good like, if you don't want to talk about it, that's a good. I think it's a horrible one for that. Because if sometimes follow a podcast, they're going to be like, what podcasts do you produce?

Because if you do podcasts, you're like, oh, what do you talk about? Oh, I do one with someone. Then I have to get into the Bobby story. And then it's like, it's, it's too long. I feel like it's too close to what you do. And it's like, what should I say? But it's also so far because it's a tech. language yeah do that I speak Bessaya what do you what is it Bessaya it's like a dialect

from the Philippines well how does that help well if you just speak if you don't speak English oh oh I see what you're saying you want to talk to the Uber driver just start saying something in but if I walk in I'm like hi good morning they you know yeah I can't backtrack from there by that I'm not saying producing podcast is lame I'm saying it's a lame answer but for me mine is also it's like too because people are like then what do you right and I'm like, ugh, I don't know what to say

because I don't want to say TV. Yeah. I wrote a book. Did you say actress? That's the worst. Well, then, because they say, have I seen you in anything? Yeah.

What have I seen you in? You're the main star of a movie. So like, I know, but I don't want to, if they don't know, it's best to just. That's kind of like saying rapper

where it's like, oh, they're probably, well, either they're really successful or they don't, not successful at all. Yeah. Yeah.

It's tricky. It's like I dress too successful looking. So like if I say something, then they're like, oh, yeah, you do that. Well, I get the opposite. At the bank, they're always questioning me. They're always rejecting me, questioning me, because I, I'm similar to you in that, like, you know, we don't brush our hair a lot. We roll up in sweats everywhere. Me, I think it's just the chain or chains.

I feel like you're so just like you present very shiny. Yeah. So it's hard to not. not wonder what you do. I've had people a lot of times that don't recognize me. I've just heard this a few times, especially in other countries. Like, you look like you would be famous. Like, you look like you should be famous.

And there are people that just are shiny like that. That's cool. I never thought that about myself. That's a cool thing to think, you know. Not us, little lady. Well, I think it's because I'm tall too. Not us. They think I'm like committing like identity theft.

They think that I'm up to bullshit. Like I remember when I first, I bought my first home. they kept looking at me while looking at my crocs they were just like things aren't adding up she looks like a fucking bum ass loser dude are you kidding when I went to I forgot what like after

premiere party I was at and then this girl comes up to me she's like do you guys have more cups I'm like I don't work here like what or like when I first met David Spade he's like oh are you a PA like who are you related to I was like no David I'm

this show with you. It's just, it never ends. It's horny, isn't he? What? David Spade, horny guy. Not to me. I just have had a lot of, I know a lot of girls that have been hit up by David Spade.

I also know that. I don't think that he got me yet, but I think that a lot of my friends have been slid on. I don't think that's a secret. I think he's a horny guy. I'm not saying that's a bad thing. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

He's definitely not horny around me. So I don't think he's ever been horny around me either. So we're safe. Maybe he's looking for love. Maybe he's not already. He's looking for some young love. Do you think that that's a thing that some people maybe just don't have that microchip that seeks companionship and love?

That some people don't have that? Yeah, because I do wonder. They always say, like, you know, humans, like, we're flock animals. We always yearn for deep friendships and companionship. And I always look at these eternal bachelors. And I'm like, what is it? Is it just that companionship is. isn't something that they like yearn for?

Is it always just a fuck and that's it? I think I have a few friends that have had bad enough relationships where they just like don't want to do it again. And then like they're in a situation like a touring artist or something like that where they can have like a bunch of little relationships in different places. They just prefer that. Because I understand it from a woman's perspective of like never being in a companionship. Because like I understand sisterhood and I understand like we get so much from like our like

external relationships that aren't romantic. But I always wonder, like, when men are alone or, like, these eternal bachelors, it looks sad. But when I see a woman alone, I'm like, oh, she's free. It's like a double standard. I see it differently. I think for men, they almost always are, they're looking for love. I feel like, like, all my homies that are older and single are, like, they're looking for a girlfriend and they go through girlfriends, but they're not, like, you know, they're not married. They're just, they're trying.

I think it's just because women are. so nurturing. Yeah. Because like a girl could just have all of her friends and like feel the same like nurturing and support but guys don't do that for each other as much. Like they do in different ways but like I feel like women can give each other like all of the stuff but like men can't for each other as much. Like you guys wouldn't cuddle with each other in bed but girls would do that or like

brush each other's hair or like give each other back massages but you guys probably wouldn't do that for each other. I would. I mean I might. I do for my home. guys would actually but my homies but maybe not cuddling not a lot of guys I cuddle with awesome sometimes have you okay there is this clip of Chris DeStefano who's this like everyone knows him he's super funny stefano that's what I mean that sounds right but I was thinking

Destifano but like what do you say I say this I think I say it the way you do sounds smooth that you smooth a girl way he he has a podcast right yeah yeah he has a couple yeah he's so funny he gets me up a lot I should do it yeah oh yes yes yes he's amazing we have him on the show. We love him. But he had this viral clip of him talking to his baby mama. And he basically was saying, like, I fall in love with men, but I have sex with and, like, have, like, a relationship with a woman. And I thought that was so interesting because I do feel like, like, over on the girl's side of the conversation, we're kind of like, is that what they, is that what happens? And for him to, like, come out and say it. And I'm just curious. Do you have more details on the fall?

and love part like it's not sexual in any way it's just like i have a really close close relationship where they feel i think i also feel like oh sanderson tino came on his podcast and said that if it wasn't for his um desire to like have sex with a woman he would rather be in a relationship with a man and it's more like like a lot of men maybe seek validation from other men um feel i i don't know what it is but like I feel like not a lot though because if my partner would it be like I prefer the companionship of like men

I don't think I date him because I need him to be I need I need him to be my friend I would want him to really enjoy like our time together and not just kind of like grin and bear our days together do you know what I mean? I feel like every guy I've ever dated is always at some point like I wish I was gay I'm like what the fuck does that mean? It's just because, like, we, you know, you have your best friends that you never, like, argue with. And, like, it's all, you know, you support each other and all these, like, bro ways.

But I think if you actually became gay and try to date that person, it would just, the, like, relationship and jealousy stuff would come. You'd argue. Yeah. Yeah. And you'd actually, if you could convert, I think it would become a problem. Yeah. But it's like, yeah, like a best friend situation. Like, that's, they just got replaced by her recently.

I love that you're admitting it. And they're jealous. But aren't, isn't hanging out with a, with a girl so fun? Mm-hmm. Like, we're just, I'm sorry, but we're just, like, supreme beings. Like, it's so fun to be a girl. I've always really, like, enjoyed being in a situation, especially if I'm the only guy. I'm just a bunch of girls, like, like, you and all your friends, and I can just, like, it's just fun.

And I'm used to that, too, with my mom. Like, I would go a place with my mom, and she'd have her friends, or I bring girls, and I don't know. I just like women more. overall. And has your mom always been like pretty nice to people you've dated or has she been like this one? No. It's funny. There was like my first, there's been like three or four serious girlfriends, but like three that she had contact with her being the third. First one, she would like text her way too much and I had to like get on her ask, mom, please stop texting her. Like really? She was like like text her all the time. But then like when like she did something that like, or she tried

like break up with me over something the not my mom the girl and then my mom was like texting her like oh don't do it and I'm like mom you can't get involved in this oh my god my mom is like just such a sweetheart but like really really protective of me and then the the following girlfriend she like didn't really like that much and I think talked shit to her one time over text and like just always it was like you this is not the girl for you like hating to me directly but then also hating her over text And now she's, like, obsessed with Ariel. And it's cute. Oh, that's so cute.

Wait, how did it affect you, though, when with a second girlfriend where your mom was like, no, I don't like her? Like, how did you handle that? I was just like, you're tripping, mom. That's what I thought in the time. I was like, well, I'm like, you're tripping. Like, you'll find out. It was like, she'll never once. And she'd always be like, oh, she's pretty, but that's it.

Kind of right, but it took me a while to figure it out. Are you going to meddle with your sons? I don't know. So, okay, so you have a boy. Yeah. I'm pregnant. I was a boy. Stop saying it like that.

Okay. I am having a boy. It's a boy? Yeah, I'm reluctantly having a boy. What? I had dreams of many, many girls, but whatever. And so a lot of the times, like, Kalila and I are like, okay, we're on this mission. How do we be the best most non-toxic boy?

moms out there because that's such a thing right like moms who are like really obsessed with their sons and is there anything that his mom does that makes you feel like she's a good boy mom and that would help us she's such a good mom she is such a good mom I don't think my mom is like really really really nice like really super out like outgoing towards anyone that I bring around her and she's like makes friends really easily and like very very emotional like very positive but also can like get up sad really easily. But like this, like really expresses her emotions. And like like if she loves somebody like she'll, she texts all my friends all the time.

Wait, I love this because I thought that maybe because I have a huge like I'm super emotional and I show my emotions around my family very well. I had this thought in my head that maybe it wouldn't be good to do that as much with my son. But you're telling me like seeing that. Yeah. I mean maybe not during like the rebellious era. or whatever, like if they're in their little, whatever it is, like age 13 when they hate on you. And they really start hating you.

I'm sorry. I mean, I won't have to deal with it too. But when your kid starts beeping with you, I think just like my mom was very nurturing and always like, there's also like the contrast with my dad who was stricter. And then my mom would let me kind of like bend the rules a little bit. That was like the dynamic for my whole childhood. And then once my dad passed, then it was like there was just no rules at all. And I was smart enough by that time to like. follow, you know, do things, follow my own rules and keep things safe and not get in trouble,

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We were doing a little research and we found your smut reading, your book reading, sensual readings, we'll call it. Yes, yes. And we brought a couple with us and highlighted a couple passages. We were wondering if you could read them for us. Yes. Yes. I gladly could.

Gladly could. These are brought from our producer, Ellie, personal collection. So, okay. So there's some highlighted things here. Is that where I'm reading? Yep. It checks out. Give it a little bit of context here.

The only one who's truly in danger is me. No, I whisper. I tip her chin up, brushing my lips softly against hers. The sharp intake of breath has my cut. I got it called Jules. She can't be reading this. No, I'm like going to become a book burner. I'm going full conservative.

That is scary. I had hell of people commenting that I should like, get that book and read it. And then I did the same thing. I opened to a random page. And I was like, wow, this is a lot. I do feel like you should just do audiobooks. I've done one.

I mean, all of them. I would love to do more. They, this series should hire you to just read. I did a collab with Audible and we did one audio book. And I'm like, I'm like, let's do more. And I don't know how to hit up, but like, I want to. Do you read this stuff? Mm-mm.

No. I don't think I would read it after you read it. Yeah. Maybe if it was more just like horny stuff, but maybe not like stalker scary, like, rapist vibes. I don't like that. But she's like into it. She like plays into it. It's weird, but I don't know.

There's no redeeming qualities. It's just weird. The best ones, though, for Smut that I've, from what I'm told and from what I've seen and read Akatar, that series is like actually a good story. Yeah. And there's nut busting. Yeah. My sister and Jules reads Akatar too. I've been really into reading lately.

I went to Iceland with my mom, and I'm trying to, like, do sort of like a dopamine reset situation. It was like I just stopped taking Adderall and stopped drinking for the most part, besides this buzzball. Then, like, kind of, you know, stopped atarol after like 10 years of taking it. Oh, my gosh. Were you taking it because you needed it? Prescription.

Yeah, yeah. Every day? Pretty much. Wow. So, yeah. It actually wasn't as bad of, like, come down as I expected but I just didn't want to like have like video games or something else to do so I like started reading books and I got really into it I just read this book called the name of

the wind recommend it for anyone watching this it's like some wizard type shit it's like adult harry potterner banger a couple Stephen king books I would imagine going off Adderall after 10 years would be like super painful and difficult but also you're so tall I feel like maybe nothing affects you're the kind you look like the kind of guy that I just eat a whole pizza and you're like all right, what are we doing next? I can eat a pizza for show, yeah. I'd say for the first week after I was pretty tired, I slept a lot, but I was on vacation at a spa with my mom,

so it was like perfect time to sleep. Oh, yeah. And then I think for like a week after that, I was like pretty unmotivated, and now I'm kind of like coming around the bend. And I like looked it up and it's on forums, people were saying it would take like six months to get your motivation back,

but like I'm still kind of getting, I'm getting it already after two weeks. I have a question for you both. I was in a very public relationship for a decade. And when that ended, it was super painful for me, super humiliating in many different ways. What would you say are the pros and cons of being so public? I think we're lucky because we genuinely are like the same person

in a lot of ways and we don't fight ever. And I think if we were fighting, then there would be more issues because it would be hard for us to look cute all the time, but pretty much anything that gets captured of us is just normal, wholesome, cute things. You guys look like the funnest, sweetest,

most adventurous couple. We're pretty like just normal down-to-earth people. I think that helps a lot, not like some of the other people that are famous in relationships. I feel like I never really feel like super extra about like that we're like in a super public relationship,

maybe just because we are used to like already being, at least what I would think that people would experience in like a relationship that was in public. I feel like we just kind of get to do more fun things because of it. We're in a special case, I think, because we don't fight and we like work together well. So we end up doing a lot of like brand deals. I'll just bring her in on it as well and vice versa.

Like we get to work together on stuff. And like she helps me with social media. I help her with like finance things. It's really nice. It's so perfect. It's pretty ideal. Would you and Dave? What?

I mean, you don't post Dave at all. He doesn't want to be a part of things. He's made it clear. And so like when I get a little bit of him, I'm just lucky. I never wanted to have a public relationship. And I like didn't think I ever would no matter who I dated. And like there were like brief relationships I had with big figures that could have been in public. But I was like no.

But when like her and I were hanging out, I was like, she's so cool. like let's make public fuck it like this i also particularly love it as like a watcher like yeah i love when people share their relationships and you can just you just feels like you really get to know the people i'm super all about it but i'm like i'm also someone that shares a lot and he is not a public person at all like he's very private and like shy and he actually is a writer on like me who lies and says that i'm one so i think it's just his personality like and even when we started dating, like there was a slow, gradual adjustment for me of like, oh, I'm not going to be so open about certain things anymore because that's just not comfortable.

But still, I do cross the line sometimes. Like, I don't know, I feel like he'll like open his Instagram and be like, oh, Colila likes to have anal on, what's the drug? Ambien. He's just like, what is your job? I don't like to have anal on Ambien. I took Ambien in high school for my first anal experience because I was so afraid that I wanted to be half checked out.

Yeah, it was a crazy story. Because you don't have Ambien now. No, no, no, no. I don't fuck around with Ambien because I'll tell you why I don't fuck around with Ambien. I was extreme dieting in my 20s. And this is before keto, there was Atkins diet. And I had zero carbs in my body.

And I was so fucking hungry all the time. And I took an Ambien one night. and I woke up in the morning with like 20 plates around me and crumbs of food. And it turns out before they had like the slow release Ambien, I slept ate. I ate in the middle of the night. I slept walked my ass to the fridge and pig the fuck out.

My mom would do that with me. Really? Yeah, I remember seeing it like multiple times. And then I stole Ambien from her when I was like 14. I and my friend and I would take it. And like if you stay awake, you get into like a, euphoric, trippy sort of feeling. That's it. That's it. That was the whole thing, right?

Like if you stay past, you know, if you stay awake past when you're supposed to go to bed, then it becomes like psychedelic. You know what was interesting was, I think a, I don't think we talked about the last, we talked about other drugs last time, but there was a while when I was like late high school where I got an ambient prescription. In high school. In high school. So I had an ambient prescription and I was taking it during the day because it didn't make me

tired anymore, but it would give me this like euphoric feeling. and I had like a summer where I was working of a summer camp and I was the fishing director and I had my own little lake that I would just hang out at every day and then the kids would come after a few hours so I'd wake up at like 7 a.m. taking an ambient and like swim in this lake and like look at the sun

and it was like the most I'll never forget like that couple weeks where I was like I don't know euphoric and somehow it just didn't make me tired. Camp counselors are crazy. I like that. I love that. Tall people can just do anything. They can do anything.

You know drugs affect them. differently. Everything is a euphoric experience. Like what you're talking about I'd be dead in two hours. Like there's no way. Anil on Ambien. You would be dead in two hours. In the lake. On the lake.

I can't swim. I can't tolerate drugs. Like that's just a disaster for me. Enal and Ambien while pregnant sounds like a bad idea. Yeah, I think so. I think. Wire camp counts was crazy. Because you guys always

come up with stories about how you guys were on drugs and swimming in the lake on end. Yeah, all right, fair. Yeah, while like being the fishing director. You know what I mean? So I'm like, okay. And it's every camp counselor I come across, they always have these wild stories of being on drugs on a lake.

I want my kids, our kids, to go to camp, summer camp. They have to. Because like when I went, that was when I learned to express myself. And I loved all the counselors. Like a way camp? Yeah, like you go stay there for like a week. Oh. Like what hot American?

summer type camp where you sleep in the cabins that's good to know I would have never even considered camp for my kid that's what I did and it was oh it's beautiful people love camp they do did you go people like it's like a cult that sounds like my worst fear probably like going to a camp by myself and having to make friends with people that was right sleeping away from home some of my best friends like literally like my photographer Dylan who I met when I was 10 who that she knows like he works for me now did you know anyone when you went or it was like all just new people. It was a couple kids from my high school,

but most of them I met, like, new friends. And do you go back the same year with the same group of kids? We go back on the same week every year, and, like, there'd be new people every time. And then once you get to know them, everyone there well, then you'd, like, get older,

and you become a counselor in training, then a counselor. And, like, I never knew until they're really good at hiding it. Like, we, as the counselor, like, all the ones that you hear about that turn up, they're good at hiding it. So the kids don't know.

And, you know, you're on, point when you're around the kids that you're not fucking around yeah i have a question for you so i um in my stand-up lately i've been talking a lot like how i'm pregnant with a boy and i don't really want a boy whatever and i but my first is a girl so i do have a girl but one of my shows then this couple raised their hand at the end they're like we just wanted to share that we have five boys and i'm like were you guys trying like because that's a lot of kids like were you guys trying to get a girl and they're like yeah I'm like oh my god

that's crazy is do your parents ever talk about like because it's a lot of you were they trying to get one boy no my dad misses vasectomy appointment actually that's why the my mom got pregnant with the last girl so they weren't like trying I think they were like after four they were like oh

well I guess we're not getting a boy and then they're like oh fuck actually I guess we're pregnant again really so you missed the appointment and then it was just another girl so I don't know if they were trying. I feel like our dad had fun, like, having all girls too, especially because we all, like, played sports and, like, all that stuff. Her dad's really cool about it. Yeah. I have such a hypocritical take on this. Like, and I know, I just feel like every man should have a

daughter. Like, there is no bond more special than, like, father daughter. I want to have a daughter more than the son. Yeah. Like, when I see my husband and my daughter, I'm like, that is, like, when I'm on this earth to observe, like, I love, I'm so happy to be, like, a part of that. But then I don't feel like that about like mother's son. But it's because I don't know it. No, you just, you'll get there. Really? I think so too. My mom and I are so tight. Really? Yeah, it's my like one of my best friends. You know, she's up there with her and my other bestie. Yes. Texture every day. She's so cool. That is what we want. Yeah. And I think the reason why I'm like, a lot of the positive things about my personality, people like it, I think, and like my

ability to bond with women easily is because of my mom and how much time I've spent with her. Do you feel like mother's son is magical? Mother's son for me is absolutely magical, which I was like not expecting at all. Because again, I was like, I only have sisters, right? Like I love everything about sisterhood. I can't think about a life without my sisters. But when I had a son, it's just like, it doesn't matter. But also like the way that a little boy wants his mama, is really like next level special. And this isn't even in like a boy mom way. The way all babies need their mama.

But you know, you have a little boy and he's just like very like rugged and he wants to fuck shit up all day. But then when it's time, he's like, no, I want my mama. It's like, oh. Moms are so comforting. I was always like very close with my dad,

but like a little bit closer to my mom. Always felt a little bit like, you know. It sounds like you just had great parents. I did have really good parents. And that you have great parents. You have great parents. And I think that it's not like a boy girl thing. It's just a good parenting thing.

Yes. You know what else I think is a really good recipe for like a successful relationship that you guys have just like on your what just naturally is a lot of times in your 20s for me and many people that I know like for a girl like you got a boyfriend and you're like that's everything. Like that's like my whole world. And you kind of your friends go to the side. But it's like you have these built in. you have this many sisters, like you're never, he's never going to be your only thing. Like, you're always going to have these sisters to go to. And I always try to tell people that, like, your boyfriend, your partner is not there for everything. Like, they're your partner. They're

there for a lot. But it's not the person you go to with every little thing. In my opinion. It can be your one-stop shop for all, all the things happening in your life. I think that's a recipe for a disaster. But when you lean on friends or your siblings or your, parents and other people like it makes for a much more this is so true because there are things that i'll stop myself halfway if i want to share something with my partner and i'm like i stop myself i'm like you know he isn't the audience for this yeah like it's nice that he knows this this is what's going on but this is actually not like the kind of support that i need so i will go to like my sister for it and then she's able to really give me like the support and sometimes i'll go to him that for things that she can't

necessarily like help me with yeah and i feel like in my 20s like i would just go to the the the boyfriend for everything. And it's like they don't, that's not, it's not how successful partnerships work, I think. We're super integrated into each other's like crews, you know, like her sisters. And me all have a group chat. We all like plan things together in trips and stuff. And then I have like a group with my whole household. And then we have a separate one. That's the, the Round Valley Queen group where it's like all my boys that live in my house, which is between like four and seven. like if she's coming over it's like all queen's coming clean up like get it ready like they're all like they all love her and they all want to like take good care of her so like all my boys are like

protecting and you know if she needs something like assembled like you know the boys go over there and help out you don't assemble I don't know I could well I could and I've tried and then like I always get pissed and I just don't feel I'm like this is a waste of my time having kids are so much to assemble I feel so bad for Dave. I'm like, there's another thing here to assemble. Oh, yeah. I just order all day. I don't even consider assembly because I just like, that's not my job.

He's probably good at it, though. Aloha probably likes it. Yeah, Aloha is very good at assembly. It does feel good when you do it right, but like I remember doing like a side table thing and the directions were really hard to read and I like didn't do it perfectly and it pissed me off forever because I like I couldn't fix it then and I had it and I just, it was a little wobbly. Yeah, oh, the wobble, the worse. All right, I have some newlywed questions for you guys.

We have some boards that you can write on. Okay. Okay. Esther and I always lose this. Do we have cheated to win for? The first questions will be both of you guys answering, like all four of you answering at the same time. And then there's a few that are more targeted

where you have to kind of guess what the other person would answer. All four, oh, okay. Right. First question, who's the better driver? Auto bus. Yep, and then between Klyla and Esther And don't show each other of your answers

Who's the better driver of the partner? All right, are we ready to flip? Yeah, okay All right, flip them Hopefully this should be very easy for us Clyla But barely, barely Okay, you all got it right

I said her Hey, I was gonna say myself But I don't know You want to be nice I mean I'm not a bad driver But you just drive more Only because one time you hit like that mailbox Yeah, yeah yeah

But I also hit a car when I was texting a picture of that hotel we see that. I was thinking about your driving in Whistler and it was really good. Well, that is really, that's major because there's snow and everything. With Esther, I would say, you know, I would appear like the better driver because I am, you know, it's a fraud. I'm a fraud. I drive like a grandma. The only thing I haven't done that you've done is drive downstairs. That's the thing is I drove down the stairs a few years ago and I'm just, I'm never going to live that.

But that's, that's the only reason. why I said me, by the way. Thank you for saying that. All right, next up, who's the first to apologize after an argument? They won. Let's go one by one. Sure. Let's have our guests go first.

All right, me, or same time. I put both. All right. Healthy people. Healthy people. Healthy people. Who's going first? I'm going to, okay, me.

Again, I put Esther, but barely. Okay, I put me because I'm a coward But we also kind of never argue We never really I think there was one time that we fought But I think I apologized first Yeah But barely

I'm not afraid to say sorry I'm also okay sorry is like gold in my book But then there was also the time where Like there was a little bit of a thing And immediately I called her I was like should we go to couples therapy She's like what are you talking about? She's insane if there's even like

one tiny molecule of like a bad vibe. She's like, we should go to couples therapy. I'm like, bitch, you're crazy. I'm not going to do that. We're fine. I'm a coward. I think our arguments if they ever happen, it's usually me saying something that like comes out wrong.

And then she gets sad. And then we like make it up and I like explain myself. So it's almost all, it's very rare, but it's almost always like I say something that just comes out wrong. And it's not like a big deal, but we just get like a little. I feel like we've never had. intoxicated to fight about like something serious like last time you were like oh yeah the dogs are

kind of annoying I was like it was like me calling her I called her dogs annoying and like worded it wrong honestly that would make me cry too but I love them but that they were being annoying at the time if if someone said my dogs were like too much I would be like you don't understand like they're my babies you know what I said I think what I dropped was I might have said like everyone thinks they're annoying or so I said something like that it was kind of fucked up but it came out wrong and I was like oh my god did I like my bad like everyone thinks your dogs are knowing that's kind of that's kind of bad that's that's harsh it's so harsh with Dave like sometimes like if there's a little argument like a couple hours later he'll be like is there anything you

want to say oh I'm like oh I need to think about that right guys next up who's more chronically online oh that's hard let's go ahead and reveal him oh hey there you go times five Approximately times five, I'd say. I'm scared of the internet. It makes me anxious. I just have to do it. Yeah, she has to, and I'm anxious to do it. She helps me.

I put me, but maybe. I put Esther, but barely. You just not even erase it from last time? Yeah, I just keep it there. Yeah, I think low-key I am. I just, I'm tapped in. I just try not to appear tapped in. Yeah, I feel like you're more low-key about it,

and I'm not shy. Okay, these are about one partner, and specifically, and the other person has to guess their answer, okay? So maybe Ari and Esther will have the answers and Kalila Matt will have to guess. What is their biggest ick? Biggest ick.

What is my biggest ick? What is Esther's biggest ick? Esther write it and then Kalala has to guess. Oh, okay. We have to guess. Biggest ick and Not about you. No. I don't have any. In general. What is her biggest? Okay, I have one. I wonder if you're going to get this. You might not.

Or there's one obvious answer and then. go ahead and turn them around for most recent that's pretty true is that kind of what you said in the car no I said men with big egos or if they flirt with me or talk to me same same

that's the most time that I like cringe in general but that's the most thing that makes me like oh I hate and I'm mad and annoyed and that was what I was going to put was like men creepy men hitting on you but then I'm like the worst possible one is that that motherfucker Esther Kalila I wrote she doesn't have one because she loves anyone who loves her.

That's true. I just, I couldn't think of anything, but I just wrote people posting TBTs. Okay. Because it's like, oh, I like those. I don't. It's just the thing you don't have to think about it and you just post something that already happened. I thought you wouldn't have one because remember you told a story about how you dated a guy who had, who worked in a fryfish place and he smelled like fried fish every day and you still couldn't break up with him. Yeah.

I didn't want to break up with him. I wanted to be with him. All right, we'll switch it for this last one, for who's answering for who. But big egos is so right, by the way. Gross. Yeah, any guy hitting on you, it's like. If they were an animal, what would they be? Oh, my God.

Halila? Yep. Oh. There's a few options here. I know. Yeah. Obvious is usually good. That's how, you know, you can get a correct one.

Think elements, Esther, geez. Hey, no. Sorry. This is how we cheated last time. Yeah, I don't understand what she said. Think elements, that's it. I know it's wrong, but I have. It's okay.

Kalila and Esther want to go first this time? If you say some big back rhinoceros. What is it? Are you so? Tiger belly isn't, aren't it? I have no relations to tigers. I said any water animal. I even put dolphin because I'm like, she doesn't know anything other than a dolphin.

But you're like a tiger. I'm a tigeress? Yeah. I'm a water animal. I said think elements. I told you, we always lose this shit. She don't know me. You have her some extra options.

I have extra options and I'm scared. Do you go first? A main wolf. A snow leopard. Hendricks. Okay, she snapped. So main wolf, you guys got to put a picture up on the podcast of what that is. It's like the lankiest fucking fox wolf thing.

She actually outdid me because that is like my favorite animal. That's so cute. That's so cute. Look, I want to like the pictures of it like walking. It's so lanky and. Oh, cute. I want one bad. We joke about that a lot

I put golden retriever Plus lion Plus otter plus octopus All over the place Octopus makes sense Because you're really smart But I like octopuses a lot The other ones I feel like are just based off

Of the looks of them Golden Retriever and Lion Because you know the hair and stuff But snow leopard is like one of the coolest Animals And very elusive And Hendricks is my dog And yeah I get that

Very cute you guys Well raining champions We're close But you know otters are even though they are so cute and so wonderful in many ways. Yeah, they're rapists. Oh, my God.

Oh, that's right. Just like ducks. They drown. They drown, yeah. They rape and drown? They do that. Yeah, they're crazy. There should be a smut book about otters. When we were talking about some kind of weird rape last time too?

Like a dog or something. Oh, no. Oh, maybe I brought up my uncle's dog. It was sexually assaulted and impregnated. What? Yeah, my cousin Maggie, the dog. Cousin's not a dog. Yeah.

Anyways, on that note, thank you so much to our guests. It was so fun hanging out with you and finally getting to meet you. I do. Are you guys promoting anything? Are you on tour or? I'm off tour now and I'm making new music. It's really fun.

We shot a video for a song called HBO, which is my next single. Oh. Nothing to do with the programming thing. Just I love bitches on me, HBO. Yeah. I'm curious. And what is the best place to find you on social media because it's obviously very complicated? I have a lot of different months.

I feel like Instagram always. Okay. Just like the main. Gildrevy and Arikitsia. Okay, cool. Well, you guys, thank you so much for being here. And thank you to our listeners. And we'll see you guys next week with a brand new episode.

A brand new one.