TrueLife - The Immortality Grift: Why We Fear Death, and How Real Spiritual Adulthood Begins

Episode Date: December 3, 2025

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The poem is Angels with Rifles, the track, I Am Sorrow, I Am Lust by Codex Serafini. Check out the entire song at the end of the cast. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to the True Life podcast. I hope you all having a beautiful day. I have with me today, Reverend Dr. Jessica Rochester, she's a bridge, the Madrina Torch Baron, founder of Sue to Montreal, the Santo Dime Church she established in 1997, restoring sacred memory to the north, a trans-personal counselor shaped by Asagioli in Groh. She guides seekers through the fire of self-confrontation. From 2000 to 2017, she secured a Section 56 exemption, protecting the Santo Dimey's sacrament from the state. An ordained interfaith minister, doctor of divinity, and author of the two-volume Ayahuasca Awakening.

She has spent more than 40 years leading workshops, counseling, and teaching the radical act of spiritual adulthood. Dr. Jessica, thank you so much for being here today. How are you? Well, it's always a pleasure to hang out with you and talk about topics of mutual interest. and hopefully of interest to others. So I was a little surprised when you tossed this topic at me because I've noticed in some of your other posts that it's something on your mind, right? Yes.

You know, and every now and again we see something and we go, hmm, that's interesting and mysterious, but maybe somehow weird. Yes. What's weird about it? Okay, so who wants to live forever? Right? Is that, that's, that's the question for today.

So, as always, I have some notes and did some thinking and thought, hmm, this opens up some very interesting questions for me and possibly for other people. Okay, so first of all, are we talking about this live for everything? Are we talking about life after death, life before death, life during life and life after death? Are we talking about extending human life so that people live longer, okay? Where are we talking about immortality? Okay, so those are those are the things that I thought we could kind of dive into. So if we look at this, let's start biblical, okay?

Let's go biblical. And if we look at the Old Testament, we'll see that they believe now either I'm not saying this is true. I am not saying it's not true. What I'm saying is I don't know that these are stories that may be true or maybe not true. Okay. So I'm just saying that they exist these stories. Okay. That in the ancient times, they walked with giants.

They walked with gods. Okay. They lived hundreds of years. Some of the people that are recorded as having lived Noah and others for hundreds of. of years. Now, is that a reality? As I said, I have no idea. But again, we see already there's that seed that's planted of possibility, okay, of holding on to an individual life. Right now, you're in the George life. I'm the Jessica one. Okay. That's the life I'm in right now. Aging. It's getting older this life. I get a little raggedy around the edges,

Okay. But I'm still in it. I'm still here. You know, wasn't that a Beatles song? No, Bob Dylan. I'm still here. Okay. So we look at religion. We look at biblical age and we see there's a lot in religion and about people who lived longer, immortality and eternal life. And how often did Jesus talk about eternal life? But I don't think he was talking about in the body. Now I know in some branches of Judaism and perhaps all, I'm not sure, haven't visited this conversation recently with a rabbi, but, you know, they had a belief about when you died, you put your body in the ground. You didn't burn your body because there was no cremation permitted because they believed that there was a second coming of the Messiah,

and the dead would rise up and have their, somehow their poor old bones taken from the earth you know I think of all of the archaeologists and everybody digging up all these poor old dinosaurs that have been lying in the ground forever and it's like uh okay but who'd want those old bones to be reclosed with the old life and go back and maybe that old life was so great you know why would we want to go back to it let's have a new start is my philosophy and clean late let's start all over again let's learn what we can learn and then go into the next chapter we see that also in art this was very strong the fountain of youth okay offering

eternity so in art they're going back you know millennia in art we're going to see that art depicts this possibility art and some of course mythologies mythologies you know you have the the gods walking around with us who have an immortality and you have philosophies around beliefs around that there's beings that either incarnate and they're immortal. And so we see this in religion, we see it in art, we see it in mythology, that there's a theme there around immortality and or eternal youth because you don't want to be, you don't to be immortal with arthritis, sorry. Right.

Or diabetes or anything else. You know, all these people who want immortality, they want their brightest, best, strongest, most brilliant. Okay, and here we, you know, when we start to look at that, we see, well, okay, but where is that actually real? Everything dies. The stars die. Okay, it does take them billions of years.

our son will die. It'll go supernova one day and that's it and whoop back down and perhaps turn into a black hole, who knows, we've already got some gigantic ones in our Milky Way system here. So everything has a timeline that's part of the agreement of being in physical matter reality

is everything comes and everything goes, right? Okay, so what's underneath What's underneath? What is this longing, this thirst, this desire, this curiosity for longevity, or extending human life and living for however long? What's underneath of it? Is it the fear of death? Is it the fear of suffering? Having age-related disabilities, something that happens to just about everyone.

Live long enough. You're going to have some kind of complaint. Right? Yeah. Is it the eco-attachment to materialism? Is it now that I've spent my entire life, you know, bashing my way through business to accumulate all of this stuff, you know, I don't want to leave it because I'm attached to it. I want more houses and more cars and more yachts and more things and more stuff. and more glory and more fame and more power and more stuff.

God bless George Garland, wherever he is. Did you ever hear that one of his fame wraps on why people have houses is to keep stuff in? Right. More stuff and then you have to get more storage and it just goes on and on, you know, stuff. Yeah. Well, they're tough we have. You know, and how much we actually need,

how much we actually want. Why do some people need so much stuff? You know? And then again, you look on the kind of spiritual tradition side, and you see that the monks and the nuns and the, you know, all of these people who dedicated them to the hermits and everything, they have a bowl and a cloth and a pair of sandals, and that's it. I mean, look at Gandhi.

What did he have? Spinning wheel. That was the only on his bowl and his sandals and his rope that he wrapped up in. That was the sum total. On one hand, you could count as belongings. Okay? Didn't own a car or a house. You know?

So we have these, you know, very diverse examples in the human experience. And we can look at it with curiosity and interest and say, okay, what's it all about? Give up everything, what Buddha did when he left the palace, went in the forest with a bowl and his one come off and that was it begged for his next meal and then he found out that wasn't so comfortable

and he found the middle way I'm teasing the Buddha if he can hear me so he found the middle way right and so what is it about what your world and your thoughts George what is it about

what is it about people wanting to have immortality or even have long, long, long lives or something. What is it? You know, I've been thinking a lot about this because I see it everywhere. And so I figure it's something I'm trying to learn from. And I'm not against people trying to live well longer. And I think there's lots of great researchers out there.

And there's lots of people that probably have people in their life that are going through trauma or stress or aging. and they want them to have a little bit of ease in life. And I get that aspect of it. But the part that really bothers me is some of really, it seems to me there's two camps. There's really wealthy people, people like Brian Johnson or Peter from the leader of the XPRIZ. And I feel like these people are praying on the fear of people dying. They're trying to build an industry around. And it is the fountain of you.

It's Jack and the Beanstalk's magic beans. You'll live forever. It's this concept and it, it upsets me because they're praying on the fear of these people. Who wants to be a being? I know, right? I don't know. I know. It's so condescending and ridiculous.

Like, I, I, it makes me upset if people would pray that. Let me. Okay. Let me try and grasp the heart of what you're seeing. Okay. So what I'm hearing is that this longevity, fad, okay, the current one. The current going around the merry-go-round on longevity

looks to be about the wealthy seeking something else to obtain. Okay, so let me skip down a little bit, okay? So we're going to take that, the wealthy selling something about longevity, right? Is that the core of what you're saying, yeah? Yes. Yeah, okay. So, first of all, does modern science have the tools to interfere with the aging process? Well, it's quickly developing some. Yeah, it's quickly developing some, you know. And, oh, this is a little interesting point. You know, I dug through some research. And informal research, but still, you know, like not published. Okay. Informal research done by a psychologist was. She offered thousands of people, okay? If there was an immortality pill, would you take it?

And the 70% said we would not. Interesting, right? Just a little thing there. And so, you know, are we looking at Groundhog Day? Remember that one? Okay. Are we looking at quality or quantity? You know, how many times in the film did he try to off himself

and he woke up every morning? He jumped. He leapt from buildings. He did all of them. He ran in front of cars. He did all kinds of things to stop, the insanity of waking up until finally he went through all of that until leaving life. He had lessons to learn. And so for me, that was more about reincarnation than it was about longevity. You know, you learn your lessons and better luck next time. What are the ethical and social consequences? Okay? What are they? So what have not been heard, what the ethical researchers are saying, and the voices in ethics and medicine are saying, what has not been heard in the debates are the voices of ordinary people and their attitudes towards life extension research. There is absolutely nothing been done to ask your everyday folk, who's driving your bus, teaching your, kids, you know, flying the planes, check out a cashier as, you know, everywhere, you know, serving you. Okay, all the people, no one has been asked.

This is something that's going to benefit humanity. So thank you, Robert, Sean Davis, who is a little Buddhist, I think, here. The incredible Robert Sean Davis says, Attachment can be seen as the root of all suffering, depending on the observer's cycle and season. It is a balance to be passionately vested in life and love, but not give up the dynamic malability that comes from seeing past the illusion, much of which may be designed to forge character and strength. Outside the materialism of modern-day transhumanism, there are spiritual paths to reconcile the mind from scarcity and lack to the persistent nature of an eternal mindset. okay did you post that up or that was that was that was his comment oh that's his comment oh well thank you very much for your wonderful comment and you know hang in and share more thoughts if you have them so ethical and social consequences the average individual living their human life surfing all of the rich people making it possible find their problems

using their services and making it possible for them to have this well have not been consulted on whether this is actually something that they want or ethical and how life extension research could serve for the greater good of humanity. So I'm going to, you know, a little, you know, example I use from time to time is a scientist who developed the World Wide Web, who could have made an absolute. fortune and certainly today but they didn't they said this is for humanity these are good guys and girls whatever you know these are good folks they saw that this is something that could serve the everyday person and so that's what the questions about life extension those are the questions that thoughtful people and researchers and in the field are asking right so it may be to consult people. They fear with any new technology that the public could be misled to become gullible victims of unscrupulous life extension entrepreneurs. We see that in ayahuasca tourism.

We see that in psychedelic menaceausse. Yeah. We see that everywhere there's an opportunity. There's going to be unscrupulous. Their words, unscrupulous entrepreneurs. Somebody, who sees the opportunity to fill their own pocket, gain power, gain money, gain something, okay? Other people have dismissed the call for open debate because it would give charlatans an opportunity to promote their useless anti-aging products. So it's like, wait a minute. No matter which sign of the coin you're picking there's the same thing on both sides charlatans unscrupulous entrepreneurs so the argument goes both ways at the same time isn't that fascinating it seems to ignore the fact this position of some seems to ignore the fact that there already is a thriving life extension

and history you know all we have to do is whether it's your skin or you have old doctors doing things to your face and you know I was a little surprised that my my dear dermatologist of endless years and who had diagnosed and served me through my militant melanoma 35 years ago okay she retired she's allowed we all all her patients will miss her so I needed to get a new doctor and you know I put in my first appointment and I made it very clear when I book that you know if you need doctor I won't say her name If you need my doctor's files, she's written out everything. I have it for you.

And since it's been a very long time, but I have been a melanoma patient, I still do need a full-body check every year, which at my age is not my happiest thing to look forward to every year. I was like, you guys going to the proctologist, right? And a charming man, but all he wanted to do is look at my face and ask me if I wanted to, you know, I've got a little, like, what do they call them, sun, spots and darkening from the sun. And it's like, I'm not bothered by those at all.

You know, that says I've had my life's journey. Yeah. Check my skin to make sure I don't have anything else going on. So this fascination with looks and changing our looks, we talked about this a while ago. Is this an effort at immortality? Is this an effort of holding on to how I looked when I was 20 or 25 or how I looked. or how I look at other 25-year-old women or men and want to look like that again. And so I do all of these things to my hair and my face and my clothes and my body

in an attempt to hold on to something that, hello, it's gone already. That ship sailed, okay? It sailed. Wear your age with grace. Please wear it with grace. okay now so where are we you want to share some thoughts on all of that I went wrapping off on statistics and things no it makes it makes perfect sense you know it does

it speaks to the fear of dying like I think you when you were laying out some potential cases of it you know when we layer that on with the charlatans exploiting that fear and that like you said that fear can come from many places. It can be a fear of consequences. It can be a fear of never living. It could be a fear of never facing certain things or the suffering. But it is that relationship between people desperately trying to take advantage of the fear of people. I think that that's what it comes down to. Yes. Yes. And perhaps their own fear. Of course. Yeah. Their own.

I mean, some people are driven into these industries because of their own fear. They're desperately looking for the fountain of youth, you know, the Holy Grail. Yes, yeah. You know, eternal. And for those of us, certainly in the transpersonal field, where we are, I am, you know, extremely interested in spiritual development and evolution, who am I? and why am I here and what is my life about? And finding that balance of being able to live well and healthy,

you know, it's quality and quantity. If I had to choose, it would be quality of life. Decades ago, one of my dear friends at the time was the chief epidemiologist at one of our hospitals and universities. And we had deep conversations about this, about longevity and about quality of life and quantity of life. And people who have a, my understanding of the research in it and the observations of people who work in the field

is that people who live, you know, and this is kind of cultures that share healthy longevity have some things in common. certain nutrition close to the earth in harmony with the earth regular physical activity usually connected to

the close to the earth thing they're growing their crops they have their large garden vegetable patch whatever it is they're outside in nature so physical it's not just on their peloton watching the news right I mean that's good I don't want people to think

I'm saying stop doing that. If that's what's in your life, then great, keep doing it, you know. You will be much healthier than not doing it. But if you can go for long walks outside, if you can work in your garden, then it's kind of different, you know. And so people who have healthy, healthy longevity, okay, they have a strong sense of purpose. You notice I'm not saying faith. It's a strong sense of purpose, which encompasses people of faith. Okay. It's something broader than just having a faith or a religious belief. It's a strong sense of purpose, you know?

You can talk about them more if it's of interest to you. And they also have strong social networks. And I'm talking about real ones now. I'm not talking about 6,000 friends on your Facebook page, probably half of which aren't really people, right? Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think I am. strong social networks where they have families, they live together, they do community activities together, they help each other, you need to raise a barn, you know, everyone shows up to raise the barn, you need to get your crop in and you need more help, you know, the folks coming around and help you get your crop in because they're helping you, you're going to help them, right? And so these strong things is what, if you look at cultures around the world, these are the things.

that live to healthy longevity in a people, you know, healthy habits. They're not smoking cigarettes. They're not excessively drinking alcohol. Yes, they may have some wine that they made with their own grapes, for example. Or they don't drink at all, you know, and or very, very infrequently. And so you can see that, but they, those are the folks who aren't interested in, you know, immortality. They're not interested in it because they're living here now. Yeah.

And they are living a healthy, fulfilling life that has a sense of purpose and has meaning. So coming back to the underlying themes, okay, remember I said a sense of purpose, can we talk about that for a more? Yeah, please. This, for me, will be the antidote to fear of death. it isn't needing a great faith in a divine being that will eliminate your fear of death it is living your daily life with a sense of purpose and putting those things I just mentioned

a healthy relationship with the planet of a healthy diet good habits good health habits you know good social networks good relationships healthy practices, whatever they are, they're healthy. You're good for you, they're good for your community.

And that living in the moment, which is what all this good spiritual teachers and gurus and guides are trying to teach us, that is what provides meaning in life, at which point, once you have that sense of purpose and meaning in life, your fear of death shrinks down. The fear of suffering, I think, will, I think the little fear of suffering is normal. It's human. I don't think it's ever going to disappear. You know, none of us, I think, want to suffer. Right.

And even those of us who are willing to accept death as part of being alive, you know, part of the everything arises, everything falls away. Everything comes. everything goes. So, and our willingness to let go of the ego, let go of materialism, that is something we do through the aging process. And we can either do it with dignity and grace, or we can get desperate and try and hold on to it. You know, the portrait of Dorian Gray, right?

Yeah. which eventually of course catches up with him as it always does you know and and no wonder the fascination in modern culture with all these superheroes and you know superheroes that are immortal and yes Gregor Raphael Fisher yeah well 70% said no thank you very much for the immortality I mean you know but if we think of a film like the main Matrix, offered a wake-up pill. Do you want to wake up? So, you know, if I wasn't already taking a wake-up pill, our sacrament, I would, you know, yes, a wake-up pill is good. But any more totality pill, no, I don't think so thank you very much. I think I'm willing to surrender to this process that is here and learn what I can from it, do it as consciously as possible. Okay. Where are we now? You have some thoughts on this last go around? I do. Let me read out my friend Gregor's comment right here. Gregor, thank you so much for being here. Robert, thank you so much for being here. He says, interesting conversation. I have a comment on a slightly different subject. How we face death itself as it arrives. My mother recently passed away from ovarian cancer. I was taken aback at here, at her bravery, especially as death finally came in her. came for her in the last days and hours while she was perhaps a little frightened and apprehensive

she was amazingly lucid and was okay with and understood the experience you guys caught my interest with to die with grace yes dignity thank you so much for sharing that and you know lots of light for you and your family and for her where she is in her transition and yes grace and dignity. So if we're living a meaningful, purposeful life in health and in balance, as much as we can being human, okay, we're still going to have good days and bad days and difficult times and that's going to come and arrive for everyone. But if we have a fairly strong sense of self of who we really are, we can move with that, like the tree moves with the strong win.

It doesn't get uprooted. So we can give ourselves that flexibility to be resilient in the face of challenges and difficulties, but also have grace, dignity, and courage in facing aging. And, you know, because I think it's the aging as much as the death. See, people don't want to age. That fear of suffering age-related disabilities, you know, the loss of vitality.

the loss of what they see, the loss of vitality, the loss of being able to do things you used to do. You know, a certain point your body says, no, we're not doing that anymore. Thank you very much. I mean, you see, you know, there was some woman who ran an Iron Man and she was like 80 years old or something, okay?

She had a whole team of people helping her, too, by the way, but she's still like, God bless her. You know, bless her if that, is what brings you purpose and meaning in your life is to an iron man at the age of 80-something, you know, that, hey, you go girl, you know. So, but for the rest of us, who would be cheering on the side, but not doing it.

Right. Right. So does that make sense that the more meaningful your life is, the more well your life is, then the less likely you are to want an immortality pill. Yeah. It makes perfect sense to me. In some ways, wanting to live wherever robs you of living your life now.

If you're spending all this time thinking about like, how do I get more? How do I live forever? Like, you already have it. Right now you have everything. It's right here. It's right here. We are sitting with it. It's present right here right now.

It is you. It is me. It is us. It is everything everywhere. Right. Oh, well, thank you for sharing that. and the gate light and peace to you, your family, and to her, you know, and, you know, acknowledging your, your, your courage and, and openheartedness to accompany her. Yeah.

Because that's what, I think that's something that's so essential, palliative care, you know, I'm open up that I've watched palliative care change drastically, okay, and become something that is profoundly meaningful to the individual. and hopefully making a setting where the individual can make decisions and make choices and ask for what they want and need and what has heart and soul meaning for them as they go through that last section of their life. And I've watched many people, you know, go through that, including my husband last January. The year before it was my mother. The year before that, it was my first husband, the father, and my children has been a steady stream of passages, you know. you know and each time you're in the presence of that each time you are either supporting it or assisting in some way that will be helpful for the person i believe that it helps us you know it helps

each of us to be more open-hearted open-minded more present you know i'm thinking of two great teachers. Those work I really, you know, had gratitude for. And that would be Ram Dass, the former Harvard psychologist, Richard Albertan, and Stephen Levine, and the work they did on death and, you know, based on Kubler-Ross's original work on death and dying. And how to be present with it and how to face it. And so what I would want to say to these people who seem to be so deeply desirous of longevity and, you know, the fountain of youth is do some charitable work, do some volunteer work, you know, push the juice cart around and the palliative care. You have to be screened to assist in the hospitals, but I'm sure you've got some friends,

all you guys out there, all you welcome people who, you don't want to live forever. why don't you go and sit with the dying and learn from them you know and learn from them so jack cornfield another one he tells remarkable stories of when he was you know doing volunteer work and palliative care a story that really stayed with me shall i share it it's one of his story it's not anything i'm sharing his story and acknowledging him um so he was He was kind of on call and one of the nurses had come to him and said, you know, because he was, before he was Jack Cornfield, he was a psychologist, right? So before he became like spiritual teacher, American Buddhist spiritual teacher. And so he was, I guess, on call at the hospital.

And so one of the staff came and said that she was a little worried about one of the patients. that he was breathing in a very strange way and he seemed distressed. And maybe Jack could go and sit with him for a while. So Jack did. He said, and I hope he'll sit. So he sat and up in him in. And the man was breathing very fast and like this.

And so Jack kind of meditated on what's the best way to support this man. So what he did is he started breathing like he was breathing. And this is actually kind of like a Santo Daini technique. and a rough technique in which you will start then slowing the breath down with them. Your breath will start

slowing down and you will help ground them, okay? And so Jack started breathing rhythm with him. And the men sort of started a little bit and he says, you see it too. You see it too. Jack says, tell me what you see.

I see a ship. There's people on the ship. And he says, I'm saying, okay, you know, okay. And, you know, what is it about the ship? And he says the ship is coming for me. And he settled down and he relaxed and he says, there's angels on the ship. I'm getting tears just thinking. Yeah, I know. Me too.

Moves me so much. And he says, and so Jack says, well, who's on the ship? And the man says, there's angels on the ship. And they're coming for me. And he breathed a few more grass. Is that a beautiful story? Every time I think about that story, tears me up like crazy.

So that ability to open into the moment, you know, a few years ago, a very dear friend of mine, I better grab a Kleenex, fortunately. My birthday is in a few days. I was born, full moon rising, and the super moon was rising, I was being born. And so for the third time in my life, on this birthday this week,

there's a whole moon rising at the Jack. So only three times this happened. Isn't that interesting? Anyway. That is fascinating. I'm sad that I can express emotions very easily. So this light is sad. My kids will laugh at me. Mom, we're not going to that movie with you because she'll cry. I'll prove it, you know, which I don't think is a bad thing to people can cry easily if something's sad. I don't see that as being this bad thing at all. Fortunately, in my private practice, I was able to use tools so that I wasn't crying along with my clients when they were describing difficult things. But there you go. So talking about accompanying people in that moment of transition and how doing that helps us.

infinitely. Would you agree? Yes? And so it's the fear of aging. The fear of aging, for some people, that's really scary. They don't want to lose their faculties. They don't want to lose their brightness. They don't, you know, they don't want to lose their sex drive. I mean, sorry, but say it like it is. Right. They want to have all the same vitality that they had when they were in their 20s or 30s or something like that and they think what immortality or some you know some service or some thing was going to give it to you does it does it does it no it you know i i love what you said about sitting with people that are that are dying or being surrounded by it i feel like death is the biggest teacher

Probably the most difficult teacher. But there's so much you can learn from there about your own life, about a life worth living, about something meaningful, about how lucky you are, but how fortunate you are to still have your time. I often think about, you know, right now somewhere, there's someone on a hospital begging, a family member begging for one more day. Please, God, give me one more day. And like so many of us have it. So many of us have tomorrow. So many of us have the next hour to tell someone you love how much you love them or to do something kind or to do something for someone that will never be able to repay. You just to do something beautiful.

Like you have that right now. Like that is to me. And I think that that's why the idea of living forever. It's like why? Why do you need? You don't need that. You need to live right now. Live now.

Yeah. Yeah. all the spiritual teachers teach us this instead of so careful of the future and imagined and or real loss so it's also the fear of anticipated loss yes we anticipate what we're going to do this

and we're cheerful of it instead of how do we grieve okay you know how do we grieve those big life changes and the aging process you know when certain things that we could do we can't do anymore and when certain things that we had we don't have anymore you know people when we can look at if we look at it we're going to see that this is how we've dealt with loss our whole life yeah if we have dealt with loss if we were talking taught to deal with loss in a way that had ritual, that had meaning, that had heart and awareness to it, then any loss is just a smaller loss or a bigger loss.

Does this make sense what I'm saying? So fear of death is part of it, but underneath it for me is the fear of loss. The fear of living and then not living, but not having. lived. Yeah. So if we know how to be with loss, if we know how to be with loss, if we know how to grieve appropriately when grieving is what is called for, so as a culture, do we know how to grieve?

Do we know how to be with grief? I don't think of them. Yeah, we don't. Well, I mean, not me, but I mean. Right. And the whole. match and get all caught up in the glitz and the glamour and the the flashy you know TikTok lifestyle let's just say it like that you know but you know that's not anybody's real life

right you know every now and again you know we'll have a little slice of somebody's real life some you know somebody will be on a talk show or the news or something and you'll see that They have a difficult thing in their life. They've had a big loss. They have a health crisis. They have a something. They're not this glitzy, glamorous fake being that people think some people are. And then aspire to have that, you know.

There's a friend of mine said, body by Mattel. So, you know, the classic dolls. Yeah. They don't age. Yeah. okay where are we okay so we were talking about well we talked about ethical and social consequences that you know god knows what the ethical consequences are this is only for their wealthy people who can afford these treatments these things these machines these whatever

people are doing to themselves clearly it's not available for the people on welfare right right clearly it's not available for perhaps those who might need it the most. It's not available, okay? It's available for those who can afford it or maybe who can't afford it, but give up everything in the hope of getting it. And that story is more tragic than you. The people who, as I read here, okay, who are gullible, who are vulnerable enough to be gullible to become victims of life extension. I mean, how many cancer patients have fallen prey? to all kinds of people and treatments and stuff, right? Yep.

Promising all kinds of things that are not based in scientific review as actual in research is actually helping anyone. That in fear and desperation in that long game. So the vulnerable, yes, we need to have a kind thought for the vulnerable and hope that They find some courage and confidence to find their way through that and they get the support they need and the information, the education that they need. So, but while we're talking about it, let's talk about longevity that we've already got on the planet and why we've got it. Okay? So we talked about healthy cultures of longevity. But let's look at what's actually happening on our planet.

The population of people older than 80 years old is the fastest growing group in the developed world. That's a bit scary, isn't it? I don't know. The worldwide number of people older than 65 years is projected to increase from 249 million in 2000 to 690 million in 2030. Wow. Now, what are the factors? Now, obviously, we can agree that a goal would be a healthy society that has elderly people who are healthy and active up to the time of their death.

They have meaningful lives, right? They have meaningful lives where they wake up in the morning and they say, yay, I'm still here instead of, oh, my God, I'm still here. Okay? Yay, I'm still here. and I can go on Zoom and visit with my grandchildren and wherever they are. And I can listen to my favorite music and read a wonderful book and go for a walk and have lunch with friends and do some activities, okay?

Do the morning yoga class or whatever it is, okay? So that would be a healthy goal that I think all of us could get behind, okay? That a lifespan that is healthy and active. Is that actually the reality? What is the reality? Okay, there's, why are we living longer? The reduction of infectious diseases, reduce childhood mortality. Through modern medicine and science and yes, vaccinations, children are not dying the same way they did from infectious diseases and or unsafe water.

Okay, that's been a huge thing. Okay, that's been a huge thing, being accessed to safe drinking water, a very huge thing as far as childhood mortality. Modern medicine sanitation improved food supplies. All of this has been contributing to people who are living longer. Modern medicine is increasingly able to keep our bodies alive for longer. So if we go back 100 years, it wasn't a cure or a treatment, a treatment for many diseases that would kill people.

They would, diseases simply what, you know, diabetes? What did they have for diabetes 100, 150 years ago? You know? So lots of, you know, even cancer treatments through surgery and chemotherapy, radiation, et cetera, et cetera, all the various surgery treatments for different diseases. So people are, we're keeping our bodies a lot, our bodies alive for longer.

I love how it's stated. We're keeping our bodies alive for longer. What do you have to say about that? We're keeping our bodies alive for longer. I like the way it's stated, and I think it allows us the opportunity to live well, to enjoy longer. But I think also there's consequences with keeping our bodies alive longer. I think that the longer the body lives, the longer the aging body lives, the more it steals from the youth. Yes, nicely put, nicely put.

And how much of our health care system is consumed. Yes. It's been shared with me and we can read about it in chronicles. that indigenous people in in other eras an older person when they within themselves reached the moment where they thought i'm no longer supporting the tribe i'm a burden to the tribe i am told they would wait for a stormy night and they'd go walk about yeah they'd wait for a storm and they'd go walk about yeah on a journey won't be coming back and this was considered honorable and acceptable if an elderly person reached the point.

That's our culture, and I'm not saying that's right or wrong. I'm not attaching any judgment at all. I'm just saying that these stories are chronicled, okay? In the current reality, we are seen driven to keep alive at any cost or consequence. Okay. The eight years that my husband chose life after he broke his neck, he chose surgery in life. Okay. And the first few years, he's had the option. We have the option here in Quebec for medical assistance and dying. And he chose, he asked her to die twice and then changed his mind and said, no, I think I'm going to be better. I think I'm okay. And we watched him do that dance. That was hard. Yes. I don't want to live like this. You know, we quietly told them after a couple of years, two years or so, we will start with dementia. This won't be on the table anymore. So he left it too long until he was diagnosed by that point, by year, three years so, the dementia.

So those, that option is off the table. Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah, hard, hard to watch. Yes, yes. Eight years, eight years of watch someone struggle. I want to live, but I'm not living. There's huge deep teachings in it, huge deep teachings in it about quality of life and courage and giving someone the freedom to choose. It was his life for God's choose.

I couldn't, I'm not going to deny him his choice. That would have been wrong all the way around. So people choose. They, you know, there's decisions, difficult decisions to be made. and people get to choose. I've heard stories from in years past clients and students of an elderly loved one who had an illness before medical assistance and dying. And I myself watched beloved friends, you know,

wither away months or even up to a year or two years longer than they would have wanted to until finally they realized, I can just stop beating. Okay, stop giving me food. And a very dear teacher of mine, a mentor in the Santo Dami, watched her, and then she told everybody, okay, no more food, and then no more water. I know I'll go faster with no water, no more water. There was no medical assistance in dying.

Palliative care was just keeping you alive and stuffing food in your face. Okay, why, why, why? You know, why? We have to ask herself, why. Why do we do this? Is it guilt? Is it why can't there be a goodbye room? Why can't there be a goodbye room?

You know? When the person is at the point where they can't wander off because you're not allowed to wander off anymore. The police can't find you and kind people bring you back. You're not allowed to do what's somewhere in your bones. Do you know is the right thing? One stormy night, go out in the storm, keep going. So it's where our society is at, which is, and I'm not putting judgment on any of it,

I'm just saying this is where it is. This is what's happened, seeing it, witnessed it firsthand. How do you make space for that? You know, how do we make space for that? How do we hold it respectfully? How do we continue to offer dignity and compassion? and let people make their choices, and make sure that society offers appropriate choices

so that people do have options. So maybe, you know, what you have up on the top here, what if you is not on the flower, and the way the flower teaches us how the die with grace. Maybe as much as there is an industry that's trying to sell immortality, okay? Perhaps it would be better if we had more support with how to learn how to grieve and learn how to let go and okay everybody isn't going to become a Buddhist and embrace that but still okay but still how do we support our culture in understanding that everything arises and falls away and that attachment is what is taught is the root of suffering the more I have a hymn in my first hymn book where I am attached I will suffer

in chaos and doubt. Set me free. Let it go. And then I can move on my path. When we get attached, and this is, I think, you know, these teachings are so deep, you know,

that it doesn't take, it takes more than one lifetime to get your mind around it, you know, a couple of times, and then you go, oh, that's what the Buddha meant. And I'm drinking dimey

twice a month, right? going, oh, that's what do I mean, man. Oh, that's what the best you went, you know. Here you are in the path. Where we get attached, we can't continue our journey. It's like a ship. You put the anchor down, right? The ship doesn't go sailing with the anchor dragging in the reef.

You have to take up the anchors without the sails. Then you go. So where we get attached, this is how it looks to me. Where we get attached, it means that we are not walking our journey. We're stuck. And we can't really go forward as long as we're there. That sounds like a whole other conversation. We do next time on attachment.

Okay. Okay, well, I guess we should wrap it up for today. All right. Anything else that you thought might be helpful? I think I've shared all my notes on this, and hopefully people will have their own thoughts about what we've discussed today and let it settle into them. The oldest person to date, you know, Guinness World Booker Records,

was a woman from France, and she lived 122 years. 122. 122. I think the previous was a Japanese man who was like 118 or something like that. My mother was 102. I think she was waiting to go for quite a few years. She would have been happy to go in her own house, not have to go into her residence, although beautiful residence, lovely people, she had a lovely room, everything.

But once she got to that point, she would have been, she was waking up, am I still here? Yeah. I'm still here. Yeah. And she had a very peaceful passing. She was, she'd been waiting for it for years, waiting to go. You know, some people say God's waiting room.

Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I'm going to share one last story. Yeah, please. It was a very, well, I might get more tears on this one. Very beloved and dear and close friend of mine, you know, got diagnosed. It left some symptoms too long. And, you know, for anybody out there who's listening, you have symptoms, go see your doctor, please.

Okay, catch something early enough. You're probably going to live more healthy days. Deny it, it's probably going to just create more of a problem. Anyway, by the time he was diagnosed it, had metastasized. And so he lived about another year. afterwards um and in that last period in palliative care so um i had in one of our santa dimey rituals um i had really thought i needed to you know download my grief so the next time i saw him knowing now that he was so close to passing that it would probably be the last time

i was going to be seeing him and so you know i had my good cry and then the diamond said to me look Tell Bevan, and this is a remarkable thing about being in the non-ardinary state of consciousness, is you have such a profound, altered state of awareness of universal wisdom, okay? And what's available, those voices of wisdom and voices of truth that you become attuned to and can listen to, that in our everyday life we don't really hear. So if we're meditating and are praying, we're out in silence in the woods, we can tune and listen to those. So in our rituals and our meditations, that's what we're doing, being present, being open.

So I had my crime, and I'm sitting there, I'm meditating and just in my concentration. We call them concentrations because it's not just open meditation, it's more focused to being available, right? So focus to being available to listen. And we said, show betterness. And it's like something in the astral open, and I was looking at this most, don't ask me to describe what I was looking at

because it's very hard to. It's like I was looking at this place of infinite peace and beauty. That's as close as I can get. And I'm like, oh, I can't wait to see Devon and tell him. So we drove down, my husband was so well then. We drove down to see Bevan, visit him. It was the last time. So we did prayers and kind of last rites with him.

And I said, Kevin, drank Daimie two days ago, and this is what the daimie showed me. This is what's waiting for you. The dime he said to show you, this is the play that he's waiting for you. Okay. Now, he drank Diamondy for years. He was coming down to you in our church. So he understood it. So he looks at it, and I tried to describe it.

And as I'm describing it, I see his eyes close, and he just takes a long, slowly breath. He goes, ah, yes. He passed two days later. You know? Wow. So that's my story. Probably enough stories for today.

So if, you know, and here's where. You know, our fear of aging and death and our fear of loss and everything. These are things that each person has to come into terms with. We can't do it for someone else. Each of us. Now, we may need some support or some help with that. That's okay. That's okay.

Ask for help. Yeah, help. There's grief support groups. Every hospital has one. You know, call your local hospital. You don't have to. If people are in a position where they don't have the extra funds to pay private for, you know, a psychologist, a spiritual psychologist and what have you, just call your local hospital. They're going to have a group support for health care and grief support because this is a human experience.

Everyone has this. There's no one exempt from loss, from grief, from aging, from death. We're all in this together. right yeah no one no one no one gets out alive no no that's a continued conversation that's much meant and the soul and all that let's talk about that next time it's been brand it always is i hope that some people enjoy our conversation and thank you to the folks who are listening in and shared some comments and always valuable and appreciate it Agreed.

Robert Greger, everybody for chiming in today. Excuse me. Thank you so much for being here. Hang on briefly afterwards. Dr. Jessica, to everybody else. I hope you have a beautiful day. That's all we got. Aloha.

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