Trusty Hogs - Ep154. Coraline, Compromise and Couples Therapy
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Your collar's up, you look like Rizzo from Greece, and it's sexy as hell.
Welcome to episode 154.
Please stick with the program.
Welcome to episode 154, trusty hogs.
My name is Rizzo.
There are worse things I could do.
And this slide is Catherine Bohart, aka what character on Greece do you want to be for the sake?
Well, the one who's affronted by you calling her a slots?
So who do you think?
Look at me.
French.
I'm Sandra Day, baby.
No, I'm not.
I've had way too much sex.
Listen, we're both Rizzo's, and that's just the truth of it.
Through the fog,
step forth the trusty hogs.
Yeah, you're going to give them your problems,
and they will solve them,
or maybe they won't, and that's your problem.
They'll have guests,
and Andrew White on the tech.
Oh, it's Helen and Catherine as the trusty hogs.
Trust the trusty hogs.
Oh, maybe not.
Hello, you are.
Come on, you just find it, you're gay, please.
So listen, hey, everybody, welcome to the podcast.
This is the podcast where we tell you about our perfect lives.
Andrew's told us we have to be quick with this episode,
and so I'm speaking way too fast,
even though actually we just need to, like, make time.
It's not like difficult, but why can't I slow down?
The best thing happened to us today.
That's the way we need to start this episode.
No, but I'm so excited.
I know you're very excited.
Because remember I told you all that we went,
I went on a big booth day with my friend Charlie Dick.
thinking because my favorite thing to do is go on a big boots.
Boots sent us a big boots bag.
I'm so happy, thank you, boots.
I'm not even mad about the weird sort of vaginal moisture cream that came with it.
I haven't opened mine yet.
Vaginal moisture cream, but also lots of gorgeous, amazing stuff I really do actually want.
Woo-hoo!
Wait, wait, wait, what is vaginal...
Wait, I haven't even opened it.
Vaginal moisture cream.
You have never experienced this, but imagine...
Dry cunt.
Yeah.
Yeah, I've heard about it.
Yeah.
So I think they're like in any of...
In the eventuality that that might occur, but you even have some...
You have a lovely blonde
blonde hair mask in there
We have sun cream
We have a body lotion
We have face cleanser
The inky one which I adore
We've been really spoiled
Thank you to our listener
Who's ended and we are so so so grateful
I know we're in a rush
And I'm not going to
I'm not going to
I'm not going to
We mustn't we mustn't
Also I love you
Also Helen
Do I have news for you
Go on
This week
I found
An exercise class
Too toxic
Even
for me. And I am proud of you for putting up that boundary. What the
fuck happened in this class? Yeah. I went to a class
just a simply named bar. Have I ever done a bar class? No. But I've done
ballet size. Yeah. That can't be that different. I did ballet as a child. Sure. I've done
Pilates. What of it? I've been to most exercise like Matt. As you know,
Matitude, big fan. Shout out Matitude. I went to bar. And afterwards
it was made clear to me by every woman who's like genuinely pleading eyes on
looked into when I even said or shudder I looked into as I said I'd been to a bar class but it turns
that it is quite toxic generally speaking I think but I went into this bar class and already I was
well I was just for perspective I'm going to say I'm going to say it I was twice the size of everyone
in the class which given that I'm a tiny woman was like I was like okay this is a really intense
class these women have done ballet all their lives right I go in and the door closes in the hottest room
I've ever been in and I was like oh is it like it's like a heated class and everyone's like no
and I was like amazing great it's like hot in here right it's like it's a warm room the previous
people yeah and also just I guess like we don't feel anything is the like the people who looked at
me were like hadn't noticed like like it already it was a test minute it already started and I was
like ah in comes this honestly furious teacher absolutely livid like she was so enraised
She's also the most muscular lean ballerina I've ever seen.
And she's like, morning and plays, honestly, club hits, which were so aggressive.
It was like so aggressive, but we did not stop moving for the entire house.
The warm up was honestly harder than any exercise class I have ever taken.
It's like she hated every single one of us.
If you couldn't do something, she'd be like, come on, good morning, wake up.
It was like, what the literal fuck.
People were honestly, like, you could see in everyone's eyes they wanted to leave and quit.
everyone was absolutely like struggling so hard and she was just like what are you made to do though
oh it is like the whole thing is basically you're holding weights and pleading right so it seems like
yeah i can do that for five minutes but do it for 55 fucking minutes and it is like honestly hell and
so much of it was up on your on the ball of your foot so you'd be up on the ball of one foot and then
like pointing the one behind you but it was just so i don't know i haven't most exercise classes i've been in
right at the moment
know they're not allowed to say
at least even if they want to say it
they know they're not allowed to say
the body shaming
like let's get into those jeans
let's get into those bikinis stuff
they know they're not allowed to say that anymore
so instead they just scream
how strong you're becoming
because that stops them saying
any of the things they've been told in their manual
not to say you are so strong
you're so strong you're so strong
this woman didn't give a fuck
and was just like
burn
burn burn burn burn
burn and was like saying it out loud and I was like I this is what is happening I feel like I'm in hell
I so I couldn't fathom that that could possibly be so but I said at the end because honestly it came
out of my face before I expected it to I said to the girl was I'm like have you done this before and
she was just like yeah and left and I was like so some people love it oh my god they fucking
love it and they love the superiority of it and it was cruel and toxic and it felt like you know
like I did ballet as a kid and a lot of those teachers are super toxic as we all did as we
But it was like, I did it as a teen.
Like I went to the, like, the Irish Ballet Summer Camp and I did all of those things.
But I, this was like somebody had like set off a smoke bomb in the bathroom and the teacher
wanted to punish us kind of behavior.
This was like, I don't know, it was, it just felt from the second you and in there, brutal.
And I was like, it just was horrid.
Like Black Swan sort of vibes.
Honestly that, but no one ate me out.
It's not even me.
It was so weird.
Anyway, I just thought
And so I went later
Maybe four hours later to get a wax
And you know when you go to get a wax up
Like they do like frog legs
And I went to do it
And I honestly like couldn't
I was like
And the
Like body trembling
Yeah
The waxer was like
You okay
And I was like
I actually went to a really aggressive
Ballet class earlier on
She's like was a bar
And I was like yeah
And she was like
Oh my God
It's so bad
it's awful it's awful and she just kept saying like it's awful it's all over and over and over again
this is by the way she's saying it's awful whilst waxing my cun so like to have that woman be like
that woman was cruel to you right i was like wow and she said to me and then she went will you go back
and the power in realizing i was like no i have enough exercise classes i have too many i'm good
i do not need bar this is the one i'm willing to be like that's just not for me so that was
I'm going. I'm going. I'm in. I'm all in. I want to get this woman a peace of my mind.
She's so intense, man. She's so intense. But also like, surely there's clearly a market for it.
Oh yeah, the room was full. That's what I mean is like, it was crazy to me that it's a thing and people were like, yeah, I'd like to sign up for this.
It was awful. There wasn't, like, I'm telling you the warm up was the single hardest thing I've ever done.
Like, I was like, and she kept saying this. This one really fucks me off. She kept saying this is the last exercise.
She meant in that set. But do not psychological.
tell me it's the last exercise when you know you know we have 45 minutes to go
that's a lot of exercising is just being lied to though isn't it being like oh my god we're nearly
there five more it's just crazy I was like are you mad she also kept going like I'm not
fit I can count though she also did she kept doing this six five four you know what
10 nine eight I was like get to fuck get I just remember that oh my god the whole thing
was a horrible horrible horrible horrible I should have actually but I just couldn't
you paid no I I wasn't
that I just honestly was like paralyzed with fear like I couldn't resist her like I did everything
she said no matter how much it hurt I came out and I was like I've hurt my shoulder from that
fast which I've never done anyway all of which to say is like I found my line and it's bar
and I think I might have found my opening and it's bar your way in I feel like um oh
to completely whack that table I liked it different ways of doing it um me and Alison
have gone for two walks recently and we feel like we've figured everything out nice yeah there's
these machines that you stand on them and do that and your legs move and we love it oh is there
like an outdoor gym in your park there was we used it once then it got taken down um the next day
it's been there for about 10 years so we've taken it a bit personally that is a bit savage yeah
Alison messaged me being like oh our gym's gone and i was like we've only used it what we've only
just found it we've only just found it why was it gone they were like no not for you yeah it was
really weird and it was such a weird day because like I went to get a coffee
coffee, like me and Alison Performer,
and I went to the coffee shop
and a pigeon followed me in
and then there was just this pigeon flying around
and I was like, well, I sort of like let the pigeon
in. So like, it was just, it was just
mad the whole day, crazy.
Crazy. But it was one of those, like, it was
a good pigeon. Like if you were going to get a pigeon in your coffee
shop, it's the one you would have chosen out of a line up.
I know what you're saying, I know you're saying, I know what you're saying.
Like feathers all in, like two eyes.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
We, um...
Two eyes, two eyes. When we went on holiday, you know, the delay
with Greece, we met these two young lesbians in the airport by which I mean met, I mean like immediately
identified and we're like, we'll be sharing a taxi with you. They were so cute. They were 24 and 25 and
just had gotten engaged. They were adorable. Shout out to Grace and Kia. They both work in fashion
and they're really good at like thrifting. So they found so many good things. And honestly, we made them
do an unboxing of all the things that they bought in Greece in the airport on the way back.
But on the way home, they were telling us that they had prior to that. Wait, you traveled back
with them as well. We met them at the airport and then we
were both on the overground, on the, whatever
overground town. Obviously the overground, it's
the gay line. Yeah, well actually it's the Thameslink
but we can... Either way
you get it. Gays don't go underground. This is the thing.
That unless it's gonna be
for a good party.
That's looking out.
Or a blow job, right? Go down town. No, I meant
like club culture, but that's... Oh, club culture. Damn it!
Yeah, that's okay. And what I
was going to say is, all this is to say that
the week before they'd had a very stressful week and I hope they
would mind me telling this story, but they had a
stressful week because the week before they had found on the street I thought a train station
an injured pigeon a small baby pigeon whose mother wasn't around and it was a squab was missing a leg
a squab was missing a leg so they bring down a shoebox and they take the pigeon home not what i would
have done which i said to their faces sorry don't mind saying that now they named the pigeon and i do think
this is really admirable midge midgy midge the page that's gorgeous bit of invention love that for
them right now it transpires midge's leg was just up midd hadn't lost a leg as they
previously thought just was just up yeah it went down but um but they called and i didn't know that
there was such a thing rs pb no there is a pigeon rehab in south london apparently do you know this
no yeah andrew google pigeon rehab there's a real pigeon rehab yeah andrew google pigeon rehab
and you're not googling this but get this you have to make an appointment they won't just let you
walking with a sick pigeon, you have to have an appointment
in advance. It all seems very strict this.
Do you reckon I should make an appointment and then get the pigeon?
I think so, but what I didn't know was, yeah, a bit like how you'd have to get your kid
into nursery before it's born. That's how in demand this rehab is.
But what I didn't know was, and they were all talking like, apparently this is the case.
They were so sweet because they were like, it was our duty to help the pigeon because, as
you know, we domesticated pigeons.
Correct.
I didn't know that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We domesticated pigeons and then just release them and now they're not, they're not like capable
of being in the world.
We absolutely fuck them over.
That's awful of us.
We domesticate so many things.
Do you know about cinnamon?
Where was cinnamon up in North England?
Is this a guinea pig?
No, a capybara, escape from a zoo in Staffordshire.
Nightmare.
What's a capybara?
Capi barra.
Big, big guinea pig is the best way I can describe it.
I said, is this a guinea pig and you said no.
But like, you're going to have to times that guinea pig by about 200 to get a capybara.
Why are we always calling guinea pig's food names?
We've been over this.
Okay, that is different to a guinea pig.
I see that.
But like, you can see visually.
So did we domesticate that?
And if it's in a zoo, they're immediately domesticated.
So this capybara, cinnamon.
Cafibara escaped.
And it was like living in the woodland for like 10 days or something, right, behind the zoo.
And they managed to get it yesterday and thank God they filmed it being like,
we've got cinnamon and cinnamon just there in a cage and they're like,
he's very tired and very hungry and looks a bit confused.
And cinnamon's like, I've been alone in the woods.
And none of you have come and got me because they like found him on thermal imaging.
But it was like pitch black so they couldn't find him just to wait for the next day.
And he's just there like, what is happening?
What is happening?
That is so sweet.
But cinnamon is home now from what I gather.
And okay.
Yes, yes, he is.
It's because we domesticate.
So Yule Log, you remember from the Cornish Seal Sanctuary.
Yeah.
Hello, Yorlog.
Yeah.
One of the ones that hasn't died.
So, oh good.
That's what I was going to say.
Yule log was at a zoo somewhere in the north of England.
Yeah.
And then they released him and they like released all their.
animals but then
your log kept getting in trouble on the beach
and having the police called on them and getting into
fights with humans
because whenever kids on the beach were playing with a bucket
he thought it was a bucket of fish so he'd just fucking
oh here I come here I come
because they're feeding me. Are you telling people would call
the police about that? I think they'd like yeah
get arrested or I don't know what happens with animals
when they're misbehaving what happens I don't think you call
the police do my Google searches have been
horses cause of death
shooting horses seal
fighting pigeon rehab I'm going to
get the RSPC calls.
Okay, fine, fair enough, fair enough, Andrew.
But, so you will look at to be taken in
because then, because he only eats
from buckets of fish and he was like so
underweight and they was like, we've got, he's just domesticated
now. Wow. Awful.
That's intense. So Midge made it though.
Oh, no. Oh my God, what's wrong with you?
I wasn't going to tell the end of the story. You asked
a mad question.
Oh, fuck, sorry. Just a moment of silence.
And it seems to me you lived your life like a pigeon on the ground, never knowing where your leg was till the rain came down.
You got an appointment and we thought that you would live.
Your candle burned out long before.
to go to Trafalgut square
That was really moving
I know you I can feel it
genuinely feel quiet
I was really emotional
Well speaking of being emotional
I had a big cry last night
Because I was watching
The newest series of
And I can't believe no one told me it was out
Couples therapies back on BBC
Couples therapies back on BBC
Do you watch it?
No.
Helen, it's the best television
I've ever seen.
Helen, Helen,
I feel like you've told me about this before.
Oh my God, sorry.
If you haven't seen the four series
of couples therapy on BBC,
it's one of these single greatest television shows
I've seen in recent years.
It is a New York-based couple's therapist,
Orna, who is genuinely fantastic at her job.
You film her in the sessions with her couples,
but also in her peer review therapy sessions
and also with her supervisor.
So she, like, discusses these couples in multiple fronts
and also the stuff that is going on
other people's relationships. And they do it on TV? Yes, it's mental. It's also fucking
fantastic. By the way, I stopped saying mental years ago, but you've said there so many times that
now I'm saying it again. Oh, do not blame me for you saying mental. That was, that's mental. No, but we
shouldn't be saying it and only you can get away with it. We're not saying it? It's generally not a nice
thing to say. But I'm mental. Yeah, yeah, me too, which is why I used to think, I just prefer not to,
but it's fine. I'm reclaiming it. You can also say whatever the hell you want. I just, I don't. I'm a mental
on me yeah yeah and but all you can say whatever you want point is I saw a word in my
vernacular that often and suddenly it's back and I'm like hello but oh my god and this series
they have a polycule and it is one of the worst representations of Pollyamory no but just because
like it's so well they're claiming to be sort of free of lots of things and then enacting them
in every possible session which is totally human and normal but like it's very interesting that
jealousy occupies a lot of the space
in their relationship when that is supposed to be the thing
that they've liberated themselves from. Not that you can't
have jealousy in polyamorous relationships, but rather
that their reticence
to acknowledge that that's what's occurring
prohibits them from, in my opinion,
prohibits them from talking about this. This whole
honestly, all of the first three
series are amazing.
And this series is fantastic.
It's so good, Helen, you would absolutely love it
because if you like gossip, if you're nosy.
I don't like gossip though.
You say that. You are one of the nosy.
this woman I know because that's why we're friends.
I'm noisy but I don't want to know things.
I feel like I find things out late and I'm good with that.
Yeah, but this is finding it out late.
You don't know them.
That's what it's like, it's like the perfect scenario where it's like intel on how
other people's relationships work, but you don't know them and you're not personally
affected by it in any meaningful.
And so like what you resonate with you resonate with, but also like in lots of
ways you're like, oh, this is so cool because it's cool to know other people are
dealing with this at the same time.
Yes.
And the other part of it is like, huh, we are also wildly different.
and ha the way we react to what I think it really brings up watching it
you're so passionate I love it I love it so much because you watch it and you're like
oh I just cannot watch it and think and I've never really thought this anyway but it's so
fascinating to watch like none of us have any self-awareness I am always so
struck by anyone who's like personal identity is like being so self-aware it's like no
watch these series and you're like none of it so people will be like
the therapist would be like can you listen
and they were like absolutely
and their partner will start to speak in two seconds
and say they're like oh my god it's so good
do you want to do couple therapy
no I actually really don't
I have quite a toxic view
which I'm not going to share actually I'm not going to share
I just think
I have quite like a hard line
a ridiculous hard line of like I think you have to been together
quite a while
before you do couple's therapy,
because otherwise, if you need it already,
I'm a bit like, call it.
But that's such a toxic view.
But if you need it, you bloody need it.
Oh, totally.
I'm just like, my thing is,
like, if we're together less than a year
and you want me to spend money on fixing this
rather than just break up.
But we've been together for years and years and years.
Oh, for us?
Obviously for us.
I'm going to suggest couples therapy for you.
Suggesting it for us.
I'm saying, like, let's get a couple's therapist in
and let's get through some of our stuff.
I think we do pretty well.
I know, but wouldn't it be so fun to blow it wide open.
No, because I actually think it would be really unhelp
because here's what I think.
I think that
we have a couple's therapists
and it's the audience.
And they write their little
they write their little therapist notes
on the perverts forum
and I don't want to know them.
That's, okay, that's an interesting point.
I think
I think it would be a really interesting episode.
I think I'm just interested in it
because I've always,
never couple therapy,
obviously, because I never had a relationship.
but like I did get really into mother daughter
therapy. P.S.
Also, couples therapy is objectively
obviously a really good thing. My view is meant to be like silly
and frivolous and toxic and it is
that. But I
think it's such a fascinating thing to watch because you're like
well the thing that's really interesting and the reason I
love listening to Esther Perel
is obviously the insight
to other people's relationships but also like the amount of
times some people are building
the amount of times you watch
people go to couples therapy and you're like oh
one person's here to get the hell out
and one person's here
to try to fix it
do you know what I mean
where it's like
oh my God
that isn't that really obvious
because you watch
the first three series
right
where it's like
oh this woman
thinks that they're here
to try to fix their marriage
and that man's here to leave her
or vice versa
it's so fascinating
oh that is so
and can you tell
from like the first episode
wait
not always
not always
but isn't it fascinating
it's so
thank you M
it is
just honestly so far and it's really
slow and a quiet television show
only lesbians like watching it
I don't think only lesbians like watching it
yeah because Catherine's by and I'm
bisexual too so maybe I'll like it
I think everyone I know
who's watched it is gay now that you're
saying it but it has four series which makes
me think that that never goes our way
if it's just lesbians are like it it gets cancelled after series
too should I pop
senile in front of it and let you know how it goes
I actually think it'll be fascinating
because I think he would watch it.
I think he'd be one of those shows where, you know, where, um...
He's scared of feelings, though.
Well, yeah, but you know those shows where, like,
sometimes you have someone in the house who's like,
oh, no, no, I don't watch those kind of shows.
But then they're, like, always in the kitchen when it's on.
Yes.
You know, those people you're like, oh, that's in the living room.
They're always just like, wait, what's time?
I'm just all to sit down when I finish my sandwich.
I think Sineal would be like, just happen to be there when it's on.
Yeah.
It's honestly, it's such an interesting study of people.
And also of, like, of therapy.
and oh god it's good
Did you ever see mother daughter therapy
Just to go back to that though
It was a television show
It was an American TV show
And they had on like famous mother daughter duos
But they had on like
Wait is this Joan and Melissa Rivers
No
This is like I think post the rivers
Who are we talking
So we're talking like Farah Abrams
And her mum from teen mom
We're talking like a famous woman
Who's like it's usually like
Parents who push their kids to be famous
Very very young
A woman who like encouraging
her daughter to like get married like a 90 year old guy when she was 18 like stuff like that
and it's like holy crap see i don't know that i could learn that much about myself from that because
they're such extremes what i really like about couple's therapy is that it's largely speaking
what you think are normal couples anyway like of as not it's just a lot of people just like
going through that like who cleans the bathroom who minds the kid who like you know no one's like
getting married to a 90 year old is just like with who cleans the bathroom well
Well, what's interesting is, like, that's often a conversation about control.
That's often a conversation about care.
That's often a conversation about balance.
That's often a conversation about gender.
But it's, oh, God, it's so good.
I know the solution to it, though.
Okay.
Okay.
So, you say, let's say you, like, you clean the bathroom every two weeks.
They clean the bathroom every two weeks.
So it's getting cleaned, right?
Oh, sorry, no, this isn't a thing I'm struggling with.
It's just like, I'm, and it wasn't even specific to the show.
I just mean, like, generally speaking, it's like.
But AI.
you're going
is coming in
and there's
already self-cleaning
toilets right
like in Japan and stuff
they've got toilets
that clean themselves
and then I don't know
where it is in the world
but I watched a couple
of videos about it
there's like
Portaloo cabins
sort of things
like in parks
and after each usage
they clean the whole thing
AI cleans it
and a mop goes over the floor
the toilet changes
and you'd have to wait
four minutes in the queue
and just checking
you think Seneal's scared of feelings
I don't understand
how I'm scared of feeling
feelings.
Because I'm like, you should watch this show about therapy and you're like, I already
know the answer to all therapy.
I think inherently just mother-daughter therapy is probably more interesting to me and couple
therapy is more interesting to you.
Oh no, they're both interesting to me.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So there's a show on BBC right now called Couples Therapy.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Okay.
It's so good.
I'm going to watch it.
I'm going to watch it.
I'm going to watch it.
I think you would love it.
Also, I think you'd have hat takes.
Hot takes.
Hot takes.
I don't know.
I always feel a bit like.
like on the outs with relationship stuff because it's a bit like,
you know,
when you're like,
I don't really know.
But that is what's fascinating,
but it's like,
you watch it and you're like,
nobody really knows.
That's what's honestly so...
Ever I watch a couple stuff like that on TV?
Yeah.
Like, you know,
like so many dating shows where they're put together.
I'm always like,
oh, you are willing to make so many compromises
that I would never be able to do
just for the sake of being in a relationship.
Yes.
Yeah.
And I know I'm the other extreme of that,
but I'm like,
oh my God,
it's like the fear.
of not having someone is
driving so much of this.
That is so right. That is so right.
You're watching, in so many instances, you're like,
but why?
Yeah. Like, why bother?
Like, honestly, like, at the point of which
you are doing all of this to fix you, like,
for what, honestly, the ones who are in there
bending over, like, honestly going through hoops
to fix a relationship, I'm like, if I didn't
have kids, there's no world in which you'd catch me
in this scenario. Like, it's too much
work. Yeah. But that is what's
fascinating is, like, that, that,
spectrum exists within relationships where there's some people where you're like you have to make
such small compromises usually it's hard to say but you're like my guy you could make the tiniest effort
and she'd be like this is amazing and like then there's these women like absolutely bending over
backwards to be with honestly a lump yeah you're like with like that thumb aside you're on the
sofa and you're like what's happening here it's mad isn't it but like I mean love is love I guess
but sometimes I'm like it's not love you're just doing this for the sake of like taking
that box but so many I wish I had a bit more I wish I had that fear a bit sometimes I'm too
nonchalong with it I know what you mean but God it's fascinating it's fascinating watching that so
many of the relationships that they're in are playing out the relationships they have with their
parents that's fascinating it's also fascinating to watch people the way they perform for a therapist
versus the way they perform to each other that kind of gets unraveled over this like you know
a lot of them go in a bit like I think you and I would go into a therapist like trying to be best
at therapy yeah and that sort of unravels over the series oh god it's just fascinating and the people
who treat it like court like there are people who go in and are like let's be open let's do this
together yeah yeah and then there are people who like walk in and are like have basically brought
a briefcase that are like ready to win and it's oh god it's such good tell I can't stop talking about
sorry I'm obsessed with it okay I need to check it out because I've been rewatching
Watery Road recently so I feel like I need to shake up my life a little bit
You deserve better.
No, it's so good.
Oh, I have a new television for you that you'll show that you'll definitely love.
Lotterly Road.
Secret Lives of Mormon Wives.
Oh, yeah, I've seen that.
Oh, it's on Disney Plus, isn't it?
I haven't watched it yet, but apparently it's the bomb.
Oh, I'm in.
Okay.
You've already seen it.
I mean, I've just started it.
Okay, fine.
But in that case, couples therapy.
Anything that arrives in Disney Plus, I'm like always going to be a beat ahead.
That's my channel.
Oh, is it?
I'm so invested in it.
Fair enough.
I really respect that that that's so good.
I feel like I was going to do like a whole.
horror month for October.
Okay.
Because I watched my first ever Stephen King drama.
Which one?
Like, it's called The Outsiders.
And, like, I think I've spoken about it on the podcast already.
Did I know?
I don't think I did.
Okay.
So I was like, I've never read like horror as a genre.
And I was like, oh, maybe I read a Stephen King novel for October, like something.
But then I remember I read choral.
Is this coming in October?
Yeah.
Yes.
We're in spooky season?
Yeah.
Spooksville.
Great.
But I read a girl.
gave me a book for like my birthday when I was like 10 years old
you gave me Coraline and it frightened me so much.
Yeah, that's spooky as hell.
It's so fucked up.
At 10?
Yeah, and I couldn't read it because it scared me but it stayed with me.
So I was like, maybe I'll watch a Stephen King TV show because I've seen it and stuff.
Yeah.
You know, but like clowns and I don't really get it.
Please, we're not frightened of our self.
Sorry.
And even though there's that great bit of modern family where he's like terrified of like Cam dresses up as a clown in the middle of the night and scares Mitchell.
love modern family shout out disney plus again
they're not listening
but I was like let me do a spooky month
and like read like some spooky books
and like watch any spooky TV shows
and then I got really spooked out too quickly
so I had to stop
we watched the whole of outsiders
but then like me and Sineer were both terrified
but both also still frightening each other around the terror
so like just sort of like standing in our hallway
and turning off the light
and turning it back on again with a different face
expression, but we're both nervous.
So it's like, what's the point in this?
It was just, we're just both getting so nervous that like,
can you go to the toilet with me?
Like, can you stand here?
Like, it was just, we didn't go in the toilet together.
But like, like, really, we just fucking ruined each other.
And where we live, like, if you get in the front door,
by the time you open your front door from the front door on the street,
the lights have gone off.
So there's always a moment where you're in pitch darkness.
And that's just been awful.
Yeah, that's hell.
Oh, my God.
So I'm thinking about.
You don't need this in a house.
You've already been broken.
Do you think I should read
at least one horror book?
Can anyone send in recommendations?
I do want to read one.
I find books worse.
Horror.
I know what you mean.
I know what you mean.
Yeah.
You know that moment when it's like
Look behind the painting.
Yeah, you're not ready for a spooker.
Like that fucked me.
I think 1984 is quite a spooky book to be fair.
I remember having like quite chilly.
Like oh God, I'm a bit scared night.
And I was reading it in like 2012.
Yeah, yeah.
Yes, it's over.
It's done.
Absolutely.
Those issues still don't make any sense now.
But it was scary was the camera quality
back then, am I right?
May I say that you look ravishing and green?
Shut the fuck up.
You do, you look really nice in this colour.
Sorry, you do.
Go on YouTube, she looks gorgeous.
I'll get a noise.
Oh, you look really nice and green, sorry.
I look like a bogey.
Sorry, just on YouTube, we've just surpassed 4,000 subscribers.
Oh my God, what?
Congratulations, Andrew Catherine and M.
Oh my God, congratulations.
And Helen? And me, you're always replying to YouTube comments.
You're driving that.
Helen and I on YouTube as well, please,
you don't mind please please I get such hate on YouTube please subscribe
except Ruth who always says such nice things on my comments I think she knows that
I get trolled so thanks Ruth is really lovely with the comments we appreciate
everyone that writes under anything we post it makes such a difference depending on
what they say yeah um one of you doing crypto got a lot of crypto bros yes not of people
not enjoying it people are so angry about the bread as well it's like my guys look at the
what do you read the news you're gonna be furious it's just a bit of fun
isn't it?
It's just a bit of fun.
Why do you not like Wardley Road?
Why do you have that?
I don't know.
I don't have any people
that I've just never seen it
and stuff from me.
Okay.
It is incredible
and I'd love people to know
that I am aware of the casting
for the next season,
even though it's not announced
but I know.
I never know things in advance.
I thought it was announced.
Everyone knows it's Jason Manfred, right?
Uh-uh.
The one after that.
Oh.
The one after that.
I presume Sunil's in a base on this.
No.
That would be charming.
I'm just Sunil in a northern accent.
All right.
I love the, like, most, like, casting rumors, like, who's the next look to who, who's the next James Bond, who's going to be in the big Marvel, and you're like, I know Waterloo Road.
Yeah, absolutely, no one cares.
I'm ahead of it.
I was like, no one's crammering for that.
That's my big one, guys.
What else is going on for you, my love?
Any gosh?
Oh, my God.
Okay, I've got stuff that I'm going to tell you about on the extras.
Oh, okay.
Spoiler as to what is the vote?
Spoiler alert.
A little bit of, you want to keep us guessing.
Nutritionist stuff.
Oh, my God.
Great.
Okay, didn't want to ask unless you wanted to talk about it.
We'll do it in the extra.
I'm 100% want to talk about it.
Fantastic.
What else I'm up to?
I did a puzzle this weekend and fucking crushed it.
Disney princess?
I couldn't believe that.
Yeah, I couldn't believe there was a Thomas King Cade watercolor Disney princess.
I didn't have in my collection.
Turns out there was one.
Which one was it?
Sleeping Beauty.
You were sleeping on sleeping beauty.
And it's so fun because they've like, there's slightly like updated range.
There's like Easter eggs in the puzzle.
So Zazu from Lion King is in it.
he's like in a branch
what's he doing there
just hanging
isn't that fun
it's just fun
I don't know that I'd like it
without any logic
part of the Disney universe
that doesn't make any sense though
well it makes
you know
fuck you
let me have this
it would even make
it would even make more sense
it was like a forest animal
from a different
film but it doesn't make any sense
to have a jungle animal
oh Catherine please
I really liked it
oh right okay
I don't know
I'm feeling a bit lost at the moment
actually
Andrew me like
Andrew asked me the day
what are you working at the moment
and I was like
yeah
most in what sense
just like I just don't like
just don't quite know what I'm doing right now
but is that because you are
working on a bunch of scripted stuff that it hasn't
I think it's because I've got about five hypotheticals
and I need to
and this is like a lot of it's on me
I just need to pick
like what the next thing's going to be
like I haven't picked like
when my next show is started
I'm doing work in progress isn't really like
I need to film old shows and stuff and like can't decide on the place sometimes and then I'm like
oh well I don't want to work on the new show until I've let go of that so I need to like remember
that to have that recorded even though it's not true because I learned my first show after two years
and then recorded it. I don't know I'm just not like I am it's weird because I'm not really doing
anything but I'm busy but with just like faf.
it sounds like you are doing things
but the things aren't giving you the
sense of purpose in the way that you'd like them to be quite yet
because you're having to be patient
and that sounds boring
yeah and there's like this stuff booked in
but like I don't have the dates for it yet
and I do love knowing
like if I have my dates for this
that I know that I can say that
okay so then my next deadline's going to be that
because like a lot of comedy you do pick your own deadlines
it's just out of your control at the moment
it's a little bit out of my control
That's uncomfortable.
And then I was like, okay, well, it's okay.
Well, maybe I'll, like, go on holiday or do something.
But I'm still wanting to buy, you know?
Yeah.
So, like, that's just right now, I feel like I need to focus on that.
Yeah.
Because, like, I mean, I will do a full episode talking about this.
I did start looking at properties.
And within five days, put in, what, six, seven offers, we reckon?
Yeah.
And maybe of the six or seven, how many would you say we're, like, serious?
For the first week?
Probably none.
It turns out you can put in an offer for any amount.
And they have to present it.
So.
Helen was like, I'm looking for properties.
putting in offers everywhere we were like really what lovely mansion in central london
two hundred thousand pounds but i'm chain free
please let the seller know that i am chain free and ready to go
that's the thing i was like i okay how much are you no we're both in this situation
really aren't we were like mid 30s we're trying to be in a situation where we can buy
and you do just have to make tradeoffs like i'm 33 so i don't count that as mid 30s i'd say
I'm like around 10.
30s, practically late 20s, practically 18 at that point.
Practically 18, I'd say, yeah.
Right. Regardless of our age, we're both in this age where we would like to be buying.
What are your mid-30s?
It's not regardless of age thing, isn't it?
It's just the case of like for you and your mid-30s and me, well, entering my 20s.
Yeah.
Sure, yeah.
Entering your 20s, no doubt.
Then I guess I'm early 30s.
I'm okay with my age.
I guess I just, like.
Yeah, me too.
I guess I just, and I can tell you are.
And I can really tell that you are.
I guess it just meant that we are at that stage where it's like,
you do just have to do the boring shit to make that possible or plausible.
Yeah.
Turns out it's not just not eating avocados because it turns out I found out I'm allergic to avocados.
What the fuck?
I'm still have four of the things that I'm testing that they're like with the FodMap thing.
But avocados definitely make me sick.
Oh my God.
Like sick tummy set?
Yeah, but they cannot be the only thing because they just don't eat enough of them.
I think the four that I'm still trying to rule out are so I'm doing FodMap again.
because it wasn't clear are gluten
which probably I am even though the test
say I'm not but it just
it's making me sick so I don't know what it was on with your test
dairy garlic and onion those are the ones we're doing again
oh damn I'm really hoping it's not garlic or onion
because fuck me I love garlic and onion
but and dairy and gluten
the whole fucking devastating can be replaced but those two
it's like come on although I've made some lovely garlic oil
is it easy to be Irish and allergic to dairy
that feels hard it does feel hard and more people in Ireland
are allergic to gluten and lots
of other places. That makes sense.
One of the highest ratios of
celiacs is very strange.
But like the tests say I'm not, but
definitely is. So you can feel it.
Also very sweetly after I said
about my joints, people
got in touch to be like, you should get your bloods done.
I just want to be clear, I have had my bloods done.
I continue to have my bloods done.
And it's so kind and I don't like when people
are too defensive because obviously like I told you my personal life
so then if you're worried about me, I appreciate
you. Thank you so much. But I promise I am
trying to get it figured out and would like to be
not in pain but also I'm fine
like I it's been really interesting it's been
like my mom has rheumatoid arthritis
and I always think
that like it's really easy to be like
theoretically aware of someone's pain
but like kind of like
not really get it
it just made me be like gosh she's been
if it hurt me that much for like four days
with one joint
I'm like gosh she must be like constantly
just exhausted from it all
but she's so chipper and non-complain me a bit
linked to rheumatoid arthritis
Yeah so again I don't want to like a guess
I promise I'm talking to doctors
Yeah yeah yeah it might well be
You're talking to me and I'm basically as good as
Yes and sure
But yeah don't worry I'm on it
And thank you for the concern
And but definitely avocados is a no go for me
And I still haven't got a house
What the fuck?
What the fuck?
It's you will love looking though
Because like you don't have to prove anything
To the estate agent
I won't be able to look until after April when the tax year's dawn.
There are some lenders that go off just off your last year, apparently.
I'll tell you this all off there.
I know that, but also I...
They don't want them to go off my last year.
Do you remember when I changed agents?
Oh, yeah, you'd won the year before.
Yeah.
That was very confusing, isn't it?
It's Trixie being Southam Floyd.
But to see you know, you can see anywhere, like, you don't have to show them
that you've got any money.
I'm not like you.
And you can be like, you know what?
I want to see that house with a pool and it inside care.
I don't think I'm like you.
I don't want to see what I don't want to see what I.
I can't have. And they drive you around between the houses.
No, I have zero desire. I can drive.
Also, that's so funny. I have zero
desire to see what I can't have.
I only want to see what's possible.
You're a fool. But what I am
open to, here we go.
Is a doer uprobed because my girlfriend is
very good at that stuff.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm, I can make sense
as well, she does it. You can go on Homs under the hammer.
God, this is like an advertisement for BBCI player.
I don't want to go on Humber.
Oh my God, no, Catherine, you do, you do, you do, you do.
I don't. Do they give you money
for your house? I'm sure they pay you
for an appearance fee. Fee,
let me see. Fee, Andrew, quickly.
I don't think I want that.
Andrew, Andrew. Andrew. Ending!
No, because those people are
always like, they always, it's always like
they live in a caravan on site for ages.
I don't want that. They always...
No, but I'll be buying by then, so then you come and live
with Helen whilst you live in your...
This is getting worse by the minute. Why? No, I'm a lovely,
I'm a really good housemate.
Oh, well, my house is being done up.
Yes. We keep saying house. It's going to be a one bed flat.
I don't know why we... Maybe not with me.
Maybe not with me.
keep saying a house
house, house, house, house,
lol,
it won't be a house.
I'm getting a five-story house.
One con,
it is covered
and not weighed,
but I'm fine with it.
You live among,
I'm,
I'll live with nature.
Oh God.
I'll live with nature.
We should just move to the Midlands
where we can afford it.
No, I know.
Litchfield,
your favourite place.
Litchfield is not a Midlands,
is it?
Yes, of course,
it's so far away.
But obviously not Nitchers.
That's still the Midlands.
That's the annoying thing
of being like,
oh, like my life is in London.
But I also
love London. Yeah me too
and also I just I just think like truly in a
situation where people are making
in like top 10% of earners
and they are often
in two income housing or two
income houses or like
situations it's just absolutely deranged to me
that capitalism has gotten to the point where we're like
if you work all hours of the day
you still can't afford your home like the solution
shouldn't be move cities it should be
what the fuck is wrong with the system
yeah yeah yeah it's crazy
the system is like learning about it like I watched a lot
I mean, I'm sure a lot of the listeners know about this stuff,
but like, like, watched YouTube videos being like,
like, first time by, like, just like,
just how does it go?
People are, like, talking through, like, the beats of it.
And I was like, that would be really nice, like, for me.
I get, like, this is the other thing.
I get, like, 20 calls a day from people.
And I'm like, do you still want to see this place in Hampstead?
And I'm like, no, that was a joke.
Like, I don't have three million pounds.
Like, this is all, this was, that was just banter.
Because I was curious because I thought maybe it was a famous person's house.
And if it is, they've tricked down a lot of pictures.
but which you mustn't
I'm not encouraging you to waste people's time
but they're they have the time on the hands
because they're harassing you
I hate this when you leave your number with somebody
and then they're just like calling up like
we've got this place we've got this place we've got this place
yeah constantly I'm not looking forward to that part
to be honest with you I don't it is it's not
I'm not yeah I'm not the most relaxed
to have a bit if I'm honest
no it sounds super super super stressful
but we are very privileged to be in a situation
where it'll even be a consideration we get to make this year
also it might not happen
for me. I think it does seem like it's actually happening for you.
It probably will take longer from me. I am looking.
I am throwing out offers.
That's exciting. And I have learned what a mortgage is, but learning, like, the more
I learn, the more upsetting with it. Me too. I find that too. So you think, like,
you spend all the time saving up for a deposit, right? And you're like, and then I'll borrow.
I'll, like, hopefully be able to get a nice amount to borrow and I'll pay it back.
But you pay back, like, three pounds for every pound you borrow.
Of course you do. So then what you're paying for, like, a third.
300,000 pound flat is basically just under a million pounds.
Yeah, it's absolutely fucking deranged.
And then there's like, I've sort of gone through it.
I'm trying to figure this all out at the moment, but like, there's like, I mean,
I'm sure everyone knew this, but the fees of just like random stuff.
Yeah.
Like stamp duty, ever heard of that?
Yes.
It's nothing to do with stamps.
It's just mental.
And then there's like a purchase fee, a, like, thing fee.
There's something about like, if a building's over 18.
meters high and like no one will tell me how tall the building is and I haven't got a tape measure
I've got a 10 meter one like it's just apps that I'm at sea like the whole thing is very confusing
and I called my dad to be like can you help me and he was like I'm not fucking buying it's a nightmare
out there I'm staying renting and I'm like you're no use wow that's tough it's very tough
it's very stressful and it's like it's just not the game that most of our parents are playing because
it's so fucked to the moment I know and also the idea that like you um you're going to get it
wrong oh god yeah there's the constant sense that while you spend the most money you've ever spent
in your entire life or will ever spend your entire life that you're going to be duped somehow
because like to be able to get a mortgage like I'd have to have mine like very long term
fixed term yeah yeah of course I wouldn't so and I'm basically committed somewhere
you're going to be locked into five years probably at least minimum until like I'm sort of like
towards my 40s yeah so I'm looking at it as far as like oh my god like am I going to be happy
puzzling here yeah until like 2030 like am I going to feel
Also, oh my God, I will say all of this.
I cannot be doing with these people.
Well, you know, it's actually worse when you do own
because then like if anything goes wrong, it's your fault.
No. No.
I told you about my friend who did that behalf of his girlfriend.
Yeah.
Fuck.
No, I just, I'm like, get to fuck.
If you are lucky enough to own your property, I'm sorry.
I know it's stressful.
I don't first, but like, just do not turn around to renters who are currently
paying the mortgages of multi-millionaires and be like, well, you know, you'll have to fix
the boiler. It'll be my fucking boiler. I'd love to fix it. Please, Jesus, give me the opportunity
to save up to fix my boiler. Please, God. Give me the choice to not have a boiler. I'm fine with fire
in the living room, heat and water up that way. Like, give me that be an option. Give me that be an option.
Helen, aren't you looking at modern bills? Modern, no, not all of them. Okay, but most, you know.
I have, Catherine, I cannot tell you. I have looked at every,
thing. I literally had to stop myself booking a viewing for a houseboat because I was curious.
So I was like, hell of no. You are way too tall for that. And also,
I know, but it is the only one in which you'd have a fire in the living room. But honestly,
none of the, on the floor, no. Okay. Um, yeah, I just think like, fuck off. I don't, I can't be
doing with it. I'm sorry, but it's just like get to fuck. It's like, yeah. Yes, it's stressful,
but also like you own your home. So give me a break. Right. And also, if you own,
you can do anything. You know, that you can get, um, you know, toilet lids. Yes. Yeah.
like there's so many good ones out there
and no one in rental accommodation has a fun toilet lid
you actually can change it in the rental toilet
in fleet where I grew up we had a see-through
toilet lid with pink flowers in it
nice. I loved it. You can get really nice ones
loved it. You can get a lot and
I'm sure you will but also it's like yeah
you can't fucking paint your walls
and oh I can't. Anyway
would you like a more positive
distraction to get you off the anger of
the housing market? I'm not angry on thriving. I've got
a lovely problem and a lovely update
to lovely coffee. Yay!
Our first update is from Glenys.
Hi, Glenys.
Who, email.
Do they want full name?
Glennis.
Yeah, I think, yeah, Glennis is the email.
I think I've said the full name before.
They were going through cancer treatment and they were sending us lovely updates.
And I even love your update that as of today, they are cancer-free.
Oh, my God.
Yay!
Ring the bell!
Ring my bell.
Yeah, it's so cool.
That's really amazing, Glenys.
Congratulations.
I'm so happy for you.
They said, laughing at the podcast, got some strange looks during.
during hospital treatment.
They're just laughing,
but they loved it.
And Glennis says
she'll see you in Liverpool
on the 29th September, Catherine.
Yeah, I'm going to Liverpool this weekend.
Oh my God, that's so much.
It might be last weekend
by the time this comes out.
Last week.
Because last week I will have had
Swindon, Portsmouth,
Dublin, Liverpool on the one week.
That is honestly
such happy news
and I'm so pleased to hear.
Congratulations, Glenys.
Well done.
That is an arduous, arduous, arduous thing
to recover from.
So well done.
Liverpool.
Yeah.
They have Phil.
And then we have a problem
which is not filled with woe.
Let's do it,
but we'll do it in scouse accents.
For him, bring on the problem, man.
No.
No, I want to do it in the scouse.
No.
You've introduced woe into the equation.
Woe?
Woe.
It's full of woe.
No.
It's not.
It's got no woe in it.
No.
Is it just a regular problem?
You're actually much better
at this accent than your Irish accent.
I say maybe because it's not mine.
Let's go, Andrew.
This is from Tee.
Hi, T.
Oh, God.
I'll stop.
Please.
My fiancé.
My fiancee and I,
they then got engaged in June on the strawberry moon very gay I know
what's the strawberry moon sort of pink cute moon is that right yeah yeah okay cute
I'm no contact with my mum and don't have much contact with my extended family
my fiance however has a huge extended family brackets they will take up 32 spots on our
wedding guest list naturally it feels difficult sorry that's so English yeah I'm like
aha 30 just 32 fine that goes if you've got zero any amount
100%. 32v0 is a lot, but I'm like, try 74.
Yeah.
And that's just cousins.
Go on.
But that is the exact problem is that they struggled with sort of seeing all that love and support,
as much as they are grateful for it and also do feel loved.
It's hard to not have that support for them.
And they share this with their partner who totally got it and asked if they wanted to elope instead.
So they're going to, they're going to elope to Ireland.
and the advice they need is
where should we get married in Ireland
I'm not trying to do the basic cliffs of moha
situation too rugged cliffs of where
mower no no no I wanted down there I wanted Andrew to give it well
moher is fine but mohra is yeah moha
it's too rugged I'm not shooting an album cover for montford and sons
we're sweet simple forest wildflower meadow gaze
who love frolicing and appreciate the beauty of rivers
and babbling brooks
we'd love some place with the storybook essence
somewhere cozy and charming
thanks and love you both
P.S.S. Helen, we all knew you were queer.
Sleigh babe.
Slay.
Sleigh.
I honestly don't know the answer to that question
and I don't want to pretend to.
There are lots of things that come to mind.
Wicklow is one, Wexford's one
but also so is Galway
or honestly like Mayo or Sligo
by the sea might be nice.
But my
thinking is that there will be
it's the best country to be going to when you're looking for that there will be plenty of options
there's a person i follow on instagram called the hike life which is this um incredible woman
rosanna who she does um she used to be miss universe ireland and she talks a lot about like um
eating disorders and hiking and um she's just brilliant and she has a brilliant book about
loads of amazing places to eat and walk in ireland um called the hike life and i i know that
isn't what you're looking for you're not looking for a hike but it just is such a
a good, her Instagram page is just like a really good place for inspiration of parts of
Ireland you might want to go to. And basically any part you could be going to, she'll tell
you where to eat and where to walk. Or I can tell you right now. I've just Googled Forrest and
Ireland. Oh no, I could name Forrest and Ireland, but I'm not sure that that's, I don't know
where you get, when it can elope? But Catherine, there's one called Hazelwood Forrest.
There is my question. Yeah, you just take your witness, no? I don't know how you get
Married.
It's beautiful.
Hazelwood Forests is swans and little like stony cave things.
And then Cronwoods.
Do not get married at Cronwood.
How are we saying that?
C-R-O-N-E.
Cron words.
I'm getting married at the Cronwood.
No, don't do that.
Drum Manor.
How about Castle?
Islands full of castles.
No, they don't want a castle.
They don't want to cost way too much.
They want to elope very like sweetly and in,
nature
where's that
like mental place
like West Cork
like down there
I don't think
that's what they want
like skibbery
I don't think they want
to go to skull to get married
skull yeah
no that's where
de Blantier was killed
that is Sophie Toscon de Plantier
how about
that I went to that beautiful
wedding in the countryside
in the middle
in the Midlands
but that that was like
a wedding venue right
yeah
I think
Irish listeners, please write in and tell us where you would elope in Ireland
because these people need our help.
For sure.
And honestly, the good thing is, it's Ireland.
So there'll be a thousand good options.
I just want to steer you correctly.
And I'll be home for my Dublin gig, so I'll ask as well.
But if I can't be asking my family home, because my mother will be getting an ocean.
She'll get so excited.
She'd be like suspiciously walking woods in Ireland and the hopes of like wander.
And then she'll ruin your wedding because she'll be like, no, not wrong, wrong gays.
Wrong gays.
I want this to be the perfect fairy tale like forest.
Me too.
Like one where they've got like Will of the Whips, like all floating around.
I'm also thinking something that you should maybe look into is like something druidy or a little bit like, there's such a lovely heritage that's not so Catholic.
Like that's a bit more pagan in Ireland that you could look into in terms of like positioning your queerness in your wedding space might be nice.
But we'll find out more on this and well more specifically, not on this actually because we aren't planning your wedding.
Or we could.
No, no, no.
Let us know.
But you flagged for the extras that we're going to talk about food.
Oh my God, yes, yes, yes.
So let's do that.
And we will bring you back more thoughts on this when I've been to Ireland.
So let's put a pause on that.
And oh my gosh, more importantly, congratulations.
Oh, yeah, congratulations.
That's so beautiful.
There's, I think Wexford might be interesting.
The only reason I say it is you got engaged on this strawberry moon and it's the place where all the Irish strawberries come from.
You could get married maybe in a strawberry field or like pick strawberries.
on your wedding.
That's charming.
So that might be a thought.
For now though, congratulations.
That's really exciting.
And I love that you're escaping and eloping to Ireland.
That's so sweet.
I'm glad to have to be from a country
who queers a lope too.
That's very sweet.
Aw.
And well done.
Glenis, congratulations.
And well, you know what?
Well done everyone.
That was so nice.
Congratulations.
Congratulations.
Let's go hear all your problems and the extras.
Come on.
Goodbye.
Thank you.
Bye.
Bye.
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