Two Hot Takes - 105: Holy Spirit Activate.. Ft. Deison Afualo

Episode Date: March 9, 2023

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Deison Afualo or Two Idiot Girls! This episode features stories that have us hoping for some spiritual energy to help these people solve their issues. Have you ever had a divine intervention? The proposal story proves it's possible for me! Check out Two Idiot Girls!!: https://www.youtube.com/@twoidiotgirls Justin's New Show!!! https://anchor.fm/crackingthecopyright https://www.youtube.com/@crackingthecopyright Patreon for bonus content:  https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: NextEvo: NextEvo.com/podcast and use promo code: THT PDS Debt: PDSDEBT.com/THT ZocDoc: ZocDoc.com/THT Lomi: Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the code THT to save $50 at lomi.com/THT

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Woo. I'm your host, Morgan. Hi. I'm trying to figure this new thing out. Hello. Hello. I think I just broke it. Is it bad? Oh, my God.

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So, no more sound effects. Welcome back to another episode of Two Hot Takes, you guys. Today, I'm joined by the one, the only, Dyson of Wallow. Bum, bum, bum, bum. There's my sound effect I was looking for. It's not as good as the other one, but I appreciate it for sure. It would have been unreal,

but you're just going to have to take my word for it. I'll show you at the end when we're done. Okay. No more work to be done. But Dyson has a show with her sister, Drew, called Two Idiot Girls. You've seen Dyson before. You should remember her.

It's under the Two Hot Takes network. That's what I'm calling it. Our little network. But Dyson, I feel like last time you were on with Drew, I didn't give you enough airtime. I was in the middle, like you said, like a dog watching the ball. That's how I felt in the middle.

I know. I should have been in the middle. No, it's okay. I'm going to be in the middle later today for my dad's show. But today, life has just been crazy. I don't know if you have been on TikTok watching the Selena Hailey drama. Oh my gosh. The way people make things up is wild.

It's honestly insane. It's been blowing my mind all week. And like, I'm not on a side. I'm just like, it's life. They'll figure it out. But Hailey Bieber can stop parking in the handicapped spots at Hot Pilates. If you wanted to stop doing that, that'd be great.

That'd be great, Hailey. And Kendall, they park in the handicapped spots because it's too far for them to walk. That's so weird. It really pisses me off. But I found out that Hailey Bieber's aunt was the lady who was on Family Feud and created that Holy Spirit Activate.

I did see that. Activate. And as I was going through some of these stories today, it just gave me that vibe. That we're going to activate the Holy Spirit. I hope somebody does. Because these people... They need some divine interventions.

I feel that. Family Feud? Family Feud. And poor Steve little Harvey, he's just looking around. He's like, that's the first time that's ever happened. What the heck? He was just distraught.

It was the weirdest thing. That is really weird. It was before the fast money at the end. It was just freaky. Every time I've heard that audio, I thought it was a live, those churches that are on regular TV. They're kind of culty.

That side of the fam. Oh, okay. People are like, did you know that's her aunt? Isn't her dad a Baldwin? That's kind of a big deal too. It's like one of the ones that is super conservative, right? Yeah. There's that Hillsong church

or whatever it is out here that Justin was kind of a part of. Stuff came out with the pastor. I think he was really involved in that. That's why like... But Justin went on the Ellen show and Demi Lovato was the guest co-host. Yes.

And Demi was like, how was your marriage? He's like, well, it was an arranged marriage. Yeah. Now that I think about it, I think it was arranged. And it's like, you can't tell if he's joking or if he's kind of serious. But that's the vibe

for this week. Wow, I can't wait. I'm just going to mess us up. It's dangerous. It's dangerous out here. So let's dive in. Let's do it. Okay.

So, when I first had your sister on, I gave her a necklace story. Okay. And I feel like it's only fair to give you one, too. I guess. Okay. Okay.

Okay. So, when I first had your sister on, I gave her a necklace story. Okay. It's not fair to give you one, too. I guess. This one is coming from Am I the Asshole.

It is titled, Am I the Asshole for asking my fiance to not wear his brother's necklace on our wedding day. Note, me and my fiance get along really well with everything else, but we've just had a disagreement with this. He wears his late brother's ring

on his right hand and his brother's necklace. I can get behind the ring because you don't really notice it as much, but it is more noticeable. It has his brother's, brother's wife, and their daughter's initials engraved on it. I asked him if he'd take off the necklace

just for our wedding day. I also have a necklace I got as a gift from my mom that I'm not wearing on the day because it doesn't go with my dress. It's just one day and he can wear the ring if he wants. My fiance refused and said it's his brother's

and he's going to wear it. He's going to wear the asshole. Yeah. The brother passed away. He's not going to be there. Maybe that's his way of honoring his brother every day by wearing it and then why would he not want to honor him at the wedding?

It's literally a fucking necklace. He can wear it under. Unless he demands it's on top of everything, I guess, but even then, I don't think it's that big of a deal that he wants to wear it. I think it's crazy. They really condensed it down.

It's kind of interesting. There's a bunch of comments too and it doesn't get better. But there's more to the story? What? It absolutely does not get better. Someone comments and they go, you're the asshole.

This obviously means a great deal to him and they can't be there in person. It was okay to ask him, but he said no, leave it alone. You're focusing more on image and aesthetics than the true meaning of it and why he wears it. Why does it bother you so much and your daughter's initials are engraved on it

for your wedding? And so, Opie goes, if it was just his brother, I'd kind of get it, but it's also the brother's wife and their kid's initials on it. So, essentially, he'd be wearing a whole other's family's name

on our wedding day. It's not like an ex-girlfriend's name or what do you mean? That would piss me off. We're not even getting married to take off the necklace. That's a little weird. I think she's weird.

So, someone asks and goes, Info, why didn't this necklace go to his brother's wife or kid? Opie goes, they've also passed. Wait, what? Wait, doesn't want him wearing it? All of the kids passed too? Did they all die together?

I'm going to see if there's any comments elaborating so far. But one would assume they all died in a tragic accident together. Like three people taken out like that? Maybe he wants to honor all of them. I just got full body chills. That makes me so annoyed.

Why would you get mad about that? Honestly, I hope he calls off the wedding. I hope he calls off the wedding. This person is evil. Why would you respond? Honestly, they're all dead. What? I wouldn't even admit that.

I'd be like, I don't know, he's weird. I'm not going to be that honest. That's crazy. So write that out and be like, send. That's the thing, like you wrote this bitch. Yeah. You didn't realize that maybe it's a way of... What you're saying is awful.

Honoring them? Yeah. Oh my God. A bunch of people edited their votes. So someone goes like, no assholes here, but I'm leaning more on his side and then edited to change your the asshole following reply from Opie.

Just kidding, you are. Yeah, so people are kind of realizing like... Yeah. Ugh. And I know I mentioned like the tucking the shirt thing. And so I'm reading this one right now and it says, why do you care if he wears the necklace? I'm assuming he would be wearing the necklace underneath his dress shirt

and it will not be visible much anyways. You should be happy that you're marrying someone who loves his late brother and wants to honor him. Aesthetics are less important. And Opie goes, no, he won't be tucking it into his shirt. It's going to be out. Ugh, you're right. He's the asshole.

It sucks. Absolutely sucks. I'm glad you clarified. That's going to be the most disgusting thing in all of your wedding pictures. All I'm going to be thinking about is that necklace. Why is he wearing that? Every wedding picture, I'm going to see that necklace. It's not like a photographer could photoshop it out for one.

Or put it away for one and then take it out for the rest of them. I don't know. It's just the one picture she wants is done. No, unacceptable. Oh my God, that's crazy. I don't understand people like this. Like you are so heartless. And like unself-aware too.

That. You know what I mean? Oh my God, absolutely. That's weird. This whole family was wiped off the map. How dare you honor them at my wedding? Yeah. What?

I think that's a problem for a lot of brides. And I know I've been like, I'm not engaged even. But when you think about a wedding, you're like, I want this. I want that. I want to do it here. And I'm like, wait, it's not just my wedding. Yeah. And I think a lot of these brides,

zillas that go fucking ape shit on Reddit with these dumb problems. This is dumb. Yeah. This is dumb. But I think they forget like this is more than just a day. Yeah. This signifies the rest of your life with this person. And you're showing him that you're a heartless fucking brat.

Especially because it's like the start of their new life together and stuff like that. Yeah. Yeah. That's a lot. I would be calling it off. Yeah. I would absolutely be calling it off. Okay.

Moving along. It doesn't, I don't think it gets better though. What? So this next one. Am I the asshole for telling someone they're selfish for asking a 22 year old to become a child's guardian? My 22 female boyfriend, Malcolm, 22 male has a half sister, Elena, 12 female. They have the same dad and he's not involved in their lives.

Their moms became close friends and they were raised seeing one another. Malcolm's mom moved abroad a couple of years ago. Elena's mom, Sandra, was diagnosed with cancer last year. She went through treatment, but it's been determined that there's nothing they can do but make her comfortable. Sandra will pass sometime this year. She has no other family. Malcolm has spent a lot of time helping care for Elena, driving her to school,

making them meals, et cetera. Recently, Malcolm sat me down. He said that Sandra asked to speak to him. She said she understood if the answer was no, but asked for him to take on custody of Elena sooner rather than later. That way she could adjust to him being her guardian before she passes. Malcolm would move in with them and Sandra had a sizeable life insurance policy and an accountant to help him care for Elena.

To my surprise, he agreed to all of this without consulting me. I pointed this out and he said we've only been together for six months. I asked, didn't he feel too young for all of this? He said sort of, but he'd do it for Elena. Without further discussion, he subleased his apartment and moved in with Sandra and Elena. Saturday, I stopped by to pick up Malcolm for lunch. He hadn't returned from work yet, so I was waiting with Sandra. We were making small talk.

She mentioned how grateful she was for Malcolm and that he was a sweet boy. I asked if he was really her only option. I mentioned his mom. Sandra said Elena is losing enough. She doesn't want to force her to move abroad on top of everything. She also doesn't feel right asking Malcolm's mom to move back. I said I found the whole thing a little selfish. Malcolm is only 22.

He shouldn't be tied down raising a child. Sandra got defensive and said she wished she didn't have to ask him. Plus, he said yes. I asked, what else was he supposed to say? Sandra told me I was upsetting her and asked me to leave. Malcolm called me later, screaming at me. He said that I upset Sandra. I said I was trying to defend him and point out options

she may not have thought of. Malcolm told me to butt out and to get on board with this or walk away. He hasn't spoken to me since. I saw Elena at the mall on Sunday and she ignored me. My mom told me I screwed up big time. Am I the asshole? Yeah. Hmm.

I mean, yeah, like, I liked that the mom was like, I didn't act like, I don't want him to have to do that. Honestly, if it were my choice, I would be her mom. I don't really want to die. If it were my choice, I wouldn't, but it's not. I don't want to have terminal cancer. She'll maybe try not having cancer. She might as well just said that's her.

That's crazy. You're selfish. You're telling a dying woman she's selfish for trying to ensure that her daughter, who is a 12-year-old, is taken care of when she's gone. And then we've only been together six months. Relax. It's not that serious.

I love that. He said that. We don't live together. Why would I tell you? Six months is nothing. I don't, like, do you know their middle name at six months? I mean, the fact that she even knows all of this at six months, that's a lot of information to know about someone, for sure.

Yeah. I mean, at six months, I didn't even know if Justin wiped standing or sitting. And that's important to know. And these are important questions to ask your significant other. If she's worried about that, then whatever she's worried about. I think she probably sees it as, like, this is going to impact her life with her boyfriend.

His attention is not going to be just on her. It's someone's coming between them. For seeing. It's just, it's baffling. It's like, versus, like, seeing the flip side where it's like, my boyfriend's amazing. He is such a caring, kind, empathetic. It's giving up all this to, you know.

Yeah. 22. Yeah. That is really young. You're right. It's not ideal. Yeah. But it's his sister.

It's also his sister. It's not like a family friend. A cousin. Yeah. Even a cousin, I could kind of see, but if it's like, my mom's best friend's daughter. So like, she's just my friend. Yeah.

Like that's kind of a lot, but I would, he would probably still do it. Yeah. But it's his literal sister. A little sister that he sounds like he's pretty close with. Yeah. Well, and then the fact that she didn't grow up with the dad, and neither did he.

Maybe he could be that parental, like father figure to her as well. It's like weirdo shit to be like, what are you doing? It sounds like it's just jealousy and literally like. Of a 12 year old sister on game. Yeah. Well, and it's not like, I mean, by the sounds of it too, there's a life insurance policy and an accountant. It doesn't sound like he's even going to have to contribute financially.

No. Or take on like a bunch of debt or, you know what I mean? Like a house. Yeah. That would be a lot to have to navigate. Yeah. Oh my God. But it's just being her guardian.

What? It's baffling. There's a lot of these stories though that come up where like siblings will take on younger siblings when their parents die. And I saw one where this woman adopted her two younger siblings. And the sibling grew up and was like, after their older sister had kids, they were like, you didn't treat me like that. And it's like, she was 18 when she adopted you. I didn't have a job.

Like, yeah, I was completely different person. It's just insane people. So the top comment on this one is red box, a bunch of awards. And it's only from 12 hours ago. Like this whole post is 12 hours ago. It's really fresh and it's, you're the asshole. I swear to God, if I see one more, not the asshole on this thread, I'll lose my faith in humanity. You should listen to your mother.

Sounds like she's a smart woman. Malcolm got lucky. He just got a glimpse into your soul when you let your mask slip. It is twisted under there and cruel. For God's sake, harassing a dying woman? Really? And shameless about it no less? Lucky for him.

He saw that early on and hasn't spent years of his life with you. You're right. Just six months. So I'm genuinely confused why he hasn't made a clean break yet. Maybe he has and just can't be bothered to inform you. Wow. Someone goes, there was only one, not the asshole I could see, but they're about to be downvoted into oblivion. Yeah.

This is totally fair to break up. I can't imagine. I would never ever feel brazen enough to confront a mom. A sick woman. I know. I was just, when I, when I read that, I was like, I forgot about that part. That's, that's ballsy right there. That is so ballsy.

What is she supposed to do? Okay, you're right. I'll stop. Yeah. Let me just not die. Yeah. Okay. Sorry for inconveniencing you.

Oh yeah. Your six month relationship. Sorry. You're not engaged. No. You're not married. If you were married, yeah, it might be a little bit more of a group decision. Yeah.

But he has no reason to ask you, like consult you. Permission or any sort of like, yeah, this isn't a group decision. It's, I'm making it right now. Absolutely. For my sister. Yeah. Yeah. My parents, they asked me if I would be my, my brother's guardian.

He's 18 now. So I don't have to worry about all that, but I would still be there if they need me to. You're so nice. Yeah. The best big sister. I know. Oh man. Yeah.

I don't, I don't think there's any winning with this one. I think, uh, this is a breakup. Yeah. Breakup. Divine intervention right there. Saved him. There you go. Saved his ass.

Holy spirit. Activate. Activate. Activate. I should have put it on one of the sound pads that I can't figure out how to use. I'm on next time. Next time. Next time.

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Oh, I love that. So this one is from off my chest. It's an older one, you know, but still kind of a goodie. It's titled, my boyfriend of one year left me because I have periods. Okay. Oh, when your girlfriend has periods. My sister told me she saw a Tik Tok on time. That was like, it was a man saying that, you know, like that women shouldn't have periods that it's unnatural or something like that.

I saw that. Yeah. I'm telling you right now, if I didn't have to have one, I wouldn't. They're miserable. I wouldn't. I'm literally dying. Mine's not going to be here for another week and a half. And I feel like I have it already.

Same. Our cycles must be synced. Yeah. Cycle sisters. It's just so brutal. And I'm dealing with like some, oh my God, no, no free feet pics. I'm dealing with like some potential PCOS stuff. It's just like, just an added layer.

And Justin, like he's so, so comforting. Like he brings me a little heat pad, help me out, whatever. But I just want to get one of those period simulators. It's basically a 10s unit you can buy on Amazon. And I want to like simulate what it feels like on him. So he just understands me a little more. I just think it'd be so fun. Yeah, I agree.

I've seen, yeah, when men do that, I'm like, I mean, it feels like that, but see, I don't act like that. I still go to work even though I have periods. Oh my God. Yeah. It's just rough world we live in. I know. Okay. So exactly what the title says.

I've been a few weeks and I'm still so baffled and hurt. I don't know what to think. We had a future plan together. We were in the process of renting a place together too. He always seemed to be grossed out by women hygiene commercials, tampons, anything that had to do with periods and women's health. I didn't think much of it since he had been nothing but caring and loving and found it funny sometimes. I called him childish and I'd laugh about it. He would either change the topic or just said that it wasn't that funny.

We've been staying in each other's houses a lot and never had sex since this one time we got all touchy. Then I stopped him when we were getting to it. He backed off and asked if everything was okay and if I'm uncomfortable. I said, no, it's just I'm on my period. Dead silence. He asked me, quote, for how long? And I was like, what do you mean? He then backed away further from me and sat silent, sometimes looking at his phone.

I got sad and confused. So I laid down next to him hoping for some cuddles. Try not to make it more awkward by saying something. So I was keeping silent. Nothing. Then he spoke. He said I should do something about it and it completely ruined the mood for him. He told me he heard there's pills that make periods go away and everyone uses them.

So why can't you? I told him that's not true and that the pills have major side effects, which I don't want to take because my periods aren't at all heavy and I rarely get cramps. After hearing about them being heavy, he became completely disgusted. He told me he didn't want anything to do with it and to fix my problems. I wasn't even angry. I was just hurt and shocked. It was my boyfriend, my beloved, saying stuff like that to me.

I fell asleep crying and hurt that night. It sounded so stupid yet so embarrassing and hurtful. After three days of absolutely no feelings, just a hug saying goodbye to him in the morning, he was supposed to leave. He sent a text saying he has been thinking about me. He told me he does so much for us. Why can't I just fix my periods so it doesn't have to be such a problem? I told him he was making it a problem and that he should be real and not childish. He completely disagreed and called me selfish.

The next morning, he dumped me over a text. It's almost as if the love wasn't there. I've been crying a lot, having panic attacks. I was so sure he was the one. This sounds so stupid, I can't believe it. So yeah, I don't want advice. I'm over him. I just wanted to rant on how some people are completely ignorant.

Selfish for having a period. Oh my God, the delusion. It's crazy. So when you think about how my vagina bleeds out of the same hole that they would like to put their peepee in. Literally. It's not gross when that's there, but when I have a bodily function I can't control. It's gross. Same canal, buddy.

It's the same hole. Same ideal. No, it's just a normal thing. It's not like, I don't like the cum that comes out of you. It's all gloopy and gluey. I don't get to pick what comes out. That's not my business. But you don't see me calling you selfish, you know?

That's crazy. It's so strange. This post and people like this, it really has me convinced that there's a lot of men that really don't like women. Yeah, just say that. Or just say you don't want to be with her anymore. I would rather be with someone. Do you think it's really the period thing? The fact that he gets grossed out by...

That's true, that's true. And she's seen a history of it too. Yeah, and just commercials. They're not showing full tampons, full of blood on TV. It's like blue detergent or something. But they're putting it on, yeah. It's not... And for him to be so mature and get grossed out by that,

I have a boyfriend that doesn't care if I'm on my period or not. He's just like, oh, whatever. It's natural. Are you okay? No big deal. He's like, if he... This is a TMI for everyone here. He doesn't...

We have sex when I'm on my period. He does not give a flying fuck. Because he gets to have sex. That's why. And because you're comfortable, we're having sex. Exactly, exactly. Oh my God, I just had a flashback from high school. Wow, there was this girl that she liked to have sex in high school.

Had sex with my boyfriend. Yeah. And I remember some story about a guy who was like, yeah, I ate her out and she didn't tell me she was on her period and I kept getting globs in my mouth. Everyone at home is puking right now. What the heck? Straight people are wild, bro.

Why would you ever let someone do that to you? I don't know. Maybe she... You know, sometimes you don't know what's coming, like your period's starting. So maybe she was just like, thought she was just like fired up down there, like to get going. I'm excited, yeah. But she was starting her period.

Oh my God, it's so bad. It's getting you all worked up. Yeah, there's a girl at my high school. I think she was like hooking up in the car, like of the parking lot of the high school. I went to do a Y. Oh my God. Like go home and do it. But I think he was fingering her and then he told my sister,

he was like, it felt like more wet than usual. Like than other... We're all like 17. So like, how many girls have you done that to? And he said he looked and it was all blood. Oh no. And she started to pray. He was like, oh, okay, yeah, I got to go.

And he was so embarrassed. But he was also like, obviously disgusted because he's a 17 year old. That's why like, if they're like 17, maybe I could see him being like, I mean, it's not okay. Just like my brother, poor thing, he's grown up, even my dad. It's like mainly women. It's me and my sister and my mom. And then the two of them, both water sign men, right?

And me and my mom are fire signs and then Jersey and earth or air sign. I can't remember. Okay. So I talk to my period all the time. My brother knows everything about my period. And then like the other day I was telling him like, do you know there's three holes down there? And he goes, I don't need to know all that.

Well, but she do. You should know. And one of them every once a month, it bleeds. And I don't like it, but it's part of my body. It's so educational. Yeah. And then my mom's like, you need to know this cause it's true. Yeah.

Cause when they grow up to be stupid like that and say mean shit like that, just take a pill to stop it. No. Oh my God. There's another story on here that I, I don't know if I've read it yet, but it was like my boyfriend doesn't believe the clit is real. And it's like, this is the problem.

Yeah. This is why women have such hard times orgasming with men. Like where's the proper sex education? Yeah. Or even having like a, like a healthy relationship with a man. Like, I mean, I can't, I don't know what that's like and I don't want to know what that's like.

But I mean, why would I lie about that? It's so weird. I think there's so many weird shit out there. Like, especially with dudes. I, um, I had a conversation with people once and I was like, having four play for 20 minutes increases the likelihood of an orgasm for a woman by like 60% or something like that. It's really high. I don't remember the exact stat right now.

It's not like in the movies where they just start going at it. No. No. And like the reality is a lot of women don't get off from penetration. Yeah. That's just the reality. So I said this to like a group of guys or around some guys and they were like, 20 minutes, like they were flabbergasted.

I'm like, I'm like, Jesus Christ. It's like when you like play a sport, you got a warmup. That's the warmup. Yeah. You gotta do the warmup. It's the stretching. Stretching. You run a lap, right?

Stretch. You get ready to go. Then you play the game. You don't just play. You get hurt. Then you'll get hurt or not have fun. Yeah. Oh my God.

I'm just, I can't believe people like this exist, but they do. And fucking TikTok. Have you seen the Matt Reif stuff on TikTok? Girl. I have never liked him. He said some like weird, like, he's always given me misogynist vibes. Really? But he said something weird in a standup set.

Like I thought, I saw a couple of his sets where I'm like, oh, that's funny. Like just clips on TikTok. Then I saw one. I wished for a little life of me. I could remember what it was. Yeah. Then he was on that podcast and he said, you know, if I want, I'm going to date a girl.

I want her to have boobs. Then he's talking about like how vaginas look. He was like, vaginas are ugly. I think they're gross. And she has a big clit. It looks like a, like I'm, he said, I mean, it was kind of funny, but it's not. He said I'm going to do like a thumb war with it. Yeah.

Like, okay. That's a little funny. Like I'll give you that. But it's mean. And like, what does your PP look like? I want to see it. I didn't realize he was like that. And I had only seen his standup stuff on TikTok.

So Matt Reif, he's a comedian for those of you that don't know. And so I thought, I was like, oh, he's cute. He's kind of funny. Great. Okay. And then I saw him on stiff socks podcast and I was like, this man is disgusting. And then the way that all three of them are like, oh, that's the worst part. The locker room.

My sister always says that like the worst men aren't the ones that are like, you already know they're misogynist. You already know that they're like awful. Like that guy doesn't believe periods are real. He's gross. Like that it's the people who don't say anything or who are secretive about it. Those are the ones you should worry about the most. So like if I would like, I would, I wish that one of them, especially one of them,

I think it's like Trevor or something, one of the hosts. Yeah. I've had them on the podcast. It was Trevor Wallace and Michael something. Michael socks. That's a stiff socks. That's his. Is it?

I don't know. I don't know. It doesn't matter because that was so awful. Well, and then Matt Reif is like doubling down on it, like commenting, ha ha. Cause some people are like girls are standing up for like saying like, this is fucked up. And then someone writes, you're just mad cause he wouldn't even want you. And then he comments, ha ha ha in it. Just maybe take the L dude.

Like my sister said, you're a knockoff Pete Davidson when you want me to say to you. I think that's so true though, where it's like, it's not the ones that are saying the stuff you have to worry about. Yeah. Because you know where they stand. Yeah. It's the ones that laugh or go along with it. Or don't say anything when something scary is happening.

You know what I mean? That is so true. I've never thought about it that way, but it just proves that you don't have a safe space. No. Unless you know who these people are. I know. I couldn't believe they clipped that like as like a promo, like, isn't this hilarious? I'm like, you guys are crazy.

I'm surprised that the PR team. Yeah. Didn't like put a kibosh on that. Maybe we don't. Yeah. Nope. Post that one. That's the one.

Yeah. Hey, it's, it's kind of like the, um, the Tara girl that's on TikTok too. It's like, it's so many people right now are just like saying the most outrageous stuff because any clickbait, any viral clip is better than like nothing. Her as a person in general, like she's going to say stuff that she wants attention for. Yeah. She's a pick me. Like there's no other way to describe it.

No way to put it. I've seen so many lesbians like being like, what do you mean by this? Like all the shit she's saying. Think of like the I finna be in the pit. That was enough for me to be like, I don't like you. I didn't even like her before that. Did you see that? The Harry Styles thing.

Yeah. Then she talked about how she spent 30 grand on Harry Styles concerts. Got scammed. Didn't she? No. That's where that, that's where I finna be in the pit is from when she got scammed. No, she went through her like accounts or whatever for last year to total this year to show everyone how much she spent on concerts and she spent over 30 grand in a year.

Jesus. And I'm like, what do you want people to say to that? Oh man, you're so funny. Like of course people are going to be like, I wish I could have that money to pay Ryan. $30,000 is life changing for just about everyone. Everyone. Everyone. And she's like, now I'm going to go make out with a girl in front of my boyfriend so he

likes me. Okay. Jesus Christ. And she's an only fan creator, which I support sex workers and I think that's super cool that they do that. And I think it's a super feminist or whatever, but the way she does it isn't and it's disappointing and not fair to the people that actually do it in a way that isn't like that. Yeah, absolutely.

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You're like, here's an update. I need the tea. Yeah, I'm not going to give too much away. It's the worst part about me. I just love spoiling stuff for everyone. Okay. So it's 13 days old and is titled, Am I the asshole if I tell my friend, her boyfriend, is planning to propose?

Yeah. Yeah, that's the top vote on the post. My 27 female best friend has been dating her boyfriend 26 male for over five years. A while back, he reached out to me to help figure out ring size and the setup so he could make this the most magical day for her. Having known my friend for over 20 plus years, I know exactly how she wants her proposal to go and who she wants to be there. So I relayed all of this information to him months ago via text and over the phone.

I even took the time to covertly find and confirm which ring she would love the most. A little background. My friend is incredibly family and friend oriented. And in the past expressed to me on multiple occasions, especially during holiday season, that in the five years they've been together, he hasn't really made much of an effort to indoctrinate himself into her family or friendships, the way she has for his. While I do generally like him, I've always felt that he is incredibly self-serving and self-focused.

Recently, through a mutual friend, I found out he started a group text between his emphasis on his friends and his family to set up a time and date of the proposal. He has not only excluded myself, and according to the screenshots I've seen, he is doing everything verbatim, I suggested he do, but he has completely excluded her family and other close friends from the event. He is planning on only having his boys and family present for the occasion. And knowing my friend, this would ultimately break her heart, not being able to share this moment with her loved ones.

I got heated and called him. First, he was dodging my questions. Then, just outright said, quote, this is my proposal, and I've spent enough time and money to choose how I do it. Just be happy for your friend. It's not like you're not coming to the wedding. This infuriated me. And to make matters worse, I ran into her mom and dad at the grocery store and subtly asked

if they knew of any possibility she was getting engaged. They were unaware, and I know for a fact my friend has told him that he needs to ask her parents for their blessing. She's somewhat traditional. My friend wears her heart on her sleeve, and I can predict how this event will go down when she sees all of his close friends and family there and none of hers. Considering her previous sentiments about his lack of interest in her family slash life, she will 100% see this as being hurtful and selfish, and I know she'll cry.

To make matters worse, the location of the proposal is a whopping 30 minutes from her parents' house. I don't want to get involved in a fight or reveal the surprise, but on the other hand, I feel like I owe it to my lifelong friend to help her avoid being hurt and disappointed. Maybe even helping her rethink what her future would look like with someone who just doesn't really appreciate what she values in life. So, am I the asshole if I tell my friend her boyfriend is going to propose? Hmm.

At first I said yes. That was before I knew the story. I also think people put a lot of pressure on proposals. So much. And it's kind of like the least important part of the whole thing. Literally. I think the wedding's more important than that. Absolutely.

I mean, if she already knows that he doesn't try to make an effort to be close with her family and friends, even though he knows that's important to her, then I don't know that they should get married. Nope. I don't think I would ruin it. I would just let him do it and then be like embarrassed that it didn't go the way that he wanted. That's what I would do.

I love that. Let him shoot himself in the foot. Yeah. Yeah. How inconsiderate, especially considering how much she's expressed over the years, how important family is, and I want you to ask my parents for their blessing. Yeah. Yeah.

I also feel like proposals, some people, it depends on who you ask and what the dynamic of the couple is, but a lot of times people will say like the proposal is really for the person that's being proposed to. Yes. Yes, it's for both of you. You're both going to get married, but it's for that person. Yeah. It's their surprise.

So you should really do things that they would like, not necessarily what you would like. Just because you're doing it. Yeah. Yeah. How do you think that'll play out for you? Do you want to be the one that proposes? So I've actually been engaged before.

Oh my God. That's right. Yeah. I was engaged for a year. Did you propose? So that's what I was saying. I wanted to get married as soon as we graduated, and she was like, no. And I was like, okay, that hurt my feelings, but that's fine.

And so then I kept asking her, are we going to do it or are you doing it? And I would make jokes like, okay, if you do it, because I did, I wanted her not to ask my family for permission because we're not like that, but she was really close to my parents, especially my mom, so I want her to tell my mom this is what she's doing. Involvement in some way. Especially, I mean, Morgan, we've known each other for a year. We know how important my family is to me. And she knew that too.

So anyways, she was like, no, I'm not doing that. And I was like, okay, yeah, you're right, that was so stupid. And then, no, we ended up doing was in like, I feel like the pandemic like flipped everyone on their head a little bit. And so we just decided, she was like, okay, I'm ready to get engaged. So we like, we would go on dates like during the pandemic in our car, we would order food and just sit in my car. So we got engaged in my car, we proposed to each other and put each other's rings.

I tell this story, my sister's like, I wish that she cared about you enough to do it for you because she knew, like, I love being surprised. Well, I love surprising other people and I want to be surprised, but I always want to know what everyone's doing. So I'm also like, yeah. We are the same, literal same person. Surprise party, but like, make sure it looks like this and then I'm wearing this on the day you do it.

And then also, what are we doing? You want to know, but like, you don't really want to know, but you want to know. Yeah, exactly. So, yeah. No, so we did it in the car and then this is kind of tea. We called my mom, because I was living with my parents at the time, so I called my parents and like, we're all crying, so excited. Then I called my sister, she's crying.

And then we call her mom and her mom is like, her, I didn't get along with her family and her mom goes, oh, okay, this is what her mom did. And then we hung up and then she was crying because she was obviously upset. I was like, well, you know, my mom's excited, who cares, you know, but that should have been also an indicator to me that we shouldn't be together anymore, but I have been engaged before. Because it was only a year that we were engaged, almost two, but yeah, it was a long time. So wild.

It feels like a lifetime ago. It doesn't even feel like me anymore. Like that was a version of me. I don't know. Well, and I met you after, but it's so funny because I remember your first couple episodes of Two Idiot Girls, which I fell in love with. And it was before I met Drew and like was doing research before she came on. And I mean, just hearing the way she talked about you two as a couple.

It was like, I realized like what love is, and it was such a great role model to have Dacin and I'm just like, ah, fuck it. Yeah, I know. Oh, and that's what people were like, I don't get it. Is she single? Cause I wanted to take those episodes down. Yeah. And then I was like, no, cause then it shows growth.

It does. And you could see like, sometimes it looks like that to you. My sister and I always talk about 500 days a summer. And in that movie, like Drew talks about how Chloe Grace Marat, she tells Joseph Gordon Love, she tells him like, really look at it. Like was it what you think it was? And then he looks and he can see she was always annoyed with him. She didn't really like him like that.

She was honest with him. And so I look at my relationship the same way. So having been engaged and us getting engaged in a way that I didn't want to do, I just did because I wanted to be engaged because I was in love. And I thought that's what we were supposed to be doing. I would want someone to surprise me. And then she was always like, so embarrassed. So she would be like, I would never do that in front of your family.

I'm like, no, that makes sense. Cause you're not like that. And then I was thinking, shouldn't I be with someone who would do something like that because it's for me, not for her? You know, I think you said it so, so well where it's like, yeah, you want someone that wants to surprise you. And it's sad because it is cute to propose to each other. Like if, but that, if, if that's what you want, which does not really what you wanted.

So it's like, uh, it's, it's really tough. Justin, I'm really scared, to be honest, really scared. He says he has a plan. Ask when. No idea. I fucking hate surprises. I like to know when they're going to be. Yeah.

I mean, I Google the ends of movies. Yeah, that's true. She can't, she won't watch new shows because she wants to know what's going to happen. I, I Google it. Yeah. I Google the ending of every single show. I haven't done it without her bank season three yet. Give me some credit.

I have to watch a season two, but then I'll watch season three. It's pretty good. But, um, but angering. Everyone in my show is so hot. And so that's why I'm going to watch it. Chase Stokes. And now he's dating Kelsey Ballerini. I know.

Tee. Even on a climb. Oh, everyone mad. Is there any Madison Bailey? That's her name, right? Oh, she's such a cutie too. I look active. Please put everyone in the show is so hot.

I'm going to watch it. Yeah. You got it. But, oh my God, he says he has a plan and he's told other people this plan. And I'm just like, is it outside? Is it nature? Cause like all I literally want when I think about like my dream proposal. Justin, I know you hear this audio.

I literally saw a picture where it was like on a cliff edge, like overlooking water, beautiful greenery, trees, tea light candles everywhere. That's it. I just nature with a photographer in the bush and like a party with friends and family after that's what I want. That's your engagement party right after. Yeah. Right after like in Iceland.

A dude. I have been twice in like six months. I know. I live vicariously through the both of you. I'm like, wow, I can't believe we went to Iceland twice. That's how I feel. I didn't go, but we want to go in August. Do you want to come?

Yes. We're going to go, uh, throw puffins off the cliffs. Throw them? Yeah. They get, they get lost. The little babies, they get lost in the town and you have to like scoop them out with nets so they don't drown and all this crazy stuff. And then the morning you go to the cliffs and you throw them off.

Yeah. It helps them. Okay. It'll be good. Don't throw them like that. I'm like, okay. So top comment on this one, do not tell her all caps as much as you know her and want this proposal to go as planned.

It is ultimately up to her boyfriend, how he wants to do it. If your friend is disappointed, then that can be her sign to discuss with her fiance about moving forward. It is not your place to tell her or intervene at this point. Opie replies, huge red box, lots of awards. Um, and basically says, since this is the top comment so far, I'm hoping my response here will be seen by the masses. Fellow Redditors, let me make this super, super clear.

You've convinced me 10 fold, not to say anything to her and to let things play out as they should. I have done the extent of what I can by trying to reach out to him and he decided not to listen to me. That's on him. It's not my place to initiate a fight slash problem and possibly ruin things before they even happen. Trust me when I say, I am not going through with it.

I see now that this is 1000% not my place, regardless of my loyalty and relationship with my friend. And I would be making things far worse by interjecting myself where I have no right to be. There's a bunch of other stuff that they write, but, um, we're going to get to the update. It's fine. It's just talking about that was the update.

I was so excited. Okay. No, oh no, there's more we get the resolution. Okay. So update to everyone who told me to keep my mouth shut. Thank you. So on Saturday, the day of the proposal, I got a call from her boyfriend. He was screaming at me, blaming me for not showing up uninvited still to the

proposal with her parents, because she was upset. They weren't there. What? I was fucking slack jawed. I told him, I knew this would happen. And he says verbatim quote, you just admitted you knew this would happen. So if you knew the whole time and you actually cared for her, you would have invited them.

I was gobsmacked and hung up on him. Not even an hour later, I get a call from her asking me to come to her parents. According to her, this is how the situation played out. He popped the question. She said yes. And the people he invited popped out from hiding. She was bombarded by four of his guy friends, his mom, dad, older brother and his sister-in-law.

His parents were holding a sign that said, quote, welcome to the family, Mrs. Insert his last name here. And this is where things go downhill. I did not know this before and I thought I knew everything, but my friend doesn't want to change her last name. And she's told him that repeatedly since they'd gotten together. She's an only child from a Ukrainian family. Oh, I love that.

And with everything going on with Ukraine in the last year, she's doubled down. I literally just got full body chills. When she saw the sign, she joked, Mrs. his last name, I think you mean Mrs. her last name. Everyone went silent until his mom said, quote, well, the ring is already engraved. No, no changing it now. She takes the ring off and sees Mrs.

his last name engraved on the band. Then she asked if her parents were coming. He gave every excuse. He didn't have their number. There were too many people there. He wanted to keep it private and eventually said, quote, this was my proposal to you. And now my family is your family. We can just send your parents the pictures later.

She took the ring off and left. Good. That's when I'm assuming I got the call from him. She went straight to her parents. She asked them about the engagement. They were clueless. She then asked if I knew anything. I asked if she was in the right place.

She said she was. So I told her I would answer any questions she had rather than dumping everything on her. She was upset, but thanked me. She was furious when I told her about the call with him earlier and said, does he really think I'm that shallow? She said it wasn't about having a perfect proposal for her or her parents there. It was about him making the whole thing about himself as always. And she was done feeling ignored and belittled.

So this was her breaking point. She's staying with her parents currently and has been receiving texts from him. The worst one so far is him telling her she has to pay him back for the ring and for ruining his life. No. Right now, all I can do is be here for her and whatever decision she makes, I will fully support because as you've all helped me realize, this isn't about me. It's about her, not my monkey, not my circus.

Edit, she gave him the ring back when she took it off. I didn't include that because I was at the 3000 character limit already. Edit to update. I did not mention this plan when I originally posted just in case her ex found this thread, but I can report now that we got a heads up last night that he wasn't at their apartment. So we ran over and got most of her shit out, at least all of the really important stuff to those asking.

No, she isn't going back to him. It's over. Yeah, baby. I love a happy ending. That was a good one. I liked that one. That's so manipulative to put the name on the band. Ew.

You know what I mean? Tacky. Like he's like, well, I can't take it off. And then she's going to be like, okay. You know she wanted to keep her last name. You absolutely know it's so manipulative. And the fact that the mom knew about it and was like, well, it's too late now. It's engraved in the band.

It's not too late. No, we haven't signed a marriage license. It's just, I didn't even say that Caravage just says misses and there's a strike through the last name. I don't want that name on me. That's not my name. Hell no. And like, even if you get married, your last name doesn't automatically change.

No, you don't have to. I'm not going to change my last name. I've been thinking about it lately. Yeah. Cause my brother, he's the only one that will carry on my dad's last name. Yeah. And so I don't know, I don't know about my sister, but for me, I'm not going to change my last name.

I love your last name. It is so beautiful and unique. And I, I love it. I keep seeing a lot of videos too, especially, um, there's this one lesbian creator and she's like, you straight, it's like, you got to pick the coolest name. Yeah, pick the cooler name or like create your own. I love that when people create their own legacy. Like together, I think that's super cute.

I know. It's so cool. I was talking to Justin about it recently and I was like, what do you think about hyphenating ours? So it's Abstur Thunstrom and like you take Abstur too. And he's like, yeah, that's really cool. That's a powerful name right there. Yeah.

I mean, Thunstrom alone, that's, that's crazy. Abstur Thunstrom, 10 out of 10. It's so funny. Every time we check it into like a hotel under his name, they, I think they like read it or like see it and they're like Thunderstorm. He's like, yes, that's me. That's me. But, uh, top comment on this update is I don't know what happened before, but I

really hope this poor girl sees those glaring red flags and end things with him, which she did. I know when it sounds like she looked back and was like, he used to do this. Think of all the, that's what like with the period story. Think of all the shit she puts up with her boyfriend. He probably doesn't shower or wash his butt good. Nope. Anything.

And she still is with him, but then she has a bodily function. She can't control. And then she's disgusting. So it's the same here. Like I'm sure she put up with a bunch of shit and she goes, and you're not even going to respect the way that I want to be proposed to slash my family to be involved. Like we're done. It's so weird.

I think that's a little bit of ring clarity too, where we stay in these relationships and we think this is amazing. Yeah. Every, every relationship has some issues. It's, it's fine. It'll get better. Especially, you know, if we move in together or if we get married and we get a dog or whatever.

Yeah. Yeah. And we see, you know, a lot of times with ring clarity, especially things to tick tock, you get engaged and all of a sudden you're like, wait, is this what I really want? I had never heard of ring clarity. So I started listening to hot takes and I was like, oh my God, was I having ring clarity back then?

I think you were. Only time told me that. Yes, I was. Shit comes out. Shit comes out when that ring goes on the finger. Shit comes out and it gets real. And I saw like a bunch of stuff on tick tock where this girl got proposed to. And then like three of his girlfriends saw it and came out of the woodwork.

So it's like that ring goes on the finger and like shit goes down. If there's anything to be found out, it will come out. Same with like, I mean, all the Adam Levine shit that happened last year. Oh my God. Or do you watch love is blind? I have seen the first couple of seasons and I saw like clips of the Raven Raven and like she was on file files. Yeah, just goofy.

I just especially like when you're such a public facing figure, you're how do you feel like you're going to get away with cheating? I don't know. How dumb are you? You're going on one of the most famous shows on Netflix. How dumb are you? I don't know. It's a man.

It's a man. They have the audacity. That's for sure. Well, happy ending with this one. Yes. I love this for her. Sounds like she's got a good friend. I'm glad she didn't tell her.

I know that way. Let her come to, I feel like if they come to the conclusion, they were more likely to stick with her decision than just listening to other people. Yeah. I also thought about the fact too, if she would have told her friend or like would have intervened and got the parents there. Even though she wasn't invited and the parents weren't invited, if she would have like gone against that boyfriend, how much could that have changed the outcome?

If the parents were there, would she have taken that as a sign? Oh, he cared, even though it had nothing to do with him. And would she have gotten married? Yeah. Well, and then the last thing she probably would have been like, ah, it's fine. Cause at least you brought my parents. You know what I mean? I'll compromise on that because my family's here.

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And one was like ketchup on rice. I don't like that, but Drew does. What kind of rice? Like white rice, like regular white rice. Regular ketchup or no sugar? Like what are we working with? Hines? Yeah, the regular one.

What does it taste like? It tastes nasty. I think ketchup's gross. Like I'll eat it in hamburgers, but I won't enjoy it. But like I'm not going to, when people dip stuff in it, well, you're gross. But I like ranch, but I just think ketchup's gross. But yeah, are you vegan? Yeah, you're vegan.

Yeah. So what's, um, what's a good dairy free ranch for you? Ooh, um, follow your heart. That's a good one. Cause I've been, we're dairy free these days. Oh, okay. Borderline going towards vegetarian cause meat grosses me out. Yeah, me too.

That's why I stopped eating it. If I don't have to cook it, I like it, but it's gross. Okay. I'll send, I'll text you the picture of it. It's the best dairy free ranch. Cause some of them will be like, oh yeah, it's made with coconut milk, but you can't taste it. Yes, you can.

You can always taste coconut. I'm not drinking that or eating that, but the follow your heart when it tastes like regular ranch and the target has an off brand when I'll send it to you. Okay. It was really good. What's your weird food that you have? Um, I don't think I had any when I was telling Drew. I mean, I like to eat pickles.

That's not that weird. That's very normal. Yeah. Olives out of the can. Again, normal. Yeah. I don't have any. I couldn't think of any.

No weird, like food combos. No. I mean, we also talked about like your hates peanut butter and jelly, but I love peanut butter and jelly. You can't get enough of it. Toast the bread too. Oh, you have to toast the bread, but strawberry jelly is the best jelly. Okay.

I like where this is headed. So this one is titled, am I the asshole for refusing to punish my son for calling his classmates food weird? I, female 32, got a private text this morning from the mother of my son's male seven classmate. She told me that apparently my son has been calling her daughter's traditional lunch weird and things as such. And apparently that is making her daughter feel uncomfortable and insecure.

She asked me to please talk to my son about being more sensitive and respectful. So her daughter doesn't feel excluded. Now I feel for this woman as a fellow mother. No one wants to see their child feeling sad, but overcoming insecurities is a big part of growing up. Additionally, I thought it was ridiculous of her to criticize my son, a seven year old for making relatively innocuous and curious comments about food that is not familiar to him.

He is at a curious age and is discovering the world. And I refuse to try and limit him and shut him down for not having the emotional sensitivity of an adult. Politely, I told that mother that I was sorry for her daughter struggling with insecurities. And I found some online parenting articles about building your child's confidence to send to her. So she could use some tips to help her daughter out.

She replied and said, I was acting completely shamelessly and disgracefully. And I am not able to text her anymore. Am I the asshole? Was it like, uh, like cultural food? Her daughter's traditional lunch. Oh, okay. So it's like PB and J and stuff, right? I think this is cultural food.

Yeah, I'm going to take that as like, it could be like, if they're an Indian family, it's like a curry or something like that. Um, I'm, I'm envisioning it's some sort of, I mean, that would make sense. He's not going to make fun of PB and J or pizza. No, cause that's, that's little white boys probably seeing that. He's eating that. Yeah. Uh, yeah, you are the asshole.

I mean, saying no is one thing. Like no, that's your own problem. That's an issue in and of itself, but, uh, to send the articles over the top. That's fucked up. That's insane. Also, like it's kind of ironic that she's saying things like he's curious. He's at a curious age and is discovering the world. Clearly not.

If he's being a bully, being a bully about someone's food. I mean, yeah, it's, and it's not even, um, I mean, her being insecure, it's cause he's disrespecting her and her family's culture. Yeah. So like, yeah, you should tell your kid, don't fucking do that. That's cool. It's really weird. And honestly, I've seen a lot of stories from people coming out and they're

like, yeah, I was Indian and I had traditional food. My dad made me a lunch every day and I was so embarrassed. I threw it away and got school lunch instead because I was made fun of. And that scarred them. Like stuff like that sticks with you when you're a kid. Yeah, it really does. And it makes you embarrassed of your culture, which is super shitty. Cause when you grow up in it, like you want to be proud of it, but like no one

else is, so you feel embarrassed. Did you deal with that at all? Um, no, I mean, I've been, I've been in my fair share of someone food, but we never would take it for lunch or anything like that. I wonder if my dad did those. My dad grew up was like born here, but grew up in Samoa and then grew up, like end up coming back. But, um, no, I mean, well, I did, in a sense, not about food.

It would be like, Oh, like, cause I grew up in a predominantly like Latino area. Um, like my godfather is Mexican. So I grew up around Spanish a lot. All my best friends were Mexican and stuff. Um, so people would ask me like, Oh, are you Mexican? Or they would speak Spanish to me. And I'd be like, I don't know what you're saying. Um, and so that always kind of bothered me because there was no one that looked

like me and Drew or my mom or my dad. And so it wasn't until that's why we love the rock so much. Yeah. He was like our one. Look, we had a couple. And what's funny is that like that type of like wrestling, that that's so important to our culture. And I don't know why I think it's so silly, but like all my cousins, my dad, like

they all loved watching it. I didn't, but, um, I could see why, I guess. So we had other like Samoan wrestlers that were like a big deal, like Rikishi. He was one and his big move is he would put his butt in your face, which is like very Samoan, very silly. Like you're like, of course you're doing that cause it's funny, but it wasn't until the rock like became the rock and then, you know, got out of wrestling that I was like, Oh my gosh, it's like, so then I'd be like, Oh, I'm Samoan.

And they'd be like, what's that? I'm like, Oh, well, it's like Hawaiian. That's what I used to always say. And once my dad heard me say, like, don't ever say that again. You're not Hawaiian. Like we're Samoan. There's something wrong with being Hawaiian, but don't lie. Like it's the pride to be prideful.

Exactly. So then when the rock is out, I was like, Oh, like, you know, guys, you guys know the rock. They're like, yeah, I'm like, he's my uncle. He's not my uncle. Everyone says that people are telling me, my sister, we tell everyone, you're my cousins because there's no someone girls in media. You know what I mean?

Oh, well, I don't care. I'll tell people you're my cousin. Like that's funny. Yeah. But same with like Moana, like stuff like that. I mean, it's a lot. So, but I never took food to school like that or anything like that. Like my mom was like, PB and J.

It's easy to go to school. Yeah. But, um, yeah, I don't know. I think that's what's so cool about TikTok is I, I watch like thousands of videos of people making like traditional Korean dishes or Japanese dishes and then, um, seeing like, like white moms make their kids like Korean food to take to school. And then I see like Asian creators like stitching and saying like,

that's so cool. Cause I wish that I could have eaten my lunch in peace and not been like, what's that smell or whatever. You know what I mean? Oh, yeah. I can't even imagine. But yeah. It's wild.

I, um, I didn't really Minnesota. We're very bland there. There's, you know, great Mexican food. There's good Thai food sushi, but like, I didn't really encounter like a lot of Filipino food and, um, coming to grad school. I just loved everyone brought these amazing dishes. And like, I honestly don't know if I had seen like tamales before and like empanadas, like really good empanadas.

Oh, but like seeing that in grad school, I just like, I appreciate it so much. I'm like, this is amazing. Yeah. But I, it's just, it's so weird to me that like this mom wouldn't want to instill in her son and be like, there's a bunch of different cultures. There's so many different foods. And hey, no, that's not weird. Let's, let's go out to a restaurant so you can try some yourself.

Like as a parent, you want to create such an inclusive, worldly experience for your kid, or at least I would. Like I want my kid to be able to go out in the world and survive and thrive anywhere and everywhere amongst all different types of people. Yeah. And be inclusive and open-minded and kind. Like hearing your son's being an asshole. And you're like, here, let me send your daughter some self-help articles.

Tell her to toughen up. Yeah. What the heck? That's weird. It's crazy. It's giving Karen. Yeah. It's giving Karen.

I would send that lady back articles on how to raise a kid that's on an asshole. Yes. Thank you for the tip. Here's some for you. Yeah. Raising a future bully. Yeah. Oh, top comment on this one.

You're the asshole. Teaching your kid to be respectful of others' choices is not shutting him down. It's literally part of your job as a parent to, you know, parent. And it's not like he's asking like, what's that? Like, what are you eating? Or like, he's like curious about what she's eating. Yeah. He's just being a dick.

He's being a bully. Yeah. He's just being a bully and like calling someone's lunch weird and saying things as such. That's not a curious comment. Like the mom is brushing it off. Calling something weird, he's being a little bully. Yeah. He's being rude.

I'm sure he would be meaner if he wasn't seven because he just doesn't know those big words yet. But when he does, because you're not teaching him not to be mean, he's going to use him. Exactly. Someone goes entitled child in the making, which most likely will lead to an entitled adult. A lot of comments, a lot of comments. People just pissed at OP. Yeah.

Rightfully so. Vote on this one is asshole. There's no comments from OP though. She's like, uh, that's enough. Yeah. People don't, don't like to hear that they're wrong. Yeah. But it's posted four days ago.

So maybe there will be a little update realizing, Hey, yeah, I suck. I, uh, I realized I was wrong. Yeah. But, uh, over this one. Up next, am I the asshole for kicking a girl out of my party for calling her boyfriend daddy? Okay. Was it Pedro? Oh, girl.

I don't want to talk about him. I'll go on for way too long. It was Travis Kelsey. Yes, I'm gay. I know it doesn't make any sense, but I stopped having a crush on Travis Kelsey. And now it's strictly just Pedro Pascal. I can't get enough. You don't have to put yourself in a box.

No, I know, but I know, because everyone's like, Oh, read the lesbian master doc. Look it up. It's pretty good. But basically it talks about, um, compulsory heteronormativity, which like my sister was like the biggest indicator that you were gay when we were little. And I should have noticed that is I had a hundred crushes. Every boy I met, I had a crush on, but I would never want to talk to them or send me a mom.

Do you know what I mean? And my sister was repulsed by every man that's ever been around her. Whereas me, I'm like, okay, new crush, you're it. You know what I mean? But I would never talk to them or anything like that. Cause we weren't in lots of date growing, which made it way more confusing when I did realize I liked girls. So that's why it's just paycheck.

But then in the article, it talks about how we're, we're brought up to be heteronormative, right? So it's just like, you can't help it. That's just how my brain operates. And they were saying, like, if all your crushes are men that are like famous, or you don't know, and you know, you'd never run into, then you're probably a lesbian. And I'm like, Oh, tea. But then the, the more stuff Drew gets to do, I'm like, if I ever beat

Pedro Pascal, I'll literally die. Like, I just love him so much. Like I was a person and he's very good looking, but I know. That's why I'm like, is he the same age as my mom? Yeah. But I know I could, I know I can make it happen. But then what I, I don't know. I like to make up a lot of things.

So we'll see. It's a good looking guy. But I just love that he watches the thirst traps made about himself. His favorites, Pedro Pascal fan account. He loves it. And then like there's an interview I saw with him recently where the interviewer was like, hi, daddy. Yeah.

And he's like, hi, mommy. And I'm like, I'm your cool, slutty daddy. I'm all, yes. It's good that you're bringing all this up because it makes me realize that I picked really good stories for you, for your father knows something. Ooh. Okay. Yeah.

So if you're interested in hearing some write-ins related to LGBTQ plus issues, head over there. Cause Dacian is going to be on the couch with my dad as well. It's going to be so good. Oh, okay. So this one, let's see what this is about. Picking a girl out for calling her boyfriend dad, her own boyfriend, right? Not her.

Yeah. Okay. I, female 24 was hosting a small scale hangout with about 15 of my friends. One girl, female 23 is an acquaintance of mine and she came with her boyfriend. We were all sitting around in the main room and eating pizza when she came to sit and sat on her boyfriend's lap. A little weird since there were open seats, but I didn't say anything. While we were talking as a group, she would always refer to her boyfriend as daddy.

She would interject with things like, quote, daddy just bought me a new stand mixer. And daddy looks so handsome in the shirt, right? I told him to get it. At first we thought she was joking or messing with us, but she continued doing it. And the rest of us were side-eyeing each other and we're kind of uncomfortable. I asked her if she could save the pet names for home because some of us were feeling uncomfortable. She got upset and told me to stop making such a big deal over a nickname and slut

shaming her. I told her that wasn't my intention at all, but I would appreciate if she could stop because it was killing the vibe. She started ranting at me about a whole lot of stuff. And I just told her and her boyfriend to please leave. Her boyfriend was pissed too, but they eventually got out. The rest of the evening was less uncomfortable and way more peaceful. A few of my friends who didn't know the girl I kicked out thanked me for making

her leave, but we all felt kind of awkward because of what happened. Am I the asshole? No. If they're being weird and you don't really know her, it'd be like, okay, like, especially if she's not matching the vibe. Yeah. Well, and if she's arguing with her, then I'd be like, okay, you gotta go, dude. Yeah.

I don't know what to tell you. Does it sound to you like they're, the couple is trying to involve others in like their kink? Which is making people uncomfortable. Yeah. Or just like daddy, daddy, like I feel like it's kind of a thing where people call their significant other like daddy. That's a kink.

I don't know. It's a call people, daddy. Maybe. Oh, is it a kink? I don't know. Well, and it's your house. So if you don't like how someone's acting, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

And she wasn't switching me here. And she was just like, well, did she do it in front of everyone? I would have pulled her to the side. That's kind of mean. Yeah. Daddy kink is a sexual fetish. Calling your partner daddy in bed can be an erotic way to explore power play. Okay.

Try it out, Morgan, and let me know if it works. Give me the, give me the tea. I literally would rather do so many other things. The real tea with that is I call my dad, daddy. I call my parents, mommy and daddy, mama, daddy. I used to. Yeah. Until they didn't, it ruined it for me.

I know. Now when I do it, it's not in front of people because people are weird about my dad. He's like handsome man. I get it, but. Do you have like a lot of people thirsty after your dad? Oh, yeah, it's bad. What? We don't even tag him in anything anymore.

Was he getting a lot of followers? Lost privileges. Yeah. We meet my parents, make their profiles private. What? We're like private profiles for everyone. People are so goofy. You know, especially I think is it was when Drew posted for my dad for Father's Day

last year and then everyone was like, Oh my God. Same with my brother. I'm like, you guys need, that's enough. Wrap it up. Yeah. Wrap it up. Oh my God. That's hilarious.

They don't do that on mine. I think I have more queer people that follow me, but I think on Drew's like, there's a lot of street girls that are like, Oh my God. Oh, I didn't know your dad looked like that or whatever, you know. Wow. Yeah, I'd put him private too. Shit. Make your account private.

This one's weird. I'm like, oh, if it's like a part of their little fetish, whatever they got going on. Yeah. If it was every word out of her mouth, like, Hey, daddy, can you grab me another LaCroix? Hey, daddy. While you're in there. Daddy, how's your pizza?

Yeah. Daddy, like, okay, enough. Yeah. Especially after you ask. Yeah. I would never do it in front of people though. I would have been like, Hey, can I talk to you really fast? And be like, and I would have made it like, cause I'm passive aggressive.

I would have been like, you know, the vibe's a little weird. So like, if you guys could like tone down the PDA, I would call it that or something. So no, I don't want to embarrass her, but I guess they didn't care. And they just said, Hey, can you stop saying that? That would make me want to say it more. If someone told me that. I know. I like, I kind of think I have like an oppositional tendency where you really have

to Jedi mind trick me. Yeah. Like my parents, especially you have to Jedi mind trick me. Otherwise I'm like, mm, you said not to chew gum. I'm going to chew all the gum. Yeah. I'm just like, I'm annoyingly oppositional sometimes with like decisions, not, not like opinions and stuff, but it's weird.

But yeah, I just, I think I would too. I'd like want to be like, Oh, you mean like this? Daddy, does that bother you? Yeah. The top comment goes slut shaming. She told on herself right there, she feels insecure about her sexuality, which is why she feels the need to parade it around at a party in hopes the people will validate her as soon as everyone rightfully got uncomfortable.

Her worst insecurities were confirmed and she had a meltdown. People keep confusing tolerance for alternative sexualities with, yeah, I'm totally fine witnessing them with my own two eyes in a public setting, telling someone, I don't want to see or hear about your sex life is not the same as telling them you should be ashamed of your sex life. Okay. And it's obvious that there's a kinky component to her calling him daddy. Yeah.

Not the asshole. That's good. I never thought of it like that. That's true. I mean, it's a pick me because she wants validation from other people. Yeah. It's probably more specifically men when she's acting like that, I would think. Yeah.

But it worked out when she left. Do you like his shirt? It reminds me of a mean girls where she's like, tell him his hair looks sexy, pushback, you know, that's what that's like. Oh my God. And that was her being like vindictive and weird in front of everyone. So not that she's being vindictive, but yeah, I'm saying in the movie, she whatever Gina George was, but yeah, it was for attention and for people to

validate their relationship and stuff like that. I so see it. Okay. Well, worked out for this friend group, but don't invite her to any more parties. You're bringing down the vibe. That's what I'm going to say at your birthday party. I'm going to do this at my birthday party. Daddy.

Daddy. God, no, I, I don't have any pet names like for Justin. I say like boo or babe or like the regular. Yeah. But I watched Ginny and Georgia, Georgia and Ginny, whatever that one is. And I thought like poo was really cute, like Winnie the Pooh. Yeah, that's cute. Pooh, but no, I gotta, I gotta come up with a nickname for him.

You just go in daddy. Daddy. Just when Justin's daddy. Not until we have kids. And that's acceptable to say. Oh, go tell your dad. Go tell your dad. That's when I would be like, oh, that's your dad.

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It is titled, my boyfriend likes to block me. I'm 22 female and he's 27 male. He told me once that he likes to block me in weeks. One week for the first time, I'm dramatic. Two weeks for the second time, three weeks, et cetera. It got up to two months with no contact. What kind of behavior is this? He prefers to not talk and then go back to normal with enough time.

He doesn't talk it out unless I bring up the issue again. That's all they wrote. So he does that when he's mad at her? Yeah. So the first time I get mad at you, I'd block you for one week. The second time you piss me off, I want to block you for two weeks. That's toxic. I don't know if I've ever heard of a more unhinged.

Yeah. Conflict resolution tactic. He's also 27 and she's 22, which is kind of a red flag. But, um, a little bit, especially depending on when they met. Yeah, girl, yeah, if you really think about that. Um, yeah, that's toxic. That's, and like obviously manipulative and like, yeah, there's probably a little bit of gaslighting in there too.

Like, well, you did it. What did you expect me to do? Yeah. Also, if someone blocked you and didn't talk to you for two months, we're not together anymore. When you just think you broke up. Yeah, I would. I don't have a boyfriend anymore.

I don't have a boyfriend. Hell no. I'm getting my ass back on hinge. Yeah. I'm gonna have a good time. He's like, what are you doing? We're still together. No.

What do you mean? You didn't talk to me for two months. Yeah. Well, and then do they not hang out for two months? Yeah, nothing. That's weird. Nothing. I don't like that.

He's probably got a whole nother girlfriend. And he, he, he rotates, he rotates the block schedule. Yeah. I've had that where people talk to me like on Instagram and then we start texting and then they only talk to me on Instagram. I'm like, oh, something's off. You're juggling girls. That's fine.

But don't make it weird. I had an ex that would like literally ghost me every weekend and like disappear for weeks at a time and I put up with it. That's so weird. Who was I? I know. And then you like normalize it. You're like, oh, it's just one of those things.

You know, I did. I was like, oh, he lives in Canada. He said his phone service. Isn't that great? You don't know any better. Yeah. At the time. I'm not fucking Canadian.

I have no idea. You're like, there's not even a time change. I should have known that. I'm like, I was so messed up. I was like, I don't know what was wrong with my little brain back then. But don't put up with stuff like this. You guys, this is weird. Yeah.

Um, it was only posted a day ago and there's not a lot on it. But someone goes, do you actually think you're in a real relationship? And the next person goes, I wish someone would have told me long before my abuse of relationship in my early twenties that I deserve to be loved, seen and accepted for who I am. And the best way for that to happen and only way really is if you choose things for yourself first, otherwise you will keep letting people treat you like dirt. And honey, you are not dirt.

Yeah. You should want to be, you should be with someone who communicates with you in the way that you like to be communicated with. Absolutely. Absolutely. Account has been deleted. Oh, there's, I don't see any comments from OP. So I hope this was received well and like they can grow and find someone who

doesn't fucking block them like this. It has a whole schedule out for them. So they know that's so weird. It's manipulative. I don't like that. It's very strange, very strange. Okay. Up next.

Am I the asshole for suggesting my friend? Rehomes her kid. English isn't my first language, nor the one the conversation and question was held in. So sorry for any mistakes. My 22 female friend, 24 female has a five year old son. The kid is, to say the least, difficult. She tries therapy, daycare, lots of educational methods, but he's wild.

Cries a lot, destroys stuff, yells with her. Anyway, you get the picture. The dad pays pension, but isn't active in their lives and she doesn't have many family members nearby. So she's pretty much alone most of the time to deal with this. Poor thing is destroyed. Whenever we hang out, it's clear from her physical appearance that she isn't very healthy and she is always tired and anxious.

She takes meds, but her doctor said that unfortunately there isn't much to do because there isn't anything wrong with her. It was an outside factor. It's really painful for me. As she's a close friend from many years. So the other day she was in my house while the kid was in the daycare. She had a breakdown, started crying, saying she doesn't know what to do anymore. Then this is when I may have been the asshole.

I said she tried her best, but maybe it was time to think of more difficult possibilities. To think if there wasn't anyone with whom the kid could stay while she took care of herself because she needed to. She looked at me quite shocked and asked, are you saying that I should re-home my son like he's a fucking dog? I said, no, don't take it that way. I was only saying that maybe it would be better for everyone, including him, if he stays with someone who could deal with him in some ways you can't.

She yelled at me for saying that she couldn't believe I could even suggest such a thing and how heartless could I be. I tried to apologize, but she stormed out and hasn't talked to me ever since. Some of our friends are saying that I wasn't asked for suggesting that for a mother, while a few others say that she needed to hear it, even if it was hard. Am I the asshole? Oh, well, I mean, yeah, to re-home a kid. Yeah.

I don't know, just give him up, you know, go surrender him to your local shelter and you don't have to deal with him anymore. I see like wanting to like encourage your friend to take care of herself or like, so maybe it could have been done in a way where she's like, oh, let me watch him, you know, for these many days and then she doesn't want to deal with it. So she's like, I don't know. Isn't there like some sort of aid or someone like that can come over and help her like alleviate her so she can have some time to herself?

You would think so. I mean, he's in daycare and stuff like that too. It sounds more like, and it does say like she's tried therapy, daycare and lots of educational methods, but he's wild, cries a lot, destroys stuff. Like, I don't know. I find this hard to believe that this kid doesn't have like autism or like ODD, which is like oppositional defiant disorder. There's so many other things that kids can have, like he could just have

sensory issues where he's being overstimulated and it's past that threshold and he just can't handle it. You just don't know. So it's like, I'm surprised that she's tried therapy and like, none of that has like helped come to like a diagnosis for him if it is that bad. And then it's like, well, if it's not diagnosable, like, is it parenting methods where he needs more discipline or just structure? Yeah.

Like you don't know, but it sounds like the suggestion is like, maybe there's someone he could stay with for a while so you can take care of yourself. It wasn't, I think the friend kind of took it as you think I should re-home him like a dog, but it does more so sound like, do you have any other family? Like, can you go with grandma and grandpa? And honestly, like, maybe dad would be good. Maybe he's missing that parent, that father paternal figure in his life. Like kids need a village.

And so it's weird that she interpreted it that way. It makes me think someone else has said it to her before. Yeah. Like it sounds like some projection. Yeah. Well, then maybe she feels like something's wrong with her. Like the way she's parenting as a mom. Yeah.

So she's projecting that onto her friend when her friend's like, maybe, that's what I'm saying. Like maybe there's like two days a week where like the dad watches him so then you can have a whole day just to you. Yeah. You know what I mean? Because daycare will be like while she's at work. So she's still to see when she goes home.

Yeah. And so I can't even imagine having to like juggle all that, you know what I mean? Or every other weekend or something. It's a lot. Yeah. I think this is like one of the things that scares me about having kids is I was such a terror. I know it's going to come back to me.

Like tenfold. I'm just like, I'm not, I'm not mentally prepared right now. It's hard being a parent. I know. I feel that. It's so hard. Because my brother was born when I was 11. So he's always been like my baby.

That's why I've always looked at him like I had a baby. Yeah. And so now he irritates me because he's 18. But when he was a baby, I like would tell my mom like, go take a bath and I would like make dinner and like hold him. Like I loved my, I still love my brother. But so I've always thought I wanted kids. And as I get older, I'm like, if I have them, I have them.

It's not a big deal. But it is scary. Yeah. I'm like in that same boat. Like I recorded a father knows something episode of my dad last night and had like a mental breakdown balling. And he was like, we were talking about kids and stuff that triggered it. Yeah.

Bad. But I was like, I don't know where I stand. And I feel like that's a lot of our generation. I agree. Like my friend, Alejandra, is the same way. She's like, I don't want to rule it out yet. But I'm not really sure where I stand. Is that normal?

Like, is that normal? Yeah. I think too, because we're like, I'm going to be 30 this year. You're going to be 29 in like four days or so. Right. I think, um, I'm like, when I was like 19 and in my first relationship, I'm like, okay, by the time, like telling my ex, I'm like, okay, by the time we're 25, I wanted to start having kids because I was so used to that's what I saw all my

friends doing. Like we graduated, everyone got married, started having kids. And then obviously we're gay. So like it's going to take a lot more money and time to like have kids and buy home and whatever. Um, and so after we broke up, I was kind of like, if I have kids, I have kids. Yeah. And now I'm glad we didn't have kids with each other because she sucks.

But for me, you know what I mean? I'm like, I'm glad too. Cause I want to be the best version of myself. I can't be to, when I'm a mom. And so, and I grew up with the best parents. So it's also like that's a high standard to have to live up to as well. Yeah. Which intimidates me a lot.

Your family's so amazing. They're just a bunch of sweetie pies, except for my brother. Just kidding. But, um, yeah, Donovan's land. Yeah, I'm gonna take him down on two hot takes, but no, it's scary. And I think it's just because of our generation, like, especially cause we're a little bit older, but I also, I'm so excited to be 30. Like when I turned on, I was like, until I was like 25, I was like, Oh my God,

like my life is over. Like I'm not doing anything and I'm wasting time. And now I feel like I'm restarting my entire life within the last year and a half. So that's why I'm kind of like, if I get married, I, I want to get married. That's like where I'm going to do that. But kids, I'm like, if I have them, I have them. If I don't, that's okay.

Yeah. That's, I'm in that same boat. And I just like, I think I'm not excited about my birthday party cause it's just like a lot of pressure. That's exciting. That's what, yeah. I just, it's always like, is anyone going to show up? Yeah.

I feel the same way about our live shows we do. I'm always like, I'm always anxiety riddled just about people coming. Cause I don't like that, that rejection I can't handle. So I'm excited about like the age, but I'm really excited for 30 because you always hear too, where it's like, your twenties are for grinding. It's a little struggle financially probably, but your thirties, you're a little more established. You have all these, I'm just like, bring it on.

Let's go baby. That's how I feel too. I'm excited. Yeah. So she gets 27 is usually, um, when your Saturn return comes. So that's why I think a lot of celebrities haven't, a lot of them died at 27 or something like that. There's like a pattern.

27 club. Yeah. Yeah. And so, but there's the Saturn return route. It's like this part of your life where like, I don't know the science behind it. So everyone's gonna be like, if they do know, they're going to be like, you're wrong, but, um, it's the way these plant though, your planets lane, like some, there's a huge shift in your life.

So I never would have thought at 27, after being with the same person for eight years that we would break up just randomly. And I was like, what are we doing? And so it was like, I literally had to start my entire life over again. I think Tuffy told me that she's like, it's your Saturn return. I literally, my life flipped on its head at 27. I'm sitting over here. You didn't change your career and I couldn't get a job as no T.

So I started the podcast and my life like that. It, I've flipped on its head and it's scary. What the hell? What is this? So I can return. So my sister, she just turned 28. She'll be 29 this year. We know.

No, she's 27. That's my mom. It's your Saturn return. But she's had crazy stuff happen for her too. I mean, the past year of her life has been. Ooh, just astronomical. Yeah, our whole family. Honestly, with everything my sister's been able to do for us,

like it's a completely different life. That's incredible. Wow. Okay. I'm really going to dive into this. I really want to get more into astrology. Yeah. It helped me with my healing with my, through my breakup era.

Do you have a club? Yeah, it's starting right now. You're invited. Okay. Maybe this is what you put on your Patreon. Ooh, okay. You have Dacons monthly astrology meetings. Okay.

I just need to do more research. I feel like I know a lot, but not that much. You know what I mean? I feel, I know nothing. And you could bring on experts every month to talk astrology. Okay. Okay. So check out 2 Idiot Girls Patreon and Dacons monthly astrology club.

Coming soon. Coming soon. Drulla's astrology too. So that would be really cute. I've never met with an astrologer or like a psychic. I really want to. I really want to go to a psychic. Yeah.

Maybe I should see if I can have one come to my birthday party. That'd be fun. Fuck. Okay. I got to make some calls. I was going to do tacos, like a little taco guy, but now I'm like, fuck no, I want to taro. Yeah.

The reverse of food, you're like, get your fortune read. I'm doing this. This is incredible. This is incredible. Okay. Well, the top comment on this one is from like an edit. So they added an edit. They must have added an edit right away because of the backlash.

And so it goes edit. Since most of you are saying I should help her, I do. I usually help her with errands such as groceries, pharmacy, picking slash dropping her or the kid and house chores. The boy spends most of his day at a daycare. I did not suggest she gives him up to food option only that she lets him stay with some relatives or on a sleep in school while she recuperates. I don't see anything wrong with that.

I don't either. Yeah. I don't think they asshole on this one. I think maybe the language barrier like translates it to be like, give them up for like, I thought that too. Well, and I also think kind of like what we said, the friend is taking it really personally and like, it's fair. Like I would too.

As a parent. Yeah. I'd be like, because you look at your, you know, your kid and you're like, I'm doing my best and yet he's still a little Tasmanian devil. Like, what can I do? That's why I felt like she was kind of projecting on her friend. Like, yeah, and she was like, I didn't even say that. Why are you saying that?

I totally don't think you're a bad mom. I think you just are a person. You're a human and you need help and there's something wrong with that. Yeah. It takes a village. It really does. And it, it's what makes me so sad for people that are single moms and feel like they don't have any help or family to rely on.

And this is where like, it's so important to get involved in your community with neighbors, other moms that are single with kids your same age and pass them off. And you do play dates and trade and whatever, but it's tough. It's really tough. So the top comment then is from your edit, it sounds like what you were talking about is respite care, which is very reasonable. Maybe there's an organization that offers a summer camp for high needs kids. You could help your friend out by researching options like that.

Yeah. And someone comments after and goes, yep, not the asshole. Um, and someone, it sounds like, has personal experience and just goes, and these programs are wonderful. I had a friend growing up who had kidney failure slash was going through the transplant process. Her dad was wonderful. However, everyone needs a break sometimes, even if the kids does nothing wrong.

Yeah. And that's so true. Yeah. I think so. So true. Okay. Last one, which kind of has like a wholesome twist to it, even though it's sad, but I figured after all the trauma, we just endured.

We kind of need like a little pick me up to show like rainbow at the end of the tunnel or whatever, light at the end of the tunnel. God, I really do botch sayings. Okay. So this one is also from true off my chest. It is titled, my bridesmaid accepted her role in a way that hurt my heart. I asked three women to be my bridesmaids with a small gift. I asked each woman privately at their homes while visiting.

So it could be a heartfelt personal moment between us alone. One bridesmaid I'll call a is a kind hearted woman. I've known for more than half my life who's been with me through some serious ups and downs, including the death of a child. I have known I wanted her to be a part of my wedding for many years. She even offered to host in her backyard when I was brainstorming budget venues. A doesn't have many close friends, but I'm not her only friend. And she's significantly older than I am.

So she's talked to me about plenty of wedding she's attended before. I just assumed that she'd been a bridesmaid before since she has long term childhood friends who are married. She's even talked about helping with set up for weddings, hence my assumption. But when I asked her to be my bridesmaid, she burst into tears and said, quote, you're so sweet, you don't have to make me one of your bridesmaids though. Confused, I asked, quote, why wouldn't I want you to be my bridesmaid? And she said, quote, I've never been pretty enough to be a bridesmaid.

I was flabbergasted. Apparently all of her other friends asked for her help, both labor and money, but never allowed her to be in photos because she's overweight. Like straight up shoot her out of the photos. I can't even imagine doing something like that to a person who's given so much of herself for me over the years, who gives a shit what she looks like. I assured her repeatedly that she is pretty and I don't care about her weight. I care about her heart and she's done more than enough to deserve a place beside

me at my wedding, whether or not she hosts it in her backyard. But I feel sad and infuriated about what was supposed to be a moment of joy and excitement between us and that it was dampened by a lifetime of others ruining her self-esteem. I feel like I'm going to lunge at her childhood friends next time I see them because I'm so pissed to find out how they treated her. She deserves better friends. Yeah, what the frick?

To shoot her out of photos. That's so mean. I would leave. I'd be like, okay, bye. Or if I'm like, I mean, that's something to take into consideration to how much they use her and she's just so used to it. Yeah, that's so sad. I'm sure it's like every area of friendships with these people

and she just thinks that's what she deserves. Yeah. Or it's like, obviously normalized to her. Yeah. Well, I'm glad she finally gets to be in a wedding. That's super exciting and someone that appreciates her. Yes. Yes.

Hopefully Karma bites her friends in the ass. Yeah. I've only been in one wedding and I don't want to be in any other one. So don't ask me to be in it. Well, if you asked me, Morgan, I would be in your wedding. I think you would be good. You're saying, okay, yeah, I'll be in your wedding. I'm going to make it so easy on people though.

Like all the stress and like all the spending money for bridesmaids. It's like, if I ask you to be a bridesmaid, like I'm going to pay for your dress. I'm going to do certain things where it's like, I don't, I think it's ridiculous when people spend thousands of money for their friend to get married. Yeah. It's like, what? I like when they let them pick whatever dress they want. Like I like that that's the thing now.

Yeah. Because not everyone, like it feels comfortable in the same types of materials or shapes and stuff like that. Absolutely. I like that. And then they all just have to follow a color theme or whatever. I think that's really cute. I think that should be the bare minimum.

Yeah. Because then you can re-wear it to something else. Like if I like how it looks, I'll wear it to another wedding, but I'm not in the wedding. Yeah. Yeah. I had a friend that got married in November. So it was like a fall, late fall, winter wedding and her bridesmaid's

dresses were black. Oh, I love that. Everyone looked unreal. Yeah. Unreal. It was so good. It was so good. Yeah.

My cousin got married and she had everyone were black, like even the, all the guests and stuff like that. And it came out really cute. I love that. I love that. I think I'm going to be absolutely unhinged and have everyone wear white. You were black. No, no, I'm wearing white still.

I would look good, but no, um, either way. I'm glad she got to be in a wedding finally. Yes. Beautiful ending. You'll get to come to mind, but you'll have to come to Minnesota. I don't care. I want to go. I want to go to your little barn.

That's where it's going to be. I will adjust. In the barn. It's going to be on the farm. Full body chose in the barn. Maybe not in it, but I just can't believe you guys both moved to California and you're both from the same state. I know.

And found each other out here on hinge. Girl, I'm on the right now. Fingers crossed. I love that. It works out. I don't know how it is these days. How is it these days? It's pretty awful, but it's okay.

I'm trying. I'm trying. Well, okay. If anyone out there wants to submit their application to date, Dyson, let me know. I'll pass it along. Okay. I'll screen you first. Yeah.

I really want to be a matchmaker. Okay. That's like my like, I want to be an interior designer and a matchmaker and a dog trainer. I could see all of those working for you in other lives, but we'll see what we can do. Yeah, let's do it. But how can people find you on everything? I'm Dyson, awful, although I'm your sister, by the way. And then to your girls, we post every Tuesday.

The video always goes out on Tuesdays. I'm so excited. I you're good. I don't know what you're telling me. Like, it doesn't have to go out the same day. Well, yes, it does because I have to. It has to. You're better than me.

Sometimes I just can't do it. It just, it's so much. You're definitely more type A when it comes to editing than I am. I'm kind of like, there's sniffles in there. You're going to see them. You're going to hear them. But I know that will drive Morgan in like wild. I'll follow while you guys, you know, I cut my mouth noises.

I'm a lot more easygoing, I guess. I was just like, that's fine. But yeah, we post every Tuesday. You find me on TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Dyson, awful, although. Go check out two idiot girls. The show is absolutely amazing. I went to your live show that you guys had incredible. I cannot wait for more live shows.

So get ahead of the curve, you guys. Go listen to it. So you're ready for when they go on to her again. Because your crowd interactions and the banter, I was blown away. It was like a stand-up show. It was kind of fun. It was pretty wild. It was hilarious.

There was one, you guys took like your listeners' writings at the end. And you, you really, with your show, you interact with your listeners week after week, which is amazing. You're building such a great community. But one of the people at the show wrote in and they were like, I worked at a quick service restaurant. And you and Drew both go so fast food. Yeah.

And she goes, it was Chipotle. Just say Chipotle. Who cares? Oh my God. It was so funny. It was, it was a great, great show. So check it out. And other than that, until next time.

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