Two Hot Takes - 113: Kinda Sorta Disrespectful? Ft. Fannita

Episode Date: May 4, 2023

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Fannita Leggett! This episode features stories that feel a little disrespectful.. or do they? Or and we even welcome a new segment with some missed connections! The giggles are abundant on this one, and as always.. can't wait to hear your takes on these crazy stories. Follow Fannita!!: https://www.tiktok.com/@fannita?lang=en Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036 Bonus Content on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes Watch our Iceland Travel Vlog!!! https://youtu.be/FISXcwnw49E Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: ZocDoc: zocdoc.com/THT Storyworth: Storyworth.com/THT NextEvo: NextEvo.com/THT Vessi: Click the link -> Vessi.com/THT and use code THT for 15% off your entire order! Free shipping to CA, US, AU,JP, TW, KR, SGP!

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I have a big ego, so. I can't say the same, but I do like the sound of my own voice now. We've been trying to get this going since like December. Yeah, since I see you at Drew's tour. Yeah, and then you got food poisoning. Yeah. I had a mental breakdown. Then I went on vacation.

So here we are after like four months of trying to get this going. Hi guys, welcome back to another episode of Two Hot Takes. Today I'm joined by Fanita. Oh my god, everybody stop cheering for me. Stop, it's just me. Hi guys, I'm Fanita, and I'm just sexy, stunning, gorgeous, funny, hilarious, charismatic, and every notable thing adjective in the book. I love it. If you look under Flawless in Webster, there's a picture of Fanita there.

Yeah, and they didn't get my permission to post that picture of me, but my lawyers would be contacting them. They better run you your check. Indeed. That stuff costs money. Or you will be getting a cease and assist. Yeah, you don't get those usage rates without paying. Exactly. And I say you gotta spend some money.

You scare money, don't make money. Oh my gosh, that concept is really new to me. You have to spend money to make money. And I'm such a frugal bitch. It pains me to spend money. I was in grad school for a lot of my time living in LA. And so I'd go out with my friends who've had real jobs for three years. I'm like poor.

I'm literally a food stamp card. Food stamps cards would be lit as fuck though. Hey, worked at Trader Joe's still. I didn't get me rotisserie chickens or flowers, which sucked, but it's okay. Or wine. Yeah, but I get it. But we'd go out and they'd be like, yeah, let's get like four bottles of champagne. And I'm like, I'm only ordering an order of fries.

And they'd be like, do you want to split it? Yeah, then they were like, let's all just split the check. That just makes it easy. No, it doesn't. First of all, let's, one more on the topic of splitting the check evenly. I'm not doing that. It makes no sense for us to split the bill evenly if we all order something different. However, comma, I can understand if we're all ordering apps and whatever, and we're

all sharing or whatever, splitting entrees. That's cool. But if I order chicken tenders and fries, I'm paying for chicken tenders and fries. I'm not splitting. I don't care who I have this in my $30 to, I'm not splitting a bill. Period. And they'll try to call you broke, but that's just stupid. I'm not wasting my money to feed your ass.

Yes, I'm not. Like y'all aren't going to keep getting over with that. I'm sorry. I got chicken strips. That's it. I'm out of the water. I'm just here for the vibes. Would you consider that a little disrespectful?

I wouldn't say it's, it's, it's disrespectful if I'm telling you I'm not splitting the bill. And then you're trying to call me like broke or like, well, if I need, if you ain't got to just say that, that's not, that's not what it is. It's never that. It's never that. It's just, why would I pay for you to eat? And also they'd be like, well, it's, it's like, it's like hard on the server to split the checks.

I've worked in like five or six restaurants. It's not hard. It's not hard to split the check. I was a server for seven years. A lot, like a decent amount of time. Yeah. It's not hard, especially if you tell them up front. Yeah.

If we're splitting, we're splitting the bill. Okay. Cool. And even if you don't tell me up front, I just, I always like marked it by a person, what they ordered. And then I went to the computer, opened up more checks and then, so it's not, it's not like the server is going to be, if you want to split the check. No, not at all.

So the theme I have for you today is, is it sort of kind of maybe a little disrespectful? So these are all stories, crazy across the board from a bunch of different subreddits. But the underlying theme I was finding between all of them is like, is this disrespectful or are these people just being a little crazy? Okay. I love Reddit stories, by the way. There's so much. The, the, the T is not on Twitter.

It's not on TikTok. The T is on Reddit. It's on Reddit these days, baby. I've seen, I've seen some, but I never read Reddit stories. Always like when I'm on TikTok, I watch like the subway server ones and they like read it to you out loud. And that's how I listen to the Reddit stories. Oh, with a little Minecraft guy?

Yeah. And then he's like, there's like playing a game of like subway server. And then like, well, am I an asshole for kicking out my three year old daughter? Yes, you are. Why aren't you listening to mine? Is it, is it like that? Yeah. My fault, twin.

Fuck you. My bad. I didn't know. Well, now you look as you're on it. Yeah, literally. Obviously I listen to everything that I want. Exactly. I'm so pretty and stunning.

I have to wipe my face. Oh my God. Okay. Well, based on how heated you got about the chicken strips, I know this is going to be a good fit for you. Okay. Okay. Let's dive in.

Give it to me raw. No condom. So we are starting off with something I've never done on this show ever and I know people are going to copy me after this. I'm sorry. I'm like crying right now. I'm just like, I laugh, cry and so like, I'm going to look like a little, I don't know, underwater drowned rat or something soon from all the tears.

A river rat, if you will. Yeah, a little white rat. So I've never done this before and I've been trying to like, I'm like, how am I going to shake it up? How am I going to shake it up? Because everyone's reading Reddit stories nowadays. You got the little fucking surfer dude channel you watch. So I'm like, how am I going to mix this up?

And then it came to me. Craigslist missed connections. Oh, I've had some weird shapey going down on Craigslist. Just wait. So I'm also doing a good deed as well because I'm shedding light on people that might not connect. Again, if it's not, you know, for me and you. So up first is titled on the Costco post titled on the Craigslist post is to the guy at Costco,

in Santa Clarita, to the suburban guy today at Costco wearing black shorts and flip flops and a gray shirt. I was trying hard not to look down at your package, but I couldn't resist. She just liked me for real. Wish I could follow back to your place and get down on my knees for you. Let me know if this is something you're interested in. That's so fucking real. She's so real for that.

My avenue to find this man wouldn't have been Craigslist, but I respect it. She shot her shot like she's trying and that package had to be huge. Think about it. He had to have a huge fucking dick. If she immediately went home and was like, let me get on fucking Craigslist so I can find this man. Like her first thought was like, I got a Craigslist this. How old do you have to be to go on Craigslist for a misconnection like that?

She's at least 46. Like a lot of our generation goes on TikTok and is like, I saw this guy and I love this him. We sat next to each other on this flight. TikTok, please find him. Yeah. I don't know about you, but I don't really know anybody that just spends their time scrolling on Craigslist.

No. Just me now. For this. Okay. So next one is titled, Natural Nature Boy Looking for a Natural Female, Glendale. Very natural nature boy with very hot bod, hung, and fun, looking for natural and fun female to show off my wares with, always hot, and love playing with fun natural women who enjoy pleasure and watching the natural show.

I'm sorry. They just got more strategies. You kept reading. What is natural codeword for? That's what we're trying to figure out. Oh my God. Okay. Next one.

Walking our dogs, West Hollywood. You and I were both walking our two dogs on Hollywood Boulevard. We chatted a bit. I am an older man and you are younger. You are wearing gray workout shorts. You are very handsome. We are neighbors. Would be fun if you wanted to get together for no strings attached.

If you're neighbors, why don't you just walk across the goddamn hall and be like, hey, you trying to fuck? I feel like it's a lot more weird to be posting it on Craigslist. Leave a note. Yeah. Or export a cup of sugar and then see if he sucks your dick. I don't know. That's the traditional way.

People still do that. Okay. This next one. Dinner friend at Dave and Buster's. Hey, looking for someone who might want to hang out and go to Dave and Buster sometime this week. I'm in town for a week for work and hate sitting in this hotel room doing nothing. So looking for a new lady friend to just go hang out and have some food at a fun place.

Simple and fun. I'm a slim black guy, 45, easy going from Las Vegas, but just here for work this week. I'm staying in El Segundo for the night and working in Santa Monica during the evenings and off at night, but on all day. So might have to be a late lunch on Friday if you're free. Might be moving here soon. So looking for a house if you know areas, please let me know what's good and not so good.

Interested. Hit me back. Let's talk. Is he looking for a date or a realtor? I think that Dave and Buster's was just bullshit. That was just a segue to be like, hey, y'all know any spots? I'm trying to move. Y'all know something's out on the low?

Like, it has nothing to do with David. And then we're from David Buster's to a late lunch to be like, actually, can we apartment hot? He's trying to just two birds one stone. Yeah, literally. I mean, that's smart though. Weird, but smart, I guess. Yeah.

So this one is titled The Woman at Whole Foods Sherman Oaks. You are middle-aged and short. And so am I. And I would like to know you if possible. You were at the Sherman Oaks Whole Foods Market around 5.30, and I kept passing you and wanted to say something, but never quite worked up the heart to do it since I had had a long day. I'd be surprised and pleased if you would respond to me here and now, or I will make

a point of being at Whole Foods again in Sherman Oaks a week from today. That is Sunday, April 30th, around 5.30, and maybe hang around till 6.30, just in case. Maybe we can have a friendship. Do these people think they're in a Colleen Hoover book? Like, what the fuck is going on? I will be at the train station at 6.30 waiting for you. Like, I hate older people because I know these are all from old people. Nobody our age is doing this.

Don't you kind of want to now though? Get on Craigslist. Like what? No, I don't. I don't want to get on Craigslist. Okay, I really, I stuck to the tame side of Craigslist. There are people looking for just quick dick sucks, three ways, Craigslist is actually crazy.

But then you also have to think about the people that are on Craigslist. Like the quality? Yeah, the quality is terrible. The quality has got to be awful. But I mean these old people, they don't know how to work Tinder. Maybe I should get on Craigslist and try to find a sugar daddy. I bet you could. I feel like Craigslist might be an avenue unturned.

That may be a stone I've never looked under. I will help you. I love this. This is the next episode. Can you find a sugar daddy on Craigslist? Yeah, let's make a YouTube video for it. Let's do it. This is going to be great.

I mean there's so many things. There's activity partners, relationship advice, sex advice, Craigslist got it all. But do you actually feel like these people like meet up? For sure. Yeah. Absolutely. Craigslist, you are insatiably horny. Wasn't there a Craigslist killer?

Wasn't there? I think there was. I literally think there was someone who killed people off Craigslist. Maybe I shouldn't find a sugar daddy on Craigslist. Craigslist killer. Oh my God, there is. Oh, oh wow. Philip Markoff.

Wow. Okay. This was in 2009. That makes sense. Jesus. Okay, now let's keep your ass off there. But I feel like back in the day, Craigslist was that girl. She was that girl.

I know. I got my first iPhone off Craigslist and I got scammed and it didn't work. Oh, I bought a locked one too. Yeah. Yeah. And it was like the cool, it was like the colored one, it was like the iPhone 5C, the best iPhone. Was it yellow?

Yeah. Oh, I always wanted that one. But then I got another one and it was pink, so I was even happier. So I was like, thank you for scamming me, you fucking weirdo. You scammed a 13 year old girl out of 200 bucks. Just a disrespectful rude asshole. That's what I'm saying. Like these people.

Like a kid. Oh, let's get into the Reddit stories now. Oh, I'm so excited for this. So these are some other old people that might piss you off, okay? This one is titled, Am I the asshole for not sharing my late son's life insurance with his girlfriend? My son, Eric, passed away in an accident in October of last year. He was 33.

He wasn't married, but he lived with his girlfriend, Emily, of only two years. She just turned 30. They purchased their home together in June of last year. The house was 525K and they put down 225K. They each paid half of the down payment and had been splitting the mortgage equally as well as all of the rest of their bills. She makes about 80K per year after taxes. The house mortgage is 1775 per month.

My son has a life insurance policy that paid out 750K. About six months before he passed, my son mentioned that he was thinking about proposing, but it would be a few years before they actually married. In a later conversation, he mentioned plans to update his life insurance because he wouldn't want to leave a wife with nothing. That's all that was ever said about it. Obviously, he passed before he ever decided to propose. This means the entire life insurance went to me and my wife.

My wife and I are both in our late 50s. We usually do okay financially, but losing our son has completely shaken our worlds, and we've been taking some time off of work to process and grieve. This money will allow us to pay off the rest of our mortgage, take stress off of our lives while we grieve, and hopefully retire a couple of years earlier than we intended. We both have medical struggles, so this is a big deal. Our other son, Mike, came over for dinner yesterday, and we mentioned that we received his life insurance payout.

He went quiet for a minute and asked how much we're going to give Emily. We explained that we have good intentions to use the money to make our lives easier going forward. This is why our son left it to us. To help out should anything tragic happen. Later, way after he left, Mike said he understands that we're grieving but we're selfish and narcissistic for not considering how tough this is for Emily and not even helping her by giving her enough to pay off his share of the house, if not the whole mortgage.

He said we're kidding ourselves if we think Eric would have wanted this. I've tried to keep my emotions out of it and stick to the facts. All of us, my wife, son, rest of the family, and Emily are absolutely devastated by Eric's passing. I don't want people to think I'm heartless. So am I the asshole? Fuck Emily. Fucker.

They were only dating for two years. What if you were Emily in this situation? That's his life. Let me elaborate. I'm going to fight you on this one. Let me elaborate. Here's my thing. I can understand they should give Emily at least a little bit of the money.

A little? Not all. It is $700,000. That is a lot of money. That's a shit ton. At least pay off his share of the house. That would be fair. But I mean, fuck it.

And fuck her. That's what I would do personally. But I mean, they're only dating for two years. Fuck her. But what if he had a ring already in the sock drawer? He was planning on proposing. Two years, if you're with someone two years, you know where you're at. You know you've already talked about getting married.

If he was already 33 and hadn't proposed to her and he said they wouldn't get married for another few years, he was never going to marry that girl. Listen, I feel like when you hit your 30s, after the year that they were dating, I feel like once you're 30, all right, bet. Is it us? You know what I'm saying? We should get married because we're only getting fucking older. You know what I mean?

If he hadn't proposed to her by that time, Emily was going to be in a 10-year relationship with a girl friend. I'm sorry. Also, change your life insurance policy right away. You guys bought a house together. Yeah, that's on him. That's unfortunately on him. I do appreciate the brother sticking up for her and being like, that's not what Eric

would have wanted because that's the reality. It's like, what would he have wanted? Sure enough, wouldn't have wanted his dad to just hoard all the fucking money. But at the end of the day, man, what can you really do? Emily, I'm sorry, girl. Sorry for your loss, but that's his raps. You can't really do anything. Legally.

Legally, you're just kind of set out of luck. I feel like morally for me, if I had a son and my son really loved his girlfriend and my son passed away, my son left me the life insurance, I would give my almost daughter-in-law some of the money. I feel like at that point, if she'd been around my family for two years, I'd probably love her like a daughter. Yeah, I think this person's the asshole. Yeah.

But $750K is insane money. That's life-changing money. And then also, you're already 50. What the fuck are you going to do with $750K? They're going to die with money in the bank. Yeah. And even if they didn't, if they wanted to spend it all, they can give Emily whatever his half to pay off the house would be.

And then if you invest for 10 years, and if you buy your self-life insurance for 10 years, and you don't use it and you cash it out at the end, you're just fine. Well, you can cash out life insurance without dying. Yeah. A lot of people do it. If you don't have a life insurance policy now, you should get one. I'm getting one. That's crazy.

Yeah. So if you don't die, you can always cash it out. I did not know that. Depending on the policy. But yeah. Yeah. It's a thing. I did not know that.

See, this is like rich people scams that I just learned recently. Take talk. And so you can take out multiple life insurance plans, right? You know, that's why I need to get into that. I need to get into the 1%, man, because there's so many things that I just don't know. Like I didn't know you could do that. I thought you could only get your life insurance if you like pass away. No, there's fucking hacks.

So OP did have a lot of comments on here. The top vote is you're the asshole. Okay. So you're kind of going against the grain. I feel good about my decision over here. But top comment is Eric's half of the house would be 150K. There may be other debts that he shared with Emily that he left behind. So let's round the number up to an even 200K.

That's a very generous estimate. So doing right by Emily would cost you 200K. You received 750K. It should be a no-brainer to do the right thing by Emily. You know it's what your son would have wanted. You still walk with 550K. And now you know Emily is not in a difficult situation financially. If 550K isn't enough for you that you still need to grasp at that last 200K

and leave the woman your son wanted to marry in a bad situation, you need to have a look in the mirror. You're the asshole. That's tea. But greed is evil, man. I know. Well, and his username is grieving dad. Like, I mean, they're going through it.

Like they lost their kid. But I feel like losing your kid is no excuse to be like a greedy bastard. Are you switching sides? I elaborated. I said that morally I would have given Emily some of the money. But at the end of the day, fuck her. Because I mean fuck her. But at the end of the day, morally I would have given her some of the money.

I would too. There is another comment that really made me not like our OP. So someone goes, no assholes here. Based off the information given, it sounds like she got his portion of the house after his death. Basically meaning she's up about 125K plus whatever he paid on the monthly mortgage. So it's not like she was left with nothing. Plus, if your son wanted her to be the beneficiary, he would have. Even though it sounds highly unlikely a 33 year old not married and no kids have such a high insurance policy.

But okay. And someone comments it after and goes, based on what's in the OP, I read that she got the mortgage payments and that OP's next of kin, like OP's son, AKA next of kin, got half the house. I don't see anything about a separate pay off the mortgage life insurance policy. The OP is about a life insurance. What isn't mentioned is what is happening to the son's portion of the house and how that is passing through probate. So they're basically talking about like, no, no, no backup.

Like it's not guaranteed his half of the house is even hers. So people are starting to question like, wait, do the parents get his half of that house too? Oh, that's fucked. That would be really fucked up. So OP, the writer actually comments and goes, the title to the house has them listed as joint tenants with rights of survivorship. My wife and I looked into it not too long ago because we weren't sure who technically owned his half of house, Emily or his next of kin. Emily owns the house.

Thank God. Emily gets a W. Big Dubs for Emily. Big Dubs. The fact that he looked into it though, makes me believe he was trying to take the half of the house. Yeah. I feel like if you, if your son died, his girlfriend is living in the house and you were like, let me just see who owns it. That's insane.

Like that's crazy. Like he had full intentions of taking that half of the house. Absolutely. There's no doubt in my mind. He's so scummy. He's going to take the whole life insurance and go back for him. Yeah. Okay.

Now that I have that context, you are an asshole for that. Cause there's no way you just casually like, I wonder who owns the house. Like, let me just go check really quick to see. Now you're planning on, you're planning on pulling the rug out of Emily. Yeah. And also, what's the beef with Emily? What did Emily do? Well, and like, I know it's only two years, but like some people get married after six months.

That is true. Their relationship could be like, oh, we know we're spending our life together. So like, it doesn't really, a piece of paper doesn't change it. Like we'll do it when we're ready. Like we spend all of our money on this house. So maybe they can't afford a marriage, like a big ass wedding right now. So they're like, Hey, you know what? We have our house together.

We're living our life. Like we're good. And then for him to just be like the son told him, I'm going to propose and I need to change my life insurance. That is true. Like the son, he already knew the intention. And you know what I hate? I hate what he does.

Like this is not what they would have wanted. Bro, you know exactly what they wanted. You're doing the complete opposite. Yeah. You're actually sinister. Sinister. A little disrespectful to the son's wishes. Okay.

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That's Z-O-C-D-O-C dot com slash THT. ZockDock dot com slash THT. Are you ready? Yeah. How do you feel about babies? I love babies. Really? I do.

I love kids. Okay. Kids love me. What do you do? I'm like, they like me, but I'm really scared of them. Why? They're just such powerful little beans and you never know what's going to come out of their mouth.

And they're strong as fuck. They are scrappy. Like babies are like insanely strong. I personally like love kids. I don't know if I want to have any, but I do love them. And I don't know, I feel like being around kids, like they're shaping like little America and like they're so smart and they're just like little sponges. They're so cute.

And then like, they're just like, I don't know, kids are adorable. They're dirty and stinky and annoying though, but I love kids. Did you see that TikTok of the guy yelling at the baby on a plane? Did she pay extra to fucking you? That was funny. That was mad funny. That guy was, I've never seen someone so unhinged. I've never seen somebody that mad at a kid, but I will say I was on my flight back from

vacation and there was like a lot of kids on the flight and they were being like mad annoying. Like I was asleep because I hate having like headphones on. So I was asleep without my headphones and then like the baby would like, it wasn't even a baby. It was, it was like a seven year old boy. He was just being like annoying as fuck. So I had to like, I dramatically like put on my headphones and like looking at his parents like set, put a mullet on them.

Like Jesus. A mullet? What's it called? A muzzle. A muzzle. Put a muzzle on them. Some people would think that that is necessary for a lot of kids, especially those Disneyland flights, man.

Bro, I also, I just feel like some parents, this is no shakes. I know it's hard being a parent, you know what I mean? I'm not a parent. I'm not going to talk too much shit, but a lot of y'all just don't discipline your kids. Like, and I'm not even saying that you have to whip your kids. I don't believe in like physical discipline for children, but a lot of kids, like, especially like now they have no like, no decorum.

No, I saw like some lady at Costco, like get her ass kicked by a kid, just like screaming and punching her. And I'm just like, there's got to be, there's got to be something and a gentle parenting is big, but I'm like, I mean, there's got to be something where it's like, dude, I don't know, you don't get a toy, like, or get him an ice cream cone. So he shuts up. Like, I don't know. I don't know the solution.

And then also, I just feel like, I think this is more so with gentle parenting. And I actually like love gentle parenting. Yeah. Cause it's, it's not like, it's like authoritative parent. Yeah. And it's like, and also I just don't like people hitting kids. No. If you want to slap another grown adult, if you want to like cuss out your boss for not

giving you a day off work, you shouldn't be cussing at a kid or hitting a kid. Yeah. You know what I mean? I do feel like sometimes it's just like, they like love their kids so much. And they don't want to ever be like their kids bad side, which that doesn't fucking exist. Like your kid is always going to love you. Yeah. You know what I mean?

And they just kind of like their kids, like just do whatever. I mean, I got a wooden spoon on my ass and I still love my mom, but was it unnecessary? Absolutely. Yeah. I will not do that to my kids. Yeah. But okay. Now that we prefaced it.

This next one. Am I the asshole for bringing my baby to a restaurant? I saw. That's the whole title. Yeah. Okay. I saw a similar post here recently and assumed it was fake because surely stuff like this doesn't happen in real life until it happened to me yesterday.

I 30 female have a three month old baby. Yesterday I went out to lunch with my husband and some friends and brought the baby along. The restaurant was a trendy gastropub type place. Think 15 to $20 burgers in a high cost of living area. We've eaten here a couple of times a month for the past six years and there are often families with kids here. So it's not like we took the baby to a kid free environment. We were seated on the outdoor patio for the first 30 minutes or so of us being there.

The baby sat on my lap making quiet baby noises at one point. He started a fuss. So I got up to take him away from the restaurant to calm him down because I know people are going to ask this is exactly what happened. One, baby starts to fuss. Two, I stood up and grabbed a pacifier and blink it out of my bag. Three, baby started crying about halfway between the table and patio exit. Had what happened next not happened.

The baby would have been crying in the restaurant for no more than 20 seconds as I'm exiting the patio. Someone from another table called out to get my attention thinking he was trying to tell me that I had dropped something. I started looking at the floor around me. He yelled again to get my attention and said something to the effect of no one wants to hear your baby. You're not fucking special.

I'm not a confrontational person. So I just turned around and left. Once the baby had calmed down, I came back in the restaurant. The man tried to get my attention again, but I just walked past him and ignored him. The baby didn't fuss for the rest of the meal, but we got dirty looks from the man and his date until they left. I ran this by some of my mom friends and they're split. Some say he was an ass.

Some say that I shouldn't have taken the baby out until he was older. And some say that they don't take their kids out to eat at all because it's rude to other people. I'm looking for a wider variety of options here. So am I the asshole? Absolutely fucking not. You're not the asshole for taking your baby to a restaurant. And also what happened to just saying, fuck you, shut the fuck up.

If her husband was at that dinner, he should have got the fuck up and beat the fuck out of the dude that was talking shit to her. Because what are you, what? You're yelling at me because my baby's crying. Like we would have been in that big scrapping. I would have not left without a fist fight. Because like that's so like, I feel like people forget that babies are humans. Babies are people.

They are individuals. Babies are allowed to go places. Babies are fucking annoying. 100%. I hate being around kids for long periods of time too. But I'm never going to yell it out. In the baby's three months old, she's like a new mother. Little, yeah.

I'm not going to yell at a mom that's clearly getting up to take the baby out to calm him down. And frankly, it's just not that fucking serious. You're not at like STK. On an outdoor patio. You're on an outdoor patio where there's cigarette smoke in the burgers. Like what are you talking about? People's dogs are more disruptive.

Let's really fucking talk about it. People complain about dog, like babies, y'all bring your dogs everywhere. Let's talk about bringing dogs into the restaurant. It's crazy in LA. It's crazy out here. I went to the Cheesecake Factory, you know, high class establishment. Yeah, I love it. You know, everybody, frequency.

We were dining in. Dining in. Was it at the Grove? Uh, no, it wasn't the one at the Grove. It was a different one. Dining in, you know what I'm saying? I'm having a great time. In walks a big ass pit bull and just sits at the table next to me.

Why is there a pit bull in Cheesecake Factory? Y'all won't get mad at that because y'all, y'all are just, the pet people are weird. Like the people who love pets more than people, y'all are strange. And I don't like y'all. Like y'all scared the living daylight side of me. What do you mean? If there's 20 babies burning in a, in a chihuahua, you're saving the dog. What?

Like I don't trust y'all as far as I can throw y'all, but having your baby in a restaurant out on a family gathering, what the fuck are you supposed to do with the baby? Like. Well, and like how many people would sit at the table and just like bounce versus she got up and walked away. Like she went where she didn't even need to do that really. And was even a nicer person in this situation. And the fact that she's trying to take the baby out clearly.

Can't the guy see with his own two eyes? Like she's trying to do you a favor. Shut the fuck up. You're delaying. You're delaying. You're listening to more crying by not keeping your fucking mouth shut. Like if you've ever been around a child, like babies will like hoop and holler for like four minutes max.

Like once they're, once they're calm, they're chilling. They want something at that age. Like it either has to hungry. He's wet. Yeah. It's something. Yeah. And she was literally anyways, you're a fucking loser for yelling at a mom and her baby about

her baby crying. Yeah. Top comment is clear, not the asshole. You can take your baby places. It's not radioactive. I think we forget that sometimes though. Like in the plane video is kind of the perfect example where I think there's this like entitlement right now where like you are so entitled to public spaces that you feel that you shouldn't

have to deal with babies crying. And then it's also like that FTK like fucking kids type shit. Yeah. But like kids are still human beings and they deserve to be going places too. That's the thing too. Where it's like some of the moms telling her like, I don't take my kids anywhere. What? How is your kid going to have social etiquette when they're out?

You're creating a monster by not taking your kid out and socializing them. Yeah. Let's be real. Come on. Because the homeschool kids, they always be a little. No, I just talked to someone that was homeschooled and they said like I felt so socially stunted for so long. Yeah.

And it's that much harder making friends now. Yeah. So take your fucking kids out. This is not. Yeah. There's nothing wrong with taking your friends out if you're going to fucking dinner. No. Not in a place like this.

Yeah. Yeah. That girl is better than me because I would have slapped the fuck out of that dude for talking to me crazy. I like am not confrontational until someone provokes me and then I go like a little off the rocker. So I would have definitely like stood there and like, as long as he's not going to punch me or the baby, but like, like, are you fucking kidding me?

Also to the girl that was on the date with the dude that was talking shit. Run. If you slept with that man, you need to question, you need to look in the mirror. Run. This is the biggest red flag I've ever seen. It's very scary. It's a baby dude. Like a baby is crazy.

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I have a full-time job and she works part-time. I'll answer more questions if needed. I'm a terrible cook. I don't like it at all, and every time I try to cook something, it tastes awful. So my girlfriend cooks most of our meals. To be honest, also, I don't do many of the household chores. It's not that I want my girlfriend to do everything on her own, but I was living with my mom before moving out, and she used to do everything.

I do other stuff, and I do chores when asked. This is a small issue between us, but not as big. Yesterday, I came back from work, around eight, and my girlfriend was cooking for us. We had dinner, and then she was washing the dishes. We were chatting while she cleaned. Then I went to hug her while she was putting everything on place, the seasonings and that kind of stuff. By this time, it was like an hour later.

I was trying to hug her and kiss her, but she was like, leave me alone a sec and moving away. She wasn't angry, she was just busy. Then I let her go and tell her something like, quote, why are you so cold in a whiny voice? I was trying to be funny. She then snapped, quote, why are you so high maintenance? I was kind of shocked by her tone. I thought she was joking, and I said, you're for real?

And she said, yeah, I love you, but you're high maintenance. Sometimes I can't with you. Then I got upset, and I told her, I'll leave her alone and left to the bedroom. Around maybe 15 minutes later, she comes in and was trying to talk to me, but I was kind of ignoring her and giving her short answers because I didn't want to talk to her. She asked me what was going on, and I told her that we were joking around until she started saying stuff that hurt. She then went off on me.

She told me, I never help, or if I do, she has to tell me what to do. She says she feels like she's my mom sometimes. We argued, and now we're in a tight spot. Here's my hot take. Let's hear it. I feel like there's nothing wrong with being high maintenance, and there's nothing wrong with like lacking a particular lifestyle, but I feel like if you're going to be a high maintenance man, first of all, that's a little weird.

Okay, that's a little strange, but I feel like if you're going to be high maintenance and not do anything around the house, have money to expense that. You know what I mean? Just so your girlfriend's not cleaning the house, hire a cleaner to come once a week or order food or whatever, just don't make her slave pretty much with nothing in return because that would get annoying, that would get very aggravating, but I feel like if you're making enough money and you want to be high maintenance, that's cool, but just make sure you're taking a little bit of the load off, but if you call you high maintenance

and you actually are high maintenance, you're kind of an asshole for getting mad. Yeah, no, I would not put up with this. This is break up worthy for me, and him being like, well, I lived with my mom, so I didn't learn how to do anything. I hate mommas boys, bro. I can't. I literally can't with them, and the enmeshment and the mom's raising some of the... What's it called?

The incest, what's it called, the incestual behavior between moms and sons? Enmeshment. Yeah, I literally can't stand it when moms treat their sons as a partner. That's not normal. But you know the reason I think that is, I think moms who are incestual with their sons is because their whole lives, they've been fucked over by men, and their son is the only man in their life that's ever loved them unconditionally, so they see their sons as partners, and like, oh my God, I'm gonna do everything for my son, because that's like

their man. Yeah, they raise their sons to be the perfect partner. And then when they move on or get in a relationship, they're mad that they don't get to reap the benefits. It's like this whole thing. That's why they always hate the girlfriends and the wives and whatever. If you ever run into a mommas boy, just run. He's always gonna pick his mom over you, first of all.

He's never gonna put you first. It's always gonna be his mom over you, so don't even waste your time with it. It's a really hard dynamic to work through. Yeah, it is, and it's fucking weird. It's tough. It's really tough. Like, if you're 45 saying like, well, I don't wanna eat here because my mom doesn't like this, she doesn't like for me to do this, like, what?

And it's like, okay, yeah, well, your mom used to do that for you, but now you live with your partner. And you're a grown ass man. You're 24. Like, it's time to grow up and learn some household tasks, and it's like, do you think your partner likes doing all that? No. Who likes cleaning and cooking all fucking day?

No one. No one. Like, I hate cooking. I hate cleaning. You saw my fucking house. Look at this place. Look at it. It's like, it is hard to clean, especially when you're busy.

Yeah, I hate cooking and I also hate cleaning, but that's why I outsource. Yeah. No, I'm getting someone in here because like, the floors need to be a little mopped. But it's just like, dude, grow up. Grow up. You are high maintenance. And then to be, she called me high maintenance. You are high maintenance.

Are you fifth? Like, how old are you? Also, like, I have been called a lot of things, never been called high maintenance, but I've been called high. Like, somebody calling me high maintenance wouldn't offend me at all. No. Because I don't feel like being called high maintenance is an insult. I feel like for me, I look at high maintenance more as like, am I high maintenance or do

I just have standards? Precisely. Like, I want my hair to look nice. I want my nails to look good. I think women in particular that care about their parents and care about their clothing and just like, the upkeep of looking presentable, they get called high maintenance is like a derogatory thing, but I don't think it's bad to be high maintenance. Like, you got standards.

That's fine. I can look after myself? Yeah. Okay. High maintenance. Cool. I like getting waxed. It's not the wrong one.

That's not high maintenance. Self care, baby. I feel like just, anyway, you're then asked over getting mad that she called you high maintenance. That's actually very weak and I need you to pull your fucking panties up and grip your goddamn balls. And learn how to do a dish. Yeah.

Pull out the vacuum. It's time. It's your 24. It's time. And then it's also like, how long is this anyways? Well, and it's like, it's, it's like, well, she says I always do it wrong or whatever he said. And it's like, well, it's not that hard.

And then I wonder, have you heard about weaponized incompetence? Yes. That's what it kind of feels like sometimes with dudes. Well, I don't do it right. You know, you just, you should just do it because I do it wrong every time anyway, you know, you don't like it when I do it, like, oh my God. Or like, I'll get asked a question where I'm like, why are you asking me this question? You're the one that taught me how to do it.

Yeah. Come on. No, no, no. And I'm like, if you wanted to call and hear my voice, just say that. Say that. Yeah. Like if you want to talk as you're at the grocery store and just like catch up, like we can do that, but like you don't need to ask me like, oh, there's no lettuce.

What do I do? I don't know. Make an executive decision. It's okay. It's okay. I'll be fine with whatever you choose. Like it's just like, you don't realize how sometimes where it might be a simple task where you're like, I would just like, like my partner's input, but for people that already

have so much on their plate to get asked a question where it's like, you are so capable of dealing with it. Yeah. You're doing the labor, but you're still making me do the, like the planning, like more of the emotional work. I just saw something on this where this wife was like going out of town for a couple days. And so in order to like prepare her husband to do it right, she packed the kids lunches for the week.

She packed their backpacks and their clothes so that he could drop them off at his mom's house. And it's like, she's still doing all the work. Yeah. She's not even there and she's still doing the work. And then also it's insane. Like what do you mean you packed your kids's lunch a week in advance, like where the kids is not going to eat.

They like got left home with their dad, like they weren't going to have lunch. I think that's what it seems like. What kind of parent are you? Also I sometimes I feel bad for mothers because I feel like a lot of times like their whole fucking identity gets erased as soon as they have a kid. Like they're not like Chelsea, they're like, Oh, that's Eric's mom. You know what I mean? And it's so sick to see.

I've never, yeah. Like once you become a mom, that's your entire identity. And I feel like that's why like a lot of moms like go through like postpartum and or just like depressed because like they don't have an identity. Like they can't work anymore because they have to like stay home with the kids. Like they can't do anything that doesn't involve the kids. Like the husband's just like, Oh my God, I love you. You're such a great mother.

They're not. I love you. You're such a great partner. You know what I mean? So like once you have kids like. Like you have to be very selective with who you have kids with. And sometimes you don't know until they lock you down and then that's when like abusive tendencies can come out.

So like obviously like you can only do your best. But if I don't have someone that's willing to like take up 50% of the burden with me, I don't want a kid with you. I don't want a life with you. No, like I can be single and do everything on my own. I don't need your weight pulling me down. And then also if you're not being in addition, what's the point of you being here? Like I, there's no point for you.

If you're not going to pull your own weight, there's no point for you to be here because I'm like independent. So like I don't really need like somebody is riding my coattails. You're proving I can do it all on my own anyways. Yeah, exactly. Like I'm good dude. I'm good. Okay.

Moving along. This next one is titled, Am I the asshole for disrespecting my partner's culture by calling pasta noodles? Italians are so irritating. Pretty much the title. My partner, male 23 said I, female 20 disrespect his Italian heritage slash culture because I call pasta noodles instead of pasta. I'd understand if I was purposefully mispronouncing the dishes themselves, but I'm not I'd even

understand if they were used almost exclusively in Italian culture, but they aren't I've had slash have Italian friends even knew someone straight from Italy and no one's ever said anything about me calling them noodles. So I don't understand why it's such a big deal, but he gets pretty upset. So I feel like I might be the asshole, but at the same time, if part of me feels like he's overreacting, am I the asshole? I feel like eventually that man is going to hit you. I just feel like that's something so minuscule to get like mad about like I feel like that's

like telling of something. I don't know what, because I don't know your man, but I feel like there's some underlying something going on and I feel like you should break up with him. Like, I don't know. I feel like he's getting mad over that you should leave because that's something so weird to be mad about. And then also like Italian culture. Can we like?

What? It doesn't even like say it's not like he's from Italy, he's from like the Bronx. It's like it's giving like I'm 15% Italian. Like I did my ancestry DNA and I realized I'm 15% Italian. So like respect my heritage. And it's like blonde eyes, like blonde blue eyes. Like I'm not white. I'm Italian.

Yeah. Like. Okay. And then like she said in the thing, like y'all aren't the only people that eat noodles. Everybody eats noodles. So many cultures have noodles. And then also I love pasta like yum, one of my favorite foods. But anytime I talk about it, I don't ever really call it pasta.

I'm like, oh, I like pasta, but I'm like, I like spaghetti, like fettuccine, like, you know what I mean? I'm more call it by the noodle type now that I think about it. Yeah. I do that too. I love spaghetti a little lasagna. I don't really just call it like pasta. No.

I think about when I go to the store too, I'm like, oh, we need some spaghetti noodles. We need some egg noodles. Yeah. Like I don't, huh. Yeah. I don't think I say pasta either. I don't know anybody that like calls it like, cause like pasta, I feel like pasta is an umbrella term.

Yeah. Cause there's so many things that are considered pasta. So I feel like nobody's just calling it pasta. He's just, he's an asshole. Yeah. He's just a dick. You're with a bitch. He's just a bitch.

Uh, yeah. Top comment on this one, not the asshole. I'm an actual Italian from Italy, and I hereby grant you official permission on behalf of the whole Italian population to call pasta, whatever the hell you want. And to tell your partner that he's a pretentious scasa manchia e de mestre, e di smetter alla di rompia, e cojoni. First of all, the OP, the OP's man does not speak Italian. He's going to think whatever the fuck that is is Spanish.

He's not a real Italian. He doesn't know what you're talking about. Someone else down goes, this guy is a whole marinara flag. Red flag. I looked at his flag, I was like, okay, I'm lost. Where are you from? Are you from the Midwest? Yeah.

I can tell. Minnesota. You sound like it. So something I was going to say is when I first moved out to LA, in Minnesota we say big. Like big? No. Bag.

Oh, wow. That's bad. Hey, can I get a bag? Because I got made fun of so much when I first moved here. This is the last thing on my head. No, you're good. Chuck them. So I got made fun of so much when I first moved here.

I changed a lot of what I say. So I say bag now, like, oh, can I get a bag? Because I would be at the grocery store and I'd be like, hey, yeah, can I get a bag? And they'd look at me like I was saying something totally different. They had no idea. And you didn't even have it. You were like, what's that? Big?

You didn't even know. When I first moved to my college or whatever, because I'm from the South and from Alabama, and I used to say water. Yeah. Can I get some water? Yeah. And then somebody was like, what the fuck? Did you just say enemy?

Like, you say it W-U-D-E-I. Like, water. Yeah. And then he was like, you mean water? And so I've never said it like that ever since because I was embarrassed. Oh. See? It's just, it hurts the heart a little.

It really does. I say soda too. Or no, no, no. I don't say soda. Pop. I say pop instead of soda. That just doesn't really make sense, but OK. It's so cute.

Can I get a pop? Yeah. Because the full name is soda pop. So I just say the second part instead of the first part. You win this round. It's cute. You win this one. Another one of this week's partners is Next Evo.

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Once 20% off, $40 or more at NEXTEVO.com slash THT. Have you ever been scared when you've stated at Airbnb that there's going to be cameras in it? Yes. This is a big fear mind lately. And especially because like Airbnb owners are literally like, I don't know fucking cyborus from hell. Like Airbnb owners are the- What's up with the cleaning fees?

And then, you know what'd be pissing me off about Airbnb's? You have to clean yourself? They want you- What the fuck is like, like riddle me this? What the fuck is the point of me cleaning up after myself if there's a cleaning fee? Like, okay, I get not like fucking trash in the place, but why would I throw away the piece of box that's on like the counter if I'm paying $300 for you to supposedly have a cleaner come through here? Why do I have to wash all of my own sheets and towels after I'm done?

Why do I have to take the sheets off the bed once I'm checking out? Like, do I look like I'm not a hotel service? Like what? Do I have to take my trash in my car on a two-hour road trip back home because you don't have a fucking pickup service? Yes! That's crazy. Like, what do you mean there's no trash can available?

We spent three grand for the weekend, baby. You're- Yeah, what? I'm gonna leave the shit on your doorstep. You're not taking the trash? Like, what? And then they'll always like, as soon as you like check out everything smooth, there's always- Actually, um, I think there's like a fork missing. A fork?

Go to IKEA and get another pack. I think that'll be like $50 charge. I don't know. Airbnb hosts are just evil to me. They're another greed. I had a fucking weird one. I was in Miami with my friends as a big friend group. We had a house.

The house we got got. The house was not what it looked like on Airbnb. You got catfish by house? Yes. Here's the kicker. Ugh. The owner meets us at the house. I had never had that happen before.

We're all in the living room. The owner is like talking about like the rules, giving us the rundown, and I'm like, why the fuck are you here? Like, we're all like looking confused. Is that legal? I don't know. Can they do that? Anyway, so he's like, at the time, I think I was like 21.

I think I was 21 or 22. Yeah. I think I was 22. And I booked Airbnb. And so we were there. Mind you, Airbnb has like your license, all that on that. He was like, oh, Phineida, by the way, how old are you? And I was like 21.

He was like, oh, you're supposed to be like 25 to book this place. I said, well, isn't that a you problem? What the fuck does that have to do with me? It's not on me. So he was like, all right, I'll just come out tomorrow with like another contract. And then we'll be squared away. And I was like, what? So then this is this is insane.

This is the next day. I'm butt booty naked. Me and my best friend are getting ready. There are also, there are a lot of girls on this trip. There's like a girl is like, like two boys on the trip. Oh gosh. And everybody's getting dressed because we're about to go out to the club, whatever. Everybody's like in towels, whatever.

And I guess he was like watching the camera because he was texting me like trying to get in. And I was obviously ignoring it because I was like, bro, we're about to get around. I'm not, I'm not about to deal with this. This man just walks in the house. I hope you got your money back. Fuck no, we didn't. Yeah.

No. Oh my God. I would have been like, oh. He walks into the house and he's like, where's Fanita? And then they're like, I think she's like getting ready. That's so inappropriate. What? And we had like so many women in the house.

That's, well, and that's where you start to like fear for your safety. You're like, what is this guy doing? Like, is he trying to sex traffic all of us? Like what the fuck is going on? Yeah. Like that was insane. That's, that's really weird. Yeah.

And then like, I think my friend tried to get his money back on Airbnb, but you know, Airbnb, they also suck. They're little crooks, little crooks. Well, so this, I'm just not even going to preface it. You're going to see. Okay. This next one is titled, am I the asshole for covering up cameras in the living room, bedroom and bathroom in my husband's family's home?

Yeah. I recently got married and we've recently moved into my husband's family's home. It's a big house on a farm in the middle of nowhere. It's beautiful, but slightly creepy because of how old and run down and secluded it is. The people who live in this house are myself, female 24, my husband, John, male 37. Well, that age gap is a little. I don't like that. I don't like that age gap at all.

My brother-in-law, male 38, and his wife, female 25. I'm saying 38, 38 and 25 and 37 and 24 runs in the family. Same age gap. My other brother is in law, male 42 and male 26 and my father-in-law, male 60. I'm a stay-at-home wife, hopefully mother soon. We're trying and my sister-in-law and I are responsible for the house while the guys work on the farm. It's a very traditional family, something I wasn't quite used to. Within a few days, I noticed that the house, including our bedroom, living room and bathroom, had cameras installed.

It made me extremely uncomfortable and I confronted my husband about this. He told me it's for safety and not to worry about it. I questioned cameras in the bathroom and he said those were just fakes and to drop the subject. Oh. I did because his tone told me he didn't want to discuss it any further. But the cameras kept bugging me and after a few days, I covered them up. I felt weird being under constant camera presences. When my husband got home, he asked me to come to our bedroom and he was furious.

He started shouting at me that I had no right to change anything in his family's home. He said he already told me to ignore the cameras. I questioned the cameras again and explained how they made me feel, but he asked me if I didn't trust him. I said that I trusted him. He asked if I trusted his family. I said that I did. Then he said, see, there's no problem then. Only family has access to these cameras.

I tried telling him that it wasn't better, but he told me to not touch the cameras again and to stop being a problem. Uh-oh. The next morning, no one would talk to me, including my sister-in-law. When we were alone, she told me to stop making a mess and that she can't talk to me as that's punishment for being disrespectful. She told me to stop being an asshole and listen to John and not get her involved in my marital problems. I don't think I was being an asshole. I only tried to express my feelings and that this made me feel uncomfortable. But everyone in the house thinks I'm in the wrong and I'm confused.

Am I really the asshole for covering up the cameras? Girl, get the fuck out of that house now. Run, run, run. Get the fuck out of the house. First of all, how are you even convinced to move to a farm in the middle of nowhere? Also, if you're in the middle of nowhere and it's super secluded, why are there cameras at all? And then also, why are you just about... There's too many men in that house.

It's all dudes. It's all dudes in your sister-in-law and clearly your sister-in-law sees behind any lies. Like, you still got a chance to get the fuck out of there. Yeah. They're doing some weird stuff in the house. What are they doing with that footage? Also, if the camera in the bathroom was fake, why are you mad? I'm covering it up. Why is there a camera in the bathroom, period?

First of all, if all of y'all are related and all of y'all are family besides the two wives, why would there need to be cameras at all? They're fucking doing some freaky shit with the footage, looking at the wives and doing some fucking weird shit. Selling it online. Yeah, they're doing something fucking weird and you need to get out of that house and file for divorce. I could never be convinced to move to a fucking farm. No. Also, the fact that they're punishing her too, this is giving cult.

I was about to say that. It's giving cult. It's giving cult for sure. And I had some girls on recently who are cult experts. They have a podcast on it. And there's certain rules where if a member misbehaves, they can be ostracized and not communicating is one of those punishments, which is exactly what they're doing. They're trying to punish her. They're all ignoring her, making her think she was wrong.

They're gaslighting her. And his language where he's like, do you not trust me? Do you not trust my family? No, I don't. Well, why is he? It feels so abusive. The AIDS gap thing, like she's being like, they're controlling you and you need to free yourself. This is really, really scary. That's really bad and really scary.

And I hope that you're safe. The top comment did pick up on the cult thing, luckily. So the top comment with 12,000 upvotes says, you have moved into a cult compound. And if you're smart, you'll stop trying to have a cult baby or you will never be rid of these people. Note also the huge age difference between husbands and wives. They look for younger, less experienced women who, like you, question yourself more easily than people who have seen this shit before. Run away, not the asshole.

Okay, so we're all on the grants. Yeah, you got to get the hell out. You got to get out now. You got to pack a bag, get your Honda Civic and scoot. I wonder if the cameras are there, though, to make sure they don't leave. I think the cameras are there for numerous reasons. One, to keep tabs on everybody and what everybody's doing. Two, probably to get footage of those girls naked or whatever the fuck they're doing.

And three, making sure that nobody crosses. And then also, like, if the cameras have audio, they're hearing everything, too. Yeah. So, like, they'll know if you're trying to, like, form a cooth and get out. Also, they're trying for a baby. There's cameras in their bedroom. Yeah, this is some sick shit going on. I'm not going to lie.

I'm like, I didn't, I didn't know how bad this one was. I thought it was just going to be a little tamer than this. I didn't read it. Yeah, I need, I need you to escape. Yeah, call the police or something, man. I don't know. I feel like that's like the plot of a lifetime movie. That's crazy.

Also, what do you think happened to the mom? Like, all the sons of the dad? Like, what happened to the mom? The mom probably got the fuck out or they killed her. I probably, she probably died. Yeah, she probably died in a tragic accident. Like, she fell off the tractor and onto a hoe that was on the ground and it pierced her fucking heart. Fuck.

That's quite the mental image. I don't know. You know what I'm saying? I'm sorry. That was my lifetime on my phone. It's always been saying shit like that. People do know. Or we don't talk about mom's death.

What do you mean? We don't talk about Bruno. No, it's something bad happened. She either left, which is also like, they definitely don't talk about her then because these women would like see the potential they could leave or there's an escape. So it's fucked up. But if they're Amish, which they're not Amish because they have cameras, but Calty for sure. But I just saw something where like Amish women, they only get brought to the hospital

if things are like really, really bad because like Amish have their own like healers and stuff. And so this like ER nurse or whatever was sharing a story on TikTok about how this Amish woman was like coming to the hospital and they ride up on their horses and buggies still like to the hospital. And they were like, okay, everyone get ready because it's going to be bad. And it was like a POV thing. And she was like, why? Like, why is it going to be bad?

And then it's flipped. And she was like, well, the last time we had an Amish woman get rushed in, she was nine months pregnant, was working in the field, fell, broke her pelvis and went into labor. Damn. How I literally, you could not pay me to be Amish. You couldn't pay me to be Amish. You can pay me to do a lot of things. You can pay me to live on a farm.

Like I, I'm a city girl. It's like, I don't know, man. I just don't, it's because I didn't grow up like that. But like, it's like, I'm sorry. But it's hard for me to believe that you actually have like a good quality of life living like that. Not, not this type of farm. This is hard labor. Yeah.

I grew up on like a hobby farm. Like backbreaking work from like the other wake up at three AM. Yeah. No. And you know, you go to bed at six PM and you're working and you're cooking everything from fucking scratch and you're milking the cows for, you don't even have a fruit loops. You know what I'm saying?

I don't want no parts of that. I'm sorry. No, I literally just grew up with horses and like, that was it. We just, you had to take care of the horses, throw them hay. But like, I was not out in the fields planting crops. Like using the tractor, like pulling, like fucking gathering cattle. I'm not, that's, that's dead. That's dead as fuck.

Yeah. No. And then also I, if my husband, if I got married, I was just like, all right, babes, pack your bags and move to the farm. Like, well, I'm going to fall for divorce right here now. Cause I'm not fucking going. How much would it take to get you to live on a farm? It, I would never.

What about like one of the cute farms up in Malibu though, where they just rescue all the little animals? I don't want to live on a farm. No. None are any means. Even with a big mansion. Like, but also like being like that secluded. I don't know.

I feel like to have a farm, you have like a lot of land and I feel like you're really secluded. So what if my husband's in there and just like, be me to fuck up and I'm on a fucking farm. I run five miles. I have no reception. And also like, I'm a city based. I want to live in like a high rise condo.

Hmm. I do see that for you with a doorman. Yeah. That's, that is very nice. Yeah. My friend Jordan lives in an apartment like that in Chicago and like, it's bougie. Like, I'm like, yeah, like, I'm, I'm, I'm trying to be like a bougie based. Like, I don't want to walk outside and step and couch it.

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meet her officially. What he's told us about her all seems great. She's just got her degree, wasn't joined her job, family-oriented, etc. I'm honestly just glad he's happy with her. My husband and I don't think he's ever been this into someone before. So I feel pretty bad about what I did. Last weekend, he brought her over for dinner. By now, we'd been anticipating meeting her with how much our son has

been gushing about her, how perfect she is that she's the one in his words. They ring the doorbell. We open the door. She looks exactly like her pictures, which is a great start. My son is grinning ear to ear. Another great start. We invite them in. She accepts my hug and a firm handshake from my husband.

And then she opens her mouth. Quote, I'm the one your son puts his penis in. That's crazy. To be frank, I was appalled. I expected my husband to laugh. Both he and my son are jokesters and as annoying as it can be, I love it. But this was just too much for me.

Maybe I'm reserved, but of all the things she could have shared about my son, she told us that one look at my face and my husband knew how much I disapproved. Maybe I let my expectations get too high and it's unfair to have them, but I reiterate of all the things to say to her boyfriend's parents, whom she'd never met. She chose that my son was amused at first. But when he noticed my reaction, his face dropped.

I felt like he'd sold me the full package. Everything he'd always been looking for in a girlfriend. I was too disturbed by the visual it put in my head and it translated into anger. I told her to get out and I wanted to say more about how gross it made me feel, but I fortunately left it at that. My son didn't want to go insisting I give her another chance, but I was too fed up and uncomfortable by this point.

Even my husband, who's enjoyed his fair share of raunchy jokes, wouldn't let it up. They left and I immediately felt guilty. This was something my son had really looked forward to and I felt like I took it away over a dumb joke. I tried calling to apologize, but he hasn't responded. My husband thinks she's the one who should apologize. I'm considering giving her another chance, but before I do,

was I the asshole? Talking about your boyfriend's penis in front of his mom is O.D. I'm not going to lie and I'm a raunchy, disgusting person. I love a gross joke, but I've never said nothing like that. Like I was like, on the first meet, you got to build your peas and fucking queues. Yeah. The first family dinner, you got to be Anne Hathaway.

You got to walk in, poised, composed, and then once you get comfortable with the family, you can obviously start making jokes and being cool, but for that to be the first thing you said to his mom, that is actually insanity. It's a little weird. We got to start playing the role a little bit better here, guys. A little disrespectful and they're all adults, so it's a fine line to walk with in-laws as adults and not dating in high school

where it's like you're both adults, like you're on the same playing field, but at the same time, like that still has mom. That's still his mom. There's still a level of respect that you have to have. Exactly. And so it's like, even if you thought that was going to be funny. That one of, I feel like, I feel like depending on who the parents are and depending on like your relationship with the parents,

because like I make like with my friends parents, I make some pretty crunchy jokes and they think it's funny, whatever. But it's also because I've been around them for like a long time, so they know how I talk and like they know like when I'm playing, like that's just like, I feel like to say that's a mother is just kind of uncomfortable because she doesn't want to think about her son fucking you. No.

Or think about her son in a sexual manner at all. So that's kind of strange. I do feel like if her son is like raving about the girl and he really, really loves her, then he's probably not going to break up with a girlfriend. But the girlfriend 100% owes the mom an apology. Yeah. And I think maybe they can like find some common ground, but

that was mad, like out of pocket. I can't imagine having the girl to say that. Like on the first, the first intro, like not like, hi, I'm Chelsea. Great to meet you. It's I'm the girl, your, your son fucks. First thing. I'm the one your son puts his penis in.

Not like, Hey, do you need help in the kitchen tonight? So many other avenues we could have taken straight to fucking boardwalk. Well, even like I'm thinking about other like words we use with in-laws and I'm, I'm thinking about like how people are like, Oh, well, we're trying. Yeah. And it's like, Oh, well, he's coming inside me now.

Like, haven't you seen those t-shirts? It's like, Oh, I just kind of cringe. The thing is dads are way more like lax than moms. The dad didn't find it funny. You're really up. She's great. Yeah. Like if the dad didn't find it funny, that was a poor joke,

but I feel like I'm like, this is something that they can be easily resolved. I feel like in the moment, I mean, me personally, if I made like a out of pocket joke and I could tell that the mom was like, not fucking with it, I would have probably apologized immediately to kind of like settle the storm. Yeah. I still feel like they should have had dinner because it was

the first time they met. That's where I, I totally agree with that. Yeah. I feel like they should have had dinner. Um, the mom, maybe you should have like pulled her aside. Cause it is girl, you're in her house. You know, it's like, maybe she would pull her aside and be like, Hey, like that wasn't very appropriate.

I don't appreciate you like talking like that in front of me and then you could like squash it. But all that, like kicking her out of the house was dramatic. That's where I was like, you're not the asshole because it was a crude comment, but at the same time to let it ruin your whole evening, like maybe give her a chance to explain herself. Like, I mean, I don't know.

She thought she was at comedy central. The joke didn't land. Okay. Like y'all didn't find it funny. That's fine. The joke was inappropriate, whatever the fuck, but I feel like your son was so excited for you to meet his girlfriend. Yeah.

For it to end like that. Like at least you could have pushed through it for your son at least and gave her like the benefit of the dough. Yeah, for sure. But she was dead wrong for saying that, but I feel like canceling the dinner was just not the right move. 100%. Top comment and overall vote is not the asshole.

I'm pretty liberal and open-minded, but for fuck's sake, I'd never lead with that meeting my boyfriend's parents for the first time or say that ever. Like seriously, you open the door and that's what flies out of her mouth. We do have an update though. Okay. To clear some things up, my husband had no part in my

reaction. I did the kicking out, not him. My son lives in a nearby state. It can take about an hour to get back to where we live. He also hasn't dated anyone seriously for a while, maybe a couple of years. He told us before that he wouldn't bring anyone home unless he's sure he wants a future with her.

The comment about her looking like her pictures shows my age. Sorry for that. He's only shown us her photos. She sent him as he apparently didn't have any of them together. He hates taking pictures and apparently she's always teasing him about it.

I don't have any criteria that either of my kids spouses need to meet. I just hope my kids are happy with them. What I meant by her being the full package was indicative of what he's told us about her. As his parents, we have a good idea of what he looks for in a partner and she's checked off everything based on what we've been told.

Also, thank you for your comments and rewards. Thanks everyone for reaching out. My son got in touch with me. His girlfriend agreed to try again. We all met at a restaurant. My son and his girlfriend chose. The first thing she said was an apology for what she said. Okay.

I apologized for my reaction. We hugged. It was nice. She then explained how my son had convinced her the joke like that would land well and that she wouldn't have said it if she didn't think we'd like it. According to my son, she was reluctant to open with any jokes at all, but they came up with that one together on

the way over. So her boyfriend set her up. Why didn't he step up for her then? Yeah, that doesn't make like he should have said that immediately. Oh mom, that was just that was just a joke. So I remember one time I was at my own friend's house and he was bringing his girlfriend over to meet his dad and his

dad before the girlfriend came was like, I'm going to call her by the wrong name the whole time and see if she like says anything. The dad. He's just like that. It's like she got there. He called her the wrong name over and over and over and over again and she never correct him and then like he eventually

was like, why don't you like sticking up for yourself? Like you should have told me that your name wasn't that when you first walked in. Anyways, but yeah, I feel like the boyfriend. Why didn't the boyfriend then? The boyfriend should have been like, hey man, mom, that was me like, hey, I told her to say it. That could have solved everything.

Okay, that makes a lot more sense. I feel like no girl with sense would say that to like the parents off rip, but if she was convinced by her boyfriend that her parents, his parents would find it funny, then that's on the boyfriend for not saying something sooner. 100%. My dad is such a crude person. Like he is very just sexual jokes, raunchy.

Like he's crazy. And so if someone would have opened like that, like if I had a boyfriend that walked in and was like, hey, I'm the guy, your daughter, fucks, he'd be like, okay, hot. Like he would brush it off like whatever. And so the fact that he like insisted to her. No, no, no, no, they'll find it funny and then didn't say anything in the moment.

Like mom, it was my idea. I was like, I did this. Bro, I would be pissed at the boyfriend. I would too. Like I would like, we'd be going home fighting like, bro, you sent me and then you didn't say anything when your mom was mad at me. Yeah.

Now she thinks I'm just fucking freak nipple and she thinks I'm just soaking wet and horny because you didn't say anything. I would be so mad. Cause that conversation, that would have been over and like, that would have been resolved in like two minutes. Yeah. Like, hey, your son said that it would be funny. Well, and that's what I'm saying.

Like, yeah, aren't people like, what's, what's with this generation? Like, why don't people open their fucking mouths? Cause if it was me, I got set up and like your son did say that she would think it was funny. I would too. I would throw him completely under the bus. In that situation.

Yeah. At first time meeting him, they love him. They're not going to care. Yeah. Throw him under the bus. Absolutely. Honey, you were saying I'm throwing him under the bus. Your son told me dead ass that you would find it funny and

I'm so sorry that it didn't land. But he like pretty much had a gun in my back to say it. Also, she put in the original post, my husband and son are jokesters. Didn't you kind of suss out that maybe she was joking? Maybe it was like him. I feel like the, the main point is we know the, the girl was joking.

Yeah. We know that was a joke. Um, also if your husband and your son are like that, you could have put two or two together like, Oh, like, Jacob, you made Caitlyn say this. Ah, but I'm so like, this blows down to me and shit. More of the story. Yeah.

100%. Okay. Moving along. This one is titled. My groomsmen has had sex with my fiancee. I'm gagged. My fiancee 24 female and I 25 male are getting married in about six months.

One of my groomsmen is a friend 26 male that I've been very close with for like eight years. One of my best friends. Well, a few years ago when we were all in college together, we had a threesome. We were all drunk and we ended up deeply regretting it. Whenever I remember it, I cringe with shame and I can't even say it out loud if it comes up while my fiancee and I

are talking. However, it basically went undiscussed ever since never talked about it. Just tried to forget it. And for the most part, I did forget about it. We continue to be friends and hang out regularly for years. The three of us have even hung out together with no awkwardness. Since my friend has been one of my closest friends for so long

that whenever I proposed, I made him a groomsman at the wedding without even thinking about it. But for the last couple of months, I can't stop thinking about him and my fiancee together. Especially since I found out shortly after that night that they continued to have sex after I passed out on the couch. So it especially hurts thinking about that moment of them alone together.

Also on top of this before the incident, my friend had inappropriately touched my girlfriend after a night of drinking when the three of us fell asleep in the same room. Also, he continued to flirt with her after the incident and after we knew it was a mistake and would never happen again. I deeply regret and am ashamed of my actions at the time. I guess I didn't have enough respect for myself or my

girlfriend to address this and confront him at the time about these and two other things. But basically now I feel like it's humiliating to have him as a groomsman and that I should tell him he can't be up there with us anymore. Especially since other people have heard about those. So it's not just a secret between the three of us anymore. At the same time, he is my friend and it feels crazy to do

this to him. I also don't want to make waves and create a rift in the larger friend group since they are a part of the wedding party as well. It also feels silly and unfair to bring this up now after years of saying nothing and acting like best friends. I know my friend is ashamed of that night and of his actions from college and I believe he has changed.

We all have. I have no idea how to approach this or if I approach him about this or if I'm overreacting over thinking maybe I shouldn't let it bother me since it was so long ago. But every time I'm reminded of that night, I get filled with shame and embarrassment. I don't even know who I can talk to about this. That's a lot.

That's a lot to unpack. First of all, fuck your girlfriend or you fuck your fiance and your best friend. They're both mad strange for continuing to have sex if you pass out. That's mad fucking. That's when the partner isn't involved like that's just cheating.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, 100%. So I feel like they probably did some stuff after and you just don't know about it. I think so too. I don't think there's anything wrong with telling your friend I want him in the wedding. I think that's very fucking reasonable.

Here's a conversation. I'll write it out for you. Hey, brother, you know, I love you and you know, we did that. We were seeing it back in the day. Still kind of bothers me and like people know about it is not just a secret amongst us. So I feel like I don't want to be embarrassed and humiliated

on my wedding because like, let's be real. If you have a person that's up there that's fucked your wife in your wedding party. Come on. Everybody at the wedding is talking about it. Everybody's laughing at you behind the back. You're a fucking cuck. You know, so I feel like that's an easy conversation to have

and if he has a problem with it, then fuck him. Yeah, he's not standing up there by you. Yeah, it seems like he's kind of had it out for the writers fiance for a while too. Like, you know, he grabbed your he like touched your girlfriend and appropriately like he probably is the one that segway that fucking threesome for sure. He probably orchestrated it like on the only on your last

about the blackout. He's like, oh fuck, let's have a threesome. Maybe pass out like knock is getting a fucker. Maybe he roofied him. And then also the reason he passed out then also like men will be like, we just have better friendships than women and you fucked your best friend's fiance after he passed out. Like men are weird.

Also, I can understand one have a threesome with your boy. Why would you have a threesome with your boy with your own girlfriend? Is that not crazy? I just like don't shit where you eat. Exactly like I feel like, okay, you're your homeboy. Y'all fuck a random girl at the club. Like that's fine.

But a girl that's going to continue to be around and you let your best friend get inside of her in front of you. Yeah. And then y'all all supposed to like come by y'all and be that that's like super weird. I know a girl. I used to be friends with her. We just like don't talk anymore.

Like not for any like bad reason, but she had a really good friend, long time boyfriend. They had been together, I think like eight or nine years. They were like high school sweethearts might have even been engaged. She's best friends with this girl decides that they're going to have a threesome. They have the threesome.

She steals the girl's guy. They were best friends and now they're engaged. How do you live with yourself? Like like on some real shit like on some like like being serious shit like how do you sleep at night doing that to somebody that was your best friend? Your best friend. And then those are the type of bitches that I don't like because

they're like wolves and like sheeps clothing. Yeah. Like that girl that was your best friend. She never fucking liked you like she never fucking liked you. She was probably always envious of you always wanted what you had and she used that little threesome as excuse to take it, but that bitch was never your friend. If she could do that to you that bitch like you can't do that

to somebody that's actually your fucking friend because like with me and my friends if like we're at the club or something and I do even talks to like one of my friends. I'm like, all right, cool. Yeah, that's off yours. Yeah, yeah, I'm going to the bar. Get a drink like I don't you know what I'm saying? Like that's just that's just so fucking sick.

No, and I have another like one of my best friends. Another girl in our group. She dated this guy like three years ago and they were like done very done and he was like kind of in the friend group because my other friend was dating his friend. So it's just this messy clusterfuck, but they were best friends like again, best friends and she started dating her ex and yeah, they were ex from, you know, three years ago.

But also I want you fucking slutty ass horse to understand. There's more dick. There's more there's more like he treated her like shit and they broke up and you damaged your friendship for what for a shitty dude like some of you some of you some of you girls have so much fucking insecurity and you seek male validation by any means necessary and you will fuck over whoever is close to you just so a man validates you.

You need to go see a fucking therapist. There's something deeply wrong with you and you need to stop being an insecure little fucking rat. It's not worth it. Your friends are like who you have for life. And then once you break up with that loser, you're going to try to go crawling back to your friends and they're going to be like, girl, fuck you.

Yeah. I'm gonna see we need to we need to bring back a street fight because a lot of you bitches need your ass beat. I'm being some time like brass knuckles like a lot of you bitch need to get beat up because I feel like bitches who've never gotten beat up are the biggest that do that. Like girls that have never had any type of like life struggle never been to a fight.

They they they do that shit. But if you get beat if you get beat the fuck up one good time you'll you'll be more careful and cognizant of your actions because I feel like you just never had any consequences. That's why you think you can get away with doing shit like that. Yeah, that girl would have came and beat you to fuck up. You'd have been like, oh my God, no, I'm scared to get hit. I've I'm like scared of I don't want to lose any teeth.

Yeah, I definitely wouldn't fuck around. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. But I feel like basically don't be getting beat up anymore. That's that's the problem. I can see it. You know, tough love. Yeah, a little tough love. I mean, you know, I was going to say the girl learned her lesson

but I don't think she did because she dated a shitty guy after and he's just he just keeps cheating on her now. It's like, is this the karma? Is the karma for screwing over your friend? I'm happy. Hey, um, to that guy. If you want to cheat on her with me like call me fucker. You don't want him.

No, I just do it. I just I just hate bitches like we'll find you something hot. He's like, I just hate I just hate women like that. Like they're pickies are the worst. They're hard. They're hard to be friends with. They really are. When you have someone who's harder, who's harder to be friends

with a pick me or a guy's girl. I would say the pick me because the pick me wants to be the guy's girl. Like, I think they're very, there's like those two circles and there's the overlap in the middle of those two circles, but the pick me is definitely willing to like directly sabotage you. Yeah, like I had a friend, best friend saw her being a bridesmaid and maybe she was a guy's girl though. She likes, she liked to pretend that my ex was like, she was the facilitator

of all this and they were actually like best friends before I met him. And when I would ask him, I'm like, were you in her really close? Like, am I missing something? And he's like, no, we didn't talk like we were cordial. She was that she was that guy like that best friend. Like, yeah, actually. So like, you know, like we like work drunk and like Michael ate my pussy like one time, but like it was like just once, you know, it was crazy.

So we went on a spring break trip and I was supposed to fly to Canada and go like meet him after like the week instead of driving back with everyone. She texted him in Florida from Panama City Beach and it was like Morgan cheated on you. I just think you should know. I was alone at the whole time with my little chuggy big blood drink thing. Oh, that bitch wanted your man. That bitch wanted your man back.

Yeah. Did he believe that you didn't get on him? Yeah. Okay, good. No, no, no, he believed her initially. Yeah. I mean, like for his like in his defense, like if if her best friend, your best friend, like it's like, but men are also stupid.

So they don't ever think that like there's a different like motive because they just like think linearly. You know what I'm saying? Like, oh my God, if that's her best friend, like if she told me this, and she obviously did, it's like, why were her best friend? Just like, tell me that. Exactly. But if you're a smart, you'd be like, oh, this bitch wants to fuck me.

Yeah. This girl wants me. It was so, so weird. And it just was weird the whole time. Also, while we're talking about this, I have something I want to say. Okay. If you are a friend and you have a best friend and your best friend is in a relationship and your best friend in the relationship cheats on their significant

other and you tell the significant other, you cannot convince me that you don't want them. What's the point? There's, you have no loyalty to my significant other. Why are you snitching on me? Or if you are snitching to the significant other, like don't plan on being friends with that girl anymore. Yeah, you're done.

Cause like, I don't know what, like the fuck type of Messiah you people think you are. We're like, well, it's doing the right thing. Then my friends would never, my friends would never. I'm not, I'm not a cheater, but my friends, I know if I did cheat, my friends wouldn't tell. And if they did, I'd be looking at them. Bitches sideways is like, do you want my man or something?

Like what's the, what's the angle here? Why are you telling him what I'm doing? It's more so like reprimand your friend. Like you're fucking nasty. Why would you do that? Exactly. You need to tell him. Yeah.

Don't be a skanky little bitch. Like whatever you want to say. You want to tell him your friend is okay, but the, like undermining me and going straight to the source, you're crazy. Unless you're done. Like unless that you realize that girl is so shitty and you don't want to be friends with her anymore and you just want to clear the air. Sure.

But like, if you're, that's still your friend, so like for what? For what? Like him not knowing doesn't concern you at all. Like no matter what moral compass and high horse y'all want to sit on. What if she's going to give him something though? What'd she mean? Well, what if she's like cheating with someone that's got gonorrhea or chlamydia or.

That's a pill. Who gives a fuck? What if it's HIV? Okay. Like he got to take prep or something. True. That's valid. That's where it's like.

But I feel like, I feel like nobody, nobody seriously is going to tell their best friend like, yeah, like I'm cheating. I have HIV and I have no intentions of telling my boyfriend like no. I feel like that's what you take to the fucking grave. If you don't plan on telling your partner, you should never tell anybody. Cause your partner is the only person that needs to know that you have HIV or something like that. I mean, chlamydia, that, that dick will start burning eventually.

He'll get that. Someone asked me the other day, they're like, have you had anything? And I was like, I think I had something in high school cause like, I definitely like got put on antibiotics, but I don't remember what it was. And I'm like, it was probably chlamydia, gonorrhea. Yeah. So we're out of passage. Yeah.

I think it was whatever one you take penicillin for cause I think that's how I realized I was allergic to penicillin. That sucks. Real bad. Really limits what antibiotics I can take. Damn. Yeah. Okay.

One last one for you. I'm going to give you the choice. So I'm going to read the titles and you tell me which one you like. Am I the asshole for being honest about honeymoon sex? Am I the asshole for hiding vegetables in my boyfriend's food? Or my longterm partner just admitted he got a blow job from a man when drunk last night. Oh, yeah.

The last one for sure. The last one he was in a boyhole. My 33 female longterm partner 34 male just admitted he got a blow job from a man when drunk last night. I'm sorry. Hello. My partner and I have been together for nearly 15 years. I am my partner's only relationship and prior to being together, he hadn't

really had any other romantic or sexual experiences. While we've had our ups and downs, I felt we mostly have a happy relationship. However, he is bi-curious slash bisexual and has always been curious about acting on it. I have never wanted him to feel regretful or resentful of us or to feel that I'm holding him back and we've always said that if he feels like this, we would talk about it and figure out the next steps. However, I'm away this weekend visiting my grandmother with dementia and he stayed

home. He went and met a friend for some drinks yesterday evening and I figured he would probably get quite drunk. He phoned this morning in tears to say that after his friend left to go to a concert, he stayed out alone and went to a gay pub, which has a fetish night. He was very drunk and ended up receiving oral sex from a man. I don't doubt that he is very sorry and regretful, but I'm feeling confused and hurt.

I am hurt by the fact he made a decision to go out to this venue by himself, surely knowing that it would be a situation where this activity is likely. You have to pay entrance for the fetish night part of the pub. So while he was drunk, several decisions were made before he ended up in that situation. I want to work through this, but maybe it's a sign that he will never be fulfilled with me.

I will be returning home later today and we will talk. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Just looking for thoughts on how to navigate this. I don't know how to feel at all. First of all, that's not the first time he's got his dick sucked by a man. Um, I feel like that's happened before. I don't feel like he just got drunk and just got a blow job. That's like quite the first, like the, that's the way the first time you've

never had, you've never had any sexual experiences with a man in the first one is not even a kiss. It's a full on blow job. At a pub, at a fetish night, you've definitely done something with a man before I guess like the guilt started getting out. It was like, fuck, or something, something happened and he might be able to, he might have gotten something or I don't know. Like they might have done a little bit extra freaky shit.

Um, I feel like there's only one thing or only two things that can happen. One, y'all break up to you decide that you're going to let him like fuck boys and then like y'all are going to have to be like on some poly shit. But I would do like a striking vipers type of move. Like, okay, if you're going to fuck men, I want to fuck other men too. So I feel like either y'all become open or y'all break up. I feel like those are the only two real options here. Yeah, I would say so.

It's just shitty because like he cheated in this moment. Which is already enough for her grounds for break up, but it doesn't sound like she's trying to break up. She sounds like she's trying to like work through it because they have men together for 15 years. Yeah. Um, and it sounds like he didn't even need to cheat. He has a supportive partner that would have let him explored had they talked

about it first. Cause she said like she would have been cool if they'd just like talked about it. Like he just made the decision without her. Yeah. Which like leads me to believe, leads me to believe that like some other shady shit is going on because clearly again, man ain't shit. No matter how good you are to him, no matter if we try to give him the world and like do what you like do everything in your power.

So they're happy. They'll still fuck you over. So if I'm her, like break up with him, but it sounds like she's in love. Ain't no love makes you do crazy things. So 15 years is a long time. Y'all better, y'all better, y'all better work out some kind of deal. You better be fucking somebody on the side too. I hate when people are like, Oh my God, Margot, Robi got cheated on.

There's no hope for any of us. And it's like just because someone is like stereotypically beautiful, doesn't mean they're not going to get cheated on. Yeah. Cause like we had the thing about like men, like they date men. So like obviously there's room for error for everybody. Like I want you to like women like seriously, I want you to understand that you're not safe.

You're not safe. No matter how much you think your boyfriend loves you and that he would never there will come a time and chance where every man is tempted and a lot of them fail. You know what I'm saying? Like you're not untouchable. No matter how beautiful you are, no matter how much money you make, no matter what kind of person you are, it doesn't fucking matter.

It's so crazy to think about because like my boyfriend now we've been together for four years and he's so, he's got like so much trauma surrounding cheating based on like his childhood. And I'm like, it would, I'm just like, I've, I've, every other relationship I've had I've been cheated on. So it's just, it's so crazy to be like, I wonder what it would take. Like I wonder what would be a straw that would break the camel's hump. Do you love your boyfriend?

I do. Can I ask you a hypothetical? Sure. Oh, let's say you and your boyfriend get married in like the next three years. Like three years from now, you and your boyfriend are married. Yeah. And are you happy? Yeah.

Are you in love? Yeah. Do you love him more than anything? Yeah, I would think so. Okay, let's keep this. So three years from now, y'all are married. Same thing. Yeah.

He's the love of your life. Has never done anything, never stepped out of like any box. Like you love him down and he's just like perfect. He goes out, gets drunk and fucks a girl and he's black out and he comes to you. He's groveling on his knees, tears stream down his face, snotty literally as soon as he gets back, tells you what happens. He's part broken. He feels disgusting.

He's punching himself in the face begging for your forgiveness. Are you leaving our stand? I have thought about this a lot. Actually, if it's like, I got black out drunk. I met her that night at the bar. I don't know what the fuck happened. I was blacked. I'm like, okay, maybe there's something to work through couples therapy.

Obviously, you got to really make a mend. You might have been the sitter for a little bit. Yeah, but if it started with like they were texting for six months. Yeah, that's a long emotional affair. I'm like, no, I'm done. This might be a hot take. I think emotionally cheating is worse than physically cheating. I agree.

If I have to pick, if I had to pick a deviled advocate, like I feel like people are very capable of just having sex and then never like moving from that again. I like sex isn't as deep as like a lot of people make it seem to me. It can. Yeah, it can be obviously, but I feel like you have like an emotional connection for it to really be deep, but I could fuck somebody today and never speak to them again in my life. Oh my God.

Or you can remember their name. Some of the one night stands I've had. I'm like, I literally had sex with them and I've never seen or talked to them again. Thought that they've never crossed my mind. I probably don't remember their name. I do think about one because I regret it was so tiny. Yeah, but like, it's just, it's irrelevant versus like an emotional affair where like, like you, you love them.

You love them. Like what? You didn't just fuck them. I mean, I, you were telling this big, she loved her. Yeah. Like what? I would rather you just fucked her. That's where I'm at.

What's funny is there's a lot of data out there where if you ask males and females that same question, a lot of guys will say that physical cheating is worse than an emotional affair. That's because they see women as objects and just like sexual beings and they're just like, you fucking slut, you whore, you let him fuck you. Like you were taking this girl on fucking picnics and writing her love letters and you told her that like, she was the only woman for you. Like that would have me sick.

Like if you just told me like, babe, I got drunk and I fucked her. God damn it. That would fucking hurt. But if you say, babe, I got drunk and I, I'm leaving you and we're getting married and I love her. Yeah. That's what? Yeah.

No. It's crazy. And I wonder if it's just like the emotional intimacy, like that they don't, it doesn't click how serious that is. You know, I feel like a lot of guys just like, a lot of guys are sexually attracted to women, but they don't like women. Like they don't like women as people. But like they want to fuck women.

And then like, that's what I feel like. That's what I feel like what happens with like a lot of men who cheat on like their like significant others is cause they don't like them as a fucking person. Like, cause I feel like if you actually love somebody, you couldn't. It's more convenience. Yeah. It's convenience over anything.

Like you have a girl, she's pretty, whatever. Like, I mean, she's got good hygiene. She cooks, she cleans, like you got a pretty sweet deal. Like you don't fucking like her, but you know, you want to get married cause like that's the manly thing to do is to start a family, be a provider, have someone like that. So you pick a girl that's like cute and like you don't like throw up when you're around her, but you don't genuinely like her as a person.

Well, and that is like kind of going into why there's this saying that men don't marry necessarily the perfect one for them. They marry the person that's like at the perfect time. It's all about the timing and I can see that because like there's some people I know in my life that like, I'm like, wait, what? Like you broke up with her and then you got. It like, okay, the math isn't matting, but it's some wild shit. Wild shit out there.

Yeah. Little disrespect today. How do you feel? This is fun. I'll tell you how I love Reddit stories. This is interesting. It reminds me that there are people that are weird, you know? Cause I feel like I'm just around like a lot of normal people that I forget

that there are like some like odd individuals out there, but this was very fun and lovely and I had a great time. I'm so happy you came on. This has been great. Happy we can make it work. Third time's the time, right? Of course. How can people watch your stuff?

Where can they find you, Fnita? You can find me on Instagram and TikTok at Fnita. Um, very hilarious and funny and stunning. If you like looking at pretty people, you'd like looking at me. Um, but you know, most of the time is just like my personality. Did they get some going? You're hilarious. You were absolutely hilarious.

And oh my God. I watched one of your videos this morning about like, it was like a guy, there's trap and he was like. Oh, Runaway's? I was like, what the fuck is this? Roman Reigns is fine as fuck. It was, I was like, yeah, that was actually hilarious. Um, but yeah, um, I'm just like your local internet comedian and this

has been a great time. Thank you so much for coming on. I really appreciate it. Thank you. Okay. Until next time guys. Bye. Hmm.

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