Two Hot Takes - 118: Keeping it Candid Ft. Straight Candid

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Starting point is 00:01:10 Sometimes my family bullies me. Bullying can work sometimes. I don't believe in bullying in like mean ways. Yeah. But I have a theme I'm working on. It's kind of like, can bullying sometimes work? And it's like, it's people that were writing an internet it, that were truly assholes needed to be told straight.

Starting point is 00:01:29 People had to get candid with them. And sometimes bullying works with assholes. Not, not, you know, people that don't deserve to be bullied. Okay, I was bullied in high school, so it was, it was, oh my god, it was hell. Really? Hell, that's horrible. I feel like there's different,

Starting point is 00:01:46 it's almost like little T trauma, first big T trauma. I feel like even being left out of things like literally, scarred me for life. I agree. I felt like you were not liked. Oh, it was bad.

Starting point is 00:01:58 I had to leave my high school and go start taking college classes, which is, I was able to graduate college a year early because of it, but it was, was that sad Morgan. Yeah, that's really sad. So look at you now.

Starting point is 00:02:09 Look at me now. Look at me now. Oh, bitch. Okay. Hi guys. Welcome back to another episode of Two Hot Takes. I'm your host Morgan and today I'm joined by the girls of straight candidates. Hi.

Starting point is 00:02:20 I'm introduced. I know. Like, should we say who we are? Yes. I'm candid, Sid. Yeah. What else Drew. I know. I'm like, should we say who we are? Yes. I'm Candid Sid. Yeah. What else do I need to say? Stray Candid podcast from Minnesota.

Starting point is 00:02:30 We're all Minnesota family over here. Yeah. In the Tuha Tech studio. So I'm excited to be here. And I love how we set our Instagram. I'm at Candid so. Oh no, I said Candid Sid because I was like, I'm so excited.

Starting point is 00:02:42 I'm at, I'm so, Sophie. Yeah, thanks for having us, Morgana. Thanks for coming out. Straight Candid is another show I'm working with and I went on their podcast, but this is to introduce you guys. They're an amazing podcast, talking a lot about real issues that we face in our 20s.

Starting point is 00:02:59 And I remember the first episode I listened to was about, like, I think it was honestly like orgasms. It was like one of the early ones. Oh, that one. And it was a good episode. That was cringey for us. We remember that one. Really?

Starting point is 00:03:12 At first, yeah, when you're putting it out. It was one of my favorites. Really? Okay. What 20-year-olds are really talking about that? Like, we kind of talked about it the other day where it's like, as a woman, it's so much harder to orgasm.

Starting point is 00:03:22 Absolutely. And it's just like this conversation that we need to have and toys are okay and all this stuff. So it's, you guys talk about really important issues that like vibrators in the bedroom. Yeah, we definitely talk about vibrators in the bedroom probably every other episode if we're being real. But also everything under the moon,

Starting point is 00:03:41 like we're just gonna say we're not just sexual. No, not just sexual. We make sure for a lot of, yes. Yeah, we, we're not just sexual. No, not just sexual. We make sure we have. Yes, yeah. We make sure we have just taboo conversations. Mental health is a big part of our podcast. We talk a lot about, you know, making sure men feel they have a platform to open up on as well.

Starting point is 00:03:55 We just had a few guests chat about that. And yeah, I said anything to add. I mean, we're just trying to be as real and candid as we can be with like basically like the older sisters That you probably wish you would have had when you were growing up. Yeah, and although it's you know We definitely have a lot of our audience in our 20s like in your 30s in your 40s in your 50s and your 60s Even like where we're sharing things that it can be applied to your real life Of course, yeah And anybody anywhere at any time male or female can learn from just these things

Starting point is 00:04:26 that we hide behind closed doors and with our best friends to talk about and really truly we're all thinking it, we wanna talk about it. So that's what we do and we pride ourselves on it. Yeah, it's a good shit. So today's theme is kinda gonna be just keeping it candid.

Starting point is 00:04:40 Like these people need to be told how it is. A lot of the stories are like how to navigate your 20s, parents with 20 year olds, weddings, like it's wedding season soon. And shit is starting to hit the fan. Let's go. Sounds messy. Let's dive in.

Starting point is 00:05:32 Just your reminder to subscribe or follow if you're listening on audio platforms and last but not least head over to patreon because there is going to be one free story dropping this month enjoy that episode Okay, so up first have you guys been to the dentist regularly? I was just there right before we came okay Good, I like I could go I have the worst teeth ever so What are you talking about? No, like I get really bad cavities because I got my grandma's like soft ass teeth. Yeah. It's just sucks. So this one was posted three days ago.

Starting point is 00:05:55 It is titled, Should I, Female 24, have gotten my teeth checked right away when my boyfriend, male 30, refused to touch or kiss me because he thought I had cavities. A few months ago, my boyfriend, male 30, refused to touch or kiss me because he thought I had cavities. A few months ago, my boyfriend of three years, long distance for half that time, currently so, caught a glimpse of my old fillings when I was catching popcorn in my mouth

Starting point is 00:06:16 and freaked out, refusing to touch or kiss me or participate in any other kind of intimacy when I visited, and would periodically ask me about my teeth and if I had gone to the dentist to get them cleaned yet. And, talk about how I'm not taking care of myself. It wasn't the right time for my insurance to cover it, since I had gotten them cleaned like two months before this happened. I told him they were fillings, and I have gone to the dentist twice a year for as long as I can remember, and I haven't had a cavity since I was 12. I got back from the dentist yesterday, paid out of pocket due to feeling pressured from

Starting point is 00:06:50 him, slash the tripping incident in the next section, and low and behold, I don't have any cavities or other issues. He also called me last week and was drunk and very high on mushrooms. I wasn't expecting this, and also wasn't in the mindset of trip-sitting as I was trying to get work on a project done and haven't been sleeping well. He insulted me several times by detailing how he needs someone with XYZ qualities, and I don't have any of those.

Starting point is 00:07:19 Talked about how he doesn't want me to expect marriage. I have never brought up marriage. Talked about his female coworker in a way that made me uncomfortable, accused me of manipulating and threatening him, and plotting to kill him. When I started crying and telling him he's upsetting me, he called me crazy and immature because I wouldn't be able to help him with medical bills if he needed that, and that I'm not physically there to take care of him, and that I quote, clearly can't even take care of myself since my teeth are rotting, and brought up my teeth several more times.

Starting point is 00:07:54 I graduated last year and I'm just beginning my career and live at home to save on rent. I do feel behind my peers who are living alone and making six figures and are mature. He is a software engineer who works remotely and has his own apartment. We both live in high cost of living areas and other hurtful things he is said. He was obviously not in his right mind as he also talked about how maybe aliens are reading our thoughts, but mainly focused on our relationship. I said I didn't want wanna talk to him right now and hung up several times, but he kept calling and insisting that he didn't want to be alone.

Starting point is 00:08:30 And I felt bad about not answering the phone so I would pick up only for him to insult me again. The day after when he was sober, I talked to him and he said those were just the drugs talking and that it's stupid to think he wouldn't act differently when he's tripping out of his mind. and I should have given him more leeway. He struggles with OCD, depression, anxiety, so I try to be forgiving, but this was a lot even for me, and it definitely bothers me that he did not apologize while sober for

Starting point is 00:08:59 the tripping incident, especially since he said he does remember the conversations. Though he did apologize over text for being annoyed and grumpy when we had the sober talk, he also jokingly said over text, I was the worst trip sitter ever. I'm having a hard time discussing the situation and articulating myself. I feel like just saying, quote, you insulted me, you didn't believe me in that hurt, and being on drugs isn't an excuse to insult me. Doesn't clearly convey how dehumanizing it was. Is not wanting to kiss a partner

Starting point is 00:09:36 that might have cavities reasonable? I probably should have gotten checked sooner, but I was frustrated he didn't believe me when I said they were fillings and not holes in my teeth. I admit that I un reasonably associated giving into his pressuring as agreeing that my words can't be trusted. Typing this out, I'm realizing this probably has to do with other incidents too, like comments he's made about my weight and not taking care of my health despite the fact that

Starting point is 00:10:01 my blood work has been normal each year and the doctor has nothing to say to me during physicals. The situation is a little ridiculous. Am I making his comments, slash actions over my teeth into a big deal? I should have just gotten them checked out sooner. But, him thinking he knows what's best for my health and having such an extreme reaction really bothered me. And I guess I let my petting us get the best of me. Okay. I'm sorry. What a

Starting point is 00:10:30 trick. He seems like a trash human in my eyes. Yeah. And I think it could be a small yes, that was like a small thing that he disagreed with, but that's a red flag and that red flag can lead to bigger issues. So oh my god, absolutely not okay. I'm just lost at how we went from like you have toes in your teeth to you're being gaslit like someone telling you that you're overweight when you're not selling, telling you you're a bad person when you're not.

Starting point is 00:10:59 I mean like he's obsessing over holes in your teeth. That could have been swash in two seconds. Why don't you open your mouth wide, take a look. Look at that, they're very clearly fillings. And you'll find. Is he a fucking dentist? I'm confused. Does this bitch have a DDS or whatever

Starting point is 00:11:12 the fancy titles dentists have? Like what is up with him? She just went to the dentist two months ago. Cavities don't develop that fast, you motherfucker. Also, a cavity isn't black. A filling is black. And guess what, I have those in the back too, because sorry, when you're younger,

Starting point is 00:11:30 they fill them with that. And when you're a little bit poorer, and you can't fill it. You get silver! You get silver. Sorry, sorry. The white fillings that match your teeth are actually so expensive.

Starting point is 00:11:42 I don't have dental insurance. I kind of, I don't know, I didn't have insurance for a long time. So the fact I even have health insurance now is a miracle. But I don't have dental, I just pay out a pocket. And like, to get just a filling that matches your tooth color and not silver, it's like 600 bucks a filling. Oh, at least.

Starting point is 00:12:00 A crown. I paid $1,700 for a crown. I got one of those, too. I got one of those two. I have one of those two. And that's the thing. We probably all have worked on our mouth. Sometimes you can see it. Sometimes you can't.

Starting point is 00:12:11 Are you kidding me? Yeah. The gas lighting was the trigger for me. I don't like it. I don't like it. I don't like that. He's the one that apparently has a great job. He made sure for her to know that too.

Starting point is 00:12:22 And he's tripping in his free time, just expecting somebody to take care of him. And then he's like throwing out like all these things about how much he doesn't want to be with her. Like, are we going to skip over that? Like holy talking about the co-worker. I think turned out mine. Turned out mine. Turned out to me to marry you. Turned out mine is over thoughts. That's all I got to say. Yeah. This is something interesting about this one too,

Starting point is 00:12:45 because he does have some mental health struggles, which we all do. We're all, we all have our things. But for someone that is sounds like actively struggling with depression anxiety and then has OCD, maybe mushrooms aren't the best choice for you. And I think that's where it's like, you're calling your girlfriend again and again and again.

Starting point is 00:13:03 She said she doesn't wanna, you know, trips at you, you're not taking it. And like, I get, you put yourself in this bad situation and it's unfortunate that now we're here. But like, you have to get to a point where you need to be accountable for your actions and like recognize like, hey, maybe the mushrooms aren't the best for my mental health.

Starting point is 00:13:20 I deal with anxiety depression too and I would never, shrooms are just like the one drug that I know I would probably spiral from so I'm like staying away, staying away. I have some if you want to try them. You know. I think I'm going to say that one. Well, because there's different kinds, right? There's mushrooms that don't have the psychedelic properties and that actually people use to microdose and treat anxiety depression. I forgot helps. Like if you have like a little, you have experience. So I just got some from a listener and they're magical.

Starting point is 00:13:49 And my friend Lauren, microdose is regularly. And it's like been, I've really liked changing. I have heard like the little bit is okay. And if you do a big trip, sometimes I've heard that it actually can like cure your anxiety and depression, even just like a huge trip. If you have a good intention with it and you're in the right spot, blah, blah, blah, but yeah, I don't want to risk that because some will also develop.

Starting point is 00:14:09 They have a bad trip, they have PTSD and they make their anxiety and depression worse. I'm like, I don't want to mess around. Yeah, and I used to work at a mental health facility here in LA and a lot of my patients had drug induced schizophrenia. Oh, God. So drugs can be a gateway to having your first psychosis or your first psychotic break. Like that oftentimes can trigger other mental illnesses.

Starting point is 00:14:31 Wow. So it's like, just, it's not worth it. Like, and there's so many studies like cocaine can literally like rot your brain. Oh yeah, I've heard of this one. It's wild. It's something I see a lot in LA. And like we talked about like

Starting point is 00:14:45 ketamine earlier. Yeah, just casually. It's just crazy. What people will do just to like go out and it's like just fucking, can't play Scrabble. Like maybe meditate. What else will feel like really good? Hot chocolate really soothes the soul. Yeah, I'm not lying. Like hot chocolate on a little night in. Oh God dang. Can you tell we're from we're all from Minnesota here? I want my fuzzy socks. I want my popcorn with M&M's and I want my hot chocolate. And my body TV. Let's go. That's way better than ketamine. She needs to break up with him. Yeah. She does. 1000% you need to get away from this human being who's bringing you down, gaslighting you, and worried about the holes in your teeth that aren't holes.

Starting point is 00:15:28 I think he might have been hallucinating. Mm-hmm. He wasn't seeing holes, my friend. He was seeing fillings. Doesn't that feel kind of manipulative like for him to withhold intimacy and affection? Like he won't kiss me because he thinks I have a cavity. He won't even be intimate with me.

Starting point is 00:15:45 Like, can you imagine your partner using that and like shutting you out in such a, like, like, he's already making you feel gross and like kind of maybe that's an insecurity or trying to make it an insecurity and then to like withhold any intimacy, it just doesn't seem healthy. Your boyfriend should want you at your worst.

Starting point is 00:16:07 Even if you're just like sweaty, they should be like all over that shit. That's all I'm saying is like, if you have cavities, it should be like, yeah, if you're from the gym, they're like, yeah, give it to me. Are you kidding? It's a tooth.

Starting point is 00:16:19 It's a fucking tooth. It's just a tooth, you guys. And I don't know why that would be obsessive. It sounds like this person has a serious control problem is what it sounds like to me. Withholding behaviors are very control-centric, which means, yeah, that's just emotional abuse, which is psychological, it's bad.

Starting point is 00:16:38 That's bad. You need to break up with him. Top comment on this one, you're dating an asshole. You should stop dating an asshole. Love it. That's all we needed to say. That's simple. Point blank. Point blank. I'm gonna out myself so bad right now. This is the most disgusting thing about me truly. You wrote those. God. I did not. No. This one's not me. It could be though because like I had this one filling and it was silver and then I have in the crack this

Starting point is 00:17:05 little black thing and it's not a cavity, my dentist is like, no, it's just like discoloration on your tooth, whatever. But from having strep throat so much as a kid, you can develop holes in your tonsils. Have you guys heard of tonsils stones? I get those. I get them too. I get them. They're horrible.

Starting point is 00:17:23 They're really gross and they smell so bad. I do like hack this up. You can if you don't take care of them. So I have like a little pick and a water pick. So I put the water pick in there and like it shoots them out. But often, oh, I do it daily. I'm like I cannot, I'm cannot have them. It freaks me the fuck out.

Starting point is 00:17:41 I actually ripped a hole in my tonsil because I was going so hard trying to get one out. And it was like bleeding for a week. If you know the smell of these things, I'm telling you right now, I've never told anyone that I have these things. Oh, and it's together. I'm like, that's cute. They are literally a little rock that forms in your throat. And I only get it when I'm severely, severely stressed and exhausted, like I'm about to get sick. Basically, it's my body like processing.

Starting point is 00:18:07 You're going to get ill and it's a rock. And I'm not kidding you. If I open my mouth and I can literally smell my breath, I'm like, I have a rock in my throat right now. I literally do. And I open my mouth wide and there it is. You can see it. Yeah.

Starting point is 00:18:20 So why you cover your face with your shirt? No, that's because I like to smell my perfume. Oh, okay. No, but these things, like the smell, my perfume. Oh, okay. No, but these things so essentially, this is also the reason I bought a tongue scraper. So if you see all the white stuff on your tongue as you're sleeping, your tongue are right next to your tonsils. So it's all those little food particles and bacteria and they create these little balls and then go into your tonsils.

Starting point is 00:18:40 I'll send you a picture of my next one. So if you get one. How often have you, both of you get them. So how often have you, both of you, get them? Like, how often do you hack this up? I get them, like, well, I'm like religious about making sure I use my water pick and my little, like, a little, like, it feels like a minor tool. Like, a cave minor. What do you use?

Starting point is 00:18:59 Because it's like this little pick with a light on the end and I'm like, in there, like, it's so weird. It's kind of satisfying, though. Yeah Yeah. Well then I just want to see everyone else's like I have this obsession now where I just want to like look in people's throats. My tummy. At their tonsils. You can look at mine. After. Okay. I'm curious. Well, I have them and I don't even know. Can you imagine? Oh my god. No, you know, honey. Your breasts. I didn't know about them until like two years ago and my brother, I was like, oh my god, my tonsils hurt and then I like used a flashlight and looked and I was like what is that?

Starting point is 00:19:28 And he's like it's a tonsil stone I was like what the fuck is this only for for people who have gotten their tonsils out or can you have them if you haven't gotten your tonsils out? It's for people who still have their tonsils. That's why I'm so mad at my mom I was like bitch. Why didn't you get my tonsils out? I still have my tonsils. Oh yeah, there's a chance. We'll check. We'll check. I don't get it very often.

Starting point is 00:19:50 When I'm getting very run down, that's when I get that. That's interesting. I wonder if it's because the inflammation in your tonsils, because those are like a bacteria filter in your mouth. Like, so. Probably, yeah, because if I'm getting sick. Yeah, your tonsils and adenoids, and it's just crazy stuff. And then you use station tubes and your sinuses

Starting point is 00:20:05 I got like six air infections in a year because my you station tubes are too flat They don't go angled down so my ears don't drain properly. Oh, I'm just a fucking mess You're kind of broken over here. I'm really Know what you probably have a hole in your tooth. I have to go to the dentist your boyfriend not Ksu Yeah, he does and I just feel bad, because I'm like, how bad is my nose today? No, it does it. If you get him out, you don't have bad breath.

Starting point is 00:20:31 Yeah, no, I'm pretty good about my little, my pick. Okay, moving. Our little, our Morgan, the minor. Yeah, oh, okay. God. I shouldn't have shared this. Morgan, the tonsil, the tonsil, I always share every episode.

Starting point is 00:20:43 We do too. Literally, we talk about shitting our pants almost every episode. I can't wait to hear about this. I'll find a poop story for the second half tomorrow. Please. Yes, we have it up the story. This will be good. Okay.

Starting point is 00:20:54 So up next, we have a post from one day ago, and it's posted on the two hot takes subreddit. Okay. Our very own sub. It is titled, Bot the wedding dress my best friend wanted, but didn't get and she's mad at me. Oh, God. I'd be pissed. I, 25 female, got engaged to my now fiance, 26 male of seven years on December 24th, 2022.

Starting point is 00:21:20 I'm so happy and excited. The wedding is set for March 16th, 2024, and I've already planned so excited. The wedding is set for March 16th, 2024, and I've already planned so much. Now the drama. My best friend, who I'll call K, 25 female, got married August 15th, 2022, and chose me as her maid of honor. We've been best friends for 10 plus years. I was super excited and did everything a maid of honor is expected to do, especially go dress shopping with the bride. We went to at least three different bridal stores together and she absolutely all caps

Starting point is 00:21:51 fell in love with one from the last store. She wanted it so bad and she looked absolutely stunning. However, her mom, who I'll call B, didn't like it. It was a little over budget, and she said it wasn't bridal enough and looked like a cocktail dress. K was clearly upset. So I tried to help her come up with ways for her to get the dress. Unfortunately, B didn't budge.

Starting point is 00:22:18 K ended up choosing a different dress at a different bar idol shop that was just as beautiful. Fast forward to February of this year. I asked her to be my maid of honor and invite her dress shopping with my mom and I. I try on several dresses at the first stores, but none of them were the one. So we go to the store where she fell in love with the dress, but didn't get it, and I try on several dresses. I knew I wanted to try on that dress just because I didn't think it would be a big deal because she ended up choosing another dress. The

Starting point is 00:22:51 moment I put it on, I knew it was the one. I felt so beautiful and confident for the first time in years. K went to the restroom and my mom said I should talk to K to make sure she was all right. So before we all went to dinner, I asked Kay, well, you'd be mad if I choose this dress. She said, I'd be a little jealous, but if that's your dress, you should get it. Two weeks later, I said yes, and set an appointment for her to get her made of honor dress.

Starting point is 00:23:19 I even offered to buy it for her, because I wanted her to get a dress, she wanted no matter the cost. After I said yes, she got extremely upset and ran into her dress room crying. My smile immediately went away and everyone in the bridal shop could see. She texted me a few hours later saying, quote, I'm sorry, you knew how much I wanted it for my wedding and it feels like a punch in the gut." She also said, quote, it felt like a stab in the back.

Starting point is 00:23:47 I couldn't stop crying. The next day we had a girl's day because she didn't have a bachelor at. That's a whole another story. And we both apologized. We had a great day and I thought everything was fine. Kay went silent for two months after that day. I texted her and basically asked her what's going on. She said,

Starting point is 00:24:05 quote, based on how I was treated during my wedding planning and then you getting that dress, you don't value our friendship. I was shocked. I honestly didn't know what she meant by, quote, how I was treated throughout my wedding process. And I didn't respond right away. The next day, I texted her that what she said broke my heart and we needed to have a conversation, but I needed time to process everything. A week later I asked Kay if she was still going to be my maid of honor. I told her, quote, I still want you to be, but if you don't want to, I'll understand. And she responds, that sounds like you don't want me to be. I said that was not the case, but I wouldn't force her. And I would respect her decision regardless. She basically ended up saying, but I wouldn't force her, and I would respect her decision regardless.

Starting point is 00:24:46 She basically ended up saying, quote, I'm still going back and forth with it, but I'm leaning towards not being in your bridal party. Fast forward to weeks of trying to get together in person, we get together and talk. The conversation went well, I thought. I told her she's no longer in the bridal party, and my second made of honor is taking over the role completely. Kay and I both said we want to longer in the Brattle Party, and my second made of honor is taking over the role completely. Kay and I both said we want to stay in each other's lives. One thing that Kay said that really pissed me off is that when I said I can't go back in

Starting point is 00:25:14 time and choose a different dress, she laughed and said, quote, you could, it would just be a lot of money, LOL. I've been really going back and forth on this and it's adding so much stress to myself. So am I the asshole? This needs to be unpacked a little bit. That's dicey. I have recently been a part of a few weddings. They can be tough. They can be tough. I've seen made of honors and brides not ever talk again, like literally in weddings that I've been in.

Starting point is 00:25:48 Wow. This, what's like, what was it over? Like spark notes. Spark notes would basically be that with the made of honor, had a new boyfriend, he kind of put her into a little bit of like a weird position. He was older. He was very much like the controller of the relationship, like what he said goes.

Starting point is 00:26:09 So let's say he wanted to fly to the destination wedding two days after she was supposed to be there late for the bachelor at that we were having there. She didn't plan anything of it. Like barely was like there for it. They showed up late. After the wedding, she gave her speech. She disappeared and she flew out from where we were and never said anything to the bride.

Starting point is 00:26:29 Is she okay? This sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. No, I mean very clearly, but when you've tried to get through to the person, over and over again, you can only do so much. You can't do anymore. You have to let them learn for themselves. Which so. Yeah, with this one then, like yeah.

Starting point is 00:26:44 I was trying to put myself in both of their spots. Like if I was the bride and I was like, this is the dress I want. Part of me is like, did she want that dress because there was that subconscious in the back, like she put it on knowing like, this cannot be the dress that I pick. So it's the dress I pick.

Starting point is 00:27:00 It's almost like you want what you can't have. That goes literally relationships, everything. I'm like, is that why she picked it, though? So I'm, I don't know if she's yes or not. I think honestly, I think. I can't decide. I think everyone sucks here. Yeah.

Starting point is 00:27:16 I think when you, and I get the dress, when you're talking about K, the girl who originally tried that dress on, yeah. I get budget, plays a big part in a something. Like if you can't afford it, there's only so much you can do. Exactly.

Starting point is 00:27:28 But it sounds like maybe affordability could have changed. It was more so her mom. And it's like if you want something, advocate for yourself. Like this girl is every chance and chance she gets is not advocating for herself. She doesn't get her dream dress. And then her friend asks her, hey, would you be upset if I got this dress? And she doesn't just say, yes, I would. That was my dream dress. That would really hurt. She says, no,

Starting point is 00:27:58 like you can get it. Like I might be a little jealous, but like you can get, like fucking stand up for yourself. This is your friend of 10 years, communicate with her. If you communicate, but also then I'm in the boat of like, why even try on the dress? Like you're kind of being a little bit of an inconsiderate ass, but even going down that road. If I had a friend of 10 years, which I do, and she fell in love with the dress, what she did, I would literally never put that dress on. I would not put the dress on.

Starting point is 00:28:25 No. Why would I put myself in a position where I know that even though it's a weird situation and weddings can be really dicey, I would never add to that stress. Why would I put myself in the position in the first place? There's a million dresses out there. And to the other girl, she's kind of a people pleaser. She's not saying what, like you said, she needs a stand-up for herself, she needs a say, what she means, but also in every situation,

Starting point is 00:28:47 like, do you want me to not do this dress? Do you want to be in my wedding or not? You're not talking to me, what's going on? She's just being a flake. Well, and what's hard is like, she cried in the dressing room, and then the next day they had this great day to where like, our writer here, things everything's fine.

Starting point is 00:29:02 Like, we had a great day, I thought it was all good, and then to go someone, it's like, are right or hear, things, everything's fine. Like, we had a great day, I thought it was all good. And then to go someone, it's like, I don't know why, especially after a 10-year-long friendship. Why are you not comfortable enough in your feelings or with yourself to share with your friend? Like, she's been friends with you for 10 years. She's not gonna stop being friends with you just because you share how you're feeling.

Starting point is 00:29:24 Be honest. Be candid.'re feeling. Be honest. Be candid. Be candid. Be real. God, be honest. I don't know. It bombs me out because I hear way too many horror stories about weddings and then I see horror stories about weddings

Starting point is 00:29:38 and then I'm like, oh shit, what am I about to get myself into down the road? I'm like, do I wanna have a bridal party? I don't freaking know because why the hell would I put myself in a position that could tarnish a relationship with a best friend? Or maybe on the flip side, is this about to show me true colors of the greediness of my closest friends? Obviously not my people, right? But then this happens to your maid of honor. You're like, Jesus. It's hard. I just, I'm something I'm really struggling with

Starting point is 00:30:06 is like how expensive, like celebrating other people has become like, and obviously if you're in a position to do so, it like it doesn't, you don't think about it so much, but it's crazy like to go to one of my friends weddings, like I spent probably three grand just to go to her wedding and like, I did too. I'm like, what the, like what? Like, just maybe a lope and like I'll send you 500 bucks

Starting point is 00:30:32 as a gift, like, and that's, and then it's like, well, that's not the point. Like, it's about being there and sharing a lope, but it's like, that is an insane amount of money to spend on someone else's wedding. Personally, my opinion is if you're a bride, you have to be considered about that because I would not drop $3,000 to go to someone's wedding.

Starting point is 00:30:52 Like I couldn't right now. Like, sorry, I can't call my care about you, but I literally can't just drop the money to go. It's an insane amount of money. Yeah. I don't know, I'm on the flip side because one of the wedding that was one of my best friends and I would pay every dollar again to go to that experience that because it was the most beautiful day I've

Starting point is 00:31:08 ever been a part of. It was the most passion I've ever seen. It was, they let it be like an open vacation. So like we still got to do everything we wanted to do. That's really nice. And then like also be a part of the bridal party. Do I think that it wanting up that wedding, like even like to go to a different one is going to be impossible?

Starting point is 00:31:25 Absolutely, because it was so amazing. Yeah. I think for your closest friends, you can make the decision if you want to go and you want to spend that money. Yeah. If you're not in the bridal party, I think there's no expectation for you to be there and spend that money. That's my opinion. Yeah. Yeah. How do you get out of that people-please-or-face?

Starting point is 00:31:44 How do you start saying no? It takes time. It takes boundaries. Barabies. Yeah, and you I feel like I disappoint people a lot with boundaries and I've I feel like the more you do it the easier it is But yeah, I mean, it's still hard. We're both people-pleasers. We all are just a little bit They're where perfectionists and it comes into play, but small steps, one step at a time. Yeah, it's like a muscle that's gotta keep it up. Keep it up. I feel like I always have to actually say what I'm thinking

Starting point is 00:32:13 and I force myself to say what I'm thinking because when I've reflected on situations where I've leaned into doing whatever the other person asks of me when I know I'm exhausted, I'm showing up somewhere when I know that I can't pay for it. And now I'm in debt because I went to dinner and I knew I didn't have any more money that week. I feel so shitty.

Starting point is 00:32:31 And I could have just said no, I'm not really going to show up for you right now because I can't. And then weird, that person, you try it once, that person's not angry at you. Weird how that works out. Communication, baby. Communication, you're... Communication. One of this week's partners is ZockDock. I know usually if something's wrong with us,

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Starting point is 00:34:30 She fresh. Coming from Am I the asshole? It is titled Am I the asshole? Because I, quote, didn't do enough to discourage my daughter from using only fans. I, 47 female, am a single mom. When my daughter, now 21 female, was 18, I found out she had an only fans account by accidentally walking in on her taking photos of herself.

Starting point is 00:34:53 I was very angry and shocked, but once I got a bit more cool headed, I realized that I probably wouldn't be able to stop her even if I tried. I sat her down and tried to explain what my concerns were, and how she should give this decision a lot of thought. But I emphasized that I would still love and support her even if she decided to continue. Since she was old enough to make decisions for herself. I felt a lot of sympathy for her because as a single mother, I wasn't able to provide for her the nice life she deserved growing up. We were living in a one-bedroom apartment for many years, frequently skipping on meals to make ends meet.

Starting point is 00:35:30 The few hundred extra dollars in her pocket every month from only fans made a real difference to her happiness. She was able to go out with her friends to concerts, buy nicer clothes and make up, and didn't have to work her weekend job. When the pandemic hit and only fans exploded in popularity, she went from making a few hundred dollars a month to a few thousand. Over those months, only fans became a full-time career for her.

Starting point is 00:35:54 When restrictions eased up, she started performing hardcore content. And with her newfound money was able to afford a lavish by my standards at least, style of living. She rented a nice place of her own, partied a lot, and seemed to be enjoying her life. Last week, she showed up at my place in tears. She was broke, and she admitted that she'd developed a drug problem. She screamed at me, telling me I'd ruined her life, and that I should have stopped her from using only fans when she was 18. She called me irresponsible

Starting point is 00:36:34 lazy for not making more money so that she wouldn't have had to turn to only fans and a horrible mother. She told me that every relationship she ever cared about ended when the guy found out what she did for a living and that I shouldn have, quote, stood by applauding while she ruined her life. Her comments really hurt me, and I've been crying nonstop for the past week pretty much. I'm torturing myself with these thoughts, and I just want to know where I stand. I'm worried I let my daughter down, and that she's right. I am a terrible mother. But I also feel intensely angry at her. Like, I'll go crazy unless I scream, I told you so. And you didn't listen at her. Was I an asshole mother? Or should I be justifiably angry about how she's handled her life?

Starting point is 00:37:16 Oh, that makes my heart hurt. That the fact that I was posted five hours ago too. Yeah. All I'm saying is moms are doing their best. Everyone thinks that, like, even when you're growing up, you're like, my mom knows everything. They're doing the best they can. So I do not, I really don't think she's the asshole in the situation. I think you need to be stern as an adult, as an parent, like looking at your child,

Starting point is 00:37:41 even though they're 18, yes, they're an adult. I don't think if she would have been stoner, or maybe if she could have been stoner, that it would have made a difference. So I think it would have severed the relationship even more. I agree. And I think what you need to do right now, instead of focusing on if you're an asshole or not,

Starting point is 00:37:58 and if you cause a stornot, is get your daughter help. Yeah. But truly, that's what I would do. That's step one. And like, as sad as it is, like, she also needs to learn a little bit of accountability. Like, that's kind of an underlying theme with like all of these right now. It's like, where's the accountability? Like, and I do agree, I think of the mom would have said, like, no, I'm, I'm cutting you off. You can't live here anymore.

Starting point is 00:38:18 Like, at 18, she would have ran away and maybe be in an even worse situation. She sounds like she was so determined to just do her own thing and what 18-year-old isn't. And this is especially a thing with moms and daughters. We're always pushing boundaries with our moms. We're always trying to establish that we're different than our moms and be our own people. So it wouldn't have worked if she would have put her foot down then either. I don't think you're the asshole. Like, I really don't. Like, I think you did the best that you could.

Starting point is 00:38:48 You clearly, like, I can't say that I've been in the same situation where you're in a one-bedroom with your mom and you're, you know, you have a single parent, you're just trying to hustle just you two. I mean, she was trying to hustle because she saw dollar. And when you're that young, like, a hundred bucks makes a huge difference. Yeah. You get excited for little, like, 100 bucks makes a huge difference. Yeah. You get excited for little, like, I mean, it's not little amount of money,

Starting point is 00:39:07 but like that little impact that you felt just from getting $100, right? Yeah. So it's probably- She's probably addicting, honestly, too. I was gonna say she was seeing dollar signs and she was not gonna change no matter what. The weird comment that I heard was,

Starting point is 00:39:20 she started, it said during COVID, she started doing something content, like- like performing hardcore. What does that mean? I envisioned the earlier stuff was just selfies, nudes, that kind of thing. And when I hear her videos, yeah, when I hear hardcore, I'm like, she's probably having sex on camera. Or it's, it's gone past just photography. I also think that right now, the mother might think, oh my gosh, like, this is going to be the end of the relationship, but I really do think if you give it time, I think it might get worse before it gets better, like, she's going to need help. And I bet there will be forgiveness in the future, for sure. I think, yeah, I hope so, at least. It sounds like the mom is just trying to deal

Starting point is 00:40:05 with her own anger and completely justified. If I had worked my ass off and tried to give my daughter everything that I possibly could, and then she came back and said, you're a terrible mother, you're lazy because you didn't work more. Like blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, God, you ungrateful little brat.

Starting point is 00:40:20 Yeah, I know. So I guess I'd be pissed too. Oh my God, there's like, there's so many emotions on pack here, but like bottom line, yeah, she probably needs help. She should probably move out of her lavish apartment that she can't afford. The drug problem needs to be addressed.

Starting point is 00:40:34 Like, there's a lot here, but it sounds like this mom is very supportive. I mean, how many parents, how many parents would have cut her off as soon as they found out? 90%. Yeah. A lot. And for this, mom would be like, you know what?

Starting point is 00:40:46 What I don't want you to do this, but whatever you choose, I love you. I'll support you. She didn't cut her off. Like, I don't say the best answer a mother could give to. Like, giving you all the cons, like, this is what could happen. This is what you're gonna be doing. Like, this will always be out there.

Starting point is 00:41:03 I bet she said all of that and she's still my decision. That was her decision. And then, oh, my mom, I lived with my mom around the time of like 18 and then through COVID. And I mean, like, I don't remember. I didn't have an only fans, but my mom definitely when she found out, like I drank and different things, you know, not of age,

Starting point is 00:41:21 I'm outing myself a little bit. She was like, you know, that's extremely disappointing, but I can't change what you're doing and you have to make your own decisions, but I wouldn't do that if I was you because that's extremely risky. And so it was almost like a, I think the disappointment burns more than the actual,

Starting point is 00:41:39 no, you can't do that. Like I would have just acted out more if I would have heard a no. And the disappointment may be like, oh shit, it's I gotta pull back. I don't have it. I haven't been diagnosed by anyone, but I have a very oppositional personality. If my parents told me something, I was doing the exact opposite just to prove I could. I was a terror, absolute terror. The friends that I had in high school who had really strict parents. First year in college, alcohol poisoning, hospital visits, I'm just saying, oh my God. Yeah.

Starting point is 00:42:16 I think they go the other way. It's the same with the almond moms and the parents that are so crazy about what their kids eat. They don't even buy anything, a chip or anything. Those kids move out on their own and then they develop binge eating. You can't over restrict your kids. It's a fine line-e essence.

Starting point is 00:42:36 No, it's really hard. I literally remember my mom being like, I would ask her, I'd be like, can I please go to the sleepover, please? And she's like, your boy is gonna be there. I'm like, no, and of course they were. And please? And she's like, your boy is gonna be there. I'm like, no. And of course they were. And she knew, she wasn't dumb.

Starting point is 00:42:47 It was like a Saturday. And she would say, I don't want you to go. And she goes, but the decision is yours. Oh. And I'm like, and one time, one time, I went out of spite. Cause I'm like, you know, I'm gonna make my own decisions. I wanna go. And let me tell you, the entire time I was sitting in the corner, I'm like, you know, I'm gonna make my own decisions. I want to go. And let me tell you, got a minor.

Starting point is 00:43:05 The entire time I was sitting in the corner, I'm like, I want to go home. I can't be here. My mom's so disappointed in me. And I drove back home. I drove back home. I was like, I didn't have a- Oh, you're such a good kid. That was nothing. Oh, you're such a good kid. I think that was me, too. Honestly, I was too afraid of my dad. My dad was strict. My mom was a little more lenient.

Starting point is 00:43:25 So I always got my mom for everything, but that's so cute. That's really is. I can't, I could not disappoint my mom. I can't even feel the feeling of that word. Oh my God. But that's honestly, that just shows how great it is to let your kids make their own decisions, but to instill this confidence in your relationship.

Starting point is 00:43:43 That, hey, it's okay if I change my mind or, hey, mom, can you come pick me up? Like, you know, like, same with, sorry, same with like, sex when I was at age two. Like, I felt comfortable going to my mom. Like, the first, I didn't have sex earlier, anything, but I thought I had like, oh my gosh, I had sex.

Starting point is 00:44:01 I didn't know what I was doing. My mom's like, make sure you're safe. Like, I felt comfortable going to her. And I think there's resentment that builds. If they are strict and you can't talk to your parents about anything, I didn't have that experience. It's, you have to be able to talk to your mom. And I was like, I love that I had that with my mom.

Starting point is 00:44:18 So that's amazing. Because not everyone has that. I didn't. I was very much so the kid where it's like, no sex before marriage. And so it was like, absinence, abs so the kid where it's like, no sex before marriage. And so it was like, absinence, absinence. And it's like, okay, I had sex at 15. Like, yeah, I had it really too long.

Starting point is 00:44:31 And it's like, well, and it's like, thank God, I wasn't, you know, for my life, at least, like I wasn't a teen parent. I didn't want that for myself. And thank God I didn't have an accident because my mom not being open with me. I wasn't on birth control. I was scared to talk to her.

Starting point is 00:44:48 I didn't get a proper sex education talk. I was kind of like, I fell through the cracks. Meanwhile, I found out my older brother, how to, my mom gave them my older brother and his girlfriend the best sex ed talk ever. Oh, interesting. Telling, telling my brother, hey, make sure you're pleasing your girlfriend.

Starting point is 00:45:05 It's about her too, you know. And I'm like, what the fuck? The male to female conversations that people have that is with sex education and just addressing the birds in the bees. I'm like, oh my God, oh my God, we are here too. Yeah, I'm a girl. Including like masturbation, like all these girls growing up with with issues being able to orgasm because they're ashamed and they're just this guilt behind touching yourself. And I'm like, oh, when I was little, again, we do even talked about this earlier.

Starting point is 00:45:35 But I had my first orgasm when I was literally eight years old. And I was like, ever since then, I know what I was doing. Or so, poor caramel. Poor caramel. You had your little stuffed dog, we humped that baby. It's okay, I mean, I love it. I was like, ever since then, I know what I was doing. Or self-port-carmal. Port-carmal. You had your little stuffed dog. We humped that baby. It's okay, I mean, I use sheets. I remember, like, I remember vividly googling.

Starting point is 00:45:52 Cause like, you start to discover yourself. Yeah. I remember I got my first laptop and like, God, you're on the internet. Like, I had no parental controls on that thing. And I remember googling, like, homemade sex toys. And homemade. It's at a sheet, use a nice silky sheet, pull it between your legs and go back and forth

Starting point is 00:46:11 on your clip. I had never heard of this before. I should try that. Honestly, now I need something a little more higher voltage if I'm being real. Do you use any like creams? Do you use any add-ons? Like when you were talking about this how like

Starting point is 00:46:25 you need a toy, which is totally fine. Like toys are teammates, not competition, especially exactly. Exactly. For couples out there. But do you use any like stimulant cream? I mean, I've you like when I have sex, obviously, Loub. But no, I've wanted to try. No, really Loub. Obviously. No, like okay. And I know people that come at me every time I talk about it because they hate MLMs, but pure romance is O-cream. And I've tried a bunch of other ones now. I've tried like cowgirl magic, bolt, nothing hits like pure romance, O-cream. What do you mean like stimulants?

Starting point is 00:46:58 So it's like a... So they, like during the demo, they're like, this is your clip. Your clip has 8,000 nerve endings. If you use O-cream, it heightens all of those nerve endings. So your threshold to have an orgasm is that much lower. It's easier. Do you feel like a tingle? Initially it feels a tingle, and then it's like, God, if you blew on that thing.

Starting point is 00:47:19 Oh, really? It just, it becomes so much more sensitive. I should try icy hot. Oh, Jesus. Oh, oh, oh. Don't put that down there. No, I just thought of that. I was like icy hot. Oh Jesus. Oh, oh. Oh, oh. Oh, oh. Oh, oh. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,

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Starting point is 00:48:02 Okay. I've been pure romance. Oh, yeah. I will say I definitely liked it was CBD, slash THC oil, very calming. And I like a more relaxed vibe, like a hyper-not hyper stimulation. I'm like, oh, I'm going to lay down. And then I went and lay down. And I was just like enjoying my moment. I was very soothing, almost energy, which is when I think I have the best. Was it called foria?

Starting point is 00:48:26 I can't remember. They shared it with me and I could not remember. Foria is the one I tried that has CBD in it, and it's good. Wonderful. It was centralized versus a head high, right? If it actually teaches. Yeah, but THC, you wouldn't get low. It doesn't hit you.

Starting point is 00:48:40 You're not high. It's just like, oh, I see your saying. It's yeah. You have a giant as high as Sarah, maybe. Sarah Sharer would say, we have a headache in a clip. Yeah, that was headache in your pants. That was like the best thing I've heard for like that sensation.

Starting point is 00:48:54 You start feeling as a woman and you're turned on. I was crazy. I know, I love that. It was crazy. I remember feeling that when I was little and I had no idea what the hell was going on. I'm like, what is this? I called it a heartbeat. Yeah, oh, when you can feel it, it's not. I didn't know what it was. I was no idea what the hell was going on. I'm like, what is this? I called it a heartbeat.

Starting point is 00:49:05 Yeah, oh, when you can feel it. It's not. I didn't know what it was. I was like, what the hell is that? I have a heartbeat down there. I kind of want to hump this armchair, but why? No, I was not. Tumping anything.

Starting point is 00:49:15 Well, okay. Well, you want to know what's so crazy about like a female orgasm too. Like, I feel like people have a hard time describing it. And so that's why like I used to think I was broken. I'm like, I can't have one because you're expecting fire works. And it's like, no, it literally is just like, it's so different than that.

Starting point is 00:49:34 And so I was like, wait, am I? Oh, yeah, I actually am. I mean, you know what? I did. I was like, I am full-fledged broken. And if you are listening and you have an experience one, just know that doesn't mean you're broken. Like, there am full-fledged broken. And if you are listening and you have an experience one, just know that doesn't mean you're broken.

Starting point is 00:49:46 Like there's ways and things you can do, you need to go to therapy or OT, no, OP, no. OT does a deep sex, but there's also sex therapists too. Exactly. For, you can do exercises even to help you either get over some sort of shame you have. And we've talked about that. We've had OBGYNs on to kind of go through that too.

Starting point is 00:50:05 So just still, you're not broken. If that is. I have some of your experience. I have multiple friends that are 30 and older and still have a Nordgasm. I would say my advice is just actually get curious about your body, like be curious and like wonder and figure out what you like.

Starting point is 00:50:19 Because I was afraid to even like touch down there. I was afraid to see what was going on. I was afraid, oh, that's a shame. You cannot don't touch yourself. Oh my God, remember, that's shameful, that's bad. Like, you need to learn what's going on down there in your body. And then, once you understand, everyone always

Starting point is 00:50:34 said, once you understand what you like, then you can express it to a person or your partner in a safe space, right? Also, addressing shame. Yeah, because if you've gone through something, which sadly a lot of us have, that has made us feel shameful or afraid of experiencing more Like sexual activity and everything's like that like that something that needs to be addressed doesn't mean you're broken No, I thought I was broken and look at me

Starting point is 00:50:57 I really did Well, I'm back to this girl like her I think this whole thing was triggered by this guy Finding out she did only fans and then wanting nothing to do with her. And I think that goes with anyone's sexual past. Like if someone judges you for a body count, one, if a guy's asking you that, fucking, bye. But also, if anyone is judging you or not able to get over your past

Starting point is 00:51:21 or holds it against you, they're not your person. So for this, this girl dodged a bullet. If you don't want to do only fans anymore, you don't have to. Move on. You don't own anybody anything. You don't have to tell anybody that you did it. You can move forward with your life. She's got other things to worry about right now. She's got to get off the drugs. She's got to figure out what is next for her life. She's got to take a deep breath, get humble with herself, realize, take responsibility for actions, you renew the relationship with your mom,

Starting point is 00:51:49 go forward. Yeah, the top comment on this one is not the asshole. And that's the vote I'm seeing, heavy, not the asshole. They go on to say, you talked through your concerns with her initially, and ultimately, she's an adult that made poor choices and is having to deal with the consequences. Blame is easier for her than self-reflection.

Starting point is 00:52:09 Uh, snap snap. That's called the maturity, my friends. That's immaturity. Yeah, and she's young. She's young, 21. That's exactly. Honestly, I wonder if I was 18 and only fans was the thing, I don't know. That's the thing.

Starting point is 00:52:23 I think they should up the age on it, to be honest. 21, if you don't have the mental capacity to drink alcohol and choose certain things, even the fact you can join the military at 18, I'm like, those people's prefrontal cortexes are not developed. Why are we, it just feels like you're taking advantage of like, people. Yeah. Like you're exploiting a vulnerable population of like young adults and that goes with only fans too.

Starting point is 00:52:50 It's like, you don't really realize the ramifications of this big decision. Yeah. And I didn't realize only fans comes up on a background check. Oh, no way. Yeah. Oh, wow. So because when employers do background checks, they see like what've done as far as worked for and W2s. And so if you have an only fans, it shows up as a W2.

Starting point is 00:53:13 Said you got a delinear card. I'm screwed. No, I was kidding. I don't have an only fans, but that actually shocks me because I'm like, whoa, that would be an awkward conversation and you guarantee that's gonna come later as a backhanded compliment. I wonder what would happen though,

Starting point is 00:53:26 because you know how only fans is kind of transitioning a little bit more to like an exclusive like patron type of yeah, you know, you can chat with me. It's not even sexual like we even debated with our podcast or like, oh, and only fans for just people that want to chat. Yeah, nothing crazy. Oh my God, what's gonna happen when they apply to any

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Starting point is 00:56:09 I we might be ordering her. My article furniture though, these other chairs are actually way comfier. Those ones over there. I could sleep on them. Oh my god. I could sleep on them. This looks better, but not as comfortable. Okay. Good to know. You were looking like you were sleeping. Are there a little blankie. I was so cozy earlier. She was a cozy girl. I was so cozy.

Starting point is 00:56:31 Okay. Are we ready to get back into this? Yeah. You have a sister. I do. You have a sister. Okay, good. I have a sister. Here we go. So this one is 13 hours old. It is titled, Am I the asshole for insisting my pregnant sister switch bedrooms with me? Throw away, because I don't want it connected to my main. My sister and I both mid 20s females, I'm a few years older, share a house together. It was our parents' house

Starting point is 00:56:58 and we both inherited it after they died. We have equal share slash ownership of the house. The house has four bedrooms. One is the master room that has an on-suite and walk-in wardrobe. The other three just have built-in robes. When we both moved back in after deciding that neither of us wanted to sell, we agreed that she could have the master suite, but the two largest of the other bedrooms would both be mine. One as an actual bedroom, and the other bedrooms would both be mine, one as an actual bedroom and the other as a gaming room for me.

Starting point is 00:57:28 The last and smallest bedroom is a guest room. Her boyfriend's been living here for a while and she recently told me that she's pregnant. I'm not particularly looking forward to sharing a house with a screaming baby, but it's her house too and she has every right to be here and raise her kid. Obviously, the baby will need a bedroom, and I was expecting that to be the guest bedroom. It is the smallest bedroom in the house, but it's still the same size as a standard bedroom. But my sister wouldn't go for that.

Starting point is 00:57:59 She's insisting I move my stuff out of my game room so that can be the baby's room. I told her that I'm not moving my stuff into the guest room because that wasn't our agreement. But then she informed me that actually I won't be able to do that either as she would still need a guest room, especially with the baby coming as her boyfriend's family will want to visit. So I said, fine, you can have my game room. If you move into my room and give me the master room, she started crying and said that as a mother, she's going to need her own space. And she deserves the master bedroom. I asked what she expected me to do. And she said, I should just suck it up and keep all my crap in my own room. We're

Starting point is 00:58:42 at an impasse and I can't get her to come to a real agreement with me. She keeps calling me a, quote, huge bitch and says that I should let her have both the master bedroom and my gaming room because she, quote, needs them more. Her boyfriend says I should just deal with it. That because I don't want kids anyways, I should just suck it up. My girlfriend, who also spends a lot of kids anyways, I should just suck it up. My girlfriend, who also spends a lot of time here, is on my side and says my sister is being a spoiled entitled little brat. Am I the asshole?

Starting point is 00:59:14 Oh my God. I'm freaking torn. I'm not going to lie. I'm not either. I'm not either. I'm not either. Well, let's hear why you're torn. Okay.

Starting point is 00:59:24 Because I think that pregnant people are very emotional. Like you don't quite rash in the same. I've heard it from my friends who are pregnant and they're like a little confused. You made an agreement though and I don't think it should be broken. But at the same time if my sister was pregnant, I don't really care. That's like my literal other half. Like I would be sharing the space and I would't really care. Like, that's like my literal other half. Like, I would be sharing the space and I would be like, fine.

Starting point is 00:59:47 Fine. I mean, it's annoying. You're gonna have to do something for me, but fine. Here's, here's what I think. I guess I am torn in the sense of who is the asshole in the situation, yes. But I'm sorry. How old are they? And they're 20s.

Starting point is 01:00:03 She has a boyfriend that's living with them and about to have a baby. That sounds like a family. This sounds like it's about to be a family. You guys are in your 20s. I either think you need to sell the house and both move out so you can mend that relationship so you can continue on with both of your lives independently

Starting point is 01:00:19 because she has a family and the sister is just like living there then. That's what it feels like. I would feel left out. I would feel I'm not a part of this family and I'm just like taking up their space. I feel like I'd be a burden. So yeah, I would, I know what's the parents' house and it's inherited.

Starting point is 01:00:34 Maybe it has some meaning, but maybe sell the house and both without. That's like a medium I thought. I think that's probably the most fair because this is supposed to be a 50-50 split. Yeah. This isn't 50. No, that's probably the most fair because this is supposed to be a 50-50 split. This isn't 50. No, that's not.

Starting point is 01:00:47 The pregnant sister is getting 75% of the rooms. She's getting the master bedroom, the second biggest room for the baby's room, and the guest suite. Her boyfriend's fair. Her boyfriend's fair. And the boyfriend's there. Like, you're going beyond a 50-50 split and it is fair, right? If you and your boyfriend and your baby who are three people and you're taking up

Starting point is 01:01:07 a majority of this house, you should have a worse room. You're gonna get two rooms, it's no different, you know? Like, and what if your sister did want a kid? Then like, you know? The insinuation and the conversation of the boyfriend coming in being like, well, you don't want kids anyway. Like if a guy said that to me, I'd be like, oh, shush, don't talk to me.

Starting point is 01:01:26 Don't talk to me. I would be pissed. Stay out of it. This is not your house. Is your name on the deed? How are you? You're here just because you knocked up my sister. Uh huh, and why is this shut the fuck up?

Starting point is 01:01:37 Why isn't the boyfriend being like, okay, well, I'm not a advocate first of all, like what's the plan there? Maybe he could purchase a house or something. I'm just, I mean, all, like, what's the plan there? Maybe he could purchase a house or something. I'm just, I mean, how, like the housing market, oh, yeah. The thought, like, it's terrible.

Starting point is 01:01:50 Cost of living is crazy. The fact they were able to agree to like share this and come to terms initially is amazing, but you're right, like, they are growing up. They are moving in different directions. And I guess like when you ask yourself long term, what did they expect long term? Because were they expecting this to be full house

Starting point is 01:02:10 and everyone lives together? That's confusing. I was getting weird vibes when you mentioned the baby and then the boyfriend, I was like, this is literally a family. Well, think about it, it'll be the sister, the boyfriend, the baby, and then likely one to two parents. So that's four to one.

Starting point is 01:02:25 I just like, and then if they have other kids, oh, this is gonna stay forever. This is a slow takeover. I feel like she's trying to push her out and get everything she wants. Like I feel like this pregnant sister is so entitled. And maybe it's the pregnancy hormones just making her a little like,

Starting point is 01:02:41 I don't know, like up in herself, but I would be really mad if this was my sister doing this to me. I'd be pissed. I'm not saying I wouldn't be. Yeah, no. I just get confused because I'm like, I want the best for my family.

Starting point is 01:02:53 So if they're, you know, like, I mean, they had a kid, they're in their 20s, they don't have a, you know, they're using the space that we share, sounds like they would have more money in their pocket because it sounds like the house is paid for. So what's going on with that dynamic? I don't know.

Starting point is 01:03:07 I'm overthinking it probably, but I would be pissed. Yeah, but it's my sister. So if she wants a space and she needs a space to start her family and get a little bit under her feet, I mean, I give it even offering like if you were the pregnant sister and you are slowly taking over this house probably on purpose trying to push your sister out and you aren't paying okay pay for your sister's rent somewhere then. Yeah. You're getting a cut like you're getting if you're doing 50 if you're doing 50 50 like figure out the money situation pay for your sister's rent. Yeah. When there's assets involved it gets so complex with families like I don't know what I would do in this situation really truly.

Starting point is 01:03:45 It's hard. I honestly, I think the best solution is to sell and let these two people choose their own lives going forward. But I get the sentimental value of like their family home because I would never want to sell my family home. So it's, it's really tough. But I think the sister needs to get back down to earth because she's treating her sibling like shit.

Starting point is 01:04:04 She's acting so entitled. And you don't get to have your cake you needed to. Like you made the decision to have a child. Now, you know, you can't have everything. The world doesn't revolve around you. It's not. So the top comment on this one, not the asshole about giving up your rooms, but I'm very doubtful this living situation is going to last.

Starting point is 01:04:24 She's doing a slow takeover and it will only get worse, especially if she has more kids. about giving up your rooms, but I'm very doubtful this living situation is going to last. She's doing a slow takeover and it will only get worse, especially if she has more kids. So comments are picking up on this stuff too. Have you ever discussed her buying out your share or honestly just selling and getting your own home? Which like, I mean, this is a four bedroom house. That's a big home.

Starting point is 01:04:41 I'm sure it appreciated in value. They could both then maybe it might be a downsize, but hey, that's the sacrifice you make to get your own space. Sounds like this is a new chapter anyway. Like this is really truly a new chapter for both of them. So yeah, I would definitely consider yeah. The next comment down quotes the other comment she's doing a slow takeover. And they go, my thoughts as well. But seeing her comment, quote, keep all your crap in your single room, pushing this to the hostile takeover

Starting point is 01:05:11 territory. OP, get locks for your rooms. And if buy-out or selling is on your mind, bring it to the table. The lock thing is aggressive, I think. They'd get in anyway. I mean, take the door off the hinge. You could. I don't know if you can without opening the door.

Starting point is 01:05:29 Maybe you can't actually. You could kick it down. I'm like looking at a door in the mirror. I know. Oh yeah, guess you'd have to, what? You have to open the door to get access to the hinges. Oh, I thought, oh yeah, I guess they're bolted on the inside.

Starting point is 01:05:39 Yeah. I didn't know that till right now. Someone quotes OP's original post talking about the sister. She started crying and said that as a mother, she's going to need her own space and she deserves the master bedroom. And they go, is her sister giving birth to a baby or a martyr complex? A lot of my friends are new parents, but none of them have this level of ridiculous entitlement. From what I have seen, being a parent is difficult, but expecting to be rewarded for having sex

Starting point is 01:06:08 without a condom is ridiculous. Oh, God. Whoa. Also, that one, I'm like, uh, buddy. I kind of like it. Yeah. I'm like, um, also a lot of new moms, at least the ones in my life, have had their baby in a bassinet next to their bed

Starting point is 01:06:26 for the first six months. I mean, you're regularly feeding. It's easier. You just slide the bassinet over. There's these little devices, especially because like, coastleaping, and like some people believe coastleaping can like increase sids.

Starting point is 01:06:38 Like, I mean, there's all these little things. But there's also this device that like attaches to your bed, and it's like a little like table that like pushes in and out. You can wait. Yeah. I don't even have to get out of bed. You just slide the baby over to your boob.

Starting point is 01:06:50 I would really under percent do that. I've never heard of that before. That's so cool. Yeah, it's a little attachment for your bed. So you don't get up in the middle of the night, turn the lights on, trip over the stairs. Oh my gosh. Well, because people who sleep with their baby, well, at least in a bassinet, it's safe. When they're in the bed, people suffocate their baby a lot. Some people say it's okay though. Some people do post sleep. bassinet, it's safe. When I'm in the bed, people suffocate there maybe a lot.

Starting point is 01:07:05 Like some people say it's okay though. Some people do post sleep. I mean, it's scary for me. Because like, if I'm sleep deprived and I finally get sleep, I'm dead of the world. Like I could roll, I could sleep on rocks. I could fall asleep with the light on sometimes. Like, and so I get being a new parent,

Starting point is 01:07:21 you're so tired and you just like roll and you're like, they're so little old. They do it all the time. My friend works in the hospital and they said, she says people come in with their babies, what they accidentally took a nap with. And yeah, it's not good. No, and oh my God, the other thing I keep seeing

Starting point is 01:07:36 is like those amber teething necklaces are actually so, so dangerous. Wait, what are those? It's like this little teething device that like, it was like a trendy child device, and they're really dangerous. I've seen so many. She like bite on it for the baby device.

Starting point is 01:07:53 It looks like this, yeah. And so you get it for your baby, but like look how big of a choking house that is. Looks like that thing. I thought it was anal beads. It does kind of look like that. And so people believe like helps, like it's made of Baltic amber or fossilized tree resin. Okay. In theory, when a baby wear ones his body

Starting point is 01:08:10 heat triggers the release of something, something to soothe the teething pain. What? How about a little children's, Benadur, you know, whatever, Ad villa, whatever the heck it is. Yeah, and like a ice pack, pacifier thing. Chewing on a piece of wood that's a choking hazard, I think I'll go ahead with the child medicine. Yeah, and so a lot of moms that have experienced child loss because of these teething necklaces are now advocating against them. Because it's like they didn't know, they got it as a gift at their baby shower. You're so afraid to be a mom. There's just so much information out there, and it's like they didn't know, they got it as a gift at their baby shower. You're so afraid to be a mom.

Starting point is 01:08:45 There's just so much information out there, and it's overwhelming, but it's amazing that a lot of us are alive, because our parents didn't have Google. Like, it's amazing. It's also cool that we have podcasts and just to talk about this stuff because we'll learn as we get older too

Starting point is 01:09:02 if any of us have kids and we'll be like, okay, that's what we're learning. This is relevant. So, as of right now, I don't know shit about it. I don't know how to change a diaper. Yeah, no. No, see. I do. Organ's hate.

Starting point is 01:09:13 I don't want to until they're mine. Organ's hate. I'm getting since I was like so little. Maybe I'm just, I don't know. I would say, I'm impatient about a lot of things, but patience with children. I'm like, it's through the roof and patience with parents who are stressed. I'm like, it's through the roof and patients with parents who are stressed. I'm like, it's the different threshold, so maybe that's why I'm giving her sister too much grace. Maybe, but I will say suffocation

Starting point is 01:09:33 is the leading cause of death for children under a year old. And among the top five causes of death for children between ages one and four. Wow. Just saying. Yeah. That's horrible. Oh, can you imagine like, oh, just that, no, that guilt. Oh, so Yeah. That's horrible. Can you imagine like, oh God no. No, that guilt. Oh, so I can't even imagine. It's a key.

Starting point is 01:09:49 There is an edit from OP that they go on to say she can't buy me out. She doesn't have the money. We each got some money along with the house, but she wanted a fancy rain drover. So most of hers went to that. And she can't get alone because she's only working part-time at moccas at the moment.

Starting point is 01:10:08 I still have all of my money plus some of my own savings. So I will be having a discussion with her, with her, rebine her out. So do you change your mind yet? No, I just, I said it's money related. I said there's clearly something going on there because like if she's at the house with the boyfriend, it sounds like she's like a little preoccupied.

Starting point is 01:10:28 It sounded like a part-time gig. I didn't want to say that without like, you know, insinuating anything of work ethic, but to be honest, it sounds also like a work ethic issue too. The house is located in a nice slash expensive area. So what she gets from me for her half will be enough for her to buy an average Three bedroom house in a cheaper area But why would she want that she wants to keep them in those good school districts? She wants the bougie life That's why she bought a range over that's what she's she's definitely one of those people that is

Starting point is 01:10:57 Outspending her means right now. I won't lie the sister sounds pretty brutal, but I'm I Hey, but I just let me, I don't know. You can change your mind. No, I have a younger sister. I just, I'm, you're too nice. At times, there was a maturity that I just couldn't comprehend, but she's in the most amazing human being. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:11:14 So sometimes I feel like you just, you can feel sorry for people before you can feel angry. I don't know. God, what does it feel like to be so mature? What does it feel like to be nice? I'm, I just like, I don't know. God, what does it feel like to be so mature? What does it feel like to be nice? I just like, I don't know why, but I feel like I just get so mad for these stories. I just like take on what they're going through.

Starting point is 01:11:32 I'm like, what the, what the, justice. I just get so mad for that. I'm like, I'd be pissed. I would be so pissed. Like, we're supposed to be 50-50, bitch. It would piss me off.

Starting point is 01:11:43 It's not 80-20. I'm not saying I would be pissed. I'm not gonna lie. Do you think people ever share your Reddit stories to the other person? By the way, this is what a bystander thinks. Yes, I thought it'd be so funny. Have you heard of people doing that?

Starting point is 01:11:54 So we had one story that the lady listened to the podcast and so I shared her story and then I think her partner saw her post or something because it went viral So it was like this whole thing, but oh my god. Yeah, I think it does happen I also read a post and then someone like Ended up listening to the podcast and heard their post and it's happened It's definitely I love that yeah, and you see and sometimes we do do listener write-ins and now that we have the subreddit going like I do do a lot more these are technically listener write-ins. And now that we have the subreddit going, like I do do a lot more, these are technically listener write-ins.

Starting point is 01:12:28 It's just an easier way to control the flow. Yeah, so I have a great idea. Yeah, but what sucks now is, well, it doesn't suck because we're all out here just trying to make it, but a lot of other Reddit podcasts are taking stories off my subreddit and reading. And they don't share the subreddit it came from. So you'll have these huge podcasts and they'll lie and just be like, this came from Am I the asshole or this? They won't even, they won't even

Starting point is 01:12:54 mention where it came from. And I'm like, that's from my subreddit. Like at least, at least just like give credit where credits do like I'd work, I've worked so hard. Shade. Anyone can see your subreddit. Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah, I've looked up Reddit and I didn't, I mean, I've seen stories in there. I'm like, I don't know where it's coming from. So maybe it's like, it's very clear

Starting point is 01:13:14 like what subreddit you're taking stories from. Like this one is very clearly amity-asshole. So you, oh, wrong tap. T-t-t-t. So you see amity-asshole, the banner, and then if we go to one that's like on mine, it looks like this. So it's very clearly like two hot takes.

Starting point is 01:13:30 You know where we're getting this story from. Okay, wow. Oh, that's shady. That is shady. Well, and it's like we're all out here reading Reddit stories, right? Like I get it, but just like, hey, this is coming from the two hot takes subreddit. But they won't get, they won't say. And I'm just like, people are terrible.

Starting point is 01:13:47 If we use red it sometimes too. So if we were to do that, call us out please. No, never. It's all about purpose. Never on purpose, yeah. Just giving credit where credit's due. Like it's no different than people stealing my audio. And like I have to file copy like claims.

Starting point is 01:13:59 We have to do that too. That's what the little mic things are for. I have my own. I just keep forgetting to bring them. So like I have mine that say two hot takes and they're really cute. I want to get one of those. We need you. You need to.

Starting point is 01:14:10 You need to. Good idea. Okay. Moving along. I hope they figure this out. I hope OP is able to buy her out because I do think that's the best solution. And the sister's just going to have to get over her ego. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:14:21 That's tough working with somebody that's that immature though. It's tough trying to reason with someone that's that immature, especially when she's getting information bias to from her boyfriend who's like, yeah, yeah, that's my girl. It's like, oh, God, you're so dumb. Anyway, anyway, here. Any here. Another one of this week's partners is skims. Truthfully, I was the biggest holdout. I did not want Skims, I didn't want to believe all the hype, but after seeing Skims make a big impact in the underwear market, I offering solutions for those with disabilities,

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Starting point is 01:16:27 We went out of town a few weeks ago for a wedding, and my in-laws came from out of state to watch our daughter. We have a three-bedroom house with a full guest room and bathroom on the first floor, and our master and kids' rooms upstairs. Before moving in with me, my wife used to let her parents sleep in her bed when they would come visit and she would go sleep on the couch. Well, she asked recently if they could sleep in our master room and I right away said no, I don't want anyone other than us and our kid in our bed as it feels weird to me when we have a guest room for, you

Starting point is 01:17:02 know, guess. This caused a big fight to happen between my wife and me until she finally caught on to my way of seeing things, but her mom was totally offended at the notion that she was not allowed to sleep in our bed. Am I the asshole here? Because I don't want my in-laws sleeping in my bed. I asked my own parents about it, and they both said that they would never even think of asking since we have a guest room already available. You are not the asshole. That's weird. I think it's a little bit of like invasion of privacy situation here.

Starting point is 01:17:36 I understand if maybe the space isn't like let's say they had only kids rooms and a master and they don't have a guest room. Yeah, absolutely. You put new sheets on the bed, they enjoy your space. But if you have a guest room, why are you pretending to live my reality? Like, why do you want to be upstairs? That's weird. I don't know. That's interesting.

Starting point is 01:17:55 Yeah, so weird take though, but I like that. I don't know. Yeah, it's like. Also, are they going to have sex in the bed? Yeah, probably. Maybe it's a complex. I don't know. Like, what if they're like, ooh, we,

Starting point is 01:18:05 or maybe it brings them back to when they had their little kids. You know what I mean? I'm playing pretend. It's like playing house kind of. Could be, I don't know, maybe that's too hot. Maybe that's why we never do that when like in Las Comer, whatever,

Starting point is 01:18:19 is because that's like the underlying issue or the underlying tone. Even if you didn't have a guest bedroom and your parents and your in-laws had to stay in the master of where you slept, you would make it so clear, like, hey, I switched the sheets, you would throw that in there, you know?

Starting point is 01:18:38 Why would you even want to stay in the room? I don't want my parents to be where I'm having sex with my person. They shouldn't want to be. No. Because it's interesting. Well, and then we've had Reddit stories in the past where this couple went to visit her parents and they're married, right?

Starting point is 01:18:54 So they're doing everything right. And the parents were like, you need to sleep on the couch. You can't sleep in the room with your wife or daughter. Like you need to sleep on the couch. They're married. They're married. And so people are like, it's a dominance thing. This feels like a power play. And that is kind of bringing me to this

Starting point is 01:19:10 where I'm like, is it a dominance thing where they just want to like, but I'm like, that like, where would they even get that? I mean, if they have a guest room, their house must be pretty large, likely pretty nice. You know what I mean? Like, they've got all these different spaces. Sounds like they have anywhere from four to five bedrooms.

Starting point is 01:19:27 Why do you need to sleep? I don't get that. I don't understand. Like, that's the toilet I poop in. That's the shower that I shower in. This is the guest space that we specifically created for guests, which you are, even though you're my parent, you're a guest in my home now.

Starting point is 01:19:41 Like, the roles have reversed now. Like, no, don't go in there. It's weird. I shared this one with Justin before, like, reading it with you guys, because we, when he has his mom come out, like, it's different for me, because I have like a guest room with like a pullout, and like, it's fine. But when his parents come out, his mom or his dad, like, they're separated, but like, when they come visit, they'll sleep in his bed

Starting point is 01:20:05 and he'll sleep on the couch, which I get. Like he lives with two roommates, so putting his mom on the couch with like two other guy roommates might be kind of weird. So he gives the mom his mom the space. But when it's like, that's way different. But when you have a guest room and someone is still insisting to not sleep in the guest room,

Starting point is 01:20:23 but like your bed, it's like, what the fuck is going on? Jordan and I have a guest room right now. And like, if my dad was like, we're gonna, I'm gonna sleep in your room. I'd be like, no, you're not. What the hell are you talking about? It's why. That's weird.

Starting point is 01:20:36 And like, we have a guest room right there. But my parents would never ask that. So it's like, I don't know, this is weird. It's so crazy. It's so crazy. The wife, right, not girlfriend. The wife also thought she thought it was normal. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:20:49 That's what throws me off. So I just sometimes. But sometimes, maybe she was just because it's her parents. She was like, well, yeah, we have to make them comfortable. It's what they want. And then she took us back and he was like, no, look at it from this POV. And she's like, oh, you know, it's your parents. And she's like, oh, you know what's your parents? Sometimes you're like, oh yeah,

Starting point is 01:21:07 they want to do that, that's normal, totally normal. And that's how we grew up. Yeah, well, and if this is the first guest bedroom she's ever had, then it's also like, well, this is just what I'm used to. Like, it's not weird, it's fine, but it's like, no, you have a guest space now. I have a question for you guys,

Starting point is 01:21:21 when you were younger and your parents were out of town, and they had a king size bed and you like snuck a guy over. Did you sleep in your parents bed? No, absolutely not. I thought you were gonna say did you sleep in their bed? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I did when I was alone No, I had a I did one time with a guy. Do you have sex in your parents bed? You did not You did not. No! Oh, you had sex in the same place you were created. That's so cute. No, it was a different house.

Starting point is 01:21:51 I never died. I'm coming to the same bed. Same mattress, same mattress. That's really cute. Good for you. What a connection you and your parents have. I don't know what you guys are talking about. Gosh.

Starting point is 01:22:01 No, I have never. I, no. I know. I had a queen bed starting though at like 13. So like there was also no need. Like I had my own. There's a December pita, okay? Yeah, I got a thing. It was more cushion for the push.

Starting point is 01:22:16 Yeah, exactly. Top comment on this one is make other plans for child care. The in-laws wanting to sleep in your bed, not the one would assume perfectly lovely and comfortable guest room. Well, it's a dominance game and you don't have to play. But why is that a sign of, I'm just like, I get it, it's like a power play,

Starting point is 01:22:39 but how does that, like, you're, it's the master. I don't know. There's no control. Like, that used to be the kids, you're, it's the master. They're still in control. Like, that used to be the kids, you know what I mean? Like, that was, you're my kid, you're my child still. Like, no, work, if we wanna be upstairs, your mother and I, we're gonna be upstairs. It's kinda like one of those.

Starting point is 01:22:58 I feel like it's more entitlement. Yeah. The only other thing I can think of that would be, that would maybe give me the inkling, like, okay, maybe I'm think of that would be, that would maybe give me the inkling, like, okay, maybe I'm on their side, would be if the kid was young and was afraid at night and they wanted to be in the right spot, wanted to be close, and maybe the guest bedroom

Starting point is 01:23:15 was in a different area, right? But yeah, that was the only thing I was thinking. I'm like, if it's a baby, as older parents, maybe depending on how old they are, if they're 70 like yeah Try to get up the stairs quickly towards the baby is hard exactly. How old is the kid? Like what are we? I don't know. It's still weird which they don't mention how old their daughter is

Starting point is 01:23:37 So old enough. Yeah, I'm curious Very curious. It's peculiar but kill you. Okay, are we ready to get to the poop? Yeah. Poopie, poopie, poopie. Trigger warning, poop. You wanna know what we do when we test our mics? Let's show them. Peepy.

Starting point is 01:23:53 Poopie. Peepy. Peepy. Poopie, peepy. Just back and forth like that. That's good. You're wondering. That's very good.

Starting point is 01:24:01 She does it more. You usually go pee-pee, poopoo, yeah. Peepy, poopoo, yeah. Okay, so this one is three months old. Okay. It's been out a minute. It is titled, Amity Ashole for Canceling My Son's Birthday Party, because my mother-in-law left poop on my toothbrush.

Starting point is 01:24:18 Wow. I want to hear this. My mother-in-law watches my three kids. They are age five, three, and seven months. My mother-in-law usually watches them and drops them off from school. The kids are battling a stomach virus, so everyone was home on Monday. The little one had a poop explosion. So my mother-in-law washed her butt in our bathroom sink. However, she did not clean up after and there was poop all around the sink on the toothpaste,

Starting point is 01:24:52 on the toothbrushes, and the little cups that the kid used when brushing their teeth. I have pictures if you guys really want to see. Oh, no. I don't want to see that. I said, we can talk about poop. We don't have to see it. I want to see it. Well, I don't want to see that. We can talk about poop. We don't have to see it. I want to see it. Well, I'm curious. How messy is messy? No. It sounds like it's messy enough.

Starting point is 01:25:11 I don't need to see a picture. Well, like little baby poop just looks like chocolate. No. Okay, Mrs. You can't change a diaper. Yeah, let me look at the poop. That's the smell, Marseau. I like the fear of getting it on my hands. Oh God, don't say that a lot.

Starting point is 01:25:26 I know the nails. Oh, okay. This has happened before, but it's the first time we said anything. When my wife called her mom to be more careful because it's obviously disgusting and gross, my wife is a spanic, so her tone can definitely be aggressive,

Starting point is 01:25:40 especially to a gringo like myself, but her mom seemed to understand the frustration. However, once her sisters, both in their 30s and single for good reason, caught wind that my wife belittled their mother, all hell broke loose. The sisters began defending the mother, calling out how dirty, slash messy our houses, calling my wife fat, and basically saying how lucky we are to have the mother-in-law in our life and it's no big deal. In fact, we're the assholes for being upset about this.

Starting point is 01:26:12 I guess the sisters got to my mother-in-law because then mother-in-law came back and started parodying the same talking points about how messier houses, how ungrateful my wife is, and how my mother-in-law cleans our house and cooks for the kids all the time. The five-year-old son was also at her house this weekend and had an accident where he heard she squirted on the bed because he's sick. That was also thrown in our face multiple times. I was so confused for a second. I was like, oh, he likes chocolate. Oh. I did say poop looks like chocolate.

Starting point is 01:26:45 He did, he did. They also referred to watching our kids as favors, which is weird, because they always ask to take them. My mother-in-law says she won't come ever again to watch the kids. She no showed today, so I had to call out today to watch the baby, which is fine. However, I don't like how the mother-in-law is affecting my job and career with her pettiness

Starting point is 01:27:08 as I had some important stuff scheduled today. Keep in mind, we pay her $300 cash a week to watch the kids. Now I'm going to pay about $150 more per month for someone to watch the kids, which is no big deal really. However, my son's birthday is tomorrow. They had a big old party planned at my mother-in-law's for Saturday. However, I have told everyone that I will not be attending the party, and we have barred her family from seeing, giving gifts, or even speaking to the kids for the time being. Am I the asshole for canceling my son's party

Starting point is 01:27:43 and not allowing my wife's family to celebrate his birthday on Saturday? Little pettiness in there. I'm red. Okay. I'm like, said you have to go first. Sorry. You are the asshole for canceling the birthday party and withholding somebody their family

Starting point is 01:28:00 from seeing their family. The child is not involved in the drama. The child's butthole is involved, yeah. The child is not involved in the drama. The child's buttholes involved, yeah. The child is not involved in the drama. So don't start that insinuation and that behavior. However, leaving shit in a bathroom, that's actually dangerous because of those germs and the bacteria and stuff like that.

Starting point is 01:28:19 On your toothbrush. Imagine if it was dark and I was brushing my teeth in the dark for a small. Seriously, but that, okay, here's what I immediately thought about. Let's say, so you were over my cat through up, are you gonna leave it? You're just gonna leave it.

Starting point is 01:28:34 If I was at your house and you were gone. You were gone. I would take accountability because it happened when I was there. Yeah, exactly. Like, you're not gonna leave a dirty mess just because it's and it's my problem, you know what I mean? Like, that's icky. That's, and you're watching your house sitting

Starting point is 01:28:48 and there's puke everywhere, like clean it up, it's disgusting. And you gotta fix the situation. That'd be like babysitting someone, babysitting a kid, this has happened to me actually. The kid pooped, shit all over the bathroom. And if I just cleaned up him and then the mom came back and I'm like, yeah, he's shit, I cleaned him up,

Starting point is 01:29:06 but it's like all over the bathroom. Like as the babysitter, you would, I'm sorry, it happened when you were there, you would clean it up. Yeah. Or you could say, yeah. So you could say, yeah, yeah. So again, didn't take the accountability for it, didn't clean it up. I'm like so scared, I'm like not agreeing to pet sit

Starting point is 01:29:18 or watch kids, because the cat puke thing, like Justin, his roommate has a dog, and so I was over there the other day, and the dog all of a sudden just threw up. He's watching animals throw up. And I was just like, I'm not cleaning that up. And he goes, he goes, I didn't ask you to. And the dog's owner was gone.

Starting point is 01:29:35 He wasn't there, so me and Justin brought her out to the studio with us, so she had the tension. And I'm like, I was doing a good deed by giving this dog attention and threw in a ball. But I didn't sign up for that. And like, this is the hard part where horse poop, I could pick that up any day of the week.

Starting point is 01:29:51 Like, give me a pitch fork. I could do that all day, every day. But dog poop and putting your hand in the plastic baggy and then feeling it. We're gonna in the same way. And cleaning up their puke, like, I don't, I don't know how I'm gonna have my own dog because anytime my dog does that, I literally look at my dad and I go, holly pooped on the rug,

Starting point is 01:30:09 holly pukeed. And I make him clean it up, like I'm so bad. Because if I try, I throw up. Like I have literally had to like run to the bathroom and puke. I like throw up every time. So the warmness. Yeah. I cannot do.

Starting point is 01:30:22 I don't mind. I used to have, my parents had like, tourists for us in like Saturdays, I'd have to go around the yard and pick up dog shit. And that was okay because it was like rock hard. But like if it's fresh. It's hard, I'm fine. If it's fresh, I can't do it.

Starting point is 01:30:35 I will not do it either. I clean litter boxes, dude. That's the next level. Like that's, that is next. It's a heart. It's a heart smell. It's one of the most disgusting smells. You're actually not supposed to clean litter boxes when you're pregnant because of the

Starting point is 01:30:49 fumes. Talk so much, Moses. Yep. The fumes are so toxic to your body. So that's one thing. What do you say? Joining gags when he cleans it, by the way, he literally, like literally gags the whole time he's doing it.

Starting point is 01:31:00 So I usually have to like go down there and finish it. If I had a cat, I'd get the robotic cleaner. We do have the robotic cleaner. You still have to take the bag out of the bottom. It's still nasty smelling. Bummer. What do you think about the situation? I'm wondering if the mom, the mother-in-law has like glaucoma or like some sort of visual impairment.

Starting point is 01:31:21 Oh, oh. Because if this has happened before, like I'm wondering if she just can't see it. Well, did they ask her? Why don't they just ask her and be like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. I didn't see it. That was the thing. I'm fucking do. That's why I just think like there, I, and I will say, like, I do think a lot of times when you have family watching your kids, even though they're paying her $300 a week, $300 a week is still

Starting point is 01:31:47 way cheaper than they care. I was just gonna say that was $300 a week. That was a red flag to me. How long is this mother watching the kids? She's like, that's not a lot to be honest. Well, if it's just like bringing them to school and picking them up from school and it's like an hour every day. Okay, 300's pretty good, but like it doesn't sound like that. She's actively taking care of them and whatever. So I'm like, I think you're kind of, biting the hand that feeds you a little bit there with the way you went off on her versus being like, hey, did you happen to notice there was poop all over our bathroom?

Starting point is 01:32:17 Just, this isn't the first time it's happened. I'm just wondering, did you not see it? What's really going on here? This is still your mom, and it just hop off. Yeah, it's gross, yeah, it's frustrating, but hey, throw away your toothbrush, get a new one, throw away the head if it's an electric one. You know what I mean? You have to have some tact as you're going about this.

Starting point is 01:32:41 I agree. I don't know. The mom is, the grandma, I guess, whatever, is doing a lot for you. Like a lot. Like showing up like that. And then for you to go and handle it, probably poor communication.

Starting point is 01:32:53 Sounds like you got a little feisty. I tacked her a little bit. And now you're expecting her to react in a positive way. You know, like, you should have just brought it up as an adult and been like, I'm so grateful for all the help You're doing for us, but it is a health hazard when you leave poop literally scattered on my toothbrush I could have gotten a disease. Yeah, I'm not angry. I'm a little disgusted Can did you see that you were what did you forget to clean up the mess? Did you see it?

Starting point is 01:33:21 Yeah, I'm also wondering if there's maybe a little more drama under the surface and this just kind of, the shit blew up and it blew it all up. Yeah. I could see that, especially by a lot of the comments, OP makes where he's like both in their 30s and single for good reason, like talking shit about her siblings.

Starting point is 01:33:40 Oh, that's what, whoa. OP said that about his wife's sisters, like they're single for good reason. Exactly. Oh my God. And then what's interesting here is the comment from him too. They also referred to watching our kids as favors, which is weird because they always ask to see them.

Starting point is 01:33:57 And I think that's what's hard when you ask family for help. Like, at what point is it like you've kind of over you've over-stepped how many times you can ask yeah but like yes he's paying her but like is Graham asking like I'd love to see them this weekend but it's like no she's watching them full time so like that is kind of a favor so it's very complex it's a complex situation yeah if the mother-in-law really wanted to watch the kids and she was like, oh, but we asked to watch them, I don't even get, is it weird to be paying your mother-in-law to watch your grandbabies or your, you know, that's- I think it depends on, are you taking away from time where she would maybe have a part-time

Starting point is 01:34:39 job or be doing something for herself? You could make it a little more enticing with a little cash, especially knowing how much you're saving. I don't think that's too weird, really. But if she's not begging to see the kids, imagine how exhausted maybe she is. Maybe she's just exhausted. I mean, I wouldn't leave poop everywhere, but I'm not tired watching three small kids under the age of five. Three kids, and it sounds like she's cooking, doing laundry.

Starting point is 01:35:04 Yeah, okay. That's exhausting. Yeah. And then to bite back and be sounds like she's cooking, doing laundry. Yeah, okay. That's exhausting. Yeah, and then, well, and then to bite back and be like, well, no, you know what? To punish you for you getting upset with the way we treated you, we're canceling the birthday.

Starting point is 01:35:15 Even though they're hosting it at the grandma's house. Yeah. Because the grandma probably wanted to host and celebrate the children, even with the family drama. And then the dad's like, no, we're not, like that's bad. It's just getting to the point where it's like,

Starting point is 01:35:28 where do you see this going? Long term, do you think canceling a birthday is gonna lead to a happy, healthy outcome for your family? No, you're creating more drama. Sacrifice people, it's your family. Come on, over a little poop. What do you think the overall vote on this one is? I think there's a lot of entitled parents out there,

Starting point is 01:35:47 so I think the majority vote is no, but I'm definitely in the yes. That's a good take. The overall vote on this one is not the asshole. The asshole. Once we, when we read it right away, we all said not the asshole, right? But then, I was the whole time

Starting point is 01:36:04 I've kind of been leaning towards asshole. And I don't know why. I just get this vibe where I watch, and my brother and his wife are like, they mix it up. Like, her parents will watch their kids, my grandma, my mom will then help. Like, it definitely is a village,

Starting point is 01:36:20 but I have known other families where it's like one person and they really get to take advantage of. And it's just one person and they really get taken advantage of. And it's just like it's kind of hard to see. And so I just, maybe I'm a little biased in that read on this, but it just, that's a surprising vote. That's close. That's close. Yeah. Well, okay. So the top comment, which is like long, but has 7,000 upvotes. Your mother-in-law didn't bother to clean up unhygienic material from your house, and is blaming you for having an unclean house. I did forget that.

Starting point is 01:36:49 She was kind of dishing. Oh, wait. I forgot about that little piece of info. But that is more the sisters who went off and said your house is dirty, you're fat. So that's bad. That is bad. Maybe this isn't everyone sucks here.

Starting point is 01:37:00 Yeah. Everyone's sucks. Maybe just everyone sucks. I still, I'm still gonna stand like if the original question is, am I the asshole for canceling the birthday party? Yes, you are. That's my vote. Yeah, they go on to say, no, that's on her. Your kids could have gotten sick from her behavior. Oh, wait, they are. Hmm. Your kids are sick. And the mess they make is somehow your fault when mother and law is the one doing the caregiving.

Starting point is 01:37:25 No, it's not. This isn't the first time such things have happened. Get better caregivers. Mother-in-law isn't competent. If she can't prioritize safety issues like cleaning up after such things happen, she's not being safe for your children. Makes me wonder how often they have gotten sick

Starting point is 01:37:40 because of her unsafe lack of cleanliness. When your wife complained about mother-in-law's incompetence in child care, mother-in-law went out and got herself some enablers to support her incompetence, the sisters, and they attacked your wife and you insulted you both, et cetera. Not the asshole. This is about not spending time with the people

Starting point is 01:37:59 that blame and insult you for the things that someone else did. They have behaved badly and are blaming you. That's not people who are healthy to have around your children. I wouldn't want to have them around to do more of the same thing on your child's birthday, either. Protecting your child and having a birthday that doesn't include people that blame you for the behavior of your mother-in-law, that's just being a good parent.

Starting point is 01:38:23 Having such people around for a birthday would spoil the birthday, and it would teach your children to blame others for their own behaviors. Wow. I don't know about that. That seems... I don't know about that. I'm not going to lie. Personally, that seems like a lot. Yeah. The kids are not involved. I'm telling you right now. I'm going back to the original question. It's about the damn birthday party. The kids are not involved. Don't cancel something and ruin someone's birthday. That has no clue what's going on. That's the original question. It's about the damn birthday party. The kids are not involved. Don't cancel something and ruin someone's birthday. That has no clue what's going on. That's the original question. Is the family in asshole?

Starting point is 01:38:50 Yeah, it sounds like it. They're dirty too. They got poop flying everywhere. But don't cancel the birthday party. I don't know. The oldest is five. Dude, why are you involving the kids? Do you think the kids really know what's going on?

Starting point is 01:39:01 No, they don't know. They don't know. They know that they're not gonna have a birthday. Listen, I've got friends and family friends that I later found out they're not a great person, but they still allowed me to see them. I was a kid, how would I know? And they still let me enjoy the normal family dynamic

Starting point is 01:39:19 until I figured out and was old enough to comprehend that my family wasn't normal. Or like different situations like that. Yeah. I just, I don't know. I'm like, I do see the point where, like her incompetence, like this happened multiple times, but then that really leads me like,

Starting point is 01:39:37 okay, is something going on with her? Like, is she having cognitive issues? Is she having a visual impairment? I feel like there's more going on here. She might just be tired, like truly. Sounds like it's an exhausting cycle. She's doing all that. That's three kids cooking, cleaning, watching their house,

Starting point is 01:39:54 like picking up the load for them. Like she sounds tired. Yeah, and she's a little bit. She's an older woman. Yeah, real tough. Ugh. Good luck to you guys, seriously, with that. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:40:07 Yeah. OK, this is the last one. It's another poop one. It is coming from our very own two hot takes subreddit. It's titled My Personal Poop Disaster. Huge fan of the podcast and know what a huge fan they are of poop stories. So here's my most embarrassing story to date.

Starting point is 01:40:26 I work in construction. I'm often the only female on a building site. Last year, I was working on a building site where I was based out of for a while. Our building site had a large compound for welfare facilities, which included a canteen and a large toilet block and a separate block where they had a women's toilet, which I always kept locked and had a key. Anyways, we shifted the toilets around to another part of the building site using a crane and about an hour after they were landed in their new place, Nature Called.

Starting point is 01:40:56 I went for a poop and then went on about my day. Our site office is located opposite the toilet block. All the site guys are outside smoking when I hear one of them shout, quote, oh my god, is that a massive shit on the floor? I immediately stop what I'm doing and peer out the window and see to my horror, my poop on the floor at the back of the lady's toilets in all its glory for everyone to see.

Starting point is 01:41:27 Basically, they didn't plumb the toilet in. So when I flushed, it just flew out in the back of the toilet block and onto the floor. That's not good. I'm the only female on site, but there had been occasions when I left the door unlocked and some of the men would use the ladies. The day before, I'd had a huge row with a rougher for using the ladies and not cleaning it up. Instead of owning up to it, I played dumb.

Starting point is 01:41:58 Went out site and the site manager was like, have you seen the massive shit on the floor? Oh, Jesus. I was like, you what? He pointed to it and went, oh, those fucking rufers have you seen the massive shit on the floor? Oh Jesus. I was like, you what? He pointed to it and went, oh, those fucking rufers have been in the ladies again, haven't they? I have absolutely discussed. What?

Starting point is 01:42:12 What? The worst bit is the site manager who'd witnessed my argument the previous day grabs the rufor and proceeds to tell him off for using the ladies again. He was like, I didn't, I didn't. And then was forced to clean up my poop. He did it and I stood there mortified because he knew it was me, but everyone else thought it was him.

Starting point is 01:42:37 To this day, it's the most embarrassing thing I've ever had happen. I think I'm more embarrassed that I let another man clean up my poop while I stood there shaking my head and discussed acting horrified at him using my toilet. Oh my gosh. At first, I was like, okay, I would probably do the same thing she did, but then it just kind of spiraled. It just kept going downhill cleaning it up. I'm like, that took it too far, but I would like as I would love the star cast,

Starting point is 01:43:06 I'm just to be like, you know what, girls poop, what you're gonna do, you all fucked up the plumbing. Like that could have been like a vibe, but then when he cleaned it up, I'm like, oh God, I just, how big was it? I don't know what that sounds bad. She wants to be a kid. She laid a log.

Starting point is 01:43:18 She laid it. Sounds like said this morning. Hey, mine's never that solid. No, that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's

Starting point is 01:43:32 that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's As bad, this is not as bad as pooping yourself. No, not even close. How did you poop yourself? Oh God, well, what time?

Starting point is 01:43:46 Which one? There's been multiple. Oh, yeah. How many times? I used to have literally on set colitis. So I couldn't control it. I'm not kidding you when I would tell you. It felt like I was giving a child, birth cramps.

Starting point is 01:44:00 Oh my God. And I could not control my vowels. It hurt so severe that my butt would release like it was like horrible. Yeah. I feel like, wow. We get shards often. I don't shurt anymore.

Starting point is 01:44:14 Not that many people feel good. I feel like you just told me like six months ago and I did too. I feel like I've grown since then. Yeah. So how many times have you both pooped yourselves? Oh, I total. Yeah. Maybe 10? Yeah, I total. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:44:26 Maybe 10? Yeah, same. Probably 10. She was so tough. What do you think we have a podcast that literally, we literally say girls poop, tagline. I mean, I have a friend that's pooped herself twice, both from like running incidents.

Starting point is 01:44:38 She was running. Mine has a lot to do with exercise. Oh my God, 10. Mine was, I had really bad like, severe stomach issues for a while. Okay, so what's the worst one? What's like the worst most embarrassing one? Oh, your massage one was good.

Starting point is 01:44:53 You even don't even like remember it because it was so uncomfortable. You, the trauma, you blocked it out. I do remember it kind of, but I have another one. I have another one. I have another one. Good situations. Like I've made my boyfriends bring me extra pants because I shit myself like after the energy drink.

Starting point is 01:45:06 Do I have one that you can think of right off the bat? Most of the time, the reason why this happens is you can't always trust a two. That's the moral of the story. And so after you drink, you get the dad, they have to drink you shit, so you just have to be careful when you two. I did go to a friend's house after having barbecue,

Starting point is 01:45:26 well knowing that my tummy is not okay, and I was in white shorts. Oh. And I got there, and... Were you like one of the marathon runners where it goes down your leg? No, thank God. It was just like a little cute little,

Starting point is 01:45:36 like it looked like I was wearing like a little diaper, except I was like 14, so I wasn't wearing a diaper, you know. We've had so many people share stories about like, being stuck in the car, and you car and you just can't hold it. I mean, after we yesterday. Oh my God. Okay. So the girls had Harry Jelsey on their podcast.

Starting point is 01:45:52 So if you want to see this episode, it's hilarious and you obviously should. But Harry shared a story about pooping his pants as he was carrying drinks back to a table. And instead of setting the drinks down and excusing himself to the bathroom to empty his pants of the poop log, he sat down at the table and squished his poop in his pants. Just because the girl was like, sit down and he's like, okay, I'm just set. I'm like, oh my God, Harry,

Starting point is 01:46:17 why would you not just go to the bathroom? Are you worried about it smelling? Yeah, like clean it up as quick as you can. I'm very worried. I'd be like, I can't, I got a piece so bad. I've been up there for so long. Ah, what about you? I've never put myself, never once.

Starting point is 01:46:30 We, our boyfriends bulls said they never put themselves and we didn't believe them. So Jordan did end up putting himself. He's allergic to oysters. He didn't know. Oh, that'll getcha. I have had like really bad like stomach things lately. Like I got food poisoning at the state fair this past year from what I Think it was this drink that had egg whites in it. Oh, why do I know this?

Starting point is 01:46:53 Did you tell me this I'm not sure it's the only thing that I had different than my Boyfriend who we were all like we were splitting everything together and mine when I smelled my cup It smelled like fish. And I should have known something was off. And so later that night, like eight hours later, I was like peeing out my butthole. Oh no, I could not leave the toilet. Oh, to me.

Starting point is 01:47:14 That was me two weeks ago. Yeah, it would have been a time for me to put my pants. It would have been that, like I'm surprised I didn't poop the bed. Like I woke up and I was sweating. I was like, oh my god. Oh my god. Actually, that was me a week ago. No, I think about it. I thought I had a, I thought I had I was like, oh my god. Oh my god. Actually, that was a week ago. Not think about it. I thought I had a I thought I had a um a a varian cyst. Oh yeah. Was an a varian cyst. Went to the doctor hard piece of poop stuck inside.

Starting point is 01:47:33 Yep. Just chronic constipation. Yeah. We we all I need I'm booking my colonoscopy like my stomach's so popped up. I just I gotta get a Buked. Colonoscopy before 30. Yeah, let's get it. It's all the crickets. All of us have had an early one. Woo. Hot girls. I haven't had one yet. Hot girls have IBS.

Starting point is 01:47:52 The saying, I- But that's the thing. Yeah, so like if you're a hot girl with IBS, get a colonoscopy. Get a colonoscopy. And also check what you're eating. Maybe you're not eating enough. Maybe you're not eating on a regular schedule.

Starting point is 01:48:01 Maybe you binge. Maybe you restrict. There's so many things I go into. Why, yeah, but issue. Yeah. We talk about that. We talk about that. We talk about that. maybe you're not eating on a regular schedule, maybe you binge, maybe you're a strict, there's so many things I go into, why you up on issue? Yeah, we talk about that. We talk about that. We talk about that. You guys, thank you for coming out to LA.

Starting point is 01:48:10 Yeah, thank you for coming on my show. Where can everyone find you? We're gonna be at St. Kenneth's podcast on all platforms, actually. Every single one, including the web. I'm at Kenneth's Sid, the web. I'm at Candid's Sof. And Morgan, thank you for everything.

Starting point is 01:48:27 You guys Morgan has literally been our savior our grace. She is currently our Jesus we look up to her we could pray to her I've been a pray to her every single night. No, oh my God. No, you know when you have somebody who just like plops into your life for a reason like that's literally Morgan truly seriously and by the way we don't just talk about poop people like if you even made it this far if you're still listening we definitely like a That's literally Morgan, truly, seriously. And by the way, we don't just talk about poop people. Like, if you even made it this far, if you're still listening,

Starting point is 01:48:48 we definitely like allude to the fact that girls poop because they do. We sometimes have embarrassing poop stories, but we tack a lot of, we've got substance on there. You guys, like, You've got a lot of great episodes with dermatologists, kind of colleges, sex therapists,

Starting point is 01:48:59 I'll read you an, I'll read you an, you've got it all. But no, just to wrap this up, like, we do, like, I am so appreciative it all. But no, just to wrap this up, we do. I am so appreciative of you and like Setset, there's a reason for everyone that kind of enters in your life and I've never met.

Starting point is 01:49:12 Y'all don't get to hear people hype Morgan up this much. And I just have to tell you, you are multifaceted. You are so one. You're making me cry. I know you're so driven. You're so intelligent, so driven. This girl works her fucking ass off. Like, you're all listeners, keep supporting.

Starting point is 01:49:28 We love to outtakes. They stand for everything good. And they treat their, their, her business and community yeah, with a lot of respect. So and she shares, that's the biggest thing is people get territorial and when they succeed, yes, Morgan literally just gives back. Like she's like, let're, let me help you.

Starting point is 01:49:45 So you can also succeed versus being, I'm gonna push you down, and I'm gonna be on the top. Yeah, that's Morgan. I love you, girl. We love you. We love you. Oh, thanks for having us. Thank you for having us.

Starting point is 01:49:56 Thank you. You know, two hot takes, Reddit people out there. You guys crazy. You guys got that, Chris. And until next time guys, bye. Bye. Be sure to head over to Patreon for an exclusive story You guys crazy. You guys are crazy. Until next time guys, bye. Be sure to head over to Patreon for an exclusive story from this episode. Love you guys.

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