Two Hot Takes - 136: Dodgy Behaviors.. Ft. ShxtsNGigs

Episode Date: October 12, 2023

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-hosts James and Fuhad from ShxtsNGigs! This episode features stories that have people with a lot of dodgy behaviors.. aka they're being terrible partners, people, parents, or all of the above. This was quite the random assortment of stories, so I can't wait to hear your thoughts on them! Checkout Fuhad and James's Podcast!! https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcast Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036 Bonus Content on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: Quince: Quince.com/tht HelloFresh: HelloFresh.com/50tht Promo Code: 50tht Masterclass: Masterclass.com/tht

Just your reminder to subscribe and thank you Spotify for letting me record at your London studios Special thanks to Tom Lewis and Amber for setting it all up Wouldn't have this episode without you guys enjoy Well, I'm glad I was able to give you that sneak peek before I torture you today with other stories No, I'm ready. It should be good. We should be For those of you listening, I'm sure you've recognized their voices by now, but I have the guys from Shits and Gigs on. We have James and Fouhaad. Let's go. I'm so happy you came on my little podcast. Thank you for having us.

It's super. I know you're not here for long, so yeah, we appreciate the invite. I appreciate you coming on. I feel like Starstruck, when people say they come on my show and they're like, hearing you do this in person, I'm like, I honestly feel a little starstruck today. Oh wow. Thank you very much. I've seen so many of your viral TikToks and you have the funniest giggles, so I can't wait to bring them out today. Cool jokes. Yeah, I'm excited. I'm excited. It'll be really good. So, for those of you listening, the guys have not heard the Coconut Story, and I know that a lot of you don't want to hear it a third time.

So I'm going to read it to them. You're going to maybe get a couple reactions thrown in. But otherwise, we'll jump to the first story, and that one will be our warm up and kind of go on Patreon. So we'll see you on the flip side of the interest on, guys. Let's dive in. Are you ready for the first real one? Yes please. Okay, here we go. So this is two years old.

It's coming from Am I the asshole? It is titled, my dying wife asked me if I'd be okay if she had sex with her ex one last time. I said no. We spoke about this day. Oh, yeah. Yeah.

Perfect. We should talk about this the other day. My people haven't heard this yet, so. It's cool, let's do it. It'll be good. I can't have this tied to my main, but I really need to say something about it and have no one I can tell. My wife has a terminal disease. She's projected to live at most nine months. I have course, I'm destroyed. We've been together for a decade. I don't remember life without her and I don't know what I'm going to do when she's gone.

I've been doing my best to make the last days of her life good and grant whatever wish I can." The doctor said that she was likely to need a wheelchair in four or five months, then by month eight she'll be bedridden for the last few weeks. That's if she doesn't decline faster. Recently she sat me down and told me that one of the things she wanted to do was have sex with a previous partner of hers. I, of course, was shocked and asked why the fuck she wants that. So basically, she thinks that her most physically compatible, most satisfying lover was him. She gave a whole monologue about how sex sometimes is just physical and how emotionally fulfilling sex is with me, but it was bullshit to get to that point. So now I'm left with this, denying my wife a wish for my own ego, or let her go fuck another man

whom she feels was better. Honestly, I'm so pissed off and betrayed that she asked this of me. I feel like I'm put in a position where I have to say yes because she's dying. I know what I want to say, but I don't know if that's right. I'm so hurt that sex with an ex was apparently so good that she needs to do it once more before she dies. I just hate everything about this. That hospital won't see me again. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The hospital won't see me again. And first of all, she has to bell or speak to this said X.

And let's say I'm the X, right? I'm not receiving a call from an X from like X amount of years ago. Yeah. I said, oh, welcome, blah, blah, blah, long story short. I'm trying to fuck. I've got nine months to live. And I'm trying to fuck.

I can't hear that over the phone. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do you know what I mean? You can't tell me you're about to down one of your downwards to fuck me. I'm put off. I'm put off. If I'm an X, I'm put off. I don't hear that over the phone. Do you know what I mean? If you can't tell me you're about to down one of your down which is to fuck me, I'm put off. Yeah, I'm put off. If I'm an ex I'm put off, I don't care. What you have to say, what you have to do,

where you have to go, I'm put off. How big a sex with a dying person puts you off. Ooh. But like, it's not, she's not, first of all, she's not my partner, she's not my partner. Yeah. So I can't receive a random message from an exer say, listen, I'm about to go in eight. I'm trying to get this in pre wheelchair.

Prefax. And the psycho in me will probably think, I'm going to do more damage to her than good. So I don't even want to facilitate this wheelchair bound situation. You see what I'm doing? So I'm off. It's off the table already. The whole thing's off the table. It's too much time-ish to go. So my past life, I was an occupational therapist. OK. And I used to go over sex toys for people with disabilities. And there's so, so many toys that are intended for the disabled community

that I think able-bodied people should bring into the bedroom. Okay. Like there's this one. It's basically like a sit and bounce. A sit and bounce. You are gonna love this. You're gonna literally, you're gonna want this. I was, is it for guys?

Yeah. Well, I'm gonna want this. Pause. Yeah, yeah. Just wait. Just wait. Fair. Sit and bounce. It, just way. Fair. About sitting.

It's so cool. Okay. So this is what it looks like. It even has a little handle bar to like really like give you some leverage. So the person on the bottom is usually the penis person. And so you stick it up through that hole. And then the person on top gets on top and they have the little handlebars, but it bounces. Okay. I see.

So it's like it's way less effort. It's really good if you have like poor energy tolerance. So this is what she might. She just wants to use again. I'm not doing that. You can't call me out of the blue and say I've got a sit and bounce and I'm trying to use it. I'm not doing it. I can't hear you. She's not sexy me out of the blue and say, I've got a sit and bounce on them trying to use it. I'm not doing it.

I can't use that. You're not sexy. None of that is sexy. And my ego also isn't allowed to be given that, like I've asked my husband for like one thing and this is it. I can't, you can't give me that much power. I'm only one man.

I can't hear that. You're dying wish. Yeah. And who's gonna believe he was his dad? Like, oh, I've been this chick, I wanted to the back. He's gone. She's gone. Yeah. If I was last one, I would just say, bro, just do it because you're never going to see me again. But just do it. Yeah. I feel like we can try and do it and see if he reciprocates. But yeah, I just don't see myself. If I'm like the ex, I just don't see myself going through

it. I feel like some people would take it I'm like the ex, I just don't see myself going through it. It's possible. I feel like some people would take it on as a challenge, though, and be like, I got to fuck a dying girl. That's also a lot of pressure, because I have to give you my best round of all time. Yeah, honestly, I feel like he's probably going to go flasso if he knows the truth.

100%. Like, she would just have to call him up and be like, hey, one of fuck. Yeah, she has to just get him up and be like, I've been thinking about this for years. I have to fuck you again Yeah, she can't mention the terminal illness. No, and it has to be like She's got my mom's to live it has to be let's say she she goes and said to me. It has to be January She has to hold me in January like peak energy Because I can't know that something's wrong

Yeah, yeah, she's not she's not throwing her back like she used to yeah, I jump like me So what like if you your partner asks you this, would you, even though you're married and they have nine months left, would you be done? Like, I'm over it. Yeah, I can't, I'm entirely over it. That's a disgusting dying wish because she's thought about this for a minute.

Since she first, her first round of chemo, she's thought about this. Do you know what I mean? It doesn't necessarily exist to me. For the sake of orgasms, you want to lead this earth of this on my chest for the sake of an orgasm. How is that gonna make me? I have to deal with this for the sake of orgasms, you want to lead this earth with this on my chest for the sake of an orgasm. How is that gonna make me? I have to deal with this for the rest of my life.

You don't have to think about deal with it anymore, life is unfair. Yeah, it's brutal. I'm kind of like, maybe it was just that good, but I know a lot of people say, you don't end up with the best sex you've ever had, but I look at my past partners and like, there's no one I would want

to like have as my last meal. I can't think of a single person that I would think, when I'm dying, this is what's coming into my head. There's no one. I think that's gonna be my head anyway. So yeah, I know what you mean. Like, there's not one person. Imagine as well the scenario where she, he agrees to it,

she hits him up and then the guy says no. She has to then go back to husband of like, oh yeah, he said no, can we have another bandwidth? Oh, you won't see the back of my head walking out the door. That's what you're gonna see. He said no. So Mulligan, yeah, no, this is not make-o-wish. You can't go to Disneyland twice. No, take back seats. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. God.

Just can't have another time. No, you can't. You fucked him. You should have thought about it for your brothers and a team. That's such a brutal, I physically wouldn't, I wouldn't, I wouldn't be able to deal with it. There's no way. And the fact that he's a good man, I feel obliged to say yes because of a diarish. Good sport. He's a good sport.

I know. But there's also, there's no point also, there's also no point saying no. Because whether you say yes or no, the relationship's done. Yeah. Why did she even tell him? There's no point. She shouldn't have just, she's dying anyway.

Just don't, just leave me out of it. If you want to hold her in, hold her in. Yeah, I'm never gonna know. What? I'm never gonna know. You're literally gonna take it with you in nine months. Bags. Yeah.

That is like the definition of like, you're doing it for your own guilt, not like coming clean to the other person. Oh, bro, lie to me. I think so many more people should lie. Oh, we're in the same page. You spoke about this. Yeah, you actually know what I'm saying. It's just so annoying.

Like this is not for me and you being a good person. Like you just felt guilty, bitch. Oh, yes. I had that recently, I recently, had a few years ago, one of my exes rang me out the blue. I was like, oh, I'm doing some like repenting on all this stuff. I just wanna let you know that I cheated on you like 11 years ago. And I was like, who is this for?

You just ruined my evening for no reason. We haven't spoken years. What's going on? Why are you telling me this? She was like, I just, you just deserve to know. I was like, get of yourself, man. We'll lock off the phone. I was even thinking about you.

You could tell this car. Yeah, that's crazy. That works. And now I want to stop thinking about it. Oh, selfish. You're a lock off the phone. I was even thinking about you until this call. It literally works. And now I'm always stop thinking about it. Oh, selfish. It's not subsistence. So that's what it is. That's it, yeah, selfish. Just fuck.

Okay, moving along. This next one might be a little selfish, but it's interesting. This is kind of a theme idea I have, kind of coming up, going down the line, but it's all about like misleading titles. And I feel like you guys probably get this a lot too, taking your listener right in, where like they'll give you this title and you're like, that had nothing to do with the story or like it was not okay cool. Okay, it wasn't as bad.

So this one is Amity Asshole for trying to help my girlfriend without hurting her feelings. I32 male have been in a relationship with my girlfriend 24 female for almost three years now. When we first got together, she was pretty overweight and struggling with her self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. Over time, she started to work on herself, both physically and mentally. I've been incredibly proud of her progress and how far she's come. Lately, though, I notice that she's been putting on some weight gain and it's been affecting her mental health. She's mentioned feeling down about her body image and her struggles with anxiety and depression have resurfaced. I genuinely care for her and I don't want to see her suffer like this.

I thought about talking it out, but knew it would just evolve into asking if I'm still attracted to her. And truthfully, I have lost some attraction over the last month or so, though she does still look amazing for the most part. I thought it would be better to take some more subtle approaches. thought it would be better to take some more subtle approaches. So I've started adding small amounts of sawdust to her food. The idea being it would help her feel fuller faster and encourage her to eat less without her knowing. So does would. Surely that's a gentleman.

I was trying to prevent her from falling back in her previous state of depression and anxiety. Unfortunately, my brother, 30-male, caught me in the act and he was shocked and angry. He told me I was being manipulative and abusive, which, okay, a little shady maybe, but abusive is a serious stretch. Now my brother has given me an ultimatum. He wants me to tell my girlfriend what I've been doing by the end of the week or a hill tell her himself. He believes she deserves to know the truth.

I think what I've been doing is enough to help her without causing her unnecessary pain by revealing what I've done. She's already lost a few pounds. I told him I would stop, and I believe that should be sufficient. I don't see the point of telling her and potentially destroying the progress she's made. My brother thinks I'm completely in the wrong, and that my girlfriend deserves the truth, but I genuinely believe I was doing what I thought was best for her, and I don't see it as malicious. Am I really the jerk for trying to help my girlfriend in this way, or is my brother overreacting?

Should I tell my girlfriend what I've been doing, or keep it to myself to spare her feelings? I need honest opinions here. Please keep in mind that telling her upfront that she's put on weight could seriously set her back. That's the least of his problems. That is the least of crazy person. Saw dust. Saw dust.

Like, is he a doctor? How do you know that he's not causing damage to her? Like what the fuck? I wonder if you can die from eating saw dust. Surely. This is wood. Yeah, it's not meant to be in your system period. Yeah, yeah.

I know. I don't. I don't. What food is he putting it in that she's not noticing that she's eating saw dust? It must be like stews and soups he putting it in that she's not no, she's eating sawdust. It must be like stews and soups and demotings that she's just mixing in. It's just yeah, the viscosity's thick.

She can't tell. She can't tell. I wonder what if you get it like really ground up, it's like dust, it's really fluffy. I mean, he could be putting in smoothies, pasta sauce. There you go. There you go. There you go.

Oh, yeah. Man said she's been making really good progress. He's crazy. He's a narcissist. He's absolutely crazy. I also think the fact that the brother will tell the girlfriend, scared the life out of them because he's, he's real. Yeah, he's realizing what he's doing.

Oh, my God. Oh, my God. I can't be giving orders to my guy. And you threaten me, say, bro, tell her now I'm telling her. If you don't tell her by Friday, I'm telling her. That's what you know you fuck time. Do you know what I mean?

I can't tell her. Yeah, I also couldn't walk in on you mixing sawdust in your girlfriend's feet. I couldn't, I physically couldn't walk in the seat. You have to sit me down, we have to door. I'll shake you, bro. What are you thinking? I'm like, please, Jeff, please, I physically couldn't see that. You have to sit me down and we have to do it. I'll shake you, bro. What are you thinking? I'm like, please, Jeff, please, I need to do something.

Oh, yeah. She's making great progress. Oh. And she's making great progress. I just can't tell that she's putting on weight. This is the only option. It's been working so far. Yeah.

She's helped me. You've lost a few pounds, bro. Please, bro, help me. I'm your brother, help me. No. I'll send you to prison, bro. That's crazy stuff. Wow.

It's bad. Yeah, he has to go to jail for that. I bet you could. I'll send you to prison, bro. That's crazy stuff. Wow. It's bad. Yeah, he has to go to jail for that. I bet you could. I bet you actually could press charges for that. 100% Because there was a girl that found out her boyfriend was poisoning her with slugs.

What? What? Oh, that's another Reddit, like Hall of Fame one. She was with this guy for years, years and years and years. And she started getting like really sick. She had a heart condition, like crazy stuff. And weird stuff kept happening, like they had an exotic, like African slug, and it died. And so he mixed that into her food. But like, what the hell slug all like, I think she pulls it, he pulls it out of the shell. I don't know. Oh, that was a like pulls it he pulls it out of the shell or I don't know

Oh, that was a snail he pulled the snail out of the shell, but the slugs so it turns out like she kept Getting really really sick found out through a friend that came into her work and said hey your boyfriend's Been putting slugs in your food and I can't hear that see you can't just brush over that. What do you mean my boyfriend put slugs in my food? I have a million questions. Bro, do you want another worse part? I can't comprehend that. So they were gardening together. They had like a little garden behind their house.

And he kept putting food out for the slugs. And she thought it was so cute that he wanted to feed the slugs and sort of the fat and up the slugs. And so she would help him put food out with the slugs too. Oh Jesus Christ. He was that's how he was getting all the slugs. He was just fatting in a mouth just to just a little bit of a blend them in her feet. Yep so she actually wanted her to die. No he just liked her eating slugs. This is like a dark light twisted and tagging his This is like some dark night twisted antagonist, this welcome asylum style stuff. The fact that he inadvertently showed her where the poison was,

and led her to the poison, and she had no idea what she was eating in the same breath. It's crazy. Yeah, she had a crazy, she was feeding the feeding artist back. She was doing it, she was like literally like doing it to herself, like in it, not at all,

but like in a sense, you know, like getting the slugs ready for you to eat later. It's crazy. I have no idea what that must do to you mentally. Oh, to find that. You don't trust anyone again. Yeah, I can't trust anyone again. Yeah, I don't want to guard. I don't want even an apartment. No gardens. I don't want a partner. Oh, God. Yeah. This is um, but the sort of stuff is, is, is nuts. Well, according to Google, you can eat small amounts of saddust. It's not considered lethal in itself.

But he's putting in enough to actually lower the calorie content of the meal that she's eating. On a date, I'm assuming on a date, it says, re meal. Like, that should be illegal. Yeah. Oh, it absolutely is. I also wonder, like, why saddust?

Why not, like, wouldn't come to my head. So does wouldn't come to my head at allordas wouldn't come as bad at all. Those guys in the expert. He must know something. It must fill you up somehow. He must know this somehow. He learned it somehow.

He must be in my closet. He literally probably learned it already. How to make your girlfriend lose weight? Fired. That's the way inside of Reddit. And he was willing to take these at stamp because he didn't want to tell us he's putting on a few pounds.

Mmm. Mmm. Wow. Yeah. Man said, am I the asshole for trying to help her? And he was willing to take these at stamp because he didn't want to tell us he's putting on a few pounds. Wow. Yeah, man said I'm either also for trying to help her. Narcissist, bro. Yeah, controller. There's a lot. Okay, I'm just by Google. Oh my god. There's another Reddit post literally titled Can I eat sawdust to keep my stomach full and not feel hungry. Jesus Christ. He's not crazy. Top comment until you die. Yeah. Facts.

Yeah, but this is a very like it's on Quora, like it's everywhere about eating sawdust. This is a thing. Yeah. This is news to me, boy. I've never heard of this. And a lot of people do say yeah, to help you feel fuller, it expands.

Is there nothing else we can use? Alay. Why so does? I don't know, but it can cause severe intestinal blockages. I'm not surprised. I'm not surprised. So don't try that at home, guys. So does it.

It's bonkers. Yeah, it longs too short. It's the also, yes. Yes. This is breakup. You can't move past us. Both of them. This one under Diane Exhaust.

And the brother, I don't know why the brother's given ultimate, I'm going in the living room now. Now you're right now. Bro, she's giving you sawdust because I don't know what he's liable to do between now and Friday. I don't know how much more sawdust she's gonna eat between now and Friday. He's gonna try and thin her out.

Aisa. I mean, before the evening, he's gonna do Friday. By Friday, she's gonna look at absolute best. And she's gonna understand where I'm coming from. So when I say the truth, maybe she won't dump me. With double endosage. Yeah, between now and Friday. God.

No protein, all sawdust. The sawdust protein shake. Wow. I probably would look similar. It probably would. If you were gonna put one thing just to like get away with it and someone's food, what would it thing just to like get away with it and someone's food what would it be? Oh

Get away with just out of spite What would I put in some food and get away with it has to be the classic spit in it But I then again, I couldn't big Lougie. Yeah, I couldn't watch somebody that I actually could You know what I saw on Instagram the other day? You know, when you order, you know, like delivery or post-opening. Uber eats. Uber eats, Uber eats the one. Yeah, Uber eats. Yeah, she wasn't Uber eats travel.

If you don't, if you order like McDonald's whatever, and it's not sealed, they're like, do not touch it. Did you see the video? I'm not seeing it, no. Bro, was a guy outside in his mouth, just back in someone's drink. He just had the drink open, just slurping it, not even through the straw, like put the lid back on

and then popped in. No. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm thinking, my head, I was thinking, there must have been 10,000 times I've accepted it without it being sent. I'm pretty sure they've only been sealing it the last like, yeah, yeah, yeah, facts.

I don't think they do that for us. It's not sealed. Our drinks aren't, no. No, no, no, no, no, no. So the drinks are in the bag, but. Wait, it's not sealed. Our drinks aren't, no. No, no, no, so the drinks are in the bag, but the bag is sealed. My drink, I always get handed my drink. Yeah. And I have like,

You just got my bite marks in the straw. Oh, no, no, but I, I, I get a lot of chick-fil-a vanilla shakes. And you know how easy it would be to hide gizz in there? Oh my god. So I've heard that like being like a big thing that people love to hide. I don't remember if it was on Reddit or like where I came across it, but there was a story where I think it was Reddit, but I didn't read it on the podcast I read it at a live show. And this guy kept a jar of jizz in the kitchen because when he would make his wife pancakes,

he would put it in the pancake batter. And he loved watching her eat his jizz without her knowing. Oh, Christ, man. These are jizz, a lot of fences, bro. Yeah, a lot of this is just really sick. Yeah. You actually don't know who you're living with sometimes. He don't ask bonkers.

And they're married. Like they were married. Like you don't know who you're living with sometimes. You don't. That's bonkers. And they're married. Like they were married. Like you think you know someone. So I'm telling you, bro, like, lighting. You have to like, this is like, this whole like, honestly, best policy, or does it? Just carry on, line to me. Don't ever tell me I've been eating jizzy pancakes

for the last 20 years. Just let me die. I throw hands and we both go to jail. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Just keep line to me. Keep line to me. Get your satire factory kink out of the way and just let me die. I throw hands and we both go to jail. Yeah, yeah, just keep lying to me, keep lying to me. That's great. Get your satisfaction, you can't get out of the way and just let me live.

Don't ever let me find out. Oh, wow, okay, cool. Wow, wow, wow, okay, cool. But yeah, that chick-fading is mad also. Yeah. Yeah, I have ordered a few shakes and they always just hand it to me, but my food is sealed in the bag with a little sticker on the top. Yeah, there's out.

That's not you boy. Yeah, that is. That's super. So dusty partying, yeah. I feel really gross now. I don't like that. Sorry, I don't like that at all. Okay, moving along.

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to fall asleep? Nope. Open a shut case there. Nope. Next. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's a fall asleep. Open the shot case there nope next To fall asleep He's thinking of his child

He's got a wow Issues and she just let's it happen. Yeah, they're both the made for each other Yeah, they made for each other wasn't sure where to post this. So I hope here is fine My girlfriend asked me out of nowhere why I never suck on her nipples to fall asleep. I was confused and told her that I'm not an infant anymore and don't really need that to fall asleep. She told me that this is something her ex-boyfriend used to do always, which I personally find weird. I told her that this doesn't sound like normal

behavior to me, but she felt like I was just being defensive and refused to be vulnerable and less masculine. It's a breakable offense. Which is why I just want to know if this behavior is in fact normal or at least common. Ex-gaslator. The ex-gaslator. The ex-gaslator. Hey, baby, everyone does this, man. They're trying to be vulnerable with you. I'm trying to be vulnerable and I'm trying to sleep. Weep out the tea. Give me the tea. Give me the nips.

I'm trying to be vulnerable with you. This is us. Yeah. This is us. Why is she bringing that into the next relationship? So why don't you do this? Crazy. That's a massive red flag.

Yeah. The massive red flag. She's definitely in the wrong. It's really, but honestly, she probably got like, really convinced. Oh, 100%. She got manipulated. Yeah.

That's what she got. She got manipulated. I have to give it a girlfriend's will do stuff, you know. They'll do stuff in the money. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like what? For the get, nothing from my experience. Nothing from me.

Like what? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, not for me, I don't have any weird stuff, but I've heard like literally all my life. A girl will say like, oh yeah, because my boyfriend used to do this. And I'm like, what do you mean, bro?

They'll just just put up with stuff. But yeah, the whole sucking to fall asleep is absolutely insanity. I think they think that if, let's say a man has a kink and a man exposed the king to their partner. It's trusting and it's trusting and they know they think that if the if I don't facilitate this for my man, he's going to find it. So that's my assumption. So that's where they're like, I'm going to do it because he's my man. Not because I like this, but because he's my man and I don't want him to find this elsewhere. Yeah, that's why it's so inspiring. Most do the thing. Yeah. Most do's are like, but because it's my man and I don't want him to find this elsewhere. Yeah, that's how it's spiral. Most do's are things like. Yeah, that's how it's spiral.

Yeah, yeah. So I can take to fall asleep is the braziest thing I've heard. Yeah, that is childish behavior. It is interesting. I mean, because like, their like nipples are so essential as well, like nipples are so sensual as well, but like to fall asleep. That was gonna say she, she, she must have just been awake warning every day. And because that is a little foreplay, but kind of you're going to bed. Yeah. Yeah, it's a mind, it's a mind literally mind,

I was what's that. And also what position is he in? He's, he's constantly like, yeah, he's coddled. Yeah, they're on the side. You like the little action too. I can't. Yeah. Listen, you man, you're not giving this.

I can't bro. I can't listen. If I'm a chick right and I'm crazy. I'm all I'm seeing is. I can't look at you the same anymore. I can't wake up the next day and call you my man. You're not mad. You're not daddy bro. You're not daddy. You're boy. and call you my man. You're not daddy bro,

you're not daddy. You're boy. You're my yard, you're a little boy. I can't bro. But let's flip it here for a second. Okay. Let's say someone wanted to suck your dick to fall asleep. That's impossible. It's different. That's impossible. People breathe out of their noses when they sleep, and if you're a mouth breather, you need help. Yeah, you need help. Get some tape and stop mouth breathing. It is so bad for you.

It was really bad. So like, I know it was impossible, because like you expand. And like, you were thinking, oh, they choke off. Yeah. No. Don't come for me, that's all good. Good to me. Yeah, oh, they choke. Don't come for me. It will get good to me.

It will waste. I've been trying to see my waist would just like, you die. No one sleepin'. No one sleepin'. I couldn't do that frustration every night. Oh, God. Oh, God. No, no, it'd be hard.

Oh God. Oh God. So no, react. Yeah. I feel like I feel like some people could pull it off. Oh, what just like a lot of like people that are growers, not showers. It just in that initial little phase, like it'd be just a nice little lollipop to pacify her. Oh yeah, that's no one's putting my my flaccid dick in there. It's also It's also I would never be able to fall asleep. Okay, like if let's say for example This is a consistent thing. I've helped my wife translate so I'm looking out for her We've let's say we've been doing this for a week. Mm-hmm. For example, right? Yes, I hate it, but I'm doing this because I love Let me let me put myself in the zone. I hate it, but I'm doing it because I love her.

Right? Okay. It's gonna get to a stage where I'm gonna resent bedtime. Do you know what I mean? PTSD. PTSD. PTSD, I'm gonna resent bedtime. And my dick's not gonna know the difference between bedtime and sex.

So every time she does draw to try to suck my dick, I'm gonna go invert. I'm not gonna, do you know what I'm saying? It's just, it's just not sexy. Have love indeed. Wow. Don't go late in the place. Is that Malfsas you did your sauce? So, yeah, that's an opportunity.

Not this again. Not this again for sure. Yeah, it's, it taps with your brain, I'm gonna call it. It's not sexy anymore. Yeah. She has to find it elsewhere. She would have to find it elsewhere. Yeah.

Honestly, the best solution would be to make a mold of yourself. Pass it apart. That's also not the best solution, because I'm not molding my flaccid dick. Nobody's molding my promis you. No one's molding my flaccid dick. I was going to ask, this kind of feels like a kink, like for the guy to fall asleep, the initial one. It feels like a kink. Something that really messed me up though is I heard recently that like, people that are boob guys or boob people,

it's usually because they weren't breastfed long enough as a kid. Damn. And like, as someone that's like kind of like, I like that, I'm like it really just Things. Yeah, it's not fair to Yeah, to lump everyone in there. I think every guy likes tees like is okay, but That doesn't I wouldn't I wouldn't associate that with because I don't know

Rest fed when I was kid all I don't know I was breastfed and not gonna like you Boos on I'm here for boobs, but I'm not like a massive boob obsessive. Okay. This kid was definitely not breastfed long enough. He was breastfed for two hours and then that was it. That was it. Yeah, he probably didn't latch properly and the mom was down. Breastfeeding is hard.

So I hear. I can imagine. Imagine. Like, painful. I saw this one lady. Oh, she was like my nipple splits and cracks every single time. Oh. And she was like, I just had to keep going through it.

No matter what I would put on it, it wouldn't heal before like the next few. No, no, no, no, no, no, worry is. worry is. Women are really, really, really worried. Do you remember that video that was going around a couple of years ago? The little black kid was just sarking and biting on the mom's tea. Oh yeah she was doing that some selfie video that kid was doing a map of the sun. Yeah. Oh my god. We'll every time. Every single time. Yeah. Okay, moving along.

This one is titled, Am I the asshole for making my husband sleep in the guest room after he refused to clean up his own vomit? Interesting. Last night my husband had some work friends over for a barbecue and drinks. I worked today and I did all the prep work, slash cooking and cleaning, so him and his

friends could enjoy their time together. He ended up getting pretty drunk and threw up in our bathroom sink, left it, and refused to clean it up when I asked him to. His refusals included, quote, I don't know what to do to clean it up, and quote, I closed the drain on the sink, and now I can't get it open. It's one of the drains that you push to close and push to open. Also, quote, I don't have time to clean it because I have to work early, little background on our situation.

He works full-time, pays 60% of the bills, and I work part-time, 40% of the bills. Therefore, I deal with all domestic house duties. Don't get me wrong. I love my role in our home and I'm truly happy to do it. However, this just feels like straight up disrespect. Fox. I was super upset after him feeding me excuses of why he can't clean up his own vomit.

He smelled horribly of liquor and was starting to raise his voice at me when he was explaining he couldn't clean it because he had to go to work to pay for all the things we want. To be clear, we have our own individual bank accounts and he doesn't pay for any of my personal bills or recreational purchases. After his exudes of why to not clean it up, I didn't engage or continue with the argument because when you're sober, there's no reasoning with a drunk person. So I'd asked him to sleep in the spare room. Now I just feel guilty. So tell it to me straight. Am I the asshole in this situation? No, I'm not cleaning up. No, you know, someone's sick in a sink. No, you're not. Someone's sick in a sink. Oh, that's the worst thing I can possibly imagine. He's just literally excuse off the excuse. He's not a man. He's not a man. He's

not a man. On a 60, 40 split, he's got balls like this. He's not a man. Who throws up in a sink? Throw up in a toilet. I have to be honest. I've thrown up in a sink for. But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, obviously, turns preferable. Yeah, but I'll take what I can get. Those are disgusting. This is the most disgusting thing. And man's like, maybe I haven't got time. I've got work. I've got work. After she's slaves,

the whole day, try to make sure you're not with good. One of us has work. And it's not you. It's not you. Clean the sink. I'm not gonna say it again. Clean the sink.

Um. It's not you. That's crazy stuff, man. I look alike, there was one time. This is not one of my proudest moments. This was in uni. I went back, I got crazy drunk. Went back to a girl's house.

There's one of the most drunk I've ever been in my life. Through up on, like, my clothes were on the floor, through up on her bedroom floor. She gave me spare clothes, and like, all this stuff, and then like her, and I house me, like on their hands, and he's like scrubbing the sick. And I was like, God, I feel bad.

I'm not like, I stepped over them, I left. I was like, I can't deal with this. It stinks. I was thinking, actually, I'm not like I stepped over the much left. I was like I can't deal with this. It stinks. I was thinking I'm so sorry. I would have thrown it at you. I bet I would have been so pissed. I would have chucked it out Yeah, I was like stinks in here. I can't smell this again. Otherwise I'm gonna be sick again So I got up to double-poish or yeah, but thanks for the clothes. Thanks for the clothes and thanks for all of this. When the housemate came and I was like,

wow, I'm really a piece of shit. Really a piece of shit. I'm really a double-dead. Did you send her like a gift the next day, like a cookie or something? I know. I actually never saw her again. I didn't see her again.

I just charged the whole situation to the game and just kept it stepping. Fuck. That's a fuck minute indeed. Yeah. What is it with you guys and throwing up in sinks though? I feel like that's such a boy thing. It's a boy thing.

It's like, I'm toilet. Yeah, because then you just puke flush, puke flush. Yeah, I mean, guys, men are pathetic though. Men get like flustered and scared when it comes to like being sick. So they just, they just do whatever they can. He was probably the splashing his face like, please, please, please, please, please, please, please. And then just like cried and then like,

splashes face and more. And he's like, Rinses and mouth and stuff. Because toilets like the splashback. Yeah. Toilet is a commitment. How hard are you throwing up? I throw a farce. This guy rose the fuck up.

Oh my god. This guy rose up. I've had moments. Wow. That's like, I think my reflex is just, just murked. You project dial. Yeah, I've seen it, I've seen it's bad. Oh my God, to get the splash mic,

I've never experienced that. So like, I stick my head in there. Really? I'm still like, I'm like hugging the ball. Like, oh, it's the worst thing. Yeah, it's the worst thing. Yeah, so I'm like, head shakes and I tears, it's the worst thing. Yeah, at least my head shakes and I tears, it's the worst thing. Yeah, I think the worst is when you can just feel it

coming on and you're like, you don't want to like make yourself throw up, but your mouth is getting like extra. And you just feel it. And you know, that's my prayer, my prayer impact is high. I start praying like, he's gonna be so pleased. I start praying like, because I know it's coming. It's inevitable. I'm trying to put longer. You start to breathe in different everything. I'm so extra.

Oh, the chills. And like the cold sweat. I like grab the sink up here and like grab here and I'm just like, please God, though, why is this happening to me? Oh, it's the worst. I think it's actually the worst. I had a friend who she was in London had a sandwich from like, pret at Heathrow and midway through the flight back to LA, got food poisoning from the sand. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, That will probably a train or yeah, she's so surprised. It's bad. Press supposed to be good as well. I love it. She just she got a bad sandwich.

Must be like an egg or a chicken. So I think it was chicken. It was chicken. Salmonella. Yeah, that's okay. That's okay. Three. Yeah. So top comment on this one is not the asshole.

Obviously also by your calculations, he should be taking on 40 one is not the asshole. Obviously, also by your calculations, he should be taking on 40% of the housework. He can start by cleaning up his own puke, which is really interesting. I thought it was really bold of him to be like, I gotta go to work and make money for all the things I'm gonna buy, yet she shares. 60, 40 split.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. You're barely doing it. That's what I'm saying. He's not a man. He's really not a man. That's only an extra 10% split. Yeah, that's what you're barely doing. Yeah, that's what I was saying. He's not a man. He's really not a man. That's only an extra 10% sweetie. Yeah. And she says she's still buying all of her own, like,

recreational stuff, all of her own stuff. So it's like, what do you, what you contribute next to 10% to our house? Yeah, big work. Cool. Big work for me. Cool. Yes, I'm all about to give us all the nice things

that we have. That's a crazy statement. That's a nice statement as well. Yeah. Cool. It's a more like to give us all the nice things that we have. That's a crazy statement. That's a narcissistic statement as well. Yeah. That's brutal. It's a really brutal. Just say I don't want to clean up a sick. Just be honest.

Yeah. I don't want to clean up a sick. Please do it for me. I love you. And we can talk about this tomorrow. That's all you have to say. Just say the truth. Yeah.

Don't be around the bush and say, oh, it's because I've got bills to pay. Yeah. Do you find that a lot like in stories you guys come across though, like uneven household splits? Um, not really. I feel like a lot of the ones we've read a lot of the time, they've not, don't live together, maybe. Okay. They do.

It's not, it's nothing to do with like a split thing. Okay. There's just other stuff. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Usually we don't, yeah, we don't really find the details too much about like,

what the, we've had a couple where like, one guy refused to pay for his wife's like, extra night stay at the hospital when she had a baby or something, she remembered. Oh, yeah. I can't remember the internet, but yes, I do remember that.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Something like that. Right, see? If you want the good stuff, pay for it yourself. Like with the extra treatment and blah, blah, blah, blah, I'm good. He said he's gonna pay for the basic stuff. If you want that extra the good stuff, pay for it yourself. Like with the extra treatment and blah, blah, blah, blah. He said he's gonna pay for the basic stuff. If you want that extra stuff, you can pay for it yourself

because he's X amount of money, blah, blah. Oh yeah, because she said, I want to- She just popped out his baby. Yeah, she said the birth plan was like natural birth, no drugs, no none of this. And he was like, all right, bet it's gonna cost a couple grand. Yeah, a few, whatever.

Hell no. And then yeah, she needed, she changed to someone and needed an epidural and she needed this. I mean, he was like, basically, if you're a pussy, that's your fault. I'm not paying for this epidural. You can pay for it yourself. What about pay for yourself?

That's bonkers. I feel like an epidural for a lot of people should be like the bare minimum. Like I give people that do the natural way, like so much credit, but like I shoot me up with all the drugs, I want the drugs. I'm not coming out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Whatever you need, I don't want to feel a thing.

Facts. Oh, and then for him to be like, no, you, that's it's extra, you have to pay for that. Yeah, that's crazy, bro. That's crazy. Yeah, that's the only one that comes to my head about like fine access and stuff, yeah. Oh, I have one that kind of picks up on it. And it's an interesting one one but I think we'll get into the conversation after but I feel like maybe it's an American thing but I feel like a lot of people in the states like especially like head relationships are very like.

Oh, well, you're the woman like you do that. I think it's still like very traditional. Oh, okay. And I don't know if you guys have that over here. We really don't. Not really, but I feel like it's different for every relationship or couple. But I feel like if you speak to your partner and you try and like, okay, let's manage our expectations. What do you expect from me as a man? What do I expect from you as a partner? I know you've a like a partner.

What do you expect from me? Why expect from you as human beings? And if you talk and deliberate and come to a conclusion, then there you've got a matter of, as a partner. What do you expect from me? Why expect from you as human beings? And if we talk and deliberate and come to a conclusion, then there shouldn't be a be like, there shouldn't never be a, oh, you're meant to do this. Why aren't you doing it, can I? Because we've spoken about this before. So I feel like that's the best way to go.

And I think there is like, we don't really have too much tradition. There's like, there's becoming like a little resurgence-ish culturally about traditional's like, there's becoming like a little resurgence, ish culturally about traditional because like a lot of women say they want like, just rich dudes and they're willing to play a traditional wife role in exchange for the root dude. But we all know that doesn't include clean up sick out of the out of the sick. That just includes in the head it just includes shopper shopper. It just includes the soft

off life, not working and shopping. It just includes the soft life. The soft life. Not working and shopping. The one that's soft. No one's cleaning up sick. Yeah. But yeah, I definitely do think that is from, because our fan base is like 40% American. So, yeah, so we speak to a lot of Americans,

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about how it's all too much. I of course am happy to help and do my fair share for the kids or household, but it's never enough because her standards are too damn high. She insists one of us has to be up at 6.45 every morning to make sure the kids are ready and make the bus which comes at 7.45. I told her they're old enough to not need that much help already.

They can all dress themselves and pour themselves cereal and milk. There's no reason we have to be up. She says that cereal isn't a good enough breakfast. They need something more substantial, especially the 12-year-old, and that the 10-year-old has ADHD and will definitely struggle without help in the morning. And anyways, she wants to see them off and kiss them goodbye for the day. out help in the morning. And anyways, she wants to see them off and kiss them goodbye for the day. So she gets up, I don't.

Then she gets upset that I never give her a morning off when all she needs to do is just take the morning off when she wants and let the kids handle themselves. Also, she is super strict about screen time during the week and is exhausted and snappy from arguing about it with the kids. And upset, I don't support her strict limit of two hours a day. I say as long as homework is done, why not until bad? She says it's not healthy for them.

They need to play outside, or with games and toys. Read some books. Just entertain themselves in more ways than one. I agree. They should enjoy other things, but not seeing why we have to make such a rigid limit. She also likes to get out on weekends and do stuff like zoos, museums, etc. But then complain about the planning for the outing or how grouchy the youngest gets by the end of it.

And again, I say, let's just chill at home and veyola. You've cut the work. I'm an engaged and active parent. I'm not trying to get out of it, but I don't think I should have to help my wife dig herself out of her own self-created holes. She creates the stress for herself and then turns to me to alleviate it, which I think is unfair. Am I the asshole for telling her she needs to do less and then she won't need this level of help. do less and then she won't need this level of help. Oh, that's a very, very good one. That's a good one, man. I'm with this dude.

Yeah, yeah. Really? Yeah. And with this dude, I find this a lot, right? So this is like, someone told me as to, I don't know how accurate this that is, right? But someone told me to start the other day that was like, I can't remember, I'm not going to make up the numbers,

but basically children who grow up in a single parent household, whether just with a father, typically succeed more in life than children who grow up in a single mother household. And the reason for this, the reason for this is because similar case to this, men in general are, especially when it comes to parenting

and stuff like that, far more accepting of help. So like, mom, sisters, aunties, friends, anyone who's willing to come in, take the kids, sort out, help, help, help, help, help. I gotta be like, sure, whatever. So your mom's usually a bit more like, I'm gonna do this, I don't need you, I can be like sure, whatever. So your mom's are usually a bit more like, I'm gonna do this, I don't need you,

I can raise these kids, I can do this stuff. And then like it actually like has a, this is like a vast over generalization by the way. Yeah. But typically I'll have to find a study, but yeah, typically that's what tends to happen. And like I found like, I have like, this is very similar to the women I've had in my life,

mom's stepmom, aunties and stuff like that, which is like very, very rigid. This is the way it has to be. This is the best way to do it. But like, bro, you can't do it. And you're depressed and unhappy. And this whole thing is tossing and stressful. Like, it's just not happening.

And you just have to charge it. It's just not happening, bro. You're sacrificing your own happiness for perceived, perfect parenting, whatever like that. I feel like there's so much pressure on woman like to be a good mom. Yeah, oh so much. Like, versus a guy where you say, oh, he's more willing to accept help. And in versus like a guy where like you say like,

oh, he's more willing to accept help. And in my head, I'm like, there's not a lot of like, in a lot of the stories I come across, there's there's very rarely like these exceptional dads, like you typically has the mom, that does like everything and the dad kind of just like skirts by. It's almost the same thing as being like, like,

oh, when a dad's watching his kids, he's babysitting. Like, you know, that kind of, like, there's that double standard where like, the moms are held to such a higher expectation than a dad ever is. To be a good dad, you just kind of just have to be. And it's like, oh my god, you're amazing.

To be a good mom, you have to be like, you have to be like, you have to be crazy. You have to be exceptional. Yeah. Yeah. Like, to be a good, to be a good mom, you have to be exceptional. And that's why I'm like good, to be a good mom, you have to be exceptional. And that's why I'm like, with this guy, it's like, she's getting up every morning and sending them off to school

with a kiss and he's enjoying his extra hour of sleep. Like, I'm like, there's little things where, yeah, okay, like they don't need to go to the zoo every weekend. But at the same time, your kids do need experiences. Agreed. Agreed. And like, are you putting in any effort to plan them? Because it's like, oh yeah, you're an engaged parent engaged for you is going. But are you planning them?

Or are you putting all of that mental load on your wife? Well, the way he described it sounded like he was doing stuff, but when he does it, she criticizes the way he does it. Yeah, that's what it sounded like. Yeah. I don't know. I feel like his idea of doing stuff though is like, oh, just give him a ball cereal.

They're fine. And she's like, no, they need breakfast, which they don't need gourmet breakfast every day, like cereal, because I'm paying you in there. I agree. I think, I think, I think it sounds like there's layers, right? So like, like he said, like, she's like, super short tempered, exhausted, snappy,

all this kind of stuff. Like, as a kid, like, she's like, super short tempered, exhausted, snappy, all this kind of stuff. Like, as a kid, like, from experience, like, you see these things, I would much rather have a mom, or I would much rather have a, as a, as a, like, an adult who's been a kid, growing up, I would much rather have like a slightly shitter, dire, and a super happy mom. Yeah, same.

Then a full English breakfast every morning and a mom who's snap, snap, snap, snap, snap, snap. Super short tempered. Everything is just like, yeah, fuckin, hurry up, get out of the door. We're going to the zoo. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You're so grumpy, you're so ungrateful.

Where at the zoo you should be taking the experience. My mom is so overtired, like horribly like snappy ducks. I remember as a kid, like my mom did her best, but like holidays, like my mom did her best, but like holidays, like she couldn't really afford to take us on holiday. So when we, she did take us on holiday, like we had to like get like a three a.m. flight,

she was so stressed about passports missing this and that, I would have much rather to stay at home because the whole travel experience was just horrible. Yeah. Horrible, horrible, horrible. I would have just rather stayed home and just had like a happy relax mom, as opposed to like someone who's like,

I get the jesser, you're trying your best to do something for me, and this whole experience is horrible. Isn't that like crazy the pressure we put on ourselves to like make sure others have a good time and like for her, like your mom, she's obviously just trying to give you something that like she might not have even had.

I want to make sure my kids don't go Like for want or like without things Yeah, and so it's like but at the same time She's almost like soft sabotage in it and I I can relate to that so much especially like There's so much pressure nowadays like girls trips for your birthday or like things like that It's like okay. We all just need to fucking relax. Like no plans, no stress, just go with the flow. It's all gonna be good.

But I think we do like self-sabotage quite often. Yeah, for sure. So like I think like with this story, it's all well and good. I think it's good with the whole like trying your best to be a good man, but also it sounds like, it sounds like a little bit of the whole like, who best to be a good man, but also it sounds like it sounds like a little bit of the whole like, who is this for? Like, if you're putting so much pressure and so much stress on yourself, you're clearly not enjoying these experiences. Like, who is this for? Is it just so you can say you're

a good man? Or does it actually make you feel like a good man? Or do you actually, yeah, do you actually feel like you're being a good man? That's why I was saying when I said earlier, I'm definitely with this guy. That's why I feel like, is this for you to actually feel like I'm doing the best thing for my kids? Or is it just so you can say, I do everything for my kids?

Because it was all a lot of like pressure, pressure, pressure, pressure, pressure, pressure. Yeah, I feel like for me, like if I was gonna put myself in these kids shoes, because I wonder if you asked them, like, what do you, what do you think? Like, do you enjoy your mom getting up with you guys? Like, do you feel like your dad is actually an active, a gauge parent? Like, I wish we could get the kids these takes, because I look at me and it's like, if

I was a little kid, getting myself ready to school at 8, 10, 12, like 12 12 kind of getting that age, but like 8 and 10, they're still kind of young. And so if I was like getting myself up for school by myself, making breakfast by myself, putting myself on the bus, by myself, I feel like as a kid I would be really sad. Yeah, I guess so. I think it's just, it sounds like there's a mix of the two.

Like I don't think it's a case of like all or nothing. I think you just need to like trade off days then. Yeah, that's the first thing I was thinking when you said it as well because me growing up, I, I can't remember when I started around my age, but I was very young when I started doing a lot of things by myself. Sometimes like, like I said, getting ready for school. And I had an older sister who helped me out as well. So I feel like they could have obviously come to an agreement and trade some days and also speak to the 12 year old and be like, listen, we need a bit of help. You can clearly do all these things for yourself,

help out the 10 and the 8 year old as well with us and hopefully that can make the more interesting a bit more smooth. Even if it's just on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Exactly. Just off Tuesdays and Thursdays. Yeah. Yeah. It's like zero and just in there. It's compromised. Yeah. They're like zero and drizzle. That's compromise. Yeah. I feel like she's not willing to compromise on certain things

to make the household a bit easier. Because she wants, like you said, not necessarily to go make breakfast every day, but she doesn't want cereal in the morning. Kids love cereal, the fuck? If only you'd say cereal, the fuck. Do you know what I mean? That's my breakfast.

That's my breakfast. That's my breakfast. Zero is my pie. And then my pack lunch would be my pack lunch. I don't mind having cereal on cheeses and furs. They do you see what I'm saying? Friday, Friday, Friday. Exactly.

The pops couldn't wake up cheeses and Friday. Isn't sort that out. So there's a compromise that couldn't be made. And I feel like that discussion hasn't been had. I know. It's more of, oh, you're not doing this, you're not doing this, you're not doing it. And the data's saying, well, I think this is karma, I think this is karma.

But there's no resolution. There's no resolution. Yeah, it doesn't sound like he's willing to compromise I think that's what's like rubbing me the wrong way is it doesn't seem like he's willing to compromise He just wants to keep doing exactly what he's doing and just say like oh well, you need to lower your standards It's not like there's no compromise. There's no like you know, I see you and I'll get up one day But then on the other days, the kids should do cereal. So you're not so stressed. You get an extra 30 minutes, you know,

whatever. No, they need to discuss and compromise. That's the best way to do it. Because I look at like a lot of what she's doing, like the two hour limit on screen time, incredible. Like that's actually so good for your kids. I think I agree. Well, I don't have kids, but I agree. But I also think So good for your kids. I think, I agree with you. I don't have kids, but I agree. But I also think, I don't think a strict time, I can't really say it, but I feel like a strict time is also, will tease me to make me one more. Do you see what I'm saying?

If I'm a child, and you say I've only got two hours to do something, or an X amount of time to do something, I feel like you're testing me here. Do you know what I mean? I'm a child. This is just how I'm thinking. This is just how I'm thinking. This is just how I'm thinking. I feel like if you get a routine, though, and you know it's coming. You can prepare.

Man, say your teasing me. Your teasing me. But I can understand where she comes about and says, oh, it's not just about screen time. I want them to go out, I want them to have fun, I want them to do this. But I feel like you say, oh, you've got two hours to do this. It's going to be like, well, at seven o'clock, I know I have to go outside, but just, just like, I have fun, whatever. Yeah, it's a, it's a, it's, there's a million things that can be like, mitigated and made it easier here and stuff like that.

I think it is, I think it is from the sounds of it, is like a, a mix of, yeah, like, probably overly high standards, and probably just him not lead like me in the morning at all. Okay. Because she's really like calling on him and he's been like, I'm here to help but it has to be entirely my way. Like it has to be like all these things she's like I need help with all these things and he instead of being like okay I can help with this this this he's just like well you don't need to do that you don't need to do that. That's his version of hell. That's his version of hell. He's crossing the line.

He's crossing the line. He's not doing it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. His version of hell was trying to off to like cross off stuff from her list without having to do it. But like not, because he doesn't want to do it himself. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

He doesn't want to do it himself. He's not, he's not, he's a case of these are all the things that need to be doing. I'm stressed that you need to do it. Instead of, she's not at any point being like, maybe I'd need to calm down on this, and this,

and this, and make my life a little bit easier. So it sounds like a little bit of a... They both need to compromise. I both need to meet in the middle. Yeah, what do you think the overall vote on this one is? From the comments, is that? Well, are they siding with the most? Yeah, what do you think Reddit voted?

I think they're siding with her more than they're siding with the guy. Just, what do you think Reddit vote for? I think they're signing with her more than they're signing with the guy. Just, just, I've just, just a guess. I don't know. I personally, I read it full of weeps, though. So I reckon, I reckon weeps, you know, weeps are like, Nickbeard dudes, just like computer like, Nickbeards, like, just like, Hermits basically.

30 roll like, just like permits basically. 30-year-old like bro-homest. That's what red is for love. Sad. The overall vote on this is asshole. He's the asshole. They're calling him the asshole. Damn, damn, fair play. The top comment, you're the asshole.

Your wife's standards are just dot, dot, dot, being a decent parent. And you are not doing your fair share. If you aren't helping with these things, you consider unnecessary. An eight-year-old and a 10-year-old with ADHD are not ready to totally get themselves ready in the morning. And you'd know that if you didn't sleep

through the morning routine every day. Time, that's a specific cup. Two hours of screen time a day is totally reasonable boundary. It's so easy. It's a tease. It's a tease, man. And family time and enriching activities are also important. Maybe those can be cut down slightly, but just chill at home all the time isn't the answer

either. Stop being lazy and become an actually engaged parent like your wife is. Damn, that's such a specific attack. Hey. Yeah, if they play the... They play mine. Yeah. They play.

Um, there's another comment down. That one has 46,000 up votes though. Damn. That's how many... That's surprising. So that's it. It's an overwhelming... Yeah.

And like, there's one that's down, like, right after with almost 14k up votes. To be fair, a lot of kids around that age have to get ready on their own because their parents already left for work. I was one of them, and it was pretty normal in my social circles. And now I am a teacher and know this from a lot of students. From when I was eight, my parents left at 4.45 and 6.30 a.m. for work, and I had to get up and ready on my own. My mother called every morning at 7.15 to check in with me though.

But if my parents would have been home and decided to sleep in instead of getting up with me, I 100% would have felt neglected as fuck. Why on earth would that be acceptable behavior for a parent? Holy shit OP is completely out of touch with reality. That makes sense. Damn. To be fair, me waking up, me doing my stuff early by myself or from my young age was

because of the fact that my parents went to work early. I know, I think that was me too. I was lucky to have my older sister to guide me, help me. Yeah. And that was me for my younger brother. High school, my mom wasn't, she was traveling a lot for work and wasn't in the house. And so it was literally me 16, I got my license. And because I got my license, and because I got my license,

I think she felt she could do that. Because then I was the one getting up with my little brother who was 13, driving him to school, driving him to baseball practice, like doing things like that. She all floated all of that responsibility to you. Yeah, like it was more so out of like necessity, like versus, you know, anything.

But yeah, it was just like, it was interesting. And yeah, probably did some damage for sure Yikes, but this is an interesting one. I think it would be nice if there was more context There's no comments from him no update yet accepting his judgment I'm not surprised he hasn't deleted it yet though, which is what you'll see a lot of people do when they like. Oh really?

Yeah, when they get a response that they don't like, they pull it. Yeah, but it's anonymous. I wouldn't, I can understand him feeling some type of way. I've read in the comments and stuff and he's like, they're all on the wife side or whatever. Yeah. If it's anonymous, I'm not gonna take it personally.

Yeah, no. In my opinion anyway, I just wouldn't, I wouldn't delete, I'll just leave it out there. If it was going to know. Exactly. And I feel like by typing it and leaving it, I've somewhat vented. Yeah. Yeah. So deleting is only adding to the problem because I'm going to want to type it again. Yeah. Because it's going to happen next week. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then you have to give your own content. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah a way that sounds better. That's the fact. I want 47,000 votes for me, bitch. Yeah, it's the ones that it's all. It's a lot. OK, moving along.

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Okay. I had a huge wedding earlier this summer with an equally huge reception. My parents paid and they didn't want it to be child-free. I already knew that was going to be a fight, so I just went along with it. About a wedding dress from Facebook Marketplace and had it tailored to fit. The wedding was fun and noisy with babies and kids.

I'm pretty sure I heard Mario Kart music as well. The reception was loud and rambunctious, with two of my younger cousins getting drunk and puking. Late teens, not children. Someone was giving them drinks because they were, quote, old enough to handle it. A baby threw up on my dress. A few people apologized, but not most.

A lot of people commented on how well my husband and I took the chaos. The following weekend, we got married for real. Just our parents and bridal party in attendance. I got to wear my beautiful dress that I picked out with my mom and mother-in-law. We had the same flowers and outfits. We got married at an outdoor pavilion that I have always thought was perfect. We posted a few of the wedding pictures, and people noticed that my dress was different,

and that the location for the pictures was different. They were asking what the fuck. I said that I wanted everyone to join us for our wedding day and have a good time, but that we also wanted the ceremony and pictures that we planned for ourselves. Some of our family and friends say that we were assholes

for inviting them to a fake wedding. I think we just had two ceremonies, am I the asshole? I take it back, she's not the asshole. Yeah, I take it back completely, no. Fuck them kids. Yeah, and fuck out for me. Literally, fuck them kids, bro.

The fuck? Through up on the dress, taking a piss out of me. Yeah, I completely agree. What she did was right, at my opinion, yeah. I think what she did was right. I think, comes in the pictures is a bit agree. What she did was right, at my opinion, yeah. I think what she did was right. I think, yeah. Post in the pictures is a bit much. I don't think so, bro.

I actually do. I actually feel really strongly about this. Okay. This is like a completely separate argument. Okay. But like, people's need to use social media baffles me. Considering it's like 10 years old, people's like, you know for a fact you tricked everyone, and you still go to audacity

to post the pictures. You can have these pictures at your house, like before Instagram, that's what everyone did. They had the pictures in an album, in that house, no harm, no foul. Also now because Instagram's a thing or Facebook's a thing or you actually felt the need to not only trick me, but to then show me that you tricked me,

is like, I don't think the concept is arsehole. I think throwing it in my face that like you're doing something that like that is interesting. You took the piss out of me. I think posting is is is a bit of an arsehole. So my my initial thought wasn't. Then posting and seeing their reaction like I would just post it because it's something I want to post because for granted we've been planning this for X amount of time like yeah we had the little kids ceremony pie wherever for everyone

but the reason why I'm posting is because this is for me and my husband or me and my partner and brodo you know what I'm saying yeah um that's the reason why I said but I can understand where you're coming from in a sense that it seems as if I would be throwing it in their faces but I don't think a tent would be there but you can't really have an intent from a picture do you know me so yeah I get what you're. I get what you're saying. I get what you're saying. That is interesting, because I think a lot of people do do something where they take private wedding photos

or staged shoots, so it's not on their actual wedding day, but they have a practice running, it dressed up and take the pictures, so they're really good, and then they don't stress photos on their wedding day. Almost makes things easier. But it is interesting because if they wouldn't have posted it, they never would have been a problem. But at the same time, I feel like if it were me

and someone was approaching me and was like, how dare you? I would have been like, did you see what happened? Oh yeah, you can't be serious about my wedding day. Honestly, a baby threw up on me on my wedding day. Yeah. How would you care about that? How would you care about that?

I needed a redo. Like it was nothing against you, but like, I got thrown up on. Yeah, you should be thanking me that I was willing to have like two completely separate days. Because if it was clearly if it was highway, there would just be no kids. Yeah. So she gave all of her friends and family an entire day just to dedicate to let them be part of it,

not exclude their kids. And then I had a little, yeah, and spent bags on it. Morning. Well, the parents did. Yeah. And then have a separate day. Like you should be like, oh, that's actually really nice that you did that.

Thank you. You didn't have to do that. I appreciate you doing it, because I saw the sick on your dress. And personally, I'm like, oh, that's actually really nice that you did that. You didn't have to do that. I appreciate you doing it because I saw the sick on your dress. I'm buzzing. I'm like, yeah, yeah. So yeah, to be called an asshole for that is crazy. Yeah, there were some comments from OP. OP has since, uh, well, the moderators took it down, but OP's

account is also suspended. So I can't go look at the comments or anything, but I have some screenshots. That's okay. Interesting. So someone goes info, did you do a ceremony at this big gathering or was it just a party?

Because I think people were kind of confused, like was this just a reception or did you like go through the motions to where people really thought you got married? Yeah, that's a big crazy. Okay. And then so Opie goes wedding at a church. And the person goes, think I worded my question wrong.

Were all of the people at this big gathering invited to a wedding or just a party? Were they at the wedding in the church and then moved to the party reception? Or was there no ceremony involved at all for them? Opie responds, there was a wedding ceremony involved at all for them? I hope he responds, there was a wedding ceremony at a church, then a reception. Yeah, so now you're actively tricking and lying to me. Who is this priest?

Who is this guy? Yes! Like, yeah, that's a bit. It feels strange. That's a bit crazy. Yeah, who are higher? Yeah, cuz it's this is not official. Yeah, who the fuck is this guy? Yeah, that's weird and then like what's their anniversary date like they didn't sign papers for the first one so it was fake The whole thing

They've been signing some random piece of paper telling random vows. That's interesting Okay, that's a plot sign in some random piece of paper, telling random vowels. That's interesting. Yeah. Okay, that's a plot twist. That's interesting. Wow. That is interesting. That's juicy. Fuck.

Yeah. Now, maybe she is the asshole. Because that's a lot to put me through. Yeah, yeah. It's an asshole tendencies. I feel like you would almost just like feel like your reality. Like, what? Yeah.

Like, my reality isn't my reality. I watched you get married, but you didn't actually get married What yeah, yeah, that's very very very very very very crazy But also if I'm the wife of husband like mind your fucking bitch like I'm playing both sides. I'm playing double-athic I'm like mind your fucking you had your team. I'm having my thing mind your fucking I won't respond I promise you I'm not resplendent nothing Yeah, that is a bit crazy. But again, same different cultures do different stuff all the time. Like African weddings will have a traditional wedding. And like, and a white wedding as well. Okay. Yeah, Asian wedding,

sometimes they'll have like five or six weddings. Yeah, so many different cultures do multiple stuff. So it's not necessarily the craziest thing in the world, but I'm also being devil's Africa because we all know that bullshit. She's just she's dreamed of something that's nuts. I feel like if she would have been up front about it though would people of like Gone to either like you know what I mean like if you said like hey, this is my first wedding We're having like a more intimate private one. I feel like people would have been pissed from the jump because they would have been like, well, I'm not exclusive enough to get the intimate invite.

Fuck you. I don't wanna go to either. Why would I get you a gift if you don't view me as making the cut? Oh, she got bad gifts and not a other one as well. She would have gone bad. Yeah, I think, yeah, you have to do, it's a tough one. Because I don't think when people usually do stuff like this,

they'll usually do it in a registry office in it. They'll just do it in a registry office and they'll have one witness. It has to be the legal minimum and you're wearing something really modest and then it can't be appealing. You don't want, it doesn't look like something that you'd want your friends to go to.

So when you do the big one Everyone's like I would have gone to this one anyway, but if you're if you're doing up if the second wedding is Boogie you're doing a sunset Then yeah, you're taking the absolute piss out me because I could have left my kids at home You didn't even give me the option. Yeah, yeah, how could it be easy just left them at home? So many people refuse to do that though. Yeah, some people are really entangled. People throw fits about it and it's like, don't you want to night off? Yeah, people, when it comes to certain things, people are crazy entitled.

When it comes to like, yeah, sorry guys, this is like a kids free wedding, I hope you understand, and they're just like, fuck you. It's all of us or none of us. I have excluded my kids. There's none of you. Yeah, people, parents are crazy. Parents will pretend that their kids are on arseholes. Facts.

They'll tell the world that they know their kids as a piece of shit. They know they break shit and they understand it. And they, but when it comes to someone else outside the house, it's like, oh, I'd rather you not bring your kids. Like parents get crazy, different. They get to see you. Yeah.

Well, this one, they didn't even apologize to her. Like she said, some people said, sorry, I'd rather you know bring your kids like parents get crazy to find the answer. Yeah. Well, this one they didn't even apologize to her. Like she said, some people said sorry, but most of them didn't. Like if someone's kid threw up on me and my wedding dress and they didn't apologize. I was fucking crazy. I'm throwing hands.

I'm grabbing a bottle of wine and it's getting poured on them. I'm losing. I would lose my mind. Votes on this one were really split. Really, really split. The top comment with almost 17,000 of votes is those family members calling you an asshole are just mad that you outsmarted them and their ass had to read. You are not the asshole. Congratulations.

Okay. Interesting. But there are a lot of you're the asshole, congratulations. Hmm. Okay, interesting. But there are a lot of you're the asshole, too. And one that OP responded to is, you're the asshole. Having two different wedding receptions itself is completely fine. But what you did, you blantily deceived the people who went to the first one. I don't really get why you couldn't have just been upfront about it. Because they wouldn't have gone. No one would have, they would have been more mad, lady. Is it really that hard to understand why some of your friends and family

might have felt slided? I don't know. I feel like I'm taking crazy pills, seeing everyone comment how genius this is, but the whole thing just feels unnecessary to me if you just properly communicated. There's no communication about that though. You can't communicate that. I don't think you could because she actually didn't want of kids. I went in the first if you just properly communicated. There's no communication about that though. You can't communicate that. I don't think you could. Because she actually didn't want of kids I went in the first place.

So yeah, that's all long. Yeah, OP Respond goes, I didn't want to hear the Mario Kart music during my ceremony. The way I did it, I chuckled when I heard it. And that is a good point, because someone did comment to them, like, oh, you're handling this chaos so well. Yeah, yeah, because if this would have been her real day, she would have. Yeah, that's not a damn anniversary. I don't want to remember this. Yeah, yeah, around me and wine. I don your tape. Now you look back and laugh though, like it's like hearted and like it's not that big of a deal.

It's a really tough one. Yeah, damn, I can see why this split. It is a really, really tough one because you're right. There's no situation, if that was the only wedding that she's looking back at that, I'm thinking, what a great day. She would just be thinking,

may fuck all of this. I don't want it. Let's erase this. Fuck's. Yeah, I don't know. It is a tough one, but to yeah, but to also go through the whole emotions, go through the fake vows and signing and ceremony and church. Oh, no. How much did they pay the priest? Yeah, yeah. It's an actor. It's just an actor. I wonder if it was the same person. And do you think they said the same vows

or do you think they went different? Oh, damn. I hope they did the same one. Okay. If they did different than they actually just, they're the horses, they're just playing now. They're just playing games. That'd be hilarious.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And they're trying to hold back the smiles. Fuckers. I'm just giggling behind the god. Yeah, yeah, that's jokes. That trying to hold back the smiles. Fuckers. Just giggling behind the God. Yeah, that's jokes. That's not. But yeah, if it was, I would say if it wasn't for the ceremony, because I've, I've been to a wedding a few years ago where they did

not this exact thing for the same reasons, but they had like a separate wedding. And the wedding that I had, they mind the one I went to was after wasn't in a church. The vows that they said were just like, in a nice like field, in like outside, out the back of like a manor house and stuff like that. It was beautiful. But I went there knowing that this is not the real Polish version.

They did the real Polish version like last week. Okay. So there was no priest there, there was nothing, there was just like, I can't remember who was officiating it, but just like someone that was important to them and it didn't look like proper ceremony church, whatever. Okay. I was made aware they did that last week, and this was just like, we get to see it.

Honestly, I like, so how did you feel about that knowing up front? I was fine. So I wonder if people wouldn't have cared. Yeah, I was literally fine. I think maybe if they, because they did the main one after. Because you did the main one first. So far. If they did the main one first,

or like, we alloped last week in Vegas, or whatever. And this is for you guys. Or we had a little private thing, just the two of us here. This is for you guys. I think everyone would take a better. OK. Knowing that, like, when you're reenenacting the vowels knowing that you're already married,

it's not as offensive. You guys aren't actually even getting married right now, and you're gonna walk out of this church not married, and then I'm there clapping and like throwing rice and that shit. Oh my god, that's so true. That's crazy. You might have been married. But doing it again once you are married, because people like redo their vowels and shit all the time. So like doing again once you are married because people like redo their vows and shit all the time. So like doing it when you are married, I guess it's, I would say, is a lot less offensive. So maybe if they just switched the order,

it might have been better. I think so. You're giving me ideas because me and my boyfriend, Justin, have talked about like, small courthouse wedding first, like the night before and then actual wedding. And that's to like, I think it's a good show. Yeah.

Makes sense. I think it's a good show because I, all weddings as well when I go, I think it's a good show. Yeah. It makes sense. I think it's a good show, because like... Okay. All weddings as well when I go... I think it's the best show, because weddings in general, I was looking at the couple and thing. Fuck. This.

It's so busy, like running around to everyone, and like... Yeah. Doing all of that while trying to like actually think, wow, this is like the best day of my life. It's like... The pressure. It's a lot.

Oh. Dress changes, making sure, and then plus you're already like looking like, the meals coming out on time, is it cooked properly? Is this happening? Is the music right? Is the flowers right? You don't want to think about all that. So you're having a special day, first, private, relaxed.

This is everything. And then having the wedding for everyone, I think it's a buff move. I like this. Yeah, I want mine so chill. I want food trucks. I don't want like, I think it's like a it's a buff made. I like this. Yeah, I want mine so chill Like I want food trucks. I don't want like Yeah, I just think it'd be so fun to have like options taco and chicken sliders and mini donuts I want to bring the kids Yeah, you know the big all the kids. Yeah, I'll give kids

Child-free for sure. I literally told my brother and his wife. I'm not giving up my Saturday to spend the day in a suit. I just leave me at home. Yeah. We play games. Yeah. Wedding is a lot. It's a lot of fun. I'm not giving up.

I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up.

I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up. I'm not't care. I really don't. Any of the parents, I think, they get out. It's not given up my Saturday to spend the day in a suit. I just leave it at home. Yeah. We play games. Yeah. The weddings are a lot.

They are. They are. Okay. Up next, this one is coming from our very own Too Hot Takes subreddit. It is titled, What would you do if you found out your partner is a perv? Jesus. Okay. Let's get into it.

I recently discovered that my partner of almost 10 years has a disgusting habit. For the past year, he has been secretly taking videos of various women in public. Most of the videos are shaky and low quality, but always with glimpses of an attractive woman. Upon looking at the collection, you might almost be fooled that the videos were simply recorded in error because of how random some of them are, and the fact that 70% of the time it's just recording the inside of his pocket. What made his intentions clear to me was one video in particular. The phone appears to be on the floor, when a woman walks in a frame with a clear view up her skirt. After I saw that one, I could see what he was trying to do in the others.

It became very apparent that he was taking every opportunity to record up a skirt down a shirt or get a close-up of someone's ass in leggings. I said make me feel sick. This is actually making me feel sick. Because I know this will come up. Yes, I did check his phone. I know that's not great. Curiosity got the best of me because he normally has it with him 100% of the time.

When he left it at home one day, I couldn't help myself. What's crazy is I almost put it down after a few moments because everything else was super innocent and boring. I remember laughing at myself and thinking how silly I was even looking. That's when I scrolled to the videos. Oh, I haven't even mentioned the worst part yet. The most recent video,

were of my best friends in their bikinis. That doesn't all right. That's the easiest talk. You get anything. If anything, that's fucked. On a trip, we all went on together. That doesn't surprise me. It's easy to talk.

Bro, I'm with you. I get you, bro. It doesn't surprise me at all. It's so sad, but thinking about the stories that I've had that are similar, it is the best friends. It makes, it's the easiest thing. Like, it's fucks, bro. Yeah.

Sorry, Sam, sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry. Like, I was right fucking there and he still couldn't help himself. I'm so hurt and confused because the person I know would never violate another person's privacy that way. I confronted him and initially broke up on the spot. But the next morning he apologized and told me he understands if I want to break up, but he wants to work it out. He is willing to go to personal and or couples therapy. I'm not sure if that is enough though, but I'm having a hard time letting go. What would you do? That's not enough. That guy's got a complete... Yeah, he said he couldn't help himself when they were on holiday with his best friends.

He couldn't help himself. Oh, God. There's nothing to be spoken about. Yeah, it's done. No. There's nothing. This guy's sick. That's 10 years, though.

That's a decade of your life. It's crazy how much you don't know somebody. After 10 years. And to keep that... Oh, my God, yeah, that's mad. Well, and just how calculating he is, like to set his phone on the floor recording up so that when someone stepped over it, you got to shot up their skirt.

That's too calculating. That's, that one made me feel like. There's no therapy conversation. He knows what he's doing. Like this, you can't stay with that. I don't think he can stay with you. I don't think I could. You can't.

No, that's like, that's worse than cheating. That's like, he's got a whole bank. The whole, I couldn't help myself. That's too much. Yeah, it's terrible behavior. It's really violating, but it almost does kind of feel like cheating in a weird way. Oh, I can imagine. Oh, I can imagine.

100%. Like, he's using that material he collects for his spank bank. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's really weird. And the way he has now sexualized her friends, like I had a write-in that this listener found her boyfriend's like folder and it was all pictures of her friends and he was using it to jack off. It was just friends. On his phone?

Or on his phone? On his phone. I think it was like a desktop folder. Like a folder on the... I'm reclarefied. He printed it. He printed it so he could really... We're fully oting.

I was getting cooler. It was starting to stick together on some pages. Oh my God. Geez. He's got an illness. Yeah, he needs, like break up aside, because that relationship's done. Yeah.

First of all, he still needs to speak to someone, because that can't continue. Because he's gonna get into another relationship, hide the same thing he's doing, and probably gonna get caught again. Yeah. It has to be someone. That's crazy.

Crazy. He needs mental help. He does. It's mad how like people can like just justify things in their head Because there would have been a time that he would have known like this is far It's far clearly folks, but I just can't help it. Yeah. Yeah, that's his excuse I can't help who tantalizing He loves the risk. Yeah, yeah, three women bikinis every day. I can't help myself after do it That is bonkers. Yeah, that is disgusting I'm sure that's the excuse Tiger Woods used to

Just Tiger went through a bit boy. How many did he end up cheating on his wife? Oh, I don't know. I have no idea. Were there hundreds? Probably I just know he was a balier That just makes your like literally sitting here like thinking about it makes me want Might be trying to fall off Oh my god, that's a lot. Yeah, that is one of them ones is you just don't know someone Yeah, but then again, it's like also it's like, is how much is a singular trait? How much of that of your entire personality?

Cause yeah, like this whole like pervert thing is like, oh, I actually don't know who you are. And then the same thing, they've been together 10 years. She actually knows exactly who he is. It's just like one tiny little element of his personality that like now defines him. Yeah. Now that's the exactly all she sees now.

Do you think that could be a lie though? Like I think about like Dexter and like these serial killer type people out there that like they have this dark. It's a little personality. Yeah. Like it just makes you wonder like is that real or is that him acting? And like the true assault is. Oh, it's like a complete sociopath. Yeah. It's you know what I mean? Yeah. Like I would just it would make me question. I hear that completely. Like it would make me question. Yeah, that would completely. Like it would really mess me up. When you said, oh, the video's for shaky.

And like, that's horrible. He's trying to, it's harder. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And he could just, you just know he's breathing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. He's just there like, oh, and the fact, I can't,

I would love to have been a fly in the wall for when she's first scrolling through the phone, not seeing anything like, why am I doing this, why am I doing this, why am I doing this, why am I doing this, why am I doing this, and then it's just so boring. And then finding the first one, and then finding one of her bredrants.

Yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, she would have dropped everything. No. That's everything. Oh, the shaking is the hard breathing, I think that messed me up with us. Oh, breathing would take me. Oh, it shakiness, the hard breathing. I think that messed me up with us. Oh, breathing would take me. Oh.

Take me. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, God. Yeah, okay. That's scary. That's like mud, mud, mud, mud, mud. Okay. He wants stuff.

Yeah. He wants stuff and he doesn't get how he gets it. Have you been to the, just so bad. Jesus. Have you been to the air?'s so bad. Who uses this? Have you been to the air? It's like the London baths. Like they're like, have you seen them? Okay, it's like this basement all brick,

but they put pools in it. And so it's like these ancient baths. It feels like you're having a bath in like a game of thrones like dungeon. It makes sense. So sick, so cool. But we were there last night and we went into the steam room and this other couple came in after us and the guy is like And I was like we got I literally look at Justin and go

Hot tub next room like it was so weird and I had just seen them before and like this other pool and they were like aggressively making out. And I'm like, I don't know what these two are doing, but I don't want to be a part of it. Yeah. I like, no. I'm just like after experiencing that, I'm envisioning this guy. Yeah. Slow down.

Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down baby. Slow down. Slow down baby. That would never go. Yeah, you know, that's front by the way. No, I thought you was the whisper song again. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no Sartam Sartam, then, Adrian, she's got a snoopy tattoo on her waist or something.

Yeah, yeah. And he's watching to get in dress. Yeah, I knew that. It's like, I'm just slow going out of here. It's so funny. And Chris Stuckers is like, Gimmie, that I need to see. Oh, my God.

Oh, we say that, Bob, all the time. But yeah, that guy's sick. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, It's titled, Am I the asshole for turning around and going back to my parents with my baby when I got home because my husband let his homeless brother move in and everyone had lice. Oh God. I recently went to see my parents with my newborn. It was just for the long weekend so my husband stayed home with our three other children, seven, five, three. My husband called me when I was out of town to let me know his brother needed a place to crash.

I said that he should give him a ride to a shelter or something because it was a bad idea to let his brother in our home. He has stolen from us before. When I got home, there were five very itchy people in the house. I immediately got back in my car and went to my parents' house. My husband was calling me the whole time because he needed help dealing with the lice. I didn't call him back until the baby was settled

back in at my folks' place. I told him the pharmacy had the shampoo and comb for lice. He said he needed me to come home and take care of it. I noted. I said that he let his brother in our home against my wishes. His brother gave them all lice. come home and take care of it. I knowped. I said that he let his brother in our home against my wishes. His brother gave them all lace. I also reminded him that when our oldest got lace from kindergarten, he didn't help me at all. I hate lace. They freak me out. I

dealt with it because I had to. This time, it's on him. He said that he would have to use up his sick days to take care of this. I said, tough shit. He did it. He took his brother to a shelter. He delights himself and the kids. And then he spent three days cleaning all the bedding and the furniture. He called me every day begging for help. I did not come home until his mother confirmed that everything was done. He is pissed that I stuck him with all of that by himself. I know I should have helped, but it was too much. I'm still not 100% from having the baby. It was just too much. Am I the asshole?

Interesting. I mean, they just, she just had a baby. Newborn. So, I don't necessarily think, I don't necessarily think she's the asshole. I can understand why she may have had some arsehole tendencies in that situation. Like it was also his fault for it. Not necessarily his fault. Like his brother is in an unfortunate situation. Yeah. He's been there before and he's stolen from my yard. That's crazy. Yeah. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? So bringing

him back knowing his home list knowing that he could potentially give everyone life switch he did. And the wife said, listen, I'm against this, taking to a home in a shelter or something. Please, for the sake of us and for the sake of the newborn. And he still said no. He's got a deal with himself. But he said he did take him, though.

Yeah, after the fact, after the fact, not initially, for a friend, a friend, a friend, a friend. So I'm in agreement with her. I'm not gonna lie to you. That's 80% in agreement with her. Okay. Until like, you lost me on the three days. Yes, that's spawning. If I'm taking care of it, he's in the shelter

of deloused everyone, I'm doing this and it's taking me three days, at least on day three and he's calling her every single time, please, please, please, please, please, please, please. I'm blocking his ass. Really? You fucked around and found out. You deserve this. This is brother though. Yeah, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, like, do you need a shower? Are you itchy? Like, what's the deal? Should we put light shampoo in your hair just to be safe? I'm not gonna lie. The lights would be the last thing that will come to my head.

I wouldn't even think about that. I would think about dirty, shower, clean clothes, all that stuff, but like him having a light, wouldn't even, in fact, to be fair. Wouldn't even come into my head. It's just not like an everyday thought of mine. Yeah, I worked out a mental health facility at a lot of my patients were on-housed.

So I feel like that just comes to mind like so fast for me. And I also live in LA where there is a big population of homeless people. And my dog picked up fleas just from walking down the street next to like us sleeping back. So I'm just like, I think I'm extra paranoid. Yeah, that makes sense.

Because I have an experience license. I was like a kid. Tinnigarded. Yeah, that makes sense. Because I have an experience license. I was like, a kid. Kindergarten. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So like sharing hats at school. It wouldn't even, it wouldn't even come into my head. I would definitely like get them in the shower, I'm up, clean them up, wear my clothes.

Yeah. All this is good. And then later I found out I've got like, he had a license, I'll be like, oh, fuck, I didn't even think about it. And then yeah, if I'm then being like, oh, fuck, all right, cool. I'll deal with this.

I've kicked him out now, cleaned everyone else up, and I'm like, baby, baby, baby, baby. I'm like, yeah. Three days of it. Yeah. Yeah. And I haven't seen my newborn baby. Yeah.

I would be a bit like, bae, this is an awesome, I get it, yeah. It's an awesome move, but I can also understand why she did what she did in the same rough. True, because you keep saying three days, now I'm thinking about, I'm like, why did it take him so long?

Yeah, fuck knows why I took him so long. That's a long time. Like you just throw the stuff, the animals in a bag, wash the stuff, and hot water. I'm not sure. Why did it take him so long? Yeah, I have no idea.

He must have been flustered with everything. At last. I have no idea. Or he didn't start until day two because he assumed she would come home and take care of it. Ooh, you're playing 3D chess now. Yeah, maybe.

Wow, okay. Maybe. I thought she'd cave. Yeah. Yeah. That's around her found out. Yeah, that one. Yeah.

If that is the case then yeah, he did fuck around and find out. He did. Jesus. Overall vote. Not the asshole. Top comment. Not the asshole. You didn't stick him with anything.

He stuck it to himself by bringing someone who's violated your trust into the house against your and probably his better judgment. Hopefully he'll learn something from it. Next comment down, God, I'm itching right now. Same. There is another comment just like not the asshole, but it sounds like he had his mom's help. So he probably didn't really learn the lesson that you wanted him to. And Opie goes, she only went there to verify everything was done.

She didn't let his brother in her home either. That's a tough one for me, you know, man. Cause I, maybe it's a, cause I love my brother more, like so much. Yeah. If I, he was in like a difficult position. It's, again, depending on why he's like homeless or whatever, like if he's like an addict and all this stuff

and he's stolen me, but like, if he's a good person, like, you've known him all the time. And my wife was like, he's not coming in here, he stole from me again. I would probably be like, he can steal what the fuck he wants. I don't care, like, I need him to be here. Like, he needs help. I'm not going to leave him.

So that one, I don't know. When I'm listening to him, I'm like, I would still bring him in. Isn't my brother? I would do anything for my brother. I'm not going to leave it. I like, so that one, I don't know, when I'm listening to it, I'm like, I would still bring him in. Isn't my brother? I would do anything for my brother. I don't know. So yeah, it is a tough one. This is, it is a tough one. It sounds like he's really gone through it too, because the mom not even taking him in, like that, I feel like that really shows, Like he's probably messed up quite a few times. And so that the brother does have the heart and is willing to take him in, does kind of show a lot about his character too

on the flip side of all this. That's tough, no, it's tough. It's tough. It's a lot of fun. Thank you guys for coming on. Thank you for having us. This is very, very good. It's time is flying here.

This was so fun. Where can everyone find your show? What do you want? Share. Yeah, you can find us. Type in Sheets and Gigs, XZ of an eye, or just type in James Afrood. You'll find us. Spotify, Apple, YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, wherever.

Patreon. Patreon, yeah. Find us there. Yeah, man. Amazing. Their show will also be linked in the description. So you'll have no challenge finding it. Their stuff is amazing. I went back. I listened to episode seven. Oh, Yeah, it's a title if you remember. I don't, but that's how you started with the whisper song. Really? Really? Oh, God, we start on original

Yeah, you cleansed your first one through six. So That's where I have to start. I've thought about it. I've thought about it. So I get it. I get it. But thank you guys. Thank you very much.

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