Two Hot Takes - 148: I'm Embarrassed That You're so Embarrassing..

Episode Date: January 11, 2024

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Just your reminder to subscribe. Thank you friends. Did we start? Yeah What did I miss the intro? No, we haven't done it yet. We just kind of you know ease into it I feel like we've never really started the show with an intro We're just kind of like so how about the Miyake is a nice Yankees today. I mean, it's our first episode of the year in the studio My job. Oh, oh a blanket. Yeah, that's a sweet. Thank you. I didn't into my job. Oh, a blanket. Oh, that's so sweet. Thank you.

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We're gonna do dinner. Where? Probably Bach or your favorite. Perfect, I'll go, I'll be there. There we go. So today's theme, are we ready? Nope. I think like we've had a theme in the past,

like second hand embarrassment, Lauren's zoning so hard. I know, I'm sorry. That was a old one. That was a classic. Yeah, so it was second hand embarrassment. And I just feel like I was reading some of these stories and I'm like, I'm embarrassed

that you're so embarrassing. Like you're pathetic. Yeah. Like you're embarrassing to me. Yeah. I don't know. It might not be our writer, it might be someone in the story. You could say Morgan, you're popping off.

No, these people are fine. So we're gonna see. It's like when you're watching those videos and you almost have to turn them off. Or, yeah. Or you ever click the comment button to hide the video so you don't have to watch it, but you keep listening and you start reading comments.

Just so you don't have to watch it. Yeah, my God. You guys I the other day was watching Well, remember I sent you that like fecal Transplant thing Yes, you can make a hundred and eighty thousand dollars a year donating your poop. Yeah, which was so wild So anyway, I was curious about it not only because of that but because of On the other end of it like you don't even I'm like what is this doesn't help? What does it help because there was this video that was talking about this girl who has

She is bipolar disorder disorder and her husband gives her his poop his poop all the time to and they do like this transplant And I'm so I'm interested in so I wanted to listen to it But like I couldn't look at the video. They literally show their poop on the screen and they blended up, it was crazy. And I'm like, I literally can't do this, but I need to watch it. So that just reminded me of that.

It was wild. Sorry, we're starting off a little strong. We'll start not strong. You just set the record for how early we can bring it up. Yeah, yeah. I like this. Maybe we can crop this and move it towards the record for how early we can bring it up. Yeah, yeah. I like this. Maybe we can crop this and move it towards the end. No, I like this a lot.

Also, we are participating in dry and damp-ish januaries. Moist. So if you're joining us, cheers. Moist. And if you have any good mocktail suggestions for going out and getting drinks at bars, I would love those in the comments. But other than that, any updates, anything? This is like our first episode back as a team for the year, anything else?

It's kind of nice to not be in the middle. Nice. Yeah. Yeah. I'm proud of Lauren for taking on that role. How about you, Lauren? Hmm. I don't know. I'm just glad to finally chill out for a minute before we start getting going again, because as fun as the holidays are, I'm tired. I'm just so tired.

Yep. I feel yeah. It's a lot. Ready? Okay. Let's dive in. Okay. Let's do it. Okay.

So up first for us. This one is coming from Am I the asshole? It is titled Am I the asshole for expecting my date to cover the cost of a dress he ruined? Ruined. Thank you. I, 27 female, am in a bit of a dilemma and could really use some advice. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we decided to go to a nice high-end restaurant for a date.

Initially, I was going to wear a nice dark blue dress that I liked to wear out, but he asked me to wear a different white dress that I had shown him once as it matched his outfit. I've never had a guy ask me this. The white dress in question was a gift from my late grandmother and was quite expensive. So I was reluctant but agreed and just asked that we didn't go anywhere after where I might spill

something on it or otherwise mess it up. He mentioned clubbing after dinner, which is why I said that. I didn't want to risk messing the dress up. And he said we could just go to dinner and I could change out of it before doing anything else. Great. However, the evening took a turn for the worse when he accidentally spilled his red wine all over my dress. He had gone an unexpected call and when he tried to quickly mute his ringer, his elbow hit his glass and it spilled all in the lap area of my dress before I could react.

It was completely drenched and stained. He was apologetic at the time and I tried to be cool about it, but inside I was devastated, especially since I had mentioned specifically how I wanted to be careful wearing it. Later I mentioned to him that the dress was very expensive and asked if he'd be willing to help with the cost of cleaning or replacing it. To get it professionally cleaned and the stain removed would cost $100, which I asked him to pay half of. To my surprise, he got quite defensive.

He argued that it was an accident and that I was being unreasonable for expecting him to pay for something like that. And it was my fault for wearing it out knowing that it could have happened. Okay. I feel like it's a matter of principle. Yes, it wasn't accident, but the dress is ruined. And it was extremely sentimental to me, not to mention a valuable dress. He thinks I'm being materialistic and making a big deal out of nothing. Now I'm not sure how to feel about his reaction. Am I the asshole for expecting him to cover the cost?

Absolutely not. How long has she been with this guy? A couple months. Okay, bye. Literally, bye. Next story. Can I ask you guys a couple questions? So, who's fault is it that the dress was worn out? His. Really? His. Wait, the dress was worn out. He assured her nothing's going to happen. Please wear that dress.

We'll change after dinner. Oh, sure. Well, I'm a lot like, he literally pressured her so hard to wear that specific white dress. But she could have not, right? She could have. Yeah. But then at the same time, does it change if he hadn't spilled the wine, let's say the waiter did, then is it his fault that she wore it out and got it spilled on? Right? So it gets into weird territory. But here's the thing is that the restaurant would comp their meal. Yeah. Right. Of course. Now I'm going to be more than $100, which covers the cost of her cleaning fees.

Yeah. Well, I've had a restaurant actually pay for your cleaning. Yeah. Yeah. But so do you think the right thing then would have been not to order red wine? Because then you don't then then there's no chance that you could cause that. That's definitely a consideration. I'm not getting the fact that he like was like, ha ha, and elbowed it and tried to do this. Or are you? Do you think it's intentional? and elbow it and try to do this. Or are you? Do you think it's intentional? No. We're gonna get into the comments.

Oh really? Well, so my whole thing is. He hates the dress and was like ensuring that, oh, maybe the Tate is wanna clean it, because he's like, dammit, this was my time to shine. It's just weird, but I think, yeah, you would split it because though it's an accident,

you're trying to do good by this person, you're trying to start this relationship. So split it or be a really good dude and just pay for the whole thing and say, sorry, it was my bad. No matter if it's an accident or not, your elbow still went up and hit it and spilt the wine on her. Yeah. I think it's hard to because it's like, it's easy to get defensive, right?

You feel bad, you feel guilty. Maybe he is a good guy. Yeah. And he gets defensive. Okay. But you're getting defensive over just paying for $100. Yeah. She's not flipping out at the restaurant.

She's not crying, which, excuse me, I would be bawling my eyes out at the table. Yeah. She's being really reasonable just saying, hey, split it with me. Yeah. It's $50. You're being a jackass and ruining a potential relationship over $50. Yeah, that's why it's like, bye.

You're embarrassing. Yeah, leave him. I just, it's really hard for me too, because so, yeah, I guess it was yesterday. I was drinking like a cut water on Hannah's couch and we were playing Mario Party and Brian, I like freaked out because I lost and I put my hands up in the air and I hit Brian's cut water and he spilt it on himself and on her couch and she was just talking how she got this brand new couch, she's obsessed with it. And so I'm like, I'm like, I feel so bad

and I'm trying to help her clean. But I'm like, I was like, let me know how it comes, like if it drives weird, if it looks weird or whatever, and I'm like, I would pay for the full cleaning to do, like for someone to come over. Yeah, I'm just gonna come over and do like a steam cleaning. Like it's not even a question.

Like if it left a mark, like, yeah. I mean, yeah, it was an accident of course, and it mean to do that, but it's like even a question. Like if it left a mark, like, yeah. I mean, it was an accident, of course, and it didn't mean to do that, but it's like, that's just like the respectful thing you do. Exactly. So people in the comments were getting a lot of bad vibes from this. And I definitely was like,

even before I read the comments initially, I was like, okay, well, why was he so insistent? To go home after dinner and change before going clubbing? It's a big and convenient. It was just really weird for me. So the top comment, not the asshole, but listen very carefully to what he is telling you and look carefully at what he did.

He asked you to wear a particular item of clothing, even after you express concern something would happen to it. As you predicted, something happened to it. The thing that happened to it was his fault. Entirely, perhaps he's a butter-fingered clutz all the time. It doesn't matter. He spilled his drink. He took no responsibility for the consequences of his actions.

He blamed you for wearing the dress. He specifically asked you to wear all caps. Not only does he not care about your dress, but he doesn't seem to care about you at all. This guy is not your person, he's awful. Don't contact him again for any reason at all. There's nothing good here. Yeah.

Right, and the thing about it is, though you made the choice to wear it, you were doing it in good faith, even though you're hesitant for him to wear it, you were doing it in good faith, even though you're hesitant for him to try and like, sure, see what the vibe is and whatever, I don't know. That's cute and match going up. Yeah, it's a cute thing. And so you took the risk and did it in good faith. Yeah. And not like sure you could have said no, but you were just going along and being a good time. Yeah. Why was this dress special again? Her late grandmother

got it for her. And it was very expensive. That's what's so interesting because it's like, I was going to say, like, if it was her ex-boyfriend or something, and then the guys like, I'm going to fucking take this dress down. Like grandma. But yeah, it's like what? This is the hard part. I'm, I mean, I'm having right now, I'm missing some jewelry and it's very sentimental. And it's like, you keep it in a dish because you don't wanna wear it. You, you wanna protect it. But then, you know, maybe it would have been safer

around my neck. And it's like this dress, you keep it on a hanger, looking nice because you don't wanna ruin it. She wears it one time, it gets wrecked. Like, it's so hard having sentimental pieces because you're always at risk of that. I've had to bait every day. It's really, really hard. I have my grandpa's dog tag from the Vietnam War.

Oh. And sometimes I look at it sitting safe and sound at home and I'm like, what if the house burdens down? Yeah. It's probably better if it's on me. But then what if I wear it and I come home and I'm like, it's gone. So it's, I mean, you just need like and I'm like, it's gone. Yeah. So it's, I mean, you just need like a safe,

well, fireproof safe. I know. But at the end of the day, this all boils down, mistake or not, take responsibility or actions and be a good person, just do the right thing. Yeah, it's so weird. I would pay for the whole thing. I know, yeah, exactly.

A good person that actually likes you would, yeah. Unless the next comment after the top one, he got defensive, which either means it wasn't an accident or he's so emotionally immature, he needs to go back into the dating pond with the rest of the tadpoles. Yeah. Next comment down. Yep. This was a test to see if she is easily controlled.

He spilled on purpose 100%. She needs to jump ship now. And the people that they are like cannot upvote this enough, he was totally gaslighting her. You wore the dress so it's your fault. Hell no. Everyone's like this. Someone goes, like this totally reminds me

of a former post about someone who was trying to protect her friend from a potential accident because the boyfriend was a clutz and it turns out the boyfriend literally didn't like her or some shit and was hurting her on purpose on accident. That was a fucked up story. We should actually read that for Patreon.

Yeah, someone was like, great comment. Only thing I'd add is that's the best 100 OP will ever spend, assuming she never speaks to him again. True. But I don't know, call it accident and his nasshole or call it. Because she responds. There's no comments I see from OP, not on the account,

no updates. We'll have to keep an eye. It's only eight days old, so it's still pretty new, pretty fresh. I could see, I could see the trying to control. Couldn't you see like, it's like an Andrew Tate type person where they're like, let me test initially. Let's see how she reacts. Let's see if she'll be submissive.

Like, we just read that post about the dread game and how psychotic people can be. It's the dread game. It's essentially like you make the other person feel so insecure that you're gonna leave them and like, it's like psychological warfare on your partner so that it becomes more attached to you. That's hard.

That's crazy. But think about people like, Neg, like they negative comment you in order to like make it so you then seek their validation. That's a big red flag I look out for. Like, it's really weird. And yeah, that whole, like, they put you on a pedestal in the very beginning and then, like, pull it out from underneath you.

And then, yeah. Piggy banking or what's the, the other one we've talked about, penny method. What's that? That's the penny method where they like give you 100% like kind of love on you and then slowly they start to treat you like shit. And then that person is just like,

I know they'll treat me like this. They have before. Exactly possible. That's the penny method. Yeah. So I hope she dumps us. Me too. Next. Is it even dumping at this point? It's just like a piece method. Yeah. So, I hope she dumps his ass. Me too. Next.

Is it even dumping at this point? It's just like a piece out. Yeah. This is one where it goes to you. Just go through. Yeah. It's justified. Next story.

This one is six hours old. Wow. I'm on the fence on this one. Really? But I really liked it, so I'm pushing it in here. Don't yell at me for making a story work. It's titled, Am I the asshole for not telling my former fiance, I bought her dream home. 10 years ago my fiance left me, 38-male, a few weeks before our wedding. We grew up in a small town, we were friendly, went to the same school,

but we were never in the same click. She was one of the popular kids and I wasn't. So, a few years after college, I moved back home because my dad got sick. I found a job in my field about 45 minutes away from home. I would help take my dad to his chemo appointments, and it was during one of those appointments that I first ran into my ex. She worked at the hospital. One day, while I was waiting, I asked her out. It turned out we shared a lot of the same interests. It seemed like our relationship was going great. About a year or so in a dating, my ex and I moved into a rental house together. The following year, I proposed. We began looking for a house.

My ex always wanted to live in her grandparents' house on the lake near our town. Her family was forced to sell the house when her grandparents died because of an inheritance dispute. Six months before our wedding, a chance event happened. The couple who bought her grandparents' lake house had grown tired of our snowy winters. It took some work and nearly all of my savings, but I was able to buy her dream house. It was going to be my surprise wedding present, so I didn't dare tell her or anyone in her

family my plans. Damn. A month before our wedding, X and her friends went to Miami for her bachelor at party. I'm not sure all of what happened there. Part of me doesn't really want to know, but I do know her high school boyfriend was there. When she got back from the trip,

she broke down and confessed. She was afraid to get married and wanted to call it off. It was a mess. She later moved to call it off. It was a mess. She later moved to Florida and eventually married her high school boyfriend. Oh! I hate that. I ended up moving back to the city for an amazing job.

In the meantime, I still had the lake house. With the help of my mom and dad, we started to fix up the lake house. It took a few years. My mom and dad would look after the contractors while I was in the city, but having the lake house was perfect when everything locked down. I was able to escape the city

and work remotely from the lake house. I now live here full time and work remotely. This summer, we had a fourth of July party at the lake house. My sister-in-law used photos from the lake this summer in her holiday Christmas card. One of those cards made it to my ex's cousin, the cousin recognized the house. The Saturday before New Year's, ex's mother and sister were at my front door. After pleasant trees and answering their initial questions, they made an offer to buy it. I refused. They were not happy.

A few days later, I got a long text from my ex. This was the first time in about 9 years that she has talked to me. She called me an asshole for keeping this from her. Her family is blaming her for losing the house again. She then asked me to sell. I still had no intention to sell. Now her and her family are complaining on social media that this is some sort of revenge.

Am I the asshole? No. No. Holy shit. Wait, I thought you said you were on the fence with this one. Well, like in the theme, but like, I'm embarrassed for her. Yeah. Like, girl.

Yeah. You had what sounds like an amazing person who moved heaven and earth to make you happy and loved you and you married to the high school boyfriend. So like I hope it worked out, but damn. Yeah. You suck. Yeah.

Well, I think yeah, I mean, she kind of, she made her bed so she escalated. Yeah. And maybe it worked out for the better all around. Well, right. And that's the thing is that, I mean, he did this to, I wonder if she knows that he literally bought this house to surprise her for their wedding. Dude, this is some fucking notebook shit.

I would respond with that. Yeah, because I would respond to her message saying that I did that. Right. And so that was her decision. It's like, it's unfortunate. But like, she decided to her message saying that. Right. And so that was her decision. It's unfortunate. But she decided to call the wedding off. She's happily married to somebody else now. She didn't know about the house for nine years.

She moved away. Yeah. Yeah, it wasn't on her radar, right? She's not on Zillow every day. Like, oh, I want that house back. And the whole family is looking at it every day, hoping it pops up. Yeah. They didn't even know. They just want it now because he has it every day, hoping it pops up. Yeah. They didn't even know

they just want it now because he has it. Well, that's the thing. If I had a house that I was really trying to get, I would write the family a letter. I would stop by once a year, maybe, just check in. Hey, I used to live here. It was my grandparents' place.

You know, if you're ever interested in selling, right, please call us. I would make a container effort. They didn't even know who owned that house. Exactly. It had already switched hands. So the fact that he knew and they didn't know, it's just like, move on.

Yeah. And it took them nine years to figure it out, just move on. Yeah, let him live. Yeah, it's kind of like when kids are all playing with a bunch of new toys they got. And you're over here checking out a different one that they also got, but they don't really know and you all of a sudden they rush over and they want to start playing with that one because you have it it's like oh no that one I want that one it's like yo yeah and he he didn't buy it out of revenge

no he got it in again good faith I don't know why that word's in my brain tonight, but he was doing it out of good intention. Out of love. And then, you know what, maybe it's a worthwhile asset and people in his life enjoy it. And it is what it is. Sounds like he loves it, so. It's kind of the way the world goes.

Yeah, top comment, not the asshole. Your intention was to surprise your ex with the house at the wedding. If you had called off the wedding, I'd reconsider my judge ban. But she is the reason why she doesn't have access to that house. So on top of that,

you've made the house your own, enjoy it. And next comment down, he managed to surprise her. Yeah, true. Curious if there's any comments from OP? I mean, it's like, yeah, I get it. It's unfortunate for the family. They really want the house. It means a lot to them. It's sentimental, just like we were talking about in

the last story, like these sentimental things mean a lot to us. It sucks. Yeah. So it's on top of it. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Then they should have been more on top of it. And then also approach it with way more love than that. I mean, she sends them along text saying like, you're an asshole. This is for revenge. But anyway, are you willing to sell? They say, you know, it's like, come on. Also, it's kind of funny. The family blamed her for like, is that losing access? Yes. Like, so funny how shit goes down when people fight. But yeah, not the asshole. No comments from OP. No updates yet. As you know, it's only six hours old. So I've got

a result or whatever it is now. But I'm curious if we get an update on this one. That's a good one. I'm very glad you put it in this theme. Yes. Okay, move it along. One of this week's partners is SeatGeek. I love going to sporting events and concerts,

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It is four days old. It is titled my 26 male fiance 24 female is reconsidering our relationship over a sandwich. Next month, we'll have been together for three years. We have been living together for 11 months, and I proposed five months ago. This situation is absolutely absurd to me. A couple of weeks ago, my fiance asked me to get takeaway, because she was too tired to cook. She's an A&E nurse and was still recovering after having coronavirus caught from the ward at work. I went to Greg's afterwork, out of voucher where I would get a second free sandwich identical to my first order. I ordered us tuna crunch baguettes. I forgot that she's allergic to several types of fish and shellfish, including tuna.

It was an honest mistake on my part, but she flipped out. I offered to cook for her. I was going to let it go because she was just getting over being ill, but she was still mad the next day and left our flat to go stay with one of her friends. Besides the tuna, she was also upset that I couldn't recite her usual Greg's order by heart, or her order from another one of our regular takeaways, even though she knew mine. She has a better memory than I do, because she needs it for her work.

She hasn't returned, and she says she's reconsidering our relationship, over a sandwich. She says the sandwich is just a symptom, but that's absurd. I made a mistake for getting her allergy, but I don't believe it's something to end the relationship over. She was disappointed when I got home and told her what sandwich I bought, but I didn't think it would be something she'd leave over. My family and even my mates say, I'm right, and this is absurd. For her to be reconsidering because of a sandwich, the one time I spoke to her since she left, she says her family all agrees with her. Our lease is up at the end of next month and she told me to go ahead without her if I

want to stay in our flat. I do love her, I want to marry her, it's completely absurd to me that I'm in this situation and I cannot believe it. Well, there's a couple things here because I mean, does she tell him any of the other problems? Because she said this is a symptom of a much larger problem. So this is like, this could be a moment where he just is so oblivious to what's going on. Yeah. And if that's her issue, like if she's just like, you don't remember anything about me at all. And then she's upset about that. Then it's like, okay, well, then it's not over just a sandwich.

But if she's really just like dialing in and it's just little moments like this that she's going in this hard on, then it's like, well, also, why does he want to be with her anyway? If she's willing to leave you over just a sandwich, you know what I mean? Yeah. So it just doesn't sound like it's really a strong foundation of a relationship. I would agree. Yeah, it is kind of weird. The thing, like you're both also asking people that are gonna naturally be on your side

how they feel about this. So you're gonna get validated because they're just gonna hype you up. Like, yeah, what? She's mad about what? And then on the other side, it's like, he did what? Mm-hmm. I don't know what's triggering her,

whether it's the forgetting something very key about her that you obviously should know. Like, I would know if Morgan had a certain allergy and I would, I don't think I'd forget and be like, whoops, I just ordered two tuna sandwiches. Like, it's so annoying. I think these are, we need more information because these do feel like some cracks that, you know, it's not over the sandwich.

Clearly not. And she's even saying it's not. Right. It feels like it's a string of things where it's like, okay, and now you're forgetting this, you know, relatively big detail about me. And I think that's her point. Like, I picked this one because I know we've had a blend of literally kind of like this story put together.

So the episode with Man Amy that we just had, we had a story about a guy went to the grocery store with his partner, turned to her and said, hey, should I get cheese for our spaghetti and cheese? And she goes, hey, should I get cheese for our spaghetti and cheese? And she goes, no, because she misheard him. Has a meltdown over the cheese. Ignores him, sleeps on the couch, all the shit. Then we've had a story in the past where this guy ordered two things of shrimp alfredo. She's allergic to shrimp.

I feel like it's kind of like a common thing that keeps coming up where it's like, if you don't know your partner has an allergy or if you're kind of doing things that feel like weaponized in competence and it adds up again and again and again, I feel like yeah, it might be over just a sandwich but it might be justified. To not remember your partner has a allergy, you're so dumb.

Well, I would also say it depends on, because I know this one girl who was allergic to like 68 different things. Holy, okay, she's a list. Yeah, so she, yeah. Everywhere, like, she was on my cheer team and anywhere we went, any restaurant, we had to notify them to not have any peanuts in the restaurant anywhere because she's airborne allergic

Oh my god, and she'd have to bring her own meals and we would just like eat as a team But like her parents would pack all for meals for her So I guess like There's an exception where it's like if your partner is allergic to so many different things that it's like you can't expect them to always like Sometimes it's gonna slip your mind and you're not gonna realize But like I think yeah if it's something like sometimes it's gonna slip your mind and you're not gonna realize. But like, I think, yeah, if it's something like, my partner's allergic to shellfish and fish and you are living with them, you should probably know that.

That's probably a good thing to... Come on. Come on. Also, like, if I asked you, Justin, what would I order from sweet green? What would you pick? What would you say right now? Well, there's a mixture of two different orders you really like, what would I order from sweet green? What would you pick? What would you say right now? Well, there's a mixture of two different orders you really like, but I would nail one of them.

Okay, which would be? It's safe to go. I don't know what the one's called, it's like the crispy rice one. Love that, but I would probably just... Well, you like the harvest one too. I would go with the harvest bowl. Yeah, baby.

And I know you like the chickpeas in it, and you take out the goat cheese and things like that. There we go. Most places that we eat, I would know, a, if the menu suited you, or b, exactly probably what you'd want to order. Yeah. Because generally, even if we sit down in place, we've never been, it's like,, oh yeah, let's split those two. But then also with this one, I was thinking why is her reaction so big? And the thing that I keep going back to is well, if you are, you know, not, I don't know, is it dumb?

No, it's just like, you're not paying attention enough to not know this big allergy. Then there's a bunch of other stuff you're probably missing. Yeah. Especially you're missing why she's reacting this way. And maybe you just can't even put together the fact that this is due to a bunch of things leading up to it. Yeah.

I don't know. Oh, oh! What? Is there an update? I... Oh, you got me excited. Okay, so I went to go look at the top comment. I think it's coming from her.

Oh, it's coming from her. Let's hear it. Oh shit. Here's her side. It's been three years we've been together. I've memorized his favorite takeouts and know what to order for him every time we go to our favorite places.

I'm just recovering from COVID and I'm a nurse. I came home exhausted and asked him to pick me up a sandwich. I have food allergies. After three years, I assume he knows. It was by one get one, but must be identical sandwiches. He got what he wanted and I can't eat because I'm allergic to tuna. I lost it. I can't even count on my fiance to get me a sandwich when I am so exhausted. This is not the first time. And I am afraid that this will be my life if I marry him. He will never make an effort to remember my allergies and not take my needs seriously. It started as a sandwich, but it's just one of the things he never remembers about me.

I've left. He doesn't understand how it's not about a sandwich. of the things he never remembers about me. I've left. He doesn't understand how it's not about a sandwich. It's how he doesn't see me. So not sure if that's her side or someone getting creative with their writing, because there's not really any new info. Oh, true. Yeah. People do that. I'm going to go with it's creative writing exercise for someone. But yeah, I think it does summit it up well though. It's perfect. And people get tired of weaponized in competence or feeling like they're not valued in their relationship and like The other side of this your partner is not a fucking psychic if you want someone who's gonna be emotionally intelligent and intuitive you need to

Like talk to them early on so that they can gauge your reaction. So they can work with you. If someone's being an idiot and not doing tasks right, show them once and if they continue to do it, they're inept and you need to ask yourself, do I want to deal with someone who can't even wash the dishes or do laundry, right? Yeah. You don't have to put up with weaponized

and competence or people that are just bad at basic tasks. So funny, anytime Brian doesn't do something like clean very well or whatever it is, sometimes he's been like, well, you're better than I am. And I'm like, well, then you're gonna learn. You're gonna learn. 100%.

Like, I'm not putting up with this shit forever. No chance. it's just exhausting. We as humans have way too much shit on our plate to then have to balance someone else's basic needs to stay alive clean clothes clean dishes healthy food food that gets put in the fridge after you cook it so it doesn't go bad and you don't get food poisoning. Yeah, you don't want a parent, your partner. You don't.

And this feels like it could lead to that and she doesn't want to do that forever. I think she's dodging a bullet. Yeah. I think this is honestly, he's embarrassing. Well, you wonder really if he just doesn't get the fact that he ordered what he wanted and just assumed and just didn't even think for two seconds about her allergy. Or if he's just that oblivious. Because there are people that are just that oblivious. Yeah.

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One day old, it is titled, My 26-Mail Girlfriend, 22-Female, Kick to Child, and I can't view her the same way. Whoa, after you read that title, is there anyone you can think of that you know of in your life, that you think whatever, kick a child? Me.

Hahaha. Me. Yeah. Justin, who came to your mind? Nobody. How about you? I couldn't come up with anyone either. I can see Alejandro, but like, really?

Yeah, reaction, you know. I definitely didn't think Morgan. I was actually picturing this one person who I'm not friends with. I just like know who she is. Oh, yeah. We're gonna have to get into that after. I pictured this one guy. I saw it in a movie one time. He was really mean and he picked on the kids.

Does anyone know Brad Pitt? Yeah. I could see him kicking a kid. Definitely. I know, just kidding. Okay. Just kidding Brad Pitt. I get scared of naming a celebrity now.

I'm like, oh my God. Fuck you, Brad Pitt. What? I'm kidding. OK, let's get into this. We love Brad Pitt. Let's get into this. My 26 male girlfriend, 22 female kicked a child,

and I can't view her the same way. My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years now. A few days ago, she told me the following. She left to take our dog to the park in our apartment complex. When she got there, a boy, who we now know is eight years old, with a ball pump approached her and asked if he could pet the dog. She let him, then when he took too long, she told him that our dog can't poop if she's distracted. The kid didn't respond well to

that and followed them into the dog park. He climbed into a tube tunnel in there, and when our dog went over to sniff the tunnel, my girlfriend saw him poking the dog with the air pump. She told him not to do that, and leashed our dog and took her to a trail that goes through the trees behind our apartment complex that's decently far from the dog park. While she was on the trail, letting the dog sniff around, she noticed that the boy was following them, still with the ball pump. She pretended to get on her phone and asked the boy something like, quote, what's your name? The police officer on the phone wants to know.

The boy got angry and started running at them. My girlfriend put herself between him and our dog, and he stabbed the basketball pump in her leg, and she kicked him, sending him tumbling down the hill by the path. She said that it was an automatic reaction, but I don't know if I believe that. The boy ended up spraining his wrist

and his parents called the police. My girlfriend was questioned, but not arrested. The parents want to press charges. And as much as my girlfriend insists that she thinks it will be fine, I just can't get the idea of her being violent towards a minor out of my mind. I want kids someday. And I thought that I knew who I was dating. She injured a child.

And I feel so gross that I've been dating someone like this. How does our relationship move forward? That's, this is weird. I'm like, I'm wondering if there's a lot of other things that are going on where he's questionable about her character because on this story alone, it sounds like she was being attacked. And like, yeah, we talk about the story first The kid all of a sudden running I'm picturing Chuckie Like just printing Where the hell were his parents Dude the parents show up all of a sudden when there's some money to make the parents should be charged for not watching their child

How old was this kid eight years old? Yeah. Yeah, where the heck are the parents? This kid's like a little stalker. He is. You will, and that's, he was stalking her. Well, and that's the thing that's concerning is that one, like he's following her around too. He's using like a thing, this play thing is like a thing to poke at people.

And then three, when she says she's gonna call the cops, he starts charging her. He starts charging her. These are like huge red flags that need to be like nipped in the butt like immediately. Yeah. You know what I mean? So I know he's a kid. So I'll definitely give him grace on that.

But still, I just feel like the story in itself, it's like his parents need to be like, dude, what are you doing? You gotta be respectful of people's space. I mean, I'm glad that he's like, okay, obviously it's not ideal that she kicked him. Fuck the kid, but like it was a knee jerk reaction too, you know, like.

I feel like a good parent would apologize to her and then talk to their kid and be like, listen, this is what you, this is what you get. You like, like, yeah, if I had to hold a different story, though, you know, yeah, probably, yeah, all kids try to be crazy with that shit. I, I just think this is absolutely unhinged. One, like, this is self defense. And if he can't recognize that it's self defense, like, good riddance girl, you're with an idiot.

Run. Oh, that part. Yes. And the other thing too, it's like, I don't know what is up with parents lately. Like we've been out in public and I get when you have kids, it's very different and sometimes they can't be contained or they're tired or hungry or whatever other hundred problems can be wrong with a child at any given time. They're, what's the opposite at the same time? Yes, but lately, and I don't know, like, if it's just the time of year and people stressed

and checking out whatever, but the kids I have seen, like, running around a restaurant, kicking plants over, taking the plants that are on the tables in cups, shaking them all about. Oh my God. Like, No, there's bad parents, 100%. It's just like, you're ruining other people's enjoyment of a public space. And I don't know, like there's times where like the parents can't help it. Mm-hmm.

Obviously, like if someone's babies crying at a table, I don't know what I'm fuck. Like, I get it's a baby. It's when you see the kid doing something the parent looks over, looks back and just ignores. Dude, I don't know if I told you guys this yet, but I was at Home Goods, favorite place. And anyway, there was this super loud horn, and I jumped, and I'm like, oh my God, I thought that there was an alarm going off in the building. Like it was sounded crazy. And which I don't know why they made this toy.

But like it was a dog toy that a child had. And he kept squeezing it to the point that like a person at home goods that works there ran over to see like if somebody was like hurt. And then what? And then she starts kind of laughing. And she's like, oh, okay, it's just, you know, this kid and his parents were right there and they're like, well, you're the one who sells it at the

store. So it's your fault. No. No. No, it's your fucking fault that you didn't hear it after maybe the third or fourth time. No, they did hear it. Stop. They kept laughing.

They were laughing at him. They didn't care. Oh my God. I was like, this is a lot of they did hear it. Stop. They were laughing at him. They didn't care. Oh my God. I was like, this is a lot of people lack that sense. Yeah, I'm like, this is so disrespectful. Like, it was loud, you guys. Like, it was not like, it was an uncomfortable sound. Like, I can't believe they've even made this for a dog.

Oh my God. But yeah, just the fact that like the parents were laughing when the kid was like running around doing it. I'm like, okay, that's kind of odd. But then to double down and to have an employee run over there and then them say, well, he was trying to be playful, but still. It's sending the wrong message to your kid.

They're like, he's like, well, it's your fault. You're the one who sells the toy here. It's for a dog. Also, as the employee, would you just grab it? Like, would you be like, okay, well, I'm gonna remove it from the sales floor. I see it's a problem. Yeah.

I don't know. She was being playful, so it was like, there was no tension, and it was fine. Like, I wasn't like angry over it. I was just more shocked. Or not astonished at the parents not being like, hey, this is a dog toy. We're in a public space.

This could be disruptive to other people. So we're not gonna play with this. But instead, they're like, hey, this is a dog toy. We're in a public space. This could be disruptive to other people. So we're not going to play with this. But instead, they're like, they're like one of those parents from will from a Charlie and the chocolate factory. Oh, it's giving. Well, that's like this kid with a bike pump is giving like Varukas salt. Like, yeah, I want to pet the dog. Yeah. Like, it's giving spoiled kid who's never been told no. And he's just, you know, a little too big for his britches. Let me tell you, if I get stabbed in the leg by a kid, my leg will also react. I'm not gonna sit there and think,

do I kick the kid or do I not? It happens instantly. There's no thought, it just happens. Yeah, I can't believe that her partner can't look at her the same again, because it's like it sounds, it doesn't. Yeah, I can't believe that her partner can't look at her the same again, because it sounds... Yeah, that's pathetic. It's like, unless there's more to it, where he's just like, I just, this is the last straw.

I feel like she actually hates kids, and I don't believe her. It's weird. Yeah. Top comment, he came at her with a weapon after harassing her, and she kicked him off of her question mark, question mark, question mark. Dude, this is a normal fight or flight response.

She did nothing wrong. Yeah. Next comment, OP is out of his mind. If you typed out this entire story and still thinks his girlfriend is in the wrong. For real. Some people just, you know, might not be able to wrap their head around the context.

I mean, we're watching Survivor right now and there's some really dumb people on this season. So I'm sick thinking about who I've been dating for the last couple of years. Yeah. Can't believe she could have heard a child. I can't believe she could have heard a child. It's so pathetic. Yeah, I'm kind of curious. I kind of want to see this scene. I want to see the kid rolling down the hill. Yeah, because I'm curious. I'm like, so there was a hill right there. And I'm like, how did she kick him?

So he could actually do summer salts down a hill. It's just interesting how that panned out. But traumatized. The stuff that happens, though, like I keep getting videos on TikTok that are like near misses. And those videos freak me out. Like a tire pops off a car, like four blocks away

and bounces and almost hits this person rolling 50 miles an hour. Like there's crazy stuff. Did you guys hear about the Alaska flight that just had the window ripped off of it? Yeah. And then I don't know this could just be people making it fluffed up or whatever,

but there was nobody in the two seats that were the door flew off of. And they said that like the people apparently missed their flight. I don't know if that was just people trying to like make it more, you know, because that would be insane. If there was two people missed their flight. And then that like they would have flown out of there.

Like yeah, there's like a lot where people are like trying to like hypothesize too. The plane was only at about 16,000 feet, but if it would have actually been at cruising altitude, that would have been insane. I was wondering because the video everyone looks so quiet. It's quiet. It's like quiet, except for that. So I was thinking, I'm like, if they must not be too, yeah, they must not be too high yet, but I also think it was like after the descent.

Like it seemed like it had like, like they all had their magic on. Yeah, right. But imagine chance recording, which when do you ever take a video on a plane anyway, except for like the turbulence videos? When there's a pretty sky, yeah, true. Oh my God, yeah.

Or people stalking other peopleing other people getting that live. It would be crazy. Like as it. Well, and like one of the seats, like the back of the seat was ripped off. Yeah. Also, we we were talking about it. And it was like, can you imagine you're just like driving down the street in a fucking airplane window? Oh, lands on your car. Holy crap. I want to know where the thing landed. I had a good point.

Yeah, I also, I don't know, I remember here in this story about a plane, a window shattering, and the woman like was partially out of the plane and unfortunately she didn't make it because there, she just like, there was no oxygen like she, and she was out there for too long. Did you ever hear about that? What? Yeah, I don't know how long ago it happened, but I somehow came across it not too long ago, and I read the story, and it's just like, it's so sad.

But yeah, it's a, it's powerful. Like, the woman next to her, because that's what I was reading, was like the person who wrote it, I think was the person next to her, and she was saying that she was trying so hard to pull her back into the window, and it was just like. Was this the flight attendant?

I don't remember. It was a while ago that I read it. There was one crazy, because we, I don't know why they did this to us, I guess, like more, the more you know the better you are, but during flight attendant school, we had to watch like the craziest like airplane crashes, the survival ones, the ones that didn't.

Like there was a crazy one where like a FedEx worker hijacked one of the FedEx planes and like, oh, that one was bad. And there was a Hawaiian flight where like a big section of the fuselage blew off. And luckily, like most of the people survived, which was like crazy for how much of the plane that was missing, but unfortunately one

of the flight attendants got sucked out. And I guess she was the only one of the flight attendants got sucked out. And I guess she was the only one. Wow. It was just terrible tragedy. Sit in the aisle, not the one though. That's what, so then it went, that's what,

yeah, when everybody got back on the flight, they were all requesting to have aisle seats. But it's, yeah, it is crazy because it's like flying is actually relatively safe statistically, but, or not relatively, it is very, extremely safe statistically, but not relatively. It is very, extremely safe. Extremely safe. Safeer than driving.

Yeah. And so, but it's like, it is crazy these moments happen. And I saw this tick talk about this girl who was saying, always listen to the safety descriptions, because there was a flight one time, I guess, that crash and only a few people made it. They were all people that, like, listened to the safety demo. Listen to the safety demo, like every time they were on the flight because it's supposed

to be more of a different. Yeah, and it's also supposed to be more of, like, muscle memory so that you don't have, you just react, you don't have, like, time to, like, think, you just react and then, yeah, so that is now something that I'm going gonna implement because I don't think I've ever listened to the safety manuals Until just the supposed recent flight I was on and honestly as a flight attendant it made it made me really happy when people would listen to the demos because like I would be like Yeah And also like now I just judge. It's so hard flying because I still like judge people like we were on a I don't remember. maybe it wasn't,

no, no, no, it was, it was spirit. It was spirit because we flew like, it was a 36 dollar flight, it was amazing. But the flight attendants got off the plane, which like that is like an FAA regulation. Like you cannot leave passengers on a plane. Like for every 50 passengers, there needs to be one flight attendant.

Okay. At least this was the rules back when I was doing it. Mm-hmm. And two flight attendants got off the plane. If there would have been someone from the FAA like auditing them, they would have gotten massive fines. Really?

You're not supposed to do that. Wow. Like it's so bad. And then like they were pointing with their fingers, which like you're not supposed to do, you're supposed to point with open hands. So it doesn't look like a gun. It's like offensive and certain places. Interesting.

Yeah. Anyways, yeah, this guy's a goofball. I'm embarrassed for him. Yes, me too. Yeah, okay. Maybe watch the Boeing documentary if you haven't though. Just like on the planes. It's a good one. It was crazy, crazy. And as I was looking for where the window fell, no mention of where it fell, where it blew off to.

Not that I saw no one's talking about it yet, but they're grounding those Boeing planes again. What do you mean? Like, you remember when the three plane crashes happened with the Boeings and they grounded them? No. What they're do you mean? Like, you remember when like the three plane crashes happened with the bowings and they grounded them? No. What's their rounding them mean? They like don't let those planes go up. Oh, okay. Elastica, they took their whole fleet down. Yeah. Where do they put the planes? Park them until they can get them inspected. And you said they're doing now, they're doing what now? They're grounding them. Oh, certain places, certain airlines.

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After someone sent my parents intimate videos of us. What? Day. Sorry for my English, it's not my first language. My fiance and I have been together for 10 years. We started dating when we were 15, and two years ago we got engaged. He likes to record during sex, and I'm fine with it too. Only he has access to those videos.

A week ago, my parents received a message from a fake Facebook with a link to several of the videos. I complained to my ex, fiance, and he said that he was not the one who sent the videos, but only he has access to them. I broke up with him, but he's been filling my phone with calls and messages. Am I the asshole for breaking up with him? Whoa. How did they get that? Yeah. Fentied. That's what I would want to know. I don't know. Questions there. This is like a movie moment where I'm like, who did it?

So are we breaking up on an assumption? So we do have lots of comments from OP. Yeah, we need some more. And by lots, I think there's four. Not the asshole, but I would be questioning my ex like crazy. He must have shared the video. Otherwise, how did whoever send the video get it? If it was a random hacker, why send it to your parents? This is personal, right?

That's what we're saying. Wait, wait, wait, wait, this is before or after breakup that the video was sent. Before. Before. Before. So everything's just normal and nice and whatever. Engage. So why would he ever do it? What in the fuck with that? What's the point of that?

You know where my head went? Huh. He's cheating on her and the girl he's cheating with got the videos and sent them to her parents. Right, because they'd be completely illogical for him to do it. In what world? Why? Yeah.

No way would he ever send that. Unless he was looking for a way to get him to break up with her, but that's not even a guarantee. See, this is why I'm like not, I just like wouldn't want to mess around with this type of stuff because if somebody else has access to somebody else's phone, then they can send it anywhere. You know what I mean?

And it's like, take a look. Say about the cloud, how many celebrities get their cloud? Yeah I feel like stuff's not safe really anywhere. It's not. We literally so something is like missing from my room and I'm having I have to talk wide. I'm having a bit of a meltdown about it So I installed a little camera in my room and So I installed a little camera in my room and literally, like me and Justin were having sex today and I was like, oh my God, the camera recorded us.

Yeah. Like, you try to do these things to be safe and then you're like, oh my God. Oh my God, I have a sex team. My first one. That's hilarious. It's kind of pumped though. Ha, ha, of course you are.

But like this guy, like funny. He liked recording it. But the person goes on to say like, maybe it was an X and the OP response, neither of us have X's. Someone goes, I worked in IT for a jail. You'd be surprised how many ways there are to hack the cloud if he had them saved on Google Drive or even I cloud.

Most use some sort of cloud slash drive on their phones without even knowing it. Oh, he goes, oh, really? I think he saves them on iCloud or something like that. But if it was hacked, why did they send it to my parents? And someone goes, did you for sure see the link sent to your parents or did your parents just say they received a link with the videos? My parents showed me the videos and the message. What was the message?

Oh, shit. Someone else comments, the most likely scenario is that it was posted somewhere online, a family friend or something, thought, recognized her, slash them, and then sent it to her parents. Quote, look what your daughter is doing. And OP goes, quote, look what your daughter is doing. God, that was the message they sent to my parents along with the link. This is someone that's really mad that they're together. Wow.

Yeah. This is I was just embarrassed for him thinking like he sent it or something, but like the more we get into this, like I'm embarrassed for everybody. I don't think she would- There's nothing not embarrassing. But like I don't feel bad. I'm not embarrassed by her. Like she's a victim in this.

Yeah. No, not embarrassed for. I'm just embarrassed. Like whether you're the parents receiving it of your kid or you're the kid who's parents are seeing it. Yeah. This is just, this is embarrassing all around. I don't, it's a, I hope the parents like didn't actually watch it.

Like, when I opened up one, I feel like I closed it down right away and, well, hopefully, but, I mean, you're gonna see something. That's why it's a whole issue. I mean, this is so random and not at all really related. But you know, the movies like Fifty Shades of Grey, Dakota Johnson, the actress. I remember there was a headline, don't know if it's true at all, but she was mad at her mom for not wanting those movies. Yeah, I remember seeing that. And it's like, girl, you're fucking the whole time. Yeah. I wouldn't want my mom to see that movie. I think, yeah, I know that's the hard part is that I feel like I wouldn't want to either,

but at the same time, it was like her big, great role. Yeah, so it was like something I'm sure she was so proud of. Those books were huge. People were obsessed with them. So like, to get the role in the movies of them, I'm sure it's just someone just needs to like give her mom an edit that has all of those scenes literally. Yeah But this sucks. I am really He's embarrassing however this happened keep your data secured Just also sucks that people share stuff like that like

Why why do people have to so So vulnerable. Like I watched that documentary where the guy used to break into people's emails and post them onto this one site. And this girl's mom was like, no, I'm gonna take him down. And so finally she figured out how to like take him down. It just spent so much time on it. Like that's amazing. Yeah, but like he was making so much money off of this website

of stolen, and they were like, nudes of girls that this girl specifically, she wasn't even sending to anyone. She just thought, I feel sexy right now, I'm gonna take a topless photo, and then it was a long time ago, so she didn't have storage on her phone, so she sent them on her email,

and then deleted them off of her phone, and put them in her picture email thing. And I would break into people's emails and apparently those are thing people did a lot back then. Yeah. And would take all their photos and post them. And so then people would see the photos and think that like, oh, she deserved it. She want like, I mean, people were assholes back then. And so she was like, just, she was like, it was the most mortifying experience. I felt so taken advantage of like so vulnerable. Like it was just, it was horrible.

And so I just, I loved how the mom ended up taking them down. That's crazy. It reminds me of like, don't fuck with cats. That was probably one of the scariest documentaries on Netflix, but it was like reverse hacking. Like, it was nuts. That was crazy. I've never watched that one.

It's, you should. Yeah, tonight. It's not tonight. No, sunny, very bright early day. But with this one, do you guys actually think this had anything to do with him, except for him being embarrassing and idiot not securing his data?

I don't think so. It's so hard. Because if anything, it's like, maybe he sent it to his friends to be like, ha ha, and then his friends ended up sending it to like a guy group chat, and then one of the girls saw it on the phone. You don't need me, I don't know.

Yeah, makes you curious. I would just, oh. I don't know. Yeah, makes you curious. I would just I don't know this is just crazy to be together 10 years and like this happens. It's like it's a big loss Like I would have to have all the answers. I'd be like let's track this down. Let's trace it Yeah, because if it's not his fault It's like do you really want to end that relationship that was going so well for 10 years like that's and like and you got hacked and it's not, it's like, do you really want to end that relationship? That was going so well for 10 years. Yeah. And like, and you got hacked and it's not as fault. Yeah. I don't think it's relationship ending. I don't. I hope not. I'd hope you'd be able to be more of a team and say, let's figure this out. Obviously, I did not send them to your parents why in the world would I ever do that? I agree. What would be the motive? I agree. Also speaking of the fact that like the fake Instagram accounts, there's something that

just feels wrong. There's something nefarious going on. Because, well, I was going to say just on top of this, like, I just don't like that, so that people can like create accounts to bully other people without having their name behind it. Like, I feel like if you're going're gonna say or do crazy things online, like you should be able to like have your name attached to it because it's like now it's like, who was this?

Now it's just this big mystery. Yeah, be nice. Yeah. So that's actually Brian said one time, he's just like, he's like, if people don't have their name or likeness or picture anything associated with their profile and they say something mean online,

it doesn't count. I don't care. 100% Yeah. Goofy. Oh, okay. Well, I hope if you're listening, you update us on this one. Let us know what happens.

Moving along. Moving along. Moving along. This is six days old coming coming from a relationship advice. Titled, My 30 Female X Husband 36 Male, wants me to be a surrogate for him and his girlfriend because her body is too perfect to run. Ha ha.

Wait, what? Did you, can you read that first part again? My X Husband? Yeah, that's what I thought. Oh my, what? Did you, can you read that first part again? My ex-husband? Yeah, that's what I thought. Oh my god, what? A few months ago, I made a post about my ex-husband. Since then, we have had little to no communication, except through a third party,

because we have a daughter together. He does absolutely nothing for her. He asked for full custody because he didn't want to pay child support. I finally got him to agree to supervise visit and zero child support. The last three months, I haven't spoken a word to him and he hasn't seen our daughter. But recently, he's been telling us about his hot 18-year-old girlfriend. Ugh! The reason why he told me is because we agreed to tell each other about our relationships

since the person would interact with our daughter. But he's always, quote, accidentally sending me nudes of bikini pictures of her. What is wrong with this man? Or accidentally sending me messages meant for her. Oh. Yeah. What? The old, did they say that this guy is? He's 36. messages meant for her. Oh. Yeah. What?

How old did they say that, guys? He's 36. So it's not like you're like some 80-year-old and don't know how to work your phone. No. The other day, he told me that he wants to have a baby with her. He's irresponsible and she's immature,

so they would make horrible parents, but he wants me to carry their child. Why? Because her teenage body is, quote, so hot and sexy and that I'm old and used. I have no idea why he would even ask me. Why is he telling me about her body? Why does he want me involved in any sort of way?

It's all so weird, so messed up. What is wrong with him? I think he's just trying to make her jealous. He's trying to mess with her, right? Trying to fuck with her, yeah. But why? And also, I'm sorry, it is not a freaking black if you're dating an 18-year-old and you're in your 30s.

That's double. Let's double the age. Oh my God. And it's literally double. It'ss, that's double age. That's double age. Oh my God. And it's literally double. It's just, it's not a flex because it just shows. I mean, I think I've said this before, obviously, a situation is always different. Sometimes, you know, it's love is love.

But like, I think that if you're actively going for somebody that young, and then you feel proud about it, it's like, no, why couldn't you, you couldn't find somebody that was like around your same age who actually would have to just like like you for who you are, not because you're so much older and cooler and like they're vulnerable. You know what I mean?

Like I just don't think it's a flex and I think it's weird when people act like it is. But again, it's like love is love. So like sometimes it happens and I get it and it's sort of. It's so different if you're 35 and you date someone that's 50. Yeah, it's different. Exactly. 40 dating a six year old.

We were kids at 18. Like 18 is still a kid. You're a baby. You were a kid. I don't care if it's legally an adult. Like come on, it's bad. You're still so young. One with that age difference, power imbalance, you're bad. You're still so young. One with that age difference, power and balance,

different life stages. Yeah. Not the best time to think, yeah, let's have a kid. Yeah. Like people do have kids when they're 1918, 2018, whatever. But with this dynamic, it feels very off. And I wouldn't be surprised if it's not even actually happening. He's just saying that to mess with his eyes.

Is there a hot 18 year old? Without taking away some of the seriousness, so much of this was laughable. Every single sentence you kept adding on, I was like, when's the punchline coming? Because it just kept getting worse. And the sending, the worse and the sending the sending her the nudes sending messages that are supposed to be for the 18 year old and then of all of it you're gonna cap it off by saying yeah I want to have a baby with her yeah but we want you to carry it because and then to point out

her teenage body is too perfect. Oh my God. But you're used an old one. Oh my God. Won't be affected by this, and you could do us such a good service. She's 30, not dead. Like, I'm saying.

Used an old, I'm about to be 30 in March. Fuck you, dude. Wow. How it just kept getting worse. I was curious where we were gonna stop. No, that's why it's in this theme. I mean, he's crazy. The top comment on this one,

it's only January 1st, but I can confidently say he will win the 2024 prize for sheer audacity. Yes. And next comment goes, a little weird, good grief. This guy needs to be a poster child for what went wrong during my lobotomy. Ask your lawyer to revisit child support.

Give him a good laugh. If he can afford more children, dot, dot, dot, save all you can. Video tape pants. Obviously. Seriously, this could work to your advantage. And I, that was my thought. You won. He hasn't even attempted to see his daughter, but yet he was asking for full custody, documented all, bring that to a judge and

say, Hey, he has no interest in being a dad. He was trying to get out of his financial support. Yeah. Reality is he's a parent. He can afford a certain lifestyle. He can afford to plan for another baby right now. I need child support. Take him back to court. He is clearly an unfit parent, document everything he's sending you. There you go.

Yeah, it seems like this guy's in Lolloland where it's like, oh, you know what? I moved on, it didn't work. Yeah, my other kid, yeah, maybe someday. But I got this girl in front of me and you know what? I went out of baby with her. It's like, it just seems like no thought, all just spontaneous, whatever decision.

Oh, yeah, I think we're gonna have a kid. Yeah, it just feels like, it feels so wrong too. I mean, at least at like 22, I feel like it's a little bit less vulnerable. They're a little bit more independent as humans. But like 18, like that is my niece's age. You don't know shit. It's just crazy and to think that she were to be dating someone who was older than me,

I would just like, I would beat him up. I mean, think of 18 to 25. Think about where you're at at 25, as opposed to where, you know, 18 is, you know, you feel like you're on top of the world. You finished high school, you're about to go to college or you're gonna start your career. You feel like I've made it.

I'm an adult. Here we go, the only thing I can't do is legally drink and the next thing I can't do is get cheaper rental cars. But those are the last two steps and you feel like I'll be there in no time. Really at 18, you feel like you know it all. Yeah. I did.

I thought that. But then you get to 25 and you're like, or even now, I wish I could go talk to my 18 year old self. Wouldn't you? How cool would that be? Just to sit down and ask your opinion on certain things and see how you've evolved. It would be funny. It would be so awkward. I don't know why, but you would honestly be embarrassed for your 18

year old self. Yeah, absolutely. Speaking of the theme. I keep seeing a lot of videos too recently and I feel like it was around oddly like 25, 26. But so many girls are like my prefrontal cortex developed and I literally started asking myself Why do I care so much about this guy that treats me like shit? And it's like you go through that phase where you're like, what? Yeah, like you start to realize well, and when I was 22 I was dating somebody who's 30 and I just thought you was so cool And everything he did was cool and he just knew so much and like, could take me to nice dinners. And so it's like, I can say that I know that when you're younger

and you're dating an older person, that you give them a lot more slack. For sure. You think they do, you just think they're cooler. And now it's when he goes, now I'm dating a 30 year old and I'm like, you're not like, they're not like, I am mighty, you know,

like you're like just a dude. It must make you feel more mature, like you've accomplished more, like you're doing all these things where all your friends are still playing around and like early college and you're like, nah, I'm going to these dinners. You know, it does have that effect for sure.

But it does and it's so goofy, why it does and why you need at that age you almost need that validation But because then you guitar age and all you want to do is be younger. Yeah. Oh my god. Take me back But I do remember being 18 and like dating a guy who was done with high school He was playing junior hockey and like I was like, oh my god. He's graduated like So Yeah, so that's why I'm like it's not a flex because like Like, what is he so cool? Literally. Oh my god. Yeah, so that's why I'm like, it's not a flex because like, I think that at that age

when you're 18, if you're dating someone so much older then they're just gonna like treat you more. Like, so like you're so, you can do no wrong. You know what I mean? And so I'm like, it's wild. He's an idiot. Get your coin girl, get your coin. Yeah. It's wild. He's an idiot. Get your coin girl, get your coin. Yeah.

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And I was like, this is really juicy. And I feel like you guys obviously haven't heard it. So it's going to be good. So it's six months old coming from Am I the asshole? It is titled Am I the asshole for helping a friend in a bad situation on my wife's birthday. I 28-Mail have a friend called Sarah, 28-Female, whom I've known since childhood, and has been there for me my whole life. I owe her my life, and she's always been my go-to when I've got problems. I want to make this clear.

Romantic feelings have never been involved. We have a brother-slaher sister relationship. My wife, 29 female, has never liked Sarah. Since I had her as a best woman at my wedding, she calls her a pick-me. She went as far to suggest I cut her out of my life when she became pregnant with her first child, but we worked through it in couples therapy. Since Sarah has always been there for me, I've stepped up for her, with taking her to appointments, building the nursery, and even promising to be with her when she gives birth. She grew up in foster care, no family.

My wife has become extremely hostile to Sarah, which has caused fights. To make up for not being there as much, as I should, I planned a special birthday for my wife a whole day and night being treated like a celebrity with a fancy hotel dinner in an expensive restaurant, shopping trip, and spa. Unfortunately Sarah went into labor six weeks early and rang me in a bad state begging me to come to the hospital because she was scared.

I told my wife everything and she started to freak out, saying it was her day and Sarah wasn't going to ruin it. I told her to stop being childish, we can celebrate another time or she could ask a friend to go. Then she told me, don't come home without a paternity test, which hurt me. I'd never do that to her, but she wasn't listening. She just laughed without saying another word. I'm currently with Sarah in the delivery word.

Well, getting a cup of coffee, that's why the story is rushed. I've been getting so many angry calls and texts from both our families and friends. Unfortunately, I tried getting in touch with my wife, but I'm blocked on everything. I feel like helping a vulnerable person in a situation like this trumps a birthday, but I still feel guilty. Am I the asshole? This one's kind of hard for me. This is a tough one.

You're not getting bad vibes? I told you this is a hard one for me. I can't tell. There's parts in relationships where you have to trust your partner to the point where they say someone's a friend, then they're a friend, even if they say their name in the middle of sex. But you have to, you have to, you have to, you have to keep trusting. That was so early.

Otherwise if you keep going back and forth and start this mistrust, you go down this crazy, you know, a spiral effect where you go out of control and you create a huge problem, well, you either create a huge problem where there was none, or you discover that you were right all along. I just feel like something's off though.

Like, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. I feel like if this were me and Lauren, like even look at Lauren, and it's like Lauren is pregnant and by herself has no one else in her life which would not happen, let's pretend. I wouldn't like, as much as I love her, I wouldn't continuously drop the ball on you

and disappoint you as my partner. I would try to be like, okay, Lauren, let's make sure you're set up with other support systems. Let's something something something. You get to a point where you can only pick someone else over your partner so many times before that person is like, why are we even together if you're continuously doing everything at my expense, I don't care if she's your friend. It hurts. I wonder if how the wife would feel too,

if it was a guy friend who called and said, I'm at the hospital, I'm scared, I need your help. Do you think she would still be upset? Do you think it's because she's, I mean, obviously there's the aspect of jealousy we can hear through the story. Yeah. But do you think that it's just the principle in general?

Putting myself in this random shoes, like if it was a guy calling Justin all the time, hey dude, I need your help. Hey dude, can you do this? Hey dude, can you come to the hospital? Hospital? Okay, yeah, that's a tough one. But it's the proven history. I would start to get annoyed. I would be like your friend is driving me up a wall. Right. It's not about this one. It's not about being there to help her be at the hospital.

It's just the fact that like you have someone who's kind of a thorn in your side in your relationship. And it's like, you can be a good friend, but it doesn't have to come at the expense of us. It's more the string of events, not just this latest one being the last straw. Yeah, I think I missed it. Who's she pregnant with? No mention. They don't talk about who she's pregnant with.

Like not mentioned in the story. So it doesn't have a guy that's, okay, interesting. Okay, I think a lot of people are asking that question. Which is fueling Morgan's speculation. Yeah so Top comment on this one Hi Warren. This is your wife Ella. Oh Warren. I thought I thought we're talking about Warren. Oh, I thought it was direct

Warren. That's hilarious. Okay. Sorry. I did get confused for some reason. Yeah I That's hilarious. Okay, sorry. I did get confused for some reason. Yeah, we did. I know you know I love listening to Ami, the asshole stories on YouTube while driving to work. So maybe this was your new way of trying to gaslight me. First off, Melissa, sorry Sarah, doesn't have anyone especially a husband because she cheated on him and doesn't know who the dad is. Wow.

Which even your parents think is you. Oh my God. Love how you left that out. The fact that you claim not to blow me off, but whenever we are together, she has issues you can only fix. Like when I gave birth seven weeks ago, she ended up in the hospital and you wanted to go to her. And you almost did, if it wasn't for your mom, ripping you a new one.

Oh my God. Sarah has no friends because she's rude as fuck to all the women in your life for no reason and slept with or flirted with multiple male members of your group in a relationship or not. Wow. As for me hating her after the wedding, she told me at the engagement party that I was a shallow airhead who didn't deserve you and insulted me in her best woman's speech. And yes, I wanted you to cut her off when I found out I was pregnant because it came out around that time, I found out your guy group passes her around like a cigarette.

I realized tonight I was an asshole to no one but myself our whole marriage and I deserve to be treated better. Woo! I'm currently out at a nice restaurant with your mom and sister while your dad boxes up stuff to take to Sarah's. I want a divorce and Sarah to be finally out of my life. Update before I leave this account.

Oh, fuck. What? Um, we did you read this already? No, no, that she was... I knew there was a twist. I knew, I knew the comment, but I didn't, I haven't seen this other one. Um, so it looks like there's gonna need to be a trigger warning

for infant loss. So the baby didn't make it, which is unfortunate. Looks like there's going to need to be a trigger warning for infant loss. So the baby didn't make it, which is unfortunate. Warren and Simon, Melissa's ex, got into a fight at the hospital. He was cheating. Her husband was cheating on her. It's confirmed now. Oh my God. A few of Warren's friend group reached out to tell me they slept together multiple times during the pregnancy too. Wow. So no lie detector needed. Warren is still with Melissa at the hospital

and is trying to explain slash beg. Don't know why it's over. He can't gaslight his way out of this. I've been talking to lawyers. I've got a good case and I'm gonna go for everything and I bet my ass, Lauren, Warren, my God. Well, end up moving in with Melissa, then try to blame me as a bitter jealous ex.

Guess she got picked in the end. Again, thanks for writing it for everything. Wow. Holy shit. What an absolute asshole. I mean, honestly, I think, even without all that context, if I was in that situation, I would also be pissed. Like, even from his story, it would be frustrating

for it to be your birthday. And then it's like, is there not anyone else that could go there to comfort her, you know what I mean? Like, it's not like he had to race to save her from a drowning car or something. It was race to comfort her. Isn't there anyone else that can do that on his wife's birthday? So, even before all that context, it just, it wasn't really an ideal situation, but

I do understand people trying to be good people and be there for people so I do appreciate that sentiment. Now that we know the additional information, you Warren screw you and the way you wrote that as a victim screw you Well, that's what threw us yeah, because I feel like Lauren and I are very good people So when it's for the best when it's written the way it was yeah, we were both like well I don't know he was just trying to be help help everyone both like, well, I don't know. Because he was just trying to be help everyone. Well, right, but it was great.

I'm just putting him on a pedestal. Right, yeah. I'm not doing anything wrong. My wife's getting mad at me for helping someone. I might see Aunt Say. wife, wife, wife. And well, obviously now that we know, we know, like now we're just like, well, we should have known.

What an asshole. We should have known. Well, what's crazy too is that the wife gave birth to their baby seven weeks ago. Yeah. Like, she is a new mom too. So new mom, this is her birthday. Yeah.

Her partner oddly abandons her. She's already questioning if this is his baby or not. Mm-hmm. Like, come on. Oh my gosh. Like, come on. Oh my gosh. You just want one fucking day. And this girl, like, always has something go wrong. Did he respond to his wife's pose? Account has been suspended.

All I got to say is that, because that was originally that response was a comment, right? Yeah. Yes, it's the top comment now. Comment out of any story out of any show I've ever been a part of on two hot takes. That was the best most satisfying instant karma type comment we've ever had. It was very satisfying. Yeah. When have you ever had that Morgan? We're someone not this literally the person who the story is about,

Chimes in says, actually, and then calls out all the fake names. And it says, here's what actually happened. We actually, I think it was Lauren and I. We did a theme that was titled Two Sides to Every Story. And it was a whole entire theme of this. Yeah. I've been trying to find enough stories to do it. Well, this is a damn good one. Yeah, it is. I probably should have saved it. Oh my God. But I'm going to post another

post on the Too Hot Take subreddit looking for stories like this that have two sides. So if you guys out there come across them, please post the link on that post. It changes everything. Obviously. Yeah. Wow. It's wild. There's no comments. I'm going off screenshots from the two hot takes subreddit actually. And the person who posted it just goes in the comments, he hasn't acknowledged that Sarah cheated.

And that's why she has no support system. Or that she said incredibly rude things about the wife in the best woman's speech. Yeah. Which did you guys see that one that went viral on TikTok, where the lady was giving the best man's speech, and she goes, hey, I'm Cody's ex from high school, and then literally put the new wife down. Like it is literally this.

It's so weird. So weird. I don't care if you're really, really, really, really good friends. I think it's just kind of a weird place. And obviously there's exceptions to the rule. But it feels weird that like an X would be like the one to give that toast your day,

and like someone else. Like I feel like people you slept with shouldn't give toast. No, I'd say 99.9% of the time. Yeah, I someone else. I feel like people you slept with shouldn't give toast. No, I'd say 99.9% of the time. Yeah, I did exceptions. I did meet a couple when I was in South Africa who, when they got married, she was like, something interesting where her ex ended up being like at their wedding and was one of the best men

because they were just super good friends with each other. They would all hang out together with her brand new boyfriend and everything. She was like, they like each other more than anything. They're best friends now. Oh my God. So it's not strong enough to handle that. I'm just not. Yeah, I mean, if it works for people, it works for people.

But if it's one of those things where you truly felt out of love with that person, and you're just like, it was just so mutual, both people were just like, yeah, that was just definitely not. That's crazy. That's crazy. Can you imagine your current boyfriend

and your ex becoming best friends? I guess it's not crazy, but no, but definitely not. No, I don't. I think they would kill each other. I mean, I just think they're just not compatible friends knowing the two of them. That's probably very fair. But I mean, they did meet at one point. And they were fine with each other. It's starting. What? They're, they're, they're best with each other. It's starting. What? They're best friends.

Oh, they're best friends. Yeah. Well, and they both are also obsessed with the Packers, which is so funny to me. It's happening to everybody. Why do you continue to go for those people? It's not on purpose, trust me. Yeah, it's also a red flag.

Such a red flag of yours, Lauren. No, it's both their dads are from Wisconsin. That's so excuse. When you grow up with your your dad like being so, you know, it's like it's literally like the way that they both connect to their dad. So I get it works. I get it. Okay. Moving along. Glad I shared that one with you. But I should tell you guys this. I think you'll appreciate this. I bet I'm like into football now because I bet I'm like into football now because I bet against the Packers and we bet like 20 bucks each time and you lost today.

Yeah, I did lose today. Really wanted the Bears to win. Sorry, sorry green Bayhands. But it makes it really entertaining because then like him and I get to like talk shit to each other and like I don't actually care but it's just like fun. I am literally, obviously if you're listening and you have a gambling problem, do not gamble. I, when I say I'm gonna bet, it's literally gonna be like $5 bets.

I can skip a coffee the next day and feel okay about it, but do not bet money that you don't have, don't bet hundreds of dollars, be safe and responsible. But today we're watching the Bills Miami Dolphins game. And there was a stat at half time where it was like Miami Dolphins are 11 and zero when they lead at half, meaning they've won 11 games when they've like been winning at half time. And I go to Justin, I go, I want to make a bet right now. Like if I was a betting person, I would bet right now that the bills are gonna win. And guess what?

I would have won that bet. So I didn't do it. I didn't do it. I even called my little brother who does bet. And I was like, you should make this bet. And he's like, now I already got the bills to win by three. And I'm like, I get why people are so into football now because whenever I put money down,

then I get like, really into it. And it makes it really fun. Yeah, you're like, truly, yeah. And it also is nice too, because like, I mean, Brian bought us like a smoothie and like, earlier this morning and then lunch this afternoon. So the key to Lauren's heart is food,

well, pampering and football now. But it's just, no, it's nice because I'm like, I don't have to feel bad about giving him 20 bucks because like he just paid for lunch and everything. So it's basically like, I'm just, you know, it's good trade-off. Splitting it with him at this point. Girl math.

Girl math, exactly. There's some girl math. I don't lose. He lose. Basically free. He lost. Basically free. Basically free. Speaking of, we do need to do a girl math episode soon. I'm just going to be a little bit more relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed.

I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed.

I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. I'm just going to be a little bit relaxed. not the man, the non-girl. Justin just loves being a part of the girly activities. I do. The girl's nights with the PowerPoint presentation. He's always been asking for years. Always wanted to do that. That would be really fun. To his dream. Well, do it. We'll do it. You've proven that you're the best host out of any of us, so you can host it. Thanks. I wouldn't know. Yeah, you didn't make it to friends Christmas thing. OK, moving along. Last story.

Let's do it. I've one quick one to cap us off, kind of on a funny, crazy vibe. This is coming from like our slash wedding photographer. I don't know the title. I just have the bread and butter of the post because I'm going off a screenshot. It goes, earlier this summer, I shot a wedding. My typical second shooter couldn't make it, so I found someone else online who I felt did good work. Anyways, her and I did the wedding,

and everything seemed business as usual. Photos redited, delivered to client, always good. Then this morning, I got an email from the bride. She was wanting a refund, because the lady I had hired as a second shooter for the day ended up sleeping with her husband at some point after the wedding. What? And she also included photos from his phone to prove it.

Haven't responded yet, but what's the best thing to do here? She hired me for a job and the job was completed I haven't responded yet, but what's the best thing to do here? She hired me for a job and the job was completed and product was delivered, but I also feel like this would be as if I were a professional dog walker who walked a client's dog, then came back and shot it later. Wait, what? They're giving a really bad analogy. It It's it's bad. It's not No, it doesn't really. No, but can you imagine?

Oh my god, I mean, I guess it wasn't meant to be So the comment that why did that lady include pictures? She's naval bitch. Some people do that Unless she was trying to save the girl, because she knew who he was and knew he was a piece of shit. But then why would you sleep with him? Yeah, yeah. I don't know.

The comment that I have a screenshot of is offer her a discount on her next wedding. Oh, God. Damn. Just know. I would, I think I would still give like an amount of certain amount of discount. I mean, it wasn't the photographer's fault.

Well, the original is writing in. But I still think that just out of your company's name and like good graces, like you, like even at my, at the restaurant I worked at, this lady accidentally dropped her phone in her water glass. We didn't do that, but they knew she was really sad about it and having a bad experience so they comped her meal. Wow. So it's like, I just feel like it's a good thing to do to like, for out of good graces,

like for, you know, yeah. You always wonder though, with things like that, especially on the wedding night, if someone's going to cheat then, are, you know, is this second shooter? Honestly, just helping you save time. Yeah, probably because if you're already doomed to failure with this person, wouldn't you rather just be doomed to failure right now? Yeah, absolutely. And get started. So I always feel with these types of stories, if someone can come in and like cause that big of a crack in your relationship or they get one of you to cheat,

yep, it was. Are they kind of doing you a favor? Yeah, yeah, I mean, in like, in hindsight, like after the person is tealed from it, like I'm sure they do think like, yeah, so a lot that happened, but like in the moment they're probably just seeing right and they're like 100%. All that money wasted. Exactly. Yeah. There's a lot of bad to it.

But you just want to get a little bit of a back, especially because like you kind of look at it like, damn, if that second shooter wouldn't have been there, but it was just a matter of time. Exactly. And at least you're in the annulment window. Are we? Are we? That's true. Maybe it hadn't been sign here. Yeah. No, I think you sign it in front of someone that day. Sometimes you don't get to it until the end of the night. Get a little too drunk. Well, that is all I have for us on this episode. We are in for a really good year. Be sure to comment what themes, story types you'd like to see, what guests you'd like to have come on this year. But thank you for being here for another

episode. It's the second one of the year and I'm already feeling like just so excited. I have an editor starting again soon. I'm going on tour with you guys. Yeah, yeah. I'm really excited for this year. And everything it has ahead of us. Yeah. All it has in store. Yeah. Start the tour in February. It's literally so soon.

Like four weeks away, three and a half weeks away. We'll be traveling there to like go. And then we're going full blast in March. Yeah, we just have one show in February in Charlotte. Just one. It's our first one. We added. I heard people asking for Charlotte. If there's a city that is on your radar, but it's not on ours, also comment that. I don't know if we'll add it to this tour,

but you know, it'd be great to get a good jump on fall, maybe look for some bigger venues, things like that. So let us know. But other than that, merch is on sale, Justin's wearing it this episode. I'm wearing some OG merch. Lauren's got the vintage. Yeah, it's got the vintage. We have a second design coming very soon. So be sure to get this one while it is still available because it's a really good one. We wore it at home in Minnesota, and everyone was commenting how cool it was. Yeah. So, let's dive in. Let's dive in. Other than that, had to pay Tron amazing content this month. And thank you guys again for being here. Buh-buh-buh!

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