Two Hot Takes - 165: Wanna Be a Fly on the Wall.. Ft. LyssieLooLoo

Episode Date: May 9, 2024

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We have a little woman on set today. I report to tell everyone there is a little kitty on set today. I can't believe you know the reference to the little woman. When I say I've been following you, like I literally showed my fiance last night and he's like, who's coming tomorrow? And I was like concrete. And he goes, what? Who? And I showed him the videos and he goes, you've loved her.

And I go, I know. Wait, you get a big beat here. I was on a gummy. I was like really emotional. I was like, what? Concrete. I love her. I can't believe, I can't believe like the reference little woman in concrete come to mind, but that's just how we roll.

I love it. For those listening and those watching on YouTube, you'll probably recognize our little mascot here, Juni, today. So today's episode, it's got concrete crotch kiss, AKA, Lissy Lulu, AKA, Alyssa Collins, AKA Juni's mom. There's the intro for you. Wow, that was actually incredible. I think that's like the byline now going forward.

Yeah, yeah. It's like, it's just gotta carry. And this is Junie. We have a little mic set up for her, but I don't know. She's so cute. She wants to explore the studio right now. So she's kind of in her. We'll see how long, how long she lasts up here with us.

I'm like, you should be asleep by now, but she's really loving this place. Oh my gosh. The videos of her trying on like her reindeer or like the bunny costume. And she just literally goes like, she just passes out. Yeah, always. Always. You literally got the calmest cat ever. I should have brought an outfit for this two hot takes, but I was like, I don't even know

what the theme would be. Like I have so many different things for outfits. I should have got her something. I should have got her like a little flames, like tutu or something. What the heck? I messed up. A little Reddit costume. Oh, good bye.

She's like, let me wander. I'll be back. I know. I might come back here. I can grab her too. There's so much fur everywhere. Let's bring a vacuum in. There's going to be fur everywhere.

It's okay. She's just a cute gal. She's just shedding. It's fur everywhere. She's just shedding. It's be everywhere. Let's bring a vacuum in. Always. There's going to be fur everywhere. It's okay. She's just a cute gal. She's just shedding.

It's fine. She's so funny. So the stories I have today, I still don't know what kind of theme I'm working with. It's kind of giving, juicy, crazy. And the only thing that comes to mind when I read them is like, wow, I wish I could be a fly on the wall watching this happen. So the theme today like might be like,

let me be a fly on the wall. I wanna be a fly on the wall. I don't know. It's still happening. It's developed, come on, get up here. Get up here. Yeah, grab her fist. I'm like, do you need your opinions? We need your opinions.

The first one, she's gonna feel attacked. Yeah, she's gonna need this. She's gonna feel attacked. This little woman is opinionated. She's got this. Yeah. Okay. She has all the right opinions too.

She's a cultured queen. Yeah, when I have my hair up in a bun like this, she doesn't like it. And when I have my hair down, she's like, OK, you look stunning today. And I just trust her. Oh, my God. I just get it. She did. Yeah, she does have opinions about your outfit. She does. Yeah. Yeah. So she's ready. OK. Yeah.

Let's takes on. Juni, takes on. Junie, listen up. It's coming from Am I the Asshole, titled, Am I the Asshole for Making My Friend's Cat Lose Weight While She Is in My Care? Okay. Yeah. Junie.

Junie, do you feel attacked? Oh, oh, it gets better. Ready? Oh, she's, she's ears up now. My friend's cat Juno has always been massive. Okay, is this one of my friends? Well beyond the level of a usual, oh, that cat is kind of fat. She was an absolute tank and she is not even a large breed, just a standard regular cat. Whenever someone would point out that she was bigger than she should be, my friend would get annoyed and insist she is just that way and is perfectly healthy. My friend

started a global mobility assignment at her job that involved living in Europe for a year and she asked me if I would take care of Juno while she was gone, which I agreed to. She walked me through all the cat matters before she left and told me that Juno was free-fed and I just needed to keep her feeder topped off so that she could access dry food at any time. The feeder wasn't on a timer. It was just a bottle that dispensed food with gravity whenever the tray got empty. I told her that I really wasn't comfortable letting her have constant access to food at her weight. She said, paraphrasing here, look she's still my cat and you don't get to make the call. Either tell me you're going to

stick to the plan or tell me you won't and I'll find someone else. I agreed but admittedly I wondered if I would be able to follow through on my word for a whole year. I lasted, maybe dot dot, maybe a week. Having Juno around all day made it extremely clear how much she was suffering because of her weight. She struggled to even hop up on my couch. I took the feeder away and started feeding her one can of wet food in the morning and one can in the evening.

I work from home, so the adjustment period of constant yowling for food was an absolute nightmare. But it worked. She is now 14 pounds after eight-ish months on my My Way or the Highway diet, and she's much more energetic and mobile. Even her breathing sounds better. My friend, though, started to notice the weight loss in the photos that I've been sending her, and is extremely upset that I went behind her back after I agreed to the free feeding. She demanded that I go back to the old way. I said honestly I'm sorry but I don't really think I can bring myself to do that. I was like I know that when she is back with you that you are going to

do what you will but while she's under my roof, I can't just let her gorge herself on food all day when it's clear that she can eat normally and lose weight. That would be neglect. My friend called around to see if any other friends or family would take her for the remaining four-ish months, but no one wanted to slash could. She is extremely upset with me and says that when she is back in the US, she is taking her cat back and the friendship is over. It hurts, but I accept it. I know I went back on my word and it must feel very bad for my friend to be across the

world with this situation totally out of her hands. But I don't know if I can bring myself around to thinking that I actually did something morally wrong. I welcome any and all feedback laid on me." Oh my gosh. There's so much going on that is so really... Have people told you? People tell me...

Quite often I get the comment that Juni is like, they're questioning if she's overweight, you know? And one thing that struck me or... Stroked you? One thing that definitely stroke me, no, one thing that strikes me during the, what she was talking about is that she's a breed that's not supposed to be heavier. Yeah. Which, so Junie's a ragdoll and her breed is specifically heavier and much more like

dense and fluffier. She is very fluffy. Yeah, she's very fluffy. She's fluffy, yeah. And there's different like weight ratios for her breed than a different, you know, kind of a standard cat. And I think that, did it start at, as am I the asshole? Yeah. Because I almost feel like she's not the asshole because I don't know, like a cat's health

is everything. Yeah. Everything. And every time we take her to the vet, she's always a perfect weight for her breed, but they always mention, hey, like make sure to maintain this weight and not let her get a little too put on a couple pounds because she's kind of at the like average,

but maybe on the edge of a little bit, like needing to go on a diet. And I always keep that in mind, like no matter what, when I'm feeding her, because especially like being overweight when you're a cat and like cat obesity has like a really high link to their. Their health. Yeah. Well, their little joints, like if this cat, I mean, she calls it

massive. Yeah. Well beyond the level of a usual, oh, that cat is kind of fat. Totally. So it's like, okay, if it's that noticeable, like, and she can't hop on stuff or like her little joints are hurting. When you said she couldn't hop on a couch, it like made me really sad. And I think that definitely not the asshole. I think that it's so important to like make sure that your pets are getting the proper like health maintenance that they need. And her not her saying that, hey, your cat like may need this or may need to go on a little bit of a diet or maybe workout a little bit more. I don't know. I always think that healthy recommendation and also offering your own positive reinforcement with it. like, hey, I noticed that Juno maybe can't jump on a couch. That's not great.

That's not great for a cat. Like cats can usually jump like 12 feet. They can jump so high. Yeah, they can jump really high. And like Juni, if she wants to, she doesn't ever want to, but she can jump pretty high because she's at like a healthy weight. And it's, yeah, it's just funny because I always do get comments about her being like

overweight. And I'm like, if you guys saw her after a bath, you can feel like she's got like a double coat. It's like, well, she's got like, she's got like a double coat. Like it's very, like, it's very layered. It's almost like a husky where it's like, it's super layered and thick. So it's like, she is a lot of, a lot of fluff. When I was, there's currently a fur on my nose right now. When I'm picturing like obese cat, I'm envisioning this one and like the photo is kind of blurry, but like,

or like, you know, that cat from Adam Sandler, I think is like one of those movies. His name was like Meatball or something. It was like an orange really big cat. That's what I'm envisioning. It's not good. It's not good. I actually went to headquarters for like cat health. And they were talking about how like cat obesity is a number one like danger to their health and how it really affects everything, cardiac, their like mental health, their muscular health, everything. And so yeah, it's a big thing. I think that's also the like easiest way to disturb your cat's health is by like free feeding them whenever they want and whatnot.

But Judy, what do you have to say? Because I know you love your food and your treats. She's not so happy. She's like, I want to explore. She's like, I'm done with too hot tastes. She's like, no, I's like, I'm done with too high tastes. She's like, no, I am gonna be free fed. She's like, I am gonna get unlimited treats, whether you like it or not.

I was worried for this one. I thought it could go either way. I was a little like on the fence. Well, I wasn't on the fence, but I thought the people could be on the fence because like you did agree to free feeding. And then all of a sudden, like you took it back and like you're not going free feeding and then all of a sudden like you took it back and like you're not going by your friend's rules.

But like when it comes to the animal's health, that's what's most important. It triumphs everything. And so I don't think asshole either. I'm actually shocked that the friend like doesn't see videos of the cat like moving better and isn't like, oh, wow, my cat does look healthier, you're right. Like keep doing what you're doing. Yeah. Because don't you want your cat to live

as long as possible, as healthy as possible? I'm like you, like she needs to be immortal and I truly believe it because I'm just like manifesting it. But yeah, especially with the context clues you gave, it's like, it's a standard cat, not one of the heavyweight breeds. No. Can't jump on a couch. It's not good. They're meant to jump.

Like my friend, oh my God, he just told me. He's got a Bengal and this thing can literally jump from the ground to the top of his refrigerator. He like ends up like on the top of his refrigerator. He like ends up like on the top of his cabinets. Like this cat is the most like athletic crazy thing. But he, um, he accidentally launched himself off of the balcony recently. He like used to jump on the balcony railing because it's like super wide and he just miscalculated and like fell But all he had is like a little bruise on

On a kidney and he was like a okay, but I'm like that is a life lost. He's only got eight lives left. I truly like cats miscalculate and they're Especially this little woman. She's off in the distance, but this girl miscalculates. She falls off on my bed all the time and I'm like, God bless, because so do I. And it happens. You're so much like your mother. Happens to the best of us. I'm your mother.

Apple didn't fall far. You take it after me. Yeah, exactly. There's cat fur all over the mic already. I'm so sorry. That's okay. Well, that's what vacu'm so sorry. That's okay. That's what vacuums are for.

She's cruising. She's like, I just need to check out everything. She's like, is this my new apartment? Yeah, she's loving it. What's happening? She loves what you did with the place. I know. She can hop.

She has really good hops. Do you have a camera right here? Oh my god, she's got the hops. She hopped up on right here? Oh my God. She's got the hops. She hopped up on that thing. Oh my gosh. She's really exploring. See, this woman can jump on a couch. No, she's got hops.

Everyone listening, Junie's got hops. She's athletic. Okay, this is actually insane. I got to tell you really quick, like she never is this awake. Like she loves your studio. I'm not even joking. This is crazy. It should be like a cat rental place. And she your studio. I'm not even joking. This is crazy. It should be like a cat rental place.

And she's gone to other people's places before. This is actually insane. There's a lot of cool stuff here. A lot of plants. They're all fake so she can't get sick. I know it's perfect. It's a good spot for her. Oh yay.

I'm so glad. I'm like, girl, do not mess up her palm tree, please. It's fake. You can eat it. It's from a key. Yeah. Well, no, don't eat it, but you can mess it up. Yeah. Okay, moving along. This next one is 11 hours old. That's fresh. Ooh.

It is titled... Raw meat. It's titled, Am I the Asshole for Backing Out of My Friend's Wedding When His Fiancé Called Me Up Tight and a Pick-Me Girl. My friend Sam, 28 male, and his fiance Kate, 29 female, and I, 27 female, went to university together for our masters. Sam and I are both South Asian and from the same community, so I was quite close to him during our early masters years. But then Sam met Kate, and out

of respect for their relationship and the fact that Kate was uncomfortable with me, I stepped away and minimized contact. We remained friends and our families are close now. Sam is now engaged to Kate, and he asked me to be by his side and do some of the duties that the groom's sister usually does. I said yes as he doesn't have sisters and his female cousins are very small. South Asian weddings have various such cultures and rituals. Kate, for the first time in many years, finally seemed happy in my presence and told me she was glad I was helping with the wedding. One of our university friends, who is close friends with Kate, sent me a video that she

secretly recorded where Kate was talking about me to her friends, and I was honestly hurt by what she said. She called me an uptight bitch and that my husband was only with me because apparently I could be the stable wife with the personality of stale cardboard. I'd be fighting. She also told them that I was a pick-me and that I always was trying to get her mother-in-law to purposefully not understand her and ruin her relationship with her in-laws. She was saying that she is only keeping me close to keep an eye on me and so that I cannot

sabotage her any further. For context, her mother-in-law doesn't speak or understand English. She only speaks our mother tongue, so I only speak to her in that language, and Kate has made passive aggressive comments about it all the time. I did not say a word at all these years to either Sam or his family because I felt it would ruin my relationship with them, and Sam was happy with Kate, so I didn't want to meddle either. I showed the video to my husband and he was so mad that he was about to go to Sam's house and demand an apology. I was just so sad that I texted Sam that it could

not be available to participate further in their rituals and that I was sorry it was such short notice, but I think it would be better if we had limited contact for a while. My husband, however, was so mad that he didn't listen to me about letting it go, due to Kate's behavior all of these years, and he called Sam and yelled at him and even sent him the video. Not before blocking him on both of our phones, though. Today, Kate called me and asked me to talk to Sam, as he was mad at her, and his mum threatened to withdraw her blessing as she now considers Kate a vulgar woman. I told her off, and Sam apologized for all of this, and said that he understood if I didn't want to talk to him again. I responded politely, and he hung up. Now I'm feeling guilty about potentially ruining Sam's wedding and my friendship

with him and his family. And I think I could have probably handled this better. Am I the asshole? Girl, you are an angel. This is like the nicest girl best friend scenario I've ever heard of. What'd you say? Stale cardboard? She called her stale cardboard. Oh my gosh. Cardboard can't even go stale. It's inedible.

Oh my gosh. Okay, first of all, don't go to the wedding. Don't be friends with these people. You're never gonna. No. I'm a wedding videographer, and yeah, it's so random. I like never tell people, but I'm a wedding videographer. You probably have so much tea.

I have so much tea, and I've gone to, like, I think at 200 weddings at this point. And first of all, a big indicator that, like, a couple isn't going to last, like, the wife and groom, is if there's, like, drama at the wedding, you know? And secondly, if, like, the groom or the groom's men have, like, if they're just, like, not good guys, you know? So it's Kate and Sam, right, that are getting married. Yes. My, my HD.

No, you got it. Okay. They both don't sound like great people. Well, I'm like, I'm just confused like, oh, PB, and like, I feel like I could have handled it better. I think you handled it like really respectfully and really your husband went rogue and is the one that sent it like you weren't even going to send it which I honestly think it's okay to send like he should know who he's marrying.

Yes. I wouldn't want to marry someone that is annoyed when people are talking to my mom in the language she understands. Don't you want your future wife to love your family and like respect them at a bare minimum? And it's like, it sounds like she's almost judging the mom that she can't speak English or it's just giving weird vibes. The thing I'm upset about is like,

I feel like Sam apologized for all of this and said, he understood if I didn't wanna talk to him again. if I didn't want to talk to him again But why wouldn't you want to talk to him again? Is that because he's staying with her still? Yeah, if somebody sent a video of my boyfriend just being an absolute like Bad person I would Cancel the wedding like I would want to know about that and I wouldn't want to marry that person, I would cancel the wedding. Like I would want to know about that. And I wouldn't want to marry that person, you know? Like I want to know about that information. And also, why would you still be with that person?

That is a, especially when people are talking like a different language and you think that's like an insult to you, I especially feel empathy for people in that situation because that's like unheard of. Like that is so, you are not a good person if you think that other people are talking in a different language that you can't understand is like such a bad thing.

No, oh my God. The videos that have like Karen's in the park, like there was one that went really viral and it was like this Karen of a woman and this Hispanic family was like having a birthday party in a park and she went up and was like, speak English. And it's like, ma'am, go fuck yourself. I just wanna like run people over like that with a horse.

Like I just wanna like, just like bowling pin them. You're done, you're done. You don't even need to be- Get over yourself. You don't need to know what's being said. Even if it's like even if they're talking about you, you don't you don't need to know what's being said. It's such a control thing. It's a control thing. They want to be in control. They want to hear what's being said. The conversation probably has nothing to do with you. Nothing. And even if it does, mind your own beeswax. Mind your own beeswax. It's the whole thing.

Everything that you said is, she is not the asshole. No. Also, I just learned these acronyms to Reddit. Did you do homework before? Yeah, I did. I did my little homework. I was like, okay, acronyms for Reddit before two hot tags. You're so good. I know what OP means now. I've never been on Reddit before that.

I was like, what is A-I-T-H mean? Or what are A-I-T-A? Yep. What is that? I was like, okay. Am I the asshole? And then it's like, not a lawyer is what I'm learning now. Not a lawyer. If I knew it needed to know that. You have to like preface because you never know what people are going to take.

I am a lawyer. There's so many lawyers on Reddit these days. Did you get any legal advice? Well, you know, okay, you know how Quora, like Quora, like I'll always Google a question and it won't be like the first answer is like the first good answer is always Quora. But Quora has the worst set up in website history. And then the answer is not to be found. And then there's ads, ads, ads, and then there's an answer and then you can't see the rest.

And I'm like, okay, I got to start looking at Reddit now because they do have good advice. Reddit is incredible. I've found advice for ancient coins on there when I was trying to get my boyfriend at the time, my fiance, a gift. And then I had a car problem. My car was making a crazy noise. And they know. And they diagnosed it.

Yeah. I can find anything on Reddit. They are like, I ACM. I am a car mechanic. I love that you had research. on Reddit. They are like I ACM, I am a car mechanic. Like, I know how to. I love that you had research. But yeah, now I know.

So OP, you are NTA, right? You nailed it. You crushed it. You are actually IAA, I am, wait, IAAA, I am an angel. Because you handled this with so much respect. You don't have to be dealing with these people. Don't go to the wedding. Let them get a divorce four years down the line.

I'm telling you right now. I want to update. I want to know if he's going to call it off. Because even his mom, his mom is now considering taking away her blessing. And what did the mom call her? A vulgar woman. So his mom might not even go if he continues. The one thing when I read these all these stories, it's like, I can't believe there are people out there that that just aren't like normal, like normal humans. Just like I can't believe there's people out there that that just aren't like normal, like normal humans.

Just like I can't believe there's people out there that are like this. I, you really have to burn me for me to like talk badly about you. Yeah. And even people that have burned me recently, I would never like say bad things. I'm just like, I'm, I'm peeved by the situation. I have personal opinions, but like I would never like go bad mouth like them to anyone. Cause it's like that also reflects on you.

So it's just not worth it. I'm gonna take a higher road. Yeah. The top comment does agree with you. Not the asshole. Kate has no one to blame for her current situation, but herself. I find it interesting that a mutual friend

of both of you and Kate taped this particular conversation. So does this mutual friend not like Kate? At least now Sam knows what kind of person Kate is and can decide whether he wants to spend the rest of his life with someone like her. Nice to see you have a husband who has your back. Exactly, oh, I was gonna say that. When you have a partner like, or a husband or a wife, that person has to be completely, always

hyping you up, supporting you, always has your back. And I'm really glad that OP, right? Yeah. OP has a great husband that sticks out for her. He went above and beyond fighting for her. I'm really glad. When you said that part of the story, that was like the, I was like, okay. That's so refreshing.

Yeah, yeah. I was like, whew, we're good now. OP responds to that comment. Glad. This mutual friend thinks Kate is unhinged, period. The only reason she talks to Kate is because of Sam, as Kate has very less female friends and she never wanted me around her friend group. Also, thank you, my husband

really is wonderful and he can get very overprotective in some cases, as I am extremely introverted and try to avoid confrontation. Same girl, same. Bless your soul. Junie is somewhere in this room and she wishes you well. She's just back here. She's like cleaning her little paws. I think she likes this. It might feel like a little cave or something.

Yeah, she's like, hey. She's just down here. She's so cute. You guys will be getting lots of Juni pictures on the Instagram and YouTube video. I don't see any other comments from OP here. No update. So, ugh. I also went as far as to research.

I knew nothing about Reddit. I like got my own profile. I was researching how people's profiles work. You can read their little comment history and everything, right? Yeah. Like you see their comment history. Yeah.

It's like crazy, the digging you can do. Oh wow. Yeah. I fell down a rabbit hole yesterday. I searched myself. Don't ever search yourself on Reddit. Oh no. But yours was very positive because one of like when you search- I have things. When you search concrete crotch kiss, one of the first things that comes up on Google is a Reddit post being like, I love her so much. Oh, wow. Yeah. Oh.

So you have very nice things on Reddit. You're kidding. I do too. I have to have one wrong thing. I had like one mean post about like a live show and I was like, I was like, this isn't even true. We didn't start late and we actually read, we was like, this isn't even true. We didn't, we didn't start late and we actually read, we read seven stories, not four. So I was just like, you know, when

you have like 20 nice comments, but one mean and then you're like... I have like had people reach out to me and be like, you're on Reddit and don't look at the comments. And it was about how my lips were so fake. And I was like, I've never got a filler in my entire life. I'm so tempted to create a Reddit account and post my baby pics if you guys want. You know how you can tell if someone has had lip filler or not? Oh, it's the wrinkles. The wrinkles.

The wrinkles. Like look for people's wrinkles in their lips. If you don't see wrinkles. Can you have these zoom? I got the wrinkles. Those are real. I got wrinkles galore. And it's, and it's to the point where people will be like, you need chapstick. I'm like, I put it on five minutes ago. You're just used to the unwrinkled lips. No. And yeah, I was so tempted to make a Reddit account to just like prove myself, but I was like, you know what? This is kind of fun, a little bit of drama. I'll take it. I'll take it over the lips. Oh my God. People are just so interesting. Jeannie, you want to come for the next question?

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Cat zoomies are so funny. I know. And it's always at like 4 a.m. when you're trying to sleep and then all of a sudden you just get like smacked in the face. It's actually really sad because I'll like wake up and I always put Junie's toys in her like little bin in the living room, which is across the house. And when I wake up, all of her toys are like near my bed, which means when I was sleeping, she just brought them out.

Like it's so sad. I'm like, I'm sleeping. Like, what can I do about this? Does she give you scalp massages? No, she never has, no. But she gives me little foot massages in a not so fun way. Every single night, I can't have my toes out. I put the bedding under my feet because she loves just like...

I don't think she knows that they're a part of my body. Oh yeah, she doesn't associate. So she's like, oh little like piggies out for me. I guess I am a pig. Oh my God, the snort. I'm like, oh, I guess I am a pig. Oh my God, the snort. I love it, that's me. I guess I am a little piggy. I love it.

Oh my God. I guess I am a little piggy for her to... I love that. I have my cat. She literally would like massage my head with her teeth. Like, and it was like the craziest sensation. It was like, yeah. It was like, she was like pulling my hair with her.

It was, I don't know, maybe you guys out there will have a cat that's done that. It was like, you know those little brain, like the scalp massagers, it looked like an octopus. It felt like that, but like 20 times better. Oh, it was nice. It was so good. Oh my gosh, girl.

You hearing this? You gotta learn, Junie. Gotta learn. She's asleep most of the time anyway, so. The little tail flick there. I got you. You hearing this? You gotta learn, Juni. Gotta learn. She's asleep most of the time anyways. The little tail flick. Yeah, yeah, I know. Okay, this next one.

It's 12 hours old as well, titled, would I be the asshole for dumping my girlfriend after she ignored my calls and messages and went clubbing while I was undergoing emergency surgery. Oh, I already agree with you. You're not the asshole. I, 22 male, and my girlfriend, 22 female, have been together for five years. We've been together since high school, and until recently, I've always considered her to be my future wife.

I've even bought a ring and was planning on proposing over the coming months. Well, last weekend, it was my girlfriend's best friend's birthday. She and her friends booked a private lounge at a club. Obviously, I didn't go since, one, I wasn't invited, and two, I hate clubbing or anything associated with that. I was actually looking forward to spending an evening alone and just binging Netflix or something. Well, my girlfriend left around 9 p.m. and I just crashed on the couch and watched some YouTube.

Well, around 11 p.m., I started to feel this distinct stomach pain. Oh, the pain you experience when someone hits you in the nuts. It wasn't bad at first and I just thought my body was playing some tricks on me, but in the span of about five minutes, the pain just kept getting worse until I was basically stuck in the fetal position on the couch. Again, initially, I just thought that the pain would go away, but then I pulled down

my pants and it felt like my right testicle was starting to swell. I did not read this one before. Oh my God. Yeah, I definitely relate. The moment I tried to get up and grab my phone to inspect whatever the fuck was happening to me, I just collapsed to the floor. That was probably the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. Imagine being pelted in the nuts over and over again. I did manage to crawl to the table next to the couch to get my phone. I immediately tried calling my girlfriend,

but she declined my call. I then texted her that something was wrong and could she come home immediately? The club she went to is like a five minute walk from our apartment. I just put the phone down and started throwing up because of the pain. Oh no.

After throwing up for like a minute, it felt like the pain started to cool down a bit. And I grabbed my phone again and that's when I saw her response. She just replied with a quote, what is it? And like an emoji that's like an annoyed face. Like, I tried calling her again, but as expected, she just declined it again. I then texted her that I need to go to the hospital now. She then asked for what and

I just replied with my balls hurt. I then just dialed for emergency services. I explained my situation to the emergency responder and she asked if there was somebody that could drive me to the hospital. And I stupidly said, yes. I thought my girlfriend would be home soon and she would drive me to the hospital. I felt embarrassed to call an ambulance because my balls hurt. After I told the emergency responder this, she then told me that she would call me again in 10 minutes to make sure I was being driven to the hospital. I then put down my phone and went back to vomiting on our carpet. Again, after the pain went away for

a bit, I checked my phone and saw that my girlfriend responded with laughing emojis. I again tried to call her, but as expected, she just declined again. She texted me that this wasn't the time to play games, and she then told me that if I texted or called her again, she would block my number. Oh my gosh. I again tried calling her, but she declined again. And when I tried calling her a second time, I realized she did actually block me. I went back to curling up on the floor and now I started shivering. At this point, I didn't care about being embarrassed and just called emergency services again and asked for an ambulance.

It felt like an eternity, but the ambulance eventually came and rushed me to the hospital. I don't remember much of surgery since I was sedated, but I remember waking up eventually and my right testicle was being stitched together. The doctor informed me that I had testicular torsion and I was extremely lucky to reach the hospital in time. I could have easily have been forced to surgically remove my testicle. I checked my phone and saw the missed calls and messages my girlfriend left me. In summary, she came home from clubbing and smelled the vomit in our carpet. When she saw the vomit on the floor, she got mad and tried searching the apartment to find

me. When she realized I wasn't there, only then did it hit her that I was actually being serious. I just texted her in which hospital I was staying at and my room number and then went to sleep. I woke up the next morning and saw my girlfriend sleeping on the couch next to my hospital bed. After she woke up, she started bombarding me with apologies. She thought I was joking, that I was trying to ruin their night, etc. I didn't have the energy to argue, so I just kept quiet. I was beyond hurt by what she did, and I wanted to break up with her then and there. Why the fuck would somebody ignore messages where their partner is begging them to come home?

Not only that, she stayed in the club until 3am and didn't even consider going home to check on me. She did stay with me in the hospital for the remaining two days I was admitted there and did take good care of me, but I was still beyond pissed at her. Ever since coming home yesterday, I've been wanting to dump her, but at the same time, I feel like she genuinely thought I was joking

and made a mistake. I feel conflicted and don't know how to proceed with this situation. Would I be the asshole if I dumped her? Am I overreacting?" Okay. For me, I feel like people are always so quick to say, dump him, dump her. People are always so quick to say, I feel like this is so justified now that she knows what happened. And also the only thing that's holding me back from like going full force, like yes,

dump her is that he responded to her by saying my balls hurt. And that's it. And there was never any more context. I know. That's the only thing and you are not in the wrong OP, but maybe a little bit more context like, hey, I'm actually dying and my balls are doing something very dangerous. I know because like she could have interpreted that as like a a sexual thing like exactly Oh like like blue balls. Yeah, just want me to come home so we can have that

But I I'm really annoyed where it's like, okay He keeps calling you just answer the phone answer answer the phone like come on girl Like it's clearly dire. Yes step bathroom answer the phone It's clearly dire. Yes. Step into the bathroom, answer the phone, see what's actually going on, and then you can decide if it's like, leave the club worthy. But also you live five minutes away. Yes.

Run home real quick. That was so easy. And use the bathroom there. Two birds, one stone, because the club's probably got a line. And then go back to the club. The part that's so messed up to me is that, and probably Juni, I'm like, she's, she agrees, but is that she blocked him. When do you ever block your own boyfriend?

Ever, ever. I can't imagine blocking my own boyfriend. And ever. No. And then I'm like, I'm like, is there more context we're missing where like he's cried wolf before? Like where she's been at the club and been like, is there more context we're missing where he's cried wolf before? Where she's been at the club and been like, can you come home? I'm not feeling well.

Is this a little boy who cried wolf story? Or why did she automatically go to assuming, oh, I thought you were just trying to ruin my night? I would never- Has there been situations where he's like, my balls hurt. I need you to come fix them. That's the only scenario where I can think of where OP would be in the wrong. I know.

It's like the boy who cried balls. I can't even imagine what this feels like, but I have seen that like, there was one study that said, like, I know, like, childbirth is worse than a heart attack, but getting kicked in the nuts can feel like a minor, like, chest pain. I actually do know a guy that lost a ball and he said it was no big D. So ironic, so punny. Oh my God. He said it was no big D. Not with one less.

It was a big D, but it was no big D. I knew him from like high school or something. It was just so like distant, but it was like, it wasn't like a huge thing. No, I honestly, I would love now. I'm like so curious. I would love to see anatomy with both balls like gone. Like I had a guy friend from high school that he got testicular cancer like a year out of high school, two years out of high school.

And so. And they can remove it and they can put in like artificial. He got testicular cancer like a year out of high school, two years out of high school. Yeah. And so... And they can remove it and they can put in like artificial, it's just like a boob job. Oh! Yeah, they can put it in like an artificial ball. Why did I not even consider that? Yeah, yeah. And then you're just like ready to go.

And I guess your other like sack also like makes up for the lost sack. If you only lose one. If you only lose one testicle. like sack also like makes up for the lost sack. If you only lose one. If you only lose one testicle. And you still have so much like overproduction potential. Like overproduces. Yeah.

Yeah. So. Human body's like, it's crazy. I'm like, what do you think of this, Julie? She's like, leave me out of the testicular talk. She's never met like a boy cat in her life. She has no idea what's going on. But she does love men.

She does love men. She does love men. So she, yeah, she's like, yeah, I'm interested. Top comment, former paramedic here. Dude, when you're in that level of pain, don't call your fucking girlfriend. Call emergency services. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. Oh, and not the asshole, but your girlfriend is. And next comment down, they have a strong

disconnect in communication styles. If they get married before figuring it out, they're going to blame each other. One comment down goes, what is her communication style in this scenario? Like she didn't communicate. Her communication style is blocking. That's not a good one. I just like can't imagine like ever just brushing my partner off. Like ever. Being like answer the phone, like answer the phone.

And you get called repeatedly. Like the minute someone calls me more than two times, I'm like expecting bad news. I'm like, yes. I get such bad anxiety if my mom calls me more than once. If my mom even calls me once, I'm like something yes, I get such bad anxiety if my mom calls me more than once. If my mom even calls me once, I'm like, something bad happened. I've never blocked somebody in my entire life because you never like, you just never know. I know. Like what if you, I don't know.

It's a whole thing. I feel bad blocking telemarketers because I'm like, what if that actually was my bank that called me? What if there's like a heist going on while they're like telemarketing and they need my like, they're like, please, I know I'm a telemarketer right now, but like there's a there's a robbery at my telemarketing space. Like, I'm like, okay, go find cover. Dude, I've been getting so many scam calls from like other countries lately.

And I will accept it because I want to know know what the deal is. No, don't. I'm so curious if there's any comments from OP on this one. Let's check their profile. Now that I know. I think they do reply to that comment about, why would you call your girlfriend first? Kind of shaming him. And honestly, depending on where OP lives,

it's so expensive to get an ambulance. Like, if I knew my partner was five minutes away, I'd, I'd probably call my partner too. I don't even, I don't even relate to that question cause I do call my boyfriend when anything goes wrong because he's the one to like, let me know if I should be calling the emergency services or just like kind of like calming me down.

Yeah. Yeah. Didn't you see that trend on TikTok? It was people talking about why they called so and so first before 911. No, I never saw that. It was like a trend and they were like, like kind of a quote and they're like,

wait, why would you call your husband before calling 911? And then it was like a ring doorbell of their husband like speeding in the driveway. Oh yes, I did see that. Yeah. And it was like, I'm glad you called your husband and not like 911.

My husband got there first. Yes. Yeah, and so a bunch of people- Because they care about you so much. Yeah. And so a bunch of people were posting stuff like that. And like multiple times, like their partner or family or whoever got there before 911 did totally

Yeah, I feel like that's kind of weird to shame him about totally and I get very dramatic about things And it's really glad that I don't call 911 and I call my boyfriend because he'll be like this is literally no big deal at all and I'm like You're right. And he sings a little song to me called, it's okay, it's gonna be okay. I need that song. Yeah, yeah.

Is it on Spotify yet? No. Let me tell you, my panic attacks lately. Yeah, yeah. It's gonna be okay. You just sing yourself that little song and you believe it, you know? Oh my God.

I'll send you the little, little file. I love voice memo. We should really turn it into a song. I know. We'll see. We'll see. That'd be good. OP does say though, when you're going through that type of pain, do you fucking think ahead? Question mark? I swear, I need to log half of you off. You have to be bots. Which like, that is, just, no, don't shame him. He just went through something very emotional.

When you're going through pain, and especially it sounds like ball pain sounds not good. You're not rational, you're not rational. I can only imagine. Yeah. Do you think this is breakup worthy? She did apologize. Yes. So there's lots of comments asking OP like, did she actually apologize?

I think she's definitely the asshole. I don't, I don't, I'm like 50 50 on the breakup worthy thing. Um, because of the her only or him only texting her, my balls hurt. That's the only thing her, my balls hurt. That's the only thing. But your balls did hurt so much that you probably didn't think about, hey, I should probably say, I feel like I'm dying right now. That's my only thing.

There is a little bit more context here too. Probably should have included this in the post for us. He does prank her sometimes. And so he does say, all of my pranks go in that direction. Let me see what this is in response to. We literally said, hey, if this is the guy who's, the ball guy who's crying wolf over his balls, then I can understand where the girlfriend's coming from.

Yeah, so someone commented, is that the only prank you've done? If so, no. So I think OP shared like somewhere else where they had done pranks before. Oh, now I'm just, I just gotta find all the details. Go into their profile. All the details. Apparently he would buy her bracelets

and hide them in empty chip bags as a prank. I don't know if that's necessarily a prank. Oh my gosh, that has nothing to do with balls. Yeah. Yeah. So people are like, do all of your pranks go like this? It's like, if that's the only one you've done, if so, no, and you're entirely justified in being upset.

I agree. If no, then include all of the pranks. Yes. Like you're leaving details out. Let us know about every single prank. And maybe they were all innocent, but you can't expect accurate feedback if you don't include relevant details. And if she assumed it was a prank, then all pranks are relevant details. 100%.

And OP respond, all of my pranks do go in that direction. I've never done a prank where I faked being in danger to get her attention. Okay, then you are totally fine. Yeah, if you were like, if you were that's what I think we kind of said at the beginning, like, is there context of like, him crying wolf in the past? Like, have you pulled any more ball jokes? Or? Yeah. Dick and ball. Yeah health pranks in general. Oh my god

How is I should have put that in there? Yeah, yeah the other the only other thing that I can think of is like, you know kind of sexual pranks where he's like Come home I need help I need help showering My balls are I got blue balls. That's all I can think of.

I know. It doesn't sound like that though. Yeah. Also hiding a bracelet in an empty chip bag. I'll take that prank all day. Great prank, Ovi. Great prank. Are we talking tennis bracelet?

What are we working with here? Yeah, yeah. Oh my gosh. Tennis bracelet, I would love a prank like that. Yeah. Seriously. Okay, moving along. Maybe we'll get an update on that one.

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I, 33 female, recently married my husband, 30 male, and we took a 3 hour flight to Mexico for our honeymoon. I fly a lot for my job, so I have racked up a lot of miles. My husband isn't a big fan of flying, though he has gotten better and tends to just hold my hand and close his eyes during takeoff and landing, mostly okay when we're in the air. When I booked our flights, I requested to use my points if an upgrade to business class became available, but made it clear I only wanted this upgrade if two seats were available and then I basically forgot about it. Then comes the day of our flight.

I was so excited for this trip. I checked us in online, all is going well. And then when we go to board, the person scanning our boarding passes stops us. She says it seems that my husband was upgraded to business class, but only him. And asked if that is okay. I immediately say no, we are on our honeymoon

and would like to stay together. But then my husband jumps in and says, quote, no, it's fine, I'll go in business class. I look at him in complete shock, and he tells me that I fly all the time and have been in business class before, but he hasn't. So he deserves a chance to experience it. I see we are holding up the line,

so I feel like I just need to agree and get on the plane. To say I'm pissed off is an understatement. He is all smiles, taking his seat, and I go back to the seat where they sit me next to an old woman with a baby on her lap where my husband should be. Within maybe five to 10 minutes of sitting there, trying to hold back tears because my husband left me alone

on our flight during our honeymoon, and uses my points for his upgrade no less, he starts to text me saying he feels anxiety over flying. I ignore the text and stop looking at my phone. Within maybe an hour after we are in the air, he comes to the back of the plane to find me, offers me half of his business class breakfast and asked me if I was ignoring him, and that he was scared and needed me to tell him that it would be okay since I am such an experienced flyer. I told him maybe he should have thought

about that before leaving me alone before our honeymoon even really began. He gets angry, tells me that this may be the only time he gets to fly business class, and he was giving me half his breakfast to make up for it. So the least I could be is supportive of his genuine fear. I roll my eyes, sarcastically say, thanks, and he goes back to his seat. When we land, I tried to just move on and forget about it so that we could enjoy our honeymoon, but he guilt tripped me about not comforting him

via text before takeoff. And now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable and should have just let him enjoy his first time in business class and ensured him it would be okay. Am I the asshole? This one's so like, it's kind of just silly, you know? It's not like, it's not like a life or death situation, but it is kind of silly. Well, and there are some other votes too like there's no assholes here So like neither one of them is the asshole or it could be

Everyone sucks here and they're both just kind of assholes So this is this is kind of a trickier one. Yeah. Yeah, I have got to say I think that neither are the asshole. I think that both people are kind of justified in their own feelings. For me, I like, I don't know, it'd be, I feel like super lucky because I feel like my boyfriend now would, if they were like, one of you has an upgrade, he'd be like, it's literally, of course going to you. Like there's no question about it. Keeper. Yeah.

Yeah. A keeper. And that's where I'd feel like she is kind of justified in her feeling. She's like, why? I don't know if it was interchangeable to the other person. It probably would have been. Yeah, I feel like it was. And it was also like her points.

Yeah, exactly. Like she's spending a lot of money to like get those points in miles. Yeah. Then he just takes it without really being like, well, babe, you should take it. Exactly. Yeah. He was like so quick about it. He does have, okay, here's my thing.

He does have like severe flight anxiety, but how does being in business class like help that out? It doesn't make it better. You maybe have a little bit more space and if anything, you're probably like, I don't know. But like, why wouldn't he think in that moment, like, oh, I'm going to be separated. I usually have an easier time flying with my partner. Maybe I should stick with my partner. Yeah, totally. So she can comfort me. He's definitely the asshole if he just like took it without, I don't know,

if she couldn't have gotten the business upgrade and only he could, he's not the asshole. But if there was an option to give it to your wife who got it with the points especially, first of all, she's the like lady and then she got it with the points. And I'm like, that is reason enough. Yeah. To like offer it to your wife. And like the the reality is you're going to get an opportunity

to sit up there again. Yeah. And like do it when it's the two of you together because experiencing it together for the first time is so much better. Like I remember the first time I got one of those pods, like the sleeper, like where it lies down. I like found some like TikTok point hack. And so I bought points for like $500 and then put myself and my fiance on the upgrade list. We both got upgraded. So we got pods from LA to London for $500 extra. Oh my gosh. It was the most insane

hack and I go, damn those TikTok points people, they mean business. But like, experiencing that together and like getting like champagne poured together. Like that was so special. Like if only one of us would have got upgraded, I would have felt bad and lonely and like just not good about it. I can't believe that he didn't offer, or like at least even if you got the business upgrade, at least like decline that if your other, if your fiance or wife at this point can't,

wife can't get the business upgrade with you like that is so so weird you i would okay for me i don't know i kind of think if i got the upgrade of my boyfriend in it it would be a no-brainer. He'd be like, yeah, go for it. Mine would too. I'm like, oh yeah, exactly. And I would do it. Like, I wouldn't be like declining it. But especially since he's the one that's already requesting that they fly together and that they're together, why are you not saying, hey, I don't need business upgrade, like put me in the economy with my wife?

I know. I feel like I'm just like no assholes here. Like this is just a couple spat. And like, he kind of, kind of asked for like, like, you know what I mean? Like he's the one that chose to be up there. And like phones sometimes don't work on airplanes anyways. So he had to kind of go up there with the understanding of like, you guys are separated.

Like you might not be able to talk. So that's kind of like, you messed with the bull. You're getting the horns of the flight anxiety or like, be careful what you wish for. Because that's just how it is. So no, like she's back there in tears. Like, and then it's like, well, you're going to comfort him when he's the one that chose to leave you. No, no, Like, just move on. I think he shouldn't be guilt tripping. Yeah, definitely not. I think I would hold the grudge for a couple of days.

I don't know. I just sometimes as like the girlfriend, I feel like a little bit more. She's like, hey, girls, what we chatted about. She's just bopping. I feel a little bit more like okay with being like, I don't know. I actually am in the same situation where I use my points to pay for me and my boyfriend's flights a lot. And it's my, I'm like, I love doing it.

I love paying with my points. And especially in that situation, especially if I was paying with my points and he got upgraded, he would not let that happen. He wouldn't let... He would be like, no, you're going to get the upgrade and I'll be in the back. Even if he had flight anxiety. Yeah. So I feel like the, you know, the husband's a little bit...

It's a silly situation. It's not something like crazy, but you are a little bit the asshole, but I'm leaning towards neither of you are the assholes. Top comment ass info. Did you get stuck in a middle seat in economy? If so, we ride at dawn. Yeah. Agreed.

Honestly, I agree. Especially with a baby. Yeah. Babies deserve to fly. I'm on that train, but I don't want to sit next to the baby that cries. OP responds, thank God no. I'll see. We have flown together three times in the past, Florida, Vegas, and Europe and made a deal to alternate if one of us had a middle seat. I think the flight was overbooked and they just gave a random person in a middle seat and upgrade to business class so they could fit more people in economy. I have status that allows me to use 500 points to upgrade if they have seats available.

Usually I don't bother putting myself on the upgrade list, but the agent I spoke to on the phone said she could ensure we'd be upgraded as a couple or not at all. That's interesting too. That is really interesting. Why are they trying to like split up couples? I know. Oh, I flew Frontier for the first time the other day and like I had a reservation with three people on it and I paid for two carry-on bags for my dad and fiance and they literally

gave them boarding zone one and sat them together. But I didn't pay for the carry-on because, like, I didn't need it. They gave me boarding zone 99 and put me in the very last row away from the two of them. That's even a thing, boarding zone 99. It was for me. They were specifically like, this girl's going dead last.

You are the last one on a flight. Wow, they really consequence you. I started crying. Oh, I don't blame you. I was like, I don't want to sit by myself. Oh, that is actually really sad. Did you sit by yourself? No, my dad traded with me.

See, that's what I felt like. Yeah. I've never been in a situation where I've been with a guy in a plane and I don't and they like don't get the worse or see or worse seat than me. I literally saw a video of someone being like, who has like the the flying princess boyfriend, though the boyfriend that always has to have the window or he's mad. I got the biggest,

biggest ick. Who does because- Gross. And you should break up. Goodbye, yeah, yeah. He's not gonna give you the window one time, done. YTA, YTA, you're the asshole for that. I'm really using my Reddit acronyms on this podcast. Your crush now. I just learned about them and I'm ready using my reddit acronyms on this podcast.

Because I just learned about them and I'm ready to use them. You're ready. You're trying to... YTA, if you're the boyfriend, airplane princess. You're trying to secure your spot on another episode. Yeah, I got a reddit account now. I know the lingo. There is a comment, there's a lot of just like,

not the asshole or like no one, no assholes here. And there is another one that's like, I'm usually pretty team, married couples can sit apart for a few hours on a plane, but this is their honeymoon. Oh my gosh, I forgot that's their honeymoon. Yeah. I'd be pissed. Husband, you are in big trouble.

I'd be so mad. That's like, you want to hold hands. And that's the start of your marriage. He kind of, he's giving this like, dumb golden retriever energy. Oh yeah. Like just didn't realize. And they don't even think about it.

That's when you really gotta like, have our hours long conversation of just saying, hey, we gotta be more intuitive of things like that. Social cues and now that we're married. Also, I feel like people always are planning out their weddings when you should be like planning out your marriage and like situations like that. Like people are so like honed in on planning their wedding

and that's their whole thing about their marriage. And then you just know nothing about planning your entire rest of your lives together. And I feel like you should be able to have conversations before your honeymoon about, hey, what happens in this kind of scenario? Or what are we gonna do what happens in this kind of scenario or what are we going to do if you get some kind of benefit and I don't?

Are we in this together? Are you going separate? It's a whole thing. So yeah, this might've been a couple. If you were their videographer, you could have been like, that's not it. What's the craziest thing you've seen? Oh my gosh. I've gosh. Have you had like the groom thing you've seen? Oh my gosh. I've, oh gosh.

Have you had like the groom hook up with anyone? Um, no, but I have. So I have a little microphone attached to the groom the entire day because that's where like the vows are coming from. We're like, and it's actually not attached to the bride because they're, it doesn't hide away on their dress. So it is attached to the groom all day. And I tell them, hey, you're mic'd up all day.

And I've heard like, I don't think it was ever the groom, but I've definitely had a wedding where I'm rereading or I'm looking through the different like things that were said throughout the day. As you have to. As you literally have to edit the video. Exactly. I'm not like trying to snoop around. Like I'm mining my own beeswax, but I have to like hear that kind of stuff to pair it with the video, you know? Oh no. And the groomsmen are like talking about, talking about me and they're like, yo, is that chick single?

Like she has a really flat ass, but you gotta get, they're like talking to one of their friends, they're like, you gotta get with the videographer tonight. Like you gotta start flirting with her. And it's crazy because I like, I mashed it all up. I never heard this audio until weeks later when I'm editing, but I knew who they're talking to because they're like, he's like, oh, I'm gonna, I'm gonna flirt with her in this way and I'm gonna use these jokes and they're talking about my flat ass for like two minutes.

I'm like, yeah, I know I do. And then when I was editing I'm like, I'm so pissed at all these groomsmen right now. Like they were talking about how fun my butt was. And you almost just like want to send them the clip. Yeah, they're not together anymore. Like the groom and the wife. I don't know which of the groom's voices it was.

So I don't know if he was involved in it, but they're not together anymore. And I always tell people like the number one indicator to me as a wedding videographer, if you're gonna stay together is actually, weirdly enough, the groom's men. Like who your groom is like hanging around, cause girls are always great.

Women are divine. We all have such amazing relationships with all our girlfriends. But the groom, who they're friends with is a complete picture of who they are. And if you're hanging around slimy men like that, you're not a good guy. So I mean, it's sad, but the groomsmen, like look how rowdy the room, not rowdy, but like they can

get as drunk as they want, but how like slimy and grimy they are. When there's like derogatory comments and like degrading like women, like I have had have had a guy dating, going out with his friends, and the server or someone that they saw at the bar, and it's like the way they would talk about her, it's like, ugh. And it's one of those things, you kind of are who you associate with. So that's such a good point. Yeah, and us women are never talking about like, hmm, like that guy is, you know? You see the ass on that guy? We're just like, oh, I'm so excited for you.

Like this is the best day of your life. And then the men are like, get with the photography. It was just so, yeah. Ew. That's only happened, you know, a handful of times. A handful of times. Yeah, but. Man, still. Pretty funny, yeah.

I'm like, little do you know, I know everything that was said, but it's fun. It's all in a day's work. There was one story on Reddit where the groom fucked someone's mom the day of the wedding. I actually saw that, yeah. It's just like, God, the day of the wedding. Like, do you, I have a question.

So do you think that everything is always true or do you think that people ever like make things up just to get some karma, some Reddit karma? I would say 95%. I'll be realistic. 90% is probably true. I would totally agree. I've gotten some listener write-ins

like directly emailed to me or like people telling me stories. And I'm like, that is crazier than anything Reddit has ever had. Totally. So I'm like, okay, this is real. Some things are actually crazy. Like movie crazy, crazier than movies. She's just chilling. She's loving the spotlight.

I'm like, go, the spotlight's just chilling. She's loving the spotlight. She's just chilling. I'm like, girl, the spotlight's right here. Well speaking of wedding drama and stories, this next one, nine days old coming from Am I the Asshole titled, Am I the Asshole for Not Attending the Wedding of My Cousin and My Ex-Boyfriend? I, 32 female, was engaged—ex-fiance—was engaged to marry Travis, 33 male. But a couple of weeks before the wedding was supposed to take place, he said that he didn't want to get married. I asked him if he was cheating, and he said no. He told me that most of his friends were already marrying or starting families, so he thought it was time to settle down, but he had just realized that he didn't want to. Suffice to say, the wedding was canceled and that was the end of our relationship.

It's been about a year since that happened. Things haven't been exactly great, but I've managed. Well, some days ago, I received an invitation to the wedding of my cousin Taylor, 26th female. I received an invitation to the wedding of my cousin, Taylor, 26 female. Imagine my surprise when I read it and saw that my ex-fiance was the groom. Good riddance. I had only seen them barely interact during family meetings. I hadn't noticed any clues that pointed to anything happening between the two of them at the time. Some info about my cousin. She's what some people would call a free spirit.

She doesn't have a conventional job. She works as an artist. She dyes her hair in unusual colors, sometimes blue, sometimes green, and dresses extravagantly. Once she wore a white robe, another time she wore a black leather jacket and spiked boots. She says that

she doesn't like following society's rules and that she only follows her own code. Immediately I called my parents. I asked them if they had known something about Taylor's relationship with Travis. To summarize, yes they did. They hadn't intended on telling me because they figured out there would be no positive outcome to it, but they also made it clear that they expected me to come to the wedding anyways in order to show support to my family. At this point, I lost it and shouted that they were delusional if they believed that I would go to the wedding of my cheating liar ex and his manic pixie dream girl.

They said that I can't keep holding on to my hatred and resentment forever and that I need to let it go. I hung up on them. My extended family has been blowing up my phone since then, saying that I'm a bad person if I don't attend. Right now, I feel so confused, betrayed, and disappointed. I'm no longer sure if I'm being irrational or not. So I think it might be best to ask for an outside point of view. Am I the asshole? Okay, your family sucks. Your ex-fiancee sucks. Your cousin sucks. Everyone sucks. Except OP.

Wait, I cannot believe. Junie's up in arms too right now. She's like, no, the cousin. She's like, not the cousin. Wait, her tongue is out. Oh my god. She's like, the cousin, disgusting. No, that's actually insane. I actually can't believe that.

The gaslighting they're doing to her. Also, yes, the gaslighting. And also, I cannot imagine, not even knowing that your cousin is getting married to your ex. And your parents didn't tell you, your family knew, and they never even told you. And I've actually experienced this kind of situation before

to a way lesser degree. Oh my God. Where my friends knew that my other friend was dating my ex and they didn't tell me for years. What? Because it was kind of just like, they thought I would be hurt by it. I was like-

Well, yeah. It wouldn't have hurt me at all, but they let me be friends with the same girl while she was dating my ex, you know? It's just weird. Like, even if you're not, like, I feel like it's always more hurtful to be lied to for an extended period of time. Even if it's lying by omission,

just tell me. Give me the choice and opportunity to not care or then at least be able to process my feelings a whole lot sooner. Yes, 100%. And you can be a little bit hurt, but it's so much better to be aware of the fact that that's happening, especially when it's within your family or within your friendship group, just being able to know that information so that you can better base your actions upon them.

I had always wished that my friends told me earlier that that friend was with my ex-boyfriends so I didn't have to, so I wasn't going on trips with her while she was doing that. And you know, it's a whole thing. So I wasn't going on trips with her while she was doing that. Oh my god. It's a whole thing. Because then you just feel stupid.

Yes, yes. You feel stupid and you feel almost used in a way. I don't know. I feel like no matter what, it's always best to tell the person about what's happening. Yeah. 100%. If it's involved in their life, you know? And then you just feel like, I don't know.

It's just the whole thing. But that is really, really, really a terrible situation. No, not the asshole. I really empathize with it. Not the, how, explain to me how they could even think that they're an asshole and an idiot. You must go. Yeah, yeah.

Show respect. Oh, you go. Yeah. Show respect. Oh, you are not going. Show respect to who? The people that disrespected you the most? Literally. Judy's like, me too, I'm out. She's like, I can't even hear any of this. This is terrible.

Poor OP. What did they say to, like, you can't keep holding on to your hatred and resentment forever? Yeah, I can. Oh holding on to your hatred and resentment forever. Right? Yeah, I can. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, yes, I will.

And I must. Like what? I feel like it doesn't take, sometimes I will say like, it's not worth the energy. Yeah, totally. But there's certain times where it's like, it doesn't take that much energy for me to not like that person. 100%. Like, it's not like I think about them every day.

I just like, if they come up, I'm like, yeah, I don't like them, they suck. I don't like them, end of energy. Like I don't even think about it. I just don't like them. I don't want them involved in my life. And I'll, whatever energy it takes to not have them in my life,

that's the maximum amount I'll give out. Literally. And then boom, we're done. We're done. We're done. We're done. Top comment, not the asshole. Your family is being ridiculous. They should have told you that your ex-fiance

was involved with your cousin, especially when they got engaged. And they're out of line expecting you to show up and smile because family. Family goes both ways, your family too. And they should have told you what was happening. I would make it clear that you are not holding on to anger and resentment.

You have moved on and wouldn't have wanted to be married to a guy who would do that anyways, but you won't be attending the wedding and it's inappropriate for anyone to ask you to do so. Also, like, she's his ex. Yes. I don't think anyone wants their ex-fiance at their next wedding. In what world are you ever attending your ex-fiance's wedding? In what world? I can't

even think of like any scenario where that would be a thing. No, it's so inappropriate. Because whoever they're marrying that you know, that's probably a bad thing in the first place that they're getting married. Like they probably know of each other through you in the first place, you know? So literally, they do. They met because of you. Yeah, exactly. So it's just bad, bad, bad. You don't have to show these people an ounce of respect.

I don't know where the family's coming from. Cuckoo. Yeah, cuckoo. We have an update. Ah! Hi, it's me again. Thanks to everyone who commented on my first post. Some people asked for an update and here you have it.

I've read all of your comments and I've got to say, the ones who gave me tips on how to be petty made me laugh. But after thinking about it, I decided to simply not attend the wedding. I'll also be distancing myself from my parents and extended family, at least for a while for the former and definitely for the later. I also told my friends about the whole situation and they were even more pissed off than some of you.

I told them about the suggestion that some commenters made about going on vacation during the week of the wedding and we've already started making plans. Something else happened in the last few days. I received a call from Travis. He asked me if we could meet and talk. I know it was probably stupid of me, but I accepted. No. We met in a public place and I told him

I wanted to know exactly what was going on between him and Taylor. This is what was going on between him and Taylor. This is what he told me. Travis and Taylor, first of all? Anyway. I don't know if it's swift and comfy. First, he made sure to emphasize that he had never cheated on me. Not sure if I believe him, but I let him talk. He told me that he too felt bad about our relationship's end

and that on a night out, he just happened to end up in the same place as my cousin. They started talking and one thing led to another and he proceeded to have a middle-age crisis with her. The only reason he's getting married to her is because she's pregnant. And he is afraid that she would just run away and he'd never get to meet his child

if he didn't marry her. After that talk, we went our separate ways. He wished me good luck, and I said the same. As soon as I came back home, I blocked his number. So at the end of the day, I'm left with more questions than answers, but whatevs, that's no longer my problem. Anyway, this is it. I don't think I'll be posting on this account again. Once again, thank you for your support

when I needed it. Oh my gosh, that is crazy. Happy ending for OP though. The OP sounds so rational. Maybe it was a little weird of them to meet up with Travis. Travis. But he's going to have a child with Taylor. That sucks. Yeah, that sucks. Why were you messing with the cousin? A middle-aged crisis.

Yeah, what? He's 29. This is a forever middle-aged crisis thing. Like you have a child now because of this. Oh, he's 33. He's 33. What an early middle-aged crisis. Oh my gosh. That is very early.

Yeah, I feel like usually I was like 40s, 50s. 40s. Yeah. Yeah, you hear it 40s usually. Wow. Okay. So I'm glad there, it's just a good riddance all around. I'm really glad for OP. Now she gets a fun vacation out of it. Yes. Good for you. And I also want to like hear about what she did with her family, because it sounds like your family is just like little cuckoo and

I Don't know. She probably just has to deal with that Yeah, it's one of those tough situations But like your family clearly doesn't have your best interests in mind Because otherwise they would have given you a heads up and like told you and like been like hey Just so you know we heard through the grapevine Travis starting to date Taylor. Yes. It's obviously not great And like, hey, just so you know, we heard through the grapevine, Travis is starting to date Taylor.

It's obviously not great. It's inappropriate, but you should know. We don't like it either. Yeah. Unless I do. That's so unfortunate. I don't know. I just like, I can't imagine why you would like, I don't get why they're so supportive

of it too. Yeah. That was your child's ex fiance who ended who ended it a couple weeks before the wedding. I always truly think it's so much easier to tell people during the beginning. If you have a friend that's dating your friend's ex or a family member's ex, just tell them in the early stages, hey, hey, so and so are hanging out. I don't like it either, but just so you know.

So you don't have to like, you know, hang out with them or like you're not fooled into, you know, thinking so and so. So it's a whole thing. I've always been an advocate of just like, you know, hey, by the way, this is happening an advocate. I'm just like, you know, hey by the way This is happening. Yeah, I don't like it either but Like just be an adult

Communicate yeah share things openly Totally like and then it's like everyone can move forward in the way that they feel is best and can handle like totally I hate secrets. I hate people manipulating in line by omission. Totally. Get it out there. Yeah. And especially on a lighthearted note,

I feel like in its early stages, it's lighthearted enough to be like, hey, so and so are hanging out. It's not so cool, but it's happening. You can't control others, you know? That sucks, but. Speaking of. You can't control others, you know. That sucks, but. Speaking of not being able to control others, our very last one today. It's five hours old, titled, My 28 Female Boyfriend, 29 Male, of 10 Years, Has Liquidated His 401k Without

Telling Me. How Do I Hand handle this? My boyfriend and I have been together for 12 years and are technically high school sweethearts. We live in Southern California and are starting to make okay money, bringing in about $150k combined. We have a goal to each make six figures by 32 and have been slowly climbing the ladder in both of our careers. We've lived together for 10 years and have recently talked about getting married and starting to plan what the next steps are for getting a house and when we want kids etc. We both decided we need to really start to budget so we can pay off credit cards and really start saving. We agreed on how we want to budget and

have been holding each other to it. He works in sales and got a big bonus in March, about 25K. Even after taxes, it was still a lot more than he thought he was going to get. We were really excited because he could use that to pay off his credit card debt and have a decent start for his savings. Then when tax time came around this year,

he told me he owed $8k to the government in total and used a big chunk of his bonus to pay it. This really shocked me because besides the bonus, his base salary is $80k. He didn't get a bonus last year because it was his first year, so it didn't make sense why he owed that much. He used TurboTax, so I asked him if it was okay to send his tax return and tax info to my parents so that they can give it to their tax guy to take a look at it. He agreed and gave his docs to my parents. Come to find out, he emptied his 401k from his previous job, about 25K. Mystery solved about where the 8K he owed came from. I asked him why he did that and mentioned

that that's like the worst thing you can do since he was penalized for taking it out early. He told me it was to pay off his credit cards. I questioned him more and more and he seemed to not think it was a big deal. I told him that he should have talked to me before he did this and he responded to not think it was a big deal. I told him that he should have talked to me before he did this. And he responded, quote,

it's my money so I can do what I want with it. This really hurt my feelings because we have never been that's my money type of couple. We have both always supported each other during financial hardships and generally split things evenly, not keeping close track. I've never really questioned about his finances, but generally knew he had credit card debt.

I do too, so I never judged him. I just don't get how he could take out that much money and would have never told me. Also to mention, since I sent his tax info through my parents, they are also now aware of what he did and now think we are both financially stupid and are lecturing me. I had to admit to them that I didn't know he did this,

which is even more embarrassing. They are now questioning our relationship and our communication. I told him today that I don't know how we can get married if he's not going to discuss with me about things like big financial decisions. He thinks I'm making a big deal and that it doesn't affect me. How do I handle this? I got to be honest, this would be such a different situation if they weren't, if they were married.

Like the entire time I'm thinking like, oh, this, like they would be justified in talking about or having a issue with this if they were married and maybe probably their, you know, money would be joint. Yeah. But since they're dating, it truly is his money. And I don't know, like I never like mentioned to my boyfriend, hey, by the way, I'm putting this amount in my savings or hey, I'm going to be making this huge purchase. Yeah.

I don't know. I'm like, it's, it is very interesting because what I don't, this would be such a different answer if they were married and if it was her money, it's his money. And it is pretty true. Like it's his bacon cow. and you know, she doesn't know what the money's for, right? He said he used it to pay for credit card debt. I'm like, what's on the bank statements? What's on the credit card debt?

I'm so confused because like he was going to use his bonus for credit card debt. The bonus was 25K. And then he's like, well, I had to cash out my 401K for credit card debt. The 401K was 25K. 50K in credit card debt, you're starting to like really, like that's a lot. That's a lot. Like in my head. Yeah, a lot.

I think the most my credit card and and everyone has their own life situations, but when I was unemployed for like a year because of COVID, I lived off my credit card. Really? Yeah. And so like, I ended up having like a balance, I think of like 12K. Like I really tried to like pinch pennies. I also had like a California like food stamp card.

So like that helped. And my mom would give me a thousand dollars every month. So like whatever I couldn't like get with my mom's a thousand dollars and the food card would be credit card. I did that for like almost a year. And so like I got to 12k, but like I was like, I was so like cautious. I tried to budget. And so it's like for him, he's making 80K and that's like a lot. That's more than the average American makes. Totally.

And he's still like putting himself into this crazy debt. So I'm like, honestly, he does sound financially irresponsible, but you're not married. Yes. That is his money. Totally. I completely agree, technically. Technically you don't have a reason to be mad.

Yeah. The only thing you can control is yourself. Totally. And like, are you going to take that as the red flag that it could be? And like, yeah, your communication style isn't great. Yeah. When you do get married, if you have a joint account,

is he going to spend that money without consulting you? Is he gonna be able to contribute to things like a mortgage or kids evenly if he's racking up all this credit card debt? My head, like, I go a little down the rabbit hole. I'm like, does he have a gambling addiction? Yeah, I know. Like, what is- $35,000.

What's going on? I think the biggest thing too is her being able to maybe take this as a, like not a learning lesson, but just understand maybe how he makes his financial decisions. You know, like you're not in control. It's not your money, but being able to take this as a, hey, this person makes this kind of financial decision and maybe that should be a warning to you or maybe you should take it as trying to teach them, hey, this isn't probably the best idea to be able to do, you know? I don't really know how credit card debt works actually.

I like was so lucky. My mom is, my mom has always been the most frugal. She literally had a blog about coupons and yeah. She's like the coupon lady. And I grew up like, she always has started my credit card I think she started my credit card account for me like the day I could open it. Yeah, so you were building and yeah She's always been on it very on top of me not having anything like she's always like pay pay pay bit and I think that really helped me out. I don't know how like

the debt part of that works, but it sounds like, should you be paying that off instantly when you get money? I've like been told if you use your credit card, almost like a debit card, it boosts your score like crazy. Yeah, that's yeah. I do know about that. Yeah. There's like little hacks. So I know that. But like if you can't afford to pay it off, like obviously like do the minimum payment over time. Yeah. Or

like pay off the amount that like then is at least interest like incurring the next month. Yeah. So there's all these different hacks, but you know, he might not have that financial literacy, but it's like, you should have like talked because like what if your girlfriend would have borrowed you the money versus cashing out your 401k? Like what if there was another solution? So it's like, you guys have been together for 12 years.

It is kind of concerning that you couldn't talk about this. And this, I got obsessed with prenups. I'm like obsessed with them now. I love prenups. I used to be a hater. Yes. I have evolved. And I think this would be one where it's like, you should really consider a prenup and keeping

your finances separate and making sure you separate your community property so that his debt doesn't become your debt. I completely agree. Because I feel like he's hiding more debt doesn't become your debt. I completely agree. Because I feel like he's hiding more debt than he's letting on. Yes. And it's a way of her being able to say, hey, this is my consequences of my decisions and these are your consequences of your decisions. I think this is either way a learning lesson for them both.

She can learn about his decisions financially and maybe it's a learning lesson for him because she can kind of teach him, hey, this is not what you do when you have this money. And also, I don't know. Yeah. Pre-nubs, what you said. Pre-nubs, baby. I'm a big pre-nub advocate because it's not even like saying, hey, we are gonna separate. It's saying, hey, this is what we're going to,

we're gonna be able to control what we want if we do get divorced rather than the government telling us what- It's exactly what it is. Yeah, we want, yeah, exactly. Exactly what it is. It's just having more control in, nobody expects for things, bad things to happen. No. They do happen. And it's giving yourself more control in, you know, nobody expects for things, bad things to happen.

They do happen. And it's giving yourself more control. You both, you know, other than the government. Top comments on this are a lot of finance bros or gals, maybe. Top one is, at your boyfriend's age, 65, that 25K would have been $772,000 if he just put it into an S&P 500 index and never touched it. So your parents are correct to assume that he is financially stupid and to worry about your future together.

Next comment down, how would 25k and credit card debt have cost him by the time he turned 65? I'm going to go out on a limb and assume the return on his 401k was less than the 20% plus interest rate on his cards. So he might've made some bad financial decisions accruing the debt, or he had unplanned medical bills or auto house repair, et cetera, but liquidating a retirement account at 29

to get out of crippling debt isn't necessarily the wrong decision, even with the 10% penalty. Wow. That is... Over my head. It's like I-A-A-F-B. I am a finance bro. I can't answer this. I want to like take financial classes. I know that actually. You know what? I did and I was just watching Netflix the entire

class, but that does sound about right. Like I do know that money and retirement accounts go absolutely so like it's exponential, you know? Yeah. It's just, it goes crazy at a certain age. And I mean, I trust the finance bro. Don't want to, but I trust it. I'm on board. Like I think depending on the situation, like there's little hacks, but he should have just

talked to her because like maybe she would have been able to help. A lot of people are asking like, what does he have so much debt on? And OP has said like, he hasn't really said so far. OP doesn't have clear answers. He's been like really defensive. So far I've gotten vague answers about student loans and credit card debt. I believe he has a little leftover from the bonus

for an emergency fund. Trying to get more answers when he's ready to talk. What does that mean? Like, sir, this is not that serious. Open up and talk. Show me your bank statements. You don't have to be ready. You just...

Something's going on here. Yeah, that is interesting. Something is going on here. Oh yeah. You got to get down to the bottom of that. There's going to be like crazy, oh my God, he's probably got like an insane amount of like only fans. I know that's what I was thinking. My brain immediately went to OF, but that's a lot of

money. That's a lot of money for that. He's getting direct messages. He's doing stuff for sure. Oh my gosh. I'm like, I'm blessed. I need an update. I need like an update for this one. Like when she finds out. Did you look? No update yet. That last comment was the one I read when he's ready to talk. And it was not sounding great. He better be ready to talk now. What the heck? Just print out the big statements or just show it on the PDF.

Open his mail, find the credit card statements. Wow. It is pretty crazy how like- I popped off. Yeah. It is pretty crazy though that people, I mean, they really don't teach us about finances. No. So it is a little bit difficult to just assume that people know about, I mean, if you have

a 401k, you probably know what it's for and you probably know how much like it can reach to its potential. Like when you're older, but maybe he didn't even know what a 401k was. He was probably like, oh, this is my savings account. I don't know. Probably, honestly. I don't even know much about 401ks, but I do know that they can get,

like when you reach your 60s or 70s, it's just like, you're a millionaire. It's nuts. I don't understand how it works. Like I know some jobs automatically contribute to your 401k. Exactly. So maybe it was that. That's what I'm wondering.

But as someone who's now self-employed, I have to contribute. And my CPA helped connect me with a guy that does it. I don't know anything about it. I just know that I have to contribute every year and it helps with my taxes. Exactly. That's all I know.

I was like, there's so many acronyms, there's so many numbers and I'm like, please. S&P 500? What is that? That sounds like a car race. It does sound like a race. I don't, I'm like, please just I'll pay you to do this. We need to like connect with the finance bro and be like, give us the lowdown. Well, I'm so lucky because my mom does that stuff too. She really is. Can we get on a Zoom call? My frugal woman, yeah. Does she have her own channel about coupons and stuff?

She used to, yeah. She used to and now she like just, I don't know. Now she just uses all her points to travel. So she doesn't. Queen, goals. She really is. Goals. But yeah, God bless that woman.

Yeah. Well, thank you so much for coming on today. Thank yeah, God bless that woman. Yeah. Well, thank you so much for coming on today. Thank you so much for having us. I'm like, I should, here, I gotta get Miss Junie to cordially say. Say goodbye, Junie. Oh, she's stretching out. Do you want to say goodbye to everyone?

She's been so cozy napping. Do you want to say anything? She's like, girl, let me put me back in that car. Put me back in my little carrier. I might go home. She's so cute. She was a good girl. She's sleeping now.

Of course she is. She really loved this place though. And so did I. You are welcome back. By the way, anytime. Anytime. I love the studio as well. You'll have to see the the way, I said it- Anytime. Anytime. I love the studio as well.

You'll have to see the next one with the ponies. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Count me in. It's gonna be good. Junie needs some horse friends. Oh my God. Can you imagine what she would think of a horse?

Oh my God. She would be like, cool, like another animal. I don't care. I'm going back to sleep. Oh my God. I can't wait to see it. She would love them though. Where can everyone find you?

Concrete crotch kiss. I'm so sorry. Just kidding. I think that's, yeah. Or like, Lissy Lulu. It's a whole, I don't, yeah. Did you, what concrete crotch kiss is from a skateboard accident? My first video ever on TikTok was a video of me.

I used to skateboard like pretty, like much every day, like down bowls and like pools, you know? Like empty pools. And my first video on TikTok ever was like me skating down a pool and I did the splits and my crotch like really slammed onto the concrete and it went viral and at the time my Name was butterfly kisses and somebody was like I thought your name was concrete crotch kisses and now it works perfectly And I was like, you know concrete crotch kiss has such a ring to it. It's so unique and I love my name

No No, but I will never be a merch girl. I'm just like imagine. It's time unique. And I love the name. Do we have merch yet? No. No, but- What are we doing? I will never be a merch girl. I'm just like, imagine- It's time. It's time. I want it.

Concrete crotch case. Like what we had. Yeah, yeah. I'm like, I don't know if the people would get it. I'm gonna put- Yeah. I'm gonna do a logo. Yeah.

I got this. It's a whole thing. I got this, guys. But yeah, I go by Concrete now, I guess. And this is a little woman and she, she is such a little woman. There's a little cloudy woman on the plane. Yeah, have you ever had a pet in the studio? My dog, Holly.

Oh. Yeah. They would be little friends. They would be. I feel like Juni likes it more here. She loves dogs. She loves dogs. She likes it more here. She's like, she doesn't sleep now. She's so cute. Yeah. want to keep her. So sweet. All of Alyssa's links will be in the description.

Concrete crotch kiss on everything. Lissy Lulu. But thank you again for being here. Thank you. That's so good. You're the best. That was so fun. I love having like an opinion and not looking at the comment section for once. It's so good. Yeah, it's fun. It's refreshing. You were on it today. Oh, thanks. You were on it. Until next time, guys. Bye. Thanks for watching guys!