Two Hot Takes - 260: True Colors Came Out! Ft. DJ X

Episode Date: March 19, 2026

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Spotify's very own Xavier Jernigan aka AI DJ X! We get into an assortment of stories where people's true colors are coming out. From someone who doesn't want to take care of their partner when sick, to a weird family initiation OP wants their partner to participate in, to someone who heard their partners family talk terribly about them.. these are some complicated ones. Going to need your takes on these too!  Checkout X's IG: https://www.instagram.com/xavierjernigan/?hl=en Partners: Duluth Trading Company: Shop at DuluthTrading.com and in-store today.  Skims: Skims.com Patreon BONUS Content including FREE stories: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ NEW MERCH:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shop.twohottakes.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Send us a letter? Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036  WRITE IN TO US!!! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Index: 00:00 -- Start Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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They're so good here. They're awesome. Literally, I had three drinks yesterday and she's noticing my cup. Like, you don't have more. Yeah, you don't have enough drinks. They're very attentive. They're genuinely good people. The best family.

I really like them. Like, we hire people that are just like genuinely good souls. You. Me? Well, thank you. You have made me becoming a part of the Spotify family, like so fun, so easy. Thank you. Like, you have.

from the first time I met you at like some random little event. Yeah. You're just, you're such a bright, warm, comforting soul. That means a lot to me. Oh,

and you're just so friendly and you're just so. I'm so shy though, which is, is that right. Yeah. But you know what? You've never been that way with me. Because you are you.

Thank you. That means a lot. Like I instantly considered you a friend. I appreciate that. Like we were talking, we were like maybe five minutes in and I'm like, we're friends. I know.

And we like exchanged info and we were just like, We're cool. It's so cool. I'm just so, so, so excited to have you today. People listening are going to be like, wait. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. This is.

I know this voice. I know this voice. That's my DJ. That's my DJ. Your DJ. My DJ too, because I listen to it too. You listen to your own voice? Is DJX?

Oh, absolutely. I'm in the top 1% of AI DJ listeners. Oh my gosh. Yes. If you have not had the pleasure of hearing this voice before, I'm joined today by Xavier Jernigan, a.k.a. DJX. In the building. I'm a real person if you didn't know where you've been, where you've been,

but they can get to know me a little better now. You know, people connect with me because they feel like I know them. It's an interesting type of celebrity. Ooh. Because unlike other types of celebrity, you feel like you know that person for that thing they do. Yeah. She's a basketball player. She's in a movie.

He's your whole stuff, too hot takes. They feel like they know you from your takes and being a part of this family. Yeah. But the difference is with DJX, AIDJ, is people feel like I know them. And it's such an intimate experience because every time you press that button, I'm a part of your life. You're inviting me into your life. And I'm always there.

Well, you have to think about how much time people are spending, listening to music. That's right. Listening to podcast, driving. Some people have two-hour commutes, one way to work. Yo, Morgan, we put out the number the other day for the first time. We never released it publicly, but we did. 90 million people have engaged with AIDJ driving 4 billion hours of listening. Four billion.

How many years is that? Did they give you that math? I should have broke it down. I was thinking about that too. That blows my mind. Four billion? It's insane the amount of people that use it, listen to me, hear my voice. You know, I'm in a restaurant and I'm eating.

And do you notice people's head kind of turn? I do. I know that voice. And at some point, this is what happens. A server will come by. And it's not always my server. Yeah. A server will come by.

And this is when I know what's going down. They'll just say, I don't want to be weird. But are you DJX? And then they're like, yeah, everybody in the back. We were all like Googling. And we were like, yeah, that's him. Oh, my God. It's so endearing.

People turn in the little kids. Like, you know, it's little kids that love it. You know, grandmas and mothers and everybody. in between and everybody turns into a little kid when they meet me. Celebrity, other celebrities, it's crazy. It's been a crazy ride. I love that. It really has been because you started out as like head of cultural partnerships.

Okay. Look at you doing your research. Oh, no, I know. And you listen. Yeah. So I started out as the head of North America for our music editorial team. So our human curators that make the human editorial playlist, right? So I headed up that team and then I created the cultural partnerships team and that team did all what we call cultural curation.

So the playlists like partnerships with Netflix and Disney and playlists around gaming and sporting events and holidays. So I created that entire workflow and I became the head of cultural partnerships. And then I started getting asked to hostings. Now I did hosting outside of Spotify. You know, when something's meant for you and you know this from your show and what's happening with. your show absolutely blowing up by the way. It's having a moment, thanks to these guys. Number 35, the last time I looked.

Hey. Yeah, like you're telling you, we're going to push that up. But when something's meant for you and you're meant to do something, it will find you. And we started getting into podcasting podcasts here at Spotify. And I got asked to host one because they liked the way that I spoke about music and culture and TV and film and all of that. And I hosted season two of this podcast called Showstopper about the memorable music moments and TV shows and film. And it got a lot of good reviews. It was like a

slow burn type thing. Like we did episodes around Insecure and Baby Driver and I had a Spike Lee episode and it was really cool. That's cool. And then it went from there to another show. So can you host this? We have this event over here and we're going to do this thing in Amsterdam. X can you host it? And internally, Morgan, people would say like my fellow co-workers would say, you know, you're really the voice of Spotify. And then AIDJ comes along. And like, look at me now. Look at you now.

Yeah. Oh, so crazy. I just, I love, love, love you. Your voice. Thank you, Morgan. I am just blown away because, like, you hear all this, you guys, and you're just like, what hasn't this guy done? You've lived so many lives.

I have. I met your friend at dinner a couple weeks ago. I was like, you worked at that record label? You worked with her and so. I was just like blown away. Yeah. But valedictorian. Yes.

Of college. Like NYU. NYU. Yeah. Which insane. You're also a deacon. I'm an ordained deacon. Do you marry people?

Like what do you? I can. I can marry people. I do, like I come in and speak in different parts of service, whether it be the congregational prayer or, you know, if it's the offeratory time, I'll talk about giving and the point of giving and why we're giving and what that's. really about and you know you're being blessed and you're blessed to be a blessing to somebody else. So I've shared those kinds of things, but I pray for people and leave different parts of service.

I'm gone a lot physically because I'm always somewhere else. You know, usually when we're hanging out, we're in some part of the world. A different city. Different city, different part of the world, which is pretty awesome. I wake up and I pinched myself every day. Yeah. Like it's never lost on me, ever. And I remind myself, like, no matter how busy it gets, Just make sure I'm balanced. Make sure I take care of self. So sometimes that means I can't physically be in church the way I used to be. Yeah.

But I do believe that all of this other stuff is happening around my career so I can be a light outside of like church sales. That's what we need anyway. You're so balanced. I just feel like you just give guru energy. Like just. I like that. You really do. And I'm like, I got to pick your brain about how to deal with burnout.

No. we should talk about that. No, for real, we should talk about that. So the last show that I hosted was a daily podcast. Some of you may remember called The Get Up. It was Monday through Friday. It was Spotify's morning show. It was our official morning show. Wow. And I was the lead host on that. And I had a couple co-hosts with me. And that was two years. We did 400 episodes, two years. It was Monday through Friday. And even if there was a holiday, we would pre-record. So we wanted our listeners to never go without an episode. So I was never off.

And my call time was 4.30 a.m. Eastern. I'm just sick over that. It was, it was. I'm nauseous. I'm going to tell you to truth. 4 a.m. No. I'll tell you the truth. Morgan. It took me two years.

I don't know, about a year and a half to not be sleep deprived. After I left the show, after we wrapped the show up. Oh, my gosh. It took a year and a half for my body to regulate. So now I'm extra serious about balance and self-care. Yeah. Because it'll age you if you're not careful. I know.

It's just stress, stress kills. It's not good for you. Not at all. Okay, well, you've been through some stuff. Yeah. You're well-rounded person. I think you're going to have some good takes on today's stories. I'm excited.

I found just a wide variety of chaos and just weird dilemmas people are having. And you always approach things from a very empathetic, just kind of take. So I think you're going to be really good. I think we're going to have some fun. We're going to get loose. We're going to get loose. I'm always tell you the truth. That's the thing.

I'm always tell you the truth. I know. So we're going to get into it. Let's dive in. I'm excited. And I listen to the show, by the way. I know you know this, but I want the listeners to know you're with a fellow listener. He's not bullshit in you guys.

Peep the socks. Oh my gosh. Yes. Who does this remind you of you guys? Come on. Sharing the sock game. Sharing the sock game. Our dad.

Father knows. Father knows. So I got the socks on. I'm comfy. DJ socks if you can't see the details for DJX. Let's get it. It's you. Thank you. It's you. This episode is presented by Duluth Trading Company, number one in garden.

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I was just like, we need to make a connection happen. So I sent her a nice message and like, you know, I wish I was there and looking forward to meeting you IRL. So keep dressing up in case we meet in real life because I do want to meet you IRL, you know what I mean? We keep it fly, so keep dressing up. Keep it fly at all times, Morgan. You know what I don't play about my fashion. You do not.

You don't either, though. I have my days. You see me on my best ones. Good. I'm always dressed up when you see me. Otherwise, it's leggings and a big t-shirt. I'm not mad at that. This first story I've got for you.

Okay, let's hear it. It's coming from R-slash, am I the jerk? So this person says, Am I the jerk for walking out of dinner after my girlfriend tested me? Test does it go in the detail of test to her? I want to hear more. Okay, I'm intrigued.

I, 29 male, have been dating my girlfriend, 28 female, for eight months. She's really in a social media and relationship tests, which I've always found kind of cringe, but harmless. Okay. Last night, we went out to dinner, halfway through the meal, a woman came up to our table, flirted with me, and then asked for my number.

I immediately said no and told her I was there with my girlfriend. Okay. After the woman left, my girlfriend started laughing and told me it was her friend, and she wanted to see how I would react. She said that I passed, so I shouldn't be mad, but I was pissed. I told her that that was humiliating and manipulative. Yeah. I don't want to be tested like I'm on some reality. show. Right. She said I was overreacting and that other guys would have found it funny. I paid for my

food, left, and went home. Now she says that I embarrassed her and made a big deal of nothing. Am I the jerk for walking out? Oh, I like this one. This is a good one to start on. Okay, so first of all, all that testing stuff, don't do it. Stop playing games. It's not necessary. What are you trying to prove? He passed the test and then what? Congratulations. We get to continue having a nice dinner. It's awkward now. It's weird. It's weird. I don't know what's real with you.

Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like the person came up, which would be crazy rude, by the way, for somebody to come up in the middle of you sitting with a, you know what I mean? Yeah. Like you're obviously on a date. On a date or like, just like you don't know me and like you're going to come up in five seconds while I'm having an intimate conversation or at least dinner with someone. Like it could be anyone. It's still rude.

Exactly. That's crazy rude. that person's the jerk for even agreeing to do that for your friend. I know they think they're like ride or die and being a good friend. That's actually not being a good friend. Now, let's get to, is he a jerk for walking out? I wouldn't have taken it so far to walk out in the middle of dinner. I would have finished dinner. I would have expressed how I felt about it. I think what he said up to that point was cool. But you don't have to embarrass her. I understand that she was embarrassed. did he leave her sitting at the table, like just put money on the table and then just like leave like, like, because it's, you know what I mean?

Yeah, like how dramatic was his exit. Yeah, like if you just like, that's it and you just drop, you know, whatever the, you know, cash is on a table and you just walk up and leave and then you get your, I don't know if y'all rode there together. Did you meet there together? All those details matter. So did you get an Uber and you're like, get your own Uber or. That's a really good point. You know what I'm saying? So those details matter if they were through the meal. So, I mean, he just says, I paid for my food left. My food. There's no, I mean, above, it does say halfway through the meal. Someone came to the table. Halfway through the meal. So he could have been still eating.

And then this happened, you pass the test. And then he was like, I'm done. You're like, I just, I'm going to roll out. But they've been dating together for eight months. So they probably did go there together. Yeah. So if he left her there, that part of it is just, jerkish. Now she set everything off in a way that was just unnecessary and childish. That's childish.

Like, come on, what are we doing? What are we in high school? Even in high school, I wouldn't like that. Like, let's not do that. But you can't leave her, though. And I just say this, like, this may sound old school or traditional. I'm big on seeing your date home. Even if the date is a terrible date, I'm seeing you home. I'm going to make sure you get inside. even if I'm angry with you or upset or something left, I'm going to make sure, like, you know, I live in New York. You got to get them home. And even if you make the Uber wait,

the Uber driver has to wait until she walks in and the door closes behind her. So you got to see her home safely. And if you didn't do that, that part is jerkish. But I get where you're coming from. Yeah. So why he's angry. Feelings are so valid.

They are. So valid. But, yeah, I think you could have just, had that conversation been like, that's not okay. I don't appreciate it. I don't want to have these tests going forward. And you know what, too? Let's wrap this up. Like, I'm kind of over this now. It's how you express the feelings too, right?

Like, it's a couple of things about feelings, right? You have a right to your feelings. It also doesn't mean your feelings are always right. Your perspective may be the most important perspective in your world. It doesn't mean it's the most important perspective in the world, right? For sure. So I get his perspective, his anger. I absolutely would have felt that was a jerk move on her part. I would have been mad about it. I would not have left her there. I would have expressed it, even if like we go in a silent moment, not like really silent treatment.

It's just like it's awkward now, like you said, Morgan. Yeah. I don't got much to say now. I'm still going to make sure you get home. Yeah. And I appreciate that because I don't think that's common courtesy anymore. Right. And I think like the younger generation, Like when I was in high school, like my high school boyfriends were pretty with it. And they would, you know, I'd get out of the car. And I don't know if I ever got walked up to the door. Yeah. Like that's very traditional.

I wish that was still a thing. But they would at least sit in their car and watch and make sure I got in the house. You got at the very least you got to do that. Kids aren't doing that nowadays. Dustin has step siblings that are like 15, 16, 18. and when the girl was in high school and had, you know, her first boyfriend is going on these dates, he'd drop her off and peel away. Oh, no.

He wouldn't even pull in the driveway. So in the front, like. On the curb. It's like a rolling stop like. Jump, jump out, tuck and roll, girl. Right, right. Talk and roll. Like one battle after another.

Like, go now. Like, courage. You don't respect me at all. Yeah, for real. It's just respect. That's common respect. And what happened to safety and not making assumptions. that people make it inside.

What if she can't find her keys? She's locked out. Exactly. These things happen. Simple of things. Dye. And then she can't reach you. Yeah, she's got a smart lock.

She can't get in. Can't reach you. Anything can happen. Make sure your date gets in their home. Period. I know. I feel like we need like a common etiquette course again. We do.

Maybe we should work on that. Yeah, we've lost a little bit of that. I think we have. And it's a sad thing. I know. Everyone can chime in. Like, give us some other ones. ones we can add to the list.

Like, we should make a list for people of just like, make sure your date gets in the door. Don't drive away. Exactly. If you're mad at dinner, don't just slap money down on the table and leave them there. And run, yeah. I mean, yeah, eight months, too, together. It's like, it should be more of a.

Yeah. Top comment on this one. Nope, that is immature. You want a life partner, not a child who play games. Can't argue with that. O.P., our writer does respond. You're right. this breaks me feeling this way.

I'm sad for them. I know. I don't understand relationship test because it's like if you don't trust your person to where you feel you need to do them, I think that's kind of a red flag for you. That's right. Like, right, right.

If you have to test it, like let's go field test this. I have a feeling that I can't trust him or trust her, trust them, and you feel like you have to actually have it acted out. like a reenactment made. Like, that's crazy. Like Instagram DMs, I think, is a big test.

Yeah, like. There's girls that, like, I've seen on TikTok, literally get paid to message other people's boyfriends. Slide into DMs and then see what they'll respond. Yeah, can you test to my partner? This is why I don't even check DMs. It's a fun fact about me. Really?

True story. I don't even look. Too dangerous. It's too dangerous. It's just a minefield. You never know. You never know. You never know.

Yeah, I don't do it. No other updates on this post, no other comments from OP. That's all we got. I want to hear from the audience. I want to hear from the listeners. What do you want to poll them on? We've got polls on Spotify. Yeah, that's a poll.

But you only get one poll per episode. Okay, so let's wait. I don't know if, yeah. I know there might be something better. You got a lot of chaos coming on. I know. We got to tell the megaphone, the team. Yeah, like, can we add multiple polls, please?

Yeah. What are we doing? Yeah, you can have more than one. I think I know someone I could ask. Yeah, I think so too. We know a couple people. We have some friends. Okay, this next one is coming from Am I the Asshole?

Okay. It's only 16 hours old right now. Oh, fresh. Really fresh. It's titled, Would I be the asshole for suing my friend when she didn't come to my wedding? Wait, wait, wait, wait, suing, like, litigation, like, we're going to court?

Taking her to court. Now, what was money, were there monies spent on said person? Okay, let's go. I, 25 female, recently got married to my 25 male husband in Bali, Indonesia in January. It was a destination wedding, but my parents and his parents paid for their own plane tickets and hotel. But we paid for our friends' plane tickets and hotel stays. Yeah. Each plane ticket was about $2,000 USD.

And hotel maybe $150 to 300 for a week. My friend Gemma brought along her newlywed husband, John, but paid for his plane ticket. The problem is that Gemma and John did not show up to my wedding. No! Gemma took the free plane ticket to Bali and the hotel room, and when I asked her why she and show up, she said, since they couldn't afford their own honeymoon, this was the perfect opportunity. And Jim decided that he didn't feel like going. I was really hurt by this since Gemma and I have been friends for over 10 years. Stop playing. Would I be the asshole if I took her to

small claims court for the money that I spent on the plane ticket and hotel? Get your money. That was crazy. And this is why. That's so much money. That's so. much money, and this is the thing, it's beyond the principle. Yep, principles involved, but this is the thing. The money was spent, I watch a lot of Judge Judy, the money was spent. I learned something. The money was spent in anticipation of her attending the wedding. It was essentially contingent. Yes. If she told her, hey, I'm not going to go to your wedding, then you'd be like, oh, well, I'm not buying your plane ticket. It's to come to my wedding. She spent the money, you took the flight. So you taking the flight is you saying, I'm going to your wedding.

I know. You, and I wonder what type of documentation OP has. Like, does she have text messages? Like, hey, if you come to my wedding in Bali, I'll buy your plane ticket. Right. And then the friend is like, yeah, that sounds great. She's going to need that. Like, that then is kind of a verbal contract. That is an agreement. And so, yeah, her not showing up. Yeah. Get your money. You're not. paying for random people, even your friend for 10 years, to just fly to Bali and just not go to your thing. That's crazy. And it was incredibly generous to pay for your friend. Insane. Because I expect, I don't know about y'all, I don't know about you. I expect if I'm going to a destination wedding that I'm going to pay. Yeah, it's on you. It's on me. No, this was like

crazy generous. So that was generous, that was thoughtful. That meant, I want you there so bad. It's so important to me that you are at my wedding that I'm going to put down $2,000 and pay for your hotel room for you to be there. I know. That's crazy. Get your money. She's out of control. No, you are not. No, and I'm thinking about it. I'm like, okay, like, I get you didn't get to celebrate your own honeymoon. That's your problem. A wedding is one day. It's literally one day. It's an event. And you've got a whole rest of the trip. You can extend in either direction. That's right. If your new husband doesn't want to go, too bad. Yeah.

That's your friend. That's right. You leave your husband in the hotel room and you go. I totally agree. I'm just like, what a bad friend. And to me, he would be a jerk for not going. But as the friend, you still have to go. Like, listen, listen, buddy, I'm going to this wedding.

We can have our fun before or after, to your point. Yeah. But that's crazy. Soar. Take it a court. I would. Yeah. I mean, O.P. does add more to.

Oh, I want to hear more. This girl, Gemma, wasn't even in the wedding party. So O.P. was like, all she had to do was show up, dance, and eat cake and food. She wasn't even, she didn't even have to actually do anything. No job. Just have fun. She's out of control. Funny thing enough is that they did go on a honeymoon. It just wasn't abroad.

And this is a thing, though. That ain't, that don't have nothing to do. That has nothing to do with O.P. Your honeymoon. or the honeymoon you didn't do. It has nothing to do with the next person's wedding and the next person's wedding planning. Yeah.

For example, if I decide I want to just go to the courthouse and get married, that has nothing to do with your plans for your wedding and you wanting me to be a part of it, right? Yeah. So even saying all that is a whole bunch of extra stuff, it's a whole bunch of nonsense as far as I'm concerned. I know. I would love for her to sue and get money back,

but there's one comment that I think is going to make that hard. Okay, let's hear it. I made a video of me surprising her that I paid for her plane fare and printed a photo of the hotel room at Christmas. I gave it to her as a gift for Christmas as well as some other gifts.

It's a gift. Okay, so this is the problem. The way you presented it. There's no... You're not going to be able to get the money back. I don't even think Judge Judy would do it. No, Judge Judy would say it was a gift. You were basically saying, here's a trip to Bali and I'm getting married during that time. Yeah, you're not going to win,

but the energy around suing her, I'm all for. You're just not going to win this case, though. I know. Well, if you did go to one of those shows, I've heard that even the losing person gets paid. Yeah, they get like an appearance fee at least. Yeah. I was like, yeah, and I don't know if they get a little something out of it. Yeah, they get a free, and they get a free trip. Yeah. coming to New York or going to L.A. Yeah. A lot of people were questioning, like, this story. How did you afford it?

You're 25 and your paying for all of these people to go to Bali. And OPE does share that she signed on as a CRNA with a 40K bonus. Okay. So she used her whole signing bonus. She used her signing bonus. To make this happen. And you know what? And let's be real.

A lot of people spending money they don't have anyway. So when it's like they're questioning her like, how does she have this money? A lot of y'all got credit cards maxed out all. ready anyway, so stop it. My brother, my brother put 40K on a credit card for his wedding. See what I'm saying? Yeah, and that was 2015. Like, see what I mean? Like people, you can Yeah, lots financed. Yeah, you can, you can do it. I don't recommend it. Don't do it. Took him forever. Exactly. It is a lot of interest. A lot of interest on that wedding. He probably paid three times that when it was all said at least. Easily. Like easily three times that,

right? I fully think this story is real. I do too. I mean, it's really recent, but the Reddit account is three years old. So that also kind of shows me like she didn't just create this account to create a fake story. It's a real account. Yeah, she's been around. So this is a real problem. This is a real problem. And you know what? That person's not your friend. Y'all can't be friends.

Top comment, can't believe I'm saying this, but not the asshole. Someone offers to give you a free vacation on the condition that you attend one party during that time. Come on. I'd be jumping at the opportunity. Absolutely. To take a free vacation and then no call no show to your friend's wedding is really shitty behavior on their part. Couldn't agree more.

They could have extended their stay if they wanted to treat the trip as their own honeymoon. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, that's so foul. That's foul. It's literally, it was probably like, hey, show up at four. You could have gone to the ceremony and then snuck out.

Yes. I mean, ceremonies at four, right? You still seven o'clock? Like. Get a meal out of it? Yeah. And then go do whatever you want to do. Go to the beach.

That's it. I don't know. You're not even in the wedding party. Isn't it crazy, man? People are selfish. I think O.P. is like coming to terms with it as like sad as it is. Yeah. Because in the comments, she does kind of add, like, I realize I'm going to be better off going forward.

Oh, absolutely. You got to listen when a person tells you or shows you they're not your friend. You got to listen. As painful as it may be and as hurtful as it. as it can be, listen to the truth. Be clear on what people are telling you and not just projecting what you want it to be because that just means you're going to extend

you getting hurt. It's not necessary. No, and it's so hard. And I think friends especially, we give so many chances. We do. Like even more so than like romantic relationships. I totally agree.

Like about friendships that we really, you know, we work hard for because, I mean, friendships are hard. That's right. But gosh, like, when you wake up and you're like, I deserve to be better and, like, you move past that friend. That's right. Then you have so much more room for a new person. Exactly.

That's going to treat you right. Yes. And I learned that the hard way. Like, I broke up with a friend that I literally thought would be a bridesmaid. What happened? Oh, bad news bears. Really? Yeah.

Like, I flew from Minnesota to Dallas to go visit her. Yeah. I brought another one of my friends with. Yeah. And the whole entire time. Like she would ignore me, would like sabotage, like, what was happening with me so she could get close to my other friend. What was that about? My other friend's dad works for the NHL and she wanted to get close to her.

So she literally hid her phone so she couldn't reach out to me and contact me. Are you serious? Yeah. That's diabolical. It was really bad. That's crazy. So I ended up, like, leaving. I flew home early.

I was like, I'm done. Oh, so you're like, I got to get it. I'm out of here. I don't want to be a part of this. Yeah, I like sat at her house by myself for almost 24 hours. Stop playing. No Wi-Fi. She didn't have Wi-Fi at her place.

And this was back like 2015, 2015. Yeah. And so shouldn't have Wi-Fi. So you were like stranded, basically. Uber wasn't a thing, really. No. And so I asked, I was like, hey, can I take your car to Walmart to go buy a book? She told me no.

No. So I sat there, twiddled my thumbs, called my dad. I go, can you book me a flight? Yeah. And he did and I left. Shout out to dad, man. I know. Daddy knows.

He knows a lot. I'm sorry that happened to you. No, but like you live and you learn. It's like it's the same with this person where it's a tough, expensive, really expensive lesson to learn. Like now you know going forward. Like the people that did go to Bali and did show up for you, those are real ones. I had a friend that I was really tight with in high school, early adult life.

and my mom's house flooded. I'm originally from Florida, Daytona Beach. Hurricane comes, our house floods. So I was here in New York working, and I couldn't get down there. And that is so stressful. Right, so that's stressful. My brother couldn't get down there.

So my friends, my boys, they, yeah, they all rallied up, went to the house. Yeah, because that's your mom, too. That's my mom. And, like, their second mom, right? So they're pulling up. taking stuff out of the house so it can get prepped to get fixed up. Yeah, cutting out the drywall because it's mold.

Yes, because it forms quickly, especially in Florida because it's so hot. Yeah, the humidity. Exactly. Yeah. So one of my friends, you know, I'm on the phone with him. He's like, I'm on my way. Okay, great. So I know if this person's there, da, da, da, da.

And a couple hours later, my mom calls me and she's like, where so-and-so? He didn't get here yet. And I was like, yeah, he said he was on the way when I talked to him a couple hours ago. I called him no answer, so no show, no call, and never heard from him again for like better part of 10 years. Straight ghosted. I thought you were going to say like 10 days? 10 years?

Yes. Well, then you're like, you know, a couple hours later, you're like, you're worried about him. You're like, is he good? That's exactly what I was doing. To do that, to someone to ghost someone like that? Just say you can't make it. To say you can't make it, ghosted me, ghosted my mom, ghosted my other. friends who were there helping.

What? And none of, like, our whole friend group, our friend circle didn't hear from him. And then he reaches out like 10 years later, almost like, hey, what's going on? And I'm like, come on. What's going on? What's going on? So, so audacious. Last I talked to you 10 years ago, you were on your way to my mom's house.

You still going there? You still on the way? You're walking? Oh, okay. You still walk. You're walking. You carried the car. Oh, okay.

Oh, good. We're looking. We don't even live there anymore because I bought her a new house, homie. Like, what do we? Oh my God, that's so. And that was hurtful. And I kind of put it aside while we had the crisis that we were dealing with. But later then, you know, when he came back or really tried to like come back into my life, I really reflected on it. And I'm just like, no, man, you don't get to do that. You don't get to do that. You did it to me. You did it to my mother. And you did it to our other friends. Sorry, man. That's like sorry, not sorry. No, no, he didn't deserve anything, especially after 10 years. And Morgan, this is the thing? You know what? You know, I asked him like, so what happened, man?

Like, for real, what happened? Yeah. And he just humming and hawing. He never actually explained himself. Like, there wasn't a reason, too. Because, like, you can give people grace if it's like, you know what, dude, I was in a really tough spot. Yeah.

I was battling some stuff of my own. And I was embarrassed and I withdrew from everybody. It wasn't about you. I didn't want people to see me like that. Whatever it is. Then you give him some grace. That's right. to be with no excuse.

No. Bye. Bye. We can't do this, man. No. And I can't catch you. I'm not catching you up on the last 10 years. A lot of, a lot has happened.

A lot. Lots happened. Things are good over here. Real good. Real good. Real good. Things are not real good for this next one. All right.

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Am I overreacting in rethinking my engagement after how my girlfriend treated me while sick with a bad flu? My 35 and my fiancé, 32 female, have been together for four years. All right. Lived with each other for one year and recently engaged. We recently got back from a trip overseas for a wedding, and I caught a bad flu bug. So bad that I passed out standing in the airport line And had to be checked over by paramedics before I was allowed to keep flying

We got home late and also while walking up the stairs in our home I basically got lightheaded and had to sit down and finally made it to bed While we were gone her mom was house sitting for us and she was staying over So I had really bad diarrhea and she knew this as while walking through the airport and on the plane I was in the bathroom every 15 minutes. That's the worst. And I told her this embarrassing fact. Yeah. The next morning, my fiance woke up at around 8.30 a.m. Once she woke up, I asked her if she could go to the store and pick up some emotium, pepto, maybe some sprite and gatorade as I was really dehydrated. Her first response was, quote, do I need to go now? I get that I probably should have said yes, but I didn't want to be

pushy, so I was like, well, you can have coffee and get ready, but I am super dehydrated and I really feel like shit. And anytime I drink water 10 minutes later, I'm on the toilet again. Right. She gets up and talks with her mom about the trip, has breakfast. Around 11 a.m., her mom jumps in the shower, so I go downstairs to talk to her about going to the store. She basically snaps at me and says, quote, let me say goodbye to my mom. Why didn't you buy those at the airport yesterday? Oh, no. I will go after I say goodbye to my mom, okay? At about 12.30 p.m., I gave up. I sign up for DoorDash. I've never done that. Order the medicine, Sprite, Pepto, and I'm impressed because it's here by 1 p.m.

When I got delivered, my girlfriend's mom was like, what is that? I basically told her it was just medicine since I was sick and didn't want to go to the store, so I got it via DoorDash. And she was like, you didn't need to order online. I could have gone to the store quick and picked it up. However, after this, I'm seriously questioning my relationship right now. Not that it matters much, but there's a store about a quarter mile from my house. It's maybe a three, four minute drive. It would have literally taken 15 minutes max to pick it up.

I asked her to do one simple thing and she blew it off for like five hours. This is terrible. I know. So the question is, am I overreacting because I'm rethinking my engagement and potential marriage to this person. I wouldn't marry this person. I mean, when you get married, there are some vows you take. That's right.

Typically, it's in sickness and in health. For better or for worse. And she's not down for the in sickness part. No, not at all. That's a major part. She's only done for the health. Just the health. As long as you're healthy and can get stuff on your own, then it's all good.

Yeah. The second, I have to be inconvenienced. And why didn't you when you were saying? and knew you weren't feeling well, you didn't get it yourself. Also, why didn't you get it at the airport? Well, because the airport is like four or five times more. It's like $500 for a Sprite and...

Literally. What are we talking about? Nah, man. $8 for just a water. It's crazy. It's highway robbery. It's getting insane. No, it's really, really crazy, right?

I wouldn't marry this person. I wouldn't do it. The beauty in this situation is the person is showing you who they really are. And if the person can't show up for you, if a person that you're supposed to be married to, a life partner with, combining finances, potentially having children together, building a home and a family together, and going at life together, then when you're at your worst, when you can't, like, you feel horrible. Nobody likes to be sick. It sucks to be sick. It is the worst. It's the worst.

The worst. Right? Especially when you feel like you also just can't. leave because you've got to be close to a bathroom. Isn't that the worst? Or you got to like when it's coming out both ends sometimes, you got to keep a trash can clothes or like that is the worst. It's embarrassing.

He was vulnerable for her. Like I can do it. I could not and would not marry this woman. And take it from your friend DJX. Don't marry this woman. You're going to be in for a heartache and a terrible life. I am a believer in I'm not married. Like happy wife,

happy life. I'm a big believer in that. Okay. And you're going to be miserable. She's not happy. Because she's not going to be happy when you're sick. No. And I know there is like a common trope because like I literally joked about it.

Yeah. In my wedding vows. And now I'm like, well, I could have been a little nicer. No. It was funny. Everyone laughed and like it's kind of a joke with me and Justin where like sometimes guys will get sick and like the man cold and they take being sick a little. harder than...

Oh, we're big babies. I'll be the first to tell you. Yeah. Men are big babies. And Justin, like, we'll get the same cold. And, like, maybe it hits him differently. But, like, for me, I'm like... I'm like, I'm rocking.

I got to go. Yeah, and he gets taken out. So it's kind of a common, like, trope. I agree with that. And so in my vows, I promise, like, in sickness, even if it's a man cold, like, I will take care of you. But you, but you committed, though. Oh, I'm committed.

You see what I'm saying? I'm committed. And I think that was a fair joke because I, as a guy, I'm willing to say it. We can be big babies when we're sick. Big babies. So in my head, I'm like, okay, well, like, if your partner kind of is like, I don't know, more of the big baby when they're sick,

then I get how you could kind of be like, he's not that sick. But this person is very clearly sick. Yes. To almost pass out at the airport, or well, passed out at the airport, and then almost fainted going up the stairs, they're sick. And let's add this. It's even worse traveling and having to travel when you're sick. Yeah.

It's torturous. I know. To know you have to get on a plane and go through an airport. Oh, my gosh. It's awful. No, I have a friend that got food poisoning on her flight back from London. Oh, on the flight? On the flight.

She had to, like, lay down in the galley with the flight attendants, like, putting ice on her neck. That's the worst. Food poisoning. I've gotten food poisoning, I think, twice. twice in life. And it's the most grueling, excruciating experience. You feel like you're going to die. Uh-huh. Right? And it's just like, imagine getting that on a plane. That and like norovirus on a plane. Oh, norovirus. Oh, norovirus just comes out both ends. Yeah. See, I've had like, I don't know if it's been that virus, but I've had it. Oh, it's, yeah. The worst. It's really bad. So I need the person that I'm

going to spend my life with, even if I'm a big baby when I get a cold or a head cold, and you're, like, tougher. I think women are tougher in general. Let me just say that. Y'all have babies. If men had to have babies, wouldn't be no babies. Nope. I'm telling you that.

No chance. Right. You'll have to knock them up, like, against his will. That's how it happened. God, there's no way. I'm telling you. So I'm telling you right now, women are the tougher of men in the way. women. I have zero issue saying that. But if I'm telling you, I'm not well, can you get this for me?

And you can't do it or you're just like so annoyed with me. And I'm not saying you can't be annoyed inside. Yeah. Keep it inside and still do it. I'm like, why do you want to see your partner suffer? That's right. Like at the end of the day, like he's suffering. Yeah. Dehydrated. Dehydration can lead to really big issues. Yeah. Why do you want to see him suffer? What happened to caring and empathy? Don't you like him? Yeah, it sounds like I don't like you, man.

Don't you at least like him? It sounds like he's an enemy, and she's like, oh, how does it feel now? You would do that for a friend or a roommate? You won't do it for your fiancé? Now I want to like, I'm curious as to just like their dynamic when both are healthy. Like, is he like not helpful when she needs help with stuff? And now the shoes on the other foot. and she's kind of like

being passive, aggressive about it. Like, you don't help me when I say I need help about, you know, with this thing. Yeah. And now that you're down, well, you can wait. Not cool. I am going to see if we have any comments from OPE.

I would love to see comments. So Reddit made this new feature where you can hide your comments now. Can you really? Yeah, and it's really hard for me to find comments from people, but someone, Muse on Spotify left me a comment

and gave me a hack. Come on, Muse. So I'm going to try it. You just search just a blank space. Like, then enter, and I'll pull up posts. Really? Muse, you're so good. Come on, Mewis. Shout out to Mews.

You're so good, Mews. This is why you let comments happen on Spotify, baby. This is why we need comments. So I guess O.P. asked, like, why didn't you, like, get it? Like, what was the issue? And O.P. says, I tried to talk about it. She said she didn't want to be rude to her mom who was staying with us by leaving.

That was her excuse. Put your mom in the car. Say, hey, mom, you want to go for a ride? We'll grab some coffee while we're out. Yeah. And you get it and you make a little errand. Your mom would have loved spending time with you. Absolutely.

Or say, mom, I got to run out. He's sick. And I need to get him some stuff. That's it. She might have had some tips. People were commenting. Why didn't you just go get it yourself? Who are the?

these people. Evil. Evil. And OP's like, I didn't want to shit in my pants and pass out again. Right. As I'm driving a moving vehicle, a 2,000 pound car. Like, come on, man. Yeah, if he's passing out. Like, seriously. It's dangerous. It's dangerous. It really is. And people, like, can we just say this? People die from the flu. That people actually, it's common enough what we don't think about it, but people actually die from it every year. I know. Like a lot of people actually. Yeah. Like, let's not get it twisted. I know. And dehydration is like a really big cause of that.

Yeah. So O.P does say this is the first time I have been vulnerable around her. Like this is the first time I really needed help. When she asked for help, I make it my number one priority. Even from small stuff to whatever, if she asked me to do something, I try to drop everything and do it. This is not the woman for you. Wow. This is not the woman for you.

I know it hurts to hear this. You got to walk away. You do. You got to walk away. She's showing you who she is. She's saying, I don't care about the pain that you're in. Well, and her excuse is just not. It's lame.

Like, I didn't want to be rude to my mom. I didn't want to leave while she was here. I was going to go after she left. But yet, you kept talking. And I get you want to catch up with your mom. But like, ask her to go. Like, for me, I would have been like, hey, mom, like, I'm going to run to the store quick. One, it's 15 minutes.

Hey, mom, I'm going to go to the store. You want to come with. Like, there's two options. He's sick. I need to get some stuff. Come with me. Insane. Insane.

Inexcusable. I know. I know people out there are going to be like, really, to break up, like they're engaged, like to break up over this, it's that serious. It is that serious. And it's better to do it now than later. And I promise you it will come up later. It will.

And it'll be worse. I know. It's going to translate in other areas. Yeah. And when you say to your point about the vows in sickness and health and she says, I do, she's going to be lying. It's going to be lying. Proof is not in the pudding with that one.

Right, exactly. I mean, she's loving you. So don't set it up before I even lie. Just break it off now. You have actual experience with her. You have actual evidence. Walk away.

I know it's not easy. Would you give it one more shot? I mean, being sick with the flu is not a common occurrence typically. Like, would you have a really big heart to heart and give it one more shot? I'm big on talking and big on trying to talk things out. But for me...

There was almost like enough chances in the asking. In the asking and in the situation unfolding, like, why didn't she just take charge? If I get married one day and I'm open to it, I need to feel like the person can hold me down when I'm not at my best. if I can't feel like or if I don't feel like the person can hold me down when I can't do it and we never know what life is going to throw at us, right? Never. You never know what's going to happen.

You never know what's going to happen with your health. I've been blessed with really great health. That's one of the greatest blessings of my life more than. But you never know what's going to happen. You can step off the curb and God forbid, right? And if I feel that she wouldn't be willing to take, take care of me if the absolute worst thing happens. I can't marry her.

And that's how I would feel. Yeah. I would talk to her about it. I'd be so hurt for me. It wouldn't be any coming back from it. I had a close friend. I had a little very minor outpatient surgery one time. I'd tell you what it is.

I had a little cyst on my back. Yeah. And it was like this size. And then it got infected. Oh. And it was so. Painful. Oh, yeah.

And it was sore to the touch. Like, it felt like somebody was putting a match. And it was like right here just under my left shoulder blade. And, like, that's constantly getting bumped and rubbed. Yeah. So even when as dudes like, yo, what's up? Oh. That hand, the dab hand, the other hand, the hug hand.

I can feel it. It was painful. So this thing, like, got painful really fast. Yeah. So it was an outpatient thing. And I was going to be out the same day. And a close friend of mine who I, like, bought groceries for before when she couldn't afford groceries for herself,

paid for her to have like a month-long metro card in between jobs and she couldn't afford. And I'm talking about, I did this home and said in front like, you don't know me anything. Oh my gosh, yeah. You know, she was in need. She was vulnerable. And I said, yep, here, take my car, go to the store, bring my car back.

And get you a 30-day metro card. This same person wouldn't stop by to see me. when I got home one day didn't go and waited in a waiting room another wonderful friend did I walked home from the hospital it's walking distance

yeah but still like the person literally did not stop by they said they went and had dinner with another friend a few blocks away from where I lived at the time we can't be friends yeah not even to stop by before or after the dinner

did not stop dude Oh, Morgan, they didn't stop by to see me that day. When people show you who they are. You got to listen. You got to listen. Tony Morrison. You got to listen, man.

Yeah. Yeah. That's insane. Listen to what she's telling you through her actions and lack thereof. Yeah. Listen. Absolutely. That's crazy.

I know. Top comment. Well, lucky you found out now before you got married. That's what I'm saying. That's what you're saying. You want it now before. Really, that's what's supposed to happen during the engagement, right? Yeah.

I've never been engaged. You've been engaged successfully, I might add. Yeah. You're still, we're not testing. We're evaluating, though. Yeah. Right. It's just like another serious step.

And it's like even more so, like, you know, when you're in that engaged period, depending on what you're doing for your wedding, like a lot of stressful things pop up. Right. Hard conversations. Yes. Establishing boundaries. Yes. It really is this like evolution of your relationship.

And like, can we make it. at this next level. Yes. Because then once you're married, it's another level up. It's like Donkey Con or Mario. It's just like, you're going up through the levels.

It keeps getting harder. And can you make it? And if you're not with the right person, it's going to fall apart. You're going to fall apart. That's right. So you got to make sure you got a good one next to you. I like that.

I like the video game analogy. Yeah, I mean, yeah, it's hard. You don't restart. I love these situations you found. I'm loving these. I know. I've got some more good ones. Let's go.

This next one, I'm really torn between what one I give you. Okay. So I'm going to let you pick because they're somewhat similar, okay? Option number one. My husband frequently jokes about my family. His attitude is rubbing off on our son, and I want it to stop. Wait, family in general or her side of the family? Her side.

Oh. Okay, let's hear the next one. The other option. Or option two, which is also. coming from our Too Hot Takes subreddit. I just heard what my partner's family really thought about me. And I don't think I can be with my partner anymore. I want to start with that one.

Okay. The other one I want to talk about, too. The other one's good, too. Are you want to get in that one too? Okay, we'll do both. Yeah, I want to start with this one, though. Okay, so this is, again, from our very own Too Hot Take subreddit. So this is, there's a good chance.

It's one of our listeners. Okay. And it's eight hours old. Okay, so we want to deal with this. Okay. And get into comments, too. And let us know what you think about what we got to say. I just heard what my partner's family really thought about me,

and I don't think I can be with my partner anymore. Okay. My female 31 partner, female 32, has access to her work. It's a family business. CCTV cameras, which also have audio. It is toxic for her to listen to them, but she does. I have never once heard my name, but this time I did while she was sitting in my car listening to segments of this specific day.

I, of course, got curious and said I wanted to hear what was said. My partner instantly got defensive and said that it's rude to listen and tried to jump out of the car. I grabbed her, pulled her back in, and I insisted that she let me listen. She tried to keep me from listening, but I was not taking no for an answer, as it would just eat me to not know what was said. Right. She then said that I could listen as long as she listened first. Well, she, after listening, really wanted to just sum it up for me.

I insisted I had to hear the whole thing. Finally, she gave in, but was crying and basically begging me not to listen. What I heard was not unexpected, but was eye-opening, to say the least. They said that I am ungrateful for not helping them redo a house that they bought for my partner to live in, but in the past when I did offer input or to help, it wasn't appreciated or wanted. Okay. They think I'm an over-opinionated bitch

who doesn't know when to shut up. That's why. I'm just laughing at the boldness when you hear it. Oh, the audacity. The audacity. Because when they're making disparaging statements towards minority groups or things that are ignorant or along those lines,

I don't stay silent. You're here. Shut out to you. They also stated that they were the reason my son even has a halfway decent life. Damn. Which I don't understand because I live by myself, pay for everything myself. Right. And they just gift him at holidays or when they go on vacations.

Right. The only thing I can think is that it's related to these other statements, and that's the real kicker. They made fun of my upbringing. They made fun of my background and said that I came from nothing, as if just associating with them, has improved my life. Huh. I grew up poor and have had a harder life

than most would own up to. Yeah. I'm a loving person despite this and I'm a hardworking person. I have everything I do because I work 50 plus hours a week. Wow.

I worked my way up to a salaried retail store manager position and do things with integrity. They even accused me of getting close to grandma for seemingly nefarious reasons. What?

Mind you, I love grandma and she's the sweet as two men. There was one time when I was in the middle of my divorce from my ex-husband that they did offer to pay my deposit for my lawyer. It was $3,000 and I didn't know how I was going to pay it. But I was extremely hesitant to take the money because I never want someone to have something to hold over my head. Right. I've never been able to forget that they have done this for me, and it's been six years. I've offered to pay it back. I've tried to pay it back and they won't take a payment. They've even gone so far as to PayPal me back money I've given them. How do I get

past this? I know my partner is going to try and push this under the rug as she always does, but I've blocked everyone's numbers and socials. I just haven't blocked my partner. There can't be a future like this, but I don't think I could forget hearing all of that. They're engaged? They are just partners. Okay. And no mention how long they've specifically been together, but O.P. You know, does mention like divorce six years ago and the family helped pay for it. So they've been in each other's lives for some time.

Yeah. And there was some overlap or at least she was separated from her husband and then they helped pay. It could have been friends before, who knows. Right. That's a great point. Kind of unclear. Great point. Okay.

So what came to mind, this is why I asked if they're engaged. Okay. Because I thought this needs premarital counseling. Counseling. Which everyone should do regardless. Regardless. Therapy, counseling, you need guidance from a professional. And this sounds like it needs counseling.

Now, even if they don't do joint counseling, I think the person who heard all of this, I think she needs, if she doesn't already get therapy, I think this is a good time because whether they stay together or not, I think there are a lot of things from her past and upbringing that she's hurt by and that she's carrying

because it feels like she talks about it a lot because they know a lot about. Yeah. Like a lot of that, right? And she may carry that around a lot, and I think a lot of that needs to be unpacked. So I think first and foremost, she needs to have that

explored for herself, right? Yeah, maybe to heal from. I mean, growing up and having a, like, a harder upbringing and, like, not as fair of a playing field as someone else, like, that does give you a chip on your shoulder. It does. You carry it. And then when people then use it against you, you're like, that wound is reopened. That's right.

And it's right there. It's right there. It's so fresh. So it seems like just reading between the lines, I think we're picking up on some healing that needs to happen within herself first. And until that happens, she won't be able to get past this. I wouldn't. I'm, I have a hard time, like, once the glass is broken, like, you can't put it back together.

I'm the same way, can't unring the bell. And when you hear someone saying such mean, disparaging things about you, I wouldn't be able to forget it. Yeah. Especially people that you have to go celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas together and smile over a turkey. No, you think I'm an over-opinionated bitch who doesn't know when to shut up. You think I'm ungrateful. You think I'm beneath you because I had a different upbringing.

That's crazy. My family was poor. Like, they don't like you. They don't like you. They genuinely, they don't like anything about her. Anything. And then they're about her son. About her son?

So questioning your skills as a mother or how you provide it for your son. These people do not like you. And you're also in with the family when you're in with the person. And that part can make her break a lot. Now, her partner, what's up with the voyeurism on the CCTV? Like she's made her own reality show. Does her family even know she's doing this? I don't know. Let me see if there's any comments from our later.

Yeah, because that, that... That's also another form of self-harm because you're like, are you trying to catch them talking about you and then you accidentally found this? But like, what is this family dynamic? Yeah, like, what do you want to see? It makes me think the family dynamic is really dramatic and, like, maybe toxic because why are you watching that? Yeah, because you don't trust them.

So her partner doesn't trust her own family. And she's watching this would sound like a 10. TV show every day is wild. Now, to me, trust issues there. I know you're looking up the comments in the meantime. But if she doesn't trust her family, is she going to fully trust you? Where does this start and stop? You know what I'm saying? Like, oh, she does it over here, but she won't do it over here. Nah, I don't know about that. I wouldn't trust that. No. It sounds like somebody that goes through your phone. True, which that can be a red flag. Yes. Would you, I guess like looking at this, Clearly family has some issues, maybe toxic.

The partner, you know, the one that's writing in, kind of had that comment at the end that was like, she's going to try to sweep this under the rug like she does everything else. Yeah. That, to me, worried me. That's a lot there. Because I'm like, well, she's not going to have your back then against her family. That's right.

And so in my head, I'm like, I think you could proceed forward with this person if she was willing to make some changes and set boundaries. Absolutely. Maybe go low contact with them. She's got to really reprimand them, though. She has to. She's got to, like, really have a conversation and lay the hammer down and get this little story straight.

Yeah, because it's like, this is what you think of the person I'm with. And it's like, so what happened? What did she say that you didn't like? They got to get to the bottom of that. Because even with the conversation, does that make them like her? Probably not. They'll be more pissed off because they're. came up. This, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, Morgan. This sounds irreparable to me.

Well, there's a comment here from OP too. Okay. To be fair, she wasn't present for this conversation, but these are things that I can say she has heard before. I can guarantee. She didn't seem surprised by their statements, only upset that I was going to hear them straight from their mouths with no filter. You know, I'm going to add something. We got to be careful what we say about our partners to our families and even to our friends. Yeah. We need to protect them. Venting can go wrong.

Yes, because a lot of times we tend to vent about things that we find annoying or frustrating about them where this thing they did that was wrong or at least from your perspective, it was wrong. And now all your family is hearing is negative, negative, negative, negative, negative, negative, negative, negative. And then she comes around the family and then maybe they have a debate about some something and they said something and she challenges them on it. They didn't like that.

Then it's all of this. And you might have set the table for them to view your partner as somebody that doesn't know when to shut up and all this other stuff. A lot of that could have been based on stuff that she said. Because how do they know some of this stuff? Probably because you said it. I think a lot of the details. Yeah.

They're very personal details. Very personal. Yeah. I don't know. I think I'm more on the boat of like there's no way forward with this one. Hit the eject button. Well, especially this comment from O.P. Okay. I swear she gets off on people not liking me. Oh, you got to go. See, I knew it. I knew my spidey sense is never wrong.

What the heck? Yeah, she's bad mouth. So let me say it another way. She's bad mouthing her all the time. That's what this is. she's bad-mouthing her so team partner they're all going to be just not liking her I know and I think O.P. kind of shares here

that like there's a little bit of a fear in breaking up like it's hard being a lesbian in a town where there are 10 of us and they're all my partner's exes but I will not settle for this please don't settle yeah there's somebody for you that will love

you for you and appreciate your upbringing and the struggle that you went through that has made you the hardworking, successful person that you are now and you'll be able to love who you want to love. But there are people out there who will treat you better than this and their families will treat you better than this. Yeah, 100%. And like, they have been together six years. That's in the comments. O.P. also shares things like she's extremely classist and like. Sounds like, I mean, her family sounds classist. Yeah.

Beneath, you know. She most definitely is. I've never, I'm just, I've never in my life just even had the thought passed through my mind of like someone's beneath me. The concept of that is is so crazy. It's nuts. It's, it's pretty sick. I'm like, we're all humans. Yeah, like, we're all humans.

And we have different life circumstances that have happened. Some, we had no say in whatsoever. Yeah. No, I can't imagine. in your head thinking I'm better than someone. Right. Like that to me is like, I'm not better than anyone. No.

I'm one person. I'm just one person given my opinion. I'm not the opinion. No, not at all. I'm like, we got to like, like, we are so much bigger than just ourselves. Oh, absolutely. Couldn't agree more. It's so insane to me.

Yeah. And I couldn't be around and I'm a pretty loving person and accepting person. And I love having conversations with people. who have opposing views in mind, but where I draw the line is when you think you're above another person. How dare you? No, it's gross. It's gross.

She's got to run. You got to run. She's got to run. Run. Yeah, your kid doesn't deserve to be around that type of behavior either. Yeah. All of this family looking at him like, you only have anything because of it. No.

He's got stuff because of his hardworking, driven mom. Yeah. Just weirdos. Molly girl, you're in danger. Run. Get out of there. Get out of Dodge. Why you can't?

Top comment. I think it's time to take a break from this relationship. 1,000%. Bitching in-laws are so pedestrian, but this is so blatant. It takes it to a new level. Why would she let them do this? What payoff is in it for her? Because I don't think it's worth it for you.

I couldn't agree more. And yet, hugs. Big hugs. We love you. We support you. You can do better than this. That I can tell you. You can do bad all by yourself.

This ain't it. No, you got to move forward and hey, maybe, you know, maybe there's a little traveling on your horizon. That's right, because you got to break out of that town. You could. Yeah, she calls it Nowheresville or something in a comment. And I'm like, maybe it's time to dip your toes in a new city. I think so. New city, new dating pool.

New dating pool. That can be fun. Plenty more. Like, yeah, man. That can be fun. That could be a lot of fun. It could be. I think it's time.

It is time. Moving along to this next one. Let's do it. This next one is super, super strange. Okay. I'm still trying to wrap my head around it, okay? All right. So it is titled,

Boyfriend, 24 male, doesn't agree to come to the initiation party with me, 24 female family, also upset about the rules, which doesn't allow couples. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Tell me, initiation for what? I know.

Oh, I didn't say yet. No. This is about to get crazy. Let's bring it. Let's bring it. Let's do it. Let's do it. We have a family tradition for over 40 years. We throw parties regularly with people, but we don't allow significant others to come. Basically, only you attend or your significant other attends, but never together at the same time. The idea is you get to know and build individual relationships.

between everyone. Hmm. You can also only come to four parties consecutively. After that, it's your significant other's turn. Okay. And you won't be invited anymore. Like ever?

Oh, until the, they hit the other person goes to their four. Until your significant other comes to a party. After that, you can attend the next four before needing the significant other to come again. Obviously, single people can attend all of them. When someone begins dating a new person, that person is invited to a party to get to know others

and this will be an initiation into the family. And this is the situation with me and my boyfriend right now. We've been dating for three months. My cousin already talked to him and invited him to come, obviously without me, to the next party so that he can be initiated into the family. The next party is in a week. Boyfriend doesn't want to come.

He's like, I'm out. I don't want to be a part of this. This is weird. It's weird. I'd be out too. This sounds like, did you see that movie? Literally, are you thinking Get Out? No, oh, get out is another one.

This is Get Out level to. But there's another movie and I think the couple is about to get married or. And they're in this big mansion and it's like some game night thing they do. The hide and seek thing? Yeah. And they like, if she survives the morning they get married or something. Yeah. Yeah, they're making a sequel for that, by the way.

I just read that a couple of weeks ago. I've wanted to see that. I'm kind of scared of scary movies, though. It's, it's not scary in a sense of, like, hereditary. Like, it's not Ariasster scary. That movie, I still have nightmares. Yeah, it's haunted. Okay, so it's more of a thriller.

Yeah, it's more of a thriller kind of thing. Like, and it's a little campy. Yeah, this has get out and hide-and-seek. vibes all over it. Like, your partner's never going to be seen again. Her boyfriend is never going. Where's he going? Why has he got to go by himself?

Yes. And then he gets invited on the side. I would be out too. I'm like, no, I'm good. This sounds like murders. I know. Like, what? And they're only three months in.

That's scary. I thought so. I thought about that too. That's too soon. Initiated into the family. Three months. Like literally, initiation into the family. Nah, I'm good.

Why does he need to be? And who's your family? Why are we initiating? Yeah, what, initiating to do what? To go to a party? It's giving cult. It's giving cult. It's giving old, old money.

I mean, yeah, they've been doing this tradition for 40 years. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like, this sounds like, yeah, y'all vampires or something? It could be. This gives me vampire vibes. Something is up here. Yeah. I wouldn't want to go, like, be new to the relationship.

No. I mean, I feel like you don't really. even know your partner at three months, that takes a year. Yes. I don't want to go meet your family alone. Without you? Without you? I don't even know you like that.

Yeah, I would only go to be around your family for you. It's not for me. It's for me. It's for you. I got a family. Like, what? So I don't know. Yeah, that shows they also have like this really elevated, I'm going to say,

inflated view of their family. Yeah. Like, oh, you get to go and I can't go. I'm good. I also wouldn't want to keep going to these parties without my partner. Like, I agree. You want to experience that together, though. But it's like, it's supposed to be like life.

That's right. I hate when people aren't inclusive. I agree. Like, let's just do this together. You know what people have this thing. It's like a dark side of human nature where there's like somebody has to be in and somebody has to be out. I literally was just talking about this other day.

Yeah. The psychology of like the in group versus the out group. Yeah. Yeah. And people just do that. And it's like, people do it in, you know, in workspace. they do it in schools. They do it.

Any place where there are human beings gathering, there has to be an in-group and an out-group. And I was always the kid. Like even in like elementary, high school, I would seek out the people who are like the out-crow. Like people naturally gravitated towards me. So I will always go learn their names and say what's up and just like find something to talk about

and just be cool with everybody because I can't, it pains me to see people. on the outside. No, you are, that was one thing. I was like, last night, I was, like, trying to, like, think about how to, like, describe you in the intro of this. And, like, one way I think of you is, like, you are such a bridge between people and, like, culture and, like, you are a connector.

And so, like, that doesn't surprise me learning that about you. Like, you're just your glue. Like, you're the glue that kind of holds everything together. Thank you for saying that. That means a lot to me because that's who I've always been. And it's really wild. and I'm so appreciative and grateful that my life's work now is being that. Like this is essentially my work to be this bridge and connector between people and culture

and the artists they love. Yeah. You're literally, that's what you do. Like, it's so crazy. It's dope. Thank you for saying that. I appreciate that. That means a lot to me.

Your tires feeling pumped over there? Yes. I feel good. I feel inflated. We told about being inflated. I feel nice. No, it's all so genuine. No, I really appreciate that.

That means a lot to me. This situation, get out. You got to run. Get out. Literally. Right. Because you don't want to be in a sunken place. That movie.

You snap our fingers and then that single tear comes out your eye and the TV. Get out of there. Did you ever see Skeleton Key? I heard it. I know that movie. Wait, wait, wait. Is that, I know who that is Kate Hudson? Kate Hudson.

It's one of her early ones. Yeah. It is, I think one of the movie. of my favorite Kate Hudson movies. And it's so scary. I feel like I saw it when it came. I see like almost anything. Yeah.

I feel like I saw it back in the day, but I'm going to revisit it because I don't remember. I remember it was like down in the bayou kind of thing, this house. But I don't remember the plot specifically. Yeah. It is so good. And I feel like a lot of people when Get Out came out,

they were like, oh, there's a little like maybe inspiration or something. But it's really. It's really good. Okay, I'm going to revisit that. Really good. I'm going to go back and see that again. Kate Hudson's Oscar nominated right now, too. For what?

Song Song Blue. Oh my gosh. Yeah. What is that? It's on, um, who's it supposed to be about, it's Hugh Jackman. Yes. It's the Neil Diamond tribute band based on her true story.

So this is a true story. And this is the movie version of a documentary that was made about this band. That's cool. Yeah. I need to watch it. Yeah. I haven't seen it yet. But I'm going to see Skeleton.

key and then I'm going to see Song Song Blue. I just love her. Everything she's doing lately. Did you see the Netflix show with her, the basketball one? No, I missed that one. It's like her doing comedy, and she is funny. She's the, like, female heir to basically the Lakers, but it's not the Lakers in the show. And she, like, tries to, like, save the empire. I totally miss this. She's so good.

Okay, I'm going to binge that. You got some stuff to get on. Yeah, yeah, I got some stuff to binge that. Yeah, yeah, I got some stuff to binge, okay. So we do have a couple of comments from O.P. I would love to hear. So someone goes, three months is very fresh, completely understandable that he doesn't feel comfortable with this.

Right. Does he even know anyone in your family yet? Yeah. Apart from the cousin who asked him to come. Maybe he will come to one of those parties when you've been together for longer and he knows at least someone. Yeah. And O.P goes, well, he's seen a few people,

but these parties are for this specific reason. For him to get to know everyone. A hard pass. I'm not doing it. Let's just keep it to like the holidays when everyone's together. Yeah, man. Like. See you then. It seems like this family's just planning parties all year too.

Like this is a lot. Well, and like you have to go to four? Like that's so much. Yeah, that means somebody's keeping tabs and somebody has a spreadsheet somewhere. Like, what are we doing? I know. So I think someone does ask about that. So someone goes, this is so odd.

So many rules. Who keeps track of this? Exactly. See? This is where my mind goes. You're on it. You're so tapped in. Yeah, because I'm like, wait, somebody's keeping track of this and... Yeah, we got a Google sheet? Yeah, like, what's going on?

What's going on? What's going on? So OPE responds, we have a book where we record attendance details. Nah, man. They're taking, like, minutes. They're calling roll. Yeah, no. Like, somebody, like, has a, like, a pin and quill, like, the, you know, the pins with literally, yeah, the inkwell.

Yeah, like, writing a calligraphy. No, I'm good. And 40 years of a book. 40 years of this. So this big old book, it's like a scroll they probably write on and like, no, I'm good. He won't come back alive. He will never be seen from or heard from again. And there'll be a dateline episode about what happened to this guy.

Yeah, this is going to be on like surviving this cult. Exactly. It's coming out on Netflix. It's coming out. Yeah, I'm going to call him up. You know what? We're going to be executive producers. This is, I'm down.

I'm down. I'm going to narrate it too. A lot of people start asking, this feels cult like, this made me feel uncomfortable to even read. Exactly. I wouldn't go if I were him. Yeah. And O.P. responds, oh, my God, it's just a party with a lot of drinks and very friendly people. Spooky. I don't buy it. This is spooky. Stay away. Live.

Also, here's another fun rule, O.P. shares. Old people aren't even invited. Once you turn 40, you're out. See what I'm saying? this is some game. What do you mean until you turn 40? Then what? This is, yeah, this is definitely a cult. I'm so scared. Did you see the movie blink twice?

No. The Channing Tatum, Zoe Kravitz wrote it and directed it. This was her directorial debut. I won't give away any details. This is giving blink twice as well. All I'm going to say is they go to some island and get invited to an island. Channing Tatum's like this big tech, Titan, and has all this. money. Oh my gosh. Okay. I saw the trailer for it. Yeah. And he invites people to this island.

Looked really good. This feels blink twice meets get out, meets hide and seek plus skeleton key sprinkled on there. A hundred percent. Last comment I'll read because someone goes, why can't you come after 40? What happens after 40? Exactly. And Opie goes, you grow too old for this. There is a party for 40 plus people too, but that one is simpler. I would hope so. So everybody after 40s somehow survived. Maybe they were the killer that gets to live. Like, that person is going to be a sacrifice. That's what it is.

This person is going to go and they're going to be a human sacrifice to whatever pagan God that they're worshipping at these parties. You know, I was thinking in my head, I was like, is this a little mid-summery? Did you see that one? Yes, I already asked her. That one, I saw that movie. and hereditary, scary as hell, but I loved it.

Mid-summer, I'm a little to see it. I wanted to see it by myself because I couldn't get anybody to go with me. No, because it's really scary. Oh, my God. Right? So I go to see it. That's the first movie, no, not the first. That's one of a handful of movies I walked out. And I said, what was the point of that? Not in the sense of the plot, but it's so creepy and brutal.

And I was just like, I don't, I was like, I'm super confused and scared. And poor Florence Pugh just. Just a crying. And I was like, I can't take this. I said, I will never watch that movie again. I know. So in my head, I was like, is this a little midsummer? Like, maybe they're in Sweden or like, I don't know.

I don't know. I don't know. But it feels that kind of thing. So O.P. shares that they live in Switzerland. See? Which is not. Okay, it's not Sweden. No, no, no.

But it's like over, you know, across the pond from us. Yeah, like. Different culture. Beautiful people. And they have some traditions that. we don't fully understand as Americans and you may not come back alive. I know. Someone does say,

please show him pictures from the event so he knows that he won't be sacrificed. I don't believe they'll... So wait, you can't bring it a person that are going to allow you to take pictures? I know. This is a no-phone event. This is an event they're collecting your phone at the gate.

And there is a gate. This isn't a place that doesn't have a gate. No, there's a security code. There's a security code. There's a gate, a big metal ornate gate that swings open. You know what I mean? Like, it opens really slowly.

Yeah. As it goes. And then you get to come in. So you can't just run out the front door and run on the street. This is a house that you don't want any parts of this. How much would it take for you to go? I can't do it. I want to live.

My life is worth too much. What about you? Is there an amount? Switzerland, I do want to go. Same. You know, maybe first class ticket. Oh, no doubt. Delta one, baby.

As long as I know I'm going to survive for sure, I do it 100K? If I know I'm going to survive. Maybe 50. Give me that 100. Give me the 100. Because there's something creepy going on there. Yeah. Something's up.

It's something you're there. Something's up. Something you don't want to do or even see. I can guarantee you is going down at this function, this event. Yeah, it's going to 100. Something's up. 250 for this one. Okay.

Again, with the guarantee that I live. Yeah. See, if it's not a guarantee, then it'd have to be a lot and it'd have to be in my account for my family. Yes. You know, guaranteed.

Yes. Because otherwise. Because otherwise. Yeah. This is for y'all. Yeah. I'm doing this for y'all. Doing this for you guys.

Love you. Love y'all. Yeah. Tell Justin I love them. Yeah. This is wild. I know. Who are these people?

I would like to. to know. I'm intrigued. I know. We probably have some listeners in Switzerland. Like, if you have a friend, I have a friend who's heard about this family. Please. Please. Let us know if this is like a cultural thing. Yeah. Is there something we're missing? Are we over-dramatizing it? Yeah. You know? Put it in the comments. Put it in the comments. Let us know. I want to know. I know. I'm dying to know. I do want people to also help on this next story because I feel like you're going to have some comments about maybe your own interactions with fans. with famous people because this next one's really fun.

Okay, okay. You know Dolly Parton, right? Yes. Well, like, you know of her? Yes. You honestly knowing you, you probably met her too. No, you were what you saw? I was like, did I meet?

I met her virtually. She just seems like the best lady. She is amazing. Yeah, I met her during a pandemic virtually, and she was fantastic. I interviewed her virtually. Oh, my God. For what?

For our music team, we did this really cool thing during a pandemic. You know, we couldn't all. be together. Yeah. So every single week we had a music team happy hour, I would host it for the team. Yeah. And we would have a special guest drop in.

So it was like, how do I get on these calls? I mean, it was, it was, it was pretty crazy. It was like, it was Dolly is just like. It was Dolly Part and it was Cynthia Revo. Cheer was really big. Remember to show Cheer? Yeah. I think Monica Aldama.

She can't, I mean, but it was like. Yeah. Wow. Like all these like really big, really cool celebrities. That's amazing. Gwen Stefani. So what I would do is I would make breakfast while interviewing the celebrities for the team,

just for their enjoyment and entertainment, just to help us get through the pandemic. I did that every single week for about a year and a half. That is amazing. It was so insane. It was pretty awesome. So Dolly was awesome. I think she's amazing.

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Okay. So this is coming from R slash off my chest. It's people confessing things. And you're going to hear this story and, you know, believe it, don't believe it. Let me know what you guys think about it. Yeah, let us know. So it's titled, I met Dolly Parton one time and she farted in front of me. I'll put this one out.

This is no way. I didn't not expect this to go. Everybody farts, though. Everybody farts. It's a natural human bodily function. Okay, Dolly Parton. This was a long time ago, and every time I tell this story, nobody believes me. Okay.

But here we go. I'm a huge Dolly Parton fan, as I'm sure everybody probably is. Yeah. She's sweet and talented. We were getting autograph signed after a concert one night, and Dolly just straight up, let's one rip. Not a quiet one, but one where it was loud enough for me to hear. I started laughing a little. I couldn't help it.

It was unexpected. She said, sorry, I was holding that in the whole show. I believe this story, by the way. I believe it. I'm telling you right now, I believe it. I started laughing even more. After she did that, she just smiled and jokingly said, What's the matter?

Can't handle a little Tennessee thunder? This is great. I have never laughed so much in my life. After I got my autograph, I walked away. She cracked another joke and said, I'll make sure it's in the key of G next time instead of the key of G's. What in the world? Yeah, she was like on fire after that.

I mean, get Dolly doing stand-up. Yeah, like, come on, man. She was like rattling them off. Off the cuff. Yeah. And that's what OPE goes on to say. To be able to come up with jokes like that on the spot is impressive in itself. Yeah.

I got an experience that most people probably would have paid for. And on top of that, I got jokes with it too. I'm a shame to say that Dolly Parton, farting is my big celebrity meetup moment. But hey, it could have been a lot worse. They say never meet your heroes, but sometimes you'll get an experience that really sticks with you. I like it. Yeah. I love it, actually.

Meeting your heroes can be really scary. It can be. And people can let you down. Yeah. Because how you picture them, remember we talked about it earlier, it's the thing you know them for. So you want them to be that. And when that thing is not necessarily them every day, like my thing is me, right? DJX is me.

There's no separation between what you're here and who I am. That's kind of me too. I'm like, what you see is mostly what you get. A little different, obviously. Well, of course. It's heightened versions of ourselves for the medium. that we're in at that moment. Exactly.

The people you're with. Absolutely. Who you're with changes your energy. Absolutely. It totally can. So this is like been so easy and fun because this is who we are. And this is literally what we do. We talk and we just talk.

We gab. Yeah, we gab and we talk about stuff that's happening in the world and we like have our takes on it. And so the meeting your heroes is very, very tricky. And how you approach them matters too. I know. In this context, I love it because it sounds like she was at a meet and greet after a show. Yeah.

So this is designed for that. Yeah. The person knows what they're there to do. Dolly knows what she's there to do. She's there to sign autographs, probably take a picture. You probably paid. Not probably. You definitely paid extra for it.

It's a win-win. Now the meeting your heroes, now I know people do have, I'm sure people. If you have nightmare stories from meet and greets, put it in the comments, please. Yeah. Put just any like meet up. I'd love to know. Yeah. I run into a lot of people.

at Costco. That's where people find me. It's Costco. Yeah, I was trying out a mattress recently and someone walks by and she's like, I love the show. And I'm like, hi. Thank you. Yeah. Do they ask you to do a particular thing when they meet you or do they feel like you're already friends? So I'm oddly, I'm kind of like you. I get recognized the most from my voice. That makes sense, though. Yeah. It's such an intimate thing. And there's this like connection that's formed there that's just really, really strong. But it's, it's, it's, it's that thing. It's, I'm in Ubers and, you know, I always speak to the driver and, wait, wait a minute. I'm like, yeah. I'm like, yeah, good to meet you. And it's really special. People always want, they always want

hug. They always want to hug. They always tell me how they or their families or the people in their household or their friend group listen to me and interact. And they always want to want to tell me about that. And they always either want to, they always want a selfie or a video. Yeah, they want your voice. Yeah, they want the voice in it. So that I can you do the intro or just say my name or. It's so cool. It's just so amazing. And I again, like we, you especially, I think like really curating to people's moods and what they want to listen to. And I really think it's like you're present during some of the best times. That's right. Some of the hardest times. So it really is just, it's that parisocial where it's like, but I think yours is so much more interesting because

it's like they feel like you know them. I'm telling you. That is so special. That flipping that part around. Insane. My mind is blown. So nobody's ever, ever, ever that I've been in situations where like, it's been a lot of people. Yeah. And they know who I am. And they're all so kind. And they're just so happy. And I'm happy to meet them. People ask me all the time like, does it ever get tiring or old? No, please say hi. Say what's up. If you see me say hi. Yeah. If you see me say hi. Yeah, if you see Morgan, please say hi. She's sweet. I'm telling you this is who she is.

Don't be telling you this up. Don't be weird. I'm shy. No, I'm shy and awkward. So, like, we'll be fine. Like, I'm going to be more awkward than you. Trust me. Trust me.

But I love when people say hi. But say hi. Let her know what you think about the show and how it impacts you and get you through your day. Please do that. Yeah. Same. Same for X. Say what's up.

Say what's up. Like, you know, New York. So the thing with New York is, A lot of people in New York are cool about it because it's a lot of celebrities. You'll walk down the street. Like on the subway. On the subway. You're like,

somebody took a picture of Tom Hanks on the subway. He had a mask on and they recognize him and they, you know. I love his wife. Well, it's funny. I love his wife. It's funny that you mention. Rita. Rita Wilson.

Shout out to Rita Wilson. Shout out Rita. So at our Best New Artist Party. So Spotify has a Best New Artist Party. If you didn't hear about it where we have all the best new artists, nominees perform. you were there. Olivia Dean, tore the house down. Yeah.

The Marias. I love the Maria Somba. Amazing. We're talking about his growth as an artist and a perform. We saw him in Cannes. Alex Warren. Alex Warren, Leon Thomas, just absolutely amazing party. Lola Young, her first performance since she had taken a break from performing. Health stuff. Health stuff. So she came back strong. Addison Ray. Katzai. Cats eye. I think we got them all. I think we got all late. That's impressive. There we go. So I'm at the Best New Artist Party and lo and behold, right next to me,

is Freda Wilson. I love her. So we get into a conversation just about the performances. She was very into the music and she had this amazing sequence dress on and she was just the most lovely person you'd ever want to meet.

So we're just having great conversation. Yeah. And we're talking and at some point she doesn't assume that I know who she is. So she says, hey, I'm really. Rita Wilson. I said, I know who you are. And I say, I'm Xavier, people call me X.

And she goes, because at the Best New Artist's party, I introduce all the artists. Yeah, your voice. Welcome people. So I'm the host of the party. And she goes, I know who you are. I listen to you all that. We listen to you. Yeah.

And I'm like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Tom. Tom and Rita. Listen to DJX. They listen to me. Yeah. It's so wild. It really is.

And it reacts just like everybody else reacts. It's so insane. It's so. And saying, so say hi. Say hi. It's nice. I know. I'm getting better about saying hi to people that I admire too.

I was going to ask you about that. I didn't say hi to Bill, Nye, the science guy. You made, oh, you told me about that. You told me about that. It's like literally I kick myself every day. It's like eating at you, right? Still, so if I see him this year, I say hi to Bill. You have to say hi.

I saw Audrey Nuna. I think it's Nuna. I think that's right. From K-pop Demon Hunters. Yeah. So, so nice. So nice. Yeah, they were there.

So nice. People appreciate it. See, this is why you say hi. You just say hi. Just say hi. This is what I keep in it. This is what I do. I never take on the attitude that I'm too cool to say hi to somebody that has created something or put something out in the world that I appreciate.

Yeah. So I just want them to know. I don't want to hang out. We ain't got to be friends. No, just hey. This hay. And I really love your stuff. your stuff. I love that song or I love. And what I do is, and this makes sense that me being who I am,

I take, I'm usually going to some detail about the thing and how it. And I tell you, when you're sincere and they hear that, I've never once. Now I know now it's like, oh, of course, now you're blah, blah, blah, blah. But even before people knew who I was and before I was a public persona, people will stop and they will be like, thank you. Thank you for saying that. It is life changing. It really is. It inspires people even more for me. It does. Like I said, kind of at the top, like I'm dealing with some burnout, you know? Everyone does.

We need to talk about that. Everyone does. And so when people come up and like, hey, your podcast has helped me do this or changed my life in this way, I literally, I'm like, the zest for life is restored. Because you know it's reaching people. Yeah. And I know. It makes everything worth it. I know when we were hanging out in L.A., we were talking about a particular episode you did.

Yeah. And people got 10. and people found out what was going on in early detection. And it's literally saving. Yeah, colon cancer is like a big thing of mine. Yeah, and it's saving people's lives. I know. I haven't had a chance to do it yet.

But I'm like trying to get better about looking after my health. Yeah. And so I had an appointment the other day. I got scanned and they were worried about cancer. I'm good. But like, I was just like, what the fuck? I'm 32. Like I'm getting to that age where you really need to start looking at your

health and early detection. That's right. And making sure you're on top of it. So breast cancer awareness is October, I believe. Yeah, the whole month, the pink month. Yeah, colon cancer is like March. So just be on it, be on your health. That's right.

For men, prostate cancer is one. It's like, and now it's just like a prick, like a blood. Yeah. And they can tell if like you're potentially in a danger zone. My dad just had a scare. Did he? I mean, everyone you talk to right now is like, who stuff is popping. popping up. That's right. And what I'm doing this year is like I'm getting everything checked out.

Like I obviously stay on top of the dentist and stuff like that. But like I have really good vision. So I hadn't been I had been to the optometrist in my adult life until last week. And then I went, you know, I'm so jealous. I go once a year. So I went, but I was like, well, let me get everything checked out. Maybe I think it's better than it really is. But I just felt comforted knowing like, okay, no, your vision is really good. And you're okay. Come back next year just to check in. But like, you're okay.

And it's just good to know instead of just being like, no, no, I'm good. I feel fine. You don't know what's lurking. And what you never want to happen is for them to say, if you only came by a year ago. I know. Or when you saw that lump, that cyst, what is that? What is it? I know.

Get it checked out. Look after yourselves. But let me tell you, thank you for what you're doing. You're reaching so many people. You're speaking to people. in a way that's relatable and fun. I was like, we're just out here having fun trying to distract ourselves

and take a step back from, like, everyone's got stuff they're dealing with and going through. And like, this has hopefully been a really nice reprieve for you guys. I hope so. Thanks to our amazing co-host over here. Thank you.

It's been a pleasure. This has been so fun. It's been amazing having you. And you've been trying to get me for like nine months. Forever. So thank you for your patience. And thank you.

Seriously, you've been so patient with me. No. I would have waited another two years. Like, it was going to happen. I was coming on the show, and I was dying to get here because I really love you. And I love Justin, and I love what you're doing. Thank you. But you're like doing your thing. You're doing the damn thing.

I'm proud of you. And it feels good to be here. This was fun. This is really good. You crushed it. You're welcome back anytime. Oh, I'm coming back. Hopefully we're going to get some updates on some of these.

Oh, I'm coming back then. Okay. And we're going to talk about burnout outside of the show. I'll talk about burnout. Yeah. I'll give you guys some tips. Yeah, yeah, some tips. Until next time, guys.

Until next time. Bye. Peace. Bye.