Two Hot Takes - 262: Let's Not Meet Again..

Episode Date: April 2, 2026

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Okay, here we go. Let's do it. This is our fourth episode we've recorded together this week. Oh my gosh. Yeah, yeah, because we've had clues. This is in such a full week of recording. We're literally punching this in on a weekend because we're here on a Saturday. We're just getting it done. It's so wild. But we've had some really, really good episodes on Clues this week. I like still, I can't get over the fact that we have a show together still.

I know. It's so fun though. It's so good. I was doing heartsworth surrounding just by myself for so long. And it's nice to talk to another person. I know. But also we're just, I don't know. I think our work ethic is so similar.

and we like the same things and we say no to the same things. So it's just like it's truly such a good match. Two peas in a pod. Two peas in a pod. And now we're sitting here with our little blankets. I know. All cozy. Two hot takes episode.

I will say this, the last one I was on was scary stories, which is so much more my domain. That's where I live. That's where I thrive. So I'm curious to see what you have for me today because. Yeah. Yeah. It's going to be different. It's scary in a different way.

Yes. You're like, it is still scary. It's still scary. It's still scary. But yeah, today's theme. is kind of a let's not meet again. Like, do not come to my house. Do not call me. Do not Pasco. And I do have a couple like spookyish vibes at the end too. So excellent. I'm kind of just giving you everything. I love it. I love it. Let's not meet stories. There is something about them

that is like catnip to me where I know it's bad for me because I have such a body reaction to reading them. Oh, it gave me nightmares last night. I have to read them. I've fully had nightmares. Yeah. Yeah. It's, but it's just like it's popcorn inducing me. Like you just, especially for you, you love a scary movie. I just like to be scared, I think, is what it is. Does anyone else enjoy being scared? Yeah, I'm curious for anyone watching who also loves scary movies and also loves the let's not meet and the creepy pastes and all that stuff. Like, what is wrong with us? But also, yeah, why do we, why do we do it? I read that someone was saying once that people with chaotic childhood sometimes really like, horror because there is kind of comfort in the chaos or comfort in the controlled environment of

like your emotions rising and falling and, you know, your heart is pounding and you're scared and you're sweating, but you know that you're safe because you're in a movie theater and it's just on screen. So I went the opposite way. I had the chaotic crazy childhood and then I was like, please put me in a room that's filled with care bears. Yeah. And now you crave comfort and soft blankets and cozy pillows. I know. I kind of am the opposite way too in the sense that I don't think my childhood was that chaotic. But now I love kind of the chaos and the heightened emotions and the scary and the adrenaline of it all. So I don't know. I don't know. I'm so curious. There's got to be some sort of psycho analysis to all of that. We definitely have some psychologist

in the audience. So please let us know. Please help us. Do we need to do inner child work? What do we need. Yeah. What's going on? For those that don't recognize the voice with me today, we've got Kaelin Moore in the house. Of heart starts pounding. I just had Ron Funches on and he's like, I've watched like 2000s WME wrestling. And now all I want to do is like have a wrestling announcer, like announce all my guests for me. That's really good. We should have like entrance music as we come in. Just play a song. Justin. We'll put them on it. He does all the music for the show. He'll DJ in the corner.

I get comments still about what the intro song says. I don't know you guys. Literally. Is it vocals? It's vocals. It's like a music plugin and he then distorted it. And when you take all of the other plugins off of it and like play it at the speed it's intended, to me it sounds like taking me out. Taking me out.

Yeah. But sometimes I hear that's a big meow. Oh, yeah. To each their own. So maybe it's nothing. Maybe it is something. Yeah. But okay, let's see what I got for you here.

Let's dive in. I'm so excited. Let's do it. This episode is brought to you by Calvin Klein. Euphoria Calvin Klein just dropped. The new elixir collection by Calvin Klein, featuring three perfume intense scents inspired by a unique orchid accord paired with vanilla. Each one has its own distinct attitude, its own universe.

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Yeah, you really do need it. You need it. I think to stay sane, yeah. Oh, okay. So this one is just a couple of days old now. It's titled, My 25 female, boyfriend, 25 male, kept staring at a woman while we were at our baby's checkup. Interesting. All right. Continue. Instantly mad. Yeah. Hey guys. I want to start by apologizing for my English. It's my second language. I literally have no one to talk to about this, and I feel like I'm going insane for feeling this way about this. So me, 25 female, and boyfriend, 25 male, have been together for two years, and I'm currently pregnant with our first baby. I am 27 weeks, and last Tuesday I had my monthly appointment. I was looking forward to it since the last time I saw my baby, he was 600 grams, 1.32 pounds. And this appointment, he was one kilogram,

2.2 pounds. And it was the 4D scan. Anyways, I woke up early, cleaned the house a little, made breakfast, took a shower, and I got ready. I was super excited. I am currently still working, and I made this appointment so we could both be there because we're free. Fast forward. We got to the clinic, and I had to go in first as there was no parking spots available nearby, and I was afraid of being late. When I got seated, there was a woman in front of me who was very beautiful. She looked younger, in shape, short, dressed very nicely. After a few minutes, I see my boyfriend walking in, and he was barely looking at me. He was insistently looking at her while walking towards the seats. And after he got seated next to me,

I could see him just staring at her. I felt sick, like he was comparing me to her. I felt so freaking large and huge and ugly beside her. It just ruined the moment and the appointment for me. And he is such a respectful guy. I've never seen him stare at a woman or say anything about a woman before. I swear to God, in that moment, I felt like he was just like the rest of men and there was nothing special about him anymore. And I feel so bad for feeling like this. He has all the rights to find other people attractive.

But I felt like he betrayed me and our baby in that moment. I tried to brush it off that day because we also went to his parents' house to share. show them pictures with the baby, but when we got home, it was all I kept thinking about. I didn't talk to him about it because I know he will brush it off or say I'm exaggerating, but we also haven't been intimate in a couple of months now. It feels awkward because of the baby, so I kind of get it. He knows something is upsetting me because I've been distant, but he isn't pushing it further, and I don't think I can tell him what it is. I just feel so sad and pathetic for feeling this way, but it's just how I feel about it, and I don't know how to get over it,

or if I should get over it. It isn't like I can escape him now. We got engaged last summer, and we bought an apartment together, and the baby was planned. Now I just feel like I've rushed into it. Has anyone ever gone through something similar? How did you, or how would you handle it? This is taking me back. Oh my God, really? I think this is, okay, I don't know if this was an Am I the asshole? She's absolutely not the asshole for feeling this way. I think most pregnant women, or I would imagine a lot of pregnant women feel this way. Because your body is changing so much. And it's totally out of your control. There's nothing that you can do to make your body the shape you want it to be. And you have to just, I mean, you're basically building a baby from scratch. You have to be eating. You have to be gaining weight.

The doctor wants you to be doing all those things. Also, I mean, you're pregnant. So I don't know. how intimate you're being a lot of couples also stop being intimate. And so that that all really gets into your head too. So I could totally understand where she's like, I just feel like he's not attracted to me anymore. However, I do think it's largely internal for her. I think him maybe looking at a beautiful woman in the doctor's office is not indicative that he is thrown your entire relationship into the garbage. And, you know, he's still at that 27 week appointment doing the 4D scan with you. and I imagine as excited to have this baby. It didn't sound like anything about this was that he wasn't excited to have the baby.

Oh, man. I remember feeling that way too, especially around 27 weeks. You're more than halfway through the pregnancy and your body just really starts slowing down and it starts hurting and you're just retaining so much water and gaining weight faster than you have at any point in the pregnancy. And just like I didn't feel like myself either and I always was self conscious about how other people were perceiving me. And I'm curious what the fear is. Are you scared he's going to leave you? And if so, do you have reason to believe from other behavior he's exhibited in the relationship that he's capable of doing that? Or do you think that this is maybe an internal self-confidence thing that you're just having because your body is changing a lot? I could see it being more so that. I mean, you describe it so well. We're like this rapid weight gain and it's supposed to happen. That's what being pregnant is. Like I'm pretty sure the average weight gain in pregnancy is like 35 pounds. They say 35 pounds and it just like... And that's average. Like, I don't even know if that's average because that feels low.

Like every single person I know has gained more than 35 pounds. I had friends that gained 100. Exactly. Like, there's no right number. Yeah. And your body is going to react so differently. Yeah. Hell, give me all the weight versus me losing teeth.

Like your body is going to do what it needs to do to literally 3D print and grow this life. And there's nothing you can do. Like, I swear the people I know that have been. the sickest in their pregnancy. Throwing up three times a day every day are the ones that gain the most weight. Like your body just knows what it needs to do in this time. So insane. And so you're, you just have to allow it to do what it needs to do to like protect this baby. Did you like, I guess, because I'm curious and I don't, I know everyone when I say this, don't scream at me, don't yell at me. But like obviously your hormones are so out of whack. Well, that too.

And like you can have so much anxiety that's like anxiety as we all know is like so. you don't really have a reason behind anxiety a lot of times. It's just there. It's with you. And it's making you think things that like aren't even real. Yeah, definitely. And so I'm kind of in this and I'm like, you know, maybe he peaked at her. Like, I don't know. I look at everyone in a waiting room. But like, are you kind of getting in your own head and creating something that like wasn't even there? Totally. And like he didn't notice her in the way that you feel he might have. Yeah, but it's something you're so self-conscious about that you're assuming the worst intentions. Yeah. And obviously I don't want to brush your feelings. Like, her feelings are so valid. So valid. But I think we,

I do this myself and I'm not pregnant. I create an issue out of something that like is not even an issue because I have so much anxiety around it. Yeah. So I think like best case forward, it's like you got to talk to him. You got to bring it up. You're clearly feeling disconnected, whether it's a lack of intimacy, your body changing. Talk to him. This is your partner. You're engaged. Yeah. You're having a baby. You're. You're. You're. You're having a baby. You're. You're You've got to be able to have tough, uncomfortable conversations. No, definitely. I mean, where do you fall then?

As somewhat, I experience anxiety. You said you experience anxiety too. At what point, how do you navigate a conversation? I guess I'm just more curious from your perspective. Yeah, how do you navigate a conversation where you are aware that what you're panicked about might be a symptom of your own anxiety? Like sometimes I worry, not that I worry, but sometimes when I'm bringing something up even with my own husband, I'm like, oh, is this even an issue?

Like, does he need to be brought into this with me or is, or should I sit down for a little bit longer and kind of sort through this before I bring it up? Oh my gosh. I struggle with this constantly. I sit with it a little bit. But I try to really then frame it like it's, it is a me thing. And like, I feel. I like, I stick to the eye feels a lot. Yeah. I love an I feel. As the therapist as they suggest. As they say. So I try to be like, you know, like if I was in this scenario, I'd be like, you know, I'm feeling a little insecure. I'm not feeling, you know, the most comfortable in my, in my body. Obviously, I'm 27 weeks pregnant, but I just, I'm feeling a little disconnected from you. And, you know, I'm worried that you don't find me beautiful anymore. And yeah, I just, I'd love to find a way where we can, like, really connect. Connect. Yeah. Like, I'm just feeling a little insecure. It's not about that other woman. Like, it feels like it is, but it really is about you and the lack of connection between your partner. Yeah. She's, she's just.

Like you're mapping all of your worst insecurities onto her because she's pretty. It sounds like she's maybe not pregnant and not going through this same thing that you're going through. Or not showing yet. Or not showing yet. And you're just like, I want to be her. Like I want to be able to walk around as like easily as she walks around and not be showing. Yeah. She's not showing.

And so I get that feeling too, definitely. And also like if you're at like a point in your pregnancy where it's like you're showing but not like, I feel like there's a point where it's like people are like, is she pregnant? Is she not pregnant? Like what's going on? And when you're in that stage, it's kind of like it can be even more kind of like, well, what am I? Like I don't look pregnant. But like you're going to get to a point where a lot of people talk about this on Reddit where they're like, it was so nice not having a suck in anymore. And I could wear that tight dress. And it was clear I had a bump. And totally. It kind of goes both ways. Because I think for me there was also that like mental element of once people could tell. I was pregnant, I knew how visual I was. I knew how much I was obvious to people. Yeah. And that too was also hard because I felt like I was able to hide it for a long time. I carried pretty small. What did it? And I got in my head about being like, I'm so tiny. And then finally one day they see you and they're like, oh, you're pregnant. And you're like, oh my gosh. I can't hide from this anymore. You had a very unsolicited conversation in an elevator that I was like, damn, what did someone say to you in an

where they were like, yeah, I could tell in your face. Oh, yeah. That was, I was like, dude. They were, it was my neighbor. I know she was trying, she's older. I know that she was trying to be so nice. The way she said it, she was like, your face had gained weight immediately. Thanks.

I was like, oh, okay, cool. That's actually not something I was self-conscious about before, but now I'm going to spend all night thinking about that. Thank you. And I don't know. I'm trying to like, in my mind be like, where? was the compliment that she was trying to hide in there, but there wasn't one. I don't think there was one. But yeah, so some people, I don't know. Some people also, I think take pride and being like, oh, I could tell. I knew before anyone.

I just don't want to say anything. And it's not, that's not necessarily a helpful thing to say to people, you know. No. But I think, I mean, this is something that I think probably a lot of people, even when you're not pregnant, I mean, our bodies change so much all the time. I've also gone through periods where I've just gained weight and then lost weight. And there's, I don't know. I feel like this is something probably a lot of people can relate to of maybe just not feeling comfortable and also just worrying that your partner is feeling it to you and is no longer attracted to you, which sucks. It's like the worst feeling. It would suck. And I'm looking at the top comment now. Yeah, I'm curious what people say about this. Yeah. And I'm going to go back and read the sentence over after I read this one just to like, like, I'm like, did I miss something? I'm not sure. So the top comment at this point, it's only got 137 upvotes. It's normal to notice

another person is conventionally attractive. It's not normal to act like a slobbering. dog and stare. How absolutely disrespectful. Yeah, I'm curious, was he being a slobbery dog about it and staring? Did I miss something? After a few minutes, I see my boyfriend walking in and he was barely looking at me. He was insistently looking at her while walking towards the seats. And after he got seated next to me, I could see him staring at her. Wait, okay. Also in my mind, too, I'm like, did he recognize her? Like, maybe he knew her. Did she look like someone he knew? I know. Because I've done that too where I'll like, like, look at someone so much to be like, is that Kara? You know?

Yeah. And it's actually not even related to slobbering over them. You're just trying to place them. Yeah. So actually, no, I am curious about that. If that's, I mean, I guess I'm assuming a lot of intentions on someone that I don't really know. But I'm like, I'm so curious. And obviously, like, this is what we've got.

Yeah. So I'm just trying to also like, I just like I feel like he loves you. Like you're engaged. You're having a baby. Like, so I'm like, I don't think he's got wandering eyes. Are there other comments? I'm curious what the general consensus is on this one. So next one down, only 50 upvotes right now. You really should talk to him now. If you plan on raising a kid with him and or marrying him, you're going to have to start

the practice of uncomfortable conversations now. That for sure. Before baby's arrival. Yeah, 100%. A potential future you struggling with postpartum depression freshly after giving birth will not be properly up to the task, especially if you start hyper-focusing on this with PPD. The growing together part will always include uncomfortable, difficult, sometimes frustrating, or infuriating conversations, along with communicating needs of emotional support, validation,

and reassurance. You could be rushing into things here if you can't even talk to him. I think that's actually a really balanced comment. I like that a lot. Yeah. I like drop. Yeah. I like it? I'm like, okay. No, I think that's smart. It's just like you got to get used to having uncomfortable conversations. Like, just get to the root of what's going on. Yeah. And a lot of people, I do feel bad. Like, I think a lot of people then start kind of hounding on O.P., which I don't think is fair at all. Like, yeah, it sounds like she's going through a lot. Yeah. And like people are like, like, this comment says, it's insanity to have a baby with someone you can't actually talk to. Why can't you communicate how you're feeling?

The relationship is doomed if you don't. They just kind of like go on a tirade, it seems like. Interesting. Yeah, I'm curious. I wonder if people in the comments here are going to agree with that too because I know where she's coming from with the like feeling and maybe not wanting to bring it up because maybe you're reckoning with, oh, is this all in my head?

I know. O.P. does respond to that one. Thank you. I appreciate the time that you took to write this. I'll be honest. I'll have to leave it a couple of days to gather the courage. for this type of conversation. Right now, I just cry thinking about it. And the person does respond to her. I think that's sensible, get some emotional distance between

what happened and how you feel about it. But don't wait too long. Otherwise, that will minimize and dilute the whole thing. I know it's hard, but you have to put some steel in your spine. We are treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated. That's one of the most important lessons I've learned in life. Well, I definitely agree with the we're treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated. Or I guess I hear what they're saying in that comment. Yeah. I know. We don't really have an update on this one.

It's nine days old now upon my refresh. O.P. just kind of says, like, if I discuss it with him right now, I might cry and he wouldn't take me serious enough and would just brush it off as me being pregnant. Okay. Actually, that is a way bigger red flag in my opinion. That's a problem. That actually is a problem if you can't have tough conversations while pregnant because he's just says, well, you're just pregnant.

You're hormonal. You're horrible. I was like, I didn't even want to bring up hormones because I hate when people are like, you're just hormonal. Which is so not fair because you're still a real human being in those hormonal moments with real thoughts and feelings. It almost like, did you feel like you still would have had those feelings? But then maybe the hormones were like just an amplifier of real feelings? 100%.

Okay. 100%. Because I'm like, what did like, did you experience anything where you're like, oh my God, my hormones are so out of whack. Like more so after I gave birth, I would say even at 27 weeks, that's not even really when the hormones ramp up. I think if you're looking at the chart. And I think I started feeling more hormonal after 30 weeks. So this might not even really be hormone driven. Like this could be her. Yeah. Yeah. Just how she's feeling in that moment. And it's not driven by like a big crash or something. Not saying that it's not driven by her anxiety, but like this is still a very valid thing that she's feeling. And if you're. If the entire nine-month period that you're pregnant, you can't say anything to your partner because

they brush it off as you just being pregnant, then I think that is a bigger problem in general. I'm going to take out this little red flag. Yeah, we're waving the red flag. Yeah, that I think is probably the bigger issue. Well, there's another comment here too that says we don't usually talk about our problems. I guess it's been a minute since we had a heart-to-heart conversation. I'll gather the courage to talk to him. You've got to talk about your problems. Well, yeah. And not to be, because I always hate when people are like, well, wait until the baby gets here. It's going to get worse. Things will be complicated in a different way after the baby gets here. I'll just say that. It's going to be a lot of new things that you're going through, things that you haven't experienced before. That is really the time

where your communication has to be on lock. You have to. It's so important. I mean, you want to be with someone who understands you and gives you the time and here's your feeling. Here's your feelings and makes you feel validated. Like if every time I went to Justin and was just saying like, I feel sad that, you know, you didn't come back home right away after work or like whatever problem I can come up with in my head. Like if when I told him how I felt, I was met with, ah, that's not real. I had to do this.

Like excuses, excuses or like brushing off my feelings. I'm going to feel horrible in that relationship. Yeah. Like you have to have to open up. And this is still new. You guys have been together for only two years. Yeah. Like it took me five years to really be able to set good boundaries.

And everyone goes on their own timeline. Yeah. But now you're here. You're having a baby. Things will get harder. Get this going now. I would also add to, I mean, I could talk about all of this stuff forever. You know?

Learn so much just from this experience. But pregnancy is inherently an imbalance of work in a relationship. One person is using all of their blood and bone and vitamins and minerals and everything in their body to build a human from scratch. And the other person just isn't doing that. And so you want to feel as like the pregnant part of the relationship that the other person is still putting in work in other ways to prove that just to balance out, whether it's that they're making more meals for you or that they're in charge of ordering all of

the whatever that you need or going out and running all the errands. The power balance just changes so much or like the balance of work, I guess, changes so much. So I would be curious in this relationship if he's putting in the work because if he also isn't having any tough conversations with you and you're the one carrying the child, changing your diet, changing everything about your life to like make sure that you are carrying this child, that is also a big problem. Huge. I completely agree. I'm so glad you said that because. if your partner is like not participating in any big way like I would I personally would feel so much resentment you just want to feel like they're working as hard as you're working and every day

feels like you ran a marathon so the other person has to put in a lot of work no my nightmare not necessarily but but it is like yeah it's a lot exhausting yeah to do you're I mean your body's doing so much it's doing so much I just saw this TikTok from someone and she was like how did I know I was pregnant and then if you swiped, it went to a video of her husband like throwing up. And I went down the rabbit hole things to the comments on that about, I'm probably going to butcher the pronunciation, but kuvade syndrome or sympathetic pregnancy. Oh, interesting. And this is like a real phenomenon, apparently driven by hormonal changes and empathy that affects 10 to 65% of partners. And like, Literally people were commenting and they're like, yeah, my husband had morning sickness the whole time.

I never had it once. The whole pregnancy. What? Like, I've not heard of this. Literally people were like, my husband got so bloated. He looked more pregnant than me. Wow. I've heard of like sympathy symptoms, I guess, from pregnancy. But I thought it was more just they're also moody and thinking that they're hormonal or something. But not the actual physical symptoms. No physical symptoms. Nausea, vomiting, waking, fatigue and a variety of. of others. I could not get over. I fell down that rabbit hole so hard. Whoa. So hard. That's really wild. So wild. But okay, moving on to this next one. Okay, this one is coming from our slash dating advice. A couple days old titled, He Said He Says He Gives His Mom Backrubs Every Night. Let's do it. So I went on a third date with a guy, male 29, and we were on the topic of me buying a home. He tells me that he has no desire to

move out and lives with his mom. He smokes weed with her all the time and does bong rips with her on the weekend. He then tells me he pays little rent and it covers the groceries she buys him and then he blurts out, I give her back rubs every night. Is this something normal to say on a third date with pretty much no context? Just contextless. Just brings it up. No. Uh. Run. Yeah, I always worry when people are too dependent on their parents and are also trying to enter a relationship. Like, are you just looking for another parent? Yeah. You know, like you have this really special mommy connection that is, you know, a boy mom thing, as they say now.

But like, ugh. Even aside from the back massages, just everything about that situation, just being that. We do bong rips on the weekend. I smoke weed with my mom every night. She doesn't make me pay rent or she doesn't make me pay a lot of rent. I pay a little rent, but then she takes the money and buys my groceries. Yeah, no. Because they just are going to want that from you.

And he's 29. He's 29? 29. Pushing 30. It's time to go grocery shop yourself? It's time to grocery shop for yourself. There's no way he's doing his own laundry. No chance.

Ugh. Did you ever date anyone like that? No. I'm trying to think. Yes. you did. Yeah, I feel like there were a few guys maybe that I dated that you could tell. I mean, this was, I met my husband when I was 26. So this was definitely early 20. So the guys were a little bit younger where they just had someone do something for them for their whole lives until this point. Like a place you could drive and your laundry would get done. Like you could take your laundry to your mom's house and she would just do it for you and fold it. So you just didn't have to learn that skill. Which sounds great. But like you should still know how to do it. Yeah, you should definitely still know how to do your own laundry. Also, it's so much work packing it up, putting in your car, driving it somewhere. I know. When you just do it yourself. I know. Yeah. Yeah. Unfortunately, I mean, it's like Sabrina Carpenter's entire repertoire, right? That's like what she sings about in all of her songs. I think everyone's like experienced people like this. Yeah. What did the comment say? Top comment. Guy here, not normal. Kind of Norman Bates-esque. Yeah. It is. Next comment down.

Why'd you have to say that? Now I just imagined this dude lighting up with the corpse of his mother and then giving it a back rub. Yeah, it is that like obsessive. Yeah. Someone goes, giving a family member a back rub doesn't mean a psychotic abusive relationship is at hand. Once again, I have to ask, what the fuck is wrong with people on this sub? I mean, I still have my mom. Like, if I go home and visit and I'm like sitting on the couch watching a movie with my mom,

I'm kind of like, can you rub my feet? Yeah, or like scratch my scalp. Yeah. Can you just play with my hair? I'm like, that's fine. But like, I feel like giving your mom a back rub every night. Like if Justin's that, I would find it weird. Yeah, I think so too.

I think so too. Yeah. Again, it's not even just like the back rub. Who knows if there's anything like inherently weird about that, like with their relationship. But just everything about how close he is to his mother at 29 years old and not wanting to. he never wants to move out. Yeah, that's the thing. Never?

Never wanting to move on with your life. Because obviously you can't be in a relationship with someone like that. Like if someone tells you, I can't ever move out of my mom's house because I just enjoy living with her. Are you going to, you're not going to marry that person. You're not going to have kids with that person. What are you going to do? So I'd say, I'm glad that he brought that up that early three dates in. So at least you know and you can run.

And you can run. But I would say that's the only option here is to run. Yeah. Never made again. Bye. No, bye. Only third date. Get out of there.

Yeah, not that much time wasted. That's okay. You're good. But just don't give him any more time. Don't go back. No. Mm-mm. Okay, moving on to this next one.

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packing on the 21st. Oh, you wanted me to stay? He said, correctly interpreting my facial expression. I stood silent, and then I said, no, you can go. He smiled sheepishly. My work colleague, unmarried older lady, suggested that we could do something together, and I spent Christmas with her. I don't remember the last time I was this happy during the holidays. I don't have a family and my husbands was the only one that I knew. And for the past 15 years, I've endured my passive-aggressive alcoholic father-in-law, my pretentious mother-in-law and golden child sister-in-law who peaked in high school and married the jock. I slept in, stayed in, ate whatever I wanted without anyone commenting on my body.

There were no rants about how some minorities ruined it for the rest. Quote, but of course you're one of the good ones. And the latest, quote, I don't think your baby will have blue eyes. Like I really cared or didn't understand basic biology. I didn't miss having to wake up at 7 a.m. And if you literally missed meal hours, you needed to wait for the next meal because it is disrespectful not to be on time. I didn't miss being forced to cook weird food from my home country so they can sniff and wrinkle their noses and call it interesting. Most of all, I didn't have

my husband by my side being anxious the entire stay, not wanting to rock the boat, trying to soften the blows and explain that they didn't really mean any of it. When he got home, he was anxious, and me, being very happy, as opposed to the usual crying all the way home from his parents, made him even more anxious. I told him that I was fine and that I had a great time. He's panicking. He apologized and said that in hindsight, maybe he should have stayed home with me instead, but then he wouldn't have celebrated Christmas with his family, and they would definitely have been disappointed. I said nothing, just looked at his anxious face, probably with a frown that made him even more anxious. Everything is fine, I said again. Now, I guess I understand why he is panicking, because why have I let this go on for so long?

My colleague is also a lonely woman with no family, but she is so much happier than I have been in many years. I have been thinking about this newfound freedom in loneliness since Christmas, and I guess my husband is sensing it. Whoa. What a nightmare. What a nightmare family to deal with that for 15 years. Oh my God. Fifteen years of that. You have the strength and mental composure of I don't even know. Like Mother Teresa. I know. And actually that you bring that up made me feel a little bit better because I was like, oh, it's very sad to have that realization when you're five months pregnant because you're about to have a child. And you absolutely shouldn't be with this person, first and foremost, and not anywhere near

this family. That's horrible. But it kind of breaks my heart a little bit that she might go through motherhood alone. But it does sound like she's a strong person. Oh my God. So strong. Yeah. And honestly, like, because my mom had three kids with three different dads.

And each one was like, they're not great, you guys. They're not great. And so she kind of went through this where, like, my bio-dad, I don't even think he was at the hospital. Should I ask her that. Oh, my God. Really? Yeah, he wasn't there, which was kind of a blessing. But because he wasn't involved, my mom let my dad, Jerry, like, step up to the plate.

Like, they were friends. Yeah. And then he was there for her. Like, they were kind of dating on and off, kind of messy. But then, like, because my bio-dad wasn't really in the picture when I was a baby, Jerry, like he was my dad. I started calling him dad. And then my mom was like, well, what should we do about this? And he's like, no, I'm dad. And then he stepped up. Wow. So when you kind of create more space for other people, that's a really good point. Like, you find these other blessings that like,

you don't even, you might not even realize are out there. And every single day, I'm like, thank God that happened that way. Because that's so beautiful. It's such, like, I'm here, I'm literally here because of him in like a lot of different ways but like it just like I can't imagine not having him as my dad and this family like this baby

by the sounds of it does have a mixed ethnicity they're saying these comments to you I don't know if your baby's gonna have blue eyes I know that's why you just don't want the baby to be raised around that hell no that bullshit no and like

them checking the baby to see how white it is, which is what I imagine that they're trying to do. Yeah. So it's just like, no, you don't want the kid around that. That's horrible. No, that's really sad. But it's amazing that like you and your mom are so supported in that time anyways because I know it's scary. A lot of women won't leave their husbands during this time because it's so scary to be like, am I going to have to go through this whole journey alone? Yeah. Oh, that would be, it would be terrifying. Is all the responsibility going to fall on me? That's so sad. Yeah. But yeah, like you said when you let that person go, you might actually open up space for someone better to come help you and support you. Absolutely. I know.

And like, honestly, I would feel really angry at my partner. Like I saw your face when it was like he just started packing to go without her. Well, first of all, wait, how old was the kid at the beginning? Because that, we just started at a hundred. So there's no mention how old anyone in this is. But they've, they've been together for 15 years at the time of writing. this, which is about 23 days ago now, O.P. was five months pregnant. So she wrote this February 20th, five months pregnant. So at Christmas time would have been about three months pregnant. Yeah, three months pregnant. And when she announced that she was pregnant, the nephew punched her. Nephew punched me hard in the stomach. The fact that you weren't supported by your

partner during that. He didn't cut off contact with everyone that was not appalled by that. And they said it was a phase? It's a phase. How old, we don't know how old this nephew is. Do you, do kids have where they punch adults? Like with all their might and then you just like accept it and say that it's a phase. That is really upsetting to me.

I mean, it's insane that the mother-in-law was like, yeah, he's still going through that phase where he might punch you in the stomach. Yeah, he might be upset and try to end your pregnancy for you. So you should stay home. Not we'll have her over in the morning and then you guys can come in the afternoon. Not like, oh, we'll split time or hey, daughter, love you. But, you know, maybe you celebrate just your family. Yeah, your punching child can't come to my house. What about that? Or even easier. Hubby, you stay home. I'm your family. Am I not your family? No, I'm your family. And also like, we're not your family. And also, like, we're about to have a child together and that's your family. And if you can't even stay home for this, like, what's going to happen?

Like, what? In the future. No, that's horrible. The fact that he said, he apologized and he should have maybe stayed home in hindsight, but then he would not have celebrated Christmas with his family. And they would have definitely been disappointed. Who cares? No, I'm your family.

Like, that's the thing that, like, you would have celebrated with your family because you would have been home with your wife, with your pregnant wife. What am I? Who is your family? What am I? Chop liver. Like, that's insane. What am I? I. I'm trying to look and see if there's any other comments. Yeah, I'm like, what are the people saying? O.P. Or what's O.P. saying? I know. A couple comments from O.P. I know for a fact, I'm never spending another Christmas with them ever again. At least not like my husband wants, which is basically the 21st slash 22nd through the 29th.

He was gone for a week? Oh, really? When you're three months pregnant, he takes off for a week to spend time with his family. No. Nephew is six years old. It's definitely like the adults are all also at fault too for not. Six. Yeah. Correct that behavior.

Uh-huh. There's a comment here that's just so sad. O.P. says, I'm more lonely when I'm with his family than alone. I bet. I rarely feel lonely when I'm alone. then I think you're going to be better off alone. I think you're going to have a really much better time just being like actually alone. O. P says, I will admit, I've never been good with talking about feelings, but I need to be better with my baby on the way.

Yeah. And that's like literally the first story too. It's like you just got to talk about how you feel. I know. I know. You're never going to trust your child if they go over to that family's house because if the six year old already punched you, I would. would always be paranoid that the six-year-old was going to really, really hurt my baby. Yeah. And I would never, ever want my kid alone. But it sounds like the whole family's prioritizing that kid.

There is a comment here, and it's only got 12 upvotes, but O.P. does respond to it. Your husband seems traumatized by his own family, constantly anxious to be put in the middle and having difficulties navigating the situation and being fully on your side. Was he the mediator of the family? Does he show people-pleasing tendencies? I think he is very scared you will leave him, and you are probably the only good thing he has. The others are his toxic family that he cannot shake. You guys should talk openly. Definitely low to no contact with the family if your family is to have any chance of a chance to a happy future. He should get therapy to loosen the ammeshment with his family. And if he is open and not resisting, I also think you might be better off on your own. Good luck to you both.

And meshment's a good word. I think that is the word for it. He's clearly like too enmeshed in his family. I mean, the undying loyalty, even when they say and do horrible things, kind of fits into that. But O.P. does respond and says, he is the black sheep of the family for sure. That's why I've been patient and understanding, because I know the feeling of neglect and not being someone's priority. But my patience is running out fast with the pace of the arrival of my baby. I suddenly have more important matters to be understanding of. My baby has not chosen to be born. I feel already a lot of pain for them. Yeah. I will be honest, I've been contemplating leaving my marriage, even though I love my husband very deeply, especially after I realized how good it felt to spend the holidays on my own terms.

But then I thought divorce means I have no control over my child's exposure to his extended family. I can't have that on my conscience. I can't have them have access to my child whenever it is time for his custody, I believe that stain is my best option, especially since I have lots of love for the father of my child. And I guess he loves me too in his own way. That's got to be so scary as a parent. If you're splitting custody, I have a friend who's going through this right now. When you're splitting custody and you just send the kid, your baby, your everything into whatever chaos is happening at the other parent's place or the other family's place. Yeah. No control over that because it's not your designated time. So I feel like I do understand that thought process of her of like,

well, I don't want to drop my child off at this family's and they can just say whatever or do whatever or that six year old can just be around, punch in him. Like, yeah, that is also really horrifying and really scary. And it's a very real fear. It happens. It does. Like I went through it. I'd get dropped off at my biodad's place and alcohol was involved and I'd get screamed at, like chased. Like, like, Jerry. he's not your real dad. Like it, I mean, I like, I like, I relate so much. So it's like, yeah. That is absolutely a real valid fear, a hundred percent. And I think it is a lot of times why people are like, you know, I'm in this until my kid's 18. And then after that, they're an adult.

They choose where they live and who they can see. And but maybe I have more control if we're together because I can be the one with the final say. But if we're apart and I just send them with my, how often were you your dad your bio dads it kind of depended like early on my mom would really like try to make it work and like wanted me to have a relationship yeah and so he was close when I was baby and then moved further away as I was like five to 10 and so I'd go do weekends down there and it just got to a point where it's like I would cry every time I had to go I didn't want to go I was stressed I was it was just like horrible so then she was like didn't force it and And then it was like birthdays and Christmas, which was, it was great.

Going through high school, like you obviously, I think I had like a big abandonment wound and like a lot of issues and then like I had a little sister and I was like, why is he a good dad for her and not for me? So like you're still a kid. You'll still go through those very normal things. But in the long term, now 2020, like being passed in having all this hindsight, I'm like so thankful that it did go the way it did versus 50-50 split custody. Yeah, yeah.

How long do you think it took you to kind of come to terms with the way that it all went down? I honestly don't think I did until like recent years. Like maybe I'd be curious to like listen to old episodes of me talking about stuff on the podcast and like what like angle I take to address similar stories that I can relate to. But I honestly think especially in the past like three years and like when I was wedding. planning and like realizing like something big like who do I want to walk me down the aisle and who deserves that honor and like I would say honestly like that really helped kind of facilitate a lot of thought and like processing of things too yeah yeah but yeah recent years at least in the

last five it's so I'm 32 like I know I mean it's the shit sticks with you it's definitely something I think about a lot now having a kid is oh my gosh these things really do stick with people their entire lives. Yeah. And it's just like it's so crazy. It's like and what you remember too based on like the stress of a moment or how crazy it was. And it's like, oh, I had to remember that. But I don't I don't remember getting in my puppy. Like, you know what I mean? Don't they say that too about like most things in life you remember the most stressful or like the most emotional parts. That's kind of when your brain locks in and forms core memories. So it's unfortunate that the more stressful things are the ones that form us as people.

than maybe the more happy ones. I know. Yeah. It's crazy. Wow. But couldn't like, wouldn't change a thing. Here I am. You know, it all led me to this.

It gives me like experience to have. But I'm like for this person, I'm like, I do 100% see where they're coming from. And I think they've got a really good head on their shoulder. Well, it sounds like it. To where they'll figure it out. They're very aware of themselves. They know that they're happier not being with that family. They know they're happier when they're alone.

Yeah. just trust yourself in this situation. Trust yourself. And there's, you know, there's almost 9,000 upvotes on this right now, 8.7K. And OP does respond to quite a few comments. Like, when the baby is born, start your own tradition of just the three of you for Christmas. Sounds like your husband could do with a break too. What's his family going to do? Be even more fucking awful. They're already there. Yeah. And OP is like definitely the best suggestion I've gotten here from many. That's what's going to happen. Yeah, that there's maybe a path forward with the three of them as a family. He's got to get on board. But he doesn't. Definitely like in measurement therapy for sure. Yeah, absolutely.

But yeah, I mean, I kind of read what O.P. responded to. Someone does comment, the kid punching pregnant women. Yes. Question mark. I can get over that. And someone responds down, it's a phase. It's a phase. The homicidal psycho phase. Yeah. Yes. Yes. Oh, my. He's in his homicidal phase. It'll pass by seven. Like what? Someone responds, I've heard of a biting phase, but never in my life have I heard of a kid with a punch everyone in the breadbasket as hard as you can phase. Maybe the kid should stay home. Well, also, I mean, just as someone who I have personal experience, I guess, with someone that I know whose younger brother was always told it was a phase. It was a phase. And then the older he got and the

bigger he got and the stronger he got, this was definitely not a phase. This was who he was as a person, but because all of his behavior was explained away and forgiven as a child, he never got the actual help that he needed. Damn. And that can have really disastrous consequences as well. That's a really good point. Also, the biting phase. Like, that is crazy that that's a phase. Yeah, and the hitting, just like the hitting in the face phase. Oh. The toddlers do. What do you do with the biting phase? Oh, if they bite you? I've seen a Reddit post where this person had a nephew.

I haven't read it yet on the pod. Maybe I should whip it out someday. Yeah. But they were like, I put hot sauce on my arm because my little cousin wouldn't stop biting me and the family was doing nothing about it. Yeah. So I put hot sauce on my arm. I would say like if you're the one being bitten and it's not your kid and you don't

want them to bite you anymore, that's totally fine because the hot sauce isn't going to kill them and it's definitely going to have a negative association with biting my cousin. I'm like what? I need to know because I'm like, you just like, you don't know what you're going to do when you're a parent. Like, do the books talk about biting? Do they talk about the biting? The books talk about. Do they get there?

We read a lot of books. They kind of do. I guess they talk about ways to discipline your children. And they all say something different. It's so impossible to know what the right thing to do. Crazy too. I'm just going to when we get to that phase because my baby's nine weeks old so he doesn't do anything. He's a little marshmallow.

And you can't be disciplined because babies. don't understand anything and they're perfect. But I'm just going to have to read a bunch of studies and be like what is actually effective. That's the least damaging. What is the least damaging most effective way to deal with this in a way that also like nips the behavior? Yeah. It's something me and my older brother have talked about a lot because like we grew up with a style of discipline that is frowned upon these days. Of course. I think a lot of people have that experience.

We got spanked. And so like he does not spank his kids. He's very like, just. parental parenting vibes. And so it's been really cool to like watch how like he's just gone the total opposite direction. And it's worked pretty well. His kids are good. I love that. I love that. Yes. You can have like good outcomes with a bunch of different ways of dealing with children. Absolutely. Also every kid is just different. I know. But if you're a parent out there and your kid was a biter, went through the biting face. Oh yeah. What did you do? Please let us know. I was a biter. Were you? I was a bit my mom. I was a bit my mom. because I would get really excited.

And so my mom came home from work one day and I bit my mom. You just ran up and chomped her? She picked me up and I bit her on her shoulder. And it hurt her. Because I was probably like three or four. Like I was getting strong. Yeah. And I remember she put me down.

Like immediately it was like stone face put me down, turned around. And then my dad came and scooped me up and brought me upstairs and like how to like, I remember sitting on the bed and him being like, we don't bite. Oh my God. This isn't going to happen again. See, I didn't. go through the biting phase, I went through the phase of like, I would go in the fridge and take sticks of butter out of the fridge. I'd bite the butter. I remember a vivid image of like trying to

eat a napkin once. Oh my gosh. I would take the cat and I would go behind the couch and give her haircuts. How about are we talking? Oh, she was hacked. Hacked. Hacked up. Little sweetheart. Her name sweetheart. She was not looking cute. How did they get you to stop or was it a phase? Did you just have to grow out of it? Don't remember. I'm going to have to ask. Yeah, I'm curious. Like, why did I stop giving the cat haircuts? She ran out of hair to cut. I don't know.

Yeah, yeah, right, right. Like, I moved on to destroy other things in the house. I'm like, I don't know. I went outside more. They put me outside. Oh, kids, man. I know. I know.

It's just, yeah, you just never know how you're going to actually have to deal with them. You never know. But moving on to these ones, we're starting to get a little into the scarier side of things. Ooh, okay. I'm excited. This is coming from our slash relationship advice. it is 12 days old, titled, I genuinely think my husband is a psychopath.

Whoa. Hi, everyone. Please, I need help. I'm a 35 female and my husband is 36 male. We've been married for 10 years and have two boys, seven and five. I honestly don't know what to think anymore. About three months ago, my husband started sending me really nasty messages while he was at work. At first, it was just mean comments, stuff like telling me I'm lazy, that I'm a terrible mother, that he regrets marrying me.

It was completely out of nowhere. The weird part is that when he would come home from work, he would act completely normal. Like nothing happened. He would kiss me, ask me what's for dinner, play with the kids. The first time it happened, I thought maybe he was having a bad day at work. But the messages kept coming. Sometimes he would send them during the day, sometimes late at night if he was working overtime. They got worse, too, saying things like I'm useless, that I'm lucky he hasn't left me yet, that no one else would want me.

The first few times I confronted him, he acted confused, like genuinely confused. He would say things like, what messages? Or, you must be misunderstanding something. I literally showed him the text on my phone, and he just stared at them and said he didn't send them, claiming that he lost his phone, which he did, but he had a new one and was still texting and calling from that number. I know it sounds ridiculous, but he didn't look guilty. He looked confused, almost scared. I thought maybe he was gaslighting me, but it was such a weird way to do it because he never got angry in person. Finally, about a month ago, I snapped.

I showed him a bunch of the messages at once and told him, I couldn't keep living like this. I told him if he hated me so much, he should just say it to my face. He kept insisting. He didn't send them and said maybe that someone was messing with us. At that point, I was done. I packed my clothes, grabbed the kids, and went to stay with my parents who live in the same city. They were amazing and helped so much, and I never felt luckier to have close family. Since then, the messages have continued, same number, same horrible tone, things like

running to mommy's house just proves my point. You're pathetic. You'll come crawling back eventually. I sent him screenshots back to the same number, and he still swore again that he wasn't sending them. He was just saying that he lost his phone at work and he had to get a replacement, but he still had the same number. And when he would show me his phone, I didn't see the messages. I just thought he was deleting them, though. He said someone must have found the phone and was messaging me. Last week, though, I let the kids stay with him for a couple of weeks, since he's still their dad and they miss him. He's still denying everything, says he never sent those messages and that he thinks someone is still using his old phone. Meanwhile, the text haven't stopped. At this point,

I don't even know what to believe anymore. Either he's lying in my face or something really weird is going on. Has anyone ever dealt with something similar? I feel like I'm going insane and I don't know what to believe. We genuinely had the most perfect relationship before all of this. I don't know what to do. I'm scared I'm breaking my family apart for no good reason. But some of the texts have been so horrible, I can't even include them on here.

This is like horror movies. level stuff. Insane. This is something that would break me a little bit of I don't know what's real or what's not real, but I think you need to get down to a T-Mobile store immediately and ask them what's going on with the phones. Like, is this even possible? I think that would be my first reaction would to be like, is this even possible?

Like, if you did lose your phone. Yeah. Can someone be texting me on, I don't know if like she's being texted on WhatsApp or if it's like the iPhone messages or what, but I would really need clarity on what is even possible. Yeah, because with I message, you can be logged in from multiple different devices and it will still show from the number. Like, I text on my computer and it still just shows normal. Could be on the computer. Someone could have found that phone.

It's interesting, like, because like with iPhone, you can lock the phone as like lost or stolen. I'm sure with Android and other devices, you can do the same thing. so why didn't he lock it? Like you can even like, I can like remotely wipe my phone that I lost. Like, yeah, there's other things. Did he not do that? Did he not go to the genius bar and have them shut down the other phone properly? Or like, why?

Did you just buy a new phone on the internet or something? Yeah. Or like even for him, it's like, your wife is coming to you being like, why are you sending me this stuff? She's being harassed. She's being harassed. This is really serious. Why aren't you going and being like, I need to change my number? Maybe.

I need to do something. I, did you watch the catfish document? the like unknown number catfish Netflix documentary? Yes, you did. You must have about the teenage girl that's getting all the text messages. You talked to me about it, but I never watched it. Oh my gosh. Morgan, you have to watch the things I ask you to watch. No. You give me so many. I don't know how you find the time to watch all this stuff. I'm just like constantly like turning through documentaries. If you want reviews and like people talking about the most up to date insane documentaries from cruise ship murders to catfish things, go follow Kaylin on Instagram. Like you're, on it. You are just, it's your job. You're on it. Yeah, I do love a shocking documentary. So I don't even want to say too much about this because it is really wild what they figure out. But the top comment mentions it. Yes, that's what I'm saying. Like it just immediately struck that note or like that cord in my brain. But I won't spoil it anything. But the premise is that this teen girl does start getting a lot of really scary messages. And everyone in her life is really trying to figure out what's going on.

But the fact that the husband is just like, I don't know, it wasn't me. And then kind of ignores it is also concerning to me because this is real harassment. Clearly she's feeling like she's going insane or she doesn't know what to trust. That can really, really psychologically damage a person. And also she left the house to go stay where out of sisters. With her parents. Yeah. Family.

So like, as a partner and someone's going through that, if that truly is not you and someone's using your identity to send these hateful messages to your wife. like you got to help or figure it out. Like I would want to clear my name. I know exactly, which kind of makes me wonder if he is doing it. That's why I'm like what the, like I would want to clear my name. Like this is not me. Like if someone was sending crazy stuff to anyone, my partner, my friends, I would, I would do anything.

I would change my number despite having it since like the fifth grade. I would go nuts. But if it is him, because have you dealt with stories like this before? I feel like you're kind of more wrapped up in like the psychology of people. but no someone who is I don't know playing the good guy at home and then going to work and texting horrible things to his own wife deleting the messages off his phone so he can come back and be like see it wasn't me that's some sort of abusive control situation or some I don't even know if if it is him yeah no that's like severe psychological abuse yeah it's almost like a more extreme form of like

negging to get someone to then like work harder for your approval. Yeah. Like to say things like you're pathetic, you'll come crawling back eventually. Like some of it was kind of like, are you trying to like keep me under your thumb and like, I need to seek your validation more? Yeah. But then some of it where it's like running to mommy's just proves my point. I don't know.

It's interesting. Like is he having an affair and the he logged into his eye. phone, whatever, or like messages on her computer. Now she's sending this hateful stuff as a way to separate them. Or is he trying to like push her to divorce him? Or is it some sort of like you were saying, nagging where I want you to stay with me, but I want you to really fight for my affection. So I'm like planting the seed of doubt. What do you think? What is your gut say if it's him or if it's someone else? I can't really tell you my gut because we get an update. Okay. Okay. And I know what happens. So I've been like, I've been trying to like, I'm like, I can't, I can't ruin it.

Okay. I will say I'm going to read the top comment after the update and it does give a spoiler for that doc, but I will make a very clear spoiler warning so you can skip. But okay, let's get in to the update. I did a lot more research and some comments helped me investigate. I think I know how the messages are happening from multiple devices. Because we message using WhatsApp, after doing some research, it does allow for multiple devices to be connected to the same account. So it is possible someone else could be doing it from his lost phone. But overnight, the messages didn't slow down. They actually got worse. They weren't

just insults anymore. Some of them started to feel like threats. I was terrified. Things about how I would regret leaving, and some a lot worse. I barely slept last night because. I barely slept last night because of it. At one point late last night, I finally texted back, and I said that if the messages didn't stop, I was going to the police. I know a lot of people said not to do this, but I couldn't take it anymore, and I knew that whether it was my husband or not, the person doing this would at least see it. I know I made a lot of people angry that I just couldn't make up my mind on what to do, but here's your reminder. This is my husband, the man I loved unconditionally for over 10 years, dumping him and blocking him out of nowhere isn't an option. We built a family and a life together. My life isn't a

movie. I can't just cut the last 10 years out, like many of you insinuated, as well as calling me a liar, an attention seeker, and pointing out every mistake I made. I know I posted online for help, and I need to accept some hate, but I fear sometimes people on Reddit can just go too far, and I really saw that over the last day. Please think of the harm you cause when you leave a comment. This isn't just social media, it's my current real life, and I know many of you that wrote these probably wouldn't say it to my face. Now, the messages didn't stop. If anything, they got more aggressive. At that point, I was convinced it had to be him, and I decided to be true to my word, and I actually went to the police station. I saw some comments about being able to track a device

to a small location, and you can ask for that, if you have the information about the phone, which I got from my husband. and are on the phone plan, which I am on. The worst thing about all of this is that me contacting him about the kids and any information also went to whoever was sending the horrible messages. I was terrified about putting them in danger and maybe making who was doing this more angry, so I knew it was urgent to get help. At the station, they were able to track the missing phone.

I claimed it was just lost because at the time, I didn't know if I was going to file charges. Because it was my husband's phone, they actually gave me the location, and the officer who helped was very nice. The address was very familiar and quite close to our house. So I decided to drive past to see where it was from. Turns out, I had been to one of my husband's workplace parties there, and the coworker that lives there, I'm actually quite close to. I was angry and honestly just exhausted from it all. The kids were with him, so I went over early to pick them up before he expected me. My mom came with me because I didn't want to go alone. She took the boys so I could talk to him privately.

I told him I knew one of his coworkers had his old phone and how I was disgusted that she was ever someone I considered a friend. By this point, I was absolutely breaking down. When I told him this, he just looked shocked. So I asked, why was his phone? at her house. Yeah. And how did she know your password? He just said maybe she took it from work, and I don't know how she knew. But after reading some comments, I was done with these playing it down excuses. The answer didn't sit right with me at all. Something about the whole situation felt off.

The messages had been too personal. Whoever was sending them knew things that only someone very close to us would have known. So I pushed harder. It turns out the co-worker, 30 female, wasn't just a co-worker. There it is. She had been having an affair with my husband for over a year. Oh, my God. He tried to claim it wasn't serious, but I was sick of him making me feel like I was overreacting. I know people said this was a possibility, but I could just never bring myself to believe it.

I've never felt so betrayed. Everything made sense. She knew details about our relationship, our house, our routine. the kids, things that would be impossible for a stranger to know, all because my husband was telling her everything. I don't know exactly how she ended up with his old phone. He claims he lost it at work and thinks that she took it. I honestly don't know what to believe anymore. All I know is that the messages kept coming from that device, and they just kept getting worse. Who knows how far she would have gone? Apparently my husband lost his phone and whoever kept using it.

Meanwhile, he'd gotten a replacement phone, but the old phone was still logged into WhatsApp, so technically both phones were tied to the same account, and I didn't even realize WhatsApp wasn't the same as messages, and things like this can happen. Part of me thinks there's no way he didn't realize. The messages were constant. It's hard for me to believe he was completely unaware of what she was doing. Maybe I'm wrong, but trust in him is completely gone. At this point, I've officially decided to start the process for filing for divorce.

this isn't the man I thought I married, and after everything that's happened, I don't feel safe around him anymore. For now, I'm staying with my parents, with the kids, I don't trust him around them right now, and he has seemed accepting over this because of the affair, and he still has to work. The fact that someone who smiled in my face, sat in our home, and acted like my friend was secretly involved with my husband for over a year, and then spent time tormenting me, pretending to be him, is honestly one of the most disturbing things I've ever experienced, and I still can't even wrap my head around it. I still have this horrible feeling that there's more to the story than either of them is admitting. All I know is that I've lost all trust for him, and no amount of

counseling could change that. We are done. Thank you all so much for the help. I'm genuinely scared what I would have done if I didn't reach out, because I never expected this from him. I don't know if there will be another update. I have a lot of recovering to do. I feel like I just lost over 10 years of my life to a lie of a man, and I need to get used to the idea of starting fresh. I'm so grateful to have my family, and knowing they will be here to support me and the boys through this

is the only thing that brings me comfort. There's obviously still a lot more I have to sort out, but I'm safe now. I just want to put the safety of me and the boys first. This will be my final update. Thank you all so much. I had a feeling. It was something like that. How did you know? I don't know. I think like you literally, I just watched the wheels turn and you just like, you just, you literally clocked it to a T. Yeah. Well, I was like, who would be sending those kinds of messages? Well, there is that one true crime case and I'm going to absolutely butcher it. But I can Google. Do you know which one I'm talking about? What is it about? Oh my gosh. Let me describe it to you. My brain doesn't work anymore since I had a child. But one woman was getting really hateful messages. And I believe that. Oh my.

gosh, he was like a cop and he was dating two women and one of them killed the other one. But she was getting really scary messages. And there's like a huge twist to it. And I don't remember what the twist was at this point. She went on one date, one date and then bombarded him with 65,000 text messages. Yes. You think you've had a bad date? I'm pretty sure I went. Nothing like this. A Phoenix man went on a date. One date with a woman he met online. Didn't go well. Not only was there a threat, but she blocked him. Sixty-five thousand text messages. Yes. Insane.

Yes. And so basically I was just trying to think of like who would have been sending those kinds of messages if it wasn't him. Yeah. And it would be someone who didn't want them together. And I think the most obvious person is an affair partner. Well, it's interesting too because she tried to make it look like it was still potentially him. Yeah. Which is kind of like as an affair partner, all she had to do is tell her, hey, your husband's having an affair for a year with me.

And she probably still would have been done. But the fact that she did it this way, it's almost like she did it this way because maybe she knew he was too dumb to figure it out or do anything to stop it. But then it's like, well, he wouldn't be mad at me because she left you because she thought you were sending these messages. It's almost like that plausible deniability in it all where it's like, well, you still love me, right? Or I wonder if she was afraid that even if she told the wife, hey, your husband's having an affair with me, well, yeah, then the husband would be mad at her and maybe would break things off with her. things off with her. Implode my entire life over this affair we've been having. And so that's why, yeah, maybe she was trying to push the wife to divorce him.

Like, I don't trust you. You're sending me these messages. I know it's you. Yeah. And he, in his head, I just lost my phone at work. I don't know what this is. Yes. You're not going to believe me.

Well, fine. Doesn't matter. I got this other woman. Yeah, we can get divorced and I can actually go start a life with this other woman. It's probably what that woman was thinking. I think that's exactly what she was thinking. Yeah. Diabolical.

So diabolical. So diabolical. diabolical. Diabolical. So now that woman, I wonder if that woman's going to get what she wants, though, because the original wife is now filing for divorce. Done. I hate stories like this. If the husband goes and ends up just like being with this woman. I mean, now that he knows, hopefully, hopefully he's not this stummy. You wouldn't be with someone like that, but that's so scary. I mean, one of the scariest parts about the whole story, too, is just the idea that, yeah, your husband's having an affair is a physical thing like that sucks to hear about. But the, he's,

is telling this woman everything about your children. Intimate details of your life. Intimate details about your life. She's starting to feel maybe like parisocial with your kids because she knows so much about them. Oh, no, she's probably seeing your kids and planning how she's going to be their new mommy. Oh, that just makes my blood boil. That is such a violation. All of it's a violation. But that, there's something specifically about that of like, you know all these intimate details about my life now. It makes me sick. It's really, really upsetting. It's crazy. I'm glad she went and talked to a professional on how phones work, though, because you're just going to keep getting lied to.

No, I know. You have to go actually figure out how the phones work. Well, and iPhones can do that, too. Like, you can be logged in on multiple devices. I've had multiple phones, like, because I had a THT iPhone and then, like, my phone. You can be logged in on multiple devices. Like, it's a common thing. Yeah.

But WhatsApp is, it's interesting. It's so, oh, I'm so glad she went in and talked to the police. Have you ever had anyone like get your number or anything or just, I don't know, text pretending to be someone else? I get a lot of scam text now just like, this is the post office. Please pay for a package. Hi, this is Veronica. Nice meeting you the other day. I get that type of message a lot. Toll roads, the toll road scam. What's that one? Oh, they'll tell you you have an unpaid toll. Oh. And I'm like, no, I don't. I have a fast pass, bitch. Yeah, but they just assume people are going to click that link and you can't click any links. And then you get fished. And then you get fished. Yeah. It's crazy.

I hate this one. It's just too easy these days. It is. It's really scary. Everyone needs to start talking about the scams, though. So if we talk about the scams and what to look out for, then we know more about the scams and don't fall for them. Yeah, I got scam insurance.

This was back because I left a job in California. We have Cobra. So Cobra reaches out to you once you lose a job, leave a job, whatever, to extend your insurance. And somewhere in between, like calling Cobra, setting this up, like a scam company called me and realized because they must have like bought some sort of list list of people who are eligible for COBRA. And I didn't even realize because you're just talking on the phone so much and like numbers are calling you and they're saying they're from COBRA. So this one number

had slipped in in the middle of me processing my insurance or like I guess in between calls or something. They called me. I signed up for the insurance with them. And it was so fast and I felt like such an idiot. I was like, how could I not have caught this? And I called when I found. finally was getting real insurance. I called Blue Shield to, and I told them what happened. I was like, I got scammed. And the guy working there was like, I just started at this job. And actually, I just got scammed, even applying for jobs. He's like, I feel you so much on this. Like, don't worry about it. You're not an idiot. First of all, with insurance, we get a lot of people calling saying they got scammed. But he was like, I fully like interviewed online with a scam company.

They gave me a scam job. And I sent them my information and they stole like a thousand bucks for me. And I was like, you're joking. He was like, yeah, it's really scary out there. It was wild. But I think more people our age are getting scammed than would maybe admit. Like, I don't know. I've heard so many stories. And they're getting smarter.

It's not just our parents or like old people on Facebook getting scammed. I know. I keep seeing a lot of people post on Reddit about how their parents are falling victim to the scam where like a celebrity will message them. Oh, my mom has a friend that's out 10,000. because she's in a relationship with Johnny Depp online. Yeah. No.

She lives in Florida somewhere and apparently Johnny Depp has been messaging her. Literally I like saw someone. They were like my mom thinks she's dating Brad Pitt and has sent him like 40K. Why is Brad Pitt asking you for money? The same way that like when we were little, our parents would say like adults never ask kids for directions. That's not. I'm like celebrities don't ask moms in the middle of Florida for money.

For money. For $40,000. Why? Like come on. I know. But you can talk to your parents. Like the one person on the subred, it was like, my mom is very aware. She like knows about all these other scams and blah, blah, blah, blah.

But yet like she genuinely believes this. And I'm like, have you had to have like the AI conversation with your, I'll get like TikToks from my mom that are clearly AI. And I tell her like, hey, just so you know, this isn't a real video. This is an AI little girl. And she goes, you're taking the fun out of it. No. She's mad at me for telling her it's AI. It honestly, I just saw a video where people are like, AI is going to actually make.

people not want to be online anymore because it's such you don't know what to believe and a lot of it's garbage and so I'm like I'm kind of excited about that potential because whatever a return to the earth a return to to grass a little bit yeah but like for me like it's so hard to decipher like even me I'm online a lot like that one bunny video with the bunnies bouncing on the trampoline did it get you it got me yeah a lot of them do and it's it's scary and so I even think like it's it's ridiculous. Like I saw this one person. It was like a TikTok sponsored ad. And they were like, this isn't even me recording a podcast. It's actually AI. And I'm like, why? Why would you put your, why? You put yourself out of a job? What are you doing? What are you doing? So rest assured,

I will never replicate or duplicate myself using technology. I'm always sitting in this chair. It's insane. Yeah. I wonder with now my son, if he's going to grow up in a world where when he opens his phone. He's like, this is the fake place. Like, this is the place where nothing is real. And maybe that's healthier in a way. Because now we, you know, you open your phone and your reading stuff. You just assume it's real. You go on Reddit or you go on YouTube and like the videos you see, you assume that they're real. But maybe one day there's going to be kind of a flipping point where you just you just assume everything you see on your phone is fake. Yeah, that's kind of, I'm like, it's sad. I'm like, I'm already getting there. Yeah. I'm already getting there. It is definitely

heading in that direction. It's insane. Speaking about phones and videos, I've got another doozy for us. All right. Let's do it. I've got a doozy. These have all kind of been dozies. All of them. All of them. I will read, okay, here's the spoiler, okay? So that if you don't want it the spoiler on that Netflix doc, because I'm going to read the top comment. So we don't want it. Skip, skip, skip, skip, skip. Top comment on that one with 6K upvotes. This reminds me of that Netflix documentary where the mom was sending text to bully the daughter, but they didn't know it was her. Next comment. Oh my God, exactly. She was bullying the daughter and then comforting her and pretending to care. That was like the top comment before we got an update. No, that's exactly what I was thinking about, which, you know, the documentary poises it to be like, oh, the mom was doing this to the daughter so the daughter would need her more. But you know what they left out of the documentary, Morgan? How much the mom was obsessed with the daughter's boyfriend, who was the one.

Right. The text were initially saying like, your boyfriend doesn't care about you. He hates you. blah. He's with me. I'm giving him a blowjob right now. This is the mom texting the daughter all of this. But if you read the long form article on the cut actually about this case, you realize like the mom was asking the, I think his name was Owen, the boyfriend. The mom was asking Owen's parents, a 13 year old boy, if she could come to Florida with them to go watch his sports tournament. The mom had started coaching his track and field team for no reason. She didn't have a son on the team. She just wanted to coach Owen's team. The mom was like constantly trying to put her. closer to this. They didn't mention any of that in the dock. They talk about it in the dock, but they briefly mention it in the dock, but there's a moment where they interview Owen's mom. And Owen's mom says something like, I always felt like Kendra was too obsessed with my son. And then they don't really follow that path a whole lot. Oh, that's probably the most concerning path you could have followed. A lot of the parents really believed that the, the true heart of

what the mom was doing was her obsession with this teen boy, not her desire to get closer to her daughter because she texted her daughter thousands of times kill yourself. You don't do that when you need your daughter to rely on you. You don't like, you know, it's just so unhinged. I hope she like emancipated herself and like does not talk to her mom anymore. It's sad in the documentary you really see the daughter get closer to her mom after that because, I mean, she's 17 years old by the end of by the end of this all coming out. And what do you do when it's your parent? And what do you do when it's your parent and you've been lied to and you don't even know what's real and what's not. And I don't know if things have changed because the daughter's even older now.

Yeah. Hopefully she like, I mean, you would need some insane therapy after that. Oh my God, absolutely. Hopefully she is following that and getting therapy. And yeah. Wow. Okay, now I'm going to watch it. Now, you've got me convinced. You have to. I mean, even though you know the spoiler now, it's still worth it. No, it's insane. That type of dynamic play out. I just want to see how she like tries to, like genuinely be like I was doing it because I want to be I like I want to see it. Yeah you want to see it. They interview her in the documentary. They, she tells her side of the story. It's worth it to watch for that. Oh my God. But then read the article too. So you get like the full, full scope. Yeah. I'm just like, I'm sitting here. I'm mind blown. And this next one,

it's got me a little mind blown too. So this is coming from R slash off my chest, two weeks old right now. and it's titled, I sent a video that ruined my husband's life in college. My husband and I started dating in college. At the time, he was in a frat that was pretty intense, but I really didn't know the extent of what went on in there at first. They were always suss about things and had a bad rep slash people gossiping about them, but I assumed it was typical frat stuff. One night during pledging season, he came over with a couple of friends also in the frat,

and they started talking about something that happened with one of the new guys. They were all hammered and passing a phone around, watching a video. I asked what was going on, and one of them showed it to me. It was a pledge sitting on the floor with a bunch of brothers yelling at him to keep drinking. I'm talking, like, chugging, bottle after bottle, and he was already clearly, already out of it. I recognized my husband, then-boyfriend's voice, as being one of the main guys in the video, the one doing the yelling, and it made my stomach drop. The next day, I found out that the kid ended up in the hospital after someone found him lying outside.

It got really serious. He was very sick. I remember sitting in my dorm feeling sick thinking about it. A few days later, someone in the group chat sent the video again, and they were trying to do damage control. I don't even remember why I saved it, but I did. I stared at it for a while, and I went back and forth on what to do. I ended up anonymously sending it to the school's public safety email. and also to the kids' parents on Facebook Messenger after some research.

I made a fake account, and I didn't associate it with my name anywhere. I remember shaking the whole time, and for good reason, because everything blew up after that. The school started an investigation, the video got around, became a big scandal, and a bunch of guys got in trouble. My husband got expelled, and the frat shut down. He was devastated and furious. Nothing came of it legally. the kid didn't want to press charges slash wouldn't talk

and no one else's face was shown so I guess there wasn't enough proof to this day my husband is still bitter and talks about how someone snitched and ruined his life he always says that if he ever found out who leaked the video he would destroy them

he thinks it was one of the pledges standing up for their friend and has never suspected me and yes we actually stayed together after all of that which probably sounds crazy. I don't know if it was my guilty conscience or what made me stay with him. But he comes from a rich family,

so at least financially, his life really didn't fall apart in the way it could have. His parents set him up with different opportunities from their connections over the years. Still, he was never able to graduate college or get the kind of job that he had hoped for. The whole thing followed him around for a long time. We're married with kids now, and it's been years. but every once in a while the topic comes up again. Usually when we hear about a hazing story in the news, he'll go on a tangent about how someone betrayed him and how much he hates the person. I just sit there quietly. But being a mom myself now, my mind thinks about the kid on the floor,

barely conscious, with everyone laughing and keeping on forcing beers on him. If I hadn't sent the video, nothing probably would have happened. I stand by. it. And if I could go back, I would do it again. And I know one thing for sure. Our sons will never be allowed to join a frat. I'm so glad she sent the video to public safety and to that kid's parents. Parents. But I do fear that there's also something deeply wrong with her as well. Because you married this person after you know that he's capable of that. And he, like, I wonder if there's some sort of dynamic where she likes that she has control control or like yeah oh I have the secret where I ruined your life and I'm always going to have that over you but also like fuck this guy like you

should hazing is horrible horrible I'd like to say that it's better now than it has been but I don't don't know if it has gotten better I think it's always been bad um and anyone who has that deep inside of them that darkness that can be brought out to do that to another kid is just like so upsetting yeah and you're bordering on like genuinely like a true crime kind of like behavior. There's been so many cases where kids have died. There was a, even in California, I believe it was California, there were two girls in a sorority that were, I want to say, handcuffed to each other and then walked out into the sea and then they drowned. Because what do you think happens when you tie two people together and put them in the ocean?

They die. No, this is horrific. And it's all in the name of sisterhood or brotherhood, whatever, no. They wouldn't do this to you. No. I was in a sorority. We did not, I did not have any hazing. There's no hazing in my sorority. No, same. We were in the same one, weren't we? Kappa? Nope. I was off of fee.

Oh my gosh. Yeah, the little bears. Little bears. Yeah, there were really strict rules at my school about hazing and kids still got around it, figured out ways to do it to each other. But one fraternity even got kicked off of campus when I was at school for some really bad stuff that went down. It's insane.

Yeah, your friends will not torture you and put you through stuff like this. Like, it's insane. But yeah, I'm like, she's definitely, like, there's some cognitive disconnect here to be like, I'm so happy I sent the video because he's such a horrible person. But also I'm going to marry you and have children with you. And I'm always going to know that I'm the one that sent the video. And again, I'm very glad she did that. I think everyone involved should have gone in trouble. I'm sad that the kid didn't press charges, but ultimately that was up to him.

Totally get that. But interesting that you married him. What is that? And now you have children. Like, how are you that disconnected? I know that's, I'm just thinking that there's something going on there. I don't know about that because, I don't know. Now I'm worried for your children.

Literally, same. And the top comment is very curious as well. The top comment, 750 upvotes. I want to know the story of why slash how you married him after knowing this. Okay, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking that. Someone goes, he's rich and she's a gold digger. I mean, she did bring up his wealth. She mentioned, definitely.

She mentioned it. But also he's now not able to get the jobs that he wanted to get because he didn't finish his degree. And like, I think there's more to it than that. I mean, there is a comment from O.P. in response to the top comment. He did a huge public proposal at his birthday party with his whole family watching. So it kind of just froze and said yes. Probably on purpose because he knew I wouldn't say no like that. I have felt numb inside ever since.

I'm not going to feel. feel bad for you. I don't know. I just, we have a lot more choices in life than just, oh, it was so public that I said yes and now I'm still still married to him and also decided to have kids with him. Like it just feels like you're not taking any accountability for any of this. No. And it doesn't show like any growth on his part if he's still festering on this. So it's like, you can't even say he's grown up. He's different. He's a better person. Like he's still like actively like if I find out who it is. Yes. He's not sad that he hurt a kid and almost led to that person's death. He's mad that he got caught. That is a deep-seated behavior that I think gets mapped onto a

bunch of different behaviors in your life or like a bunch of different things that you do in your life, right? You just are mad when you get caught. You're not upset that you actually did something horrible. And yeah, he's still that person. And you have more agency in your life this poster than I think you're like willing to admit. I completely agree. The comment that kind of stands out speaking to that too is like one from this person that says, your husband is a monster. And I say is, not was, because the only response or reflection on the incident from him has been rage. Yeah, definitely, definitely. I definitely agree with that. No growth, like you said. No. And like O.P has another comment here in response to someone where O.P says, I don't feel bad for him now.

I think what he did is disgusting. I used to stupidly have a guilty conscience and that is what got me stuck with him. But I'm playing the long game and I have a plan if it ever comes out. See, that's what does that mean. No, I know, but that's what I'm saying. Like, I'm playing the long game. Like, there is something here. There's something she's working towards or some sort of manipulation kink that she has. I don't know. Do you watch that show on Hulu? Tell Me Lies. No, I haven't. I'm not caught up on it. I'm like, is this giving Stephen and Lucy? Like, what are we dealing with here? Oh. Like, what, are there? Are there? they both just like mentally unhinged? I think so. I have a plan if it ever comes out.

Maybe something more to. What does that mean? Also, what's your plan? What's your plan? Did she ever say in the comments? A lot of people are asking like, why would you even mention the richness? Yeah, exactly. And OP is like, I thought his family being rich was important context because it shows how rich kids get away with things like this. It's a burner account. People are saying I'm already saying too much with the story alone, so I'm not trying to give any more details. I'm not defending him, my other comments. I appreciate your concern, but I'm not going to delete my post. I'm tired of holding it in, and a part of me doesn't care anymore if he finds out. I think he deserves the pain of finding out that it was someone he loves who was a traitor to him. He may have gotten off

easy on this, but if he were to try anything on me, he wouldn't. Yeah. Okay. So she, it's also about the long game of, no, I want him to know that his entire life has been a lie and that his wife was one that did it. And that betrayal will be the punishment. The kids were unintentional. I'm not really attracted to my husband at all because of what he did and would choose not to sleep with him. But I have to keep the act up. Girl, get a hobby. A little bit. Do you agree that like, you're wasting a lot of time on this? He does not know. He is not being punished. It's only if he would ever find out. So let that day be today. Also, he got expelled. There was at least some punishment to like it's not up to you to be the judge jury and executioner on this one.

Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Get out of there. Yeah, just leave and go live your life. You know? What the fuck? This is really unhinged. I didn't get into the comment when I read this.

I didn't think that this was going to go exactly where it went. It went there. Wow. It went there. I'm playing the long game. Oh my goodness. Get divorced. Yeah. Get that alimony. Just get out of there. Get out of there. Wow. Wow is right. I wonder if she is

going to update this ever if she goes through with her entire plan. I hope so. I'm going to start following the account. We'll see. Yeah. Get those updates. We'll see. I did message a couple of the people today asking for updates. So I sat over here. I'm like, please let me know how that went. Do people ever respond to you with the updates that way? Yeah. Very interesting. I saw your one about the cheese. The cheese. I know how disappointing, incinerated. But what did they say? It was like an act of vengeance. An act of someone sabotaged them by burning all the cheese.

I'm like, what do you mean? What's going on there? The Department of Health sabotaged you? Yeah. You're like a legal cheese operation. I know. And I really wanted that cheese. Can anyone in Canada send me cheese? I had some comments that people were like, I live near the Oxford County Cheese Trail. No way. Send me cheese. Someone said, I live in Cheese,

capital in Wisconsin, send me cheese. That might be easier. I do wonder if there's going to be issues sending cheese cross borders, yeah. I know you can't send fruit. I got stopped by one of the dogs in the airport once. Really? They sniffed me out. And what'd you have on you? Had a sandwich from Joe in the juice that had a tomato in it. And you cannot bring fruit into the country. So that beagle sniffed out that tomato. You can't even bring a slice of tomato on a sandwich you bought in the airport. You cannot. No. I did not know. I did not know. And then they said, do you have any other items in your bag? And I said, no. And then they put my stuff through this crazy X-ray machine, different X-ray than normal TSA. It was nuts. Yeah.

And they found a banana. And then I got even more trouble. Oh, my gosh. I forgot. My mother-in-law just came and visited and she said they didn't even ask her to, you can bring liquids on planes again. Like everyone was bringing their water bottles. And she dumped hers out and they're like, oh, you don't have to do that anymore. That seems crazy. Which, yeah, I didn't realize. It's either a. new rule that just got in place or I don't know. Huh. Yeah. Interesting. So interesting. So interesting, you couldn't even bring a tomato and now they're bringing full water bottles. A tomato. Unfair. Apparently bugs can harbor in them and then hatch. And I'm like, I sure hope not because I just ate that. Because I'm eating this one. I ate that. So please don't tell me that. But okay,

going on to this next one, this one is coming actually from the Let's Not Meet subreddit. Good. Buckle up. It's titled, Am I Overreacting? Or is my mailman creepy? I, 23 female, live alone in a decently nice apartment in a nice neighborhood for two years now.

For the most part, the mail gets delivered to the mailboxes at the front entrance of the building. Occasionally, packages are delivered straight to the apartment doors, and it's pretty convenient. Well, about a year ago, I was home from work during the day because I took the afternoon off to go to a doctor's appointment. The doorbell rang, and I have a ring camera. I saw it was the mailman, so I answered.

I have this whole exchange on video. He was maybe in his 30s, white, short, 5-5-ish, very large glasses, really disheveled thin hair. I opened the door, smiled, and said, thanks so much, and went to take the package. He stopped and stared at me like something was wrong, so I was like, oh, did you need to take a picture of the delivery or something? And to my surprise, he said, quote, I know you. I've seen you before. And you can see on the camera, my face changes. My body demeanor gets uncomfortable, and I kind of move behind the door. I said, quote, I'm sorry. I don't think we've met. I went to shut the door, but he raises his voice and takes a step forward and said,

quote, I've seen your name on your mail. I found you on Instagram. You're not allowed to do that, but continue. My face went white, and I froze. I said, me? I was kind of like a deer in headlights. He said, yeah, you are a person of interest on Instagram for me. Your account was private, but you're pretty. I said thanks, and slammed the door, locking it quickly.

I was happy to know I caught the whole thing on video. I showed it to my then boyfriend, who agreed it was weird. A few days later on Saturday, he's back at my door. He rained the bell about ten times, wait in a few minutes, just staring. I answered him through the doorbell, and I said, hi, you can just leave any mail, thanks. What he said next made me shake. He said, quote, I actually don't have any mail for you today. I just wanted to say hi.

Can I come in for a glass of water? I decided to just not answer. To be honest, I didn't know what to say. But then, about two weeks go by. My then-boyfriend stayed the night and I slept in. I left early for work. I get a call around 10.30 from my boyfriend, saying, I won't believe what just happened and to check the camera.

I do. The mailman came. He rang the bell a few times and my boyfriend answered the door. The mailman took a step back and my boyfriend stood for a moment and they stared at each other. He realized the mailman didn't have any. in his hands, he said, can I help you? And the mailman said, quote, where's the small girl who lives here? I'm pretty petite, five feet, 100 pounds. My boyfriend was stunned and said, quote, I live here too. From now on, leave our packages downstairs and slammed the door. I was really happy he said that,

because truthfully, he didn't live there with me full time, maybe two nights a week. It seemed to work. I didn't see the mailman again at all, actually. But then my boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago. I completely forgot about the mailman until today. I was entering my building when he was exiting at the same time. He stared at me, and I went to walk by. He turned to walk after me and said, quote, Hey, I haven't seen that guy in a while who used to live with you.

Did he move out? I panicked and walked faster, grabbing my keys, but I lied and I said, oh, he's around. And as I entered, I quickly said, Hey, honey, I'm home. And I slammed my door fast. I don't know why I lied, but something told me to make it clear that I wasn't alone.

Am I being dramatic or mean? Or is he creepy? He's creepy. You're not being dramatic. Oh. That is so creepy. And unfortunately, he does know where you live. That's the worst.

That's the worst part. The worst part. That he came to your house. and to come afterwards too and be like, oh, I'd actually don't have mail for you. I just wanted to show up at your place and see if you were around. And come inside. Can I come in for a glass of water? A glass of water?

Help. I need water. So thirsty. No. No. That's really scary. I mean, I guess you can report that person. You should.

Yeah. Like I would hope that they would take him off of your route. So he's not like it's already too far past because he does know where you live. So even if he's like taken off your route, right, he can just still come to your house or your apartment. But like I would hope that they'd be able to take him off that route. Yeah, they absolutely should. And then like if he did come back, then you have this like, oh no, he's stalking me and you can get a restraining order or protective order or whatever it is. Yeah, I would hope. Because then it's like there's no plausible reason for him to be there.

No, I know. There's no reason. He's not the mailman anymore. I know. Oh, I used to get so scared in college, right? Like there were so many people that would like knock door. to door and sell like baseball tickets or whatever. Okay. Which always freaked me out. And I lived in a house once and I remember this guy. Yeah, literally came to the door and was selling baseball tickets. And I was the only one home and I don't know why I answered the front door.

He looks like he was kind of my age. And it wasn't, it wasn't that creepy. But I remember I closed the door. I was like, no, thanks. I'm not interested left. And then like 20 seconds later, he knocks out the door again. He's like, well, actually, I just thought you were really pretty. Like, can I have your number?

I'm like, this is not what this is. Like, this interact. action is done and like you have to go you are also on the clock this is totally unprofessional it's just kind of weird and I was like and you know where I live and you know that you probably assume that I live here alone or you don't know that I have roommates and this is just now getting really scary I hate that yeah and it's so hard like I I just think like as a woman like I'm I'm very on edge I'm very like kind of hyper aware of my surroundings these days and even something that like I was at a gas station recently and this person just like kept coming around my car and looking at my car

and asking me how he liked my car and I'm just like, I don't want this. And I'm like, I'm feeling uncomfortable. I'm like, ugh. What do they say like be rude? Yeah. I guess there's like stay weird. The crime junkie motto. Yeah. Yeah. Be rude. Stay alive. Something like that. But it kind of is like, yeah, you don't, you almost don't want to come off as too docile in those moments. Yeah. I worry that they're now sizing you up and being like, oh, she doesn't fight back. Or like, interesting. I'm walking around your car to put an air tag in it. Oh my gosh.

Like those, like the air tag of it all these days and like there's so many people on Reddit finding trackers on their cars. Does your phone, because my phone will let me know if there's AirPods near you or following with you? Yeah. Does it is it the same with trackers now too? It pops up pretty quickly with the air tags. Great.

I'm not sure about other ones like tile or other. tracking things. Oh, because that's so scary. The fact that you could just like pop it under someone's car. And he was like walking around it, like going, looking at the rims. And I'm like, at your car, where was this? Literally a gas station in Burbank. I'm like, okay, bye. He didn't, what did he ask about it? Just like, how do you like your car? That's a really nice car walking around. He's like, and he pointed to his truck. He's like, this is my hog. And I'm like, don't care. Get me out here. I was going to fill it up. Put 20 bucks in. Bye. by, ooh, do you think he's just going to please an air tag on it?

Or like, what do you think he was doing? I don't know. See, like, and I get, we have the true crime podcast now. Like, I'm again. You're a little paranoid. Yeah, I'm like, that's just me. I'm like, I'm hypervigilant. You shouldn't have to be that way.

You don't have to be that way. Don't, don't. In his head, he could have been just being nice, trying to strike up a conversation with a stranger at a gas station. Or maybe we wanted to buy your car or something. I don't know. Who knows? Who knows. But it just, I'm alone.

I'm like not feeling the vibe. I got to go. Yeah. Goodbye. I don't want to have a conversation right now. I don't want to assume the worst, but it's easy to be made to feel uncomfortable nowadays. Yeah, but I do think sometimes you just catch a vibe with someone and you're like, I probably shouldn't be here just like talking to this person.

Yeah. I even, yeah, my husband has kind of like talked to me about that because I do think sometimes I will sit and talk to a person and not really think twice about it. Yeah. But there's been times where Matt has been like. should you have sat with that person? It's funny. So like actually it's not necessarily.

I know I'm being like so vague. It's not even really about people being creepy. But one time he was like we were, I was having a conversation with someone and he was like telling me about how him and his wife were open and they're like. Oh, they were trying to get you. And I had no idea. That's what it was. And I told Matt and he was like, they were trying to sleep with you. So like let me tell you about the situation.

And I was like, oh. Okay. Now I can see. flattered, but like in the moment, I was like, there's no way. It just like totally went over my head. I thought they were just like telling me about their lifestyle. And I was like, oh, cool. Interesting. Yeah. Like you're so curious. You're such a curious person. Yes, yes. And it just went over your head. Tell me more. This is so. And he's like, Kalen, you were being a little night. You were just trying to sleep with you. Like, it's fine. Just. Next time. Next time we should be

aware. That's what's happening. Yeah. So I guess, yeah, it's less so like, oh, this person was trying to take you and more like this person was trying to seduce you. I guess that he's called me out on not being aware of. This person, though, definitely he's being creepy. Yes. And I think talking to the post people and getting him off the route is a good idea. I think so too. And we get updates.

Great. Update, I took everyone's advice. Thank you all so much. I decided to reach out to the super of my apartment and explain the situation and show him the videos. He said he will implement a new policy that male personnel are not permitted to walk around the complex. Great. Simply go to the designated mail room and leave. I also got a large men's work boot to put them outside my door. People were like grab work boots, male-looking work boots and put them outside your door. I did have the thought when he was like, oh, does your boyfriend live there? I would have been like, yes, he just got out of prison for murdering male men.

And he's back home and he lives with me now. Really just talking about. I do like the idea of having like the work boots or just something, unfortunately. Because, okay, so there was that case just around here of the apartment complex where a person had wandered in and they were specifically looking at doors that looked like women lived there. They were looking at the doors with the flowers and the wreaths. That were nicely curated and clean looking mats. Yeah. So unfortunately, as a woman, it maybe does behoove you to dirty it up a little bit outside and make it look like a real like, I don't know, workman lives there. Yeah, from Goodwill or a thrift store.

It's so sad that you have to do that. Walk through a puddle, pop them outside. Just make it really dirty outside. Honestly, down. But yeah, it's like, again, the fact that we need to do this. I know. Second update. Wow, I wasn't expecting so many people to care about my story.

Thank you, everyone. I took the advice and everyone telling me this isn't acceptable, and I decided to call the Postmaster. I sent them the video recordings I had, and they assured me they will be looking into the matter, as well as assigning a new mailman to my route. I also made sure to go down to my local police precinct and file an incident report

and they have the videos as well. Thank you, everyone. Also, I'm flattered, so many people are concerned and I'm getting a lot of requests to post the videos. Considering I'm in them and it shows my apartment and this is still ongoing, I prefer not to post them publicly. Fair.

If anyone thinks they have experienced the same thing with him, please DM me and I'll send the videos privately, just not on a public forum. Which again, I don't know. People online don't, I don't, I don't. I don't know. I wouldn't send anyone the videos. No, me neither. Or like, literally take a screen grab of him and send it to them if they think it's the same guy.

Yeah, but you just don't want your apartment number. And you're already having issues with people coming to your apartment. No. I totally get that. Isn't that crazy, though? Yeah. You're so on it today. The Postmaster Man, you knew all this. Change the route.

I know. Yeah, yeah. See, I guess just, you know, call the manager, if you will, just try to talk to someone who can help you sort this out. And usually it's like their supervisor, whoever's in charge there. But I'm glad she did that. Of course, I would also be nervous about making this person mad. But I think that's just like our instinct sometimes as women like, oh, don't make the person mad because that's going to make it worse. Like let me just placate until it ends.

Yeah. I mean. But that's not going to help you here. It's now being more talked about where there's everyone has heard fight or flight. That's like so common. But there's also fawn, which is kind of that placate someone. and freeze. Yeah.

And so there's so many different reactions that you can have in these situations. No one is more right or wrong than the other. Yeah. It's scary. Your body, I mean, it's just, it takes over. I feel like Fawn and Freeze are the only feelings I've ever had in those situations. I've never been in a high stress situation where my instinct was to fight someone or to turn around and run away.

I feel like I always just am like frozen in place or I'll try to make the situation better so no one's upset and then that usually gets me into trouble. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. There's only one time where I turned around to try to instantly swing at the person. Oh, really? Yeah.

I was like walking down the street and someone, like, I was wearing a romper and they reached up the romper and grabbed my ass. No. And I immediately just turned around. Good for you. But they were a lot quicker. And we were already like already up the street like, huh, ha, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

Yeah. It's just crazy. I'm so sorry. But it's like, that's how like it can just, I'm like, oh, this is fucking nuts. I know. But that, yeah. Also why I'm also so probably paranoid these days. Yeah, that's true.

That's true. But okay, I've got one last one for us. Okay, excellent. It is a ghost scary story. That's real. Thank goodness. So if you don't like the ghost and you don't want to be scared or if you're listening late at night, goodbye.

We shall end here. Good night. It's been so great to have you. But I think you're going to be into the little spooky I got. I'm excited. So this is coming from R slash ghosts. And it's five months old. It's titled,

What is that one story that not only made you believe in the paranormal, but also sends chills down your spine to this day. And I'm not talking about I heard something move in the kitchen. I mean something so disturbing. Mm, love it already. And I will say like every single comment on this post like is so believable and like not like disturbing disturbing. I'm not going to go there. So like don't shut us down now if you did give it a chance because it's so good. Yeah. But I want to post the link because there's other comments on there from people that I want you guys to read. And maybe I'll post them on on Instagram, but I'm only reading the one. So this is a personal experience. I had a friend when I was little, probably age 7 to 10, given how well I remember her. She was older than I was with long brown hair. She always wore the same thing, black jeans and a red polo shirt. She would just show up and play with me, usually Barbies. We would play together for hours, and then she would tell me she had to go and she would leave. One night when I was 10, I woke up and one of my Barbie dolls was standing on her. my dresser and her little purple plastic brush was going up and down through her hair. I couldn't see

anyone holding it, but I somehow knew it was my friend. I sat up in bed and I sternly told her that I didn't like what she was doing and that she was scaring me. The brush stopped. The Barbie laid down and all was quiet. I laid back down and I went to sleep. I never saw my friend again. I spoke to my parents about it a few years later, and while my mom was incredulous, my father confirmed that he had seen her too. But they both told me, without question, that she was not a real person. Fast forward approximately 10 years, and I'm moving out of my childhood home. I'd already been gone for a couple of years, but I hadn't actually moved my things out. The day after, I had mostly cleaned out my room, my dad called me and said, quote,

I have kind of a weird request for you. Could you come by and tell your friend that you're all right? I was taking a shower and I saw her walk through the bathroom and then your bedroom door opened. I called out to her, but I don't think she listens to me, end quote. So I did. I went home and I went to my old bedroom and I could smell her. My room smelled like incense, despite none having ever been lit in there. I sat down in the middle of the room and just talked for a while.

I told her I wasn't sure if she could hear me, that everything was okay, and that I had moved into a nice apartment near my new job. I told her about my new job. I told her about how old I was, just in case she never knew. I thanked her for being my friend, and I told her I was sorry about how our friendship ended, that I never forgot her, and I found some comfort knowing that she was still there. I told her that my parents were moving soon, so I probably wouldn't be back to this house ever. I told her I didn't want her to be lonely, that I hoped if she wants to move on, she can now.

Then I stood up, turned off my light, said goodbye, and shut the door. I headed down the hall to tell my dad the deed was done, when all of a sudden my bedroom door clicked back open and I heard a very clear, see ya. I turned around to look, decided to leave the door open. and I waved. I'm 36 now and I had my daughter last year. One night, early in the newborn trenches, I was operating on almost no sleep and just rocking the baby quietly in the dark when I got the urge to talk to her. I introduced my baby out loud and I talked about my birth experience. I told her how old I was now and how I was told I couldn't have children, but here we are. And I heard her

laugh, sigh, and whisper like she was trying not to wake the baby. Beautiful. I haven't spoken to her since, but I still think about her. Why am I crying over a ghost, you guys? Here's the thing is I read that sub all the time. So I had read that story. Oh my God. But there's something about being, just, I don't know, reading it again. Did you read the top comment on it about the meow puzzle? No. Okay. I don't want to read it because I don't want it to like. like mess you up having a new baby. It's like about the loss of a young child. Oh no. And so I was like, I'm not doing that to you today. I don't know if I can do that right now. I'm like, no. But the top comment on it is like so good. So I'll, I'll like read it for a social post and you can go listen to it

on Instagram. But it's just so insane that like this is almost like her guardian angel. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I've talked about it on heart sides pounding, but I have a lot of nurses that listen to the show. Yeah. People who work at hospitals just have the most amazing ghost stories. They all, I feel like, have seen paranormal things. But a lot of the nurses talk about like when kids pass away or as unfortunate as it is. But there's like little kids that have like friends. They'll describe being friends with kids that have also been in that hospital but have passed away. Yeah.

Like they're all each other's guardian angels and there's something about, I don't know, like was this a little girl that lived in the house? house before or and that was her friend and now she's older and she's still connected to her. It's really, really beautiful. I know. Just insane. And like to, she followed this person like from one house to another has been quietly sitting there. And then like you're in the newborn trenches, which I'm sure you can relate to right now. Just like rocking the baby like, sleep. Yeah. And you just feel this urge and all of a sudden you hear a laugh, a sigh and a whisper beautiful. Like, What? There is something about, and I'm going to cry, the first few weeks of having a baby, I think I just spent a lot of, oh my God, I'm crying. But you spend a lot of time thinking about like the people that just aren't there anymore. Like there is something about having a new life where you think about the people that aren't there to experience it with you too. And I just like have felt them so much. I had an aunt who passed away when I was pregnant. and I would text her every single update about the baby.

Every single time I got a picture, I would send it to her. She wanted to be so involved. And she was older, so there's always a chance that they're just not going to make it to the baby being born. But I guess I had never really thought about that. And then one day I got the call that she had passed away. And in my mind, I was like, no. She's been such a part of this every step of the way. What do you mean?

She's not here anymore. That's impossible. And she would text me every single month on the 16th because my birthday is February 16. So she would always say like happy sweet 16 and or and just like and that's when we would catch up and stuff. And so like the 16th of every month I feel like I don't know. I just like feel her like when I'm up late with the baby or I don't know just just I just feel her so much with the baby too. Like I know that she was there that she was it's not like oh she's not going to be part of this process anymore. Like she was even more part of the process after that, you know.

It's really special. It's beautiful that you have that connection. Yeah. Have you gone anything on the 16th of a month yet? No, I guess there's only been two. He was born on the 14th. So the first 16th was just wild. Because we just brought him home and I was like, what is even happening?

Like they sent me home with this little thing? Yeah, like, ah. We talked about that yesterday. The fact that like you literally just have a baby and they just like send you off. Like, okay, bye now. Bye. And you're like, what do I do? They're like, Google it.

Because even some of the nurses, too, are like, hey so like someone was telling me that um the baby had like a blowout diaper or something and so they called the nurse because they're like what do we do and the nurse was like hey so like i'm not going to be at home with you so you're going to have to figure out what to do because i'm not going to change all your baby's diapers right now and then you don't know how to do it when you get home so like you guys figure this out yeah which is what you do need to be told because you do have to start figuring out of fast maybe a little tough love but not that tough i'm still healing i know i know it's like you still can't get out of bed and the nurse is kind of like yelling at you

I only got you for two, three days if I'm lucky. Like, help me while I'm here. And, like, I'm paying a lot to be here. So can you help me out? Ooh. Yeah. I got that bill. Oh, my gosh.

Okay. So hasn't happened yet. And I always, like, I talk about it on the podcast when we do the spooky stories. I'm like, if you have lost someone and you're waiting for a sign, like, it will probably come. Yeah. It just hasn't happened yet. Like, don't get discouraged. They have a lot of people that they're trying to send signs to.

You're on the list. It could come years later. Yeah. They just got up there. Let them, you know, have a margarita or too. too like I'm chill. It's like pretty good up there. So let them hang out for a bit. Yeah. They'll get to you and they get to you. No, I do say that too because I do hear from people. I talk a lot about signs on heart starts pounding because a lot of the ghost stories are people getting signs from loved ones. And I always and it always breaks my heart. But I do get comments of people being like my dad passed away and I still haven't gotten a sign, which breaks my heart. Most people I talk to have like felt something or seen something. thing and it's just a matter of time. And you have to be open to it too and you have to, you know, be looking out for stuff. Absolutely. I love when you guys share your personal stories in the

comments. There's one that's coming to mind from a past paranormal episode where someone was like, after my friend passed, I would take food over to their dad's place. Like I would make sure he had meals. I'd always pop in, whatever. And I would never accept any money from him. And, you know, it was odd because before that I had lost my wallet. And so after, you know, after I brought him all this food and I wouldn't take any money, I got a call from the police that they had found my lost wallet. And in the wallet was enough money to cover what I had bought my friend's dad. That to me, I'm like the ghost of your friend or the spirit or whatever, found your wallet. Like divine intervention. It's just insane. So I'm like, I love hearing your personal story. So drop any of the

I love that. Yeah, me too. Me too. I'm so curious what people are going to say. Yeah. Well, and go bombard Kaelin with them too, right in. Yeah, you can send Hartsyspounding.com. We love getting ghost stories. We we read a lot of ghost stories. We have an episode with Morgan out. That's all ghost stories. And there were some really freaky ones. People go into Catholic summer camps and like a whole bunch of bad stuff going on there. Oh my God. I know. Yeah. I love the listener ghost stories. I say this, that like every time I make a call for listener ghost stories, part of me is like, I hope I don't get any, because I hope nothing scary is happening to the audience. And then my audience continually proves that like just the scariest stuff keeps happening to them. So if you go over there,

maybe just write like from THT. And then maybe I can selfishly hear them too. Yes, yes. Yes. And so that way I'll know. Yeah, I love that. Yeah. Please do. I love reading your stories on my show. But where can people find you? People can find me everywhere at hearts, Pounding. YouTube, listen to the show wherever you get your podcast, and then I'm also on Instagram, TikTok, at HeartSwords Pounding. And if you want more of us together, we've got our podcast called Clues. We've done some really good episodes.

Like the three we did this week are such good episodes to highlight one case that's sticking with me still is Maitrice Richardson, who was a young black woman that went missing here in L.A. And we implemented this thing called the botched board that just kind of highlights inadequacies of cases and this one was botched. So botched. So botched. What started as a woman having a mental health episode turned into a whole missing person's case. One of the most devastating stories and also most preventable stories I've ever read about. So preventable. So if you want more of that, head that way. But thank you guys so much for being here. And until next time, bye.