Two Hot Takes - 268: Boy Brain Ft. ShxtsnGigs

Episode Date: May 14, 2026

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-hosts James and Fuhad from the ShxtsnGigs Podcast! We are getting into some crazy problems and getting insight from male perspectives.. trying to understand "boy brain"! From someone who took a dig at their partners confidence, to untidy habits, to unhealthy obsessions we tackle a variety of male centered issues. Can't wait to hear your thoughts on these ones! Checkout ShxtsnGigs Podcast!: https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcast https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/?hl=en https://www.shxtsngigs.co.uk Partners: State Farm: Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan®. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there®. Billie: Visit mybillie.com Patreon BONUS Content including FREE stories: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ NEW MERCH:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shop.twohottakes.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ WRITE IN TO US!! Our SubReddit! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/⁠⁠⁠ Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Index: 00:00 -- Start Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm ready. Okay. Let's go. It's been three years. It has been three years. Yeah, it has. Three years. Are you drinking?

No. Three years? No, that makes me uncomfortable. Time flies, bro. I listened to our episode too because I'm like, what the hell did I tell them last time? I need to make sure I don't tell them twice. That's fair. And we were a little off the rails last time.

Oh. We had like the guy who was feeding his girlfriend's sawdust to make her skinnier. That's crazy Yeah I read I'm sorry To make a skinny That's hilarious

That's obviously Yeah illegal Illegal Illegal unhinged But that's funny But I feel like you guys Had such good takes About like the male brain

And like a guy's perspective Okay So we're getting back into it today For a theme I'm like male perspective or boy brain I call boy brain Boy Brain Boy Brain and I'm like boy brain

I'm like, pause. I just can't figure out some of the stuff that guys will do. Sorry. It landed later in it. He did a big pause. Yeah. That was a good pause. Fuck.

Boy brain. Yeah, sorry, sorry, sorry. What head are you thinking with? It's like another way to say. Yeah, childish. Sorry. Yeah, don't mind me. So childish.

No, I enjoy it. That's why you guys are back. Oh, sorry. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Right, we'll lean into the childishness. Cool, so nice. Yeah, no, just you guys are so good. I mean, your show is.

amazing shits and gigs. Thank you so much. Here I go again, not introduce my guests to you guys. If you haven't met them before on the past episode, I've got James and Fuhad in the studio from Shits and Gigs. Thanks for having us. This is very homely. It is, it's nice, very nice.

It's very nice. Someone said the other day is actually, is it homie or homely? I saw like a debate in a TikTok comment section the other day. Homey is like it's cozy, it's a cute home environment. Homely means ugly. Really? Shut up. Haven't you heard someone described as like, oh, they're so homely looking?

Never in my life. No. No. What? Homely? You look homely? I've heard like homeless. Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. Homely looking has a different meaning based on region.

In US, it generally describes a person as plain, unattractive, or not good looking. Damn! I thought it was just cozy. Yeah, I've never heard that was. Yeah. In British, English though, it means cozy, comfortable or unpretentious. Thank God. Okay, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. You thought you were getting in so much trouble. Yeah, really? Okay, no, sorry, cool. Cool. Yeah,

which is crazy that, like, we would have such different versions. Yeah, there's a lot of that. What's another one you can think of? It's more so spelling more than anything, as opposed to different meanings. No, there definitely is, there definitely is some. Obviously, there's, obviously there's the, the cigarette one. What's that one? I'm not going to say it. Everyone knows the cigarette one. Okay.

Now I have to Google when we're done here. Okay, cool. Okay. What do you guys, M-U-M? Yeah, mom. Are you, so someone told me when I say mum, you guys actually say mom, but it's your accent. Or are they lying to me? No, we say mom. We don't say mom. Thank you.

Yeah, we say mom. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Someone is like, it's still mom. No, no, no, it's mum. It's mum. Yeah. Thank you. People are trying to gaslight me in the comments.

Oh, no, yeah, 100% mom. You're good. Okay. Okay, I love it. Okay, without further ado, let's get into these stories, shall we? Ooh, let's. I'm excited. This episode is presented by State Farm. After five years of this podcast, we can say one thing for certain. A smart move can change everything.

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It's titled, My Boyfriend Said I Wasn't the Pretiest Girl He's Dated. in an argument, and then asked me for a threesome. Oh, okay. How did those two even? Yeah, how did that land? Not sure how to move forward. He's a brave soul. Okay.

I, 22 female, have been dating my boyfriend, 36 male, on and off for about a year. Okay. That's a gap. Yeah, yeah. 14 years. Jesus, right, okay. Recently, we got into an argument after he saw that men were reacting to my Instagram selfie with heart emotion.

I see. I know where this is going. Some of these men, I don't even know. He accused me of cheating and questioned why men felt comfortable messaging me if I'm in a relationship. I told him I couldn't control what other men do. Valid. And that his reaction felt insecure, especially since I was just starting to feel more confident posting pictures of myself. When I called him insecure, he got upset and said, I'm, quote, not the prettiest girl he's been with. That...

What a loser. What a fucking loser. He's clutching at anything. Yeah, anything. He's insecure. Like crazy, bro. Okay, cool, yeah. That really hurt me, especially since I already struggle with insecurity.

I left and afterward he apologized and said he didn't mean it, but the comment stuck with me. I feel like he meant it and it made me feel like I'm not enough. A few weeks later, he asked if I would be open to having a threesome with another woman. I said no. because I want a monogamous relationship, and it goes against my boundaries. Yeah. That situation made me feel even more like I'm not enough for him. This all happened a few months ago, but it still bothers me.

I feel insecure around him now and don't feel beautiful in the relationship. I'm not sure how to move forward or forgive him, and I'm wondering if I'm overreacting or being too sensitive. Pause, have you ever done any voiceover work? Your reads are phenomenal. Yeah, you've got... Yeah, very, very good. Yeah, I was locked. I was locked in.

I'm trying to get my calm sponsorship. Let me just slow people to bed. Fantastic. Yeah, you got a great voice. Thank you. Thank you. No, she's not overreacting and no, she's not oversensitive. This guy's a crazy person.

He is a master manipulator. I feel like. I don't even know if he's a master. No, he's not. I think he wants to be a master manipulator. I think. Amateur manipulator. Yeah, this is a, no pun intended, hot take.

But he's 36, she's 22. I think he wanted to find a. someone he can try and... Oh my God. Maybe gaslight or like try and manipulate her feelings and whatnot and make him feel like the alpha of the relationship. Like she said, guys posting on her pictures, she has no control over. For her to call him insecure is correct because he is insecure.

Yeah, that's a real. And because he got attacked by his own, I don't know, his own like reality of being insecure, he lashed out and said, oh, you're not even that good looking anyway. And I feel like there's every truth in any kind of, any kind of dig you want to give someone. I feel like there's a slight of truth to it. So if he said that to what, he must feel it. And I feel like because, hence the threesome question, like, why is he going to try and instigate a threesome if he's happy?

Why would you even instigate that inner relationship in the first place? Personally, I would. But, yeah, he's. No, it's definitely, it feels like negging, where it's like he's trying to be super negative. about her and in still insecurity. So then she tries to seek his validation. What's that, what's that, is it Pavlov's law? What's it called?

Pavlov's, yeah. Pavlov's dogs. Not Pavlov's dogs, that's something else. It's like Stockholm syndrome in kind of situation. Oh, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. What's the one where you need your,

that documentary where she, the daughter needed her mom so much? Was it Stockholm syndrome she referred to? The one where the mom was, the mom was a billionaire online. Oh my gosh. I still have to watch that one. It was dark.

It was. It was something special. And then she was trying to get with the daughter's boyfriend, right? Yes, she was. Yeah, she was. Sly. The mom was pure evil. Yeah.

But yeah, they called that syndrome, they called it something. Okay. The daughter needed the mom. She wanted the feeling of the daughter needing her mom so she couldn't stop this perpetual cycle of cyber bullying her. Oh my God, it's almost like Munchausens in a way or something. I think that might have actually been the time. Yeah.

Okay. Yeah. Like you make your kids think they're sick or like, yeah. You like poison your kids so they need you. Yeah. Yeah. Gypsy Rose or whatever. 622, there we go, man, Munchausen.

Yeah. Arndeson. Arson. Munchausen. 14 year gap, boston Arson. Yeah, this guy's crazy person. But yeah, he definitely was hoping getting with like a little

young 22 that he would feel like the greatest thing of all time. Yeah. And then as soon as he saw the competition, he was like, nah, this is not what I signed out for. Yeah, the competition. To be fair, this is not what I signed up. The competition would rock me.

But when he asked her. If they know you're in a relationship, why they're doing this? Bro! Yeah, he's lost ballads. He doesn't know what reality he signed up to. No. Because I'm like two. He's 36, dating a 22 year old.

I'm 32. Like, I can't imagine dating a 20 year old. What are you talking about? I don't even know. I don't know what we'd talk about. They'd be like 6, 7, 6.7? It'd be there all day. I'm like, oh.

I wouldn't be able to keep up. What are you talking about here? Like, I don't know what I would do. So I'm like, like, what? Is that where, you know what happens between all genders, whatever, but I feel like it's more typically like the boy brain where they date so young sometimes. I'm like, what? I don't know what it is.

What are we doing? I don't know what it is. Especially if we're talking like long-term relationships and stuff, I don't know what it is unless it's just like an ego thing. Yeah. Maybe. Yeah. I think that's the only thing you put in on it. He's lost and then he did the nudge, he did the munch houses.

Yeah, he's munching on that boy. Yeah, and then try to spin it with threesome. That's... Yeah. Yeah. Get out of jail free card. He wanted some. I don't know. Get out of jail free card? What the fuck is that even mean? I don't even know, bro. I don't even know how you pattern that.

Yeah. I don't know how you're a partner. Wow. No, it is, it does feel like I'm gonna really knock her when she's already down. Let me see what I can get away with. Yeah. Do you remember when I said that you're not the prettiest girl I've been with? I need another girl as well. Just to balance the scales. Yeah, just the best.

Because, yeah, this ain't working for me. Yeah. Yeah, he's lost his mind. She needs to escape immediately. Immediately. Top comment is just girl. Yeah. Yeah. Again, this is the manipulation factor, young 22.

Maybe her friends around her aren't telling her the right thing she needs to be told. He's an older guy. Maybe he can look after you because he's 36. Yeah. They're not giving her the best advice. So I think in that manipulation aspect, he's trying to win her over psychologically in the wrong way. Absolutely. Wow, that was funny.

There's another comment. How to move on? You move on without him. Besides the predatory age gap, he does not respect you and he's mean. Mm-hmm. 100%. And she's so young as well, she's got so much to live for. World is your oyster at 22? I don't even know what I was doing at 22, boy.

I was poor and miserable. Yeah. Yeah. I know those feelings. If a 36-year-old woman was helping me out, yeah. Yeah. She could munch me or she was from. I'd be...

I'm there. Yeah, I'll be housing. Yeah, 100%. Yeah. She'd be talking to me about three years and something. And I'm like, fuck. Whatever, babe. Yeah.

Yeah, I was in the pit. The yard will be spotless as well. Yeah. Oh, my God. So, yeah, I understand how you fall into the situation like that. Wow. My God. I don't even recall.

I'm like, where was I? It wasn't, yeah, I didn't have money, but it was fun. Yeah, I, at 22, I just, we had just graduated. And I was working as a personal trainer. And I specifically remember I was making. 370 pounds a week. Yeah. That was killing me.

I was a bartender, first year, and I was getting paid weekly as well, but I couldn't say how much it was making, but it was, it wasn't as miserable as your. Yeah. Your 22 years. No, that's tough. But it wasn't the greatest. No.

You had a car then, though. That's one thing I was envious of. I was like, how can I be on my wage and afford a car? It just didn't make sense to me. I had a car, but I was topping it up literally like nine pounds a time in petrol. Just to pop-a-putt to the next spot. I live four minutes from work and I'll just make it to work and back. It was miserable.

No, yeah. I think I was a flight attendant around this time and I think I made, well, I made $1,500 a month. So it's about your weekly. Like it's not much when you're new on reserves. Is that how much you were making as a flight attendant? I thought, I didn't know. I thought you guys were just bawling. I don't know why.

Once you get up and you have seniority, then it's like, okay, it's a pretty penny. But when you're new, you're only guaranteed, like, I think I was guaranteed 75 hours a month. That's it. Because you're on call. Your reserves when you're new. So you don't make much initially. Yeah, like, was it all domestic or no? So I'm international, but it was for a small airline in Minnesota. So I would just, like, I'd go to, like, Jamaica and back the same day. So I, like, would peek my head out the window, see the palm trees, feel the breeze, and then I was gone right back. No, no. No. No. No. It was torture.

How long did you do that for? Just a year. And then I got into grad school. Nice. Yeah, it was quick, luckily. But okay, moving on to this next one. This is coming from R-slash, am I overreacting? It's titled,

Am I Overreacting for getting irritated with my boyfriend's level of cleanliness? Interesting. Interesting. My 29 female, boyfriend, 32 male, thinks this is a normal way to live. It honestly disgusts me and turns me off. He talks about me moving into his house, but I flat out tell him I'm not moving in because of this, and I don't want to be tasked with cleaning up after him because it would make me resent him. He also hasn't lived without a woman in his house in years.

He lived with his ex-girlfriend, and now his sister lives with him. His sister basically cleans the house and does the chores besides his laundry and cleaning his room. I asked him if his ex-girlfriend was in charge of all the chores previously, and he said, yes, I don't want to move in and become a maid. Am I overreacting? And we do have some pictures, okay? Oh, okay, that's fun. This is photo number one.

What fuck? Off. That's, okay, right. I, okay, right. He, who doesn't instinctively at least run the tap? There's not a drop of water that's touched that hair. No, none. Also, that's going to clog the drain.

Yeah, it is. What did he even shave? I think that that can't be to be. That's a tassing a chest. Chest! Unless he just... He went for the top. I don't know what that is.

I don't know where that's from. I don't know where that's from. That's picture one. Okay, fair enough. That's pretty crazy. That is crazy. I wasn't expecting that. Picture two.

Hang on. Is that shit on the... Yeah, that's splashback. But how do you get shit there? I don't know, bro. Because he would have put that seat down. Yeah. There's shit on the lid.

That's no. No. That's serious splashback So is he leaning over and it flies up? Yeah, yeah, he must have. He must be shitting directly into the bowl and then And then leaning forward and then just

Directly into the bowl is heinous I would never live with a man like that. Maybe he's hovering. Why are you hovering? He's in trouble. What is that stainage at the top? What is that? Don't toilet seats like turn yellow

and discolor from oil? I don't know. I've never seen that phenomenon. Okay. I don't know. Well, you know the craziest part two? He has a bidet. Oh, he does.

Oh, he does. There's a bidet. Wow, and he just doesn't bother. Doesn't give a fuck. Maybe that's where the stains are from. Maybe he has so much leftover cake. Yeah. When he turns on the bidet, it's just...

Oh. It's just everywhere. And he doesn't clean up that clean up. He doesn't clean up that mess right. He just gets up and cracks on. Well, there's hair. Like, if you look, if you really zoom in... Oh, go on.

I'm like, there's hair. all around, like long pieces of hair. This guy can't stop with the hair. Okay, what's going on in the corner there? Full trash. No. Full trash. This guy's a sicker. He is. He really is. Contact cases, condom wrappers, floss. Contact cases. That's a pink eye. Yeah. Hazard. Feeding ground. Yeah. Like, you know that when you take a fresh contact out, like those little things. But we don't know if he's putting them in his eye while he sits on the toilet. I don't. We can speculate. Yeah, I won't put it past him. Yeah. He's an animal. He's a fucking animal.

So your boy brain cannot relate. Yeah, nah. Um, nah, I can, I can, okay, if I want to put myself in his shoes, I can see how, I can see how things can really snowball. X has left, she was taking care of everything. And between then and now, he's just let it all go into like full zoo mode. And I can see where new home girls come in. Yeah. This is his rock bottom.

Yeah. And she's thinking, I'm not. Yeah. I'm not tolerating this. I mean, I wouldn't be able to live with this. No, no one should have to live with that. No, I mean, how do you brush your teeth? That doesn't make sense.

If your sink is full of hair, how do you brush your teeth? That doesn't make sense because... Where is that from? That has to be a one-off. It's giving face. It looks like facial hair. That's an entire beard off. Yeah, that is a whole beard.

Yeah, I think he started fresh. No way. Okay, right. I'm trying to wrap my head around it. So the guy's a fucking dog. Yeah, he is. And he wants her to move in. She's asked him, who was doing it before? He said, X was doing it before. And his sister's doing it now. And his sister's doing it now. The sister's doing it now. The sister's doing a terrible job.

Yeah. For starters. The fact that he said the sister's doing it now when it looks like that, the sister's doing a terrible job. She's had enough, clearly. I would. How do you get someone like this to start cleaning? Like, if this was your partner, like, what do you say to your partner to be like, I'm not going to be your maid? You have to be frank. For me, it would just do. Just embarrass me. Yeah.

Just embarrass me. Yeah. And just like, I think it would literally take one time for her to be like, this is fucking disgusting. Is this how you live? Yeah, this is disgusting. Is this how you live? And then I'll be on my hands and knees.

Scrub, scrub, scrups, scrub, scrup. I think to be humiliated. I think my hot take is he was and always has been a mama's boy. 100%. Yeah. His mom has done everything for him since he was a kid. He moved out. His missus did everything for him.

She left. His sister does everything for him. She will leave him soon. So yeah, he's clearly, he has no, he's just leapfrogging. Yeah, literally, he doesn't know how to live by himself. He won't survive a week without someone being there with it. Wow. It's clear.

I think that's, that's traumatic, if anything. I know. That's sad. Top comment, not overreacting. And then they share a gif of Jim Carrey. Classic gag. Yeah. This needs a not safe for work tag.

Yeah. With that hair, especially those shit slay. The shit stains with, I've never seen anything like that. That's crazy. No, no. His diet is the first thing we need to talk about. Yeah, that needs to change. You know his fridge's Merck's.

Yeah. He's got gone up, bear gone off shit in the fridge. The fridge is going to be a disaster. Empty cupboards. Yeah. Two plates. One three and one free sister. Yeah, yeah.

Probably, probably eats directly out of the pot. Yeah, because he doesn't want it. Yeah, he makes pasta and deletes. He's it straight out of pot. That made me wheezed. Facts. Because he can't be bothered with the washer. with the plates. He can't be bothered.

He doesn't know how to use a dishwasher. I already know it. No. Yeah. He doesn't know the settings. No chance. I think he's actually probably using a plate, but then not washing it and just putting the new food on top of the grass. Oh, I got to bid. Don't say that. That I can't tolerate. The shit stains. Okay. That I can't tolerate. That's disgusted. Yeah. Wow. He's gut by and must be merked. Yeah. All over the shop. Yeah. Wow. We. Okay. Um, yeah. Fair enough. She shouldn't have to

live like that. But it should be easy enough to, like he's not blind. He can see that sink. He's just lazy and doesn't care. Yeah, he doesn't care. And that's also fair enough. At least he's ten toes about it. Yeah, he's ten toes. Yeah, but he's ten toes. At least he's ten toes. Yes, I'm up here. He's committed. Yeah, this is, at least she knows what she's signing up for. So do you think it's breakup worthy? Because I don't think at this point, I don't think you're changing him. I think it's more about compromise than change. God, you're so nice. How do you compromise though with that? I love love, in it?

So I want this to work out for them. And clearly outside of his home, there's something about him that she loves. True. So if we can just compromise, I think the compromise is just like, that's insane. Let's just get rid of all the insane shit. And then she can take care of the rest. If she so pleases. Not made worthy, but like Jesus fucking Christ, there's feces everywhere.

There's pubes everywhere. Like, what are we doing? And then hopefully we can find. some middle ground. I respect that. Because like you said, there must be something outside of his home that she loves about him. Because they are together. Something.

Yeah, there must be something. Yeah, I don't know what it is, but he has some kind of charm. Oh my gosh. But yeah, he can, he can see that that's disgraceful. Yeah, my advice would be to break up. Really? Why would you want them to break up? I don't think you're ever going to change this guy.

Maybe he needs therapy. Maybe there's a mental health thing going on. Mental health. There could be that. But if there's not, and he's truly just, lazy, he's never going to respect you. Imagine kids. Imagine if he can't clean up after himself. Yeah, okay, okay, okay. I love. I love love. I love. I'm right there with you, but I don't love enough to wipe shit off a toilet for the next 60 years. I couldn't see the love of my life on a

hands and he's cleaning old shit from my toilet. That I've sprayed relentlessly. Now, you know, this is a little TMI. Granted, my toilet didn't look like this. Okay, I'll tell you right now. Go, go, go. I'm just shocked. I know, I know I married the right person because I had a colonoscopy last week. Okay. And I had to do the prep. And like, you take, I took four laxatives and 14 doses of mirror lax.

And you do it in one sitting and just cleans you out. And I was like, don't worry, I'm going to clean the bathroom. Like, it wasn't bad. But I was like, even if there is something like, I want to be the one to clean it. I'm not going to like, I don't want to embarrass myself. between my husband, even though it's like, okay. But he literally went in there and just took care of it all. Wow, what a guy.

I know. What a soldier. Yeah. I know. What a guy. What a guy. Just a trooper. That's a real man, because I'd keep that directly in my back pocket.

Yeah. That's for a rainy day. Can I owe you? Yeah, yeah. 100%. We're not skirting over this. I was like, oh, you're so nice. Nope.

No, back pocket. I'm calling this when I need it. 100% valid. Wow, he's a man. He's a real man. That's so funny. It's only been a week. It might still be in his back pocket.

It's only been a week. Yeah, wow. Yeah, that's true. I owe him one. But okay, moving on to this next one. This episode is brought to you by Billy. I hate feeling like I'm doing yoga in the shower just to shave and get all my nooks and crannies. That is where Billy comes in.

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This is coming from Amity the Sack. It is titled, Am I the Asshole for bringing up my sister's past divorce at her wedding? Okay. Immediately yes. 110% yes, but I'm intrigued by the context. Yeah, same. I, 32 male, am currently single and I was at my sister's wedding this weekend and things have gotten tense since.

For context, my sister, 29 female, was previously married for about a year when she was 24. It ended pretty badly. there was a lot of arguing, and from my perspective, she rushed into it and ignored everyone's advice. Our family kind of just does not talk about it now, which I've always thought was weird, because it happened, and it clearly says something about decision-making. Anyways, at her current wedding, I was asked to give a speech. No one gave me any specific guidelines. There's no way.

Just say something nice. I did start nice, and I talked about growing up together how she used to make me terrible instant coffee and stuff like that. But then I pivoted into what I thought was a meaningful point about growth. Stop it. I said something along the lines of how we have all seen her make big commitments before that did not work out and how it is important to really think things through this time. I even added that hopefully her new husband knows what he is getting into and is ready for the long haul, unlike last time. This guy's insane.

People got really quiet, but I figured it was just because I was honest. I do not think weddings should just be fake positivity. After the speech, my sister was visibly upset and told me that I humiliated her on purpose. Her husband did not say much, but looked pretty uncomfortable. A couple of relatives told me that was completely. inappropriate and that a wedding is not the place to bring up past mistakes, especially something like a divorce. I told them I was trying to highlight her personal growth and the seriousness of marriage, but apparently that made it worse. My mom has not spoken to me since, and my sister says

I made the happiest day of her life about her worst one. In hindsight, maybe I could have worded it differently, but I still feel like pretending the past did not exist is dishonest. At the last, At the same time, I can see why she might not have wanted it brought up right then. Am I the asshole? This guy's a sociopath. He's a jealous little sociopath. I don't know what's going on. That's insane.

Because I can understand the aspect of trying to get to a point and you deviate and you start saying some things you're not meant to say, but you're like, no, but the point I'm trying to get is this. Fuck all that shit I've said here. This is the main point. But I think having that thought process, alone was like, he should have checked himself like, okay, this ain't a time, this ain't the place. I shouldn't say this here. But I think once he started, I don't think he could stop. I think that was where the downfall was. Once he like opened his mouth to start saying, oh, the past stuff, he just couldn't stop himself because he had to get to his point.

And yeah, that's Pete. He is, he is definitely the arse up. Yeah. Who's vet in these speeches, for starters? No one, no one. I didn't vet them. Yeah. I didn't vet mine. Oh, really? No. I mean, that makes sense. Someone should vet them. No. But then again, he said it was off the dome because he said he wasn't prepared. Oh, he just starts saying stuff. I'm pretty sure he said he wasn't prepared. Yeah, he kind of just said like no one gave me specific guidelines, just say something nice. And so he talked about growing up, how she used to make me terrible instant coffee. He definitely just wrote shit down that day. Also not nice. Yeah. And then I pivoted into what I thought was a meaningful

point about growth. But you really just like dogged on her. You didn't say like, I've watched my sister over the years, go through some hard things. And she's come out the other side, just a new person, so driven and mature, and I'm so happy she's met her match with Tom. I know he's in it for the long haul. He loves her so much. Damn. Like, that was good. I mean, it's just like, I get the point you're trying to make and show how far she's come

and she's this great person now or whatever. But it's like, yeah, she was married once before. It didn't last long. Yeah. She's dumb. I hope you're here for the long haul. New guy. Yeah.

Yeah, wow. Because I can't be bothered for a third brother and a lot. I can't be bothered. I don't want to meet a third guy I'm not doing this again His take about like Oh I don't think A wedding should just be about like fake happiness or whatever

That's literally what weddings are Yeah That's exactly what they are literally Who asks for brutal honesty on a wedding No one ever Just say fake nice therapy It's not therapy That's what therapy's for

And that's where he needs to go Yeah It does seem like he's a hater I was gonna say he does seem like he resents her because like I feel like this goes beyond just not understanding social cues. Yes. Like you don't do this to someone

unless you don't like them. So, hey, this literally reminds me of, I watched the drama last week, isn't it? Have you seen the drama? No, I've heard it's crazy. Oh my God. Yeah, this is given the drama. Oh, the speeches of that wedding were horrifying.

Oh. Yeah, it was a lot. Damn. That is so juicy, man. I need to watch it. I watch when I get back. No, yeah. I want to see, I want to see the little sheep movie. The sheep detectives? What is that?

No idea what you're talking about. What? It's with Hugh Jackmans in it for like a blip and then he gets murdered. No, he gets murdered. Yeah, it just came out. It's about sheep. Sheeps. Sheep's? Sheep. Sheep. Shoeep. Shoeep. Shoeep. Yeah, they become detectives to solve their farmer's murder. Oh, this sounds awful.

It does. No, it's got a 93% on rotten tomatoes. I don't believe that for a second. People are raving. They demand original content. We have to support. The sheep detectives. Is that what he's called? Yeah. Starring Hugh Jackman who dies.

Well, he's in it briefly. He's in the middle of the poster. That's such a fake sale. But same how when they did Chris Brown to stump the yard. He died in like two, three minutes. It was a pistic. Yeah, because that's why everyone wants to watch a new. What a throwback! I mean, maybe he's in it a little longer than I'm expecting.

The sheep detectives. Look at those little guys. Look at those cute sheep holding a magnifying glass. No, we're not tolerating this. I'm sorry. I will see it multiple times. Really? Is that your bag?

I don't, I guess. Okay, cool. Like, my favorite movie's National Treasure. With flipping homeboy? Is it Nicholas Cage? Yeah, with Nick Cage? That's your favorite movie? Top five for sure.

I've probably seen it over 200 times. Hmm. Between one and two. Damn. Yeah. Why? I feel judged. 100% right now.

No, I think I'm just, my mind is blown. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's just like a feel good, the music, the scoring is really powerful. I don't remember. Love a Nick Cage movie. I literally don't remember. I do love a Nick Cage movie, The Weatherman, banging movie. Face off.

Face off. Face off isn't bad, yeah. John Travolta. John Travolta, yeah, I watched it a lot when I was a kid. I had that on VHS, fun fact. What's the other one where he like lives a different life and then, like, he lives like the life of that he should have lived. Family man? Family man. Banger.

Unreal. Banger. Yeah, that's a good one. That's a really good one. Yeah. He's a versatile. He's a versatile. Yeah.

I don't know if National Treasurer's in there for me. What's your favorite movie? My favorite movie is probably Whiplash. I don't know if I've seen that one. The drumming movie. That's a great movie. No, I've never seen this one. You never seen it?

That's a great movie. No. Incredible. No. When you said drumming movie, I was like drumline? No, I've never seen this one. Drumline. I've seen a lot of times as well.

Okay. I'll put this on my. list. Whiplash is phenomenal. It's intense. Yeah. National Treasters is going to get knocked off the pedestal immediately. You know what's crazy?

It has the same score on Rotten Tomatoes as sheep detectives. The 93%. Okay. How many reviews are you talking about? Sheep detectives must have 11. I'm saying it just came out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm saying sheep detector has 11 reviews.

I don't know where I see how many. You should say in brackets next to it like a number. Yeah, like a young. 304 304 Um Yep And then the popcorn meter rating

50,000 plus is 94% This sheep detective No that's your whiplash Oh okay nice Nice Um let's see about the sheep It's gotta be like 10 and 4 Yeah I'm saying there's 11 reviews on there

Oh it's actually up to 94 Oh 95% now This is impossible 44 reviews only though So it's got 250 more to go And we'll see where we end up Okay 94%. This doesn't make consent. This is... 95%.

I'm telling you. All-Star cast. It's a British movie, I'm assuming. They sound British. Yeah. It sounds like a British movie. It does sound like a bit. The sheep detectives. It's a British movie. Yeah. Yeah. You should support. The USR signing that off. They're not signing that off. I'll tell you that for free.

All right. I'm not going to watch it in theaters, but I'll... It's a plane movie for you. Oh, if it's on the plane, I'll watch another way home. Okay. I'll let you know my thoughts. Okay, thank you. Okay, cool. You let me know on the pod.

Yeah, I'll tell you're watching that shit. The sheep detective. I hate CGI talking animals. Really? I can't stand it. Really? God, what's another one that's out there? Lion King Live Action you weren't about?

I wasn't too bad, but I knew what I was signing up for. More like Babe. I can't stand babe. Babe? Yeah. Oh, that's iconic. I know it's iconic. I can't stand that movie.

Do you know what my least favorite movie is of all time probably? Chicken run. Oh, wow. That's deep. The throwback. The worst movie ever. What a throwback. I don't know why I hate it so much.

I just hate it. It's the same animation as Wallace and Grommie. Wallace and Grommie. Yeah. That clay shit. Stop motion. Yeah. It's so impressive though.

It is impressive. Yeah, I don't think I mess with the chicken. Okay, cool. That's good to know. No. Top comment on the wedding one, you're the asshole. Overall vote. Oh, yeah.

You're the assail. Are you fucking serious? Insulting the bride? Cool. Are you fucking serious? Insulting the bride in your speech at her fucking wedding? The most obvious asshole behavior I've ever seen. And if you were my sibling, our relationship would never be the same.

Disgusting, disgraceful behavior. Yeah, he's a jerk. He wants to be alienated, boy. Yeah, he's a top joke. Yeah. That's peak. Someone replies to that and says, My first husband negged me in our wedding speech.

Mildly enough, like he said something about how. he always hoped to make me happy because sweeper's business is, as you know, universal. What a surprise that that marriage was over in 18 months. And I kind of dated my loss of faith in him to the moment he couldn't bring himself not to insult me at our wedding. And someone goes, sorry, I think that went over my head.

Could you explain what this means as an insult? Yes. I took the words out of my mouth. I've never heard that sweepers' happiness is, as you know, universal. And someone responds, The implication is that she isn't happy. She makes everyone else miserable. So you'd better make her happy because it sucks when she isn't.

It's a fairly common sexist trope and definitely not something you want to hear at your wedding. Oh, interesting. User's name is like sweeper, so I think that's why they were, so it'd be like me going at my wedding to my husband being like, Justin's happiness is, as you know, universal. Which still like kind of lost on me to be honest. I'd have gone over my head in a speech. I'd probably see it as a compliment. Yeah. I'm serious.

If my bride said that to me on my wedding, I'd be like, oh, that's sweet. Oh, safe. Yeah. And then everyone else would be like, oh, what a bitch. I couldn't smile, I didn't hear. In the crowd? No, no. I'm like, what's happened?

Weddings are stressful overall. Yeah. Were you stressed at your wedding? No. Really? No. You were just happy, happy? Yeah, Dina was there.

I don't think I was stressed. Everyone kept trying to like, I think I got stressed by people the only time, was people being like, are you okay? Do you need anything? Are you okay? And it was constant to the point where I was like, should I not be okay? Yeah. Like, and it was one like person,

I was just like, I need someone to like get him away from me because like I took my beta blocker. I'm chilling. Like I'm having so much fun. I go, no. No, it was like, stuff went wrong. Like you just have to roll with the punches and like have a blast.

Yeah, nice. But I had a camel. A camel at your wedding. Yeah. Interesting. I just wanted a camel. I wanted something different. Is it part of the theme? No.

Just camel? Just wanted a camel there. Nice. So how did that play out in the wedding? I got married on my family's farm. Okay. Context. That's more context.

Yeah, and beer donkeys, magician. What's a beer donkey? A little donkey that walks around delivering beer. The sheep detective thing is making much more sense now. Yeah, this is really adding up. Okay, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. It fits now. Okay, context.

Yeah, that's a good one. But again, moving on to this next next. one, you have started a new segment on your show called Daddy Fantasy. Oh, yes. I'm thinking more segment. Yes, yes, I have. It's a hit. I'm glad, yeah. Yeah, my assistant Dina is obsessed with it. She actually told me you guys are doing it. Megan's idea. Yeah. Yeah. And I know, I said thanks to Megan because you read Fourth Wing, which I just finished all three. I read all three of them in five days. Really? Damn. Yeah. Yeah, I was so hooked. Yeah. Fantastic. And now I'm like, Okay. But you get the Romantic fantasy book genres.

You guys understand it. Okay. Cool. What's your favorite so far? Out of all of them? Yeah, that you've gotten into. I would say my favorite so far was probably, actually was probably, what did we, what did we just finish? The third one. Have you started now too? Because I listen. Okay, you listen to his recaps because I was like, I think you said in the fourth wing one I watched, you're like, yeah, I actually. I kind of want to read it now.

Are you considering? Yeah, you listen to Fourth... Or you just want to watch this show. I'm audible. Audible. So I've listened to Fourth Wing. I've done the second... I'm halfway through the second book.

I can remember what it's called. Okay. And I've listened to the first two of... Akatar? Akatar. Akatar's been a little bit harder for me to get into. The first Akatar book I thought was boring. That's right, Matt.

Boring. The first, the first bit of Akatar, I was like, damn, this is amazing. Yeah. And then... I was hooked. When you first did the first episode of Akata Book 1, I was hooked. Yeah, I was amazing.

Yeah. But boring. I actually think this one, I just finished the third one. Wings and Ruin, maybe? I think Wings and Ruin, the best. I think Wings and Ruin is actually my favorite so far out of all of the nice people. There was a lot going on. Ooh.

Out of all of them. Okay. Okay, cool. So you thoroughly understand them. So you'll have a good take on this next one. Fun. is coming from our slash relationship advice and it's titled

My 35 female husband 35 male asked me to stop reading romance novels Okay Sounds like a hater He doesn't like I'm intrigued, okay My husband 35 male

Of 11 years Asked me 35 female To stop reading romance novels He said that he doesn't like That he's not the one turning me on He hasn't said this in so many words but essentially he thinks it's cheating. Okay.

The thing is, he was just diagnosed with a porn addiction. Okay. Interesting. Diagnosed is fucking insane, by the way. Who goes to get diagnosed for that? Where do you get diagnosed for that? I'm not stepping into that building. You can't fucking make me.

I'd rather just say I am. I'd rather just say I am. Put me on a notice board. Yeah. Yes. I love sex and I love porn. That's it. Yeah, that's it. It's over. I'm not going to get an official diagnosis. Let's just say I am and leave it there. Well, he has had erectile dysfunction due to his overconsumption of porn.

Okay, I didn't know that was a thing. It is a thing. And gorilla grip masturbation techniques. Sorry? What? Yeah, what? You've never heard of death grip syndrome? No, what's that? You have to squeeze until it's like about to pop for you to come. to get... Oh. No.

I've never heard of that, my life. Guerrilla grip or death grip syndrome. Death grip. That's how much he's fat. Yeah, he's beat his dick that much. Okay, fair. I would go see someone for that. I'm not gonna lie to you.

Yeah. I would be mortified. Yeah, 100%. He hasn't been able to finish P&V sex since we got pregnant with our kids five years ago. Okay. The last year or so, he hasn't been able to get or stay hard without porn and a tight hand.

I had my fucking tight. You're a great reader. Yeah, you read y'all. I had HG when I was pregnant. The one and only time we tried to have sex, I vomited on him. We have had very little bedroom time since. I finally convinced him to see a doctor about this issue

because he has been so incredibly depressed. He was diagnosed only a week ago and will have his first therapy visit in two weeks. Last year, I started going to a monthly book club. I normally read high fan. books, but this club is for fantasy romance books. I started going to this book club as my own means of socializing. I have a difficult time making friendships because I have autism, only so much energy to spend on people outside of my family. This once monthly book club has been amazing because

it's a scheduled two hours. I have loved feeling like I belong and actually contributing to discussions. I look forward to seeing my friends and I feel like my mental health has really improved because of it. Since starting going to this book club, my libido has increased steeply. I always turn to my husband, but he is frequently unable to provide what I need with his ED. When things don't work out with him, I lose my interest in chasing an orgasm. We both end up feeling rejected and dejected. Oh my God. Today, he asked me to stop reading romance novels all together. After writing this out, I can now see that he's likely feeling a lot of pressure from me. I don't want to lose my friendships. I also don't want my husband to feel inadequate or like I don't care about his

emotional needs. I'm trying to figure out a reasonable and rational way I can keep my once monthly socializing with these friends while respecting the current needs of my husband. He has not stopped or even slowed down his porn consumption or masturbation. Since his therapy session isn't for two weeks, we don't have anything to go off of. He's banging him out. He's got two weeks to really smash these out. Okay, I get it. I'm feeling a little lost on the best course of action for the both of us.

What do you think is reasonable going forward? Right. What a relationship. That's fascinating. That really is juicy. What I'd give to be the therapist in this situation. I'll be foaming. Both of you get in it.

Yeah, I'm foaming out of the mouth. All right. So, home, but I can understand his perspective. He's... He's... He's... He's clutching at the wrong straws. However, for one, you can't compete with a 700-year-old high fay.

You just can't. You can't. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Wings and shadow. Yeah, you can't. It's not possible. Dragons and dragons and all. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And they fuck that way. They fuck and they fight. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He doesn't need them. He just squeezes his dick. Yeah. That's the best he can provide. Yeah.

Um, I can understand how he feels. It's a horrible. truth, but in his mind, yeah, the more she reads, the hornier she gets, which she has to just consistently get reminded that he has ED. And then he just feels more embarrassed. So in his mind, he's like, well, if you just stop reading it, then you'll stop trying to fuck me and then you'll stop being reminded that I have a porn addiction and can't get hard for you until I can start doing these therapy sessions and then we can get into it. But for the next fortnight, I need you to put the books away. But what about him not, like,

stopping. Oh, yeah. That's where the compromise is, that's why in his mind, he's like, yeah, but I'm sick. Yeah. So I need this. Yeah.

I need this so I can wake up tomorrow. I need something to look forward to. Yeah. So you can't stop my ED or you can't stop my porn addiction. This has been me my whole life. You just started these books. Facts. Yeah, you just started the books.

It's been two months. It's been 12 years for me. I'm an addict. Have you seen my forehead? My dick is black and blue. It's not as easy. I honestly, I'm surprised it's not. It must be a mess down there.

It must be. Death grip. Syndrome. I've never heard of that. Yeah. Why did she vomit on him? Oh, yeah. What was that about?

Because I was going to ask about that. HG is hyper amesis gravaderm. It's this thing that can happen when you become pregnant where you just have morning sickness, intense vomiting the entire pregnancy. It's just constant. I see. So she had that HG and then they tried to be intimate and she accidentally threw up. That was the last time they actually had sex.

Fuck. I'm pretty sure that's what she did. By the sounds of it, yeah. This whole thing is a mess. Yeah. We really need to get back to ground zero. I find it, I was going to say, I find it difficult that she didn't know he had a porn addiction early, but obviously he would hide it. I would hide it if I had a porn addiction.

110% on hiding. So it's like it's hard for, no pun intended, but it's hard for him to come out with that kind of information to anyone letting know your partner. Yeah. on top of that. I know. I wish we had like a Phonis X therapist button right now because I'm like, I just feel like I've had so many questions

about the way guys look at porn lately where I'm like, do guys realize that porn isn't real? Is that a genuine question for us? Yeah, like, do you think the average guy watches porn is like, that's not acting? Like, that's real? Yeah, 100%.

It's hard for a guy to conceptualize the acting part. Okay. Because it's like... They're seeing it happens. Especially for a guy because we have to remember as well, in order for a guy to engage in sex, he has to get hard. So if I'm watching porn and the guy is hard, my mind is like, well, he obviously, he's not acting. They find them to be there because otherwise he just wouldn't be able to get hard.

Especially if you're watching it from like 13, 14. Yeah. That just is instilled in your brain. Yeah. So crazy. So I can see that they probably do think like, yeah, it's real. To an extent. To an extent, you hope.

I mean, you hope. But like we come across it on Reddit all the time with like all of these like porn, like my boyfriend's hiding porn for me or like the new one is my boyfriend is talking to an AI girl. Okay. That's ridiculous. And having a relationship sexually with AI. That's ridiculous. I would love to know the tea, but that's ridiculous. No, that's like that's where we're getting.

I just did it on an episode and it's like she found out her boyfriend is sexting AI. Okay. What the hell is going on? And so it's like. Like, where, like, where is the line? That's a desperate need for, I don't know, affection then, I guess. That sounds like a different beast altogether. I know.

Texting. Sexting. Yeah. Sexting. AI. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know about that one. I know.

And is it cheating or is it not cheating since it's AI? It's 100% in the same family. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that's, I mean, that's, it's like an emotional affair in a sense. I don't think, home. Because he said he feels like she's cheating on him with these book things. Yes.

Oh yeah, that's crazy. That's crazy. He needs to grow up. He essentially thinks it's cheating. No, he's... I feel like he is lashing out with that one. I think he's just saying stuff. I don't think he believes that.

A book club. Facts. You're cheating. What do you think the character's going to jump off the page? Yeah. And fuck me? She wishes. Literally.

She wishes. Yeah. Someone needs to. I mean, it'd be better. Facts. Oh. That whole... I feel sorry for both of them.

I feel miserable for both of them. That's so horrible. Top comment on this one brings up a really good point, though. Ask him if he was thinking of you and your needs every time he watched another woman have sex on screen. Yeah, of course. Because it's like in his head, he's like, you're envisioning yourself with these characters.

That's what's doing it for you? Well, what about when you watch porn? Are you putting my face on them? Like, are you thinking of me? That's interesting. But also, is he putting himself in that scenario with the porn also, though? because again Or he's just a voyer

Yeah That's interesting actually Because when I've watched porn I don't imagine I'm there fucking the girl Yeah yeah yeah It's just a visual stimulus Watching it

Yeah Fun fact I haven't watched porn this year I'm over it Dude That's pretty good I'm over it It's boring Yeah we're almost halfway through

Yeah And the thing is like I'm just like I'm just I don't know I'm just over it It's just like boring As a guy reading the Romanticie fantasy books, do you kind of have a concept, like, now to, like, kind of combat what he's saying, where it's like, there's no way it's cheating. Like, it's just so...

Because, like, I tried to describe it to my husband where he's like, because I, you know, read Fourth Wing and I'm like, oh, my God, this book is so good. He came home from a trip, and I ignored him for, like, two days because I was like, let me just finish my book first. But, like, he obviously isn't threatened by it, but trying to explain what these books do. It's like you just get lost in the world, but I'm not wishing I was that character. You know what I mean? I understand entirely. It's also, I also think I have like a different perspective because as I'm reading it, it will be like Violet speaking, but like I can't identify as Violet.

Exactly. So, because I'm like a straight guy. So like hearing a girl talk about like her experience in like banging her boyfriend or whatever, I'm just like nice. decent. But I'm not there like, what's he going to do next? What is he going to do next? Yeah.

So again, I'm like, I don't know. I don't know. But yeah, again, if you're just like, I'm just happy for the characters when they get after it. Yeah. And I get absorbed in the like turned oneness of the environment of the storytelling. But yeah, again, I'm not in that scenario. So I can see, I can definitely be like, the dude just needs to grow up. I know. I did have a story that I found recently, though, where the person is obsessed with the Romanticy fantasy books and accidentally said the character's name during sex.

That's my line. Yeah. No. Because then, like, then you're kind of going. Yeah. We can't go back. It's past fantasy. Yeah, it really has jumped off the page. Yeah, wow. We can't come back from that. But what about role playing? Like if your partner knew up front and then committed to the bit with you, then I'm like, okay, fair game.

Yeah. Role playing for me, again, is, I would be down with the role playing. If she asked me to be Zaden, for example, I can only be Zadon one time. Okay. I have to be Zaden one time. Then I need to be flipping Tamlin one time. Then I need to go and be Reese another time. Like, we can't always be like, be Zaden again.

You're Zaden again. I'm gonna call you Zayden again. Sunday. Yeah, yeah, you're Zadis. It's like, no. Because then it feels like no, you're trying to be. I mean, you're just wanna fuck someone else. I want me to pretend to be him.

But role playing in general, like, cool, great, but I'm not, I'm not gonna be the character for you every time. Okay, that makes sense. Yeah, one in done. That's like fair. It's like we tried it, but like I'm not taking on this persona permanently. Yeah, literally. So you can say Zadin in bed every night. That's not happening.

No. I would lose in the way. I would lose interest immediately. As soon as I hear Zayden, I'm tapped out. I'm tapped out. Has anyone accidentally said the wrong name with either of you? Impossible, no. Really?

No, I would never get over it. I would never forgive her. It's straight, simple, I've never. Because where are you right now? You're, yeah. Where are you? Because you're not here. Yeah, I'm inside you when thinking of him?

You're not present with me? No, that's a nightmare. That's my worst. I can't think of anything worse. I've done it before. Shut the fuck up. To my husband when we first started dating. I was so drunk.

I like literally I didn't. Yeah. Just wrong names slipped out. Sorry. Who did you say? Like one of my guy friends' names. No! No! You're joking!

Do you like him? Did you like him? No. Like, a purely friend from the jump of meeting him. And I didn't remember. it. Like I, he told me and then I was like, what the fuck? I'm like, I'm so sorry. Like, I had no idea the next day. So I'm like, okay, well, like I'm trying to rationalize why I would have said that. But, yeah. Again, your husband's a real man. Yeah, true. Yeah. No, that would break my heart.

I know. He's a good one. Have you ever gotten like a hey dude message on Instagram or anything? No, I haven't. I can't. That, when you see that, like, hey girl. Have you had it before? Yeah. No. Yeah. And you just feel your stomach just drop. No, no, no. My blood would run cold.

Oh my God. You just, you just all, like immediately clammy. Fuck. Like, you're just nauseous. You're like, what the fuck. Yeah, he was at my house last night. Oh, those guys are the worst, dude. I'm just like, oh my God.

No! I can't, I can't receive one of those. Yeah. I know once this comes out, all I'm going to get is those. Yeah, yeah, yeah, facts. All I'm going to get is those. No, I can't. I can't.

I just can't. It's so crazy. you're listening and you found out that your partner was cheating on you some crazy way like your dog found her underwear whatever it is like please put it in the comments because i know some of you out there have definitely apple watch i feel like it's becoming more common like couldn't be betrayed by my apple watch like like something about like oh he closed his rings at like two a m and by like vigorous activity like something like that like yeah yeah you know that's out there really Okay, wow, there's different methods.

There's different stages to it. Drop it in the comments. Yeah. Oh, it must have been beaten. Can you imagine, can you, okay, check this. Imagine you're happily married. Yeah. Imagine you are happily, happily married.

And then you coincidentally see your wife checking her like aura ring results. And at 2am, there's a spike in activity. While you were out of town for work. work. 2 a.m. there's a huge spike. I'm confronting it. I don't know what I'm saying, though. Because it's like...

It feels crazy. Like, going to someone and being like, your aura ring has some activity. Like, you would feel nuts. I'm stupid. Yeah, it should make you feel stupid as well. She will. She will. Yeah. And that would annoy me even more. Yeah, but we both know what this is. Yeah. Oh, that's an absolute nightmare.

My biggest fear. No thanks. Yeah, it's bad. A lot of comments on this one, people just asking like clarifying questions. Why does sex have to stop when your husband's erection stops? Are his hands and his mouth working? Valid. That's, I forgot, that came to my mind

as we were reading, actually. Really? Yeah, why is he still not? Where's the oral at, man? I, I've often, yeah, I would think that if I had ED, that would be like my, I, what would, what would make me feel super, because obviously this is like a, someone's actually asked me this when they were like, oh, how would I want, if I had E.D.

how would I want to be addressed about it? One thing that I would really, really, really prefer is if she was very selfish with her nuts and was just like, okay, cool, your dick doesn't work, but your mouth and your hands do, so, like, what are you doing about it? That would set me at so much ease. Yeah, because the pressure's off.

Yeah, the pressure's off, and we can draw attention away from this thing, and the more attention we bring to this thing, the worst it's just going to get. Question. Cool one. Obviously, not obviously, but you have a E.B. in this situation, right? You're pleasing your girl.

Yeah. Mouth fingers, one of the side. Are you taking your boxes off? To just see? Because naturally, naturally you would, yeah. I would like to hope so. I'm in honest, I would like to hope so. I'm wishful thinking maybe, but I would like to hope so.

To just say they're soft. But you have to get comfortable. Yeah, you do. This is who I am right now. I have to get comfortable with it. And that's the best way, like, expose. exposure therapy, dude. If I keep the boxes on, then this is like, you're clearly hiding something.

You're clearly hiding something. You're clearly hiding something. I have a mental block knowing that, like, I'm still scared to see. I might as well just get naked and be like, well, I'm just soft and that's who I am. I'm a soft guy. Yeah, it could help to taking them off with like, okay, I'm going to really get into the bit. Maybe it would encourage something. Yeah, hopefully.

Magic out of that is well. Happiest day of your life. Oh, you would. I wouldn't act on the first burner, though. Oh, you couldn't. No, no, really. Yeah, because that's like, I'm going to lose it. That's like a pump fake. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, it's a hezzi, yeah. No, no, no, right? So you just slide it in? Yeah, it's a tease. Yeah, it's a tease. Again, as soon as he knows I've acknowledged him, he's going to go away. Because that's all you're going to be thinking about. Yeah, that's all I think about.

Oh, oh, no, hard, hard. Lose it. And then you've got to focus. And then she's going to go through her things. It'll be, yeah, no, no, no, no, I just mouth and fingers until I surprise it a bit of a heart. Yeah, once that therapy kicks in. So we do get, like, an edit slash update from O. I want to thank everyone for their support.

there are some points that I wanted to address. First, he obviously does have hands and a mouth. I just feel immediately turned off if he's not also obviously, visibly enthusiastic about performing those activities. Okay. He's a selfish lover. Also, at the risk of sounding too vulgar,

I usually end up with a yeast or BV infection after he uses his mouth or hands. So I avoid it. Stop it. Usually. Bacterial vaginosis, yeah. Or yeast infection, which I'm like... What?

What? I just got dirty, dirty hands and mouth. Do you know I'm embarrassed I would be if I went down on my garage? She was like, now I've got BV, so now what? With your disgusting mouth. He sounds like such a hot mess. No wonder he's got a poor addiction. That's his only release, because he's dirty, through and through.

Oh. Usually. Usually. Usually. After the second time, stop. Stop. Stop. You're hurting me down there.

Stop, bro. Go see someone. That's fucked. I know. And so there's like a lot of conversation happening right now with BV. Sorry. Oh my God. Sorry.

A lot of conversation around BV. Yeah, where a lot of people are like, yeah, every time I have sex with this guy, I get BV again. You're topped in, by the way. Yeah. Well, like, I have a, I have a friend here who was literally, like, every single time she'd get treated for BV, and they kept coming back, and she'd get treated again, and then it would come back.

And she finally put it together that this guy, every time she would have sex with her guy, it would come back. And so while it's not classified as a STD right now, there's research that increasingly shows it is sexually associated and can be transmitted between partners. And so studies are showing that by treating male partners, it can significantly reduce occurrence in women. How do you treat for dudes? I'm pretty sure it's just antibiotics. Oh my God, really?

Interesting. Antibiotics. Interesting. I thought it was just like dirty dick. Prescription, antibiotics. It can be a pill, gel, cream, or suppository. Suppository is crazy. That is crazy.

Pop me the pill. Why is that even an option? Just give me the pill. Why is that an option? Well, if you think about a suppository, it's like a little pill, and then you just shoot it up like you would a tampon almost. It's like the same applicator. Oh, no, for a girl, yeah, 100%.

Yeah, for a... I'm talking about guys. Yeah, you know, you'd have to shove it up there. Yeah, I don't know. Why is that an option? I just say the pill. I mean, there's gel, too. Gel?

Yeah, gel and cream. That would make me so embarrassed. It would. I'd pop the pill. But anyway, yeah. Yeah. But that's what they add. And then she does go on to say, second, we are both trying to navigate things right now.

He started meds, and he wasn't given on any direction on how to stop these problematic activities. He tried to stop the first few days, but he literally stayed awake for 40 hours. It's consuming him. I honestly feel like this isn't... Hang on, sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry. What's happening? He was watching porn for 40 hours. No, he, like, tried to stop for a few days.

Oh, and that kept him up for 40 hours. Yeah. Oh, my God. Can you imagine? I can't sleep. I need to know. Baby I can't sleep. I need it.

That's all I'm thinking about. 40 hours. Couldn't sleep. Put me in a hospital. I'm not leaving the hospital. Do they have kids? Yeah, they did. Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Had our kid five years ago. So just one kid by the sound of it? I would have left. If you were her? Yeah, so long ago. She's very understanding because she does go on to say, I honestly feel like this isn't just a B,

behavioral addiction. He needs support, love, and acceptance. She's a real one. I'm not going to lie and say I'm not pissed and hurt by it, but people who aren't in this situation can't truly appreciate the nuances to this kind of addiction. I'm not going to up and leave him. We are a family and I'm going to exhaust all of our options before leaving. Fair enough. I rate her, man. Yeah, same. That's a trooper. Not a right or die. Yeah, literally. Not my time, bro. I'm figuring out. I'm gone. 40 hours. I couldn't see that. That would be the straw that breaks me. I love a nap. Like to, I'm like four. Yeah, he can't sleep, bro. That's where it's like, no, this is genuinely clinical. Like, I think he should actually go to like

an inpatient rehab facility. Yeah, 100%. I don't think monitoring and handling this at home is going to do it. You need seven day, seven nights in one of these straptings. Yeah. Yeah. And just figure it out. Oh. Or like some mitts. Like, you know, duct tape oven mitts. Yeah. Yeah. That's so scary. That's tough. Yeah, I'm checking myself into rehab, 100%. Yeah. I don't think you would, though. Foo had.

I don't think you would. I didn't sleep for two fucking days because I need porn. I don't think you would, though, James. Like, because I think... Two days! I appreciate I understand what you're saying, but I've heard you now hear me. I'm listening. I genuinely think the blockage would be, or the barrier would be,

you having to tell whoever at the front desk, why you want to be here. I think that would be. stop you from admitting yourself. Yeah, I'll just tell my wife to do it for me. I need you to call these, man. Tell them that I'm checking in. Tell them why I'm checking in. And then just let's be discreet about it. Just put me in my room and then let's not.

And when we are doing the, hi, my name's James and I'm an addict, I don't need to, we need to, we don't need to like fine tooth comb it. We're all addicts here. Yeah, that's why we're here, right now. Yeah, you don't need to know that I need the guerrilla grip, something, something, something. No, just like, dude, like whatever. Do you feel like that's because it's something that's shameful?

Is that because... To be fair, I mean... A lot of, like, male's identities is, like, tied to sex and performance. Yeah, I would struggle. When it's, like, when it's the talking time, I would need to hear some horror stories for me to have the confidence. I feel comfortable. To be, like, I haven't fucked my wife in, God knows how long,

and I can't come unless I squeezed all the blood out my dick. And I didn't... I tried to go cold turkey if you were born, and I didn't sleep for two days. Yeah. And now I'm jealous of her fictional... fairy characters that she reads in her local book club. And I actually have the audacity to ask her to quit the book club because I just can't compete with fictional characters. Whilst I, and the two weeks before I started therapy, you guys have no idea how much fun I watched.

Even though I'm in the same PA meeting as you, yeah, I don't think you understand how much I'll be holding back a laugh. Okay, laughing, okay, laugh is a hot take. I think it would be, I think it would be the sheer shock factor of you being so nonchalant of how. how easily you can just blurt these things out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'll be like, damn, bro. I hear it. Because I actually, I also don't think it will be fair for you to move on.

Or for like, the person that's hosting the meeting, they have to stick with you all meeting. Yeah, because this is, now you, now you're like, there's too much information. There's a lot. Yours is tea. Yeah, yeah, it's tea. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I'm not there to be judged.

So if you laugh, I'm gonna tell homework to kick him out. I'd have to kick him out. I'd have to know, I'd start myself. But how I'd want to go is similar to you, like, my wife or partner would have to build them, but I don't want to know the date they take me. I want them to just pull up to my yard. Really? You want to be, like, kidnapped?

Yeah. Just pull up to my yard. My wife's greatly got an emergency bag packed. Okay. It's time. And then, boom, yeah, then I'll go. You wouldn't want to just voluntarily drive there and check in? You want to be taken?

Yeah, I'll be just take me, bro. I think it only works if you're ready for it, though, and you do want here. I think that would allow me to be like, okay, cool. is go time as opposed to thinking it's going to happen on Sunday. I mean, dreading, it's Wednesday. I know it's happened on a Sunday. I don't think I would stop watching porn. From Wednesday to Sunday to Sunday. Yeah, I think I would watch an excessive amount because I know this the last time I'm getting it. As opposed to... Which is kind of what he was doing. He's like, I know I have two weeks until my appointment. So like, I'm going to go for it.

Yeah. His category list must be intense. Yeah, I was going to say he must have exhausted everything. I don't know what kind of porn he watches. And that's also, like, what are you watching? What are you watching? Because there's levels, and if you're at a level, I don't like. I hope they've had that conversation. I know. He's probably lied.

I would lie. Yeah, I was going to say, he's probably lied. Yeah, I was going to say, he's probably lied. Amateur. Yeah, because I don't think she's, like, I wouldn't want to watch that. Yeah. Like, it's already so hurtful. I'm not going to watch you and the only thing that you're getting off on.

O.P. does add. She is going to put some boundaries down. I told him that I will be continuing to read one book a month and I will be attending the book club. Good for her. I will not initiate sex again until at a time that we all, him, me, therapist, feel he is comfortable having healthy sex again. See, that I don't like that bit.

As the man or the girl? Yeah, as the man, I can understand the necessity for that. That adds so much pressure. It's not even funny. It does add pressure. Really? The day we're in that therapy session and the therapist is like, okay, James, I actually think it's a healthy time for you guys to try.

My dick would be the limpest. Well, it doesn't have to be that day, but at least you then get the clear. Yeah, but still. Because any time she, like, touched me, I was like, oh, my God, she's initiation. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's all I'd be thinking about.

Rubbing my shoulders whatever. I'm like, oh, my God, oh, my God, I'm going to go. Please, please. If I can't get hard, I'm just going to cry. Yeah. Yeah, I'm curious if there's any therapists out there that would chime in and be like, here's how the right way to go about it would be. So there isn't that pressure.

So it feels spontaneous and organic. Yeah. Yeah. God willing, because. That is stressful. O.P. says, I won't hide what I'm doing. I'm doing something that's healthy for me and I shouldn't suffer for it. He was naturally pretty upset to hear this.

I think you guys are right that he's projecting, trying to grasp some control in the situation by making us equal in his eyes. I was too deep in it to see what was rational. Now that I can see it, I'm not budging. Luckily, I have the autism to help me with that. Thank you for helping me see what's healthy. Nice. Fair.

Good for her, ma'am. Fair. Him asking out to stop the book is crazy. is, can I play devil's advocate? This is not my belief system. I would also be threatened by the double down of, I'm not stopping reading these fantasy books. Because then in my mind, I'm like...

So what is it about these? Yeah, this is... It's not about the reading anymore. It doesn't sound like it's about the reading. It's about the sex. It's about the sex. And you deserve it because you're deprived. Yeah.

But again, I would be concerned... Because she's so adamant about this is the type of book I'm going to be reading. It's not just books in general. Yeah, it's not just the reading or the club. It's the fucking steamy hot fantasy books. That's what I want to read. In his perspective, based on what he's going through,

I would be like, I would be scared thinking, okay, cool, because it doesn't sound. He's a real addict. Yeah, does it? See, I'm in, no. That's what I'd be thinking. Who's a real addict? Me are you?

See, for me, I feel like it's more about the club. And by- She said it's about the club. Yeah, she did. I just want us to read different. genres in this club. But that's not the club. Those aren't where her friends are at.

They're not at the... So it's a sex club? The cookbook club. So it's a sex club? He's a real life. No. Bad. No, we're playing devil's advocate.

The devil doesn't need an advocate. Clever. That is clever. Fucking old. My plate. I've never heard that one. Really? Dead ass, yeah.

Thank you so much for saying dead ass. Really? Yeah. Why? Because I've been saying it for years. and no one appreciates it and so to hear it come out of someone else's mouth is just very nice and refreshing.

Oh, nice. Oh, wow. Thank you very much. No one's ever appreciated me saying it. I say dead us all the time. Yeah, we say dead us a lot. See, I'm in the wrong country. Come back across the pot.

Come back. We'll be happy to have you. Okay, this next one, which, how are you guys doing? All good. Hang in, hanging okay? Yeah, we're good. This next one is coming from my good friend, Direct Caterpillar 77, my bestie on Reddit that finds all the good stories.

Nice. Yeah. It's titled, My Husband wants me to make breakfast for his coworkers three to four times a week before they go to work. Oh my God. What? Okay. We've been married for almost four months. My husband works a fairly lucrative office job and is a great help with the finances and bills for our house while I tackle a BA at college at the moment. For that, I'm very grateful and I love him very much and we are generally happy with the marriage. However, about two months ago, he asked me if I wouldn't mind preparing breakfast for him and a couple of coworkers a few times a week. Of course, I agreed because I know how rushed things can be in the mornings for some people, and I was glad to see my husband frattenizing with his colleagues. Also, we have a beautiful home, and it's always nice to have people over for meals. I get along with his coworkers very well for the most part, which is a plus.

This has been going on for two months, and I didn't used to mind it much. at first, but I feel that a couple of mornings a week has turned into nearly the entire week, and it's too much for me. Getting up early and preparing eggs, bacon, multiple pots of coffee, when there are more than just a couple of coworkers over, and occasionally stuff like pancakes and French toast, I attend night classes several nights a week, and I don't get a chance to sleep in as much as I would like to. How do I respectfully tell my husband to tone it down a little with these morning visits without hurting his or his co-worker's feelings? I do not want to jeopardize his relationship with the people at work and don't want to push him or are visitors away.

It has just become too much for me. This reminds me of the episode of my wife and kids where Junior got onto the basketball team and then all of his boys on the basketball team were just coming around his house and just murk him house. And they were just using him for all kinds of shit. Yes, I remember now. Sounds like common boys getting played by his boys at work. He is. He is. I feel like this is a hot take purely because she said he is lucrative.

If he is lucrative enough to finance his lifestyle, nice house, all of that stuff, get someone's cooked for you a couple days a week. Don't use your wife that's cooking for multiple people every day, almost every day. she also goes to school at night and then doesn't have enough sleep and still does everything else. It's like, that's beyond unfair. Yeah, if it's so important,

just go take the boys to a diner every morning. Like, why does it have to be in the house every day and your wife has to do... Let's go eye hop. Yeah, like... They have everything we need. Yeah, yeah. If it's important for you to, like, feed your colleagues,

take them to a diner. They'll probably feel more comfortable there than watching your wife slave for you at seven in the morning. You would think, Opie does have some comments. So people were asking, How many people is this for, typically? Like, is this just one or two?

Or, like, what's going on here? O.P. says about 20 people. Shut the fuck up. That's impossible. But they show up at different times. So typically, within groups of two to four coworkers a time. That's impossible. This doesn't make any sense.

You're running a restaurant in my yard. That's impossible. That's impossible. 20 people. What? That would have happened. If I'm the wife, that would. I've had him once and never again.

This is this is not even his business. Yeah. This is just his colleagues at work. Yeah. This is not him like running like a whole business. There's no money coming from this. Yeah. Yeah.

They're in the West Coast of the United States, so somewhere on this side. Originally from New York, we moved here for my husband's job 13 months ago. It's just a job. He doesn't own the company. So it's not like he's doing this for his employees. These are coworkers. They do this because they live five to 10 minutes away from the office. Most of the co-workers have a commute a long way to get to the office.

Hence, they carpool from their area arriving here in one car. No, bro. This is spiraled. Sometimes they take my husband with him, and other times he offers up his car and drives three to four co-workers to the office. This guy's a doormat. He is. This is to avoid the parking fee.

This guy's an absolutely dormant. Wow, yeah, he needs to go some balls and be like, guys, this is actually getting ridiculous. Well, this is getting really weird, too. so they can actually take 15-minute breaks throughout the day at their leisure. Some of these co-workers are showing up to her house to pick up snacks and Sigis and then head back to the office.

What is going on? I told you, this is the Myphon Kids episode. Yeah, they're taking the piss out both of them. They're easy food. Yeah, he's a joke at work. They're spending about $350 a week to feed the co-workers. Okay, this is what I'm saying. After day one, it's never happening again.

It's never happened. 20 people on the first day. I think it's accumulated to that, but like about 20 people is one of the comments. Getting the memo out that this isn't happening anymore. This is, okay, this sounds like one of those things where he's probably a thought in his head,

this needs to stop. But the idea of having to tell 20 people, you're not coming around anymore, will significantly affect his status at work. Yeah. And now he's probably thinking, I don't know what the fuck to do. Yeah, he needs a nexus strategy.

Or just move back to New York. Move. Just move. Back in a workout. That's the exit. Packed up. Yeah. Versus confronting. Everyone to be like, hey, guys, we got to tone it down a little bit. Pulling up for snacks in the middle of the day. That's a fucking pistic. Who are you to me? Yeah. There's a comment that someone else mentions, but someone mentions that O.P. said that they show up and, like, tap on the window. That's exactly how I'm fission. Let me in. Like, by tapping on the window. Service.

I've only got 15 minutes. Yeah. Come on. We're the siggies. I mean, siggies. Treating it's like a restaurant. Yeah, it's peak. Sigis and snacks. Hurry up.

Fuck. I'd go crazy. I'd resent my husband. Oh, so much resentment because she also says that she has to do all the dishes. He doesn't help with any of the dishes. So she's got pots, pans, plates, cups, everything. This is happening four times a week. No.

No. This is out of control. That would have ruined my marriage. Yeah. Rewing my marriage. Every single night I come home, I'll be terrified. I'd be terrified to face the version of my wife every single day. That would ruin my marriage.

So how do you get to this up? Like, do you just be like, hey, honey, done doing this for you? If I'm her? Yeah, do you compromise and say, let's cut it back to once a week? Like, how do you realistically proceed forward? I'm shifting everyone to the closest diner. Yeah. And for the next four weeks, I'm just paying.

Okay. Paying, and then I'm going to slowly one day, call a sick day. All the guys go to the diner. I'm not there to pay for it. Someone else is going to have to pay for it. And that's just how we change the culture from there. How you're on? Yeah, I think that's the best way to get out of this.

Yeah. If I'm the wife, I'm just telling my husband after the first day, this is never happening again. Standard. I don't care who shows up at the door. There's not going to be food. The next person will taps this window, I promise. Yeah, they're going to hear that. You're going to hear it.

They're going to hear it. Yeah. Yeah, 100%. No, don't, that's the first thing. Tell your boys if they tap this window again, I swear to God. They're going to hear that swan off. Yeah. They're going to regret it.

Top comment. Why can't your husband prepare these breakfasts? Clearly. O.P. says, admittedly, I'm a better cook than him. And I never mind making meals for both of us in the mornings. Honestly, if it was just him and I, I could do it for the rest of my life. But it isn't just him. And I can't do it anymore.

And he simply has no times in the morning. And he has to get ready to be at his office by 8 a.m. Then he just wake up earlier. She does, she works. She goes to school at night. Yes. then has little sleep to then wake up to cook for multiple men. 20? This is insane.

What are you talking about, bro? Someone in the group also needs to address the weirdness of it. Yeah. Like, number 21, you'd hope would be like, what the fuck is happening? Yeah, what do you mean we're going to Jeff four times a week for breakfast? Doesn't make any sense. Why? What are their wives doing? Yeah, and they're why aren't their wives being like, you're not going there again?

Yeah, you're not going there again. For another woman to be cooking your breakfast. Who is she? What's so good about these fucking breakfast? A lot of conversations aren't happening. Clearly. No. Yeah.

This is a movie. Yeah, this can't be your life. This can't be real life. This is out of control. So we do get an update. Oh, please. We get an update. I want to thank you all for who gave me advice and sympathy in the original thread.

I had mentioned several times that I was going to sit down with my husband this Saturday and have a stern talk. But I'm sure a lot of you will be pleased to know that it happened much sooner. I decided to stay home from night class on Wednesday night so that I could speak to him as soon as soon as. as he arrived from work. He was very surprised to see me still in the house as I have night class every night of the week. I brought up many good points from the thread and told him how it makes me feel. I told him the three to four breakfast parties a week and co-worker visits through the day were keeping me from focusing on my studies. And that thinking of a menu every morning was stressful. Thinking of a menu. And it gave me anxiety.

Also, the tapping on the window from random visits by his colleagues made me feel unsafe as well. They were all brought up by Redditors in the thread, and a lot of the points I had never thought about myself. There were tears and some loud moments. Loud moments. How has he got a voice? Yeah. The first time this has happened since we've even been together. But when I told him, I made a thread on Reddit, he went absolutely ballistic.

Fair. Yeah, that's what the loudness came from. Yeah, he's realized, oh, my life is in the public now. Yeah, even though it's anonymous, he's not thinking of that. He's not thinking of that. Oh, shit, they know what I'm like now. They know what I'm bringing to her table. I'm an asshole.

At this point, I went to our bedroom and confined myself to the bed. A couple of hours later, he came in, got in bed, and said that he was very disappointed in me. Oh, that's not a dissuited. And that was that. And that was that? Yesterday morning, Thursday, everything was the same as usual. He woke up smiling and radiant as always and got ready for work quicker than usual. He came out to the kitchen while I was making the breakfast for the day and told me that he was glad everything had been cleared up.

I gave him spare replies and didn't really feel like looking at him. He was shocked to see that I had only made a basic breakfast for him. Let's go. He told me other people were on the way. And I told him I had to catch a bus to the library to do a research paper for class. We had a loud argument that stopped when people arrived at our house. I stormed out and went about my business. Let's go.

No words between any of us since then. Today, I did the same except I left the house while he was getting ready. Let's go. It is very sad that it has come to this, but I hope things settle down. My plan is to have another talk with him tomorrow morning and tell him that I am willing to cut the breakfast down to Mondays and Wednesdays only and that all visits from coworkers are to end immediately because I do not feel comfortable. with them using our home as a rest stop. You've all been very helpful.

Thank you. There is nowhere to go but up from here. This guy's insane. He is insane. He's an assistant. Mondays and Wednesday. No, never again. We're not compromising on this.

I'm surprised she's still willing to be like never again. And then she's like, but I'll do it two days. No. That's insane to me. Like I would never. Wow, she is an angel. She is. And he's taking advantage of that.

He's taking the piss. I'm wasting it on dickhead. co-workers. Literally. Literally. She has all this love and kindness. You're wasting it on losers from work. She's going to burn out, bro. Who are taking a bit and tapping your window? Do you not... Why you prioritizing how they feel over how your wife feels?

Yeah, that's... Who gives a shit about these guys? That's insanity. Oh, that is horrible. If they cared and liked you, they would be like, hey buddy, you've been hosted now for months. Let me... Let me take one for the team. I don't even... I get that a lot of them are commuted in, but then find a diner

nearby. I'll take one. Hey, buddy. you've been spending thousands of dollars on us a month. $3.50 a week. So let us take care of you. Let's go to Denny's. $14 a month. That's people's salaries, bro. Yeah.

Yeah, they don't give a shit about him. No. They're using him. The window tapping? No, I would... That's scary. That happens once and never happens again. No, I wouldn't answer anymore.

But that's so hard when you're home and someone starts knocking on your door and, like, you got a TV on, it's like, well, how do I play this off? I would tell him, What do you, I would make that co-worker have the confidence to tell me exactly what it wants. What do you want, bro? Cigarettes.

Cigarettes and snacks, that's what I want. Do you hear yourself? Like, this is not a general store. Oh, my God. Do you hear yourself, fax? You hear yourself. You're coming to my house, have another window for cigarettes. You're an addict.

Go away. Mommy, Siggy. Yeah. Oh, that's scary. That's scary. I would go crazy. She's a trooper. She's a girl, angel.

I'm surprised. I'm surprised she didn't lash out even more. I like the fact that she stormed out after making him and her breakfast it's like oh everyone else is coming there blah blah blah I'm like that's your problem I'm leaving

literally your cooking bit I would have loved to have been a fly in the water see what the co-worker said to him and vice versa I know they would have ate that eggs being like what the fuck is this today? I didn't come here for this is this what everyone's been banging on about

yeah I came up for baking eggs and cheese where is she? Facts where is she? It's disgusting did you make this I know they say your wife's good

yeah warm me next time I won't come Wow, okay I know, I love her sticking her guns She has to, she had to Jeez, what a loser She does update in the comments Three days later

Okay People were asking like how has this been going Yeah And she goes A lot of cold shouldering And silence this weekend With occasional talk from him Unrelated to the Breakfast

I wouldn't know what to update you with today As I'm at the library studying And he had to fend for himself this morning He's such an asshole Is he still bothered about this He's such an asshole Yeah. I think he's too wrapped up in it to even understand.

I think he's more concerned about preserving his social status at work. Yeah. That he can't even see where she's coming from. Yeah, where she's coming from. You know, the last comment we have from O.P. is in response to someone that says this. Before you did this, did you know if any other wives performed that service for the office? And O.P. says, not that I'm aware of, but that doesn't change anything.

Everything is over. Oh. Or yeah, it had to come to head. Makes sense. But I'm like, everything, is that like the breakfast or your marriage? Sounds marriage to me. It's whatever you want to make up to me. I've said, this is the last post you're getting from me.

The thread's over. Yeah, the thread is over. Yeah. Make of it what you will. You will, bro. You'll just your imagination. And that's all we got. Wow, that was juicy.

That was juicy. Yeah. The post is now 11 years old. Really? Oh, damn. I wonder where she is now. Shout out of Herman. Hopefully live in her best life.

She didn't breakfast in bed from someone new. Yeah. Doted on. I hope so. My God. I hope he's jobless. I wish him unwell. Wow.

That was fantastic. Well played. I've got one last one for you here. Cool. Let's do it. Are you familiar with astrology and astronomy? Barely. Not enough.

Oh, this is going to be good. Okay, cool. This is from True Off My Chest, titled I thought astronomy and astrology were the same thing. I might have ruined my relationship with my girlfriend. Okay, right. My girlfriend, 32 female, of almost one year, has a doctorate in astronomy. My sister, 35 female, has astrology as her biggest hobby.

I, 33 male, thought they were the same thing. And now I think I ruined my relationship with my girlfriend. Sorry, what is the difference? I was hoping you were asking. I know one of them is Scorpio and them. And I know one of them is actual science. But I don't know which one is which. I don't know which one is which.

Okay. Sorry. I think I know, but I don't want to embarrass myself. So I'll let you think. Yeah, we'll see what he thinks first. And then we'll talk about it. Okay, okay, okay. I thought she and my sister had lots in common,

but after she met my sister when I introduced her to my family, my girlfriend was angry. My sister was just confused, but my girlfriend was just confused, but my girl girlfriend, furious. At first, she thought I was belittling her career by comparing it to astrology, which she says is completely fake. After I told her, I honestly and truly thought they were the same thing, she got even more upset. She claims the only way I could think that was if I never listened to her. That's not true. They both have names that are almost the same, and they are both about space. My girlfriend says she has a doctorate, has worked in America at NASA and Europe

at the space agency, and has written a lot of scientific papers. Okay, love. All right. So her accomplishments should not be compared to someone who believes in astrology. My girlfriend has not spoken to me since the day I introduced her to my family. She canceled our visit to her family, so I could have met them. She canceled our recent date. And she told me to figure it out when we argued after we left visiting my family. Okay. This is a bit much. She said we were done.

But it was in the heat of the moment. I admit I made a mistake. I honestly did not know they weren't the same thing. But I don't think it was a huge mistake. I think I might have ruined the relationship with her. I swear I didn't know and I didn't mean to upset her. That's a lot. That's a bit much.

understandably big mistake but who cares she's taking it as like like morgan said as if he's not listened to her for the past X amount of months or years they've been together he's not taken what she does she's seen as doesn't take what you do seriously you don't listen to me whatsoever and you're comparing me to fake shit

that's all she's hearing when he says oh I didn't know the difference between two I thought they were the same thing which is an easyish mistake to make they've spelt similar bar one letter. So it's like, how can you be that mad at him? So I think what you're interpreting, how she's reading it, spot on. What's the thing that you guys are most passionate about in this world?

Like, what is your niche? I mean, like, your career is now podcasting and creating content. Is that your passion? Is like podcasting like, yes. I have a great example. I know exactly what one you're going to say. I have a great example of how annoyed I would be if I was in her shoes. If my partner said man united and man C were the same thing.

That's where she's at. That would make me want to jump off a bridge. That's where she's at. Yeah. So I understand. I can put myself in her shoes. Like it would be like you for a year being like, I have a podcast. I'm so passionate about it.

I love, you know, reading stories and helping people. And then your partner being like, yeah, she, you know, she talks into a microphone, I think. But like, I don't really get what she does. And it's like, but like that's a part of my identity. that's my passion. I'm so career-driven and accomplished. I've worked at NASA.

Yeah, valid. I'm helping get people to the moon, and you don't even know what I do? But also, though, it sounds like, but, okay, to defend Homeboy, it sounds like to me the equivalent of like, he just thought, I don't necessarily, granted he didn't understand what she does,

but it sounds like he just thought his sister is interested in her work. So maybe it was more so that he doesn't know what the sister's into? Potentially. Okay. Because he's obviously heard what his girlfriend has said. You hope. Yeah.

And he just thought astrology, astronomy, the same thing. Uh-huh. So he's like, oh, my sister. Bridging the Gap, by the way. She fucks with you. Yeah, she has an illustrious career. And she also is interested in this hobby, only to find out, no, she's interested in spirits and ghosts.

And predicting the future and personality traits. Essentially, yeah. I studied the universe. Because astronomy, scientific study of celestial objects in the universe using evidence, physics, and observation, astrology is a belief system and pseudoscience that interprets planetary positions to predict human events and behavior. So it's like I was born in Pisces and so I'm emotional and like blah, blah, blah.

So it's like more fakey versus non-being. No, like home girl is doing math equations and figuring out physics. I mean, I can understand that if I, yeah, maybe if I'm just not listening to the sister and her interest, I just know that it's an interest. Yeah. I would still be like, yeah, you guys are into the same thing. I don't know. I don't know. I think I can talk myself into a very deep.

Just boy brain? Just boy brain. Like, yeah, okay, cool. If I don't know about astrology, it would be very easy for me to assume it's the same thing. Okay. Okay. I mean, I don't, like, I know I'm a Pisces, but beyond that, like, I know astrology is like, there's so much to it. There's birth charts. Things go in retrograde. There's cleansing. I'm like, but I don't understand it, but I don't know. I feel like mixing the two of them up does seem a little hard.

It does, but like if you're a complete novice, because like with the pseudoscience thing, right, if I was like, oh, okay, cool. also like, how do people know that like Tauruses have this behavioural trait and all the kind of stuff? If they're my sister's like, oh, easy, because the stars this and one another of this and then they're like, that sounds like science to me. If I don't know that this is all bullshit, it sounds like, oh, okay, you're mapping the stars and that's how you guys predict this kind of stuff. If I just don't care and I just listen to it and take it as face value, I would assume it's the same thing that my wife does. Regardless of all the intellectual shit that she tells me about it.

Not even necessarily the same thing could be because it's a spend. It's not the same thing. It's a part of what she's doing, but she's working over here. My wife's working over here. But it's under the same umbrella. Yeah. So, hobby, career. Yeah.

I just thought you guys had stuff in common. And that's my bad. We was trying to be nice, but maybe showed he's a bit too much of a dope for her to date. Yeah, she said the whole thing is done. Yeah. That's an ick. You're too dumb. She's it.

She was icked out. Yeah. What's to your biggest icks? What gets you? What gets you icked? God, when do we start? Where do we start? Not being able to handle your heels, so you take your heels off in the dance and you go barefoot. In the club?

Yeah, or outside of the club, wherever, wherever. Walking down the street after the club? Yeah, that. I have been there once or twice. I can imagine everyone has. Yeah. That's why you need to sneak some socks in your purse just in case. You take the heels off, put the socks on, throw them away when you get home.

Oh, nice. At least you have like a thing. Ruffer. I know some people. that have started to hide their shoes, their flats, in bushes. So when they come out of the club, they like grab their flats. That's not a bash out at all. You know people.

No, I've seen it on TikTok. The girls are doing it. It's a new thing. Yeah, that doesn't surprise me. That's like, that's clever. It's clever, but it's clever. I wouldn't want to... I'd be scared my shoes would get stolen from the bush. Who's stealing flats from a bush? People. They deserve them then.

Yeah. Those are backs, yeah. I wouldn't be upset if I would be upset. I'd be pissed, but I wouldn't be upset. Yeah, you gotta bring the cheapies. Yeah. I'm going to do it, I guess. My biggest ick.

You know what? This is actually fine because it came up a conversation the other day. The lengths that people will go to to avoid having their like, if they're on a date and they want to get as much like pictures and videos of this date as possible without including the person you're on a date with. So to the point of like if you're in a restaurant and you're having like video in your food and then your partner's there and you're like, that shit

that's weird that can't happen to me in person who you hide me from exactly the world yeah 100% I social media here's like social media is so fake and I'm so tired of it

I have like someone I know that will take pictures on dates and like discreetly show the dates hand save it and then post it on like a Friday to make it look like she's booked and busy that's a literal Drake bar. Really? That's a literal, literal, literal Drake bar. Yeah. And he literally said booked and busy as well. I will have to find it and I'll send it to you. Wow. Really? Yeah. That's crazy. I'm like,

just can't believe what you see on social media. I think it's called emotionless. Okay. Oh, really? Yeah. Okay. Okay. Are you team Drake? Yeah. Oh yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, my gosh. I love it. Top comment on this one. Girlfriend realized she's dating a box of hammers. Oh, wow. What it's worth. I think, okay, my final thoughts on that are she realized he's dumb

and I think she could have handled it with a little bit more grace. I agree. As opposed to treating him like he's done something like aggressively offensive. Yeah. I think she could have just woke up and be like, yeah, you're just a fucking idiot.

Well, I mean, you have dated him for a year. Like, this is the first you've noticed him being dumb. Yeah. This was the straw? Yeah. And also just like his intent, it's a valid straw. It's a valid straw, but like his intention was trying to be kind. It's not like he was just flippant about like, I don't give a shit about what you do.

Yeah. Like it's all the same, same, same figure it out. He was genuinely just trying to do something kind and nice and then fucked it up. And then it's taking extreme accountability. And then it just like breaks my heart when he's like, oh, she's completely left me after a year of good times. Because I made this mistake and I'm owning up to the mistake and I'm sorry about the mistake. I was trying to be nice. And then she's like, fuck you do.

I think we need to start giving people the benefit of the doubt more. Like when we know people are not malicious, there's obviously glaring red flags that some people have where you're like, no, no, no. Like that's, I'm going to stay away from them. They don't deserve the benefit of the doubt. But it's like if it's someone you were dating for a year, you know them. Yeah. Like maybe give them a little slack.

Not maybe not in this case, but just in general. Like, we got to have a little bit more nuance to things. I've had this discussion with like exes in the past in those. kind of stuff is like where something will happen in a vacuum and they will treat me like they don't know me. And I'm like, if we've been together for like two years, does this scenario seem like part of my personality? If not, please let's take like a step back and be like, what might he actually mean with this situation what's going on? Because it's not what I know him to be. They make blanket statements. Yeah, like don't just treat me like I'm a stranger off the street

who's offended you. Like take all the information that you know about. me and then you use that with like your judgment of this like specific scenario. Which is so fair. And if someone can't do that, then it's like, it's not going to work. Because like you have my track record. You know me. Maybe this specific time should be put in a separate little box. Because there's this context behind it. That's why I reacted. I was triggered or I didn't see that or what. Yeah. I'm on your page. Nice. Where can people find you? Thank you guys for being here. I loved running this back. This was a lot of jokes.

I forgot how good this was. That addiction is going to stick to me. God. Corrilla gritty. And the wife cooking meals every day. Oh my God. That's so fucked. Yeah.

Okay. That was fantastic. But you guys, I mean, your segments are amazing. You get an ics, relationship advice. You haven't seen a lot of your like imposter content and like figuring out who's the imposter. That's fun. Yeah, that's a fun game. You do some fun stuff.

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Amazing podcast. And until next time, guys. Bye.