Two Hot Takes - 3: Some Flags Are Redder Than Others

Episode Date: February 25, 2021

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan Absher, is joined by guest host, Ji Moon. Episode includes blind reactions to Reddit stories about the reddest of flags! Stories include a man who keeps disappearing into the bathroom with sticks of butter, a boy whose girlfriend likes to treat him as a baby, a women who discovered her husband's secret list of women, and a boy whose girlfriend may be trying to kill him. Additional exclusive takes from Ji can be found on the YouTube channel! Show your support (much appreciated): https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes

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Do you have any idea what you're getting yourself into today? No, like, I think we need another shot at Tequila because I'm not ready. But excited to be here. I think you're gonna do great, yeah? I mean, I hope so. I hope I can entertain the people. But it's not about the people. It's about us and our conversation. It is. It really is. Who cares about them?

I mean, we care. We love you guys. Hi, this is Morgan and welcome to another episode of Two Hot Takes. You're probably wondering why there's an unfamiliar voice on today's episode. Lauren is on vacation. I killed her. She's cut off. She took her out.

Dead. She took her out. I just heard about it and I was like, you know what? I could do a better job. So here we are. You're auditioning for her job. It's already mine. I like that confidence.

But no, it's fine. I just killed Lauren off and this is G. And that's all there is to say about that. G is taking Lauren's position today. She's on a vacation and so she's filling in and I think her sassy attitude is going to... Is that what you were notified? Oh. Did I miss the memo?

She's gone. Well, I think you'll all enjoy G's spicy attitude and everything she has to offer today. I think her take on things are going to be quite interesting. To give everyone a little backstory, G and I have been friends for a couple years now. We experienced Coachella together. We have just had some really great times and G has amazing life experience, relationship experience. So I think she'll be a great addition to the show.

So I would like to think, but we'll see. We'll see. We'll see. Okay. You know, we'll put you to the test with the next couple of stories. Let's do it. Okay. I'm terrified.

But let's do it. You got this. Today, we are going to be talking about red flags. That's going to be a tough one. I know, but I feel like especially living in LA now, it's easy to recognize red flags with the guys out here. Oh, for sure. For sure.

Everywhere. LA guys are a different breed. If you're not from LA or don't live out here, I think the best way to describe LA men is cheaters. What were you going to say? Cheaters. Cheaters is one. Cheaters.

Young. They don't grow up. They don't grow up. Demature as anything. They're the Peter Pan syndrome of men. Oh, for sure. They like don't settle down until they're like 38. No.

If that. If that. At least we get to experience it all. The crazy, the fun, you know, you get it all. We get the best and worst of everything. And the best part is you get to meet people from different places and they come here and you can see how they change into a butt boy. So much fun.

I feel like you have some personal experience in this area. Never. Okay. Well, since you're so good at identifying red flags, first one is a little weird. So my 24 year old female boyfriend, 30 year old male keeps disappearing into the bathroom for an hour or more with a stick of butter and the butter is gone when he finally comes out. The male, the guy's disappearing.

The guy. With a stick of butter. The guy. Is it cold butter or hot butter? I need to know. I'm not sure if she mentions it, we might find out, but why would it make a difference? Hot butter versus cold butter. Cold?

He's definitely sticking it up somewhere. Hot. It's already melted. Good to go. He might just be like masturbating. That is true. You know. Wow.

Yeah. I didn't put that together that fast. I mean, either way, it's self pleasure for sure. Oh. Yeah. 100%. And the fact he's going in the bathroom, it just makes it for like an easy clean up.

Yeah. Yeah. Definitely easy clean up. Okay. Let's see what she has to say. I've been dating my boyfriend for two years and we finally moved in together. Ever since we moved in, I've seen a new side of him. It's a very odd issue and I can't wrap my head around what to do.

Some people have accused this of being fake, but I swear this is a real situation I'm dealing with. I don't know what else to say, but I know it's bizarre. Why? This is a troll post. I believe her based on that. But first of all, like, why do you have friends that think it's fake? You know?

Like what is your relationship already? I know. Like what else is happening in your relationship that they think this is fake? Oh. You know? That's a good point. Like what strange things are you guys into already? Not all about the kinks, but yeah, maybe they're already on to like him for being really weird.

Okay. I see we're going with it. At first I started to notice butter was disappearing quickly. I assumed maybe I lost track of how much we had or maybe he was cooking when I wasn't around. I don't know. But one night a few weeks ago, I saw him try to stealthily take a stick of butter from the fridge, which I pretended not to notice and he took the butter with him into the bathroom.

Now I have noticed my boyfriend spending an hour or more of time in the bathroom since we moved in, but I never saw him take the butter before. I was so confused. Wait, wait a minute. So you already know that your boyfriend goes to the bathroom for an hour or two all the time. If he had Crohn's or like IBS, maybe that'd be okay. But like she would have started with that though, you know what I mean?

Yeah. You definitely have that background after two years of dating. Two years. At least disappearing for an hour or two every time he goes to the bathroom and you haven't questioned it. Yeah. No. But the butter, like let's let it slide.

Okay. Yeah. It's, uh, I don't know. I tried to subtly keep an eye on him and over a week he did this three separate times and each time a stick of butter. Hold on. Over a week. She waited three times for a week to wait to say something.

Also like that makes me think, like though, what is she into that? She's like, I'm going to wait a week and like this, she's not going to bring it up. I feel like, I feel like she was probably like, I don't believe it. Like it's probably, he's probably cooking or like there was some cooking in the bathroom. There was probably some logical reason in her head and she was trying to like, you don't want to assume the worst of your partner of two years, but like, I mean, oh, I'm in there if I see the first time. Two plus two equals four.

Yeah. Like if he's taking the butter and going into the bathroom, like it's fucking disappearing because of your boyfriend. So and you know it, like this is not Dora. It's not right in front of you and you don't, you can't see it. She needs to get reimbursed for that butter. I hope she's not the one buying it. That's all I'm saying.

I think she is. We'll see. We'll see. Finally, I said one day, where did all of our butter go? I hardly used any this week and it's gone. He pretended not to know and said, maybe we had forgot to buy it. I psychopath. He's trying to like gaslight her a little bit, play it off like he's trying to blame

her. Yeah, I don't. Okay. That I don't like that. That makes me a little uncomfortable. That means he's delusional. He really doesn't know, which means he's psychotic or like he's just trying to play it off. He's trying to play cool.

Like not stupid. Hopefully. Hopefully. I said, no, we had four sticks before now they're gone. He just asked it like it was a mystery and said, guess we should order up some groceries. By now I was getting very confused. So I ordered groceries and made a point of saying, good to finally have four sticks of butter.

This should last us quite a while. He made no comment. Just like really uncomfortable that they're calling it sticks. Like, can we just call it butter? Like, well, no, I think, I think that it's sticks and I think that adds to the story because again, I said two plus two equals four. Like, I think this man is taking the butter sticks and putting them up his butt. Oh, 100%.

He's got to be. I mean, there's no other explanation unless he's literally sitting there in his hands, like kind of like you said, warming it up and then using it like a pocket pussy. Or he might just really love butter. He likes to eat it in private. Okay. Oddly. You never know.

Oddly, like I have this vivid memory of when I was little and I would walk into the fridge and like take bites out of sticks of butter. I was like four though, three or four. Also, no, I get that because like I like salty over savory. I get that. So, you know what? He might just guilty pleasuring it and saving the embarrassment for himself. This might be a deed of good honor.

We never know. But if he's actually eating that though, like that's a lot of. Is he fat? Is he on keto? Is he on keto? Like, I mean, what's he going for here? But I need to know more. I need to know more.

What's he going for here? On the first two days, whenever I used a small amount of butter, I would remark about how much butter we had left. Finally, one day I saw him do it again. He took a stick of butter into the bathroom, was gone for an hour or so and came back with no butter. I couldn't believe it. Honestly though, like good for her, like her patience level here.

Yeah. Like, she must love this man. She has to love this man. Two years in. It's insane. You're pretty committed at two years in. Are we though? I am.

I'm like at the two, I'm like right at the two year mark. Yeah. That's so crazy. Yeah. Already. Wow. I just remember you like Coachella. He's buying you tickets for Ariana Grande because she had to miss it.

I know. Great boyfriend. I know. Grad school. Can't relate. Oh my gosh. Okay. So what's happening next?

The butter. I couldn't believe it. So when I made dinner, I acted shocked that one stick of butter was gone. He said maybe we only had three, but he knew I'd been making a point of it. The very next day, another stick of butter gone. I listened at the bathroom door and heard sink water running and thought I heard moaning noises. I was so confused.

But like, okay, at this point, it's been like two weeks and she still didn't say anything and you know, like, does she still sleep with him? Like, are you not turned off? You have to be at that point and also like, why are you not like, what is not clicking in your head? Like, you are listening at the bathroom door, you're like up against the bathroom door. You're hearing moaning noises. She's doing something sexual.

That like almost makes me feel like what's her fetish? Like she must have something like. You wonder, does this turn her on? Or did she literally grow up in like a house that like, where she was so sheltered? You can't be that dumb. I'm sorry. No. Is it her first love?

That's really sad. It might be. It might be. No, even, even that. I, I don't, I don't allow it. I don't allow it. You're not buying it. Okay.

So she goes on to say finally this time when he came out, I said, I know he has been taking butter in the bathroom. He got all flustered and said, I must be mistaken. But I said, I had literally seen him take the butter into the bathroom and I know he has been lying to me about the quantity of butter in our fridge. He then started apologizing for misleading, but said, let's just not talk about it. And when he saw I was getting mad, he said, what if I just order my own separate private butter, even if he had his own separate butter, that doesn't make the situation better.

Wait, so what are you doing with it? She's almost allowing him to do this. I think she's just still confused. So now it's almost like two, three weeks that she knows this is happening. I don't think there's any confusions. Like you have to know it's just like she's in denial. True. And we all put those love blinders on and like, I mean, you kind of like ignore the bad things

that your spouse does or partner does in that situation. I need to call her. Like we need some therapy sessions. Like girl, I got you. Like you can do better. So she goes on to say, I was like, uh, okay, but what are you doing with the butter? She asked me to promise him to never ask about his quote, butter activities again. And to just put it behind us, he said, just look the other way on this one thing and stressed

how it is not a big deal at the end of the day. I think that's a pretty big deal. I need to know, like, did she follow through with it? Because if she did, there's no, there's no update for this post. That's it. She basically goes on to say, I've been so confused, even disturbed about it. Like what is he doing with the butter? Why is he lying about it?

Why won't he tell me? I don't think he is eating it because he is not an overweight guy. Oh, that explains that theory. That explains that. And I feel like if somebody ate that much butter, they'd become hefty, but he shows no signs of it. I am just like, who is this guy? Am I overreacting?

It is just so odd to see him in a different light and I'm not sure what to do. Should I just ignore it? Question mark. No, no, do not ignore it. You can't. You can't. Okay. Not to talk about it.

Is that a joke? Yeah. Is that a joke? Well, you almost wonder then if he is using it to stick it up his butt. You almost wonder, I understand if you guys don't know this, the male G-spot is in the prostate. Which is fine, but if you're in a relationship then you should openly talk about that. There's so many kinks that would be okay with that.

There's pegging. There's other things where you could open the door for that. But the fact that you almost wonder because he's hiding it like this, you almost wonder if he's in denial about his sexuality. This is just this one thing, don't ask about it. Get that? That is a huge, huge red flag in my book and, well, okay, see, you're promoting him to... Not be open and honest with you.

Not be open and honest. Which is a problem. So then what else is he lying about? I think that's the biggest red flag in this for me. It's like whatever kinks you have, whatever you're into, you should be able to be open and honest in your relationship and with your partner. Clearly, the fact that she doesn't question it and she's letting him be shows how supportive and is letting him do his thing and that shows kind of support.

The relationship, I don't think it's not turmoil, so why is he hiding it so much? I think that's just... Yeah, she seems... She's just genuinely curious. Yeah. I in this situation. But also stupid. A little bit.

A little bit like your head is in the sand because I think it's pretty clear what he's doing with the butter. It's at least sexual based on the monie noises. So he's doing something. So for her, I think she just has these love blinders on and is kind of like, I don't really care what he's doing with the butter because I love him so much. Like you said, she cares about him so much that she just is willing to overlook what he's doing with the butter.

That's sad for me on his side. He's not giving pleasure in his relationship that he has to do things in private. Yeah, exactly. Well, and it's like, you're spending an hour in there. You could be spending that... To really enjoy himself for that hour. You could be spending that time like maybe getting tagged. Or like, you know, it sounds like this girl's down to like do whatever.

She's very open minded, I think, because otherwise, like, I think that if this was me in the situation, I would have like flipped out a lot sooner, but like, excuse me, sir, like, what are you doing in there? I mean, I would have been more confrontational. If it was me, I would literally make him say what he's doing. Yeah. And if not, like next time I would just bust my ass in there to see what he was doing. Knock on the door.

Good for her. No, I'm not knocking. I'm literally breaking through that door to see what the fuck is happening. I picked the lock. Did I card the door? Yeah. Like, no, that's insane. And also though, like, they go through a lot of butter, like, we're a little concerned.

Yeah. Pricey grocery bill. But I think the fact like he offered and literally said, I'm willing to buy my own butter. If this is a problem, I'll buy my own butter. That means so much to him. Like whatever he's doing there means that much more to him. It's everything to him.

Yeah. He's not willing to give it up. So, you know, it's like, he might take that to his grave what he's doing with that butter because I don't think he's going to, he's going to tell her, I don't know if we truly want to know what's happening to that butter. Honestly, I don't think I could be with that person. I, I can't. That's like, if you're not going to tell me what you're doing with that butter, I'm

out. On to the next. On to the next. I need to know more. Hi, Jan from Toyota speaking. Jan, I heard it's a good time to buy a Toyota. Sure is. From now until April 4th, you can shop all your favorites like Corolla, RAV4, Sequoia,

and more. Imagine yourself in a new tundra where you stopped by the home improvement store and finally built that tree house you promised your daughter. Sarah, when did you hop on the call? Hi, dad. Mom said you were taking too long on the phone. Toyota, let's go, Clazes. See your participating Toyota dealer for details.

Dealer inventory may vary. Okay, so my 22 year old male girlfriend, 26 female of two years, likes to dress me up and treat me like a baby. I'm not sure how I should feel about this or how to even bring it up. Yeah, I don't know either. Wait, but how is she dressing him? I'm just like, yeah, I think we'll get there. I really, really can't believe I'm actually having to write this out.

But as you can imagine, I really don't want to bring this up to anyone close to me. This is obviously a throwaway account because there's no way I'm putting this on my main. I've been with my girlfriend for two years. She's my first real relationship and I really love this woman and I could see myself making a life with her. First relationship. Oh, that's so sad because he's going to think this is what love means. If it weren't for this one big thing, I could see myself being with her.

She's beautiful, caring, sweet, incredibly smart. Everything you'd want in a partner, but like the title states, she can be a bit weird. Everything you want in a partner, honey, you've had run relationship, you do not know what you need. You need a little more experience. It all started with really small things which didn't seem all that weird at first. She insisted on feeding me my food and drinks. Sometimes that's nice.

I'm not going to say no to that. But if she insisted, like you're not some pharaoh, like if someone's feeding you grapes. She might think you're a pharaoh, honestly, I'm into it. I mean, when I see other people feed each other, I'm like, oh, that's gross, but like you want to be fetched, you know, I always joke with my boyfriend, like after a night of a little, little too many cocktails, too much wine, I'm always like, babe, I'll like already getting a bed. I'm like, babe, will you, will you just brush my teeth for me?

But like, no, I get that. I'm like, I can't possibly get up and be bothered to do it like, please. And he better do it. Oh, he's brought the toothbrush into my, like right up to my bed and then I'm like, okay, I'm just kidding. Let's do it. Let's do it. Really?

I would have been like, let's go. Let's go. I'm one of these times. Yeah. I'll take them up on it. Oh, you're sweet. But no, I mean like, you want to take care of me, take care of me, you know? Yeah.

I think it gets worse though. Okay. She teased me a little bit by taking my food when I was about to take a bite that morphed into making funny noises like you would for a baby like train and airplane noises. That would piss me off. Like if you're feeding me and want the food, don't play with me. Yeah. I want it.

Okay. Give me it. It's coming. It's coming. I feel something bad coming. At first it was funny and kind of endearing, so I had no issues with it. It wasn't like she was doing this every day, so it truly wasn't a problem. Then she started getting me dressed in the morning.

She would have me sit at the edge of the bed while she put on all of my clothes. She put on his clothes for him? Yeah. She's 26 too. We have to keep this in mind. I'm kind of into this. I'm kind of into this. Pick out my life, figure it out for me.

I've got a lot of things to deal with. It's one less thing you have to worry about. That morphed into giving me bubble baths. At first I liked it because well, she made me feel like a king honestly. It started getting weird though when she bought bath toys like a tugboat and then a rubber ducky and then asked me to splash and giggle like a baby. I mean, it's the least you can do for her. She's trying.

She's clothing you. Just appease the girl. Appease you. Come on. Oh my gosh, I don't. I'm not anyway. I'm sorry, G. I know you're you're really digging this, but I think I would have ran by now.

I mean, is it weird? Yes, but I don't know. There's worse things in life. I guess there's worse things in life. I thought that was hella weird, but I figured I'd indulge her. She loved it so much and I love seeing her so happy. I probably should have said something at the point, but she seemed to love it so much. I kept going on with it.

Through the months, it kept progressing and I didn't know how to stop. She bought me a bottle that she filled with my favorite whiskey. She knitted me a bit. I'm just so conflicted. It's just like the bottle. I'm like weird. But whiskey put his favorite alcohol in it like sweet. I think this is this is making me uncomfortable, to be honest, but maybe it gets better.

Let's see. She knitted me a bib and oversized booties. She bought me a pacifier and adult sized onesies. Her favorite activity. OK. Mm hmm. The onesies is too far and bibs knitting for the pacifier is a little little creepy, too. Yeah. Her favorite activity is her cuddling me while she rocks back and forth gently

while she rubs my hair and she'll look lovingly into my eyes while saying stuff like. This is this is the limit before you say that. Like, how nice is it to just like have a rock and crash and the cuddle before you want to go to bed? Yeah, but the minute she's going to ruin it for me. She's going to ruin it really trying to like be on her side. But and she'll look lovingly into my eyes while saying stuff like, quote, mommy loves you. Barf. We're done. I'm done with her red flag.

I mean, like, I'm a logical person, but that is too much. That's too much. I mean, if she said daddy loves you, that's a different. No, I'm just kidding. Like, no, done. The most recent thing. Oh, God, he keeps going. The most recent thing she bought, which is what brought me here, our adult sized diapers.

Yeah, buddy, you let her take it too far. You're kidding. No, no. I asked if she was serious when she pulled them out of the bag. She said she wasn't expecting me to actually use them and that it's just for show. I gently asked if that maybe it's starting to go a bit overboard and she looked at me with a confused look and said, no. What? OK, first of all, she went out of her way to spend money on adult diapers. Also, she's buying diapers that are she's buying diapers that are meant for

like, like older adults, like your grandma and grandpa. No, I mean, because I would assume that's the only thing that could fit him because fit a grown man. Oh, maybe that is the issue. Maybe he is maybe some of this. Yeah, no, she's spending money on that. No, no, no, I'm done. That's that's weird. And makes me sad that he let it take that far.

Oh, I would have been after the bathtub with the little floaties and the bottle. I don't care if there's whiskey in that bottle. Weird. I mean, like, I like to get pampered a little bit. And I was just trying to like, yeah, go the extra mile. But the thing is, like, this was his first girlfriend, so he thinks this is love. And that makes me so sad because his expectations for every other girl is going to be so warped. Oh, he's his future wife. He's totally traumatized now.

And I think I think he kind of says it, like, I really don't know about this anymore. I don't want to break up over this. I just want her to chill on the baby thing. I'm an adult. I'm not a child. It's not like she does this every day or every other day. But when she does, it is so weird. I don't think she gets off sexually doing this. We've never had sex, nor after this activity have we had sex.

So I don't believe it's a fetish. As far as I know, she doesn't have any past traumas either. Wait, OK, so definitely I know how to fix this issue. What if he really, truly loves her? Just give her a baby. No, give her a baby. Well, just give her a baby. I still think this is a bigger red flag, though.

I think you you don't want to know it for sure. Very weird. I would you don't. I would back up from that. But it seems like, oh, no, this is just so hard because like it's his first. Yeah. So he thinks it's love. And if he does, and if he truly wants to stay in it, I think the next step is have a baby and give her a kid.

But then like, then does it stop? Well, you don't know. And that's the thing. Do you think then once she has a kid? OK, great. Well, it's a baby. You know she's equipped to take care of it. I know the solution. But you get her a puppy and see if that changes anything.

And if it doesn't, I'm sorry, honey. You got to run. You got to run. Yeah. This was a great experience for you. Learn, but run on to the next. I know because he says, is this normal? Question mark, like, no, this is this is clearly not normal. No, has anyone ever been in this situation like this? Question mark, maybe a few,

but it's definitely far and few between. Like this is not the average. No, it's not normal. And I try to make it sound like it could be love a good pamper. I think you should always pamper your relationship significant other. But no, this is just like too much for sure. This is too much. Yeah.

I would exit. I think he needs to. I think this is this is more than a red flag. I think this is kind of like a dude. She's it just makes me wonder, like, what happened in your life that makes you want to do that to someone? You want to do that? I don't know. At least she's nurturing.

I'm not sold. I'm not sold either. I'm not sold. I was trying, but I know I'm sorry. We're done for this one. Yeah. I, female 28, just found my husband, male 32 word doc of the woman he slept with. There's more than he originally told me and women after me. Wait, after dating or after they started talking? Because that's very different.

I would assume it's a list. Yeah. And if there's women after her name on the list, is the list in chronological order? Probably. I was using my husband's laptop to do some work. I went to open a word document and found one named personal. It was from 2019.

I opened it. Yes, be mad at me for snooping, but I did not expect it to be this. You can snoop. Yeah, you might have some secrets from like the past past, but you shouldn't have big secrets. It was a list of women for having birthdays. I looked at it, confused, trying to figure out what this was. I thought he was keeping track of his ex's birthdays

until I saw below mine and realized that this was a list of women he had slept with. Why four birthdays? Like what's so special about those four women that you wanted to remember their birthday? Are you still sending them gifts? Probably. If so, I want to know what gifts he's sending.

But they better be good because you're fucking married and you're doing this to your wife. He had sent himself this in 2019. We have been together for five years, married this year. We discussed sexual past and he swore multiple times I was the last woman he slept with. This is an even larger issue for me because we have had many issues in the past

that have had to do with him lying. Oh, done, no, divorce, divorce, I'm done, honestly. This is more than a red flag. I'm all for like having fun when you're talking, or like whatever, don't cheat, don't lie. You're a cheater, I'm done. I completely agree. Done, like because one's a cheater, always a cheater.

Always. And the fact that they've had issues with him lying, like previously, yeah. I'm sorry, like I think if you go into a relationship while you're dating, your partner is lying to you. I think that is one of the biggest red flags because if they're willing to lie to you while you're dating, you're not seriously committed,

like marriage, what are they willing to lie about? What is gonna be there? Exactly, so that to me, I'm surprised you got married. Like I get you've been together five years, but like, wow. Like, I mean, what was he lying about in the past that you guys had issues with? I mean, clearly it sounds like it was gross though, the way she's sounding it.

I know. No, I'm done. They've been together for five years, but married this year. Hopefully he was rich and you got some money out of that, but get out of there. I feel absolutely sick to my stomach. This legitimately makes me question

if I made a big mistake marrying him. I'm going to confront him, but is this as big of an issue as it feels? I just get sad for her because I know he's just gonna lie again, but also if he's writing names after you, like clearly. It almost, it seems like it's a list of like keeping track of people just in case.

But that means he's also kind of a psychopath because he's getting off of his name list. If you're keeping a name list like that after marriage. I don't know if you've seen the TikToks, but like I have a friend too that like keeps Excel sheet of like people she's slept with, penis size, was it good? Where did this hookup happen?

And I've seen other TikToks where people do this as well. Which I think is funny. I mean, I think that it makes sense. It's fine. It's fine. You're not married. You're not married. That's a thing.

You're not in a committed relationship. That's the difference. You're going to, you know that you're going to marry somebody. Get rid of it. Like what's the point? What are you going to look back and just like. But I think that's the telltale sign.

I think he's still sleeping with people and adding. I mean, if you have names after you. Yeah. Typically you go in chronological order. So the fact that there's names after is like. Red flag. Red flag. Did she confront him?

I need to know. There's no update. She just says, I feel disgusted now. I can't stop crying. Am I being ridiculous? I'm still going to address this issue. One, not ridiculous. Absolutely not.

Did you address it? I need to know what happened. Girl, get out of there. Yeah. She's not, that's like, she's not going to have a good time. No. There was like no scenario that it,

it could be good. No. Or it makes sense. Run. Run. I, I feel for her cause. Reach out to G if you hear this and she would like an update.

I would love an update and I would love to give you some advice. Run. Yeah. R-U-N. I don't like that one. This next one, the title gets me a little scared from the beginning.

So I figured it would fit right into the red flags category. My girlfriend tried to push me off a cliff as a joke. Honestly. Related to the fact that I always tried it like, but cliff, I guess the cliff is pretty bad. Have you tried to push someone off a cliff? Honestly. Okay.

Not going to lie. Is this you? No, it's not me, but it wasn't a guy I was with. So back in college, we would go cliff diving near the reservoir or whatever. Yeah. No, I've done that too.

And like jokingly, you push people, right? Yeah, but they're going in a water. Yeah. Going into the water. Oh, this, I guess we don't know if this is a water cliff. I think this is a cliff. Oh, sometimes I do drive on bridges and think, what if I just hit the car next to me and they just go flying off?

Is that? Oh. That's a little scary. Yeah. That's not like a thought people have often. I mean, I have car anxiety, so I don't fuck around on the road. It's just a thought I have sometimes, driving over the bridge and there's like water

and you're like, what if you just like... Swint free fall. You know, maybe. I can't be the only one. I can't be the only one. Oh, we will ask. I'm just going to throw that out there. We will ask you guys.

Like we'll send it to the polls. I don't do it. I just think about it. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Gotta walk the dogs, school drop off, meetings from 10 to three, take kids to soccer practice, then...

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is completely crazy, but mostly in a good way. Spontaneous is an understatement. Sometimes she goes too far, but I love her for her crazy personality. I, 18-year-old male, am more relaxed, so we balance each other out. Two recent incidents. First of all, he's 18 and she's 20,

and he's more relaxed. Okay, let's keep going. Yeah, two incidents really freaked me out, though, and I need advice. I was driving on the highway with a lot of traffic. We were maybe going 40 miles per hour. She suddenly started tickling me

and wouldn't stop when I yelled at her. I jammed on the brake and someone almost hit us from behind. I asked her what the fuck is wrong with her, and she just laughed about it and told me to chill. I said, what would make you want to do that? And she said, I don't know, it just felt like it. Gee, is this you?

Honestly, I'm reading, like, listening to this, I'm like, you know, she wanted to have a little fun. This is the exact opposite of me. I am terrified in cars. I literally, if my boyfriend's going too fast or passing people inappropriately, I will fucking ball my eyes out in the car. I don't fuck with that.

But funny, but also to the point where he has to slam his brakes, that's a little intense. I understand being funny and whatever, but that's a little intense for me. Taking it a little too far at that point. If he's fucking, he almost had someone rear end to him. That's taking it a little too far.

You're not on some back dirt road. You're just like asking for some trauma in your life. Yeah, why? I wonder if she's one of those people that like, I mean, our brains are absolutely magical. And there's some people that like, they have to go to a certain level to feel anything. Yeah, endorphins.

Yeah, and then you almost wonder if there's something with her like amygdala or like something in her brain where she has to go to that certain level to feel anything, which kind of what it sounds like based on the fact that he said she has a crazy personality and she's spontaneous as an understatement. Yeah, for sure.

A little goofy. A little off, for sure. I mean, I'm all for fun, but let's not kill ourselves. No. That's a little too much. No, and one of my past relationships was a guy who he had it all at his hands. And so his dad had these crazy cars,

like this $180,000 Mercedes. He had $100,000 Mercedes. And so he would drive like an absolute terrorist. And I literally, one time I was like, OK, can you please slow down? Can you please slow down? And I just watched the needle on the dash. Keep going up.

Keep going up. Hits like 113, which, OK, it's not that fast, but it's pretty fucking fast. Oh, do I have a story for you? And I literally started bawling. And he's like, what's wrong with you? And I go, drop me off on the side of the road if you're going to keep driving like this,

because I've been in three car accidents. I don't want another one. Yeah, no. So run. One of my exes, who I dated in high school, loaded. Family loaded, whatever. That's happy for them. He had one of a time.

A time? Is that one of a kind? One of a kind. He had one of a kind custom car that no one ever has, or limited edition. Any time we got an argument, and I would just be like, I'm the type of person we got an argument. I need time to step away from it, whatever.

Yeah, you need to be there. So I literally, this one fight, I just turned my phone off, didn't want to do anything. Purpsly took his car, crashed it into a tree. He did? Yeah, to get my attention. But also, that's what he. He was so manipulative.

Manipulative, but also that's what he was like, I don't feel anything, and that's what got him to feel something. Like crazy. So I get it, maybe that's what turns her on. Not to say he did this to turn himself on. We haven't even gotten the cliff part, though. Oh, wow. So then, last Saturday, I was hiking with her,

and I was standing near the steep cliff. I'm usually wary of her. Dude, if you're wary of your girlfriend, and you already don't trust her, and you have to be on edge. No, what are you doing? So clearly, he likes the adrenaline. Or he's just young and dumb. Yeah, I mean, he is younger than her.

He's 18 years younger than her. And he's 18. That's probably first love. He's infatuated by this older girl. And it seems like she's dangerous. And what young guy doesn't love that? Yeah, something is like. But she definitely has some sort of medication.

This is something really off here. But the fact that he literally says, I'm usually wary of her. I know, it doesn't get better, though. I'm usually wary of her because you never know what she's going to do, even though it's usually just a prank or something. I let my guard down, and she went behind me

and pushed me towards the cliff. And I swear, I almost fell off. What was her reaction, though? Like, was she laughing? Or was she like, fuck, I fucked up? Sorry. She did it hard, and I ended up right at the edge. She was laughing so hard.

I freaked out and started screaming at her. And I may have been out of line, but holy shit. No, no, he was not out of line. Block her. Yeah, no. Break up, block her. That's done, that's done. I mean, that's almost like, do you love yourself enough

to not die? To not die, exactly. Like, this girl is going to want. I feel like this has happened. Hasn't this happened? Where like, up in like, he's about to be on the front page news, being like, girlfriend. Oh, that's a thousand weird ways to die or something.

But it's almost going to be like, they take her to court, and she's like, acting like, I can't believe this happened to me. Like, I've loved him my whole life, but at the end of the day, she knows exactly what she's doing. And she gets off on that. She's definitely getting off on this. There's some trauma there because, or like her brain, like the brain thing, it's like, this is not normal.

And this poor boy just probably doesn't know it. She laughed about it at first, but then started crying and saying, she was so sorry. The next day, she started texting me, saying that she didn't mean any harm. And she just, quote, didn't know that I would get so mad at her for doing that. Am I crazy for even thinking about this?

Is it possible? She's just immature. And if I get back with her, she'll be different. I'm kind of lonely, and I really love her, but this really made me rethink the situation, because now I feel like she's legit crazy, not just fun crazy. Thanks for the advice. It almost makes me think, like, did she also maybe watch a movie

and thought, like, the main character in that movie was like that, and she thinks it's cute? Who fucking knows, but her boyfriend doesn't have wings. I know. Like, what do you think is going to happen if you push this boy off a cliff? He can't fucking fly. OK, she knows she's sorry, though.

So, like, she knows what she did. But is she truly sorry? But is it because she's crazy? I, like, don't know. Like, she could either be crazy, and she's just saying it to be, like, OK, boy, like, stop crying about this. Exactly. That's what I think.

Or she also has, like, some social cue issues that she doesn't know what's wrong. True. I really don't think she's sorry. I think it's more about the fact that she's sorry about his reaction. Yeah. I think she finds what she does funny.

Yeah. This to me, this is a breakup situation. Like, I would not stay with someone that was putting my life constantly in risk and making me be heightened all the time. For sure. No, I feel like she's almost, like, I can see her, like, one day just be like,

oh, this will be funny in grabbing a knife and, like, running around to chase him with it. Yeah. You know? Exactly. I want to go back to the red flag story about the guy getting treated like a baby, because this cliff one is not fun.

I would love to see that girl who treats him like a baby and this girl who likes this dangerous thing hang out. But I'm going to ring together. Yeah. I would like to see what kind of story line that happens. This is bonkers to me. Well, that's all I have for you guys on this episode of Two Hot Takes.

I hope you're not going to be as scarred by these red flag stories as I am. And if you have any stories that you've found that are extra cringy, please send them my way. I'd love to hear them. Also, thanks to G for joining me on this episode. And if you guys liked her take on things, there's going to be some exclusive stories and videos

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