Two Hot Takes - 42: Unhinged 2.0 w/ Drew Afualo

Episode Date: November 11, 2021

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Drew Afualo!! This episode is is bringing those unhinged stories back.. so listener beware. Check-out Drew's TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@drewafualo? As always your support is very appreciated: https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes

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Your brand of just calling out misogyny, it just gives me life. I'm glad. Absolutely gives me life. The theme I picked for you today is called unhinged. Love it already. Yes. You on TikTok, just come across the most unhinged fucking people. Yeah.

And you handle them so well. Thank you. I pride myself on it. It just warms my heart every time I hear your laugh. I'm so excited. I'm glad. I'm glad. It's so good.

Yeah. Okay, well, let's dive in. Got it. Hi, guys, welcome back to another episode of Two Hot Takes. I'm your host, Morgan, and today I'm joined by the amazing Drew Afowalo. Whoo. Yes. Follow her on TikTok.

She's absolutely incredible. Your Instagram is down currently. I know. RIP to a real one. Hopefully we'll get it back soon, so. Fingers are crossed for you. I know. Without her podcast, Two Idiot Girls, it's amazing we're, you know, trying to harass

her into doing more episodes because her and her sister, Dacin, are amazing, but yeah, I think some of what you talk about in your podcast might come up today because these stories are fucked. I am on the edge of my seat. I am so incredibly ready. Let's fucking go. Okay. So up first, am I the asshole for refusing to stop having girls' nights in just because

my boyfriend thinks it's wrong? Hmm. Hi. I know. It's off to a solid start. Hi. So I've been seeing this guy Will, 27 male, for months now. He's so sweet and funny and creative.

Fun fact, he drives two cars that he adjusted slash fixed on his own. We don't live together, but we do meet at my place every weekend. He called and asked what we will be doing on Friday and I said I wanted to host a girl's night in since it was my turn. He asked what the heck a girl's night in was. I said a girl's night in and he got quiet, then asked if I was being serious. I was confused as he started talking about how outdated and so 1950s these events are and said that I should stop promoting and advocating for those events as they're so

toxic and flat out reek of misogyny. I was shocked by his long rant, but he said that that was his honest opinion. I told him regardless, I still plan to host the event after he tried talking me out of it and suggested we go out together. He threw a fit after he suggested bringing his guy friends to join us and I refused since this is not how GNI's work. He called me a sexist and misogynistic for having a girl's night in and making it so obvious instead of being ashamed of myself.

He said that my mentality will cause me issues in the future, especially if I behave like that in a professional work setting. Let me tell you, I was blown away by how he got so worked up like that over me just missing my girls and wanting to spend time with them. We argued some more and he hung up on me after I said I will not stop hosting or being a part of girls night ends, no matter what he says about it. I tried to call and apologize for lashing out later, but he sent a text saying he was hurt by how I handled our small disagreement and needs time to process what he just found

out about my personality. This hurt me, but my friendship and the bond I share with my girlfriends is huge and I don't want to risk the years of friendship by no longer being a part of our bonding activities. Am I the asshole for making this my hill to die on? There's a lot to unpack here. This gives me the same energy as when women have women-only gyms and men are like, this is sexist because you're not including me.

Because if every space in the entire universe ever is welcoming to men and very little are welcoming to women only, so fuck your boyfriend, girl. That's my advice to you, but also misogyny, you don't even know the definition of that term. No. He is so confused. Yeah, he's like, what are some big words that will confuse her and also the gaslighting too at the end where he's like, you really hurt me.

You deciding to have girl's nighting with your girlfriends, that really hurt me because you clearly hate me. Also, what a strange, that's also an abuse tactic if you think about it because it's like trying to isolate her away from her friends. 100%. What a weird reaction to girl's night in. It's girl's night in. She doesn't even want to go out.

They're not even going out. Yeah, she's like, we're going to stay inside and talk shit. That's pretty much all we're going to do. What's the problem? I literally was blown away by this one. I was like, is he confused? Is he genuinely confused about what this entertains? Does he think strippers are coming?

What does he think happens at girl's night in? And then I'm like, is he envisioning that sleepover fantasy? I was just going to say, yeah, we're pillow fights and you're underwear and then you guys start kissing. But even then, most men who fantasize about that are turned on by that, so they just want to come and be included, which is weird. Yeah, which is why I think he wanted to bring his buddies along. Yeah, he was like, oh, let me bring my, for what?

For what? For what? For what? Also, like where he's like, he needs time to process what he just found out about my personality. Yeah, just the gaslighting 101, honestly, is to like make her feel crazy for your complete overreaction to something that has nothing to do with you. And also the fact that she's including you in the planning of it.

She's like, oh, by the way. Yeah. I'm going to have girls night in like just so you know, also they don't even live together. No. So you would be like, okay, you're going to tell me what I can do in my own house. It's weird. It also creeps me out the fact too. She says we don't live together, but we do meet at my place every weekend.

That means he don't have a place. That's what it sounds like. Or he's got a girlfriend at his place. There you go. Maybe, maybe he's messing with one of her friends and that's why he doesn't want you to have girls night in. But honestly, the female only gym parallel is what it sounds like. And it's also one of those weird like possession things where you're not allowed to hang out

with anyone that's not me. I can really agree. Get out while you still can girl. Red flags all over the place. Oh my God. And this one like it got a lot of engagement. So the top comment on it, not the asshole. How is girls night sexist?

No offense. You've said that you've only been dating a couple of months and he throws a tantrum over you not picking him over spending time with your friends. That's a red flag. Yeah. Months. Months. I thought they were together for like at least a year.

Girl, cut that shit off. Run now. Yeah. Girl, I'm sure have girls night out and go find a new boyfriend. That's my advice. Yeah. Yeah. Go to the bar.

Go to an outdoor patio. Yeah. Do something. Comedy club. At that point it's girls night out. Yeah. Or I'm throwing a huge party and inviting only girls and then posting about it all over social media.

Fuck him. Fuck that guy. Yeah. OP responds back. He mostly complained about not being allowed to attend or bring his guy friends. I told him why and asked him to respect the fact that my friendship with my girlfriends is important, but he keeps calling these events toxic in general and they need to go away. What?

See what I mean? He wants to be included. Like he wants to be invited so he can watch the like fetish in his head, like the fetishized dream of like women's sleepovers or whatever. His boy got dropped on his head. Yeah. And especially since girls night in, especially when you're older, like half the time no one spends the night, you just all come over, you hang out, you talk shit about your men

and then you all leave. Yeah. And that's pretty much it. It's happy venting. Right? Happy venting. Honestly, he must be doing something bad then if he really doesn't want you to hang out with your girlfriends.

Yeah. There's something, there's something really fucking weird going on. Yeah. This also reminds me too. I just learned recently that like gossiping used to be really, really highly respected and so gossiping was actually like this healthy hobby for women, but they became too powerful because all of these women knew the information that was happening in these like fucking like Salem witch hunt town like history.

Oh yeah. I think I heard about that. Yeah. Yeah. And so the men like essentially were threatened by these women knowing everything and having this power. And so they rebranded gossiping as being like a catty girl thing, catty girl's thing or like the devil.

Yeah. Like a mean girl thing. It's witch, like witchery and all this shit. And it's like, you just don't want women to have fucking fun or to know everything because we do. We do. That's what I'm saying. Like only men who are afraid of women talking to each other are men that are doing bad shit

because women will find out no matter what. Oh my God. We always know. Yeah. We literally always know. We always find out. We always know. It's so funny too.

Cause like, you know, like my boyfriend, like if I want to know something, I'm like, don't worry. I'll figure it out. Like if we're hanging out with friends or like other couples and he's like, what do you think's going on? I'm up. I don't know. I'll talk to her and I'll find out because we always know and girls are just so willing

to open up to each other that will like, like as soon as I start talking to her, I'm like, Hey girl, what's going on? She'll tell me all the tea. She'll tell me everything. I love that. One time. This is so topic. Feel free to cut this.

If it's off topic. No, I love it. What's up? I was talking to my boyfriend and I was telling him, cause like, you know, when you're with your girlfriends, you like talk shit and you also talk about like how people are in bed. Oh, everything. Yeah.

Everything. How good it is. Everything. Every little tiny detail. And like I was telling my boyfriend about this and he was like, what? Like when I first started dating him and he had a really close friend and group of friends at the time and I was like, you guys don't talk about this stuff. And he was like, no, like he was so shocked.

I was like, are you serious? You don't talk at all. Like about me. Hi. It's so fun. I don't know. I was like, really? He was so like, he was like, nobody does that.

I was like, every bitch does that. Like you're insane. I'm shocked. I was shocked. I literally was telling him. I was like, if I hung out with a girl for like an hour, she would tell me at least one sexual experience. At least one.

If I just met her, she would tell me. Oh yeah. You'll get one from me. I'm sure. Easily. And I told him, I was like, because it's just how it is. It's just the connection. Maybe it's just like a really divine feminine energy.

It is. Like, but he was so like, no, like I don't talk. I said, really? You don't know? Like you don't know how big your friends' dicks are? Like nothing? Oh my God. And he was like, I would.

I don't know any of that stuff. Like we don't talk about stuff like that. That's so boring. Yeah. So what do you talk about? The fucking weather? You just sit around and talk about jobs? I don't think guys, like I don't think, and please, like if there are guys listening,

please tell me what you talk about with your friends. I would love to know. I, this came up recently where it was like, guys make fun of girls for having these like really intimate, close friendships. Oh yeah. And it's like, it's that same concept where it's like, what do they talk about? Do they even know their friends or do they just like play video games with them? Exactly.

I'm like, what do you talk about then? Would you talk about the news? I was like, you guys aren't caught up on political events. So what the fuck are you all talking about then? What the fuck is happening? That's, I was like, how do you form connections? Because I feel like women form connections so strongly and so easily because we're so open and like open to each other's emotions and experiences and we're very empathetic

naturally. So I was like, that's why I was telling him like, I have so many friends, I like make friends so easily. So does he, but they're like, I told him like, I just know all these things about everybody that I meet. And he was like, why don't you find these things out? I was like, people just open up, like we talk and then, you know, we share experiences with each other and then we become friends.

So I'm like, I can't believe y'all don't do that. That's so strange. And I'm having kind of like a total epiphany here because I'm supposed to have like another guest coming up that are two guys and they have a sex podcast. And so I was telling my boyfriend, I was like, yeah, I'm going to just like do a guy's like kind of sex episode, like what guys take on sex and blah, blah, blah. And he's like, he's like, you're going to talk about sex with these two dudes. And I'm like, yeah, like, I was like, I'm open about it.

Like, I don't care. I was like, I really want to like talk about my favorite like sex position that we do. And he was like, he's like, babe, you can't tell people this. Please don't. He's terrified, but it's just like, it's a PSA that needs to come out to the world because it's so good. It's like, here we go. I'm just going to share now because it's just so perfect.

But you have your guy put like you're laying almost side by side and then he puts your arm around you. So he's got one boob on the one hand on the right boob and then mouth goes on the left boob and then left hand goes down. Got it. And it's like, it's a three for one action and it is like the best thing you're covering all your bases. Yes.

At once. I was like, he about shit himself when I told him I was going to tell people this. And here we go. I have already shared, but PSA, this is, I'll draw a diagram and maybe include it on the YouTube. Honestly, as soon as you said hand on the boob, I knew, I knew. I saw it in my head already. So that's all.

It's a good one. You know what? I give you the stamp of approval to that one for sure. And also our boyfriends seem very similar. I know. We should push them together. They can just talk about the weather. Yeah, this girl, she's got, she's got to run this boy's unhinged.

I know. Get out while you still can girl. I know. We started off light. Yeah. This next one, um, not so great. The thought of my sons growing up without me inspired me to quit smoking. I talked to my doctors and then I threw away all my cigarettes, ashtrays and lighters.

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I am by the asshole for getting upset. My boyfriend wouldn't take me to the emergency room. My boyfriend, male 20 and I, female 21, live together at my parents. I've been having some pretty bad UTI symptoms and went in to a walk-in clinic two weeks ago when I had clear signs of UTI and they sent me home and said I tested negative. I woke up a week later with extreme hip pain. I spent all day on a heating pad and crying two more days past and I woke up with the worst abdominal pain I've ever had.

I began screaming and calling my mom. She says, yeah. She says to wake up my boyfriend and tell him to take me to the nearby hospital. Seven minutes away, that is small, or one that's 35 minutes away that would properly handle what was going on. I wake him up and he says, just sleep it off. At this point, I'm in tears. He says no and eludes that I'm overreacting, which I have been known to do and it's probably

nothing because I tested negative. I feel as if I've been stabbed and this is not the type of pain I can wait out. I even compare how I'm feeling to a possible bladder rupture because of how awful I felt. Finally, he agrees to take me, but only if I let him sleep for two more hours. I understand that if it was some odd, ungodly time, but it was currently 11.30 a.m. and he went to bed at 3 a.m. after playing video games. I explain that I can't wait that long and have no one else home to drive me. He turns over and lays back down.

An hour goes by of the worst pain of my life and I decide I will just try to suck it up and drive myself to the nearby ER. I woke him up one more time and explained that I cannot wait any longer. I need to go now because something is wrong. He snaps and says give him one more hour and lays back down. I storm off in my car and make it about two blocks before I realize I forgot my wallet and I was in no state to drive as I was literally in so much pain I couldn't focus. I come home and lay down in bed beside him as I scream out in pain.

He says that I know it takes time for him to wake up and I have no right to get mad. I barely utter out please take me to the one seven minutes away because I'm scared. I remind him that I've driven two hours at 3 a.m. on no sleep just to pick him up from the hospital and spent the whole summer helping him recover from his injury, including bathing and wiping him because he needed me. Fuck this man. Sometimes I wonder if these are real because if they are, those men should rot in hell. Like that is absolutely absurd.

Like you don't even need to the fact that she's justifying it like for him in the sense of saying like I've been known to overreact and and you're clearly not now. Yeah. Well, and even so, what does that mean? How does that have any or bear any relevance towards your current like torturous pain? I can't fucking believe that. And also, like at that point, like if he said, let me sleep two more hours, like the first time he disrespected me like that, I just said, oh, you know what, I'm going to drive

myself and while I'm there, you pack your shit up and get the fuck out of my parents' house. How does that sound? And I want to draw myself. I'm on the same fucking page. I would have called an Uber. Literally. Oh, yeah, get the fuck away from me. Literally, like he went to bed at 3 30 and he wants to take her at 2 30, which she does

go on to say he argues some more than finally at 2 30 p.m. Takes me to the hospital seven minutes away. It turns out I had an advanced UTI and infection in my bladder and kidneys as well as a kidney stone that was infected. I felt bad as I recalled my attitude that morning, but I was in a lot of pain. I do recall saying things like, fine, just don't help me. And you're being a dick in rebuttal to his attitude. Am I the asshole?

Not the fucking asshole. No, and if anything, I don't think you were mean enough to be honest. No, I think you should have been even meaner, like 20 times meaner and kicked him out and broke up with him all at the same time. Yes. My dude, even if I was so like aggressively uncomfortable with a UTI because we all been there, those are the fucking words. They're bad.

Yeah. And even with that pain, like my boyfriend would still take me like wherever he would have driven me in two hours, three hours. He would have been like, let's get in the car and go. If I woke up screaming, there is no fucking way that he would be like, can you like shut the fuck up so I can go back to sleep? Let me sleep for a couple more hours because I was gaming. He's like, I get it.

You have an infection, but also you're being really fucking selfish. So why don't you shut the fuck up so I can sleep? Thanks. I, I just want to fucking, I want to kick him in the foot. Like, I'm so mad for her. And then the fact she's like, I felt bad as I recalled my attitude. He must do that to her a lot then. He's definitely a guest.

Yeah, yes. Super. He must make her feel like shit a lot about her feelings and how she chooses to express them because she automatically jumps to the defense of him, just out of probably habit. So she's just like constantly like, well, also like I was being kind of rude and also, and so you were in fucking terrible pain. Also a kidney stone and a UTI shoot me in the face.

I, she went so many days with this. Like I have like day one of UTI symptoms and I'm like crying. Me too. And she went through two weeks of clear UTI signs. Yeah, there's no way. This girl. And she must, she must like let people kind of like talk her down a lot like that and kind of, uh, what do you call it belittle her, her feeling and emotion?

Because she went to the fucking doctor and they said she didn't have one. And then if she's already had one before, like, I know, like the first time I pee, if I have one, I know automatically. So you're like, so if they tried to tell me I didn't have one, I'd be like, alright, test me again or give me the shit now because I definitely have one. So like, well, the thing is too, this UTI was probably from fucking him from him, fingering her and not washing his hands or dirty dick being dirty. Like this probably was from him because women don't just get UTIs typically.

No, they don't unless you're like susceptible to them. But even then it has to be triggered by something and then it sounds like she's never had one before or she's only ever had like one because most, most women know who I've had some before. Most women know they're like, no, this is a UTI. Like I wouldn't let someone tell me, like the last time I had a UTI, I was actually working at the NFL. So I was commuting, like driving long ass out.

You cannot drive with a UTI. Like, oh man, it was so bad. I barely made it to work. I barely made it through work. And then after I drove myself to the urgent care, cause I was like, I fucking gonna pass out like I was in so much pain, I was going to pass out while I'm driving like two hours. So I literally, I even call my mom, I literally call my mom.

I'm like, what the fuck do I do? Like I was crying in the bathroom and she was like, she was like, right after work, go straight to the urgent care. So that's what I did. And the lady tried to tell me this isn't, I don't think this is a UTI. She tried to tell me like, maybe you should get tested for like gonorrhea. I was like, bitch, it's not that it's a UTI. Okay.

It's not that it's a UTI. So I said, give me the medicine for the UTI. She tried to tell me the same thing. So that's what I'm saying. Sometimes they like to belittle women's pain. Yeah. 100%. Are you sure you're not being dramatic?

Oh, it's probably just cramped. Yeah. It's probably just your period. As if those are in any way shape or form the same. Like the pain is not even cooked. And a kidney stone girl. I'm surprised. You're a fucking Spartan warrior.

Yes. Literally. Oh, this is just a tank. I don't know how she put up with this. Actually. But like the fact that she dealt with this for so long, like what if it was her appendix, like this girl could be dead. I thought the same thing.

I, and even if her bladder ruptured, she could die from that too. And this guy's like, shut the fuck up. I'm tired. Oh, fucking ass. I really hope he's not still living in your parents' house. If my parents found out we were living in the same house and my parents found out he did that to me, there's no fucking way. No, my dad would immediately kick my boyfriend out.

Same, same. My mom would kick my boyfriend's ass if that were the case. Yes. Top comment on this one. Pass the kidney stone, pass the boyfriend, not the asshole. You need to get rid of all of these. Period. Screaming and crying in pain.

A person who can ignore that is not the one for you. I take it. Cabs weren't an option. You can't rely on this guy. So you need to have alternatives. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my God, especially for like medical emergencies.

Oh, well, I mean, if you're going to be a dick, that is not the time to do it. No time in a place. No, this dude needs. Yeah, there's no way. A wake up call. The comments just rip into him like and rightfully so. The treatment women settle for and rationalize from men is so depressing. Yeah.

Ladies, the bare minimum you should expect from a man is him actually being concerned when you're screaming in agony and will insist on you going to the hospital. Yeah, the bar is so low. The bar is in fucking hell, to be honest. Literally, that's what the next comment says, the bar is so low. It is, it's in fucking hell, to be honest. They're like, whoa, he was a little tired. And girl, you could have died.

You literally could have died. Yeah. And he, that would be on him. Oh my God, have we just PSA girls? Like, what's the raise the bar? Please, even a little. A little. Just basic human empathy should be like the very bottom of rung of the ladder.

Jesus Christ. That's the one thing you talked about in your podcast too. You were like, I had such positive male role models that like, like my standards were like where they should be. Oh yeah. I'm just like, yeah. Like I had my dad, like, that's why I get, I get that shit too. They're like fatherless behavior, that fucking bullshit ass argument, which is

so funny because my dad is like one of the best people in the fucking universe. So like my dad has shown me my whole life, like what a man should be to like his partner, to his kids. So that's why I'm like, my standards have been high. So that's why I've been telling, I tell people all the time, like take them off the floor, girl. I promise someone will meet them. They're just my take a little bit.

Yes. There are way, way, way better ones out there. Absolutely. I went through some cow shit people until I found my guy, like, and he's a saint. So, so that's mine. Don't fucking settle. Never, never. It makes me so sad when people are like, Oh, well, everyone settles.

Who's everyone? Nobody fucking knows. Who's everyone? That's the case in everyone's miserable. That sucks. Like, what's the point? There's no way. There's no fucking way.

Like when you're talking about relationships and stuff, there's no way. You shouldn't settle in any facet of life, least of all your fucking relationship. No, never. This is the person you have to like do everything with, go through life with, have support you. Right. I heard something the other day and it like really, I like thought about it and I was like, Holy shit, that's the best way to like rationalize things.

But someone goes, think about the partner you're with right now. Think about losing someone really important to you. A parent, grandparent, loved one, whatever. Is that the person you want standing next to you at their funeral? Damn. And I was like, This is deep. It's true.

Yeah. My mom said too, she's like, because before like I was with my current boyfriend, I was like asking her about love. Like, how do you know? Like, how do you really know that you like truly love someone? You know what I'm saying? And my mom's explanation to me, like since I was a kid, was always like, if for some reason, like God forbid, your partner was supposed like gotten to an accident, like

a terrible accident where they could no longer take care of themselves. Like they couldn't bathe themselves, wipe themselves. Would you be able to do that for them and still love them the exact same? And I was like, yeah, that's a good point. And I was thinking, I would never fucking wipe someone's ass. Like that's what I was thinking when I was like 14. And then like now, obviously I'm with my boyfriend now. And I'm like, I would wipe his ass.

I would, I would, I would wipe that ass if he needed me to. And that's so fucking cute. And vice versa too, right? Like, would you, would they be able to do that for you? And so, you know, that's, that's true love right there. That is, and I work as an OT here and there still. And like, I have to wipe strangers' asses. So if I can't wipe my boyfriend's like in a time of need, like, I don't really love him.

I'm saying that's like an unconditional love, right? Like a true, true and like tried and true love, foundational love. Everyone out there, ask your partner if they'd wipe your ass. There you go. And say, if I couldn't wipe my ass anymore, would you wet my ass? And if the answer is no, then he doesn't love you just kidding. I know, this reminds me too. This is so fucking gross and off topic, but there was something on a fucking

Tik Tok where it was like, have you ever tried holding it when they pee? And now I just like can't get this out of my head. I'm like, I kind of want to try. And I joked with my boyfriend, Justin. I was like, do you think we could like get to that point where like, I try like, I just want to, I'm just curious how it goes for you. And he was very uncomfortable, but I think I'm convincing him. There you go.

You're like, I'm working my way in there though. We're inching towards it. That's for sure. No pun intended. I know, I still haven't farted in front of him. So we've got some progress. No way, really? Three years in three years.

Damn, you're a fucking trooper. Three years. I just, has he mentioned it at all? Oh, we talk about all the time. Has he, he's farted in front of you. No, that's why it's not a safe space for me. You're like, I'm going to need you to open up first. Yeah, no, if he started farting, I would, I would.

I would definitely fucking fart in front of him if he farted first, but I just, I don't, I don't, he hasn't. Girl, when I first started dating my boyfriend, I used to go brush my teeth before like, we would like kiss at all. Yeah, I would literally like go brush my teeth. And now I'm like, right. You're like, at that point, you're like, that's too much fucking work. You know what I'm about.

I know, God, I know, I need to just do it. I need to just break the seal and just let off a toot because be vulnerable with each other, you know, yeah, it's really hard. Like when you're laying in bed and comfy and you have to like subtly, like separate your butt cheeks, you know, like that trick. You know, I don't, not from personal experience, but I've heard it's a trick. If you have to fart, you just like subtly, like subtly, like pull one cheek over. Yeah, my boyfriend farts in front of me all the time.

Not on purpose, right? I don't think I've, I think I've farted in front of him maybe a few times, but that's just because I don't know. I just, I guess I just, when I'm around him, I don't have to fart. So maybe it's not a safe space. You must have a very healthy diet. Right. Literally, maybe it's all about mind power.

You know what I mean? Mind over matter. My mind is subconsciously like you can't fire. And I'm like, okay. It just doesn't happen. Just evaporates. It's God. It's all about, it's all about brain power, you know.

Teach me your Yoda ways. This is great. I'm learning so much today. Yeah. Oh my God. Okay. One more comment about this one. She wiped his ass too.

There you go. Oh, that's all you know. She wiped his ass. She loves him and he does not love her the same. Fuck this dude. He doesn't deserve your wipes, girl. No. The thought of my sons growing up without me inspired me to quit smoking.

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I've almost heard enough. Yeah. So trigger warnings. They add food tampering, psychological, emotional abuse. Don't read while eating slash if you have a weak stomach. I, 22 female, have been with my partner 24 male for four years now. I have never known him to do anything like this, but I noticed he started acting a little strange around a month,

maybe a month and a half ago. He started putting fruit on the floor in the garden and I thought it was a bit weird, but he said he was feeding the mice family and having nested, that have nested in our shed. So I thought it was sweet and helped him do so. Anyways, he started being really nice to me around two weeks ago and making me food, baking me cakes and stuff, which he never usually cooks ever.

So I was so happy he found a hobby. I did notice sometimes I felt sick and dizzy after eating, and I just put it down to lack of sleep slash hormones. Anyways, a friend of my partners came into my work today. I work at a cafe and said he needed to speak to me when I was free. I was free as there wasn't any customers at this time. He told me that my partner has been collecting slugs from the garden on fruit he has been putting out and putting them

in my food, blending them up. He sent this friend pictures of bags of slugs that he had collected and the pictures of blended slugs. I feel really sick to my stomach. I don't understand why he did this. This is so out of character of him. I asked him why he was doing it and he accused me of snooping through his messages, which I would never do and got so angry at me for being

not able to take a joke. I feel disgusting. I love him to pieces, but I just don't understand his ways of thinking just now. Am I overreacting? I don't know what to do. I feel lost. OK, well, this is. I don't mean to laugh.

Oh, poor girl, because it's not funny. No, but it's like it's so it's so bizarre. It's like. The fact that he was like, you can't take a joke. The gaslighting. Gaslighting. Dude, you've been feeding me slugs and you're you're mad that I can't take it. There's some fucking poisonous slugs out there, dude.

Bro, what the fuck, Doug? OK, first of all. Doug, what the? Pack your shit up and fucking leave this dude. That is the most unhinged behavior I've ever fucking heard. At least. OK, this sounds fucked, but like at least when someone's trying to poison you, they like are very direct, but like they'll put like arsenic in your

shit or like bleach because they have a goal. Yeah, what's the goal of putting slugs in your shit? What's the fucking goal? Is the goal? What's the goal here? Does he want to kill her? So fucking random, like after four years, I thought they were going to say like they'd only been together for like a few

months, which doesn't really know him that well. That would be like if my boyfriend right because we've been together for four years, that would be like he started feeding me slugs in what universe? Like, check him into a fucking hospital, bitch. I think something's wrong. This is we have lots of updates on this one. It doesn't get better. True, it doesn't get better.

I can't wait to hear it. It's not good. And I'm just like, I just I. I will tell you right now. Like at the end of the day, this girl is OK. No, that's good. That's all that matters. Yeah, the final update is like she's safe, healthy and alive.

OK, good, good. So she goes on to say on the update, I went to urgent care last night, early hours of the morning and waited and was finally seen around six a.m. ish, I had some tests and I have a high level of meta. Metahelied in my blood. I was kept in for monitoring and I have some ulcers in my stomach. I was aware of this as I was hospitalized about two months ago for a burst ulcer.

Originally thought it was stress, but they now said it could be because of the slug poisoning. I could have an infection of some kind as my temperature is high, but they haven't found anything that could be causing that yet. They have checked my heart and it is fine. I am due to have heart surgery this year, though, so they're delegating it due to ulcers and infections. And the fact I keep getting sick, which is OK.

I have an appointment to see my cardiologist on the 20th of April. The fucking slugs gave her a heart condition. What? But what I contacted the police and wrote a statement and asked some questions and was asked some questions. Anyone who knows me in real life, please don't post mine or my partner's name as the police said it would destroy the investigation. My ex refused to say anything to the police or me.

However, he did say he would speak to his friend and only him. He then spoke to me. I was not alone. I was with a friend and his friend, too. He confessed to doing random experiments on me slash tests, starting a few months after we moved in together. It started with spitting on my toast. Then a week later, he replaced my

propanol beta blockers with salt empty capsules. I want to add he was my medication holder as I have a history of suicide attempts. So he handled my meds and gave them to me. And that's when he thought it would be funny. He also admitted to these things. Swapping my Linda McCartney vegetarian sausages with real meat.

I have IBS and store to digest meat. So I became a vegetarian. He also replaced my corn nuggets with real ones. One of my pet giant African land snails went missing in the summer. And I assumed it escaped and since I left the lid open to the box. But he said it had died. So he scraped it out and put it in my curry. I vaguely remember the day he did this as he laughed whenever I went to eat the curry

and got really paranoid. So I put it in the kitchen and stormed off. He then brought it upstairs and told me to taste. And I did and realized he added lots of zilly. And he said he was laughing because he put chili powder in and too much came out. Now I think he must have put the chili in to cover the fact he put my snail in there. What?

He also said he rubbed my toothbrush on the toilet, but then washed it as he thought that was too far. I feel like this is all a dream. It just seems too dramatic to feel real. I'm unsure what is happening on the legal front. He says he didn't know why he did this and that he loves me truly and that he felt compelled to do it, which I understand as I suffer from OCD and get compulsions slash impulsions and that he really loves taking care of me.

And he feels it's his purpose and he didn't mean to cause serious harm. He promises he never did anything to our animals. I think he could just be stressed as I have mental health issues that could have caused something in him to break from that much stress. I'm really sad and sorry for those who I caused concern. Sorry, be sorry for yourself, girl. I want to kidnap her. Girl, I want to get her out of there right now.

That guy is not well. Like he that will escalate towards murder. Yeah, like towards actually putting poison in your shit. Murder. Yeah. You're fucking weirdo, bro. Like also snails, like why snails? Pet snail.

Also, that is just like that's just like a little body. Yeah, it's like serial killer shit, like genuinely to like and who knows if it actually died, like he probably killed it. Yeah, I think he killed it. I agree by putting it in a boiling pot of stew. Oh, my God, bro. What can you imagine? Like the craziest thing is moving in with someone that you're like so certain,

you know, like forwards and backwards. You're like, oh, I know this person so well and they just moved in together, which means they've been together for a long time. But then see, it's the same pattern where she's like, oh, well, maybe this is on me. Girl, he tried to kill you. So no, that's not on you. It's OK. No. And also the fact that she has a history of mental illness just kind of shows

that he was taking advantage of her for God knows what reason. Yeah, I think he's a sociopath. That's what I think it is. I would agree. I think there's something going on, even her being like, oh, my own mental illness has could have triggered this. Like that could be the case. But just because someone is mentally ill doesn't mean they can fucking poison and

try to kill you. Dude, there are plenty of mentally ill people in the world that are not trying to kill their partners secretly. Also to get slugs is there's a fair amount of premeditation in that. That like to plan that out and be like, this would be so cool. Like you got to be real fucking loose between the ears. You're like planning on how you're going to catch snails to blend up. And then you like teach yourself to cook so that you can put these snails

in your girlfriend's food. That's fucking weird. My mouth is hanging open. Like the premeditation, the literally the fact that he like he probably had to research how to get slugs. Yeah, how to like coax them out. And then and then the fact she was like, oh, what are you doing with the fruit? Oh, I'm feeding the neighborhood mice.

She's like, oh, when she asked me what I'm doing, this is what I'm going to say. Yeah. And then he gets her to like help him poison her. Oh, it's not funny. Like I'm not laughing because it's funny, but I'm laughing because it's just unhinged. It's so deranged. It's just it sounds so not real. Like she said, it is so batshit, crazy dramatic.

But all you can do is is kind of laugh. Yeah, because they're like in what universe does that happen? Like that's why I said like when people tried to like kill you, like when partners try to kill each other in those like domestic situations where they try to poison, it's real to the point. But like slugs, that's like a slow burn. Like how long has he been doing that? Like and for how long did he plan to do that?

Well, like where did he think about snail? There's just so many questions that I would have other than so many. And right back to therapy. Go right back to therapy. Right to therapy. There you go. Straight to a jail. I'm glad you're okay, girl.

Oh, I hope you get better. Yeah. The final update is like literally the title is I am alive. Hello, everyone. Sorry for those who I didn't get to message back. My messages have been so full. I am alive, but I have been sick with coronavirus. Thank you for those who reached out to me.

You have made me feel less alone. Damn, can't catch a break. No, I know. Like every update is like so sad. Like there's one more where she's just like, I'm having a really, really hard relationship with food after my partner was like contaminating it. So now she's like scared to eat everything. Like it's like he kindled an eating disorder probably because of her food

aversion now, 100%, which is understandable. Dude, that's fucking wild. Like just what a, I don't know. Like I guess like if I were her too, other than like the initial trauma, I would be wondering why that happened now. Like why now of all the years that we've been together. Like that would probably be the hardest thing for me to deal with. Yeah.

Like why now? Like of all times, like why now? And why would you do this to me? Of all people? Like at four years. Yeah, man. Oh my God. You think you know someone and then like year four, like, well, she said,

like it started a month after they moved in together, but it's like still like year four, like, you know, that person, you're deeply invested. Yeah, absolutely. Like that's what I'm saying. Like you move in with the confidence and conviction of like, I know this person very well. So everything's going to be fine. It's going to be the same thing as like when we're living in two separate places.

Oh, just to find out he's a fucking psycho girl. I'm glad you're okay. Yeah. And you know what? You take care of yourself before you get into another relationship. Oh my God. Yeah. Definitely.

Like I hope she's still not with him and they're like, I feel bad. He's yeah. And I hope he goes to fucking prison for attempted murder charges need to be pressed. Yeah. He absolutely could go for attempted murder, especially if she develops illnesses from that, especially like long, like long lasting illnesses. Yeah.

Well, if the slugs were the reason she developed a cardio problem, like, dude, girl, get that lawsuit, get, get it, get it. The least you could do is get some money out of it. That's for sure. Oh my God. I would be going after this man. This man would be crippled. Absolutely.

A lawsuit and in fucking prison jail psych ward because he needs help. He truly does need help. And like, I think what you said too, isn't like you hit the nail on the head. Having a mental illness does not make you a bad person. Yeah. And like, we don't know if he does have one at all. Yeah. So at this point, he is just clearly unhinged.

Yeah. Actually though, like, like genuinely, like you need to be behind bars because you're a major to yourself and others. He is a menace to society. Yeah. Absolutely. In like a very literal sense. Yes.

Like, oh my God, girl, I hope you're good. The top comment on this one is like, it's a summary post from the best of Reddit updates and someone comments. We had a local story here about a guy who ate a slug on a dare. He ended up dying after a long and pretty horrible illness. And then they link the story. I know. And then the next comment goes, also he made her eat her pet snail.

Snails are intermediate hosts for a bunch of parasites. Yeah. He could have killed her. If it's not already in the process because he was doing it for God knows how long. Dude, oh my God, that's, that's like terrifying. That's like that shit you see in like murder mystery, like documentaries. Yeah. You know, like on snapped or something.

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I, 21 female and my boyfriend, 21 male, have been together since we were 17. We have a healthy relationship and I have a fantastic relationship with his family. I spent every Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas and any events in between with his family. His mom and I get along really well and my boyfriend annoyingly complains about how she calls me more than him. Same with his father, who's been a second father figure to me and always reminds me I'm more like a daughter to him than his son's girlfriend. My boyfriend has an older brother, 24 male, who I also get along with just fine, but

he's more kept to himself and I don't know him as well as the rest. His older brother recently got himself a girlfriend. And actually the first time since I've met him, he has had a girlfriend. This Halloween weekend, my boyfriend's parents anniversary happened and they invited me over as usual, but also asked the brother to bring his girlfriend over for the first time. His girlfriend is the same age as me, so I was really looking forward to meeting her. That Saturday, I arrived at my boyfriend's parents place early as me and his mother had plans to cook a large meal for everyone.

That afternoon was mostly just me, my boyfriend and his parents hanging out. The girlfriend came later in the evening with his brother. Right off the bat, she became overly comfortable with my boyfriend and his father. She said, quote, I didn't know all the men in your family are so handsome and gave both men a rather tight and long hug. She then made her way over to his mother, ignoring me completely and saying, quote, you're so pretty. Watch out though, your husband's on my radar.

Immediately his mother turned to me and whispered, I have a bad feeling about her. We stayed in the kitchen, but the kitchen looks into the living room. So we saw everything go down. The girlfriend sat on both my boyfriends and his dad's lap when trying to talk to them and both men seemed uncomfortable. Soon my boyfriend joined us in the kitchen and said, I don't like her. I called her over to taste the pasta. We all like spicy food, but I didn't know if she could handle it.

To which she took a bite and said, it's good. I see why they keep bringing you around. That compliment felt backhanded and felt, and I felt more uneasy with her. We set up the dining table as it was time for dinner. My boyfriend's family usually says grace before the meal and invited the girlfriend to leave today as she was the guest. The girlfriend accepted and happily thanked God for the food and all the members intentionally leaving me out of the grace.

I didn't mind too much, but my boyfriend and his mom looked at me with the, you saw that look in their eyes. As the dinner moved along, my boyfriend's dad grilled her with questions about her life and this and that, something he did to me as well. She seemed like a decent girl from a decent background. After he was done, he started asking me about the things I was working on and my plans for graduate school. Before I could answer, she interrupted and started talking about her work and how

much she hated it. I could tell my boyfriend's dad didn't really want to listen and he gave dry responses back and then turned back to me and just asked how my family was doing. This trend went on the whole night where every time I was acknowledged, she would interrupt me near the end of dinner. She jokingly said, be careful, David, brother's name. I might just leave you for Blake, my boyfriend's name. I'm at a point where I don't get jealous or annoyed at this type of stuff.

So I just went along and said, yeah, Blake, remember to invite me to the wedding when it happens. That seemed to be her breaking point as she started crying and saying, she's been trying to embarrass me the entire night. She then went on a ramble about how I'm hogging my boyfriend's family and making her look bad in front of them. Right after dinner, she dragged my boyfriend's brother out of the house with her and they left for the night.

We invited them to stay for the whole weekend. My boyfriend's family apologized to me for having to witness that and we all chilled down to some drinks and kept the celebration going with them. The next day, my boyfriend's mother got a call from the brother who seemed extremely pissed off. She put her phone on speaker, so we all heard him talk. He said his girlfriend is really upset with me and his family. How she's now having doubts about him and their relationship.

She says that as long as I'm involved in the family, she doesn't think the relationship with him will work out. The brother then began to ask that I break up with my boyfriend. So his girlfriend would stop crying and finally have peace with their relationship. My boyfriend denied the request. So did his parents, to which the brother said then, either she's out of the family or I am, I don't want to end this relationship over someone who's not related to us in the first place.

Since then, no one has been able to get ahold of him and it's stressing his parents and my boyfriend out. I feel guilty, but also confused on what to do. I don't want to break apart this family, but I love my boyfriend and his parents too. I don't know what to do or how to process any of this. Jeez Louise, man. First of all, like that bitch is unhinged for her. She's nuts.

Also the fact that she admitted to trying to embarrass her all night. Huh? And also, I mean, to be quite honest with you, girl, you got a lot more patience than you than I do. Cause I wouldn't like, like the lap sitting would have been enough for me. I would have walked over there and like pulled her by her ear and like, what the fuck do you think you're doing? Literally, like, it's one thing to like, uh, be nervous.

So you're kind of like showing out a little bit because you're, you understand that this other partner is very well, like well-engrained in the family. Yeah. But to do creepy weird stuff is not the way to go about making a good first impression. Oh my God. No, like you are embarrassing yourself. Like I just don't understand how in anyone's mind, that type of behavior thinks it's going to score you brownie points.

Yeah, like, and the, the, the lap sitting bro is, is fucking weird. Like not only to your boyfriend but your boyfriend's dad. Huh? Like oh, what the fuck? Telling your boyfriend's mom. Oh, you better watch out. Your husband's on my radar. What is this in early 2000s, romcom?

Like that shit, it doesn't work in the real life. No. In real, in reality, that's fucking weird and in incredibly inappropriate. Like. Oh my God. And I've, and it's funny too, because I've had situations like I'm sure this has happened with your boyfriend too. Like I'm, and you guys been together a long time

like my, my boyfriend and I, but I don't get jealous either. Like never, I don't get jealous. If anything, the only things that irritate me are when people cross boundaries, like when they're being inappropriate. So my boyfriend is the kind of guy that won't say anything. He'll just get really uncomfortable and try to like change the subject, move.

Like he won't be like, get the fuck off me. Like he'll never do that. Unless of course someone like actually tried to like kiss him or something. But if it's little shit like that, he'll never say anything. So like I have to say something. Yeah.

So that's why I'm saying like I'll fucking say something. Like I don't care. And I've done it many times too. Like especially when we were first dating because some, you know, our relationship was very clear, but it wasn't like established. So, you know, you have some, some fucking girls who try to, who try it, right?

Oh my God. And that's why I'm like, I don't want to be that girl. So don't make me that girl. No. It's fine. Just keep your hands to yourself. It's not that fucking hard. It is not that hard.

Like, what the fucking weird. I'm blown away. I would never, ever, ever, ever fucking sit on my boyfriend's dad's lap either. Like that also grosses me out. But also to sit on his brother's lap, which is so funny because my boyfriend's family, like he has one brother and like nuclear parents.

So they're like a nuclear family, but he has one brother. He has a girlfriend or a wife. This could happen to you. Yeah. That's what I'm saying. I'm like, well, that's what I'm saying. Like I'm laughing because like I was, I'm the longest girlfriend that's been in the family.

So like, like he obviously his brother's married now, but at the time, like if he had brought a girl home and she started acting like that, that would have been so fucking weird. Cause I'm like, I have a really good relationship with his parents too. So that would have been so, I was literally picturing my boyfriend's family

when you were saying like, well, what I do if that were me. But there's no way, man. And how so uncomfortable for everybody involved. Like that is so fucking weird. Like no way. Truly unhinged. No fucking way. I'm blown away.

Like I understand coming in and like having some insecurities. Yeah. Like being nervous. Yeah. Being so nervous. Like I'm shy as shit. Like I'm an overshare. I'm like, I talk a million miles per hour cause I'm just like, I'm so shy and have social anxiety. So like I get coming in and like being nervous

and trying to do your best, but like she just fucked it up. Those are all like conscious choices that she made. They weren't like nervous ticks, you know what I mean? Or like nervous like reactions to things. Like it was, those were all very like, this is what I'm going to do and it's going to be fine. And that's weird. Also is the older brother, like that's his older brother,

right? So that makes even less sense. Cause like my brother, my brother, my boyfriend is the older brother. So I guess it would make more sense to me if he were younger and maybe this was like his first real relationship. But even then like you're going to let some random girl

come between you and your family. That's weird. Well, and it doesn't sound like they've been together that long if he's just introducing the girlfriend to the family. That's why I'm confused like why this girl, you know what I mean? Like have you not had a girlfriend before?

Like do you think you're never going to get one again? Is that why? So there is a little bit of an update and it's kind of a long winded. I'll try to read the key points. Update on the situation, give a little more clarity. This morning, my boyfriend's mother got a hold of his brother and we all went over again and sat down together.

No girlfriend this time. His brother seemed to calm down a lot more and apologized for the commotion the other night. However, he's still backing up on my boyfriend and I was breaking up for the betterment of his relationship. There was a lot of back and forth between my boyfriend and his brother, a lot of what I simply choose to stay out of.

His brother got angry again and right before he left he said, quote, you can shove that ring right up your ass and don't think about inviting me to the wedding. He left after that and the room got tense. So my boyfriend opened up to me about something. Basically he planned to propose to me, not now but he bought the ring a few months ago and told his family, including his brother about it.

He said the tension between his brother and him started the moment he told him he planned to propose to me. I didn't know if I should be happy, my boyfriend wants to marry me or upset that this was sort of over a ring. Now I'm still confused on the girlfriend's behavior but I think I can safely say that beyond the girlfriend a big reason the brother was upset was over the fact

me and my boyfriend are gonna get married first. That's the update for me. A lot of people ask about my boyfriend's older brother's dating history and I found out that this was the first time he dated someone since he was 16. There you go, see I knew it. He's now 24.

There you go, see I called it. Right on the fucking money. Right, look at that. And that's, see that's why I'm, and also yeah he's older so now that makes sense but. He's threatened. If anything I would be pissed that he ruined my proposal. I'd be fucking mad, I'd be hot, I'd be like bro,

I get it, you're going through shit but then you're fucking out my life? Like what the fuck is wrong with you? Also what a terrible position to put your mom in because like those are her kids. So obviously she doesn't want to see her younger son like break up with the love of his life but at the same time she's gonna lose her older son.

So like you're putting your mom in a precarious position obviously. And like a heartbreaking one at that. Oh my god totally. How fucking selfish, like you're putting your mom through suffering, you fucked up your brother's proposal and then now you're dating some psycho girl like bro pick a lane man.

What a fucking mess. Pick a fucking struggle. Like truly pick a lane, pick a struggle. Like holy fucking shit. There's no way man. Oh I would be so pissed. And also it's so hard to when you're like, you're the girlfriend.

Oh my god. And so you're seeing the family drama. And so like, and that's something I would do too like cause she is probably leaning towards that but doesn't want to. Like I would never make my boyfriend choose between me and his family. Like if it really came down to it I'd be like,

I mean Gobi with your family. I'd bow out. Yeah same. I would be the same way. That's what I would do or would want to do. And I know like he wouldn't let me do that. Like he would be like no fucking way. Like we're going to figure it out.

So that's probably what her boyfriend's doing. Like she's probably been telling him like, Wolft it's really that big of a deal. And he's like no fucking way. The thought of my sons growing up without me inspired me to quit smoking. I talked to my doctors and then I threw away all my cigarettes, ashtrays and lighters.

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My brother's not gonna like muscle you out of this family. Like what? She's been, yeah, she's been there for quite some time too. I'm trying to see, they dated since they were 17. So they bet four years. Yeah. Well, okay, it's so fucking weird. Jealousy over getting, and that's why I started thinking.

I'm like maybe that brother likes her. Ooh. I bet. Maybe that's why. I could see it. So he brought in the worst girl ever. Cause he doesn't care, right, obviously. Cause he probably doesn't even really like her.

Or he's using it to make her jealous. Or compensate and be like, I'm fine. Yeah, he's like I have a girlfriend too, now what? And I bet you the older brother likes her. There's something more going on. Yeah, it's not just about getting, I mean getting married first would be one thing, but you would want them to break up.

There's no way. You would just be like, can you wait till I get married? And they would be like, no. And then you would say, all right, you could just do that. Well, and when I read it too, I was like, okay, maybe it's because the ring is like a family heirloom. And he's the older son and expected that ring. But the boyfriend bought the ring.

Yeah, he bought it like months ago too. Month ago. That's what I'm saying. I'm gonna be fucking mad that he ruined the proposal thing. That's so fucking selfish. I'd be pissed. I wouldn't invite him to the wedding just because of this. Yeah, literally.

Petty, petty, petty, petty. Petty whop over here. Oh my God. Honestly, like I think that he likes the younger brother's girlfriend. It probably has for some time. And then he probably has for a long time, but they've just kind of been boyfriend and girlfriend.

And then once he said he was gonna make it official, he was like, fuck your girlfriend and fuck this family. I bet he got a girlfriend when the brother told him he was about to propose. I guarantee it. Because that's why it's so fresh and they haven't fucking met the family. And then that's why it was a fucking random ass bitch.

I bet you that's why it was a psycho random because he doesn't really care about her. He probably likes the little brother's girlfriend and her relationship with their family is so good and healthy, which is like every couple's dream, you know what I mean? To have like a really great relationship with their family. Oh my God, yeah, like in-law goals.

Yeah, honestly, literally. So that's why I'm like, I bet you that's what it is. And then once the ring thing came up, he was probably like, oh fuck, like they're actually gonna get married. It's a real like a rom-com. This is like my best friend's wedding or some shit. Oh my God, or like God, what's that other one?

I just watched recently with like Kate Hudson and the other Rachel Maddo girl. It's like something borrowed. Oh yeah. I'm just like, there's some little feelings going on. Yeah, literally, I would say like, if I were her, I'd be like, honestly, why don't you just try and talk to that,

the brother? Just be like, you and I should have a one-on-one cause like I really need to understand where this is coming from because I thought we were cool. Exactly. And if you don't get anywhere, then- Then you're like, okay, then fuck you. At that point, fuck you.

Don't go to the wedding then, that's fine. And he'll probably come back like to parents, you know what I mean? They always do, but. Which is exactly what the top comment says. Like again, you're spot on with these. The top comment says, so he leaves, sees what a trainwreck she is and comes back in a year

or three, tail between his legs. He's got some growing up to do. Yeah. There's some, there's something else there. But it's like something else. It's not just about them getting married. There's definitely something else there. I got some weird vibes with this one for sure.

For sure. Okay, you got time for one more? Yeah, of course. Okay, last but not least, we got a bride, Zella. Am I the asshole for refusing to remove a piece of jewelry at the request of my friend on her wedding day? My 31 female friend, 30 female, will call Mary, got married last week and I was in her bridal party.

For context, we are friends from high school and all of the other bride's maids were her friends from college, who I hadn't met until our bachelor party several months ago. I also wasn't familiar with anyone at this wedding outside of Mary's immediate family. I was supposed to attend the wedding with my own fiance, but he contracted COVID five days before

we were supposed to leave and made the choice to stay home for everyone's safety. I tested negative and we don't live together. Our fifth anniversary of our first date was two months ago and he got me a beautiful opal necklace on a gold chain, specifically to wear to the wedding because it's complimented my bride's maids dress. I asked Mary in our bridal group chat

if she was all right with us wearing our own jewelry to the wedding. She said, no problem. Day of the wedding comes. All of us bridesmaids and Mary meet early in the morning for pictures outside the chapel. Mary sees my necklace and loves it and actually asks if she could switch her necklace with mine.

Some other bridesmaids chime in and say that it would be her something borrowed. I tried as politely as I could to tell her that my fiance got this for me to wear to the wedding and especially since he can't be here, I'd like to keep it on. Mary and the other bridesmaids were persistent, saying it was her wedding and her pictures

and I wasn't being accommodating, but I firmly told them no. Mary then said if I could at least take it off since it looked nicer than her own jewelry. Again, I told her I'd rather not. I'd like to share the wedding photos of myself in the necklace with my fiance. She was not happy.

Neither of the bridesmaids were either. I received a lot of cold shoulders and dirty looks the rest of the ceremony and reception. I felt awful. After the first dance, Mary's sister came up to me to tell me just how upset Mary was and rude it was that I upset her on her big day. Am I the asshole?

It's been more than a week and I'm still thinking about it nonstop and Mary hasn't answered any of my texts. Oh man, that one's kind of hard. I mean, first of all, if a necklace ruins your fucking wedding, girl, you got bigger problems. Oh my God.

A necklace, bitch. Do you wanna see it? Yeah, I wanna see it, I wanna see it. Oh, it's really pretty. It's cute, but nothing to have your day ruined over. No, and it's also minuscule. Like it is so small, you probably didn't even see it. She puts it next to her glasses too

for like a size comparison and it's probably like what, the size of a dime? Yeah, if that. If that, like it's really small. It's super small. So there's even from far away in a picture you would not be able to fucking see it. Also, why would you wanna get married

in a necklace that another man bought your friend? That's weird. Another like your friend's fiance bought her as like an important gift to mark their relationship. Yeah, like you wanna wear that in your wedding photos? What the fuck, that's some bad juju. Yeah, like in your wedding pictures, like you're gonna have forever.

You're gonna frame and have hung in your house. You want, that's weird. That is weird. And it's also a really weird request. Like, can you switch me necklaces because mine's ugly. Well, why'd you pick that one? You're getting fucking married today. You think you would bring it with the jewelry.

Don't you think you'd plan ahead? Like, so you actually like your own? Yeah, yeah. And like you wouldn't be, and she did the courtesy of asking you too. She was like, can I wear my own jewelry when, because she understands it's her day and she may want them to look a certain way.

And she was like, yeah, I don't care. So like, that was gonna be my question if she didn't mention it, was like if she asked I had time. But to ask to switch, that's weird. Fucking weird. It makes me wonder if like, she secretly at one point had feelings

for her friends beyond saying. It's always something deeper. Cause it's just that you're like, you're loony tunes, bro. Like you're out of your, you're off your fucking rocker. If that's, also you're gonna let that necklace ruin your wedding day.

Like there are so many other things that terrible that could happen on your wedding day. Like there are so many things that could happen that could ruin your day. Oh my God. It's the limit list. Yeah, the list is endless. People have so much anxiety around getting married.

Like especially if they are like planning it to be the perfect day. Yeah, it terrifies my boyfriend. Also to have your friends try and bully her too. Like knowing she doesn't know any of them and she doesn't know anyone at the wedding or at the reception. What an awkward position to be put into.

That's like that bride power that goes too far. You know what I mean? Cause they're like, oh everyone say yes to her cause it's her day. It's her day. She's the bride, let her do what she wants. Which is fine too in extent. Yes.

You can't like force your friends to switch intimate romantic jewelry with you and then get pissed when she doesn't. What a weird, honestly good for her for standing up for herself. Amazing. I honestly, I would have cracked under the pressure. I really, I would have cracked.

I would have cried. My makeup would have been ruined. Like I would have been distraught. And I would be in the same place as her. Like she's still thinking about it a week later. Like I had a call the other day and I like said an expression I've never said in my life before.

It was a professional conversation. I was like, I was like, yeah, I just like really want to establish like a lawyer just because you know, I don't want to get reamed up the butt. And after the call, I was like, I was like, oh my God, Morgan, I've never used that term.

I'm like, that's so like unprofessional. I'm still thinking about it now like clearly. And it's like, I would be distraught just like her but I see on the flip side where some people would argue like it's not that big of a deal. Just let her wear it. But it's like, no, it's the principle. Yeah.

Well, also you're really kind of putting her on the spot, aren't you? Because it's right when she's about to take pictures and right before the actual ceremony because a lot of times they take the pictures before the ceremony. Right before, yeah. So like it's like game time.

And so she's like really putting her feet to the fire. Like, can I wear it? And everyone's looking at you and you're comfortable. She got so ganged up on. Yeah. And that's why I said, good for you girl for standing up for yourself. But like also she's probably missing her fiance

and she's probably like, oh, well I have this and he's gonna be so excited to see me in it. And she's being polite. She was like, well, I'd really rather not cause like he gave it to me as like a love gift. I know. And I kind of want to wear it since he's not here. And then she's like, you're gonna ruin my wedding then?

Entitled unhinged bitch. Literally. This girl. Well, I would never ask that. But even so, even if I did and she said no, I'd be like, oh, all right. Well, no love loss. I was already gonna wear this necklace

so who the fuck cares. And then to say, can you take it off so it doesn't look, it doesn't like outshine me. That's why I said, it's literally like this big. It's so fucking small. There's no way that you could see it in the picture. It's the size of a coffee bean. That's what I'm saying.

It's so little. There's no way you could see that in the pictures from far away. It's beautiful, but it holds so much beauty because of the significance that she has with it. Yeah. And if you're a control freak and you're like, okay with your bridesmaids wearing their own jewelry,

but you're still a control freak, ask to see pictures before. And then if you need to one-up it, then you get the option to do it. Then at least you know, yeah. You know. At least you know ahead of time. Just come on, people.

I know. I mean, I think about wedding stuff like that. I'm like, I don't know if I would care. I don't think I would care. As long as it wasn't distracting to look at. Yeah, no. As long as it wasn't like a feather hat, like I'm sure it'd be fine.

I'm sure it'd be fine. Big bird up there. Yeah, literally like standing next to me. That's what I'm saying. Like I think at that point, it'll be fine. I know. Honestly, I'm not, I know what I want as far as like a ceremony

and a ring and whatever, but like, Me too. I think me and my boy friends are biggest concerned is like, just making sure our families get along. Like his family, like his parents are divorced and just like trying to ensure that everyone that's there to support us. Is having a good time.

Has a good time. Like cause yes, your wedding is about you, but like it's also like for the people that come. Yeah, it's like also like a big party for everyone. Yeah. So like, I think. And also if they have drama, then it ruins your day. Yeah.

It's tough. It's really tough. Yeah. My, my boyfriend's family's really small and my boy, my family's fucking huge. So we're like kind of good there, but like my family is going to make up the majority of the attendance probably.

I know. To our wedding, but. Mine's just so disheveled to say the least. It's big. It's disheveled. I got a lot out there. So I feel that I like the signs that are like, pick a seat, not a side.

I'm like, that's just sit wherever the fuck you want. Yeah. That's kind of my thing too. I'm like, when we get married, I'm going to have to be real particular about the seating chart and make sure that nobody's next to each other that doesn't like each other. Opposite ends.

Yeah. Different tables. Cause I'm like one of those people that even if I want a big wedding, but not a huge wedding. Like my sister wants a really small intimate wedding and I want like a big wedding. She's getting married soon, right? Yeah.

I think next year is when they're getting married. So exciting. I know. Made of honor, I take it. Yeah, pretty much. Don't upstage her with a necklace. I know. I'm going to wear the biggest gaudiest necklace ever

to distract from her day. Cause I'm going to make sure I'm the main character on her day. Your sister seems so nice that I don't even think she would say anything. Yeah. Yeah. My sister is the opposite of me in the sense that

I'm extremely extroverted and she's extremely introverted. So that's why I'm like, yeah. If I did that, she wouldn't say anything to me. That'd be so mean of me to do. No, you're too nice to do that. Yeah, she would tell me like six months later how much she was upset with me. Oh my God.

So I was like, how can I make this day about me? You gotta spice it up a little bit, you know? It can't be, it can't go off that easy. Right. You gotta have a little unhinged in your life. Just kidding, I would never do that. Yeah, no. Not to your wedding.

I'll do it to somebody else's. Yeah. Fuck their shit off. Well, thank you for coming on. Of course, I had a blast. You have been just a gift. Truly, just fucking gift. I loved this.

I'm honored. Thank you for having me. Thank you. Plug your socials one more time. Oh yeah, you can follow me at drewoffualo, A-F-U-A-L-O on everything except Instagram right now. But everything else you can follow me. It'll be back soon.

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