unPAUSED with Dr. Mary Claire Haver - Still Bobbi: Bobbi Brown on Reinvention, Midlife Entrepreneurship & Finding Purpose After 60

Episode Date: November 25, 2025

What does it look like to begin again at 62 and thrive? Beauty industry pioneer Bobbi Brown joins Dr. Mary Claire Haver for an intimate conversation about her new memoir Still Bobbi, building Jones Ro...ad Beauty in her sixties, leaving behind the company that bore her name for 25 years, and redefining what success, purpose, and aging mean in the second half of life. Bobbi Brown revolutionized the beauty industry with her "no makeup makeup" philosophy in the 1990s, sold her company to Estée Lauder, and spent decades as creative director before exiting in her late fifties. But instead of retiring, she launched Jones Road Beauty at 62 during a pandemic, proving that passion and entrepreneurship don't disappear with age, they evolve. In this personal conversation, Bobbi shares her journey from Chicago to building a global beauty empire, the emotional reality of leaving the company with her name on it, and why she refuses to use the term "anti-aging." She opens up about growing up with a mother who struggled with mental illness, losing her brother to HIV, and how weighted vest training and strength over skinny became her midlife mantras. Dr. Haver and Bobbi connect over shared experiences of menopause, hormone therapy, and the relentless pressure of being a founder. They discuss what it means to perform when exhausted, learning to say no, and why the maintenance phase of any transformation whether weight loss or career pivot is often the hardest part. Bobbi's memoir Still Bobbi is a story of resilience, grit, and determination for anyone who thought their best work was behind them. Guest links: Jones Road Beauty Bobbi Brown (Instagram) Bobbi Brown (Threads) Bobbi Brown (TikTok) Bobbi Brown (LinkedIn) Bobbi Brown (Facebook) Bobbi Brown (Website) Jones Road Beauty (Instagram)Jones Road Beauty (Facebook) Articles High-Impact Mechanical Loading Increases Bone Material Strength in Postmenopausal Women-A 3-Month Intervention Study (Journal of Bone and Mineral Research) Other Resources Institute for Integrative Nutrition Miracle Balm (Jones Road Beauty) Bobbi Brown Teaches Makeup and Beauty (Masterclass) Diane von Furstenberg: Woman in Charge (Hulu) American College of Culinary Medicine The Bobbi Kit 5.0 (Jones Road Beauty) “The New Perimenopause,”⁠ by Dr. Mary Claire Haver ⁠"The New Menopause"⁠ by Dr. Mary Claire Haver To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 I'm still served ads that are anti-aging and it drives me crazy. There isn't such a thing. No. I mean, I'm older now than when I first arrived here. Like, there's nothing that's going to anti-age you. There's things that will age you quicker, like smoking and not wearing sunsgrine and stress and bad food and, you know, all that kind of stuff. But I'm a liver. It's, you know, I'm not looking to use the term anti-age at all.
Starting point is 00:00:24 I just, I want to be more vibrant. And I do that through makeup. and I do it through what I put in my body and I do it through positive attitude. When I opened Bobby Brown's new memoir, Still Bobby, the very first sentence stopped me in my tracks. I won't want to work when I'm 60. I laughed out loud because 30 years ago, those were my words too. I thought 60 would mean retirement, grandbabies, slowing down. What I never imagined is that now at 57, I feel like this is the most productive, impactful, and fulfilling time of my life.
Starting point is 00:01:05 that line resonated because it revealed how deeply we underestimate what purpose and passion can look like later in life. When I first saw Bobby launch Jones Road Beauty, I remember thinking, does she really need to do this? Why did she take this on? And then I realized, we don't create just for financial reasons. We create because passion and purpose don't disappear with age. I met Bobby at a business summit where I was an invited speaker. She was standing in front of a table filled with the Jones Road line. and I'll never forget the image, this incredible icon in the beauty industry. No entourage, no assistant, just Bobby herself, talking to women, answering their questions, and introducing them to her products.
Starting point is 00:01:46 I had this moment of recognition. She's just like us. And then I opened my swag bag and found some of those products, and I dove right in. What struck me was, she made these products for us, for women of a certain age, for skin that gets drier in menopause, for faces where powders can settle into fine lines. Her creams were exactly what my skin needed, and the brow product is genius, because not only are my brows going gray like the rest of my hair, but the texture is changing, and suddenly I needed help getting them to behave.
Starting point is 00:02:16 That's the brilliance of Bobby. She sees us. She creates for us, and she's not slowing down. Reading her book and seeing how she's built this next chapter has been a joy, and I am so excited to share the conversation with her today. I'm Dr. Mary Claire Haver, a board certified obstetrician and gynaecologist and certified menopause practitioner, and also an adjunct professor of obstetrics in gynecology at the University of Texas Medical Branch. Welcome to Unpaused, the podcast where we cut through the silence and talk about what it really takes for women to thrive in the second half of life.
Starting point is 00:02:51 The views and opinions expressed on Unpaused are those of the talent and guests alone and are provided for informational and entertainment purposes only. No part of this podcast or any related materials are intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. So welcome to Unpaused. Oh, I'm so happy to be here and so happy to see you again. So let's just go back to the beginning. Tell me a little bit about your Chicago roots and the journey that got you to New York City. Well, you know, certainly writing this memoir has been cathartic because I went back and thought
Starting point is 00:03:26 about what my life was like when I was a kid and who I got to abuse. observed doing things. So I grew up in the suburbs of Chicago. I was the oldest of parents that were 20 and 21 when I was born. By the time they were 25, there was three of us kids living in the suburbs, pretty normal upbringing. And then eventually we moved and things started falling apart, like one by one. But I look back at my childhood and I don't think I had a complicated, you know, hard childhood. I think I had a wonderful loving childhood. And things just happened. You tell this great scrappy story about your grandfather and how he was, you know, came over on a boat from the Ukraine and built his own business. How do you feel like that helped you develop your story?
Starting point is 00:04:17 Well, Papa Sam was this incredible guy, very, very, very short man, very sweet man, very rough on the outside, tough guy, but inside he was a mush. And I used to watch him how he would talk to his customers and how he respected everyone the same. It didn't matter who you were. If you were a person that came in, you were treated the exact same way. And so I saw that. And I used to help Papa Sam stuff his envelopes and mail them out to all of his customers. And I would look at his brochures. So I didn't realize that I was learning about business, customer service, and marketing.
Starting point is 00:04:54 You met your husband, Steve. And there's a theme throughout the book of what a rock he has really been in your life, I think I'm married to Steve. Oh, yeah. You know, we're lucky. And by the way, I've been married 37 years. I'm so lucky, but it's not easy. No. You know, I mean, nothing is easy. Raising kids, being a, you know, working mom, being a working woman, nothing's easy. But that doesn't stop me from putting things into it. I love my husband. He's always there for me. He calms me down.
Starting point is 00:05:27 He also is a dream catcher. Do you want to open a store here? Okay, I say. And we go over with a roll of tape, and all of a sudden we've taped out where things go and he starts building it. That's amazing. I'm one of eight kids.
Starting point is 00:05:39 And my oldest brother died of leukemia when I was nine. So our family kind of took a tumble. My next brother came out of the closet when he was 16. And he was heavily, heavily into makeup. He was actually friends with Kevin O'Quain. Oh, yeah. So they went to high school together. Wow.
Starting point is 00:05:56 And I was his muse, you can imagine, in full drag, basically at nine years old. I mean, I was contoured, highlighted, bowling alley blue eyes, a big frosty lipstick. What he thought of was glamorous and beautiful at the time. But he actually tried to make it as a makeup artist in New York and moved up here in the 80s. I was in high school. And he came home within a year. Wow. Yeah, it was a tough situation.
Starting point is 00:06:24 I think HIV was coming and he wanted to be home, but he tried. Okay. And I have lots of great pictures of him in Studio 54, looking very glamorous. But he did come home after a year, and he was super successful at home. What did he do at home? I called him in Jane of All Traits. Like, he was a really accomplished chef. And so he did a lot of private dinner parties.
Starting point is 00:06:47 He did a lot of seasonal decorating. Towards the end of his life, people would hire him to do all their Christmas decor, but he would go in at like October and he would, you know, decorate their front doors and their homes from October through Mardi Gras in Louisiana. So that was like four or five months of solid, going every few months to change out the lights,
Starting point is 00:07:06 change out all the decor. A life in creativity, whether it's makeup or Halloween decorations or cooking is a life of passion. When it wasn't holiday time or Mardi Gras, he was cooking and like with send off, the parents will call and say, hey, Bobby's going off to, you know, college and he'd make all these, you know, casseroles to come pick up to ship box.
Starting point is 00:07:26 So he was always busy doing stuff. And he's not no longer with us? No, no. He died of HIV and hepatitis in 2015. Right. And that was kind of my big lightning bolt moment to give myself the okay to pivot because life's too short. And I had a stepbrother that died of HIV. I'm not even sure if I put it in the book or not.
Starting point is 00:07:46 I don't remember reading it. Yeah. It probably would have traumatized you. Yeah, yeah. He was my stepbrother. And he came to New York to be a hairdresser, probably around the same time. And, you know, eventually he, you know, contracted this and died. So that was a sad time.
Starting point is 00:08:03 Yeah. That was, it's just tough. When I think about the no-makeup makeup look and like understanding how what the, what everyone expected from a makeup artist at the time, because that's what my brother was doing, how hard was that for you to just stick to your guns? And I know you had to do what the people who hired you. said to do, but the whole time you're like, these people are beautiful. You don't need all this. It wasn't hard because it was a natural pivot. So I tried to, you know, to be like Kevin O'Con. He, you know, he came after me, but there were other makeup artists that I tried to be like, and I either didn't have the talent. Like, I could not paint a face to change someone's face.
Starting point is 00:08:43 They looked awful. So either I didn't have any talent or I just didn't think it looked good. So I started doing these little things that now people think were brilliant, like choose a foundation or make a foundation, mix it and blend it so it looked like your skin. So it didn't look like a mask and find colors of blushes that were the color of your cheeks. To me, it was common sense and simple. I think it was a way that I could hack the system. I don't need to put a blush on and try to blend it to look good. I could actually find a blush that you put on and it's a better color so it would blend
Starting point is 00:09:18 itself. So I kind of hacked my way into a career and somehow started a revolution in a new look. I love how you really lay out the origin story of the original company, Bobby Brown Cosmetics, and that you were working as a makeup artist stumbled across the lipstick. You know, you love this formulation. You had them in Ziplocs. You were handing them out and then turned that into a company, which eventually grew and you got bought out by, or you sold to a lot. We walked me through. Right. So I was a makeup artist, you know, and had a really great life getting hired by all the magazines, fashion shows, and met my husband, got pregnant, and said, I don't want to do the traveling anymore.
Starting point is 00:10:03 So I still took jobs around New York, and I did this one job where it took me to a pharmacy in New York, and I met the chemist behind the counter. And I talked to everybody. And I started asking about these lipsticks. He said, oh, I made them. I said, wow, they're really nice. I said, but I've always wanted to make a lipstick that didn't smell, wasn't greasy, wasn't dry, and look like the color I wish my lips were. He said, I could make it for you.
Starting point is 00:10:27 So we started working together and he made it. And I said, oh my God, people would love this. I could probably sell this. And then I realized not everyone likes the same brown color I like and everyone is different color lips. So I thought and ideated what these 10 lipsticks should be. He made them for me. and I just started selling them out of my house. There was no thought of being a brand.
Starting point is 00:10:51 There was no, but I was selling a bunch. Eventually, a friend wrote about them in Glamour magazine. We got a ton of orders, and the company kind of started. We then launched at Bergdorf-Gudman because I met someone at a party, and she told me she was a cosmetics buyer. I guess I pitched her right on the spot. I mean, I told her about it. I didn't realize at the time it was called pitching.
Starting point is 00:11:15 And we entered Bergdorf-Gudman with 10 lipsticks, not with the original chemists. We had to kind of redo everything we did to get it the right way. It became successful. And after four and a half years, we sold the company to Estee Lauder with a 25-year non-compete. As I talked about in the opening, the first line of the book is, I won't want to work when I'm 60. And I laughed out loud because I remember thinking, 30-year-old Mary Claire, 35-year-old Mary Claire, 60 was old. Old.
Starting point is 00:11:52 Old. Like, invisible. Like, I didn't have a model other than domestic labor of a woman working on purpose at 60. Right. And so I totally get what you, I would have said the exact same thing. Like, sign the contract, honey. Right, exactly. This is our payday.
Starting point is 00:12:10 But you stayed on as creative director. Like, you didn't just buy them walk out. No, I did not. actually went to work as if... Or sell and walk out. Right. I actually went to work as if it was still my company. But now I had these teams and this money and these budgets and... That seems so fun. It was really, really fun for most of the time. And I had, you know, complete autonomy. I had partners I loved. I had, you know, Leonard Lauder, who was an amazing mentor to me. I had teams of people. And then, like, anything in life, things change. Like, I don't think people realize nothing
Starting point is 00:12:45 stays the same. And so maybe it was amazing for 15 years, maybe 18 years, but the last four or five years were tough and the last year was unbearable. And I stayed still because I thought I could fix it. You just have that grit. I just thought I could fix it. And honestly, it was my aunt Alice. She was, you know, now she's 94, so she must have been 87. And she said, honey, it's time. She said, all you do when I talk to you is complain about everything about work, but you say, don't worry, I'll fix it. And nothing changes. And then when you exited the company, they kept your name. Well, no, no. They, when you sell a company with your name and they buy it, they own it forever. Okay. And that was fine. I had no problem with that. You knew what you, you signed. Yeah, I knew it. I knew it when I signed. 25, 24 years. Sure, they could have my name. What do I need it for? What did I know? But it was upsetting. You talk about it in the book. It was, it was a, it was a really, you took two whole days off. I did. I took two whole days off. And, you know, it was a, it was a tough time. And I write about it in the book a lot because there was a lot of details. And I want people to understand that it's normal to feel bad when things like this happen. And it's what you do with the information that
Starting point is 00:14:01 matters. And for me, it was something I needed to go through. I needed to go through the emotions of anger and sadness and excitement. And it just, it was all over the. the place and I, you know, think my husband, my friends started reaching out, you know, even people I weren't, I wasn't that close with would reach out and just, you know, help me a bit. Check on you. Yeah. Check on me. And it took a while, but anyone that knows me, I just can't sit still.
Starting point is 00:14:29 Yeah. So I started going out for lunches and I just started doing things and ideating and trying a lot of projects. So you did a master class? I did a master class. It was really fun. It was the first. You were one of the first.
Starting point is 00:14:42 I was the first, you know, makeup artist. Okay. I remember seeing that advertised, you know, me who knows nothing about anything in the cosmetic world. I thought, oh, that's really cool. And the master classes were new. It's not like everybody had done them back then. But I mean, the master's up to that point where Annie Leibwood's teaching photography and, you know,
Starting point is 00:14:59 Roger Federer, you know, teaching tennis. So it was a very big honor. And I didn't have, you know, a company or products, but they still thought of me as the one to be the master. An icon. It was really, really great. And then I got invited to India to be the keynote speaker of the first ever Indian makeup show. You think of Indian makeup as this Bollywood over the top, but they hired me. So I got to do that. And I just realized how much I missed being in the makeup world. So you've said, though, and it correct me if I'm wrong, you didn't have an intention when you left. You're like, that's it.
Starting point is 00:15:38 No more beauty brands. I'm done. How long did it take before you went to any? And you're like, maybe. Well, you know, what happened was when I left, you know, and again, you could read it in the book and make your own decision if I quit or I got fired. But I didn't have an agenda. I didn't have a plan. I didn't know what I was going to do.
Starting point is 00:15:58 And honestly, I didn't know if anyone would. care about me ever again. I thought, oh, no one's, I'm not going to be on those interviews. So much of your identity was tied up. Exactly. And my husband even said, you know, you've never really separated yourself from this company, from this, you know, it was my first baby. Yeah. It was before I had my first kid. Yeah. So I didn't know what I was going to do. Hi, my name is Lloyd Lockridge, and I'm the host of a new podcast from Odyssey called Family Lore. In this podcast, I'm going to have people on to tell unusual and sometimes far-fetched stories about their families. I've heard my whole life that she ended at the margarita.
Starting point is 00:16:35 And then we're going to investigate those stories and find out how much of it is true. He gets a patent one month before the Wright brothers. Oh, my God. Please follow and listen to Family Lore, an Odyssey podcast, available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your shows. I love this part of the story because you're driving with your husband. You're going to do another makeup brand and you figure out the name. Right. Well, all I cared about was long.
Starting point is 00:17:07 launching this new company the day my non-compete was up. So when I left the corporation... Why is that? Why was that so important? Because when I left the company, I had four and a half years left on this non-compete. I don't do great when people say you can't do something. So I couldn't do anything in beauty. And four and a half years seemed like forever.
Starting point is 00:17:28 And you know what? I would have my freedom for the first time. You know, I could literally tear up the piece of paper. I'd be done. And I wanted to launch it. the issues were, it was a week before the presidential election in the middle of the pandemic. And everyone said, don't do it. Every PR firm, people we talked to said, you're crazy. Why don't you wait till January? I don't know. You remember what happened in January? Like January 6th?
Starting point is 00:17:53 Yeah. So there never would have been a good time. No. And I needed to do it. And, you know, I had the products because I had been working on them secretly. And but I didn't have a name. I don't have a name that that was available. that we liked or everyone agreed on. And I was driving with my husband to our home in the Hamptons. Of course, as I always do, complaining. How and how and when and how? And my husband said, you need to get this name by Monday or you're not going to be able to launch in time. And my head was down because my husband likes me to check ways and Google Maps. God forbid, we're late five minutes to somewhere and we had nowhere to go. But my head was down and I see Jones Road. And I don't know why. blurted out, Jones Road Beauty. And my husband said, I like it. And it was available.
Starting point is 00:18:42 And that became the name. When I think about how I used to shop for makeup, I would go to, you know, based on my budget at the time, which was zero, I would go to the grocery store. I would go to the drug store, which was Eckers or what is now CVS or Walgreens, and wander through and then look at the makeup and say, oh, this looks nice or that looks nice. My children, my children, are 21 and 25, and they almost 100% buy everything off of social media. Right. They see a makeup artist using it. They see some product. They get influenced. And then they buy. And you were on social media talking about your product. I remember, that's how I found you. That's how I found Jones Road. It was served to me during the pandemic. And I thought,
Starting point is 00:19:31 wow, that's Bobby Brown. What's this Jones Road stuff? And you were showing this. like the miracle bomb. Yeah. And putting it on. And so I bought some for my sister for her birthday. And I'm like, I'll get a, I'll get some. I bought a tub too and had so much fun playing with it. And the first thing I thought was she made this for me.
Starting point is 00:19:54 This is for women with dryer skin. I never had a oily skin before. And then menopause sucked all the oil out of my body along with, you know, water and everything else. Did you, though? I mean, were you focusing on a certain age when you build? You know what, and this is the true story. I don't see age. Like I don't think, oh, this is for this group. And I know we have a demographic that is our higher, you know, people that buy the
Starting point is 00:20:19 makeup. But I don't see age. I just saw this amazing product that would look good on skin, that, of course, it's a skincare and makeup in one. So if you remember during the pandemic, we didn't do anything, right? We didn't color our hair. We didn't do anything. And then slowly we started to open up our laptops and our, our cameras and do zooms, but we looked awful. So this product instantly was a miracle because I just looked so much better. And so did everyone else that tried it. The young girls in my office, you know, my friends. And I was like, I'm on to something. I said, this could be an entire brand. Because it's, number one, it was important to me that it's a clean brand. I wanted to create
Starting point is 00:21:03 products that didn't have any chemicals. I'm a certified health coach. I went back to. to school and got my degree from IIN. And so I've always been someone that, you know, believes how you take care of yourself impacts how you look. But then, of course, you know, makeup can also impact how you feel. So I find it like one big circle. And Miracle Balm just was the perfect product because you could use it instead of a moisturizer. You could use it over a blush. If your skin's oily, you could put it over a powder or you could just do it by itself. And so it became a pretty much overnight success. For my like go-to Zoom look, though the Zoom filter is nice. Yeah. I have that long mascara wand with the, it hides that if you haven't seen it, it's my TikTok purchase. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:21:47 I throw my hair in a ponytail and I slick back all the flyaways. I put on my miracle bomb. I do my eyebrows. I put on the lip glass and I'm good. And you're gone. And I'm good to go. Because we wear glasses, we get away with the law. I think it's harder for women that don't. I don't. And honestly, it, it, some days when all else fails and no matter what, you don't look good and you put your makeup on and something's not working. You're probably dry and dehydrated from inside, but all I do is take the miracle bomb and it fixes everything. Yeah, it's awesome. So when you're doing all this, I have this feeling. No one really tells you no. You just do whatever. Well, they tell me no. I just don't always listen. Did anyone say, why are you doing this?
Starting point is 00:22:26 Oh, a friend of mine, why am I doing this? You know, either age or do you really financially have to do this? Right. Right. I mean, I had friends of mine when I said I was writing a memoir, why are you doing that? One of my best friends said, why do you have to do this? I don't have to do it. I want to do it. I mean, I am so lucky because I don't have to work. I work because I love what I do. And I'm really curious and I'm always, I always want to do something better. I always want to, you know, I'm very competitive with myself, you know, and I guess I'm competitive just by nature. So, and I don't let go of something that I want until I get it. Until you get it. Do you like the scrappy stage, like the beginning of the startup?
Starting point is 00:23:09 I am the most scrappy person. I mean, Jones Road now is a big brand. We still run it very scrappily. And I love it. It makes total sense. I kind of grew up hacking my life. I knew nothing. I left, you know, I was not a great student.
Starting point is 00:23:24 I didn't have a lot of book learnings, book smarts. But I realized I had other things. Maybe I had the Papa Sam education. And so as I'm doing more things, things. I'm learning more and I'm like, oh, I could do this. And then I kind of just became watch me. You know, not even to other people. Maybe it's to my high school teacher, my middle school teacher, but it's to myself. Okay, watch me. I love in the book when you talk about just start. So many women in my clinic, you know, at this age, reaching out on social media
Starting point is 00:23:56 this age, and so I'm about 10 years behind you or at this crossroads. That was a nice way of saying you're 10 years younger. Okay. I'm 10 years behind you. I'm 57. So, you know, you're aging parents dealing with that. And then, you know, kids are at different launch pads, you know, moving on. And a lot of people are getting in and out of marriages, getting in and out of jobs. Or, you know, menopause, like for a lot of women, at least in my world, because everyone's in menopause, a lightning bolt comes down and they're making decisions on the next 30 years really fast.
Starting point is 00:24:29 And so I see a lot of them stuck in analysis paralysis. And that does not ever seem to be. I don't like to be stuck. So when I wake up in the morning and I feel stuck, and it happens, you know, and again, I think it's probably, I'm dehydrated or maybe, you know, I had the sushi and, you know, an extra glass of sake, whatever it is. I wake in the morning and I feel stuck. I drink water immediately. And then I put on either music or I have a couple guys I follow on on Instagram and I dance. I do hip-hop. And I don't care if it's for 10 minutes. I love it. It literally unsticks me. I love it. So exercise.
Starting point is 00:25:05 you know, for me is kind of everything. I'm very much the same. I built a gym in my house so that, and I work from there. So I have a treadmill, and I'll throw the laptop up there and walk. And so I take most of my Zoom calls up there. People think I'm nuts. I don't care, put on the weighted vest. I get up there.
Starting point is 00:25:24 But when I'm stuck, I literally crank up. It's disco for me because of my brother. And I dance around until I work out wherever I love. Makes me want to do more. So tell me about the weighted vest. So origin story. for me was listening to Vonda Wright and some of the people in the osteoporosis world about we have an epidemic of low bone density in this country and for multiple reasons and what can we
Starting point is 00:25:48 do about it. So I'm like, so I'm a scientist. So I go to the literature. I start digging. I'm like, what can we do? We know hormone therapy health so not everybody can take it and, you know. And so what do we know works? I had three, four, five, six, now seven articles on doing weight of fast training with elderly patients who had osteoporosis, and they were seeing bone benefits from this mechanical load. And I'm like, and I knew like the bros were wearing them for tactical training, but I don't like listening to the wellness guys that much. I'm like, what are the women doing?
Starting point is 00:26:19 Like what helps me? Right, of course. Not a 25-year-old male athlete. And I was like, there's pretty good data. It's not going to hurt me. I'm already walking. I'm just going to throw this on when I'm walking or doing housework. I mean, it could hurt you if it's too heavy for your body.
Starting point is 00:26:31 Exactly. So I go to Amazon and I pick out what looks like a decent wind of vest. And I started like six pounds. Then I'm digging like, how heavy do you have to be to see benefit for bones? Right. And the benefits were about 10% of your ideal body weight. So for me, that's like 12 pounds. So I'm like, all right.
Starting point is 00:26:50 So I get a 12 and I immediately decide I'm going to go walk on the seawall, which in Galveston we have this big walk along the water for like seven miles. Well, I almost died that day. That was way too much. I realize you have to build up to it. Of course. You have to start slow. Right.
Starting point is 00:27:04 But I love it and then I keep talking about it and I'm making videos with my way to vest. I think there's a picture in the book where I'm at a fashion show. It was Ford Model of the Year. I was a young makeup artist. I must have been 24 years old. I'm wearing Richard Simmons shorts. I'm doing the makeup. And your hair is in the...
Starting point is 00:27:23 Right, but what you couldn't see is I was wearing leg weights. So I used to bring my leg weights to work like years ago. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, this was like in, you know, the disco-aid. The little ankle weights. Little ankle weights. Yeah, I used to always travel with them.
Starting point is 00:27:36 That's amazing. I love that. I used to wear them in the OR under my scrubs. And then like, at a long case, they made so much fun of me. I was doing like squeezes and stuff behind the oar table on these cookies. You do not seem to be afraid of failure. I don't believe in failure. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:27:54 Like, to me, what is failure? I mean, yeah, some things don't work out, right? I got fired. Some marriages don't work out. Some relationships don't work out. Some businesses don't work out. That just means it's a big message to do something else. Yeah. And you learn, especially if you learn from it. My daughter's out there really good. She's listening. Yeah. But you learn from it. And so it's funny because people say, oh, you're fearless. And that's not true. I'm a very, you know, I'm a very kind of anxious, fearful person when it's my kids. I worry about them when they're, flying when they're driving. I'm not a daredevil, but I'm not afraid to pick up the phone and call someone, ask something, do something, start something new. And I love when I've never done it before and don't know anything about it. That's my sweet spot. So I want to talk about our moms. I'll start with my grandmother. So my mom is one of seven children. My mother was the oldest. And my grandmother suffered from mental illness.
Starting point is 00:28:57 They kind of glossed it over in her lore, but my mom said enough throughout the years to where she was hospitalized on a few occasions. My grandmother, she had shock treatments. My mom did admit that. And my mother was left at home to take care of her siblings.
Starting point is 00:29:12 My grandfather was not... How old was your mom? A hands-on dad. She was probably 15. Right. So old enough to manage six other kids. Oh my gosh. I guess some of my aunts kind of jumped in,
Starting point is 00:29:24 but it's kind of a time that it's not been talked about a lot in our family, and it's a lot of reflection on my part. My mother also has suffered from mental illness. She was medicated. I remember seeing the bottles of butosol in her bathroom, and that was her nerve pills, her medicine. And I looked it up when I was researching for the new perimenopause and thinking about when was mom in perimenopause and when were those dates most likely. And my mom has dementia now and really can't give me any historical context. So I looked it up and I realized it's a sedative. So my mom was sedated.
Starting point is 00:30:01 She had eight children. Wow. You know, lost one when I was nine. You know, she had lost one child. Next one's out of the closet. Next one's in rehab. You know, she's going through a lot. At the time, I was a little bit traumatic.
Starting point is 00:30:13 And then had three little kids, too, you know, all the same. And so she self-medicated with alcohol. So I grew up in a very very, tumultuous household. There was very little stability. Little kid, I think I was fine, but like you said, you know, like things changed. Life got in the way and, you know, it's taken me 50 years of perspective to understand my mother and really what she went through and I've turned out okay. But, you know, reading about your mom in those first couple of chapters and, you know, I created this life for my children with as much stability as possible. I married.
Starting point is 00:30:53 the most solid man in America. I chose a career at the time that was a guaranteed income, even though I was away from the house a lot. And I was always worried about them and them not growing up with all of the upheaval that I had. How was that for you? Well, very similar.
Starting point is 00:31:11 My mother really wasn't diagnosed until I was in seventh grade. So for most of my upbringing, you know, it was normal. It was our normal. I didn't really know, notice anything different. And I didn't know anything different about her. And so when she had her quote unquote first nervous breakdown, you know, where my sister found her in the bathroom
Starting point is 00:31:33 trying to cut her wrists, that was the first time we realized there's a big problem. And she was hospitalized. And, you know, I remember that one flew out of the cuckoo's nest was the movie of the year. And so that was the first time I ever heard that people had, we didn't say mental illness. We had nervous breakdowns. And, you know, we'd visit my mom in this hospital. She was in there for, you know, probably months. And my father was taking care of the kids while working. There was only three of us, not eight of us. And he hired a woman to come in and, you know, cook and do the laundry and do whatever we needed. But it was, you know, it was an intense time. But honestly, I think about it. And where my brain goes, you know, when I laugh a little bit that my mother made some really good
Starting point is 00:32:19 dash trays, you know, because that's what she did when she was in the hospital. And my father and I got to spend all this time together bonding and talking. And, you know, he told me how important I was to the stability of, you know, the brothers and sisters. And I needed to, you know, to be the quote unquote mom. And I felt, you know, I felt that was a really big deal for me. I just somehow didn't look at it as bad. And I was never worried, oh no, what if I get it or what if my kids get? Like, I never thought about stuff like that. I didn't worry about that for me either. I somehow felt like I was stronger,
Starting point is 00:32:56 and I've definitely had therapy. Right, yeah. But I haven't had nearly the stuff that my mother has gone through. What I do worry about now is dementia. Right. And but that's biological. Right. You know, and there's a lot of things I can do.
Starting point is 00:33:09 There's a lot. Which I do believe. Yeah. Well, my mother also before she passed had dementia, but she was on medication for, you know, most of her adult life. And, you know, we know that that is something that, you know. A risk. Yeah, Aunt Alice, who's 94, has never taken a medication in her life.
Starting point is 00:33:30 No thyroid, no hormone. Nothing. Everything's fine. And is she your mom's sister? She's my mom's sister. Okay. Yeah. And then when your mom was hospitalized, does she step in to help?
Starting point is 00:33:39 She was always there, yeah. We live near each other. And, yeah, she was always there. And you write about my mom. My mother was also hyper glam. It was the 60s and 70s and even the early 80s. And I can remember her sitting at that makeup table. I kept it for a long time.
Starting point is 00:33:55 Right. And it even had, it was wood and it had a cigarette burn. Uh-huh. And I had it refinished, but I wouldn't let them cover that part. Right. You know, because. Yeah, there was always a cigarette hanging off the bathroom. You said that.
Starting point is 00:34:06 And they were always like, the marble always got stained. I just, you wrote about that. And I was like, oh, my God, that was my mom. And I would watch. I couldn't wait to go play. And she had those little plastic, you know, and all the organizers with all the different makeup coming out. I just loved sitting there.
Starting point is 00:34:24 It was definitely a different time. There's another passage that really resonated with me, and I'm going to read it. You were talking about, I think you were flying overseas and doing all these press tours for the brand. And to quote, there's a particular mixture of exhaustion and adrenaline in these moments that I've grown to know well. It's bone chilling. painful to be tired, but I know I have to perform or I won't have a career. Not only does the makeup
Starting point is 00:34:55 have to look right on the model, but I also have to look good. While I have people to support me, ultimately I am the one who has to perform. There's so much at stake, such responsibility to the company and myself. I put my exhaustion aside and performed. Of course, I overcaffeinated to keep myself going, then I get into bed at night, wired from the coffee and the stress, and wondered why I couldn't sleep. It was hard, but I did this because it was more than my job. It was a calling. I really felt that in my bones. That was a choice I made becoming a physician that was built into the system, right? You knew you were going to work long hours. You knew you were going to stay up past your bedtime and be in these like crazy emergent situations. And I left traditional hospital practice in
Starting point is 00:35:44 at 2021 to open my menopause clinic. No more surgery, no more hospital. So I really felt like I was walking away from that part of my life. I didn't realize that being a founder of a company. It's a whole other set of rules. Working all of that back. And I've been feeling a little bit alone in this journey sometimes of like everything's on my shoulders as a founder. And if I don't perform, if I don't step up to the plate, if I don't, you know, bring it every time and get on those planes and stay in hotels and the company is going to suffer and all these people who are counting on me. And I'm just so glad you wrote that because I felt like she gets it. Right.
Starting point is 00:36:21 But however, when I was working for a corporation, there were their rules. So I was not in control and in charge. Yeah. When you are a founder and it's your company, you have the ability to say, okay, let's pause. Yeah. Just stop. Let's look at this. What's working for the company?
Starting point is 00:36:41 and what's working for me. And that's the thing about starting this next phase of my life because I started Jones Road at 62 years old. You know, we just, you know, celebrated five years. I'm 68 years old now. You know, I don't feel it. But I know that I have the ability to cancel anything I need to cancel, to recalibrate what's going on.
Starting point is 00:37:04 And, you know, like I have no one to blame except myself. Like, I am on this book tour. It is my friends can I. Exhausting. It's grueling. And no one around me believes what I am able to do. And it's okay to be tired. And you know what? The good news when it's tired, like I canceled my workout this morning because I just couldn't get up.
Starting point is 00:37:25 I canceled my blowout. So what? It was two days ago blowout. It's still fine. And I realized things don't matter. Yeah. And that has made it easier for me to do what I'm doing. I'm not doing any less, but I'm taking away the pressure.
Starting point is 00:37:40 My team is great in like saying, hey, are you okay? Is this too much? But you always say yes. I'm fine. I do. Right. Yes, I do too. Until I kind of break. And then I'm like, right. And it's okay to break. And it's important to have your posse around you that is there when you do break. Okay, don't worry. We got you. Okay, we could do this. All right, you can't cancel that thing, but you could phone this one in. Or we could reschedule this, you know, because you can't do everything. We think we can. And also, when we accept jobs and calendars, when we feel healthy and great,
Starting point is 00:38:17 no problem, piece of cake. But then when we start feeling exhausted and run down, it's like, what did I do? And you know what? You're allowed to kind of say, okay, I need to take a break. So what if you cancel? So what? Trust your gut theme throughout the book. I don't think I was taught to trust my gut. Well, I don't think anyone teaches you to trust your gut. Look, you're someone that is, I'm sure you got all good grades your whole life. I did. Right? I didn't. And I learned that what's going to serve me are things that aren't written in a book, are not taught in a business school. They're just, they're innate for me. Like, I get it. Like, I know how to do this. But it's kind of trusting your gut, which, you know, I'm not a thinker as much as I'm a doer. But, you know,
Starting point is 00:39:03 the whole trust in your gut thing, this gut thing, because I always have digestive issues. So I'm like, Maybe it's my gut that's giving me my digestive issues. And then the power of no. And the power of no. That is another theme in the book. I'm like, oh, yeah. My person. Right.
Starting point is 00:39:18 Well, and by the way, you could text me anytime. Like, I have these women that understand what we're going through. Not everyone understands this. And, you know, when I'm in these situations and I'm so overloaded, the first thing I do when I have a second, I don't get a massage, which I should be doing. I'm not sitting in a bath. I call my friends. And I have these friends that are everything to me.
Starting point is 00:39:43 They're not on Instagram. They have no idea what I'm doing. Whatever they read or see on how they get the media. And so I, but I need to at least have a 15-minute talk. How are you doing? How's your dog? How's your kids? That keeps me grounded.
Starting point is 00:40:00 I need to check in with my people. I'm glad to hear you say that. I've transitioned, you know, recently, I kind of was in the same job and raised the kids together. You know, I have friends from college, friends from high school, friends from medical school, friends from my training program, and then the mom friends. And that's kind of my core group. And we all kind of did this path together of raising kids, and I was at the hospital,
Starting point is 00:40:21 and they would pick up my kids and my husband was traveling. And then now I've transitioned to this, and I have to really make an effort to reach out to them. Right. Or else you will not have them. Yeah. Right. And sometimes it's just a phone call. Sometimes it's a text.
Starting point is 00:40:36 And I have even one particular friend that I know she feels bad when I'm not in touch. And every once in a while, I text her when I'm leaving some TV show before I'm going somewhere else. I just want to let you know I'm overloaded, but I'm thinking of you. I'll call you on Friday when I'm back. That is great. So those little things have made a difference. In the book, you know, towards the end, I got a little teary. It was very sweet.
Starting point is 00:40:59 You talk about how you define success now. And I define myself by grades. which got me to medical school. I defined myself by a number of patients I was seeing, was I making the most money in the practice, all these external things were my kids making good grades, these poor girls. You know, one is a creative,
Starting point is 00:41:21 and I'm still trying to figure her out. I'm sure I could figure her out in five minutes. She's out there. Yeah. And my other one's in medical school, so she kind of, you know, found that path. But I loved how you said the way you define success. shifted.
Starting point is 00:41:37 Your family. My family. And you speak of your daughter-in-laws, the women in your son's lives. Yeah. So kindly. But it's so beautifully. I love them. And they're not, and trust me, nothing's easy.
Starting point is 00:41:52 They both married three sons, two wives, one girlfriend, the two married boys, married really strong women, you know, really strong women. And it's interesting for me to watch the dynamic. And it's really, I'm proud of both of the boys, you know, how they're maneuvering, you know, two very different relationships. I mean, I have now a grandmother. I have two grandkids. And it's interesting because the parents of the grandchildren, um, is my son, Cody, he's our second son. He's a CEO of Jones Road. His wife, Pyle is the head of brand. And in the beginning, it was a little difficult. And we've all really grown and learned and communicated how to work together better.
Starting point is 00:42:39 And that's, to me, the secret is communication on everything. It just was so beautiful to see, you know. And I was like, God, I wish someone would write that about me. So sweetly, I love my mother-in-law, but it was one of those. She likes to point out how different, you know, she raised her kids versus how it raised mine. But my kids can't say that now. See, I know that as a mother-in-law, I just ran into trouble. because I was worried for my granddaughter running out the back door.
Starting point is 00:43:09 And my daughter-in-law just looked at me like, do you not think we are doing exactly what we need to be doing? You know, don't judge me. I'm like, just put a lock on the door higher so Lily doesn't open the door. But then I realized, Bobby, be quiet. You can't say it. I find myself doing that with my girls now. Like, took my 25-year-old adult child out to brunch with her boyfriend
Starting point is 00:43:29 and was like, you're going to pack that up, right, and take it home because she hadn't finished her meal. Right. I was like, shut up. Right. You know, she's grown. No, it's hard. It's hard.
Starting point is 00:43:39 I mean, you know, my oldest son is 35. You know, I still, I have find my friend on my app so I know where they all are. And I, you know, and I checked. They gave that to me for Mother's Day one year. And my youngest son who lived in Telluride for high school, I used to get in bed at night, you know, it was two hours different there. And I would look, oh, everyone's home. Oh, Duke's home.
Starting point is 00:43:58 It says Telluride. And then the next, and then he finally told me when he went to college, mom, I used to leave my phone at home. You know, so you thought I was home. I was not there. You know, you've watched how your kids are doing things, how you did things. And this generational, you know, you're working with a younger team, I'm assuming now. How do you see this generational change? You're excited about how the way the kids are thinking and how they're doing things? Oh, I love it. I surround myself with a lot of young people that... Not that we're old. No, no, no, but I mean young people that, you know, certain names, you know, they just don't know when you talk. about, you know, popular culture. And, you know, I had Diane von Furstenberg come in to speak about her book. She actually called in from a yacht in Italy to speak to the team. Half of the kids didn't never heard of her. And so I made them watch the movie and Google her.
Starting point is 00:44:52 Have you ever seen her movie? No. Oh, you got to see it. It'll make you feel so incredible to be a woman. I know who she is. Yeah. You know, she was known for the rap dress. But she was an original powerhouse woman that just said, why do I have to live my life differently than the men? Wow. She just had that in her head. So it was a really great documentary. But, you know, I love surrounding myself with people that are a lot younger. I love teaching, but I also love learning from them. Yeah. And I also love being with people that are really old. My love of Leonard Lauder is in the book, just like my love of my husband. So, you know, and love of my dad and Papa Sam.
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Starting point is 00:46:36 but powerfully to support every system in your body. If you're thinking about where to invest in your long-term health, omega-3s are an excellent place to start because real health isn't just about living longer. It's about living stronger, sharper, and more vibrant at every age. So what advice would you give to a woman, you know, in midlife? That's most of my listeners, who are thinking about launching or doing something different? Well, first of all, ask yourself what it is,
Starting point is 00:47:11 and is it different or better than what's on the market? Whatever it is. And again, I don't care if you launch a business that, you know, chops vegetables and puts them in Ziploc bags and sells them. By the way, if you do call me, because I would love, you know, to hire someone to do that simple stuff in my life. But also, you know, just do it. Just start doing it, doing it little, seeing if it works,
Starting point is 00:47:35 seeing if people like what you're doing, and seeing if you like what you're doing. You know, everyone wants to be an entrepreneur. Everyone wants to be a founder. Everyone wants their own business. Well, A, it's not for everybody. Yeah. You know, it's not for everybody.
Starting point is 00:47:49 It's not easy. A lot of spaghetti thrown out, a lot of walls at our house. Yeah. And a lot of founders need a second person to make sure that they are dream catchers. My husband was with Chevron. So, you know, a doctor, engineer doing our things. And then as the business started growing, he has an in beginning. and he kind of was helping out, but still working for Chevron.
Starting point is 00:48:14 And suddenly he's doing more and more and taking on more and I'm like, you're actually good at this stuff. I need to stay in my zone of genius. I mean, I was the hydrant. I did everything in the beginning. I didn't know what I was doing. I was on social media and building websites and doing all this stuff. But he eventually did retire earlier than originally planned and now completely runs all the...
Starting point is 00:48:35 He never retired. I think that word needs to go. Well, he says, you know, he's still like... Like, what I'm doing is not really work. I'm like, no. You have a bigger budget than you've ever had in your entire life. Right. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:48:46 No, it's one of my trigger words when people say, how's retirement? Like, first of all, no one retires. They just shift into doing something else. And even if that means you're playing golf all day or playing tennis. Yeah. That's what you're doing now. You're not retired. Retired sounds like some old person sitting in a chair.
Starting point is 00:49:02 And that's the quickest way to die. It is. 100%. I read through Joy Span. There's a gerontologist. I'm fascinated with aging now, right? And I'm like, how do women age? I just want to stay out of nursing home.
Starting point is 00:49:16 I want my time of loss of independence to be as short as possible. And she talks about using your brain and human connection. Really, if you run the cancer gauntlet, you don't have a heart attack. What is really going to determine your joy span, living a joyful life, is keep thinking, keep creating, and keep connecting. Right. And honestly, keep moving. Yes. And Dallas, who's 94, has a, she says, not boyfriend, it's her best friend, but they're together and have this great relationship. He's 95, going on 96. He walks around the retirement community with ski poles or walking poles, and he just walks. He never stops. He goes out, walks the property, comes in, walks it. He just walks. And he is so vibrant. He is so vibrant. Yeah. You know, he also is on some kind of a GLP, and he said it keeps him young. He said it keeps my brain, it keeps me young, and he's not done.
Starting point is 00:50:11 From a medical standpoint, I am so fascinated by that drug. Probably 25% of our patients are on it. And it can be life-changing with a little another discussion. All right, back to beauty. All right. I'm still served ads that are anti-aging, and it drives me crazy. There isn't such a thing. No.
Starting point is 00:50:28 I mean, I'm older now than when I first arrived here. Like, there's nothing that's going to anti-age you. There's things that will age you quicker, like smoking and, not wearing sunscreen and stress and bad food and all that kind of stuff. But I'm a liver. I'm not looking to use the term anti-age at all. I just, I want to be more vibrant. And I do that through makeup, and I do it through what I put in my body,
Starting point is 00:50:54 and I do it through positive attitude. So in the book you talk about somewhere around 50, probably around your menopause, I'm guessing, you went through a whole health transformation. And tell me about the course you went to. and you being a health coach. So I had my last baby at 41. By the time I was 48, I was full on, you know.
Starting point is 00:51:13 Me too. Yeah. Like I started barely getting periods and I just was detached. There was something not right. So I went on bioidentical hormones. I've always been someone. That's really rare that you found someone who would give them to you. How did that happen?
Starting point is 00:51:27 Because I read Suzanne Summers book. I mean, I read the book. That's all there was back then. And I actually did the research and, found one of her New York doctors. Uh-huh. And I went to him. My husband also went to him.
Starting point is 00:51:41 And he's the one that taught me about it. And I went on it. And it was like a miracle on it. And I was so afraid of, you know, breast cancer and the family. Yeah, of course. I eventually went off it and I felt awful again. Yeah. I went right back on.
Starting point is 00:51:55 And, you know, I've not been off it since. And I'm way past menopause. Yeah. But I just feel like I think it keeps me young. It's always protecting your bone. and it can continue to give you cardiac benefit if you start young enough. So my husband teases me that, you know, if I don't develop a contraindication, if I do, then we'll deal with that. That when they open my casket, there will be bones and a little plastic estrogen patch, you know, sitting on my skeleton.
Starting point is 00:52:23 But you will bury me with that thing. It's amazing. And I finally have the right medical team. I have a functional nutritionist who's amazing and her sister, who is an MD that left. a woman's practice and now they work together. That's amazing. I used to just take the functional doctor that would read all the different tests and I would go to my doctor that prescribes
Starting point is 00:52:45 and they say, where'd you get this information? No. And so it was always a struggle. And now I have a team that I get to work with that look at all, the doctor looks at the labs, and then the functional one looks at these other things and they discuss it together. So I'm a big believer in functional medicine.
Starting point is 00:53:03 I'm a big believer in regular medicine too. Well, I think there's a meat in the middle. I try to do the best of functional in our clinic and everything I learned from my standard, MD, allopathic, you know, OBGYN. I have all of that. And then I have all the new knowledge. I went back to school for nutrition. Right.
Starting point is 00:53:21 Where did you go? You probably went to a real school. So it is a, it's called culinary medicine. And it's the National Academy of Culinary Medicine. And so the courses I took work through Tulane. And then I did my labs in San Antonio at a test kit. Because we work with nutrition, dietitian. That's amazing.
Starting point is 00:53:38 We actually went in and cooked in the kitchens and did some real practical hands-on stuff with the internal medicine team. Well, I went to the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, which teaches people to become health coaches. Yeah. And a health coach is not a nutritionist. We don't get the science courses, but we learn about how, you know, functional nutrition really works and how you crowd out a bad diet with healthy things and how you start realizing
Starting point is 00:54:04 and helping people to change their habits. And who are you coaching? Anyone that asks. No one, I don't get paid for it. Anyone that asks. So, you know, my kids are getting served these messages too still. I see the little girls going in to buy skincare. Right.
Starting point is 00:54:21 You know, at the Sephora, like 12-year-olds. Right. I mean, that's crazy. It's crazy. I see, you know, I don't go into Sephora very much, but when I kind of go in, if I have an extra minute and it's there, I go in and I see a lot of fathers on a Saturday with their, young children, and it's actually really sweet with their young daughters with like a gift card
Starting point is 00:54:38 left over from their birthday or Christmas, and, you know, hopefully they're buying lip gloss and eye shadow and not retinal. Yeah. Because, you know, a 15 or a 12 year old does not need retinal. No, and they're... They don't even need to know what it is. They're being marketed. Right. I had bows in my hair. It was running around the dirt, right, right? Yeah. Right. Yeah. Because that's what you're supposed to be doing. So I wasn't worried about, you know, am I glowing enough on my Instagram? But you know what? You can't fight the new. world, which is social media, you just have to be the voice of reason to your girls. You know, I've written two books for teenage girls on beauty and makeup. I'll probably do a third because
Starting point is 00:55:15 it's the, it's the generations that come back to me say, I started with your book that helped me appreciate my freckles or my strong nose. What do you want, you know, younger women, so you're talking to my daughters right now about aging. What would you tell them? Well, first of all, instead of wasting your time with aerobics, do weights. Oh, that. That is a big regret I have that I did. It was the Jane Fonda, you know, feel the burn. I taught step aerobics.
Starting point is 00:55:43 Okay. Yeah. I was not coordinated enough for step aerobics. I was always doing my own thing. What a surprise. But I was feeling the burn with Jane Fonda. I was definitely feeling the burn. But no, you do weights and you just, you feel better, you look better.
Starting point is 00:55:56 And it's not about how skinny you are. It's about how strong you are. Stronger for skinny. And yeah, and I would tell them that. And I would also say, just really think about what you love and your passion and try to build your life around it. And nothing's perfect. You can have whatever life you create for yourself, it's not going to be easy and it's not going to be perfect. And that's okay.
Starting point is 00:56:19 Looking back now, what would you tell that 34-year-old Bobby with your couple of decades? Well, the 34-year-old Bobby, I would say, okay, learn how to chill because you're going to be doing this in your 60s, 70s, and probably 80s, if not, you know, if not 90s. So I plan, you know, and hope to live to 100. And I really want my 90s to be great. My dad is early 90s. His brother and sister lived to their middle 90s. I would like to be healthier.
Starting point is 00:56:49 Me too. All right. I just love, love, love, love, love, love. I love easy. I love when the book when you talk about, listen, I'm not making these for supermodels. I'm making this for the busy working mom, who's putting this on in the car or in the train real fast doing her makeup. So I have the little setup here. What's in here?
Starting point is 00:57:09 So that's the five-year kid. It'll probably be sold out by the time we talk about it. And I gave five new products. So which we will probably, you know, that's the miracle balm. And the little tub. Yeah. And that color is called cheeky. And it's actually the color that you're wearing on your lips.
Starting point is 00:57:27 And, you know, you could put it on your cheeks. you could wear it on your lips. And yeah, we had two different colorways. Really pretty. And it works when you have nothing on your face. That's what's so great. But first of all, I hope your makeup artist approves, but it looks really pretty.
Starting point is 00:57:42 It just really kind of gave you a little lift. And that is, that one I'm not going to like for you because it's too dark. So you can give it to someone with darker skin. But this one is an illuminator. It comes in two colors. We'll try to get you the pinky one because it's, just wakes up your skin. I love this guy. That's Expresso. It is a darker, like only someone like me could take a dark brown and think I could improve on it. So we still have the dark brown, but now I
Starting point is 00:58:10 made Expresso, which is the color of an espresso. And it's just, it's deeper. And I'm really excited to try this. People are going to be thrilled. So this is an eyeshadow stick that you could line your eyes, you could smudge it. In a pinch, you could use it in your part between touchups, which is so nice. That is still coloring my hair. Yeah. And you know what? And I might forever.
Starting point is 00:58:34 It's okay. It's still with dementia, getting her hair colored in the nursing home. You know, people always say to me, why won't you just let it? I'm 100% gray. Why won't you let go gray? My sister has done it. I don't want to. I don't think I always said, well, maybe when I'm 60, then I said 70.
Starting point is 00:58:49 That's what I'm like. You know what? I don't shoot things in my face. So if coloring my hair makes me feel, you know, young. I'm going to just go for it. And then batch 18? This is what I launched before I had a company. It's a great color.
Starting point is 00:59:05 It works on everybody. This again, you could use on your cheeks. And we made this so I can give it out for Halloween. And it was people request this all the time. So we brought it back for the kit. So menopause, you know, isn't just one day in our life. It is the last period till the rest of our lives. But it often feels like, you know, when I thought about it as a 30-year-old,
Starting point is 00:59:25 it was my time to be invisible. I didn't even have a picture of a woman other than an old woman, an elderly, decrepit, kind of frail woman. But that's not it. I am healthier, happier, living the best life that I've ever lived. I wouldn't go back.
Starting point is 00:59:40 I love my whole life before, but I feel like this is the sweet spot for me right now and it's only going to get better. What have you decided to unpause for yourself at this time of life? Well, first of all, when I think of pause, I never do pause, and I need to pause a little bit. but, you know, what did I unpause?
Starting point is 00:59:57 I think I've just given myself permission to do whatever I feel like doing. Whatever it is, like, I can't wait to go home today and see my granddaughter. Like, that is, like, my priority today. What's your grandma name? My grandma name is Beebe. Bebe. Yeah, my grandma name is Bebe. I'm very proud of the name.
Starting point is 01:00:15 Yeah. I love it. Well, thank you for being on pause. I'm so glad to spend this time with you and educate our listeners all about Still Bobby, excellent book. I mean, I think it should be required reading for all young women. Just a story of resilience and grit and determination. And you're just a badass.
Starting point is 01:00:37 And you know what? If I could do it, anyone could do it. Yeah. So thank you so much. You're welcome. I really appreciate it. Awesome. As a reminder to our audience, you can follow Bobby on Instagram at justbobby.com
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