Watch What Crappens - #3281 Southern Hospitality S4E04: Goodbye to Cucumbersome Friends

Episode Date: March 26, 2026

Southern Hospitality’s girls and gays night turns ugly when Grace Lilly is kicked out for being an ass and Mia refuses to apologize to Jordan for agreeing to go on a date with Justin. Will Maddie forgive Grace one last time or is she donezo? To watch this recap on video, listen to our bonus episodes, and get ad free listening,, go to Patreon.com/watchwhatcrappens. Find bonus episodes at patreon.com/watchwhatcrappens and follow us on Instagram @watchwhatcrappens @ronniekaram @benmandelker Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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If you don't want to pay for any of that, you don't have to. Just go become a Patreon member for free and get our weekly blog about all things Bravo and sometimes our personal lives. What do you think about that? Today, Southern Hospital. Ben, what say you? What a good episode. I mean, this show is so good. It's so good.

The reason why it was a good episode was different. I mean, there was drama in this episode. The past episodes of the season have had lots of drama that's been like soapy and fun. This one was actually, I thought, pretty fascinating. Showed the complications of what it means to show up to someone as a friend. And I thought we saw that with Maddie and Grace Lilly. And we see that with Lake and Emmy and Brad. And I thought it was a, I thought it was really.

I thought was pretty fascinating, actually. It was like sort of caught me by a surprise. What about you? Pretty good. That's my Tom Colicchio answer. You know what? It was pretty good. The challenge was to make a good episode, and I think you did it.

I think you did it overall. Bodma? Yeah. Bodma. Did you mean to get Grace Lily out on the same episode where she came out as a drug addict? Okay, here we go. Southern Hospitality, Season 4, Episode 4, Saving Grace. Maddie narrates what's been going on.

And then we are back to Molly and Lakes Girls and Gays Night. And Grace Lilly is like, I really need to be quiet for I say something I'm not supposed to say. So let me just stop talking right now. I'm not going to say nothing then. Yeah. And everyone is like, there's like a splash. Everyone was like, what's that?

Michael's has put his face into the cooler full of cucumbers. And they're like, oh my God, Michaels. Oh my God. He's going to die. He's going to die. He's going to die. He's like, no, y'all are doing too much. I'm like ready to play the game.

So Molly's like, okay, everyone. Okay, so we're just going to pivot to this real quickly. Let's explain the game. So we're going to go bobbing for penises slash bobbing for cucumbers. And Michael's is like trying to get his cucumber, but he can't get it. So then he finally pulls one up. It's like in his mouth. It's like sexy.

Like the dick in his mouth. Everyone's like, oh my God. Like, let me. Oh, my God. I'm used to having like big things in my mouth anyway. So like, don't be prude. You all do it. And so they're going to play this game.

So it's kind of truth. Like you can either answer the question or you can bob for a cucumber. But it turns into answering the question and then bobbing for a cucumber. No one really pays attention to the rules because they all want to bob for the cucumber. Who name? They do want these enormous cucumbers. They're huge. And they've also been all over Michael's and T.J. sticks.

And no one really cares because I guess they've been in water. So who cares? You know what else has been in water? Brain eating algae. Yep. That's right. So the game kicks off and Mia asks the first question, T.J, what's the name of the last person you had sacks with?

I'm just going to do the cucumber thing. So then he takes off his shirt for no. reason to really make sense, but he's like, I'm taking my shirt. It's been 16 months since I've had sex, so, no, I don't remember the guy's name. Oh, God, TJ, you look real good. You look good doing that. Okay, good job for you. I would watch you on a gay porn. And they'll laugh. And now Molly, Molly, when's the last time you hooked up with Bailey? And that's her ex-boyfriend. She's like, Wednesday. And they're like, oh, my God, today's Wednesday. And now it's that Jordan girl's turn, the bartender with the rouge.

And so they're like, Jordan, when's the last time you had sex with Justin? She's like, oh my God, it was Thursday. And they're like, oh, my God, watch your hair, wait. But she bobs anyway, but she can't really do it. So she just pulls a cucumber out and puts it in her mouth. And Lake is like, wait, did you say yes to going on a date with Justin and why? And Mia's like, you know what? I said yes initially and why?

Well, just, you know, because. And Jordan goes, but did you even think about me? She goes, no, no, I didn't. She's like, I'm not friends with Jordan. I barely know her. Like, I literally just got to have a relationship. So a hot guy's in front of me. I'm not thinking about you.

Sorry. Mia's like, I'm going to speak for the audience here and say, I didn't think about Julia. Okay. Jordan. I mean, I didn't remember her name. I did not think about Jordan. Okay?

Still not thinking about Jordan. Jordan. Okay. Also, he said Marbled and Finn, and that's like my favorite place to go. And Jordan's like, that's my favorite restaurant. Just well, that's why I said yes, okay, because it's a great restaurant that I knew you probably loved. But I canceled it. How free, not because of you, because I'm not really into him. And I couldn't imagine being on a date with him when Jordan's so upset. Just kidding, just because I don't like him, you know? I mean, I look across from him and I think, oh, God, how could Jordan have sex with this guy? Right, Jordan? Am I right? So I just thought how many pathetic people Does this friend group need?

Jordan, you win. Congrats, Jordan. I just saw this guy and I thought, wow, I just cannot be another one of those pathetic girls who lines up to date this guy. Okay? Yeah, I could get laid, but is it worth it? I mean, I think it's time that we women have more self-respect. Anyway, have a great time with him, Jordan. Have a great time.

You know, I just thought, what came first? The Justin or the Rouge. And I just didn't want to risk it. So you can keep him, Jordan. Love the Rouge. So then Michael's is like, girl, you should have known better than to go on Justin. And he's like, yeah, I mean, like, you really can't get upset. She's like, I know, I'm not upset about him dating, like asking me out on a date.

It's like, not my issue. I'm like, not upset. I'm like, totally not upset. I'm not upset. She's trying to make this the thing with Mia, but you are going up against the wrong person. And I don't like that her answer is basically insinuating. It's not about him asking me out on a date. It's about Mia who should be a girl's girl and not go out.

on the date with Justin, right? I think that's what she's insinuating, but you're at work. Like, you all fuck everybody at work, and this guy's told you a million times he doesn't want anything with you. So, but then we see him later in a scene where she's like, just don't date anybody

in my friend's circle. And he's like, oh, okay. Yeah, good luck with that. DJ's like, um, Jordan can't get mad because she knows that Justin hooks up with other girls. And like, it's like, yeah, she's at this man's house every single night. and they have like a relationship and he has like a toothbrush for toothbrush for her.

So like it's just like fucked up. Yeah. So you know, that's maybe a sign of a relationship, but it's also a sign of somebody coming over without a toothbrush and you don't want to kiss them when they're stinky. So you just have a toothbrush. He probably also has like a 10 pack of toothbrushes where he's like here. He probably does.

Lake is up next to answer a question. So Mia says, whose team are you moron? Brad's or Emmys? And like without a, that like a hesitation, she goes, Emmys. And everyone's like, oh, you are? She's, and they're like, wow, no hesitation. I'm done.

And Lake is like, why is everybody so shocked? Like, literally Brad friends on me. And then he made out with me. And then he got a girlfriend. So obviously I would choose Emmy, like, huh? So everyone's like, you know, for obvious reasons. Yeah. So now, yeah, so now Grace goes and shall, hell no, I'm not doing that. I don't do that.

I already been baptized. Guys, I'm gonna do that. I'm not comfortable with it. And he was like, you have to participate. Just, no, I don't think it's appropriate. I'm sorry, okay? I know Jesus and Buddha. And let me tell you what neither one of them did.

Bob for Dicks, okay? It ain't anywhere of the Bible. Grace Lily does not get on her knees to bob for fucking cucumbers. Come on. I get on my knees for God and for Bob Marley. Okay, then Maddie, your turn. So, Grace Lilly is like, Maddie Reese, have you fucked Joe in the ass? Everyone's like, oh my God.

Why? Because I have like a penis. She's like, no, I mean, he likes it in the butt, right? No. I just thought I'd ask. She's got, he's not. Okay, she's coming for me tonight. She's like, no, no, it's a real question.

I want to know. Does he like it in the ass? That's it. It's a real question. She's like, no, you've like been coming for me. Like, since a moment I arrived. like seriously it's super clear that grace is like trying to embarrass me

and I'm over it okay I would not be embarrassed now excuse me why I stick my head into a giant cooler of water and pull out a cucumber with my teeth uh-uh it's just a real question okay about teaching Joe hooked up though they're like what oh my god and Mia's like oh my god Grace if I were her I would never talk to your ass again shit

but that's what TJ said and they're like no he didn't and grace is like Uh-huh, I thought it was a real question. And TJ is telling us, God damn it, Grace. I've never talked to Grace about Joe and myself. Like, I'm finally in a better place with Joe and Maddie. Like, this is the last thing I want. And Mia's like, you took it way too far.

And you act like this and you're like, why doesn't it would call me or text me or do anything? But that's who I am, though. So that's who I am. I mean, take a fucking joke, even though I just said three times it was a serious question. We're playing a stupid fucking game. I say one wrong thing and I'm crucified. And I'm fucking like, Jesus. Christ, and you know what?

I think the biggest reason why I relate to that man so much is because he was human. Probably relate to a lot of people in that case. Yeah, you've got a lot, you've got- almost anyone that you can relate to. Yeah. So Mia's like, you know, you wonder why people don't invite you anywhere? It's because of shit like this and your fuck-ass attitude you have is fucking crazy. And then for you to look at her and say some crazy-assful, hurtful shit like that,

that is getting wild. You're fucking crazy. And she's like, it was legit. though Jesus would have asked it. Don't you remember in the Bible? Jesus turned him out to you and he said, you like it up to ass? I mean, no one got on him about it. I mean, granted he got crucified, but it wasn't

because of ask questions. No, it was not a legit question. I thought that they hooked up, though. Like her protests were sort of getting quieter and more like, but I thought it was serious. I thought he liked it up the ass. Like, no, it's not legit.

Yeah. She goes, you know, it's not legit you know it and she said it. But TJ said it. She said TJ never said it and you know that. So get her out of my fucking face. You know what? I'm going to punch her in the head. I'm going to punch her in the head. Weren't you surprised that TJ didn't say anything?

If I were TJ, I would have been like, I never said that. What are you talking about? But he just sort of sat there and like had this look on his face like, it's time for a commercial. It's time for a crap and's commercial. So then Mia is like, even though Maddie and I are not the best of friends,

because you know, cardboard cut out gate. This is wrong. And I know I'm right from, I know my right from my wrong. Molly goes, um, hello, I think that you came in here and you were off the back,

disrespectful to me and my very impressive charcutory display. And then you created a really awkward environment for everyone in here. And then you came from Maddie. And now I think it's time for you to leave and for me to take your position on this show. Thank you. You can see your way out. And Grace Lilly is, she's like,

okay. I understand. It's okay. Thank you for inviting me. I appreciate it. She's like very like, like, I don't know.

I actually felt so sad for her in that moment. I don't know why it was weird. Gracely was acting like a total idiot at this party, but it was in that moment where I don't know, I just, my heart kind of weirdly broke for her. I can't explain it. I think because it's like she's in a group

where nobody really likes her and they're finally all telling her like, fuck off, you know? And even if someone deserves it, it's always sad to see something like one person getting the brunt. Yeah. But she did earn this one for sure.

She did. Okay, I guess I'll go wear pajamas in a place. I know there's going to be pajamas because I told myself there'd be pajamas at home, man. Bye, man, bye. Bye. Oh, is my phone over there? I think my phone's off. Is my phone there?

Is it behind you? Is it where? Which one? Which one? Meas like, which one's your phone? Which is your phone? I think it's maybe a fail in the crack. Is it over there?

It goes on for like. 10 minutes of first. It's like the TJ, you know, it's sleep between. Just think of the couch is Joe's butt crack. And then my phone, TJ's sliding between it. I'm sorry, I thought it was what happened. It was a serious analogy. So she finally gets your phone.

So she just leaves. It's so awkward. It's really awkward. And so Michael's asked Maddie if she's good. She's like, I'm just exhausted. And Mia's like, Maddie. you should have been exhausted last year in Vegas, bitch,

I've been telling you she's nuts. We have a flashback to last year in Vegas and grace silly. Going off on Maddie at that restaurant, I'm like, you are so fake. You were so fake. Well, she's got your back. Like, no, no, no,

she's not at my back. Yes, I have. The way you were speaking to her right now, you can actually bring me to tears, which is very difficult. That was Mia. So, Maddie's like, no, I know,

I know, I know. You know, like, it's embarrassing that I'm the one keeping her around. And then she, like, constantly will, like, implode on me, you know? Like, I feel like she constantly hurts me and goes to bed at night, like, thinking she's, like, holier than now because she knows Jesus and boot up and that guy who smokes a lot of weed and makes, like, reggae music. But, like, time is proven over and over again that, like, maybe we're just not meant to be friends. So now it's a new day. And Lake

is facetiming with her mom. And her mom's like, are you drinking water? Are you drinking water? And she's like, mom, no. It's been more liquor. She's like, honey. He's like, I know, Mom. Please make sure you're drinking enough water, honey. It is so hot in Charleston. You need to make sure you're hydrating extra. It's everything. Hydrate Lake.

Your name is named after hydration, so you would never forget. And look what you're doing, forgetting. Forgetting. Would you have rather me named you what your father wanted to name you? Gallen jug? Okay. I chose a glass of your name and you're still forgetting Lake, okay? I said it doesn't need to be so on the nose, honey.

God, but still you won't drink that water, honey. Please drink your water. Lake Gatorade Rucker, I demand that you drink your water. So Lake's like, well, speaking of dad, I spoke to dad the other day. And she's like, oh, you did? She goes, yeah, like, it's like still kind of like we don't talk every day. But because we went from talking on the phone every day multiple times every single day to clear silence. Because like I don't think he can open his eyes to the idea of me liking girls.

So she's saying that last year she kind of came out of the closet. about her first girlfriend and how she had her sexual awakening with her best friend and girlfriend and that her dad got really pissed that she shared that on camera. And that he says that she's disrespectful and has no respect for anybody. And she's like, he made me feel like I killed somebody. And the mom's like, you know what?

He's just dramatic. You got that from him for sure. Drama and not drinking your water. And she goes, yeah, there's a lot of status quo when it comes to black Southern generational wealth. And she talks about how her great, her great grandparents were millionaires in the 30s. And there's a whole school named after her great grandfather. And there's this whole legacy that their family has and also a subsequent family image that like there's a lot of pressure to uphold.

And so Jerry, her mom is like, well, sometimes when people are angry, they react. And I don't think your dad really believes that you're a disrespectful or bad person. He just is not going to have, you know, some sort of therapeutic conversation, especially if you haven't been drinking your water. He's not going to have a conversation with a dry person, like, okay? And she's like, but like Michaels is trying to call me. Hold on. Let me decline him. And she's like, um, okay.

Well, I'd rather talk to him. Just kidding. Michaels. Or what we call him in my house. Moisturized Michaels. Okay. Tell him, I said his skin looks glowing. Okay.

So if you're waiting for a long, drawn out apology from your dad, manage your expectations because it's your dad. Okay. Just give him a decent meat-filled sandwich. Pat him on the back. and just be thankful. He still loves you. He broke my heart and destroyed my family,

but like he loves you and that's what matters the most. He's like, you know, I know. And you know, when you become an adult, you get to dictate the kind of relationship you want to have with your parents. I recommend a good one with me, a bad one with him.

And the flip side is that your parents get to dictate the type of relationship they want with you. And in his case, he's just going to be a dick to you. So that's it. Okay, honey, have that water. I'll talk to you later. Bye. So then we go to Maddie and Joe.

at home and just like, oh my god, is that dragon fruit? Is that like dragon fruit that you're eating? Joe. Joe, can you just make me a tea? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. How many time I tell you that's an apple? Every single day, it's an apple. It's a wax apple.

It's the same apple that's there every single day, Joe. It's not dragon fruit, Joe. So to dragon apple? No. Dragon fruit basically. Doesn't exist, Joe. Dragon is like apples. No, no, fruit to dragon eat.

Joe, I seriously, I'm going to take back the charger side of the bed if you keep asking me about the dragon fruit. Seriously. Wow, look at it's such a nice there. It's like so nice. Like, hey. So nice. Anybody, come to Republic later.

I'll be there. I'm just trying to walk my dog, sir. Still, still though. I got her. Joe, stop harassing the people on the street. Okay, not everything is about bringing people to Republic. Hey, wait. Hey, guy out on the street.

Is this a dragon fruit? Joe, stop showing him the apple, okay? It's wax. So, like, have, uh, has Grace reached out? Like, V-Tux of Grace? She's like, no, not today. I tried to keep her a part of this group and then she just like embarrasses me pretty much

insinuating that like I peg you which is like crazy. He's like yeah like it is crazy like hold on I need to move this pillow over under me this chair's really hard I did like that Joe just like laughed when she said yeah she insinuated that I peg you he goes oh

yeah that's fucked up like I almost like want to laugh I know what I think I'm gonna laugh ha ha ha I just laughed Okay, so that was the story of my laugh And that's just like clearly a jab to like Her you and like that and why is she like trying to hurt you? Like I don't know if she's like jealousy or she has like some resentment towards you

But like by the way, it could be all the above Joe just want to say But you do like a million things for her and like she does bring you down It's like not friendship. Yeah It's like a toxic relationship where like she can hurt me over and over and over again And then I'm just gonna like forgive her and I can't do it anymore. It's like it's like it's like it's like when you try to juice that dragon fruit on the counter Joe you can't even do it's wax and it's not out of dragon fruit. Come on, Joe. So she says that there's something that they're not talking about

here. And it's the reason that she sticks around as a friend. And she says she has empathy for grace and what she's going through because she can relate to it. And she didn't want her to be alone or like, God forbid something happens and she misses that call. Because, you know, it's substance abuse, basically. She's like, and as someone who's in recovery, you want to be there for your friend when they're suffering, you know, and you don't want them to die or something and you not be the one answering the phone. Which probably explains like a lot of Grace's behavior over the last season or two. Remember she was like super late for the performance she was supposed to be at.

She was like, you know, she was super, super late. Showed up last minute, you know. When you look back, like, oh, maybe there was more going on in Vegas than we realized. But this is actually like, it's actually heartbreaking to see Maddie like this. Because, you know, this is a very, very serious situation. And it's a very serious thing in Maddie's life. And you can see she just wants to help her friend, even if it means that she has to take a whole bunch of pot shots about pajamas in the process.

But for real, she has to take, she's like, man, I have to put up with all this shit. But it's like, it's worth it for me to try to save my friend. Yeah. And Joe's saying, well, look, everything you're doing is clearly not working. You know? So like I get that you're trying, but it doesn't seem to be doing anything. And Maddie's saying, you know, the selfless thing to do is to let her go and hopefully she'll change and stop hurting the people she loves. And she's like, I'm not helping.

So maybe I'm not the person to help, you know, and that's a hard pill to swallow. No pun intended. So Joe's like, you know. Maybe a different phrase there. Yeah. And Joe's like, well, you've had a hard year too, you know. So it's, you know, I don't know that we've all had this. I've certainly had this discussion in my life.

It's like, well, okay, well, I've had that problem too and people didn't abandon me. So if I have somebody going through that problem, how much are you there? How much are you supposed to be there? You know, like how much do you have to take until? I think everything is different. Every situation is different. And also like at certain point, certain things are sort of out of your hand. And it's like a lot of times, even when people ask for advice, whether relationships or whatever,

at certain point you say, you got to get professional help. Right. Like I can only, I can't help you. I have a limit to what I can do and I want to help all as much as I can. But like not everyone. It's just like it may be just too big for Maddie and she shouldn't be beating herself up for that. Like it's it's a big ask. And you know, it's, it's, it's really sad to see her going through it over this. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it's a rough one. So now it's Sunday brunch and Michael's is leading his meeting. He's like, all right, like, happy Sunday. It's a, it's a, fun Sunday, right? So, you know, the weather's cool. Um, uh, okay, uh, why are you touching my nipples right now? She's like, oh my God, it's so hard. One of the waitresses, like, your nipples are so hard right now. He's like, okay, so let's get set up. Let's get Maddie, play some tunes, I guess. Okay, great pep talk, everybody. It's fun. My nipples are really, really hard right now. Um, and there's a girl named Bella there, and she's also playing with his nipples. I was like, okay, everyone, come on, get to work. So, um, Brad,

He's mixing some juices. He's getting ready. He's excited. And he says he's telling, he's saying that he's going to telling Justin that he's going to say something to Emmy today. And he's like, you know, you know, like running into her in the event and how she like went mute on me and Julia. He's like, oh yeah. So Brad tells us a story that, you know, everything seemed to be fine with him and Emmy at Folly Beach. And then they went to an influencer event and at one of his favorite restaurants in town. So adding insult injury. And she said, They see Emmy and they say hi and it's nice and everything's fine. But then when Will walked in, Emmy shifted and she just basically started giving them not just the cold shoulder. I mean, she was just blatantly ignoring them. Wouldn't make eye contact anything. And Brad's confused because you thought that they were working towards something better. And it just, he says like, it's just like, oh, wait a second. The second your fiance comes around, everything changes.

Yeah. And so Justin's like, yeah, you know, like I asked her like you're making amends because you think you feel bad. you think you fucked up in that situation. And she's like, no, I think if I don't make amends that Brad and T.J. are going to ruin my fucking life. And Brad's like, what? And he goes, yeah. So then we see a flashback.

I mean, Emmy is just such a dodo bird. She's not only saying this stuff, she says it all on camera, you know? Yeah. She's like, oh, well, I don't want to say, I apologize to Brad, but Brad was terrifying. Or like, you know, okay, I apologize to TJ, but TJ does need to stop getting guys drunk, straight guys drunk so we can take advantage of him. It's like, ooh. And then this, here's another example.

She's telling him on camera. Yeah, I was like best friends with him. And like, I've seen what Brad said done to his, you know, like when his feelings are her. Like, I've seen how T-D reacted to Joe, you know. So like, it gives me anxiety because I'm like, I mean, all right. Like, if they want to put their heads together, like, they could really try and fuck my life, you know. And like, what I've learned is like, I'm sorry. Like, you know, I just say I'm sorry.

That's all they do. But, like, I'm terrified of them. I'm like, they could ruin my life. I think Emmy is doing a good job of it on her own personally. I mean, I assume also what she was saying is like Brad made up an entire lie about Maddie, Maddie's boyfriend cheating just to get back at Maddie. So like what would like what spiteful thing might he do to me? But I kind of think that like you appellate you you had this really nice apology moment with him and like just lean into that and try to grow your friendship.

And then you just call up this guy Justin who you don't even really know. And you're going to say this stuff. You're like, oh, God. Oh, this is bad. This is really bad. well yeah it's like what is she doing does she want this stuff to get back to them that's what's confusing or is she just bad at this yeah i think she's bad i think she's bad honestly so now brad's like did i get played there's like not one second where you've been real to me everything was just an act

your apology doesn't mean shit and everything you said is all bullshit because everything you said is bullshit so fuck you i'm pissed commercials here comes one right now Okay, so then we go to Grace Lilly, which I was very surprised by this scene. I was really, I was fully shocked that this is happening on Southern Hospitality, especially with Grace. So Grace tells us that Maddie basically has not been talking to her. And she needs Maddie because Maddie holds her accountable, and she needs that. And she says, Maddie's the only one that knows what I struggle with. And I want to be better for myself and the people around me.

and I can't work by myself forever. So she goes to see a, what is he? Sobriety coach. Oh, sobriety coach. Okay. A sobriety coach named Isaac. And basically we have a long and pretty powerful scene where she meets with Isaac and talks about basically that she started doing ketamine a few years ago

and she started doing it more and more and more. And she's essentially addicted to it. And then she had a really scary thing to happen, which was that like one of her best friends. died from the same batch of ketamine that she was using. And that was, that's like obviously like terrifying. And so we see her just kind of trying to negotiate this whole situation.

She's never reached out for professional help before. She hasn't really ever talked about it. She hasn't even told her parents. So we see her talking to this guy. And, you know, it's, it was pretty, it was like definitely her most like emotionally honest scene that We've, I shouldn't, not emotionally honest, emotionally raw scene we've seen from her ever before.

Yeah. I mean, basically coming clean, you know, it was basically like an AA meeting on camera where she's like, I'm a drug addict. And I can't do it alone. And I need help. And she cries and stuff. And it's, it's, I mean, I was, I was surprised. It was a good scene, you know, good for her for doing it. Yeah.

It was powerful when she said, like, you know, I always felt like I was stronger than this or I wouldn't basically fall into this. and my whole thing is my motto in life is wavy baby. And like I'm sick of feeling trapped in my own body when I've always been a free spirit. I was like that was kind of a powerful sentiment to express. And like she just wants to be out there and free, but she's kind of like a prisoner to addiction right now. Yeah.

So drugs are always stronger. Drugs are strong. You can be as strong as you want, but drugs are stronger. They are stronger. Yeah, so scary. So, yeah, it's a good scene. good for her.

You know, we know that since this, she's been in trouble twice so far. I shouldn't say so far, that's a rude way to put it. But she's been in trouble twice. She's been arrested twice. One time was for having happy pills. And the second time,

I don't know what it was. It was drug related again. But they didn't, I don't think they specified what it was that time. So, oh, it sucks. I love Grace Lily.

I love her. I know. We want her to just to get better and to like, to be able to persevere. It's very scary. It is very scary seeing she talked about this and then, you know, and like you said, her, like her arrests, et cetera. Like you just hope that this is not a downward spiral and that she continues to move upwards.

But as Isaac said, and as many others have said before, recovery is not a straight lineup. And so she's definitely on a journey. But we're so, I'm just so glad that she is now reaching out for help. And that's like really brave of her to do that on TV. So, you know, wavy baby. Yeah, you know, and it is brave on TV because, and there's a reason that people avoid on TV. You know, they'll say, you know, like we talked about the Karen thing. Karen from Real House was at Potomac, went to, went to jail for drunk, like her fourth DUI or whatever, and then had

an interview and wouldn't really say the word alcoholic. She refused. You know, she took accountability, kind of, but there's a reason that on shows like Southern Charm or Summer House, or they use terms like Adderall, you know, they'll pick the legal, or it was just weed, I was addicted to there is something very scary about coming out because addiction isn't a straight line. And there's, it's not like you do, people expect on TV, it's like a storyline. So you go on, you talk about it and then it's over. You get over it and then the next season you're fine. And that's just not how it works. You know, it goes on forever. It goes, it's your whole life. You know, it's your whole life of dealing with it. So good for her for getting.

Good for her and best of luck. And we hope that she comes out on top. So now we go over to, Michael's new apartment and he doesn't have to be in work until 4 p.m. He gets a text from Leva. It's, oh my God, I'm going to get to sleep in tonight. Thank God. So Lake comes over and they're saying hi and everything and they're just like, you know, gathering at, they sit down in the windowsill. And she's like, oh my God, I haven't been here during the daytime. It's like, yeah, because you're a lady of the night. She's like, yeah, I'm a lady of the night. Let me just sit on the IKEA bag. Yeah, it's like a work in progress. It's like I'm almost on. Be proud of me. So they start talking about Emmy.

He's like, okay, so how do you feel about, like, after your intervention or whatever? And she's like, what? And he says about Emmy. And so we see Lake sharing that she was on Emmy's team at the girls night. And she's like, well, obviously, like, I trust Emmy more than Brad. Like, I don't even talk to him anymore. Like, we made it out, like twice. It's not like we had a million long relationship.

Like, I don't know that guy's shit. And he's like, yeah, but, you know, you have to understand Brad because, like, today we're worked out with him and he said, I thought Lake would have more sympathy for the comment that was made. And she's like, oh, like the unsafiveness and the microaggression. And he's like, yeah, because he was like Julio so upset. And we see Brad was like, like, you know, four hours ago, Brad's like, so I hear this face time call from Justin and you're not actually upset. You said something wrong. And Michael's like, so you're not actually sorry because they're talking about Emmy.

He's like, yeah. And you're not actually sorry about saying that I made you feel unsafe. And the only reason you're saying it is because you're worried that how I'm going to, like, what I'm going to do to you and how I'm going to ruin your life. And I'm here to vent to you and tell you how I'm feeling because I feel like you would understand. I was like, 100%. And Brad is upset. He's like, I would think that Lake would understand where I'm coming from. But I don't feel like Lake is condemning. And he said, it's just like disheartening. And so Michael's was like, yeah, he was expecting you to be like, hey, you can't say that. And she was like, well, I wish you would have come to me at the moment about the microaggression.

and Michael says, well, it's uncomfortable in the moment. And she's like, well, I know it's uncomfortable. I face this every day myself. Like, you face it every day. Like, being a person of color in the city, like, I get it. Or in this world even, like, I get it. And she says, this is pissing her off because the whole conversation, you know, like she's this person that's always defended people of color and always defended her own people.

And she's always advocating. And so she's like, I understand him when it comes to that, you know. And I thought co-signing when. you guys said something about it like co-signing when you called it a microaggression was was enough standing up enough yeah right and we see a flashback because basically michael's and that confrontation says look what you said could come off as a microaggression and link goes yeah so lake says you know like she should have said that like she should have said that that situation made me feel uncomfortable and left it at that calling him scary is crazy michael's is basically saying yeah but you didn't say any

this to Emmy and that's a conversation Brad wants to have with her and like out of respect for Brad like don't say anything but I just want to let you know that this is how Brad was feeling. So she's like, yeah, you know, she tells us about her family and her dad and, you know, how her dad made them read African American heritage books and she knows her shit and she's like and I don't want to be framed as that person who doesn't know my shit, okay? And that conversation makes me feel like I was framed. you know, she starts crying. She's like, oh my God, what the hell?

And he's like, no, no, no, you don't need to get heated. I'm just having a calm conversation with you. I just want you to be more empathetic. And she's like, well, I can be there for you in that sense, but also want to be there for Emmy as a friend. And, you know, that's why I was comforting her because my closeness lies with her. And I don't talk to him every day. I talk to her every day.

Which is where I thought this was really an interesting. I thought this was a really interesting episode, like how, like the pressures that that are on people in different communities of like the intimate bonds you have with a friend versus like the community bonds you have with other members of a community who you actually don't really like and like how do you navigate that because it's important to deal with all of that and I so I just thought this was like I thought this was like kind of riveting to watch like how she was trying to have to grapple with these things you know and like what what does she go to different people so Brad is you know she's saying Brad who he doesn't

know who I am. He doesn't know who my family is. He doesn't know like how I was raised. I'm a very educated woman. I come from a very prominent black family that has come from the bottom to the top. He doesn't know me. And he also doesn't know how much water I have to drink every single day. Gosh, it's like a real lot of pressure for me. Yeah, it is interesting because she's like, fuck that guy. That guy's a fuck boy. And she's my friend. So I don't think she was, you know, like I don't think she's racist. So that's why I'm, standing up for her, you know, but then he's got a point that this comment, you know, yes, so she did say in my, yeah, obviously, like she, I'm saying that I don't believe,

I think that Lake is saying, like, I don't think she's at her heart, she's a racist. So that's why she was being, Lake thought she was standing up or being an ally enough to Brad, but now she realizes that maybe she wasn't being, but then she also feels like she's also resentful of being maybe being painted on TV as being somebody who wouldn't be. And so it's just, I don't know. I think it's a fascinating thing to watch. And like it highlights many of the complications. And this is what's cool is that like this has been between this and Summerhouse over the past two weeks.

There's been a lot of interesting discussions around all this stuff, which I think is, I think it's great. I think it's great to see these conversations happening and showing the nuance of racial situations. and how like it's just it's not always cut and dry. So now, I mean, who would have thought? Southern Hospitalian summer house of all places. Seriously. But now we go to Republic and everyone is hot and sweaty. Okay, tonight we have a few bodies missing because Brad is like having one of his like,

I don't know, like body by Brad things up the street. So like Maddie, Joe and Justin are over there. And like they'll just be coming down and working later. tonight so tjm brad will not be working this evening so okay everyone let's get dressed up and ready to go so now it's time to go and now we go to the body by brad event where he's there and he's having rod is there from southern charm and someone in thomas is there from charleston and 50 other people in tommy bahamas and a lot of other people in flip flops and it's at lamars so um brad comes out and gives a speech and he's talking about his personal training company

and he wanted to do more and his girlfriend gave him the idea like, hey, why don't you go on tour? So now Body by Brad is going on tour. What? What is that? I guess like exercise classes that you just go sign up for. I remember in the 80s,

my mom was like an aerobic star and we would go to like the Civic Center for like these huge aerobics. I guess they were conventions and there were these huge audiences and it would be like 50 ladies up there doing an aerobics routine and everyone, the audience was like, yes, yes, get those ankles up, girl. And it was the craziest thing I've ever seen. I wonder if it's going to be like that. I think it will be. Like Beach Body still sends like their trainers around.

They do go to malls or they do like an outdoor activation or something like that. Yeah, it still happens. This shit happens all the time. So keep an eye out for Body by Bread. Everyone. The show. The show. Get excited.

Lifted. Clench those buttocks peop. People. Yeah. Traveling. So, so anyway, just,

Mia arrives and almost trips or she does trip. And Brad's like, whoa, you thought you ate. You thought you ate. So then Justin's like, wow.

So Mia rain checked our date and then ultimately just ended up canceling it all together. But like, as I put the puzzle pieces together, my mind,

like went right back to Jordan. It's like, what sort of puzzle piece? Was this like a two-piece puzzle piece? Don't try and play scrabble against this guy. He'll get you. And so we see a flashback to two days ago where Jordan's like, you can do whatever you want. Just don't hook up with anyone, okay?

Don't hook up with anyone I know. And don't hook up with Mia. That's all I ask. Doodoo do. So I think it might have something to do with Jordan. She literally said her name, sir. I'm putting the puzzle pieces together. But Mia cancelling her date only makes me want her more.

So, challenge accepted. So Mia's like, yeah, Justin, beautiful young man, but I don't want to be juggled with other girls. Is that so crazy? Okay. All I ask is for someone to respect my cardboard cut out. That's it.

So Brad's like, yeah, I heard bits of pieces about this at the girls' night. It wasn't good. And she just like, well, I texted Grace the next morning. and I said, hey, are you good? And her text back was, I'll deal with the consequences. Okay, so she knows that she fucked up. Honestly, I have a soft spot for Grace Lily, but she was one of my very first clients,

and we see a flashback to season one of them working out. And it's like, yeah, I'm sad that she's not here, but whatever's going on in Grace's life, I just wanted to take time that she needs to get herself together. So Brad is giving his speech, and Joe's watching him, and he's like, you know, like, I'm almost 30. And, like, Brad's 20. But like in a lot of ways, like I look up to him because he's a hustler.

Like he gets up, he wakes up like before noon. It's crazy. I see all these people younger than me and they're like more head of me life. Like age shouldn't matter, but it matters, you know? Like I'm turning 30. My bumpets turning six. Like I'm going to get my shit together. How I'm going to support you is I'm going to set up the after party for you.

And like, we're going to get to work. Okay. I'm like, cool. Like, yeah, because I want to work so that you guys can celebrate. But I was not going to miss that. Just so you know. It's like, yeah, it's fine. It's okay.

I wasn't going to miss this. You're here. So we see that you're here. I wasn't going to miss this at all. I just really know. It's like, okay, we get it. You get it. So then we go back to Republic and Emmy is talking to Justin and asking you about Brad's event.

And he goes, oh, it was good. It was packed. She goes, yeah, well, the capacity is like 93 people. So, yeah, I'm sure it was packed. But then later one just ignores her. Because she's like, obviously, the huge. just made up with him two hours ago, Emmy. Jesus.

So then Lake pulls Brad. She's like, hey, do you want to talk, Brad? He's like, yeah, but I want my bottles first. She's like, okay. She's saying how she didn't sleep last night. And she has been like only thinking about this because it's so important. And she doesn't know what she's going to say, but she's going to speak with her heart. So Michael's like, okay, well, you know, so Brad, I talked to her yesterday.

And she, like, came over and she just, like, wants to talk to you and, like, clear it out. So it's like, okay, well, we'll see. So they go to the back to have a conversation. And Lake is, Michael leaves them alone. He's like, okay, you guys don't need any moderation. Fine. Goodbye. Good luck.

I love y'all. Lake is like, I just wanted to pull you for a conversation. He goes, well, I don't think we should even be having to have this conversation. Okay, Brad. Just let her. Jesus. It's hard enough for her. My God.

And she's like, okay. So I was given an outline of what you and Michael's talked about. and I feel really strongly about that conversation. And he's like, which part? And she said the microaggressions and how you feel like I should have defended you. And she says, as a black woman, I do understand. And I wanted to address it to you because I know how important it is. I face it every day.

And I've always defended and protect and loved all the black men in my life. And he's like, but it doesn't feel like it. And then Joe comes in. He's like, oh, oh, hey guys. And they're just look at him like, hello? Do you see it's having a scene? And he's like, yeah, but guys, it's like bump it time. Sorry, it's like the time of my shift where I like calm and I bump it.

So I'm just going to fix my bumpet. God damn it. He goes to the mirror. He's like, God damn it, you look good. Hey, you look like you could use a car wash. Fuck yeah. Short shorts. Yeah, you better fucking do it.

You're going to do this before you're 31. Got it, bitch? That's right. Okay, guys, I'm done. I'm back to work. All right. You look at two. You look at two.

You look at two. So like, ah, so like, it goes, I am never, ever in a million years ever going to defend a microaggression. Whenever we had that group conversation at the table at Folly, Emmy made that comment. Michael said that can come off as a microaggression. I co-signed with him, but I was also comforting her, but me comforting her does not discredit your feelings towards that at all because it did not. And I'm sorry that you felt that way. I truly am from the deepest pits of my heart. I am. And Lake says my brothers, my father, my grandfather, my uncles are all men that look like Brad. And so when Emmy says something like, because you're scary, I felt it,

it makes me feel some type of way. So I feel Brad on that. And she tells them, I don't think you would hurt Emmy ever. And he goes, I'm not going to hurt anyone. I'm not going to hurt any woman. She says, I know, I know. And so then the door opens again and it's Emmy. And she's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, she puts her both their hands up. She's like, okay, I'm out of here. I'm out of here. No, no, no, no. She says amazing thing. I feel like it's going to become a giff of her. Be like, no, no, no, just disappearing behind the door.

So then she, after she leaves the door, after she leaves, she runs into Ella, who's another server. And she's like, what's going on with Lake? And Ella's like, well, where is she? It's like, she's on break. And Ella's like, oh, I know she's talking to Brad, right? Like, I think it's something about a microaggression that she's like defending you. I guess he tried to say that like, what you said to him was a microaggression.

She goes, what? What? I said on her. And she's like, yeah, like what you said. She's like, what did I say about him? Oh, I'm sorry. Oh, my God, Emmy. Oh, my God.

Emmy, did you not listen to one thing? So, and this is all being caught by a camera way in the back of the kitchen, like, behind the ice machine. And so I don't even think they know they're being recorded. And she's like, yeah, you said you were scared of him. And she goes, oh, a microaggression. Are you fucking on crack right now? She's like, that's crazy. I mean, so Brad is like.

fucking Emmy. Do you remember that they all confronted you? They circled you. They circled around you and said you just had a microaggression. Do you remember that? Why are you shocked? The hyperventilating like restart your brain? Like, hello?

So back to Braden Lake. She's like, he says, I don't think Amy's racist, but she's coming across and like, look, I wouldn't be friends with her if I thought she was racist. And he goes, yeah, but like even if you completely remove race from it and someone apologizes to you. And then later you hear that they said, I'm only apologizing because I'm worried what they're going to do to me. Like, it's like, okay, that's a stab in the back, you know, and addressing that's very important.

And I'm on your side when it comes to this. And that's why I wanted to come to you and apologize. And Brad's like, I appreciate the apology. But this is also coming on the heels. Like, he says when, in the example that he just gave, like remove race from it. And if somebody apologized to you but said they don't want you to ruin their life, as you mentioned earlier, Brad, you did just admit to lying about someone's, like, ruining someone's relationship out of revenge, you know. Yeah, you did. So Brad is like, this is a side of lake that I've never seen before.

Beyond the bubbly, fun, easygoing personality, there's a lot of depth there. I needed to hear her, I need to hear her out of her mouth saying, hey, I got you. And I understand you. I'm with you. It means the world to me. I love, this is such a guy thing. It's like, oh, if I actually decided to have a conversation with the girl I was interested at one point, I would discover that she actually has many facets and many nuances. Wow, who knew? Well, it's also she came in and completely agreed with everything I said and was like one long apology and being just being like okay okay so I'm

you get it right like I'm with you right right right and it's like yeah she's really deep Lake is like when it comes to Emmy I will take it upon myself to educate her on this subject he's like no you don't have to talk to her because it shouldn't be by the way up to Lake to have to do this yeah um so they have like

amicable fist bump but then outside Emmy they were just God Emmy is gonna it's gonna be so bad for Emmy we just can see this is a disaster. It's already so bad for Emmy. I mean, my God, it's a dummy. Jesus.

So Emmy's like, oh, Justin, Justin. Brad is like going after Lake in the back. He's like, right now, it's like, yeah, Brad's trying to say I'm a fucking racist. And Justin goes, when you, what you said to him, she's just, yeah. And Justin goes, no, well, you were scared of how he was going to act. And he took it as a microaggression. He goes, yeah, because he texted me. Lower your fucking voice.

You're done to me too, bitch. Like, fucking grow, a fucking grow man saying that to me. Justin's like, I feel like Emmy is taking the low road in the city. situation and being combative about it. And I feel like she's minimizing Brad's experience. And all you need to do to make it right is to tell Brad, hopefully like that. Just say it wasn't your intention.

But I think the problem is, I think Emmy doesn't know what a micro regression is. Oh my God. And this is the best part of the episode because they start playing clown music. And so they've got this music like, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, playing under Emmy. And she's like, yes, yeah, I mean, I know what a microaggression is.

I mean, yeah, yeah, of course I do. Okay, okay. microaggression. Microgression is when you, um, you make a micro like a little, um, like a tiny, like little. It's not little, but it's like smaller than little. Okay. Like, and so like you make like, um, like an assumption, like a subjective assumption. I said, those like three syllable, row, two words in row, three syllables. And like, you know, it's like based off so many, you know, like it's like, um, um, like, uh, women, women are, uh, like women are bad drivers. Yeah. So, yeah. So basically, yeah, like microaggressions, they're like tiny, subjective,

like things and they're more like they're more so made towards people that like you don't know so nailed it remember like micro machines those cars they're like really small cars it's like if you if you drive them really fast that's like a micro regression so yeah i i wasn't even playing with cars it was so funny she has no idea and the music it's like but doom bum but doom boom it's like micro regression that's like fucking crazy like i can't believe they're saying that like what his experience. I don't want to talk about it. I don't,

I want to get the fuck out of here. I want to get the fuck out of here. Storms out. She storms out of the restaurant yet again. Yeah. Good. Wow. Bless her heart.

Well, everyone. Jesus. What an interesting episode. Thanks everyone for being here. We adore you. And we'll catch you on the next episode of Watchwell Crapens. Bye. Bye.

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