Wednesdays - 1: THE GIRLS ARE BACK

Episode Date: September 26, 2023

Hello our lovely, lovely listeners!! We’ve missed you so much but we are BACK in business with a whole new rebrand. Sophie and Melissa chat about the latest celebrity gossip, Sophie’s sisters wedding, conspiracy theories and the latest beauty products they are loving… PLUS, the dilemmas are back and better than ever!! Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]-Credits:Podcast Producer & Editor: @kat.milsomAdditional Producer: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Social Media: @emzchampionAssistant Producer: @maiaadelia.docs Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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psychologists and we're not experts at anything in fact we just challenge all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help We love giving you guys advice, but as we said. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. We're in a new set. We're new people. We're new gals. We're new frigging gals.

We've gone for chic, sophisticated. We're sophisticated girls. We're sophisticated ladies. We're women. We should change our names. Shit. I am going to rebrand my hair though. Melinda today not so much in a while i was like so i'm rebranding the hair i'm thinking so he comes out the hairdresser like with brown hair and i'm gonna go a bit lower though like

just yeah that's what i did i started here i then I went shorter, shorter, shorter it almost like do I just do the full frontal fringe yeah do the full frontal fringe go for it Toby goes like this is it right

Claudia Winkleman I'm like stop you're bullying me I love Claudia Winkleman I love her hair me too but I'm not the fringe is not a vibe for me

I think it is on me no no also it was a lot shorter at my sister's wedding it was it's grown really fast you're right

because it was like above my eyebrow do you remember yeah what the hell that's only two weeks ago where's the time i know i know it's grown out so fast it's grown out it's also if i style it with a blow dryer it gives it that volume so then it like sits higher up what i want to see is what it looks like after a friday night like is it crazy is one end like this like a little dog it does have a lot of volume and also sometimes like if i sleep with it in a ponytail then comes down there's like a kink in it so it's like on the sea chaos i remember when we were on the tube that one time and it was like

you know what i will say it takes a lot of maintenance there's a lot of dry shampoo because it sits on the face with the oils so it gets greasy much faster oh god yeah you can't just scrape your hair back so on a hair wash day i'm like i have to so i section off this front of my hair and wash this in the sink well that's actually a blessing because you can't do that with these what would i get two strands yeah where's the difference no you're right also i just don't think i could ever do it to myself because the scrape back hair is just it's such i'm the same i had to really not such a vibe i'm fed up of myself no no it's such a vibe for how easy the same. I had to really. No, it's not such a vibe. I'm fed up of myself doing it. No, no. It's such a vibe for how easy it makes life.

And you can look a bit more chic with it scraped back. It's just, I can't really do that unless I've got bobby pins. They are my new best friend. Always some in the bag. You're kidding me. I have to, so. What, you scrape it up with a bobby pin? No, so I scrape it back and then bits flop forward.

So then I have to like pin the bits back. I paint the art. So you can actually get the scraped back hair, look. But only if I have the bobby pins. So you know on the last minute you're like, oh, they're a bit hot. I'm going to scrape the hair back or something. No, no, what? You with your tiny little pins that were at school?

Yeah. Oh, that's so sweet. What about a bit of gel? Oh, that's a whole other ballgame. And that's also like you have to plan for it again. Do you know what I mean? There's a lot of admin. Also, I don't know where anything in this set is from,

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We've got it all. Our potential dye dress. Yes, I love that book. Notes on a home, firm living. That's a gorgeous book. Firm living. That's where all my mirrors are from and my lamps and stuff at home.

And my dining table. Firm living. Whoa, hello. Well, you do know about this set. Yeah, I do. She's quite the interior designer these days. She is. It's gorgeous.

I feel very at home. I also really hope. I feel like this is what it was meant to be. Totally. This is a bit off-brand, if I must say. This side table is a bit, and the red wires are a bit off-brand. Yeah, and that big black thing could do with going as well. These are a bit and the red wires are a bit off brand yeah and that big black thing could do with going as well

these are a bit black as well they all need to be beige the jackpot branding if I no we're okay with that because that is could be a bit

like changing we could have Wednesdays that would be a vibe yeah or just these to be white or green these to be beige if they were beige I would be so starved

what's your beige flag have you heard about that no what's a beige oh like a red flag so instead of a red flag it's a beige flag have you heard about that no what's a beige oh so instead of a red flag it's a beige flag so it's like

something you're boring by so Toby says my beige flag is I don't like a cold plunge okay I know what Jamie's beige flag is he loves a vanilla ice cream like that is that is so beige

no he loves a chocolate scoop like just no yeah that's just a bit boring just get like a pistachio what's yours oh pistachio what would be mine um

I'm not very beige. You are today, aren't you? I'm not beige. Okay. No, seriously. Your beige flag. Come on, you know what I mean.

Your beige flag is, is, is, um, that you only scrape your hair back. And you don't ever style your beige. That you don't style your hair. I might be a bit beige in the bedroom.

Like, if I'm going to put it out there, I'm pretty beige in the bedroom. I'm not that beige. I like to think that I'm not beige I don't think you are that's a rabbit hole that we don't need to discuss in this podcast maybe one day maybe on that lie detector test and it will go out we should do that we should do that we should do that and do the questions for each other. Yes. Get me on a good day though, because otherwise you might get cross with me. As in the questions I'd ask you,

not like the answers I give. Oh right, there we go. I was like, what do you mean? Jesus Christ. Right. Okay.

We've got some things to debrief on. Obviously you went to your sister's wedding. That was gorgeous. Epic, epic, epic. I read a lovely poem. So if you, you're really really talented i was thinking in my

head i was like did she get tally to write the poem i caught tally to write the poem i just obviously didn't go hello everybody i thought me and toby were talking about how amazing you are with words how amazing how amazing i was wazing with words you were wazing with words and um it was it was very emotional but it was also really funny. No, but I did. You did obviously give her like everything you wanted to put in it, but she makes it rhyme. Tally, she's been on newlyweds before.

She's got a company called Pinky Studios. She writes incredible poems, like typically for like weddings or whatever. And you can say them as a speech. And she did them for my wedding. And she also did one for me to read for Jamie at my English wedding. That was beautiful.

And I decided with this one, I wasn't going to open it and be like, yo, hey. Sure. But then I like got myself in a bit of a rabbit hole because everyone was like, whoa, you are so talented.

Yeah. And I just didn't want to say no. No, you lapped it up. I lapped it up. Yeah. And then when anyone said, did you write it?

I just walked away because I was like, don't ask me. I just assumed I did. You didn't. I was shocked to the core that you, considering you'd been to both of my weddings and you know me so well I thought it went through my head but then I was like she would have said it because at the English wedding you were like and Tally wrote this beautiful poem for me because Tally was in the audience sure you had to credit her yeah you had to credit her this I was like

this is my moment move out the way Tally no but it was a really good poem. It was amazing. It was 400 degrees. My sister looked so stunning, but it was so hot. And whilst doing the poem, I did get a little quiver of the legs. You were right in the sun. And I thought, I'm going to go. You were right in the sun. I thought, I'm going to faint.

I'm going to knock her out. And it's going to be disastrous. In the audience, we were fine because we had fans. We all gave them beautiful umbrellas. But that really pissed me off because when she walked down the aisle, I was like, everyone needs to put their umbrellas down so we can see her I know I put mine there I actually had a perfect

view of her so it was fine she looked so special she looked like and also guys she had three dresses which I think is the best idea ever

I'm going to do the same thing for my wedding if I'm lucky enough to get married and then on her pool party she did like four outfits stop wait till you were

at her hand she honestly changed like every half an hour the outfits on her Instagram, it was like a photo dump. Every single photo was like a different outfit. I was like, you go girl. You're going to get married once.

I rate that. Yeah, I know. She was gay. It was such a special day. And what did she wear for the English wedding? Was that like a gorgeous dress too? Yeah, she wore like a lovely, it was like a nightie slip dress vibe.

Very chic, like kind of romantic, modern bride. Yeah, gorgeous. Yeah, she looked cool. cool this is non-stop weddings isn't there well we're out for a bit I'm done now until next year I'm done till Chrissy's

next year I've got my sisters then Chrissy's I suddenly was like why are you not saying you're coming because then I thought no I've got my sisters first

also we need to arrange our hotel for Chrissy's I know I think we should go to Portofino for a week first we're doing Puglia for a week first oh we'll join yeah and then we need to arrange our hotel for Chrissy's wedding. I know. I think we should go to Portofino for a week first. We're doing Puglia for a week first. Oh, we'll join. Yeah.

And then we need to stay in the same accommodation for the wedding. No, I booked my room. Shit, where? Okay, we used to talk. Yeah, yeah, we will do. But only for two nights. Okay, we'll book Puglia then tonight. Okay, gorgeous.

We need to, like, arrange our diary. Yeah, we do. Gorgeous stuff. Okay. Celeb glass. We just have to touch on a couple things kylie jenner jenner and timothy shalloway i think gorgeous in my mind when i when i heard it i was like that's such a weird pairing but then when i saw it i was i get the chemistry do you know

what i mean like jamie honestly will happily say he fancies kylie like he thinks she's like a cool girl like i would not think jake like to be fair when i hear her talking in interviews i'm like she just gives no shit and she just rates herself so much she's a boss cool girl like i would not think jake like to be fair when i hear her talking in interviews i'm like she just gets funny and she just rates herself so much she's a boss bit yeah i i think she's great like out of all the kardashians she's got the best chat for sure she's the most successful she she's definitely had a lot of work she's also quite lays low weirdly like even though she's the most famous like i know the least about her she's quite mysterious she's a leaf she knows what's going on for sure she's, even though she's the most famous, like, I know the least about her. She's quite mysterious. Do you know what I mean? She's a leaf.

She knows what's going on, for sure. She's a smart cookie. She's a smart cookie. So I think that's quite a cool pairing. It was very unexpected to me. It doesn't, when someone said it, I was like, that's not going to work. That's such an unassuming couple. But then when I saw that video of them together, I was like, I get the chemistry.

They look great together. He's, like, smoking and then, like, kissing and, like, just looks, I don't know, like, quite cool. He's a cool dude. I've not seen it just looks, I don't know, like quite cool. He's a cool dude. We need to start watching films. I was watching shitty. I'm bored out of my brains for films. Sorry.

Give me a good one and I'll watch it. But I watched a great one the other day. And it's really, really, again, a man called Otto. And it reminds me of Jonathan Baines, who is Jamie's stepfather, who is the legend of life. And it's just about him. And it's just so good. Who's the actor?

Tom Hanks. And it's all about this like kind of grumpy, but so sweet secretly old man. And it's just like his journey. And it's just, I hope Jonathan doesn't listen to that and hear that recording him a grumpy old man because he's anything but that. Oh no, Jonathan, you're not a grumpy old man. But you just adore that. You adore Otto and it's a really good movie very good film

have you seen The Green Mile no you know you and me just like just go with it it's all we put on

like any go-to film just go with it it's just a good vibe right what I'm really liking at the moment best Real Housewives you know I'm a big fan I still don't get

I still don't know it's because it feels like a minefield it feels like I'm like it's just too much too many in which one to go for I'm telling you now Real Housewives of Salt Lake City could be better than New Jersey and Beverly Hills okay nothing's better than Beverly Hills but right you know I have started to watch Succession and I feel like the last person in the

UK to be fucking watching that I started and it's basically education i'm on episode like four it's in succession where like this is about the murdoch family yeah well supposedly i think it's like not officially about them but it like clearly is you know what i mean yeah yeah yeah it's fascinating i think they try to like sue the people like the producers or something i don't know like there was some drama that went down with that if anyone knows any more please like educate us i'd love to to know the gossip about that I love all these conspiracy theories about this family

that I find so fascinating I need give me some more conspiracy theories I really like the dad even though they hate him sorry sorry

this alien thing that's happened recently what fucking what oh my god so there's this skeleton of an alien

that's been like a cremation and it's like fully real. And this like Canadian head of like something in Canada has come forward and said that aliens are fully, fully, fully real. And there's several different types. There's one called like a Scandi or something that basically like they're blonde and they look like humans. And they walk through the streets with us and you would never really be able to tell. There's a called a grey alien, which is like the classic like.

Like E.T. Literally like E.T. or like the classic like um like et foam literally like et or like the classic cartoon alien that exists and there's another one which kind of looks like a praying mantis what's praying mantis long thin arms yeah it's um it's like that green green the green bug yes oh my god isn't that wild guys i'm sorry but no one really gives a shit because everyone's like obviously there's fucking aliens like how do we think we're the only living things

like in this universe yeah but there's not Scandies walking around like every blonde person now is gonna be I'm gonna question if they're are you an alien

Candice Swanepoel probably an alien I could be on a blonde day you could be an alien on a blonde day on a blonde day when I've seen

a letter in my hair I could possibly be an alien when she's fresh out of the salon she's an alien what the fuck I know it's fucking weird I need to find that video and send it to you

it's weird what do we think about this though I believe it I mean it's fact it is and in area 52 they've literally

confirmed that there's like a piece of a UFO that they're keeping in there and it's like public knowledge they've had to like disclose it to the public

I've seen a UFO once shut up no I'm not joking I was once in Portugal with my friend Victoria well you know her yeah we were at her

ex-boyfriend's house and like this is years and years and years ago he lived in the middle of butt fuck nowhere like there was nothing inside and all of a sudden

there's a coming down and we're screaming we go get the mum we didn't know what it was and the mum was like yeah I see it all the time but when I say it was the middle of Portugal like yeah I see it all the time but when I say

it was the middle of Portugal like there was nothing inside I don't think there's a supermarket for a good hour and a half shit and it was like covered in fields it's for some people

that's finding peace but I would find that so isolating and scary I'd be like I'm gonna get abducted well she could have been by the aliens she could have been

god there are aliens yeah well I mean you've seen one hun you're a first-hand account no but a ufo is where the aliens live inside the the machine right or is a ufo a ufo i think is their transportation yeah it's it's it's like their version of an airplane oh this guy also said ufos go over our heads like planes do like there's as many in the sky but we just can't see or something it was honestly mental but but emily doesn't believe someone went to the moon do you also believe that the earth's

flat it's like do you know what i mean there's so many there's so many experiences strongly like avril lavigne is 100 real oh my god yeah that's bizarre that people think that she's like dead and someone's like impersonating her Although I do believe that there is the Illuminati. Oh, the Illuminati where Beyonce goes, hey. Yeah. Apparently, there's flashes on our TV screens

that happen every so often that's slowly hypnotizing all of us. Oh, yeah. Everything is hypnotizing us. Right now, we are hypnotizing people. Also, there's a conspiracy theory about ticks.

To wear cream. Tick bites. The Lyme disease is trying to kill down the human race what the fuck I don't like this actually I know it's a bit dark

I can get really stuck into it like I watch these weird videos but where what do you mean where do you watch them YouTube

I thought you meant where are the tics I was like I don't know in the forest I'm really like tight in this top like it's too small

on the boobs and it's just like squashing them left, right and centre. No, it looks gorgeous. It's a gorgeous, gorgeous outfit. Did you have a stylist help you? No. Oh, we've got to say when we were at my sister's wedding. What happened?

At my sister's wedding. Oh. The boys, it's all the girls having a photo and then it's all the boys like taking the photos of us. It was a girls photo. Anyway, we're like, and Melissa doesn't know that many people because obviously

they're my sister's fans yeah anyway there's this really good looking guy oh bear in mind I'd actually really fancied him when I was younger

stop this now yeah yeah I used to go to Newcastle like properly he's got quite gorgeous anyway he's got lovely cheekbones and Melissa's like who's that gorgeous

no no we had bumped into to give a background Toby and I had got to our Airbnb and bumped into this couple, which was this chap and this like, his fiance,

waiting to get into this Airbnb. Oh my God, yeah, they got mine. And we were like trying to get, basically they double booked us and me and Toby got the room and they didn't anyway. So they were staying somewhere else. And then later on in the day,

we obviously saw these drinks and we're all like in front taking these photos and I could see him stood there. Soph was next to me and I didn't realize his fiance was right in front of us no like she's there it's like right right shoulders touching Melissa and she's like he's gorgeous isn't he stunning she's really gorgeous she'll know you like he's so fit and I was like fiance right here I mean it was only being him a compliment it was a gorgeous gorgeous compliment

I would love it if someone said that it was just quite awkward you know when you don't want someone to hear that I'm like oh yeah

I don't know I didn't know her like if someone said that about Toby I get like shut up I know he's fit do you know what I mean

like I know he smells nice have you seen that thing where it's like when someone says that your boyfriend's fit it's like you think I don't know that he's fit

shut up anyway what have you been loving even if it's like oh you think I don't know that he's fit shut up anyway what have you been loving even if it's a real house oh loving okay I've got the new Chanel cream bronzer and I'm loving it talking about that is it the Chanel is something to turn I don't know but it's like a contour and it's like it's like is it a bit a big pot like that yeah oh that's been around for donkeys yeah it's been around for donkeys yeah yeah it's been around for donkeys years and you're loving it but I've changed up

my makeup have you so I'm using the Estee Lauder day cream that we used when we were 12 and I just

the one wait hold on is this the one the balls and they burst and it's blue and it's like literally like sheer

yes but I am I just don't know why I ever put it down why did you go off with it like it smells good it's so good you look like

you're not wearing any makeup like obviously you've got makeup on top of it. Then I've got the Dior concealer, which I'm really loving. Okay. And then, do you know what I've gone back to? You know the Benefit bronzer, Hulu with the pink, the blusher.

Yeah, yeah. Gone back to all my old roots. And I'm loving it again. The Benefit's a real vibe. I still keep a Hulu in, like, every bag. Yeah, Hulu's the best. Especially if you've got a big brush and you're like, oh, looking a bit shit. I'm just going to shove this all over my face and I just keep a hula in every bag. Yeah, hula's the best. Especially if you've got a big brush and you're like,

ooh, looking a bit shit. I'm just going to shove this all over my face and I just look a little bit better. Yeah, so that's my vibe at the moment. What about your mascara? Your mascara always looks good. Oh, another Estee Lauder. Or it might be YSL.

But it's really thick and juicy. It looks really clean. You look like clean girl makeup. Why, thank you. So do you. I don't. I'm a scruff pot, really. I'm feeling very restricted with this top. My thank you, so do you. I don't, I'm a scruff pot really. I'm like, I'm feeling very restricted with this top.

Like my boobs are bursting to get through. You don't look it, you look. Because it's like flattened and round, but they're uncomfy. Let's just put it that way. Something that is open dying to tell you about. This is the best thing that I've ever found. You know, Melissa and I love a face spray for the fake tan.

I've got a new face cream. It's a cream. It looks like a moisturizer, but it's tan. And it's the best fake tan I've got a new face cream it's a cream looks like a moisturiser but it's tan and it's the best fake tan what's it called Sicily it's really expensive though

oh I know the brand Sicily yeah but it's like I don't know when I went to get it it was like 90 euros shut up but it's lasted me like two solid months

maybe longer and it's the best every night so you use it instead of moisturiser and it's the best thing I've ever used it's a different tan

it's a whole other ball game because you know sometimes we get a bit And it's the best thing I've ever used. It's a different tan. It's a whole other ballgame. Because you know sometimes we get a bit patchy with the spray. Yeah, I have to put oil on the sides of my face and around my nose to make sure it doesn't cling in those areas. This one is like you wake up and you look like you've had a facial. It's the best I've ever used, yeah. Okay, well maybe I borrow some and use it. Yeah, test it out.

Because I've got so many tans clogging up my... You're also quite good with the spray. It clung to my pigmentation a little bit. Oh, fuck. Go on then, give me some things you're loving. I don't really have anything that's changed. I'm such a creature of habit. I've got, like, my house is completed.

No, completed, as in, like, I finished all the furniture. So I've got my dining table, my chairs. My fireplace was put in so, like, it actually works. I turned it on the other day. That was a really good vibe. I saw pictures. I need to have my, wait, we need to do dinner. I turned it on the other day. That was a really good vibe. I saw pictures. I need to have my... We need to do dinner.

I know. Maybe we'll have a Mexican night at yours and make tacos. Maybe on Saturday or Sunday. Well, yeah, if I'm not going to that place in the countryside, then I'll definitely... Yeah. We'll definitely do that. Okay, gorgeous.

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is actually like a fucking symphony that's been written. No, the second one's really short. The third one's a symphony. Oh, you do the first one then. Okay, I'll do the first one. Also, that's the wrong terminology.

A symphony is a song. Song. What mean a poem a novel i wish one day i should really read that poem that tally wrote for georgia's wedding because it was wonderful wasn't it it would make me cry though i was weeping of it okay dilemma one hi girls i love the pod and listen religiously every week this is my dilemma about two weeks ago while i was home for summer i went on a night out with a big group of school friends i got with a guy and he seemed super lovely and respectful he asked my insta and we kept talking in the following days gorgeous lovely insta not number that's interesting so keep some more cash keep some more cash it's like what's your instagram

handle rather than what's your number yeah yeah yeah he suggested we he suggested we meet up again and i let him come around to my house we did not sleep together but we didn't just cuddle either wink wink she didn't put wink i had a great time with him but just wrote it off as a tiny summer flame i left on holiday with my best friend and didn't think anything of it late one night for some reason i had the urge to check his profile which i hadn't which i had not been doing and noticed that a new story highlight had appeared a story highlight dedicated to his girlfriend what a snake happening boys it's also like why would you give me your instagram handle if you've then got that on there for the different like they just want to test with

test fate the last story dated two weeks before the night i met him the worst part is that when i clicked on his profile i saw she had a second private account with the buyer saying fan account of name surname of the guy yes you read that correctly creepy what oh my god maybe he's like an only fans dude the next day when i went to the went to show his profile to my friend he'd removed me from his followers if i hadn't checked his profile a few hours before or if i'd been smart enough to remove or if he'd been smart enough to remove me 24 hours i would never earlier i would never have known the next day he then proceeded to like my story what a snake sorry i don't get the this

i'm so confused as if I were in his position, I'd have blocked me as soon as we'd said goodbye for the first time so as to make sure his girlfriend never found out. Yeah. Yet this is far from what he has done. It's bizarre. Some people think they're invincible. Boys.

It's almost like he wants to get caught doing that. Yeah, I think that's part of like... The thrill. The thrill. I'm not deluded enough to think that he was on a break with his girlfriend when he met me and suddenly got back together with her a few days after me leaving the night i met him he was a with a huge group of his friends who obviously all knew he was in a relationship that's fucked up and frankly they were only encouraging the situation with me which

confuses me how can guys be like that their pics i feel so bad for the girlfriend but i didn't but i don't feel like messaging him and her and bursting her happy bubble the situation has left me feeling so distrustful of guys and i'm afraid it might impact my trust levels when i eventually am in a relationship myself so far i've done nothing and thought i had just better forget about the whole thing. However, I'm conflicted as to whether I should maybe message him. What would you do in my place? Please help. No, I would not message him.

I wouldn't message him. I would just park that and move on. However, my only thing is like we know so many of our friends who have like been on, off, on, off. It's true. People do go on and off a lot. However, there's a reason why he's like removed you from the I don't know it all seems a bit fishy I'm just thinking of you know the friends

I'm thinking of yeah the people also like one of my ex-boyfriends is very on and off on and off with like his girls that he's been with

and like which one? oh right yeah like you could be on with someone literally for five like five days and then off with them

for two weeks yeah and then and not delete stuff from your Instagram so I think if he's never your boyfriend and you don't know her like

he'll be doing that with other girls if he's doing it with you I imagine so yeah he will get found out he will get caught out and if

those guys were encouraging it I find it hard to believe that he was in a relationship also otherwise one of them would be like mate don't fucking do that like of them would be like me don't fucking do that like i'm gonna tell like like i can't sit with you what do watching you get like

cheating on your girlfriend in front of me like that's a lot unless like i would rather not believe that they're all assholes yeah also like you've just got to sometimes in life just think like how would it serve me you going and telling her like what would or mastering him like you don't want to be with him you don't really know him you haven't caught feelings like it's not gonna serve you you're probably not gonna hear the truth like the best thing to do is just think you didn't do anything wrong in that situation you thought like the best of it yeah if he's been a sneaky sneaky snake he'll get caught out if he's doing that a lot and you just don't know maybe they've got an open relationship you just don't know and they could have been on a break and he's probably just like it's best not for me to like tell her and i'll be back together

i kissed someone on the night out and then met up with her again you know yeah and in terms of like you not having trust in your future relationships like just don't catastrophize it you really like like we said it could just be as simple as they they break up on and off on and off on and off and they know each other they're both shagging other people so like it's okay for them so don't automatically compare your situation to them and everyone is different yeah totally totally okay dilemma two hey girls always wish i could join in your chats when i listen to the pod so i would love your opinion on my situation i'm at uni and have a group of guys who are my best friends and we're all living together next year which i'm so excited about only issue is i've slept with one of them.

We first slept together before Christmas and it's happened about six times since then every couple of months. This is quite lovely. Always nice to have a shack like on the premises.

Do you know what I mean? A hundred percent. At first it was just when we were drunk after a night out but mostly recently it was sober still after a night out.

God, quite nice of you. Oh my God, I'm such a fantasizer. Oh my God. This is very Jamie and I suck at 20. night out but mostly recently it was sober still after a night out god quite nice of you oh my god i'm such a fan oh my god this is very jamie and i suck at 2020 oh my god very true yeah earlier everyone asks why we don't date because we were really quite close friends but i genuinely don't think i have feelings for him for him in that way however i do find myself craving attention from him and wanting to sleep with him again that's just because you've slept with him that's not because you have feelings yeah you you're just being like that's as you know it's there like your ego is just getting in the way basically yeah although I don't think it's that deep part of me is worried that if I keep sleeping

with him this year in the same house our housemates will get annoyed and it could be risky in leading to feelings from one of us kind of true i don't know how i don't have feelings and i am pretty certain he doesn't either do i put an end to this yeah the occasional sex a thousand i think you should put an end to it put an end he it sounds like he's gonna get feelings i feel like you're like really not gonna get feels but if you do start getting drunk and having sex then perhaps just forget let it go but ideally put an end to it if that makes any sense i agree because like if it's meant to be it might just happen true because you know what friendships make the best relationships yeah but and if you're having

a sex too but if right now sober you're not having feelings you're not attracted to him and that shit i agree yeah just makes things more complicated sex makes everything complicated as she says in the holiday sex makes everything complicated I watched the most

shit film I started I suddenly had a craving to like watch Penelope Cruz so this is so off topic so I like googled yeah and I started watching and I was like

this is so boring Blow yeah Blow is the best film ever I found it so dumb she I actually would turn lesbian for her in that any day but she's only in it for like two minutes i then stopped watching

no she's i started to watch three films and finished them like a quarter of the way through were you hungover no my attention span was particularly small that day fucking shit i love how fit is johnny depp in that oh stunning i only wanted to watch it because i've seen on Instagram that clip of him going up to her and being like, why are you smiling? And she's like,

why are you smiling? But I watched it and I watched that part and then I was like, oh, done now. What about Sweet Home Alabama? Alabama? I've never seen it.

Oh my God. What does she say? He's like, she's like, why are you here? And he's like, so I can kiss you anytime I want. That was unbelievable.

Wait, wait, wait. Reese Witherspoon. It's not Ben Affleck, but someone else. Honestly, up there can kiss you anytime I want. That was unbelievable. Wait, wait, wait. Reese Witherspoon. It's not Ben Affleck, but someone else. Honestly, up there with one of my favorite films. Why do I always let that one slip? You would love it. Sweet Home Alabama. I'm going to watch that tonight.

Yeah, oldie but goldie. Right, Dilemma 3. Hi, girls. I'm obsessed with your podcast and I need advice. Please. I can't even believe I'm putting this into writing, but I'll sum it up with one word. iPad.

Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. I had Toby's laptop in my house last night and I was like, do I? And then I was like, no, I didn't. Oh, no. That's not what I was thinking.

It was going to be like something sexual going. Oh. Right. Okay. Let's get into it. So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and recently moved in together. We've been in love since we met and the most positive relationship I've ever experienced he's kind and funny and I'm happier with him than I've ever been a few months ago he his work sent him an ipad

he doesn't really use it and I trust oh no he doesn't really use it and I trust him with my life so I never went on it either until yesterday dot dot dot oh no no no this really frightens me my stomach's floating it frightens me to death it frightens me to death no Toby would never

but it's just it's just greater already I was bored and he was playing video games so I thought I wanted so I thought I wanted to play around on his iPad

maybe find a cool drawing app or something fun right? wrong he happily opened up for me and put in the password in front of my eyes which i honestly could have guessed on my own he always shares his passwords with me and

doesn't hide anything but for some reason i made a mental note of the password i knew right then i'd made a huge mistake immediately he noticed his photos had since synced and he was synced and he was like that's weird my text won't sync, but my photos did, I guess. He didn't think twice about it and handed it over to me. Now I know I should never look, but something made me do it, if you know what I mean. I know what you mean. He's got feelings, yeah. I just started glancing through and right away noticed old new photos of his exes.

Yeah, but that just could be an old iCloud thing. Yeah, but still, I'd be sick to my side. Yeah, that would be a nice thing to say. His camera roll doesn't have much on these, and these came up pretty quickly. I immediately panicked and deleted the photos. Once I'd done a few, I couldn't stop. I went through his whole camera roll

and deleted every promiscuous photo of anyone but myself. Fine, fine. But also, yeah, I agree. Why are they there? But sometimes iCloud keeps like a backup of things that you may have deleted on your phone, but they just sync on short yeah yeah yeah that's fine that's this could be an innocent thing yeah but the fact that you're not saying you need to delete them i'd be like oh what is this on your ipad do you know what i mean i would say something

yeah rather than no i would it looked really good i probably wouldn't even want him to go what and see them again and flag them at me. I'd just delete, delete. I'd be like, why is there a nude picture of you? And then I'd be like, I'd delete all those nude photos. Minging photos of other girls. It's only me. Only eyes for me. Yeah, right, right, right. They were pretty normal photos, but they made me temporarily crazy as well.

After I'd done it, I felt sick to my stomach. I laid down and cried for an hour just wanting to vomit. Whoa. Oh, fuck. Okay, we'll cut me out doing that. No, because I'm now confused. Maybe that this is probably deeper than we think.

Yeah. Also, that would be horrible to see naked photos. It also then puts the memory and like the visualisation of them having sex which you don't want to visualise. I don't like any photo

of Jamie and his ex. Like, I don't like to see it. It makes me feel gross. So let alone a naked photo. I've seen like videos and stuff. No, no, not for me. He asked me what got me upset and I couldn't tell him anything so I just shook it off now I'm just so grateful now I'm just so regretful I'm so worried that he'll notice I've deleted the photos and call me out

but also I don't I just don't know what his reaction would be I mean he shouldn't have the photos out of respect of those girls of those girls or and also me right and he certainly shouldn't be looking for them i don't know if i've massively fucked up by invading his privacy and permanently deleting photos that were not mine firstly he probably honestly he probably doesn't even fucking know they're there he wouldn't open it and then it all being like on his life he would never no no they're not even in a hidden fault, there's no way he doesn't remember that. I also just don't think any, like... Toby got a new phone recently, and all of his old photos of Sadax are on the photos,

obviously at the top. But he's like, that's shit. It comes up in memories, and he's like, fuck off. And he's like, oh, my God, now I've got to go through my phone again and, like, delete them. We've never had a single problem in our relationship, and I'm so worried that I may have done something terribly inappropriate. Oh, you're so sweet.

The worst part is I cannot admit it to him what I've done and I can't undo it I've been going crazy with these images in my head and wondering when the last time he looked at them was and if he'll notice they're gone I'm terrified to find I'm terrified for him to ask me about it if he does if he does what will I say just come clean and admit the devil came over me or just deny it will he be too embarrassed to ask and will it turn into a deep-rooted issue honestly just go up to him be like i went crazy this is i saw the naked photos deleted every one of them cuff me if he's cross about it be like why the fucking then that says more about the situation you have you are overthinking this a lot it's so fine you have every fucking right i would have done that in a snippet like i honestly don't know i would have been like and throwing the laptop down and being like why the fuck is that i'm a

bit of a psycho like that i would have deleted them no i think it's more psycho that i would have like very quietly deleted them i think i would have been like what the fuck you delete them this is your i don't want to yeah i would have done that but eat potato potato i think yours is probably the more like mature way to do it like you wouldn't have thrown a hiss if it i would have probably screamed i would have probably thrown the ipad at him yeah but even though it's not his bottle because i really do think they would have been there from the icloud there's no way that he's like maliciously keeping these like look back on it there's no also like are boys that weird like surely no just like all they need to see is a pair of tits in the bottom like it's not going

to be like a face to the name is that no i agree i don't think they're going to keep it as like yeah yeah yeah all right so i thought that was quite good advice from us i think that's really good advice like you put enough it was a very easy dilemma because in my eyes you've literally got not a thing to worry about not a thing to worry about that's what shit happens i mean i go on my laptop and there's, like, photos of my house and I'm like... I'm like, Christ, now I've got to go through and delete them. I don't want to look at them. It's annoying. It's annoying, yeah. He probably just hasn't been bothered.

Also, it's an iPad, so it'll be syncing with an old iCloud, so it won't be necessarily the same as his phone. I really would. I don't even think about it. Yeah, my iCloud has, like, honestly, the weirdest shit on. Me too. Like, my iPad is just... Even photos of myself,

I know I've deleted it like on other things and I'm like, what the fuck? Why is that photo still working about? And like loads of my new messages won't be there, but like messages from 2027 will be there. Yeah. I thought you were about to say loads of my nude photos are there.

You go girl. All right. Story time. I've got the itchiest eye. Also hay fever is still very much so a thing, even though it's not meant to be in my eyes. Mine are a bit blurry. Okay. My first year at uni, this is story time. My first year at uni, I've got the itchiest eye also hay fever is still very much a thing even though it's not meant to be my eyes and my sneezing is okay

my first year at uni this is story time my first year at uni I started dating this guy called Jamie hello we matched on tinder and after he did

something and after he did some crafting we bumped into each other on my out grafting some grafting he crafted

some arts and crafts got my attention one thing led to another and he ended up in my bed this is a bit weird What? We're having fun

And game We're having fun and games When my ex's name Slips out Did you date your ex On my house And you're Well Janie's

Oh no As soon as his name Leaves my mouth I feel dreadful So I think fast And carry on exclaiming Hurry hurry Clever girl Clever Cookie Like I've come Now you've got to come Yeah hurry this name leaves my mouth i i feel dreadful so i think fast and carry on exclaiming hurry hurry clever girl clever like i've come now you've got a car yeah hurry hurry harry um thankfully he

didn't hear what i said um but it's so fair to say i feel so embarrassed quite a good save though very good save very quick on your feet i don't think i've ever blessed out like anyone no i was literally just thinking that i've never said it before in my life ever never strictly like no no no but if i do ever mention melissa's ex i'll know you start saying hurry it's gonna be like just now that we like it in our head that's a really good one for you, just in case you had like a mental... Oh,

don't be, stop. No, baby, you're in my lap. I would never, ever, ever say that.

Oh, fucking hell. Okay, we've got a new little segment of our podcast. Sorry. We also maybe need to talk to the fact that we're not drinking wine

because we've sacked off the wine segment slightly from... Slightly, We're mature girls. We're mature girls we're mature girls and look we can't be drinking one day to friday you know what i'm saying and sometimes like now we're recording at 11 and back in the day it used to be that we'd you know i'd come over to

your house and we'd hammer a bottle of wine this would be like a friday night and it was just more appropriate this is like as you say the progression of the podcast we're just coming into ourselves and we will maybe drink on occasion there's like something we're celebrating but today it's a kombucha and a nice latte yeah that's still not getting into a matcha yeah i like an ice one i like everything ice now me too ice match is much nicer you have to have a lot of honey in there no i can have it without but only ice tiny tiny bit of matcha like i like it basically cream like duck duck green you know what i mean like yeah really pale like almost like sage green mine goes like this green oh my match is strong and i do like a teaspoon and a half and it's like no no no i do like a grain anyway we've got a

lovely would you rather game to play would you rather know all about people your partner has been with or not know any of them i don't want to know what do you think oh i love to know i literally ask him like how was it what happened tell me when like how did you used to do that not oh my god i'm so much like ignorance is bliss no no i love to know but then that's happened to me a few times where we've been in, like, clubs or whatever, and the girl's been like, hey. And Jamie's like, hi. And I'm like, have you guys shat?

Oh, yeah, I know. I've had that quite a lot of times with Toby as well. Jamie did a lot of PAs, so I'm just going to feel like they were the glory days. Toby, like, raking in all the girls when he worked at Snog Yoga when he was about 17. He what? Deathly Hallows. He rated them all no no but like all like models like when they first starting out to work at snog yoga they just hire models don't ask oh my god it's true because they work on like zero hour contracts god i reckon i would have like

seen yes he probably picked up a bunch of girls there no who knows right so that's the end of the episode i love it i feel at home in this gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous new set. It feels really cool. I'm going to just snap a picture of you right now. And guys, just... Smile. Guys, I've missed you all. I've had a little... We've missed you too.

I really, really, thanks for holding the fort, Melissa. It's been stunning. We had some educational things on. Emily spoke about her baps being done, which was honestly epic. And they look phenomenal, guys. Just to update you. Yeah. Gave them a squeeze.

We nearly made her run this morning, though, because we'd crossed the road. Sophie just walks out in the middle of the road thinking it's going to be a green man. It was a red man. And the traffic goes boop. And they're like coming in hot. I mean, Melissa was like,

run, and Emily with the new baps. Shit, you're not meant to run for a while, are you? We need to stop calling them baps. It's highly bad. But anyway, yeah, I had a little time off. I'm just so appreciative for all of you guys. For the patience. For the patience.

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