Wednesdays - 101: Who's sending my partner mystery gifts?!

Episode Date: March 22, 2023

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and we're not experts in anything in fact we just challenge all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice

but as we said we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help We love giving you guys advice, but as we said. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Hey guys, we're back for another round of Wednesdays We Drink Wine. Guys, we had the nicest day yesterday.

So we did a lovely Palacios class first. We're basically Cali girls. And then we did a sound bath and then we went for a lovely breakfast. Yeah, Melissa had lunch. Slash really odd. And then i felt really bizarre we were eating i don't know if it maybe it was the sound bath that made me feel because i feel absolutely fine now no stop that's you must be full of anxiety no i think i'm just so run down like i haven't stopped i did valdez and i came back then i had like four days and i went

away for four days then i did paris and i'm moving in a week so i've like had to like it's just like you can't you get back you don't even have time i know so I've like had to like it's just like you get back you don't even have time to unpack before you go again yeah your house must be full of mess oh my gosh you guys want to know I'm living with Sophie for a bit it's so exciting slash Jamie didn't even know about it we surprised him with that

and he's this morning he was thrilled I know and Melissa messaged him going can't wait to live with you and he goes huh and he goes when kiss kiss and i was like oh he doesn't know he was probably like what is she talking about so basically he meant like the wedding like we're gonna be living together three days they're not that big a deal so i'm gonna be moving in with sophie and jamie because my house basically won't be ready for me to fully live in so i'm gonna be going from sophie and jamie's's slash to Toby's for like three or four weeks. Lovely.

Stunning. Stunning stuff. When did you do it? So the 27th. Stunning. Oh my God. No I'm so excited. I'm so excited.

We can just get up and go to parties. Yeah. Our little routine will be the same. We've got to talk about what we're drinking today because they're very

tiny winey vibe. They are the super cute. Mine's 19% alcohol. Oh my gosh. Wow. White box cocktails. It's got a little frogster on it. What does mine have?

Squeezies. Margarita. Classic cosmopolitan I've got. Okay. This is. I like this shit. Tequila lime triple set salt. Wait.

They put the salt in it. That's so smart. No, I don't like that. This is. These are very strong miniature little cocktails but we were just actually having this discussion i feel like when you go out for like a cocktail the cocktail glasses are really small like they're like these things and then like the time there's not actually much in there you just sip it really slowly not if you're me

down it down to them so quickly wait what is it that you're really good at downing I don't down anything martinis I don't down anything what are you talking about what's the one that James Bond has I don't down them no I know but you just drink them so fast I've never drank them since that night that was my second time drinking them

and I got it so wrong do you remember the next day I was like Melissa I've never felt this we came in here and I was like I had to have a glass of red wine i honestly genuinely that was the worst i was impressed with how quickly you're drinking them it's because i guess the olive brine like really like depletes the alcohol i think they just make you so drunk you cut your numb yeah like i was like whoa i don't remember anything about that anyway these are cool they're 100 mils they're tiny tiny little things but i was thinking like you know a picante right yeah it's i always laugh because i'm literally like it's a thimble

on ice right tiny whiny messages guys you guys have sent in some really sweet messages thank you so much for supporting us and listening to us for 100 episodes. Jeez. Jeez. Do we know how many years that is? Maybe like two? It was mid-lockdown. Yeah. Well, no, it wasn't because we had meet and greet. No, we started in one of the gaps of lockdown and then we had to carry on because we went

into another lockdown. We had to carry on because I was- But we were working together so we were allowed to- And also I was in your bubble. It was just me and then you guys. Oh my God, it's true. And then didn't you go away god it's all a blur don't think so what a ride we've been through a pandemic what a ride

what a ride all right well tiny whiny messages so many of you guys honestly we're just gonna read out for you because they're just so lovely thank you both so much for making us girls feel like i feel a little more normal with our confusing and stressful lives oh my god sweetness you guys also like you guys make us feel more normal with your dilemmas and everything you make me feel a bit more crazy because you're all so normal and i'm so yeah but then also some it's so sorry some of the advice we give give is quite crazy i feel like normally on the whole are quite sensible sometimes there's the odd bit of crazy advice like i will go through their phone. To me, like, it will always live down in history

that a girl ordered a pizza and... I mean, it's just that I tell people that all the time. Same. I think it's the best thing I've ever heard. It's so good. And that a boy... What was the other one? Oh, yeah, he was on a date. And then he went out, flew to Barcelona, and she was...

Oh, my God, that's a terrible story. Love you girls so much. You made me laugh so much when I've been solo. Oh, that's so sweet my friend and I are obsessed with your podcast we love listening weekly at the gym and laughing whilst on the treadmill oh my god gorgeous hi girls love the pod keeping me sane as a new mum I look forward to the episodes each week listening to your podcast has made me feel a lot less alone in tough times thank you gorgeous guys oh my god guys so sweet and also let me tell you when when we've had low tough times like this podcast has saved us and like all your dilemmas and everything like it's honestly like the most unbelievable rewarding

thing yeah yeah yeah it really is it is like so it feels makes me feel so less alone i know such a big little family big little family oh right we have to um discuss some really important topics because listen do you want to kick it off because you you've been i i've apparently upset a couple of people by giving some wrong facts if i'm being honest i watched one tiktok video that was educating me on the whole selena hayley like um feud or apparent feud that's happening and I just got my facts from this one video there's more stuff about the whole situation apparently

there's more to the story but we I honestly just think it's speculation there's nothing really going on between the two of them I think that if everyone's just gun homing for them both like oh well not really Selina is it hayley and people being horrible to selena about her like weight and like her medication like the way she looks

oh it's just i know it sounds really bad but like i think if i was hayley i would really struggle it would almost make me then resent justin yeah same and i would almost be like i have to break up with you because i just can't deal with like this i that's just me i've obviously got insecurities that i need to work on if that's what i'm thinking but like same it would really get to me i feel really bad that i really do i would be so mean to james same i would be like this is all your fault i'd be like i'm hated why did you ever date her yeah yeah yeah yeah 100 god we're not right we need no as in like that's just me coming from places i can understand how hard it is because i would don't even think i'd be able to handle it as well as she is yeah no i would literally i would honestly she surely must get upset with justin because also selena's probably

like fucking hell it's my ex-boyfriend i don't care she probably said i just want to move on oh my god it's just very difficult very very difficult should we move on to the oscars okay let's move on so guys the oscars bag was worth more than 120 000 no yeah melissa every year we talk about this this is what makes me know that we've done this podcast for a while okay right hold on hold on okay right contains item like lipo i thought they had like a facelift surely this isn't right lipo suction hair sculpting a facelift an italian vac vacation 25 000 pounds of project management fees for home restoration from maison construction that's a sick ass joke how many party bags was there i'm just baffled because like surely these people don't need that like give it

why i would almost find that offensive if someone gives me a party bag with liposuction like a gift in it and a hair transplant or whatever i wouldn't say no to the italian vacation that's for free italian vacation and the house renovation so i can deal with that like half the people there are like skin and bone anyway they're all on on parisian anyway sort of encouraging a bit bizarre behavior you heard about this on purpose on parisian no it's like medication i think it was for diabetes and everyone's taking it and oh it stops you being america yeah medicating she got so much hate because everyone's like oh my god she's been on what's it how's it a zen pic so like people are like oh and they're just being so nasty about her on tiktok and i'm just like

give it a lot of hate in this world at the moment can everyone just be kind apparently tiktok's just the place where people are so nasty about one another my god it just makes me not all of this is horrible emmy our eyelash woman she um her eyelash woman our friend who does our eyelashes she does did does tiktok obviously and she did a tiktok of like getting my eyelash done in my house and she was like i was like oh how did it go she's like people were so mean about all three of us me and jamie and i was like read me the comments just i don't want to i was like i need to go on oh my god i would never read them like who cares oh i quite like reading them does it make you laugh sometimes it's so funny sometimes when i get hate on my instagram like lol it makes me know the daily mail comments are comical they're all like sophie's jamie stalker like they fully think i'm like an equipped stalker that's not the right word but like

a successful story oh my god and they also think like that i'm the man i'm his bitch oh my god for god's sake yeah there is just so much rubbish on the internet at the moment like who has the time to sit there and just write all these weird ass little trolls that's what they could they're literally trolls so strange we've got dynamic responses this is the height one right. To the girl who is self-conscious about her height being six foot two. I'm six foot one and my boyfriend is five foot 11.

This was a concern of mine when we first met eight years ago, but if I'd let it stop me saying yes to him, I would have missed out on the best years of my life. He's literally my soulmate and we are so happy. In reality,

the hesitation about the height was all in my head and I've never had an issue. Although funny, you girls mentioned Rosie Huntington-Whiteley and Jason Satan, as I've always thought that if anyone ever makes a comment,

I would say, would you say that to Jason Satan's face? Damn straight. Damn straight. God, it's so true. Like, I honestly will be taller than Jamie

in my heels, surely. I think Zendaya in Tom Holland looking at this photo, she must be a good... It looks like she's almost like... Vogue's definitely taller than Spencer. Although he doesn't like to say it.

But I think so. They look legendary. I don't think it's really a problem. They look legendary. Right, okay. Off the back of the porn chat last week, someone sent in their experience with an ex,

referred to as A. Okay, so we're going to refer to the, interesting, we've never had this before, so we're going to call the ex-boyfriend someone called A. Okay. I was dating A for just to the... Interesting. We've never had this before. So we're going to call the ex-boyfriend someone called A. Okay. I was dating A for just under two years and he has some sexual issues on and off throughout this.

If he was stressed, he said, he just couldn't get it up or keep it up. I didn't pressure him about this as I thought it would just add to the problem. It all accumulated in us trying to have sex. And he burst into tears and basically said it was because he wasn't he wasn't attractive and i wasn't that i wasn't attractive and i wasn't fashionable what we spoke more and it turned out he'd had a porn addiction throughout our relationship and he couldn't get off get off without quite extreme porn which would be a way out of either of our comfort zones hold on a. So he said to you that he wasn't attracted to you. And that your bad fashion is almost worse

than your attractive face. Then it proceeded to him, like I guess, revealing that he had a porn addiction and he wouldn't find anything sexy unless it's this extreme porn. He's not, wow. This is bad.

This happens a lot, I think. The relationship ended really badly and I was left to pick up my self-esteem. Then his friend, G, and his girlfriend, L L broke up soon after. I'd always been friends with the girlfriend. So we got some wine and had a heart to heart. Oh my God.

What's this next bit? She told me that G had also had a porn addiction that had really impacted their relationship and our exes used to meet up and talk about their porn addictions. They would swap recommendations no i'm done and complain over how we didn't like look like look like porn stars and they both expressed they were unhappy with our bodies and then them not meeting their fantasies i was shocked that these two grown-ass men literally let a porn addiction ruin an adult real life relationship and also they

they enabled each other in this way it's all so bizarre anyway i met someone lovely about six months after who i'm so happy with so it worked out well but this will this will always creep me out when i think of it this is the that's probably one of the weirdest stories i think we've ever had written into this podcast i think that probably happens so much porn is so addictive it's like having conversations this video is really good i think people probably do do that but i don't know see we're so naive in it i feel really unknowledgeable right commenting on these things but i'm happily saying they're assholes to even say

this thing they watch these porn people and they think every girl looks like that no it's really scared me i'm gonna have to look at porn because i don't know what a porn stars vagina looks like what are they watching do you remember we had this conversation we were like what is the porn stars vagina because are we meant to have one i'm gonna look it up i'm gonna look it up too not right now don't worry oh i'm going to look it up. I'm going to look it up too. Not right now, don't worry. Oh, I'm going to right now. But then we'll meet up and compare notes. No, I'm going to right now.

What, a porn star's vagina? Yeah. Surely it'll be blocked. That's like, you can't look at that stuff on your phone, can you? Yeah, my dad. Oh, no! No, why should I do that?

What, what, what? It's an open vagina. Shamey, shamey, shamey. Why did I do that to my dad? I need to see it myself I didn't picture that Wait oh my god For a minute Hold on what is that big white thing

What's the big white thing I don't know why in my mind I thought it'd be closed Also not gonna lie why are they so pink They're all like baby pink Like neon baby pink Oh my god she's got No why am i looking at this on the podcast is it clip piercing she's just like like you know when you go get a smear test like the things oh yeah open why is she clamping it over with that right i'm not sure why we did that

we really got too involved with the porn situation sorry that just really intrigued right basically it's unrealistic everyone's got different shapes and sizes of everything nothing's perfect nothing's right nothing's normal i'm guessing there's a certain porn star i think they've all got no labias that's what i've been called is it labias sorry this is a whole other topic that we should go into one time but that's just not like that's their own problems they have to deal with that thank god you are a therapist i think because that's like that's not good he's gonna constantly be comparing things yeah and also it's quite nice that i think you have the other girlfriend the ex-girlfriend too

to be like at least we weren't alone in this like they're just they've just got some issues they need to work on exactly and you know that it's not you not living up to people's standards like their unrealistic standards right dreams about boyfriend cheating my granddad passed away a few days before i had this dream and him and i was super close he appeared in my dream and told me that my boyfriend at the time had been cheating on me for for a few months and was about to break up with me oh my god we were long distance in the time in the dream my granddad told me not to worry as it meant better things were coming a few days later my boyfriend at the time did break up with me over text laws and told me he was traveling the world with a girl he'd met there oh my god three years later i'm the happiest i've ever been with a different man who treats me

like an absolute queen i'm always so grateful for that dream holy shit i believe in that sort of shit why does this mean that we need to listen to every dream that we have then? I'm like. That's a real contradiction to what we previously have said. Yeah, because I have really spooky weird dreams. I'm not going to lie. We all do. No, Melissa and I's dreams are nuts. They're very strange.

And they're things that we will never reveal to the world. Yeah, mine are really odd. I have really disturbingly weird dreams. Me too. It's vivid, long, long dreams. It's from the minute I go to sleep to the minute I wake up. Oh God, it's just so annoying. It's almost like we need to get hypnotized to get ridly weird dreams. Me too. It's vivid, long, long dreams. It's from the minute I go to sleep to the minute I walk. Oh God, it's just so annoying.

It's almost like we need to get hypnotized to get rid of these dreams. Yeah, we have really spooky dreams. We have really spooky dreams. I always feel like that's probably your subconscious gut. And then like your granddad's like getting you that message like you're correct, like this is happening. The fact that it was so accurate,

like that he's been cheating for months and he's going to break up with you. That's mental that's mental he was traveling the world with a girl he'd met out my god he just broke up with you on text well you know what you sound like you're in a much better place so i actually had a dream that oh this is obviously just like the breakup still haunting me slightly but like i had a dream that i was like with back with the person that i was with when i was that i was dating when we had broken up no no no and he was saying to me and i was very fond of this guy at the time and he was so lovely but he was saying to me in the dream he was like toby's gone and i was like what and he was like toby's

gone and i was like what do you mean he was like he went ages ago we've been together this whole time and i was like no i'm sure i was with toby and he was like no he's gone have you told toby yeah it was so weird and horrible and it felt so wrong and i was like no he's gone have you told toby yeah it was so weird and horrible and it felt so wrong and i was like no i'm sure that this is not right it was horrible no and then i woke up to his next thing i was like oh thank god and then toby's like i'm so glad you said that because i dreamed he shouldn't be the other day oh my god i dreamt i dreamt he shouldn't take me to it oh what happens with the time so awful there's no last dream you wake up and you're so good and in the dream you're like what Oh my god, I dream of dreamt of Tisha on Jamie too. It's awful. Oh, what happens with the shine?

So awful. There's no ass dream. You wake up and you're so guilty. And in the dream, you're like, what are you doing? And in my dream, I told everyone. I literally, I got like a whole meeting and I was like, I just want everyone to know this happened. She rallied the troops in. So, of course, his thoughts are so weird.

I'd love to go to like a dream analysis person. Because ours are not right. Some people don't dream. Like they just don't or they can't remember i think when you're in a lucid sleep no is that right rem sleep rem sleep when you dream it's a light sleep is it it's normally very early in the morning that we dream yeah that's that's the real you know what's mad after they only last about 30 seconds but at the time they feel like hours no mine do no no dreams are like if you google it they're so short

no mine are honestly all night long no it feels like they are they're not i go to sleep and i wake up and it's the same dream always yeah but it could last like half an hour maybe less and it feels like i swear they don't last long i know it's so weird isn't it i've never known that that is bonkers speaking i'm sure lisa jeans mine are not i would love to have a lucid dream where i can control everything i've only had that like once twice in my life oh my god the best thing ever so far and if anyone wakes you up you wake up a little bit you're like just go back i know just get back into that dream hey you're a canadian podcast listener and that makes you important to us.

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my god demi time and got a dog very different to how i guess a normal relationship would progress you rush the honeymoon period everything is just on fast forward also the fact you got a dog very early on is like quite a big commitment lockdown though the lockdown dogs yeah for a while everything seemed perfect couldn't be happier but now that the world has opened up and life is basically normal again pandemic wise i don't think it's working we have very different priorities i want to travel and live abroad again and he just wants to work and buy a house it doesn't feel right and i'm anxious and prefer when he's not around oh no oh shit am i crazy how do i break up with him what if it's the wrong decision oh my god right i think you need to break up with him you just gotta do it this is a clear like yeah 101

there's no other option you have to just break up with him you will feel you will feel the way oh my god the way that you left is just phenomenal it's the best liberating feeling yeah life's too short oh god that's so tough when you're living oh my god so i was living with my um at the time yeah i was terrible i left the flat and basically his friend called him up and made him leave. I couldn't do it myself. Yeah, living with them is a whole other... Which was very cowardly of me and I would not do that again.

That was the wrong way around. You need to just sit them down and be like... No, no, it's awful living with them, I agree. Think about a game plan for yourself, like where you're next going to go, sort of sort yourself out first and then just be honest with them, tell them and be like,

I actually don't... I'm going to get out of the house maybe for a few days, sort yourself out somewhere you can go and live and be like I'll leave you x y and z amount of time to move out I don't know if you're renting together or what when your lease is coming up but ultimately if you don't want to be around him you need to probably get yourself out of there first because if it's your decision it's probably the best way of doing it yeah I would find somewhere to stay for five days I would look into like who your friends, who you can live with. Look into living situations.

Get the breaklaws. Get your ducks in a row. Is ducks or ducks? Ducks in a row. Get your ducks in a row. Get the breaklaws in there. And then sit him down and be like, yeah. It's done.

It's just, and don't give him a way out. Don't be like, I think, I feel. You have to be like, I am not. Don't want to be with you anymore. I don't want to be with you anymore. And I don't, there's no, there's to me, it's just. It's me, and don't give him a way out. Don't be like, I think, I feel. You have to be like, I am not. Don't want to be with you anymore. I don't want to be with you anymore. And I don't, there's no, to me it's just. Me and not you. Yeah.

And if he's like, no, I want to try and save it. Oh God, that's even worse when they try and then like, you're so like, I'm done. And living with them then. You've got to just go. Get yourself out. Do the coward way and get out and message him. Sorry, that's so bad.

No, no. I think you get your bags packed, ready to go, sort yourself out, you have the conversation, you leave. Who looks after the dog? Or you go stay at your friend's. Maybe he doesn't mind looking after it, maybe you don't mind looking after it, maybe you're going to co-parent, maybe one person's going to take the dog.

Yeah, I think you ultimately put yourself out. But ultimately, this happens all the time. People break up in much worse scenarios when they're married with children and loads of dogs and they've got houses everywhere and there's a lot to sort out this is actually a very easy thing to do in the grand scheme of like breakups do you know what i mean yeah agreed you can do it do not do not put it off any longer just because then it becomes like you'll resent him maybe and then it's like it will end on a sour note which isn't very nice you want to just get it done and you also don't have to be anxious and like feeling like queering

your own mind right dilemma two mystery valentine's gift ladies my partner keeps telling me i'm overthinking this and i'm letting it ruin our relationship we've been together four years and every valentine's day he's either received a text checking he's okay and lots of love hearts from a friend or he has received a token gift but personal to him delivered to home. Who could it be?

What the hell? Wait, hold on. Do we think this is like an ex-girlfriend or something? Yeah. Checking in but why Valentine's Day? No.

No, no, I can't. I can't. This is fucking weird. I've got something really that I can't. This year I thought it would be different as he has sold his

house and moved in with me learn to hold he still received a gift delivered to my house no no he doesn't answer why i'm annoyed by this and he called me a psycho for trying to work at hers should i just let it go no he's gaslighting the shit out hold on hold on hold on hold on hold on a minute so he's obviously got an ex-girlfriend or seeing someone fuck but you know what's fucked like he's given them the new address like fair enough he's kind of like oh like she's still a bit in love with me she's sending me things like whatever no fair enough he's like why don't you know who this person is if you've been with him for four years sorry like who is she check the number but why do but why isn't

he saying like it's from x y and z is he just going oh it's from a mystery lover and you're just going okay i'll wait till we move call the number immediately oh my god you are so relaxed no no no this would drive me i i need to log into this boy's phone immediately and call that girl who the hell is saying i are you okay this is fishy as fuck and if this is not giving him the ick then this is a big problem if he's not like oh my god this psycho girl will not stop messaging me fair enough and you say who exactly who it is it's the ex-girlfriend i don't know like this to me sounds like he's got some unfinished business with some girl and they're like still keeping in contact he

might be sending her things as well he probably is they're exchanging tokens on valentine's day i would deep dive into this i'm so sorry it's also the changing of address like he's obviously He might be sending her things as well. He probably is. They're exchanging tokens on Valentine's Day. I would deep dive into this. I'm so sorry. It's also the changing of address. Like he's obviously messaged her like, FYI, I've changed my address. This is it.

So you want to send me another Valentine's Day gift? And is he literally like laughing at his girlfriend? Being like, oh, she won't mind. It's just ridiculous. I'm not liking the sound of this at all. You need to... Is that a bit brutal? No, I don't think it's fucking weird. I'm not missing brutal for her. i don't want to make you feel

like you're stupid for not questioning it you're obviously just very well no she is questioning it you've written into us and you are completely am i just being a psycho no absolutely not and he's making you the reason why we're confused because he's obviously making you feel like you're psycho even like questioning it which is ridiculous it's not that's the definition of gaslighting in my idea yeah i'm upset i'm upset for you you need to say to him immediately call the number you just do your own digging and then and then question and be like look it's come to my house now like this is a problem yeah i don't want some stranger having my thing so shall i get the police involved because you're a stalker or you're going to tell me who this mystery person is your friend it's bizarre absolutely it's so

inappropriate it's highly inappropriate right dilemma three icked out by a guy by a guy's dress sense oof it's quite a common one i recently got out of a four-year relationship so obviously got on the dating app and nothing really clicked with anyone except recently lovely i've got a third date with this guy tonight things are going well he's very smart and good looking except i find myself not a huge fan of his dress sense i'm quite into fashion myself but this sounds super super superficial have you ever started to be icked out by someone's clothes or should i just get over it also side note he's super nice and super clear that he's into me very upfront upfront and a bit of a gentleman. I had to beg for my ex's attention.

So this enthusiasm is freaking me out. Is this self-sabotage, basically, she's saying. Yeah, the enthusiasm thing will be self-sabotage. Self-sabotage, yeah. You've got to just ride with that. The dress sense thing I so get. Oh my God, yeah. Also like skinny jeans, excantum.

Yeah. When they're sprayed onto you. I'm sorry, it's just not for me. Like, get some bag in there. No, let me tell you, let me tell you, let me tell you what's in it.

Okay, right. One of those weird hats. Okay, that's like one of those hats. A bucket hat. A skin tight white t-shirt with like a long chain.

Who the fuck wears this? Skinny skinny jeans. PGD. I'm thinking of like fashion like back in the day and I feel like, you know what I'm thinking of? Snow White.

Because I'm watching The Hills, someone wore that exact outfit and i almost threw up watching it oh my god no wait i've got loads of shoes this is the biggest sick jeans with suit shoes bombing my mouth what do you mean like suit shoes with the laces oh yeah yeah yeah and with jeans do people do that yeah with the suit shirt they just pop the jeans on yeah it's awful god that sounds no once we were in the we were at the marlboro train station and my sister was trying to explain to my mom this ick she was like the worst thing in the world and this guy comes up hydra he goes she was trying to google what suit shoes were and he goes basically what i'm wearing he was really good looking my mom was like hello oh my god that's so funny um i don't think oh god sorry if you got the egg you've got the egg

i don't think you do have the egg though i think you think it's going well you like i don't think that you need to be a dramatic about the clothes sense that the dress sense thing let's just ignore that for a while you can change that take and shop it also yeah like just ride the wave like you don't have to make a decision right and you're into it so but i do think if you like someone enough like their clothes aren't gonna bother you wouldn't you wouldn't even think twice no no no i'd be like i really like him like everything's great but like he dresses no i'm like oh my god sweet little jamie and his weird little outfit as if he were saying weird i'm not like oh got the egg yeah you know when i have had the i do think though when you're dating no no i don't know sweet little Jamie and his weird little outfits. If you wear something weird, I'm not like, Ooh, got the egg. Yeah.

You know, when I have had the egg. I do think though, when you're dating, you don't know someone. I've got the egg with outfits and I just, you're itched out by them as a person. I know exactly.

But when you, I think when you're dating someone and you haven't really known them for very long, it's almost like you overanalyze every little thing. Like, are they perfect? You always have this like subconscious checklist in your head. Yeah. So I think that if everything else is good, like don't let that bother you if it does bother you either it'll bother you

too much the point you can't date him again that's fair enough if it doesn't and everything else is right and you're like am i being superficial yeah maybe you are so guys skincare routine i've really been lax, haven't I, with everything. I've only just started gymming a month before my wedding. Like, honestly, bearing in mind... No, you've always gymmed. No, I haven't gymmed since I got the dog. Oh, that's true. We had a bit of a lapse in the gym sessions.

I basically had three months of, like, no self-care. Like, I'm honestly don't... Really weird time to decide to do that just before my wedding as well. But she's back in... What, the dog? Yeah, the dog, honestly. No, as in, like, me not self-caring. Like, I stopped doing red stuff. No, you're fine. She's doing it all now. No, you had the Morpheus 8 thing. but she's what the dog yeah the dog honestly no as in like me not self-caring like i stopped going

doing no you're fine now she's doing it all now no you had them you had the morpheus eight thing the facials the laser facials i had the morpheus thing that was really good i um i've been really vigorous with like this micro needling pen i got dharma pen but i'm scared like you're all gonna go get it off amazon you need to be careful you need to really like youtube how to use it because it's like little needles you can like tear your skin and actually make it worse and you've got to clean it with like this like proper solution i mean if you want i can post stories of it but like please do youtube it because i'm not a doctor sure and but it has really helped close my pores so i put my serums on i'm using paula's choice i use her gray serum on my nose no gray toner on my nose which is like um

resurfacing interesting for blackheads in the morning or the evening evening evening everything in the evening cheeks i use the pore closing one which is blue toner i didn't do the derma rolling forehead i use a vitamin c um one for my pigmentation and over my pigmentation of my cheeks and then i just put on big big thick thick thick vichy prose cream yeah yeah the thick thick balm lovely and i take it on i use an eyelash serum to make my eyelashes grow lovely and so that's it's quite, you're quite repaired actually. We've done quite well. All the outfits are done now.

Yeah. I think you were freaking yourself out by like you need six months and actually it's like what am I going to do? you don't do anything. You're almost going repression.

You're like not going to do anything. Yeah, you don't do anything. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's always like not even. The two month run up like for the big me weddings like really kicked my butt into care. Yeah.

And the month run up for the English wedding I'm like, kicked my butt into care. Yeah. And the month run up for the English wedding I'm like I just want to live with it. I'm so excited. Ideally I would have started it two months ago but that's okay.

We move. We move. Fact 50 every single second of the day U-tan face spray tan mist I keep not using it.

That stuff's really good I really like it. Which you know why I don't use it because you do the the dermapen needle and I think it goes into the What about in the morning? So you don't have night. use it because you do the the dermapen needle and I think it goes into the hot what about in the morning

so you dermapen at night but it takes quite a while to dry it does the tan luxe one was just like dun dun and really better

yeah the u-tan like wet on my face for out and out oh god yeah and then the dog what are you using oh I use a lot maybe that's how many

things you do crikey I just do like five like ch ch ch that's a lot most people do like ch ch ch nah oh no Jamie does it and he just literally will do the forehead oh my god he's so sweet I just do like five like that's a lot most people do like neck oh no

Jamie does it and he just literally would do the forehead oh my god he's so sweet and I just see like the neck white the face is so tan no it's

that was from France so bad he's got like a full top like it's like white and then a t-shirt tan like what do they call it

a farmer's tan line yeah right not so single diaries um so the only thing to really update you on is that i went to paris um so if you know everything but i went to see this amazing thing called crazy horse which is like i mean everyone goes in paris it's so sick like a lap dance show no not at all not at all it's like a cabaret show it's like very high end

they're very talented dancers not Not that lap dancers aren't. It did not mean that. But it's not like that at all. Yeah. It's incredible. And it's like very, and every famous person ever has been there.

Like they have them all on the side of the wall. It's so cool. Like Elvis Presley's been. Like so sick. Like everyone's been. I'm sad. I want to go.

Maybe we extend my hand and we go there. It would be epic. Like it's honestly like the most amazing I've ever seen. Maybe we extend my hand and we go there. It would be epic. It's honestly the most amazing thing I've ever seen. And the dancers were really talented. And they were all so beautiful. I'm not going to give too much away if you guys want to go and see it.

But it was epic. I had the best time. Lots of lovely food. Lots of booze. I'm excited now to rest, restore, do basically the wedding prep with Sophie. Now that's what I'm going to do. No drinking. Healthy food.

You're not going to drink until my wedding? You know that's not me. That's not good. I will drink, but yeah. Well, anyway, on that note, we should rate our little cocktail.

Okay. For convenience purposes, I'm going to say that it's an eight. Yeah, same. Very convenient. And it's actually not bad for a can. Sometimes the cans aren't that great. This is quite good.

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