Wednesdays - 102. Skincare Essentials, Sweaty Pits & The Summer I Turned Pretty

Episode Date: September 2, 2025

Hey Tinies! This week, Sophie shares the awkward moment she started sweating buckets at a dress fitting with her new stylist. Melissa is completely obsessed with The Summer I Turned Pretty and is 100% Team Conrad. It’s got us reminiscing about hot boys on holiday and summer flings. Weren’t they the best!! Plus, the girls share their current skincare must-haves and test out Sophie’s new lip plumper live on the pod. It’s suppose to be better than filler but does it live up to the hype… In this week’s dilemmas, one listener thinks his girlfriend is THE one but there’s a slight issue. He slept with someone else after meeting his girlfriend but before they went on their first date. Should he tell her?Another Tiny has had enough. Her boyfriend is so messy, she’s considering charging him rent for the mountain of laundry he’s built up. Can you ever change a partner’s bad habits or, is that just wishful thinking?Enjoy the episode x If you're pregnant, please seek medical advice before using any new products. Got a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail]--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Exec Producer: Ewan Newbigging-ListerProducer: Helen BurkeAssistant Producer: Rhoda AbrokwaVideo Editor: Lizzie McCarthySocial: Laura Coughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello, I'm Catherine Ryan, and this is Write Me Dirty, the podcast where two comedians writes steamy, ridiculous erotica about each other. I give them a bizarre prompt, think Apocalypse Must Include a Zombie, and they read their spicy stories aloud while I judge them on sexiness, funniness, and sheer chaos. It's hilarious, awkward, and occasionally, kind of hot. Write Me Dirty, Thursdays just got thirstier. Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not.

I'm not a doctor either, and we're not psychologists, and we're not experts in anything. In fact, we just challenge a lot of shit, so... And we love giving you guys advice, but as we said, we love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Hey guys, welcome to the episode. Okay, right, we've got a good episode today. We discuss how we're both a bit on the smelly side. Mine's Pregnancy smell. I don't know what Melissa's is. We talk about skincare tips, what we're doing at the moment with our skin, facials, that kind of thing, makeup, skin makeup. And we also talk about summer I town pretty and nostalgic summer romances that we used to have. Enjoy the episode. Right, we're back kiddos. with another thing.

Melissa stinks and I just need to tell you because... But I look chic You look really chic. That sort of lace does make you smile can I just say?

Oh this pit's always absolutely delightful and you know what I don't put deodorant on so it is my fault Oh that is really really your fault I'm really silly

I am so smelty in this trimester so smanty Guys whenever we walk past and anything smells she thinks it's me It's me it's me I'm like no it's not

you we walk past bins that stank And she goes, I know it's me, it's just it's. I'm like, I smell myself, but I can't look out whether it's like my sense of smell. It's so strong. But I am like, what the fuck am I? That is just so hideous. And I have this stylus chesting.

New stylist, so cool, so lovely. Anyway, I'm in this tiny room getting changed and I'm doing this Disney show. And obviously, you know, this Disney and the guy's filming. There's no time. I came back from the gym as much shout. It's all going on. and I am when I tell you there was bees of sweat I don't know whether it was fat there was a camera on me

I had this new stylist who hadn't just Melissa there were bees as well he was putting me into these dresses and I didn't want to address it you know when you're like do I just pretend that my body is not wet with sweat and then half an hour into the dressing I was like it must have dried oh no Willis was only but a fan on me oh my god then the sweat dried and then I was like

that is me smelling it was just one of them and then once I smelt myself I spattered more because I was so anxious Oh and you can't You can't deswear And also I'm one of those people I've never ever smell you

And now you're one of those people It's only smells if you go in the bit But like I think everyone if I Probably get in my pit that smells They're like babe if you go in my armpit it's gonna smell You've got in a habit where you probably have never done that before in your life sniffing your pit Because I've never never

No, but I never smell my pits. It's actually really not that bad. I never go like this, Melissa. Ever. Ever. But that, doing it then, I'm like, not that fresh, no. Oh my God, we're so excited because Real Housewives of London has just launched. I haven't watched it because we are going to do a cinema viewing.

Okay, when are we going to do that then? When Bella's back from Spain, which is like next week. Okay. And we're going to do it the three of us and you, because Melissa's never watched Real Housewives. I have a few bits on enough, but nothing like you guys. You're going to get hooked. ladies of London or whatever. I hope it's good.

Me too. And the reviews all right? I just, well you know who did it, Sam King. Oh my God, sweet Sam King. I haven't thought about it. He was a legend. He was our maid and Chelsea producer. He was so sweet.

He was the biggest legend of all legends and he's just gone on to do great things. So he said it's pretty punchy and amazing. But I hope it's good. I just never, I never think English reality TV is as good. But then I will say that Lisa

Redder? No. Vanderpam? Yeah. She's a Brit. She obviously put Beverly Hills, whatever, on the map. Well, she did. Yeah, you're right.

I mean, if she could just, like, come back and be in this one. Oh, my God, that would be iconic. Vanderpams are really cool surname as well, isn't it? Yeah. It's just, like, iconic. I feel like there's only one Vanderpamp in the bottle. Also, Lisa Vanderpump. Like, I can just imagine being like the most stunning woman back in the day.

I remember if she was. Like, just so beautiful. So stunning. I would love to look like her when I'm all. Like the hair is just really glammy and just like really like lovely. Even when she first joined the... I was like stunning woman. So absolutely stunning, phenomenal.

Right. So can we talk about the summer time pretty? Oh my God, guys. I have... Tell me. I find jelly bean so irritating that I have to bite my lip. I think she's so fucking selfish. I just...

She's pissing me off. Guys, I understand that we're going for the car next door. I get it. But why does she have? to dress like that. Can't we just jush up the outfits a little bit? Like, the outfits are so criminal to me. I'm sorry I'm going to be a bitch. I really like the friend. Me too. She just looks like Kate Moss. Just like a young Kate Moss. Don't get wrong. She's absolutely sounding amazing, very in charge her. But to me, Kate Moss and

her problem, it was unbeatable. So the only reason why I've been alerted to it is because I saw this, I don't know if it was a model agency saying that like she was scouted and like, and discovered. I think because she looked like Kate Moss and people. just couldn't get over it. Oh God, yeah. Rain Spencer. Don't get me wrong, guys. I don't mean to be a bitch.

She was Kate Moss's daughter, I believe it. You know who I absolutely love. Who is the girl, who I think is the most beautiful person in the world. Who was in that... No, no, no. The weird program that you and I watched when they were like outcast or something and they were like...

Outter banks. What's she called? Madeline. Fuck me. Fuck me. I've never seen the case I hear. It's like the eye shape, the nose, the mouth, the dimples. It's the whole thing.

She is... That's chef's curse. Oh my gosh, she's in a new film that's just coming out on Netflix. I can't wait for it. I just think she's so phenomenal on everything about her. I'm just like upset with... Same. Okay, so Jelly Bean, love.

I know she's gorgeous and like she's a beautiful, lovely girl. Yeah. But I just wish the styling of the show could like not be that. I don't like the styling. But also American dress sense is very different in like the suburbs, like where they are. Like we see Americans as people like Haley and Belle. He did, Americans in general do not dress like that, trust me. Well, Jeffrey or whatever he's called, Jeremy.

Jeremiah, who, I'm sorry, is absolutely sannie. Absolutely insufferable to me. Meets. Gives me so much ick. I hate his facial expressions. He's just as a character. I don't know what he's like in real life. I think he's quite mean.

He treats her kind of like shit, I think. He doesn't pay her enough attention. I just can't. What do you mean? What do you mean? What do you mean? What do you mean? I'm like, oh, fuck.

fucking grow up. He's got too big, he's too beautiful to be a man. His lips is so gorgeous and juicy. And like, I don't know, I just, he's my,

one of my worst nightmares. Okay, well, I think he's really stunning and he doesn't eat me out, although his Instagram is questionable, but he's very young, so we'll give him that.

Yeah. This is just his character. I don't know anything about him in real life. Jeremiah as a character, it's me the fuck out. You know that Conrad is only like 26? The real actor. Okay.

Which is just like, you're not like staggering the heart. I literally have my grandma. So he's 26. Well, he's only two years younger than me. So that doesn't make me feel that way. I know. But to me, looking at him on camera, I'm like, I feel like he's older than me. Really?

I don't. Really? I feel like he's a wise, wise old man. You're really in a dream world. But I also generally think of myself as 21. So that's where I'm stuck at. So I'm a teen mom. I'm literally 21 and I'm giving grass.

What I will say about summer I'm done pretty in this whole holiday thing. for my friends Jack and Hermione that is exactly the vibe they would have heard because they were best as family friends from their parents are best friends and then they had kids which was Jack and Hermione and other kids and they were summer together every summer in Portugal.

Can't bear it. And then about eight summers ago Jack confessed his love to Hermione and was like I really fucking fancy you always have done like I have feelings for you she goes home, dumps her boyfriend now they're married and now they're having a baby like can you believe it? It does happen in real life. So it does happen

It really does happen. It is miracles. And I will say it does bring me back to when I was younger. And I obviously, we used to go to my bear for eight weeks in the summer. It was just going there and just like getting with boys and like just fancying boys and like going to the beach. It was exactly like the summer that I turned pretty series well. Like me and my friend Victoria, like honestly it was just like bliss. Like I, the joy, the endorphins.

The butterflies that you would have just had. I would see this guy walk over. We had like sand dunes from like where we lived to like the beach. Okay. And like I'll be on the beach. And I just like constantly looking behind me to these sand d'is. And then I just see this surfboard. And then he will bright fluorescent pink.

I will never forget it. It's so tan. Godfalon my first kiss. He wore these fluorescent pink, um, Ralph Lauren shorts. Yeah. Had the green Ralph Lauren horse on. They were fluorescent pink. I know exactly.

He was so tanned. He looked like Zach Ephron. Like even my mum was like That boy is absolutely phenomenal Like genuine I will bring in a photo and we'll have to air it And there was two of them And they were best friends

One was like white blonde And then this guy was like Zach Epperon I was gone home I see that self coming over the thing And I would Flip somerset

Somersaults in the stomach Yeah And there was nothing better No nothing better than a somerset And I would literally like The rest of the year Was me just daydreaming about summer next year

To see him again And you do the same thing And you just daydream I'm glader than a girl's fantasy like that. Like, you really build it all up in your head so much. I know. Do you remember, like, the days of, like, I even, like, fantasised even, like, throughout uni.

I remember, like, fantasising, like, about going travelling. And I was like, I'm going to meet the love. Not me being a relationship. But, like, I just really let my mind go. Of course you do, because that's just life. I really do that anymore. I should get back into the fantasy world. Well, I think that we should, maybe not.

I know, but when is it too, like, when is that time gone? I feel like a certain, you know what's fascinating? Apparently, like, most women when they get older actually just fantasize about their other halves. I was like, that's really nice. What fantasize about different thing? So as in, I guess, about, like, meeting them again for the first time and things like that. Oh my God, that's so, so nice. That is so true, actually.

If you look, like, you almost look back on those early days of dating when you had so many butterflies. Exactly. It's like, look, the butterflies do go. They do go. I would say for me they went after year two because they had another sprouting of them because of the breakups. That sort of reignited butterflies again for me, which was actually really fun. Porto's just really just trying to get over everything.

But I was having a great time. And we're like, this is all fresh in it. And then I actually feel like it carries on really until you move in together, I would say. That's why when people move in too quickly, I'm like, error. You're so right because it's like when you don't see them, they've not touched you all day. And like, they're busy and you're like, so unknown. I have no idea what they are doing right now. It's good vibes, those early times.

But now I would say at this point in my relationship, which is almost four years, they are gone. But in the nicest way, it gives you, you get a new lease of life in a different way, in a different sense, don't you? It's a more comfortable side of a relationship. Yeah, it would be weird if you have butterflies every day of your whole life. Well, then I think then maybe it's actually more a sense of being anxious, maybe in your relationship, which maybe isn't actually a good thing. Because people say you shouldn't ever feel anxious. You shouldn't ever feel butterflies when you meet someone. And I'm like, what?

Yeah. It's a sign of being anxious and that they're not the right energy for you. And I'm like, but. Oh my God, that's not true. I get butterflies just looking, when you used to get butterflies looking at attacks from Toby or a photo film. Because I was like, God, he's so fair. Like, so excited.

So on skincare. Yeah. We're both loving clear skin with Elle. My skin at the moment. moment is actually not looking good. I don't know what's happened. I haven't had a spot and what feels like years. And I suddenly came up with a huge spot here. Now I've got one here, here, here. And they're like hard things under the skin. So weird. So I'm going to see Elfuss and clear skin after this and maybe she'll pop it for me. I don't know. But this one

fucking hurts. It's fucking hurts. And I don't know what's going on. It might be like a suncreen. I think it's from being on the antibiotics. And then now my skin's just gone, fuck. Oh yeah, the gut. The gut microbiomes were off killed. Yeah. What can we do? I'm trying to repair that. But yeah, and then in terms of products, I actually use, at the moment, dermaviduals, which I get from a girl called Ingrid.

And then, but you can't get them unless you see her. It's like one of those weird ones. It's like prescription only. But we gatekeep her slightly because she's so hard to get into. I mean, I don't see her, but yeah. I gatekeeper. Anyway, yeah. And then Clear Skin with Elle is like a fucking game changer.

I feel like you just love it, don't you? I love clear skin. Then I use niacinamide by The Ordinary. Oh yeah, the ordinary is good. I will also say, like, LMS is also fucking good. Oh, Elamist cleanser's cool. The cleansing balm. Oh, it's just fantastic.

Less is more. But you know what my, like, my, like, biggest thing is. And I know that you don't like it. You think you're done something to the skin barrier. But I think it helps say skinner's scyth. That is like my game changer. I love Clinissooth. I use it all day every day.

What are you talking about? You said to me you don't, don't use it too much because it will dry out the skin brown. It can if you use it too much. I use it so much. I cleanse my face with it. No, I like do it before I do. It's like my toner. Yeah, same.

I do morning and night. But I, some people are using it like seven or eight times a day. And I was like, why is my skin so dry? And it was because every time I got out of the tube. Oh, because you were thinking it was like an anti-back. Almost, yes. And it's not really. Well, it is.

But yeah, it will dry out your skin. It's like if you use anti-back on your hand seven times today, your skin would dry out. Yeah. It's so good. I mean, obviously I don't spray it over my makeup. I do sometimes. Do you. If I've been on the tube and I'm like, that was rank, it's going over.

I bet it doesn't do anything. It's just lovely. It's cooling. And when I was in the summer heat. I love the smell of it. It just smells like bleach. I'm like, it kind of does, but just embrace it hard. Oh, maybe that's why I love the smell of it.

It just smells clean. Also, I also really like quarterly products. I love them. And they are like non-toxicie. If you scan them on yucca, they're all really good. Yeah, I use quarterly Factor 50.

Oh my God, that SBF is fucking amazing. It's very oily though, I will say. Very oily. If you've got oily prone skin, I would probably stay away from it. And then our makeup tip,

Kylie Skinton, it's just like, I will never ever, like I hope that problem. I might stock up. What I will say is, I've got a few on my roster that I swap between

the merit SBF. Skinton SBF, SBF is fucking incredible. I can ever use it. Oh my god, it's amazing. You need to try it. Really amazing. Kylie skin tint. Amazing, tiny bit dry for me, but I still am wearing it every day. It's like so light. And then also the Jane Iodale Foundation. It's so glowy and you would really like it. But it's thicker. It's a proper foundation vibe. It depends on.

Like, mixing, matching. Like, if I like something, like, I'm just going for that. My hand is reaching it. I just change my mind on the day. It just reaches for something else. I'll go through phases of like using something for one week and then the next week trying. something else and liking that and then I forget it's really good I'm not like that I mean the merit stick love that still but I use it more for concealing yeah and then also we love oh my god what about this lip bumper oh dr dennis gross should we put it on yeah so she's bought herself a lip lumper but she's bought it so I can try it and then we can watch live

our lips grow and grow okay so this is like dr Dennis dr Dennis grows and it's plump and revise if you don't want to get yourself a lip job Or lip filler or whatever A lip job That's so like my mom So my mom They've got Botox in their lip And I'm like

Yeah Oh they've had a lip job Haven't they Oh they've had one of those Lip jobs So you put this bad boy on Right And then they're gonna start tingling

Okay And we're gonna see the difference Oh they've already gone quite red I know it does make them quite red I then like to take it off I actually think it might make My lips look a bit OTT But I think

Later on in the day they look good Okay It plumps them. It feels like it gets injected water into my lips. It's really quite something. Hydration. It is good shit, guys. Okay, you've heard it here first. Do we think it's worth 46 quid? I do. Okay, should we get into the dilemmas? The town of Adda in France has taken a strange turn. The town's mayor has been arrested for corruption.

The mayor is unable to carry out his duties. Then there's a mysterious phone calls. I need you to do something for me. Now, the whole town has been thrown into chaos. Join me, Anna Richardson and journalist Leo Sheik for the Mystic and the Mayor as we investigate a story of power, corruption and magic. Follow The Mystic and the Mayor wherever you get your podcasts. Dilemma 1

Hey girls I love the pod It's my guilty pleasure I really debated whether or not to write in But I just need some girl advice I've been with my girlfriend for three years now And I truly believe she's one We met on a night out And we had an instant connection

She went on holiday the next day But when she got back We went on our first proper date And never look back The problem is While she was away before we were a fishing couple I slept with a friend at the time I didn't think it was a big deal

I barely knew my girlfriend then and we'd only just agree to go on a date when she got back so I didn't do anything fast forward to now and I recently heard my girlfriend telling someone about our love story and how we both knew the moment we met

she called it love at first sight and one kiss was all it took one kiss is all the days I didn't correct her here's the issue the friend I slept with has recently come back from living abroad she's been joking to people about it

saying, oh my God, remember when we slept together and I'm laughing off like it's a funny memory, nearly the anxiety, can you imagine? I feel sorry for him in this moment. I'm terrified my girlfriend, and will hear about it and be devastated. Should I tell her what happened before she hears it from someone else? And if so, how do I even start? I think you tell her because she will hear it. And then she will feel so embarrassed.

Yeah. And you have not done anything wrong and she will understand and you will just say it was a love at first side, but you know, like I just had a shed know where it was going to go with you at all and I just haven't, yeah. I really don't think if I was the girlfriend, if you told me. I would be pissed off, just for the sake of being pissed off. I would hate the friend. Yeah, I just

I would just be, I would be like, it's not your fault at all, you've done nothing wrong, but I'm fucking fuming, so let me have my moment. It depends how recent they are. Like, if Jamie told me now, oh by the way in our first couple of months, I slelt this first time, be like, well, I just had three years. Oh, I don't think I would at three years.

I would still. In a year, in the first year where I'd be devastated. If there's a fit girl coming back from holiday it's going to come back into the friendship group and it's like yeah we shared right before we got together i'd be like obviously you've done nothing wrong but i'm fucking fuming and it would just take me it just take me a hot minute to get over it you've just this time you've just got to let you can't fix it there's nothing to solve you've just got to support her and just give her a hug and be like i get it like and she might vent she might be like a fucking bitch but then she'll get over it i do think it's better just to nip it in the

bud and tell her now and be like look i never thought i would have to tell you because like to be honest I had the ick from it like I had friendship pick and I was like oh wow I don't know and I was so into why would I ring up oh by the way shagged this girl last week you're never going to see her again because she lives abroad like you have to be clever about the way you explain it 100% and let me tell you she like even if hopefully she will just be like whatever but like no matter what you do she's going to know that this has been dreading on her mind like whenever Jamie tells me something that he's like worried about my reaction.

And he's like, oh my God, I just thought of this. I've got to tell you. And I'm like, you have been so shit scared to tell me that for like a month or like two weeks or like an hour. And then I'm like, and then that almost annoys me more. I'm like, why didn't you fucking tell me? Like, you've made me now worry about it because you've been, you're like being so weird about it.

If you're just, I don't know, why are you even feeling you need to tell me? But on this occasion, you know, I'll tell her. Yeah, yeah. Also, she hopefully won't react like to take you down. You just also have to, you have to, like, let her just vent a bit. And I just think that, like, you might be like, why are you getting angry? Like, it was nothing wrong. Just, like, let her.

She'll be over it by the end of the day. Good luck. You've not done anything wrong. But listen, like, girls are sensitive and we can be a bit crazy. So just, like, let her have her moment. Don't try and solve it. Give her a hug. Reassure, we're sure, don't solve.

And it will pass quicker. If you fight back, it's not going to go down well. I also do you think stand your ground and be like, look, if she does get really crazy overreacting we like we weren't together like you need to like be realistic at this point like I met you once oh I meaning my crazy would be this

he would tell me right and I would be like and then I just wouldn't speak to him for about two hours and Jamie would be like what's wrong what's wrong what's wrong yeah yeah yeah and then he would either just like hug me

or what he would typically do it's like you're being so unfair Sophie and then I would be like ho ho no no so like what I'm saying is just like let her have a mood for an hour. It's just an hour. She's going to have a moment and be like, look, I know you're going to be pissed off

and I so get it. And I'm not expecting you to just forgive me for this. Because like, ultimately I should have, just be like, I should have told you before. Yeah, he'd be like, oh, that's fucking disgusting. I'd be like, you're so grinned. Sick that you did that. And then I'd just like drop it.

In an hour, I'd be completely enoughly over it. Yeah. So let's hope that's what happens. Fingers crossed for you. Sending you so much time. Please update us. Please, please, please. Let's have a picture of it. Also, like, if she listens to the pod and you've told her, I always also think, like, a way to get away with things.

Like, Toby gets out of everything with me with humour, like, by making me laugh and making a bit of a joke out of it. And he just fucking gets away with, with, like, silly things that I guess I would normally be really pissed off. But then he makes me laugh. And I'm like, I can't really like, or if you laugh, if she's going really crazy and you, like, try not to laugh. Then I laugh because I'm like, I know I'm being crazy. So, I think after, like, a couple hours, you can start, like, making jokes. I don't know. I agree.

Humour always solves things a little bit. It makes it lighter. Yeah. Because like the woman doesn't want to stay in an argument. But like we're so stubborn we've like made our bed. And then it's like, how do we fucking get out? Got to commit for at least like a couple. And then like you're like, oh shit, we've got a dinner time.

I really don't care anymore. Yeah, yeah. But I can't be the one to like go back and be like sorry I've reacted. So if they humor, then I'm like, oh, I'm done. And then it's over. Yeah, yeah. And then you're fine. That is such a good tip.

Humor is the way out of everything. Dilamity. Hey girls, a year ago or so, I was hosting a birthday party at my new flat. Loads of our friends were there, including one of our friends who brought along his new girlfriend. As time went by, drinks were flowing. We had some commotion coming from the bathroom, only to realise that our friend, the boyfriend, had seen his new girlfriend through a crack in the bathroom window, having sex with one of our other friends. Wait, wait, wait. How is that happened? He had some commotion coming from birth to him.

He was like, who's that? Oh my God, it's my new girlfriend and my mate Shaggy. Oh my God, Jesus Christ. He proceeded to try and break down the bathroom door in anger, safe to say the night ended in a complete disaster. My friend ended up staying with his girlfriend, who knows why or how they got past it. Fast forward a year and I'm engaged. I'm getting married early next year and now need to navigate how to include everyone, in the wedding because all three people involved will be invited. Jesus Christ.

There's no way I can leave any of them off the guest list. How do I make sure my wedding day doesn't end in disaster too? It's down to you. Did you have any drunk like this at your wedding? Or before your wedding? No. Not really. What X do I invite? Do I invite

the new girlfriend? I don't really remember. No, I don't recall it. I would say you just have to leave them to their own devices. Like, honestly, I don't know about you, but personally for me, like, that sort of drama wouldn't bother me in my wedding day. I mean, it's quite funny. I don't, no, look, listen, there will always be drama at your wedding day.

Like, someone's going to get drunk, someone's going to cry, someone's going to this, that and the other. I had a lot of that going on. And you just got to, like, it doesn't matter. Or droffod ducks back. It's not your issue. This is theirs. Like, don't control the uncontrollable. I also just think, just be smart with your seating plan. You can control that. Make sure you're sitting them far away from each other.

They will be civil. and you know what you can say to like other people close to them you don't have to say it to them if you don't want to cause like a thing you like just keep on them keep them away from each other you know say to your bride's base like just if we can like micromanage that slightly if something happens that'll be great I don't want to know about it really but it makes for good gossip the next day when you're debriefing I wouldn't worry about it too much also can I just say the money I would have paid to be at that party

when some bloke sees his girlfriend shagging one of the friends I'm like how far did they get past it can we go back to that please Listen, you're just going to have to, just don't even think about it. Tune out. If they're going to make a drama, like, they're going to do it in the corner. They're not going to do it on the dance store in front of everyone. They're going to be shagging around the corner or crying around the corner and like, there's always going to be someone.

Some cousin's going to be throwing up or something. Yeah. It's going to happen. So don't worry. Yeah. Relinquished control, I would say. Mm-hmm. Love you so much.

Love you. Have a gorgeous time at your wedding. It's your day. Have the best day. And tell us what happens, please. Yeah. Okay, right. I've got one dilemma.

Dilemma 3. Hey girls, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now, living together for 18 months. He's so great and we're really, we're really happy. I think he might even be the one, but there is one small issue. He is so messy. It's not that he's unclean because I couldn't deal with that, but he's just not bothered about mess, whereas I cannot understand it. I mean, unless I'm bothered. It triggers something in my brain. It just makes me so on edge and stress out. I try to speak about it, to him about it, and I don't, but I don't, but I don't, but I think it comes off as nagging and I don't want to nag him constantly about it. I generally don't think it's intentional.

As I said, he's not dirty, just messy. And ultimately, I think we just have a different standard and level of tidiness. I love him so much and I don't want to nag him forever. But equally, I don't want to spend my life cleaning up after him. How would you deal with this? Is it possible to train a boyfriend I've attached picture? Oh my God, you guys are so cute. You can definitely train him.

Oh my God, sweet. This is a very, like, cute, lovely, like non-scarry issue. because I think it's so sweet he's messy and clean. Clean and messy fun. Yeah, just say if he's a bit messy, it also means he's probably a bit more of a relaxed person. Yeah. I don't know if I was just talking about myself.

I'm like, yeah, I'm really chilled and messy. But I guess it's annoying because it's like, if they're not going to tidy it up, then you just have to live with the mess, which is so frustrating for you. Like, I make such an effort to try and be tired. tidy. I'm better than I was, but I am still messy. Yeah. And then Toby ends up just kind of tidying it and like not complaining. What I will say is like if you have the option, just get a cleaner

once a week to tidy up his stuff and be like, babe, if we're going to be happy, you're going to have to pay for a cleaner once a week to deal with this. If you don't want to do it, that's so fine. But you need someone to deal with it because I can't live like this. I really, really can't. And like, I'm actually stressed about it every day and like I'm trying to make it not a big deal but it actually really is and just express that. I think it's so legit to like communicate it and also like both Vanessa and I have it. I've had to really change my ways and so is Melissa and we just it's a learning process. I still, it's not on my bones to be tardy but I give it my best shot because it distresses Jamie and you've just got a compromise in a relationship but you know

what you don't want to nag and you want to sort of do it and like I would rather on the day than being like, can you pick that up? Can you put that? I would like, sensibly sit down or like over dinner be like I know this is not big till for you but like the mess really stresses me out is actually making me upset and like kind of ruining my days so can you please just like help a little bit and I know I am a bit OCD but like if you could just pull your weight of it yeah and I'm sure he will it's a learning process I don't know what I would do if someone like had a really like fucking annoying habit when I was living with them if Jamie was messy it pissed me off but he's so tidy and I mess my mess doesn't piss me off

It's because it's our own mess. But if Jamie was like chucking it, I'd be like, get. Yeah, I'd be like, that would, it would give me anxiety actually. Because you want to feel calm in your house and mess is, messy, messy house is a messy mind. It is so true. I feel much more together with my life when my bedroom's tidy, which is very rare. I also agree. I think that also, like, you could do a declutter.

That's also helpful. Like, if he's messy and there's, like, loads of stuff, like, send some of his clothes to charity, sell them like go through his papers like all that clutter creates mess the less things he's got the less things he'll have just you know what my sister's husband does with her she like he just has boxes right and he like storage boxes and he like hides them in places like there's you know in areas that you can't see them okay and all Georgia's mess

he just shoved it in the boxes so it's out of sight out of mind but she then can sort it out or tied it in her own time But he can't deal to come home and see the clutter. This is brilliant. And he does, you know, it's a nagging situation. If he's like, do it, do it. So what he does, it's, she comes home, where's all my brand new makeup gone?

It's in the box. I'll sort out tomorrow. It's outside. Mine, it's a bit like Monica from French. That's a cupboard. Brilliant idea. Shove it all in a box. You should maybe do that so Toby can do that.

And then you'd never go through it, would you? That's my problem. It would just stay there. Yeah, me too. For like six months until I'm ready to go. Mine would never ever be over. until I needed that piece of maker but I'd just get that one bit like that.

So it'd be six months when I finally did a clear out something and then it just builds up and then it becomes actually a place where things go which is also a problem. I understand the frustration but I think you've got a good few solutions here. Yeah, we wish you all the best of luck. And just shove it up and shove it in his wardrobe.

This is true. Just shove it in. Don't fold a thing and be like, it has got to stay away. I don't care how messy it is. If you want it to be in there tidy, you've got to do that. Out of mind. Love you.

you. That's the end of the episode, I think. That's the end, guys. Bye, guys. Love you so much. We'll see you next week. Bye. Bye. Hello you. Well, hello, everyone. We're from the Nailieieie. We're from the Nearly Parents podcast, and this is Sophie. We're from the Nearly Parents podcast, and this is coming up on this week's show. Jamie was obsessed with penises and vaginas when he was a child. Yeah, I was totally obsessed with that.

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