Wednesdays - 104: Have to choose between my BF and my baby!

Episode Date: April 11, 2023

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psychologists and we're not experts in anything in fact we just chatted all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help yo motherfuckers why do i start like that just to start this episode off guys well we're drinking a lovely wine to start it off with another red another rouge and it is... Why is it always me who has to read this? Tenuti Guadasole Pio X Vino Rosso. Read again. Is it also organic or...?

No, the other one wasn't either, I don't think. I just see the green label on the back and I just assume it's organic. No, it says Biologico. That is organic. Stunning, right? Lovely, lovely. Another juicy one. Not as good as last time. It says biological. That is organic. Stunning, right? Have a sip. Lovely, lovely. Mmm. Another juicy one.

Not as good as last time. I preferred the one that we've just had. I won't lie. The organics are never as good. They're a lot sharper. Well, there is some that are unreal. Like the organic one that you get, it's a rosé, so it's obviously a different story. But the lovely one from Dalesford that we like, the love one. That's really nice.

I like that one. I didn't know that was a good one. That like that one that is sign sealed delivered that's yeah it's a nice one and the bottle is really cute too I can't wait for rosé season I mean we're fully in it now but to get it flowing flowing flowing well I am trying on my finalized wedding dress and Emily and Melissa are gonna come with me I'm so excited I'm so excited I had a facetime with her at the weekend Emma paid one and it is pretty cool. Is it just phenomenal? Yeah. Fuck, I can't wait. There was a part of me that wanted to like,

see Sophie for the first time, like come out of the room, and then I know that I would just cry my eyes out, and like see it for the first time like that. You can't have that when you have your makeup on. I know, but also like, if you don't have your mum there with you, then you definitely need us there,

so. Yeah, I need you there. My mum did say she would change her flag, but I was like, no, no, don't worry. You can step in and be mum and sister for the day. Yeah. I can't freaking wait. I have no idea really what it looks like as well, which is so exciting. I know no, no, don't know. You can step in and be mum and sister for the day. Yeah. I can't freaking wait.

I have no idea really what it looks like as well, which is so exciting. I know, me too. I hope you do, which is so great. I kind of have an idea. Well, just keep it to yourself. I'm not going to guess. I'm not going to guess. I'll just leave it as a surprise.

Leave it as a surprise. Okay, right. Should we just step in to sweet or dry? Let's step in to sweet or dry. Going to the loo with the door open. Well, look, I can't really comment. comment absolutely dry as fuck don't fucking do that in front of me well my boyfriend does that uh i don't think he's apparently he does his work at candy kittens and it's not sweet is it it's not sweet i mean a pee i'm not bothered look guys i'm

gonna be totally honest i have a really weird phobia with peeing with the door shut like even in public places i can't lock the door. Why? I don't know. I don't know. I'm scared I'll get locked in. Yeah, really? Like, in public places, I can't lock the door.

And at home, I have to have it. What's one walks in? It's so annoying. I just keep my foot on it. Do you? Skillet. Skillet. She's hovering. She's got long legs.

She does have ridiculously long limbs. I'm just going to put my foot down and say it's dry. If you're pooping, just no fucking closing the door, mate. I just think going to put my foot down and say it's dry. If you're pooping, just no fucking closing the door. I just think in general, just close the door. If you're doing a pee, it's quite... Well, we leave it open when we're doing a pee together. Very different. We're talking about in a relationship scenario,

ideally we just keep the door shut. Let's just keep things to the imagination. Yeah. It's definitely not sweet, is it? Because I definitely don't think it's sweet. I think it's super dry if it's the number two. Oh my God. It's borderline like mediocre.

It's like mellow. It depends. Like there's been a scenario before where Toby's been in the shower. I'm desperate for a wee. I'm like turn around and I've. Wees don't really phase him. I won't lie. Yeah.

I'm not going to lie to you. But poop, no, no. Close that fucking door. Boys being the little spoon. Oh, I love it. I love being big spoon. I'm'm always big spoon but i'm obviously so much smaller than toby so i'm still i'm like halfway down his back my face is like up against his back cozy cozy yeah it's lovely you can really nook yourself into that yeah you really can so you like put then your knees like up against theirs and you're like yeah it's almost like up against their bum because you're way smaller oh the last one oh my

god this is my mum's. My mum literally, if you say the word panty in front of my mum, she will vomit. Like she has certain words that she cannot stand. Panties is a big no-no for me. I don't think I've ever really heard anyone say panties. I don't even know what Jamie calls anything I wear. Like underwear-wise. I've never heard him say a thong, knickers, nothing.

But if he said, here are your panties. I think Toby just says, ooh, there's a thong. Like there's one on the floor, he's like, ooh, him say a thong knickers nothing but if he said here are your panties I think Toby just says oh there's a thong like there's one on the floor he's like oh there's your thong I don't think he says or maybe maybe knickers

I don't know I don't think knickers is that the reason if I'm in my house I don't really I'm in PJs I'm quite loose and free surely he would have

said thong I swear to god he's never said that underwear I don't think Jamie knows whether I wear a thong. Like he wouldn't know the difference between like granny knickers, a thong, like a Frenchie.

Like he just doesn't know. Yeah. He actually thinks like lacy thongs are like kind of granny-ish. I'm like, interesting. That's not the case. Interesting.

Interesting. No, that's dry as dry can get. Yeah, I don't think it's particularly sweet or dry, but I don't think I've ever heard anyone say the word panties. No, that's dry as dry can get to me. I don't think it's particularly sweet or dry, but I don't think I've ever heard anyone say the word panties. No, for me, panties is dry as hell. It's just as bad as tummy and bottom. Yeah, let's just go with dry. I've never really heard anyone use the word panties.

We're just launching into the dilemmas. We're go, go, go today. We're diving straight in. Should I go first? pregnancy dilemma oh my god interesting okay this is the first dilemma uh me and my boyfriend have been together for just over two years and we live together we moved in together in lockdown and it has just worked since then although we have been have had a few ups and downs we have a pretty good relationship and have always discussed the idea of having kids in the future lovely lovely to my surprise i have come to the knowledge that i am pregnant i know it's not the best timing and there's a million reasons not to go ahead

with this pregnancy but i thought my boyfriend would support me and we would get through this together if you've like discussed having kids and they're living together right then surely it's not yeah and maybe not the ideal timing it's unplanned it's unplanned surely he's gonna like support her these things happen when i told him he didn't react well he has said continuancy since he found out that if i decided to go ahead with this pregnancy he doesn't want to be with me anymore fuck what what an arsehole i am completely shocked obviously upset i have tried talking to him and explaining how difficult the position is that he has put me in. But every time I argue my case, he throws it back on me and says I'm being cruel to him.

Making him have a child he isn't ready for. You're not ready either. It wasn't planned. Sorry, that's so mean. I'm really upset. I'm really sorry. Regardless to you deciding to keep this child or not, you should not be with him. He's an absolute fucking arsehole.

Particularly considering they've like you want me you disgust children in the future and then he's literally being like gaslighting her and being like you play this so you should have worn a fucking condom this is horrible i'm really sorry you're going through this because regardless your partner like being even if they're really supportive of whatever decision you make this is a really hard thing to go through and make a decision on anyway isn't it i'm really upset about this also it sounds like you were quite excited about it you were like the prospect of it was going to be like exciting you if he was up for it you would have been really excited and kept it oh my god it's really not fair

he could be in a state of shock what do i do i'm scared that if i carry on with the pregnancy he will stick to his word and no longer be with me i don't want to be a single mom or if i don't carry on with the pregnancy i will end up regretting and resenting him effectively ending our relationship i feel really lost and need some need some sort of different opinions on this awful and emotional situation thanks i love you girls first of all we love you so much and this is we love you and I'm really so I'm really so sorry because you're also probably really emotional you've got like you know that's your hormones probably every as well it's like you need support by everyone particularly you know the person who you count on most yeah I kind of think regardless to if you decide to carry on with the pregnancy or not this boy is not you. And I don't think that this is the type of thing

that anyone deserves. Sorry, in order for me to stay in your life, you've got to get rid of that baby. It's his baby too. And what does that even mean? Like, what? That is such a selfish and horrible thing to put on somebody.

It's just, it's not right. I think, oh God god this is really hard I think you have to follow your gut like if you know at the end of the day this is your baby too and I don't think that this guy doesn't sound like he's the one for you and he's going to be sticking around anyway like he sounds like a bit of a knob I think you should speak to like the people closest you don't go through this alone like he is somebody you obviously went to, you know, thinking you're both, you are both fully in this together, by the way.

This is not your responsibility, it's both of yours. So don't ever let him make you feel like it's your fault. You should speak to your family, your sister, your brother. I don't know, your best friends, you know, and get their support. And if you want to have this child and if you feel like it's the right thing to do, then go with your gut instincts.

You'll be an amazing mother. But, you know, you obviously have to bear in mind that, unfortunately, he… Potentially, we'll be going through this being a single mum. I wonder if, I don't know, do you feel like you could bring up a child on your own? Like, you've got to bear all these sorts of thoughts, you know, in mind. Yeah, it's a big deal. It's a big deal. And it's a lot of responsibility. thoughts you know in mind yeah it's a big deal it's a big deal and it's a lot of responsibility but you know what there's a lot of single mums out there and everyone they

you know they smash it like people do such an amazing job i don't think that that's maybe and you won't ever be alone there's so many people you've obviously i'm sure you've got a huge support system and yeah lean on them that's what people are there for lean on those people i also just think it's like his whole approach and delivery is really getting me like if it was it would be one thing if he was like look babe i really want babies with you in the future like this is a show you are my life this is a shock we're just not at the right time of life right now financially you know emotionally everything is not right for us right now and we're not we're not capable of bringing up a kid at this time in our lives but you are the love of my life and i want to have children with you at some point

like please can we maybe talk about this sensibly and calmly and like see what our options would be however if you do want to keep it i'm there for you 100% like i'll fucking make it work it's not like he's he's just going i'll break up with you keep it what the fuck so manipulative bizarre thing to say it's such a cruel thing to say like it's actually horrible she's someone who's meant to love you and they've been together for two years and also like it's not her fucking fault it's not actually baby yeah and they've spoken about kids before like that's what's also so weird i um he could just be like giving him the benefit of doubt i think what he's done is awful but he could just be an utter shock yeah utter shock and you know people react in completely different ways and

that's his awful way of handling it but perhaps you know you I do think you should speak to your family and then speak to him be like you know be vulnerable put all your cards on the table you're not alone as well I feel like a lot of people go through things like this you know it happens to so many girls people in relationships people not we've had a girl you know right into us before about she literally had a one-night stand with somebody and then fell pregnant I was like you know I'm actually deciding to keep it and do I tell the guy or not and she's like I'm I know I can do it and I know I'm gonna smash being a mom but I think it's it's a really tough really really tough thing to be going through when your partner's not in support of what you're choosing to do

basically exactly and especially when like you probably planned all of this to do together and like do it as a team and yeah he's obviously not being a team player but I think you know whatever decision you make I think firstly speak to your family not the people who are closest to you and lean on them and be vulnerable don't try and be strong like you know this is a horrible situation you're going through but also you know if you do want to have it you've got a beautiful little thing growing inside you yeah I'm sure you're absolutely now being a mother and you know it doesn't mean you'll be a single mother forever like life is long I think his reaction also to me has spoke so much volume that is that the type of guy that you would maybe want in your life long term if that's the reactions

that they make to something like that which is such a beautiful thing which could be handled in a much better way i think that that's another part i don't think you worrying like oh i need to get rid of the baby otherwise you know my relationship will fall apart i don't think that you should have a relationship necessarily with someone who speaks to you like that and treats you like that it's horrible reaction this way about that and just know your self-worth and remind yourself of that and just know that you know life is long and you'll meet someone else yeah it's not you know and things do happen for a reason and sometimes you know you go through the shit parts and then you have a great part that's just the way life is but we're here for you and write into us whatever you decide and

follow us yeah follow up with me love you sending you lots of love yeah dilemma two myself and my boyfriend have been together nearly three years and he's gone on his first boys holiday to budapest this weekend i've been cheated on in every prior relationship i've had so i do have some trust issues i'm really wasn't looking forward to this weekend well that is really horrible when you've been cheated on before i know and then you can't help it like it's almost like the trauma then comes back yes and you give yourself like sometimes you can't help it. It's almost like the trauma then comes back up every time. And you give yourself like, sometimes you can make up weird scenarios

in your head of like what they're doing, convince yourself they're doing something. Yeah, totally. I can so get that. All I ask for is for him to message me every few hours, letting me know if he's okay. I message every night when he gets in.

The messaging every night is 100% legit. Oh my God, that goes without saying. On the first night, I got one text from him one text from him at 10pm and that was at a bar

then nothing until 9am when he says he forgot to tell me he was home we had a little argument but I chose to move on with it

as he promised to tell me the next two nights everything was fine all day then at midnight my texts were sending due to his weren't sending

due to his signal in a club so I was double sending everything on Instagram. I got one reply after midnight, but then a radio silence. I can see he's constantly active on Instagram, WhatsApp and Facebook messages, but my messages are being ignored. Oh, that's fucking shady. That's really shady.

Sometimes though, when people are active, it just means that they're actually not. Like you can actually be yeah like people like my sister said to me though and actually you were active at like 2am i was like i definitely wasn't one instagram yeah yeah mine says that too so yeah that is but if you're seeing there on whatsapp online and facebook yeah what's he scrolling on facebook facebook is accurate and whatsapp is accurate instagram is not okay ring ring ring alarm bells by 3am 3am i've sent around eight messages panicking about why he's not messaging me and wrong ties oh god cringe i know oh don't worry we've all been there i went into panic mode thinking he must be doing something he shouldn't his reply his reply was to tell me to

stop and he was away so i did but i woke up in the morning again to no messages from him. Am I being overbearing or is it a reasonable request to know where your other half's, when your other half is home? The guys he's gone out with aren't exactly the most loyal guys and had noticed on his phone that the group chat had been called booty pest. Oh no.

Why are boys so annoying? And in the group chat, they mentioned getting cash for strip clubs. Oh my gosh, has she been scrolling? Look at you. Which I specifically said, I wouldn't feel comfortable with him going to.

Oh, help a girl out. I love this boy and don't want to push him away, but I feel a bit his actions are pushing. I feel a bit with his actions, he's pushing me away. I think you need to step back a bit. I think you need to step back.

Look, Jamie, I honestly did not contact him once. Once. Yeah. I let him come to me. Yeah. And he think you need to step back. Look, Jamie, I honestly did not contact him once. Once, yeah. I let him come to me. Yeah. And he didn't talk to me before. Well, I mean, there was this time.

Definitely he's on a stag. But a boy's holiday, I don't think it's unreasonable, though, to message your girlfriend every night before you go to bed. I almost feel like all those messages and all those calls, it's just going to make him not want to speak to you more. But when we went on Tiff's hand, did you text? I didn't text Jamie every night going,

I'm not going to bed. We were just so engulfed in the fun. True, but it wasn't like we weren't, not want to speak to you more. But when we went on Tiff's hand, did you text? I didn't text Jamie every night going, I'm not going to bed. We were just so engulfed in the fun. True, but it wasn't like we weren't, I would message him like every now and then in the day or like send him pictures of us like randomly, but I wouldn't be like updating

every two minutes. We're doing that, we're doing this. My phone was staying in my handbag for the whole night. Yeah, exactly. I think that you are unfortunately, and I totally get it, I've obviously had bad experiences

with boys, but I would take a step back. I think you've got to give him the benefit of get it, I've obviously had bad experiences with boys, but I would take a step back. I think you've got to give him the benefit of the doubt. This guy's not giving you any reason to cheat. Boys chats are always fucking like that. Look, they're always going to be like that. Yeah.

They've probably all got girlfriends. Just don't look at them. Like, I don't know. I think you've got to take a step back. You've got to take a step back. Especially if he's told you to. If he's going, please stop.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Nothing. Radio silence now. I think that you need to pull back. Let him come to you as Sophie says. And it would piss me off as well. If I was on a girl's holiday and someone was ringing me, no offense, all the time,

and messaging me, I'd be like, you need to stop. Let me have some fucking, like, oh my God. Same, I'd go mental. Also, imagine you're out for dinner with your girlfriends, right don't check your phone every five minutes so if you're on a holiday for three days with your girlfriends or your guy friends you don't it's rude to be on your phone all the time and if you're hammered like the last thing i'm gonna do is get on my phone and send a message i know i mean i think you've got to also distract yourself don't get in your head yeah just ignore the group chat the beauty pass honestly

that is just so stupid that is nothing serious at all i know it sounds i know it's like gonna annoy you but that's just boys chats like whatever and also the strip club thing i know like they probably won't even go they won't even go that was probably banter i think yeah also like i think i i personally wouldn't mind if toby went to a strip club on a boys' holiday. I wouldn't really care. No, I know. It's sometimes part of the whole fun, part of the experience. It's like us going to a Magic Mike concert.

Or concert, you know what I mean? It's like, I know it's not exactly the same, but it's like a similar thing. Like, to us, we're like, that's not, that's so harmless. And to them, it's just like one of those funny, silly things that boys would maybe do. I think we have to, like, if he's a good boyfriend, all in all, you've got to let him have a space. You've got to let the leash go a little bit. Yeah, maybe do. I think we have to, like if he's a good boyfriend, all in all, you've got to let the leash go a little bit. Yeah, you do. I also think just entertain yourself. Go out with the girls.

Pamper. Make yourself feel banging for when he comes back. Go for a spray tan, you know, have a facial. Go on a walk with your mates. Like do fun things

to entertain you. And then when he's back, don't be like, what did you do? What did you do? Just be like, I'm so happy you're back and regain that and then be like oh god sorry i was so crazy yeah i think just take a step back yeah i do too right dilemma three i've experienced something

quite strange regarding my fiancee sister and i'd like your take on the situation i've been with my fiancee since we were 14 and 15 and he proposed to me this Christmas and was amazing. We are so excited about getting married after being together for nearly 10 years and we've booked the wedding for May next year. However, my fiancé's sister announced this week that she had booked a wedding to her boyfriend a full month for this coming September. Wait, hold on, hold on. Oh, wait. So the sister of your fiancé, so your future sister-in-law, is getting married. Am I reading this correctly?

Yeah, but for the September, she's in the May. That's like me and my sister. But also they've only been together for four months and they're getting married. Hello. Her boyfriend of four months for this coming September. Jesus, that's a quick, quick, quick engagement. Okay, right. So she's basically booked the wedding at the same time as her wedding.

No, she's in May. Just really close. Next year and she's in September. September next year. Okay, fine. No, this September. Wow september oh so she's beating you to the punch i see oh that's a bit annoying she's the elder sibling and her reaction to our engagement wasn't great either we already sent out our save the dates and the sister wasn't even engaged to her boyfriend this has come completely out of the blue only two weeks after we booked our wedding and sent the save the dates i feel like i can't talk to anyone about about it in fear of coming across like a bridezilla but i can't help but feeling like this is something you just don't do i'd love to hear your opinion on

this i think you've been together for a long time you've been for together for a long old time she's been together for four years four months she's older she's panicking just don't even worry about it yeah let her do her thing it's not like it's the next week you and him have got an amazing that's a really a long time to be with someone like you've been together 10 years like don't even it's the fact that her reaction wasn't great to the engagement that's on her that's on her that's not on you and she's just gonna be like unfortunately of you yeah perhaps she is jealous but like that again is on her yeah you can't get bound up by that don't let it affect your mood or anything and don't

make yourself less sparkly to potentially make her feel better this is your fucking time to shine you're engaged too you're getting married too 10 years. You deserve to soak in every minute. And also, also, yeah, you don't want to do what you say. Like, you know, if you're a bit annoyed or like you want to, you'll only be cutting your nose to spite your tongue. Exactly. Is that the saying? Cutting your nose to spite your face.

To spite your face or tongue. You always get that saying wrong. I always get everything wrong but anyway look honestly just like focus on you and almost like feel sympathy for her if anything yeah i think that she's obviously rushing into something you know some marriages obviously work out but she's known this guy for four months and she's engaged wowzer like you don't really know who a person is i didn't think until there's not really yeah there's not competition you've been with him for 10 years yeah I think that she's clearly going through maybe maybe a little bit of a panic because she's the older sibling and she's seeing that you guys

are engaged and she's like shit I don't know you know there's obviously a bit of jealousy going on there but I also think you've just gotta almost just think do you know what maybe if I was in her shoes I'd feel a bit panicked myself but just focus on you and be like look i'm getting married to the guy i've been in love with for 10 years like it's irrelevant that's why i think 10 years is a long time honestly congratulations on that that's yeah that's epic so focus on that and how special that is and how many many people have seen you and your fiancee together for 10 years and like are absolutely buzzing for you finally to time the knot. Yeah.

You know. I wouldn't be any less excited for her. Yeah. Considering because I can tell it's kind of made you a bit pissed off. Like I kind of get it. But like just be excited for her. Genuinely happy for her because it's not going to affect your day. It's just not.

Yeah. Holding resentments like swallowing poison. Someone told me that or something. Yeah. That's true true so just remember that and just focus on you because you're just going to have the best time ever fanduel casinos exclusive live dealer studio has your chance at the number one feeling winning which beats even the 27th best feeling saying i do who wants this last parachute i do enjoy the Enjoy the number one feeling, winning, in an exciting live dealer studio exclusively on FanDuel Casino,

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okay right do you want to read it because I read the last one oh yeah you get away with reading not much these days she just she just sits down

and goes no way right we've got a follow-up ladies and gentlemen okay lots of responses with the girl having doubts about staying with her first love from both sides okay okay some very happily married married couples who decided to stay together but also some who were so glad they took the leap to leave when they did a boy wrote in about a similar situation saying he wishes his girlfriend just did it sooner

as it really affected him being in a relationship when she clearly wasn't happy anymore yeah it's hard because you stay because of the older memories and the fact that you've been together for so long and it's your first everything but then actually you're making the other person unhappy and then it becomes sometimes a bit toxic yeah and it's not for them you know life's long but also short yeah you know you shouldn't do something or you're not happy i do agree follow up from the girl she was like you know i bought all the furniture how am i gonna get i'm worried about him living okay right so if you guys remember that okay after seeing some comments from people worrying i'm giving up on a happy and healthy

relationship i just wanted to clarify a few things whilst it was so great in many ways there were also problems that made me unhappy for a long time this tells me she's broken up with him i think she's taking the leap she's saying there were there was he could be dismissive of my feelings he compared me to other women he didn't get on with some of my friends and family even my dog that's weird and he talked down to me to to me a lot making me question myself constantly okay right that's a lot of red flags in my opinion yeah that's enough for a dumb full offense um when you're deeply deeply in love as well love is blind do you know what i mean it's so blind so you don't probably see those things in the beginning for a really long time and as she's matured and gotten older

she's gone yeah hang on a minute yeah anyway i ended things a couple of weeks ago and moved out and moved into my dad's woohoo oh my god go girl i'm so it was the hardest thing i've ever had to do but i have been focusing on being okay on my own loving myself and pick myself first yes sister i have no regrets about leaving it and it already felt and i already feel so happy and relaxed within myself i didn't realize quite how mentally stressed i became and it's such a relief to let go of it it's early days I'm looking forward to what the future holds falling back in love with myself and eventually finding my person I'm so proud of you I'm so happy about that

hallelujah what the hell we can't speak english wait go on say hello fucking you hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah a fucking man let's just say a fucking man sister i'm happy that's giving me a little pep in my step I'm so happy for you and that is and that's the best thing to do for him too him too exactly he was probably

doing things that maybe he wasn't aware that were even bad because it was such a rut and it was such almost like a he almost was self-sabotaging

in a relationship because he knew you weren't in it maybe well so you just grow apart you grow up with people and like you know these things happen

I'm so excited for you i'm so excited i'm so excited for you to just be so comfortable in your own skin love yourself so much go out on dates and be so fucking confident it's just the bet there's nothing else like it i honestly like i've only had it for a few months of my life but i've had that feeling i never had that really no oh god it was just the best thing I've only had it for a few months in my life

and it was it's really great but she is really happy now I promise yeah of course I am I love to hit people with all my heart but like it was just

the best thing ever so go take a leaf out of Melissa's leafy book and this lovely lovely listener okay guys we've got another

crazy dream because you know Melissa and I are literally the queens of crazy dreams oh Sophie had a crazy dream the other night as well but she spoke about it yeah jamie was getting melissa it was awful awful probably the most painful dream i've ever ever witnessed no i'm so sorry it was awful anyway we'll go into that another time okay thought i'd share another crazy dream story while i was at university a few years ago i broke up with my

boyfriends for six years on pretty good terms we stayed talking for a couple of months as we tried to adjust to single life. Over these months, I relied heavily on two of my closest friends, telling them how I missed him and was finding single life hard. One night, I had a dream that I visited my ex-boyfriend's house and his mom answered the door. She told me he was in the house and he had brought his girlfriend. Oh, God. I walked into the kitchen and saw that it was one of my closest friends sorry this is literally oh my god that's spooky that's spooky who had been confiding to in the last few months when i woke up i couldn't shake the feeling this dream was telling me something oh no i feel sick i met up with my friend and

told her about the dream she looked shocked and didn't say anything oh my god so i laughed it off oh my god i've been no because i've been talking about it too much i feel really anxious i still felt weird about this since i didn't really get an answer so i messaged my ex and just asked him straight out if he was seeing her no he was they've been seeing each other for weeks and kept it from me no i'd found out about the i found out through the dream what the fuck our dreams are true you're dating Jamie I just don't have the time for that or the energy if I'm being honest in the end they did become a couple for a short while before calling it quits and I'm thankful it allowed me to move on quicker and move her as a friend that what the fuck fuck maybe some of our dreams I mean not the one about you and James but of my kooky dreams are saying something to me.

Well, it's just subconscious speaking to you. Because, like, there's certain dreams that have certain weird meanings. No, no, I don't idea that. If your teeth are falling out in your dream, it means you're worried about financial things. If you get chased by a horse, it means you've got a strong motherly figure in your life.

I've had loads of dreams where I was driving my dad's Spitfire when I was younger and I couldn't stop it. As in an aeroplane?ane no it was a little tiny car I think that's what it was called like this weird little I actually weirdly had repetitive dreams

that my parents were in the car while my mum was in the car and I was in the seat behind her driving suddenly she disappeared and there was no one driving the car and I'd be like

I need to stop the car I need to stop the car yeah you can't you can't oh my god it was horrible I used to have that all the time can you give us some more dreams should we get a dream

that we must we need to get a dream? That. We must. We need to get a dream. We need to get a psychologist or psychiatrist. A dream specialist out on here. I had a dream that you were really mean to me yesterday. You were so mean. What did I do?

I don't know but you were just like bullying me and I just stood there taking it. And I even said to you Sophie you're bullying me and you were like I think you were just like it is what it is. It's probably because in my subconscious, I was like, you are in love with Jamie and he's cheating on me. Oh my God.

That is horrible. That is horrid. Melissa, we need to rate the wine. Ooh. I'm rating that a six because it wasn't as nice as last. Same,

I'm going to go down. It wasn't as nice and also, I feel like I need to just be a little bit more critical. I've never given anything really lower than a five. And it's,

I don't, I love a screw top. Look, I don't like opening the big bottle. it's a bit more high-end with a with a i know but i just not as convenient it always corks when i do that does it or like the cork yeah she needs a lesson guys we love you that ends things on that i found that why can't we talk today either? Anyway, bye guys. Love you so much. Fandu Casino Daily Jackpots. Guaranteed to hit by 11 p.m. with your chance at the number one feeling, winning. Which beats even the 27th best feeling, saying I do. Who wants this last parachute?

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