Wednesdays - 105: Is my best friend flirting with my boyfriend?!

Episode Date: April 18, 2023

Sophie's a wife!!! We recorded this episode just before the wedding, so join us for some very excited chats ahead of the big day. We also talk high school drama, forbidden love and your top dating app prompts, one of which sounds suspiciously familiar...Of course we popped some bubbly for the occasion! Canti Prosecco Spumante - Rating: 10/10 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help we're rolling oh my god your girl's getting married she She's getting hitched. She's going to be Mrs. Lange in three days. T-minus 72 hours. Is that correct? 72 hours, yeah? Is it 72 hours, yeah?

That is fucking mental. But you know what? It doesn't really... I'm like, that is a big deal. But then I'm also like, this like... Is it civil ceremony? Is that what I mean? This is a civil ceremony, yeah.

Yeah. It's like quite relaxed and like laid back, right? It's laid back chill vibes. It's laid back, chill vibes. That's what we're going for. I mean, I think I'm going to change into trainers after I've walked down the aisle. Seriously? Well, sorry, have you seen my shoes? They're like, ding, but this high.

No, keep some heels on the whole way. Okay, but guys, actually when this episode comes out, I will be missing. She's already going to be married, mental. I haven't even seen my wedding name. Right, can we say your full name with your middle name Sophie I don't even know your middle name is yes you do Charlotte I don't what's mine um I do know it June wait no I do fucking know it and I never say it to be fair Catherine no it's something not that sexy no but i remember you telling me and it's it's joanne june was quite close yeah but i thought you were going for months i was like why am i june no i just knew it was a j okay so

what's your middle name joanne is really not you okay sophie charlotte lang sophie charlotte we're doing double oh you actually oh okay you're just yeah she's getting rid of that's quite sad when you have a family of girls and all the last names go but you know what it's just part of the process a lot of people do keep the last names i'll keep it professionally like my instagram will always be sophie yeah quite nice yeah keep it i don't i actually think it's so weird that you're going to be a wife that's what's weird the part of you getting married it's not weird to me but the fact that you're going to be a wife is like are you going to be like my husband the the fact that like the bit that's weird for me is that I'm going bye bye daddy I know this is like quite an emotional thing for you does my dad

walk me down the aisle for the civil ceremony I think do you actually is there an aisle yeah I've never been to like some people this is you know this is their big wedding for some people which is actually my dream wedding this This is my dream wedding, what Sophie's barge did on Friday, which is so funny. And me. And we've actually made it into like a really. It's going to be a special day.

It's a really special day. Hopefully the weather stays like this because it's absolutely stunning. It's stunning today. It really is. But if it's not, it doesn't matter because we're not like outside for loads of it. Like it's all like inside can be inside.

I have no idea what this is gonna this day is gonna be like all because all i can imagine is like people on the steps outside being like woo with confetti yeah i can't imagine what the inside like the whole process no nor me i think you have a rehearsal no okay i think it's very quick it's like very quick very relaxed because they probably do like maybe four a day three a day don't they but that does that make you feel more chilled actually about it like i'm so chilled i'm like so what i've realized is i'm not somebody who likes the run-out things i like anticipation the anticipation i'm like sweet it's this week yeah let's get it done tomorrow i'm like now buzzing whereas i've been so anxious for like the last yeah and stress but this is why people are

low to be fair, because they're like, fuck it, let's do it now. And they just go and do it. I would do that. And there's no stress. It's just already done.

But then I am actually so excited to look out and see my family and friends. Now you're really excited for it. Like Sophie's messaging me all weekend, like I have such butterflies for it. Right now I feel weird. Like I have a dry mouth all day long. For me,

I never really wanted a huge big wedding, which obviously we ultimately are having. Yeah. And I have a dry mouth all day long. For me, I never really wanted a huge big wedding, which obviously we ultimately are having. Yeah. And I am super excited for, but I really wanted this sort of thing. Initially, this was your... This was my dream. We're actually having some Prosecco.

This is the classic Prosecco that you just get on every corner shop. Yeah. It's the Canti Prosecco. It does the job. It's actually really nice. nice i really like this this is just like the classic one that you can just get wherever you go i'm really scared it's gonna pop everywhere as well but oh my god i'm really scared i don't know why i don't know the anticipation is really making me nervous it's so good you did it very well cheers okay let's have a sippy sip. That sweet, sweet taste. That sweet nectar.

That is actually heaven on earth. Also, Melissa and I, every time we turn up, we're in the same outfit. I'm really not sure what's going on. It's actually freaking weird. Today, Sophie walked in and you didn't even notice. She was talking to me for like half an hour. That's such an exaggeration. Five minutes.

Giving me a hug. Like, oh my God, how are you? I was like, can you look at my outfit? And then look at yours. She's like, oh my God, what the my god it's actually scary how similar it is it's like we've both got like a gray like jacket bomber jacket style like thing on and then cream trousers and then white trainers yeah quite weird what the hell possesses us in the morning to go same earrings and i'm gonna put that on i don't know it's also quite a weird outfit to put on. I know. I literally thought to myself this morning, this is such a weird outfit. I was like, why am I wearing this?

Same. That's so odd. Oh, God, we're strange. It feels like it's been a long, long time. Tiny whinies. Tiny whinies. Oh, actually, we were saying we might change the tiny whinies thing to lovely listeners. Well, what do you think, guys?

We want to ask you because we use the word tiny well in the sense that i call anything that's cute or great or great any anything you love anything that you love anything i love it's it's a tiny tiny like my tiny little dad like he's not little he sits before but he's my tiny tiny dad yeah i so feel you and then i think but i don't know whether you came up with it actually you guys wrote in with the tiny whinies it was the listeners who came up with it so you want to know if anyone like finds it offensive or you know not even offensive it's more so like we were saying this yeah it's a bit patronizing like the other day we had a lovely listener come up to us and she was i want to say I think she was like 29 yeah

maybe younger she was closer to our age dressed really sophisticatedly and she was absolutely you know gorgeous on her way to work and I was like is that a bit inappropriate

if I say to her oh my god you're a tiny whiny I was like that just didn't feel right do you know what I mean yeah we just want to know your guys thoughts because we want to

we want to all be on the same page yeah exactly but I do love tiny whiny and I just you know you'll always be my Tiny Whiny's heart you'll always be

my Tiny Whiny's heart but Lovely Listeners is also quite a nice one and also we say lovely all the time so that's quite good yeah lovely lovely just fits quite nicely

doesn't it it really does right should we get into the episode I feel like we've been nattering away 45 minutes we're starting with

Sweet or Dry oh this natter is sweet I actually love this like new section that we're doing We're starting with sweet or dry. Oh, this nectar is sweet. I actually love this new section that we're doing. It's so fun. Oh my God. There we are. Matching outfits. Sweet.

Me and Jamie, we're matching loads. And it's not like on purpose. It's very posh and becks, isn't it? Yeah, I mean, it's quite sweet. It depends how far you take the matching. It doesn't phase me. Like, I think it's quite sweet it depends how far you take the matching it doesn't phase me like I think it's a bit like lol if you're going skiing and you're wearing exactly the same ski suit I'm a bit like haha also if it's done kind of like semi-biox and like me and Sophie that

that's just our minds thinking alike then it's quite funny yeah I don't think it's that bad like even if I saw someone in an outfit that I'm a bit like it but they're both matching I'd be like oh quite sweetness they're so well it's not the sort of thing that gives me exceeding couple of matches I probably wouldn't even notice to be honest unless I was talking to them like oh god you guys are matching I actually think I quite like it I'm like uber sweet for this who does matching outfits these days that's still a couple machine gun Kelly and um what's the Megan Fox used to dress in in like correspondence to each other. You're right, Courtney and Travis, they do similar things.

I think it's fucking cute. If anyone did that, I'd be like, sweetness. Digging the fluff out of... No, no, no, no, no, no, no. You make me sick. Right, I'm just going to read this out. Who the fuck has fluff in their belly button if you do get in the bath every night? That is dry AF. No, also, that's really horrible.

That's drier than the i'm also gonna just explain something about belly buttons you know the earring smell like it's it's like a similar thing and i don't understand how people do that also how's the fluff getting in there mine's like in between like it's innie but then there's like a little yeah we've we've got the same belly do we this is really confusing me this last one having gestures which reflect different animals and mean different things. What does that mean? That's very Jamie and me. So isn't that more like having a sort of secret language?

No, it's actually disgusting that we do that. But I would say it is dry, but I do it. So I'm going to have to say it. She's guilty of it, but it's dry. I physically can't stop. Especially if I've had a drink, I'm literally like... I've never seen Jamie do it. I need to see Jamie do it.

Maybe tomorrow night when I'm at home. I'll look out for it, guys. I'm staying the night at Sophie and Jamie's tomorrow, so I'll look out for it. I'm having a slumber party. I'm so excited. I actually had this weird... I had this weird, like, imagining...

You know how Jamie always does these silly pranks and, like, scares you? Or, like, calls people and, like, tries to prank them about something about something I was thinking you should pull a prank on him tomorrow oh my god 100% like pretend like I'm sleepwalking and I come into the bedroom being weird or something I don't know we need to brainstorm right now oh my god I know go in and just grab when he's brushing his teeth be like thanks and go to use his toothbrush yeah something really weird and rogue like that oh my god no well you can't do this because it's very naked but imagine if he's just having a shower and you just walk in and you're like

hey and get in the shower or be not because he'd probably have a hard time what can we do I know I've got a good one we're asleep

we'll get into bed at like 9 10pm you creep up the stairs and just get into bed in the middle and we're both like and I'll go Melissa are you okay

and he'll be like what the fuck don't make me that would be quite funny yeah are you okay? And he'll be like, what the fuck? Don't you think? That would be quite funny. Yeah, if you talk as well and you're like, sure,

and I'll tee it up and be like, Melissa's sleep talk. I know, I know, I know. Okay, sorry,

sorry, sorry. So he doesn't even know that I'm there, right? For the whole evening. Yeah. He goes upstairs,

you're downstairs and he goes up into the room and there's like, someone under the bed and you can clearly see there's someone under the bed and you can clearly see there's someone under the bed and then I just like

and have your hair like all over your face like the window yeah yeah yeah and he checks under the bed as well does he yeah

or you could go in our cupboard you know at the back and go scratch do that please do that this is so mean oh my god

please oh my god okay okay okay great dilemmas should I do the last one yeah You'll be like, oh my God, please. Oh my God, okay, okay. Dilemmas. Should I do the last one? Flirty best friend and boyfriend.

My boyfriend and I have been together for four and a half years now. And my best friend and I have been friends since we were 11 years old. I've recently noticed that when I am with my boyfriend and I tell him my best friend is coming over, he changes his appearance and acts slightly different. Oh my God, death. Red fucking flower. Okay, but you've been together for four and a half years so is this just a recent thing that it's happening because obviously your friend you've known since you were 11 years old you've obviously seen her quite a lot throughout the relationship so is this like a new do you know what i mean like is he only doing this sudden appearance like put gels maybe like just

like like spartaning himself fixing his hair brushing his teeth no no that would bother me highly bother me i've brought up to him in the past and he brushed it off and says he has no idea what i'm talking about but i definitely know there's something there something is there i don't know how to go about this but i can also sense that my best friend also acts a little different also a bit flirtatious around him oh my god this is horrible i know they are also friends but it seems a little more than that and i'm too scared to say anything because i don't want to ruin my friendship or relationship i would love some advice as i'm feeling a little stuck right now that's like me and jamie fancying each other and jamie like smartening himself up every

time i come over or toby doing that with is like, that makes my heart sink into my stomach. That would kill me. That's like really, that's brilliant. Also, you know what? We are so, we have such good senses as women. I always think this. Like, you've got a gut feeling that's been brewing. And you just know.

It's become so bad for you now that you've had to write in and speak to us about it. Ah, it's hard. I'm trying to picture, like, how I would. Like, if Jamie's friends come around I just don't I wouldn't spruce myself up but if I was sat there with Scott If they were coming over

for dinner you'd be like I'm gonna make myself look nicer for sure. Totally. But if I was like in my trackies sometimes to be fair

I'm like I'm gonna go upstairs I don't want them to see me like this. Yeah. And it's not because I fancy them. But this sounds like you're sensing it

and he like is sprucing himself up. Not really if it was Jamie's best friend like if like mick kept coming around i wouldn't be like you wouldn't care i was gonna say if if you were coming around and toby was in his trackies and went and changed right before you came around i'd be like yeah what are you doing i think that maybe the best thing to do i'd be honest and just be like oh

yeah it's just be honest and have a conversation but then with him first but then ultimately you're probably never gonna get the answer ultimately you're probably never going to get the answer that you're hoping for do you know what I mean like if he says there's absolutely nothing going on again you're never going to really be satisfied with that I don't think because you know in your gut there probably is something going on and you've asked him before and he's shrugged it off and then if he says to you yeah look like I do actually fancy your friend that's going to be heartbreaking too and And then what are you going to do? Do you have to then end your relationship?

It's so difficult. I think for peace of mind, I'd be like, why do you, I just called him out. I'd be like, why are you changing and why do you act different? Yeah. I mean, look, it could be so innocent. It could be that he's just like, you know, wants your friends to think he's fair or like he doesn't want to look like a slob in front of them. It could be innocent. But then she's changing too. You know, when you can see think he's fair or like he doesn't want to look like a slob in front of them. It could be innocent.

But then she's changing too. You know, when you can see it, you can sense it. I think follow your gut and like for peace of mind, I'd just be like, look, I feel like this. Maybe I'm psycho. Please can you put me, my, you know, can you just... My mind at rest, yeah. The friend actually might not be doing anything

and you're just seeing her being normal as flirty because you've got it in your mind. Your mind, yeah. But it is a bit odd that the boy is changing. But he could just be insecure. you're just seeing her being normal as flirty because you've got it in your mind. Your mind, yeah. But it is a bit odd that the boy is changing. But he could just be insecure. If I was you, I would maybe, if you have other friends, I would maybe confide in them about it

and be like, do you guys notice the same thing? And maybe in the next scenario. Look, for me, I would go, this is just Jamie, and I would literally ask Jamie straight up. I'd be like, I'd call him out. I'd be like, why are you changing? Me too.

What's going on? I'd be like, do you fancy it? Yeah, yeah. And then his his reaction but sometimes boys get super defensive when they don't over nothing but you know in your gut whether it's defensive or true like I've called Jamie out on things before and he's been so defensive I'm like oh lol and then I just keep it going just for fun just to just to torture him a little bit yeah oh I would call him out call him out and then maybe going off the back of that have a conversation with another girlfriend not the best friend that you're talking

about but another girlfriend just be like this has happened like I need another opinion that you know knows both parties like what do you what do you think what are you saying am I am I overthinking it is there nothing going on do you know what I mean yeah okay dilemma two fell in forbidden love at apres ski oh i've been in a six-year relationship and we are very settled mortgage car pets etc but we've had a rocky two years we have just come back from a skiing trip i was in the queue at apres ski getting some beers for us and i was behind the fittest guy i've seen he. He looked like a Calvin Klein model. Imagine it was like one of Jamie's fans. No, imagine Toby Watkins. Oh my God.

He kept looking behind me and posing. Stop. Wait, what? Posing. He was quite distracted and didn't hear the woman at the bar calling him over. So I accidentally punched his arm instead of tapping him. Cringe. And told him the lady at the bar was ready for him oh my god so this is the forbidden love sexy sexy man at the bar i'm not sexy sorry i apologized across the bar for punching

him and he seemed happy and surprised to hear i was also english with a strong connection i'd never felt before shit we couldn't even we couldn't stop looking at each other oh my god oh my god bloody film oh Oh my God. He waited for me after he got his drinks, but I walked straight past, obviously, as my partner was outside. Oh my God. The whole time we were glancing across each other at the tables. I regret so much that I didn't talk to him afterwards. Shit.

Oh my God, you're in love. I mean, you can't really go over and talk to him with your partner. No, you absolutely cannot. Jamie would be like, are you fucking all right? Also, can I just say, this sounds a bit like lost me this is nothing more yeah yeah yeah it's not yeah it's nothing deep yeah okay we both ended up there again the exact same time the next day oh my god shit i went there on purpose admittedly probably like with her lip gloss on yeah yeah i mean took the helmet off and like sorted out the helmet hat yeah

he spotted me at the bar and followed me shortly after to see where I was he saw me with my partner and walked away but he was definitely coming to talk to me oh shit

I feel genuinely gutted oh my god I've been stalking his Instagram to try and find I've been stalking Instagram to try and find him why do I feel like this I need to find him

oh no oh my god it's the I need to find him. Oh, no! Oh, my God. It's the, I need to find him. Oh, my God. Right, listen. A six-year relationship and she's done. You should, one look from a fit boy at the bar and she's fucking, she's out.

Right. Okay, I don't think you're going to find him because there's like a million boys on Instagram. I think this is just a bit of lust. Like, these things happen. This is lust. You've seen a fit, fit boy. It was a thrill.

And, you you know he gave you fanny flutters and he was fucking flirting with her melissa i mean sometimes i just want to lock that boy away in a box so you're not allowed to go outside don't look at anyone um this is just last you've got to get over this hun i'm telling you you're in love with your lovely lovely boyfriend his chat was probably shit he's probably really bad in bed he's probably yeah the fittest boys

always are shit in bed and they always have tiny willies yeah honestly sorry we're making you we're making her feel better

honestly all this is is a fit boy it's like they always do typically have bad chat apart from Tate yeah

oh god can we stop well I did want to say like a fit and then yeah yeah yeah like he's got i honestly think this is all just you know you're a bit boozy it's a it's mysterious he probably lives seven hours away from you somewhere else in the uk okay you're never gonna see him again he was just a fit boy at the bar and he gave you some fanny flutters and you

were feeling a bit you know it's different it's spicy people like that will come and go in your life the whole time. It's not, that's no. Your boyfriend for six years will probably see a fit girl and be like, oh, hello. Have the same thing. How does that make you feel?

But you just gotta, you're committed, and you know why you're committed. Go back to when you fell in love. Yeah. Yeah, you're thinking about him. It's kind of probably because you,

it's a bit of fun, but stop now. It's lust at first sight. You probably will find him, and he'll be like, taking loads of like, selfies with with his top off and you'll be like, ick. He'll cringe you out. Yeah. You're allowed to fancy people.

You're allowed to fancy people 100%. Thank you, man. And we all have a bit of eye candy, don't we? Sometimes I do think, I know that we're trying to like put this guy down to make you feel better about it and like get you over it. But sometimes I think weird things like this then highlight subconscious problems so like maybe this is highlighting that maybe you're not that attracted to your partner or I think probably because you've had a rocky two years you're subconsciously seeking other options which is normal you're like completely normal you know and don't overthink it allow yourself to but there are loads of fit boys you know you didn't even get to talk to him it's all about the chat anyway so you know if it's not be a part of you that's like

yearning for excitement excitement and more and sometimes when we settle down you know you've already got a mortgage you've got a car you've got pets etc relationships the fucking they are hard you've got to push through them yeah so i would just i wouldn't overthink it if you want to look for this guy look for him but i would focus on your own relationship and like zone in on that and be like this is not the guy for you yeah and don't let that guy like twist your mind or whether you're your current guy ignore him he's he's really he was just a distraction really and that's like your subconscious being like, ah, something fun to go with. Yeah.

I reckon that this guy is just high, you're looking for a bit of excitement and you know, it's been a while, you've had a rocky two years and you've just gone, oh, Fanny Flutters, hello. That's all it is, honestly. You're not in love with this guy. You don't even know who he is or what he's,

you know what I mean? Anyway, you could just have shit chat. That's what I'm going for. Just think everything happens for a reason and if it's meant to be, it will be. Just take every day, this is your journey and your path. Sorry, I am Gandhi. This is your journey and your path at this moment in time

and just take every day as it comes. Live in the present and you never know what tomorrow will bring. Sophie Habou should be a life coach. I agree. You are fucking good at these things. Okay, should we move on to the next dilemma? I hope that was helpful.

I'm really sorry. Same. You guys challenge us a lot with these dilemmas they're weird and wonderful scenarios but I feel like that was something that we kind of go through do you know me yeah I see fit boys all the time and I'm like oof I'm joking school dilemma oh my god I'm in year 12 sixth form oh the good old day these were the golden hours of our time okay I moved sixth forms a few months ago and turns out my oldest best friend was also at my new school let's call her molly we became best friends again

and it was like no time had passed well that's lovely actually i fitted into her friend group and everyone has been so kind and i feel like one of them lovely i after a week or two of being at the school there was a party which i wasn't invited to however because I was so new I didn't expect to have been invited or take anything from it oh my god very mature I always think also when you're like moving schools it's really hard to like integrate into like a really solid group of friends do you know what I mean like when they've got a solid friendship I'd be like no yes no one's joining the group we weren't but no but like you have this protective protective thought over it but

then when you meet someone and you're like actually they're sick like let's invite to everything also as you get older we people get better at that but when you're at school like our mindset is just i think six or people were slightly nicer it was like the years before that when oh yeah puberty hit and everyone was like literally the biggest bitch in the entire world okay now to the present over the past week i have heard some invites that have gone out for a party but no conversation directly to me the next day i found out the party was one of the girls from the group who i've always got on with well let's call her sarah after two days this party was all everyone was talking about outfits how good it

was going to be, etc. And I was just sat there observing these conversations, still left with no invite. That's actually fucking rude. I'm really pissed off. Yeah, same. That's heartbreaking. That's leaving someone out. That's just me left out.

That's just, I don't know. That's just me and no need for it. I thought Molly might talk to me about it and give an explanation to make me feel better about my lack of invite as she's pretty close with Sarah. Instead, she tried to make sure it didn't come up in front of me, which made me feel a about my lack of invite as she's pretty close with Sarah instead she tried to make sure it didn't come up in front of me which made

me feel a tad worse in a way no Mae this isn't okay this is horrible that's so horrible girls at school be nicer

this is not nice you're gonna grow up and regret your behavior but we also need to understand I need I almost need more context

for this party like is it an intimate dinner party like maybe she's joined that group of friends you should be invited i'm just trying to i'm just trying to play devil's regardless of that like she's a new girl like invite her make her included like she's on her own she's just joined the school it's scary as hell so why i'm writing this in is to ask your opinion on what i should do to make myself feel a little bit less

shit about the situation especially when i'm home and i see all the tiktoks and pics that come out on that night thank you girls so much love you oh my gosh okay get off social media that night i know it's tough but you're only hurting yourself yeah everyone has gone through something like this at school and it will it will be someone else the next day and it's not fair it's not nice but you know you're gonna go through this now you will come out the other end i so agree don't make a fuss but i wouldn't make a fuss about it but but just know that valid we validate your feelings like you're allowed to feel sad i also if i'm being completely honest with you i think most of the other girls in that french group will also be like it's pretty mean that sarah didn't invite her yeah like they will be thinking that also or they're just like at the age where you're quite

selfish you don't even think they might be a bit jealous new new girl on the block boys will be invited you know there are all these elements but still that's not nice also you are new so i'm just gonna play devil's advocate and make you feel like you know they haven't not invited you for a reason like they don't they clearly like you they clearly love you and you're a new part of their friendship group but maybe the party was like fully planned you know way before you entering the group and maybe it was like a strict numbers thing and it is what it is like if you were there from the beginning you 100% would have been invited I don't think you need to overthink it your friend Molly is clearly you know doesn't feel right about it that's why she's trying not to bring it up in front of you she

doesn't want you to feel bad but I really validate your feelings like I would be so upset 100% but just just you know sit with know, have a little cry. Be with your mum. Get a cuddle from your mum. These things happen. Go get your nails done. Like, get your mum to take you out

on a nice day or go out and have a lovely day. The sun's coming out now. It's Easter. Also, let me tell you, it's one night.

There'll be so many more fucking parties. And let me tell you, if you don't make a farce, they'll think you're really, you know, if you make a farce, it's not.

Yeah, and I'd also actually be like oh my god was the party sick it looked so good so jealous you guys i would love to have been so cool i wouldn't even be like that i'd be like it looks so fun yeah but it'll come around but just whenever it does come around and the next new girl comes in you be the kind of person and make sure she's invited and then good karma comes good karma comes and also i know it sounds silly this is where my, I would say my bitchy side

would come into it, which is probably not the advice I should be giving. I'm just going to be honest. It's only being brutally honest. Further down the line, when you are better friends with this girl,

is it Sarah that's the one that's throwing this party? You can be like, oh yeah, that time you didn't invite me to the party. Lol, thanks for that. Do you know what I mean?

Yeah, you'll be above that by then. You'll be so over it and above it, but like if there's another party that comes up, you'll be like, oh, my advice is this one. No, Melissa. I would do that.

No, no, no. So would you. Yeah, probably would. But it's not the right thing to do. I know. Just rise above it, girl. Yeah, right. You'll be so cool and chill on Monday

and be like, when they all come in, be like, how was the party? And then off you go go 100% do that and you'll feel so much power within yourself like being cool about it and being chilled and you know

you're a good person you know I go to loads of parties don't no ducks water off my back not going to yours kind of thing don't say that no no

but have that attitude yeah don't just like be like it's not a big deal it's literally a party it's one night honestly it's a party i know at that age parties seem like a big deal but yeah they really are and i completely validate

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And then we asked you guys to send in your prompts, like the Hinge prompts and some stories. So here they are. Thought I'd share my little Tinder love story. A few years ago,

I matched with this gorgeous boy. A few days after matching, still no message received. I was scrolling through his pics again, wondering why he hadn't popped up when i accidentally sent the shooting hearts over no i die i die shit instant panic i knew i had to be brave and send a proper message now not normally being the wonderful message first i opened with whoops didn't mean to send hearts but anyway how do you feel about a girl messaging first? Quite a gift from me.

I rate that. Strong. I got an instant reply and arranged our first date. Yes. Stunning. Long story short, we're still together after five years. I couldn't be happier to be with my best friend. Oh my God.

He continues to bring up that I was the first one to message. And you know what? It was the best thing I ever did. Oh my God. That's the best story I've ever heard. I fucking love that. Okay, so this tells us tells us girls we can be the first to message and it's not a big deal it's not always the game guys see sometimes mistakes happen the world works in mysterious ways the universe was going so you accidentally yeah and that's just your your fingers just speaking for

you and then oh my god right so someone sent in screenshots of this guy from hinge and they said could it be the barcelona boy guys it is we have this on our instagram went for a night out got blackout drunk woke up on a plane to barcelona we know who you are we know who you are we know what you did he speaks spanish bullshit he's like hola la cuenta oh my god and he looks like trouble do you know what i mean i knew trouble worked in whoa sorry i'm fucking in sick sometimes you really did you hear that it was strong it wasn't the right chief for the song it was honestly i'm sorry okay so we've got him we found him we know who he is if you want to come and like prove yourself you can come on the podcast yeah we are actually there's a spot

right yeah you can explain what happened when you you just left your girlfriend and went to barcelona with another girl also this is what he's open to short-term relationship open to long okay well only if you let me go abroad a couple times with another short-term relationship and that tells me they don't want a long-term relationship do you know what i mean if you are the barcelona boy yeah you have a seat on this podcast and you can tell your side of the story you have a duty to yourself and to us to come in to explain yourself yeah clear your name basically okay these are the prompts you guys sent i'm really sorry that was kind of harsh but you know gotta keep it real okay so we want to know

what the prompts are this is also quite good like inspiration for you guys because it's really hard putting prompts on like hinge and stuff like because you've got to be funny there's pressure to be funny fucking hell it's so hard I never I like miss that it's a hard it's a hard time okay right send me a list of your worst qualities and I'll tell you if I can tolerate them that's quite funny yeah that's good the best hinge profile I can think of is for my friend the prompt was something like how do you say your name and she wrote em you can save the I love you for later um you can say the illy for later oh because her name's Emily that's quite cute I like that it's very clever but you know what I'm almost not bright enough to notice that and also if your name's not Emily it won't work yeah only Emily could use that I fucking know how many Emily's are gonna be using that now oh gosh sorry okay right so when I was

internet dating in my bio I said I was a huge fan of cereal so my chat upline was what's your favorite cereal I swear almost always had a reply someone being like oh I like a 50 50 percent mix of frosties and brown flakes as the ultimate combo. Oh, rank. What is your cereal combo? I know, I know, and you know mine. Ready? Three, two, one. Shreddies.

Shreddies, 100%. Yeah. Warmed up in the microwave sometimes. No, that's so different. That's where we are very different. But I also put a bit of sugar on. You don't. No, no sugar.

I just have normal semi-skimmed milk. Oh, Shreddies. Mmm. Chocolate Shreddies. I don't know what. I've never had the chocolate Shreddies. Don't, no, no, no. But actually they're not as good.

They're not as good. It's the wheaty, it's that cereal. Barley. Also, weirdly, I'm going to say this, ready back from back in the day. I just fucking love it.

They're busting me into our world. I could eat it. What is it? With golden syrup? I'd have it cold with cold milk. Really? Yeah, delightful. Fuck, guys.

What is it about kids cereal? You know, it's just full of so much bad shit as well it's really upsetting i know all cereal i'm like literally i was born to eat cereal okay it's the best thing ever a good hinge prom got me so many dates first rounds on me if and my reply was you're as tall as you say you are on your profile oh my god that's quite jakes 90% of my matches were replied to this with a really good convo starter good way to start the chat off in a light hearted and funny way

that is good I like that I rate that a lot the best idea I've ever had with a voice note of me saying extra entertainment

while you look at my amazing profile then playing let's get it on by Marvin Gaye it goes into I've been really trying baby

I know exactly the song you mean boys always say it's the funniest thing they've ever seen on there, so I can just say that you're more than welcome to use it. Go to Tinder message. If you had to describe yourself as a drink, what would you be? Ugh, basic. What would you be?

Margarita. No, you wouldn't be. Spicy and sweet, bitches. It's salty. Salty and sweet, bitches. Anyway, guys, that's the end of the episode. That's the end of the episode. We're going to rate our delicious, delicious Prosecco.

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