Wednesdays - 108. "She sits on his lap!" My boyfriend is WAY too close to his sister...

Episode Date: October 14, 2025

Hey Tinies, This week, Sophie’s been clicked back into shape after a trip to the osteopath and she’s feeling brand new. Melissa’s obsession with Gabbriette has reached new heights after her friend partied with the model all night long. Now, Melissa’s (almost) ready to bleach her eyebrows in full tribute. We also chat about Justin Bieber’s surprise trip to Scotland and the big return of the bob, all thanks to Belly from TSITP. In this week’s dilemmas, one Tiny’s boyfriend might be too close to his sister. She sits on his lap, wear his clothes and asks him for hugs?! Are they just a really close family… or is it something weird?!Enjoy the episode x Got a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail]--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Executive Producer: Jemima RathboneProducer: Helen BurkeAssistant Producer: Rhoda AbrokwaVideo Editor: Josh BennettSocial: Laura Coughlan & Anthony Barter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey guys, we're back with another fun episode. We talk about how I went to Melissa's osteopath called Lucy, and she's just a whole vibe in herself. Such a vibe. She's a queen. I also discuss my obsession with Gabriette again, but we have some updates on that. Yes, some actual, like, real intel. And we just chat about celeb gossip, Justin Bieber, you know,

all the good stuff and have some juicy dilemmas. Enjoy the episode. Hello! Right, okay, we've got a very exciting episode because we have an array of lovely ladies in our studio. Hi guys. 10 new gullies are here. Is it 10? Is that 10?

You all look so lovely. Anyway, we've got some competition winners who have come in to watch the live podcast. And so we're just going to... This is the first time we've done this. I know. I know. We've filled a little one. It's good.

You've got a worst view because actually, you know, I can see you. But like, I'm okay. But you always say that you don't like an audience, but you do, actually. I love an audience. I just don't like reading in front of anybody. It's PTSD from when I was younger. I hate it. I know.

I really do understand. Well, I just learned that Jamie, because he's dyslexic, and I want to hear from you if this is what you do. He will spell, like my name, Sophie, so opaha, ha, eh. And I said, I don't believe it. Well, of course. No, I don't do that. Okay, what's been going on? You look, V-sheek.

You're giving briny. Dairy. Oh, that's all I strive to be. I actually saw her like do a talk on the weekend. Oh, you went to work the health one. How is she? I love her so love. She's so, she's so she's so juicy of her. It's like she's got the cleanest mouth. I can't describe it. It's like the teeth is so clean. The lips is so perfect and clean. You would drink out of her family cup in a heartbeat. She's so clean and well-groomed. She's clean all aesthetic. She was just literally in these like this all black outfit and these killer heels like this and I was like, oh my but you're just so sick that you're like this pregnant,

doing this talk with these just whopping great big high heels on. She's just so chic. And then her husband walked past and I was like, he's just giving such star quality. We're really like fan-girling over them. Really cool. Oh my God, maybe me and her are going to be mom friends. Oh my God, you probably will be.

Okay. What else? Lucy, the osteopath. We must. So Melissa sent me to this osteopath. And you know, she's all into the holistic. She's all into this and that. And so off I go, I go to the dentist.

I see the dentist and weirdly I had perfect dentistry. Perfect dentress in there. And Melissa's obviously doing the cranial. Mm-hmm. So then off I go seven months later. The reason being is because the dentist said to me, look, there's not really much she can do while you're pregnant.

Yeah. So just, but then I'm in so much pain that my dog, my OB was like, we'll go to an hospital. So I was like, well, I'm going to go to her. Yeah. She's fucking unbelievable. Guys. You don't understand.

You don't understand. This woman is also like a spiritual healer. She's that amazing. She's a carnival. Her breakfast lunch and dinner. Her breakfast is liver. Slice is a frozen liver. She told me she mixes three raw eggs in a glass in the room in her studio.

And I said, so what does that taste like? And she said just like yokes. I was like, I just don't think I can get on board. I know it's tough. It's really tough. But I am like upping my meat intake and I'm now having things like chicken liver patte and like dark liver patte. Banging as well. Delicious.

Yeah, it's so nice. and it's like only something I would have like if I was with my parents I'd have a dinner or something in France. So are you buying it now and just buying it for my show? Just having it with the old Peter's Yard crackers

as a pre-dinner snack. She said to me she was like you don't have to go for this grass red organic whatever like me is such a such as I was like well we're going to be doing the organic obviously but anyway she clicked and she cricked

and she cracked me all over and I thought I've got a baby in that I honestly thought I would be scared she was like this right you ready and

straddling me and I'm like this oh my god in my head I'm going imposter syndrome don't say anything she knows what she's doing she knows what she's doing but I thought she does know that I'm in the answer

pregnant right she thinks she can tap I was like and the baby sits like boom boom boom and and then onto the other side and then she's literally doing it on my side but it was

instant relief I literally said I can't express what you have done to me like oh my god so you don't understand the pain anyway she manipulated my hips

and she was like they're, they're tight and small for a birthing mother with this big bump. So, like, that's why you're in pain. So we need to widen them to, like, prepare you for birth. She manipulates my head. You don't understand the movement. I texted her. I was like, the baby is moving so much.

She's like, it's got room now to wriggle about it. No, guys, this woman's fucking unbelievable. And I'm like, what the hell? I just, as every week I'm going to go and she's just going to widen my hips. I'm so pleased that you're going to her. I'm not, you're going to widen them, like, shrink them back in or is that just forever then? Because every week she's like We're just going to get them like an inch wider

An inch wider and I'm like That's great That's all well and good But like will we return or are we just I wonder how that works I don't think you do I think it's just a new womany I'm not mad about that

Give me some lovely hits Yeah a bit more of a sort of hourglass I might ask her to mind I was like absolutely Like widen them even more Can you widen like Yeah What else can we do guys

Do you remember that tooth that fell down and fell down, like, went back. Do you remember it was like a grey tooth? Oh, yeah. This second one here. People are listening. It's not my front two ones. It's the one to the right next to the front two.

That means in. God, we really started this off in like a vanity type way. But you know what? We just... Apologies. It moved back and it looked like in photos. I said so few photos. I was like, my tooth looks like it's just gone grey because of the shadow.

Like that kind of looks like my tooth's missing. She's like, I don't worry. We'll sort that out. Click, click, click, click. It'll move forward now. A week later, it's moved forward. Look at it. I don't know.

And I was like, how does it work? She was like, well, what do you mean? That's what I do. And I was like, I know, but I can't wrap my head around it. It's bonkers. It's bonkers. And she said, you know, my tailbone's clicked in because my hips are so restrictive, the pressure. So she was like, if we pull your hips out to birthing hips, your tailbone will either come out or back in.

Like, it's either really high up or it's really high out. Okay. I don't know what. But she's going to fix it for me. Oh, my God. So you're going every week? I'm going every Monday, yeah. Right.

I have to talk about something that I can't forget. You kind of know. But guys, everyone listening knows I'm a huge Gabriette fan. Oh, she loves Gabriette. And Gabriette, if you don't know, is like the one that is best friends with Charlie XX. And she's like this, how would you describe her? She's like kind of like a bit gothicy vibes.

And yeah, she's just an it girl, a model. And she's engaged to Massey Healy, right? She's like very well loved. It's not like a niche person to love, right? Like people obsess over her. Everyone's like, so why the obsession with her? I guess it's just of all people. Like, why am I so obsessed?

No, I would say why it's weird is because I wouldn't think of you to be obsessed with her. Okay. I would think of you almost to be like not my vibe. Yeah. Which I can see that out to be fair.

I guess like the style-wise isn't exactly aligned. But I also love that. But I kind of wish I could be like that. Anyway, so I was at this like a event a few weeks ago with Bella. I took Bella with me. We stay for like a few hours and then we left. So annoying.

The moment we leave virtually, feel like two hours later she's fucking there at this event and I'm like oh my god and then my friend James is there and then he parties with her all night long all night long then again last week what's all night long can we get some tea well let's get some tea on that well he didn't know I was so she passed with her I replied to his stories like oh my god you're with gabriette what the park what the fuck he's like yeah she's really nice blah blah and I was like oh god that's just so annoying she's really nice she's really cool and I was like as if he was like yeah we were talking all night long and I was like anyway then the next time he saw her was at

Fashion Week. Again, partied with her all night long and Charlie XXX. I want to know like all night. What's the hour we're calling it? Oh, he's a party animal. He's probably like 7 a.m. 9 a am. Right. Okay. So she goes big. So he's messaging me. It's New York time. Like I'm with Gabriette again. And it's like in the middle of the night in New York. And I'm like, I've told her all about you. He was like, I've told her that you're obsessed with her. I was like, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, now Gabriette knew so I am. So I'm like, I'm going to bleach my hair blonde, pull all the eyebrows out, so I'm like Gabriette. No, Gabriette's got, no, big eyebrows now, no?

They are literally a line. Oh my God, I just know I would look disastrous with the line. I would just, it would really not see. Do you not remember? I edited it on Facebook. I know. To make myself look like that. You've done it a few times.

I tell you what one thing is remarkable about you, the research you do into that sort of stuff. Like, I know that. I just need to see if I look good with it. I know if I need, like, I'll just go to you. Because it's going to have, you'd have researched it. You'll know exactly what, like, the lingo is. I thought you were going to be like, you're just going to go in and do it. I'm like, no, no, no, no.

Go in and do what? Like, dye your hair black or something. I was like, no, we must test it out first. It's not on chat GPT or something. ChatGBT. I don't understand how chat DBT works with the photo situation. Never works for me. You need to pay.

It's 20 pounds a month, which is horrific, but it's worth every penny. What, and so you just chat GPU? Anything. What are you chatting up on the GPT? I have a million different files open. I'm really organised on chat GPUT. I'm so confused So I've got a UCI file

Right That's understandable I'm not judging now So many questions I had a file about like my cranial thing And like my osteopathy Just because I wanted further questions

You know when you leave something And you're like I didn't get enough answers from that I need to ask chat GPT They have all the answers Honestly Anything and everything I ask it

Anything and everything But what are you talking about With the photos Like what are you chatting on there? Let's just say for example I sent a photo at my bedroom right the other day and I was like

I want to change my rug and then I sent it a link of a Nordic Knott's rug and I was like can you put this rug in there so I can see it looks like I can make my walls

a bit lighter so it did Sophie I don't think I'm on the right chat CBT no you need the app I've obviously got the app oh wait

chat AI mine is called I find it all a little bit scary and also I'll tell you something else that I found out apparently chat GBT can never say I don't know the answer so even if it's wrong

it will give you an answer it can't say we don't know the answer and some things people don't know you don't know how long you're going to go into bath for but if I are shabby it's going to tell me something it'll be like hmm that's tough to say I can imagine based on this it's going to be something something something

something you know what you used to be able to do which is unfortunately for all of us girlies that want to do a good stalk they've stopped this now you used to be able to put a photo in of somebody and be like who is this person and it would find you their Instagram handle they've stopped it

That's absolutely neat. Do you remember the day when you used to be able to go on to a certain thing and you could see who were following who and who liked each other's photos? Oh, yeah. It was on the Instagram app where you could swipe to like something and I could see like ex-boyfriend at the time has liked X, Y and Z edits, like all this guy's bikini photos. Anyway, what other things we got to talk about?

I would like to just discuss the fact that I am watching Monsters on Netflix. A bit late. Babe, the new series out. Ed Game. Wait, hold on. Am I getting confused? No, there was monsters, Jeffrey Dahmer. Then there was monsters with the two brothers. Oh, that's what I thought. Yeah. Right, there's a new one, Eddie Gain. Illegal. Everyone who was watching it or thinking about it, just don't. It is so icky and creepy. But I'm now so invested. I'm five.

Who's Eddie Gain? Oh, right. Well, Alfred Hitchcock, I don't know many of his movies, but clearly they're very famous psycho and Texas Massacre. They're all based on this character called Ed Gain or Eddie Game. Or is it going to freak me out? Oh, Melissa, you won't be able to cope. You really won't cope. Oh, American serial killer. Yeah, he looks freaking terrified. Right, so I'll tell you who's playing him.

That really thick girl called Charlie. And Addison Rays in it. Oh, I've seen previews of this on TikTok. Okay, now that makes sense. Yeah. Anyway, it's a lot. Like, it's... Are you going to stop watching it now?

I can't start. I know. But I'm quite like... this and then Jamie tells me when I can watch. But it's a lot and he's scarring and jarring and all sorts of bad news. But that's what I'm watching. My God, it's actually meant to help. Well, these are true stories.

Okay, right. Another thing. The series that I have just watched, I was telling you about it. Obviously, everyone's seen it. Girlfriend, The Girlfriend. I haven't watched it. Oh, it's so relevant to us. We must watch.

What? But you love, Jan. Well, I know. But I'm like, it's how I feel about my brother as well in a certain type of sense. It's like having an overbearing. It's funny. It's like being the girlfriend, right, it's all these different components to it. So being the girlfriend of, yeah, being the girlfriend obviously of a boy, the boy's mother, not always, and I've only had this once in my life, can be a bit of a bitch, okay, and be a bit protective. And like, it's sometimes a bit of an award thing. Also, being the mother, I can imagine of a boy, because I'm so protective of my brother, that I'm like, it's so hard to be.

like yeah they're good enough for you because like that's your like yeah it is weird because I feel like with women I don't know my dad's just like oh they always take Cheamy's side and my dad's just like thank god you've taken that girl off my hands like that is more the vibe

yeah well it's so dependent like my parents love Toby so much so maybe that's the same but I have had some boyfriends in the past my parents maybe haven't been big fans of have you know well you never really told me did they ever say anything? No. But they didn't say we love him. But you could tell. But like I find it really

hard with my brother like when he's dating somebody and if I'm like oh and they have like an argument or something I'm just like, no, they're not right for you or like I'm really quick to be like you need someone perfect because you're the best person ever. But wait, hang on a sec. You say this but you have been really nice to his girlfriend. And I fall in love with them eventually. But it's like an initial thing of protectiveness. Like oh my God, are you good enough? So I can only imagine that's times a thousand being a mother. Also, for a woman, it's like, there's another woman coming into the space. And I don't know why for the men, it probably isn't.

They're probably just not as bothered. Maybe. Anyway, so in this series is really good, but it's an extremely extreme version of that. So it's giving mother-in-law, monster-in-law. Kind of. Jane Fonda, that was a really great movie. But also the girlfriend is also psycho, and you can't quite work out which one's the psycho one. And do the pet mum and the daughter like each other deep down, or is it really,

it's very obvious from like the trailer that they hate each other so that's not a spoiler but it's brilliant you should really watch it's the best thing I've watched in a really long time like really long time will Jamie like it is it very much and it's also it goes from different perspective so one episode's from the mother and norah's perspective and one episode's from the girlfriend's perspective

SWAT is really fucking good and it says a lot of drama and there's so many things that are so relatable in it but in an extreme way you need to watch it Hang on a set, did you see Selena and Benny Vancoe's wedding? I think she looks amazing and I heard that he is like so charismatic. You'd be in a room with him and everyone would fancy him. Really?

Because I did. Beni Blanco or Justin Bieber? Well, obviously J.B., but then who knows? Because if I'm in a room with Benny, apparently you fall drop with ball. Oh, really? Yeah. Is it that strong? Did we see Justin Bieber just like up in Scotland going out in Dundee?

I know what's going on? I will say J.C. Absolutely mental. Whirding me out and his friends weirding me out of it. Oh, I think it's quite sweet. I just find them all like, I just picture them all like massive stoners and like I do find it a bit disconcerning. I was thinking how did they get their marijuana there? I was thinking about it and I was like, do they take it in their PJ?

Yeah. Of course. Takes it into Glen Eagles. I saw this TikTok of this girl. This is where you're missing out. You went to Glen Eagles. This girl who's American is just like on her honeymoon with her husband and she's like, I look up. She's like, awfully looks like Dustin Vibet.

She looks like that and she goes, fucking is Justin Beebe. We're like, oh my God, what the fuck? Like, as if he's just like in front of me. And then she goes over. She's on a golf course in Glen Eagles. Yeah, yeah. Just having breakfast in the hotel. And he's like, there having breakfast.

And she's like, is this happening? Like, what the hell? And then she like looks back on his Instagram and they're just like in the background. Like he's like posted a picture of like the breakfast room and they're just like there having breakfast. She's like, now I want his Instagram. Absolutely mental. Oh my God. I wouldn't know what today.

I know. I really don't know what I would do if I met Justin Mee. But like, virtually having him. And I was like, hey, well, babe, it's not happening. Toby should go up to Scotland. He should like... I think he almost did. And his brother wasn't in Scotland.

He should just like whip up. Yeah, just take his chances. I didn't think people like that posted in real time, but clearly he did. Well, he's doing all sorts of, like, unusual things, Jaby. And I will say, I obviously love them and I hope they are together. But I don't know. There's just something weird going on for me. She was FaceTiming.

They were FaceTiming when he was in the club. And like, the girls that were like just randomly there, like... We're like coming in and saying hello to Haley on FaceTime whilst he was there and she was like, are you having fun? This is wild. Why did he go to Glen Eagles? Well, because he's really into his golf and it's like the best place in the world for golf.

Okay, so right. Gorgie, gorgie, molly may does her catwalk. Proud of her. I don't know why, but I just root for her. I know she's so sweet. She's so sweet and I'm just like, go on girl. Like I just, I think it's because I watch all her blogs. I feel very connected to her.

And like I just feel like it was a big moment. moment of her. She's quite his private person. She's not like flaunting her body out. Like, she doesn't like wearing tight clothes. And she just looked amazing. Amazing. Amazing. Yeah, me too. Like breathtaking. She obviously had the bob.

A prosa and Bob. And then now everyone, Selena, all of these celebs are getting the Bob. And supposedly they're copying belly from the Summari Turned. Can I just caveat on that? I didn't even watch the fucking last episode. I was like, this shit is so boring. Why are we all obsessed with it? And Conrad makes me feel physically sick

I'm sorry I said it You didn't watch the last fucking episode You put all of that effort in To the whole three series And you didn't even watch the last episode I couldn't bear it Like him crying her crying I was like oh you're gonna end up together

We all know snore off it goes There's an hour film coming out I know but why are you haven't even watched The last episode so you don't even know what's happened You're gonna get really upset with me But I don't fancy Conrad in the slightest I find neither do I really But I actually really love Jeremiah and he doesn't annoy me.

He's so cute and fun. And I love the girl he gets with. Right, listen, Jeremiah redeemed himself. We're really throwing it back now. He redeemed himself in the last episode. Because he just moved up on her. He changed his mind and he changed his way. I just love, I just think they're so much more entertaining to watch them

stinking old belly and stinking old comrade crying. They're so dreary the two of them. To be fair, I don't feel like their chemistry was that. good in the last episode. I liked the fact that they had sex, but their chemistry wasn't. I basically just found it a little bit. I just lost in dress. I really, really did. I'm so sorry. And I'm a little bit confirmed. It was the espadryl getting off the bike. I just was disappointed in the espadryl. Oh, the shoe. I was like, are we for real doing it, you know. No, look, I love the bob. I thought the bob was great. Yeah. I thought the red lips were great. I loved all her new

looked, I think her Parisian fans were so cool great, you're living the life, Betty. I know what they were going for with that. I thought the guy she was getting with the Spanish guy was quite fit. Oh, shut. I did. I did. I was like, God. Comrade in his Abercrombie shirt is not doing it for me.

The outfits from a comrade were horrific. But that's what they're supposed, they're not supposed to be cool, like, edgy, like fashion easters. I just, I don't know. I won't be going to watch a movie. I'd taken a star in it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So what are you watching? We're going to watch a movie of the series

that we've all gobbled over all the summer. You don't know what's going to happen though. Well, it's true. She could go back to Jeremiah. There's all these opportunities for her. Okay, let's get into dilemmas. Okay. Emma Wom. Hey Sophie and Melissa, I've been with my boyfriend for three years and he is definitely

my soulmate. So sweet. I get on very well with his family. They are very close, which is lovely. But sometimes the physical affection between my boyfriend and his sister makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. They're both in their late 20s, but she will sit on his lap, wear his clothes and ask him for hugs. Guys, guys, guys, it's giving, it's giving France. Who was that? Oh my God, Danny. Danny, the neighbor. Oh, God, you're so right. Once on holiday she was wrapped around his waist in the pool absolutely not that's too far the sitting on the knee I'm like not

it's a bit weird isn't it? I don't it on my brother's knee I don't think if Emily sat on Jamie's Jamie would be like kick it off round today they're Spanish which I think explains it a bit but I find myself feeling quite jealous sometimes I wouldn't feel jealous I'd feel icked out I know this probably comes from a place of insecurity of my part but I can't help

feel uncomfortable by her the worst part is she's lovely and I know she's not doing it maliciously they've recently went on holiday together by themselves, which did bother me slightly. This is weird. It's giving Game of Thrones now. It is. I don't have a brother and I'm not trying to hypersexualise their relationship, but am I being totally crazy? No, babe, you're really not. Why are they going on solo holidays together? That's so fucking weird.

Why is she wrapping her arms around him in the pool? That's literally... Are you sharing a bed on holiday? They haven't, like, a certain impression. I've spoken to my boyfriend about it now, but I always just end up feeling guilty, feeling weird about it. I don't want to do anything to jeopardise their relationship or equally, but a wedge or equally put a wedge in between me and my boyfriend do you have any advice how would you feel in this situation i would not like it's a difficult one because it's like you can't imply that like they're being incestuous because that's like end of your relationship like that's such a weird thing to imply even though that is kind of what's going on like

it's it's inappropriate like you wouldn't do that with another guy because it's like you wouldn't do it with your dad but you wouldn't do it with like a guy friend i wouldn't do that me if we were all on holiday together because you'd be like that's so fucking inappropriate gal for my husband and Toby be like stop flirting and like being so tactile with him to do it with a brother it's like there's an element of it which is like okay well we can let that pass because it's your brother but then it's also like actually no it's actually weirder because it's your brother and it's inappropriate and it's fucking weird the way I am and the way I'm built I would 100% say something quite cutting that I'd probably regret and be like

I find your relationship really weird. It's so gross. But I don't think it would be the right. I'm not saying that's the right thing to you, but I know for a fact that I would say that. There's no part of me that would be able to hold that in. I'd be like, oh, that's really fucking weird. And I just, I know, I know I would.

But I'm not saying that would solve it. However, I honestly think this is done a problem of pants. For me, that is so weird. You have to just be okay with that being the deal for the rest of your life. Like, that relationship's not going away. She might get a boyfriend And her boyfriend And be like

Can you fucking stop With your brother? There is a lot of like Younger Sisters in particular Who have like a kind of like You know They're very obsessed with their older brothers And

That's true I have seen that But I don't think I've ever seen That tactileness It's the wrapped around the legs of the pool And going on a solo holiday trip The solo holiday is really weird It shouldn't be

Because if you and your brother went on and say I'd be like oh my God So sweetheart How was it? But you've never sat on your brother's knee and wrapped up your arms around his body and then who? Can you imagine doing that whilst talking to Toby? Toby would be like,

it's just so not on. It's so odd. It's just off. It's just way past the mark of being normal. I'm also going to say like I wouldn't do that to my sister. No. The Spanish thing I'm like, is that relevant? I think it is.

I actually do you are right. I honestly think it is. Like there was someone on Maiden Chelsea from Mary in Croatia. And I actually dated Jamie at the time. And she was very like that with Miles. And I feel like that was, they're both French. And obviously they're not siblings. But they were very much, that was the vibe it was giving me.

And I don't know if that's because it's a French thing. It's a Spanish thing. I do think it is a cultural thing. And I do think that I, because obviously I grew up going to Spain every summer, like they definitely are more tactile and there definitely is an element of that and I actually do think that could be a big thing and Spanish are incredibly tactile they're incredibly like you know like that's just the way they are right I don't know what you're going to do what would you do listen you can have one final word with your boyfriend it'd be like look I guess it's a

Spanish thing it makes me feel weird you know I would not behave with my brother like that and I'd appreciate it if you just backed off with with flirting with your sister Like just stop Could you just rain in a bit? Be like like this is my boundary And I can't be down for it If like if that's like normal to you guys And you've always been like that

And it's never going to change I'm not sure if I can actually be In this relationship anymore Even though you said he's your soulmate I think you just tell him that And he will stop I don't think the brother's pining after his sister He probably is just like

I'm sorry Really need those hugs from my sister Yeah I think he'll probably just be like Oh yeah fair I'll tell her to stop like or it might be a bit awkward But we can't say We need to be careful with these scenarios Because you don't want him to go and say

A hindrance in the family And then there's a bad family dynamic To his sister Joe You know Joe My girl from Melania is getting really upset I don't know why Melania is getting really upset With like our relationship Then it's like what the fuck

Like that's weird In itself And then makes you look like a weirdo Which you're not I just like I find you and your sister relationship weird And then put it on him Like he can then be embarrassed And then try and change it

Yeah You don't have to go too deeply into it Because he deep down in his soul Must know it is a little bit odd I wonder whether she was like that Before you were going out That's true Is this a recent sort of

Reignition of Yeah affectionless Anyway please let us know what you decided to do Okay let me see Hey girls love you both and the pod I could really use some sisterly advice right now Because I'm going through a weird patch Recently I've been blacking out

Every time I drink It happens even after a few drinks And every time it happens, the next day is brutal and I have the worst anxiety. I literally make up scenarios in my head and convince myself that everyone hates me even when I might not have done anything wrong at all. I'll check in with friends and ask if I've done anything

and they say I haven't, but I still can't help and stress about it for days on end. How can I beat the anxiety? Right. Right. We need to address blacking out after a few drinks. You might be like allergic to alcohol. Yeah, I don't think...

There are people who are. It's not sounding good. That might just not suit you. It's not enjoyable. There's no saving that anxiety. If you've blacked out, we can't be like, you didn't do anything wrong because you just don't know what you did. I would say that there's nothing wrong.

You don't have to announce you're not drinking. I just think that you should be like getting out of flounder and soda and say you've got vodka and then you just try it a couple nights. Your friends are not going to know. And if they bar you a drink, just leave it there and don't drink it. No one's going to study you. I also don't think if you're out and about and you go, look, I'm actually not going to drink tonight because they keep blacking out. That's freaking me out.

That no one's going to make you drink. Like, they're going to be like fair. And if they do, they have really bad parents. Yeah, then you really need to address the people that you surround yourself with. But I think if you're just honest and you're like, look, there was a period of time where I kept throwing up every time I drank. I had like three drinks and I'd be throwing up the next day. It was so bad. So I actually would just stop.

I was like, I can't drink tonight. I have one drink and then I have to stop because I'm throwing out. And they're like, yes, so fair. Like no one questions it. also like not to also make your anxiety worse because that's not I'm trying to do here. But if you are blacking out and like not being yourself, it's probably better for your friends actually that you don't drink and they're probably going to enjoy your company more, you know, and then you're going to feel better about the whole thing and going to be excited to go out again,

not anxious to go out again because if you were already having anxiety from the time before, you're then going to be freaking out every time you go out. So you just take that thing out of the equation. Take the booze away. It's just so much better for you and everyone. Everybody else. You can get mocktails or you could do the soda thing or you could just say, as Melissa said, like, I'm not going to drink, get a Diet Coke, get a non-alcoholic beer.

There are so many options. I'm like, trust me, no one cares that you're not drinking. And if they do, that's like that's on them, right? But don't worry. And I think perhaps it just doesn't suit you at the moment and maybe like give it a go. And if you really, really want to try and reintroduce it, maybe drink in a nice environment with your mom and dad, have a glass of wine. see how it goes, you know, in a couple months' time or whatever, and just test it that way. Yeah.

But we love you, sending you love. You love you so much. Dilemma 3. Hey girls, love you guys and the pod and big congrats to Sophie. Thank you. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. He has a big group of friends from school and in that group he's got two exits. He was in a relationship with one of them whilst they were at school and she's now moved away.

So she doesn't concern me too much, but his other ex is really starting to follow me. Oh, no. Nothing with the lingering air. For context, my boyfriend broke up with her a few months before we started dating and they didn't end on the best of terms. He says he didn't love her and they only were together for six months. We see each other in group settings quite a bit and she is understandably quite always quite awkward and sometimes frosty me. Even so, she seems like a lovely girl. My issue is that every time I see my boyfriend her in the same room, I can't help but imagine them being together.

And it honestly makes my blood boil. It's making me resent her, which I really don't want to do, especially as we're all going on a whole day together next year. Why? What can I do to stop myself thinking about my boyfriend shacking an ex? No, I don't know. It's fucking horrible. Because you know what I've done before, right? Yeah, I'd love to know.

I've, like, been in the root, like, I've seen, and I've almost been, like, to myself, why aren't I jealous? And why is it not? I almost want to self-sabotage myself. So I'm like, they've shared. I'm like, they've been in love. Like I create a story to make myself be irritated at the situation because I want to self-sabbitrash or create drama in my own life. Yeah, fair.

Because I'm like, oh, they're so lovely. Like, look at those two, like, says, they're lovely together and I'm not faced all. And then I'm like, no, the little demon in my head's like, you must change that. And then once you think about them shagging or them being in love. Then it's horrible. It's gay, maybe you can never recover. Listen, he didn't love her. So, it's easy, peasy.

It was a short-lived relationship. And by the way, one thing I think. men don't lie like if they love someone they'd be like yeah I really loved her yeah they do they're not clever enough to be like I didn't love her like Jamie will be like no I really liked her I won me together it was great and I'm like are you fucking extremely don't say that to me but like that means something if he said that he genuinely didn't love her 100% you need to just develop this mentality of like I'm the hottest girl that walked the planet and I've got the prize yeah I am the prize and I've got the prize and he's the prize and I'm the

and just really reinforce that into your brain. So you're giving off that energy. So you intimidate the shit out of her. And be nice to her, but be short with her. You know, if she's being frosty with you, like you've done your bit. You can't do anything else. Well, I kind of think she's being frosty

because she's probably a bit to intimidate and awkward. Like, I feel like if you said she seems like a lovely girl, like probably lead with kindness. Probably just be a bitch. But because otherwise then, you know what? She might then retaliate and be like, I'll flirt with your boyfriend. And then, and you know what boys are like.

When they get fluttered with, they don't know. And they flirt back. You end up looking like the psycho if you're like, you guys are flirting. You're going to plant the seed in his head. So what you want to do is almost befriend her so that she doesn't dare flirt with him. I think that's a phenomenal piece of advice. I think that we keep our enemies closer. Not though she's an enemy.

She could turn out to actually be a great friend, which would be a lovely bonus. But we need to address the first problem, which is that, you know, she's an ex and she's on the holiday. And we need to just eliminate that being something that you're worried about. And also then your boyfriend will be like, you're such a cool chick. It's so mature. So mature. And you're just a nice girl, like, boys don't like girls being mean, do they? They don't.

They don't. Boys hate a bitch. Right. I think we've come up with a very good game plan here. Same. The friend, keep your friends closer in the amenities, even closer. You know what I mean. I feel sorry for an ex sometimes because I'm like, oh, it didn't work out for you guys. And like, he dumped you.

Yeah. So, like, they're the ones that are going to be like, oh my God, like the new girlfriend's coming and like she's really great and he obviously loves her so much like she's feeling so much worse probably no worries about it it's only bad if she dumped him that's only the bad thing if you if you if your boyfriend or your husband got dumped by a girl I think it would burn me because I'd be like well you obviously would have stayed with her yeah yeah like I don't think like but then a lot of boys do push a relationship to the point of where the girl has to break up with the boy because they're so hellish there is the element as well and also like

whatever like we've all been broken up with or broken up with people like not everyone I broken up with cares about me do you know what I mean? They're like thank fuck you broke up

with me I'm on to the next you know what I mean yeah fine so so I actually ignore what I just said don't plant that seeded to anyone's head

because that's just anxiety I do get what you're feeling like that though I validate your feelings thank you no I meant the dilemma oh I was like she really agrees.

She really agrees. They're so genuine. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. We both validate your feelings and we love you so much. And please keep us updated and send us pictures. I want the ex as well.

Maybe her Instagram handle. I'd love to do you do, I stalk. Absolutely. I would love to do you dog talk. Also, just get yourself some really good bikinis that you feel great in. Just get yourself some great outfits. Feel good. Absolutely.

Absolutely. And also go being the best fucking vibe. You're going to have a great time. And the nicer you are to her, the better, more attractive you are to everyone. Like don't, like just just come with the vibes and just have a good time. And you know what? It'll probably be a ball. Okay. Love you so much. We love you so much. Bye. But, God, don't you just fancy some more, Melissa? Yeah, I'd really love a follow-up to some of those dilemmas. I want to know what happens. Well, then, Tynies, we have got some news for you. We have launched a premium version of Wednesdays. Now, listen, subscribers get access to the podcast ad-free, with bonus episodes.

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