Wednesdays - 117: FIFA has ruined my sex life!

Episode Date: July 11, 2023

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We're ready to go. Oh my God. I'm seeing Elenique after this. I can't wait for another one. I really miss Elenique. Twice a week I have to see her. Well, I'm complaining. To rejuvenate the skin. Should we talk about that?

Have you? Yeah. I've made a highlight on my Instagram, if you want to know anything about it. It looks so much better. But I basically kind of ruined my skin with something called Secret RF, which is kind of like Morpheus 8.

Yeah. It's like a very intense microneedling kind of thing. Anyway, kind of ruined my skin with it. And Elenique's trying to save me, and she's helping already. So I'm going to have one of those. She really, I can see it's such a different, can you see such a difference? I can. There's you see such different i can there's not as many bumps there's not as many

bumps but the pic when i take off the makeup you can still see it it's just in this these patches now really but do you remember when it was up here she's really done wonders helped it a lot thank god that's good news it means it was just good news building up the skin barrier again yeah i just got back from my sister's hand which was lovely oh my god it looked so amazing it was so far if you guys don't know Bobby is currently with my mom um in Portugal she's coming back very very soon when my mom drives back over to England because we between the wedding and the hen and the stag we didn't want to like keep having to put give her to someone to look after so I thought she knows my mom really well she knows my mom's dog really well so we took her to Portugal and then my mum's driving her back at the end of the map

I got to see her and she's no I can't she's precious this video of her leaping in the pool is the best thing I've ever seen honestly she's like the smallest tiniest little dinky your mum's commentary on it so good she goes oh look she's clever she's gonna swim back around get up the steps good girl no my mom's so funny my sis like saunters out in her 50th outfit she honestly had so many i i was like told her boom close my eyes she was out in another outfit she looked amazing but my she comes out and we were all like oh my mom joined the hen because obviously she yeah and like we wanted her there and i just heard my little mum go go get it girl

I was like no I love you you're so cute go get it girl it's when they do an American accent she was like yeah work your stuff

I was like oh you hurt myself oh my god sweet lady I tell you what though my mum she obviously my mum hates tequila

like cannot stomach tequila and everyone was having those tequila roses you know they taste like milkshake they're like shots no wait tell me right you know like they taste like milkshake they're like shots

no wait tell me right you will like it is it like a jelly jelly no it's like a shot but it's basically like a baileys but strawberry

it's like a strawberry milkshake but it's tequila that's actually a drink that you'd like it's kind of like toffee vodka vibes like you know yeah yeah yeah

mum had no idea what it was no alcohol she was like this nailing them she was like it's like a milkshake I was like mum

you've just had about four shots of tequila oh gosh but she really pissed she went no she didn't make the bet she was like i'm not she was like i need a snooze i was like oh gorgeous that's so lovely that she got to see the whole thing i know it's really nice it was so wholesome and just so much fun it really was we got to talk about the wine this is a stunning bottle i love a niche bottle shape and it's a screw top we know how we love a screw top because i can't open it they're easy access oh light elegant rosé citrus amomas and floral notes citrus is quite dry isn't it it's like i think most roses are yeah quite dry yeah unless you're getting that like Matthias from Portugal it's just like one euro take a sip give me the notes it smells just

like gorgeous rose I won't like they all kind of taste similar to me yeah lovely can't complain can't complain right tell me about Love Island guys I've been missing out I just haven't watched it so if you try to make a pact to like make an effort to watch it this year because we were hearing that it was really good so it's been away in the hen so she didn't manage to get around to it i have put my i did my homework i've watched so i watched the episode where um katie like came on and like kicked the other girl, Molly, off. You must watch it. Katie McDermott's back. I know. She's so beautiful.

I know. And she's grown up so much since, like, I don't think the last season I watched was when my friend Charlie Brake was on it, which was the season after that, which was, like, season three. Back in the day. Back in the day. This is, like, going. No, I watched Molly.

Molly. I never watched that season. God, you've really not. I didn't watch it last year. No. You dipped in and dipped out. Right. I literally watched, like, two episodes. No, I watched the whole thing. God, you've really not. I didn't watch it last year. No. You dipped in and dipped out. I literally watched like two episodes. No, I watched the whole thing.

Okay, right. So, Katie's come back in. Katie came in, made this huge comeback, and picked this gorgeous boy called Zachariah, which then meant that Zachariah's partner at the time then got kicked out and had to leave. I think he kind of had a connection. She's come back in though, right? She's come back in. I saw Olivia Atwood was like, I know she's come back in.

And now they're like in love And like Then Katie came back From Castamore And was like Hi You're back And it was like

So awkward I really need to watch it But how many do I need to catch up on So I would watch it Just when my Katie comes in Which is what Last episode I don't know

No no no It's a few episodes ago But you know what It's quite nice to binge watch Like six or seven And they're very gorgeous And also without the adverts It's only like a half an hour thing without the ads oh yeah zoom zoom yeah so that's

all kicked off anyway so now katie's kind of like with this other guy i don't know i'm just now katie and zack are aren't gonna get together i'm kind of bummed out because i was really excited about them as a couple basically is katie the one to watch like you she we like her on i just like her so much like she's also really mature like handles herself so well like she's the type of girl we'd be friends with like us mature we handle ourselves so well you had it also this sakurai boy's really quite stunning and i'm like can you not i'm like we're gonna get him on the podcast as soon as he comes oh yeah let's get zakarara on the podcast he's gorgeous he's like six five six not? I'm like, we're going to get him on the podcast. As soon as he comes back. Oh, yeah. Let's get Zachariah on the podcast.

He's gorgeous. He's like 6'5". I like his name. 6'5"? He's a big boy. And he like holds himself so well. Zachariah Noble? He's like very chill.

Don't look at his Instagram. That's not for me. That's not going to be your vibe. No. But you know who you were obsessed with? That Luke Abish. Which is so not my vibe at all. Yeah, not my vibe anymore.

But back in the day. But you fancy him all over my life. There's a guy in it who looks exactly like Lucas Bish. No, it wasn't Lucas' looks. It was his chat that I liked. Oh, I thought his chat. Okay, I don't know what you mean. But that wasn't my vibe.

So if I liked him, anyway, this guy's really my vibe and he's stunning. No, he's so tall. But wait, have you seen his before and after? I have. What the fuck? But you know what?

It's not about that. It's like the way you see him handle himself he's quite fit like he doesn't look like a love island boy he's no drama vibes he's very much so I like his buzz cut

he's very confident what does he do he holds himself so well I don't know what he does he doesn't really say much but every time he says something I'm like

Toby's like that's not funny he's just so tall six foot five he must look real tall next to Katie yeah yeah yeah he's a big boy what's Molly like give me the low five. He must look real tall next to Katie. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's a big boy.

What's Molly like? Give me the lowdown on her. I don't know. Molly like. We're not a fan. It's not that I'm not a fan. I just don't have an emotional pull towards her. That's the only thing I can say.

I have an emotional pull towards Katie. Molly Grace Marsh. I like her. Molly. Oh, there's one thing I will say about Molly. There's this thing flying about on TikTok about her. She did a femme fresh ad ad and now it's gone like huge

well no she's like on her TikTok but now it's just like all I can think about when I look at her is this Femme Fresh ad what about the smelly vaginas or keeping them clean

I don't know it's like no hate towards it like Femme Fresh is great but like it's all I can think about now so I just think about her and this Femme Fresh ad oh you must think about that when we take on

work with different guys like it really becomes your identity yeah yeah it does anyway so him and this Molly girl and Zachariah

seem to be very happy and very in love I'll give them that they've obviously got a connection very sweet they went into The Hideaway

the last episode I watched had sex had a little hanky panky I think so obviously I mean if you don't then then who are you

what else are you doing in there like anyway do you remember though Gemma Cohen's what's she called Gemma Cohen and that Luke Fish were like, no, we didn't have sex. She obviously didn't fancy him at all.

Oh yeah, she broke up with him. As soon as they came out, I was like, see ya, hun. Do you think? Yeah. She picked the best out of like a bad bunch. That was her, like, do you know what I mean? That was her survival mode. Oh, so savage.

Yeah, it's true. She didn't have a connection with anyone apart from him but I guess to her it wasn't the ideal connection also like when you're in those sort of circumstances like imagine

remember when we were on Made in Chelsea like you do just you're in a you're in a bubble you're in a bubble and it's just like you pick whatever's there

this isn't the one for me yeah totally totally I will say I'm not overly impressed by this yeah it's Kardashian haven't watched it

it does her no point Farsi Kim posted a photo today a selfie in her mirror there is a full ghost in the background black and white clear as day is it the recent one yeah like a selfie in the mirror

look in the background what the fuck oh my god no no no my eyes are just filled with water I know and it's like an old-fashioned... She's got a bonnet on her head. But it also looks like she could be pregnant. The figure. Oh!

Doesn't it? Oh my god. Let's see if he looks. Give me goosebumps. I know. When I saw it, I honestly gasped. People were like commenting on it. She wrote.

She wrote in it. So I took this pic last week when I was alone. And now going through my phone, I'm freaking out noting a woman in the background. I think the woman's holding her hands together like she's a maid you know

yeah I'm just gonna show the camera now that can you see that is black and white that's as clear as it

that's spooky right we've got sweet or dry you ready for this okay he still has his childhood teddy bear sweet dry I think it's sweet does Toby have one so in Toby's wardrobe I think it was his home home

um we went back there I mean look after a few months of us dating maybe three four months of us dating and then he had it like in his wardrobe I could just see like the feet of it and I was like what's that that's quite sweet and then I took it back to London then he had it like in his wardrobe like I could just see like the feet of it and I was like what's that and he was like oh and then I took it back to London and I had it in my

my room for like ages that's sweet it's not like he's cuddling he doesn't like cuddle that and suck a sum of it

every night no no but some people do that to me is a bit dry that to me is really quite dry I think holding on to things for prosperity

is another thing but sleeping with it every night and having to have my blanket oh no there's friends in my friendship group

that still have to sleep with their blankets yeah yeah yeah well we've got loads of friends who still sleep with their teddies it's just the way I am like I'm not attracted to it for me but if like to be honest I don't really like any of it they've always been a bit grubby to me like just wash it just get that in the wall some people don't wash it which is really I know and they've got like one eyeball yeah oh they're just like they're just like there's no hair it's just like yeah yeah it's funny yeah I actually when I was younger kind of wanted one like I was so upset I almost

wanted to like get one and rough it up and be like well this is my blanket that I've had for ages because I felt left out I just never had one I had a teddy but like I think I stopped having it I just recycled that and I was like new one this is my new and I only have like a long-standing teddy but I got jealous that everyone else it was like a cool thing to have I never had an attachment like a serious attachment to like a specific teddy for a long period of my life there was one or two I think that I had when I was younger but then that was it I was over it quite quickly I think yeah I was over them quite quickly and also dressing gowns I probably had more attachments to than teddies but that I must I'm going I'm going home today and throwing out all my dressing gowns.

I've just got the ick from them for some reason. You know what it is for us girls? It's the fake tan. It's the makeup all around, like the collar. I'm icked out by all of them. I put them in the wash, though, and they come out brand new. Oh, I wash mine, honestly, every other day. I think my clean wash is...

Like a towel. You just wash them like a towel. Yeah. But they come out clean. But I have a lot. I know that Jamie's got an ick with me in this soho home dressing gown he's like I can't bear it

please you're like this big polar bear in the house and now I've got the ick with myself in it like I feel grubby when I wear it now like I just

envision myself I also know the dressing gown he's wearing yeah it's because it is quite icky it's so big for me like I'm not trying to make

anyone vomit and then I know what it's supposed to be like it sometimes drips in my food when I'm using it and I'm now, I knew you were going to say that. And I'm now, like, repulsed in my sound. Soaps in the kitchen.

She's in this dressing gown. I can see her. So she's, like, leaning on one leg. Like, you're doing something like chopping up a chicken salad for herself. I'm not leaning on a leg. I'm a slob. No, no, like, no, this is how you are. I'm just going to do a demonstration.

She's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. In the kitchen. Gaping over my language. And then she sits down and she goes, she's got her hair in a bun. Probably left face mask on. She's like, right, tell me everything then. Salt, salt, yeah, yeah, yeah. In the kitchen. Gaping over my langs. And then she sits down and she goes, she's got her hair in a bun, probably left face mask on. She's like, right, tell me everything then. Salt, salt, salt. Dressing animal.

Coconut water. Slap, slap, slap. Yeah, we need to get rid of the dressing animal. Yeah, and then like it just like, as I'm reaching, it's so big for me. I need to get like a skimpy one with maybe three quarters of it.

Maybe. The white company do little ones, I think, that are still cosy, but they just fit better. I just think the dressing gown, I've just got to slowly wean myself off it because I think as we get older, it's not a vibe. No, I love a dressing gown. I can't be 38 wearing a dressing gown. I think it's so fine wearing a dressing gown. I just think we need to get one that fits you because the Soho ones, it's one size

fits all. So it's like, it's for a man, it's for a tall person, it's for everything. Do you know what I mean? Nothing will compare because it's so cosy and soft. You've got one. I do, but I don't man, it's for a tall person, it's for everything. Do you know what I mean? Nothing will compare because it's so cozy and soft. You've got one. I do, but I don't really wear it that much. Yeah, I know. Well, I need to get out of the habit.

That's why I'm just going to pop them in the van and that's how I'm done. That's that chapter closed. Yeah, I just put like tracky shorts on and a vest. No, I like to be covered. Sorry, we rambled on. Okay, message celebs or footballers on Insta DM. Oh my God, Jamie's been posting about this recently. Has he?

That his friends have been like DMing Justin Bieber. Oh, my friends. You know them. No, I think it's so sweet if like a girl DMs like a famous girl, like saying like, you know. I think that's sweet. Like, I love this lip liner. Like, you look great.

Or like, you're like one of my inspiration. I think that's like the sweetest thing ever. I think it's parvy as fuck if you're DMing some footballer being like, hey, what up? You look sexy. Yeah. Like, no, don't do that. I do agree. But like, messages left on footballers.

Sometimes, sometimes weirdly these things like end in romance. So like, apparently, don't know if this is true. You know that the Beckham, the one that's got the tattoos that looks, that's really good looking, Romeo. Romeo, yeah. His girlfriend apparently DMed him and that's how they met. looks that's really good looking Romeo Romeo yeah his girlfriend apparently DM'd him and that's how they met yeah it's true

so like sometimes it does work out well Hayley and Bieber were quite like that like she was a fan imagine you're so right imagine

so you know what I'm not gonna slap it that much because sometimes it ends in marriage and beautiful rings and I'm not gonna slap it

that much it's like the saying I knew one I love it I'm not gonna slap that down but I must say I don't mind the celebs that much. It's like the saying, I knew it. I love it. I'm not going to slap that down. But I must say, I don't mind the celebs at the footballers. It's just like, come on.

You know what it is? I think it's just because they have a rep. So it's kind of like. But it's just like, we know that happens. It's like a rite of passage with them. Blowing raspberries in your belly. No. No, not for me. I'm not going to say it's a massive ick, but I don't do it to me.

No, no, I really don't. I would actually be sick if someone put their face in my belly button the belly button being touched is really not a vibe I don't I hate it when Toby touches my belly button same I hate it it makes me feel a bit like it goes through me it's a bit like if someone like puts their finger in your ear like no that's just a hole that doesn't need to be entered yeah holes just don't like don't shove your hand in my mouth you know some boys though like like friends i'm not talking romantically like you'll be out having a drink they'll be like boop in your mouth i'm like that's just not funny that's never happened to me in my entire life tell me who's done that to you oh no don't put your finger down

my throat that's fucking weird right should we get into the dilemmas yeah all right all right all right all right you're really overexcited then chill out okay i've been i've been traveling for the past year and my friends recently came out to meet me we all stayed together in villas and hostels and i've i've only just found out two weeks later that my sister and my best friend was sleeping together in the bunk in the bunk bed i was in at the hotel no no no no no i don't know how to react so i'm pretty graced out and annoyed as i feel like that's crossed the line am i being dramatic or getting upset for getting upset i'd be i don't think you're being dramatic for getting upset but i also think like i wouldn't like fall out no just be like guys would rather you've not have done that when I was in the room. I'd be like, that's really rank.

Can you please not? But also, like, I wouldn't care. Yeah. Don't get upset. Because you didn't see them. You don't have the vision in your head. I walked in on my sister giving a blowjob. Oh!

No, no. No, no. What? I was really, right, she was dating this guy from Spain. Okay. Oh, I think you've told me this story. Fast boyfriend.

Well, not really, actually. Do you always have boyfriends? He this guy from Spain. Okay. Oh, I think you've told me this story. Fast boyfriend. Well, not really, actually. Do you always have boyfriends? He flew over from Spain. And she was in our end room. It was cool, like the cream sitting room. No one went in there. Oh my God, it was in a sitting room. It was in a sitting room.

It was in the middle of the day. No, no, it was night time. But my dad and mum, I don't know where they were at, but they were out. And we were all in the other sitting room. And we were watching Green Street or something rogue, like some movie. And I don't know where they were at, but they were out and we were like all in the other sitting room and we were watching like Green Street or something rogue,

like some movie and I was like, where is Georgia? I just obviously was young. I'd never kissed a boy. You never, it would never cross your mind that she was doing something naughty.

No. And then I walk into the room and I scream. I honestly was horrified. I burst into tears. No, my parents were asleep. They were in bed.

They were asleep in bed. I run up to their room and I go, my sister, Georgia's a prostitute. I, my parents were asleep. They were in bed. They were asleep in bed. I run up to their room and I go, my sister, Georgia's a prostitute. I was 12. And I honestly, in my mind,

I thought she was. I was so upset. I thought that's what it was because I'd just seen it in the movie. I need to know more information. So when you scream, what did Georgia then do? What did the boy do?

She obviously, I remember her, she just looked up. Oh my God. It was like slow-mo. It felt like I was there for 10 minutes. I closed the door. I run, run, run up to my mum. I go, mummy, daddy. It felt like I was there for 10 minutes. I closed the door.

I run, run, run up to my mum. I go, mummy, daddy. They're like, what? Waking up from their slumber. And I go, George is a prostitute. And she was like, and then I don't know what else happened. No one spoke of it. Obviously, I think they were like, what happened?

And I obviously had to explain. And then they probably put me to bed. I mean, why am I acting like I was five? I was only 12. It's quite scary. I then they probably put me to bed. I mean, why am I acting like I was five when I was only 12? That would, it's quite scary. 12, I knew fully what that was though.

Yeah, why the fuck didn't I? I don't know. My school was quite ahead of the game. I was a boarding school from a young age. You weren't a co-ed school.

I was an all-girls school. Yeah, that's why you had no idea. That would have really scarred me. I was scarred. That would be horrible. Also, you're seeing it in the flesh. I've never seen it in the flesh.

Also, you're seeing your sister doing that in the flesh. Yeah, I know. There's a few things that you don't want to see. Doggy and 69 or blowjobs. horrible also seeing it in the flesh i've never seen your sister doing that in the flesh there's a few things you don't want to see doggy and 69 or blowjobs for some reason they are the three guys guys guys my friend walked in at university on her boyfriend doing 69 he just lifted the head out can you imagine she was she walked open the door and he just lifts his head up can you imagine she was like she walked opened the door and he just lifts his head up can you imagine no that is like I never gave that

that would scar me forever I would need deep like healing from that PTSD I would need all the crystals around me that is really horrible

I have a story oh god I don't know if I'm allowed to say this and I don't even know if she knows anyway this person at my school

had a boyfriend and um they thought they had the house to themselves basically and they went upstairs to having sex and doggy i can't and the dad kind of weird vibes to the dad part obviously got back to the house saw that the car was there went straight up to the bedroom kind of knowing that

he was around and just opened the door no no the guy's holding her bar and like looks up makes eye contact and then just shuts the door I actually can't as if to be like I'm home I can't have you not heard about the one that in Doggy

there's something so like I don't know what it is like it's so like Doggy's so feral yeah it's just so crass it's so animalistic isn't it

oh god the thing is like Missionary you're just like so covered up or like well not if you want to it just is a bit more PG

yeah and you can put like the it's just like you're not seeing much you're not seeing much you to ask it just is a bit more PG yeah and you can put like the it's just like you're not seeing much you're not seeing much you've got it feels maybe a bit more romantic doggy's just so like

it's quite pornographic yeah yeah yeah I don't know what it is nothing against doggy you know I'm sure we all love a bit of doggy but it is just that position where you don't

you just don't you just don't want anyone to see it you don't want anyone to fucking see it oh god okay yeah so I think regarding Cicely I never fell out with her.

She should have fallen out with me more so for running up and telling parents. Yeah, telling mum and dad. I think you just have to let it go. Just laugh it off. It's nothing. Yeah.

At least sister's getting some... Yeah, and at least your friend is too. Hopefully they just stay together. Yeah. Dilemma two. Help.

My boyfriend is obsessed with FIFA. Amen. Hi, girls. I love listening to your podcast. I never miss one. So basically, I've been with my boyfriend is obsessed with fifa amen hi girls i love listening to your podcast i never miss one so basically i've been with my boyfriend for three years we've lived together for a year now and it's great we are best friends and have such a fun time together but last year he wanted a playstation for his birthday so i got him one now i wish i had him it's becoming very annoying how much he is obsessed oh god oh for a bit. Ugh. For a bit of background, the reason he never had one before,

meaning I didn't know how much he loved it, was because he couldn't really afford one and hasn't had the greatest past. So at first I was really happy that my gift had made him so happy. Aw. But now I'm getting irritated that the game is being prioritised over me. It's starting to affect our sex life. I never thought this would happen. We've always had a regular and amazing sex,

but now his game is more important. What the fuck? Boys are just so funny. They're so irritating. I've said I don't mind you playing as long as you make time for me to, which he understood and agreed to. But recently,

this is out the window and FIFA is an everyday occurrence. He also had a six-year-old son who we look after every other weekend, so we only spend time together on the weekend. We don't have him. So to me, our time is very precious.

Do you guys think I'm unreasonable in moaning about it? I've given up now. I don't say anything and let him get on with it. No. No, I think that you're not unreasonable at all. I would be like, I fully have this with Jamie sometimes. Like, there's rules. I say it can happen whilst I'm making dinner or if I'm not in the house.

The minute I'm,'m like ready to watch or talk to him we have time together quality time together yeah you need to make rules yeah and there'll be times

like I have a bath and I'm like you've got half an hour to play FIFA I'm literally like quickly go go go yeah

I think that's the smart thing I think you just dictate some time like okay we have our alone time I'm gonna have like an hour of pampering. I'm going to have a bath and do a hair mask. This is your hour.

But then when I'm done, we come back, we have dinner together. Then we watch something together for half an hour before bed. I think FIFA is quite an addictive one. It sounds like boys have this all the time. Like this is really quite common, I think. People don't talk about it enough. It would be, it's like there's a third person in the fucking relationship. It's annoying.

Yeah, and also like the noise. Getting the gulag, it's like there's a third person the fucking relationship i would yeah and also like the noise getting the goo like it's so irritating i'm like i'm walking through a war zone in my own house i don't want to hear guns going on no that would disturb it it's really like jarring yeah yeah i wouldn't like that at all i'm so happy toby doesn't i'm so happy toby doesn't for you gaming for some reason makes me feel weird yeah i don't feel right about it i'm not very good at it so for me i'm just like oh it gives me such a thrill that it's too much anxiety yeah i think it's anxiety provoking and it's like addiction it's very strange it's like watching a horror movie you want to see more but the feeling's awful yeah it's exactly the same i if i was you i'd throw his fifa away'd break it, pull some water over it and go, oh no.

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and have your say. That's mypodcastsurvey.ca. We have an exciting follow-up slash I've been thinking about this follow-up what this dilemma or not so the girl had a boyfriend they've been together for four years they were in a great relationship she went on holiday and he went to a house party got really drunk and slept with someone he then called her the next day and was like i've made a mistake i'm so sorry yada yada and she was speaking well she asked us for advice on if she should take him back or not and sophie and i kind of said if it was us no we wouldn't be able to forgive so another one of our lovely listeners has written in in response of this dilemma saying i was just listening to the recent episode where someone has been cheated on in a four-year relationship and i just had to

message in because i went through a similar thing oh this really scares me no it's not gonna happen my boyfriend of six six years kissed a girl on a night out and then again later that same night I wait wait hold on kissed a girl on a night out and then again later that's it so he kissed someone the same girl twice in a night out basically I'm someone who classes kissing is cheating and I always told myself it was a deal breaker if it were ever to happen to me. I have honestly never been so shocked and heartbroken in my life and was at the same crossroad trying to figure out if I was going to stay with him as I loved him and I couldn't imagine my life without him. I moved back to live with my family for about a month to figure figure my head out and decided to make it work. I'm not going to lie it took a long time to get

over it but it's four years later and we are married and happy my advice is if you end up staying with him to stay confident in your decision stay true to yourself and if you believe he is the one and it was a mistake there is light at the end of the tunnel that's true that's a lovely piece of advice but I do think kissing is very different to sleeping with someone it just is I do too because kissing like ah you stumbled and you fell but sleeping is like you stumbled you fell you tumbled you kept a johnny on yeah you probably switched positions like there's none of it's right took your clothes off also i just don't know i

really do think though like obviously some obviously, people in life make mistakes. Some people do forgive and move on, yeah. But if you do, she's right in the sense that if you do decide to make it work, you really have to forget. You actually have to not bring it up

the whole time. Oh God, you can't hold resentment, you just have to forgive. You don't have to forget it, but you have to forgive. You have to fully forgive

and you have to let your relationship move on. There'll obviously be like a healing period. You can't live in the past. Yeah. Yeah, there'll be a healing period.

You have to just so- Well, you might hate him every time you get drunk or something like that and that will get better with time i do agree you can't hold it over him that you have to really yeah that's your decision because otherwise that's just like he he can't be paying the debt forever yeah kind of thing right so what's she written that so the girl herself has followed up do you want to read it oh my god okay yeah i'll read it um with the advice that we gave her and i'm i've been thinking about you a lot by the way like i i've been telling a lot of my girlfriends talking to them about it like it's this for some reason really like it really stuck with me okay you ready yeah thank you for your advice on my dilemma just wanted to let you know where things currently stand off my boyfriend of four years

teach on me i flew back from my holiday a few days early and he picked me up from the airport and we drove home. In the car I asked him to tell me from start to finish exactly what happened. He told me that it was quite a relaxed house party and he wasn't going too hard drinking but then the girl who we had both known for a few years through a mutual friend started giving him loads of shots at which point he said that he felt very drunk. When he went up to the room he thought he'd been told to sleep in she'd already gone to bed the room was dark and he didn't realize anyone was in there until he got into the bed after that he said things just happened really quickly when he woke up a few hours later and I sobered up he told me he panicked when he realized what he had done and got up immediately to call me and he said he was so destroyed by

what he'd done and couldn't keep it from me. I agree with you that it was a choice rather than a mistake but we've had many conversations trying to work out how we even came to do it that when we are in such a good place. While he still doesn't know exactly why he did what he did he says that he was extremely drunk. There was no foresight or planning in his head and that he didn't intend to cheat on me slash didn't want to hurt me. It's now been a month since everything everything happened we're trying to make it work even though i've had moments where i've been unsure if it's the right thing i've made it clear that the only reason i'm giving things a chance is because he told me straight away and i can potentially move past this but that is his only one chance i used to think that if you cheated on someone it meant you didn't love

them but i do believe he loves me and make and making his life so difficult over the last few weeks, i.e. grilling him and letting him see how upset I am, has been a test in itself as I wanted to see if his initial reaction of wanting to be together was of guilt or if he was truly willing to put in the work and deal with me at my lowest. I wish I could be strong and walk away right now, but I don't have it in me and I need to see things if he could be good again. Building the trust back is going to be hard. I just hope I don't regret giving him a second chance.

I so feel good about that. You do? I do. I really do. I have a good, good feeling. For who though? For both of them. Like, I feel like I believe that.

Like, a boy's a fucking boy. Like, they go to bed and they get a boner when they're asleep sometimes i roll over in the night and there's like a tp 10 in my bed and i'm like what the fuck's going on there oh my god you would hope i don't know i don't know i think this is great for you and i really hope that you can move past it because clearly you love him but i think i almost i would just imagine it over and over and over again I wouldn't be able to get over it that would be my problem even if a really long time but I think I would also think I think I would also just say to myself is I could never do it to you because I love you and I don't it's not that I love you so I shouldn't it's I love you so much I can't possibly because it

makes me feel sick and my body just wouldn't allow me to even imagine you love him so much I can't possibly because it makes me feel sick and my body just wouldn't allow me to even imagine you love him so much you're like well the idea of walking away is harder than the idea of actually having to go through the pain sure over it so it's like I guess it depends on how well yeah like she might just be like look I'd rather actually just give it a try because if I walk away now I'm going to be devastated for the rest of my life like I want to give it a go see if we can see how it goes and if we can't i gave it my best but like she's obviously not ready to walk away right now and you know what maybe he did just make a mistake and maybe they will be fine and it will be a good thing yeah like i don't know but i feel like the fact he's suckered up like i feel like a boy who is a cheat denies it firstly. He's like literally letting her grill him every

second of the day. This does feel like it's like a once. It's not like he's a serial like cheater liar. I do agree with that. And he's really fucked. I don't think he's made a mistake. I think he's fucked up royally. Yeah. He's got a long way to go. He's made a fucked up decision and he's fucked up. That's what it is. Yeah. If you can forgive it, then that's good for you.

And also imagine if he needs to like know and he probably does know. Like if you were great, it must be even worse for him because he's like, fuck, we were great and I just fucked our relationship because I'm so stupid. Yeah. Fuck. Fuck. Listen, I think it's really hard and I think it's really great that you're moving past it I do think you will be able to get over it I would give a maybe

I would like to say like sometimes having like an impartial person to speak to and like mediate is good so if you're finding it hard like sometimes a couple's therapist is quite nice like get your feelings out on like a neutral table my god 100% and also it'd be really good for you to just talk to because surely the couple's therapist will like reiterate and reinforce how bad his decision was and like you feel like you he he'll be even more ingrained like that is the last thing you can ever do yeah i'm proud of you yeah i really hope that it goes well and keep us updated also as we said don't hang it over his head now yeah you're like

we've got to we've got to just let it go yeah if he's doing everything he can and you've chosen then you can't keep bringing up but if he's a bit of a dick you can always bring up

yeah I know Kenny you know what god I couldn't like if if Jamie did anything it's like I don't want to know the dishwasher will you cheat on me so

yeah I'd be like why have you not taken the bins like you cheated on me yeah oh okay anyway I don't want to know the dishwasher what you cheated on me so yeah I'd be like why have you not taken the bins like you cheated on me yeah oh okay anyway okay love you guys love you guys

oh we need to rate the wine rate the wine come on then god do we forget this every fucking week everybody does okay I'm gonna give it

a 6.5 it's gorgeous wine though I just we've had so many at this point Rose is just like potato potato we have never given

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