Wednesdays - 118: Stick with my boyfriend, or follow the spark?

Episode Date: July 18, 2023

From leaving your boyfriend for an undeniable connection to going long distance after two dates?? Sophie and Melissa are here to answer some tiny winies burning questions. Plus, Sophie and Melissa spill the dirt on their recent TV obsessions, chat dating in the office and whether it’s okay for your boyfriend to ask you to shave his bum! This week we are drinking Shaw + Smith Sauvignon BlancRating: 5/10 Thanks for listening x-Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayswedrinkwineEmail: [e-mail]-Credits:Podcast Producer & Editor: @kat.milsomAdditional Producer: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Social Media: @emzchampionAssistant Producer: @maiaadelia.docs Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Remember us. Episode 118. Lovely nails. Harriet Westmoreland. She's beyond. You know who is fucking good? My townhouse. I feel like there's a lot of skilled nail people out there these days.

But Harriet Westmoreland is actually a Marie Tudson and Whiteley's nail artist, which is pretty fucking cool. She's done some of this. And now she's mine. Right, celeb news. Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Carl Richards is speculated to have dumped

on Marie Sue, her gorgeous, gorgeous husband. They're split up. She put a statement on her Instagram. No split up. She put a statement on her Instagram. No. No, they put a statement on the Instagram saying we haven't split up. You read it wrong. I scanned it. Yeah, she said like, I know there's loads of rumors saying that we split up, but we haven't.

We've had a really hard year, but please stop like making up stories. But the rumor is that she's having an affair with a girl called Morgan and I sent you the thing did you see that I think it's true she's got a Morgan this girl

who's a singer a Carl Richards all her concerts or something all the concerts Carl Richards stopped drinking

all the concerts she stopped drinking she's doing obsessed with Jimmy Morgan is obsessed with Jimmy and doesn't drink morgan has kate tattooed on her and they both have matching love hearts tattooed on them

i'm upset about it i don't want to hear it i love him i remember so i i've watched i've watched a few episodes don't get me wrong i'm not like an avid fan like you so i don't know the whole storyline but i know roughly over the years bits and bobs I remember I watched one episode kind of recently where they went to one of his new houses that he had built that was stunning oh yeah he's killing it he's like one of the biggest estate agents property property developers tycoons tycoons he's a catch he's gorgeous he really is gorgeous he took in like you know she had they were a great couple as well they were a power couple couple. Well, they still apparently are a couple. I just don't...

I'm not here. I don't believe it. I just... People just chat a lot of shit about couples these days. I mean, look at the... Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, there's been a lot...

There's a lot of vicious rumors going around couples. Rumors that are just not true about, like, celebrities. And I just don't know. People make shit up and it's like... And it goes viral.

Sometimes it's quite believable as well, which is also crazy. So it's like, I can understand why people would believe this, but it isn't true. And there's all these fucking, well, which is also crazy. So it's like, I can understand why people would believe this, but it isn't true. And there's all these fucking voice notes. Voice notes? I mean, what is this all about?

Yeah, there's some vicious, vicious rumors going around trying to think about anything else. I'm desperate for Vanderpump Rules to come back. It's itching me. I need you to watch it. I know, you keep saying that. No, you must. It's like that.

Really? It's like Vampire Diaries, but reality. They're all really good looking. Well, the boy, Tom Schwartz, is so good it's like good love stories yeah okay right then i need to watch it and i love a good like romantic drama tom schwartz like i love schwartz i love him with like that you actually have an emotional pull i have an emotional pull that's how i feel about this on love island it's pig in one whatever he's scandable he's disgusting he's a disgusting specimen

but the other one big love you know that guy Sam Vanderpump which is like Lisa Vanderpump oh yeah he's like

he like we've like met him he's like goes out with like like Harry Barron and people like he was like friends with them mental

rogue stop you know my handyman used to be Lisa Vanderpump's handyman does he tell you everything

told me loads of stories yeah fuck off yeah yeah I'll tell you yeah that's wild

can you spill anything now no nothing oh fuck I feel like he would have had to have signed an NDNA

yeah NDNA NDNA an NDNA yeah he signed an NDNA guys

big deal guys don't come to my party unless you sign an NDNA yeah he signed an NDNA so it's a big deal guys don't come to my party unless you sign an NDNA right so we're drinking a gorgeous Samy and Blanc and you know

that's not my vibe guys I've said that a million times we normally don't like it unless it's a really really good one and it's not too sweet

because I have had lovely ones Australian ones are meant to be nice Granger and Co do a nice one do they? yeah I'd love to go to Granger and Co and have a glass of frozen Unless it's a really, really good one and it's not too sweet. Australian ones are meant to be nice. Granger and Co do a nice one. Do they? Yeah. Oh, I'd love to go to Granger and Co and have a glass of Frosier. Same, we've got to do it this week.

So, this is called Something in Smith. What does it say, Sophie? Adelaide Hill. No, Something in Smith at the top. Paul and Smith. And it's a lovely, lovely... It shows exceptional freshness

purity and balance and it looks crispy and clean do you know what I mean it's got that lovely iced look when it comes out the freezer

the freezer the fridge yeah it looks delicious so I'm going to be honest the initial sniffy sniff for me is not oh no

what are we getting no Adelaide Hill wasn't your vibe listen it's Sauvignon Blanc Sauvignon Blanc Sauvignon Blanc how do you pronounce it

it's it's it's one of the better ones I've had but it's still a bit too sweet for me fine and it's also the smell

I don't know what it is I know that people love it like a lot of I really upset my girlfriend because my girlfriends love it and there's I think there's me

and another person in another group that just doesn't like it yeah it's weird I don't like it it's funny but it's normally a hit and I just don't yeah it's just not a vibe for me but I'm sure if you like Savignon it's it's nicer than the um other ones that I've had so if you like it it's a little bit more crisp I guess sweet or dry calls his mum on what food can we microphone dry as fuck and that's what Jamie

used to do all the time. how do I put the washing machine on for delicates? No, I don't like. It's not icking me out. Like, if Toby was to call his mum,

like, mum, how do I cook that really nice recipe? Like, what do I have to put the, do you know what I mean? Like,

that's fine, but if it's like basic. It's the way they do it. It's the delivery. Mummy, I'd be like, you're vomiting in my mouth. Well,

I'm vomiting in my mouth. Listen to me. You're vomiting. If it was like, quickly, how do you do this not really a big deal yeah

but there I just I don't know I think it still is that there is there is maybe an age cap we have to put on this yeah I think Jamie you're clocking on now

I think Jamie's maybe past the point where he can call his mum and ask him how to do basic tasks yeah definitely sure enough it's a big decision

like buying a house you want advice that's okay I kind of understand that. But basic tasks like putting on the microwave, it wouldn't ick me out, but I would also be like, I think we need to grow up now. Do you know what I mean?

Jamie's mum is, like, honestly the most intelligent person when it comes to illnesses and ailments. So whenever, like, we feel ill or anything, honestly, she's like a doctor. So that's okay when he calls her for that, because I also am like... That's fine. Also, older people are just more knowledgeable. Right, serenading you with a doctor. So that's okay when he calls her for that because I also- That's fine. Also, older people are just more knowledgeable.

Right. Serenading you with the guitar. What do you mean? I would quite like- Shut the fuck up. If he was banging, so if Ed Sheeran just started playing your song, I'd be like patty in his hands.

No. Ed Sheeran's not my vibe. Gorgeous singer, not my vibe to date. But if that voice with Toby's looks or serenading no shut up cringe cringe cringe cringe or lewis proudie is seeing that with toby's look for me if me and toby first date he sits at the end of his bed and starts playing a guitar i would be like why don't you no no no no but if they were like just playing as no i don't like you serenade me but if you're playing music if you're in a fucking band

And it's I don't know I happen to see you Singing and playing That's fine No no Don't sit on the end of my bed And sing me a personalised song

No don't personalise the song But if you're gonna sing like Waterfall or something Is that a song I just don't think It's a vibe for me I'm not gonna like Be repulsed

But I'd also find it A bit awkward Because it's just like Cringes hell It's just a bit awkward Isn't it I think I'm trying to think

Unless you're Lewis Capaldi And you've got a voice like that just stop asks you to shave his bum no all right for me shave his ass do boys do that do boys shave their butts i don't think so some people's butt has like come out their bum true cheeks and like i would be like you're doing us all like a favour a favour by giving that a trimmy trim but I'm not gonna do it for you I'm not fucking doing that

for you I wouldn't even shave Toby's pubes I don't really understand why girls do that they get them I've never shaved Toby's pubes in my life

but like we can do our own like why would not that I have any because I laser but yeah I don't know I don't know no I'm not doing that

I really don't want to open anyone's arsehole arse cheeks oh my god that makes me feel so unwell. The thought of having to open a boy's butt crap and like get the shaver in there. Yeah, but it'd be with a... Not like a little short... It wouldn't be like a razor.

It'd be like an electric shaver situation. Well, they've got to have some serious hair for an electric shaver. It's disgusting if you ask me. And no, I'm not touching it. Just go have a back sack and crack. It's dry as fuck. It's dry as hell. All of those were really. And no, I'm not touching it. Just go have a back sack and crack. It's dry as fuck. It's dry as hell.

All of those were really dry for me. I'm not going to lie. The first one with the mum is like the least dry. Oh my God, no. I've just seen the title for the dilemma and it's really making me intrigued.

I'm going to have to treat it immediately. Okay. Stick with my boyfriend or follow the spark. No. What's going on? There's something in the air. There's too many fucking sparks it's cuban air that's what jamie and i said there's a cuban air going on it's like making people horny it's the summer air it's like cuban it's the summer it's the summer

yeah yeah okay girls i'm waiting to you for my desk at work because i cannot get the situation out of my head oh Oh my God, no. I literally, like, my heart's like pounding. So I am in a mostly happy relationship and have been for just under two years. As much as I've been happy and in love, I do truly care about this person. I have always had doubts. Oh, sorry.

Wait, what? As much as I have been happy and in love and do truly care about this person, I have always had doubts. The main reason being, he is four years younger than me. I'm 21 and 25. Okay, so he's 21 years old and she's 25.

That's quite a big gap. No, I would be having doubts here. Oh no. He relies on me to look after him a lot and I feel like I give much more than he does in this relationship. Despite all this, I do feel very loved, but needs are not being fully met.

However, this isn't the real dilemma. Oh my God. There is a boy in my close friendship group, in brackets, my sister's housemate, that I have got myself into a sticky situation with. I'm excited about this. Okay. From the day we met, we have always been very close and sort of instantly clicked. I don't know why I'm doing this voice.

We gravitate towards each other on nights out and don't know why I'm doing this voice we gravitate towards each other on nights out and don't want to leave each other's side despite the fact that nothing has ever happened between us I would never cheat

oh no anyway last weekend he told me I just had one last weekend he told my sister that he was in love

with me and doesn't know what to do he said that he thinks I am perfect and all he wants and all he wants and all he wants and he will wait.

Oh my God, that's heavy. Sorry, this is like off of a Disney film. I would love that if a boy said that about me. I would love that. Dump the boyfriend. Says I'm perfect and he's in love with me. But does she fancy him? There are definitely feelings on my part too

and I feel an undeniable chemistry with him. I can't say I felt the same kind of magnetism initially with my boyfriend. There is nothing overly wrong with my relationship. It is very stable and safe, but I suppose that's not the kind of crazy, there's no kind of crazy spark. It's just a lot of love and care for each other. What the fuck do I do?

Work on my relationship and keep myself away from this other boy, even though I don't really know what to do. Or is this a sign that I'm in love with the wrong person? Help. Han, dump the boy and go with this boy. Are you okay, babe? You're 25. Sparks come around once in a lifetime like that,

maybe twice. Okay, we must go. We must. I'm praying the boy though, doesn't like one what he can't have. And then she dumps and he's like, I've been there, done that. But let's not, let's not play that.

If he's saying he's in love with you and he'll wait, I think that's much bigger than a spark. There's a connection there's an undeniable connection connection go and sign up that chemistry class

and see what's happening 100% also there's nothing wrong in your relationship but there's not things that are right yeah so that's just as wrong

he's 21 and when you're fucking bored that will only get worse like and then you just won't love him you'll break up with him and you'll be like that was way easier than i thought yeah just get get just rip the bandage off go straight to the other boy oh i feel bad for the 21 year old he's 21 and it will what doesn't

kill him makes him stronger he's fucking fine and like when things aren't wrong so you then stay because you're like oh but they're so nice and oh yeah they're boring that means sometimes the wrong is the good thing. Sometimes, but also things have to be really right and then there's a few things that are wrong

and then that's better but when there's nothing wrong but there's nothing that right, you're then like, oh, you're just coasting. It's nothing worse than coasting. Get out, get out, get out. And go to the boy

with the chemistry. That sounds stunning. I am so excited for you. I've got butterflies thinking about it. Oh my God, it really makes you want to just step into your shoes and do it for you because that would just be the best thing ever

we can we need to live vicariously for you i need updates i need photos when you finally can we have a follow-up and can we please have a photo of you and the future boy yeah yeah no I'm joking. We need a page of you and the old boyfriend. I love the ex. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. And then you and this new boy. It doesn't have to be you together,

but I would just like to see it for reference for my brain. Same. Also, if you would like to invite us to a house party so we can witness the whole thing. Yeah. By all means. If you want to do it under the voice note telling us how you dumped him and what he said

we really need a follow up on this yeah we need like multiple follow ups I want the follow up of the dump and then I want the follow up of like

the new first time that you and the other guy got together yeah I'm really excited for you I'm excited also your sister how fun for her

she's got it I know this is epic right dilemma two I recently got out of a long term relationship and joined the

dating apps spoke to a few guys but no one really stood out to me. Then I matched with a guy and we had such a good chat. He took me out on a date that went really well and one thing led to another and we had the best night together. Gorgeous. However, when we were back at his, he dropped that he is going to Thailand in two weeks for the whole summer traveling. Oh no. Why do boys do this?

Also, it's just so upsetting when a boy goes away at that stage, you remember? The following week, we spoke a lot and saw each other again and i ended up staying at his again i wish him safe travels and he said he would speak to me soon but we haven't spoken since he now has been out there for a few for over a week and i haven't heard from him i obviously think there is a vibe there however i don't want to be waiting around or thinking something will happen when he's back and it's not however there hasn't been anyone else i've been interested in interested in on the apps what would you do in this situation do i go on other dates and see what this could lead to but equally you don't have the energy to be making small talk with strangers or have hot girl summer not message him then see if he's still interested and pops up when he's back hot girl summer do not message him under any circumstances do not message him

do not message him delete his number number you cannot message him if he reaches out lovely surprise if he doesn't I'd even give it a day on brand

you can't reply show you after we mustn't message him in fact I probably just wouldn't reply like I'd be a bit unless he was back and was like

I want to take you out I'm back I've really been thinking about you a lot can I see you I've got a weird like thing in my body where I'm really good at sort of not turning off emotions like if someone I knew like I was once dating someone who went away and I just turned off my

emotions I just was like there's no point in texting him once he's away there's no point like you just had to physically and I know that's easier said than done but just it's harder to stay in contact also you've only only seen this bloke twice. Like, we must reality check ourselves. Like, I had it when I didn't even date someone. I saw someone maybe twice, three times, and then they went away, and I was like, well, that's the end of that.

You just can't. Oh, yeah. You can't, like, not, like, dating is obviously different because you're spending time with them, but, like, you just can't. Sometimes you have to be cruel to your body to be kind like you have to be like right that's it then we're done with that if he comes back into your life stunning gorgeous it'll be i personally would not be like having a day i fucking hate having like hey how's your day been like no it sucks

it sucks call me maybe or like facetime me but like even that also but like are you going to do that even on two dates no no it's weird either way so you know what you have a hot girl summer

you carry on dating try not to think about him you had a nice time that's lovely but that's done that's done now that is what it is and if he comes back

and suits you for a fee fine but if he doesn't there's way more things yeah yeah and you can look be over him by then. Yeah, yeah. And you can look back at him and be like, oh, the gorgeous Thailand boy.

He will probably come back and ask for a date when you've got a new boy on the go and then you'll be like, ha. And then you'll be writing us in with dilemmas about who to choose from then. Yeah, exactly. Right, dilemma three. What have we got now then?

Hey girls, love the podcast. I'm really, really, really in need of some advice and I thought I'd reach out as this is driving me crazy now. Crying face. Oh my God, sweet. I love it. I'm a 19 really, really in need of some advice. And I thought I'd reach out as this is driving me crazy now. Crying face. Oh my God, sweet. I love it. I'm a 19 year old boy.

I've never had a relationship or got with a girl. However, I met the prettiest girl I'd ever seen at uni this year and thought for the first time in my life, I had to act on it. After a month or so of trying to find the courage to talk to her, I finally asked for her number for help with my coursework. We spoke all the time for a couple months. And and late last year I asked her on a date and to my surprise she said yes lovely we had the most amazing time but then communication almost came to a halt when we both went back home for Christmas however we came back to uni in the new year and carried on

as normal after two more dates in the new year I finally asked if she would ever see things working out between us both as it felt that she just wasn't that into it she confirmed my worst fear she said she didn't feel anything between us but would love to carry on as friends and reluctantly I agreed as I thought it was the right thing to do we still speak often and go out every couple of weeks despite the fact we are no longer at uni and this is my dilemma. Interesting. What the hell? I'm still so attracted to everything about her

and I can't bring myself to tell her how I feel again as I feel it would push her away and I can't bear the thought of that. Do I carry on speaking to her as I am now attempted to suppress my feelings towards her and hope that someone else comes along or do I slowly begin to distance myself from her? Literally love you girls so much as I am now, attempt to suppress my feelings towards her and hope that someone else comes along. Oh, do I slowly begin to distance myself from her?

Literally love you girls so much. And if anyone can help, I know it's you. That's so freaking sweet. Oh my God. Firstly, I love you. Secondly, I don't know. In my mind, I think I could maybe sway them if I became that person. I mean, that's so psycho.

I don't think so. Right, okay. If she doesn't love you, she doesn't like you. If there's no attraction, there's no attraction. I personally, if I was you and I was telling my brother what to do or something like that or one of my friends that's a guy I would say you it's probably best to just distance yourself in order to get over it yeah I think that's probably the right decision I would date other people I wouldn't delete half of my life there there's no just slowly distance just take a little step back from it

because the friendship's just a bit hard when you've got that many feelings, which is so understandable. And she'll probably get that if you say to her, like, look. I wouldn't even say anything. I would just say anything. No, but if she notices you're pulling away and she's like, why are you being so offensive?

Be like, look, you know, love you so much as a friend, but I do obviously have some feelings for you there and I just need to kind of take a beat. Yeah. Maybe kind of get over it a little bit. Yeah, just get over it. I need to just take some space and she'll definitely understand whatever you do you can't tell her how you feel again like she's already said no and then that will be a rejection her path on her part and it'll be harder for you to hear whereas I feel like if you do that like you're the one in the power she doesn't then have to be put in an awkward

position where she's got to hurt your feelings because she obviously loves you as a friend and you know what maybe in like you'll meet another girl in six months and then you'll become friends with her or you meet another girl next week or whatever exactly and you and her can have your relationship again as friends i'm sorry you won't do that but thanks for writing in thank you so much tell us how it goes, please. Or just be responsible and top up your retirement fund. Plus, move any other eligible account and we'll give you a 1% match. Minimum $15,000 transfer. Register by March 15th. Additional terms apply.

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hey girls just listening to the episode where the girl wants to date someone in her office and my current boyfriend of four years is someone I met in my office so I thought I could share my experience do you remember we gave her

some tips was I with Jamie doing this okay so me and Jamie were doing this episode right and we gave her the advice to basically just try and like get his number she wants to date this guy that's in her office but she doesn't know how to approach it and they always flirt in the kitchen stuff like that so my advice was to say that that she's going out for work drinks with her because they're in different departments and she's like we never meet out same time for drinks even though we're always going out for drinks for our own department so i said when you're next in the kitchen you run into him and be like oh we're all gonna go out for drinks later if you want to join some of you guys do you want to come down like we're gonna go just casually say it like

that is how i said and i think jamie said to give the advice to try and get like his number or something off the work chat and like slip in something funny like are you having a shit day something like that good I love it so he gave some good advice there okay right uh I had been crushing on this guy in my office for a couple of months but I was fairly new and this was quite and he was quite senior and a bit older than me luckily I sat next to his bestie, so he would come over and chat near my desk all the time and I got involved in one of their conversations joking about something to do with the office. Then, whenever that thing would happen in the office,

I would send a jokey email to the guy I liked, which kickstarted us sending a couple of flirty emails. I plucked up the courage to organize office drinks for everyone at the office bonding and then sent him a follow-up jokey email being like you better come better be coming to this we spent most of the evening chatting messaged on instagram for a week or so before he asked me on a date and now we are four years into our relationship have bought a house together and we're both very happy that that i made those subtle moves because without that office drinks, I would, I'm not sure if we'd,

we'd have ever got together. My advice is to start trying to flirt and get drinks in, even as a group. And if he isn't keen, then cut your losses. But also you haven't been too overconfident that it then becomes awkward in the office. Hope that helps. That's exactly the advice I gave.

I was like, if he doesn't then come to the drinks, who cares? But if he's kind of keen, he'll be like, oh, I actually can't tell, but maybe another another night he would then offer up you just part you've got to plant seeds also boys aren't as confident as we think sometimes they need a little bit of an encouragement i love this we need to follow up from her yeah please follow up we did say to her at the time like we

i need to know what's going to happen my friend winnie and you know winnie yeah her and her boyfriend they met in the office. And I remember being like, I really fancy this guy in the office. And then look at them now, they're like five years in. Wow. I know, it does happen, guys. It's just gorgeous.

A lot of people meet in the office. Well, technically, Jamie and I did. No, we didn't delete that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, in a certain time where you met at work. It's how most people bloody meet. Yeah, it's how the world goes around. Oh, it's just wonderful.

How lovely. Right, rate the wine. Thanks for those those messages i love those messages of encouragement it's just like a lovely little it's almost like a facebook group you know like when someone has a problem then everyone like leaps in to give their advice it's gorgeous yeah it's like we're in the circle of trust we are okay right i'm gonna rate the wine i'm gonna be harsh today go below a five only because i don't like it But it is a nice wine But is it?

I'm going to Yeah It is a nice It's a much nicer Saving young That I've had But this is very Because we're biased

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