Wednesdays - 121. Ziggy is Sophie's TWIN: Sophie's sister Georgia on becoming an auntie

Episode Date: January 14, 2026

Heyyyy Tinies!She’s backkkk! Sophie's sister, the gorgeous Georgia Habboo joins Melissa on the pod this week and she's bringing all the updates we NEED about Sophie becoming a mum and sweet baby Ziggy.Also this week, Melissa and Georgia take a trip down memory lane, reminiscing over that 2010s uniform. Think Juicy Couture joggers, a cheeky lace thong peeking out, and zero shame. Plus, the girls break down the biggest predicted trends for 2026, sharing what they’re loving (and what they’re absolutely not) in fashion and beauty right now.In this week’s dilemmas, one Tiny is hurt that her best friend still hasn’t met her 7 month old baby – is it unforgivable or just life getting in the way?Another Tiny writes in from Australia after discovering her best friend’s boyfriend cheated… Should she stay silent or tell her?Enjoy the episode x Got a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail] | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]:Executive Producer: Ewan Newbigging-ListerProducer: Helen BurkeAssistant Producer: Issy Weeks-HankinsVideo: Lizzie McCarthySocial: Anthony Barter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either, and we're not psychologists, and we're not experts at anything. In fact, we just challenge a lot of shit, so... And we love giving you guys advice, but as we said... We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel.

If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. On this week's episode, we have Georgia back, and she is bringing us all the updates on Sophie, Jamie and Baby Ziggy. Are we spilling the tea on some petty slab beef? We will also be talking about up-and-coming trends for this year and some juicy dilemmas as usual. Enjoy. Georgia's back in the hot seat.

Hi. It's January. And this is an exciting episode because this is the first time I haven't seen Ziggy yet in real life, but you obviously have Ziggy's what we will want. So tell us. He's honestly heaven and like such a natural mom. It's so weird seeing like your little sister be a mom.

I bet. And I reckon you'll find it so weird. I will find it really weird. But yeah, she's like so natural. Jamie's been amazing. He's like doing everything in Campsauph. And yeah, they're so cute. They're obsessed with them.

I bet it's just such a cozy time, especially at this time. It's such a good time to be a tired baby. I really stand by this. Like it is annoying because you're pregnant for our summer. But they're not the heavily bit. The heavily pregnant part's like going into winter, which is much better. Yeah. And then you're just cozy, cozy.

You can just stay in bed and not feel guilty about it all day on. Yeah. Oh my God. It's just so. precious. And guys, if you didn't know, he was born on my birthday. Yeah. Which I predicted. You did. You literally did. I literally said when she told me how you did, I was like, but he'll come on my birthday. She was like really early. Like that doesn't really happen

with like the first thing. No, it's actually so unusual for them to come early. It's the fact you predicted that. Have you like held a newborn baby in a while? The first one I ever held was Milo and then Theo. That's all I've had. You've had loads of exposure to babies like of Toby's brother. A fair amount. I feel like that newborn is just so small. I know. Like even Bella's only year old but I forget like oh my god they're so

delicate. Yeah how tiny they are when they're first come out. He like stretched this little face and he's like oh and it's so cute. What colour hair is their size? Well they're like dark blue but all babies are dark blue when they're first born. Okay so they all dark blue? Yeah. Pretty much. Interesting because I thought they were all like blue blue when they were first born.

No, they're all blue and then they'll either go lighter or they'll go brown. They'll go brown, okay. Yeah. I wonder from this guy's Ziggy, like, honestly, is Sophie's like absolute twin. Yeah. So I imagine he'll have brown eyes. Yeah, and blonde hair.

Yeah. I think he'll have brown eyes. He looks like his hair is quite light actually. He's really light. He's got white eyebrows. Oh my God. He's really blonde. He's really like he's going to be like Jamie.

Well, Jamie's real blonde hair when he has a child. Yeah. Not the bleached word. Oh my God, that is so cute. I couldn't see that in the video. He's honestly, I can't wait. He's like, for you to meet, he's so cute. My birthday twin.

Yeah. His first birthday will be my 30th. Oh, cute. Oh, no. I know. Like, Shaver, you leave your child on his first birthday. Oh, no, that's, like, quite no way. How good is the whole water?

She loves it. I'm literally going to have this. This is genuinely, I'm going to. I can see you like just like going back and more and more and wash. I love the It's so comforting guys. If you think that you're like a bit thirsty if you're like don't really fancy anything, don't really fancy a tea,

get yourself of hot water. Because I don't like herbal teas at all. Like when people are like oh can I have like a camel tea I'm like that doesn't float my boat. I like it when I'm giving it. But I would never like crave it or like want it. No. I actually like tea in general.

I don't like milky. No, I really hate it actually. Oh. Yeah. And yeah. So this is actually a really great solution. I know, it is a great solution. Otherwise, I end up drinking a lot of coffee.

Speaking of Builders tea. What is up with a Builders bum? We were talking about this the other day. And I wrote this down to talk to you about because I was like, it's such a weird, like, fashion statement from men that work in the building industry. And I'm like, I don't understand. Like, Toby had one bending down.

And I was like, Builders Bums are weird. Why do certain people insist on having them? I don't think they mean to. I'm like, it's just, how have we not solve this issue, yeah? She's a really fair point. And it is actually genuinely builders. It's always. Like every time I have like a work manoeuvre or something and they're just and I'm like, oh God and it's just like you know it's going to happen every fucking time.

And I'm like, is it something that they have to pass when they're like doing their exams? Like make sure boxes are too small and they don't come over the bat. I just don't get it. Because I've never seen my husband have a bit of a bum. Toby has had one once, but he like commented and he said, I know I've got built his bum right now. So I feel like Toby wears like low-rise, like he'd wear cool bag of your jeans. This is when he was actually in trackies and he would have boxes on underneath. I will, there you go, that's fair. So that just, you know, the crack slipped out at the top.

But I'm just like, it's also that it's called a builder's bum is so funny. And it is a way to builders. When was the last time you saw a builder's bum? Well, definitely when I had workmen in my house. Oh, I should be there. Yeah. No hundred percent. Not to me.

Oh my God. Has anyone been like so jarring? You're like, also, what do you do? Do you tell someone? No. But do you reckon they tell each other like, make your point trousers up? No.

They just leave it. They embrace it. Yeah, I think they're like, it's part of our jobs, it's part of life. Oh my God, do you remember when girls used to pull their thongs

above their school trousers? Oh, that was awful. The thong out of the top. And like juicy chattour. Oh, we never had the juicy. I actually didn't either, but there was like a, but Parasilton was like,

in my era wearing GC control with the thongs sticking out. But I was probably definitely too young to be wearing. My mom would have like ship me straight back over if I'd considered wearing something like that. Actually in my age we used to wear it was so embarrassing. Like do you remember girl boxes from Topshop? We old enough those. We used to have those poking up our jeans. But yeah Jack Whills I feel like you used to

Jack Whills is like because we used to wear trousers to school. That was our uniform. Oh really? At prep school it was like cordy navy trousers. That's very progressive. You would always have your Jack Whale's pants hanging out over the top like the strip. It would perfectly fit. Yeah like the branding. And the other day my friend was talking about how, like, one of her teachers at school, it was like a Gapie or like one of those, like, yeah, it must have been a gap student or like a really young school teacher who was like this beautiful Australian girl. And she would always wear, like, she'd bend down and you'd see like her thong sticking out the top of her, like skirt or her trousers. No, it was a girl. No, it was in a boy was telling you.

Oh, no. A girl was telling me, sorry. And she was like, always in awe, like, this girl's so cool. And she had like this little, like, tattoo above, like, her leg on the tramp stamp. which is by those something that I want to get when I'm 40. What? I honestly have this thing saved and like an album saved when I'm 40 like I'm going to get a tramp stamp. Why?

I don't know. I think because my mum got her belly bump here so she was 40. She said, I wanted to do something radical. I'm like, I'm going to get a tramp stamp. Not a tram stamp. I think it's pretty crazy. I really like it. I think it might be, what would you get?

I already know what I'd get. What? I'm going to copy Alessandro Arbrosio's tramp stamp. It's really cool. It's like a star and a moon and it's all like quite lovely and sort of spiritual. and I'm not sure I can sign this off. Well, when I'm 40, we can re-evaluate when I'm 39. Yeah.

Right now I'm, oh God, 30 is approaching, so I've got 10 years. I don't know if it's actually hers tattoo or not, but it's saved in my Instagram safe picks. I feel like, if you get a belly button piercing, that's less permanent. It's actually not, mine's never closed up. How was that when you had a baby? Because someone scared me in like, if you get it, it can like show a line or something, but is that not true? No, I don't do.

I haven't had a piercing in there for like 10 years or longer. Do you ever put it back in? Maybe you're 40. Yeah, I could. Pop that back in there. Have a dangly chain one. How is all the building work going? Oh, we're on fourth.

We know we've got Sophie's designer doing. You said that last time. Yeah, we haven't even got it back yet. No, they've like sent us. Yeah, we haven't, nothing's moved, basically. What if you have? Have you seen Ziggy's room? Yeah.

It's so cute, isn't it? The most incredible nurse room. ever seen in my life. I can't believe I'm going to like hold him. I know. You literally be gossiped at how small he is. I was anyway. I feel like he's the smallest baby I've ever held.

Which you'd never know. Because I was like he's a big boy and she was like, no he's not. No, but she had so much. When her water's broke, gallons of water. Really? Yeah. So I think she had like loads of fluid in her. Interesting that that's what, fine.

Because I always think like when you have twins, How on earth that fits in there When people with one baby get that big? I'm like, how the fuck do you fit twins inside? I feel like people just carry really different Or you can have like a really big placenta Or you can carry like further back Did you keep your placenta?

No. Do you regret not keeping it? Not at all. It doesn't ever cross. Never crosses my mind. You best believe it will be keeping wrong. I know. It'll be going in the smoothies.

I know someone that buried hers in her garden under a tree. You know what? Don't hate that. But it's a waste of nutrients. I know. Why not eat it? I don't know. You can get it made into like capsules?

I think so stuff that. I'm so thrilled for her if she's done that. I'm absolutely thrilled. What else is her that's like weird and wonderful when you give birth? Like the umbilical cord I've seen on these things. I'm now like targeted all this shit. Oh, yeah. Because you hit.

Their first piece is black. Why? Because they've been swallowing blood. No, I don't know. I think it's just like from the food. they've been eating your tummy it comes out like black tar and then it goes yellow but like the first poo was like so hard to get off their bums it's genuinely like black blue stuck to their bum stop also where does their poo go when they're in your tummy that's what i don't get oh good point

like it goes back into the atmosphere i think it's like it's like a cycle like they wee and then the we goes back into the flu and then they end up drinking that back. It's actually sounds quite gross. Oh, okay. Well, I guess it's like when you get strangers on an island, like you're supposed to drink your own wee for hydration. I honestly think I would just choose to opt out of life. Me too. I just thought this like ticked up, which I'm sure is AI.

I was just showing it to Georgia. This couple lasted for 25 years on this remote island and they survived. And they built this whole like life raft out of like floating plastic and it looks like really perfect and impressive. I think that was definitely. But I can't tell them it's... This AI shit is like really quite. It is.

We were just saying there should... You need to have like a disclaimer that it's AI because it's really annoying now. Especially like all these... You know what is terrifying? God forbid. Like I get shown a video of like Toby out and it's like him kissing somebody.

And it looks so real. I would be like, I might believe it. But then Toby was like the scary thing is if I actually did it, I could lie and say it was AI. Like that's what people would probably. do. I'm like, fuck. You'd have to then pay to get it analysed and check that it's not.

Yeah, I think it had to be quite good at AI. Just make things realistic. Do you not? No. But have you seen the pictures of Diddy with, um... No. In prison. So you know, Diddy's obviously in prison now.

And I think these must be AI, because pictures of him like holding hands and linking arms with like, like a guy but with bunchies and they're seeing, Diddy's got a girlfriend in prison. Have you seen everything 50 cents doing? No. He is so funny. He is just like,

You know that he, you know he hates P. Diddy. Well, no, no idea. He's like, arch nemesis, is P.D. So he is, like, he's been trying to bring him down for years and years. And he is, like, reveling in him being in prison. Like, he is like, this is the best things that ever happened to me. And he didn't sit down interview of ABC. I think it's ABC News recently.

Because ABC News is the only news show that plays in prison. So he was like, they're the only. And then he's like, that's unreal. And then he's like, he's literally, like. like a Cheshire cat in this whole interview. He's like so thrilled. And someone asked him like, who's like your favorite hero? And he was like, I don't really have any heroes.

And he was like, who's your favorite villain? And he was like, I think, I think P. Dilly is my favorite villain. Like he is just reveling it. I'm just finding it's so funny that he's this petty. And then for P. Diddy as well, P. Diddy, like, hired a videographer to like film the whole trial. Because he wanted to make a documentary out of it. Then obviously then when he got convicted, he like scrapped it. And then he didn't pay the videographer.

So the videographer just went to 50. And 50 cent just ball footage and it's making a documentary outfit. Oh my God, that is golden. I wonder why 50 cent hates him so much, is it? Because he's like, seen stuff. I think he like, because doesn't he say, did you kill Tobac? Oh, yeah. Or Biggie Smalls, Biggie Smalls.

Who's Biggie Smalls? Nutourous B-I-G. And he was ransed for him. So he's like made his mission to bring him down ever since. Good. And he's obviously in the industry. So he hasn't known that he's like a really bad person. And do you remember he brought out that documentary on PDD?

He was the first, like, that Netflix documentary on P Diddy was produced by 50 cent because he'd been gathering all the information and evidence for years. I just like, he's a reporter. Yeah, no, he genuinely has been like, had this vendetta and was like, I'm going to take him down. And then he took all of it to Netflix. P. Diddy has been for ages, had so many allegations around, about, around him for like years and years and years. And to be like, he only got 50 months in prison, which is like not enough. Guys, this little section we're about to do, but it's not yet trending report, which I'm assuming means it's about to be trending.

Yeah. So we're really ahead of the curb. Okay, right. Number one, scent stacking. That about this? What I'm wearing multiple perfume. Yeah, I'm assuming that's what this is about to say. Genzi and Millennials are ditching one and done scents for unique combos, blending oils, perfumes to craft their own fragrance formulas.

Searches for perfume layering combinations have increased by 100. 125% do you scent snack what are your favorite combos that feels too much effort to me I used to do this let me tell you but there was this perfume that my mum used to wear this is like maybe more than 10 years ago I feel like now everyone fucking has this it's not the same they're like oh one eccentric molecules oh yeah yeah like meant is to like change your own scent to smell to whatever so in my mind that wasn't really a perfume so I put that underneath to like get my own sense going that's like your own pheromones yeah And then I put Hermes perfume over the top. I'm not going to say which one, but it's like my favourite one.

You don't even gatekeeping that one. So that's what I used to do. And now I don't do as much perfume all over me because of the hormone disruptors and stuff. So I just put it on my clothes. So then I don't get the pheromony vibe. Would you put it in your hair? Yeah, that makes it last. But like you need the perfume on your skin to get the pheromones out.

But obviously, like, spraying it on your skin and your thyroid. Yeah, it's like right on your thyroid and stuff. It's like not the best. I still do on like a night out but every day I'm not doing it anymore I always forget to wear perfume. I actually keep my perfume in my kit yeah same I keep in my kitchen

so that if when I'm running out of the house I can go yeah it's like a part of makeup I'm like I did my makeup in the car on the way here I actually keep my makeup in the kitchen now as well this is like life of the child the only time I have is like while she's quick in her high chair

so I'm like quick time in it fair God it doesn't do like it's take you've got what have you got no skin right now just cost us concealer nothing on the skin and ever Where else? Well, no, I've also got bronzer and blestrone.

I know, but no, but my sun cream is like an iridescent, glowy sun cream. Oh, nice. What one is it? It's colour science. It's mineral suncream. You should, you would love it. And it's like a Hollywood flawless filter, but it's obviously a mineral suncream. SPS 50.

Color science mineral sun cream. It's called glow. It's the glow shade. Right, I might have to go and purchase that. Yeah, you love that. What I've got on my skin right now, not that you've asked. What have you, your skin is. Is it the Victoria Beckett?

You're so keep telling me to get this. It's freaking insane. I need to get that. Like, unbelievable. You put it on, it just like, for the first like two minutes, I'm like, oh, I feel like I've got too much on. And then I look in the mirror again, five minutes, eight and it's just like skin. It's like the weirdest thing. And it goes like...

Well, I wouldn't actually notice you had anything, guy. It doesn't know like we've got anything on. But you are really glowing. And then I take it off at the end of the night, my skin looks better than it did in the morning. Because I think it's got all that skin care. It's like August and then I made up, whatever. I'm obsessed with that. Augustine and a spade.

It's so good. I can't even buy that. But I hate to tell you it's £105. Oh. Like what the actual fact. But you know what? That actually feels like a bargain because August and Spada's cream is $250. True. Do you look at it like that?

The annoying thing is I had to buy two shades because I didn't get the right shades. Yeah. I was like £210. I don't know. Could you use one for summer? Like I mix them together. Okay. Because I got one.

I was like, right, let's just make it feel like it's not going to be wasted. I got one a little bit paler than I was supposed to use and I mix them together and they're going to. last as long. Fine. And then you can just adjust like the amounts. Exactly. I've got a fake tan on. I'll just use a little bit more of the darker one, etc. Good idea. Okay, number two is khaki. The colour of 2026, which I'm thrilled as I just bought khaki coat. This year, Gen Z and millennials will embrace a new aesthetic inspired by Wanderers of the World to think khaki Bermuda shorts, pleated trousers, utility skirts and pockets upon pockets. Isn't khaki just one of those

colours? It's just a classic. It's always in. I feel like it's always quite chic as well. Yeah, I love for khaki. Me too. I feel like I don't know if you're like this, but not being a colourful girl in terms of like what I'm choosing to wear. I'm not, even in my home,

I'm not that colourful. I'm quite neutral based. We're both throwing khaki today. Yeah. It's just, it's a colour but it's not a colour. Yeah, I thought it's when I bought my coat.

I thought it's different from wearing a black coat but does the same job as a black coat. But I feel like I'm wearing something. Exactly. It's not so dull. Where did you get it from? Reserved.

Never heard of that either. They gifted it to me. Really nice. And I got some like really lovely wool chocolate around like smart trousers from there. Stunning. Next to that little tip, carkey. So you heard it hit her first, guys.

Right number three, ready? I mean, we know this one. Lace. Yeah. Lace is set to be a staple of 2026 across the beauty fashion and home decor. Expect bomber jackets with lacy collars, softly stitched bandanas,

even crochet phone cases. This trend is a gentle reminder that more is more in 2026. Search for lace nails have increased by 250% lace bandanas by 150 and lace belts by 55. Lace nails. Cannot get behind lace nails.

How about the fuck would that work? I think it would be like a print of nail art, which I don't like. What I feel like has come back, which is really nice, which is I feel like a style that you have also. The bootleg gene and like a boot underneath. Yeah. Like the feminine style trouser is back. I love a bootleg.

The girlie's bodies a bit more. Yeah, I love a bootleg. I'm genuinely upset. Bustabutas, they're way more flattering. Way more flattering. I feel so much better when I'm wearing it. Me too. Because actually, mum jeans and baggy jeans aren't actually flattering. They're not. They're not.

What some of them, it's, jeans is such a, such a hard thing to find because they've got to fit. Oh, yeah, I've been on a gene, absolutely ramping. So where, so where have we got to with that? No, I've gone too far. Oh no. I have too many jeans. I literally got to do that. How many did we order? genuinely, honestly, about 25 pairs.

I've collected over the last. like for three months shit well where from Apocombia I've been getting loads these are apacombie apparently are brilliant

might nip in there later you would really like the bootlegs which these ones are they're really good and then H&M because you told me to H&M is so good I got some H&M bootlegs

the other day but you need to size down as you said definitely I ordered them all in my size and I was like meh and then I ordered them

and size smaller and then I love them perfect so yeah that was your tip though but yeah now I'm like literally up too fast I'm like fast

three people also do do really good jeans you know when it's on your mind because I've told myself I needed new jeans. I'm like just like I'm always scouting them. And then I like genuinely, I'm like, they arrive and then I love them. So I keep them.

I'm like, why? I've got to the point where I have to stop ordering new jeans as well because my order was just, if I, I'll send you a photo after this. You won't believe the amount of jeans I've got. Yeah, I'm glad I'm going. It's like fucking insane. Like to be to the point when the girl that does my decision, it was like, you're fucking joking.

I was like, what? She was like, this is absolutely obscene. Surely you don't wear all these. And I was like, to be honest, I don't. I love them all. so I can't get rid of them. I know. And also it depends on like really where I am in my cyclist of which,

like jean shape I'm going to go for, which sounds so weird. It's really true. And also sometimes just how you're feeling, you'll put them on one day and you'll be like, I look great and another day you'll be like the hideous. You've got to keep them in case like your moods are different. It's almost like seed cycling, but gene cycling.

Yeah. Also, just really quickly, before we move on to anything else in dilemmas, I've been doing this thing called seed seed. Seed seeding. I've heard about this. Can you see? No. These tiny, you probably won't be able to see from there.

They are these tiny, tiny, if anyone doesn't know what they are. And it's like acupuncture pressure points. And they're like this tiny ball of gold on a sticker that you pop on your ear in certain pressure points. It tells you which ones there's like three different options. Like one's stress. One's like digestion. And one is, I think, tension. I've got the tension one.

So you pop the seeds in three different points in your ear. Honestly, they feel so nice. And then like throughout the day, I'll just press on them. and it kind of feels quite tender, almost like acupuncture. And it's so good. And it just feels so good. And also I feel like it's made my face less puffy. Well, I'm going to order some.

Why do you get them from? Health. Health with the air. Health, health, health with an earth. Health. Health. I can't remember the app. But if they're just called like air seeding

and it comes in this gorgeous box, these nice tweezers. I put them on top. Do you? Do you leave them on for just a day? Three to five days. Oh, okay. See, that's good.

because I am just really bad at daily stuff. Me too. Like even my own supplements, I have all good attention to take them daily and I just don't. Oh my God, I love taking my... It genuinely gives me a dopamine hit when I take my supplements. I know.

I always see your Instagrams of like your 25 tablets. I honestly can't wait. I also think people... I went away from my girls weekend quite recently and my friend Livy was like just so bamboos. By how many... She was like, are you not scared that are reacting differently with one another? And I was like,

the only thing that validates what I'm doing is that my health practitioner told me what to do because I want to be optimal. Because otherwise it's too much information that I would be confused. I wouldn't know either. And I've done my DNA so I know exactly what I need to take to be offered.

She's like, you don't have to do this and I'm like, I'm happy to do it. And do you feel better? Yeah. Do you notice if you like forgot them for a weekend away, would you notice a difference? There are certain things like, because I naturally, my gut,

like my microbiome is so bad. Naturally from DNA, I don't carry certain like things. I don't know what I was specific terms of, but also I've been on so many antibiotics because of my UTI. that like if I don't take probiotics for like two weeks you notice it yeah pro biotics are really important

and antipotitis is so bad for your gut oh my god so I've ordered the epitone ones the Emily English ones I love them because I chat you beatied on the ingredients compared to ones I take now and they're like even better I literally notice them I can't get them they're all out of bloody stock and I saw I've got six do you

yeah and I bumped into Emily at this event Please. And I was like, I've ordered all your probiotics. But they haven't come yet. She was like, we're having a huge, we sold out so quick. I was on to her. I was like, that is incredible.

So I'm still waiting and I'm like desperate to get my mitts on them. Okay, right, dilemma time. Dialma 1. Hi, girls. I love the pod and really need some advice. I've been best friends with a girl since leaving high school over 10 years ago. We've always stayed in good contact and see each other three to four times a year. as we now live about three hours apart.

Over a year ago, she asked me to be her maid of honour, and of course I said yes. At this time, I had just found out I was pregnant. Fast forward to now, my baby girl is seven months old, and my friend still hasn't been to visit us. Sorry, also, like, you've just found out you're pregnant, and she asked you to be your maid of honour. That's a long time she hasn't had a wedding.

That's nine months plus seven months. Quick maths. Well, I guess it's like a year and a half. I think we did like an 18 month ago. She didn't send a card or anything either. I didn't expect anything from her, however, during my mat leave, and since then I've been helping to plan both her hendos with the second made of honour. She's also having a broad wedding next year, which my baby will not be going to.

I have had no doubts about being made of honour and going to both hendos and the wedding, but I can't help but feel the same sort of effort is not being returned. I had told myself that if she didn't make an effort to see me before her hendoo, I'd pull out of the wedding as I wouldn't feel authentic to be there. However, we've just organised to see each other before it. Dot, dot, dot, dot. I still can't help but feel upset that a lot is expected of me on her big event and no effort has been returned on the big event that happened in my life.

I would hate to attend and then distance myself after when I'm in all the wedding photos, etc. Please let me know your thoughts. Would you address it help love you both so much? Sorry, Anna, not love you both so much. She just said, love you both. Tony why I said that we went to say on. She's waiting a narcissist coming out there. I actually have a thought on this.

Okay. And me and say for discuss this recently, I feel like until you go through pregnancy yourself, you just don't understand. And I feel so guilty to my friends that had babies for me. I was so, I was obviously, I love their kids. I was like wanting to see them.

I obviously would do some presents, to be fair. that's like make the effort to see them. But I definitely wasn't there as much as I think all my mum friends when I had a baby was so there for me because they know what it's like and I just don't think you can be because you don't know. Like I just think people think, oh lovely you've had a baby. That's so nice for you and no one unless you've been through it. No, so actually it can be quite a rough, lonely, hard time as well but you're so in love.

So if you've not been through it, you just see the good part. Sure. And so she's probably thinking she's so happy she's had her baby. I'm so busy in my wedding and just not. Being there for you, like she should. I mean, she should try and see it. It's been seven months. Yeah, that is weird.

I would be fuming if no one tried to meet my, my friend didn't try to meet my baby. Yeah, what the fuck? Just more offended for my baby. That's like my protective mom as well. I'd be like, excuse me, why don't you not want to meet my baby? She's gorgeous. Some people do think that their wedding is like the whole world. Yeah.

Yeah, so true. It is annoying. But then also, when you're a bride, it's kind of like your whole world. That's true. I don't know. It's a difficult. cool one. I feel like, because you're both going through like huge life moments at the same time, you're not going to be there for each other the same. Yeah. If I got engaged now,

like, Sophie wouldn't be there for me the way I was there for her when she got engaged because she's got a newborn baby and like she'll not have a child. So I feel like you've both had those things at the same time, like she got engaged and you got pregnant. I do understand though, sometimes the true colours come out of people like when they're getting married. Yeah, I so great. So it's just like one of those things. Like there is nothing worse. I've been a bridesma. Nothing. It's so annoying.

None of my close friends. I've never been a bridesmaid for someone who's been a brideslla. No, me neither. I have seen it happen. I've seen it happen and you're like, whoa. It's really shocking. And you're like, are you unaware of the fact that like it's a wedding? Yeah, like a wedding's not like you're not getting fucking crown to be a queen.

Like, it's, there is a difference. Yeah, it's so true. So I don't know if that's what's going on here. But I do feel like maybe once, you don't, you haven't addressed it with her. And I know that's what you're asking if you should do. Maybe when the wedding's been and gone, back from her honeymoon, you can be like, look, I love you so much. I want to be in a good place with you as a friend. But I just feel like there was a bit of a lack of effort which offended me.

And I'd be like, maybe I was being too sensitive. But, like, it did upset me because I want you to be a part of my baby's life. Like, you're going to be an auntie. You know what I mean? Like, she could even address it beforehand so there's no animosity. Like, it's a wedding. It just could be a conversation that needs to be had. And then she could be like, oh my God, I'm so sorry.

I just didn't think you, I thought YouTube is, like it could just clear the air and you could realise, like, just because sometimes when you don't talk about it, it makes, it exascovates things so much more, like, it makes it worse. So if you just talk it through it, it might clear all the air and then you feel like in a really good place for the wedding. Agree. This isn't that bad. I feel like this is one of those life transitions. I think you'll make it through. And you'll, I think that you will be fine. I just think that we also need to, like, think less and worry less about it. Like, don't let it offend you because it isn't anything personal.

Like she loves you and wants you to be her made of honour. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. I think you should bring it up sooner rather than later, but in like... Don't make it like a deep thing. No. Be like, just miss you so much. Really want you to meet the baby.

I feel like I haven't spent any time with you. We mustn't let that carry on. Yeah, I think so. Don't make it like a her problem because it's like, it's both of you. Yeah. And nothing else in being like, you don't make the effort with me. It's like...

And then someone else to be on, well, when did you last come seeing me? Yeah. Just like, oh gosh. Dynamity. Hi, queens, I need help. Love that. I'm out in Australia having my postgrad gap year and loving it. I've made a really close group of friends at the school where we all work.

I ended up seeing a boy from work and I could now say he's my boyfriend. He's so amazing, makes me so happy. That's fun. Cute. Okay, so she's met someone at work. At work. So I think they must be both teachers. I'm with you.

That's quite good vibes. One of my closest friends has also been seeing one of my boyfriend's housemates. Oh, that's fun. They're not officially together because he's leaving in two weeks, but they have been seeing each other for over two months now. But I just heard from my boyfriend that this guy, who we all love, went on a night out last night and got with three girls. Sorry.

Wow. Seriously, like 17. Fucking out. Three girls. That just reminds me of like feathers ball, where you just like tongue anybody that came away. When you first ever have your first sip of alcohol and you just like try and get so many people.

So I want to say like how many people can I guess tonight? Yeah, but yeah, that's a barometer if you had a good night. Yeah, 100%. Do I tell her she would be heartbroken or do I keep my mouth shut and just let them have an amazing last two weeks together? What's the right thing to do here? Please help. I'm struggling to figure out what morally the right thing is. Last two weeks together, but you've got a boyfriend that's living in Australia. That's a little bit problematic. Can we talk about that?

I guess he's going to move back. I reckon he's like a year too. Yeah. But the other guy's leaving in two weeks. I wouldn't tell her. But then what she finds out and that's fucked up of you to have kept that secret from your best friend? Yeah, true.

Oh, it's like difficult because like selfishly I just actually think kind of for my, for the friend, like let them, they're breaking up in two weeks anyway. Yeah. Let her have fond memories of it

and have a nice two weeks rather than being upset. Or could it make the breakup easier? And yeah, and also like, what if they try and make it work long distance then it's like, now I've got to tell her why didn't I tell her to this?

And she'd be heartbroken. This is like always those scenarios where someone knows that someone's done something and it's like, do I tell them, do I not? Some scenarios it's like just stay out of it and some it's like you must tell them. I don't think there's any harm in not telling her on this one because they're not going to stay together. Like if it was like they're going to stay together as a chance, you know, they get married on day or whatever, definitely she needs to know. I just don't think this information, knowing this information is going to do her any good.

Yeah, you're sparing her like a traumatic last. two weeks. I think so. All right, don't tell her then. Yeah, just tend you like never heard that not your monkey,

not your circus. Oh, I like that. Not my monkey, not my circus. So I'm not getting involved. That's a lovely saying. Yeah.

Just never write that down. I'm joking. Okay then. Well, there you go. That's some good advice from us. And if she ever found out, you could just be like,

I genuinely thought it was, I thought it was nice and not to tell you. Yeah. Like, I genuinely do believe it's nice and not to tell her. I do kind of agree. But then she might feel disgusted when she finds out and then it's been like sleeping with him.

I don't know. I think if I see her only kissed as well. If he'd slept with someone, I'd be like, that's gross and unhygienic. And you need to know. Get some cleannessy on that. Yeah. Okay, right.

Dilemma 3. Hey girls, I love the pod and I've been hearing other tiny's dilemmas. I have a dilemma of my own, but I also fear I'm just being dramatic. A bit of context, I absolutely love celebrating people's birthdays and always go all out for my boyfriend who I've been with for four years. But lately I've been feeling less like a girlfriend and more like a roommate. And now my birthday is coming up and I can't help but feel neglected. In my boyfriend's defence, he's very busy at work and doing a lot of overtime.

However, my birthday falls on the same week as an important work deadline. So he told me he's booked a meal dot dot dot for the week after. I want to be supportive girlfriend, but I also can't help but feel disappointed. I was really hoping he would use my birthday as a way to make me feel special again. Am I being selfish or am I letting my standards slip? Thank you so much. Love you lots. I think that's actually, he might be thinking he's doing it nicely to, like, avoid your word deadline.

Yeah. Oh, sorry, I thought it was her word deadline. Oh, but then also. I still think that's nice because he's going to be like, otherwise I'm fucking working the whole time and I can't relax for your birthday. So, like, is it okay? if I take you out next week, absolutely fine, let's not be too small-minded about this.

Also, like, men work so different into women. He'll be like, yeah, perfect. We're going for a mill next week. That does that job. It's genuinely a tick-box situation of birthday, I think, for men. 100%. Done that. Like, Barry forgot George's birthday before they even had a kid.

Like, it's like... Literally, we had to get, iconically, too, to text him on the train saying, remember it's your wife's birthday, please do something. I don't even think he did, even after a reminder. I think he thought, but can't be asked. Yeah, I'm not a good person to ask, so I clearly have no standards.

No, you don't care about your birth. I feel like it's one of those things where it's so easy to just be like, no, no, no, you're making me feel fucking special on my birthday. You better pull out all the stops. You just say it. Like, sometimes you have to. Like, men work so differently. They're not going to read your mind.

Yeah. And also different love languages. Like, just because that's your love language, to be so all out there for a birthday, doesn't necessarily that, just because he doesn't give that love language back doesn't mean he doesn't care for you. like he just might show in a different way. So true.

I think he's trying his best. Yeah. Well, he's maybe not trying his best, but he's trying. Okay, well, sending you loads of love. Happy birthday. And happy birthday wishes for next week or this week, or one of your birthday is. And I'm sure that the phase will, like, pull itself out. I hope he surprises you.

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