Wednesdays - 128. Kim Kardashian Sighting & a Wuthering Heights Hen-Do?! Ft Ruby Adler

Episode Date: March 4, 2026

Heyyy Tinies! Ruby Adler (aka Tim) is back in the studio for her FINAL episode before she heads back to Australia - and we are soaking up every last second. Ruby gives us the cutest update after meeting baby Ziggy for the very first time, PLUS, she spills on spotting Kim Kardashian in the wild…while wearing SKIMS. If that’s not fate, what is?!Melissa is officially knee-deep in wedding planning, and the girls discuss hen do locations, itineraries, and themes… including whether a Wuthering Heights inspired moment should actually make it out of the group chat. They also reminisce about Sophie’s iconic Paris hen, from tipsy limousine rides to unforgettable Eiffel Tower moments.As always, the dilemmas are delivering: one Tiny is having a fashion emergency after being invited to a gala to meet her boyfriend’s family. Another Tiny needs advice because her situationship forgot it was her birthday. Jail? Immediately. Enjoy the episode x Got a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail] | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail] CREDITS Executive Producer: Ewan Newbigging-ListerProducer: Magda Cassidy & Helen BurkeAssistant Producer: Issy Weeks-HankinsVideo: Lizzie McCarthySocial: Anthony Barter & Amber Hourigan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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a Nivia lip balm takeover. I'll be diving into all things OG with a very special guest. Trust me, you're not going to want to miss this. Okay, guys, coming up on this week's episode of Wednesdays, I am talking a little bit about wedding planning. And I am talking about meeting Ziggy for the first time, who was so cute and I also spotted Kim Kardashian recently. We also discuss our favourite hangover meals and the usual dilemmas. Enjoy. Guys, welcome back, Timmy to the floor. Thank you back by popular demand.

Yes, she is. I know you missed to me. Is this the third or fourth app that we've done third? This is number three. And then Timmy goes in two days. I'm going to be back in May for a few nights. That will come really quickly. Which will come really quickly.

How many months do we have? It's just March and April. Perfect. Two months. That will fly by. Life is going so quick. Time is literally flying by. Is it just a thing that when you get older, the time just goes quicker?

No, you know what it is. And this is going to depress you. What? It's because of our phones. That's really sad. Very depressing. I'm really trying to make a conscious effort actually with my phone. It's not right.

I'm worse than ever. I'm worse than ever. I'm worse than ever. And I think it's because I've been like trying to get on bridal like algorithm, which was really hard to get by the way. I had to type in bridal content into my Instagram and click on the same real like four times before it started like coming and now I'm getting me up. It's great.

Oh my god, I want to see some bites. But it's quite addictive and also quite overwhelming. But I understand. Where does one start? Like being engaged, what do you? What's the first thing you did? I messaged to you and I was like, what did I do? She's very helpful actually. She broke down. This is Ruby's bestest friend in the whole wide world.

Wrote me this like gorgeous list of like all these different wedding dress designers. Why she liked them. So cute with links. She was so helpful. She's so Taipei at times. I was like so shocked. And I was like, is this just sad. your notes for like the girlies that you're friends with that are gay.

Do you know what I mean? I'm like, does she do this for all of her friends? Because I was like wedding dresses like how long she needs? She was like, a year is ideal. And I was like, right, perfect. I've got a year and two months. I've got time. Which is actually, I don't know that long.

I was like, I've got 18 months and then my sister's like, baby, you don't. You've got just over a year, which is doable and manageable. And the venues I've looked at, dates have already gone. So you've got to get on that. I'm like, jeez. And I remember Helen, our producer is nodding away. because she got engaged like a couple months before I did and she was saying that the same thing.

Dates go. Dates go. But I guess you have people that stay engaged for like maybe two or three years. Yeah, yeah, you do. And they book really in advance. They've got time to like chill and I don't know. It's like wedding season typically, obviously this is preponder. It's a short window of time where the weather's nice.

And I guess everyone wants to do their wedding. Not everyone, but like a lot of people want to do their wedding in that time frame because they want the sun and they want the warmer weather. But you're going to have the most amazing wedding. So it's going to be fine It's going to be so fine We've had to tell Timmy now So she can like plan

And her flights and stuff Yeah what I'm thinking is We were just sort of Looking at dates yesterday And we're hoping to do the Hendo within the same month Which then makes logistics sense for me

So Tim can just fly back and be there Because obviously Tim's a ridesmaid Duh That's not an official like Thing me asking I'm obviously We have a bridesma We had that conversation

Before I even like was with Toby Yeah We've like spoken about this for so long Also need to think about the Hendo We've thought, you've bounced. Timmy's planning my head, I, you spoke about. I basically, I would have always loved to have maybe gone abroad, but then I'm like, it's always expensive for people. Saying that, I think we spoke about, we spoke about Paris, didn't we potentially.

Harris would be easy because you hop on the train. That's what my point is like, is so, yes, it's abroad, but like, if you book it in advance or some Eurostar tickets, you can do them affordably. Like, we'd all share a room. Yeah. Think of the memories. I'm on board Sophie Sen and Paris was really iconic

We had so much of us Like those pictures of us Outside the Bifel Tower blackout Oh yeah Oh my God I was just constantly drunk from start You know what was weird on that And I didn't get hung over really once

No neither I think almost when you just power through And you just keep There was so much adrenaline I fell I just remember her legs just outside This pink limo And then these people on the side of the road

Recognising her And I was like loll She was like Bye. I was like, this is so like Princess Diaries moment. It will be really fun. It will be so fun. But it's just, there's also part of me that's like, you know what?

I've one day and a one night. When I'm invited to a hem that's a day and a night, I'm like thrilled. I can put all of my energy into that one 24 hour, not even 24 hours. Yeah, I hate you. And do it all. When it's like a three day, I'm like, okay, I don't know how I'm going to do this. Because I feel like I'm an extroverted introvert or something. Yeah, I agree.

I get burnt out and I'm like, I need five minutes of look. to just recharge. And I find two nights really difficult. Yeah, that second night always feels like a bit of a struggle, doesn't it? It really does. And I'm not feeling like conversations coming to me naturally. I mean, you could do Paris. But like, you know.

You could do like an early morning train all day. If I did Paris, I'd be doing one night. I'm not doing one more than two nights. I'm sorry. Unless it's like the next night, we're having a chilled night. We're going to have dinner and go to bed. Go big or go home. Yeah.

Anyway, what's been going on with you then the last week? She hasn't seen weathering heights. I know. I really, really want to see it. I haven't seen it yet. I've only heard good things like all my girlfriends, you, everyone that's seen it has loved it but you weren't sure

are you Helen? Helen producer's not sure. She wasn't Sean Heathcliff which is the one thing in life that I am now sure on is Is he Jacob Blondie? Yeah. Okay, he's not normally my cup of tea I will say No, he doesn't normally do it for me

He in that when he has his transformation It's also this If anyone watching knows I'm talking about When he puts his hand over her mouth And then over her eyes I was like Holy shit. Why is that so hot? I think it's like the assertiveness.

I can't even, you need to watch it. It's like such a sexy moment. I think it's the best part of the whole film. Really? So sexy. The arms. Arms are my favourite part of a man. Are they?

Like a vascular man. Like you know when a man is like... It's quite like a back. Has like the vein. Like you can kind of stay like you can see their veins in their forearm. I don't like it to be too vainy. I love her. She loves vein.

I do. Great for a cannula. Like an arm. like a bicep. Not like ridiculous. I don't want someone overly muscley, but I like... No, neither. I was having...

We had this conversation with... Sophie and I had this conversation on this very set about Alex Bowen when he first went on Love Island. Do you remember that physique? He was like the nation's icon. He... I've tried to show it to Toby. You can't find it on Google images.

I've tried to show him. What are you trying to show him? Alex Bowen's physique when he first went on Love Island. He was so fit. It's like, I think that's also just sometimes genetics. Yeah. And it makes you look like that. Jacob will already has that.

Does he? Because I don't think. And his arms, you'll love it. You will love it. And his big old hands. It's wonderful. I like hands as well actually. It is wonderful.

And then he like, in the advert, I'm not in spoiling this, but he literally picks her up from her corset. What just from the corset? Yeah, literally from the corset to like get her up to her, his level and that's quite sexy as well. It's also like he's a bit cheeky in it. Like he laughs at her a lot. And he's also like a bit grubby, but in a fit way. I can't describe it. It's wonderful.

And she's amazing and her outfit's so amazing. I think she's incredible. Like I'm slightly enamored by her. Like whatever she does, I'm like, too perfect. I'm like, yeah. You're like a doll. You're so perfect and wonderful. And she's so talented.

Really good. Wow. And it made me cry my eyes out. Oh my God. I was literally crying my eyes out. To the point where we all got home and I was like, I'm not ready to just go back to reality. Like I need some.

It's like too. too much of a stark contrast. Just go back and like have dinner. I was like, what? I was like, it's so, I'm so wrapped up in it. To the point where I was like, I'm going to have weathering heights themed hat and like, this is amazing. Like, genuinely.

Wow. Maybe we do that, Tim. No one's done that yet. They will this year. Watch that happen a million times. Everyone keeps saying that this is the year of the yarn. You had about this. No, talk to me about this.

Every like program and TV show that's like romantic at the main. moment is like there's so much yearning in it. So like rathering heights, heated rivalry, that's very yearning. Okay. There's loads. And everyone's saying it's really a vibe. But that is when it's funny, apparently when males switch off. So like the yearn for me is like almost better than the actual act of anything.

Yeah, yeah. Especially when you're watching in a movie and it's done so well and you can feel their like pain. And boys just switch off. And I'm like, no, no, no, this is the best part. And he's like, nothing's happening. I'm like, you don't understand. Yeah, I think it's a girl thing maybe. 100% is a girl thing.

I think boys feel young, but they don't understand it when they're watching it. We're just so different, aren't we? So different. Right, we also need to have this serious discussion because Timothy Adler fancies Lewis Hamilton, which I cannot wrap my head around. Explain the appeal. No, I say, I don't fancy Lewis Hamilton. I just said that, like, I think, okay, back in the day,

when he was with Nicole Scherzinger, I really was like, he's fit. Yeah, I got it. The F1 appeal, the driving of the car, the winning everything. I was just like, you're a winner. Like, you're fit. And then he was with Nicole and she was hot and she was a pussycat doll. And I was just like, they're just a hot couple. Now, I actually, obviously he dresses differently.

I'm not sure I get it as much now, but I still see him as that quite fit like sportsmen that drove those cars. I'm kind of here for him and Kim. I think it's quite cool. They've known each other for so long. Yeah, probably been good friends for a while. Yeah, but like, I think they look quite hot together. She just looks like her mum now and I can't.

Like those photos of them at the Super Bowl, I'm like, it looks like, I said next to her in LA when I was there. I would have had absolutely, I don't know what I did. Oh my God. I have never in my life been so starstruck ever. She's like the most famous person I think on the planet. I couldn't, I was wearing skims as well. I really wanted to tell her, but like, why would she care?

She probably would have been really nice. I'm sure she would have been so nice. She's probably one of those people that lives up to every expectation, I feel like. Yeah, I was in L.A. in January with my boyfriend and we were staying in the hotel that we always stay in. And I was just going to get a coffee in the morning. I was on my own. He was in the room. And I was like, as we all are on our phones, just like glued to my phone, replying to messages, sat down waiting for the coffee and suddenly just heard this voice that's just the most iconic famous voice in the whole entire world. And I look up from my phone to my left. I thought I was having a little. an outer body experience. It was Kim Kardashian next week where Melissa is, if not closer. And I looked over and

she was being served breakfast. So she actually, her order, I'll tell you all, is poached eggs on toast with avocado. She was having like a herbal tea. And I'm sure I heard her. It was just after Timothy Chalamey had won an award and mentioned Kylie Jenner. And said like, thank you to my partner for three years. I love you. I can't remember exactly what he'd won. And I'm sure. You won a Grammy, no. Was it a Grammy when he acknowledged her. It was something. And I heard Kim speaking to whoever she was with saying that she was like, Kylie and Tim were so sweet. Kylie and Timothy are so sweet. And I think she said something about like that is such good tea. Yeah. And I was like she looked amazing. She had this like big, she looked so boozy, like big fur jacket on. Like she sounds exactly how she does on TV. She

looked even better in real life. Her skin is like, flawless. She's little though. Like, I'm 5'3. I think she's 5'1, 52. She's tiny. She had this like Himalayan Birken. Like obviously no one can get. And I was just like, wow. Wow.

Oh my God, what a vibe. We did lock eyes. I think because I was just staring profusely at her. Like if my boyfriend had been next to me, he would have been like, you need to not look at, like, you need to stop. Was everyone staring? There wasn't that many people there. It was really quiet. It was like a Tuesday morning at 9 a.m. in January.

And there was a few people. there but no one, I think celebrity there is just so different that you just see so many people that people are so used to it. Whereas here, like, if I, I don't know, I guess Kim Kardashian just wouldn't be walking down the street here in London but wow, I couldn't believe it.

So generous. That's my gosh. That is amazing tea that you heard her say. Her and Timmy is so sweet. Yeah. You're just been like, me. I was like, wow. God, that is insane.

I mean, there's rumours that he like broke up with her that happened all the time, but then I think that's been proven to be not true. Des Moire confirmed it. Dunwar are a really good, really good source of info. Who are, sorry? Demoir. What's that?

It's like real life gossip girl. I've never heard of it. Shut the front door. Are we on that? Get on your phone right now. It's amazing. Amazing. She has a million sources all over the world and she makes sure that all legit.

All my mates follow this page. Obviously, babe. I don't know where you've been. Under a fucking rock in Australia. Yeah. Sydney in Bondi. It's not in Bondi. Sophie and Jamie had been on there once and it was huge.

I met Ziggy for the first time last week. Oh, my God. He was the, is the sweetest little baby. Not so little, like, chunk. He's like, two months old now? Two and a half months. But he was so good and so handsome and so sweet. And he just sat there and, like, was just such a good boy.

And, like, Sophie has obviously taken to motherhood so well. and look so happy and it was just like so nice to see and I had a cuddle and like that newborn smell and that newborn scrunch they smell of like it's like biscuits and like milk and like warm like porridge with like syrup yeah yeah yeah yeah like maybe

he smells like maple syrup yeah and I just didn't want it to end and he was so like did he like not cry when he didn't cry he just laid there he didn't really like he was just like wandering his eyes were just like wandering he was so good because they're starting to like see things of it I guess. Yeah, he's a really beautiful mix of them both, actually.

I saw... When he was first born, he was Sophie's twin. Like I remember when she was sending photos into the chat, I was like, oh my God, wow, Sophie, he's your twin. And then actually meeting him, I saw Jamie and him, which was really nice. Now he's old, I agree. I agree. I met him and he was like, I think five days old and he was so small and quiet then. So like, I held him and he was obviously just snoozing.

And then the second time, he was. was so aware of mum smell so like the moment anyone else held him he would cry and i was like damn it he doesn't like me he just keeps crying i'm jealous you got a nice hug in i got a lovely he just like nestled on my on my arm and like he was so good and so lovely and like his ear was like oh my it made me feel broody i was like oh my god i was like texting my boyfriend like look how cute he's so sweet yeah so sweet and I'm so happy for them. It's such a, like, a change in, like, life. Oh my God. I remember she was, she was asking me after and she was like, I really like got the hang of it now.

Obviously, you don't really know, I guess, where it's your first time, you don't know what the hell you're doing. And she was like, now I'm in the swing of things. I think you probably just have to create a whole new routine. And like, it's just not about you anymore, is it? It's about this baby. Everything in your life is about. It's also really weird. It's like, a baby's a baby's a baby. right but then they're also like this person and then like actually like never leave so like they're there forever yes it's like really weird yeah yeah yeah i always just think a baby's a baby and then you're like out of the woods so no no no they're then there for the rest of your life yeah that you have created life as a child and another person yeah it's crazy like my mom says you never stop being a parent

in a nice way yeah but like they then are just always there obviously someone said it's like having your like heart, like having a child is like having your heart literally out of your body. It's like you have this love like your heart is like beating outside your body for this like it's a love that you've just never experienced before. Which I guess trying to like it must be really hard to like you can't imagine loving anyone more than you love your partner and like there's no way but apparently you do always do. It's crazy. It's crazy. Can't wait for those times. I know. It was like really funny seeing her and like looking like looking back at like all the memories all of us like in the last few years like some of the things like well the word actually that long ago it's like how things have just changed

in like four years. I know wild. Wild. I can't not going over anymore. I honestly cannot drink. I can't drink anymore. It's really weird. Well I can and I do but like I can't. I can't drink as much as I used to and I actually don't want to. It's just getting older. I can't hack the hangovers. I'm put off drinking by the idea of the hangover as well. Me too. It scares me. It scares me. I'm now like, it's almost like a bit of an anxiety around the hangover because it ruins my whole weekend. I agree. And then I'm like actually like I'm losing time now. I'm a third of the way through my lie. I want my weekends and I want to like be awake. I can't just be in bed the whole weekend. So, you know, I agree. You want to make the most of your weekend. You want to enjoy it. You also

just want to, for me, there is no better feeling, right, than waking up in the morning, my whole day is ahead of me. I feel fresh. I'm well rested. I'm going to go and walk to my coffee shop to get my coffee. I want my coffee. When I'm a hangover, I don't often want my coffee. I don't want anything. I don't want anything. I feel so sick. I'm so anxious. But like, feeling fresh, like, oh, I know. But then I will say. That is priceless for me. The good old days, right, where the hangings weren't so bad. So you'd had a really fun night, right. Then you wake up at like 9.30, 10 and you're like, oh, dusty head, but nothing crazy. Bacon bat with the ketchup. A delicious. Maybe a kombucha or like a red ambulance.

What's a red ambulance? Regular Coke. Oh God. I still love that on a hangover. I fucking love it. I need a Coke. That's the only thing. And then it just perks you up. Then you maybe have like an hour and a nap on the sofa when you've got friends on in the background. Gorgeous. Wake up at like 2 o'clock. Get up. Then you're like, okay, I'm feeling better now. I'm going to go out about a walk. Then you've got a plan again that night. And the hangover's not that bad and you're like actually quite a wholesome lovely day. That's a good hangover. And that is the only hangover I want every time my life from now on. It's a really hard one to get though. Really hit and miss because it can go a little bit nauseous and then it's just awful.

And then there's no bacon bat. No. No ambulance needed because you're going to throw it all up. Terrible. This is my hangover day now. It would have been different back in the day. I wake up variation of cold drinks are in the fridge, right? So a concoction. I've suddenly got a full fat coke. I've also got freshly sweet orange juice and I've got like a lucazade. Oh, lovely choice. They're all ready and waiting for me. I drink all three. Then I order. How are we feeling dusty head, headache? Dusty head, dusty head, but the drinks are that a paracetamol can't get rid of. Nothing that a little original lucasade can't help. And then order Uber Eats. Yeah. I'm having, Melissa's going to tell me off. I'm having McDonald's.

Are you? Yeah, you're such a McDonald's. You used to get McDonald's on the move out from every night. I love McDonald's. I love McDonald's. I love McDonald's. I love McDonald's. I love McDonald's. It's my guilty play. Like, I don't eat it regularly, but like if I'm hungover, deathly hungover. She's having a year. Double Big Mac. Chicken nuggets.

Prize. Full fat Coke. And that's coming. I've had the three drinks. I then pop a paracetamol while I'm having the food, right? Because you don't want to get a stomach ulcer. Yeah. I then get in the shower.

I wash my hair. Oh, I forgot about all washing my hair. You got to wash your hair on the hangover. Revived. I've eaten. I'm revived. I'm rejuvenated. I've scrubbed.

I'm like, I smell amazing. I go onto the sofa. I go onto the sofa. The hair's a bit damped how dried it, right? Put my fresh PJs on. Moisterised body. Moisterised brazy. Yeah, yeah.

Again on the sofa, flicking through, oh my God, there's two new episodes of something that I'm watching that I haven't seen. Oh! That I love that's just been released, right? How many lives have just released two new apps. I'm lying on the sofa. Hot water bottle is there, right? I've got the place to myself.

There's no one there. God, she's really thought about this. I need to go back. There's no one in the apartment. Like, my boyfriend's at work or whoever, whatever. And whatever. I'm lying there. Just chilling.

watching my program. Nothing like a bit of daytime. He comes home from work. He's ordered a Chinese. Oh my God. He's got a good earth. In his hands. He's got a good earth.

Sweet and sour chicken, chicken chalmane. Crispy dark. Krisherty dark. The shredded box. Egg fried rice. Shreded beef. And a glass of red. And I have a glass of red with it.

That's what I would do. I have a glass of bread. It doesn't touch the sides because I'm so hungover. But it just mellows me out. And also it feels sophisticated because it's a glass of red. And I feel put together. Hair's washed. I feel good.

So you're staying in the hangover night. I'm staying in. And then we get into bed early night That's it Kiss and a cuddle Lovely That is my dream day Wow

I want to get hungover just to do that I know I don't really We've romanticised the hungover Now at the hangover The back in the day It wouldn't have been that people It would have been like

I'm ringing you I'm calling you I'm like let's go back out Let's do something And you've got to revive yourself In time for the night out But often you feel great The second night

I don't know what that And that second glass Champagne is nothing Just hits the spot Just fucking gets the spot And to be fair It's just never champagne It's always prosceco.

It's always, do you know what? I love a glass of prosceco. So do you? I used to. I now, my favourite thing is English sparkling wine. It's so much better, but apparently it's more expensive than champagne. Really? Apparently because making champagne in the UK is better conditions than it is in France now.

So growing grapes is better here. So sparkling wine tastes better than champagne does. It's less like strong. It's more of like a, yeah. It's like a really wonderful taste. Lovely, I could have a glass right now. I know. Sips it.

Right, if you can move on to Dilemmas. Right, we ready? Yeah. K, Dilemma 1. Hey, girls, I have a fashion emergency I desperately need help with. I have been dating my boyfriend for five months, and we've got to that point where it's officially timed for me to meet his parents. According to my boyfriend, every year, his parents throw a massive charity garlet in Surrey.

Wow, that's very gossip. That sounds lovely. It's a big deal on the event of the year all the family look forward to. In a couple of months, I'll be going to that event with my boyfriend to meet his parents for the first time. That's a lot of pressure to meet in that. But here's my problem. This whole situation is not my normal setting and to top it all off, I have no clue what to wear. I have a couple of wedding guest dress options, but I don't think they fit the fancy gala vibe. My boyfriend has never seen me in this kind of elevated and glamorous outfit before, so I definitely

need to make him even more obsessed with me with a hot outfit. I'm also very aware that his parents and other family members are going to be there and I need to find a balance. If you guys have any recommendations, I would love to hear good brown style of dressers, makeup. or hair. Thanks guys. Really. Wow, that sounds exciting. The garlet, but I agree. Like, quite a lot of pressure to meet them on that big, big night.

It reminds me of 50 shades. I think that's how she meets his family. A big galena or something. Listen, I would go with silk. I think backless is always sexy but also really elegant. I agree. And then high neck front. Yeah.

And I would just do a blow dry, a dice and bouncy blow. Don't do crazy makeup. I think that that would be the. the best option and I think reformation is just the reformation is one of our favorites we love reformation also do you know what has some really nice stuff rat and boa gala that's true they do they do sparkly sparkly backless it's a it's not cheap but like you'll probably buy it loads of things on vinted that's like rat and bear as well it's also something you'll probably have for ages and you'll wear it again and again also revolve is brilliant if you've got some time and some energy

It's brilliant. Scroll through those 231 pages of dresses that they've got on there because... Why do they have so much stock? And they never have the size you want. No. It's a nightmare. Revald, that's a really good shout. When you find a gem on there, it's quite good and also you're less likely to be in the same outfit as someone else from Revolve because there's so much choice.

Yeah. Reformation, there's always a little bit of a risk. I always worry about that. Also, I think Zara are really coming out with some bangers at the moment. I agree. Pinterest, Pinterest, the shit. I love Pinterest. I've been used...

It's so good. It's so great for inspiration as well. Also, like, even just like online on Instagram, like I sometimes just look at girls that I like outfits. I like how they dress and I'll look at what they wear for inspo or like what brands they tag and like. Yeah. It's a great way of like discovery. Yes, I agree. Beck and Bridge do some really lovely dresses.

They are Aussie. Yeah. They do some nice things and I feel like probably not many people will be wearing them in Surrey. Yeah, I would go backless high neck because you're not. it's sexy but I think it's really elegant doing that I agree I think you've hit the nail on the head silt and there's options out there like you can buy something really lovely pre-loved

you can go on vintage there's so much on vintage really nice quality stuff as well I wouldn't try too hard I agree don't go too much like out of like what you would normally wear and feel comfortable in like be yourself yeah but if you want to go down the glitzy route fucking do it do I mean like this is your one opportunity like you don't get to wear these things that much in life

I agree. It's so fun getting dressed up, isn't it? So fun. That would be my advice, but really enjoy yourself. I love. I love. You know what? I would also booge things out with some jewelry. I'd go for a dark colour and then really glitz up. You could also have such a pop. It can do really fun statement jewelry that's not like too much. Like you could do like an amazing bangle. You could do like a gorgeous drop-down earring. There's so many like really nice, affordable stuff. It's all about how you wear things.

I think if you do a high neck dress. I like the high neck idea. Big earrings is a vibe and a big cuff on your wrist. to Bangle. Yeah. I think that's really good advice. I'm really glad of us at that by. Are we stylists? Good luck. Have the best time and please if you do have the time please send us a picture. Because I'd love to see what you go for. And don't get too drunk. No, that's, oh my God, don't drink too much. Really just. Rane that in. Have the best time. Love you. Dilemma number two. Hello from Dublin. Would love some advice on a dilemma I've been having.

I'm 24 and I've worked in the same office for the last three years. It's a pretty chill place to work. Nothing eventful really ever happened. until this six-foot gorgeous 29-year-old guy joined the team. When I tell you, this man looks like a Greek god. He really does. We are part of the same team at work and pretty much of the same role in responsibilities. He works in the cubicle opposite me and pretty quickly after he joined, we would exchange glances across the room, brushing past each other in the coronals and having flirty conversations in the staff room

to the point we would both have to control ourselves, considering we were in the same place of work. After a couple of weeks, this developed to the point where we were both staying late and enjoying each other's company in the office bathrooms. So, oh my. Realistically, I know this was something we shouldn't be doing, but it was just so hot and we just couldn't get enough of each other. This went on for a month or so until we both started to feel a little nervous about where this was going.

We didn't want to ruin the easy, fun chemistry we had at work, but it was clear that what we shared wasn't just a work crush. So after hashing it out, we decided to take a leap, we're going on a proper date. Honestly, I'm equal parts excited and nervous. what I would love to know is how to mentally prepare for this date to calm down my nerves and still have an amazing time with someone I really fancy. Love you guys. Oh, you fancy each other so much. I don't think it's going to be an issue. You'll just kiss the whole time. How lovely is that?

There's obviously so much chemistry there and you've been hooking up or like getting with each other for like a month. And you've been working with each other for longer than that. So you obviously know each other pretty well. The year. The year. This is what we were talking about. The year. The lust. It's really difficult. What? Really lap this up and make the most of it. Like, this is what dreams are made of, like a workplace sort of scenario like that,

when it's actually like allowed and it's not your boss who's married. Yeah. Like, this is wonderful. This is so exciting. And I honestly think, like, I love that he's taking you out because, as he should. And I just think have fun, like, lean into it. Like, just kiss and snog and have some... I wonder you need to see a photo of this great girl.

Yeah, I want to see him. But also just like, don't... Easier said than done. but like try and just be relaxed. No one wants to be on a date with someone that's like really nervous. Really lean into your like dark female energy. Is that what they call it? Yeah, black cat, golden retriever.

Yeah. Just lean into the black cat as much as you can. Do you think? Yeah. You don't really do it anymore in dating. No, you don't. You don't. You don't really do it anymore and you're engaged.

But anyway, if you lean into that energy, I feel like who does it really well in that? like a film. I guess kind of how Margot Robbie is on that date with Jordan Belfort in that. I watched that the other day actually at the Wolf of Wall Street. She is so black catty and sexy and like mysterious and just wonderful. That's what we should kind of. We're also trying to be yourself.

But like channeling a little bit of that every now and then I just think is quite fun. Like you get this opportunity to like play a bit of a role. Yeah. In a nice way. Yeah. I want to con people, obviously, not when you're like, just copy what Margot Robbie did. But like, I know what you're saying. I think it's a really like fun way.

And also it just take the upper hand a bit. Yeah. It lets you also like have less pressure because you're like, I don't know, playing into something. I know what you mean. I know exactly what you mean. I'm just trying to think of another like movie where I'm like, oh, she did that so well. And also like, it's a really fun opportunity for you to like ask questions about him and like

you're going to get to know him on this whole other level. and then you're probably going to love them even more. Oh my God, you probably will. I'm really excited. I love that beginning stage. Like, it's all just flirty and fun and like... You know you're going to go home and have fucking great sex. You don't have to worry about that part because you've already done it.

Yeah, yeah, that part. So like you know that the chemistry's there because that can always... I think when dating someone, like you can be like, okay, we get on really well, but there's that other bit missing. You have it or you don't. You have chemistry with someone and it works or you don't. And you've already got it. You've got it.

You're in a really fantastic situation. We're invested. We need to know. Okay. Well, good luck, love you. Good luck. And I think this is just going to be a really fun journey that you're going to go on. Can't wait to hear more.

Got another dilemma. Are you ready? Yeah, we're ready. Hi, Lovelies. After three years of listening to this podcast, I'm finally sending in a dilemma. I've been seeing this guy for about six months now. It's not exactly official. More of a situation ship, but things have been really fun, flirty and exactly what I want at this time of my life.

But here's the thing. My birthday came up, came and went last week and he completely forgot. No. No card. Not even a hey, happy birthday message. Sorry? Illegal, dump him. I wasn't expecting a present or anything.

When I told him it was my birthday, he said, oh cool. And just shrugged off. Like, what the fuck? I know it's technically a situation. Not a committed relationship, but I feel like after six months, a ninth birthday message is the least I could get 100%. He could have just texted. Happy birthday, babe.

Hope you have a great day. See you tonight. Wink face. Like, all I need. I think that's appalling. I really think that that's like pure laziness. Unless he's freaked out by the fact that it's her birth in, that's like a stroke of commitment. But just text a happy birthday.

It'll take two seconds. Acknowledge it. Don't have to get her big extravagant gift or even a card. Like she's even told him that it's her birthday. His response isn't even happy birthday. It's oh cool. I know. You're so right.

It's not even, oh shit, happy birthday. I'll bring a bottle of wine over later. Literally. The flowers says too much. I get that. Bring a bottle of wine. I agree. I tell myself it's not a big deal and he's not my boyfriend, etc.

I keep telling myself maybe he's just busy or maybe he'll make it up to meeting you, you are, I'm vested. So here's the dilemma. Do I say anything, risk sounding petty and potentially make things awkward, or do I just let it slide? And if I do bring it up, what's the smoothest least confrontational way to do it without asking, making a six-month fling, feel like a life-or-death relationship test? The best scenario is his birthday is coming up in a few weeks and you forget it

and he gets a lot and you go, well, you do it to me? I agree. I just think that like, why would you want someone in your life? that doesn't want to celebrate you, regardless of labels and we're not committed and all of that. Because like your mate would say, like, every guy mate would say happy birthday. Like it's not that fucking deep. It's like being like, hi, how was your day at work? It's a really easy sentence.

It's so easy and it doesn't have to be this big song and dance. I just would like, I actually think that that would almost give me the ick. I don't really understand situations. Like, do you have conversations about stuff or is it literally shagging? Look, she's only human. I would really like the guy too if I've been seeing them for six months. But I think she deserves more. So you just deserve a, there's nothing wrong with an apology.

Or he should have just been like, oh, I'm sorry I forgot it. I hope you had a good day. I'll just acknowledge it somehow. I'm like, do you act off with him and wait for him to ask? Because that's very me coded. That's so you coded. I also think I'd do the same. Yeah.

Anything to bring it back to me. You know what? I really love my birthday and I like people making it of ass. And like, even if you don't like it. Be like, I just thought it was a bit weird how you dismissed my birthday so much and didn't even say like... Yeah, I'd say that. But I also find the situation ship thing difficult.

I'm so aware of you becoming, like, seeming too keen. I know. I hate situationships. They stress me out. Do you go on dates and you're in a situation ship? You do? Yeah, so if you're going on dates and it's literally just a question of whether or not there's not a label,

like this is fully out of order. Like, you've known each other a long time. Like, he should know also when your birthday is. Because I'm sure that they go out and do nice things together or, like, hang out. I'm sorry that that happens. And then the next time he asks to see you, you like just are really off. Just be really off and a bit petty and be like, look, you miss my birthday. And when I told you you missed it, you were like, oh cool.

That was actually really shit. Just be honest, but try and say it in a nonchalant way. Yeah. Like, I don't care, but. Really don't care. Couldn't care less. But I'm never seeing you again. Or, or, or.

When he next comes over, you by yourself, this is psycho. By yourself, a really nice bunch of flasers. hours with like a note saying happy birthday from like Jay with a line and then a kiss kiss kiss leave it on the side for him to see yeah that's a really good idea and be like oh it's just this guy I've been chatting to yeah my birthday I think like a bit of jealousy I love it and then be like yeah actually you were really shit and didn't fucking even say happy birthday so he's in he's actually in the lead right now yeah or something make that a light joke yeah but you could like always laugh it off with your girlfriends okay right there's there's a solid plan for you

to just sit down, get a whiteboard out, create a plan. I like that. Nothing like a good whiteboard plan. Let's just go back to the mean girls. Let's go back to the old-fashioned days. The burn book. Yeah. He's going in the burn book.

I'm proud of that advice as well. That was creative. Yeah, well done, Tim. All right, that's the end of the episode, guys. Oh my God, guys, thanks so much for having me. Oh my God, Timmy's on in my own place. I love doing this. I had so much fun.

I love you. I love you, too. I'll see you soon. Love you guys. Bye. That's it for this week, Wednesdays. but God, don't you just fancy some more, Melissa? Yeah, I'd really love a follow-up to some of those dilemmas.

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