Wednesdays - 139. Skincare to AVOID Before Your Big Day ft Elle Hartley

Episode Date: May 19, 2026

Heyyy Tinies!Guess who's back? Sophie and Melissa’s go-to aesthetician, Elle Hartley from Hart Medical, is here to spill all the skincare tea.Melissa reveals the treatments she will be getting before her wedding, and the girls discuss the mistakes you absolutely DON'T want to make before the big day. PLUS, we’re diving into all the viral skincare trends taking over your FYPs. Is Medicube actually worth the hype? What’s Elle’s honest verdict on the Rhode Spot Patches? And what are the fox eye hacks everyone's obsessed with?And as always, the dilemmas are delivering. One Tiny's boyfriend has been messaging her best friend after a row… girl code has officially left the building 😳Another Tiny has just got divorced and her first love has SLID into the DMs. What should her next move be?Enjoy the episode xGot a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail] | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail] CREDITSProducer: Magda CassidyAssistant Producer: Issy Weeks-HankinsEditor: Kat MilsonSocial: Amber HouriganSenior Producer: Helen Burke Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Okay, on today's episode of Wednesdays, we have The Gorgeous Elle from Heart Medical joining me. Hi. And if I could ask you one favor, please subscribe to our YouTube channel at Wednesday's podcast. Welcome back to another episode and I've got my girly, HART, L. Hart. Heart. L. Hart from Heart Medical joining me today. We're going to talk about like wedding prep skin, the usual catch up. Yeah.

I have to start this episode just by prefaceing that I had my bonding off my teeth yesterday. So the start of the regression is officially like peaked. And then from now on it's going to be glow up for wedding. It's the pre bridal regression. Everybody has one. Yeah. And we can talk about that anyway. Yeah.

I managed to get my wedding insurance. Okay. Which means that we could actually pay the deposit for the venue. What are we insured for? What are we insured that? It's not going to happen. The thing that we were trying to get insured, which was the main thing was Toby and I not being able to attend.

Like, God forbid, like, I get Nora virus. Toby breaks his leg and I'm like, can't walk down the art. Like, no, we need to resusc. schedule, they wouldn't cover that. Really? I think if you really, really, really, we tried so hard with so many people. Breaking up, obviously this would never happen to you. Yeah, what if he doesn't turn off?

Do they because of breaking up? No, I'm like, nah, don't fancy it today. That's unhinged. I know, I don't see. I wonder if they would cover that. I'm sure that you could find someone that could. I never thought about wedding insurance. I did not even think it was a thing.

It's important, I think. It's important when you're having a belanza. Or like, let's say your venue burns down. Yeah. This is true. Then what? It's very difficult since COVID, basically, for big of events. Well, congrats on the wedding insurance then.

I know. What are we insured for? We insured for a big fat spot on the wedding day. No. No, we are not. Hence, why I have you. I'm the insurance. To chew my skin for the wedding.

So, yeah, that's been my week. What else has been going on? It was been colding. I had a hen on the weekend. Okay, you've been at hens every single weekend. It's been a lot of hens. I don't know. Two so far, but it's May.

It was really fun. Weather held out Cotswold's hen, bro, she. Did it give you an idea of what you want to do for yours? Every time I go to a wedding or a hen, I'm like, want to do this. Don't think I want to do that. Yeah. This is just your research development trips now. Every wedding, every wedding you attend.

It's just a rakee, really. It is, really, isn't it? Yeah. I wouldn't have chosen those charges. One of my patients was saying she's going to marry in Mallorca. She went to do her trial, a makeup trial. the other day. Okay. And she said it was like torrential rain.

She, like, she, like, stood there looking out like, huh, okay. And it is one of those things, isn't it? It's an eye on. That's why I didn't, well, one of the main reasons why I was, like, opting out of meyorka because also I just think, I don't think there's anything more classy than a quintessentially British wedding. I love a broad wedding, but I think there's just something, firstly there's something

really chic about your central London weddings. I'm a big fan of that. When you have, like, 15 people. Yeah, I think that might. That might be what I do. Have you seen this place, which is what I actually had seen on a TikTok, and I was like, that's why I want to get married. Perfect.

It's in Greenwich, which I know is actually far away. It's set by the O2. Oh, well, I have seen it. I have seen it. Yes, it's beautiful. I was like, perfect. We'll just do this. Why not?

Oh, because Toby didn't want a London wedding because he don't want people getting the tube home, which I do yet. He wants it to be like more of a weekend away experience. That's really cute. Because I don't want people just nipping back a bit early on the tube. You will stay in my wedding and you will stay to like, you will stay to like. I tell you can leave. Well, it's like, I do understand.

Because then people have the different mindset. Like, when they arrive to the destination, I guess they're more like, you know, when you go to a broad wedding, you're like, I'm in for this whole weekend. I'm here. Yeah, you're committed. That's it. Whereas, like, if it's just a one night in London, you might be like, I'm going to book a Pilates class in the morning.

And it doesn't, I don't know. Noted. However, would love to attend a wedding like that because it's just easy, peasy. I might even host the Pilates class the next day. That would be good. You know? You have to give people things to do, I guess. You do.

To keep them in the sort of. spirit. What happened to you this week? Talk to me. How many patients? How many brides? Busy, busy, busy brides. I'm going to open up preemptively my waiting list for 2027 brides. For 2027 brides. Guys, you don't know how huge this is. I'm going to open up like 25 slots for brides next year. Oh my God, holy shit. Honestly, this is just a mic drop moment. I can't believe that these words coming up. So I'm really excited because it's my favorite thing to do is to kind of create that plan and have like a month on month plan of what are we doing? Where's our starting point? Figuring out your goals.

And it's more than just about kind of skincare or it's more than just the treatments that you're doing. It really is kind of gearing someone up to the most incredible, the most important day of their life. It's so much pressure when it's like, it is the most important day of your life, but also like to look your absolute best. It's like, fuck. But I think that one of my key issues is that you always always. look incredible. And so it's about not doing too much. And sometimes it really is about kind of like de-influencing people from doing too many things. And you know that because I'll tell you all the time, like, stop, we're doing too much. Let's not do that. And I think that's the problem is you freak out.

You're like, oh my God, I'm getting married. I want to do everything. I think we have to remember that a lot of these treatments do have the do carry risks that are impacts. There's long-term impacts of them. So especially when you're getting married, you have to tread very carefully. It has to be patient appropriate. It has to be, I wouldn't even say age appropriate, but it has to be the right thing for you to make sure that we're giving you the best version of yourself and the best skin. And you're just feeling the best for that day. So when do we start? When do we start?

Because we're going to do, I guess we're just going to do like what skin boosters and leases on me. That's really all. And then obviously Botox. Yeah. I think that you have to time it out. And there's certain treatments that are really the timing super important. As you know, things like antwinkle injections, neural modulators, these are things that have a specific onset of results. And then obviously they wear off. So we've got to time that really well.

I typically will not put a needle in someone's face probably four weeks before the wedding. Not me. I'll meet you do lifting on me or something. Right. Is it too late for this? No. Just to avoid any risks, anything kind of untoward happening, get bruises, we know they can linger. So I usually say kind of four weeks before, if you've not done it, if we've not done it by then, we're not doing it. Fantastic advice to the brides out there. Four weeks, that's it.

Don't touch your face. That's it. Don't touch the face. Minimally, minimally, minimally invasive things. You know, we can do your red light, you can do your lymphatic drainage. We can do your non-invasive radio frequency devices, things that are going to lift, tighten, the things that are just kind of like the icing on the cake, you know? Yes.

You know? I love that. Yeah. So four weeks before, no needles. focus on non-invasive, focus on reducing inflammation in the skin. Absolutely no new products. No new products.

Guys, do not. I had to say this to my friend. She's getting married at the end of May. And I gave her loads of like the leftover PR stuff. And I was like, don't try any of this before your wedding. Please don't because you might get her your rheumatitis or something. Yeah, that's something as well. Somebody, even your makeup artist, for example, coming in the, you know, the morning of

and using some rogue products on. your face. So I think minimizing anything new, you want your skin to be super balanced. Consistency is key in that last four weeks. If we're doing things like toxins, and we'll talk, we talked about this in terms of your treatment plan, everyone's reaction to it is different. So I would always say never, ever, ever try a treatment for the first time. Right before your wedding. In that, you know, in that period before the wedding, even if it's three months before. Because if you don't like how it looks, It might not even be that anyone's done anything wrong or you've had a bad side effect.

It could literally just be like, actually, I don't like how this looks. And I think we have to consider that you want to look like you walking down the aisle. You don't want to look like someone else. You know, this is the most exciting, happiest day of your life. You want to make sure that your facial expressions are looking like you.

You don't want to go look back in 20 years at your wedding pictures and you're like, because you couldn't smile properly because you've done too much Botox around you. eyes. So I would always say trial out something like that, trial out treatments in a period before. Right. We're going to start in the next month. I'm excited. Well, I feel like we've... I mean, we've been preparing this for last like three years. It's been a marathon. No, I'm joking. But it's not. But also, it's just for you, I think, as well.

It's about getting some consistency because it'd be quite nice to, like, go into the month of your wedding, not being like perpetually worried that I'm going to have a breakout or my skin's going to freak out. can't with the worry about having a spot or something on my skin. That is just so annoying. But like all having my period. Right, I've got something here that I kind of want to read out. Okay, go. Lots of surprise online are specifically undoing past

work in the run-up to the wedding. They actually didn't talk about this. This is true. Because they want to look like themselves in the photos and not date the pictures. What do you think of this? 100% I've seen, I've got a lot of patients who have come in and they're like, right, this is the time. Let's

get rid of everything. I think, think that if you are not happy with historical work that has been done, we know that dermal filler can linger around in the face for longer than we initially anticipated, you know, it does break down, but it leaves remnants, which can then cause issues. And it can all almost look a little bit kind of, we always say a bit fluffy, but because dermal filler holds and retains water, if you have remnants of older filler in your face, even from five, six, seven, ten years ago, it can cause that little bit of puffiness. And so it is, if you're not happy with that,

definitely a good idea to go, okay, let's have a research. What I would say is, you know, making sure that you're going to someone who has an ultrasound and at least a basic understanding of ultrasound so that we can ultrasound, map the face and see where things are. If it's not problematic, you don't need to get rid of it. But a lot of people will have elements of a little bit of dermal filler migration or they've maybe got dermal filler from the jawline,

which at one point was quite nice and sharp, and now it's just become a little bit almost like fluffy and boggy. And remember, our face has changed. We age. So what looked good five years ago, oh, that's also a good point. You know, what looked good five years ago may not look good now. Yes.

And so I think doing a good reset is a good idea. And I see so many people at the moment who are coming in to get rid of it and say, I just want to see how I look and I want to start again and take a different approach. I think it's a great approach as opposed to, I think maybe in the over the last 10 years we've been like, put it in, put it in, put it in. Totally. And now it's kind of like, let me take it out and see how I look.

And honestly, I'd say about 80% of the time when we've done that, we will kind of reset and go, actually, I really like how this looks. Maybe I just want to improve my skin. Maybe I just want to do some skin boosters, maybe some polynucleotide and not actually fill it back up. Totally. And I'm seeing that so much. And I think it's really nice because people are like, I feel like myself. and this is it because we lose sight of our real faces.

Yeah, you get like blindness to stuff, don't you? I don't really want to know what my real face is. Oh my God. I think that any trend-led aesthetic should be avoided. It shouldn't be trend-led. It's individually anatomical led, right? Like, if it is a trend, you need to avoid it, essentially. Because it is that thing, temple filler, whether it's Russian lips, whether it's, you know, fox eyes.

Do you remember? I know there was this poor girl I followed on Instagram. She had the threads for the fox eyes, and her eyebrow was like in her eye. And then one of them snapped. So it was uneven, but because they were in her skin. They didn't get them surgically removed. And they couldn't get rid of them. Yeah.

So, and she said the pain was horrific. And it took ages, she'd have loads of, like, old sounds. Threads were, like, threads were a whole era. And you can go in and nip in somewhere and get them done in half an hour. People still doing them and it's a bit sketchy. Also, we've all seen Anne Hathaway. if you want to have a foxy foxy-foxeye, just do a little... I literally sent that to Willis, like, straight away,

and I was like, I wear my hair like this every single day. That's not comfy. It does hurt, though, well, like, that's not comfy. Like, usually, I do, I really do. I get in the taxi on the way home and I'm like, yank my hair down. And also, my hair line is, my hair line's going back. I can't wear my hair down anymore. But anyway, I'd say, I'd say it's still safer than a trend-led,

um, trend-led thread lift. Just a little What else was a trend? The Russian lips Where they'd be like Bucal fat removal A lot of people Bucal fat removal

Also known as a bitchectomy So people that have like Rounder faces naturally Will have a lot of buckle fat But often look really youthful Yep So they get it taken away Which then could look

I guess It goes like more sunken in here right But there's also at risk Well no as soon as you age You need that subcutaneous fat You need it If you're removing something permanently as well, we need to really think about what is the long-term repercussion of this. Because that fat pad has a purpose. And as you age, the fat pads in your face start to shrink and they start to kind of migrate downwards.

Those changes happen. That hollowing of the face does happen. Of course, yeah, a lot of people are getting surgeries, but also the face does change. And also, like, we're allowed to glow ups. People grow up. They do. What can I say? I also think from how we wear our makeup and take photos and things and how we have our hair is so like, I'm like, I look at some photos like there's like an era of time and I know what era of time it was where I look at my parents and I'm like, oh my gosh, like you guys look better now. Like just in the way that you like style your hair and do your makeup. Sure. I don't know. Like I just think aging sometimes it's actually like so attractive. And I also think that that's talking of that.

I think when you're doing, you know, bridal wise. that's why everyone wants the no-make-up makeup because you don't want it to be trend-led like you don't want your makeup to be a trend oh god not you know because you want that picture to be timeless even that is a whole thing isn't it because if you've got your crazy I don't know eyelashes oh my god the fake lashes I used to wear

you never want a fake lash I've had the ones that stick up like the individual like in the corner but you know like at one time that was like a thing wasn't it? Yes the thick were they eye lures I used to wear like two or three And they used to, like, I used to stack them on top of each other. Can't imagine that.

A heavy lid. I think I've seen a photo, actually. Yeah, I hope not. And they all seen a picky. Also, are we, what's Toby doing for this? Because all of the girlies... He needs to lazy his nose. We need you to lazy his nose again.

Oh, I think. You need a bit of vascular. Yeah, because all of your brides come in sometimes with the halves, and it's like a couple of six, which I think is quite lovely, because the men deserve glow-ups too. Nine times out of ten, you know, the bride has spent the... last year she's invested her time, her energy. She's made commitment. She's made sacrifices. And then he's literally washed his face with head and shoulders. That's so annoying.

And just like rolled up the morning off, like a little little shale. It looks fantastic. You know, it looks fantastic. But that being said, I do have a cohort of brides who will say kind of like three months before like, do you see men? As if like men are not allowed him. They're like, do you see? Do you see men? I'm like, yeah. Could you see him? Like, will you get rid of his blackheads is a big request? So then, so then men have men have blackheads on men.

Then the hubbies come in. The fiancés will come in. Typically, it's, they need a good, good extraction, a good exfoliation, maybe a little bit of laser, maybe just get rid of some of those little vessels. The vessels is a rife at the moment. It's a pandemic. Maybe a little bit of profiler or brofiler. Oh, the guys.

That's lovely. They would like that. I did. That's what I said. I also feel like if you say, like Matthew McCona, okay, how's this done? That'll be like, yeah, I'm down. Yeah. Oh my God, right.

There's a lot of hype about MediCube. Okay. At the Mo. Korean brand. And so I need thoughts and feelings on that. Okay. And what is everyone's using. And also the road skin patches, I would love to know.

I think, let's start with the road skin patches. Okay. The road skin patches are hydrocholode. Hydrocolode? What does that mean? Hypercollode. Yeah, hydrocollode. It's essentially just like a little tiny, it's what you put on scars.

There's no other ingredients in it. It's cute because you can get fun little shapes. You put it on a spot. It helps to speed up healing. It creates a nice environment, a sterile little, well, it's not sterile, but it creates a little environment so you're not touching it. I think that is good because if you're not picking, touching, inadvertently scratching a pimple, great.

So I guess it's good for that. I don't think it's doing that much else. La Roche-Pose have some Ephaclar ones. They're definitely hydrocholid, but they've got B-5 in panthenol, which is really healing. It helps to support healing. So I feel like something that is supporting healing a little bit more, maybe more effective for speeding up. So if you're going to buy a spot patch. I really like the La Roche-Praze ethyclare ones.

Are they clear? Yeah. But that's the issue. I feel like when a spot is so big, You kind of want to, like, not try and cover it up, but almost make it more obvious in a fun way, which is why the road patches and the style patches are quite fun. Yeah, I think they're good. I think they're good. But when at home, Rolaush Pose.

Yeah, or do like a La Roche and then put like a fun. A fun. A fun. A fun. And the MediCube, I think, I think, are you talking about the pink mask that everyone's obsessed with? The pink mask and then. The pads. Yeah, the poor pads are a really good dupe for the Zad-O complexion renewal pads.

Oh, okay. will caveat this, they are very strong. Depending on your skin type and what your skin concerns are, I would be cautious of the zero-poor pads, but they have a zero-pore pad light or the sensitive version. And I think they would probably be more suitable for a wider indications. And the MediCube masks, great. They're the pink ones, aren't they?

They're the pink ones, yeah. They're glistin-based, so they make your skin feel nice and glossy. they have PDRN, so the polynucleotide, the polydioxy ribonucleotide in them, which can't really penetrate much in the skin and the hydrolyzed collagen can't penetrate the skin, but will make your skin look really glowy, glossy. They are nice to have, they're not really doing that much, but they're making your skin feel hydrated, look a little bit glowing. But ultimately, I think we have to think about what we're putting on the skin.

I think keep it simple, guys. Yeah, that's it. Right. Should you play this game? Yeah. Would you rather? Okay. Oh, God.

Oh, no. What is it? Would you rather wake up on your wedding day with a massive Zit or never have Botox again? I'd rather have a spot. Where is the spot? I think, I think it's like a big boil in the middle of my forehead. Let's just say it's this. It's the one I've got on my face right now.

No, I'm joking. I think if I was banned from having no modulators ever again, I think I'd be okay. I might be in denial. I would love. to watch this experiment actually happen. Well, it's never going to happen. No Botox for a year. I could do no Botox for a year?

What about when I get pregnant? That's true. I mean, it depends where the spot is. Oh, this one's good. Okay, ready? Would you rather get bruising from lip filler that lasts till the wedding? Or get a fever blister? Oh, a fever blister is a coltor.

A fever blister from an injection? Oh, fucking hell. I'd rather have a bruise. I'd rather have a bruise. I don't want to discover that I've got. So you can't put makeup on a coltso. But also, guys, they have a fiverter. No needles four weeks before.

It's never going to happen. We're not going to manifest. Any of these things are never going to happen to any brides, okay? No. Would you rather spend 5K on skin and 500s on the dress or 5K on the dress and 5,500 on the skin? Definitely 500 on your skin. That can get you like a stunning facial and some Botox. I don't think, I mean, I don't think you can get an amazing wedding dress for less than 500 pounds.

So I would go 500 pounds on face. Less you go to China. Have you seen this on my TikTok? Or you could do a bi-rotation. I actually have. spied some stunning dresses on biotation. So maybe you could actually get away with it. I don't think I would want to spend five grand on my skin.

Ultimately, okay, so let's think about this. Like, jokes aside, if you have had, you know, severe acne, like really kind of like life-changing acne, severe scarring, you know, the psychological impact that can have on people, as much as it does seem like a lot of money and obviously, you know, it's not necessary if you don't need all of those treatments. but I think that potentially for some people walking down the aisle with their body and their skin being the best it's ever been more so than a dress that you're going to wear for one day because that's also your face for the rest of your life actually. So I'm going, I'm going five thousand pound face, five hundred pound dress.

Love that explanation as well. Okay. Would you rather have a lip filler that looks perfect in person but weird in photos or perfect in photos but weird in person? Perfecting for person. Perfecting me alive. I honestly think that too many people focus on what they look like in a picture and they'll come and say, look at this picture, I've got a wonky this side, and I'm looking at them and I'm like, I can't see it, hon, in middle.

Oh, no, but on a picture. And I'm like, it's fine. Nobody's stationary in real life. Also, face June, hello. Yeah, let's just edit up those pictures. Who's not editing their wedding pictures? That's true. You know.

That is true. Okay. So it has to be perfecting real life, but not perfect in my life. but, you know, good in real life, whatever in pictures. Right, we're moving on to dilemmas now. Hey, girlies, I have a friendship dilemma for you. Okay. So me and my boyfriend had a pretty big argument last week.

Nothing crazy, just one of those rows. And you both need a few hours apart to cool off. It's down a relationship stuff. I went to my best friend's flat to vent and have a very girly night in. Here's where it gets weird. Whilst I'm at hers, still really annoyed by the whole situation, I see she's texting someone and being really shifty about her phone. Oh my gosh.

Oh, no, she's not texting him. I asked who it was, and she goes, oh, it's just so-and-so and changes the subject. Cutsa later that night, when I'm back home and my boyfriend comes around and casually mentions that my best friend's been texting him the whole time I was at hers. Okay. Apparently, she was checking in on him,

telling him I'd calm down basically being his little emotional support system while I was sat next to her sobbing into a bowl of ice cream. What? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I asked her about it and she said she was just trying to help and didn't want either of us to feel alone. On paper, that sounds sweet, but something about it just doesn't sit right with me. No, that's shady.

They've always been friendly, but I didn't think they'd have this kind of relationship. Am I being paranoid and possessive, or is it actually a bit off for your best friend to be privately consoling your boyfriend behind your back during an argument? No, no, no, no. I'm sorry, that's awful. Unless they were besties before, if that's his friend, And then you're her friend by proxy. That's the only way that that's acceptable. That's bad.

Bad. That's bad. Get rid of the friends. The only thing I will say is like my friends, especially my friends that like live near me that I went to school with are very close with Toby. So if they're close with Toby, it's a different story. But if she said they're not that close, she said they weren't that close. It is weird. Really weird.

Unless he. Do you think she's secretly loving the drama? I think so. Or unless he checked in with her knowing. that she'd gone to his house. And if he checked in and said, hey, you know, I know Melissa's come to yours, just checking in how are they doing, how is she? That's the only way that that's okay.

Totally agree. But also, she should be like, oh, by the way, he's messaged me to check you're okay. Why is she being shifted about it? Be like, look, I'm just trying to keep peace. I love you both. I obviously want you both to be together. So I'm just going to, it is weird. Like, why would she not tell you?

Yeah, that's weird. And, you know, people do this. You know, you hear about it. You hear about all these things. things going on and as soon as they break up, then these guys get together. That's not it, guys. I don't think I would want to admit to Toby that, like, one of my best mates potentially fancies him. I don't know why, but that's almost like, once you say something, it can manifest. Okay. I think Jordan thinks everyone fancies him. When you know someone fancies you, you kind of

play to it a bit sometimes, or it makes you think about them a little bit more. So I wouldn't even want to, like, say it to my boyfriend. That's obviously a me issue and an insecurity that I have. No, I don't think it is. I think maybe. But if I was in your position or you and my friend, I would say to you like, actually right, we just need to knit this in the bunch. And we're going to be smart and just not tell the friend when you have a problem with your boyfriend,

which is a shame. She's lied to you. You've asked her. That's what I think is weird. Oh, it's just so and so. Also, if he'd been really mean to the other girl, they could have been in cahoots. And like, they could have been like, oh, yeah, tell him this. Tell him I'm really upset.

I know. Where's your fucking girl? Yeah, tell him you should. Yeah, tell him, yeah, you should buy her some flowers. I think she wants to fuck your boyfriend. It sounds like it. I hate to say it, but it's... You need to nip that in the bud.

Nip it in the bud. Okay, right. Next dilemma. Okay, I have an excellent dilemma here. It's very relevant. Okay. Hi, girlies. I need you to weigh in on something

because I genuinely can't tell if I'm being unreasonable or not. So I've been seeing this guy for a couple months. And it's purely a situation. It's just sex. Get him, girl. We have a great time together. He leaves, and then I get to watch Grey's Anatomy in peace.

It's honestly perfect. I'm so happy that she's having a great time. Oh my God, I'm jealous. Now, here's the thing. Before he leaves, he has a shower at mine whilst I chill in my room. I keep all my skincare and makeup stuff in the bathroom. He always takes ages in there, and genuinely, I used to wonder what kind of elaborate routine this man was doing in my bathroom.

Love that for him. Every morning after he's gone, I'm getting ready for work. I notice that my skincare bottles have all been moved around. My lankum retinol looks suspiciously lower. My Augustinus Beda, SPF, has a massive dent in it. My medicaid pads are notably depleted, and it hits me. This man is using my skincare. The full routine.

Oh my God, it's a letter. At first I found it hilarious. The audacity is actually quite impressive. But then I started doing the maths on what he's been quietly working his way through him now, monoid. The weirdest part is, if he was my boyfriend, I genuinely wouldn't care, he could help himself. But it's the fact that he's just friends with benefits dipping into my Augustinus Bader, it's making me feel some kind of way. Am I being petty? Do I confront him? If so, how do I do it?

This is fantastic because, first of all, congrats on the fantastic routine. Mediqqa Pats, we love this. Augustine Spada's fucking investments. I would be very upset if anyone was using it. I'd be upset. I would sabotage. I would decant my Augustina Spada SPF into a little unmarked bottle and hide it. I would fill it back up with some sort of like hair removal. I was think, my initial thought was bleach and then I thought, actually, no, we're not trying to like kill this guy. We're not doing like chemical burns. We just want him to be.

A gradual fake tan. A gradual fake tan. A gradual fake tan. But it will ruin his week. That's fantastic. That would be my solution. But also that's kind of my toxicity leading in there. That is a fantastic piece of advice.

I think it's a great piece of advice. I think we leave it there. I think that's it. I think that's what I would do. Does this guy have good skin? But also she's sleeping with a guy, so surely she wants him to have good skin. Yeah. Either this man doesn't know or this man knows exactly what he's doing.

Oh, he knows. Which I rate a lot. Right, ready for the next dilemma? Yeah. Dilema 3. Hey, girlies. I genuinely need your brains on this because I'm losing the plot of it. So, quick backstory.

I'm 29. In October 2025, my 12 year relationship completely fell apart out of nowhere. We got divorced after 18 months of marriage and I completely had to rebuild my life without my ex. Cut to the present day and I finally feel like myself again. I'm not 100% sure

I'm ready to date but something happened that made me reconsider. One day I got a random DM from my first boyfriend when I was 14. We love a throwback. I love this.

I love a throwback. He was honestly my first love and we hadn't spoken in 10 years. He thought he saw me in our home. Wait, he thought you saw me in our hometown but it wasn't me. We started chatting and weirdly I was already heading back home

that week to see my family so he asked me for some drinks. We were talking for hours, and the bar kicked us out at closing. He texted before I'd even gotten home and asked me to go to dinner the next day. The second date was even better. I ended up staying at his place

and felt like I was 14-year-old me again. Oh my God, I love this for her. Here's where I'm stuck. I really, really fancy him, but I've only ever been with two guys in my entire life, my ex-boyfriend and him, my ex-husband and him. So how do I know if he's a rebound or the actual one that's been right for me all along.

Help. I think you just never know until you try. You know, I think two is a very small number. But if it's two, it's two. If it's great, if it's fantastic, one is as good as a feast. Did you make that up? Yes. As good as feast.

No, well, I mean, like, if it's great, you don't need loads and loads and loads of people. You don't. You know? If you and my sister, I would be like, look, he's going to be there. Okay. He's not going to find a girlfriend

in the next six months. But this guy seems he's attentive. He seems to be doing all the right things, you know. Like there's not that many gentlemen out there anymore. But the fact that she's having this wandering thought, I don't want you to go into six months and then be like, shit, I really shouldn't address into this.

I honestly don't think anyone ever thinks, oh my God, I wish I'd shrug more. Do you? I think I had a period where I would have, to have been single, not necessarily shagged more, but, like, dated more, like, got some more experience of people. Can I tell you? I was single for, like, honestly, nearly, like, eight years. It's shit. Oh, I loved it. I spent, I spent all of that time, like, just wishing that someone would fall in love with me. See, I didn't want a boyfriend. Okay. And it was only for a few months.

You're, you're very, you're very, like, pragmatic with matters of the heart. I found this about you. But I guess if you're, like, dating and you're getting, you want a boyfriend and you're getting let down by people, that would bum me out for sure. But I guess everyone's experience is different. Yeah, it's true. It's true. But I just think if you've got a good thing, you know, if he's giving you, if he's giving you all the right signs, you owe it yourself to explore it, you know, it's fine. Also, if you really, really fancy him, that doesn't happen very much. You really fancy him. He's a really nice guy. She's not said whether he's bad or good in bed. So I'm assuming he's good. I don't think, yeah. Because you don't fancy someone who's not good in bed. And she's gone really, really,

fancy him. So it's fine. So do it. Honestly, you don't need to be single. You don't need to have had sex with loads of people. The grass isn't greener. It's not. The grass is never greener. And like, if you really, really fancy him, it's really hard to fancy people. You can date people and be like, yeah, it was all right. Yeah, no, I think this is, it's rare. It's rare. It's rare. So, yeah, my advice would be to stick with it. However, if I was repainting this picture for you, I would have liked for you to have just dated and had a bit more of a wild six months. And then been like my prince came to me. But it doesn't matter. Sending you loads of love and tell me when you get married. I'm excited. Because I feel like you will get married again and he'll be the one.

That's it. The end of the episode. Thank you. Thank you guys so much for listening and thank you for having me. I'll see you tomorrow anyway. Oh yeah. Love you. To begin our bridal journey. Bye. Bye. Bye guys. Bye. Bye. That's it for this week Wednesdays. But God, don't you just fancy some more, Melissa? Yeah. I'd really love a follow up to some of those dilemmas. I want to know what happens. Well then, Tynies, we have got some news for you. We have launched a premium version of Wednesdays. Now listen, subscribers get access to the podcast ad free with bonus episodes.

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