Wednesdays - 142. Bring Back Matching Underwear! Plus THE Most Performative BF Ever?! ft Georgia Habboo

Episode Date: June 9, 2026

Heyyy Tinies!Georgia Habboo is back in the studio and it's the overdue girly catch-up we’ve all been waiting for. Georgia gives Melissa the full debrief on the Habboo Ibiza family trip with Sophie, Jamie, little Ziggy and Bella all together for the first time. Melissa is officially halfway through One Tree Hill and there's been a major plot twist… Chad Michael Murray has been dethroned and James Lafferty has taken the crown as the hottest cast member. We’re in shock.This week's dilemmas are DELIVERING. Three years into her relationship and one Tiny's sex life has completely dried up. Not even a matching underwear moment can save it. It leads to a very important question… Why don’t we wear matching underwear anymore?PLUS, another Tiny's best friend's boyfriend is giving her the absolute ick. He is the most performative male she has ever encountered and honestly… We have thoughts.Enjoy the episode xGot a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail] | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail] CREDITSProducer: Magda Cassidy Assistant Producer: Issy Weeks-Hankins and Lydia BrownellVideo: Lizzie McCarthy Social: Amber HouriganSenior Producer: Helen Burke Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi guys, we've got Georgia back on the podcast today, and we're going to get into all of this. Someone had found a really old photo of me. I've posted it with like a recent photo being like, no one's ugly, they're just poor. There's the spontaneous sex that happens, like, rarely, but it's great. The scheduled in sex, and there's the sex that you kind of don't want to do, but like you've got to do it because you haven't done it in a while. And then when you get back, you're like, why don't we do that more? It's like sugar, the more you have it, the more you want it.

I remember my mum always having, like, the nicest. Like expensive. Beautiful, expensive. Like, she'd have one bra and then like three knickers to match it. And I feel like we've lost that a little bit. He told me he doesn't watch porn because he respects women too much. But then liked about 15 bikini picks on Instagram in front of us. Just come downstairs in the laundry and then just kind of join in.

Hello. Have some pasta with him and then be like, you ready now? If I started eating pasta, I would be like, you know what? That's cool my dressing gown. Okay, guys, welcome back to another episode. We have gorgeous Georgia on again today. Hello. She's coming a regular at this point.

I had a really bad night last night. Why? Because Taby normally does the washing up. I do the cooking, which I love. And I'm like, you just stay out in my kitchen. And you just tidy up all the shit afterwards. Perfect smelly. It's just the best way to do it, I think.

Anyway, he's taking like a really long time in the kitchen. I'm like, what's going on? He's like pacing back and forth from the kitchen outdoors, kitchen outdoors. I can just hear these little like footsteps. Anyway, I'm like, everything okay in there, Rick? He said, um, bit of an issue with the, Insincirator and I'm like, what do you mean? And he's like, I feel like it seems to have blocked up and backed up.

And I'm like, no. So we have an insincorator, you put all the food down and it, gets rid of it down the sink. It's fucking amazing. And somehow he managed to break it and block it. So then he thinks it's a good idea for himself to go under the sink and undo the pipe. So it then leaks into the plug socket, which has the dishwasher plugged into it. the Insincorator and my wash tap. So now they're all broken.

Oh no. And then my friends came to stay with us last night. And my friend Mills and her boyfriend OJ is like a really good like handyman. Like exactly the sort of person. Like he can fix like a light. Like I don't know like he could undo like a light switch and fiddle with the wires and fix it sort of vibe. So he like sorted the problem out and was like you need to dry out the socket. If it doesn't work by this evening like I'll put a new.

socket on for you. Thank you. Anyway, but they were both in there until like half nine trying to fix it. And I was like, this is just not how I want to spend my... And now there's just shit all over the kitchen floor. Everything that was under the sink. Is it fixed? No, not yet.

We're going to have to see you tonight. I just actually feel so sorry for Toby, though, trying to work out on his own. I'm like, I've got to fix it for. She finds out going back and forth. Pacing up and down. And then because the water tower wouldn't work. I was like, right, you need to go and bar some water now. I was like, I only want glass bottled every end because I don't drink out of a plastic

bottle. he came back really sheepishly there was only plastic bottles in Daska and he was like there was any plastic bottles like look absolutely terrified I was like it's a okay angel for this one time it's lovely today it's actually got a lovely breeze yeah yeah it's fine today this is like the weather you want I actually walked through the park of Ballin on the weekend and it was dead I was like this show it's like London can't handle the heat like not a single person's in that park it makes me so lethargic like the heat yesterday I don't know it's because we were also recovering from the wedding that we've been to on the weekend which was

Yeah, was it good. Amazing. I mean, because she at Norfolk. So nice. I don't know if she could have asked for a better fucking weekend of weather. Like it was sensational. Also, we had the sea breeze like on the wedding day. It was amazing.

Like everything was. Oh, my God. And it was like almost school. It was like our first school wedding. Oh, that's so nice. So it was like everyone there from school, like all of our friends. And we obviously all see each other all the time. So it's just so fun.

Yeah. The first ones I think are always the most fun. They are. And especially when it's like your. core group. Yeah. It's just the best. Like you don't have to worry about like who you're sat next to or like if you need to find a friend because you already know everybody. Can I just say I really hate the traditional weddings of sitting you next to someone. Stranger. Don't you dare put me next to stranger? I couldn't agree with you more. Because the first few are I was like well this is shit.

All my friends right there and I can't talk to her and I've got to talk to like Joe from your works HR department. Honestly it's so so funny. I actually haven't been to a wedding when that's happened to me. Thank God. That's really yeah I've been into quite a few. and I'm like, no one's gonna, you want everyone to have a good time, you don't want people to like, and they separate,

I don't like separate partner. Like, so I'm like, at least put me near Barry if I'm not gonna be near my friends. Yeah. I've always been next to Toby every wedding,

to be fair. Yeah, that's, that's all I need. Yeah. And then I can have a stranger to the other side of me if I need to. Yeah,

because then you've got like someone if it's like, just need a quick minute. Yeah, yeah, when you're like, not make small tool. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Conversation has barring me

the death. I hate that one. I just like, drift. No, it's so annoying. I'm the same and I'm like, what? Can I do it? There's nothing worse. How do I just suddenly start?

Oh, I think my husband's going to be able to that. I just need to go to the loo and then not come back because I'm going to move to the other side of the table. Oh my God. How was Ibiza with Jamie and Sophie? Oh, my God. It was so cute. It was real. It's the first time like the babies have properly been together for like for a long extended period time.

And Bella loves Ziggy so much. Like she just goes, baby, even when I'm on FaceTime, like I was on FaceTime on, I was on this morning she was walking with Ziggy in the carrier and she's like baby baby baby baby she loves him and she just goes really like gently to him like gives him a cuddle and a kiss on her she like tries to go for the lips but he's a bit like oh my god she's like mm it's so key how old is she not 18 months yeah year and a half yeah she's waking up a hour it's two hours but i keep seeing your stories oh so hell we actually have a professional who's looking at her sleep diary at the moment when i wrote her sleep diary out i was like this is actually

so bleak, like, poor me. I don't know how you do it and get up and go to work in the day. It's really bleak. She's, this, throughout like this hot period, she's woken up at five on the dark every single day for the day. She's like, nope, I'm up. How does she not get tired? Well, she has a nap in the day, but I think she is tired. Now I'm like, is she overtired because I have sleep so bad

and I'm not giving her more, but then if you give to her like a really long nap in the day, she'll just... Won't sleep at night. Yeah, I just don't know how to fix it. You need a sleep trainer. Yeah, so we've got some, a lady coming in. She's like non-responsive. What does that mean? So you can have different ways to sleep train,

but obviously there's the cry it out. There's like the Ferber method, which also is just like cried but control crying. Okay. And loads of variations of that. And this lady I've gone to doesn't do any like leaving them when they're upset. Okay. Which is what I want.

Yeah, fair. Because like it's quite traumatic leaving them for like. Yeah. I think it's quite dramatic to the parent. And also they've just banned like proper cry out in Holland. like they've made it legal. Interesting. So I'm like, well, that's proof.

Yes, it does. Show that she is really wrong. Yeah. Obviously, it's wrong. Like crying like that. If you're in the room, would she cry? No, since I come in, she stops. Oh.

I think it's like genuinely like, well, I think with her is like, I think she wakes up and she's like, where's my mom cries and I come in and then pick her up and she normally goes. It's like she's learned that the crying just gets you to come into the room. Definitely. And also what she's learned, and she's so naughty. She's not actually upset. learned to throw her dummies out of the crib and then go, oh no. Really lonely.

She's like there, they're going, oh no, oh no. I love it how the manipulation starts from such a young age. It's so funny. It really does. And I'm like, you know what I'm going to, because I know she won't sleep if she's, but I literally watch, I put like 10 in there and I know what to throw all 10 over the edge. And then she's like, oh, oh, oh no, oh no. I'm like, well, I know you're not going to go to sleep without her because I'm going to have to come in.

And then she's like, uh-oh. And she just wants you to come in the room. At least she's not upset. Yeah, that's not too bad. She's not scared. She just wants you in the room. I do get it. Like, it's quite boring being alone.

Yeah. And also, I'm like, I'm scared of sleeping on my own. Yes, it's not a poor little baby. I know. It's true. We expect so much from them. We do. I always do think, like, like, adults don't sleep all night long every night.

And we also are scared to be alone. Like, imagine it like, why? one year old who were like so used to just being with their mom all the time and then you're like but you go to sleep in the dark or your own bless her so when does a sleep train to start well she's um got her sleep diary now and then I've got

meeting next week so do you have to write down like over a period of a week like what hour she's waking up how long she's like right like a sleep like an eating diary yeah exactly and yeah as I said when I wrote out I was like this is quite rough it's awful oh god

how many hours sleep are you getting a day in 24 hours. Last night she woke up at 10.30, 10 to 2, 430, then 5.30, then 5.30 we were up for the day. Does Barry go into work? What on is Barry go to work? He gets up at 6 and goes to the gym. Oh, that's fine. He's already kind of awake. I know. We actually, because we split the night. So that's how we do deal with night, her wake-ups. He does the first half of the wake nights and I do the second.

I said today, I was like, I feel I'm really getting the rough end of the deal here. So if he said the hers is the other way around and she said it's great. because the first half he doesn't wake up. Yeah, and Jamie's quite good at the night. He's like, I don't need much sleep. Whereas Barry, I almost think Barry's so bad on no sleeper on night. It's always worth me to take it because he's going to be miserable. Toby's the same.

I'm also not good on a new sleep. Poor good luck. I get like nine or ten hours a night. It's a lot. So I'm like, well, I don't think I'll survive. That's why you look so young. I won't cope. You might have a really good sleeper.

You don't know. I don't think I've ever heard anyone say. No, loads of my friends, baby, sleep 12 hours. I remember watching your story when you're like, I'm literally getting like, you're parenting for longer hours of the day. Yeah. An extra day.

When you worked out, I was like mortified at like the difference. I was like, shh. You've really tough. I've also been like so strict like non-screen time, no TV. And like as these 5 a.m. mornings are happening when I've been up all night. I've like put her in my bed and put pepper pig on and I've just been like just me to half and out. Yeah.

I just can't do it. I can't get up right now. So far. You know what's a really good tip? No, no, this is a good tip and maybe it's too late for Bella or maybe you're like, I can't be bothered, but my Spanish friend,

he has maybe that's three and his wife doesn't speak any English, but he speaks English. And I was like, so does Marty speak English? Like, what's the sit? And he was like, he does, but only because we only let him watch English cartoons. So he watches old school English cartoons

and now he's like fluent English. That's genius. I was like, that is so clever. That is really clever. And we try and put Spanish TV on he doesn't like it. Obviously he can speak Spanish. But they live in Spain?

Yeah, they're in New Yorker. I know. So cool. So, right, if I have a child, it's going to be Spanish for three weeks, then French TV for three weeks. Just rotate it. I actually think giving children languages

when they're young is like the best thing you could do them. Yeah, I should actually. It's too late for us. Too way too late. It's way too late. I don't have the time to do like 15 minutes Pilates and mine to Juulingo. No, it's true. No, I do actually have the time.

I just don't do it. I must. But it's like the last thing you want to do when you're by yourself at this stage. I just want to watch a sit and watch TV. You don't want to do. What are you watching on TV at the moment? You haven't a chosen thing.

I'm actually reading a book that I started. I read one page of on holiday. I read one page of it. And then I was like, that's really good. So I started reading that since I'm right. So I read like that in bed instead of watching TV at the moment.

See, that for me is such a struggle because I'm like reading requires effort. But once I get into book, I have to finish. Like, that's all I want to do is finish my book. So I'm really into my book. So that's my current situation. That's lovely. What's the name of the book? She didn't see it coming by Shari La Pena. It's like a murder mystery. I love murder mystery. Yeah. I don't think it would be for me. Unless, I love watching

like, midst of murders. It used to be one of my favourite break. Right. I know it's like really bad. And it is so badly down. You would love to be in Ang with the Christi. Yeah, maybe I would. They're so wholesome as such a little. Quick easy read. Oh right. I'm going to do that. That's quite a nice recommendation. I'm excited.

I hope you like it. I am halfway through now. Um, One Tree Hill. Oh yeah. You're still having it. No. It's the first time you watch it. Yes.

What part are you at? What's happening? So I'm now at the part where Psycho Derek came back and tied up him and Brooke downstairs. Oh, a bit weird. Brooke and Peyton downstairs. Oh, so Peyton's doing my head in. I've always hated Peyton. I just don't, I just don't gel with her.

No, we need that. is like MVP. Like she's fucking amazing. So funny. So great. Chan Michael Murray in this season has for some reason changed his whole vibe and I don't like it. But Nathan's getting sexier.

And I was like, right? At the start he wasn't, but he was literally 16. Whereas he gets like really rich. He's like, yeah, really ripped. And it's like a proper man now and I'm like, Kina, I'm sexy.

Chad's losing it a bit for me, which is really upsetting because I fully like. like fully, fully, fully had like... Loved him. The old school love feels. Series one. Like, honestly, he couldn't have loved him more. Now I'm like, mm, not sure.

I feel like all these long series, they also end up getting so weird. They do. They're having to evolve. I'm like murder and kidnapping. I know. They're having to evolve. And everyone's in a car accident.

Like, every series, someone's in the hospital with a car accident. Like, every time they get in a car now, I'm like, oh, who's going to be in the night? Yeah. Honestly. Did you ever watch 90T on it? Yes.

Like, did I remember that. got so weird. They were all so beautiful. Such a good looking cast. I know. Surely one of the best looking cast of like a show. Yeah, they were all quite damn bad. Aaron was not.

Is that what his name was? The first person Annie was in love with. The guy that Megamarker was giving blow drop to in the first scene. Megan Marper. And then she poked at header and she's like, ooh. I have to look 9.021. I have to look this up immediately. Oh my God, no, you're right.

It's like a marker. That's quite horrifying for her. I know. Do you watch her program? No, I didn't. I actually did. Did you? Did she actually wasn't that bad, like the newer one?

I like her. I didn't think it was that. I was like, it's just quite wholesome. Like, nothing that offends me about this. Yeah, I think she just got bullied out of the UK by all the people and the press. She's actually horrendous in the UK. Like her husband stood up for, get over everyone. The little, um, children, I don't think you get to see their face.

I think they all have gingery hair. It's real cute. I know. I wish I could see their faces. I cannot pitch what they would look like. I know. I really wish I could see Justin Meeba's baby too. Me too.

I feel like that's a great a lot. Gorgeous baby because they are both gourd. Apparently looks exactly like him. Well, standing then. I know. Actually, what I am watching. I talked about this last summer house, that whole scandal. It was Runeian this morning and I watched it the first episode.

And the guy that, like, calls all the drama that's now sleeping with his ex's best friend, such his friend's ex-wife, he just had, he like sat down on the couch and he just, like, whispered to that the girl. He's now singing. And he was like, I just got a text that someone hacked my phone and leaked to my nudes. And then the other cast space were like, yeah, we've seen them. And he was like, am I hard? They were like, no. Oh, no.

Flacid. He was like, great. Why do you have nude pickies of your Willie Flaccid? I don't know. Someone please tell me. Apparently, they're like really bad, like not flattering. He's like, that's just what I wanted to do. I take the most horrendous photos of Toby naked.

And if they got late, you'd be so upset. like really bad and to be fair he probably has equally about wanting me too on his phone and he's absolutely fucked very so annoying

he will always just like upload he will just take a photo upload it of me on his stories and I'm like don't even let me look and he doesn't even tell me

he doesn't know to tag people on stories I know bless but then I'll be just scrolling through stories later and I'll just see me like

mate don't do that is he private no he should be private do remember that sight tattle yes

someone had found a really old photo of me, so ugly on Barry's Instagram. I've been posted it with like a recent photo being like, no one's ugly, they're just poor. I actually did get as a compliment. I was like, I literally went through Barry's Instagram and deleted every ugly out of phone. Also, we can't have that on the internet.

Like, no, no, no, no, no. I was like, oh my God, I don't even think people would look at your photos. I've never looked on that website. Thank God. I just don't think it would be good for my memory. No, yeah, definitely do. I think Toby once looked and he was like, Babe Don't Nick, and I was like, oh my God, that's horrible. They're actually really mean barbaric.

Oh my God, no, I bet they're horrible about me. I can't know, I don't. Well, thank God it's not. It doesn't exist anymore. No, and they got outed. Did they? It was a man, a 40-old man that owned it. Yeah.

How awful. Zilemma 1. Hi, girlies. I need your help. So I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three years now and things are going really well. We'd come back from a lovely day And we had a few too many espresso martinis Oh my god, I love that vibe

Just having drunk on holiday still And we get back to mine Ready for things to get going About 20 minutes in he goes I'm just gonna grab some water And then he disappears back into the kitchen I'm lying there feeling sexy And my matching lingerie waiting for him to come back

This is amazing that this is still going on three years Yeah I just making me feel bad at myself Wow Five minutes past then 10 then I start to wonder if he's okay. So I get up to go and check. And I find this man, Philly, sat at the kitchen table, eating leftover pasta in the fridge. He looks off at me, mouthful, and goes, sorry, babe, got hungry.

What the fuck? I was honestly horrified at this. We used to have such a fun and spontaneous sex life. And now three years in, we're at the point where he sneaks off for a snack. This obviously killed the mood and I went to bed. Girls, how do I keep my sex life alive and fun? Any advice for a time? in need.

I'm the worst question. Right, we both just said, I think you're doing all you can do. I think you are props to you. This is incredible. I actually did a list of matching underwear from skins the other day. It feels you've already put together.

It's a part of the outfit. Yeah, I so agree, like, just for myself. Yeah. But now my matching underwear is still matching, but it's the nude skims boxers shorts and the unpadded, unsupported bra. Mine's just like a nude thong and a skin's bar.

I don't even like, anymore. I don't even like wearing bras. Oh, I know. So then when I do wear a bra, I feel really try hard. Because it's like, I don't know. I have to wear a bar post-restfeeding, but I actually wouldn't have bought underwire bras because someone said I had low boobs and they're so uncomfortable I can't do it so I've accepted I just have sake of boobs, I don't care. No stop. Underwire bras are so uncomforties. Do you remember when you were younger? They're totally. Don't sleep in them because I'll stop me from growing and I was like, never going to put an underwear bra on ever again. Oh my God, I do remember. That was a weird rumor.

I feel like you're doing a great job. I also feel him. That would probably be me. Do you know what? I'm sorry. I would rather go to bed early and have a snack. I'm dead. Right.

This is really bad advice, Georgia. Right. She's like, give up on the sex life. Do you what? Just accept that it's dead. Find other things on each other. You laugh. I'm joking.

I think what you're doing is perfect. Going out on fun date nights, getting a bit pissed. Yeah. Maybe you should talk about sex on the date so that it's like... Get yourself excited. He knows what he's doing when he gets back. Flash him your underwear. No snacks around.

Maybe you should clear out the fridge before you go on the date. No snacks in the house. Make sure there's no leftover good food. Yeah. I do think there's like a stage in life or a partner ratio. Do you kind of have to start scheduling that in? I know. There is.

I think also just having the conversation isn't that bad. Like, hey, I was actually really randy dandy that day and you kill my vibe. I agree. I think actually just talk about it. Don't make it that deep and serious. No, and don't be too offended. I think that's like three years in. I think that's totally normal.

He's obviously, you're obviously so comfortable together that he's like, I just need a bottle pasta. Sorry. I mean, make sure that he gets well fed on the date next time. But then you don't want to be too full and then you're like, no. When you're two full, you're like, can't possibly. Yeah, nothing worse. You just have to say like, I'm Randy tonight.

We're definitely going to drag. Just say it. Yeah. And say, say, excuse me, I was really normal. you the other day when you went to have pasta when I was laying there in my gorgeous laundry. Yeah. Like that's annoying. Don't you do that again? Hopefully it's, it doesn't sound like it's a regular occurrence. Yeah. It sounds like you've got a great relationship really. If you're going out and having

loads of espresso, martinis and regular day nights. Yeah. And you're wearing match in the laundry for years in. I think just keep that up. Don't let that get you down. Also just come downstairs in the laundry and then just kind of join in. Hello. Have some pasta with him. And then be like, you ready now? Because I'm ready. I'm not doing. If I started eating faster, I would be like, you know what? That's a cool, let a night.

I just feel so cringe putting on the matching underwear. I do do it from time to time under my clothes. Yeah. I know, yeah, it's nice to have much of it. But to lie there in matching underwear, I would be so cringed out myself. I need to get over that. Yeah. Sure, Toby would love it.

I feel like it's quite a mature thing. Like, I remember my mum always having, like, the nicest. Like expensive. Like, she'd have one bra and then like three knickers to match it. And that would be like what you'd be wearing over the next couple days. And every single day it was like that. And it would match her outfit perfectly. So she had a blue tanked up on.

She'd have like a blue lacey bra underneath. Like it was so a part of the outfit. Yeah, I remember that as well actually. And I feel like we've lost that a little bit. I know. We'd go for comfort. I need to get back in that era. But I think they were comfy.

But they were just, it was like she really took pride in. Still does. Nice underwear. Yeah. Okay, ready for the next one? Hi, girlies. I need your honest advice because I'm at the point where I generally have to bite my tongue

every time I see my best friend's boyfriend and I don't know how much longer I can keep it up. So she's been dating this guy for about six months and on paper he sounds perfect. He carries a tote bag, he reads, he carries a tote bag, he reads Sally Rooney and he makes her oat matto in the morning. I don't know why he carries a tote bag

as why he's perfect, really threw me on. Yeah, I thought she meant he carries hers, but I think he just carries his own. he posts about going to women in film events he is basically a walking Jacob Elodie and is the most performative male I've ever met I'm not a fan Ha ha ha he's too bad that

The problem is every single time I'm around him He gives me the absolute ick last week Oh I think she's saying like he's trying too hard in this fake I'm so many of his feeling The problem is every time we're around him He gives me the upsy dick last week we were all out for dinner And he genuinely looked at me dead serious and said that off-campus is so important for female empowerment.

Another time he told me he doesn't watch porn because he respects women too much, but then liked about 15 bikini picks on Instagram in front of us. Whoops. Okay. I mean, that alone, why are you doing that? He's just trying too hard to, like, be a green flag, which isn't genuine. She is absolutely smitten with him, and I can see why I'm on the surface he ticks every box. She's ever talked about wanting, but I just know in my bones that this man is a bad egg, dressed up to be a dream guy.

I'm worried she's going to get absolutely heartbroken when the mask slips. So girls, do I say something can risk ruining the friendship or do I suck it up and let her be happy? Well, he's not done anything, I'm afraid. You can't just say I find him cringe. There's like finding, getting the ick with a friend's boyfriend. It's so horrible and repulsive. Yeah, you had the it before. I could tell.

I was like, you know you've been that. It's horrible. And you like don't even want to like look at them. You're just like, oh. I hate you. You can't do anything about this You've just got to let the way you've be read in Yeah and if because do you know what

He actually might be genuine You don't know There is a chance but I feel like when you've got a guy instinct Yeah you probably are right And if you're right there will be a fallout And all you can do is be there for her Yeah But he could just be really nice

He could just be really nice I mean he's genuinely reads Sally Rooney All right well let's just see how this goes Feel at Al I think he's just a bit like A bit shortaged What does that mean? Do you know what I mean?

Yeah. Carries a paperback in his back pocket. He wears some Birkenstocks and he carries a tote bag. If you're that worried and concerned about it, just feel out like what the mutual friends are like, meet his friends. Like they might all be on the similar path. Like could be that vibe. Yeah.

I think that's a really good shout. Suss out his friendship group, his background. Don't voice this to other friends. I would maybe see how they feel. No, because that's become a bit bitchy. Yes. but I would maybe see how they feel, be like, how do you feel about him? I do really like him and I like his vibe, but there's something about him

that I don't feel like I know that well yet, which is a fine thing to say and just feel out what the other girlies think. Agree. But I don't, yeah, I don't think you can say, if something had happened or you knew something your friend didn't, if you just have a gut feeling, I just think that's risky business to mention that to your friend when she's really happy. Don't mention it to her.

Yeah, that's what she's asking. Should she? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Yeah. Don't say anything to her. Definitely fucking not She's like so happy with this guy And he seems like the perfect guy

She just thinks he's performative Well even if he is Like it might not mean that there's something that bad Going on Exactly It might just be that he's trying really hard to fit in Yeah Or be what he thinks he should be

Yeah So I think that we just keep an eye on it Yeah Keep an eye Be ready to be there if we need to Yeah And just maybe do a little bit of digging A bit of background research

Never had anybody Love you good luck Okay, dilemma three, hey girls, listener from Melbourne here. I've been meaning to write in this dilemma for quite some time. My friendship group is great. We have a bunch of Aussies plus our lovely internationals, whom we love. Problem is, I slept with one of the boys in the group a few times last year,

and honestly regret it so much because he's in an on and off thing with one of the girls in our group. He acts awful towards me in all group situations now. I know. He is constantly making mean comments towards me every possible time do we think he's in love with you. I just think he's a dick. He's a dick.

To make matters worse, the group seems to view me as the reject one. And her as the chosen one. We have a group weekend coming up and I need your help. How do I feel confident within the group when I feel like everyone sees me as the ugly duckling and this boy relentlessly is relentlessly mean to me? Sorry. He's awful. Why is he being mean to you've not done anything wrong?

And your friends should also be sticking up for him telling him to shut the fuck up. Any help in feeling confident with this group would be so very. appreciated. I know you love photos. So here's one of me and the boy. Oh my god, she's so much bad looking than him. Right. That's why she's sending the photo because she knew she was. No, we've really got nothing to worry about here. And I think that you should just also just be like to this guy stop being such a dick. Sorry. You're beautiful. You're really gorgeous. So don't let anyone ever make you feel like you're an ugly dark no, that is so ridiculous. You're absolutely beautiful. Just say to him be like what is your

why? Like what is your problem? Like actually like, like, what is your problem? Yeah, I would next time he's mean to you in front of everyone, call him out. Yeah. And just be like, it's really weird. You seem to have a problem with me. Yeah, like, what is that about? Yeah.

I don't have a problem with you. Yeah. What is it? Literally just say that. Look him right in the eye. What is it? And then hopefully he will just apologize. Yeah, because it's embarrassing that he's picking on you.

Like, it's like he's a child, like, I know, 12 year old in the playground. It's actually really embarrassing. It's really weird that your girlfriends aren't sticking up for you. I'm sorry. Like, that's like they're enabling the behavior, which I fucking hate. Yeah. I feel like. Maybe people think you don't mind or it's banter.

So I just think if you call him out in front of everyone to be like, why do you speak to me like that? Or why do you say, like, why are you picking on me? I don't really get it. I didn't think we had a problem. People might realize, oh, it's not banter between them. Like it's, yeah. Because maybe some people think you have some sort of,

the right sort of relationship to have that. If you don't, let everyone know. 100%. And maybe say to your friends as well, actually. Like, I feel like he's really mean to me. And no one's tough for me. And I don't know why. Because, like, I have no connection to him.

I don't care that he's with this girl. Like, whatever. I regret sleeping with him. But he's mean to me. And then hopefully that stick up for you. I honestly am really gobsmed that he has the audacity to be rude to her. And why doesn't the girl he's seeing say something, like, stop being such a dick to her? Yeah.

Like, I don't understand why no one's, like, why this is all being allowed. Me too. I'm angry on your behalf. It's not right. No. I feel like your friends are actually just as in the wrong with this guy is, to be honest. because someone should have a word. Yeah.

Just definitely let them know. Like it upsets you. And even like before the weekend, I would say to your friends or like your closest friends, be like, I feel a bit nervous going because this guy's always mean to me and I just feel like left out on a limb of it. Yeah, it's uncomfortable. And then hopefully then they can, we'll be more aware of it. They might just not hope. I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt.

They might just like not notice and be a bit oblivious to it. But if you make them aware, then hopefully they can like keep an eye out. But obviously you can stand your own ground. you don't want to become like a thing. Just be like, why do you say that? Yeah. It was rude. I feel like you pick on me all the time for no reason.

Yeah. I think it's as simple as that. Yeah. And you are absolutely stunning. So you're going to get a gorgeous boyfriend and you can rub it in his face. Yeah. Okay, well good luck. Love you so much.

Please tell us what happens on this weekend away. I'm sure you're going to have so much fun and it's not even going to be a thing. Yeah. Hopefully he's growing up a bit. Yeah. You're gorgeous. He's not. Okay.

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