Wednesdays - 143. RUBY IS ENGAGED!! Ft Ruby Adler

Episode Date: June 16, 2026

Heyyyy Tinies!!Ruby (aka Tim) is back in the Wednesdays studio and she's brought the biggest news…Ruby is ENGAGED!! 🎉💍Ruby shares the full story: how he proposed, how she told her friends and family, and how Gavin absolutely NAILED the ring.Melissa and Ruby are now officially in their engagement era together and the hen-do planning has already begun. Naturally, it’s got the girls reminiscing about Sophie’s iconic Paris hen and reliving all the memories…(some hazier than others)!And this week's dilemmas are DELIVERING. One Tiny admits she’s been fantasising about her ex in the bedroom because her new boyfriend is simply NOT a giver…Another Tiny's best friend has started dating her ex and she is not happy about it…what’s her next move?Enjoy the episode xGot a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail] | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail] CREDITSProducer: Magda Cassidy Assistant Producer: Issy Weeks-Hankins and Lydia BrownellVideo: Lizzie McCarthy Social: Amber HouriganSenior Producer: Helen Burke Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey, tiny's coming up on today's episode. I'm engaged. This ring is the best ring I've ever seen in my entire life. He's done so well. It's my dream ring. And more. He goes, whenever you'd leave the house, I'd get it and I'd have a look at it. We're both engaged at the same time.

The two Tim's tired than all. Oh my God, I actually feel like I'm getting emotional. We've gone through a lot. We've gone through so much. It was just the best moment of my life. Before we get into it, please subscribe to our YouTube channel at Wednesday's podcast. Enjoy the episode. She's back on the pot.

Hi everyone, I miss you. She's back from Oz. Got some big news. You go, you go. I never thought I'd be nervous to say this. I'm engaged. I can't believe. Day five of being engaged.

Yeah, so happened on Wednesday. He proposed on my birthday. Maybe you should tell the girlies the whole spiel. Yeah. Of like how it happened. Because no one's going to know. No, no, they're not. So this is my big moment.

Oh my God. Firstly, I'm like so happy. I can't quite. believe it. I knew we'd get married and I knew he would propose in time, but I really just didn't think realistically it would be this year. So the whole thing completely through me. And I think a lot of people have inklings or spidey senses and they like kind of feel, I see a lot of videos on like TikTok and Instagram being like, get ready with me whilst I think my boyfriend might propose tonight. Not like, I don't like, I don't like, I don't like, I watch them. I don't know why I don't.

I kind of think it's incredible, obviously, but I just like, that could not have been the opposite of what happened to me. Like, I just sat down from, like, coming home from the gym. Like, it was my birthday. I had my very, like, average mundane morning routine as I always have. My boyfriend gave me a couple of really lovely gifts. And we were doing cards. We were doing cards. And I was in, like, I was actually got engaged in Tears husband's t-shirt. Wow. Which sounds really weird. In J's T-shirt that, like, I got from, like, years ago that's like my, like, it's like tears. And I just had a shower, been to the gym, sat down on the sofa. We did get a, gifts, we did presents, we did cards, and it was such a nice morning. I was having my coffee. It was obviously

my birthday, so I had a lunch with a couple of girlfriends in like an hour or two. And Gab goes, oh, there's just one more thing in the bag. I've got one more thing for you. And I'm kind of like clearing up packaging. And he goes, no, sit down. I've got one more thing for you. And he comes out with a ring box. Because my brain was so far away from us getting engaged that I didn't see the ring box and put two and two together that he was proposing. So in my head, I was like, oh my God, like you've got me a piece of jewelry or some earrings, like that's so unnecessary. And then he sits down and he opens it. But he doesn't say any. Did he get down on money? No. That would have thrown you off because I guess that would have initially been like...

So he just sat next to me and opened the box on the sofa and doesn't say anything. So we're just staring at one another, right? And I'm at this point computing what's happening. So I'm now realizing, oh my God, this is everything I've like literally dreamed of my whole life. he's proposing to me. And like it's been a hell of a year, guys. Like I've literally like moved to Australia and like it's been like a really crazy 10 years even like with relationships and with men and with ups and downs and like oh my God, I actually feel like I'm going to get emotional. We've gone through a lot. We've gone through so much. And actually in that one moment I was like, oh my God, like this is happening and I love him and he's amazing and I'm going to marry him. And like, it was just the best moment of my life.

It really was. Wait, so did he then say? No, so I then go to him. I go, are you asking me something? And he got the cheek of him. He goes, you know what, I'm asking you. Come on, just ask me. And then I didn't say anything.

Did you have to say yes? I then didn't say anything. And then he goes, so is it a yes. Like, will you marry me. Oh. And I said yes, I will. Give me the ring. And I put it on and I was like,

And this ring is the best ring I've ever seen in my entire life. It's my dream ring. And I also do think for like... And more. Yeah. It's the dream ring and more. But also the proposal like at home, I know you got engaged at home. It's such a vibe.

It's so special. It's so low key and romantic and intimate. In fact, it was just us. No one was like head to toe glam, like done up like photo opportunities. It was so raw. It was so like special. And actually like I almost felt like I blacked out. Like looking back.

Like I know that you have your proposal recorded, which was just for you guys, and you can look back at that. I feel like Gab isn't very content savvy. No, he's great at what he does. But, like, he wouldn't have thought of, like, I'm going to record this moment. No, fair. You've put it up in here. Yeah. So you've probably forgotten.

At least you remember all the leader of them and, like, actually how he said stuff. Oh, yeah. I remember everything, because there wasn't much that was said. To be up, to be honest. But one of the first things I said to him when I realized what was happening and I put the ring on. Yeah. And he said, well, you marry me? I think the first thing I said was, do my parents know?

Because obviously, this is all happening in Australia. That was one of my first thoughts. You told me, I was like, I wonder if her mum knows. And he was like, yeah, I spoke to your parents. And I actually spoke to them both last night. And I spoke to them before, and I asked me your blessing. And he said that my dad was really emotional. I know.

When did he ask your dad? I think a few days before. And then spoke to them again the night before about what was happening. Fine. So they were prepped. Yeah. And then, so he did it at like half 11 a.m. Sydney time.

So all my friends and family had just gone to sleep. So I also then, just to add, so after we get engaged, Gab goes, oh, by the way, I've got a laser appointment now. So I'm just going to head to that, so I'll see you shortly. I'm dead. He was like, I just needed to do it. And to be fair, it was my birthday, and I was going to a lunch with a couple of girlfriends. So we then, he had to go to an appointment.

I was going to have lunch with my friends, which was always the plan. And then I just sat in this. No idea. And I sat in this Uber on my way to this restaurant with no friends and family awake, hadn't told anyone, hadn't been able to speak to anyone, was going to see my two close friends in Australia and I was like, I've just got to hold out and wait to show them. And they were like, what? I was like, hello.

And then Gav came and joined and we had some champagne and it was just like. Oh my God, how lovely. And then the whole of the UK woke up. And then I felt like I got to relive it because London had worked up. Yeah. Happy birthday, Tim. Yeah. I think it was like 8 o'clock in the morning.

Yeah. It just calls me straight away and I was like, not expecting you to call me straight away because it was your birthday. And I wasn't going to call you on your birthday because I seemed to be doing stuff. And then she's like, hi. And I was like, happy birthday. She was like, and I'm engaged. And I was like, what? I screen recorded like all my close friends reaction.

I've got such a good video of everyone. And honestly, Melissa looks absolutely. I was like, like, as did everyone, to be fair. Everyone was like, what? Like, what? You know when someone's like about to get engaged in there's like, you murmur it to your friends of it. Like, surely it's going to be this year. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Things like that. Absolutely. No. To the point where it was. was like, I thought probably next year, but I was hoping for next year. Hoping it would be next year, but obviously, like, so thrilled that it's happened. We're so thrilled. We couldn't be more buzzing about this whole situation. I can't stop looking at it. And you know what's mental? I've not even met Gav. I know. I know. How mental?

Don't even met him. Do you know what the hard thing is about Gav, like, obviously living in Australia and us like dating is that like there's no like, oh, do you want to just go for a drink? It has to be like when, or like, oh, what you're doing next weekend? Like, you fancy going for a meal. because he's the other end of the world, quite literally 10,000 miles away, it's everything has to be so pre-planned and then it's Christmas and dates don't work and then it's like summer holidays and everyone's so busy. So it's like we actually do have time soon in the next two weeks. We're both going to be in New Yorker.

So that's going to be amazing. And also what a lovely place to celebrate. Yeah, I can't wait. I can't wait to meet him. Your fiancé. You said that word yet. Yeah, so when we got on the plane, I can't remember how it was said. But Gab said to he was like, oh, this is, where are you traveling to London?

He was like because my fiance's family lived there. And I was like, ah! And now we're talking wedding plans. I know. I feel so grown up. I feel like a child bride. I'm like 31. I feel like a teen bride.

I do just need to grow up and this is just what happens. But like I'm like, oh my God. You're a lovely age. I also just like feel like so excited that like he's my life partner. Like he is the best guy in the world. That's so wonderful. That's what it's all about really. And like we have the best time together and I just like think he's the coolest person.

I really do. That's, oh, that's so nice. Okay, cheers. Cheers. Cheers, also, like, we're both engaged at the same time. And, like... And I think I told you... Yeah, I did on the pod about...

It was like, I was the same, like, five days out of engagement on the pod. And I surprised you the day of. It was the best thing ever. It was, like, the same thing. What can we call this situation? Yeah, can we name it, like... Um... The Tim's take...

There's nothing teish about our wedding. Like, Tim takes... The two Timies tie the knot. The two Tims tie the knot. The two Tims tie the knot. The two Tims. tired than not. Wow.

I've never had this. Two besties engaged getting around at the same time. Actually, that's untrue. Oh no. I've never had it. I've never, like, known anyone. But I can think of two best friends engaged

at the same time going through it. I can just think of Tim and Timothy. So bad. Timothy. Who is going to be Timothy and who's going to be Tim? I think I'm Timothy and I think you're Tim. But also I'm not Tim. You've just renamed it.

It's very confusing. using Ruby's the original Tim. Tiny Tim from Scrooge. Yes. With the broken leg. How appealing. And Sophie gave Ruby that name. She started it.

And then everyone got hooked on it. And then Ruby just... She was so desperate to tell me like, why it was Tim. Like Tiny Tim, she's like, you know, from Scrooge, Tim. That's you. That's you. I wonder where she caught that from? I can't stop looking at ring.

It's actually outrageous. We were at lunch and I was like, I can't listen. I'm not absorbing anything you're talking to me about because I just can't stop fucking looking at it. It's so amazing. He's done really well. It's an actual rock on your hand. Like it's amazing.

He's got impeccable taste. So did he know what you wanted? Yeah, we've spoken about getting engaged, getting married, our future, what that looks like. Like, we knew it would happen in time. And he always asked me what my dream ring would be. Also what he likes. Like, he's got a really great eye. He really loves, like, fashion, art.

And, like, has appreciation for it. I feel like a lot of men. For nice stuff. I always knew I wanted something really simple and really classic and I kind of wasn't entirely sure on shape necessarily. I like I like the oval, which is what I have. And I like the idea of a really thin band, like quite Haley Bieber-esque. Yes. And then like toyed with yellow gold and like I don't, he's just like. Also he couldn't have gone wrong with what he's done. Like just a massive gorgeous oval on a gold band. It always said like one big dime. Yeah. On a very simple band. And that's exactly what he's nailed.

and it's fucking annoying. And I feel so lucky and it's perfect. Like, I can't fault it. And this has been in the work since, like, Christmas. Yeah, Christmas, really. God, I don't know how these boys, like, keep that to themselves and don't let it slip. He said, he said, he said, he said, he said, he said, whenever you'd leave the house or you were away, I'd get it, I'd get it, and I'd have a look at it. Wait, so he'd had it, it was made already?

No, I think it was only made in the last few months. I think it got, like. Fuck, that's a long time to have to keep it in the house. But he had it for a good few months in the house before he proposed. And he was waiting for your birthday. And he was waiting for my birthday. And he would just have a sit there and sit with it for a bit when I was out of the house. And he'd just have a little look.

He said he would always have a look when I was gone. I'm probably just practice just a... It's what Toby used to do. Yes, all the videos of Toby. But Toby fully got down on one knee. Yeah. Which is the traditional way you do it. Did Gav just think, did Gav just black out?

and was like, I didn't even think about how I was going to do it. He said he wanted to do whatever felt natural to him. And it was in that moment, felt like... Also, because you didn't actually know what was saying it until the box was open. He said he'd never seen disbelief like it. He'd never. I guess if he'd got down and you would have been like, okay, you are proposing and then it would have been open. But because you opened it and you were like...

He also kind of opened it. I laughed a bit. I was like, he-he-he-he. Oh my God. I wish I had a video. of this moment I would love to have seen it. What are you going to do for your wedding band? Do you know?

Because I've said, like, even though I'm like day five engaged, I'm like, I wonder what I'll do. I think it has have like a gap in it so I can like click in. Yeah, almost like shape under. Yeah. Nice. I look. I quite like it. I prefer the look of one of an engagement ring without a wedding band around it.

That's the thing. I think it's way chicer. But I think it's chica to say my wife than my fiancé. Yeah, fiancee can be a bit. There's something a bit like I almost feel like I'm boasting and I, I think. feel embarrassed like I'm showing off. Yeah. So I just say boyfriend.

Do you? I can't bring myself to say a fiancé. Can't. I have been saying it, but I don't know if it's because I'm just day four or five. I've never said it in my life. Oh, really? I can't bring myself. But I can't wait to say husband.

I think that's really cool and like I think it's really cheap. Yeah, I agree. But I think it's cooler to just have an engagement ring on. There's no wedding ban. I think it's because it's like a topic of conversation. I think being engaged is just so fun and like how like. It just feels like, Young?

Young, yeah, yeah. Whereas marriage, I just think if my parents you've been married 30 years. Yeah, same. Quite happy to engage for a bit. It's where at least a couple of years away. They're planning a big wedding and I honestly can't wait. I actually don't think it will be that big. I also, I don't think numbers-wise it will be that big.

Numbers-wise. I don't think we'll have that many people. Just numbers-wise. I think we'll do close- You say that, but when you add up your close friends and your family and then his. Yeah, yeah. In my mind, I'm like, let's have a small wedding. And Toby's like, what's that? And I'm like, 50, 60 people.

And he's like, okay, that's just your friends. Yeah, yeah. I'm like, exactly. Let's just have it right. But it does, like, when you add in both people, you then soon get to like 120 people. And then all those close friends always have a boyfriend or a girl friend. We're in the region of 150.

Wow, okay. It's a solid, nice number, I think. I haven't sent out the same dates yet. I can't believe, like, we're going to have it. Like, your wedding's going to fly by. Like, it's actually not that long. It's a year. I know.

We were just talking we need to get Ruby's bridesma's dress. Because when I'm doing my like try on day, I'm not going to be here. Timmy's not going to be here. So we're going to try and do it before. Yeah, we've got like a couple of options, haven't we? Also, like, you could just choose it online. Like, you could choose your shape.

But I love the whole idea, like. Trying it on and getting the cut. Yeah, no, you're right. If I can, I'd much rather do that. Yeah, fair. It makes it more of a thing. It just makes it more of a thing. We can make a day out of it.

Like, we can have lunch before. And, like, it's also that makes me feel like I'm, supporting you. Not missing a part of that thing. as well, rather than me just ordering it online, like I'm doing it with you. Is your sister you're made of honour? She is. So nice. But like, I've told everything I would like to have.

And then she's like, a UK to have a few surprises. And I'm like, absolutely. Oh, you're like, I'd be like, yes, give me all the surprises. But I don't want anything. I've banned pink. If someone wants to wear pink, fine. I don't want any themes. A veil for myself is great.

And then we call it a day then. I just want everyone to be like dressed up vibes. I like that. I kind of like the idea of like boozy dinner then turns into a party. I love that. So do I. But also like if it happens. I don't like the idea of all this pressure on a night out.

We all have to go out at midnight. Like when you read schedules like that, it makes my heart twitch a bit. I also don't want anyone to feel like they have to do any. Loll me planning a handy. Like what? I know. I want it to kind of go with the flow a bit.

Like obviously you need reservations and things. But like, I don't want it to become this like hectic schedule. I will say though. At Sophie's Hen, we did go out once. No, we went out of the whole time. We were so bad at the whole hair.

But I had so much fun. You and I fell upstairs coming back home. Walking to our room, we fell up the stairs, walking back. I've never been so consistently drunk. Actually, you know, that's a lie the other week when I was in Andor where I was consistently drunk. But like... Sophie's was so fun and we went out. But like, it wasn't like the wildest thing ever.

Do you know what I mean? Like, yes. It was fun and we were boozy and we were out. Also, it wasn't hung over. Yeah, because we just kept drinking. Yeah, maybe that's why. I just felt consistently like the right amount of pissed out the whole thing. Yeah.

You know, there's some really annoying days, not that everything's about drinking, but there are some days where you, the alcohol doesn't hit and you feel like you're chugging back and nothing's happening. And you're like, it's just not heading me in the right way and I'm over it and I want to go to bed because it's just not feeling right and I don't want to drink anymore. That didn't happen. It was like every drink, the hard greens and the shriens and the shabend. champagne. She's going to like so amazingly.

It was like day one of the hen and Lucia who's one of Georgia's friends who's so great so by me. This woman is fucking 10 out of 10 I can't even describe. Oh never forget her

she sits down. I follow her on TikTok now. Same. I follow her everywhere, every platform. Amazing. sits down and she goes I'll have a hard greens and a champagne.

Mary Mike, we're all actually like ordering coffee. This is like 9 a.m. Everyone's like also on a hangover. Starting the day like nice and civilised

I'll have a hard greens and champagne please. It was so It was so, like, classy the way she said it, and so deadpans serious. Dead pants, serious. Don't forget either of them. It sent us into like an oblivion of hysterics. I don't think we recovered for the whole day.

Her home dude was so good. It was so fun. It was really good. And actually, we were such a large group that I'm always, I remember getting, I think there was 22 of us. I remember thinking like, oh my God, I'm nervous because there's so many people, but actually did just work, didn't it? It was fine.

And there was like, you know what? Not too much of like a big group that all know each other and then a few on the side. It was sort of like pockets of two or three. or four. And actually a lot of us knew and had integrated so many times before anyway. So it actually worked. But it is quite hard merging friendship groups sometimes. Yeah, it's like a birthday.

You know, when you have a birthday and you're inviting everyone from all different walks of life. And you're like, oh my God, are they all going to get on? But then over the years, as time goes by and you do those birthdays every year, you do see the same people. So it becomes a bit easier. So by the time you get to a hen, hopefully, you kind of all know one another. Yes, that's true. Okay, should we go into some dilemmas? Dilemma 1.

Hi girls, my ex and I broke up in February. We loved each other, but one of our biggest issues was his, oh, his anxiety around commitment. Oh, God, you've got to hug up in there. He cared about me, but fear stopped him from fully stepping into the relationship in the way I needed. Since the breakup, we haven't actually been in touch, which gave us both proper space. We've naturally started seeing each other again at social events, and that's brought us back into each other's lives. So you must have like a lot of mutual friends

Yeah, maybe them in the same friendship group. During that time apart, he's started therapy and has done a lot of work on himself. He now wants us to get back together and he said he's 100% sure. I've heard the story before. He's been very clear that he sees a future with me and he has spoken seriously about marriage. There is also a four-year age gap.

He's 26 and I'm 30. And I do wonder whether the part of the issue was simply timing and maturity. Part of me truly believes things could be different this time. We've agreed that if we do try again, it would be very slow and honest with conversations first. But how do I know when given someone a second trance is right

versus repeating old patterns? And how should families and friends' opinions matter when some are supportive but others are protective after seeing how hurt I was? I really would love some advice. Oh gosh. We've both got back with exes. I've got back with Toby.

I know she's got to ring on it. I guess it's like you kind of just have to go with your gut and intuition slightly. And if you like really love him and think that he's changed and that you're going to... But does he need to change? If he's having relationship anxiety, that's like something that he'll have to overcome no matter who he's with. Yeah, true. It's not like he's been a dick. No.

It's just something that he's... I know. I know. Sometimes it's easier when like someone's been a dick, isn't it? Because you can kind of just go cold turkey and cut them out. and like process things differently. I mean, I guess there's no harm in like trying because otherwise you're just going to continuously think what if.

Like, and then you want to watch and move on if you don't give him a chance. And like you'll always be thinking about this guy that like wanted you back and you had this great relationship with and you loved. But he wasn't ready. And I think timing is so key and important. I guess like with four years age gap if you're 30, you probably just want to check that you're like wanting the same things in the same time. in the same time.

Not that that has to happen like right here and now, but like you're on the journey to like wanting the same things with one another. Also like this anxiety thing like we'll probably come and go. And it's probably nothing to do. Like if it's the same sort of situation as like what Toby had like it was actually nothing to do with the relationship but because a relationship's like the one thing that's like closest to you. It's like when someone's in a bad mood you take it on the person closest to you.

You then sort of cling it onto that like oh maybe it's this that's the issue. And then actually you find out it's not. No. This issue's going to follow me around, like, wherever I go. Mm-hmm. It's difficult when you've got, like, family and friends giving so much opinion. But at the end of the day, like, he's not, like, been an awful guy. I think you should give him a second chance, but I would really make sure that he's at a stage where...

Also, it might be hard when you get back together. Like, Toby and I, the nine... I would say the year after I was getting back together was fucking hard. Because, like, ultimately, he was still going through so much, like, relationship anxiety. And I was like, you know, it's about being with me again. And he was like, kind of yeah. Like, I know it's not you and I know it's not our relationship, but the anxious part of me is just going, ah!

Yeah. And you have to kind of like not take it personally. Which is easier said and done when... So hard. But also there's like a slight resentment from you, I'm assuming, because it's like, well, you've broken up with me. I've got back with you, like, how do I know you're not going to do it again? But like, you're also taking a risk because you're like, I love you.

You are. And I want this to work. So I'm going to be with you. Yeah. Because I believe that the outcome is greater than, like the anxiety, but you just want him to come back for all the right reasons, which is, I need to be with you, I want to be with you and I want to build a life with you and I've made a mistake, which happens. And I want to get through this shit with you. And people go through things and people break up and people get back together and then they spend a lifetime together

and they have never been happier and they needed to go through that breakup to realize that they're meant to be with one another. Yeah. And I guess you don't know until you try, do you, really. And you might be always thinking, what if? Yeah, which is the last thing you want to do. At least if you give it another go and it's another six to nine months of you dating him. It doesn't work out. You'll then be like, I am done. Yeah, I've done. Yeah, I tried.

Yeah. I think that's what you do. Okay, love you so much. Good luck. But I know what it's like. I do. I can really relate. So good luck.

Okay, dilemma too. Okay, right. Hi, girls. I genuinely cannot believe I'm writing this in at my big age of 26. But here we are. Girls, my friend has started dating my ex. Don't like this. Don't like her.

I feel like I'm losing my mind. literally real life Amanda and Kiara from the summer house. Okay, I haven't watched this, but Georgia Haboos told me about it, so I kind of know what you're referring to here. For context, she knows the full history, and he teased on me, and it literally broke my heart. She'd heard me unpack that whole relationship's more times than I can count. So this isn't an oh, I didn't realize you'd mind situation.

She knew it would hurt me. I've already confronted her about it, and somehow I came out of the conversation feeling like I was the crazy one. She got defensive, gave me the whole we just connected speech. and basically implied I should be happy for her. The worst part is I didn't even want him back. It's the principle. It's the fact out of every man in this city,

sounds like every man in this city, every man in this city, she picked the one she knows I have history with. It's the audacity. It's the girl code violation of the century. I love the way she said of this. Now I'm stuck because we have the same friend group and I don't want to be the one who made it weird,

but she is the one who made it the weirdest first. am I overreacting or is this as insane as I think? And how do I exist in the same group chat as her without losing my mind? Okay, I think there's different. I mean, firstly, it sounds really quite awful. I think you need to weigh up, like, how close is this friend to you? Like, if she sounds like she's one of your close friends, which sounds awful. And then, like, also, I guess, like, he obviously sounded like a very significant part of your life.

Like, how long were you with him for? I guess it's not always a time-stamped thing even if it was only a few months he obviously meant a lot it depends on what your feelings are now I think it's very easy to look back and be like at the time he meant so much to me and he broke my heart

but now do you still love him do you want to be with him does he still make your heart ache and does your tummy hurt when you're around him blah blah blah if it's like oh I kind of get a bit nervy and butterfly I just purely because he's my ex

but not because I actually have feelings for him I honestly would just fucking let it go like if you don't want to be with him good ridden honestly like I do get it it's obviously against girl code but like if you've moved on from it I wouldn't get hung up I wouldn't like it's her problem now

I agree I think that like if you really don't want to be with him like what's the point of almost wasting your time and energy like stressing and worrying about a situation it's like but you don't want him in your life as much as you can look back with like fond memories and like whatever happened with you guys happen But then do you think it would change the dynamic So forget him, you're over him and you don't want him

Would it change the dynamic between you and your girlfriend? Would you be like, so tell me everything like how's... I know, you make it a bit awkward probably at first You'd have to jump, try and just jump over that stage. But there is like, I guess it's frustrating when he's cheesed on you He's been an asshole and he's pulled on your heartstring so much And you're like, now you're going to date him really. I don't know, I'm looking at this from so many different angles

Because I'm looking at also Sophie and Jamie, like, Sophie was good friends with Jamie's ex. And then look at how wonderful and happy. And Jamie was good friends with Sam. True. So, and I'm like, you'd have to just be happy for people. And then they can- There's that iconic clip of like, I hope you marry her. Exactly.

So I think if you actually don't truly love this guy anymore, I do agree with you. I think you're more annoyed because you like feel like you should be. Yeah, I agree. Like, I get he was a dick. Just be like, I do think that you shouldn't have gone for my ex. however, I'm going to be happy for you guys. But I don't think it's worth losing your mind over and people, it will just divide the group.

And I think you just, that's the way. It's easier for you if you just, and you're going to have a better time being okay with it than making an issue of it. Good luck, babe. Good luck. I feel like I'm really anti-girl code with that message. No, I do you know what, Tim, I really actually, I agree with you. I think we are all conditioned that way.

And I hope for her sake that she has actually moved on anyway. Because it doesn't sound like he was very good to her. Good luck. Tell us what happens. If any drama on rock and unveils throughout this whole thing. I want to know. Yeah, same. Love you.

Love you. Thank you so much, Tim, for coming on. Love you, Ruby. And I love your ring. Thank you both. Pursing off the present. Thank you for having me. At the best time.

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