Wednesdays - 17: TikTok exposed my “boyfriend” as a CHEAT

Episode Date: January 17, 2024

It’s a very special ‘Wednesday’, as the new ‘Mean Girls’ movie is out! And since ‘Mean Girls’ is the name sake for ‘Wednesdays’, Sophie and Melissa chat all about their excitement for the film and some of their favourite chick flicks. Sophie also reveals how her love for ‘Angus, Thongs & Perfect Snogging’ saw her go on a journey to find her first love: Aaron Taylor-Johnson.More of your dilemmas are incoming too! The girls give their advice on workaholic boyfriends, a Tinie who’s falling for her boyfriend’s MATE, and we also have a crazy storytime from one Tinie who found out her boyfriend was cheating on her through TikTok!We LOVE your messages and dilemmas, so keep them coming our way.Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]-Credits:Producer: @ben_johnsEditor: @Kat MilsomExec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pSocial Media: @thechampagency Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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So we're in pink and purple today. Are you ready? You know, come a bit. Are you ready for it? Yeah. Are you ready for it? Taylor Swift. Why do we always sing? I don know are you ready for let me break him free no we're singing different oh we're singing different songs you're singing

high school we're soaring flying come on chuck me head let's get on with the episode right okay right we're in pink and purple because on wednesdays we have pink oh my god on wednesdays we wear purple skills and on that note let's go into what's releasing today guys oh my god sorry this is major news major news the cause of this podcast the name from this. The inspiration behind the whole podcast. A big, a pivotal moment in history today. It actually is. Mean Girls.

The movie. The movie. The new one comes out today. The musical movie. I'm not normally huge on musicals, but I do have a select few that are my all-time favorite films, like Mamma Mia. Oh, yeah. Obsessed.

Obsessed. Obsessed. Obsessed. And, you know, obviously Mean Girls is like my favourite film and shallow in the shallow shallow Country Strong

you've still not watched it have you yeah I have I have wait what Country Short Country Strong yeah no

no I honestly gas Melissa you need to watch that with Toby tonight you will it will be your favourite film you've ever watched guess who's in it who

Blair Wardolph main character shit yeah Gwyn it who Blair Wardorf main character shit yeah Gwyneth Paltrow other main character oh my god and Gwyneth Paltrow sings in it

yeah what's that she sings that lovely lovely song with that man I know I have the song on my phone yeah

I've got the whole album into the country strong born again in the wind going going riding on. Something like that. She was with Chris Martin at the time she was in the film. Because I remember that she was like, you know, Chris wasn't sure if I'd be able to sing it properly. I remember seeing those interviews.

God, she was mega in it. That's actually, that movie, does make me bring chills to my bones. I remember so well she gave Blair or Blair whatever her name was Leighton Meester Leighton Meester

a bit of advice and she's like she's taking over like her career whatever and she's like leaving and she was like

never take Laxtev it never goes the way you want and I just remember I took it on board I was like you never take a Laxtev yeah

and I always that's brilliant if I needed a Laxtev, I honestly, I often do. That goop mindset was coming through in her character. But I was like, never take it. Because she was like, you just need to shit not at the right time. Time never works out for you. And I honestly kept that piece of knowledge through all my teens.

Well, that's great. I'm glad that Gwyneth passed on some wisdom to me. Anyway, back onto the topic. Mean girls. We've got Renée as Rap. We've got Regina George, Major. Major. Regina George, I mean,

that is ultimately, like, the best thing to play of all time. Sophie Haboo is our very own Regina George in the musical that we did. I actually would have preferred to have been Gretchen. I think she's iconic. Oh, my God, Gretchen.

She has a little lip. Yeah, she's like, it's fetch. I'm getting my fetch, come on, Jen. She has a little lip. Yeah, she's like, it's fetch. It's just like, I'm getting my fetch happen. Like, so blinky. Oh my God. Oh my God. And so slobbery mouth.

Like, always chewing gum. Yes. No, that was more Katie or Karen. Oh yeah, Karen. Karen. Karen, is it? I'm a master. Oh my God. I want to see Melissa. Da. That was so cute. She pointed to the thing. Karen is it I'm a master oh my god

I want to see what is it that was so cute she pointed to the thing I didn't know who Amanda Seyfried was when I first watched it

and then she became mega oh my god she was huge on that you know what they're gonna it's we haven't watched

this new film obviously but it's they've got something really tough to try and like stand up to or like

but they've also got Christopher Brini who you and I were in love with from the Summer of 1030. Yeah, the Summer of 1030. He's jams it. Mouthwatering. But what is it about him?

Because he's like a silent silent boy, but he's fit. Because he's a bit like deep and mysterious and you can't quite tell what he's thinking. He's got like this side eyebrow, like you know, like the. And he's not like overwhelmingly handsome, but he's like.

Sorry, I'm putting. A little bit like, I don't know, like in a different, sorry, what's this all? and he's not like overwhelmingly handsome but he's like sorry a little bit like I don't know like in a sorry what's this all like I'm putting those weird faces but like there are

some guys who like are like off face like their faces are not symmetrical they're not symmetrical but they're sexy I know I know he's got sex appeal

and it's like his mouth like almost curls out like Miss Norbury is also in it Norbury oh my god yeah the original

Dot hasn't aged a dot. She hasn't aged a day. It's spooky. I love that character. She's also in loads of movies. She's in so many different things. We love her. I'm obsessed with who Regina George is.

Like mum's going to be in it too. I can't wait to see that. She's a big actress. I love her. Who I would cast as her mum. I would do probably like the House Bunny actress. I was going to say the same. Or.

Or the one from. Reese Witherspoon. I feel like she would have done a great version of that. Or. Or. Or. Has anyone watched Lincoln Lawyer? Yeah.

The PA. Oh I can't remember it. Not the movie. The series. Really good. Oh no. I haven't seen it. Anyway.

Mitch. Which Mean Girl character are you? Gratitude on Regina George because we literally played her the other day yeah I feel like that's who we are I don't think

Regina I do not want to be the biggest bitch in school if everyone wants to be it's great yeah do you remember when that guy's like so much power

and she cuts her boobs out and they're like oh yeah yeah she just wears it and then she's just like setting trends left right and centre in high school

I would love to be that influential I would have loved to have been she was the original influencer was Regina George yeah she took was that before Paris Hilton

maybe probably Regina George was like iconic iconic do you remember when she was like I'm eating the fucking and she like put on weight

and she's wearing the blouse like a taxi god it's such a good movie oh my god I love it okay I love it I love it you know her wig you told me her wig cost like nine grand

or something I never knew she wore a wig so that film she wore a wig and it was like one of the most expensive wigs they've ever made for a movie or something

and it was like nine grand or something crazy like that again fountain of knowledge guys she knows this wig don't know why I know that someone told me that the other day I think it was Hermione

and I was like god that's such a random fact. Probably because there's new movies coming out. Everyone's like going back to like the old things, you know? Right.

Favorite line would be, stop trying to make that happen. It's not gonna happen. Oh my God, that is so cute. Where did you get it? What bit's that?

When she like compliments everyone or something and then that's the ugliest effing skirt I have ever seen then that's the ugliest effing skirt I have ever seen. Oh yeah. Ugliest effing skirt I've ever seen.

Oh my god no what's an iconic quote from you girls? Come on we have to find something better than that. Stop making fetch happens iconic.

Yeah that's great but there must be something else. On Wednesdays we were pink. That's pretty iconic. Yeah that's pretty fucking iconic isn't it?

God I swear to god. Oops. Cute. She is a fugly slut. Yeah. She looks... You had a hip, though. There's actually some really outrageous lines in that film.

It's so great. Fugly is such a vicious word. I know. Like, if you say fugly, you are mean. Also, the word slut. I don't really remember the word I've said. Why did I call you a slut the whole time? I hate that.

Slag, I hate. I hate. Skat. Oh, yeah, that's not allowed. Should be not allowed. It's such. Oh, my God. No, people call men C-U-N-T's, which is a dreadful word.

We must not move away from these vicious, vulgar words. Ultimate chick flick. Other than Mean Girls. Titanic is Ultimate chick flick. Oh. Other than Mean Girls. Titanic is actually a flick. Stop. No. Just Go With It.

I'm sorry. I know it's not the ultimate one. Dirty Dancing. I also flipping love Dirty Dancing. Are they chick flicks? Bride Wars. Mean Girls. It's the ultimate chick flick ever.

Oh my God. John Takamasa. John Takamasa. That's like one of the best, best Oh my God, John Tucker must die. John Tucker must die. That's like one of the best, best, best ones. She's the man. Don't love that one as much. It's a great film, but I'm not like... Should I let you in on something?

I don't like Dirty Dancing. Patrick Swayze is my ultimate ride or die. It gave me really bad vibes. I got really scared of it. I didn't like that or Emmerdale. Because you wouldn't have understood it when you were young. No, no, if Emmerdale came on, I would... Are. I didn't like that or Emmerdale. It's because you wouldn't have understood it when you were young. No, no.

If Emmerdale came on, I would... Are you honestly comparing Dirty Dancing to Emmerdale? Yes, same tone. Criminal, criminal chat from this side of the room. The noise.

What's the theme tune? If Emmerdale came on, I would hysterically cry. That's not Emmerdale. That's The Simpsons. That's The Simpsons. No, that was The Simpsons. Dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun. Dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun. Dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun. hysterically cry that's Simpsons that was the Simpsons I've never seen it

if Emmerdale came on I would run and put my head under my mum's jumper I couldn't hear it or see it it's the most terrifying do they have scary guns

and stuff no it was bleak it was grey it was miserable I hated everyone on it I didn't like it I hate it was it was like the Black Cauldron it was like a It was miserable. I hated everyone on it. I didn't like it. I hate it. It was like the Black Cauldron.

It was like a horror movie. And my grandma watched it. And I was honestly, it would send chills through me. I couldn't go to my grandma's when it was on. Okay, well, can we just talk about why you're relating that to Dirty Dancing? Because Dirty Dancing is extremely different. Right, so anyone who, like, any boyfriend, Jamie will know. Okay. I can't watch anything remotely bleak like if it is it's not emmerdale dirty dancing has the same gray tone as emmerdale

it's gray it's a gray tone as in like the color scheme yeah it's a bleak tone it's the grading it's great and it's like emmerdale and it gives me Emmerdale vibes and I can't watch it. It's because it's old fashioned. Yeah, I don't like it. I don't like it. All right. What about EastEnders? I also don't like EastEnders

but just because I don't, I'm not into it but it never scared me. Emmerdale made me feel like fully, I've never seen Emmerdale. So sad. I wouldn't even be able to watch it

and you'll start crying. No, I don't think it's the sort of TV I'd like to spend my time watching. But like Coronation Street didn't make me scared at all emmerdale just sent chills through my bones so melissa and sophie it feels like you two both really know your chick flicks are you ready to do a chick flick quiz we're more than ready i'm gonna read out some iconic quotes from some iconic chick flicks you've got to to buzz in with Gruel, Melissa and Fetch, Sophie and decide what film they're from.

Gorgeous. We're in. Amazing. So here we go. Question number one. Waiting for you is like waiting for rain in this drought. Useless and disappointing. Buzz in if you know it.

I don't know it. Useless and disappointing. Oh my God. No, I you know it I don't know it Use isn't disappointing Oh my god no I do know it It stars Hilary Duff And Chad Michael Murray From One Tree Hill Fetch

Cinderella Story Ding ding ding Question number two When the head girl Has earned my respect Then I will shake her hand Bitch

Ding ding ding Gruel Wildchild Yes Oh my god Good girl Question number three Whoever said orange is the new pink is seriously disturbed

Fetch Mean Girls Wrong Gruel I think it's Gossip Girl Nope Gruel Fetch

St Trinians Is actually legally blonde so no point for either Oh my god of course Reese Witherspoon. Question number four. You're a virgin who can't drive. Fetch. Mean Girls. Nope.

Melissa. Oh my God. Oh my God, I know it. She's a man. You're a virgin who can't drive. It stars Alicia Silverstone. Iggy Azalea did a music video inspired by this film. Paul Rudd's in it as well.

It's from the 1990s. It is iconic. Oh my God, it's all men dancing on the table. She goes to the bar. She's just not that into you. Oh my God, clueless. Yes. So points to you, Melissa.

Amazing. And this is the final one. Oh my God, sorry. No, I could play this all day long. Why are we so bad at this? And what are you supposed to be? An obese leprechaun Anyone can see

I'm a stuffed olive Fetch Stuffed is right Wild child I'm St. Twinnians Melissa Oh my god It's a British film

I don't know what that is I'm a stuffed olive What? It's British Oh my god I know exactly which it is So British Angus Longton Perfect Snooker Oh my god I forgot That which it is Angus Longton perfect snorkelling

oh my god I forgot that film existed you know that actor lives in Notting Hill I honestly see him every day and I've seen

what house he comes out of Melissa I'm outing this what Aaron Johnson you know I went all the way to High Wycombe

when I was 15 and walked no no High Wycombe wait wait do you not know this story I don't know this story am I strapping my head down I I me and my friend Sophie Pettifer was so in love with Aaron Johnson we googled where he lived he was like our age we found out he lived in High Wycombe I must have been about 14 I took a train to High Wycombe I got out at High Wycombe and I walked around High Wycombe thinking I will bump into him

and we will fall in love and he will become my boyfriend. I was gone home and when the movie Anger Song is in full front is on stop. Perfect song. No, that was the book.

That was the book. Oh. When the movie finished I was, I remember so well I was sat You were fully in love. I was actually at my grandma's it was like Christmas day

and me and my sister got it on DVD yeah and it stopped and I burst hysterical crying and I was like mum I won't ever have it

like my heart was throbbing for him in that movie oh my god that's mental that you actually fell in love with someone like David I fell in love with him

I think Zac Efron was quite a prominent person in my childhood that I was obsessed with and then young Leonardo like when I watched the Efron was quite a prominent person in my childhood that I was obsessed with. And then young Leonardo, like when I watched the Titanic, I was like, I genuinely, no, it wasn't even in the Titanic, it was Romeo and Juliet he was in. Well, I was like, I feel something in my heart and my stomach for you. Like, I genuinely, it was obviously also the first time I was like feeling like the women

he feels as I was getting older. And I was like, I fancy you. And I could just, yeah. Yeah, very much. I remember Pirates of the Caribbean, seeing Jack Sparrow and like Billy having like fanny pack. Tingle, flattles, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I was like, what the fuck is that feeling? Like genuinely not like palpitations.

Me too, me too, me too. So going in the cinema and I was like, it can bear it. And I was like, what is this horrible feeling in me and why can't I control it? And why can't I fix it? Oh God, there's been a few. Oh my God, Peter Pan. The movie. Oh my God.

How could I forget? That was my first love. That was my first love. No, that's where I was before that and then Peter Pan came out. No, Peter Pan for me was the first one. I was like, I remember wanting to lick his skin. I wanted to lick his like golden one. I was like, I remember wanting to lick his skin. I wanted to lick his like golden skin.

I really enjoyed it. He was so like, he was like golden just flew in through the bedroom window and I was like, I want to fly in through my bedroom window.

I actually remember like kind of, I really can't but I used to like daydream that he'd do it. Yeah. I'm in the bedroom window. Going back to Angus

Thompson, Perfect Snorkeling Man. So he's obviously with the sermon. He's like 20 years older than him. That's when I knew my luck wasn't yeah

you know when old enough but I've seen him in Somerset which is super weird and then back in Notting Hill so many times

what's he looking like in real life gorgeous Jamie's interviewed him I also see him and his wife in Dalesford and I like get maybe I see them

it's him and his wife because I keep I keep thinking surely that's not the one and then it is the wife because there's such an age gap. I can't imagine how they are like together. How old is she? I think she's in her 60s.

She's 20 something years older than him. So am I. Dilemma. Okay, me. Okay, so dilemma. Me and my boyfriend, let's call call him sam have been together for seven years he has moved in with me and my family and i see him being in my life rather also i thought oh no i get really scared of reading these things same it's just all coming to an end isn't it

isn't it oh flicked up during lockdown i found out that sam oh no during lockdown i found out that sam had slept with someone else it literally broke me and as i was under the impression we were childhood sweethearts and destined to be together forever i confronted him about it and he didn't come clean straight away and i broke up with him but because we were living with each other and because of lockdown he had nowhere else to go. So we ended up getting back together. So easily happened. So understand that in lockdown, there's nowhere else to go. Like, cry your shoulders on.

Skip forward a couple of years. A girl messaged me and said she and Sam had got together on a night out. You're fucking kidding me, Sam. I know I should have ended it, but I didn't because I'm too scared of being on my own. What? No. I've never been single before and we spent every day together. No, no. I've recently become closer

with friends with one of his friends let's just call him Joe to the point where we've been hanging out just me and him on nights out we gravitate towards each other and have had some deep deep conversations about lots of things and in particular my relationship with Sam I enjoy spending time with Joe a lot I wonder I would never cheat Sam. And even though Joe has said I'm attractive, I don't think he would go there with me. Quite a bit of conversations to be having with your boyfriend's mate. Best friend. I don't think he'd go there with me.

I know that if this was the other way around, I wouldn't like Sam getting close with another girl like that, especially if it was one of my friends. Is it time to end my relationship with Sam? I'm too scared to do that as I really do love him and he's the only person I really have. Oh my God, he's not the only person you have you've got your family you've got friends there is so many boys in the world we all need to say my friend melissa watched this interview with shay mitchell you know the one from she's unreal unreal and she basically was just like if my guy

cheats on me i'll just find someone else. Like that. I'm not bothered. Like, if that's the way that you're going to treat me, I can very easily find someone else. And she was like, we all need to just adopt this attitude as women. Okay. Like, rate ourselves way more. Put ourselves on a pedestal. There's a million people, billions of people that we could be.

South Africa, Germany, France, UK. Even in the UK. Like, venture to the next village over from like if you live in the countryside we'll have like four eligible bachelors properly it's just a matter of you know the timing and like finding someone else what did you say south africa like that's awfully long way to go no but like that sometimes we forget how big the world is yeah we do and we close ourselves off because it's it's the fear of the unknown and it's like all we know but i do i'm going to be brutally honest here with you i think that you and sam's relationship is dead in the water so i think

he knows he's pushed past that boundary of initially cheating on you and whatever and he's just going to keep doing it because you know he knows you're just going to forgive him because you're too scared to leave him he's comfortable probably with with that and he's okay with that decision and you're sparking up an attraction with one of his best friends which just shows you how little how far how little fur far afield you have to go to actually find another attraction you're finding it in your boyfriend's friendship group i literally don't have anything to add i think that was the best advice you've ever given it was unbelievable wasn't it she's fresh off her two coffees fresh-minded she is she's clear-headed she's full of fuel okay Melissa

you're next okay hey girls I'm in my late 20s and I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years he's everything I look for in a guy funny smart dress as well and is going and is over and is over going out all the time so I fully trust him god that's lovely when a guy gets to that stage oh my god it's heaven they just want to stay in and it's lovely yeah he's extremely hard working but at the point where I feel like he's becoming a workaholic it feels like his job is getting in the way of our relationship this is really a pinnacle point but something that I feel like we have to adjust he has to work most weekends always finishes late and is too tired to do anything I try and plan things but his work has become such priority that that I feel like I'm the only one putting effort in he'll tell me he misses me so I know he's not becoming totally disinterested but he's

too involved in work and feels like he forgets about me over christmas he barely did anything cute and festive and i feel like i missed out i had to go home for 10 days and i didn't get to see him i love him but i want more action we briefly discussed his work habits and he said he'll try and change but i'm worried he never will how do you balance work and your relationship and have there been ever been moments which you've had to chat to jamie or toby about how much they're working so many i resonate with this so much right best thing you can do go on stephen bartlett there's a podcast by a woman called esther she is she like dark skin dark hair i think so oh elder lady amazing i don't think there's a beautiful woman that does a lot of i think and she basically says in it basically is telling the guy because

obviously steven butler i imagine is like a workaholic or sure and she's basically giving him advice like you can't ignore your wife and when you think that your your girlfriend or whatever when you think that you're girlfriend or whatever when you think that you're giving her the attention she needs but they can tell you're distracted with work like you can't give your work more priority than your relationship make him listen to that does wonders i think that i think it's got to be an off button it's a difficult one because you want them to succeed and obviously it's like they want to put in so much effort whilst they're younger and in the short term so that when they're older, maybe you can have a certain life and you can enjoy things together. Like there's a lot of sacrifices that sometimes have to be made and you might have to go, okay, fine.

My relationship is going to be on the back burner for a while. I'm not going to get as much attention as I necessarily would but I'm okay with that I'm going to support him and then you know in a three in a few years it will be worth it and then he will be able to take me on that gorgeous holiday once a year where he turns his phone off for like 10 days or something like that I don't know or it's like I think you have to really get things in advance and just say we're going to have a no phone date for for three days like I've got a friend who's got a workaholic boyfriend who literally works until 3am. She never, ever really spends time with him or sees him.

But he's very good at being like, right, that one weekend, our anniversary, your birthday, my birthday, and a random other few weekends and then one holiday a year, they just go and he turns his phone off. I think that's great advice. But I think ultimately you've got to work out like what you need. Like some girls, that's going to be sweet. And like, you know,

but some girls need like their love languages, affection and attention. It might just make you miserable. I think you've got to just like really think about it. You've got to speak to him like, and be like, look, I understand why you're doing it,

but is there some way we can compromise? And if not, like, you know, how are we going to fix it? Or how are we going to fix it or how are we going to manage it and you can just work out you've got to just come together on it and work out a way like a strategy yeah to manage it I think that and you're going to manage it whether it's doing that or he has to have an hour a day or like you eat dinner at the same time or something you're gonna find a way to have some quality time exactly like he has to have like a rule in place where like he'll come home and even if as you sophie said

like it's an hour at dinner and you don't talk and he doesn't have his phone at the table those like it's also like sometimes the lack of intimacy that can come with a workaholic because they get home they're too exhausted there's no intimacy there that's tough because then you feel unloved I think you've really got to be so honest and it's not something you can do on your own like you are a relationship you have to work together on this to solve it and yeah he needs to understand and you need to be understanding to him and his needs and that he's trying to build a career and a future and provide for you and your family yeah so you've got to just really come together and like do it in a very loving gentle soft way and a patient way it might happen overnight it might

be something that happens gradually over like six months yeah i don't know because if you really love him you need to adjust and be patient together, I guess. It's a difficult one. Okay, right. I'm going to read the last dilemma. Dilemma three. I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years. And for the last 18 months, we have been saving to buy a house together.

This is a big move. I've been working really hard to save money and made a lot of sacrifices to reach my goal. A few months ago, I reached my target and started to look into booking an appointment with a mortgage advisor when my boyfriend revealed his secret. No. He told me he had no savings due to the fact

he'd gambled all of his money away. Oh my fucking God. I was absolutely heartbroken after talking with his family. I stayed with him to help him through it. Gambling addiction

is an illness and I understand it's hard to stop. This is so tough. I stayed with him to help him through it. Gambling addiction is an illness and I understand it's hard to stop. This is so tough. I know people that have had so many problems from this.

I don't know anyone. However, I have found out that... Oh my God. However, I have found out that he spent hundreds of pounds

to subscribe to another girl's OnlyFans. I don't care that he watches porn but I find it so disrespectful that he's giving money to another girl's OnlyFans. I don't care that he watches porn but I find it so disrespectful that he's giving money

to another girl instead of saving his house for his next step in my relationship. We can blame this on like he's got a gambling problem

but paying another chick to pay her mortgage is quite something else. That's quite something else. For me this is a dumbful offence.

You can't be giving another girl thousands of pounds. Like, I'm meant to be saving with my girlfriend to buy myself a house. I think he's obviously

got a problem. Clearly. I think he's got a really big problem and you need to like go to a therapist. I think then he potentially needs to be

some sort of a rehabilitation step in this. Yeah. Because it is a problem. I don't know enough about it and I don't, like I'm not knowledgeable enough on it so it's a really hard don't know enough about it and I don't

like I'm not knowledgeable enough on it so it's a really hard one to say but that's that's pretty peak I can understand

why because you think oh this one will be the next round where I just hit the jackpot and you think that you can do it

and you can do it it's like people who buy the lottery ticket it's definitely something that he needs help with but I don't think that this is to be confused with cheating

and I kind of think if he's paying other girls on OnlyFans specifically I just think it's spending hundreds on a girl is another thing I think it's just like do you need that's another source of you have to know whether you love him enough and know that there are issues here that need to be solved yeah you can for sure solve them but it's ultimately you can't solve them, he has to solve them himself. So it's whether you want to put yourself through the stress of waiting for him to fix himself

because you can't do anything. And he might not ever, you know. Yeah, he might not want to change. It might be something that he wants to do for the rest of his life. Ultimately, if it was me and my boyfriend spending all that money on it. The gambling thing is,

I actually want to put these as two separate issues. I think they're very together. Do you? Yeah, he's obviously got one. I think paying for a girl to get her tits out is very different to like

thinking you're going to win money back. No, but it's an addiction. It's the same thing. He's gambling, it's an addiction, he's doing it for an

endorphin rush. He's wanking over a girl and spending shit loads of money, again, for an endorphin rush. Like, they're so linked. So I feel like that's an issue. He needs to go get help. girl and spending shit loads of money again for an endorphin rush like they're so linked so i feel

like this is that's an issue he needs to go get help do you want to be responsible for him and you need to know you he might not change and you might not be able to fix you it's very out of your control sadly i think you have to decide yeah ultimately i wouldn't be able to do that i'm not no not for me i'm not i'm not strong enough to deal with that. Strong enough to deal with that. And it would just be, it's just not what you need. You don't have kids and it's just not what you need at this stage in your life. Yep.

We are not experts on this. We're not therapists. We're not doctors. We're not health advisors. We don't know much about this, but we're just giving. Advice as if it was me or you. But please follow professional advice. There's a lot of help online, especially for gambling addiction and stuff like that.

So make sure that, you know, you're taking professional steps. We have a story time. Now I'm really excited to share this with you. Are you ready, Melissa? I'm ready. Okay. This is inspired by the Barcelona Boy saga. I have my own Barcelona-inspired horror story.

Can you imagine if this is actually like the same boys down at D'Ara? Wild. Oh, my God. I really am just desperate to meet the infamous boys. Me too. You really let us down with that, didn't you? I'm desperate. I need to have a look at what he looks like.

We should have a poster of him, like a wanted poster around the office. Oh my god, we should. Anyone sees Barca boy. Okay, I used to work in an office alongside a male colleague. Our first conversation was about his recent breakup and as I'd just broken up with my boyfriend, we bonded over being single. We became flat at work and things fizzled when he told me that he was going on holiday with his mates. After he came back, we went on our first proper date

and continued spending more time together. He told me that his ex was living in the house they'd brought together and that he was currently living with his parents. No, no.

No, sick. So for the first two months of us being together, we would go and stay in hotels. No! This is red flag written all over it. Vomit. Once we'd been seeing, also, boy taking! This is red flag written all over it. Vomit.

Once we'd been seeing, also, boy taking me to hotels so fucking seedy. It's so seedy. We need to, I need to stop swearing. Once we'd been seeing

each other for a while, he then began staying over at mine. He was really keen to book holidays so we planned a trip to Barcelona. Oh my god,

I'm never going to have a holiday. Normie. It scares me. We booked the holiday, but two weeks before we went away, things started to get suspicious. His ex-girlfriend's name

would keep popping up on his phone and every time I would call him, he would make an excuse about why he couldn't talk to me. He's not, he's not an ex-girlfriend. It's a current girlfriend. She's live,

she's there, she's probably sat on his leg. Oh God. Even though we argued about his ex, he showed real commitment to going away with me and paid for the entire trip we went away to barcelona and it was so romantic the only thing that bothered me bothered me was that he was on his phone a lot whilst we were away on the way back to the airport i saw his ex's name pop on on his phone again and we got into a huge argument. I said

I needed some space when we go back to the UK. I got back and was scrolling on TikTok when I came across a video which featured my boyfriend with another girl. Oh my God. No! It showed that whole year together and showed

that he'd been with her the entire time we'd been together and that when he was on holiday with his mates, he'd been away with her. I blocked him on everything and reached out to his girlfriend. She told me that they'd been together for over two years. They lived together. They had a dog together. They lived together. That's why I know when he was, I was staying at my parents' house.

Sorry, I just thought it was the ex that he hadn't got over like I didn't know that they'd never broken up she also told me she just a week before he took me on out on our first date that she found out

she was pregnant and they were expecting a baby together he's a sick idiot so to summarise the guy I thought was oh my god

I've got goosebumps so to summarise the guy I thought I was with was a got goosebumps so to summarise the guy I thought I was with was a lying father to me he not only lied to me and her but to every person

he worked with the moral of the story is that Barcelona and boys don't go well together sorry I'm never going to

Barcelona again I'm never going to go to Barcelona with a boy what I'm not going full stop it's bad vibes bad energy

I'm really sorry she was pregnant I'm not getting full stop. It's bad vibes, bad energy. I'm really sorry. She was pregnant. I'm upset that it's too broken. What a pig. What a sadistic pig. Why didn't he? Oh my God, I can't. Like, why wouldn't you just break up with her if you felt like you don't want to be with her? Why are you like, that's something wrong. That's not well in the head to me. It's not. It's not.'s not you definitely made the right decision by telling her but then it really stresses me out

that she would have been pregnant and finding out that stressful information do you know what I mean and that's not like a one off that's not like

a one off cheat it's like a fully blown affair fuck I love you guys you're fucking boss bitches he's not worth your time you're so much better

than this and like we said before earlier on in the episode there are so many guys out there. And I'm really happy that you went and told the girlfriend. I feel like you've made completely all the right moves in that whole scenario.

And that could have happened to anyone. That's really shit. You know what? I think this has taught us we need to do our due diligence a bit more. We need to be a little bit more suspect of people and not so trusting because there's some real shits out there in the world.

If you want to find out anything about anyone, do you know who you can find out? Who? Ruby Adler. She knows. Right, let's get Ruby on. Everything about everyone. To tell us. If I ask her, I'm like, I want to know things about Toby's ex, blah, blah, blah.

She told me so much information. How did she find out? She actually just got to know who she was and like knew who she was before. Right. I'm going to be calling Ruby. Just so great. Right. Let's get Ruby on and she needs to tell, give us some detective.

And your friend Bella's the same. Bella is the same. She's a detective. Bella Smith. She's great. Chrissy's also the same. Oh my God. Well, there we go.

Chrissy's sorted. Chrissy's full-time job on it. She's so good. She can tell you everything. Yeah. They're all good. We're just not that good. We're just a bit stupid. Because we've got them. We've got our mates doing it. She's so good. She can tell you everything. Yeah. They're all good. We're just not that good. We're just a bit stupid.

Because we've got them. We've got our mates doing it. Yeah, that's why. We need to, we just rely on them. Right, okay. We've got a tiny question. What are our favourite perfumes

at the moment? Mine is always Jo Malone English Pear. Mine's just Byrode Gypsy Water but no one can bloody smell it on me which is really upsetting. I can. I just smelled it earlier. I was like really but no one could bloody smell it on me which is really upsetting I can I just

smelled it earlier I was like really nice but I never often smell it on you people never smell it no one ever compliments me on it either so I'm like maybe

it's the same I'm not lying I can't ever smell a perfume on you you always smell lovely but it's not like overwhelming you know like people

smell a perfume Ruby Adler smells a perfume back rat every time I see her I know I just wish that I will back rat for a bit but people said I smell

all of the mothballs. I don't like it. Toby wore it for a bit and I was like, I'm relating it to too many people that wear it. Emily Baccarat.

Does she? Yeah. Oh no, she's Maison Francesco. Maison Margiela. Yeah. Okay, so. We love you.

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