Wednesdays - 19: Caity Baser is here to help with your dilemmas!!!

Episode Date: January 31, 2024

Sophie and Melissa are throwing the doors open to the ‘Wednesdays’ studio, with a very special guest here to help out with all your dilemmas: the one and only Caity Baser.Caity fills the girls in on how it feels to be nominated at the BRITs, and what actually goes down at the biggest night in music, as well as the boy drama which has inspired some of her huge songs. And she’s also lending Sophie and Melissa a helping hand, and offering her top tips and advice with all of your messages.You NEED to hear how she’d get to the bottom of a potential cheating scenario one Tiny has asked for assistance with…_Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]-Credits:Producer: @ben_johnsEditor: @Kat MilsomExec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pSocial Media: @thechampagency Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We're not experts in anything. In fact, we just challenge all the shit, so. And we love giving you guys advice, but as we said. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Guys, we have. The one, the only...

Fucking exciting episode today. An effing exciting... No, we mustn't swear. I said frickin', that's all right, no? Swearing. Okay, well, Katie Beza's coming on the pod, guys. Katie Beza. Huge.

Huge TikTok icon. I'm not another one, here we go again. Or what about I'm a problem? I'm a problem. I'm a problem. Again, imagine she's going to listen to this and be like, you are completely off the beat, wrong tune, wrong tone. Which we will. Well, anyway.

At least we tried our best. She's an absolute legend. She's a queen. You guys are going to enjoy this episode. Hello. Hi. Don't know why we were singing then. We're not the ones that should have been singing. I was just about to sing your song and I was like don't do that.

Don't do that, you'll ruin it. Oh my god I always do that whenever I'm with anybody that like makes music I can't help but sing their songs and they must think I'm so weird. Yeah but you're good at singing. Yeah you can get away with that. Have you had me singing? No, can I though? Shall we sing you a bit of a harmony?

I sang the Marilyn Monroe, Happy Christmas. No. It was really good. Have you had me sing it? No, can I know? Should we sing you a bit of a harmony? I sang the Marilyn Monroe Happy Christmas. It was really good. Wasn't I? You said literally blur like four words together. I sang it. It was unbelievable. I'm toned down.

It's never, it's always been something I've wanted to do. Me too. To be able to sing. And I'll tell you why. I'm toned down it's never it's always been something I wanted to do me too to be able to sing and I'll tell you why I always thought I'd be like the sexiest girl at an after party

cracking out a tune and every boy would just flock at my feet yeah especially if you can play the piano too and there just happens

to be a piano there and you just sit down and go and then you just like little glass of wine well that was you that is you no

I'm always too drunk at that point. Can you play the piano? I can play the piano, yeah. Wow. Can you dance? You can dance too? Yeah.

Before I was a singer, I was a dancer. I wanted to be a dancer. Oh, my God. I wanted to be like on Broadway. Right. I wanted to be like a theatre kid. And then I studied theatre at college. And I was like, eh.

Okay, let's go back into this. Because you've had a huge year. And we've got all of that to talk to you about. I want to hear how this all started because it feels like there's a backstory. How did it, what, being a singer start? Were you like singing out the womb? Yeah, I came out singing out the womb for sure. At what age did you get into it? Because you're young.

I always, yeah. When you were like, how old are you? And I was like 21 and you were like, I are you? And I was like, 21. And you were like, I hate you. And I was like, I love you. Just a baby. But I feel 21 at heart. I think I'm always going to be 21. They might always have 21 in their minds.

Like, I'm 22 in July and I'm like, no, no. I don't think it's true. 22, I'm feeling 21. 22. Yeah, that's about it. Anyway, what was it, what? How did you get into singing? Oh.

And also, when was it a time when you were like, right, this is what I'm doing, like, as a career? Okay, so I realised I wanted to be a singer when my mum took me to a Katy Perry concert. When I was... You're quite Katy Perry vibes. Do you know what I mean? When I was like eight.

I'm gonna hate you, mum. I went to the O2 and we had the shittest seats in the house people like right at the top and Katy Perry was like this big and I was like how on earth has this tiny lady made everybody in this room feel like best mates and like we're all connected and I was like I want to be that girl wow and then I went literally like beaming afterwards and then wanted to be a singer ever since then but obviously you can't just wish a dream and and then it happens yeah so it's so much competition in that I know and then it's such a big world and I come from a place where like nothing happens and it's just like a shithole and everybody knows everybody and it's just never gonna happen sort of thing and then in school

I did lots of musical theatre lots of dance lots of singing lots of acting lots of everything lots of sport I did everything I'm very like of dance lots of singing lots of acting lots of everything lots of sport I did everything I was very like must have something to do every day outgoing girl yeah yeah outgoing queen

and then and then lockdown hits yeah and I'm like how on earth am I going to be able to like be a singer sort of thing

because TikTok is that where it all started this is what happens with the Gen Z's they all get they all just go on TikTok and then their talent gets picked up. I used to like laugh at TikTok because I was like, it's cringy. Like why are people posting videos of themselves singing? And then lockdown happened and I was just watching TikTok every day and I was like, oh, that's actually amazing. I love it.

And then I love it. Do you remember that time where they were like, oh, lockdown's over. Go out and have fun. Yeah. And then a week later they were like, Yeah, they brought us back in. You're locked up again, bitches. My mum called me because she was away and I had my friends over and she was like,

they've all got to go. We're back into lockdown. And I was just going, oh my God. My mum was proper on it with lockdown and I was just like, this is awful. I can't. It was so depressing. So depressing.

So I made a song called Average Student, which is about like how I don't know what I'm doing with my life and how everything sucks and is shit and then I posted it on tiktok and then it blew up is songwriting also quite that's quite something else to be talented with songwriting thanks because that's something people don't talk about thank you like people listen for them when you're like actually able to write the song as well as sing it that's actually really quite something I always think thank you so much that must be so and then the melody to like conjure that up as well as the words like how long does that take you sometimes it takes me like a few hours sometimes it takes

me like 10 minutes like some of my my bestest songs like pretty boys i made it in literally like 10 minutes and x and y the same you're just wait i want to know about so when you went did that song on TikTok were you embarrassed to do it like that was like your first debut in front of your friends were you doing TikToks already I did a few but they were like funny ones and just like copying trends and stuff because what if I blow up yeah but what were you feeling and like what did your friends react like your family like what the hell well like most of my friends that were like people I hung out with in like school and stuff

I didn't see them anymore. I only saw one friend in lockdown because I was like I fucking hate everybody else and you're the only person that I can tolerate anymore and she was like same.

So she was the only person that I really cared about. Fine. Fine. So you were sort of just going carefree. That's the best thing. Yeah exactly.

And the only reason why I posted it is because like the people that used to make me feel like shit just disappeared. So I was like, cool. So walk me through that.

So you post something on TikTok and then you blow up and you're like, what the fuck? Your life changed pretty much. Yeah, but it literally was like, so I posted the video. I almost deleted it as well

because I was like embarrassed. Can you imagine? I was literally this close to, I was looking at the delete button and I was like, but I turned my phone off because I just thought, right. Ignorance is this. Give it a minute. Just see see what happened and then my mate came and picked me up and we

went to M&S car park because that's I'm cool and we go to car parks that's where you hang out these days cool kids so I was there and I took my phone back on and I had half a million views on my video and I never had like seen that sort of number ever only in like a maths exam I don't understand but like on a video of me what do you mean what were you feeling I screamed and then we opened up all of her car doors plugged the aux in and played this little minute video of my song for about two hours and then literally the next day I get a message from my manager stops your music company literally just picked you up like that she messaged me and was like I've seen your video

my boss loves you can you give me a call and I was like yeah and then she called me and I like just turned 18 just got a million views and I was just like what do you want

I was like who are you who are you what do you want from me she was like she was like hi babe hi

I want you to go to London la la la then I went to London and I never left basically it was like the next day. That is such a whirlwind. So where were you living before London? Southampton.

Southampton. Shit hole. Oh my God. So you're... Shit heap. Shit heap. Honestly, sorry. No offence to anyone who lives in Southampton now.

Yeah. Okay, and then, so you get to London, life's crazy. How are you feeling? So you're going to have to do like a record tape or whatever it's called. So my brother is a barrister. So he's like a big lawman. And after I got off the phone with my manager, he was like, right, you can go to London, but I'm coming with you. Oh my God, you're so lucky you had that.

My brothers were like, just because I got kidnapped or something, you know, it's a scary world. But I get to the offices, I meet my managers and stuff. And they gave me grapes and croissants and juice and I was already in I thought wow I'm in um and then I went to the studio met the producers that worked on like Lily Allen and stuff they made smile you know what's going on I literally was like I was in my bedroom yesterday in like the middle of nowhere and now I'm in London I never really really. Shit holes have happened. Shit holes have happened. I never really been to London.

And now I'm here in like this fucking beautiful studio. All these like things everywhere. And yeah. And then after the session, they were like, do you want to come back next week and do it again and do some more? And I just got a job at the co-op as well. And I was gassed because I was like, I'm going to save up all my money. And then I'm going to have recording sessions and stuff but I did one day at the co-op went to London the next day your life's going to have to be a star came back for my my second shift and then I spoke to the

boss on the third one because I cried the whole way through my second shift I said look I've got to quit I'm gonna be a pop star I literally said that and he was gonna be a pop star he literally was like he was like okay you could love it that dream sleepy and then I called my manager like I've quit I'm ready to go

I want to be a pop star put me forward for everything I'm so excited oh my god and this is what how many years ago now like three three

and now you've just had the most major year ever it's been the bestest year honestly because you've just been shivers to my toes nominated for Brit's Rising Star Award

that is crazy I'm bloody excited congratulations thank you so much that is epic that's mental Adele was nominated that's fucking

honestly even to be like acknowledged it's just wild I hope we get invited and we're in the background with like in it

boop boop boop boop are you excited I'm so excited we'll be watching you on the telly if we're not there I honestly can't believe it it's a dream I've alwaysop, boop. Are you excited? I'm so excited. We'll be watching you on the telly if we're not there. I honestly can't believe it. It's a dream I've always had.

But it's weird. You know when you think things and then you're like, oh, that would be fun. And now it's happening. Do you think you manifested it very casually then? Because you're like, I'm going to be a pop star. I manifest everything. I manifested being nominated for a Brit Award a year ago. Okay, let's go into this.

Are you a witchy girl? I'm a witchy girl. I'm witchy. I'm witchy as fuck. Crystal girl over here. Like, I am witchy. I'm witchy as fuck. Crystal girl over here. Like I am witchy. Okay, that's nice. Witchy woo.

Let's go into that. I just, I love manifesting. I love stars. I love like believing in like a bigger thing. Astrology. Astrology. I love it all. Like the higher power.

Oh my God. I believe if you're like positive and you're nice to people and you do good things, it all comes back around. Gratitude. Exactly. How to suffer grace. Honestly, be nice to everyone. I can't believe how quickly that happened for you.

How it was literally like one song, one TikTok, a call, a signing with all within a week. Like that is one in a million. Like that's incredible. That's why once I got it, I was like, I have to quit my job and just go full steam ahead. And work so hard. That's like how I will always think though. I'm so driven.

Like I will always want more. Like I'm so happy where I am, but I always want to grow and be better. That's why you're successful. Yeah, because it's a tough game, man. You can't blud because someone else will do it. I want to ask you a bit about this actually, because you obviously,

like Min Melissa said, you're just thrown into this lifestyle. Like how was it meeting all of the people in this industry? Like were you like, I like them, I don't like this. Oh no, fine. I love everyone. You love everyone. I've actually had like the most angelic, beautiful, gorgeous experience with everything. But that's good.

I know. That's because you're a manifesting queen. Good karma, bitch. Yeah. Witchy woo. I'm like, I'm sheltered by like everything. I have the most amazing team around me where like. You're protected.

I'm protected. Yeah. And the second I feel like something's off, they're like, it's gone. Don't worry. Wow. It's good. Shout out to the team.

Honestly. It's true. I love that. And I like how you're so grateful. I am. No, I love their family now. We're not, it's true I love that and I like how you're so grateful I am no I love they're family now it's not even a team

we've got a couple of like pointers here which I feel like are very relevant to your songs okay so when you're writing

because you write your own songs yes that's huge so do you relate them to your like dating and stuff like that

or are they completely like made? No, it's all about real things. It's all about real people and real situations. So if you wrote a song about, let's say like, like a boy you dated or someone you dated a few years ago, and it was like quite toxic, would he be aware of the fact? Would it be quite obvious that you'd written it about him? Yeah, because I'm too specific with it. You would put specific, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's what I mean.

Like here's the day, here's what I was wearing, here's how I was feeling, here's what the weather was like. Have you ever had people who you've dated be like, uh, that song's about me too? Oh, you've written a song about me? Yeah. All the time. What? Tell us! Not all the time, but like, because it's not, it's only about like a few guys.

Sure. But like, I'm too specific with it. Not the long roster. Katie's long roster. The long roster, no, imagine. No, but it's just, just yeah i'm too specific with it and i'm very honest and also i go on the podcast and fucking tell everybody everything literally i love it yeah come on spill the beans don't don't give us some dating situations our

audience are all for that they would love okay so one of my first like biggest bigger songs was a song called friendly sex and basically i was in a situationship with this guy and i've been in a situation with him for like three years and he was like that's a long time i know and he's young like i know and he could situations yeah and i was like i let him walk all over me because i just like adored him oh we've all been there can you just tell the listeners listeners, I know they know, but what is a situation? A situationship is basically you're not together. He can't commit to you. Move on, get over it.

Literally, a situationship, do not waste your time. You are not together. It's so shit. Like I wasted so much time and I'm like, why did I do that? But did you? I loved him so much as well. You know why you did that? Because now you've written six songs about him

innit I got holy pee out of it thank you thank you situation yeah thank you king anyway yeah so a lot of songs

are about him yeah but it's fine it's over now and I feel great and I feel light good yeah you shed it that way

but you said that's like quite a good like way of closure writing a song about someone oh for sure getting it out because I go through this like phase of being like it that way but you said that's like quite a good like way of closure writing a song about someone getting it out because I go through this like phase

of being like it's not about you it's just a song get over it oh yeah like you're so obsessed with yourself it's not about you

I love that put them in there please but then I'm like no it is actually about you it is actually about you yeah it's like I've sat for weeks just writing about you

and then sometimes he'd be like oh like can you stop like doing this like everybody knows it's about me and I'm like, nobody knows who you are. Nobody gives a fuck.

Nobody gives a fuck. No one knows who you are. Nobody gives a flying fresh fuck. Okay? Shut up. Do we not like him? Also, don't be an idiot.

I'm getting like, we don't like him. I was suddenly calm and I'm suddenly enraged. Yeah, that's what happens when you play on those heartstrings. I know.

It's like, to them. I know, I lost the nail because heartstrings. I know. It's like to them. I know. I lost a nail because of it. Cat fight. But no, I'm happy now. Taxes was going to who your family went to for their taxes, only to wonder if that's the best thing for you.

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Must file by April 30th, 2025. Excludes TurboTax full service and desktop. So you have a new mixtape coming out called Still Learning. So we want to know what skills you'd love to learn. I'd love to know how to drive. Oh my God, that's going to be put off when you're being a pop star. How are you going to take the time out to do that? You're just going to have to drive then. You're a pop star now. You could be driven around. That's what I say.

That's what Sarina van der Woersten's mum told her. That's what drivers are for. Why on earth do you need to learn to drive? God, we've had loads of reference to gossip. Because I'm rewatching it. It's so relevant to day to day life. It's so relevant. It's so relevant. It's the most unrelatable thing ever, but we like to live in that. We love to live in that. I like to think that I'm,

you know, Serena and blah. Jamie still doesn't drive. I think all the cool people don't drive. Are you calling Jamie cool? I don't think I've ever heard you say that.

All the cool people don't. I'm just trying to give Katie like, don't worry. I don't drive. But I'd quite like to, I have this vision in my brain because everyone like,

all my friends drive me everywhere. I'd quite like to just turn up to the house and be like, boom, boom. Supporting Lizanne. We're going shopping in a nice car be like come on you can come have that in the passenger with me it's really fun it's dangerous no i'd love that i i make sure my well is signed every time i get in that car with her it's genuinely you're not a good driver no no almost killed a pedestrian today concentrations man no i'm the concentration span. No, I'm the same. Yeah, doo-doo. Doo-doo-da-da-da. Yeah, all over.

Fifteen conversations all the time. Oh, yeah, yeah. You know? A hundred percent. I also have a question about what it's really like at the Brits. Like, give us some inside scoop. Like, do you go to, like, an after party? Yeah.

Like, tell us everything. So, I went to the Brits last year. And I am normally very out there and very very like sorry it's flu season guys so that's such a good way of like getting you know it's awkward and then people don't say anything anyway flu season everybody sorry um yeah normally I'm very like extroverted and I feel very like confident but when I went to the Brits last year, it was the first time I've ever felt like, shit, holy fuck.

Like I was sat at this table just like in a dress that was literally, I was naked like here and here and here. I looked amazing, but I was just like. Are you on a table with people that you know or you put with a bunch of strangers? No, so half of them are people that you know. Fine, fine. That would make occasion feel more

comfortable as long as i'm with my manager i don't really care where i am yeah she's my left arm i'm fine but it was amazing like harry styles was near me my jam i turn around and she just sat there like honestly she's blown at the knees how dare she even like breathe exist looking like that honestly it's sickening. But it was great. And then after a few glasses of wine and some very... The confidence. Small portions of food, I was fine.

But it was a really, really good night and I made some really, really good friends. Oh my God, that's gorgeous. Did you go to the after party? Were you really starstruck by somebody? Obviously Harry Styles. I mean, I don't really get starstruck. I just get a bit like

the world's a simulation sort of thing. I'm like, none of this is real. So you talked to us about this year, how excited are we? I know. Well, it's the first year that I'm nominated. Mega. I know. So the outfit's got to be your extra.

I mean, I have the most amazing stylist who always puts me in the most amazing things, but I'm going to go extra full send for the red carpet. You've got to go full send. I know. I want to do some sort of like fairy godmother look but like you know the L plate thing that I've got going on

with the the mixtape I want to have like an L plate like down oh cool and like a little wand and just be like so

you're going on a big tour a big fat fuck off tour you're a full pop star I'm not a full pop star on a tour bus you don't do groupies yet? No.

But who comes on the bus with you? Just my... Your friend? My band. Oh, fine. Some of my friends will come this time, I reckon. So where are you touring? Everywhere.

Give us some names. Okay. The big cities. Manchester. Yes. Woo. Woo. Leeds.

Yes. Southampton. Bristol. Going back to jail. Well, maybe we should go and revisit some... Whoa. Whoa. Leeds. Yes. Southampton. Bristol. Maybe we should go and revisit Southampton. And then I think London is the next day after Southampton.

London would be great. London would be there. No, that's obviously you're coming to London. I'm playing Hammersmith on Friday the 19th of April and you'll be there. Yeah, we will be.

Honestly, it's going to be you're going to actually lose your mind. You're going to lose your mind. Honestly. I'm losing my mind already. I'm so excited. So we're doing our tour.

Shut the fuck up. For newlyweds in the same location venue that weekend. So you better come to that. Are you? What? This is dream to you. This is actually. Do you know what I think?

I think we're all connected somehow. What's it called? The invisible string theory. Have you heard of this? No. Okay, I'm probably going to explain it in a really, really bad way. But you know when you just like, like know of people

and you bump into people and you're all like connected in some sort of way? I've had it with so many people recently. Okay, Kuti. Hello. We're going to give you some dilemmas because you're a wise, wise owl.

She's a witchy-woo, wise owl. I'm a witchy-woo, wise owl. And we want you to help our listeners with their serious dilemmas yeah do you want to read the first one out brash okay hey sophie melissa last summer me and my boyfriend and a group of friends went to glastonbury together love that it was one of the highlights of my summer and a weekend which i thought i'd look back at with good memories for the rest of my life me and a group of group of my girl me and my girl group

decided to get all disposable cameras to take found photos whilst we were there. I was lazy and only got my film developed last week. I was sorting through them and printed the photos and didn't remember taking any of them.

I was in some of them, but the film definitely wasn't mine. Oh, as in like she'd taken someone else's film. So it wasn't her camera. Oh. And then I realized that I must have accidentally swapped cameras with another one of my friends. What started off as a nice walk down memory lane

looking back at our time away turned into my worst nightmare. As one of the photos I came across was one of my friends kissing my boyfriend. What the hell? Neither my friend or my boyfriend what the hell neither my friend or my boyfriend have mentioned it I'm so confused as to why my friend hasn't tried to get the camera back if she'd known that that photo was taken I didn't pick anything suspicious I didn't pick up anything suspicious whilst we were at Glastonbury or since I'm trying to excuse it wasn't as it was as it as

a drunken mistake but I've been second guessing myself non-stop and just want to know the truth what do I ask first my friend or my boyfriend it's been eating me up and I need to know what happened this is mental I wonder how many weeks have passed just said a few weeks had passed sorry no no oh no hold on Glastonbury was in June like we're now this is months away sorry not the girlfriend. Sorry, they must have been loose to be like, let's take a snap about cheating. Let's get some evidence.

And then give it back to the... Also, the fact that she hasn't tried to get the camera back, I think it's pretty obvious that they don't even have any recollection of that happening. I think that makes it a little less shady that they're not being like, it would make me think, oh, maybe it was just really drunk. But also, no matter how

fucked up I've ever been if I kissed my best friend's boyfriend I would remember 100% I would just not do that I would not do that either I would never do that oh no it's terrible who do you ask first I would ask it depends I would call my boyfriend

the first thing I would accuse my boyfriend and I would be really upset with my best friend I don't know if I'd be able to talk to the best friend about it I would call my boyfriend. I'd say, go out for a nice dinner. The first thing I would accuse my boyfriend and I would be really upset with my best friend. I don't know if I'd be able to talk to the best friend about it. I would get information from the boyfriend first and understand what his side of the story would be.

I would make them think they're both like... Yeah, what would you do? Come on. I would like go for a nice dinner or invite them both around or invite all the friends around and be like,

guys, what's this? And then just put the photo in front of them. Oh my God, just put the photo. What's that? Or like make them laugh, like do a joke and then they're like, ha ha ha's this? And then just put the photo in front of them. Oh my God, just put the photo. What's that? Or like make them laugh, like do a joke and then they're like, ha ha ha,

catch them off guard and just put it in front of them and be like, what the fuck is that? Oh my God, you are a boss. No time to panic, no time to think. They just have to go, fuck. You know what's also good? They don't have enough time to like cross over the story. Do you want to join this podcast?

That's the sort of advice we need. They don't have enough time to conjure up a story and like back up themselves. Yeah, yes, yes. You ask them questions and they don't know what the right answer is. You have to just tell them the truth. They have to give you the correct answer there and then.

I would also get another witness. I'd also do it in front of everybody. Yeah, get another witness. Yeah, let's nail them to the ground. Yeah, like if you could take a picture of it and then I print it off and you've not told me about it, then I will get all of our friends together and we'll have a lovely dinner and I'll embarrass you.

And then we can talk about it. And then tell you guys can you all leave. But then would you do we think ultimately this is going to end in a dumpable offence? I do.

I'd never get over that. Neither. I don't. Depends on the age. But it just also sounds it sounds quite like not that deep. No it sounds like

everybody was really fucked up. It sounds like everyone's really fucked up there's been a photo taken they don't even obviously remember it they've given the camera back to you

they haven't acted shady you haven't picked up on anything and we do have a serious gut sense I feel like there's something going on

and you would know yeah but if you like you could go about it whatever you want but I would personally just be

like what is this I would still be fuming I would still be fuming it's still a dumpable offence for sure

yeah for sure but it's just like where you could not I wasn't there on the night out like what was what were you all up to like do. Yeah, for sure. But it's just like where... You could not... I wasn't there on the night out. Like, what was every... What were you all up to?

Yeah. Do you know what I mean? I think it's so age relevant. I'm sorry, but I do. Like, if they... If it was like a young thing going to class and you're all going far top, like, I just think that sort of shit could happen.

But like, if that were to happen now and I saw Jamie kissing my best friend... I'd be like, you're done. Both of you are out. You know what I mean yeah imagine that me and Jamie

on the space what is this guys but do you know what I mean yeah totally I would say I would say

I'm gonna give you an age bracket it's also like just the vibe of the friendship group like you know when it becomes like last week

is kind of like loosey-goosey place so I don't know but I don't know I But I don't know. I'm trying to think if Toby was kissing one of my, like, my girlfriends from, like, from school.

They all went to Glastonbury. I'm like, fuck off. Okay, right. No. You've got to do what Katie stressed it. I think it's an excellent idea, guys. To just, like, invite them over, cook a lovely dinner,

be so nice. Oh, we haven't seen each other for a minute. Oh, you get them all over to the house? Have a catch up have some wine then be like sick guys

no you powerpoint presentation click and then it just it projects onto the wall oh we should do like a 2023 rap that's what she should do here's my 2023 rap

of the year like here's what's going on so I went to Glastonbury had a great time next slide here's my outfit here's my nana next slide

my best friend kissing my boyfriend I can't wait it's so Regina George cost me it's so excellent okay right next one

next dilemma that was great really great piece of advice help help help I'd been with my boyfriend for six years and I love him so much we went on a weekend

away and both got very drunk we had drunk sex which was fun but a bit of a blur but the next morning when we woke up, my boyfriend was a bit off with me.

I asked him what the matter was, and he told me that I'd said his best friend's name whilst we were having sex. What's going on with all these best friends and like... Yeah, something's in there. As soon as he said this, I remembered it happened, but I have no idea why I was thinking of his best friend at that specific moment in time.

Also, did Ben say it? No, no. It's quite a bit much. I can't bear it. Oh, that's really shit. I've never thought of his friend like that. I apologise for my boyfriend and I have tried to reassure him, but what can I do to show that it was an honest mistake

and that I don't actually want to shag his mate? Should I tell you a story? Yes. Right. Don't tell me you said you've done that. No, no, no. You're gonna die, right? The only way is Essex

where I teach it. When I was at uni with my ex we were having sex and I was very drunk and I called him Rick from TOWIE who was going out

with Jess Wright. Rick. I don't even remember that. What's his name? Rick. Ricky. Ricky. I do remember him.

But I kept doing it. He was like what the fuck, Sophie? And I was obviously. What's his name? Rick. Ricky. Ricky. I do remember him. But I kept doing it. Like he was like, what the fuck, Sophie? And I was obviously so drunk. Uni days, travels, woo. And I kept calling him Ricky. Yeah. Ricky was not a vibe at all.

But do you know what I mean? I did not fancy Ricky at all. So I kind of like, I'm like, poor you. Just drunk. Sometimes it's in the back of your head. Sometimes it just comes forward. I watched The Only Way Is Essex that day.

And it was in your mind. She probably looked at Instagram. Also, I know this isn't the same thing, but you know when you were at school and you'd call your teacher mum? Oh, yeah. Or dad. Or love you.

Yeah. Things happen. I would do the love you, yeah. I'd always go, mum. Yeah, same. And they'd be like, what? Sometimes I'd call my boyfriend my brother's name if I've just been with my brother.

And then I'm around him and I'm like, oh, Will. And I'm like, oh, Toby. Yeah. Sometimes that happens. I mean, these things do happen. It is very peak and it's very shit that you were drunk and like on a nice weekend away.

You just have to keep convincing him. And you know what I would do? This is just me. I would then like one of like another like friend that you have or like another like someone that's completely unthreatening to your relationship, I would then maybe on purpose accidentally call him that name,

not in a sexy vibe though. So like, oh, such and such. And then be like, I don't know what's going on with me. So I just keep saying random people's names. Yeah. I'm just pretending like it's something. I'm so ditzy. I'm just so ditzy.

I don't know what's going on with my brain. I'm just brain fog, babe. I don't think it's that deep. He just needs to go over it. He just needs to go over it. But lots of reassurance would be like, I honestly have no idea. I'd be like, I saw, I think it's that deep he just needs to go over it he just needs to go over it but lots of reassurance and be like I honestly have no idea

be like I saw I think it's because I saw a photo but if Toby said so do Sophie when you are in class I'd be like what the fuck

Dilemmathy hey girls I'm studying away at uni and my best friend has just broken up with her boyfriend and I thought she'd be upset about the breakup

but she seemed completely normal and won't talk to me about it. The only thing she said to me is that she didn't want me to let her go home with anyone after a night out. However, since then, she's been sneaking the same boy into our house. I caught him once and told her that it might not be the best idea and she may not be ready and she agreed. But she keeps disappearing on nights out and ends up at his house.

Just to add, this guy is bad news. He's not got a good reputation. His name is sleeping around and not being nice to girls. She says that she doesn't care and that she just doesn't like him. I can tell that she does. This is always the way we always think we can sleep with someone.

It doesn't mean anything. I don't know what to do because I don't want it to come across as a needy friend or like I'm being her mum at the same time I don't want her to get hurt is there anything you would suggest I think these situations so I would just let her do it yeah I'm here for you when it all goes wrong there's only so much you can help a friend that happens with my mates all the time I'll be like here's what I think you should do and I'll be honest and say I don't think it's the right thing to do and then they'll be like yeah yeah I know I know but then they do it anyway

but then they do it anyway you have to let people make their own mistakes and then they make the mistakes and they come back and go yeah I shouldn't have done that but then like you want them to make mistakes

otherwise they won't learn otherwise they won't learn and they won't grow yeah exactly and you know it gives people also we've all got to be in it

she's in her destructive era like she doesn't want she's like just getting through it yeah this is literally like just be the shoulder to cry on and bring the rice cream and like snacks

and go to the cinema and eat people yeah and you also wanna I cry on and bring her ice cream and like snacks and go to the dinner and eat pizza. Yeah. And you also want to, I think you want to bring her back down to earth and obviously let her know like, say like, oh, it is just obviously a casual fling. But then you also want her to be able to like give you the good goss. Like, oh, you know what? We actually had some quite wild sex last night.

You want to be able to talk about that with your best friend. So you don't want her to feel like you're judging her. Yeah. You know, it's a fine line, but I feel like you're judging her yeah you know it's a fine line but i get that you're protect like we've all been there we've all been there you just gotta let it happen but like no matter how much you try and help someone like they're the only people that can help themselves totally and if you are too needy and pushy with her she will just pull away from you and then you might end up in the end of your friendship which does happen

so you just blame you when he fucks over you totally she'll be like you put me in a bad head space so you've got to just be there do you know what she's got to be there I know what you mean just be a good friend

okay right the fans are going to be dying to hear some sort of a gossip story or I don't know something's happened to you that's funny or anything just give us something

we know loads of your fans writing about their dating dilemmas have they given you a story that you can anonymously share with our listeners? Yeah, it doesn't have to be about you. Okay, so

this isn't about me. Fine. This is just my friend's story that my friend told me. This happened like a few years ago I was seeing this boy who was like disgustingly gorgeous and like fit. And we had like, it was all amazing and it was great.

Stunning. Right? Yeah, stunning. But one time after we had sex, right? It was just after we finished having sex. He led down on the bed and I was just like, then he goes, Kate, I've got something to tell you and I was like what and he was like I think I'm the chosen one well and I was like what do you mean and he was like well my friend he's a prophet

he told me that I'm the chosen one I just led there and I said sure I said that's hot enough that performance I said I said that's a a that's great for you but he was and then he went on on like a a two hour tangent about how he's the chosen one and how he's been like put on his earth

like Kanye West vibes uh huh oh my god yeah yeah yeah and then and then after that we stopped seeing each other

he was sort of he was like I can't I can't do this I can't do this anymore and I was like okay it's considering he thinks he's the chosen one what does that mean I don't even know he's gonna build an art I don't even know. I can't do this anymore. And I was like, okay. Well, it's considering he thinks he's the chosen one. What does that mean?

I don't even know. He's going to build an art. I don't even know. If he is the chosen one, you shag the chosen one. Maybe that's, maybe he had like some magic. Magic babies. Oh my God, that's really icky for me. I would vomit on him.

I know, the chosen one. And also like, I really fancy him as well. Then he just started. That's such a shame. But he was like, this goes to me. He's like, okay, I really fancied him as well. Then he just started. That's such a shame. But he was like, this goes to me, he was like, okay, I'm dead serious.

I literally went, he was like, I think I'm the chosen one. And I was like, okay. I don't know what I would do if someone started to tell me that. I would literally pat my back.

I would be so icked out. But see, I literally, you've lost your marbles. I know. That is batshit. I don't think I've ever had anything like that the worst thing I've ever had is like someone starting to play like really loud like weird Brazilian music and been like

got and I'm like what is going on and it's quite aggressive music and I'm like this is really don't get it has anyone ever like tried to serenade you? Have you serenaded anyone? Oh, no, no, no. Okay, good. So, question. Family events, birthdays for other people. Do you always sing or are you quite reserved with that? You keep it professional. No.

I'm like... Any opportunity. If there's a mic, don't give it to me because I'll do it. Okay, Katie. You're a songwriter, you're a singer, you're a dancer, you're an all-round performer. Uh-huh. Can you create a theme tune for Wednesdays?

What, you want me to make one right now? Yeah, there is one. Yeah, please. It's just a royalty. No, no pressure. Just on the spot, if you can. Let's just let those creative juices do their thing. We're really putting you on the spot.

Yeah, should we look away? I'm really excited now. No, no, no, no, no. Oh, we'll look at you. Look at I'm really excited now no no no oh we'll look at you look at me okay so all eyes um

can you give me a beat shall I write you a rap oh yeah okay go on Ben you give a beat in the mic yeah

yeah yeah yeah yeah oh what it's Wednesday it's the Wednesday's podcast Wednesday Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, what? It's Wednesday. It's the Wednesday's podcast. Wednesday.

It's the Wednesday's podcast. What? Send in your dilemmas, bitch. Send in your dilemmas, bitch. If you're in a situation, shit. Send in your dilemmas, bitch. It's the Wednesday's podcast. What?

What? Wednesday's podcast. That was a sheet. Possibly some of my bestest work ever. Oh my God. Copyright that right now. Sending you down on this, bitch. We love that.

Katie, you've been so amazing. Thank you so much. You've been such a dream. I love you. So fun. So fun. I love her. That was so fun.

I think she's, like, she really could sit on this sofa and become part Wednesday. She was giving some solid advice. Solid advice. She just,

inspirational woman. I really liked the whole, like, sit them down and put the photo in front. That was bad cop, good cop vibes. No,

it's like, yeah, like, be a bit more sass. It was lured off vibes. We don't always have to be like playing by the book. We're way too boring and adult. We need to just be a bit more sassy.

We need a little bit more Blair Waldorf in our lives. A bit more Katie Beza. Can you tell that she's re-watching Gossip Girl at the moment? Because honestly, that's a reference to Gossip Girl. Sorry, but it's just so good. We need a bit more like... Katie Beza in us. Manipulation in our bones.

We do just a little bit more finesse. A bit more sass. Not so vanilla. I'm bloody excited to go to her tour. Do you think we're going to go backstage with her? I really hope we're going to invite her. I'm going on the tour bus if she doesn't let me. Oh my god, the tour bus I bet will be so exciting.

Same. She's a real vibe. I like her a lot. Guys, I hope you enjoyed it. So good. Love you. Bye. Bye. day same she's a real vibe like her a lot guys i hope you enjoyed it so good love you bye taxes was going to who your family went to for their taxes, only to wonder if that's the best thing for you. NowTaxes is getting expert help for $20 if you're 25 or younger, so you can be 100% sure your taxes are 100% accurate and you get your most money back guaranteed. Now this is taxes. Into it TurboTax. File now at TurboTax.ca.

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