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Episode Date: March 27, 2024

Hey Tinies,Sophie and Melissa are straight into the studio from a house viewing… have the Laings finally found their dream home?And they’re hopping into your dilemmas. We’ve got a potential quarter life crisis to dive into, some advice on how to get yourself out of a rut, and the big one this week comes from one Tiny whose friends stay went HAIRY… (and may or may not have involved a certain intimate toy).Keep those dilemmas coming!Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsExec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pSocial Media: @thechampagency Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Restrictions apply. See full terms at canada.casino.fandu.com. Please play responsibly. Hello, it's me, Jamie Lang, and I've got a a new podcast and this time there are no gimmicks it's just great company and believe me i tried to get the gimmicks in maybe i should do it naked or we could do it in the dark because the thing is i realized the reason i love podcasts so much is because they're a great way to connect with people and all I need is great guests and you the great listener it's great company with me Jamie Lang out now

Melissa are you a doctor uh I want to be but I I'm not. I'm not a doctor either, and we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts at anything. In fact, we just challenge all the shit. And we love giving you guys advice. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody,

please seek professional help. Hello, lovely people. People of Genovia. The Princess of Genovia. That was good. God, what happened? That was meant to be Princess Diaries 2. I don't see it on my TV.

There's been two or three. I mean Princess Diaries 3. Oh, where's the Princess Diaries 3? They announced it and got cancelled today. Sorry, we are in. That is so weird. I didn't know that. Why were we saying Princess of Genovia?

Right, we just, Melissa comes on, we start talking about Princess Diaries. God, our brains. That is spooky McSpeak-sense. So, why, Ben? Julie Andrews, the Queen, has said that the talks are stalled and that she doesn't think it's going to happen.

That's in the third movie. It's a tragedy. Right. We've just like, we've had a blast, haven't we? So I was actually thinking of that film. I watched it, The Wanderlust. Yeah, Wanderlust is so good. And then she ends up marrying Justin Theroux.

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. He was fit. He was fit. I listened to his podcast. Melissa doesn't know who Luther is I know but anyway I listened to

you showed me him I don't recognise him at all are you bewildered at that or is it just me but where would I have heard of him

like what your parents he's like what's he on he's just so famous like what he's a documentarist and he's just huge

I love documentaries. Have I not fucking seen? You will. Melissa, you will love his documentaries. He has one on everything. I just remember

David Attenborough, gal. No, he's like really quirky and just wonderful. Just 10 out of 10 guy. Anyway, his,

his twin or cousin is Justin Theroux. Very different characters. And so he had him on Louis This three's podcast justin three came on yeah oh my god mental i really do want to touch on it like why does jennifer anderson never seem to like be able to like because to me she's one of my favorite people

ever ever ever she's a wonderful human every movie that she's in i will watch and love it will be my favorite movie for a period of time I also do feel like in the industry. She has a good rep of being a nice person Whereas like there is some people that have a really bad reputation of like not being so nice. She's a great gal, but then Some people just have bad luck could be her she might be like I'm not feeling it. She feels like an independent woman. Yeah Fascinating. Anyway, I wish her and Ross could just get together. That would just be great. Oh, no.

I know, but just to round off the end of her life. Like, let's just have a nice, happy ending. Yeah, you're right, actually. Not the end of her life. Sorry, she's young. That was just really dramatic. But I feel like... What do we mean? For the last innings of a marriage,

let's just maybe try one of the old ones. You know, the romance that almost was me. Were they off they off camera no but they said that they had feelings for each other on like in the reunion they said that they had feelings each other throughout like the whole thing you are having me on being deadly serious right so me and melissa just came from a house yeah we're really excited look i've been looking for a house for so long with Jamie. To the point where I actually just stopped even fucking asking because Sophie's like, don't even, like, don't ask. Anyway, we just found one and you'll never guess where it is.

Eight minute walk from Melissa's. That's a whole box ticked for me. It's honestly the most perfect, gorgeous house. I'm just real excited. I am so excited. Well am so excited we've got to persuade jamie now because he's literally mr impossible but jamie's so tricky to persuade because and his mom i call penny straight away to talk to her about it and she said it's so right like jamie will always want something else so he's always looking for something better he's always

looking for something better he just is not a very good decision maker he'll get things done but once he's in there and you put him in something and he's ripped the bandage off, he's great. And he's like, I love it. And he's fine. He's taking that step in. He's taking that plunge. His mind just can't settle.

He's not very good at commitment. I don't know how he married me. Because he's like, honestly, the worst person at committing to things. Christ alive. I know. I think when we have, when it's the time on you know babies he'll be like oh it's the right time like it's never like too late had it's in the oven yeah oh don't know if i quite want to do this now i don't know if i want to be well

you've got to and then he'll be fine and then he'll be totally fine i'm never worried about what he'll be be like but he he like plays plays with the idea. Is that thing with his mind before it happens? It's like, his mind doesn't stop, so of course it, like, thinks of 89,000 different reasons why that's a bad thing, whereas I just think of the right and the wrong. It's quite a pessimistic point of view. Yeah, he'll also think of 89 reasons why it's the right thing.

It just doesn't stop. He gets fixated on things. So he'll be so fixated on this house now, and then he'll get fixated on the location, and then he'll get fixated on another location, and then it doesn't stop. He gets fixated on things. So he'll be so fixated on this house now. And then he'll get fixated on the location. And then he'll get fixated on another location. And then it doesn't... Right. It's not very rational.

You just need to take the reins at this point. Otherwise, you're going to be living in that flat forever. Yeah, hon. Don't you worry. We're making progress. So it was really, really exciting viewing. We got the feels. Sophie got the goosebumps.

She got the sweats on. I got the sweats. Melissa got the sweats. We just... Yeah, we really liked it. So that that's fingers crossed don't want to jinx anything and then i went to my j well i call her my goddaughter but she's actually jamie's peggy's birthday party at the weekend which was so how old is she she's three it was her third birthday and no no no she was wearing a little blonde wig because she was Elsa I died it was the cutest thing I've ever seen anyway I went and I just thought god I'm so excited for us like our age my friends because obviously all Jamie's friends have done it now most of them are like their second baby I just thought god I'm so excited for us to all do it

and they've all done it together that's nice to go into that stage of life with other people you really think we're going to be different ages because we are different ages we're not there's two years in us hun i know but you're with an older man and i'm with a man that's like not really a tiny bit jamie well i know what you mean very similar ages you're married you were engaged at my age do you know what i mean that's not happening for me for like another four years But you're married, you were engaged at my age. Do you know what I mean? That's not happening for me for like another four years. So if you're willing to wait for me, I always say this,

at my wedding, all of my bridesmaids will be pregnant. And also my hen, I don't want people being like, I can only come to the lunch because I'm so heavily pregnant. I'm like, all right, well, I was there non-pregnant for yours. So please. I'll schedule in. Toby Toby if you're listening you need to propose so we can schedule in when I can get around Melissa's wedding and my sister who's the same she might be pregnant she's probably gonna be pregnant with her second yeah Hermione probably pregnant with her first you and Hermione I reckon will be pregnant at the same time I'm literally in Spain at my dad's and I just got really excited about having a baby anyway.

I text Melissa, like, so excited. I just can't wait for, like, to take them to my dad's place in Spain and for him to, like, hold my child's hand. Melissa just goes, I'm crying. She was so upset. I know when I got really overwhelmed. I think it's because Hermione was, like, engaged

and, like, talking about her wedding and they had just moved out of London. Sophie's obviously got married last year and then you were talking about babies and I just got really overwhelmed and I was like I'm at such a different stage to all my friends and they're all gonna be having babies and then we're not gonna be friends anymore and like you're really not I just don't want things to change also my sister's like all of her friends have like kids who are like two three now and she feels so involved and it's not if your kids are all under five together you're they're growing up the same age fine like they're all gonna be I think it's also the thought of like people moving out of London freaks me out that's not

happening you're not gonna happen that's fine I'm down the bloody road I feel so much better about you having kids because you're down the road I know you'll be there the whole time because I can just come over because when you're obviously a mum and you're you're you're freshly looking after kids you probably don't leave the house as much which is so understandable so you'll be there if i was like oh do you want to meet me for a quick lunch in like marylebone or something you'd be like i've got to stay at home with the kids no worries i'll pop down the road i think we'll be really similar mums i think really chilled really chilled but then there's also a part of me that i know that

i'll be this is something that i still have slight I would say it's a slight actually a health anxiety for my future child, going to another kid's house. I genuinely think about when I, because I keep thinking about when I'm going to get pregnant, right? And I keep like fantasizing about that I'm pregnant. So I walk down the street and I'm like, I get nervous at the thought of me walking through people's smoke. Tell me about your weekend then.

Family. So I had a gorgeous birthday for my grandma, her 85th. It was very wholesome. So sweet. When was that, on Sunday? It was actually on Friday. Made champagne. No, no, no. A lovely cake, like the whole family was there. It was really fun. She was on great form. Parents there too? Yeah, yeah. Everyone was there. And my sweet grandad was dressed up really nice. He was in a little waistcoat when he was on Great Form. No, you can't.

Grandma gets a lot of air time. Also, Grandma, hello. I know she'll be listening to this. She listens to everything. Yeah, I hear so much about your grandma. She always messages me like, love the episode. It could do with some less swearing there. And I'm like, God, I know.

I'm so sorry. I know. Right, okay, we're going to do it for Melissa's grandma. We really need to do this. Shout out to Julie. What did you get her? We got her from the family we got her like a huge picture frame with like loads of different photos and of like us and like

her and my granddad over the last like few years i think that's a wonderful five big no or seven or eight big pictures in it and then some neon bits and bobs gorgeous we love neon yep just some nice low toxin organic bits you know wow i mean with my grandma listening but ben's just asking our producer just asked me to touch on this is there anything i'm slightly embarrassed about basically that i know that my grandma basically everything i talk about yeah you're pretty you're pretty open i'm very open last week i was watching the clip back and i was talking about me having a one-night stand and i literally fell asleep last night having slight anxiety about the fact that i've actually put that on this podcast.

I'm like, the whole world's had a one night stand. I know. Apart from me. No jokes. I know. People freaking love the honesty. There's no one night. Also, I have had a one night stand.

That's cool. That was a one night stand. A one night stand is, I guess, something different to sleep. In my mind, sleeping with someone once is kind of a one night stand. Yeah, me too, me too, me too. It's not like I didn't, like he was like a complete bonking stranger from yeah i mean but still some people like wake up and they just don't don't even know the name they're like that was a good shot oh god people do that a lot i know i wish fascinating fascinating not the not the body

counts is important because i don't really think that it is like you just live your life the way you want to fucking live it you know what i mean but I was with one of my guy friends and we were talking about body counts and he looked at me and he went you've oh grandma shut your ears you've definitely slept with a lot of people and I was like excuse this is Julius Caldry he was like that to me wait when when when he's like I don't know why you just look like that and I was like are you like what are you saying and then I told him my number he's like oh my god you're an angel from heaven above I'm not gonna say out my number is but I can count it it spills over to the other hand a little bit Sophie's one hand mine spills over to the other hand but we're like honestly like I'm a loser

really let's be honest I'm embarrassed I've been in a relationship my whole life basically I've never been single so that's why you'm using one. You basically had two relationships, which is fricking mental. No, I had one little snippet in the middle. Yeah, I mean, yeah. I would just never... I just don't think I'm that flirty. I also just think it depends on the circumstance. Like, sometimes you fall into that habit because you're single for a bit longer,

and sometimes you fall into a relationship so you just don't. And I'll tell you why I didn't. This is the honest truth, because I was on a fucking show called Made in Chelsea, and you cannot date whilst you're on that. Oh, you sometimes you fall into a relationship so you just don't. And I'll tell you why I didn't. This is the honest truth because I was on a fucking show called Made in Chelsea and you cannot date whilst you're on that. Oh, you can't.

They don't let you date. So I was single on that. It's literally in a contract that you can't date people really off the show. Yeah. So that's why... Well, you can,

but you have to then bring them on. And then you have to be secret and then you'll lie to them and then you get caught and then it'll all be... Yeah, so it's actually... That is why Made in Chelsea is so insatiable because everyone just tumbles over the same people in that small,. Yeah, so it's actually, that is why Main Chase is so incestuous.

Because everyone just tumbles over the same people in that small, small circle. So it's all kind of filmed. Which I totally get because it makes for great TV. It makes for great TV. Easter weekend, what are you doing? Well, I'm skiing. But then I'm actually coming back. For Easter?

For Easter weekend and I'm going to be with Toby's family, I think. Gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous. We'll be quite close to each other. Oh my God, are you going to be with Toby's family I think gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous we'll be quite close to each other oh my god are you going to be in the club? I'm going to be at Penny's but then I'm going on Friday night spending Friday night with Chrissy and Archie at Maison Estelle or Estelle Manor gorgeous

so Chrissy was one of my bridesmaids she's one of my best friends and Melissa's now basically best friends of all my best friends. Oh my God, sweet angels. They invited me. So Sophie and Jamie dropped out because they had to do something else. So then Toby and I got the call off and we were so excited. So we had lunch.

Sophie's four of her best friends. I know. Without her. And I was like, this is actually really nice. It was amazing. And then they cooked all these pies from scratch. Then she started kneading all this dough. And he was putting this dough in the pizza oven outside.

They were making flatbreads, for starters. It was phenomenal. I will host lots in my new house. Yeah. I like hosting, but I prefer being a guest. I prefer being... I do like hosting, but I prefer being a guest. No, you know what?

I think I really like hosting when I actually get... I often get jealous of the host. I also, like, I'm not that good with small talk. Like, obviously not to you guys. I know, I'm kind of the same. And also, my social batteries actually get drained really quickly. And then I'm like... You're talking to the queen.

There's people that are in my house and I've got no chat left. Yeah. But then if you're the host, you just start cleaning away. Or you're constantly doing things. My mum always said this because I used to be like god we used to host so much my mum I loved it

because I just would always be in the kitchen didn't have to talk to anyone and I obviously like you will come talk to me but like you imagine like there's times you're going to host people

who you're not that best friends with oh yeah and then that becomes an effort unless you're like my best mate I'm small talking

yeah so true although I'm like jamie says i have no small talk i go straight in for the kill there's no part of me that'll be like so how should we like it doesn't come naturally to me there's also some people that give you nothing back with small talk so it'd be like how's your evening yeah all right not bad and there's some people that will go into the whole itinerary and tell you every detail and i quite like people like that i'm like that gives me so much background into who you are and what you do detail detail detail right so we could dig into the dilemmas because we could chat all day

dilemma one I feel like I'm going through a quarter life crisis I'm 25 I feel so young and I've been my boyfriend for nine years we recently moved in together and I can't help but feel like I'm going through a quarter-life crisis. I'm 25. I feel so young. And I've been with my boyfriend for nine years. We recently moved in together, and I can't help but feel like I'm being sucked into the life of marriage and kids, and I'm really not ready for that. I know my boyfriend doesn't want that either, but we're from a small rural town, and it seems everyone around us is getting married and starting families.

This is kind of a high-five when you tell me you were looking forward to having kids. So I've decided to go traveling. This is me. We are the same person. You were like, I'll probably you were looking for time yes so i've decided to go traveling this is me we are the same person you're like i'll fucking go to australia i was like i need to go traveling or something i need to find myself you would have caught a weird moment it literally lasted a few months however my boyfriend doesn't want to go with me i get it's a big commitment to leave for a few months but i asked him to join me for a couple of weeks and he said no he doesn't want to travel with me full stop. Loser. He said he wants to go on his own to Australia for six months to a year and that he doesn't want me to go with him.

Okay, sorry, this has taken an enormous turn. This has made me really question our relationship as to why he would want to go on his own and why he would want to leave me for all that time. I fucking agree. I'm worried for you. I can't help but time. I fucking agree. I'm worried for you. I can't help but find it really hurtful. I am hurt for you. I am hurt for you. I've also decided that I want to move to London when I get back from traveling,

as lots of my close friends live there, but he can't come as he works on his family farm and doesn't want to move to the city. I feel like we're on different paths and that I would be sacrificing a lot of things to try and make our relationship work. But has it reached its natural end? And should I discover life as an adult without him?

Yeah. I think so. I know that's a really... That's reached a complete natural end. It's saying it quite... I feel like we've been quite cold with that because nine years is a really long time, but... No, but nine years you're a child

and then at 25 you're now becoming an adult. You're different people and some people grow together and some people grow apart. You're different people and some people grow together and some people grow apart and you're completely growing apart. He sounds like he's going to live on this farm for the rest of his life

and you want different things. He doesn't want to go travelling with you in the first place. And where do you want to go? He wants to go to Australia by himself for a year. Sorry. You don't want to be with me then.

That for me is no, no, no. You don't want to go to London with me but you want to go to fucking Australia. Sorry. That to me is a dumpable offense. I'd be like, for what reason? What's grounds? Sorry, if Toby said to me I want to go to Australia He? That to me is a dumpable event. I'd be like, for what reason? What's grounds? Sorry, if Toby said to me

I want to go to Australia, I don't need to come. He basically said I want to have a break for a year. I want a cool pass for a year. That's what he's saying. Don't put up with that. I think you really need to focus on your own life and what you want. And if he comes back from Australia after a year and is like, this is made me realise, I want to move to London,

make this work, be with you. Great, if you're still in that place where you want to be with him and maybe that's a good amount of time for you guys to be apart, but you're going to sacrifice your life to what? Stay in the countryside for him to then leave and go to Australia. And you're just going to twiddle your thumbs whilst he's halfway... Waiting for him.

You can't do that. Listen, you guys have just grown apart. You will always care for him you might like whatever but you need to spread your wings now

totally and like if you're worried about it I always think with these things that you might move back to the country with him like nothing's forever

that helps people make those decisions that are scary if you think nothing's forever because it isn't also you can move to London and actually after two years as Sophie said

you might be like actually no this isn't the life I want or you're like thank god i did this and it's the best thing i ever did and i'm done with it now i had the best two years or you're going to be like i'm never leaving london i freaking love it also like i just think in life you don't want to look back and have regrets and be like i wish i did that i wish i did that i wish i didn't do that just do it and then you can all like he's not going anywhere you know what i mean like he's going to australia for a year which to me is enough ever like me too i think we i think you know what you've got to do it's scary

but i promise you you're gonna have the best time you'll feel so independent and empowered and we're here to help you through every step of the way question yeah jamie was like i'm gonna move to australia for a year can you come with me would you go i would probably have to say no we're staying here he's going he's going he's like i'm going with or without you are you coming are you gonna go well i'm married so maybe i would have to bloody hell so if toby was what would you do i would i wouldn't move full-time but i would visit a lot you know what i wouldn't mind moving to australia for a year again it's another thing like i wouldn't look back and have regrets like i've always thought quite fun to move to australia

let him go you know what you mean like a year's nothing you know what it's just so different if he's like i want you to come with me but imagine he was like okay right six months melissa i really need to do this i'm moving to australia and i don't want you to come with me. But imagine he was like, okay, right, six months. Melissa, I really need to do this. I'm moving to Australia and I don't want you to come with me. I really feel like I want to find myself, but I really want us to stay together. Oh, I'd be like, we're over, mate. Yeah, like the fact that you're even considering.

If Jamie's like, I need to move, like it's a calling in life, like he's my husband, so probably I would. If he was like, I'm going to go find myself, I'll be back in six months, I'd be like, we're probably going to get a divorce. Yeah, 100%. I think he's given you myself. I'll be back in six months. I'd be like, we're probably going to get a divorce. Yeah, 100%. I think he's given you a really good ground to bring the conversation up. Like, I think any woman or anyone in your position would be like,

I'm really sorry, but this doesn't sit well with me. Like, I'm not prepared to just sit around for six months while you're off in Australia gallivanting. I feel like there's loads of differences in our lives that we're not compatible in and that's worrying me like we're not we don't have the same outlook on life we don't want the same things at this stage in our life I think ultimately what it sounds like you're quite willing to sacrifice things for him yeah and he's very set on not sacrificing anything for you you've said

you know will you come traveling with me he said no he's refusing to visit you even for a few weeks traveling he's now saying he's gonna go to australia but he doesn't want you to come you're like i want to move to london he's like i'm never fucking doing that i'm staying on my family farm so i'm kind of like it sounds like he's slowly almost making that decision for you anyway it's making it easier for you to have the conversation and um i think he's actually being a coward by not bringing out himself same it's almost like he's pushing you away i want to go to australia by myself but okay well are we gonna then carry that conversation on that we shouldn't be together or are you just gonna leave it like that and wait for me to piece that together and bring it up to you it's fucking annoying actually

so selfish we need to know what happens afterwards so can you keep us in the loop because this is actually quite a big life decision i agree in all aspects we're waiting for you. Wealthsimple's Big Winter Bundle is our best match offer yet. Get a 2% match when you transfer over an eligible RRSP. For a $50,000 transfer, that's a $1,000 cash bonus. Enough to buy a fancy parka. A ticket to somewhere you don't need a fancy parka. Or just be responsible and top up your retirement fund plus move any other eligible account and we'll give you a one percent

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I snooze through my alarms for the gym and because I don't feel great, I feel like I'm pushing my boyfriend away. bloated and unmotivated i snooze through my alarms for the gym and because i don't feel great i feel like i'm pushing my boyfriend away um please can you share your tips how you stay motivated to eat clean gym routine and stay happy i have been here so much i really have if you're in that sort of right you really have to take action because you can just get in a rut where you just just not living your best life i think things like mel robbins listen to her podcast she gives such good great tips great and advice and like some people are

like naturally quite motor i'm a naturally a morning past anyway so i find things really easy and once you get into that routine two days doing it you don't even really think about it after a certain amount of time it's quite weird yeah but I also think I fucking hate the gym gym makes me anxious it makes me feel a bit peculiar I hate it I I would just really not enjoy going I found something that I love I go to this very zen very calming kind of hippie vibe pilates class every day. And I freaking love it. Sophie finds like it sends her to sleep too much. She doesn't. We just like different ways of working out.

It's finding something that works for you. If the gym doesn't work for you, suck it off. Don't force it. Go on a walk. Or do a nice Pilates class at home. There's so many amazing people that do things that you can do at home. Just start with like a 20 minute workout at home. Then go on a walk for 20 minutes.

Gorgeous. I would start by going on a walk yeah listening to a podcast like mel robbins that's a motivator she also has like this five second rule where she literally just says you have to think like a bomb's going off in your bed so you go five four three two one and you just get up you don't give yourself any more time and then you're up and that's how she stops using her alarm yeah so listen to the podcast that give you tips like that and start by doing it by going on a walk it's 40 minutes half an hour podcast you're gonna go on a walk you're gonna get fresh air you're gonna get endorphins you're gonna start feeling fitter and so great your body's gonna move and then gradually you'll want to do something else but even if you're just walking for half an hour a day you're great

i totally agree i also feel like accountability partners is something that's actually been really helpful like for me i had accountability for myself going to these classes because i had paid for them and booked them i was like okay great well i'm not gonna lose that money i must go and then it sort of after a certain amount of time it just becomes slightly second nature and i enjoy it and i love it but i do think there's something you do have to find something you like because if you're not going to like it you know even to the most motivated person in the world you're not going to enjoy it which it needs to be enjoyable and then you'll go on to the next thing i really think walking is such a

great thing it's so underrated and doing it in fresh air like you don't have to pay for a gym membership you can get up and do that anywhere you are and it makes you feel so good it grounds you and like using that time to listen to a podcast like mel robbins will give you those tips and then you're just going to go from strength to strength i really feel like that's a really key piece i also feel like it's quite nice having an amazing morning ritual that you love like i wake up i scrape my tongue go downstairs I put a huge tablespoon of coconut oil in my mouth oil pull for like 15-20 minutes I unload reload the dishwasher I wipe down the surface and I start making my coffee which is kind of a slow process because

it's like a coffee press thing I get all my vitamins out I go on my laptop get my emails up and then spit the oil out brush my teeth have my coffee have my nuts whatever and I just I can't describe I look forward to it I go to bed the night before being like I just can't wait for that in the morning that so I get out of bed like excited for it and then I'm like oh I know I've got my lovely pilates class I'm going to walk there for an hour I'm quite time rich so doing that for me is a huge part of like me feeling sane and I walk there and sometimes the weather's shit and I'm fine with it and I listen to a podcast or I FaceTime a friend like you have to develop your own like little things that like make you happy and like small things

can do that don't you think yeah I will say mine's rushed I've got like an hour every day so you get up early and you get there I get up early and i feel like shit and i quickly have an espresso and go to the gym sophie's a busy girl my mornings are not like i'll probably have till 8am so i've got a gym before then because then my day started running away with so it's not that enjoyable but what i will say is i really like it because i'll get up and i'll have like loads of texts with my friends or voice notes from like Chrissy or someone. So if he goes off her phone like 9pm, she's a goner. I'm a goner.

So I'll save them for the morning. This is a new thing from Soph. Yeah. I'm really not on my phone. Sometimes I'll randomly get a reply at like 10.30 and I'm like, oh. Yeah. But other than that, the phone's gone. Otherwise, the phone's gone.

And I literally save them for the morning because this is why. I go to the gym and then I do weight training. So between like things I'll just I'll listen to another voice note and then I'll reply so it's like you're doing your emails I also feel like I'm doing a task because I've cleared through my whatsapps so I really look forward to that and I like listen backload all my friends text I'll have loads of voices to listen to and also if not I will listen to a really good podcast and I really enjoy that you feel so also, if not, I will listen to a really good podcast. And I really enjoy that. You feel so good.

Every girl has felt like this. 100%. Just don't even. Don't beat yourself up. And don't compare yourself to your boyfriend. Because honestly, there's going to be times where you're both. Also, boys wake up with testosterone wakes up men. And Toby in the morning bounces off the fucking wall.

He's like, noodles, how did you sleep? In my face, in my face sleep in my face in my face in my face Jamie's the same I'm like what's wrong with you I'm I look forward to the mornings I do not wake up

with that same like I'm bouncing off the walls and I also think coming into summer it's better because we've got we're waking up natural light

circadian rhythm all that stuff winter I wake up an hour later I wake up at 8 8.30 in winter summer I wake up at 7 because the sun

naturally wakes me up so I think that definitely has a part to play and that's okay yeah you're so right i have to wake up feeling like the most you know energetic person on the planet and if i compared myself with my energy or my motivation to jayme i'd be in a world of pain because he's so i'm just not in the same breadth of but i get also what she's saying because she is just like i don't feel great about myself which then in turn which i get it it yeah i so we've all been there like even when i've had a spot on my face i'm like i feel shit about myself and then i'm mean to toby same if i feel like i don't want to be around you i'm in a bad mood same yeah so i totally resonate with that and you know we all go through it and

it's fine too yeah it's fine too i also think it's fine to be honest about it just be like i just really feel really shit about myself sorry if i'm in bad mood. And then they're so nice to you. And then they're like, oh, don't worry about it. And you're like, look, I'm working on it. But I just, this is just how I'm feeling. I think being honest is a good way of. Same. Once you've said it out loud, it doesn't feel as crazy, does it?

Because otherwise they're like, what have I done wrong? And I will be like, oh, it's not you, it's me. But then you just have to explain to them because they're not mind readers. Totally, totally. We send you so much love. Love you so much. And we've all been there, so really don't beat yourself up over it.

One of my long-term friends kindly offered to look after my cat and stayed over at the flat whilst I was away. I'm a bit of a clean freak, so before she arrived, I cleaned my place from top to toe and made it sparkling ready for her stay. That's so nice.

Lovely. When my boyfriend and I got home, all looked it fine but on closer closer inspection it wasn't great there were food splatter marks all up the kitchen walls there were crumbs on the floor the handles and switches were greasy there was a huge stain on my sofa and hair was everywhere what she's had parties and people round and not cared the hell some people have real bad cleanliness problems no no so i decided to insert things closer and while looking in the bathroom i found pubes out the shower wall and to my horror she had used my razor no i know that because i left it in a different place That's really

Really really really unhygienic Like you can literally like transfer Like all sorts of god knows what And the razor like that's not good It gets worse I decided to look at my bedroom drawer And pulled out my bullet No I don't believe it It's like a sorprey lube

Which I do not have so she definitely used it while she was saying that. Didn't even wash it. No! We've had quite a lot of dilemmas like this. This seems to be a reoccurring... God, how horny are these girls? Why do people think it's okay to use someone else's fucking vibrator? I've had to throw away my bullet and razor,

but I feel like my privacy has been completely invaded. I also had to pay and get in professional cleaners because it was just too dirty. She asked if she could stay again when I go away, but what do I say? Do I confront her or not say anything and just make excuses that she's unable to say? I'm really sorry,

but that would be the end of our friendship. I really don't mean to be mean, but if you stayed at my house and put anyone staining my sofa would be worse than the poofs. The poof. No, no, no. Listen, listen.

You know what? The stain on the sofa, these things happen. She should have been honest. I'd be so annoyed. I know I would be annoyed. I wouldn't be grossed out. And if she was like, I fucking stained your sofa. I'm so sorry.

I will pay for it to get fixed. Yeah, but if she didn't say anything, there's hairs everywhere. Not saying something is really bad. I mean, the mess and the filth. We can't always expect people to be as clean as us you could that's just something that is life but the pubes in the shower there's no excuse for that it's all really weird why is she not covering it up no but the the vibrator there's just really there's there's absolutely nothing anyone can say to make that okay and there's nothing that she can say to make it really depends on age because actually i'm looking back at it and like when i was younger like i would share braces with my friends like i'm talking like when i was like on holiday with my mate

there is no part of me that a vibrator like no i would be horrified joking a bullet as well feels worse than a dildo it's so small and just like it's really got in there. It's also with a strawberry lube. Like wash it! You sicko. Don't use it in the first place! No, but if you are, just cover your tracks. I know.

This is another thing. It's almost like she doesn't give a fuck about being found out. It's almost like she's like really enjoyed the stay. Can I come again? Ugh. What? So you can use my vibrator again? I'm also just like with the hairs that she needs to cover,

I'm picturing like, pubes hairs everywhere. I'm almost then thinking, is it a boy? Like, to have that many pubes, would it be a boy? No, because a boy's water is he putting the bullet up his arsehole? That's wrong. No, no, as in she's had a boy over and they've used the bullet to get out there. And then the boy's had a shower and given himself a trim. Because I feel like when a girl

shaves you're under the shower right let's just logistically go through this you'd be under the shower it's like one of those places like that's like it's a trimmer someone's been in there with a trimmer yeah that's why she doesn't know about it and that's why there's pubes all up the walls and the boy obviously didn't think to push the bullet and she was just having the time of her life he shoved it in there this makes freaking sense because why was she as a girl and he was they were getting a bit drunk they splattered some pasta sauce up the wall yeah yeah yeah we're in a stunning place for free i mean where's the cat at this point if only the cat had eyes the boy has been there we've solved the mystery she's had a bit of a crazy week and she's got a bit drunk and she's used your vibrator

and used your razor in preparation like shit he's coming over I forgot my razor gonna use hers right it makes sense now

because they're cooking spag bol it's splattering up the wall yeah she's so horny garlic bread on fingers we're turning off the light switches before I was like why was she so horny

like can she not just think I'm not gonna use that but if she's drunk with her boyfriend it makes fucking sense but it's also having lube that a boy would bring that

or she would bring that knowing she's going to have sex you don't bring lube if you use a vibrator for yourself do you well I mean I wouldn't so she's obviously

had a boyfriend which makes it even worse I can't bear that I think you've done the right thing by getting that sterilised cleaner in there for a start you know what you've done the right thing

with that if I was you, I don't... If you want to save the friendship, just fucking let it go and don't ever let her stay in there again and you've learned your lesson. I would just say straight up, did you ever wear that?

Because it would be weird to me. I need to know and I would rather she did. Otherwise, I find it really, really weird. Yeah, maybe if you just want to clarify that in your own head for your sanity. We once had someone stay at our house and I came home and I was like, there's been a boy in here.

And I said straight up, has there been a boy in there? It's more so just like doing in your house when you're not with her is weird. The bullet's unacceptable. The whole thing is just awful. It's quite traumatic. If you asked me to do that, I would be like, you've lost your mind. You want to borrow my bullet?

No. Also, the thing is, some people don't see mess and don't see stuff. So she would have left thinking, oh, it looks fine. Not knowing. She was never going to know. I use the vibr fine. Not knowing. She was never going to know. I use the vibrator and the razor. She's never going to know. That will go completely over her head.

I just think you say to her when she asks to stay the next time with a cat, be like, oh, no, no, actually, one of my other friends is already staying and my mum's going to say, just make up a white lie. I just say, my neighbours saw a boy come in. Yeah, that's fine. And don't make her feel like you're going to tell her off for it because then she won't tell you. By the way, you're so right.

Like, people have stayed in my house and they've obviously left and they're like, it was so clean. I don't think my sister's house was people like that and I can tell if the slightest things were moved.

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