Wednesdays - 30: My boyfriend has a secret obsession with ‘My Little Pony’

Episode Date: April 17, 2024

Sophie and Melissa are back for another 'Wednesdays'! And giving a special shout out to the Tinies at VT who said hello to Melissa, should we do more IRL meets?We’ve had a LOT of dilemmas on the pod, but today we’re confronting what could be our strangest boyfriend secret: an obsession with ‘My Little Pony’… And Sophie and Melissa are also talking all about Hinge etiquette, a travelling love triangle, and a Tiny who discovered incriminating photos on her boyfriend's phone.We're now on WhatsApp and ready for your voice note dilemmas! Send us one in here.Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsExec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pSocial Media: @thechampagency Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help hey guys we're back hello hello, hello, hello, hello. It's Wednesday again. A lot's happened. Me and Prash have been away. You've been away? Where have you been? I went away skiing. And Sophie went away to Estelle Manor.

She went away skiing, she went on a boys' holiday. I went with my parents and then my brother and some of his friends were there, so that was quite fun. Saw some very, very sweet little tinies when we were skiing. And they sent their love. They were really cute. So pretty. And Coco Ricos. Yeah.

Living it up. Coco Ricos. And Coco Ricos. That's so fun. They were really sweet. Well, I was just walking down the street and this girl ran after me. And I did the weirdest thing. I shook her hand.

That was weird of you. I know. It was really weird. She went, are you Sophie? And I went, yeah, the weirdest thing I shook her hand that was weird of you I know it was really weird she went are you Sophie and I went yeah hi and I shook her hand but I just don't she's been in a lot of meetings recently it's just a reflex I don't know what happened and then the whim was also in my eyes so I was crying and I was like I'm not crying by the way anyway the story is we told her to dump her boyfriend best thing she'd ever done turns out he was I I think, cheating. Anyway, then I went, Anna, you great? You single now?

And she went, yeah, well, I was dating your friend Tom Lucy, but he's now got girlfriend. And I was like, this is such a... That's wild. But also... She was being your boyfriend. Yeah, she was amazing. Gorgeous girl.

And then I hugged her because I was like, I'm not a freak who shakes everyone's hand. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We've got to go for the full hug. We're not in COVID anymore. I was just saying Gorgeous girl. And then I hugged her because I was like, I'm not a freak. Who shakes ever again? Yeah, yeah, yeah. We've got to go for the full hug. We're not in COVID anymore. I was just saying this to everyone. When you go away with your parents or like you go like for a weekend with like your parents or someone else's parents, you always think it's going to be like healthy and wholesome.

And actually you end up drinking and eating. More. More and more unhealthily than you do at home. Why is that? Because it's just a bit more, it's almost more civilized drinking, but it's actually more drinking. And the food is just a lot.

Indulgent. Very indulgent. There's a lot of sugar, a lot of butter, and a lot of cheese. A little butter. You know Jamie calls his brother butter.

They both go, hey butter. As in short of butter. No, like butter. Brother, butter. You know, sweet, sweet, gentle Alexander

who you met. Can you imagine him going, hey butter? Not Brother. You know, like, sweet, sweet, gentle Alexander. Can you imagine him going, hey, brother. Not really. I've never heard them say anything else. Hey, brother. No, it's more, brother. Oh, brother. Yeah.

Jamie, you can imagine. Yeah, I feel like he says words like that all the time. Jamie's also, he's calling his mum, mummy again. And I don't know where it's come from. But I, these ears of mine, pricked up. And I was like, abort. Does he call his dad, daddy? No, I don't know where it's come from. But I, these ears of mine, pricked up. And I was like, abort. Does he call his dad daddy? No, I don't think he does.

I don't know what it is about it. I know. But you know what? He used to call his mum mama, which was okay. That's cute. That's cute. I think he might call his dad. Some people get away with calling.

But in like a weird way so it's okay. It's not like, yeah, he does. And it's sweet and it's fine. It's not like, yeah, he does and it's sweet and it's fine. Mummy, no. I'm mum, dad. I'm mum, dad, which, you know what, my dad's always been so sad.

He's tried to inflict daddy on me since the day I was born. I think when I was a kid I used to say daddy. He replies to everything like daddy for ages and we just, we never caught on.

My mum was very much didn't want to be called mummy. Really? I do think it's sweet for a girl though you can some people also some guys would get away with it but I don't actually think I know any guys that do call their mum you know what I actually didn't really notice it until I noticed it and then I was like oh I'm upset about this I'm upset but before then it was acceptable it's so context I'm now just thinking back and I think I might yeah but you're only you're a girl I know it's pretty sexist but I don't I just know my brother would do it too but only if like my dad does something like or my mom does something

quite sweet and you're like you feel a bit sorry oh mommy like what are you doing no I don't think for a 35 year old heartbroken he's 35 I'm talking about Jamie doing I know I'm just picturing like oh my god maybe I do say it in certain scenarios yeah but I think being a girl and doing it's fine like I've never had an issue with that

and I know that's really sexist but I just there's something about a boy doing it I know exactly what you mean like a grown man

doing it although having said that you know it's very sweet at the same time it's all context no hey but sometimes

you know if your husband's doing it you have the right to be grossed out yeah and you know what Penny and Jamie have doing it, you have the right to be grossed out. Yeah. And you know what? Penny and Jamie have a very sweet relationship. Like, she's a cool mum, so it makes it a little bit... She's not asking her to, like, clean his clothes, because that would be nailing the coffin.

Mummy, I've got a stain on my top. Unacceptable. You know what it looks like? I can actually imagine him being like, oh, mummy, I've got some toothpaste on my black T-shirt. Do you mind just putting that in the wash? We're currently at the stage where we're thinking of, like, what my parents will be if they're grandmas. Oh, my God. What do you think?

My mum insists, like, sending a, like, a list. They can call me this. Mimi is what she wants to be called. No connection. No relevance. I think Gilly's Gaga. I like that. Or Gigi.

Toby's mum. I'm getting that wrong. Maybe I'm getting that wrong. But I know that the dad is Turtle. Turtle. Oh my God, that's so cute. Jamie's mum's mop. Because she wanted it to be moth, which is short for mother, which I just think is genius.

That is quite funny. But they didn't say moth. They said mop. Yeah, because they pronounce things different. Oh God. That wouldn't have been good. That would not have been good. Right, so I'm down at Jamie's mum's house

and the stepdad, Jonathan, comes in. He's like, morning. And I thought he was going to. Oh, for a kiss. So I went, it was like. Would you kiss? No, no, he didn't. But you know when it's just like he wasn't going for it.

And obviously I've been there for two days. Like, what are you doing, Sophie? Just did it. Went in for it. Oh, sweet. But you know what? Sometimes like Christmas morning when you're like, happy Christmas, you give everyone like a kiss and a cuddle. I know, but did it. Went in for it. Oh, sweet. But you know what? Sometimes like Christmas morning when you're like,

happy Christmas, you give everyone like a kiss and a cuddle. I know, but he wasn't going in for it. It's just so awful. The worst is when you do that with like your dad's friend or someone.

Yeah, someone you don't quite know so that's always a bit of death. Have you ever had that accidental thing where you like kiss someone on the lips? I'm sure I have, but I can't remember who with. Nor me. Or if someone's told me a story

and now I'm remembering it as it being myself nor me I'm sure I have though I'm almost certain I do remember once walking in on my friend

downstairs in her house when her dad sat on the loo and I'll never forget that no that's that's shuddering that would

shuddering that would stay with me and let me tell you what I did just stared there staring at him and he obviously just stared staring staring at him and he obviously just stared staring back at me

and then just had to bend forward and slam the door shut like shut the door oh my god so I don't know what happened I was in such he also wasn't like

he was a bit of a scary dad oh no yeah that would have really humbled him though he would have then probably been weirdly nice to you or was he horrible

don't think he ever looked at me again ever that was awful awful awful time. It's like there's certain things that happen there's just

no recovery. I'm like imagine if you did that like the first time you went to Jamie's house you walked to John Jonathan on the loo.

You couldn't ever go back. You couldn't date Jamie again. What things have been no recovery? Toby's brother walked in on me

naked the first time I stayed at their house. We weren't even boyfriend girlfriend. I was honestly like in my mind I was like we

can't come back from this. I could never look at the brother again we were supposed to sort of make Jake go out of it what were you doing

standing or sat on the loo standing washing my hands with this thing I thought you were on the loo no you weren't I have a lovely view for him

better than you sat naked on the loo which is what I had envisioned for all these years I thought you were sat on the loo which is what I had envisioned for all these years I thought you were sat on the loo like this no no and actually the bathroom's massive so the loo would have been better because it's right around the corner it's too good oh terrible also Toby's parents listened to the last episode that just went out where I disclose how many people I've sat with I'm like why why why of all episodes have you

listened to that one did they say that oh melissa we've listened explain they didn't say that that's part specifically but they did i know the podcast that they listened to why they've never listened before and they decided i don't know why they decided to listen to that one in particular which is perfect explain the whole situation so you're sat east lunch and they were like by the way i can't remember how they said it we went out for dinner and there was a girl there that was a waitress and she was a fan of the podcast and then they were talking about on the way back and then they were like yeah we listened to one the other day the one that such and such and such and such happened in and i was like oh my god that's the one where i literally say how many people i've slept with oh why why out of

every episode and we never talk about that shit we've never spoken about it not the one that we don't even want your grandma to listen to i'd rather your grandma listen than that's why because he kept saying you kept going grandma, grandma, shut your ears. And I was like, oh. I am. That should have been Toby's parents, shut your ears as well. I am dead.

Hi to Toby's parents if you're listening again. I'm going to be very careful about what I talk about in the future. No, you can't be. You know what I'm actually going to have to say to people that know me like that. You can't listen. You just can't listen. Otherwise, I can't speak freely.

I really hope that neither my dad or my mom listens. I don't think they do. Does your mom listen? Your dad used to. No, my mom definitely doesn't listen to this one. I've never quite understood why. I'm a little bit offended. But she's a real fan of newlyweds, but never once has listened to this one.

God, I would think the other way around. I know. I'm not sure she knows this one happens. She just thinks I'm floating around you all the time. I don't know. She's never never referenced it i know my sister listens dad i hope doesn't listen although i once got in my dad's car and popped it on and oh my voice was playing and it was this podcast i was like no no i quickly just like changed it without most of them so most of us are very pg it's fine but it's just like the odd one we go for some reason really personal i don't want to do that guys we've also got whatsapp now so you can write

in your dilemmas to our whatsapp we will be able to listen to them so you can do voice notes we love a voice note also we could um also just like like kind of talk to you almost live which is fabulous so we need an extra like bit of information we can just be like so how was it how are we how long was this relationship yeah just makes things a lot more easy for us to communicate and you know get down to the nitty-gritty of what those dilemmas are because sometimes I just feel like it's it's an unfair answer and that's me know exactly you've been dating for example exactly it's all circumstantial stuff isn't it yeah it's really important i've got this horrible habit of speaking like isn't it like at the end of

everything i said i'm like isn't it i'm like oh you're so annoying i know when this has come from toby because you started doing impressions you've done it for ages i've just not told you i love it but you i don't get away with it like he does though I just Toby doesn't sound like that your boyfriend doesn't sound like that oh my god no he does I need to do some recordings for you

do an impression on Toby's voice he'll just be like what should we have for lunch then like it's like he does it on purpose it's obviously not how he naturally would speak

so in front of you you would never hear it you know when someone has like a weird like way they talk like behind closed doors like a weird tick no like with their other half like it's almost like a language that he has with me and he just feels like and now i can't give me some more just talking toby well for a second oh really

that's nice isn't it no like that you go oh really that's because of him all the time to me and i i then walk away and i'm like oh really i catch on to all of it and there's no reason for me to be doing it. Oh, God, so sorry. Apologies, apologies. Okay, right. Should we get into dilemmas? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Hi, Sophie and Melissa. For the last six months,

I've been traveling the world with three of my friends and I've been having the most amazing time. Along the way, I started seeing someone who was also traveling. He slotted into our group of three so well, and me and him spent three weeks basically living with each other. Our time together came to an end when we decided to travel on to different places.

We left as a holiday romance, but there was very much feelings involved. I went off to spend six weeks solo traveling. I ended up having a bizarre dream that this boy started hooking up with my best friend, that they were still staying in the same place together. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No.

No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No.

No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No.

No. No. No. No. No. This girl was one of my best friends and I trusted her with my life. But I feel she's cheating on me. Every part of me wants to forgive her. But I also feel so betrayed as she knew how much we liked each other. Am I being a mug if I let her back into my life? No, I think that you should. No, you're not. No, let her back in. But that's not good. Right, let's really go through this.

Okay. So how long were they dating for? Three weeks. Just sleeping together. Okay, fine. But they were like living together and living with the best friend. Yeah, but then you left and they're still living in that sexy that boy is the one we should hate not the girl i know i agree that she had more loyalty to you yeah and he's cuffling and he's however it was only three weeks she obviously felt a certain type of way towards

him maybe when you guys were sleeping together i I don't know. Sometimes these things happen. It's not right. It's not right and boy, would I not be happy about it. I'd be pissed off. You can't block her out of your life forever. Definitely have the right to be angry and have some words. It's good she told you, though. She could have lied.

Yeah, she could have just not said anything. So if I was dating a guy for three weeks, it's really hard to... Because for three weeks, if you're just dating, you're traveling. That three weeks if you're just dating you're travelling that is something and you're just having sex and also you're all day all night for three weeks

living together that's quite intense it's not just like dating you know like a date once twice a week but then she did leave so what did they leave it on

like bye nice to know you yes they left it as a holiday romance holiday fling it's like shitty but would I it's not a dumpable offence of your friend

oh no if you did that to me I'd be so angry I'd be angry anyone that would do that to me I'd be really upset no I wouldn't be that angry if it was someone I wasn't best best best

friends with but if they were best friends I'd be like sorry what do you know what I mean yeah especially if I was like

okay so say I'm seeing someone I'm like oh my god so if I'm like really having so many feelings for this guy like I'm falling for him and then I leave and then you just start shagging him. It's so bad.

It's quite bad for his bad form. Girl code in an ideal world would be not to shag. There's no fucking girl code there. But sometimes lines must be crossed, you know, boundaries must be stretched. Otherwise, you know. Love does funny things to people. And lust does too. at the end of the day we're all humans and everyone makes mistakes and everyone makes decisions that might upset someone

else and she was probably in that moment like fuck it I'm traveling I'm gonna do what makes me happy right now yeah like she was just like I want a bit of him as well yeah it's he what can I say I think you definitely have the right to be angry and I so get that point of view but I don't think you should lose the right to be angry and I so get that point of view but I don't think you should lose your friendship over it because at the end of the day it's just a boy

it's just a boy and it's not anything more than and you were not you didn't want you said goodbye you said goodbye to it was a summer fling or a travelling fling

don't cut her out because you think it's the right thing to do because I wouldn't cut you out I'd probably be no you just have be pissed off have words

and then you just have to get over it because I'm like are you going to lose a friend over that no yeah I don't think so I don't cut you out. I'd probably be... No, you just have to be pissed off, have words, and then you just have to get over it because I'm like, are you going to lose a friend over that? No. I don't think so. They also might become boyfriend and girlfriend. Their love might be really strong and then you just, you would, you know, that does happen. It does happen.

It does happen. It's a really shit situation. It's a shitty situation. I feel like sometimes we all go through these things in our lives. There's a similar crossroads that we're all going to go through at some point hun I thank god I've never had it with like someone that I've dated or like an ex has like gone with my best friend that would just be deathly hallows you're married so it's fine so if you can't take anyone from yeah you were

looking at me that is deathly hallows but I think in this scenario you weren't boyfriend girlfriend it had been three weeks you were. Everything feels more intense than it probably is because there's no one else around. You're in a little bubble, right? I agree. And also, you have to think that this guy's not even from the same country as you. He's thinking, I'm in Australia or wherever the hell you are. I'm then going to go back to Australia.

That does happen traveling, I think. It's very much like sleep, sex, snog. Is it? Sleep, sex, snog. Right. I don't know. I didn't get with anyone when I was traveling. God's sake. sex snog right I don't I didn't get with anyone when I went traveling god's sake she had a boyfriend no I didn't we went on a break I was just a loser oh no you were sweet angel loyal angel no no I wasn't a loyal babe

I wasn't I just um they're not as fit as you think they're gonna be they're not Australian you know what it is when you have the option, you're then like, actually? I was like, I was so psyched up. I actually was like, yeah, let's go on a break. I was like, I'm down.

I got there and I was like, they're terrifying and just no, no. Oh, fuck, that's really annoying. Yeah. I sometimes watch these things and I'm like, there's this part of me that has this yearn for an adventure.

When you get there. But then I'm like there's this part of me that has this yearn for an adventure when you get there but then but then I'm like oh my god sorry but then I'm like when I get there would I want to probably not no it's really scary I think that was like one point where I was really close to it and I was like it makes you really homesick. Yeah. Skilt, skilt, skilt, skilt. Hey, Sophie and Melissa. I've recently started dating again after my six-year relationship ended. I've been seeing a guy for a few days and I thought we were getting along really well. On Sunday night, he invited me over to his. We went out for dinner and then back to his

and I ended up staying at his and I felt really comfortable. It was my first sober relationship since my breakup. The comms have been good ever since, but I've been on Hinge and seen that he's updated his profile. He's changed his photo to quite a sexy shirtless picture of him. I know he's not spoken for, so he's well within his right. However, I can't help but feel he's not all that interested in me, despite us making plans to see each other again. It feels like he's keeping his options open.

Do you think I should bring it up to him when I next see him? Or is there something that I shouldn't be concerned about? No, no, no, you can't bring that up. No, you can't bring it up. But also, I think you need to probably say to yourself, he is obviously like... He's obviously keeping his options open.

But you cannot bring that up what look it depends it's quite a drastic thing to change your photo to a topless picture that's like upping the ante

that's like he's no what's happened is he's like ticked off his first date with you he thought it went really well he was like

I like a bit of this I'm feeling myself she's into me we're still texting I'm gonna see who else is out there yeah and that's okay

some people you know he's maybe just not not as into it as they've only slept with each other once come on he could give him some time i i think it's wrong no you know what maybe he's just decided that actually like he had a really fun time, but actually he wants to date a lot more and wants to date multiple people. Changing your photo to a topless photo is like, I'm upping the ante. I think he just hasn't dated for a while. And he's like, that was really enjoyable. Here we go. He probably is wanting to date more.

But what? Is there a problem with that? There isn't a problem with that at all. It just depends on if you feel like you can handle that or not. And to me, it sounds like you're already like, I want to bring it up when you can't because it's like,

you can't. I just wouldn't because I don't really think it's necessarily within your rights to at this stage. Do you know what I mean? You obviously can do anything.

Do I think it would freak him out and scare him off? Yes. Yeah. But maybe that's a good thing because if he's not... Then that answers your question. Yeah.

So if you can't deal with it. So what advice are we going to give? You either ask him. He probably will run a mile and continue dating other people. Or don't ask him and see where it goes. You could do something a bit weird because you're still on Hinge and so is he. You could change yours and then reply to him like, Oh, nice new sexy pic. looking good, wink face or something.

And then you've changed yours as well, so it's kind of fine. Toxic traits. This is my toxic deep down. You're showing that you're doing the same thing, but you kind of don't give a fuck that he is because you're paying him a compliment. Like, ooh, looking good in that photo. Or. But I'm doing the same thing because I've also changed mine.

I'm still clearly on Hinge. So actually it's fine. you're always getting your answer but hang on a second you're looking on hinge to see that he's changed his photo so you're doing the same thing he's doing she's looking on hinge to check on him but all he's done is change his photo so it clearly indicates that he's then you know still looking for other options. So I reckon you change your picture, maybe change the profile around a bit, and then reply to him maybe like a day after you've done that. Like, oh my God, sexy pic. No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

I think it's fine too. And then you're bringing it up, but you're not questioning him on the next date. Like, look, I went on Hinge and I saw that you changed your photo. Like, I kind of want to know where we're at I think that's way too intense if you're gonna bring it up you have to just message him on hinge make a joke out of it and he can't come back and be like well you have to be like oops yeah it's like funny yeah I don't know the the dating app etiquette because I've never done it so maybe that is a thing I still think that's too intense he'll be

like why you like you must bring it up, that's the way you're going to do it. If you must bring it up, do what Melissa says. That's the way you're going to do it. If you can't sleep at night not knowing why he is, change his image photo. I think that's what you're going to do.

Totally. Producer Brandon's just asked him. I posted some different things. Let me tell you you did. I post the same thing as I do now. No, you didn't. It went, the ante went up.

Yeah. I don't think it did it was just hot hot hot photos but it Bali was the fittest things I've ever posted

but I was back with him I was back with him then but I was posting so many bikini photos no no no no yeah I know but you're not bikiniing in London

but you were posting like I remember thinking I was in Mallorca that's why no no I'll tell you you were just doing like fit face photos

you have an energy for sure you were you were just doing like face photos. You have an energy, for sure. You were. You were like posing. Right, so now what you would do is we'll do a dump of like our food and the sky and then a couple of photos of us. Not really like, they were like active selfies. Right? I think it's great.

I don't know because I look at my profile now thinking like, I feel like I post more know because I look at my profile now thinking like, I feel like I post more selfies than I did before. I was almost trying to get more people in. I'm doing loads of stuff with other people. I'm being really fun, really social. Whereas now I don't make it. When I go out with my friends, I never fucking take photos.

But I was thinking in my head when I was with my friends, every time I'm out having a meal or having fun. But that's the energy we're talking about. You need to look like, what is it called? Did you call it a strap first? But that's, like, a sexy naked photo. I don't think you've got to do that if it's up for you. I don't think that's necessary.

No, nor me. He's done it, which is a clear indication as to something's going on. So I agree that you... I get what you're... The question is, is that your vibe? If that was me, my mind would go, shit, if I liked him. It would be fucking annoying. So I so get that. Same. I, shit, if I liked him. It would be fucking annoying. So I so get that.

Same. I'd be like, I lost him. You know what you could do if it was actually us? Slip him through my fingers once again. Oh. Change the photo. Don't fucking say anything. See if he says something to you.

I would do that. Clearly be active on Hinge. So then he would then go, is it Hinge as she said or Bumble? You know what? I would actually just start dating other guys. That's what you know what i would actually just start taking other guys that's what i would do he'll then see you're active or something or online or whatever you can see on his he would hopefully then see on yours you've changed your photo but don't say anything see what happens if he really likes you he'll come calling back and he'll stop fucking he'll then eventually delete his hinge or whatever you know also like he's

gotta just date a few people like it's not realistic it's not realistic to just think that you've had one date and you're going to be boyfriend and girlfriend in a dream world it would be but it's just not realistic I totally agree yeah let us know what happens please because this is actually there's a lot more to unravel with this maybe you're dating someone else by the time you read listen to this yeah just keep sending those dilemmas in. Enjoy the number one feeling, winning, in an exciting live dealer studio, exclusively on FanDuel Casino, where winning is undefeated. 19 plus and physically located in Ontario. Gambling problem? Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly.

Dilemma three. Ready? Hi, girls. My boyfriend went on a night out a few weeks ago. He went back to his friend's house with another... No. With another one of their friends, a girl. Not again. He told me it was nothing to worry about, so I trusted him completely.

However, his top from that night has got a big fat makeup mark on it. That's all right. That's alright. That's okay. I felt like something ridiculous was going on. So I went onto his phone. I found a photo in a chat with one of his mates. It was of another girl kissing his neck.

With the caption, I'm all over it, me. No, it's like this. I'm all over it, me. You know, like, yeah, I like that, me. It's like, this is a bit of me. I'm all over it, me. You know, like, yeah, I like that, me. It's like, this is a bit of me. I'm all over it. Yeah, exactly. Okay, right, got you.

I love orange squash, me. That's a bit of me, that is. Yeah, same thing. Yeah, got you, got you, got you. Wait, so he sent somebody that text? So, yes, with the photo of the girl kissing his neck. Is he okay? We've got the photo!

Where is it? We're physically sick. Where is it, where is it, where is it where is it oh my god guys this is too much that is not his neck that's his fucking face oh my god i don't believe my eyes you've got to be joking if she's a friend i've actually kissed not a friend he's she's not a friend he's gone i'm all over me yeah that's not fun that's not fun and that's not okay that's red flag because i've kissed so many of my guy mates on the cheek like that's that to me like that not like that not taking a selfie and then putting it on the group chat it's the makeup all over the face of his face he is so he's enjoying every moment and she's never met him before and i can just tell why i just i can see it in the photo she's got very you know glammed up for this night out she's she's

she's ready for a little bit of your old boyfriend i reckon so listen well no no no listen this is a tricky one because why is it she's kissed him on the cheek he hasn't kissed her on the cheek he's taken a photo it's crossing a line are you joking are you okay right he's got his phone out to go yeah go and take a photo kissing my cheek so i can send it to my mate she's very attractive she's very glammed up like no no i'm sorry if jamie's got some random girl kissing his face and going, I'm all over it, mate. Yes, you know what? Send it to your girlfriend then if it's innocent.

I'm just thinking in my brain, I'm just thinking in my brain, like it's one of your friends, but it's not. It's a random girl that's friends with your friend. So it's just not the same thing. And why is he put, I'm all over it, mate? That means he's fucking loving it. That means he's like, I'm all over this shit. Also, it's fucking loving it. That means he's like, I'm all over this shit.

Also, it's like the makeup on the shirt, that can actually happen so innocently. I do that to every single boy. I said hello to my brother and he's like, fuck's sake Melissa. And I'm like, oh sorry. How awful is it? No, the worst thing is,

sometimes I hold my friend's babies and I get makeup on the baby grows and I'm like, oh. I thought you meant makeup on the baby's face. I was like, oh no, not those precious cheeks. No, but on the baby grows and I hand it back and I'm like, I'm disgusting. I hate myself.

It's horrible when you get on your own white shirt. It's just like, hey, I always get that. Every single boy I hug, I get a little bit of makeup on. I'm that girl. So the makeup thing, I think, you know, that happens. If she's there, like, you have to trust your boyfriend. But the fact that this photo has happened, there's definitely something for you not to trust.

And I would be questioning what else has happened that he hasn't taken photos of. I personally... You need to dig deeper. Just like, why are you so thrilled with yourself that you've got a girl kissing your cheek? Like, firstly, loser. She's savage today and I love it.

Am I? Firstly, loser. No, but I'm pissed off. I'm pissed off as well. Sorry. I'm thrilled. Like, he has a girlfriend. It's smug and it's it's crap is it

crass it's crass it's crass and smug and we're not here bro no we don't want any of that so he should be like oh I'm so sorry but I have a girlfriend not do that again let me take a selfie to send it to the boys I know that's so true that's so true why am I being so lenient today I would forgive Toby for cheating on me today, clearly. Where we're just taking a quick peek at your picture too. We just need to get the full picture. Yeah. Sophie's.

Oh, sorry. Fucking. Oh my God. No, no. This changes my mind. I don't think he could have cheated on you. Possibly. He's absolutely insane if he has. He he could have cheated on you possibly he's absolutely insane if he had

he couldn't have cheated on you and if he has you can go and get any boy you want because you're absolutely gorgeous and you seem very very sweet with how much you're trusting him I don't know why but something's not right something's not right I just think he's like off his face in that oh my god I'm going back myself myself. They just look so sweet. I didn't see them together and that's weird. Right, we've got context. Okay, right. Change of plan.

Change of plan. Change of plan. I think something's happened to him. Like he's been spiked. He doesn't look well in that picture. Now that I've seen him normal with you. He's got a horrible lack of sunlight in that photo with that girl as well. He's unwell.

He doesn't look right. Look right. He's waxy. I think that we... girl as well he's unwell he doesn't know right look right he's waxy i think that we i think that we're not well there's flaws for investigation yeah agree we need to dig a little bit deeper if i was you listen listen listen this is this may be my cynic psycho again i would maybe just ask the friends and be like look i've seen these messages and i did anything else happen i'm fucking sketched out and he's not being honest with me okay first things first you've got to confront him and you've got to go in with the line I know what happened you know call his bath yeah call his bath you know anyway so do you want to have the opportunity to tell you because you've

heard you know everything so you know everything straight face't let him. I've spoken to the girl. I've seen the photo. Yeah. Imagine she's just like a bar, like a woman from the bar. You just like... I know the truth. I'm now going to give you an opportunity

to tell me the truth. No, because I don't know why something's telling me that she like works behind the bar and she like liked giving him shots. I've done a 360 because they're so cute together. No, because listen to this.

I'm going to read the dilemma again just so we're really clear Okay go for it He went back to his friend's house with another of their friends a girl so she is friends with them like he knows this girl

it's not a random person he's picked up That's what he says That's what he says I feel like she would say that she's never I think it is a friend so you know what

he told me it was nothing to worry about so I trusted him completely the fact that he said look I'm going back with a friend there So, you know what? He told me it was nothing to worry about, so I trusted him completely. The fact that he said, look, I'm going back with a friend, there's nothing for you to worry about, to me is a red flag in itself. Why are you off the bat telling me not to worry

when you're just going back to a house party with a couple of mates? I just went about it. It's not right. You need to put your investigation cap on, that little spyglass comes out, and we go deep. We go real deep.

This is a whole ordering a pizza to the house situation. Yeah. Whatever you can get. If you need to feed us any more information so that we can help you on this journey, just please keep doing it. Absolutely. Because we are with you all the way and we love you and you're going to be great. And you're absolutely gorgeous.

So if you don't want to be with him, you'll get any boy. Yeah, he's an absolute crazy person if he doesn't want to be with you. If he's done this, he'll live to regret it. Hi, Sophie and Melissa. I've always felt extremely happy with my boyfriend. He's so kind and loving and everything that I could ask for. We never have had any problems until a week ago, a few weeks ago, when I started to realize that something strange was going on.

One of my boyfriend's favorite things to do is watch My Little Pony. That's not real. Are we talking about tiny little... Baby horses! That are fake plastic. My little pony, my little pony. I always thought it was a bit weird but I swept past it as though it never went past him just watching it on TV. Also, I thought. A few

weeks ago, I found some pieces of paper hidden in the room. He had drawn some provocative No, you're fucking joking me. Belasticality. What's it called? What's that word called? Beciality. You mean you like fucking a horse? Drawn some provocative pictures of him with some

little ponies. I know how crazy this sounds. Trust me. I felt sick to my stomach and called all my friends to ask them what to do. And I found out that it's actually a thing that some men like My Little Pony. No, it's... I can't look at him the same, especially after I found out that he had dressed up as My Little Pony at a party a couple of years ago. I find this so weird and I can't move past it, but I don't know what to do. Let's not kink shame.

Okay, but... So he sketched out him. My little pony fetish. It's going to be a thing. It's going to be so weird. My little pony, how a fetish tore apart a toy collecting community. It's not right. It is when a man ejaculates on a piece of merchandise

and subsequently photographs it. Wait, what am I reading? I don't think that's right. It is when a man ejaculates on a piece of merchandise and subsequently photographs it. Wait, what am I reading? I don't think that's right. Listen, it's weird. Oh my God, oh my God. It is a thing. Grown men love My Little Pony. But why is he watching Indecy?

He's watching porn. Can I just be honest with you? I'm sorry. The main question is, do you like My Little Pony? Because if you don't, I don't think it's going to work No listen Boys have weird fascism I've had a sex person in on Noonie Reds

It's a real thing And you can't kink shame It's really important in life not to kink shame Because everyone's entitled to their own kinks Whatever And as long as it doesn't involve Underage people and anything illegal It's okay

It's okay we don't kink shame But I think you probably I'm uncomfortable on my seat from this conversation as long as it doesn't harm underage people and anything illegal it's okay it's okay we don't kink shake but I think I'm uncomfortable on my seat from this conversation I just don't understand why he's sketching it

like that to me is just like really obsessive and weird maybe he's quite artistic and dyslexic or something I'm just picturing him like sketching it

so what does he he's probably got Toy My Little Pony he's hanging around that's okay you've got to sit him down you've got to ask him what it's all about

and then maybe he can get on board on it seriously yeah because it's you can't not no I know it it's a serious dilemma

it's a really serious dilemma you've got to sit him down and maybe you'll have to dress up as my little pony if you want the relationship to go well I'm not joking

or you can't get on board and you say goodbye good luck it was nice knowing you it's two options it depends on how much you love him

like how much it bothers you like if it's just a king do you want to be my little pony do you want to put on a purple wig a lot of women put on a tail

no they do what's that thing a dildo with a tail oh yeah to be fair it's a real, a dildo with a tail? Oh, yeah. To be fair. It's a real thing. Or a butt plug with a tail. I swear to God it's a real thing.

I have not done it, obviously. Sophie, your nose is an awful lot. Yeah, you've got to be a pony. You've got to put the tail on. But I've seen that people do that. I've seen it about. Okay, listen, I'm going to put myself in your shoes and I want to say that I'm not going to kink shame,

but I'm going to be honest. I'd be thrown off. I wouldn't be able to have that. No. For me, what I really wouldn't like is, it's borderline bestiality, is it not? Like, why are you trying to fuck an animal? It absolutely is.

It's like, how far would he take the fetish? That's what I would quite like to know. Thank God it's a fictional character character if it was a real horse would he be going to find would he be going down to the stable we need to understand

god knows how far it could go it's also but then what's throwing me off is the fact that he dressed up as a My Little Pony

he's obviously just obsessed so what he wants to be I think as Sophie says if you really love him you need to see how much you have to air it. As always, I have to put myself in this position.

Jamie, okay, right, you're married. You've just found out. I'm going, you need help. We've got to go to a therapist. Perhaps the kink therapist or whatever. They would go, look, you know what? This is totally normal. Some people like octopuses.

This is true too. I don't octopuses. This is true too. I don't know where I've gotten all these facts. I wouldn't say it's necessarily normal because I don't know what is classed as normal. I think it's definitely a niche thing and you don't have to be okay with it because it's not something that is normal. You don't have to be okay with this.

But if you think that you could be and you love him that much and you can't buy your life without him, ride that pony girl I'm gonna take my horse to the water Maybe he could explain it In a way that's okay. It might be harmless. It might be a Monica Charnler shark situation What shark situation? You know when she thinks that he's turned on by sharks thrashing and she's like, you know

I'm married to you I'm willing to make this work would you like me to thrash around in the bath and he's like what the fuck are you talking about maybe

it could be innocent he could just it's definitely not he's done drawings of him entering but you need to have the conversation and find out

you need to have the conversation because like God only for this you have kids and they want to buy my little ponies and it's all gonna get weird it's all gonna get weird you've got to ask him you've got to sit him

down please please follow up with that one absolutely this is crucial i won't do anything i'll sleep at night knowing what the hell's going on in that house until i know look at the end of the day no one can force you to do anything so we just want you to feel comfortable don't feel you have to do anything you're not comfortable with. Know your limits and your boundaries. Set your boundaries and don't make anyone... Don't do things for other people that make you uncomfortable almost, you know? Totally. Guys, as always, the link is in the bio on Instagram.

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