Wednesdays - 32. My husband downloaded TINDER on a stag do… now he’s at the CLINIC!

Episode Date: April 30, 2024

Are you ready for what could be our WILDEST dilemma yet on ‘Wednesdays’? If your partner is off on a stag do, make sure he doesn’t misbehave like this Tiny’s did...Wedding season is on the horizon, so Sophie and Melissa give their top tips on how to nail the perfect fake tan, and advise one Tiny on how they can turn their dating experiences from stale to spicy.We're now on WhatsApp and ready for your voice note dilemmas! Send us one in to: https://api.whatsapp.com/message/54SRBQ66M633F1?autoload=1&app_absent=0Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsExec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pSocial Media: @thechampagency Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Good morning, Wednesdays. Good afternoon. Good afternoon. Good evening. No. People listen whilst they're getting ready.

I do. Oh, so, okay, okay, okay. Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You're just giving people a general... Yeah. It's actually good afternoon for us. Yeah, we normally film, okay, okay. Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You're just giving people a general. Yeah. It's actually good afternoon for us. Yeah, we normally film right in the morning. We just had a lovely girls' lunch.

I had a cheese straw. Yeah, your lunch was so random. She picked up something else from another place as well. Well, you know what I should have just done? I should have just got the beef slices and the egg. And I looked at them and I thought, no, I kind of want a pastry. Oh, you wanted protein with your salad? Yes, yes, yes. That's what you said on the voice note. I was like, I don't know what she's I kind of want a pastry. Oh, you wanted protein with your salad? Yes, yes, yes.

That's what you said on the voice note. I was like, I don't know what she's on about protein with a salad. I'm like, there is no salad that she's got. Yeah. I was like, I'm going to leave her to that. I know, it's just too complicated to involve you with that. Right, guys, Gail's avocado on toast. It's breathtaking.

I don't know what the sourdough is. It's like grain grain grain the avocado is mixed with pesto and then they have this tomato relish which I actually don't often have because I think I'm really acidity acidic excellent with the gale sausage roll normally my sourdough

wasn't that thick today but normally it's like this thick it's like a whole loaf it's lovely I go and buy it sliced from them fresh, put it in the freezer, and then it's my toast every morning. A grainy, nutty sourdough. There's nothing better.

I agree. I also love a rye bread, like a really grainy one. That one you had the other day that was like cake. Where the hell was that from? Oh, right. That was keto bread, and it was from Planet Organic,

and it was made of like eggs, nuts, coconut oil. Oh, my God. Like it didn't have carbs in it was genuinely the most phenomenal thing so delicious but hard to make that savory like actual toast i agree maybe with almond butter would have been nice but i don't want to have my marmite and my butter on that no it was a cake and i didn't really want to toast it because it was so moist it would also crumble crumble crumble on that toaster and then yeah i burnt bits i know also like sometimes you just need a bit of that yeasty, you know.

Sometimes you just need pure bread. Yeah. I would go as far to say bread might be my favourite food. I often think about this. I'm like, one item of... You went through a phase of never eating gluten or bread. Yeah, because I just don't think I'm good with certain things. But I found, after going to the Mayo Clinic, it's not gluten.

It's wheat, isolated wheat. I'm really allergic to. mayor clinic it's not gluten it's wheat isolated wheat I'm really allergic to so sourdough's fine sourdough's fine it's just wheat which is in quite a lot of things but you know what

we live and we learn so what's been going on there ooh we've got on the list Victoria Beckham 1050 I actually saw this

all over Instagram it's phenomenal she looked phenomenal what I will say is I liked like the reposting of the old vogue interviewer she was very funny and she was like oh am i wearing a microphone is it turned up because you know i found back you know i've had it before where people just turn to soon to turn off my microphone and no one can hear me she's so funny funny you don't see enough dry just so dry everyone says that she's the funniest person ever and i'm like we see very small amount of snippets i basically go off the fact victoria

beckham's so funny from other people's words but i would like to see much more of it but i guess that's part of the attraction to the beckhams it's just all very mysterious right well nicola peltz and victoria seem to be best friends and it's really giving me vibes like they just are like hugging and kissing and dancing and i'm like imagine how cool that'd be that'd be so cool to have your stepmommas vb oh my god no when all the spice girls were there that was a vibe i did see that and david was like doing videos of it quick you and i didn't realize evil angoria biggest fan is harper sevens godmother it's Harper Harper Seven I never know why

they hash so I don't know why the fuck there's a seven on the end it's the weirdest thing ever does someone even know that but why if they

called their daughter double baron that's literally like me like naming my dad like putting his first business at the end of my name yeah

like Melissa Box it's so true well in fact you could have been a bit more creative Victoria anyway and it's so true well in fact you could have been a bit more creative Victoria anyway and it's the hashtag Harper7

I'm like yeah since when I always knew it was Harper I don't know what this is going on maybe they're trying to make everyone know

it's 7 have you seen those videos of the Italian batch whatever it's named and it's like celebrities like picking the names

of their kids it's like so I named my first kid like washing up dish because you know I thought it was quite unique and it's like names of their kids it's like so I named my first kid like washing up dish because you know I thought it was quite unique and it's like just celebrities name their kids like super unique names I think just to be different so they were probably like what can we call our girl yeah that no one else is gonna have this name Harper's a nice name I was a lovely name my get name list for my kids is wildly long like every name sometimes i just hear the sound of a word and i'm

like onto the list and then a week later i'll look back at it and i'll be like what was i thinking you know what i mean yeah yeah yeah it's so like marble not bad uh marble though it's like a dog's name isn't it is it marble isn't marble that is a name yeah maybe I don't know everything's a freaking name these days candy that's porn star vibes Jamie just wants

Jamie for every child that's very traditional they have every child the same and they use their middle name

and that's what they call them as that's why like sometimes people keep like generations like their names are all the fucking same

right I need to tell you something guys it's like Charles the third and you're like oh god Jamie's got middle name like throughout the family grant has to be in the middle name i love the name grant grant okay maybe it's the middle nose and maybe i'm getting it mixed up i think so because that would be very very odd georgia georgia georgia

georgia for me not really a girl thing. Only men. Wow. Sexist again. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Listen, so I'm walking down the street and bump into this amazing woman. You know Sam McAllister, who was the woman who orchestrated the scoop, like, you know, the movie The Scoop. She orchestrated the Prince Andrews interview. Bump into her. Boss bitch.

Amazing energy. What did you say to her? I know who you are. She said hi to Jamie and then we introduced ourselves and like she was like so nice to my mom like alpha great energy boss bitch vibes and i was like well done oh my gosh need to talk to you need to talk to you baby reindeer have you watched it because i literally was about to text you go melissa don't watch it because you're like me it made me feel have you a vile no no, no guys. Why? I felt scared,

like I wanted my dad and my mum. Like Jamie wasn't cutting the mustard, like I felt horrified. Why? So I thought it was going to be a comedy, light hearted. Right. It's really not.

It's so dark and twisted. It's obviously, you know, you watch things on TV and you see sex scenes and you see whatever and obviously you see like murders, all those awful things on TV. you see sex scenes and you see whatever and obviously you see like murders all those awful things on TV but this was intimate it was like the dark depths of a mind that you just

don't want to know any humans gone there and it was that really realistically on your TV like it was too much for me. Does people die? I won't go into it because I don't want to do any spoiler alerts but something about it is so disturbing. It's the only way I can describe it. And it's called Ladybug. It's called

Baby Reindeer. Baby Reindeer. Reindeer. Stalker. Quite good. Oh god. Reindeer. Is that you?

You've given me goosebumps on my legs and I don't even know what the fuck you're talking about. Martha. So am I going to be able to have my nights off from Toby after this or no? You cannot watch it.

My mum was like, she watched it. She was like, I fell. Why are you making me want to watch it? I know this thing. Jamie watches TV as we go to sleep because he'll go to sleep at like one and I go to sleep at like ten. I couldn't sleep through it.

It was that disturbing. I was like, you have to turn that off. But I heard everything. So then I was like this, watching it all night. So would you say it's more of a thriller or is it horror? Disturbing. Just disturbing. Disturbing.

But is it jumpy? Not really. Or is it just like, am I actually fucking watching it? It made me feel a way that I've not felt watching a TV show for a really long time. Like I... Like you're peculiar. My mum said I hated every second of it, but I couldn't take my eyes away from it. And she was like, I felt anxious two days after.

Is it creepy like Hannibal Lecter sort of no it's a true story about a stalker it's about a stalker a girlfriend stalker vibes anyway then Jamie had like

this really sketchy nightmare every single night that he watched it that me and him like broke up and it was all really weird

maybe I don't watch it actually I don't think it sounds like something I'd enjoy I genuinely thought Melissa no guys you just wait till you hear this piece of juicy inside goss.

Taylor Swift dropped new album. Guess what the pub is that the album's named after? Five Minute Walk from our studio. Yeah, that's the manager. The team here at Jam Pop Productions go for lunch there every Thursday if you want to pop in and say hey to them. So it must be quite a legendary pub. Is it cool she must have been she's probably but she's probably been all around the place but what a random place Vauxhall I know it is of all places extremely

random like I don't know why that pub is so good like maybe they sell really a beer or something what do you think maybe we need to go and do a little d a little um recce dickie diver recce Taylor Swift her relationship history is fascinating elon musk she's fascinates me she's still with um fit rugby boy interesting yeah so her new album thoughts we were just discussing this i love it i wasn't overwhelmed you know what i recently have been confirmed i'm going to taylor so i really deep dive into it. I think I'm a full-blown Swifty. Her music, I've always loved it,

I've always known it but like, because you guys play it. I actually didn't walk around London with it in my ear because I'm kind of a podcast girl or country music. But Taylor Swift,

I know. I don't, my sister's like diehard fan and I've never downloaded it all. Now I'm listening to it every day and I know it's breathtaking. I'm quite jealous you're getting never downloaded it all now I'm listening to every hour and I know it's breathtaking I'm quite jealous you're getting to discover it all for the first time it's 10 out of 10 it's really great but like my favorite song is actually that one what is it

called end game I wanna be your end game yeah listen so Anne Hathaway guys has come out and said princess diaries 3 is looking to be in a good place, but the sequel for Devil Wears Prada 2 is unlikely. Okay. Devil Wears Prada's, oh, it's so good. If there was a two, but I don't think it'd compare. Can't compare. But Princess Diaries, bring it back. Oh, my God.

Can we just speculate slightly for a second here? Do we think that she's going to be like with child or have two kiddie winkles? And it's going to be like her young child's going to be training as a princess. Is it going to sort of like go full circle moment? Don't worry about it. Producer over here. Director and story writer.

Yeah. Because otherwise, where else is the storyline going to go? Unless she's going to be separated and she's going to find love again with a new person. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I think it's going to be three kids.

All three? Yeah, three. And one of them's going to be like 13 and it might be like a childhood. And it might be like the actual storyline would actually be more about the kid and Anne Hathaway would just be more of like along the lines of like the grandma vibes,

like how Julie Andrews was for her. Yeah, do we think Julie Andrews is dead at this point? She's still alive in real life, right? Yeah. She fucking better be in it. I know, you know what I mean there. She also does the voice for Bridgerton, so I'm like, she must be still going strong

with her acting career. She's just an icon. Melissa, should we go into some dilemmas? Yeah. Hey Sophie and Melissa, I'm 23 and currently

travelling around Australia. After finishing uni and love listening to the pod during my travels, it reminds me of home and it's great company doing the long journeys. Whilst I've been travelling, I met a guy on Hinge hinge i didn't think it would be anything more than a fun traveling

romance but we ended up getting along so well our first date ended with us kissing on the beach whilst the sun was setting it was so romantic over the next few weeks we went on more dates and things got more serious we'd only known each other for six weeks but we decided to go on a mini holiday together so we could spend more time just the two of us. I already have my flight booked back to the UK for the start of summer, but since meeting this boy, I'm questioning everything. I really, really like him. I've never felt this way about anyone before. Stay there. We had a very painful goodbye in Melbourne where we left each other as I started travelling again.

But he wants to come back so we can be together so here's the dilemma should I go back to Melbourne enjoy one final month of this wild one travel romance or do I leave him behind and avoid the pain of saying goodbye all over again part of me thinks you only live once so maybe I should just go back and see what happens but I know he wants to stay in Australia and I want to go back to London. Any advice would be super helpful. I would, if it's summer and you're still travelling, I would go have one more month. I'm not sure, I'm not sure, I'm not sure.

Or if you don't want to move. But what's up with moving to Australia? She doesn't want to. But she might. Is that the question? She doesn't want to fucking move. I would then go back to London if you're gagging to see him. You book a flight and you go back.

You know what? We can make long distance work, okay? He can do... Australia. Time difference. But maybe you can convince him to move to London. Yeah, I part... They're not that different. I know, maybe you could do six months there, six months here.

I think she should go back. I think, what a shame. They probably won't be together if she leaves. You're not going to be like, oh my god, it's my one... Like, you're just going to fight through the pain instead of you spending that final month in melbourne oh because i see you're still traveling during that month could you not both go to like thailand and travel around thailand for a month so that you're just like it's very very separate to feels well i think this is more it doesn't matter where they are i think it's more so the goodbye has to happen again the feeling is going to get more intense

it's going to be a whole other month spent together. I think go. You live once. I personally think go. You're thinking about whom you've written in the dialogue. Your heart's telling you to go. Just go. You're young.

You literally live once. I also think at the end of that month, you both might change your mind about where you want to live and where you want to be. Also, with newlyweds, we always get people writing in being like, I fell in love with this guy traveling or like when I was 20 and then we couldn't be together because our past didn't like arrive. And then 40 years later, we got divorced from our husband. We bumped into each other again. And I'm like, what the hell?

My friend, her parents are divorced and her mom has a new boyfriend. And they were together, I think when she was like 19. And they like rekindled their love. And like, he's like like I've never remarried and he's like I just never loved anyone since your mum. I know. And he lives in Australia. She's moved to Australia to be with him.

No, no, I can't cope. I know. I can't. I've never loved anyone since your mum. I would literally be like I love you. I wish that like someone felt like that way for me. It's like, do you know what I mean? It's so,'s so unromantic

but it is just so unromantic some relationships and you just fall into them you're like yeah right about time we move in together by the time I get you a ring let's go right because it's the timeline there's no like I never got over you do you know what I mean like you have the potential here this could be the father of your children, the love of your life. And, like, this could be the start of a great love story. Although I understand the need to be sensible. And I think that is important to take into consideration. However, Sophie's right.

You only live once and you're young. So just fucking... Yeah, you only live once. And also, like, what's one month? Imagine you don't go just because you're worried about, like, goodbye. You've missed one month of amazing memories. Like, that just doesn't add up. And also, if you've already done the goodbye, like, you can do it again.

Yeah. It's like a second breakup. There's no break enough for me. Get your ass out to Melbourne immediately. Back that flight. Yeah. Keep us updated. Updated?

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BetMGM operates pursuant to an operating agreement with iGaming Ontario. Dilemma 2. Hey, girls. I've been single for over five years and recently went on my first amazing date in what has felt like forever. We ended up spending the whole evening together in a pub and getting along so well. He was charming, interested in what I had to say to say kind and genuinely had smiling from start to end at the end of the date we had a kiss and he said that he definitely wanted to hang out again we've been chatting every day since the first date and whilst it's been great to keep in touch the messages haven't got

me excited the chat has been quite safe with lots of small talk which isn't really my vibe we had our second date and again we both had a really good time. During the date, he said that he isn't actually quite shy and reserved, which has made me understand why he's so far played it safe. But this isn't something I'm used to. I really feel a spark and I think he does too, but I want to up the ante. I don't want to scare him away from being too forward, but how can I get him to take the reins a bit?

I'm worried if it stays safe that it will go to down and I just don't want to scare him away from being too forward but how can i get him to take the reins a bit i'm worried if it stays safe that it will go down and i just don't want that to happen you're gonna have to take the reins and over time he'll get the confidence yeah and learn to take the reins i agree he might just be quite shy which is fine if there's a spark that's what you fucking need yeah and if he's a lovely guy i think you're in for a lovely situation here i do think there's something like obviously don't settle and i don't want it but there's something, like, obviously don't settle and I don't want it, but I do think girls, like, I don't know whether it's Tinder or whatever,

like, people are like, there's a blue list and, like, a tick box and it's like, if there's a spark, there's a spark. Like, it doesn't matter about this, that and the other.

You know what I mean? Totally. I so agree. I also think sometimes if you're quite a confident, like, force of a woman, that can sometimes subconsciously make him take a bit of a backseat in terms of doing things because he'll feel like you're doing it. Do you know what I mean? Like it sometimes like takes you. Yeah it will just intimidate him a little bit. So I think that's okay. I think you just

have to let him build up his confidence and it will happen also i think you know have a couple drinks pay him some compliments and like build up his confidence a bit more show him that you're okay with upping me auntie and then maybe he'll be like oh she's down for this yeah don't definitely don't be like no straight away don't also bring it up like i want you to be more handsy or like whatever because that might also make him feel like oh that makes me feel insecure that you're like telling me

what to do totally you have to be quite tactical in these scenarios and also it's such early days it's only been two days yeah like I actually think if a boy was

upping the ante I like slow steady at that point I don't I just kiss them yeah I've seen Melissa she's she like

grind grind grind snog I was like I literally draw to the floor, I've seen Melissa. Maybe you've seen me in action. She's like, grind, grind, grind, snog. I was like, I literally draw to the floor. Guys, you've got to think that. When I met Melissa, she was in a relationship. She was in a relationship for a long time. Single, out. I was like, oh my God, this girl's got me. It actually felt really weird.

You know when you feel like you're doing something in front of your parents. I literally felt like that. And then they just went away, obviously. I didn't feel that embarrassed because I just carried on doing it. But sometimes. That was actually, I was like, I didn't feel that embarrassed because I just carried on doing it. But sometimes... That was actually... I was like, I didn't know where to look. God, I know.

Really sorry. I'm terrible. I do think that's what you've got to do, though. But sometimes you just have to, you know, just, you know, use your feminine power. I don't know. The power of the pussy. Go for it. The power of the pussy.

And it is powerful, you know? Yeah, I think also you obviously are quite a confident gal feeling it you're feeling it I just think yeah it's probably not always here but just get a bit drunk you'll be loving it I'm excited hey girls I'm getting married in a few weeks in Mauritius I'm on Roaccutane so I can't get a natural tan so I'm having to either fake tan or get a spray tan my question is what do I go for and will it go patchy by the time it's my wedding I'm worried about being hot and nervous and getting fake tan all over my wedding dress especially as it was my mum's I know you're

both fake tan queens so if you have any tips on what I can do then I would be so grateful it really depends how far in advance to the wedding you're getting to Mauritius. You cannot get a spray tan a week before. You will have to wait till you're there and fake tan the night before. Or two days before, I would do. And I would recommend the Tanlux Express Ultra Dark Mousse. It's pink, so it comes out as a mousse and it's like clear and it develops but it develops quickly and I and it is the best color it's phenomenal I mean you don't really I don't

really I see on your chest and I did it I did that like five days ago and it's just like a lovely golden color it's very natural it's not too much I also know on maracutane your skin can maybe get a bit dry so really overly moisturize leading up to it so your skin's really hydrated moisturize your ankles a little bit on your knees elbows like around your armpits it's a big one and i would maybe do a little bit like in your cleavage because it can take i don't know why it gets stuck that bit it does it gets stuck in like your pores it's bloody stuck everywhere it's a bit annoying but moisturize then as before you're doing it like don't wash that moisturizer off oh no absolutely not and then I would maybe wait five minutes and then what I do is with this tan I do two pumps on each area so two pumps on the calves as in two pumps one calf two pumps other calf same on thighs

then I do a pump on each butt cheek because you want to get all around there you don't want to be in your bikini like the next day after the wedding or whatever just do it everywhere and get your mum or your sister or whoever your barista is to come in and watch you do it and just be there hands on deck and I would do this either the day before or two days before and that will actually be so fun and then in the morning you wash off um but don't forget to wear a mitt absolutely wear a mitt absolutely wear a mitt and when you do your hands do it really lightly i just do whatever's left on the mitt and put a fuckload of moisturizer on your hands before yeah and then get a makeup remover put it

in between your hands like this and just do that like a wipe a wipe yeah just rub and go all around the wrist part all around your nails mean, or the hand thing. Sometimes I do a spray. Oh, yes. We have our lovely face mist. There's so many options of face mist. I wouldn't use the body fake tan on your face. I would use a spray.

Totally agree. And moisturise loads before you do the spray. It's all about moisturising. Same as the neck. And the back of the neck. Don't forget the back of your neck. Because I don't know if your hair's up or anything like that. That's a bit of an error.

And I know it sounds weird. I would also maybe put some moisturizer in your ears because sometimes with those mists you can get fake tan on your ears yeah it doesn't look great so I would do that practice now you've got a while practice yeah practice practicing that keep doing that 100% and also make sure there's no fake tan do you think that the clear fake tan is a bit hard because you've got no guy colour I don't know what it is about that right fucking express me

it is the best thing ever and within an hour you can see your skin changing colour so it's express how long does it it starts happening

after half an hour your skin starts turning but the great thing is because there's no guide colour do you wash it off you don't have to no unbelievable

it's unbelievable you don't leave with like this dark thing all over it off? You don't have to, no. Unbelievable. It's unbelievable. You don't leave with like this dark thing all over you that you're like then have to rinse off. You put it on, you look a bit pale and then throughout the night you just get golden and glowing and glowing and glowing. It's absolutely gorgeous. How often do you do this?

I need to start. I only do it if I've got something so I have to take photos on Saturday. So I did it on Thursday. And then I had to get, and I got my legs out and it looked great. It's honestly just, it's the best, easiest tan ever.

Okay. But definitely practice. If you need removal, go to Bondi Sands, get the tan removal, bring it out with an exfoliating glove. Yeah. Put that all over you and you're going to be sweet. The instructions are on there. But just make sure you're in good practice and you'll be absolutely fine.

It's not like a super dark tan, so you'll just be lovely and glowy, which I think is what you want. You don't want to be like so fake tanned and like i agree you know and like that you're sweating and then it stains on your dress that's not going to be good you're gonna be beautiful please send us photos of your wedding best wedding congratulations marisha as well stunning location okay dilemma four hey Sophie and Melissa I really need your advice I've been married to my husband

since last June however we've been together 11 years wow in January this year he went on a stag do in Thailand I was already apprehensive

about this given something that happened with him in Thailand quite early in our relationship oh no he was aware i was nervous and visibly upset about him going he gave me reassurance and eventually went on his trip well since he's come home i found his phone that he has downloaded tinder within 24 hours of leaving the house no he also had an sti checked booked for when he came back.

Oh, well, you have to dump him. I don't even need to read the rest of the dialogue. No, normally he's a goner. You have to get, I'm really sorry, divorced. See you later. I confronted him and he said he got brave and downloaded Tinder but never used it. Brave? No, you became a cheat.

I became brave? You got brave. What, do you want to tap on the head for it? I ate Battle of Hastings. Like, what the fuck? Are you joking? And he needed the STI test because a stripper put her tongue in his mouth, so he was right.

Oh, yeah, and my dad's the king. Are you fucking okay? Funny enough, he had booked a urine STI test and not quite believable. I honestly don't know what to do and have no one to talk about it. Whilst I was looking on his phone, I also found emails from a porn website he uses often and pays for cams and chats with the girls on there. I've told him for a long time that I don't agree with this

and he has always told me he's deleted his account. Apparently not, as yesterday he found his bank statements and in the last few weeks he's spent £200 on them. You've got a divorce. You need to... Oh, and on top of it, we have just got on them. You got a divorce. You needed a divorce. Oh, and on top of it, we have just got back from a trip from a family friend's wedding and he went out two of the nights until 5.30am

and I found that out he was in a strip club whilst I'm asleep back at the hotel. Where do I go from here? Okay, you need to call a lawyer. Yeah, get your ducks in a row. Yeah. Parents, friends, support system around you. You do not... Sorry, the stripper, porn,

like that's one thing. He cheated. He cheated. He downloaded Tinder. He cheated. And he got an STI check. He fucked someone. And probably a stripper. Probably a few people. We're done with this. We are done with this. And you deserve so much better than that. Fuck that. You sitting at home being just a lovely human being and he's doing that. I don't, I know it's really hard because you've been together for 11 years and that's a lot of memories and I feel like because you've been together for so long you'll just be hanging on to like in the wake of like that going on you'll just be romanticizing basically everything

that's gone on in the relationship and almost romanticizing all his fuck-ups. Yeah. Because that's just what we do. Like, why the fuck do we do that? Like, oh, they only did it because of this. And you almost... You just felt brave. You almost, like, make excuses for them. And it's like, no.

No. He is going to be like that for the rest of your relationship. And either you're going to be okay with being married to someone that's going to cheat on you and every day goes to Thailand or leaves the house and gets brave and downloads Tinder and does whatever he, you know? I mean, it's the fact that he's called it getting brave. I just called it brave.

That's such an insult. I got brave. I had the balls to do it. I had the courage to do it. Because I'm so unhappy with you. I was brave enough to do it. Be brave and leave me if you don't want to because you clearly don't have any respect for me

and you don't want to be with me. So you're the least brave. You're a coward. We hate him. Hate. Fucking pig. He's a pig. You pack your bags.

An STI, right, I'm sorry. It's also unsafe. Like, it's not, it's unsafe. Imagine he gives you a fucking STI. Also, just don't even waste your breath on this guy anymore. Like, he literally has zero respect. He's an awful guy. Awful.

I'm so sorry. The fact that he was 24 hours, he couldn't wait to do that. I know that's a hard truth. Yeah. You know what? It's not even like he's been traveling for like nine months and he got really lonely and men sometimes do fucking weird things. Sorry, 24 hours.

God, fuck it. It's literally like he's gone gagging. Yes. Yeah. He's clicked that iCloud button. Yeah. You know the cloud with the arrow? The moment heging. Yes. Yeah. He's clicked that iCloud button. Yeah. You know the cloud with the arrow? The moment he left the house.

Yeah. He's at the airport. He's in Wetherspoons having a beer at 6am. He's gone, Tinder. Yeah. Swipe. Literally picture it. Swipe.

Yep. With his gremlin little beer slurping on him whilst he's chuffing a sausage in his mouth. He's set his location to whatever. He's vile. He's set that location to wherever he's staying in Thailand. Do you want to be married to that? You deserve so much better. And because you've been there for 11 years,

you feel like you have to stay and you fucking don't. Amen, sister! I'm so good at giving advice. You know what's really bad? I just feel like if... Obviously, if I was in that scenario, I'd be able to leave. No, you would leave that fucker. But it's really hard.

It's like easy to give advice. It's really hard to take advice on board when you're in those scenarios. But it's really hard. It's like easy to give advice. It's really hard to like take advice on board when you're in those scenarios and I appreciate that. But it's not going to be easy but trust me you'll be so grateful

you've done this rather than have kids with him down the line. You're tied to him forever. Like look back on it and be like you know what he probably will teach you a lot of lessons from this.

You would have had some great memories over the 11 years. Yeah. But you leave that. You leave it at that. You leave it. That's it.

And you be strong. They were good memories and that's it. Yeah. Like, let's give you some tips because you're going to become a strong,

independent woman now. You're saying goodbye to that piece of ass. A new chapter for you, completely. This is self-help era. This is self-love. 100%.

And this is like, download those self-help books. An exciting time of your life where you're going to rediscover yourself as yourself. You're not discovering yourself as his wife or his girlfriend which is what your identity has been dragged into for the past 11 years we're gonna say congratulations no i'm sorry congratulations you have been born today yeah congrats this is time for you now this is your time to start living with no one else and

you're going to attract all those gorgeous positive things to you because you'll be a magnet of positivity and that sucker is not going to bring you down he is a sucker we love you

we love you so much you're just going to fall in love with yourself and yes that's what you have to do we love you and we're here for you

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