Wednesdays - 35. My ex is CHEATING on his pregnant wife, should I tell her?!

Episode Date: May 21, 2024

Melissa is still on holiday, but we've got a guest you Tinies adore! Georgia Habboo is back, joining Sophie to share everything as she prepares to be a mum.She opens up about her fertility struggles and her journey through pregnancy, which we really hope with help some Tinies listening 💖We also have some SHOCKING dilemma's this week! Sophie and Georgia offer some top tier advice as they have a proper sister catch up this episode!Got a dilemma or any personal advice for another Tiny? You can send us a voice note or message using the link here.AD: Text-to-switch to Sky Mobile, simply text PAC to 65075 to join https://www.sky.com/shop/mobile/why-sky-mobile?dcmp=snt-in-ig-wedsInstagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pSocial Media: @thechampagency Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Restrictions apply. See full terms at canada.casino.fandu.com. Please play responsibly. Melissa are you a doctor? I want to be but I'm not I'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts at anything in fact we just challenge all the shit and we love giving you guys advice

but as we said do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help We love giving you guys advice. But as we said, we love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Hey, guys, we're back. And Melissa is still on holiday. So I've got my sister Georgia on. Hey.

You've been on quite a few times now. But we thought we'd just get you on because you're pregnant. Yeah, I am. Which actually the last time you were on here and you were doing my makeup you were also quite pregnant then yeah I was like I was surprised no one noticed yeah I said to Emily Champion she was doing all of the um socials I was like when she told me I was like I'm surprised you couldn't tell and she was like no not at all I was bursting out my jeans uh she definitely funny it's so bad but like it was so keeping it. I found that the most difficult thing was keeping your secret for you. Yeah, I was very bad at keeping my secret for me.

I mean, I told everyone. Which made me then. Yeah, then I was like free reign. I remember like the day after I found out it was like one night because I'm just about to change jobs. It was really awkward timing. And I came in, I was talking to my assistant at work and I was like, oh God, I feel really stressed about this job situation.

And she was like, why? Like, you really want that job? I was like, yeah, I know. But like something personal's come up. And she was like, what? I was like, I'm pregnant. Yeah, two, one minute. Yeah, literally.

And she was like, oh. I was like, found out yesterday. Mom as well, like every single person. What do you mean? She told every single person straight do you mean she told every single person straight away george was like obviously you can't tell everyone for like another two months no no although i don't really believe in like that 12 week waiting well i think it's just personal isn't it yeah it's up totally up to you but you shouldn't feel like you have to keep it secret if

you don't want to i think also because i I feel like it will be interesting for the listeners, for you guys who don't know, do you want to explain your fertility situation? Yeah, because I think quite a few people are confused. Yeah, I do too. Yeah. So, well, I'll start from the beginning. So I stopped taking the pill when I went travelling when I was like 20

because I was going travelling for like seven months without my boyfriend, now my husband. And I never got my period back. So I didn't have a period for like, what, five or six years, probably? No way. Yeah. But that's insane that you didn't go to a doctor for five years. I did, I did.

I went to loads of doctors, I went to specialists and they just were like, they had no idea what was wrong. And then over... It's so wild, I remember it. Yeah. We were so young, it didn't feel that daunting. It wasn't that urgent yeah it was just oh that's weird I was freaked out about it but obviously you can just kind of like forget

about it and then um in COVID times can't remember exactly what year but um our friend Helen started fertility health and she messaged him was like do you want to try it and I was like oh my god actually I really do because I'm quite worried about all of that. So I did that test. And then she called me and was like, do you want to talk about your results? I was like, yeah, they're obviously not great if you're calling me. And I had really low AMH. It is the hormone that connects to your agri-serve.

Yeah, it tells you how many eggs you've got left, basically. Am I right? Yeah, you are. It's like your biological age for your ovaries, I think I think so yeah I didn't really know what that meant and weirdly that wasn't necessarily connected to me not getting period so I was like great I'm like fucked on both sides god knows what's going on um so then we went to go see a specialist they recommended I freeze my eggs we ended up freezing embryos with my now husband but he was just my boyfriend at the time because they have a better chance of survival with if the

embryos like fertilized um and we ended up doing and this was so your egg reserve was what i can't remember the few people have asked yeah do you think it was like a six it was the six six and i remember the doctor telling me this is the first only thing I really remember vividly, that he said, showed me on a chart of age range where my egg reserve is, and it was between 55 and 65. Yes. And that really obviously freaked me out so much. So for ages up to 30, your egg, the range shouldn't drop below 10.

10 is like the lowest it should be. And then so after 30 30 which is when you're sort of sorry not just scare anyone because you can like this is not obviously people have babies when they're 40 whatever but this is just what they tell you after 35 it's it's much harder to get pregnant isn't it yeah and so you obviously like a fifth like you're the same age as a 55 yeah so I was like oh my I literally remember being in the office like holding in my tears like cool right and then we like walked out the door and I was with Barry and I was like oh my god um so yeah froze them we did three rounds of freezing it

took probably about five or six months do you think it was a lot it was during Covid yeah which was quite lucky actually. Yeah which was quite good because obviously you can't do anything, same as when you're pregnant, you can't drink I looked as pregnant as I am, look now don't I? But that was because you did three back to back rounds of IVF, which is the

hormone, you were injecting a hormone into. Yeah so it's not like actual IVF but yeah you put all the hormones into you so you do like a couple of weeks of injecting and then get loads of follicles. And then they collect as many eggs as they can. First two rounds, we didn't get many at all. I think we got three, then one. That was really scary and disheartening.

Yeah, really disheartening, because not only is it expensive as well, it's extortionate. And they say, well, my doctor said you need the on average to have about to have I would like two children ideally touch wood and um he was like yeah you probably need on the safe side to have like um seven seven eggs to like guarantee you one so I was like okay well I'm never gonna get there to be able to get two um but yeah then on our third round we got loads um which was really crazy um so we ended up having like i think we're like 13 or 14 like really good quality embryos yeah embryos yes they're fertilized oh my god see there's you could have 13 babies if you yeah 14 pop those little yeah so that'll happen and then we just assumed because we've been we

were told like you're gonna really struggle to unless you have kids now which was a few years ago you're gonna struggle when you're older to have kids naturally um so we just assumed but we didn't we weren't like a few people have said to me like why don't you just get pregnant then I just wasn't really ready to we weren't't even engaged. We wanted to get married. We were quite young, like not ready in our careers. So yeah, then obviously we had already always known after we got married, we would start trying to probably like go straight into doing IVF was the plan. And then we were meant to start after our honeymoon. But because we're in the Maldives and it's like very low risk,

but it's a Zika country our doctor said can you wait a couple of months after that so we just had a couple of months and we were like let's just try a lot naturally and we did and it worked. She shoved those legs in the air guys. I was doing headstands and it worked. So it's just like the best thing ever and we're so and how's it been let me tell you first trimester is rough it's like how rough like I actually don't think I've got it that bad some of my friends are like throwing up every day I've got luckily quite a few pregnant friends at the moment which is quite fun but some have been literally throwing up every day like some I know people have been signed off work like I, I wasn't that bad, yeah.

Well, Tally, bless her, had diabetes. She was so sick and throwing up and had diabetes. Really? Yeah. Oh, God, yeah. I was only sick a few times. So you've reasonably, like, apart from the fact of being exhausted. So, you're so tired.

But there's, like, so many things, like, I never knew about as in symptoms. No, go on, give us yeah at first this is so gross but you have such bad gas flatulence so bad like I was like what is happening you were like I don't know what's going on it was like this is disgusting I was like I can't help it I don't know what's happening yeah honestly no one told me and then like now I'm talking to my friends that have already had babies and I'm like, did you have this? They're like, yes, so bad.

I'm like, why didn't you warn me? Why does no one know that? I'm burping or what? No, just I didn't have burping problems. Just the other one. I don't know if other people do. I can't. What other things?

I have such bad congestion. Apparently that's a really normal symptom. That would drive me insane. I can't breathe. I've just bought a humidifier for my room so apparently that can help you can't breathe I honestly can't breathe out my nose haven't been out to for months it's hideous but wait you have also your very very hay fever vibes yeah and then you can't take anything for hay fever you can get a prescription for doctors which but my doctors just literally can't get me an appointment so that's fun um but yeah you can get a prescription but you have to go to the doctors like every time i go to pharmacy of anything i'm like please is there anything you can give me and they're like no you need to get the spray to shove up your nose i just got that the salt spray that's yeah

i literally had ordered while i was away like a humidifier salt spray like everything's gonna help me um looking thicker than ever is that my nails are breaking that's a that's going to help me. Hair's looking thicker than ever. My nails are breaking. That's another thing. I thought your nails and hair get stronger. Some people's do, but some break. Someone said to me that when they were pregnant with boys, their nails were very strong. And when they were pregnant with girls, they broke.

Because those girls are taking all the... Girls steal your beauty. Those little pesky girls. Skin was... Skin's getting better, but skin was so bad at first wasn't it it wasn't so bad i was getting like hormonal giant spots i'm making this sound great um but it's a blessing and you're so happy i'm so happy it's just it's yeah it's really it's so weird as well just like seeing your body change so quickly so i feel like i've popped really early like now i don't think you have now i think this is legit but you did you were like this about five weeks ago yeah

probably yeah like when I'm announcing it 12 weeks I'm like and I've got a big old belly and then it's funny because um like I don't know about well I don't know about you I'm not pregnant but you were saying that like a lot of people comment on, it's quite weird that people comment like, oh my God, she's quite big at the moment. Oh my God, yeah. It's girl, obviously, if you're listening, I know you didn't mean to message me.

Message me, message, you know when you put a story and someone tries to send their story to their friend. She did that, but replied to my story. But oh my God, she's huge in capital letters. And I was like, that's so mean. Obviously, you feel really insecure I know but I feel really like I at that time I don't so much anymore but I felt a bit embarrassed about how big I was and I did feel and also you just do feel insecure like whoa

my body it looks bizarre for me to me like this isn't I you're so not used to when you feel a bit uncomfortable and then she replied like three minutes later like still cute though she obviously thought oh shit I sent it to her oh my god no way I never thought I I've never also like I want a big bump like every bump every yeah I don't care so much anymore like I do literally know girls that are pregnant like seven months pregnant and they look haven't put on an ounce of weight and they just have a tiny bump and I'm like cool yeah but everyone's different and we're just so excited

you're having a girl I know I'm so happy it's a girl and we're gonna have to tell the name at some point because yeah you're going to have to because someone else steals it don't tell it today no I won't I don't think I'm gonna say it until it's bought yeah fine it's quite. No, I won't. I don't think I'm going to say it until it's bought. Yeah, fine. It's quite weird.

It's quite weird. Yeah, I think so. Like, obviously all my friends know and all my family know. I was saying to these guys earlier, I've literally known the name for about seven years. And never told me. I will have. I will have. No, you've never in your life uttered a baby name to me.

Like, I've railed off about a thousand to you and you've never said one. Maybe it's because in my head I was like, oh, you know mine. Like I've had the same one for years. Yeah, I was actually, I would never have thought of that name for you. Really? I don't know what name I would have thought, to be honest. I don't hear everyone question a name. So for anyone listening that's going through or had gone through fertility issues,

I guess that you're actually such a lovely story yeah to hear like what would you say to them because what i will say is the whole time you were going through ivf you were so positive you were like no no i'm gonna have a baby like it's gonna work yeah like there was never an ounce like you didn't i you're you're quite private with like your emotions anyway you're not really someone who calls me out crying despite us calling each other by three times a day yeah you're quite strong like that but I don't to me you were like no it's all good yeah I mean there were times I do remember one time I was walking to meet you on the king's road and we were going shopping and I was and as I was on my way I got the call from the hospital to say only one of the embryos had like worked and I remember I did see them like I was obviously crying my eyes out but

oh my god I feel like I'm gonna cry now oh no because it's so emotional it's the hormones um it's also really emotional like that's it's really scary it is really scary I like I've had quite a few girls message me being like this is such a nice positive story because I'm having I've got like same issues I had a girl message me

about you as well so lovely yeah and I just think I just always thought in my head and I've had friends that have gone through it as well

exactly the same thing and actually I have a friend who went through the same thing as me she also got pregnant naturally after trying for a few months

so yeah it definitely can happen I think that's a really common thing actually people go through fertility treatments and then naturally conceive somehow like I feel like it definitely kick-started something for me because after freezing my embryos my periods just came back and obviously I wouldn't be able to get pregnant if my periods never came back so we don't know why that happened but it happened so definitely something but yeah I felt it's really really awful time to be honest and it's very scary because if you want to be a mom and you want to

have your own kids it's really scary to think that might not happen for you especially if you've like I felt like I grew up always imagining myself as a mom like it was a no-brainer yeah and then having the idea suddenly put into my head at 28 or something that that might not happen was terrifying. But I just I honestly just thought it will happen. Like no matter what, like I would have gone any route anyway to have kids. Like I wouldn't have written anything off. But I just never saw myself without having kids. So I just thought, well, make it happen.

So just stay positive yeah I think so and I think um if you have a partner or unlike family it's definitely better to try and talk about it as much as you can because I yeah I'm not that good at that but when I did it was nice to be able to you know yeah share your feelings yeah like holding those sorts of things and doing it alone and also like definitely sharing it with your partner I feel like Barry was so great with all of that wasn't he he was really good he was really good as well like I was like that's not gonna happen but he was really good at like so I then thought I don't want to be the reason you can't have kids and but he was so sweet like that's what more important to me like I'd rather be with you over everything which

is you know so sweet um but I was like no it's happening that's very important to me um but yeah I think yeah if and if you are a partner of someone that's going through that just understand that their emotions must be going especially when you're on the hormones like you're so up and down and you're so emotional um so just like just do everything you can to make them feel better oh my god and also hayley beaver's pregnant i know i saw this morning guys i had a feeling i don't know why i had a feeling yeah but i've had a feeling for about the last three years i wonder how pregnant she is she looks oh she i don't think she would have announced for a while. Me too. I think she could borderline be six months. Not without a tiny bump.

You never know. You never know. She's a tiny girl. But yeah, I reckon she might be like four or five. Four or five. Yeah. So cute. Their baby's going to be gorgeous.

It's not right. I hope it's a girl because she's just going to be unreal. A boy, Justin. Yeah, true. I've got a new found. Like, I actually have a problem with Justin Bieber. My entire, Justin. Yeah, true. I got a new found, like, I actually have a problem with Justin Bieber. My entire TikTok feed

is now Justin Bieber. I love him. I've always loved him. No, but I always thought he was fit. Like, I got it. Everyone's in love with him. But like, I hurt.

It hurts. Like me and that guy from that film the other night. Nick Galitzian. From? From the new Anne Hathaway film, guys. Breathtaking. I was honestly getting goose pimples. You were a bit

too much, to be fair. I felt like when I my first love was Zac Efron in 17 Again. Like, genuinely, that was my first love. 17 Again? You mean High School Musical? I think, no, I think I did love him a bit then, but when I saw him 17 Again, that scene where he gets his leather jacket with his white t-shirt, I was like, oh

my god. I think I actually welled up once. I was like, I'm just never going to meet him and that's devastating he gets his leather jacket with his white t-shirt, I was like, oh my God. I think I actually welled up once. I was like, I'm just never going to meet him and that's devastating. That was like me with Angus Bull, Strongson, Full Frontal Sudden, and Aaron Johnson. Like genuinely depressed. Yeah, I was.

I remember being like, and I hated Vanessa Hudgens. I just hated her. You then want to marry someone who gets cool. Barry, people say he looks like Zac Efron. Well, I'm so happy. I'm so excited for you. Love you.

Me too. Love you. Let's go into some dilemmas. Okay. Hey, ladies. My in-laws have ruined my life. Ever since I was little, my family have been friends with another family. Let's call them the Smiths. I've known the Smiths my entire life.

I have been best friends with their daughter and their son for as long as I can remember. A few years ago, I started to have feelings for their son. And after a weird year of flirting, we spent the night together. We have now been a couple for the coming up four years. As soon as I began a relationship with their son, Mr. and Mrs. Smith started treating me very differently. It was so confusing as I'd viewed them as a second family. The mother started

commenting on my eating habits. The dad would make comments about acne. No. No. They found contraception in his room and said at least she won't ruin his future by getting pregnant. Oh my god. The dad even called me repulsive. Oh my God.

Sorry. I organized a 21st birthday for my boyfriend and Mr. and Mrs. Smith took my best friend to the side and told her that it was her job to break me and their son. What the hell? They're insane. After years of indirect abuse, I decided to reach out to Mr. and Mrs. Smith

and tell her that I loved her son, that I saw a future with him. I would be out of the relationship within a heartbeat. And I would, yeah, and expect my boyfriend to be speaking to his parents, like, why are you treating my girlfriend so badly? She replied, telling me that I needed to set him free. No, this sounds really odd. They sound culty. I haven't spoken to her since. It's now been seven months of silence and it's put a huge amount of pressure on my relationship and my boyfriend things got even so bad that we had to take a break we're now in a great place but i still have moments of self-doubt i saw mr

and mrs smith in the supermarket i had to run away out of panic i've decided not to attend not to attend my brother's but wedding my boyfriend's brother's wedding as i don't want to see mr and mrs smith i can't cope that we're calling them Mr and Mrs Smith but I know that these social situations are bound to happen what can I do to improve things for me and my boyfriend right well it's really hard as well because we don't know she sounds like she's not done anything wrong like they've just some reason taken and disliked her I just don't understand have you not been telling your boyfriend to stand up for you yeah that would really upset me like I think I would actually walk away same if my husband's family called me repulsive and he just was like oh I would be like well you need to do something about this I also

genuinely like I know this it's kind of in the movies, but I can't imagine. Because you, you're the half, whether you get married or not, they are your family. Yeah. And we're both lucky we really like and get on with our husband's family. But like, had I not, having known how much they are your family. Yeah, you can't, like this one wedding is an example, but if they end up getting married, what are they going to do at Christmas and at birthdays? When you have grandkids. Yeah, when they have a child. I mean, like, I would, like, want to, I would say to the boyfriend, like, you need to sit down with your parents, find out what their problem is, and, like, if there's a legitimate reason that we can maybe talk through, like, that they have some weird idea about me.

But if not, you need to be, like, you need to, what you need what the hell are you doing you need to stop like bullying my girlfriend yeah like firstly this i'm really sorry you're going through this this is horrific yeah that's so sad like that's horrendous they are literally bullying her yeah that's horrible i think first things first you speak to your boyfriend be completely truthful with him honest like you two are a team. And it's not about him choosing sides. This is just right or wrong. Like, what they're doing is wrong.

So he needs to tell them that it's wrong. And hopefully they listen. If they don't, then you and him might just have to draw away from them. Or you might just have to leave the family, leave them all behind. Yeah. Because this will go on forever, if yeah i would want i'd want to like sit down with them and get to the bottom of what their problem is same but they sound just absolutely it sounds like they're insane because they liked it before when they weren't together

so i feel like that's like some weird jealousy thing but hopefully they are nice people and nice and we'll be nice and it all works out yeah and we love you and continue running into us and don't feel you're like alone in this you like tell people because it's really not nice what's happening to you look i'm gonna be truthful if they didn't apologize and they continue to be like that and your boyfriend was like oh they're just my brother i'd be like oh same yeah yeah same like you're all crazy i'm'm out the door. Yeah. If he just was like, oh, what can I do? I'd be like, your family is insane, I've got to get out of this. Same.

Like, I'm not sticking around for that. It's annoying, though, because the parents get what they want. Do you think? Well, they want them to break up. Oh, right. Okay. Oh, my God. Maybe just have a couple of fun and games before you leave.

But ultimately, you've got to ditch them. Ultimately, it's your mental health. Like, you have to go. But maybe just before you do, like, really snog him in front of them. Like, smack his bum. Like, just talk about sex in front of them. Go to the wedding and make a scene. I'm joking, don't do that.

Go to the wedding and make a huge... No, don't make a scene. Talk about sex in front of him. That's surely the most beautiful thing you could possibly do. I'm like, oh, sorry.

Sorry, I love anal with your son. Oh my God, out of nowhere, I was going to be like, oh, sorry, my legs are so sore.

Does that happen? I don't know. My legs don't get sore. No, nor mine, but I'll never forget that time. You know that girl, some girl at my school

pretended she'd had sex when she hadn't and she walked in, she's like, ow, I can't walk with my legs oh no like when you first have sex oh your groin

you walk like you're a cowboy anyway yeah do that and be like sorry get love bites all over you get the bottle did you ever do that? we used to give each other love bites I used to do it with the bottle just on my own

that's going to an all girls school cool I used to with the bottle like just on my own really wanting that's um going to an all-girls school guys I used to do it you know and I used to when we were in Spain on summer because you would be snogging every boy left right and center one boyfriend I had left right and center and I was like 13 and like obviously then I thought I was such a loser because I wasn't snogging boys but you were. So I would try and give myself love bites. You never picked up on it but the boys would. They'd be like, who's done that?

You were probably like 11, let's be honest. I was so young. Dad must have been looking at me like, what's going on? Who's giving my 11 year old love bites? Not me like, with a bottle and then like pouring it off my face and then I'd hold it and I'd do it over and over again and then one time it was like really like black and blue

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Oh, wow. The weekend before I was due to fly to Australia, I found out that he had been in a relationship with another girl for five years. No, it can't be real. These people are insane. Insane. He'd only broken up with real. These people are insane. Insane. He'd only broken up with her two months before I left. At least he broke up.

So they've been having an affair for six months, that means. Me and this guy both work for his family business. Which meant his dad knew what was going on and never said anything. That is really gross.

I'm hoping his dad said something to his son like, son, you've got to sort this out. When he arrived in Australia, I brought it up. I hope hoping his dad said something to his son, like, son, you've got to sort this out. When he arrived in Australia, I brought her up. I hope she brought, I don't know if you brought that up before then, or maybe you didn't find out.

He told me that he'd tried to finish with her for a while, so I took it at face value. We went on a night out together with a group of friends, and he started getting, wait, sorry, you, you,

he's like, oh, don't worry, I tried to break up with my girlfriend for five years, but she's not having any of it. She wasn't having it. So I've just been dating the two of you, but let's go on a night out. Wait for it, wait for it.

We went on a night out together with a group of friends, and he started getting with another girl. This is when he's in Sydney with her. He's gone to Australia to see her. Why are you even, you, no. I told him I couldn't carry on like this. Thank you. And he said that he wasn't ready to get serious.

Why have you gone to Australia with her then? Wait, sorry. I'm so confused. How long have these two been going out? They've been going out for eight months. I didn't let this get in the way of our friendship. Wow, that's very big of you. And we would talk.

What friendship? Yeah. He would be out of my life in a shop um and we would talk every day but recently he started being cold towards me but would always call me drunk on a night out I started seeing somebody this didn't last as I can't keep away from him no whenever I tried to talk to someone new I felt like I'm cheating on him no no no no no no no no, no, no, no, no, no. But I don't even know if I want anything with him. What do I do?

Literally cut him out of your life, cold turkey. You cannot speak to him one more time. Block his number. Right now. Like, please, please. I have friends, and one of them's doing it literally as I speak, who always like try and stay friends with their ex

and go hang out with them. And I'm like, you will never move on because you always have a flame in your heart you're holding candles to that guy hoping that he'll eventually turn around and go no you're the love of my life and i want to get back together and it's not going to happen he's not interested he showed you he's not interested he's also showed you what he's like as a person if he can cheat on his girlfriend of five years so and get with someone in front of you that's disgusting no i No. I couldn't have said any. There's nothing more to add. Like, this is, this is like, no-brainer.

There's no, oh, you could do this, you could do that. You need to block that boy. You need to delete his number. You need to erase every memory of him. And tell yourself he is vile. He also has no respect for you as a friend. He has no respect for you whatsoever. He's treated you with so little respect.

He doesn't deserve friendship from you, never mind a relationship. And do you know what? Sometimes this happens when people like really have no respect for you and they like don't care about you and they're like not bothered. It makes you want them more

because your self-worth and self-confidence goes so down. You start feeling so, they've made you feel so little and so low about yourself. You then want them because you're like, oh can't get any better you can he's the piece of shit you're great and I'm sure he like keeps breadcrumbing you I'm sure he like oh he's so lovely yeah I'm sure he's there for you when he needs to be text you you know we're best friends

you think it was really strong connection but you don't you don't because you're doing this for 10 other girls yeah exactly and also you're so much better than that also no just like this is like honestly there's no other option and it genuinely means like you said you're not going to move on yeah you and it'll just you're just going to waste those good years waiting this arsehole honestly this is a recipe waiting to happen. It's already happened. Like, get out while you can and just run. Run for the hills. Yeah.

You need to, literally, this moment you hear this, please block his number. Yeah. And delete it. And block his LinkedIn. Block his email. Block his home phone,

if he has one. Everything. Block his Twitter. Everything. Right, listen up guys it's summer you've heard the girls speak if you've got a boy

treating you like shit if you've found a boy cheating on you if you've got a guy who's got another girlfriend and he's dating you you right now

as you're listening to this are going to block and delete on everything 5 4 3 2 1 block and delete on everything five four three two one block and delete

i can hear all these things honestly though i let me tell you linkedin you need to get that one because i've had boys sneak back into a girl from in linkedin you are so you can erase it no to me no messages me but they they'd be blocked them on everything and they LinkedIn messaged them. Yeah. So you got to get every single platform. Every platform.

What's another sneaky one that people wouldn't think of? Depop. Depop. Do you know I've seen as well someone sending them like a pound and then changing

the reference to like please unblock me. No, you're joking where are you seeing this on tiktok i feel like on tiktok yeah no guys okay depop everything these people are like they won't stop at any course you can let them send you a pound just don't ever apply yeah just keep banking their cash yeah we don't want anything to do with them no jokes yeah don't we love you i'm sorry you're going through that but like please please just know your self-worth don't stoop like don't lower yourself for that it's just so bad on every level this part of Wednesdays is brought to you by Sky Mobile we've had some really great messages in

sent from our tinies talking about what the last straw was in their relationship before they had to break up. You've been a breaker-upper. Me too. No, do you know what? The only time I've been broken up with. I've been broken up with once. With who? From Dani, my Spanish boyfriend.

Okay, so we've got one message from the listener. And she says, I had to break up with my boyfriend because he became such a slob. Like leaving crumbs on the side and his car was like the inside of a bin whenever he'd drive else his car would smell so bad and he claimed that he didn't know what was causing the stench no no i'm sick no guys it turned out to be a moldy protein shake under his seat which had grown maggots oh my god no that is absolutely foul The biggest ick already One time I got back from work And saw him sat in the living room

Playing videos And biting his toenails That's actually the worst thing I would ever see Like I actually think I'd throw up No it can't be right You kissed that mouth

That bites toenails He was like that Like a Like a monkey Biting his toenails That is so disgusting Please don't tell me Anyone actually does that I literally have tits in my eyes like a monkey biting his toenails. That is so disgusting. Please don't tell me anyone actually does that.

I literally have tears in my eyes. The thing that I kissed that mouth that he'd had his toes in. Is she crying? That is, imagine. That is vile. People are sick. Imagine walking in and Jamie doing that. I would genuinely go straight to the lawyer

and get a divorce paper I'd be like UV Velocity Plot or we need to separate that is so hideous I can't I know you girls have a thing about what people call their parents I started seeing a guy and after we became official

I went to meet his parents my boyfriend greeted his dad and called him big daddy hey big daddy I don't know why but I'm okay with it I'm okay with it I thought it was joke but siblings did the same wait I don't understand it they just go it must be a joke within the siblings. Yeah. It's like, it's like, big nige. Big nige, yeah. Who's big nige? I don't know, but I know a big nige. Who the fuck is big nige? Someone in our family is called big nige.

I don't know who. I can't think of one person called nige. Nigel. Who do I know called big nige? Is someone, one of my friends going to write in and be like, it's my dad, you idiot. Yeah, I have no idea. It gave me big ick and I had to make up excuses to why to break out of him because i couldn't stand the nickname oh god that's so bad i mean if they called him just big daddy on the one off that could be quite funny but imagine you know the amount of times we're like oh dad imagine

every time they went oh big daddy big daddy can Big daddy, can you pass me a drink? Yeah, oh, big daddy, I'll have a diet cake. Big daddy, what time is it? You're big. You must be enormous, right? Oh, you all right, big daddy? It's too much. The spring is here, which means that uncuffing season has arrived.

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We were involved with each other for over a year but he had serious commitment issues and was definitely seeing other girls behind my back. We were never official so he could technically do as he pleased and for some reason I never spoke up about what his wrongdoings were. He definitely had some kind of hold over me. Fast forward six years and I met somebody else. He's the love of my life. We're married and with a perfect baby

and our own home. Congratulations. My ex also got married to a girl and had a baby. She's now currently pregnant with their second. My ex is away with work and my best friend happens to be in the same location as him. She's told me that he's cheated on his pregnant wife twice since he's been there.

Oh, vile pig. I dread to think how many times this has happened. As a mother myself, I'm really struggling with knowing the information and thinking of his poor pregnant wife waiting for her scumbag husband to come back home. I don't want to look like I'm bothered about my ex to my husband, and I definitely don't want to get involved in my ex's mess, but I'm struggling with knowing the information and what do with it do I wait for him to trip up on his own mistakes or tell the woman I just oh my first thought is like she's pregnant and she probably like it's probably not the best time to have extra stress I agree I wouldn't personally tell the woman if anything I would message him yeah I would tell my husband be like look I'm sorry I

know it's a bit weird and it's really like regardless but like I just think it's so disgusting and I would message him and be like people know you and they can see what you're doing and you're vile and you've got pregnant wife at home what are you doing yeah I mean it just looks so bad on him it's absolutely disgusting and his poor wife I feel I would definitely message him because I just think like he should know and i you should know it's out there because then if he wants to do something about it he can but i yeah i wouldn't message the wife i think firstly because you're an ex it looks like it's coming from a malice place so true she could if you wanted to she could so easily just be like no you're just a jealous ex because people don't want to believe their husbands cheating on them ever, especially in that situation.

And secondly, George is right, she's pregnant. And thirdly, I just think, like, it's not your place. I don't think it's your place to tell her, but I would tell him. Yeah, I actually always think in these situations, unless, like, the woman is your best friend or something. You saw your best friend's husband cheating. I would never really go to the woman. Same, I'd go to the guy doing it. Yeah, and be like, I know you need to do something about this.

Same, I always think this. I feel it's just like, I don't know. It feels really like the wrong way around to do it, to go to the other person and not say your best friend. Because also it'd be nice, obviously it's not going to be nice, but it's better for the woman to hear it from her own husband so at least give him the opportunity to do that to like own up himself if he's going to i mean god knows what you do if he didn't end up owning up but at least it's a really tricky situation though i really feel

for you because it's horrific but i definitely think you should i actually think what i would do is probably call him i would i don't know if your friend knows him that well but i would get the friend who saw it to say to message him and say i was there and saw you cheating on your wife yeah if she knows him and ever met him like i guess that would be better than coming from the ex i guess quite weird they imagine they like met once and he's like, you fucking knew him. Yeah, that's true. At least like you knew him well enough for six months or however long to be like, what the fuck are you doing? I just think horrific. He's a pig.

Either way, your friend or you talk to him. Like if nothing else, he should be so ashamed of himself and like, no. Sorry, it sounds really bad. I hope he does. I don't know. It's sad. it's really sad because like will he tell his wife probably not but will he stop probably not probably not if he's that type of guy but like do i think telling a pregnant mom no you know what i would do do you

have any mutual friends with her like i would tell you yeah if well no i would i would want if that happened with me i reckon all my friends would tell you before telling me they'd be like Georgia what do we do like go to her best friend find the wife the pregnant wife's

best friend and tell her and be like I don't want to stress her out I don't know does she know really good idea she could know

she might know that he's one of those guys and just doesn't mind turns a blind eye turns a blind eye exactly I think that's the way to do it and I'd also tell that scumbag.

So he's so ashamed. And like, what a pig. I can't. I just feel like he won't even be ashamed. Do you know what I mean? I feel like he's just a dick. But then she might have the support for her friends to know. And then they can like hold her and she can get out of it and find the right man.

Yeah. And they'll also know what's her mental state she's in. Like if their marriage is really good, if she has any inkling, they'll know how to deal with it. Because you don't know. She might already be like, oh, I hate him. And like, give me an excuse.

Yeah, exactly. You don't know. Good luck. Keep us updated, my God. Keep us updated. Thank God you didn't end up with him. Thank God. Oh my God, guys guys that was so fun george thanks coming on that one that was so quickly i feel like i've been here for 10 minutes same i was like we surely got half an

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