Wednesdays - 39. BIG family drama!! My sister’s new fiancee has a secret other girlfriend

Episode Date: June 18, 2024

Want More? Check out our new subscription: ad free, bonus eps and ALL the goss wednesdays.supercast.com/Heyyy Tinies, Sophie and Melissa have a BIG debrief on their weekends from partying in Ibiza to how TikTok ruining their fave spots!As for the dilemma's it's a juicy week, Sophie and Melissa decide if it's a just a bad joke or a bad boyfriend as one Tiny's boyfriend offer to get her a b**b job, some BIG family drama from a sister’s new fiancé who has a secret other girlfriend, and hear about a story from a Tiny who moved to Australia for her boyfriend, and then I found out he was a CHEAT...Got a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma? You can send us a voice note or message using the link here.Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]--Credits:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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but as we said do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help hi girlies hi guys and boysies we're back right i've been in ibiza and we've so much to catch up on yes we've been like semi debriefing but trying to hold in the good stuff so we can talk about it right now let's go back let's go. Let's just rewind a few days. She lands in Ibiza. Lands in Ibiza.

Honestly, the best place ever. Like, I would go back there a million times over. North of the island. You used to go quite a lot. No, I've only been to Ibiza twice. But I did centre of Ibiza. Like, Ibiza. Old town that everyone knows.

Not that major fan. Really? No, I like north of the island stunning everything's organic it's very hippie very boho like i can't tell you you would love it like you drive to every single restaurant it's like homegrown from the garden oh my god that is just so my body i know and it's like white bean hummus aubergines like all their fresh vegetables there's no rapeseed oil inside there nothing you can't get a dark coke on the whole island like on the whole of the north of there which was a bit get a dark cake on the whole island like on the whole

of the north of there which was a bit of a struggle for me because I was literally like it was like crack I was like we have to drive to a restaurant I need one

also I was saying to Sophie it's so funny how they won't serve dark cake but they serve alcohol which is so much worse if you're really going to be that healthy

Jamie was like we ate so much food and he was like I've lost weight and I was like it's because it's all healthy it's clean he was like I feel so clean and he was like it's because it's all healthy it's clean he was like i feel so clean and his hair was like my hair's growing got bigger i was like

no sweet i know i was like this is because you keep eating and then he bought the hotel was very very healthy like rejuvenating so there's all those like health books he started reading on like how to live longer and he was like right i can never smoke and he was like we've got to do the blue eating the purple sweet potato like yeah sometimes also if you're telling him he won't take that on board he's like well as you learn it from tiktok i'm like yeah and it's true do you be i'm gonna go really quickly about ibiza yeah everyone was sort of like jamie's age i would say like mid-30s and all had babies and i would dress so chic and it just made me so broody i was obsessed with this little girl she was called river and I honestly like stared at her.

It was actually disturbing. Like I watched her all day long. She was just so cute. I couldn't even believe it. No, I know. It was like a mini me to her mum and just like hung out with her mum all day. Oh, it was just heaven.

So that was really lovely. Oh, I can imagine having a mini you and Jamie. Isn't that just a magical thought? Like they look so cool with this baby on the hip. You know what I mean? Yeah, I think it's such a cool thing. It's magical thing it's a magical magical moment oh it makes my eyes water look at me she's crying i'm really like just excited about this time we were alive okay carry on and then we went to a shrine one night which was so sexy calvin harris which was unbelievable

can we just sing some calvin harris tunes for? Rihanna. When I met you in the summer. That vibe. You were in VIP. We were in VIP. With all the celebs. Yeah, there was loads of celebs. Any pop stars. Yeah, we had the guy from Emily in Paris.

Stunning. What's his name? And he goes, you're right, Cooper. Lucien. He's stunning. Really, really well dressed. Was he nice? Did you speak to him?

Yeah, yeah, I spoke to him. I know. I would have said weird things to him, like, so, how's Paris and how's Emily? Well, I haven't actually seen it. The show. I still would have said that. I love to dance.

Like, put me with music, and I'm having the best time of my life. Like, I will dance all night long. Jamie is the guy who likes to go outside every five minutes or talk he's like i'm talking to me he's like i'd rather just sit and have a lovely chat with someone i'm like that is my my idea of actual hell on earth anyway i've never seen this boy dance it was like he felt the rhythm he was like stunning and he was going for it and it was the sweetest thing i've ever seen i've never

seen him happier like he was like this is the best time of my life everyone was like okay very much like he just doesn't like to dance that much and he was dancing dancing dancing being so bizarre anyway the alcohol was just hitting him so well that is just great when like it's almost like you go back to being like when you're a child and it's like the first few times you've drunk and you're like god this is so fun i'm the best dance ever yeah he was like so near that vibe oh my god i'm jealous go for it and then he was just being so crazy i honestly just all these lovely girls like talking and he was just chewing you need to right come on now just raining it in rain it in anyway it's very very fun time and then we came home tell me about yours oh my god stunning yeah mine was just not as exciting

no i didn't go to the pear tree i thought god loads of people might be at the pear tree and they were oh my god are you joking every weekend now tiktok has ruined the pear tree completely ruined it you can't fucking get a table there now apparently people like this conor maynard guy you know the singer that like does all those covers apparently he literally was like oh how much like the table because you have to queue and wait for so long so people are like paying people to get off the table so i think they were like 500 quid and we'll buy a bottle of rosie and they're like yeah fine i'll take that thank you very much but it's mental like the queues are going on forever and ever and ever i know I went there the other week and I was like, what the hell?

It's just too crazy. It's also like too, like, that sort of place gives me a lot of anxiety. It never used to be like that. It used to be good vibes. And now it's so expensive for a bottle of rose. And it's like, fuck's sake, we're in a park. It's not a fancy restaurant. I'm not going to pay £40 for a bottle of eight.

Which is really good. Yeah. And then the DJ is actually quite good too. Like, the music that they play is always good fun. But it's just too rammed now. It's not's not enjoyable the toilets you can't go for a week oh my god the last time i was there so last time when we had this huge like day there me and all my friends and we were going into the woods the woods to go pee because the the loo was too like long not the woods but like oh yeah all the trees are like it's everyone was doing it because you just could not get in the loo one of them was blocked it was an absolute nightmare me and my

friend were in the woods going for a wee as we do and um we were walking back and I was like no no no I'm really terrified she was peeing and she was like oh my god Melissa there is the biggest beneath my feet right now like oh my god oh my god it's disgusting but it's fine because i'm like i can see it and i'm not gonna go anywhere in it or near it anyway somehow she managed to to walk through it like on the way back out because we were so drunk it was all over her she's all up her jeans you know those jeans that like have the slit down so they like sit nicely of your your um shoe your trainer like this was a flare like that yes all in the flare no no it was human poo no it fucking wasn't

no it wasn't no it was not over her feet and all up her jeans and we then go to my friend my other friend's house for an after party we're all like on

Battersea Park roundabout and um her boyfriend had to go into like you know like the waitress that's on like the petrol station on the roundabout get some tissues for her

and then like get her in the Uber get her to my friend's house and then like my friend like they take the jeans off. She puts them in a plastic bag and then she borrows my other friend's jeans for like the rest of the night.

And she was just, she was a trooper and just went through. I was like, that was me. I would have had to go home because I'd have been so upset. She was like,

there was nothing I could have done. No, you just got a trooper through. And I wasn't going to ruin my night. I just had to push through and thank God someone, like the other friend. She just had to push through. Oh my God,

isn't that Deathly Hallows? Okay, dilemma one. Hi lovelies, I just had an argument with my boyfriend and he's making me seem like a nut job,

which I know isn't the case. We're going to a wedding together and I'm so excited for it. I was trying on different dresses and I was taking one off and my boyfriend said, I'm going to pay for you to get a boob job.

For context, I've got 36 double D boobs. Sorry, what? I laughed it off and said, I think they're big enough. He then followed up the boob job remark and said, I'll get you a Brazilian butt lift as well. These comments were swimming around my head all day. The following day, we went for a drink and I told him that his comments about getting a boob job

on BBL really upset me. He flew off the handle and told me it was a joke and then i'd taken it the wrong way he left the bar and i went for a walk to clear my head i came back and he refused to talk to me and kept playing on his playstation he can't understand where i'm coming from and why i'm hurt i'm not being oversensitive am i fucking walk out that door what the fuck get out leave right now it's the end of you me. It's exactly what you should sing to him and then you should just go. Also, it's the fact that he's not even willing

to listen to how it upset you. Like, there's so many things wrong with this. Also, like, if he was joking, just be like, shit, I didn't realise. Sometimes Jamie says a joke and I'm like, I don't find that funny, don't say that. And he's like, oh, fuck, I didn't realise. Yeah, I'm so sorry.

Yeah. You don't go, you're mental. As you say, there's saying something that's, like, wrong and, like, making a joke that, like, they think is funny. Like, I once said something that, like, upset Toby making a joke that like they think is funny like i once said something that like upset toby about his hairline once which i really shouldn't have said i told him he was falling and i keep it like literally affecting him for the rest of the week so you know and i was obviously like oh my god i'm so sorry he's like kind of joking it upset him too but then he's like fuck now it's like in my head that you said that like that's one thing but saying i'm gonna pay for you to get a boob job

is fucking nasty and then proceeding to go for you to get a boob job is fucking nasty. And then proceeding to go on with another comment about someone's body is also really, really nasty. And then just getting angry for you being upset, like you have every right to get upset about something. This is disgusting. And like, this is obviously the start of it. No.

It's disgusting behavior. Like, I don't even think it's funny. Even if he thought it was a joke, like get better jokes, it's not funny. It don't make me feel like I'm crazy. Yeah. Nothing about it's funny. Even if he thought it was a joke, like get better jokes, it's not funny. You don't make me feel like I'm crazy. Yeah, nothing about that's funny. Look, everyone's different.

Some people would find that really funny and it catch me on a good day, I'd probably lol at it. Catch me on a day when I'm like mildly hormonal or tired, I'd be so upset by it. Like you just don't know. But regardless,

if I'm upset by it, you apologize. Also, let's just put a scenario in your head. So like Jamie saying that to you, like in a certain type of way might not make you that upset because you've been with him for so long and you would take it as a joke and you know that he loves your body and whatever but if you've been with someone let's say three four months right it's a new relationship you're just kind of feeling out the grounds with each other and he goes I'm gonna pay for you to get a fucking wave job no you know what I'm gonna also pay for you to get a fucking boob job. No, it's not. You know what? I'm going to also pay for you to have a Brazilian butt lift.

Being deadly serious, there are some boys that are like, I'll pay for you to get a boob job because they're just like, I love big tits. But when she's getting changed naked, it's like you're looking at... And she's also got massive boobs already. I'm just very confused with the whole thing. I think there's just loads of things off limit. Like, I just personally don't think anyone should ever comment

on the way people look in a negative way. Like, I don't't find it ever funny i think it's a cheap joke and then try and make it seem like it's a joke that's a joke like oh god i'll pay for you to get a boob job because they're not big enough already that's clearly a joke when you've already got boob you know what i mean it just depends on like how it's worded and how it's said but it's either way it's clearly upset you and you've told him it's upset you and he's not allowing you to be upset and he's telling you that you're crazy no his reaction if he did it as a joke like fair enough boys just say that they don't get things but then he's he's i don't think there's any excuse for saying that like toby would never fucking dream of saying that to me or even thinking it like i know some boys who

would anyway like regardless if he meant it as a joke and he's got the shittest sense of humor ever he should just be like fuck i'm really sorry i didn't mean to upset you not be like you're crazy gaslight love you we're really sorry that you're going through this it sucks but you are worth a million of that and you should never let anyone talk to you like that or make you feel like you're crazy okay dilemma two hey guys my family are in an awful dilemma my sister is 27 and hasn't had much luck with boyfriends last summer she met someone he's an older man his 40s and their relationship progressed extremely quickly by december they were engaged he then expressed the need to get married this j June and that they needed to have kids immediately. Sorry she's 27. Wow that's quick. My family eventually talked them into having a

wedding in November as it was all moving too fast. A couple of weeks ago we celebrated their engagement and it was a successful night for both families and their friends. I have found out that another woman claims to be in a relationship with my sister's fiance and that they have been together for four years. This woman was extremely shocked and upset and sent my sister a long email with details and screenshots about how her fiance has been deceiving her. We approached my sister's fiance about this and he told us the woman was after me but I didn't want her this was despite the screenshot showing that he spent christmas eve at her house message her to say thank you

for our fourth christmas together the real dilemma is that despite all the evidence my sister believes him god this is no that's this is i feel like a classic case we've all been there in one shape or form where like a friend is like yeah believing anything their partner is saying to them like they could honestly kiss or like have sex with someone in front of them and they'll be like and they'll be able to talk their way out and they'll be like yeah he still loves me and he wasn't really putting his dick in there like yeah no he didn't mean it i know sometimes you have to just fucking let people make their own mistakes she is deciding to go into this with all the evidence in the world

and it's really hard when it's your sister you can't let her isolate though the problem is if you push her away too much she'll then isolate and this is what we've experienced this it's clawing the back and then she could be stuck with him forever and he's got like four different sister wives and then she's living in a house and it's just all too much with loads of different wives i'm skilled if my sister was in the dark

i would rip her hair out until she was in the light if you're in the fucking dark i'd drag you fucking drag you yeah i'd drag you i'm just imagining someone like that much older i don't know i don't know it's not that that that that much older but like i'm just wondering yeah i'm also like surely like everything they do is just like so boring and different to like a 27 year old's life right listen i would go detective on this bitch he's probably covered his back but i would do everything i could to get concrete evidence yeah you want to catch him kissing somebody like you want to catch him holding hands with that girl you need to catch him i would follow him i would do everything i

could i would literally make it my last mission because at this point you need to catch him I would follow him I would do everything I could I would literally make it my life's mission because at this point you need to break up that marriage and otherwise you've got no hope otherwise you've got to sit and wait on your laurels and wait for her to come to her senses which she may never do let's just go through

what we're actually going to do step by step so number one is let's go to some fun house parties with some fit young fresh blood boys that have great libidos you know in your 40s, God knows what fucking happens. I don't know what kind of a sex life they're having,

what kind of life at home they're having. Like, what are they doing? Playing Scrabble by the sounds of it. I bet he's going off to bridge every, you know, Sunday. Like, no, no, no. He's pink pickleball. We're in our mid-twenties, okay? She needs to be going to the funnest. Go to the pear tree. Get your ass on a train to

London and go to the pear tree. Go your ass on a train to London and go to the pear tree. Go to some places that are really, like, great and, like, if you have anyone to, like, not set her up with but, like, show her, like, what it...

Yeah, just show her some big, young, fun guys that she can socialise with. Like, oh my god, this is actually maybe the sort of person I should be with. But the problem is

she's probably, like, brainwashed in a sense. Like, she's so in love with him. He's older, which, like, he's probably being, like, you know... Master manipulator. Master manip's probably being like master manipulator manipulator he's obviously done it before i think what she really needs to do is i don't think any of that she's just not going to be attracted by these 27 year olds when she's with this guy she's obviously like gun her in love with him she needs to find proof at this point and ultimately you also need to rally around. I don't think there's any harm in just bombarding her

with how bad the other decision this is. Like, I would not be... Yeah. I would, like, tough love. You'd appreciate the truth. Either way, she's going to do what she wants to do. True. So, like, you either don't do anything,

she's going to marry him and have his babies, or you fucking give it all and just be like, do not do this. I don't think you can support. If she's going to do it anyway, regardless to what you say, and you still want to be around her, sometimes I do think it's better to show someone

how much fun they're having without that person. And like, oh, you know what? I don't need to be with someone that like fucking cheats on me that's like 30 years older than me. She believes everything you say. Oh, it's mind-blowing when people have this brainwash. Right. You need to get some,

try your best to get some more evidence without meddling so just see what's going on and try and gather as much of that as possible and get the truth present it to her in a way that's like look i just want you to know everything before you go into this because ultimately if it was me going through it you would do the same for me like that's just how sisters are right you gotta play that card with it if it was me and i it, you would do the same for me. Like, that's just how sisters are, right? You've got to play that card with it. If it was me and I was the father, I would go to him and be like, there's no fucking way you're marrying my daughter. I will do everything I can legally to get you away from her and watch your back.

I would too. Just stay the fuck away from my family. Same. And I will make your life hell. And I will dig into what's going on with you because something's fishy. And we will get to the bottom of it. My daughter is not getting any inheritance. She's not getting anything from us. You have to support her.

Blah, blah, blah, blah. And then he'll probably be like, I don't know, I want to be with her. You know, I think you need to have a little intervention with your whole family. Come up with a plan from all aspects. Someone needs to be supporting. Someone needs to find evidence.

Someone needs to maybe put in some firm words with this bloke she might find out and then completely hate you all but ultimately it doesn't matter because you need to save her from this because i picture her getting married to him he's gonna move her away from all of you he's gonna make her have babies and it's gonna be bad bad bad bad bad it's always hard to watch somebody do things that you don't want them to be doing. Love them and it upsets you. But ultimately, it's not going to change the core. No. It just makes it tricky.

It makes it harder to have a friendship with someone when you can't be fully honest with them about how you feel about certain things. And they can't be honest with you about their relationship because they're lying to you because they know that it's wrong. If my sister did that, I would not be able to be the same because I'd be so angry with her. I'd love her, but I'd be like, why are you doing this? And you just have to wait for them to come back. But I would never go and I'd always be there for her when she wants to come back to me. But I'm not going to be hanging out with her. You're going to be like, there's going to be no double date.

So we're not going to fucking go on a family holiday together. And what do you talk about? Christmas, you're coming home by yourself. Like he is not invited. You have to make their life not easy as a relationship, but you have to make it very easy for her on her own, if that makes sense. You know?

It's really shit, but I think you've got to go gun for horses. She might try and run away from you. She might say, I never want to speak to you again, but you just don't let her. I'd just be like, I'm speaking to you because I love you, and I'm going to get you out of this. You just keep going. Please tell us also us also like what goes on with this because this is something that everyone can relate to you maybe not and it's such an intense capacity but I feel like we really need to know what goes on because I really hope your sister does not

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and met a guy who I had a great connection with. We ended up officially dating when I went to visit him in Singapore and we did long distance while I finished my travels. He booked flights to visit me in the UK and stayed with my family for two months. During this time, there were some lovely moments, but I also had a really anxious feeling and my gut was telling me something was wrong. Oh, no. He would go to the toilet for long periods of the time and he'd be quite secretive on his phone I found out towards the end of his day he had a second Instagram account where he posts more emotional updates for his close friends so I figured that's what he was

being secretive over that in itself is quite niche on this account however he was also following hundreds of instagram models and soft porn accounts oh yes it's just for me my emotional outlet which i've never been comfortable with a guy i'm dating doing soon after finding this out he left australia where he goes to uni and we were doing long distance again i honestly thought we had a great connection despite my anxiety during this long distance i thought there was still something there so i decided that i would meet him out there and live with him in perth god that's a quite big decision to make wow five days into us being together again i found out that he had been messaging a lot of other girls throughout the entire course of our relationship he was flirty and asked to meet up with them and none of them

knew he had a girlfriend. I mean dump. I also found a hidden folder where he had saved thousands of porn videos and images. Given he told me he doesn't watch any porn, this came as quite a shock. Whilst finding all this out, he was crying, blaming the victim and the whole situation. For fuck's sake. Why do they always do that? I know, they're pathetic. And I found myself comforting him that night, which I was really, really glad.

Just own it. For fuck's sake. It was an awful traumatic experience given we'd only glad. Just own it. For fuck's sake. It was an awful traumatic experience given we'd only been dating for seven months. I obviously dumped him. I didn't want to fly home because then it feels like he's impacting my life and I think I'd regret that. So I decided to fly to Melbourne to get away. I've been in Melbourne for a week and now I've been telling friends and family it's getting better and feeling more positive. But honestly, I'm really struggling still.

It's difficult dealing with heartbreak and adrenaline in a totally new city. I'd love some advice on how to heal and move on with the situation. This is tough. There's a lot of life changes going on for you right now. This is a lot. Firstly, I don't think there's any harm in flying home.

Neither do I. If you want to be at home and that's what you need, you've got to listen to your body sometimes. It's still there. You can go back and run. Any time, yeah. Yeah, I went travelling and like, I was so,

so homesick by the end of it. Like, I couldn't. How long were you away for? We were meant to do like four months. I think we did like three. I left a month early.

But all of us, two of my best friends, we were like, we can't go home because we were too embarrassed. We were like, everyone loves travelling, we cannot leave

and then we just decided, we were like, let's fucking go home. At the end of the We were like, everyone loves traveling. We cannot leave. And then we just decided, we were like, let's fucking go home. At the end of the day. It was the best thing I ever did. Why the hell? Who was I trying to prove? Yeah, I agree.

If you're like, if you're like, you're like, I don't want to be here. Just fucking go home. Like no one's like. I can go back out anytime. I've been back to all those places.

You can go back to Melbourne. If you're like, you know what? I really loved it though. I was just not in the right headspace. Like timing's everything. And this is maybe not the right time if you need to be at home

and heal first and be with your friends and like too much change is like sometimes overwhelming you just got through a fucking breakup

you moved around the other side of the world to be with someone and you found out he was cheating I think it's totally fair enough that you go home

totally yeah I really do no one's gonna judge you for that and I think exactly don't worry about what other people think firstly no one's gonna think anything of it

secondly they have no right to and thirdly they're only thinking about themselves it's true it's also very strong of you in the first place to have just flown

from there to Melbourne and not have flown straight home yeah you gave it a go but I really don't think there's any harm in just going

like doing what your body needs go home for a little reset for a few months see how you feel however I feel like you've already made the decision to stay in Melbourne and that's like where you want to be we're going to tell you how to heal that you are going to sleep well you're gonna eat really healthily you're gonna repeat

yeah and you're gonna watch really good wholesome funny great things we always say distract distract distraction is okay your best best friend in these scenarios. Also great that you've moved away from him because you're never going to have that, am I going to bump into him, blah, blah, blah. That scenario is completely eradicated, which is fantastic and will really help you to move on quicker. The main thing is probably being in a new city and feeling more alone than ever rather than the breakup. Do you know what I mean? I think you need to get on hinge

or tinder or whatever the people are using these days and you need to go out and also if you're in a hostel go and party with everyone i think she's moved us i don't think she's in a hostel she's moved there to live by the sounds of things maybe you've got a job but like i think yeah go and get a nice job or like and try and meet some new people i feel like people in australia are so friendly and so lovely there's probably a lot of people that have moved there i know so many brits and get a nice job or like and try and meet some new people I feel like people in Australia are so friendly and so lovely there's probably a lot of people

that have moved there I know so many Brits moved to Australia and as Sophie says Hinge or like Tinder or whatever like the apps even if it's not

gym to fully fully fully date like you could just go on a date and be like if I'm honest like I'm just looking for a fun time

and I need to like meet some people so like even if there's no romantic connection that like look for a friend's perspective and also go to gym classes like join a running club do pilates like anything that there's other people and just get you put yourself out there

also doing exercise make you feel better there's loads of people who are new there you're gonna find people and also let yourself feel a bit lonely and let yourself it's all everyone does like don't be afraid to feel that sensation it's scary movie what you've done is huge so let yourself cry let yourself like journal if you want to journal take some time out on your own go for a little walk on the beach reflect self-care all of those things and i know it's like what everyone says about breakup or about any like new change but like time really really really really makes all the difference like it's just it is the best thing you'll suddenly have a shift like after a month and then after two months you'll feel probably completely different three months you'll probably really start to feel like

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