Wednesdays - 40. My boyfriend was found on Grindr: Does that make him a cheat?!

Episode Date: June 25, 2024

Heyy Tinies,It's Euros season and the return of the WAGs —discover which famous footballer their close friend used to date! 👀On the dilemma front, one Tiny is in a tizzy as her boyfriend is on Grindr. What should she do? Sophie and Melissa discuss this tricky situation, balancing supporting him vs. looking out for herself.Summer is finally here, and the sun is out! The girls share their silly summer stories, from Melissa's adventures in Magaluf to Sophie's antics in Marbella. But more importantly, they want to hear about your summer adventures....Have a silly summer story or a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma? You can send us a voice note or message using the link here.Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]--Credits:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Video editor: @jakeji.pHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help welcome back guys hope you're all doing well oh hey fever hey fever god, hay fever, hay fever. Hay fever. God, the hay fever's rife, but I... Melissa thinks I'm faking it, but we were doing that in Paris. We were away.

I was dying and Sophie was complaining about hay fever and I was like... No, I bet you did. You don't have the right to complain because my eyes were streaming and it sounded like I had flu. It's still not great. Like, every morning I wake up feeling a bit like I've just got flu and then I take it. But hay fever in general, like apart from the side effects like runny nose and whatever. Yeah. It makes you feel shit.

Yeah, it does. It makes you feel groggy. Groggy and just weird. And like you're fighting an infection almost. You know the annoying thing is watery, watery eyes. No makeup can stay on. Okay, so guys, we just got back from Paris. We have just recorded our follow-up and we

really went in depth detail in depth we told the nitty-gritty we had an amazing time a lot of lol things happened yeah we had a great time it was good bonding sesh for us wasn't it it was we haven't been away together just us two in ages I don't know when you ever have been apart from MIC days because MIC it was just you and I also the last time we went away was actually probably your hen and we weren't like in the same room

so it's just not the same when you share a room it's so fun it's so fun changes everything we're going away this weekend together because we've got

one of my best friends' hen well so are these best friends no your her wedding I mean her wedding so it's in Rome I'm flying out tomorrow Melissa's out tomorrow what time are you flying we're getting picked up at 6 a.m okay i'll flight to 6 a.m so i can beat you on that on friday morning death why did i book that but so nice you'll have the whole day that's what i thought

and it's really early it's like 30 degrees what's your bridesmaids outfit okay so chris has chosen will like the bridesmaids got to choose their own dress but we all got sort of a colour way now they were meant to be florals but everyone sort of went off piece Bella started off piece first

because she did a block colour in yellow so then the florals changed and then some people are floral I got a floral pink but then Emily got

floral pink so now I'm I'm block yellow too interesting and I'm very happy with it it's strapless it's from Reformation stunning strapless is it silk? no it's not actually it's like you know the other classic reformation

texture like yes it's like chiffon yeah gorgeous that's strapless and it like goes out of the waist stunning it's really nice so what are you wearing then tell me i don't know apparently the venue is genuinely like your jaw drops to the floor she showed me photos when we went that one Easter Sunday lunch thing it was it looks like a Pinterest board yeah I know I don't know what I'm wearing because all of my stuff's at the tailor I'm picking up tomorrow what options we need ideas it's like a pinky purpley sort of like knitted retrofit dress long classic lovely not that formal but I think it's fine flat tie though it is

it's summer I can get away with it yeah and then a green silk reformation one that I bought like two years ago

that I've just never worn because it's just been too big for me and you know it just sits in your wardrobe like oh one day I'll get that taken in I would say

reformation is like the easy it's a good one it's a fail safe summer wedding absolutely and I will actually say Zara has great options if you really really look look as well. But I would suggest going at

the last second before the wedding because you don't want to end up in the same dress as someone else. And that is the risk that you take when you get a Zara dress for a wedding, I always think. Why would you go the last second? Just because then you know it's like brand new and no one else is really going to have it. Whereas if it's been in the shops for like a month, that might be for other people at the wedding wearing it Mango's a good one Mango is excellent because loads of people don't go there there's a lot to get on ASOS so you're fine

but Zara's tricky because someone's going to be wearing it like someone will be wearing it so we've got the Euros Sophie's off to Germany so who's your favourite footballer? no idea no well you do know we both have the same one

the gorgeous one that like shaved his head and died a bleached blonde. Do you remember? What's his name? Phil Foden. I don't think this is me and you who've had that. Yes, with the bleached blonde hair. And he bleached it. Do you remember the last time the Euros was on?

He bleached it, right? And then everyone went mad and did the same thing. No, Melissa, I have no recollection. How do you not remember? You must remember that. I love him. What's his name? Phil Foden.

Phil Foden. We love Phil Foden. Phil Foden. We love Phil Foden. Someone we know, one of our very good friends. One of our very best friends. Yeah. Was fully dating Mason Mount. You know, that was like,

I told my dad about it. I told my friends about it. I told everyone about it. And they were like, God, that's really cool. All my friends were like, that's my claim to fame. Your friend has given us life. And I was like, why are you so. He also was like like I want to be set up with her I like really liked her and he took her to an immersive experience for their first date how niche is that? Do you remember? Yeah with no alcohol or anything yeah she went straight from my house. It was so so niche. That was about two years ago. Yeah that was actually a really long time ago because I think was the Euros going on around around that time? Yes, yes. That's why it was such a big deal.

It was. And he was like not drinking because of that. And I remember her being like, it's kind of niche, like we go to this massive thing, but you know what? It's actually fine not drinking. And like all of these conversations being had. It was really tricky first date territory because when you're going with a huge star, he brought his little brother. Oh my God. He was very young.

He was very young. He was very young. Being very innocent and like just not quite bad boy enough for our friend. Yeah, I would actually agree with that statement. Although having said that, would I like her to be with him now and us to be going on his jet places? So fucking easily. He's obviously flying private jet everywhere, surely. Yeah, he's a real superstar. He's like mega.

I think he's the top footballer in the UK. No, I'll tell you the day that we spoke about it. You, me and her went to Children's Bar House for lunch. We had that really

boozy fun day and we went out, out, out. Oh my God, it was that day. And I called my dad in the taxi to be like, Dad, she's going to go

and my dad was like, he's going to get poached by my dad's Chelsea fan. He was like, Chelsea want him. Tell him to go to Chelsea and I was like, who is your favourite wag? Obviously, Victoria dad's Chelsea fan. He was like, Chelsea want him. Tell him to go to Chelsea. And I was like, who is your favourite wag? Obviously, Victoria Beckham.

Well, Cheryl Cole quite liked her back in the day. Oh my God, Cheryl Cole I'm obsessed with still. You know what, it's the photos of Cheryl Cole and Vicky B in the stadium together with their big sunnies on. That was iconic. It's kind of mental that Victoria's like changed. Like, I don't see her as that. Oh, neither do I. She's like this fashion friends with Kim Kardashian, best friends with Greta Thunberg.

Yeah. Like every single high-end celebrity A-lister she is in there with. 100%. And like she's, they want to be her friend. Yeah. And she was not that, but she was. Well, she was a Spice Girls. I guess in a sense she had her own identity away from being a wag.

Totally. But like she's just really like rebranded herself. She really has. Not that being a wag is a bad thing because it's really made a comeback. It's like a trend. And also, I would be a wag any day of the week. So what are you going to wear then to the Euros?

Hot pants, vest-y top, tits out. Absolutely. Nipples out. Nips out. C3 top. We've got some wag nipples. The brown nipples are showing through. Yeah, I mean, see if you have really good brown wag nipples.

Guys, people think my nipples are done by a surgeon. What do you mean? All my comments. I had to delete them all because it was almost too much. Your nipples are done by a surgeon. Is that a thing? They think that they're fake nipples. I don't think that's a thing.

Is there such a thing as a fake nipple? Oh my God, 100%. Oh my gosh, wow. Really common, actually. Very common. So I'm not surprised. You do have great nips. I'm not surprised. do have great nips not

surprised that's going on the new board Sophie's nipples can I just say something about Jamie yeah we could be in hot pants heels cropped up massive sunglasses you wouldn't know and he would go and he would just go with it because he wouldn't say anything I'm obviously so out of touch like they know what they're doing oh Oh, he's such an angel. Toby wouldn't. No, Toby also... Toby's got really good eye for fashion. He's really good taste. And he'd just be like, what the fuck are you wearing?

Yeah, he'd just be like, what the fuck are you wearing? What are you doing? Right. Should we get into dilemmas? Absolutely. Dilemma one. Hi, girls. A few months ago, my friend at work came over to me saying she had something big to tell me i love this one already she confessed that she had cheated on her boyfriend with a guy from our work not that we condone cheating but loving this if someone came to me

with that tea i would like foam at the mouth we just change our mind like the wind with like our advice for this anyway carry on i know we're so bad like last week I'd be like I don't talk to her judging you I tried to be non-gentleman as I could as I could imagine she'd be feeling pretty shit and just needed someone to talk to however she admitted that she didn't feel any girl oh that's not cool as the time went on I could tell she was actually getting enjoyment out of the situation which made me feel sick she's also proceeding to be very friendly with the guy she cheated with despite my advice to stay away from him I ended up meeting her boyfriend who is the loveliest guy and I couldn't help but feel so awful for him and all I wanted to do was tell him especially because she keeps putting pressure on him to propose I know that if I were him I'd

wish someone told me but I also don't want it to be awkward at work right I think you say out of it because it's a work friend yeah you put that in a separate box do you know what I mean but I would like feel icky about hanging out with her it's really hard especially when the boyfriend's so sweet when people are like I don't feel any guilt I'd be like oh you're weird different if she was like I feel really guilty however like there's a part of me that really likes this guy and like it's telling me there's something wrong in my current relationship I probably need to call it off but she's like feel no guilt and I want him to propose yeah it doesn't feel right it's really hard to be friends with someone like that because you're like where do your morals lie yeah and it's like uncomfortable

because you've got nothing to talk about because you're like I so disagree with what you're doing and that's just not like my gut would not feel that way I would tell her I'd be like I'm really sorry but I feel really weird about it I feel so uncomfortable I met your boyfriend like he's so lovely you're obviously asking him to prose I don't want to get involved but I just feel really uncomfortable I just it makes me feel weird I would just be honest what you could do it depends how far you want to take it gone you could go to HR be like, I feel really fucking uncomfortable because I know there's two people sleeping together and I don't think it's appropriate.

I probably would out of just pure spite because I think it needs to stop. Yeah, it depends how spiteful you want to be about the situation if you want to take your job as a good Samaritan seriously. And then, because you don't want this boyfriend to propose, spend all this time searching for a ring and spending all this money on a ring proposing. And then it is funny. Some people just really want their cake and eat it, don't they?

It's so funny that she would want to cheat and want a proposal. I'm like, I get it if she just couldn't be bothered to break up. I don't know. It's just so weird. Her stress must be a lot, but she feels no guilt. So maybe there is no stress. Okay, right. We've both been in this scenario. You have him you have him M.I.C. yes tell us

it was about me guys you knew at the beginning when he cheated on me in Croatia and you and Harry knew and you were like fucking say it

weren't you yeah no I by the way I told you I told you off camera we're going all over the place today but people need to know it

all the M.I.C. clips featuring us are resurfacing oh really the clip of you me and Sophie Hammond, I never watched it because it was too much old magic.

Oh, when he's being... You try and stick up for me so much and I literally could cry. You're like, Sophie, don't talk to her like that. And she was so fucking scary. She's really quite scary. She's evil.

Oh! That's on me. But also, can I just say with that MIC thing, she got the quote from Gossip Girl. She's like, why do people go from caveat to caveat? Yeah, I know, I, she got the quote from Gossip Girl. She's like, why do people go from caveat to caveat? Yeah, I know, I know. And it's from Gossip Girl.

I know. Anyway, but you're like really trying to stick up for me. And I was like, go on, girl. You know what's so sad? I was so young, I had not skimmed you what I was doing. Right, going back to this cheating scandal. The messenger very often gets shot. It depends on how much you give a fuck.

If you're like, I don't care if I'm going to get shot for this. I can't bear having the secret. Here's the truth. If you go and tell that girl or you tell her boyfriend, you're getting yourself so involved. Like, I personally would lose sleep over it.

I'd feel anxious. Like, it's not your fight. They're not your friends. Yeah, I would also say to her like, with all due respect, I don't want to hear anything else about it.

It just makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. Yeah. And just be nice about it, but just leave it there because as Sophie said, you don't want to hear anything else about it. It just makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. And just be nice about it, but just leave it there. Because as Sophie said, you don't want to get yourself too involved when it's not your problem. Like, it's not your problem. I would take myself out of the situation. I would just kind of avoid her a bit until she's got off the cheating train. Unless you do want to get involved.

By which case, just contact the guy. And just be like, I feel really quite uncomfortable. I think there might be something going on at work. Or, I don or I don't know no I no no I really don't think you should do that she will then tell people at work like you will look so medley I would go straight to her and be like I really don't think you should do this gunning for the drama okay yeah cool do it and give us tell us what happens tell us what happens follow your gut with it you know like she's been so like free with her lips

and told you as if it's nothing and said I feel no guilt so she clearly doesn't really care about being caught can I also just say if they're being obviously flirting

in the workplace she'll get caught out like another person at work's gonna notice she'll probably tell other people at work he'll get suspicious he'll tell people

everyone always gets found out in these scenarios keep us updated though we really want to know what happens. Dilemma two. Hey, Sophie and Melissa. I've been in a group of three best friends for my entire life. Last year, one of my best friends introduced us to a new girl.

Let's call her Matilda. For the first two months, we all got along very well. But Matilda was always quite cold towards me. Sometimes I can be perceived as being a bit full on, and I thought she may just be a little bit nervous around me, which I would hate to be the case. We were finishing our exams, so I suggested that we should go on a girls' holiday to celebrate. Matilda said that she wouldn't be able to come on holiday. A few weeks passed and I got a FaceTime from my best friend. She explained to me that Matilda wasn't coming

on holiday because of me. I was shocked and confused as I didn't think that Matilda and I were on bad terms. My best friend explained that Matilda thinks I'm scary, intimidating

and over-opinionated. I'm quite upset about this as Matilda has never expressed an issue with me and she has chosen to get my best friend involved in our drama. I feel like my best friend

is going to take Matilda's side. Sorry. How long has your friend known this Matilda chick? She can't be taking sides. Especially as I've been told not to speak to Matilda as I don't want to upset her. But I want to have a mature conversation and move on. I think this is super weird.

Some girls are just funny. Dramatic. And dramatic. Some girls love to create... Something out of nothing. I'm like, what? This is really fucking weird. But I do feel like everyone at some point

has kind of run into someone where they're like, they just have a problem with me and I don't know why. And they don't know why either. They just do. And some people just don't get on. And like... Oh my God, there's definitely been loads of people who've had a problem with me.

And I'm like, oh, they don't like me. I say to Jamie, I'm like, their wife or their girlfriend doesn't like me. And he'll be like, why? like don't know I just sense it and I'm not bothered about it but I just know I'm letting you know they don't like me and you can tell instantly you get a sense don't you as a girl you're just like it's not my battle it's on them yeah let's just go have a good time like you just carry on being really nice about her. I think she's so great. I don't know what her problem is. I honestly love her so much.

I think she'd be such a great addition to the holiday, great addition to the group, like whatever. And then she'll just carry on being like, I find you intimidating. And your friends will eventually just be like, you're being hard work on this. Like Claire or whatever has no problem with you, Matilda. So you're the one that's separating the group now.

I always say silence is the best. Don't add fuel to the fire. Absolutely. With something like this, I wouldn't comment on it. Unless someone brings it up to you, just be like, really? And then move on. Jamie's so good at that. I'm like quite like, tell me more then.

In a situation like this, you will come off so much better it will blow up if you say one morsel about this it will get fed back to that girl that girl will twist it into her she'll tell every single person about it and it will just go ham you have to stay silent on this absolutely you have to stay silent whenever like someone speaks about her just don't say much and then just say something like yeah I think she's sweet like literally just say nice things and I've had it when I've like spoken to people about something you know like even if it's like a random person I'm trying to get some gossip out about Kim Kardashian I was like trying trying trying she just gave me nothing I just walked

away and I was like that woman was so good oh wow you know what I mean it's so impressive when people don't give you much. It really is slash frustrating because we're like, we need to hear everything. But I do think that is the best way for you. And then ultimately, this girl will get bored of trying to fight with you. Yeah, also she's like making her life harder and all of your other friends' lives harder.

So that's totally on her and her fault. It is funny how some people, you can just sense it immediately. Like kind of recently, I felt like that with someone that like, they don't really hold much eye contact with you. They always look at the other people that are in the group that they're speaking to. They never ask you a question,

but they quite obviously ask the people around you questions. Semi pretend like you're not there. And you're like, oh God, I double down on people like that. I'm like, oh my God, I love you. Yeah, because I just find it interesting. I'm like, got a project. But if someone just doesn't want to be your friend, I like no yeah I think also you're 18 like if I was 18 this would be the be all and end all but as you get out of that sort of 18 you go into this big bad world you're

either going to go to uni or going to start working you're going to meet so many new people and the new people just would laugh at this school drama it's just very school drama it is it is very school drama also I do feel like these friends will show how important you are if they don't allow this to affect their friendship with you do you know what I mean like if they're gonna pull away and be like oh Matilda doesn't like you so we can't like no no no no no Matilda doesn't like you okay fine like I'll spend time with Matilda on the side and we carry on as normal like that should be what it is you know like yeah throughout your whole life there's going to be people that you don't get on with or not everyone's going to click with you and it shouldn't affect your other friends and jump on that bandwagon

and be segregated like that's just ridiculous my friends from school wouldn't I mean I've still got the same friends from when I was 11 like they're all still my My friends from school wouldn't, I mean, I've still got the same friends from when I was 11. Like they're all still my best friends, but they wouldn't suddenly stop being friends with me because someone didn't like me in the group. Not in a million years. And if they did, that would then speak so much volume. I'd be like, well, then we probably shouldn't be friends if you're going to do that.

You know, I don't want to be friends with someone like that. So I think this would be quite a big pinnacle point in your life. I've never been that girl who's like, I just want one best friend. Neither. I like having loads of friends and I would love the more the merrier for me. People can get very territorial over friends and I'm like, we can all be friends. Yeah.

Honestly, it's just an aging. Like that doesn't happen now for either of us. But definitely when I was 18, people were getting territorial and like weird about like, oh my God, but you're my best friend. I can see it happening. I can 100% see this whole thing happening and unraveling. You're all leaving school. Like this problem will just disintegrate very quickly and not be an issue.

You and Matilda might end up being the best of friends. Who knows? Honestly, you might. Yeah. It might be a jealousy thing. Yeah. Keep us updated. Keep your head held high.

Trust me. This happened to so many people. Take yourself out of the situation and realize like, I don't want to belittle it but it's so small in the grand scheme of things and you don't want to like lose sleep over this 100 just keep your friends close and just try not to rise to her behavior fandu casino daily jackpots guaranteed to hit by p.m. with your chance at the number one feeling, winning. Which beats even the 27th best feeling, saying I do. Who wants this last parachute? I do.

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I've got it in my bones. Help. I've been with my boyfriend for nine months. It's been rocky, but I love him and we're really trying to make it work. A few weeks ago, my friend told me a rumor she'd heard about my boyfriend she heard that my boyfriend was on grinder obviously i was shocked and tried to brush it off brush it off you can't brush that off out of denial my friend then told me that she'd heard about my boyfriend had been speaking to a well known gay man in our town this is when i panicked and started digging. I did want to confront my boyfriend,

so one night when he was asleep, I had to check his phone. The Grindr app was there clear as day on his home screen. My heart fell out my arsehole, and it doesn't stop there. I went on the app and found that he'd been talking to lots of men. He'd been sending them flirting messages and intimate pictures. Well, he's just like you.

I knew I had to try carefully, so I asked him if he'd been on Grindr, and I could see the panic in his face. I told him I wasn't angry, even though I was, but I had to get carefully, so I asked him if he'd been on Grindr and I could see the panic in his face. I told him I wasn't angry, even though I was, but I had to get the truth. Good move. He explained that it was more of a fantasy for him

and that he got a thrill from messaging these men, a bit like watching porn. I don't know where to go from here. I feel like a mug if I stay with him because if he had been talking to women on Tinder, I would be gone. I need to make a decision ASAP. Well, yeah, I mean,

regardless of being a man or a woman, he's talking to you, he's cheating on you. What's the, regardless of being a man or a woman, he's talking to you, he's cheating on you. What's the difference between it being a man or a woman? He's still cheating, regardless. I'm baffled by that comment. It's frustrating,

I was thinking these scenarios because it's slightly unfair on you because you're being the brunt of his, like, learning process. He's, like, taking along with you for a ride, but then doing this on the side.

Yeah, or he's took, like, men and women. Yeah, but still, it's still cheating and he still also lied to you. I understand where she's coming from. She also probably feels a bit of empathy for him because it feels like that's obviously him like back. He's trying to come out,

but this is his first taste of it, clearly. Like his first like... Exactly, so I don't know why, but I also feel like empathy for him in a really weird way. But obviously it's a really selfish thing to do and he shouldn't be with her whilst experimenting. No, he shouldn't. He should be like,

I can't be in this relationship. I need to figure out my sexuality or I'm not ready to be in a relationship because I just want to shag about and like message other people. Yeah, you can't send naked photos of yourself, whether it's to a guy or a girl, doesn't matter.

He's sending dick pics. Yeah. Like, what are you doing? It doesn't matter. No. He's sending dick pics. Yeah. Like, what are you doing? It doesn't matter. You need to get the fuck out of there. Nine months, I know you can be in love at that point, 100%, but you'll get over it actually faster than you think.

No, no, this is really not good. You cannot stay in this relationship. I feel like you've completely made an excuse for this for some weird, weird reason. You know why? And I can understand it because in her mind, she's like, if she's not saying... She's not jealous over the girl, if he's not saying,

and he's not saying like, I actually am, I am gay or I am bi. He's just saying, it's just a fantasy. So she's like, then justifying it

probably in her mind because she's like, oh, he's not messaging other girls. It's just a fantasy thing and he's never gonna, you know? So that's how she's justified it in her brain.

I always think like, if a boy cheated on me with a boy, I wouldn't hate the boy. I wouldn't be jealous of the boy i know you were but because i can't be a boy yeah you can't i'm not comparing myself to him but whereas so but if he was talking to a girl i'd be like you've chosen her over me yeah yeah yeah yeah i feel like that you feel if it was another girl not violated is the wrong word but you just feel like they've fully you're like you just fancy her more than fancy me whereas boy it's like i can't ever give

you that so yeah there's less anger in it. Less anger and you're more like, right, this is something you need to deal with and explore and whatever and come to terms with not being with me because am I just here to like... Hold your hand through it. Or no, like you don't... Just in case you don't like it.

I don't know this process. I mean, I remember when Olly Locke was like, I was trying to figure out if I was like gay or bi or whatever. And he was like, I had so many girlfriends so I was like gay or bi or whatever and he was like I had so many girlfriends so I was like you know figuring it out

kind of thing not because I didn't love them but because he didn't know himself yeah and also it's like a bit of a support thing I guess in a way

or also like maybe a reassuring thing if he was like yeah I'm out and I'm open about it and I'm like didn't you know that about me I'd be like

that's fucking cheating but if he's not like you know identified as that right now then I'm like he's on this weird journey and like he doesn't know bottom line is you can't be with him no no no no and you need to decide in your brain if you love him enough to be his friend and support him through this great good for you but you don't need to like he's fucking cheated on you and he's lied to you you gotta sack him off you have to some line like bottom line he's cheated

and he's lied also quite openly like all over Grindr yeah no no no you gotta there's no moving forward with this no moving forward

you have to move forward alone and also don't take it personally don't take it personally because I think that's like something that I've seen like girls that are like oh I'm worried that like it's a me thing.

And it's like, no, no, this is just something that you can't, it's out of your control. You will move on from this. You've been together nine months. You'll get over it really quickly. I'm telling you, month two. Three months, you'll be completely forgotten. Month two, you'll be like, hmm,

kind of ready to start dating again now. For sure. And then month three, you'll be like, Harry who, whatever his name is, you know? 100%. You'll be on the up. Okay, guys,

we had a little thought. Summer is hopefully about to start, even though it's really not very good weather. But we thought that you guys hopefully are going to be up

to some silly little fun things. Absolutely. And we wanted you to write in and give us your silly girl summer stories or even like a previous story that you've got from when you were at school and it was like the summer holidays just iconic things like that where did you go on your girl's holiday for a levels well we went to my parents place in but then we obviously went to magaluf one night that was actually a wild night tell us everything

this is so fun we went out to lots of different like places throughout the holiday but the magaluf night was like the most eventful so there was like a guy there that one of my friends like used to see that like she had like a bit of a heartthrob for him and he just happened to bloody be there yeah from our school happened to bloody be there on the magaluf strip So she then suddenly disappears and we're all like absolutely battered, wandering up and down the Magaluf Strip. Anyone's ever been? Every club you go into stinks of beer and vomit.

Your feet stick to the floor. Like there was this guy who whipped out his willy because, sorry, this is not PG. So in Magaluf, there's like tattoo parlor, bar, tattoo parlor, club. He whips out his willy. He's had elephant ears and a face and then his willy's there I have a photo of it on my phone I can show you right now if you want his dick looks

like an actual trunk so this is obviously really x-rated so we can't fit this in the podcast but like oh bless him I feel so and he was absolutely battered he was like obviously they're on a stag or something you were like this is gonna be on my podcast in five years time it was out of control and he like whipped out and then someone like announced it like over the thing in the club that we were in it was so funny what like look at this guy's elephant yeah and then what else happened oh yeah and then my friend disappeared because she went off to like see this like old flame and we couldn't find her for ages way more eventful than mine then we all get back in the taxi to go home like god knows what time in the morning.

And my friend vomits all over the floor of the taxi. That was really fun. Right, you talk to me about yours. So we go to Malia. Where is Malia? Help me out. Greece. Yeah, but it was same vibe.

I think maybe I got with someone. Did I have a boyfriend? Oh, stop. Everyone cheats on their boyfriends when they went on these girls' holidays. Maybe I cheats on my boyfriend there. Which is so awful, and I'm not encouraging that,

but it was just something that happened. I genuinely don't remember awful and I'm not encouraging that, but it was just telling me what happened. I genuinely don't remember it. I don't know why, but I can't. But what I did used to do was I would go to my bare every single summer.

My childhood, I have so many stories, guys. Yeah, go on. It's unhinged. So me and my best friend, Victoria, well, we would go to my bare. We had a house there

and we were unhinged. We were 15 and we had these shutters on our window. Like, you know, Spanish shutters and it's like you know your spanish shutters and it's like you pull them there's like blackout yeah we found a hack to get out the window we'd have 20 euro for the whole night taxi and taxi back i don't know how we did it we would go to

the strip in my bed we were 15 oh my god this is iconic no no actually to the point where i started my period actually in a nightclub really late that's how young we were and i was like i'm on my period for the first time for the first time oh my to how young we were. And I was like, I'm on my period. For the first time? For the first time. Oh my. I had to ask for random lady. We were so small. Did you drink? This is the funniest thing.

Because we didn't drink and the only alcohol I'd ever been given was Baileys at Christmas. I ordered Baileys at the bar everywhere we went. Oh my God, no, you're so precious.

We were 15 and we would order these guys you don't understand. We'd be walking around with these massive glasses of Baileys and I remember and all these boys would be like, oh, Baileys. And we'd be like around with these massive glasses of baileys and all these boys

would be like oh you're bowlies and we'd be like why are they buying this anyway there was one time we sat on this cup our feet hurt we had no money we didn't know what clubs to go to we were too young we had no friends there we sat on the cup and we were like what do we do and Victoria turns around she's like I can't look behind you and I think it's like really fit boys we were like boy obsessed at the stage do you remember that age and I turn around and I'm like she goes it's the big green giant and it's my dad in a green polo shirt I'll never forget it my dad's six foot four staring over us and he went get in the car and we were like game over oh no my dad's one of those guys doesn't tell you off but he just went to beat you so it was just silent driving and then we never spoke about it again did it

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