Wednesdays - 42. They're not friends, but he likes her photos: Red flag?!

Episode Date: July 9, 2024

This week, Melissa and Sophie tackle a sticky situation for one of our Tinies: her boyfriend has been liking another girl's photos on Instagram. Is it cheating? Could it be a red flag, or just a harmless like? They've also got all you Tinies a handy checklist on what to look for if you suspect your boyfriend might be cheating (with consent, of course).Plus, it's a sizzling "Hot Rodents Summer"—Jamie vs. Toby. Are they rats or frogs? AND, the girls discover an unexpected fan! Find out who Wednesday's secret admirer and celeb Tiny is!The girls are loving your silly girl summer stories so if you have one or a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma? You can send us a voice note or message using the link here.Want More?! Check out our new subscription: AD FREE, BONUS EPS and ALL the goss wednesdays.supercast.com/Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]--Credits:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathboneVideo editor: @jakeji.p Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa are you a doctor uh I want to be but I'm not I'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts at anything in fact we just chatted all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Okay, guys, look. We've got tinies in the Netherlands, we've got tinies in Australia, in New Zealand, all over the world.

Yeah. But we've just found out we've got a really big tiny. Okay, right, we're going to find out who it is because we don't know. Oh my God. What? Usain Bolt has been liking our reels. He's clearly a huge fan.

Usain Bolt? Oh my God. So he's a fan? He's loving the dilemma that we're talking about where the best friend cheats, sleeps with the boyfriend.

He's sat at home with a cup of tea, a couple of like Don't know if he eats biscuits because he's very healthy but he's thinking God, this is funny. Steeps with the boyfriend. He sat at home with a cup of tea, a couple of like, who are these gals? But he's thinking, God, this is funny. This is some juicy goss. I've just come back from making us guys landed last night.

We need to, if you were there for a short whipper of a time. I always forget how long the flight is to making us. Four hours and it fucking goes on forever. After hour two, you're like, oh, are we there yet? But I downloaded Bridgerton, finished the whole series. It'som by the way obsessed okay I'm gonna start spoiler alert need to talk about Bridgerton season three finale so in the new season of Bridgerton Penelope and Colin are due to be wed okay their beautiful sweet gorgeousness there's a long time coming from both and um they decide to get intimate before they get married which is pretty much like a sin in those days anyway

they have sex for literally seven minutes it's like a seven minute sex scene and it's really intense and I was on the flight and obviously like the people behind can like really see through the gap and I was like oh my god they're going to just think I'm like watching porn on the fly so I then had to like pull Ruby into it with me so I didn't feel it's awkward

I was like Tim, Tim, Tim look I was like this is so weird she was like oh it's a bit weird I can't hear anything

and you're making me watch sex on the phone because I have my headphones in I actually had to skip through it I watched a minute and I had to skip through it because I was like I can't I'm at home. Fine. I'll indulge in a bit of

a sex scene. I'm not going to sit on a flight and just watch it. But that's porn. It was quite arousing probably for someone to be watching that by themselves. I was like, I can't like do that on a flight. I must watch it. I'm fascinated. It's great. And you know what? There's a lot of sex scenes in Bridgerton six minutes really intense that's really uncomfortable for me in that scenario

are they wanting people to people are going to think I'm getting aroused watching this because it's like yeah how awkward is it if you're watching

something like that with like I wouldn't want to watch it with anyone I want to watch it with them your boyfriend's parents and you watch a movie and the slightest bit

of sexual comes and you're like oh my god so I don't mind my own parents I've never watched a movie your boyfriend's parents and you watch a movie and the slightest bit of sexual comes on your life oh my god so I don't mind my own parents I've never watched a movie with Jamie's parents but if I was watching oh god yeah

with your own parents that's quite horrendous as well that's horrific I can bear it okay so talk us through so you watch sexy and you land you've been on the flight

for four hours you're with Tim aka Ruby Adler it's fantastic yeah we have a gorgeous few days we were there with Alison and Olivia the clothes were gorgeous the food was stunning I had the best time We're with Tim, a.k.a. Ruby Adler. It's fantastic. Yeah, we have a gorgeous few days. We were there with Alison and Olivia.

The clothes were gorgeous. The food was stunning. I had the best time. The other girls on the trip were really lovely. It was a small group of us. There was only five of us. So small. And word of the holiday was Gorgie.

And I'm like, oh my God, that reminds me so much of Rachel with Gorgie Pops. So me and Ruby, the whole holiday, everything was, oh my God, that's gorgeous. Hey, listen. This summer, everyone's talking about hot rodent boys or something. Yeah. And people like Timothee Chalamet's a rat. And like, so is Parry Keegan. Who, by the way, I was sat next to the other day. I definitely don't like a rat face.

It's not for me. I've dated a rat face. Yeah, you have. I've dated two rat faces. Who definitely was a rodent. The one that I recently had was definitely a rat face. Yeah, you have. I've dated two rat faces who definitely was a rodent. The one that I recently had was definitely a rodent. Have you? In a hot way,

it was a really hot rodent. I think maybe you'll mind with rodents too. Oh my God, such a rodent. He was a hot one. Hot, hot rodent. Then your previous ones,

I guess they're classified as hot rodent. What? I thought a rodent's like a bit of a rugged, sexy, grubby. No, no, no. A rodent's like a rat. Is Jamie a frog or a rodent?

Is Toby a frog? Toby does not look like a rodent. I would say Toby's a rodent. What? Right, listen, listen. I've worked it out. I'm a rodent. I don't think you're a rodent.

You think I'm a frog? You don't look like a rat. Right, this is my view. A rat is a long face or like an outward face. You've got like a very small fat head so to me you're instant frog with a tiny tiny nose but that could be like a little chinchilla situation no no you're not right are we not stretching that far I think I'm solid rat

I think I'm like guinea pig vibes or blonde hamster is that a thing I'm just trying to think I had a blonde hamster called biscuit when I was younger no I think maybe like one of those

what are those things Jamie's a blonde guinea pig for sure he can be more guinea pig if he tries what are those long things that like ferret

ferret me ferret blonde ferret is that what I am guys ferret girl okay you and Jamie are rats why is Jamie a rat

his nose he's a fat rat I don't think he's fat he's not fat at all but like he's not Is that what I am, guys? Ferret girl. Okay. You and Jamie are rats. Why is Jamie a rat? His nose. He's a fat rat. I don't think he's fat. He's not fat at all, but, like, he's not a skinny, skinny face. His nose is giving rat vibe. Yeah, but it's not that pointy. My nose is pointier than his nose.

It is just giving, it's not flat and, like, squishy. Absolutely. Everyone keeps writing on my photo that I look like a horse. I thought that was the new thing. Well, one guy did. He went, you look like a horse, love. And I went, yeah, I always said my animal's a horse.

I think my mum said it when I was younger. She was like, Sophie, you know when you look at people's animals? She was like, you're a honey horse. Oh my God. Is that when people say that they look like their dogs? Is that the same thing? Kind of. So let's just quickly scale back to this.

People fancy rat boys. Barry Keegan is not a rat to me. He's got a squished up nose. No, no, to me, Barry Keegan actually looks quite like an animal of some sort and it's not giving me frog. Me too, but it's not giving me rat either. It's not giving me rat either. What is he giving me?

I think I know exactly what it is. A sphinx. A sphinx? No. A sphinx. Sphinx? No. A sphinx. Like the cat. Like the wild cat.

Guys, scale your mind. Like, you almost pitch him with stripes on his face. Sphinx. I kind of know what you mean. You've said that. He's a cusser sphinx. Justin Bieber, who is he? A tiny gorgeous monkey.

Oh, we're really going left field now. I thought we were just sticking between the two. Oh, sorry. You're going to start offending people if you're going into their own categories.

Okay, fine, fine, fine. He's a frog. Absolutely. I could see a rat in him too. Bella Hadid, rat. Gigi Hadid, frog. Oh, bang on.

Couldn't be more clearer. Both of my sisters, rats. Her nose is like more clearer. Both of me and my sister's rats. Her nose is like the smallest thing I've ever seen in my entire existence. And her face. But it's pointy. Okay, I'll read out dilemma one. Hey girls, boy listener here. Whoa. What's going on? I moved to Sydney from London about six years ago. I didn't plan on staying in Australia

for so long but after a few weeks of being here I met the love of my life I recently proposed and she said yes so sweet

during a previous episode you talked about how important it is to have your nails done before being proposed to I have to say thanks for the tip I managed to get

one of our girlfriends to take her out to get her nails done before I got down on one knee so more tips for the silent boy listeners, please. I love this. That is so great. My dilemma is that I'm torn on who should be my best man. It's between two English men and one Australian. Option one, my two best friends whilst we were growing up. However, since moving to Australia,

we drifted and were not as close as we were before option two my old housemate a very close friend he's one i have the most communication with from anybody back home option three my best friend in australia we've been very close for the last three years or so he knows my fiancee well and we see each other all the time wow this is fucking hard i've known the english boys most of my life but only seen them twice in six years but i've only known my Aussie friend for the last three or four years. If it was me? I would do the Australian and I would have the two other ones as like my grooms. Yeah.

The thing is that you want someone that's going to give excellent stories in the speech. And if someone's known you forever, they're more likely to bring up old classic memories, some really funny things you did when you were younger. I completely forgot about that i forgot i feel like the last three years he'll just be like i remember when he met mary from down the road and no we were introduced three years ago and i've written that we're you got to go with i think the older two and think about who's got the best stories so maybe the one from back home is your old flatmate you're gonna have some great stories then you communicate with him

the most I completely agree I've got really like childhood friends but I don't make them my maid of honour just because I've known them longest but I think you're so right

it shouldn't be the new one because a best man you need to have known them for most of your childhood it's like almost more so than a maid of honour 100%

the speech you give that last speech great friggin advice the whole wedding is riding on that high of that last speech and how good it is and how much it makes everyone laugh. Yeah, the best last speech is actually like bigger than any other. I look forward to that speech more than anything else. Same.

I thought the one at Chrissy's was 10 out of 10. Guy walking down the aisle and then the speech. Well, Jamie had three best men. Well, he had one best woman and two best men. But only two did a speech. Only two did a speech because Oles had the role of organizing the stag. Right. That was his like role.

And then Toby and Georgie did the speech. Because I think three people doing a speech is just a bit much. Yeah, I agree. And I think obviously they must have spoken about it. And I guess Oli didn't mind not doing a speech. So you can always have more. But I personally think it's a bit messy and I would just have one agree I think maybe your Australian friend could organize the stag that's quite fun if you want to give him like a bigger role agree but then because you don't

know where you're going to do the stag if everyone you know really back is back in the UK don't know but I guess I think you know what the other two can jointly arrange the stack. I think that's fine. Also, boys need a lot of help organizing stuff. I agree. Please follow up and tell us who you pick. And congratulations. Yeah, this is stunning.

I also just love, like, the simplicity of this dilemma. It's boys, nothing complicated, just sweet. Like, who do I pick? And details. Number one, number two, number three. You are... That was just simple, clean mama simple needs that was I knew exactly how to answer okay dilemma two hey Sophie and Melissa there's a girl who I know from uni who is literally gorgeous she even dated a well-known England football player who was in the squad for the Euros.

Da-da-da. I must know more information. I must know. Do we know this person? My boyfriend knows this girl as they are in a familiar circle. Yesterday, she posted a very hot bikini pic and he liked it. No, I don't like that. He says that they're not friends and that he doesn't like her,

so I can only think of one reason why he liked her photo it's really made me feel awkward my boyfriend and i going on a holiday together in a few weeks time and it will be the first time he sees me in a bikini i look nothing like this girl we couldn't be any more opposite and it's made me feel really insecure is it over the top for me to address it it's only liking an insta pic but it's just made me feel weird i can i so appreciate so many angles of this whole thing like i i can't even tell you the pain i feel for you like i so know what you mean like i know everything you see it and your heart just drops but you're like well i can't say anything I know first of all would you say something I would because I'm

a bit psycho it really depends he doesn't know how he doesn't like how he liked up it yeah I would I'd be like oh he's looking because boys are a bit pervy's the wrong word but and it's a huge generalization but for the ease of it let's just say they are a little bit right look let me put it they're curious right so Jamie doesn't know this girl she's got a bang body and he likes ourselves in this he likes her photo in a bikini i would be like i wouldn't bring up straight away like i'd choose my time but you bet your fucking bottom dollar i'm bringing that up but i wouldn't be crazy about it i'd be like i don't think i'd bring it up i would because that's just not okay for me i completely agree with you it's not okay and you shouldn't be fucking doing it but i don't

think i'd bring it up before the holiday because you're almost feeding your own insecurity slightly and i think that regardless to him liking this photo you need to get to a point that the hottest girl in the world could walk past you and him and you would still feel like great about yourself and your relationship in an ideal world like i know that's easier said than done but we need to just become like so in love with ourselves and love our bodies do you know what i mean like that's the place we need to get to him liking the photo is a whole nother issue and like he shouldn't be fucking doing that if he's gonna look at it he's gonna look at it but don't like it and let the whole world know that you like him sc Okay. Scouring back, I do remember, like, this girl that we both know.

Do you remember, like, this is a way back when. Oh, my God, what? She would always do, like, bra and pants ads. And Jamie would always be liking those pictures. Bra and pants? Bra and pants. Yeah, I laid this down. But can I just say, I also...

I've never had to do it with Toby, but I've also not noticed if he has. He might have still done that. But the funny thing is, is, like, I would only notice because I also was like, whoa, she looks tense tense I would like it and then I'd be like lied by Jamie Lang no no but then I never actually brought that up having said that now we're married it's very different because that was like early we were still like two years in I don't know it felt early days Instagram has really allowed for things to be annoying like like like that because before instagram a beautiful woman or a beautiful man would walk past and i will say to toby like oh blimey look at them aren't they stunning do you know like and that's fine to

appreciate someone like with your friend or your partner or by yourself but to like it in a photo for the world to see is just such a different thing and the easiest way for this whole thing to not is just don't fucking like the photo just don't like the photo yeah it is innocent like I don't think like I liked that photo of that girl in her brown pants it's appreciation for someone like looking great and that's allowed but just don't like the photo because it's just going to save you so much I agree but sometimes it is just worth just telling them but maybe you don't lose your mind over it yeah don't think anything ever and melissa's so right this is more of like a lesson for you like you really have to it's so much easier

said than done but really learn to love your body and not like that you massively don't compare yourself no yeah because if we did that no fucking hell oh my god and if that is the case then just delete instagram yeah just sometimes it's just easier not to do that look at it because comparison is the fastest way to rob yourself of happiness or whatever they say and thief of joy i think maybe when you're back from the holiday if it's something that's actually still playing on your mind then i would if it was me i would almost wait for like for him to do something else that would then be like,

oh, like I really don't want to bring this up, but like I've actually seen it twice now and I like talk myself out of saying anything because I just thought it was silly. But like, I'm actually just like, it's kind of making me just feel a little bit like you're looking at another girl, which you're allowed to do,

but now you're like, I can just see that you're liking it. And I just don't. Like it has to just kind of be a rule in our relationships that we just don't like stuff like that it's quite easy it's also not is fine like you are allowed to just because everyone's like I don't it's fine in my relationship doesn't mean it has to be fine in yours like you can be like I don't allow that please don't do it I'm not going to do it to you totally boundaries guys how would someone feel if you

were liking loads of like but this is the thing might the boy we've had this conversation now and like it's just such double standards like like i would send but i would never follow and like i'd be like why on earth would you care about that like I can't seem like god he's so fit but if Jamie said that I'd be like you are literally dead to me yeah I know I know I know what I wouldn't do is go on to some sexy models Instagram like all their photos topless absolutely not I would just never I would never even follow them I follow fit girls I don't follow fit yeah but women are different like that. Yeah. I do think it's like strange for us because we're actually like how you are.

Like if she's like semi like in the Instagram world, which sounds like she is, for some reason then to boys that might think, that might be like, oh, it's allowed because she's unattainable. She's like effectively a celebrity sort of thing. So maybe he thinks that there's this yeah weird line that's there so it's fine no if you know who she is you go to uni with her he also says he doesn't like her which to me is like a weird red flag that's weird i'm actually just really scouring my brain and thinking like if jamie liked photo of like a girl i know on in a bikini he says he really

doesn't like i wouldn't mind at all if he said he didn't like her I'd be like red flag me too it's the not liking her part which sorry we seem to have completely skimmed over that part during this whole piece of advice

but that is niggling it depends on her pose like if she's just prancing around in a bikini gorgeous let's like her wig comment if you want calm down but if you're posing

if it's a thirst trap don't you dare be liking that I so agree it's very very different it's just the fact that don't you dare be liking that. I so agree. It's very, very different. It's just the fact that he doesn't like her, I'm kind of like, why? When boys don't like girls... Red flag! It's just a bit of a red flag.

I agree. And the fact that you have written in a dilemma to us, and you're really clearly having some sort of a weird gut feeling about this, is what this is telling me. I feel for you because we've all had it. We've all kind of had this in some way shape or form and like i think listen i do think don't stop yourself from going on this holiday and having the best time ever you need to fucking fake it till you make it i would just say to myself i love my body absolutely that's not confident and then that will eventually manifest itself into becoming the truth have the best time with your boyfriend let's see if the liking persists if he keeps talking about

how much he doesn't like her slip of the finger you never know it's true also sometimes you're like oh cute and scroll scroll scroll i don't think a boy would actually sit there oh they would oh my god don't tell me that yeah they do so let's just see what happens when you get by and if there's any more liking of these photos i would monitor it right i would i also want to go back to what melissa said about telling yourself you love yourself you need to go into this holiday with in a you need to change your frame of mind yeah so what i want you to start doing now is i want you to look in the mirror every time you pass a mirror you need to look in the mirror say i love you you need to say it over and over again look yourself square in the eye high five yourself in

the mirror i want you to every single night say five things you're grateful for about your body yeah and you need to keep doing this and every time that niggling thought comes into your head where you're like fuck he fancies that girl you just tell yourself all those things about yourself that you love yep and read an affirmation this is actually regardless this boy that this should be happening like whether he's liking other girls photos you're in the best relationship this is what we need to be doing we love you good luck love you please continue to write in and let us know how it goes guys we get so many of you writing into us about what should we be looking out on our boyfriend.

If we feel suspect about their behavior, if we think they're cheating. Okay, so we don't endorse this. But if you really think someone is cheating, then one of our friends has sent us their checklist of what to check for on your boyfriend's phone with their consent. If you're worried about them cheating. What are we looking at? What are the red flags? how do we go through their phone how do we how do we get to the bottom of it yeah and one of our friends has just been cheated on fuck him and she has written in and given us a checklist for you ladies and you boys so what to look out for when you go through your boyfriend's phone with consent with consent let me just start that okay are you ready strap your seatbelts in buckle your belts let's get ready to ramble so what she recommends you

would look at having gone through this first-handed so look at the apps purchase history and hidden purchases what the fuck is it how do you even fucking find that i feel going you basically can see like the dates and the times of when apps were downloaded. So if he has deleted Hinge whatever, you'll be able to see when he'd actually downloaded it and deleted it because it will all be there. Which is, Shooketh,

your screen time spent on apps for the past few weeks. Oh my god, this is so clever. This is so clever. You're an intelligent girl. Oh no, I'm also going to have to go home and go through my boyfriend's phone. I might have to go through my husband's. Love you. Love you, Toby.

But here we go. Oh, it's just so funny. He most recently followed on Instagram. Oh, of course you can do that. You and me used to live for that back in the day. There was a way we could do it. I don't think. But you could look as an external viewer.

But now you have to be. You have to have a fake account. Just if you're going through his phone. You have to have a fake account now. If I've got his phone i can see this because you just go you just go right following right wait wait for it wait for it wait for it wait for it click on that thing latest so then the latest person i follow is all these people whoa i don't like that one because that's probably the only one that I would be relevant to me

and I might get annoyed likes and comments on Instagram how the hell do you see that likes oh yeah you can go into settings and see who you've recently

liked photos of so you can do that so if we have guys sorry I'm like shooker yeah wait Melissa surely have you never done that

in your life I've never done that I've missed the boat of all these I've never done that in your life? I've never done that. I've missed the boat of all these. I've never done that. Recent searches is great. However, they can delete that. Quite frustrating. Recent searches, what, like porn?

No, I think you just mean on Instagram, right? So, like, you can see who I've recently searched on Insta, but, like, you can just get rid of them. Oh, I actually often do delete my noun again when it gets really long. Same, I just want my faves at the top to click, click. Same. And sometimes I'll do something really random. Or if I'm about to go see someone at that wedding,

I would like... Yeah, yeah, yeah. Just drop the memory. What are they up to at the moment so I have something to talk about? And then I don't want to go on Instagram and then see so I delete it. You know what I mean? Totally. Close friends list.

Oh, that's interesting. That's an interesting one because they'll be posting things that they want them to see I've literally got I've literally got 900 people on my

close friends list 900 no you don't don't be a gay I have a lot of people I have like everyone who I know who I would naturally

follow who but let's just say that there's been someone that you had a few weeks dating them or whatever before yeah you've still got them on

if Toby had that I'd be like fucking remove them off your close friends agree shall i mean yeah blocked list right that's an interesting one because if they've been like fuck i'm getting found out we must block they'll be on the snapchat feed right so snapchat's actually something that i wouldn't even think of looking at because I'm not 12. But Gen Z's use Snapchat non-stop for all of their communication. Yeah, they do in WhatsApp. I feel like a fucking dinosaur. Me too. All their communication.

So I wouldn't even think to look for that app. They literally don't. Their WhatsApps are 000ghover. They don't use WhatsApp. My brother, not gone on WhatsApp once. I literally won't get hold of him for a week if I try and get hold of him. I have to call him. So how does he do it? iMessage and Snapchat? He does eventually go onto WhatsApp, but it's not something he's WhatsApp. My brother, not gone on WhatsApp once. I literally won't get hold of him for a week if I try and get hold of him. I have to call him. So how does he do it? iMessage and Snapchat?

He does eventually go onto WhatsApp, but it's not something he's checking because all his friends use Snapchat. All of them. Okay, we've got Instagram DMs, we've got Snapchat feed, we've got My Eyes Only on Snapchat. What does that mean? So basically Snapchat's just a forum for cheaters. You know what's weird? Everyone, like the year below me at school, everyone's on Snapchat. Like, I just missed the cusp of it. I'm really disturbed, guys. I'm really, really genuinely disturbed. Recently deleted photos, that's actually a really good one

that people wouldn't think about doing. Yeah. Recent emojis. Interesting one. I put fire to everyone. But, you know, like, if someone was sending, like, the wet one, or, like, the lickingicking one or the aubergine. Like anything sexual I think would be like quite relevant to be like,

you're not sending that to your pals, are you? Or to me. Yeah. So who's that going to? Notes folder. Someone we know just found out that someone cheated because they went into their notes. And they had it all written. And they had them and then below them another person.

Scandal. Scandal. Scandal. Also, adding to this list, recently deleted iMessages. There's a whole new folder for that. Right, guys. That is just mind-boggling. I've got to digest. I've got to just, like, wash my sins off.

Like, I just feel dirty from hearing all of these things. I'm also really excited that we've got some serious guidance. Please write in more a tips b scandals c fucking any dilemmas we just love them all fucking love them all they're getting better and better at the moment they're getting really juicy silly girl summer's brewing because things are happening everyone's being a bit silly it's just potting up and i'm just really looking forward to me too where this tree's going to grow to. Right, silly girl summer story. Here we go.

I used to lie to my strict parents and say I was going for a movie and pizza nights at my best friends. Instead, me and my group of friends would be getting drunk in a field on booze from our parents' alcohol cupboard and trying to smoke for the first time I used to always take chewing gum and perfume with me to cover my tracks my parents would usually be in bed by the time I'd get home so I wouldn't have to worry about pretending to be sober one time I got a little bit too drunk and ended up running up the drive and projectile vomiting into a bush I couldn't clear it up in my drunken state and instead chose to leave it with the hopes of sorting it in the morning the following day my dad came to ask me how my night was i said i hadn't been very well

so chose to come home early he asked i've been drinking i said no he pulled out a video of me on cctv and he said nice try on covering your tracks um but our gin has tasted like water for the past few weeks i thought i'd gotten away with it obviously not that's funny also your dad like just sweetly obviously knew that you were doing that just let you carry on oh yeah that's so funny it's been tasting like water why are we so sweet we thought that that would like they wouldn't notice i did that loads as a kid i literally was like they won't notice what was your go-to drink we weren't making margaritas i'm not gonna lie like i always scale back to these parties right i just don't remember like drinking like i know i did and i

was drunk and i remember like it being really cool and i obviously wasn't being really i can't remember ever putting an alcohol i often think what the hell was i drinking as a kid i was drinking like shit wine yeah mine was wine no i always had quite nice wine from my parents i um i think they were just like i'd rather give you an amount that i know is like safe then yeah we obviously then ended up getting more but i think there was good intent there it depends because when i really let loose was as i told you guys was in my bed so then i was drinking all those shitty cocktails that they'd give me in a club. Like Sex on the Beach.

A hundred percent. Which is just orange juice and cranberry. Which is such a kid's drink. And it's so sugary. Oh my God, peach schnapps is a real thing of the summer in Mallorca for me. Like every time I go to the shitty local like peach schnapps. Mine was Malibu and Coke. Oh my God, you know what I used to do?

There was these shots that the guy that owned the bar used to give us called blowjobs. Lol. And they were basically like a baby Guinness but you had to do them with your hands behind your back and put your whole mouth around the shot

and then like pick it up like that so fun that's Sydney Girls Summer all round but I can't do that now I'd throw up if someone tried to make me do that now

god knows how I baby Guinness isn't that like Kahlua and something else it's like coffee but yeah the shots were like apple sour vibes like anything shit and

pink and green and like blue. I was down on that. That was not organic, was it? No. Those were bright, bright colours.

They were and also like, I don't think those drinks were really alcoholic-y. They were like, the majority was cranberry juice and orange juice with a

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