Wednesdays - 47. My bridezilla “best friend” is PUNISHING me for being PREGNANT at her wedding!

Episode Date: August 13, 2024

Sophie and Melissa are wasting no time and catching up on their trips away to Croatia. Melissa had her own rude encounter with a waiter in a bar, and Sophie had a disaster with her phone in the airport. They're also going into detail on all their predictions for the brand-new season of 'Emily in Paris' - are you Team Alfie or Team Gabriel?Over on the dilemmas, the girls are diving into whether one Tiny's boyfriend booking their friend a certain kind of service is a likely story, or an excuse for cheating... and they also give their opinion on how to deal with a bestie turned bridezilla who is punishing one Tiny for being PREGNANT at the same time as her wedding.Want More?! Check out our premium subscription The Follow Up - AD FREE, BONUS EPS and ALL the goss wednesdays.supercast.com/If you have a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma? You can send us a voice note or message using the link here.Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]--Credits:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathboneVideo editor: @jakeji.p Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help hi guys welcome back to wed Wednesdays. Sophie and Melissa. Should I tell you why I've got this awful phone case on my phone? Oh my god, yeah, that's offensive. So I'm in the airport and I drop it down the loo. Your whole phone? Before I'd flushed it.

Oh god, so. Yeah, I disinfected the phone but like. Did you just grab it or was it just like really quick reflux? I literally nearly threw up and then the whole time i threw my case away and then i was like i just don't know what to do so then i've got another case did you rinse underneath the tap not really because it's cracked so i was like it's really cracked the back of my phone so i disinfected it with like you know hand sanitizer i know not to be crass but had you like put enough loo roll then? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. It was bad.

It was bad. It was one of... Was there anyone else in the bathroom when you came out? No, I was like this. I saw it. It happened in slow motion. Was it in the back pocket? Where was it?

It was like on the side. And it just slipped. It did like six bounces and I was like, surely not. And it bounced off the back of me and then went in. I was like, you are joking. I saw it in slow motion. I was like you are joking I saw it in slow-mo and I was like how has this just happened so anyway then I had to find this phone case because I was like obviously you need to throw throw my old phone case away disgusting that is

really quite disgusting I know I know whore thing I know wait so hand went in straight away straight in it was actually one of the most grossest things that's ever happened to me. And now every time I touch my phone, I'm like, that's nasty. God, and that green colour is just toxic, wait. That is horrible. Okay, go on. Other than that, you had a nice holiday. Other than that, I had a really lovely holiday. I felt 18 again because I was hanging with like Jamie's younger brother, George.

I saw. And his friend, Barb. And they're just so cute and so plight I mean they're 18 and 19 so I don't know if I can call them cute but I felt like I was their age also that is Gen Z chat I honestly is it different I did not know what they were talking about the whole time I was honestly intimidated by what's the lingo let's have some constant banter but like deadpan like no laughing so I didn't know if they were joking or laughing the whole time. That's so boring.

They were boring. It was so entertaining. I've never known any. But why aren't they laughing at each other? Because it's just like so funny. You know what I mean? Like it's like. Okay, right.

Can you give me an example of like, was there a word of the holiday that you picked up that's very Gen Z? You know, I've been hearing everyone saying it's very sus. I'm like. Oh, yeah. They did say sus a couple of times. No, they're just more like I don't know they're just almost too cool I can't explain it like I felt so lame around them I was like I

am done Jamie I kept hearing like trying to say really cool things and I was like I can't I can't Jamie was like oh yeah like I can't imagine them just trying to get involved trying to get involved the whole time they were a bit like no no. But they're very, very cool. And just very, like, just young and free. And I just remembered being like, those were the years. My holiday, I have one thing I have to tell. Toby's going to be upset at me for telling this, but I'm going to tell it anyway. I don't know if anyone has been to this place called Hula Hula.

We've been, because we did a series, me and Chelsea, back in the day. It was six years ago now. And Toby and I go up to the bar to order a drink. Yeah. I'm terrified. And this waiter, quite sweet, like smilingly ordered the drinks for him. And it's just Toby and I. He then goes, oh my God, I really like the mole on the side of your face.

And I was like, oh, thanks. And he goes, it kind of reminds me of Robert De Niro. And I was like, Robert De Niroiro and I'm thinking he's in Meet the Fockers he's that old guy yeah and then he goes no no and he could see my face like this and he goes no no like a young female version and I was like the fuck anyway I turned to Toby I was like you get the drinks and he looked at me like what the fuck anyway go back to the table Toby then obviously pays the drinks and brings them over I'm expecting Tobes to say something to this guy right like be like dude probably shouldn't say something to this guy, right?

Like, be like, dude, probably shouldn't say that to a girl. Like, don't tell a girl that she looks like a guy. That's probably not going to go in the way of a compliment. You've probably pissed her off a bit. Or something, right? You'd think he'd back me up and say... No, you're not. He said to him to call the waiter out.

Absolutely. It was so rude. Wait, was the guy not just having a language barrier? No. He was fluent in English. And he went, you look like a female version of Robert De Niro. He was like, oh, it reminds me of Robert De Niro. Does Robert De Niro have a mole?

I don't think he does. Robert De Niro is like in his 70s and he's... I would say Robert De Niro is a great person. I love him as an actor. Same, but... I don't want to... Do you want to be called Robert De Niro? No.

Oh my God. Who's the worst... You remind me of Robert De Niro. Like, what the actual fuck? I just think ever saying to people, you remind me of someone, it's just like never going to go down. If it's a clear compliment, that's fine.

But I think comparing me to a 70-year-old man is clearly not the way to go if you're trying to compliment a girl. Oh my God. But it's not. He's got a mole. And then later on in the... You kind of do.

Shut up! He's got such a lovely face. Can I just say Robert De Niro is one of my favourite actors out there, but you don't look anything like him. I would never. That is the... Surely as that guy was saying, he was like, I don't know where I'm going with this.

I don't know, anyway. Anyway. Anyway, so what did Toby say? Well, I just got annoyed with him, and eventually he was just obviously fine with it. Like, as in apologise. Was he like, I'm so sorry? But he kept trying to then have the waiters back and i was like no no no but what was his argument that he was probably trying to compliment you i don't care he's

insulting me regardless anyway that day i was actually wearing a really nice like crochet beachy skirt from asos asos do great beachwear but the problem is for me is bikinis how can you buy one size like my tops oh my god saying my not the same as my boss i don't know what to do about that and then i'm getting things that are covering my nipples and i'm on this boat with jamie sad and i'm literally like my boobs are out the crotch is just so low at the front and i'm like i'm all for like the turning lines being minimal but it's highly inappropriate because i agree like bikinis aren't fitting well these days it's hard to find a good monday swimwear unbelievable hunza g unbelievable but if you've got big tits it's not good so like some of my friends yeah that have really big boobs

they're like it's just not really doable for me like it says one size fits all it's not emily blackwell's bikini oh god yeah that's really good bikini bible bikini bible is really good that is really good I really like that anything for me that you can bring high as well I don't like it

triangle the traditional triangle unbelievable it's so good I've worn loads of that although I did have like a flannel-y one and it was like

a towel so when I stood up like it was like gushing out of my pants and I was like what the hell and it was because the material was so flannel-y and then as I was coming out the seat it was, like, gushing out of my pants. Oh, it's saggy. And I was like, what the hell? And it was because the material was so flammable.

And then as I was coming out of the seat, it was, like, hanging. Oh, no, that's nothing worse. And it was, like, a nappy. And I was like, oh, my God. And people are, like, behind me trying to get up. I was like, just swim away. Oh, God. Get away. Oh, God.

The nappy vibe. There's nothing worse. Gaping. Vagina flapping out. Also, nothing worse than when you get, like, a bikini color that changes in the color of the water. So if you dip in just up to here, it doesn't look great.

Or it's like so thin it like goes in the cracks and you're like... Oh, and you can just see the outline and play everything. Everything. And that's not good either.

Not good. I really need to get a nice costume because I felt a bit revealed to be on a boat with the parents. Have you had that experience with Toby yet?

Not been on holiday with Toby's family. I think you'll be surprised at how much you don't want to be mincing about in a bikini I kind of get that it didn't even cross my mind it's funny I wonder if it's now because we're older that that sort of thing is now on our radar I was very much like I feel exposed

scooping through all my bikinis trying to find the biggest one and clearly that all literally I realised like a thong we need parents safe bikinis for those sorts of holidays. Triangle is a bit more parents safe but it's still skimpy. The one that I have isn't. That brown like sparkly one. The bottoms I have are minute to the point where I'm like I couldn't even wear it on this holiday so I had to do different top to bottom because I couldn't bear to wear them. I know we're becoming a little bit more demure.

I think it's fine to be like that. I'm not with my own parents but with other parents it's just slightly unacceptable. Yeah I get it because it's kind of like even if people don't look there's kind to be like that. I'm not with my own parents, but with other parents, it's just slightly unacceptable. Yeah, I get it. Because it's kind of like, even if people don't look, there's kind of nowhere to look. It's kind of crazy that we all just, during summer, walk around naked. Like, it's actually crazy. Like, hi, I'm going to sit and have lunch naked. The European thing is to literally just have the baps out.

I know. Would you ever do that? Not sure. Not sure either. Emily in Paris, it's coming out tomorrow. I am so excited. I feel very left out

because it's not only been, what was that other one I didn't watch? About the old, Bridgerton. Okay, but can I just say, you need to watch Emily in Paris.

You are in for such a treat. I watched series one where she had an affair with that guy. That's, I think, one of my favourite series. And then I just, it kind of icked me treat. I watched series one where she had an affair with that guy. Yeah, that's, I think, my favourite series. And then I just, it kind of icked me out. I know, but you just have to stick with it.

Big time actually itched me out. I was like, I'm severely itched out. By which part? By Emily. Well, I think she's meant to be like a bit of a, an annoying character in a sense. I really like the French woman. Sylvie, that's it. I was going to say Susie.

Sylvie. Can we just make a prediction also on what's going to happen? I'm going to say Sylvie can we just make a prediction also on what's going to happen I'm going to predict finally Emily please gets to sleep with sexy French man Gabrielle Gabrielle

Gabrielle but is she having an affair because he's dating the blonde girl so the blonde girl they almost got married at the end of last season and then they didn't

she ran off and was like I'm going to be gay now but then Alfie was like I can't be like with, with you right now, because you're clearly in love with Gabriel. Honestly, what a nightmare.

So there's a lot going on for this series ahead. Should we get into the dilemmas? Absolutely. Okay, dilemma one. Hey, girls. I've been with my boyfriend for over six years. Let's call him Tom. He has two older children in their teens and an ex-wife. I met Tom when he was going through his

divorce and while there's no bad blood between me and his ex, I do have my reservations about her due to some previous actions. Over the last few years, things have simmered down and we have had less contact with her as the kids have grown up so as things had a chance to calm down i told tom it was the right thing to do to invite her to their daughter's pre-prom get together at their house he was hesitant but it agreed it was the right thing to do just a week later my boyfriend went to berlin to watch the euros with his son as an 18th birthday present tom got a message from his ex-wife saying that she would also be catching a flight so they could both spend their son's birthday together as a surprise not only was she not invited but she also didn't even ask if it was appropriate to gate crash their lad's holiday they all went for dinner together because tom said he felt awkward not inviting her

them being on holiday together is totally too much for my little brain to bear we invited her to the prom party to extend an olive branch it was the start of building that blended family relationship but now I feel like she's totally overstepped a boundary I don't think any connection is happening between Tom and his ex-wife at all but I feel disrespected as a partner by the way he hasn't protected me in all of this by going along with whatever she wanted to do he broke her heart when they split so how do I know there's no feelings on her side? How do I address how I'm feeling to Tom?

I think this is really hard because you've got to put the child first. Yes. Which you and your boyfriend are doing. She is not.

She is completely overstepping the boundary of the ex-wife. Absolutely. It does need to be addressed. the dad isn't doing anything wrong by inviting her to dinner

because it's really weird. It would be making that situation harder, I agree with you. He has to wait until they're home and then be like, that was highly inappropriate. That can't happen again. But he's also in a really tricky position. Like he's just trying to not create an awful situation for their son. You're both in a horrible position and the wife has definitely overstepped boundaries. She absolutely has.

I think maybe don't keep reaching out the olive branch because she's clearly like taken what is it? Taken a taken a something

and ran with it what is it? She's taken a leap and run with it. She's taken a seat and planted a tree. It's inconsiderate at the best of times.

And also I think there's a seed of manipulation. I think she has feelings and I think that she's trying to claw her way back in. Why would you want to gate crash that? I think's so... Because she could be really jealous of the

dad's relationship with the son and be like, I want a fair relationship. I think that happens a lot in divorce. Whatever it is, it's inappropriate. Really naughty. There's not exes as such, but there is people from Jamie's past that I feel have been inappropriate because it's been in front of me and I've not liked it. You've always been quite relaxed about it but I've been like, don't fucking like that.

Some quite shocking things, actually. Anyway. How do I navigate it? I don't really feel like it's an issue unless it's the guy overstepping the line.

Like, if Jamie overstepped the line with an S, I'd be like, whoa. Different. But if a girl overstepped the line and an S, I'd be like, whoa. Different. But if a girl overstepped the line, I'm like, well, it's not his fault.

Keep trying. God loves a tryer. Yeah, God loves a tryer. Good for you, Han. It's so funny. I feel like women act so differently in those scenarios to men. I feel like if a guy wanted to get back with his ex

and she was, like, with a guy and moved on for a few years, he would not flirt and, like, claw. I don't think... I think he'd just sit back and let her. Yeah, he'd be like, oh, she's moved on, you know, there's nothing I can do about it.

Whereas a girl... They think they always think they can get them back. They think they can get them back and would, like, have a chance at manipulating and flirting, which is terrible of us. If any of you disagree with that,

let me know, but I feel like that is what we do. Like, we have this, like, thing inside of us which just thinks... And they need to be like, I can have that is what we do like we have this like thing inside of us and they need to be like I can have that I don't think that I would ever do that but I do know what you mean I picture loads of boys have that with exes and they're like oh shame yeah that's it she's the

one who got away yeah that's they'll just think that and it's like well fight for it whereas a girl will be like I'm gonna flirt and like I will get them back yeah I think girls can be quite naughty in those scenarios and there's a weird thing where it feels accepted because they're like

oh well he was my first no it's also weird because girls get away with a lot more I know in a weird way sorry that's a real 360 because we always

say boys get away with everything but girls do things in a sneaky way that's what I mean I think yeah we're just more smart

boys are like dumb and they'd like DM her straight away. And she's, and it's busted. Whereas a girl would be like, oh my God, a bunch of us are going to hang out. Like, do you guys want to come? And like, would probably invite both of you as a couple, but then like corner you and flirt with you all night. So to the girlfriend and to the boy, he'd be like, no, she's invited both of us. Like, it's obviously meaning nothing. Whereas it's like, I know what she's doing.

Do you know what I mean? A hundred percent. This is why I always say shame me Whereas it's like, I know what she's doing. Do you know what I mean? A hundred percent. This is why I always say shame me. I'm like, I understand girls. How would you not see? Yes. How would you not see this? I know exactly what they're doing now.

Yes. And he's like, what are you on about? Yes. And I'm like, you're so dumb. You're so dumb. And then it's working because now you're looking crazy for your boyfriend. I kind of think this is what the ex-wife is doing, if I'm being absolutely honest with you. And unfortunately, she's using her own son to fucking do it which is so wrong in so many ways I think also you and your boyfriend need to just

make sure you guys are a team yeah I don't personally think that he should be like you can't come it's inappropriate for you because that's not putting the child first but he should call you be like look and just communicate make sure he should call you, be like, look, and just communicate, make sure the communication is really open, be like, this is so weird, it's so inappropriate, but I can't deal with it any other way than inviting her along for the son's sake. And you've got to be a team back, even though it's hard, and be like, I agree, but we're in this together, and it's you, and you're not against her, but you guys are the solid team. Just bear in mind that he's also probably in a tricky position because he didn't ask her to gate crash and what's he gonna do be like get off the flight i mean it's

just a shit situation for you both who does that like the cheek of it is mental you need to lay down the boundary again to put some boundaries in yeah We'll be right back. live dealer studio exclusively on FanDuel Casino where winning is undefeated. 19 plus and physically located in Ontario. Gambling problem? Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. Hey girls, I don't think I can talk to my friends about this. I'm hoping you can help. I've been with my boyfriend for four years and we've lived together since the early days of our relationship. We've had hard times, but we've always come through on top

and he's really made me feel the most secure I've felt in any relationship. At the beginning of our relationship, I found a 50-woman long shag list. Not a 50-year-old woman long shag list. I asked him about it and he said it was old. So I just thought it was stupid boy behavior rather than anything serious. Cut to a random Thursday night.

He mentions that he's going for a drink with a work colleague. Oh. I think nothing of it until 11pm as it was weird that he hadn't checked in as usually he always does.

So I found his laptop. Oh no. I love this. You've not read on. I've read on So I found his laptop. Oh no. I love this. You've not run on. I've run on. I know his password, which he is aware of, and I log on. I went onto his WhatsApp and there were a number of messages from escorts offering their services, one of which he replied to saying I'll be there for a little bit.

Fuck! It was 11.50pm at this point. I called him immediately and asked where he was. He said he was a few minutes away from home and then he did end up pulling up around midnight. When he came in, I confronted him about the messages and he told me that he was messing around with a colleague. This colleague had recently been cheated on

so my boyfriend wanted to help him get his end away. What does get his end? Like hook up with someone, I think. Like get your leg over sort of thing. So had helped to arrange an escort. The behavior is so out of character, which is why the situation is throwing me off. Ultimately, my gut believes him. But I just don't know why a grown man would need another grown man to help him book an escort.

No, no, no, no. But I don't know if I'm just being naive. You're being naive. There's no way he's booking his friend an escort. The other friend is booking it on his phone. Let me tell you, he's not booking his pal an escort. The only thing that's not adding up to me. How was he?

Is it then he was done like exactly home? I know, but maybe. When he called, I'm literally a few minutes away and he was home. You wouldn't hire an escort and then spend 45 minutes with them, or would you? Unless they were that kind of an escort, if you know what I mean. Well, I think that's the point. It must have been a quick in and out. I'm so, I don't know.

We need the Uber receipt. We need the Uber receipt. You need to get the Uber receipt. See where he got the Uber from. If it was from a hotel room, you know you're in a bit of trouble. Maybe he did book his friend an escort. I believe that he did. But also, we need proof from the old colleague.

You need to deep dive through that WhatsApp. See, did he actually meet up with the old colleague? Who is the old colleague? Where's the cash gone? He would have paid. Listen. Get the bank statements. If you had just been broken up with your boy and you want to sleep with an escort, right?

He might have been like, look, I'm going to do it for you. I'm going to do it for you because the guy would have been like, I'm too scared. I don't know how to do it. And he was like, I'll just do it for you at 11pm. Be there. But where's the address to meet the escort? Feels a bit vague. I think you just act cool, calm and collected for the time being.

Because there could actually be something innocent out of this scenario. But he knows that you well want him. Well, it's not that innocent. Because do you really want your boyfriend suggesting that an escort's the best way to get over it no to his friend like maybe that's something you should explore anyway I don't know maybe you're fine with it can we just talk about plan of action so what you're gonna do I think uber receipts we need to find out where he had come from okay how are you gonna do that you're gonna book an uber on your boyfriend's phone today

tomorrow you need to go your uber's broken. Grab the phone. You have his login. Go into his emails and check the Uber receipts and see the addresses. Amen. So do that. Find out where he'd come from with the Uber receipts. But maybe he'd be driven. If you can also go into the WhatsApps to the colleague and just check that that all lines up. Because I feel like you don't want to accuse someone too much if they are then innocent.

And there's a part of me that doesn't. I'm not thinking red, red, red, red, red flag. Like, there's a part of me that thinks this could actually be a really awful situation. I would probably be like, so Joe, the colleague who's just been cheated on, I'd be like, so Joe wanted to sleep with an escort. Tell me about it. Show me the escort you booked them. Yeah, show me what she looked like. It's the fact that he might not have then told you, whereas Toby would have been like messaging me straight away, like, oh my God, just booked Joe this escort,

would have sent me a photo. I don't know, do you know what I mean? I don't think Jamie would be doing that because he would like be nice to his friend. Like his friend probably wouldn't want his best mate's girlfriend. Toby would tell me. Toby would tell me. Jamie wouldn't, he really takes those things.

Bro code, seriously. Bro code, seriously. No, I'm involved in the bro code. So if it was me, Toby, maybe he wouldn't have sent me a photo. He would have been like, oh my God, I've got to taste something when I get home. It's the fact there was no check-ins as well,

which I think is also... But if Toby did that, would you not be like, why are you booking him an escort? I would still be like, that's fucking weird. Toby wouldn't do that. I'm just thinking if he did...

So maybe he wouldn't because he knows you don't... It wouldn't have been such a weird secret. But maybe he'd be embarrassed to do it. To tell you. I just don't know. There needs to be more exploring. You need to deep dive, stalk into this. Maybe you don't want to stalk into it because you don't want to see the truth.

I think we need to find out more facts. Me too. Or it could have just been them messing around and he was like, let's find an escort and then they forgot about it. No, he said, meet me at 11pm. Yeah, but then they just never turn up. They're like, oh, lol, bye. They didn't go.

You can't get angry at him if his friend wants to date an escort. Would you call it date? Pay for an escort? I think maybe it's just like there was no reason. If this actually has

what happened, this is what he said, there's definitely something that needs to be discussed because I wouldn't be comfortable with my boyfriend even having an escort's number or access that.

I'd be like, there's no need for you to really have done that it's also the fact that he didn't come in straight away I was like when you asked and he was like oh my god no look like this is what we were doing like honestly like I was doing this for him like look honestly this is where he was blah blah blah and like showing more it's the fact that it was all just quite hidden from you and then just explained as that and then that was that it feels very odd actually the more I think about it like why would he be organizing he's not his best friend's pa like he would have to then text his friend and be like this is the location this is where she can be why would he do

on his own i agree it's so weird i know also having a girlfriend you wouldn't want that like trace back to your phone i'd be like no i can't possibly message off my phone yeah my girlfriend will find out she's gonna literally lose her mind yeah but then I guess in a sense it would be like my friend's gone through a breakup I'm gonna message one of my single friends who I know is great to set them up maybe is it that angle I don't know I think the whole thing's really fishy and weird like I'm not that naive to it I think it it sounds a bit sus. I like that. If you ask me. But.

Would agree. It could also be very innocent. I don't know because I don't know much about escorts and boys. Boys do sometimes do strange things. And when their self-esteem's low, maybe they would like, look. Yeah. He just needs someone to like flirt with him all night. And we can't face the potential of rejection.

So we're just going to hire somebody instead i don't know it's all very very plausible it's obviously happens more than we think listen i think escorts are a popular thing amongst boys i don't know i feel like it is more popular with boys than it is with girls for sure well yeah what's a gigolo yeah like sorry alfie vibes yes please yes once they're in order there i'm also thinking you know in friends when he's like phase two i'm ready to go to a strip club and get strippers in my face might be that and you might get a strip dance from a stripper so i don't know like maybe that is a part of a boy's process they just need quick validation from a female and a bit of

attention and that's enough for them and they'll be happy and off they part right we want you to deep dive into this give us more details i want you to go mi5 on this same you've got to go mi5 on this this is this is a code red situation and we need you to stay cool calm and collected and don't let him in on the fact that you're still thinking about it because i think if he knew then he might try and hide more stuff i think there's also nothing wrong with just being honest and being like, look, I'm actually really quite shaken up from the other night. My mind's going crazy and it's probably just me overthinking everything. But I feel really comfortable if I could just see these messages from the Zest Squad

and you could prove to me that actually this is what you've done. And if he can't show you, then that's your answer. That's your answer. If he whips that phone away from you for one second, whoa, it's a something's awry and we need to find out absolutely retweet and you need to go into this you need to follow up with us because i'm on there and maybe don't be naive because i think it's easily to be manipulated yeah yeah Yeah. Dilemma three. Hi, tinies. My best friend and I live on separate continents.

She sent me a save the date card last year for a wedding, which is happening this summer. Since then, I found out I'm pregnant with my first baby. Oh, congratulations. Because I would have been seven months at her wedding, I told her early on I probably couldn't make it legally by the airline, even if i wanted to ever since she's been giving me the cold shoulder she's deliberately punishing me for not attending

her wedding and i'm already sad that i can't go but do you think she's right am i to blame here for not planning my pregnancy around her wedding no it's true that i did think about it when i started trying the other bridesmaids are taking her side and egging her on. What the fuck? What? I feel like I've lost a friend but also she's been so absent from my pregnancy journey that I don't know

where this leaves us in the future. I'm very sad about the whole situation. Whoa, you've done nothing wrong. Whoa. This is so unbelievably bad.

What the hell? Bridezilla 101 or what? This is so unhinged and so stupid. This is so unhinged and so stupid. This is so unhinged and so stupid. I can't even believe it. Like, she... This is not right.

I don't even know what to think. I think fuck her. If I'm honest with you. I think fuck her. That is nothing else to be discussed here. And also the other bridesmaids. Being a bridesmaid, you're meant to, like, support your best friend. You should not be friends with these people in the first place

if this is how they're treating you. It's peculiar. It's so weird. They should be like be like congratulations we're so excited for you like i totally understand like can you imagine the amount of people lots of pickies yeah you'll be here with us and then we'll meet the gorgeous baby like that is so selfish and just nasty both jamie and mine's best friends like two of them couldn't come to our wedding because they literally gave birth on our way like and we were so happy for it like we're jamie's literally like the godfather like can you imagine the english wedding they came to the english wedding and like not one part of me

could have possibly been annoyed if anything i was like oh my god such a shame i wish they were there to celebrate having said that i will be annoyed if you're pregnant on my wedding day she really doesn't want me to be pregnant on my wedding day. You do need to plan your pregnancy around my wedding day. I can't. You can't plan a pregnancy around that. You do know it could take a year. I wasn't pregnant at yours. I know you are.

But I think that's exactly as bad as this. But I do understand if I'm seven months pregnant, it's very upsetting. And I will try my absolute best not to be. But would you disown me as a friend if I was no we'll see no

can you imagine you and Hermione being like we hate her no my fear is that you and Hermione will both be pregnant when I get married and no one will fucking

come to my wedding that's not gonna happen we need to get Toby you need to know exactly Toby to plan around it that's why well I need to know when it's happening

you're not even engaged yet yeah but by then you will. Well, I might have already popped a baby out by then. That's fine then. Exactly. So let's cross the bridge when it comes. Let's cross that bridge. What I think the solution to that answer is

Toby needs to get down on the knee really soon so that we can all get ready with our planning. Because at the moment we're all waiting for that. I can't plan anything without knowing when he... What do people do? Do they... I can't plan unless you've got a ring on your finger. People just have pregnant people at their...

But what it is... Being pregnant at a wedding is absolutely fine. You can't. No, it's the flying thing. It's not about being pregnant. No, but it's only when you're like seven months pregnant, you can't fly. So unless I'm seven months, which is like two months before I give birth. Question, would I move my wedding around my pregnant bridesmaids?

Because let's say you, Hermione and my sister are all pregnant and can't come. Well, yeah, you would know. Do I then just say you as friends? So what's going to happen is I will tell you the day one that I'm pregnant. I won't even wait till three months to tell you. So that you can start if it's cooked. Okay, no, right. Let's put a snarl in your head.

What the fuck are we going to do? Right. So I'm getting married 2026, 2027. Yeah. I give you the date. It's locked in. It's done. Three weeks after that,

I book the venue. Everything's paid for. You're pregnant. And then it's going to be like eight months until the wedding. Yeah, that's really bad news. That's what's going to happen to me. I know it in my bones.

That's really bad news. But I think if it's 2026, we might have a good chance that that's not the case. I just know it will happen with one of you. Because that's in two years. No, no. I think if it's 2026, we might have a good chance that that's not the case. I just know what happened with one of you. Because that's in two years. No, no.

I just know what happened with you, my sister, or my other friend, Hermione. And it's just, you know, it's fine. Obviously, every baby is a blessing. I would just...

We will be there. You were just really lucky that you did it before anyone was really at that point. So, like, it wasn't even something that anyone would even think about. Let's just not think about it.

We've got ages. Right, so anyway, getting back to this dilemma, I don't think that you need So like it wasn't even something that anyone would even think about. Let's just not think about it. We've got ages. Right. So anyway, getting back to this dilemma. Right. I don't think that you need to even give these other girls a second thought in your brain. As far as I'm concerned, remove them completely from your life. You can't be stressed out or shit like this when you're pregnant. It's not good for you for a start.

And if this is the way they're going to behave, you don't want to be friends with them anyway. I agree. It's so mean. It's so horrible. And it's just so bizarre. Such mean girl vibes. It's giving such mean girl vibes. And you're pregnant.

Like, it should be like a blessing. And it's like your first baby. Like, what the fuck? It's almost like I think when someone's pregnant, it's kind of like, oh, let's forgive them because you're pregnant. I agree. Everything bad you've done to me, I'll forget because you're pregnant. No, I agree. You can be a bitch.

I'll forgive you because you're pregnant. No, I agree. You can be a bitch, I'll forgive you because you're pregnant. If my sister called me now and was like, I need you to pick up a coffee from Marlbone and take it to me in Wandsworth, I'd be like, I'll be there. Because she's pregnant. I will be there and I will get down on my knee. Because you are pregnant.

Give you a bubble bath at the same time. Exactly. I agree. It's also like, I feel like, I don't know, I'm not pregnant, but I feel like being pregnant, particularly if you're the first in a friendship group, is quite isolating or daunting anyway. This is not nice and I'm so sorry you're like the first in a friendship group, is quite isolating or like daunting anyway.

Like this just is not nice and I'm so sorry you're going through this. Thank God she's on the other side of the world. That's all I can say. Far, far away from me. That's what we liked here. So easier said than done, but like block out the noise. Like they're not nice. I think also what else I would do,

just so you don't look at it and make yourself sad, I'd just mute them on Instagram and all the bridesmaids, anyone else that you know there, just so that like when the wedding's going on, you're not seeing stories and stuff and you're not like oh and it's like

giving you FOMO or whatever me too I'd actually get off Instagram personally for the time being like you just don't want to like be comparing yourself like missing out

or getting FOMO and just go into your safe space have your little lovely pregnancy bubble yeah get all your nesting done be with your family

be with your friends your friends who are like supportive and nice speak to your other girlfriends about it as well yeah have a good vent and a bitch with your other girlfriends about it it's so mean it's needed but we love you and we hope you're okay and i'm so sorry you're going through this i can imagine it's horrible like yeah this needs to be the happiest most magical time like you're literally forming another human inside that little belly and you know embrace it don't let this irrelevant bridezilla stress you at all hey sophie and melissa a few years ago me and my friends went on a girl's holiday

we were all newly single oh my god so fun as you can imagine it got pretty wild during the holiday we met up with a group of men on a stag, and I became very friendly with the best man. This resulted in a very embarrassing end to our night, where we went back into his room and broke the bed, and not from having sex, but from us being clumsy. Oh my god. I thought, who cares, I'll never see him again, and we both laughed off.

Fast forward to September, I'd completely forgotten about this man, until I walked into one of my lectures and recognized him as my lecturer it was him you are joking neither of us acknowledged that we knew each other and safe to say i was very glad when the module was over oh my god that's absolutely hilarious that is the funniest thing ever have you ever had a situation where you've slept with someone or you know someone who slept with someone and they'd meet again they just never acknowledge it no but you have with your builder oh my god yeah i have but although like not why would you acknowledge it also so embarrassing do you remember when we slept together like 15 20 years do you remember that actually was like 20 years ago.

So I saw on the newlyweds clip that you've been lying about your body count. No, no, no. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. If you knew the whole story, you'd know it doesn't count this one time. Oh, shut up. It doesn't. If you knew the whole story. Shut up.

There's two of my numbers that don't really count. Oh, so we're now number seven no no no one of the numbers I do count because I clumped them together and I thought

they both didn't really work out oh I could count not count one of them because the penis is so small that's just so mean but I'm not going

to do that it doesn't count if they get it no no no but this was different to that what was it I clumped them both.

I just didn't. Got caught mid-act both times to just like hop off, basically. Hopped away. It doesn't count if penis has entered vagina. Really?

Really? Really? Absolutely. No, I think unless they've ejaculated. So if Jamie puts his penis in another girl, you'd be like,

does it count? Oh my God, it's so true. Unless they've ejaculated. So if Jamie puts his penis in another girl, you'd be like, no. Oh my God, it's so true. It absolutely counts. Okay, this has really opened up a whole new world. So how many people is it now then? Well, including that person at six. That makes me feel so much better about my eight. Wow, I really just exposed myself.

I thought I would have saved that for the follow-ups. I really keep that number close to my chest okay oh my god that is hilarious we love you all please

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