Wednesdays - 5: He GHOSTED me after the best date ever?!

Episode Date: October 24, 2023

Hello tinies!!!The girls are back this week for a big old gossip and to unpack the Beckham documentary. PLUS, we have some shocking dilemmas for you… Including an ex confessing their love two months after the breakup, an online situation turned potential ghosting scenario to a boyfriend’s SHADY manoeuvres. Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]-Credits:Podcast Producer & Editor: @kat.milsomAdditional Producer: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Social Media: @thechampagencyAssistant Producer: @maiaadelia.docs Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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with iGaming Ontario. Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts at anything. In fact, we just chatted all the shit. And we love giving you guys advice but as we said, we love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel.

If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. It's cute. Wish I could get it. My life's so busy, I wish I could just go on a cruise. Stop and go on a cruise. Stop and go on a cruise. No, it's like working my life away. I wish I could just stop and go on a cruise. Stop and go on a cruise? No, he's like, working my life away.

I wish I could just stop and go on a cruise. You're really good. It's because I watch it all the time. I'm obsessed with that. You're like really good. She almost has like a bit of Toby's voice in her. It's like a slight southern accent as well. Yeah.

I wish I could just stop and go on a cruise. Cruise. And she sounds so old. Oh my God, we're not making any sense. Sorry, we're just talking about memes. I mean, it's just really living the life of memes right now. I'm really getting into my social media. Same, I'm sending you me, me, me.

Oh, you really are. All the fucking time. You're on the memes. They're memeing me out. We just need to just cover a couple of topics really quickly before we get into it. Right, go on then. Number one, I've told you to watch this. Every person listening needs to watch this every person listening

needs to watch something called Outer Banks okay but what channel Netflix Netflix okay right it's like a mixture of like

the OC and like vampire diaries but not like the love story is like fucking good why haven't I seen it advertised

she's stunning he's stunning it's very American I fucking love it already and there's like there's like a treasure hunt. People get killed. There's all this drama. They're on the run.

I don't like scary movies. It's not scary. It's drama. But it's teenage drama. It's like nothing scary at all. But how fit are we talking? Is it Vampire Diaries Take Two? She's super hot.

Why have I never seen this? You would have seen her. Melissa and I are really not shallow. We just like to watch. I just like a love You would have seen it. Melissa and I are really not shallow. We just like to watch. No, I like to just like. I just like a love story. I like fantasy. I like to watch things that are not bleak.

Because why would I. There are a lot of bleak shit going on in the world. Like why would I put on the TV and I want to escape. I need to feel. Totally. Hold on, let me show you something. What's it called? Outer Banks.

I'm just going to show you them really quickly because it's relevant. But why have I not seen it advertised? I like it advertised. You know what? I hadn't either. But I them really quickly because it's relevant. But why have I not seen it advertised? I like an advertiser. You know what? I hadn't either, but I think it's not that new. And then also, obviously, the Beckham documentary must cover this topic. Why do I have no fucking service in this joint? What's going on?

Voted phone's gone down. Do you remember that day? Has it? No. But do you remember that day when all of our phones just turned off? We just had to get on with it. It went off for a minute. Did it happen last year? Shut up. Well, this year, they were like on with it. It went off for a minute. It happened like last year.

Shut up. Well, this year, they were like, we're just turning them off for a bit. I do not remember that, but it is giving me slight anxiety that I've got no signal on my phone. Listen,

your memory's freaking me out. We definitely sat on this podcast. I have the worst, you know what's weird about me? I will remember like what you ate for lunch, what you wore, what we spoke about

on like a specific date and time like five years ago. I couldn't tell you what I did yesterday or what happened last week yeah you remember that date when we drove the car in Croatia yeah I know what I was wearing

I know what you were wearing and you know the music what was I wearing I think I know black strong and black bikini no you were wearing like denim shorts

and you were wearing like a no you were wearing a shirt tied up and then you were just wearing bikini bottoms like leopard print

bikini bottoms oh my god I was you're so right I don't and then you were just wearing bikini bottoms, like leopard print bikini bottoms. Oh my God, I was. You're so right. I don't actually remember what I was wearing, but I remember what you were wearing. Why was I wearing a shirt tied up? And then I remember the song, it was like, I gotta keep my body.

And I was wearing jelly shoes because you remember it was rocky. This back in the day when we filmed for Major Chelsea, we went on a way trip to Croatia and Melissa and I were scarred by this moment. Anyway, we won't go into it. I don't know why we've been speaking about it so much recently.

Because I went to Dubai and I couldn't stop telling Jamie about it. And he was like, what the fuck? And it doesn't sound real. He also was like, I don't believe that happened. I know, it doesn't sound real. It sounds like really... Yeah, anyway. Well, we can't let you in on it because maybe for another day.

So, right. You told us about Outer Bank. What's the other loss? The Beckham documentary. We must discuss that. How much do we love... Fit. Fit.

Oh my God. David Beckham back in the day. Must have been the best looking person ever. the loss the beckham documentary must discuss that how much do we love fit oh my god david beckham back in the day must have been the best looking person i've ever seen when i say like i think david beckham's a handsome man but i've never been like i'm like what i know the obsession now i might get over it like he's a good looking guy but like i personally prefer like bradley huber if i'm going for an older guy you know what i I mean? But I'm, Beckham when he is younger is fit. Nothing I've ever seen before. Like, the only word to describe it

is like sex. Yeah, I know. He's like, I'm like, it's like, why that tanned with the blonde, like why does he dye?

The shaved head is the best thing I've seen. No, no, no, no, the earring. Ah! I love the earrings, the big diamonds and the shaved hair.

No, I like the long, I, I, I, I, I, I, I,

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I, I, I, I, I, I, I, is why we go for different blokes I love the long hair with Alice Band and it tied up and like the sweat in it like he always had it wet yeah yeah

and his hands are so fit I know I know they're like big manly hands and like he kisses his ring every time he goes he touches it to the grass

I can't strap me down I know he's a stunning bloke also like the fashion choices were just fucking cool like when he wore the strong I was like you're so cool no I did not like that I know he knew what heong I was like you're so cool no I did not

like that no he knew what he was doing he's a smart cookie yeah but I did not find that cool I thought that was lame I just thought he looked hot and I thought it was

cool because he just like gives no shit oh he looks it no he was like doing that to get in the press which I thought was actually but it worked

yeah it did he knew exactly what he can do no wrong in my life I'm obsessed no but but why how wild is it

that I've just never got it for all these years I've got it in the sense that I'm like I get it but I'm not like in love like David Beckham

was not on my hit list he is like number one now that's why I think yeah we were way too young and it's not like he's in movies where we've seen him like whereas like

Leonardo and like Brad Pitt we've obviously seen in movies younger so we've understood it whereas David Beckham like we're not football fans like I don't

I've never seen him on the football game but you never would have seen him when he was younger now it's like fuck me my whole life has been changed around you know I've been fancying the wrong person my whole life me too like he if you ask me my list now but he's number one but yeah he is but it's young David Beckham oh yeah like obviously not now Dave also I'm mind blown that he's really young he's only 47 I thought he was like 50 something yeah same just

because he's like so well known and I've had him for so I also I feel like I was a baby when he was born but he wasn't he's not that much older than me well he is yeah he's literally 20 years older than me well 90 he's 30 years older than you no he's 19 I'm I'm 29 he's 19 I'm 19 I'm 29. He's 19. I'm 29 and he's 47. You just said he's 19. He's 19, as in he's 19 years older. Oh, sorry. He is. David Beckham's 19. So basically what we're trying to work out,

is David Beckham too old for us? No. No. We can make it work. I could definitely make it work. You, two years younger than me, maybe not. No, maybe that's a stretch. But I would want him to dye his hair.

I wouldn't shave his hair. Like, what are you doing? but I would want him to dye his hair I would want him to shave his hair like what are you doing I agree no no his hair's really thinning no apparently he has to

have a lot of product in it to make it look that thick I just want him to shave it he's got such a gorgeous face yeah he doesn't need that

shave it I don't want any Botox on him I don't know if he gets it he did have wrinkles I don't think he's had any work done weirdly

no not me no he looks a little bit like you can tell he's been in the sun yeah he's a sexy sexy man and I also think Vic Vicks looks fucking unreal oh she's a legend she looks better than she's ever looked I'm like wow phenomenal she's really cool I just you know I love when she was like we're from working class families and he comes in and just like tell the truth what kind of job I just so fascinated like she was obviously baller yeah not the roles I kind of wanted to know

I'm gonna say I'm gonna be controversial and say I thought the end of the documentary was a little bit too much about football maybe that's because I don't really like football

and I'm not really into it no I was so into it at the end of it when it was too much football I was like I want to know more about the family I want to know more about your kids

I want to know more about what you do day to day like it's all about like your past which I get that's cool but like I also thought the part when he like tackled his son Romeo to the ground was like a bit inauthentic I think I missed that bit oh it was just like a bit staged

no I I didn't give a fuck about the family I like Victoria but I like wanted back I want sorry can we talk about Romeo Beckham for a moment oh I've always thought he was 10 out of 10 fit I've seen him like three times in London every time I'm like oh my god it literally goes through me but he looks like his mum not his dad no not for me I like Beckham for sure

but he's obviously really fit I think he looks the most you know his girlfriend follows me on Instagram does she maybe she likes Wednesdays I'm honestly Beckham fan they all hate that guy

the England captain they hate him oh my god yes they do he was also fit he was fit but like hate him screw you Neil Diamond or something yeah whatever his name is right we're gonna move on Yes, you are. He was also fit. He was fit. But like, hate him. Screw you.

Neil Diamond or something. Yeah, whatever his name is. Right, we're going to move on to dilemmas now. Enough about David Beckham. Me and my ex of two years broke up a few months ago and he's suddenly confessing his love for me. We're in the same friendship group, which makes it difficult,

but I definitely don't want to get him back but here is my dilemma me and my me and one of the other boys in our friendship group have feelings for each other and have done for a year there's always been tension between us and we have stayed together secretly within the last month but haven't had sex we're both unsure on what to do we really like each other but we are in the same friendship group as my ex what do you think girls well the more you try to make it stop happening you're gonna end up shouting each other in a second like that's gonna draw you closer so like move on i mean it's just like you're young you've not got kids like just two months is two months two months is fine i know but i think the problem is if the boys are friends i think ultimately like but that's their their issue that's their issue i think maybe

to be respectful you should maybe leave it a little bit longer and then maybe he should have a conversation with him being like yeah look like I actually you know I kind of like really have feelings for the girl like and I'm gonna start dating her like I'm not asking for your permission but I'm essentially just letting you know out of respect because you don't know you're my mate but I do really have feelings for and it's something I can't ignore. Yeah, totally. I think that's great advice. It's so much easier when it's guys and guys. When it's girls and girls, it's so much more complicated. Game over.

That would have been a drama. Oh my God. Thank God I read, you read Dilemma. Oh my crikey. Dilemma 2. So I started messaging this guy about six months ago on and off. We had never met, but we were friends of friends. We were always super flirty on messages,

but we would often go weeks without messaging, so I never thought anything of it. We started talking one evening, and he said out of the blue, come and see me tomorrow. I'm a girl that is no way spontaneous, but something in me drove an hour to meet him for a lovely day on the beach the next day. Fascinating.

When I saw him the first time, I low-key fell in love. He's six foot raw, four, rugby player with beautiful eyes. We wandered around the beach and went to a fancy restaurant for drinks. We then decided we wanted some more food but everywhere was packed so I jumped in his car and we drove half an hour away for some

food. Honestly, we got on so well and after the meal, one thing led to another in his car and we ended up doing the tea. Stunning stuff. I have. I lost my dignity in a car. Classy. Classy gal. This is not like me one bit, but

it was an in the moment thing and he was so lovely and treated me with so much respect. The rest of the day, he was super touchy, holding hands in little packs. Little packs are the loveliest,'t they we went i'm just picturing okay right we went back to the beach for sunset where we went in the water and honestly i've never laughed so much as the evening came to an end we kissed and i drove an hour back home the rest of this week we would message each other non-stop and because he lives a couple of hours away he said i could stay around the weekend

meet his parents fucking hell that's great so i met the parents they were lovely unfortunately i had come on my period quite heavily so we couldn't do anything too naughty that night i love the detail that you're giving same i'm there i'm really here for this i thought that this would make him a little upset but he said to me i'd never want you to think I want you just for your body. Crikey, he's asleep. God, this is so deep. This is deep. Honestly, this made my heart melt because I've been treating back like a shit before.

So we called up on the sofa and watched films all day and we went out for a fancy dinner and it felt as though we were a couple holding hands, kissing. We came home, danced in the kitchen. What the fuck? Is this a novel? This is not real life. This is amazing. We came home and in the kitchen what the fuck is this not real life this is amazing we came home and danced to what music i gave him a peck and we went to the in the spare room the peck why is it so many i just morning came and i snuck into his bed for a morning cuddle. I'm telling you reading this, Al. No, but it's true. It's a show you're reading a bit.

Morning came. Morning came and I snuck into his bed for a morning cuddle. It was very cute. I then had breakfast with him and his parents and then went home. Is this real? It's been three weeks since this evening and his replies slowly got worse and worse. Oh. So I asked if I'd done anything wrong because I couldn't understand how we could have had

such a lovely weekend and I said, stop talking. Oh, something's boring you. No, I just suddenly got a little young. He apologized and said that he had been very busy, but I could tell he was always active and just not replying to me. Oh, as I didn't want to seem desperate, I slowed down my messaging replies too.

But now I find myself getting upset, low-key mourning a relationship that never was. Do you think there is anything I could do to save this relationship or just let him go? Let him go. But what the fuck? That's so confusing. I'm so confused.

I'm not. I know people like this. They're so deep. They're so deep. They like invite you to run the house. Like, my old friend used to always get involved with boys like this. And I'd be like,

how the fuck have you got this stunning, boy to fall in love with you you've met his family second date and then they ghost her and it would happen over and over again and they're just like serial daters like they serial love bombers like they do it to shit loads of girls like they just and they fool they make you yeah they love bomb shit fuck you, yeah, they love Bob. Shit. Fuck. You have to let him go. You have to let him go. Anything's been too long. And also, thank God that this only happened when you met him twice. Imagine if this was like three months in and you were like fully, full pal in love.

Yeah. I'm like, I'm weirded out they've only met twice. It feels like they've had a full. I know. I feel for you because I would have been so deeper. You know what's crazy? Like the amount of of attention to detail that you've written to us

in this dilemma, right, shows how much more girls and how much you believed it and was into it. And to him, he's probably like, yeah, I had her over once. She met the family. We had a nice time.

Do you know what I mean? That's probably how it is. Oh my God, totally. He won't be like, did we dance in the kitchen? Yeah, we did. He's like, yeah, totally. He won't be like, did we dance in the kitchen? Yeah, we did. He's like, yeah, maybe. It wouldn't be something.

He'd be like, it's not that. He's like, I didn't fuck her over. He'd be like, I dated her once. We were on one date and then she came over for the weekend. They didn't even fuck because she was on her period. He'd be like, yeah.

Fuck. I know. Boys just don't get emotionally attached like we do. It's crazy. It's actually agonizing because I so feel your pain but you will get over him so easily because it's as you're in lust it's totally in lust you don't

even really know him and you've only met him twice so it will pass you have to let him go though there's nothing you can do to salvage this no there's nothing to salvage effectively in his mind yeah do you know what i mean he's like and he's done he he probably like had a few he's probably a rugby player works away and then he had two weekends at home met a girl near yeah like on tinder she came home then he's off training i don't know if that's kind of the vibe i'm getting you can do so much better than that yeah dilemma three i'm 20 i love the detail of the age because i feel like that adds so much relevance to me too i'm 24 i met my boyfriend through social media we had been

together for three months when one evening i noticed something weird my boyfriend told me that he had just got home after spending the day out running errands in a different city everything seemed normal and he voice noted me voice noted me in the car to let me know he was done and going home in the evening i noticed that my messages were taking ages to go through not sending despite me having good service and connection. And then he started saying he was tired at 8pm. My gut feeling was telling me something was fishy. We really do.

No, it's wild. You just know. You know. It's in the stomach. This was not normal. I asked him to send me a selfie, as he always does, as we always do this with each other. Secretly, I was already suspicious of where he was he sends me a selfie with with just his head and ceiling

in the photo with everything else cut out it's only fulfilled this horrible gut feeling I had as he had never sent photos like that to me where I couldn't see any background of where he was he told me he was at home and in his bedroom I get him he would have kind of liked it because I'd have been like, right, dig deep now. I'm going to catch him out. I'm going to drive there. Yeah, I would have been like,

right, here we go, he's busted. I get home from my busy day out and decide to check the photo again in my photo gallery. Only this time I noticed that the location of the photo was coming up as a totally different location than where his house is.

Wait, how does she get that? I don't know. I think it can happen. No, I'm freaking out. Wait, I'm confused. It was coming up as a change of location where his house is and I'm talking a good 40 miles away.

His location on the photo came up as being an apartment block in Manchester city centre. How the fuck do you get a photo? How does that work? I think it does come up. It works on me. When I send you a photo on WhatsApp?

Yeah, on sometimes. If I look at my photos then, if it's saved to my photo gallery, it will have the location shut yeah what you're scaring me why I did not know that yeah why we need to test this theory afterwards this is going to catch out a lot of people also help a lot of girls hopefully figure some shit I know but I don't know if it's still working I think it's only if like it saves into what's up I don't know it has happened occasionally though okay right my heart was racing I was

panicking and in full anxiety and confusion. I had no clue how to approach this situation. So I decided to text him asking him straight up, where are you? To which he replied, I'm at home in bed,

question mark. Fuck you, little snake. I called him twice and he didn't pick up the phone. He said that his nephew was sleeping next door so he didn't want to disturb him. Again, the anxiety just got worse.

Oh my God. No, I'd be physically sick at this point i am angry for you this weird behavior also carried on to the next morning i rang him again twice there was no pickup he said that he was speaking to his mom and so couldn't answer oh my god the excuses how like how does he even think you're that stupid like i noticed that my messages were taking ages to go through and that wasn't normal. As I had been to his house before, I knew the location was always accurate and that the service was always good.

I questioned him on all of the above the next day and he denied ever being in Manchester and I had no clue what to believe. Obviously, he's lying. No, but that's really such a mind-factor. You think people can't be that rude. Like, I'm like, but how can he blatantly lie that easily? I know.

It's psychotic. I asked him to show me his previous locations on apple slash google maps and all of them were off and empty no so there was no evidence no he's a sick son of a bitch question mark who knows anyway fast track to now where we are three months further down the line and having not mentioned the situation again I can't stop thinking about it I think about it nearly every day I'd be sick to my side every other photo he sent me the location has been accurate to where he said he is we now have each other's location on all the time and I've never seen him go to Manchester since we have progressed a lot in our relationship and I love him deeply but I cannot

stop thinking about oh my god he was getting her engagement ring how old are the other 23 three months Sophie oh I cannot stop thinking about the location situation. Oh my God, he was getting her engagement ring. How old are they? Oh, they're 23. They've been together for three months, Sophie. Oh. I cannot stop thinking about the location situation and whether he was really there. There was no way for me to prove he was there.

The only place and evidence would be on his phone. What do I do? No, I couldn't. I think ultimately, you know the truth. You're just choosing to like find another part.

But what if he goes and has an affair midweek and then never again? Like it's so rogue. After work one day, he was like, I'm going to pop into Man City. People do it. And then he probably did it and felt really shit the next day and was like, I'm about to get found out. She's sensing something.

I'm never going to do it again. I'm so naive in the sense that I just, because it's so weird. I'm like, how could he do that? People are shit. He's a shit. But then it's like three months of hearts the truth i don't think that you finding another bit of evidence is ultimately do you know what i mean like gonna change i just can't get over that he even sent like what imagine it's so obvious

i'm gonna test this theory it's fascinating yeah i mean there's no way i would have said he was in manchester city center that in itself is a red flag then the photo is a red flag then him not I'm going to test this theory. It's fascinating. Yeah, I mean... There's no way I would have said he was in Manchester City Centre. That in itself is a red flag. Then the photo is a red flag. Then him not picking up the phone is a red flag. Then him lying about 10 times where he is is a red flag. Yeah, so I mean... There's flags popping everywhere.

Ultimately, he's cheesed on you. That's the hard, cold truth. He's done something that's dumpable that he doesn't want to tell you in light. So that is that. I think either you choosing... Basically, this is ultimately you choosing to get over it or not isn't it

yeah the only blessing is it's like it was three months in and like perhaps he's grown and maybe he was testing the water yeah sometimes that happens

like it's it's up to you like maybe if you're great now and you've got him on Find My Friends and all these things he's probably proving to you that's not going to happen again

yeah but like I think whatever needs to happen you need to move on from this you need to either call him out and be like look I can't get over this i think you cheated i'm happy to move on like or air it or you just have to squash that sometimes ignorance is bliss i think if you just say to yourself look something really fishy happened yeah me too he fucked up

badly and i know this is never going to happen again because i've got him on the location our relationship is so different to how it was those for that first three months and hopefully you know it never happens again and you almost have to start fresh in your mind I almost think now if you go back because it was three months ago if you go back and you're like I want the truth you might not want to know I think it just depends on like the type of person you are three months you let it go like I don't know I know that's mental but like if you're like 10 years in you find out someone cheated in year one I'm like well I don't know I know that's mental. I know. But like, if you're like 10 years in, you find out someone cheated in year one, I'm like, well, I don't know. I know what you're saying.

You know what I'm saying? It's like, well, you've obviously made it this far. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you do have to park it. If you can't get over it, then you've got to end it. If you can't get over it, you can't get over it. Because you're going to hold up resentment and you're going to be insecure and you're going to be jealous and all these bad things.

And you're going to be mean to him and then it's going to be toxic. So ultimately, you have to get over it all. But ultimately, I'm just telling you my advice. I think he did cheat. Oh, yeah. He 100% cheated. It's just if you can get over it but ultimately I'm just telling you my advice I think he did cheat oh yeah he 100% cheated it's just if you can get over it or not

yeah it sounds like you can I think that you're going to be fine I think you have to get over it and then you know I think he's very immortal

I don't know why I'm laughing about it I just like it's so sat in my mind what's happened I'm just laughing at the fact that we just don't know

but we're like well this is what happened it's so obvious yeah it's so obvious why do boys think girls are so dumb it annoys me what's so irritating

is that he was witty enough to delete his last locations like that little shit maybe you can go into like deleted locations and say uber receipts

he must have got a car there must be a way yes you can't delete those you cannot delete an uber receipt putting my brain into it i would not be able to like die until i knew what happened that night i know i'm the same i would i'm like dig dig dig dig dig dig till i found out the truth yeah i'm really sorry i hope that was

helpful i feel like we're being really savage but no but i think you're gonna be fine i think you're great together i just think you fucked up in the first three months. And ultimately, you want to know the truth or you don't, basically. Do you have business insurance? If not, how would you pay to recover from a cyber attack, fire damage, theft, or a lawsuit? No business or profession is risk-free. Without insurance, your assets are at risk from major financial losses, data breaches, and natural disasters. Get customized coverage today starting at $19 per month at zensurance.com. Be protected. Be Zen. Get ready for Las Vegas-style action at BetMGM, the king of online casinos. Enjoy casino games at your fingertips with the same Vegas strip excitement MGM is famous for. We'll be right back. way to bring the excitement and ambience of Las Vegas home to you than with BetMGM Casino.

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to an operating agreement with iGaming Ontario. Okay, we've got a story time. Oh, I love this. I'm the girl from the 10-year relationship with Bar Support. You're fucking kidding me.

Stop. For your information, he did the same to me at the end of our 10 years. Just not quite as bad as flying to Barcelona. No. Wait, hold on, hold on, hold on. So this is the girl that dated the guy that was the Barcelona boy, but not the girl that got fucked over by the Barcelona boy. There's a lot of dilemmas crossing over.

I love how all of our lessons know each other but don't know each other. Like, this is wild. This is good shit. is good so just to recap guys so he's gonna read this out but there was a girl that wrote into this story about she dated this guy and suddenly he like got on a plane to barcelona with this like random girl and like she figured it out and then we had another person right and saying they were actually with this guy before this girl dated yeah her so basically two of our listeners have dated the same person. One of them for 10 years, one of them for a brief period

and then he went to Barcelona. Okay, so I'm the girl from the 10 year relationship with Barca boy. For your information, he did the same to me at the end of our 10 years. Just not quite as bad

as flying to Barcelona. I'm just finding out about us now. Hell no. He'd always had little panics through our 10 years, but always came back and never cheated on me that I knew of. Finally, everything was comfortable. We'd just put my dream holiday to South Africa on safari.

Wow. They'd been together 10 years now. Shit. We lived together looking for a bigger house and trying for a baby. Oh my God. Shut up. We'd had a steady two to three years and it finally felt like we'd grown up. This was it.

Cue panic. He told me he was going to Scarborough and it finally felt like we'd grown up. This was it. Cue panic. He told me he was going to Scarborough and went out for drinks with his dad off his party trip. That's the same thing that he said that he did with the other girl. His poor dad getting dragged through the mud. I swear he said the same thing. Yeah, he did. He was going to Scarborough with his dad. He never replied.

Yeah, he did say Scarborough. No, he said like Cheshire or something. No, I swear he said Scarborough with his dad. It was the exact same thing he's a sick sicko that's why she's saying that it's his party yeah yeah

I came with you he never replied that night and it transpires seven months later when he finally admitted to me that he took his ex-girlfriend

from when he was 18 on a date and slept with her no he's got issues he's got a lot of stuff going on out there the next day

he came home packed his stuff and left without so much as an explanation as he's unhappy and doesn't fancy me. No! Oh my fucking god. Is that little bastard prick? What an arsehole. He started a new relationship with her that very day, which I had to find out on Instagram two months later.

Oh my god. No. He then took her on my sparring. No, I'm sorry. He's a son of a bitch. It obviously didn't last long until he then went behind her back

and wanted me back. Wait, he loves the chaos. He, he's on his. There's something going on there. There's some sort of weird attachments. There's not even an attachment.

There's abandonment issues or something. Yeah, yeah. My self-esteem was at rock bottom. My self-worth was non-existent. I constantly compared myself to others wondering

why am I not good enough? I was worried everyone was going to leave me for someone better but after much healing and the help of therapy i'm now stronger happier and have more self-confidence than i've ever had it took me a long time to accept that his actions were not about me or whether i was good enough well done amazing and you're so true when we broke up he acknowledged he had issues that he needed to work through and i'm genuinely thought he would i thought this was just a one-off but i'm saddened more by the fact that he's gone and done it again with zero consideration for others nor accountability for how his actions can really impact people and i really feel for the girl who wrote into this podcast originally please if you can let her know it's not about her either i love you guys i love

you power yeah also like this is so that also just justify justifies it's wrong about her either I love you I love you girl fucking power yeah also like this is that also just justifies justifies it wrongly says it all that it's literally a him problem and a no one else problem

and he will do it we were talking about that today to everybody yeah we were like how when people get cheesy on and stuff or even just a breakup

yeah like you always it's never a you problem it's always a them well so unless you break up it's like what La La La said you know La La explained she's like it's not you it's never a you problem it's always a them so unless you break up it's like what La La La said you know

La La explained she's like it's not you it's them but it also could be you so like in every scenario like most

if they break up with you in there and I'll sound they're cheating like this obviously it's a him problem you know yeah it's nothing to do

with the girls but it could be us if we were the cheats yeah exactly so like you can't always have the opinion of like

oh it's always their problem because I'm like well if i'm the one that's fucked up oh god wait wait that's very smr what's that word asmr yeah i kind of want to do that um it's cute it's cute it's cute it's cute um that's really not your fault and god i love that you guys are listening to each other and like supporting each other I feel like we're such a community this is just epic I feel like we need to you guys need to meet

and exchange notes we need to do an event and we need to do a live event oh we need to have you guys out with us guys we're like toying with the ideas if you have any ideas as well

anything you'd want like us to do just write in and let us know yeah something in real life yeah you know yeah so you really connect with the audience yeah touch you feel you give you hugs chat would you rather have a rewind button or a pause button on your life rewind yeah rewind do you remember no not pause but no but if you're having like the best time you're like i want to Have a rewind button or a pause button on your life. Rewind? Yeah, rewind. Not pause?

No, not pause. No, but if you're having the best time of your life, I want to stay here forever. Oh, but rewind, you can just do it again and change it. Yeah. So what's that film about time when he goes into the club and he's like this? And he goes back to a time where he does the moment. Oh yeah, what's that film?

About time. Oh yeah. If I could do that, I would. 100%. No, I only... Have no regrets, but I would do no regrets but I would do things better I would do things better and I also would like

to live life again like live it twice rather than pause and live in this like I'll still get to this good point but I'd like to start and go through even the shit

I just want to live forever I just don't want to die I know so live rewinding will live longer in my mind okay guys on that note

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