Wednesdays - 50. Ruby Adler on being single at 30, and her secret celebrity crush...

Episode Date: September 3, 2024

Heyyyy Tinies,This week Ruby Adler (aka Tiny Tim) is back on the pod, fresh from a facial and ready to spill her secrets for flawless skin—salmon sperm vs. trout sperm? Also big news—Timmy’s officially flown solo and found her dream flat! She’s moved in, turning 30, and entering her new era. It’s a whole fresh start!The girls also spice things up, playing a knockout game of "Who Would You Rather?" with celeb boys. Who’s Ruby’s top pick—Calum Turner, Central Cee, or someone else entirely?For the dilemma of the week, an Army boy has both our Tiny and her friend swooning. So, what’s the move—stay loyal or let the best woman win?Want More?! Check out our premium subscription The Follow Up - AD FREE, BONUS EPS and ALL the goss wednesdays.supercast.com/If you have one or a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma? You can send us a voice note or message using the link here.--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathbone and Holly NewsonVideo editor: @jakeji.pVideo editor: @lizziemccarthySocial: @laurabcoughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either. And we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not a doctor either. And we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts in anything. In fact, we just chatted all the shit. And we love giving you guys advice. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Okay, guys, coming up with this week's episode of Wednesday, we have got the one, the only Ruby Adler joining us.

Woo! Woo-hey! A round of applause, people. Thanks for having me, girls. We're getting into some juicy dilemmas as well. We've got a boy stealing problem. Is her tiny wrongly being accused of being a snake? A potential new boyfriend's wardrobe is giving one of our listeners the it.

Oh, that is a huge problem. And we've got a tiny amikonos gorgeous wondering if her holiday with her ex is the start of chapter two or the end of the road for their relationship let's go into the episode welcome back to wednesdays everybody so lovely to see you all again we got ruby in the house thanks for having me guys also i just want to say like I don't normally look like this, but I'm like red raw right now. I just had a facial. So yeah, with Elle, Heart Medical. She's the best. We all go to her. We all go to her. I feel like she has changed my skin.

What did we do today? So we had a salmon sperm facial. We did like the polynucleotides under the eye and then we did a little... What is it called? Vampire facial. Vampire facial. Yes, with your own blood. The plasma. She spinnens it it i don't really know what she does but like it's all so scientific and i'm like great just do it just do it and you know i like

fully takes your blood out she spins it oxygenates yeah the her terminology is like ridiculous she's like i'm doing i'm not like oh my god i act like i know what she's talking about i'm like oh my god really like i haven't had this in ages but i'm, I actually don't know what she's doing to me. No idea. I also feel like you don't ever, well, sometimes I've left her with the polynucleotide looking quite crazy. But sometimes I leave her and I feel like I've had an intense facial, but I actually look really clean and glowy, like how you're looking now.

Nothing's too intense, I think. No, no. Oh, no. It's just like you're uncomfortable. You're not in severe pain. It's like microneedling. Ruby's obviously had like polynucleotides, which is sperm off a salmon sperm off a salmon or a trout trout's actually apparently way better who told me that the other yeah i heard that as well yeah salmon sperm but it's harder to get trout sperm than it is salmon

sperm interesting you told me that how that works well to be fair smoked trout is much more expensive than smoked salmon trout has like it can cling to the skin better or something really wow give me some of that give me some of that no trouts were hurt in the process no no salmons or trouts were hurt in the process this was all done economically in a lab economically economically what are we hoping to achieve from this facial what's like the we're hoping to look. Okay. And look young and rejuvenative and tight and less pores, clear skin. Everything, the glass skin. The glass skin trend.

Yeah. Like a donut. Like Katie Beaver, basically. Glazed donut. Glazed donut. To the vibe. Totally. But give me 24 hours and it will subside. It does. Honestly, from the moment you've walked in, which was obviously you'd had it 10 minutes before that to now which has been maybe an hour the redness is really gone

yeah is it tight yeah it's tight but i like that feeling i'm good with that you also feel like you've actually had something yeah you know you leave and you're like i don't know like nothing's happened from this but you feel like something's really working oh my god are we going to talk about last night we were going on a date dinner. It wasn't a date because it was the three of us. It was a girly catch up. We haven't done that in a while. No, we haven't.

We've not done that in a while. I don't know why. Life's busy. To be fair, we've all been away. Yeah. It's really annoying, but like, diaries are just, it's harder than you think. I know. Go and pack.

It's really upsetting that you guys are moving next to each other, which we will get into, because I'm going to feel incredibly left out. You are always in Notting Hill, so you've got to bring Rubes to Notting Hill. That won't happen, though. You are. You used to be in Notting Hill. I used to be in Notting Hill the whole time.

That's because you lived in Maida Vale. Yeah, that was easy. And, like, I don't know why. I loved it. Same. I'm devastated that you're never there anymore. I will come. I'm going to make more of an episode.

Where are you now? I'm now in Fulham. Is that where you hang out hang out most would you say or are you a bit all about town I would say I'm there I'm like near home quite a lot like mainly like that area my mum and dad are actually moving away from the area so I feel like whilst they're still there I'm there quite a lot oh my god they're moving I know that's gonna be a huge they're moving more my, they're moving on me. That's going to be a huge change. They're moving more my size. They're moving like north. You'll be going through Notting Hill to see them. Yeah, I will. So should we actually dive into that?

Congratulations. Yeah, Timmy's just moved in by herself. This is awesome. It's a big moment. I know, I've never properly lived on my own. I had that flat in lockdown. So this is, we go again, but I've literally been on a house hunt for like the majority of this year and come close with a couple of properties that like fell through but all I believe for a reason because this flat is the nicest flat I've seen it works for me I'm really

near my friends and my family and work and it's pretty cute and it's pretty and we're gonna have a house we're gonna do a housewarming which I'm arranging when I say I've been in there for like two nights it's still chaotic but I'm excited yeah yeah my bed's in yeah two nights now two nights yeah sorry and how are we feeling I'm feeling good I'm happy there it's nice knowing that there's like my friends are all around the corner makes a difference I've moved so many times in my life but I feel like this is the first place where I'm like okay this is mine I can do what I want with this space yeah but it takes a while for you to you know furniture to arrive and like for you I also feel like actually to settle can take not to put you up but it can take like six months I my first night night before last I was lying in bed and I thought

what the hell have I done like what have I done like do I love it like it is expensive like the luxury of living alone yeah is it working for me like do I actually like this room I done like do I love it like it is expensive like the luxury of living alone yeah is it working for me like do I actually like this room I was lying in bed being like not sure I like that not sure I like that and then I woke up the following morning and I made my coffee and the sun was shining and I've got a gorgeous little like patio area and I sat outside and I was like do you know what I've done this all on my own and like life is good and like such an achievement to be able to do that I really think you should be too. And I also think it's so nice you've moved in in summer. Yeah, I agree.

I agree. And I'm lucky to have... Like, it's such a big deal. Yeah. Lucky to have a bit of outdoor space. I've signed for it for a year. I'm not going to be there forever. But I want to be, like, as comfortable and as happy as that as possible.

So I've bought loads of new furniture. That's exciting. It's so fun. And you're right next to me. I'm honestly so excited to just nip down the road. Like, what are you doing this morning? Should we go grab a coffee? Yes, so nice. Like, that's... I's so fun and you're right next to me I'm honestly so excited to just nip down the road like what are you doing this morning should we go grab a coffee like that

I know heaven like you remember those other flats I was looking at that were just a bit further out yeah I just think that I would have felt so like isolated there more so

you know where you are so well you've walked past probably your flat a million times before yeah you never know exactly yeah I can't wait to have you around we'll have to go to the Mitre

that was like one of the first places Rez ever took me was to the Mitre. Oh my God, you know what's embarrassing? Same, 10 years ago when I was 18, that's where I used to go all the time and I'm like, I'm actually old enough to say 10 years ago when I was 18, that's where I used to go.

Howard, this is the randomest thing ever, but can you believe Rez lived with Olly Locke for years? Sorry, I need a moment. But it really is funny, isn't it? Don't you think it's so funny how like everyone in london has literally everyone knows everyone has crossed over or whatever somewhere like i didn't think res knew ollie lock from adam i thought he only met him because no they lived

together no no i'm so sad i'm absolutely questioning my own life i remember ollie lock when i went around like a very long time ago when we first started dating and ollie lock was sunbathing on the roof and i couldn't believe it was Oli Lok I was like oh my god like someone so famous yeah because he would have been long-haired Oli Lok yeah long-haired gorgeous Oli Lok the Union Jack Oli Lok oh my god the Union Jack the car Oli Lok was actually 10 out of 10 there he still is but you know youth youth so the big three oh so how are you guys feeling mixed emotions like it's very much at the forefront of my mind like I'm aware I'm 30 and I think that everyone that I've spoken to that's in their 30s or my friends say it's the

best years of their life they're like yeah happier more secure they know what they want I hear it just keeps getting better and better and like I don't think I'd want to do my 20s again don't get me wrong I've had the best time but like it was all just really quite chaotic I'm just looking forward to a new start yeah and like a new decade yeah that's a lovely way of putting it yeah I'm excited I'm not where I thought I'd be. I'm not turning 30 tomorrow, but it's approaching. No, you are turning 30 in like eight months. Yeah.

So let's just say you're still very much so 29. But it's still approaching. And I think I'm, I kind of thought I'd be in a different place. That doesn't need to be a negative. In what way? I just thought, I think maybe, you know, when you're like 20, 21, I kind of thought I'd be like married with a baby. Oh God. But we all thought that when I was like 16, I'd be like 24, I'll probably be engaged and married. I want to have three kids by 25 yeah and i thought i would have bought

a house and this yeah i'm not there but you know i feel like i've learned a lot over the last couple of years so i want to embrace it be excited i have some big fun plans i'm hoping we'll all go away for my 30th year 2025 oh that sounds. 2025. We will. Or Marbella. Oh that sounds nice. Either one of those. I think that sounds gorgeous. Marbella is honestly the funnest place ever. Yeah we could do Marbella.

Let's do that. Let's do that. And then Sophie knows all the good places we can go to. You do too. Me and Ruby first met in Marbella and went out clubbing every night together. Every single night. Do you remember? Yeah.

Do you remember Ruby? You were a storm agent at one point and and I will never forget, I was always really bad at posting, like, my ads or whatever, and I was like, my phone's on, and you literally went, we barely knew each other, and then she was like, right, come to my room. She charged my phone, right, proper agent. I think I uploaded it for you. She uploaded it, she went, give it to me, and she uploaded it. I scheduled it, did the captions.

Yeah, and you know what's really funny? We spoke about you and Harry, and we were like, we just aren't sure about them. I was like, she's going to marry him. I know she is. No, Rez was like, she won't spend forever with him and jamie was like no way either and i was like she will sophie was like she's gonna marry him and i remember res was like i don't think she'll marry him dead that red said that by his best friend well not bad no no no not bad but that's not exactly having your best pal's back really is it but i know but it was more like he was maybe just both of you he was like i don't see it as a forever he was just making an observation yeah we went out like three nights in a row honestly till 6am i don't know how we did it i know no hangover no

i woke up whoa how do you feel about approaching 30 i feel really excited good i'm so broody but i'm also so scared it's like yeah it's so scary and it's also scary i don't know why it's scary i think it's a big life change you know it's like the next step it's probably one of the biggest things that a human being can go through you're like growing another human being and i think because my sister and not to scare anyone because this is so ridiculous but it's like just some weird anxiety in my mind but because my sister had fertility issues i think i might have dived in too deep into the fertility thing because I am fine I've been checked like I'm all good but I'm putting pressure on myself I think loads of us do as women I think that it's like something that I'm conscious of and I'm not even like thinking about that stage of my life right now obviously

god willing I hope one day I do want kids desperately but this is very much at the forefront of my mind as well like i hope it happens quickly i think that that's something that we all think about because you just don't know do you you do hear people that struggle i also don't know if you find this a lot of people that have children or have young children go don't do it don't have kids they're a nightmare and i'm like i know don't say that's like really not something you should say to people that don't have children i think it's just such a weird thing to say and i know it's like a part of humor but I don't it's like British comedy but I'm like I don't find it funny yeah I don't appreciate comments like that I agree and I'm like I find

more people than not say that to me and I'm like I don't really understand it like I'm really scared like it's going to change my life so much and like this and the other I won't ever be able my mum and dad like no part of me thought that like yeah it's sometimes it's a bit tough but they were like never would i say that it was like a really life and encourage someone not to do it yeah yeah it's so weird i don't know where it's like a new it's a generational thing of like this year it's like oh god i'm gonna do it put it off as long as you can fucking hate comments like that and i'm not at a stage where even if toby was like i want a baby right now i actually be like i am not ready so like i'm not even at that stage but so like a comment like that is still slightly offending me which is

weird i'm interested that you guys both i agree the same thing about that sort of comment i find it so offensive i'm like please just stop saying it and like i just and also everyone oh my god being pregnant is the worst thing ever i'm like oh just stop yeah like and then the annoying thing is when someone has a really good experience and they talk about it and everyone's like oh fucking had to not follow them because their experience is so nice i'm like can't we just embrace people that enjoy things and some people do have a really good experience and like that's okay to be authentic and be real like you know i might have whatever i don't know but I'm not expecting everyone to lie but like it is that sort of judgment to like someone who's had a lovely birth or a lovely

experience they feel like they can't talk about it yeah because they're like oh the people that have had like unfortunately not and I saw this girl on TikTok or something the other day she's like I think she's six months pregnant she looks really great and she's like I have never felt more alive and energized and better in my entire life. I feel like I look nicer. I feel nicer. I feel like I was born to be pregnant. Pregnant. Oh, I saw this.

She was like, I want to be pregnant for the rest of my life. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She's the boss. I think Molly May said that. And I was like, I rate you so much for just saying that and putting a positive spin on having a balanced thing on the internet. I'm like, oh, okay. Some people have a great experience.

The little girl with the Texas lady with the bob. Yeah, yeah, yeah. With the big dimples. She's the person who made me want to get a bob. Oh, yeah. Because it's my hair people have a great experience the little girl with the texas lady with the bob yeah yeah yeah with the big dimples she's the person you want to get bob oh yeah that's my hair color isn't it yes it is that lovely brown hair yeah yeah he's obsessed with the brown the mouse it's the mousy brown it's like obviously what natural blondes roots always like i like it's like i would say it's actually dark dark blonde slash light brown i think i'm fully brown but a blonde will be like no no you are bruno i don't think that's bruno if your hairdresser looked at the hair color they would say that's blonde that is blonde okay right so let me put that one up so filming at the moment being chelsea

yes so we're halfway now yeah we started filming beginning of july and we'll film through till october i think this will start airing in september i want to say there's a lot happening there's a few new cast members do we know like familiar faces who do I tell you that I love all the time on it nothing no jazz oh jazz Sophie loves jazz I love so she also really really watches it like oh my god I watch every single thing I got Jamie into it right at the end this is a good series I think it's going to do well I also cry a lot less in this series I watch it because I literally and then I like get really emotionally attached to like the Ruby situation.

And I like really need to rein myself in. I really need to film about something else. I actually genuinely cry. I know it is quite sad sometimes. Because also you're obviously one of my very good friends. So I feel even more emotional. You feel the emotion. I feel the emotion.

Oh my God, I need to watch it. I can't watch it. I don't watch it. But it makes me slightly, I think once you dive in, then you feel better about it. But like the watch it. It makes me slightly, I think once you dive in, then you feel better about it. But like the thought of watching it makes me feel anxious.

No, it's so different. I don't even look at it like something else ever on there. Honestly, like, no offense, we are all about 10. They are a lot younger. I know, but it's even the theme tune

gives me slight PTSD. I can't describe it. I'll dive in and then it goes. It comes on a playlist and I'm like, like, if I struggle. Oh my God, do you know sometimes

they do a gym class and they put it on why in random spin classes do they play it like occasionally yeah all the time I'm like what the hell is going on

it's really funny okay so we've got that to look forward to in September yeah so that will air September yeah we're gonna play a game

called Who'd Ruby Rather where me and Melissa are going to play matchmaker for you oh thanks guys and so the winner stays on so basically we're gonna go Who'd Ruby Rather? Where me and Melissa are going to play matchmaker for you, Rubes. Oh, thanks, guys. And so the winner stays on. So basically, we're going to go Glenn Powell from Twisters

or Lucien Laviscount, Alfie from Emily in Paris. I mean, I already know my answer. Okay, I'm going to say Lucien, 100%. Yeah, Lucien. Winner stays on. Okay, so Lucien Laviscount or Josh, the winner of the most recent season of Love Island.

I think you're going to say Lucien again. You're saying? I think I am going to say Lucien again. Freddie from Love is Blind or Lucien. Lucien. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, so Lucien or Lando Norris.

I'm going to change it up. I'm going to go Lando. Lando Norris or Jude Bellingham. Jude Bellingham. Absolutely. Him without a doubt. He's unreal. Unbelievable. He shouldn't be a human. Like, he's so fit. Jude Bellingham. Absolutely. Him without a doubt. He's unreal. Unbelievable.

He shouldn't be a human. Like, he's so fit. This I'm not sure about. Jude Bellingham and Stormzy. No, it's 100% Jude. Surely. What's this for? As in like a snog

or to be like Oh, who would you rather? Date. Shag, snog, date, whatever you want. I would rather date Stormy. I would rather date Stormy. I would rather date Stormzy for would rather date Stormy I would rather date

Stormzy for long term and Shag Dude Shag Dude yeah I'm with you yeah Stormzy or Leo Woodle

Leo who? Leo Woodle you know this one sorry no not my vibe at all I know exactly you two opposite vibes

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I'm crying. I'm Reza for people. Could it be a fucking cheap bowing? I'm a Reza. Because I'm hot. Reza, don't worry. She's not coming for you. Reza.

He thinks Melissa's so fit. He talks about it all the time. He does. He's like, don't worry, she's not coming for you. Reza! He thinks Melissa's so fit. He talks about it all the time. He does. He's like, sometimes, like, previously, like, ages ago, I'd be scrolling on Instagram and TFO'd Melissa and he'd be like... No, he wouldn't. He'd be like, she's so fit. No, I can't even breathe. Shame, Reza, because she's not coming for you.

Yeah, I'm jealous. I'm sure he thinks so. No, of course he thinks so. I'm so upset. You used to always tell me, Reza, she's not coming for you. Yeah, I'm jealous. I'm sure you think so. No, of course you think so. I'm so upset. You used to always tell me Reza what I was fair. You just say that about Reza and I forgot now.

I now realise what it does. By the way, don't worry. Reza fans, you do. My brother's in love with you. Oh my God. I told you this. Okay. Callum Turner or Stormzy?

You know, Dua Lipa's boy. He's unreal. He is. I'm going Callum Turner. Okay, now this one Oh, I, I, I. He's unreal. He is. I'm going Callum Turner. Right. Okay, now this one. This one, I think I know the answer to.

Callum Turner or Central Sea. Oh, I see it's going to be Central. Your boy. We were talking about this last night at dinner when we all went out. He's my dream man. What is it about him that you find so gorgeous? I don't know.

I think I've never met him. His raw talent. What is it that he goes, ay? Baby, do you want to stay? Isn't that his song? Which one? The new one with that fizzy girl. I Baby, do you wanna stay? Isn't that his song? Which one? The new one with that fizzy girl.

I Spy? Yes. I Spy? Fizzy? Not close, you know what I mean. Yeah, I know what you mean. Do we still like him even though he's been cheating on Madeline Argy? I don't like that, no.

Good! I just think he's fit, that's all. And he's quite talented. Sorry. And he's like a loo. Over Jude Bellingham, you prefer? What? Central Sea is the number one running

yeah closely followed by jude and then callum and stormzy and lucian i'll take all four and lucian yeah that's a good list whoever came up with that that was on point right let's deep dive into these dilemmas. Hey, Sophie and Melissa. Me and my best friend are both single girlies on Hinge. Lovely. My best friend had mentioned that she'd been going on a few dates and she told me that one she really liked was called Army Boy. She said that she wasn't looking for anything long-term with him

and that it was all very casual. A few weeks later, I was scrolling through Hinge and came across a very fit guy from the Army who was very much my type, so I matched with him. This guy turned out to be army boy. She now thinks I've snaked her and there has been a massive elephant in the room since. I have apologised, but she thinks I've deliberately gone out of my way to get with the same guy as her, which is something I would not do. How can I regain her trust?

I think that she's overreacting. I think she's been overreacting. You didn't know. I mean, you can't, did you not know? Because I would have known. Surely. Well,

I mean, there's a lot of people that are in the army. But would you not have discussed with your friend and been like, they're already matched for God's sake.

Oh, wait. It's not like they've gone out on a date. Sorry. Yeah, and I think people match with so many people,

don't they? Yeah. That it's like. Also, your scroll, scroll, scroll, probably,

she probably did that with like 10 people she probably clicked yes to I would literally carry on as normal as if nothing's happened and be like I don't know what

the fucking big deal is the moment I found out it was your guy I stopped talking to him I've not met up with him I'm like chill like please I'm not trying to take him

I don't think he's that hot it's not worth losing a friendship over that your friend's obviously like mad in love with this guy and is jealous that he swiped for you. Like, that's where it's coming from.

It's coming from own insecurities. You've not really done any, not even not really, you have not done anything wrong. You've hit the nail on the head. He should be getting off hinge if that's the main problem because he's going to be matching

with other people. Absolutely. And it's also now, like, if they do start going out, it's really awkward because he obviously finds you fit because he'll match with you. You know what I mean?

That's what her mind will be doing. Yeah. Yeah yeah but i also think you wouldn't want to go for someone that your friends like emotionally involved with especially we would never do that to one another absolutely it just wouldn't happen it just wouldn't happen it wouldn't even really be a conversation between us we wouldn't have to claim because like it would be a non-negotiable like okay but let's put this scenario let's just really cook up something so let's say we're all filming for chelsea we're all completely completely single but we're still as close as we are now yeah there's one boy that two of us really fancy okay but it's fair game because nothing's happened okay I see what you're saying does that create tension in the friendship but you're like

ultimately nothing's happened yeah and like we both win yeah it's up to the dude really but then it's then unfair for one person to step away if you both feel the same way about someone i agree i think that naturally you're like i know me i would be jealous and i probably have a day of like probably hopefully i wouldn't but i'd probably be like maybe a bit quiet with your text because i'd be like oh i'm just so pissed off at her but it's i know it's not your fault yeah and then I would just have word myself and be like you're being fucking ridiculous and then I get over it but I know that I would be annoyed at you for no reason you wouldn't have done anything it would be this like subconscious jealousy and like but like we're old enough to

get over that I think yeah I've actually never been in that situation with any of my friends I've never been in a situation where it's like we're both single we both met someone that we both like are both attracted to and then kind of both playing interest in I've just never been in that position I don't know how I'd feel actually you know what when we were at school like that happened all the time every guy I was speaking to was texting like all my friends and like no part of me cared and none of us that was just texting like hey how are you yeah and and we were so young bbm exactly i've never done it yeah who was in your status oh yeah mns msn msn yeah i know that i would be really jealous i think i would be i would be very jealous yeah i think we're all quite territorial aren't we i think

i actually think surprisingly like watching these tv shows where it is all about I think every I think it's healthy not in a weird way if you fancy someone in there fancy someone else you're gonna be jealous of them I actually think surprisingly like watching these TV shows where it is all about that and they obviously like produce and encourage people to like have beef over

like say boy Love Island or Too Hot To Handle or whatever I think you do get over things really quickly like after watching it

I'm like oh my god so like on Love Island right like there'll be a couple that have been together for three weeks and another girl comes in and then they just leave and then that's it and for some reason they seem to get over it in a matter of days and I'm like, oh my God, so like on Love Island, right, like there'll be a couple that have been together for three weeks and another girl comes in and then they just leave.

And then that's it. And for some reason, they seem to get over it in a matter of days. And I'm like, you know what? You probably would in those scenarios. Because you don't really have a choice. You just have to. You just have to. And then I think we surprised ourselves with how quickly we would get over it.

But like, really wouldn't want that scenario with my friend. No, I agree. It'd be horrible. No, I would really hate that. I'd hate that you would then also forever think okay right fine i've been the one that's potentially like achieved this like relationship with this guy and like my friend essentially failed is he always going to be thinking like oh that's an option for me if i want it i don't know that i didn't think i would

then worry about that with them moving forward you know i would also always feel awkward around her being like i've stolen your guy even though technically you haven't i've always felt guilty i agree i would too i'd actually rather be the one who lost out she's in the lesser position it's less vulnerable and i just get with another you'd be like whatever whereas like as the couple i'd like never want to be around that girl again so i'd be like she fancies you okay dilemma two hello ladies i've been seeing a guy for a few months and everything is going really well. He's kind, funny, generous, and I feel like we genuinely got a great connection. Here's all the foundations for what I think an amazing boyfriend could be. But now to the issue.

I don't want you to think I'm being superficial or not thinking about what matters. But his clothes are giving me the it. He really doesn't have a good taste in fashion, which I know shouldn't bother me. But I can't help but get embarrassed when we're going on dates and he's wearing skinny jeans in 2024 oh god uncomfy I hate skinny jeans am I being shallow and do I need to accept his wardrobe for what it is or do I make giving him a wardrobe revamp my project revamp the wardrobe project we love a project we love a project it's just going about things in the right way and not offending him but like totally like you know a revamp can be quite fun I think it's tough going about things in the right way and not offending him but like totally like you know

a revamp can be quite fun I think it's tough in those beginning stages though because you don't want to tell them and offend them and you don't you have to wait till you're at a stage where you're quite comfortable to tell them I do just think you wouldn't get the ick with a bad wardrobe but skinny jeans will give you the ick is the difference like you might not like him in like his baggy jeans and his t-shirt because it might be a bit not that fashionable. I agree. But icky is what you call skinny jeans. And that I would change because otherwise you're going to get icked out. Yeah, I agree.

I always try and dress Jamie, but I also find it really funny and endearing that he just wears his little clothes. It doesn't ick me out. I find it very funny and sweet. But if he wore skinny jeans, I genuinely would be like, no, no, no, no, no.

Skinny jeans is not the one. Yeah, it's quite something like jamie has lovely clothes he puts them together in absolutely bizarre ways but it's kind of like endearing it's so endearing and it's quite funny also his clothes are nice they're really nice put together like nichely yeah men sometimes just put things together and it's like where did you get that from right let's just talk about things that are going to be a no-go zone with outfits you're going to go on a date with the guy what's going to be velcro wallet i've said it from day one that gives me the ick that like whole like don't worry and then they like scrap this velcro wallet open i've seen it before and it's just no that's sickening and they've got their train tickets from when they were 18 still in there yeah like just not a vibe

what am i thinking clothes wise i think we could would be good? For me, for me, skin, skin, skin, skin, skin tight t-shirts. I'll tell you. With more muscle. Patchwork. Patchwork? Like, when I mean... I know, I can vision it. I know what you mean.

I mean, like, the boys who are trying to be, like, cargo streetwear, but they're wearing, like, cargo patchwork. I can't even... I know what you mean. I don't. Something's patched in. Like, they're almost wearing, like, ripped jeans and it's got like other things underneath it like another layer

or something no I don't like that it's ripped skinny jeans absolutely no good oh my god no all I'm imagining is no that's not a vibe skin tight t-shirt

skinny jeans and then trainers oh my god no sorry I've actually got bingo I've hit the nail on the head right got bingo

I've got bingo jeans of any type but then they've got their suit shoes on underneath because they've got changed after work for their evening drinks but they've just got their suit shoes on underneath because they've got changed out to work for their evening drinks but they've just left the suit shoes on with the jeans that makes me sick and i mean like laced up clark black suit shoes we've done the negatives what the positive is one piece of wardrobe that is your thing you like most mine will be a cap of

any sort on any boy makes him look 10 times i. I think a really good t-shirt, oversized. Like maybe like a nice trouser that's like long lined, like straight leg. Straight, just fits around the bum nice. Like you could see the bum, it's not tight but it's... Yeah, maybe like beige. You know who has great dress sense? Who I always say, Jacob Elordi, everything he wears is so stunning in 10 out of 10.

Really, I never see him. The best dress sense and the same with Austin Butler as well. Phenomenal dress sense. Keep us updated on how the project goes but honestly, nothing wrong with a wardrobe revamp.

Nothing wrong. Dilemma number three. Hi Sophie and Melissa. Writing this from a very hot Mykonos where I'm on a secret holiday with my ex. Is this me that wrote this in?

I love that. For context, we were together for three years and broke up last summer. Since then, we've been very on and off. Ruby, is this you?

Sleeping with each other, but keeping everything secret. My friend said that I'm better off without him and that if it was ever going to work, it would have by now. We always find our way back to each other. I've said this one too many times. A few weeks ago, I went over to his and he suggested that we go away and spend some time together. So I said yes and flew out with him a few days ago.

None of my friends know that I'm here, so I have nobody to speak to about my feelings it's been so nice to spend time together and it's all felt very relationshipy but I don't know if it's just because we're playing at being boyfriend and girlfriend or if the love is still there I obviously have feelings for him but I've always said I'd never be the girl that would get back with their ex do I close this chapter and try and move on when I get back home or do I properly recommit thanks girls I think only you know very close to home let me tell you maybe what do you think I guess I feel like I'm in no position to comment on that no I'm joking I think your friends can tell you till they're blue in the face about what they want for you obviously I think all your friends just want you to be happy and healthy and be with someone that treats you right and I stand by that

as well I think you're the only one that will ever internally know if something's truly done or not or if you can work through whatever's happened in that time in that relationship some things are completely unsolvable and I think it's really best to just walk away and then I think in some cases you've kind of got to give things another shot I think being in the gray area is exhausting and draining and not fun so it's like if you're gonna do it you kind of just have to ignore everyone and go two feet deep but if it then doesn't work well at least then you've given it another go and there's no what if exactly I think what if is horrible if you're in love with him and you're like I can't possibly not get back with you then you need to get back with him because you need to explore totally otherwise

what's the point in life like yeah you're gonna marry someone else it also depends on why you broke up in the first place that's also relevant so true like if he was cheating loads like obviously my advice would be very different but I'm assuming he isn't because I think you would have mentioned that you also don't want him just coming back to you because he's lonely yeah you know i do think that does happen a lot as in like you were saying that we like recycling is a thing and it's because it's just so easy isn't it so easy yeah you've broken that barrier with somebody already like you don't have to like go through the whole process yeah and it's just easier and sometimes it serves a purpose sometimes it does and i think you know life is short and you've got

to didn't you post that thing about the train the train oh no you didn't it was georgia white which is an influence she put this thing on her story i love her quotes and it was like words of affirmation so she put this thing on her story and it was like life is like a train journey you wouldn't stop someone from getting off at their destination so don't try and keep them on the train if they want to go you've got to let them off and they might get back on but you've got to let them off yeah wow and i was like fucking hell that's great i love that that's the most amazing thing ever so like anyone's going through a breakup just think of that and like surely that you'd be over it in a day sometimes coats like go through my heart or my soul like sometimes you just see certain ones that just hit a nerve more than others.

I know. And you're like, that was literally meant for me today. And what would I suggest with this? I think follow your heart. I think you follow your heart. If you're really like. And block out those other people talking. Like, honestly, that is the worst thing you can do is do things because other people are telling you to do something.

Totally. Unless he treats you like absolute dog shit. Yeah. And cheats on you and whatever. And your friends are like, please don't do this this again we can't let you go through this again then i think it's important to like listen to people that love you also i know this sounds crazy but like your mum always knows best always my mum never stopped me from making mistakes she felt like i was needing to make like she just let me like do it but i feel like if there was a point where I was like really this is about an issue would have said totally people get back at their ex all the time I got back at my ex too you know yeah I have too in case no one knew

not now but like I have in the past sometimes there is also these stories that like a family friend they're now married and like their children are like my best friends but they broke up and got back together I think she said like eight times sometimes it works out but it really does depend on why you broke up in the first place that is a really important factor don't then say to yourself i don't need anyone else's opinion if something really bad happened in the breakup right and if you really love him you won't be even thinking it's a possibility not to get back with him exactly you will be like i can't i can't not be with him i can't live without him and then you know what you might get back with him and after. You will be like, I can't not. I can't not be with him. I can't live without him.

And then you know what, you might get back with him and after three months you'll be like, meh. If you're umming and ahhing, I do think maybe you're probably going to get back with him and then not want to be with him,

maybe. I know. But like, why not try passing out? Sometimes you have to just explore that. Yeah, I agree. It's also really hard

when you start sleeping with an ex and all the familiarity has come back and you're like, oh. It's very easy to like slip back into it. Either like,

the good relationship if it was, or it to like slip back in either like the good relationship if it was or it could just go straight back into like the bad times yeah i also feel like for some reason when you go back with someone you push away all the reasons why you broke up in the first place the fights stop all those things seem to disappear for a bit and then reality starts to creep back in after the rose tinted glasses isn't it yeah because you sort of relive the honeymoon phase for a hot minute there. You're like, God, this is so much better than it was before. And like all those problems we had before we don't have now. And then, ah, actually, no.

It gets you. Yeah. It gets you. It always does. Timmy, Tim, Tim, Tim, Tim. Thank you so much for coming on. We love you. I love you guys so much.

Thanks for having me. That was so insightful. That was so fun. I loved every moment. What a great game. Sench guys so much. Thanks for having me. That was so insightful. That was so fun. I loved every moment. What a great game. Sench, message me. Thanks for listening. Bye.

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