Wednesdays - 53. Introducing our very first Manbassador… it’s Miles Nazaire

Episode Date: September 24, 2024

Heyyy Tinies!We’ve got something major this week—our very first MANBASSADOR episode! And who better to kick things off than Made in Chelsea’s heartthrob, MILES NAZAIRE?! We’re diving into your dilemmas and getting the male perspective because, sometimes we need help cracking the code!Miles spills on his commitment issues, wild stories when he lived with Sophie, and the BIG question—is he single?! He also opens up about his red flags and gets vulnerable about his last heartbreak. Plus, he helps tackle your juiciest dilemmas: from a Tiny caught up in ghosting situation to a love triangle between a Tiny, her boyfriend, and… GOLF?!And of course, we had to put him through the Dick-ometer Test—will he score as a total dick, or a good boy gold star?Want More?! Check out our premium subscription The Follow Up - AD FREE, BONUS EPS and ALL the goss wednesdays.supercast.com/If you have one or a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma? You can send us a voice note or message using the link here.--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathbone and Holly NewsonVideo editor: @jakeji.pVideo editor: @lizziemccarthySocial: @laurabcoughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help coming up on wednesdays today we have got our very first ambassador made in ch Chelsea's heartthrob, it's Myles Nazaire. And he's helping us with lots of your dilemmas. Yes, he is, guys. We've got a dilemma from a tiny who fancies her flatmate, who also has a girlfriend. A tiny caught up in a ghosting situation.

Myles tells us what makes a man ghost a girl. And a tiny who is in a love triangle with her, her boyfriend, and his obsession with golf. Let's get into the episode. All right, all right, all right. All right, all right, all right. Guys, this is a really special episode. If you can tell, there's some testosterone in the room. I feel like girls might be turning up their... Turn the heat down turning up their like little volume now because we have the one

the only Mars Nazar right he actually deserves a round of applause London's biggest heartthrob oh what an intro thank you girls

why are we doing the Mambasta Melissa we give girls advice and our opinion on dilemmas but it's nice to get a guy's perspective because sometimes

men are from Mars and girls are from Venus something like that so it's important that we have two sides of the story if you guys know we were on obviously mic yes housemates we were housemates actually we were best friends best friends housemates we did uh well you know life life happened do you know what it was kind of COVID and my last year of MIC was a really funky year and I think I was a bit like ew ew ew

don't want to talk about it yeah you were you were kind of done with it I remember yeah and then you escaped I escaped but you're still on it

that's right he's gone back into the dark but you keep dipping in and dipping out I dip in and out because obviously like you've done loads of shows yeah I do a few shows a year

so it kind of depends this year's kind of been quiet to be fair question are we single right now we are single oh my mother's always single yeah there's always someone let's see no this you are kind of are always single but like you dip in and dip out I try but I've realized I think I just got deep deep rooted commitment issues actually is this a new thing that you've realized or do you think you've always had commitment issues because you've been in long-term relationships before I think you girls will understand being on a TV reality show can be difficult to then project yourself of like oh this is going to be a long-term thing

um so identity as well as a bit yeah yeah and also the premise of the show obviously is if you do get involved with someone everyone's going to come after you as you know as you know

and I've kind of for the last couple of years have not really dated properly on the show and kind of done my own thing so I'm very single right now well you heard it here firstly you were very single

when I lived with you too okay okay the single miles now is very different to the single miles that can we tell that story about um no stop you do this every time sorry because this is you know i tell everyone about this yeah i know but also i was 22 i was like you don't know which story i'm gonna tell yes you are the girl who waved at you through the window you're so annoying no okay fine go for it so I'm in the room next to Miles

and like I have this like door that opens up it was like a little courtyard yeah it was like the smallest courtyard ever and on that courtyard is Miles'

bedroom window and I'm my mirror was there so I'd sit and do my makeup in the mirror and like see Miles sometimes I'd see you just naked

I'd just be like oh god and this morning I just waved because I thought it was you. I was like, morning. And this girl sits up and waves back at me. Oh my God. And I'm like, oh my God.

Oh my God. But it was quite a regular occurrence in this bit. Oh God, here we go. Okay. You were so, we were so young. We were babies. We were so young. So you now is different.

You think there's commitment issues? I think so. I've established this recently I was I was dating um this girl look there were red flags anyway so I'm happy it has ended then after that I put a wall up straight away and then she was apologizing to me and she was like no like you know I've got a history as well and I've got history as well and I think I just put this huge wall up and I was like I can't do this I freaked out and then ended it I was like I can't continue and I could have easily just went actually no I understand why you did those things and I know because of your history you've told me and from that situation which was

a couple of months ago I was like oh yeah I probably have some commitment issues so what you run away immediately when there's a bit of a little bit of an amber flag of anything yeah talking about red flags what is a red flag to you I'll name some of the things that this girl did so she had gone through my instagram which is absolutely fine and I do this what do you mean go through your phone no no no gone from my instagram just my posts your page my page fine I was like she hadn't gone through your phone okay fine no we've all been there and she she calls me and she goes hey um you know like three months ago when we didn't know each other yeah you know you posted on the carousel so carousel means you've got to swipe through some pictures there's a picture of this girl in a red cap uh who is she and did you sleep with her and i was like uh yes

this is when i was in austral Australia and I was out there for work yeah I didn't know you we didn't even speak I don't know what you want to do with that information that's coming from an element of like

her own I guess like yeah but it was pulling out and it was constantly it was pulling out these things these are things

I can't control no no that's not right that's one of my excuses that's really odd that is not right yeah also like fair enough

we're all human and we're all going to go through someone's Instagram and like find out who their ex was and what they look like. But you discuss it with your mate and then you just get over it. You don't like call up. Who's this?

Who's that? Okay. I've got a question. So I tell me if I'm in the wrong. A few of those things happened. And this one day I woke up really early. A message turned the morning said, hey, hope you slept well. Blah, blah, blah.

She responded the same thing. I then had a really long day i got home i had to get the dog out all this sort of thing and as i got home i was like i need a message i see how her day was and she messaged me before and she was like hey it's been all day you haven't messaged me and i was like hey sorry babe i'm really sorry it's been like the maddest day uh i'm exhausted but i thought she was joking so i was was like, oh, I'm so sorry. I've always known, I'm so sorry.

I've literally walked through the door. I was about to message you. I hope you had a lovely day. She blue ticked me. She sent me, she firstly sent me a mini essay, then deleted it.

The top line was basically saying, I haven't heard from you all day, something, something, da, da, da. And I was like, okay. So I, as I clicked on it, she deleted it. Oh my fucking God.

Red flag, red flag, red flag. And then she voice-noted me five times. So I call her. Oh, this is so intense already. She goes, do you listen to voice notes? And I went, no. She goes, then listen to them, and then call me back.

And I was like, okay. Are you boyfriend and girlfriend at this stage? Three weeks of dating. Shut up! No, no, no, this is honestly, I would never even dream of doing that to my boyfriend i've been with three years so i listened to the voice notes it was basically on the line of like you know you should have messaged me at least one message during the day saying i'm really busy i'll talk to you later all these sort of things and then i called i said look yeah i i maybe should have not that i forgot no you're like bowing down to like someone just being mean to you. This is like not right.

It's not right behaviour. So I didn't do anything wrong. You're completely right. So like what happened now? No, you haven't done anything wrong. So then you're like, you've got to go. Bye bye.

That was already like a big red flag. And then, I don't know, how intimate can we talk about things here? Oh my God. Go as intimate as you want. Sorry. We might throw all of this out the window.

I am in forget our dilemma okay so after all of these things i booked dinner right in a beginning of a relationship you're all over each other right yeah so just before dinner it gets a bit heated so we have a bit of a quickie right a quickie like we love it just like nothing better exactly exactly so i was like shower before dinner exactly lovely we already dressed and then we undressed and i was like from everything that happened i was like oh this is so nice this is like beaut you just forgot about the psycho i was like yeah it's all good great sex um and so after that i was okay we're gonna be late and she had said okay don't let me just quickly do my makeup and then let's go i was like great

i walked downstairs went for her my phone she comes in i'm like oh baby look beautiful i go in for the kiss she pulls away and i go what have i done i was like and i genuinely just went in the last two minutes what have i done so i was like did i what i was like and i genuinely just went in the last two minutes what have i done so i was like did i what i was like thinking oh my god have i done something left something is there a message somewhere i don't know what like yeah and she was like no no let's just go i was like no clearly there's something wrong so please tell me she goes after we had sex you didn't cuddle me or kiss me and i said i'm pretty sure i kissed you on the forehead and was like we're gonna be late and i was like surely a quickie is like a quickie

a quickie is like fun whatever and then you go it's not like in the evening you're in bed you're watching a movie and then you're like cuddling and we don't have the time then this is what pissed me off can i just ask a caveat how old is this girl she's my age 28 oh my god i was picturing you being like 21 no no that's what i know that's what all my friends were saying oh my god i need to know who she is so uh we and we it was like a 15 minute walk from my house right in silence we sit down and what does she do not hungry oh i literally i was there like i know what's so funny right i've been there too and it's like we've all been there you get me on the wrong day and i'm like you didn't say i look nice

and then i'm like oh this tree's rank i was so angry i couldn't believe it i was like and i was starving i was so hungry listen i would only do I was like and I was starving I was so hungry listen I would only do something like that and I feel like it's only normal to do something like that when you're really deeply comfortable with someone and the psycho comes out I would never dream of doing that for three weeks that's what I thought this is her playing a game with you she's like only gonna get worse because she obviously likes the relationship so you're kind of like drawn to like yeah like trauma, I think so. I think the passionate side is obviously... Bit of a reoccurring habit here then, Miles, isn't it?

Yep, yep. You've been here before with a French girl, haven't you? I have. Oh, was she French, this girl? Yeah. Since the original French girl, who shall not be named, because she'll love this. I know you do.

I haven't dated another French girl. And then I was like, oh, it's been eight years. I could date another French girl. How bad could they be? Yeah, you do. I haven't dated another French girl. And then I was like, oh, it's been eight years. I could date another French girl. How bad could they be? Yeah, pretty bad. So she then was messaging me loads. I was like, look, I just need some time to think about things. We had a call.

You had a Zoom call? The original story I told you about the girls searching through my thing. This was after this, right? Oh, God. She calls me. We have a really lovely conversation for 30 minutes. And I'm about to go to bed. I was like, oh, this is really nice.

This is like who I met in the first place. Right. Then she goes, Tamora, can you call me and I need to talk to you about something? Oh, my God. You are joking. And it was that story.

And I was like, okay. Cool. I can't do this. I said this. I can't do this right now. I've already got so much on my plate already. And dealing with this in three weeks of dating is not fun. Also, that was a very mature and very self-loving decision to pull yourself out of that.

Because that could have been an extremely toxic relationship. Go on, please. A few days go by. A little bit quiet. I go to golf with Tams. Tams is my mate. He's from me and Chelsea. And Tams goes, yeah, mate, you know that French girl you were dating?

I was like, yeah. She's messaged me. And Tams goes, yeah, mate, you know that French girl you were dating? I was like, yeah. She's messaged me. And I was like, okay. Paragraphs. No. Paragraphs. I'm sorry.

Because she had messaged me and I just didn't answer. I was like, I'm not answering. Sorry, this wasn't safe. And she had said, tell Miles I arrive at his flat from France at 11pm.

And I messaged her, I said, do not come. I've got the busiest week. I can't have you here in my house. She was flat from France at 11pm. And I messaged her, I said, do not come. I've got the busiest week. I can't have you here in my house. She was flying from France? She flew from France. And also when you do this, let's say it's a grand gesture. Yeah.

You'd come for a weekend. She booked a week in London in my flat. Wait, wait, wait. So you broke up with her. She was like, I'm getting on the next flight. I need to come see him. Yeah. She thought me saying, let's end it.

She thought it was a joke. I didn't believe it I thought she was playing a trick until 10pm she was like I'm getting my cab now I'll be

Miles you've got to be joking did you just lock the door and not respond no I couldn't do that so she stayed so she came over she walked in the house and I was like

I'm going to bed and I'm not talking about this right now wait when did you let her sleep in my bed wait nothing happened so then like you and her just hang out for a week

I had to give her a spare set of keys i said look i've got loads of things to do in the day and so that's actually fine and she did everything to she was like i'm so sorry for the way i acted and my insecurities all these sort of things and at that time the wall was so far up i i was like i can't do this god interesting that you can just shut off completely did all your emotions completely just disappear completely gone. What a shame. Oh, Milesy. Well, you know what?

So, that's my... That's your recent drama with the girl. Right. Well, I can confirm that I think you were in the right and she's in the wrong. Like, that's not normal behaviour and God bless her,

she probably has just got loads of insecurities. Hopefully she learns her lesson from this because she's missed out. Thanks, girls. Right, so now we've heard Miles is like story time, more than a dilemma,

because you've already sorted it out for yourself. But we want to hear your dilemmas, guys. And Miles is going to give his opinion. Tell me. I'm here. I'm all ears. Dilemma number one. I've been living in a flat share, and from that moment I moved in, I've had massive crush on one of the guys I live with. Here's the catch, though.

He has a girlfriend and she's genuinely lovely. We're not close friends, but she's always been friendly and kind to me. This is a bad start already. I know, I'm like slash kind of excited and a retosser. I've kept my feelings bottled up for over a year now. But lately things have shifted. My roommate has started being flirty with me, saying things like how beautiful I am. At at parties we've ended up dancing together and it's been a

bit intense other people have even commented on how good we look together never good and i've had to awkwardly explain that he's not my boyfriend that's so inappropriate someone's giving you and me that well. Oh no. It is. You remember there was always something. No but she never had a boyfriend. No we were both

single though. You were both single yeah. I guess so. It would have been giving you and me but that never happened.

That was weird Have something you want to tell me? Jamie I'm so sorry. The truth is I think we're really compatible and I do like him a lot oh god i don't want to hurt his girlfriend's feelings and certainly don't want to create any drama do

i take the risk of exploring this or should i just bury these feelings and move on oh my god right you go first you go first the thing is it's so bad from his behalf already. Like, if you're showing those sorts of like flirtatious acts whilst you're in a relationship, that's not cool. And I think as a girl, even if you fancy him, you should see that as a really big red flag. Because that means that if, let's say, he did end it with his girlfriend to be with you, what makes, yeah, what if he does it to another?

So true. Oh, 100%. Do you think he just wants both his cake and eating it he's getting his mind because a girl i'm like i just think you would break up with your boyfriend okay okay have you have you been i've been there when i was at the end of my relationship i had for the first time in years looked at other women in a different way sure and i knew i was on the way out. God! Right? Yeah, we've all been there then.

And at work, I used to have like a work girlfriend, like that I would kind of very casually, when I say flirt, it wasn't like I'm sticking it on her. It was just like flirty comments, whatever. I broke up with my girlfriend and I didn't even pursue that other girl.

I just like, oh. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It just shows you that the temptation's there and you're like, then there's something not right going on at home kind of thing but it seems

that he's very like he loves the fact that he gets attention from this girl I think he knows that you fancy him and he's just like

playing into it if he fancied you enough he would leave his girlfriend surely or would he not have just got with you at this point

also the fact that all your friends are saying that you look cute together is not good. This girlfriend, I feel really sorry for her. But listen, I think if he's been living with you for like over a year, emotions would have built up.

So he would know if he actually is in love with you or likes you, right? It wouldn't just be a fancying thing. He would know if he had deep feelings there. Because he knows you really well. You've lived together. But he might just fancy you and think you're fit and like what i'm feeling is that he doesn't like his girlfriend but it doesn't mean he likes you like i think you're just another girl you're just like exactly what miles had with the girl he might break up with that girlfriend but he's probably

not pursue you and then or what you need to do if i you really, is to sit him down and say, okay, what's going on? Because look, there is a weird thing going on between us. Either you tell me or I'm going to have to talk to your girlfriend because I'm friendly with your girlfriend. And I see her a lot and it makes me feel awkward. And everyone else around us is telling us that we look cute together. So what is it from you? Right. So you don't think that him as a boy,

he's not going to be like, mate, that's really fucking intense. I just thought we were close. No, because he knows what he's doing. I think if a boy was like dancing with me

in clubs and being like, you look beautiful, I'd probably be like, I would be like, dude, you have a girlfriend. What are you doing?

That's what I would probably say. I wouldn't be shy of saying that. I'd be like, look, that's what Mars is saying. I know, but I would say it

in the moment when something happens. I wouldn't necessarily sit him Mars is saying I know but I would say it in the moment when something happens I wouldn't necessarily sit him down and list off things I would wait for him to act and do something again and then be like

it's too late you know what this has happened a few times now and I'm actually not sure because I'm actually starting to get certain feels which I know I shouldn't because you have a girlfriend

but she's playing into it this needs to stop unfortunately you are kind of in the wrong as well 100% because you're allowing it to happen. Like you just said, even if you fancy someone and the person you fancy is in a relationship and they've done any sort of like acts or, you know, flirtatious kind of things towards you,

you should say, what the hell are you doing? I know your girlfriend. She comes here all the time. I think you know what you've got to do. And look, if he likes you, he might be like, I know this is something. And then you'd be like, yeah yeah I can't help the way I feel and you've got to be like yeah maybe break up

with your girlfriend and then we can see where it goes explore it right now we can't because you know what the right thing to do is

also when you're told you can't have something you want it more if I'm like just tell yourself you can't get with him you're going to really want to get with him

try and find an ick like what if he like picks his nose at breakfast like I'd like zone in on that but isn't it hard to find icks when you like, what if he, like, picks his nose at breakfast? Like, I'd, like, zone in on that. But isn't it hard to find icks when you like someone? When you've had someone really hard. There's no icks.

Yeah, there's no icks. There's no icks. It's so fucking annoying. I think you're not going to be able to not like him if you're already in so deep. Like, just have the conversation, see where it goes, see what his answer is. And this could be really bad.

Get really drunk together and see what happens. I knew you were going to say that. And then have the conversation right now this is actually taking a physical turn because is there such thing as harmless flirting that's what I want to know

is there no I think there is no I think there is too but do you agree no if a boy is saying to me

you look beautiful I'm not going to be like and that's so inappropriate I'm like thank you so much I'm like thank you yeah I know okay dancing with you

like grinding on me I'd be like get the fuck off me mate I also feel like you know when much I'm like thank you yeah I know okay dancing with you like grinding on me I'd be like get the fuck off me mate I also feel like you know when someone's just like being polite and paying you a compliment right we've all got

like guy friends but then you can feel a vibe when you know that someone's flirting when they give you the weird look and you're like it's the look

yeah do you know what I do he's bound to do something inappropriate he's gonna touch he's gonna touch the lower of your back he's gonna do something

sorry he's gonna he's gonna go like you know what you mean they touch that lower bit you're like i would just then be like what's going on i wouldn't wait for him to kiss you because then you've cheated i'm not gonna condone that mars no i'm not condoning that the lower of the back's not cheating but that is a movement you're like i think you're right it's crossing as soon as you cross that hand on the leg in a taxi you're a bit like why lovely though isn't it just hand on the leg

yeah I'm dead and gone that's when he does it and you're in the taxi on the way home he either looks at you weirdly or puts his hand on your leg and you just say

no no what's going on yeah just say it in the moment see what happens see how he reacts okay I'm excited can you please follow up with us on this because I'm

this is one of those rare dilemmas where I'm actually like I'm kind of excited to see the outcome yeah yeah I think they'll end up shagging

and then he'll be like they might get with each other now and again and then he'll probably find another girlfriend no listen I'm going to say there is happy endings

sometimes from these things he could break up with his girlfriend and be like I've really fallen in love with you and I want to give this a go you never know you know what

I didn't see that side of it he could be like trying to hold himself and he can't help himself right in review because because he loves you that's quite a romantic story

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Dilemma two. I fancied one of my work colleagues for a while, but we're both kind of awkward, so neither of us have made the first move. We work in different offices and different teams, which is ideal as it's less of a problem should something happen. We get on well and I fancy him, so I asked him for a one-on-one drink, to which he agreed. The drink went really well, however, I was out of London for six weeks, which meant we had to text. The chat was good and he suggested grabbing a drink when I was back. We've both been genuinely really busy with work and holidays, so had to postpone our agreed date and said about rearranging to the following week. Again, we ended up not arranging the drink as I had last minute work commitments and I gave him some dates that I was free. All was going well, or so it seemed. Now he's not replied for two weeks. I'm so confused.

He's genuinely a lovely guy. We get on well and And I don't see him as the ghosting type, especially as I'll see him on social events. So it would be weird to ghost me. I'm usually very intuitive and quite laid back and know he is busy, but he can't be that busy. Am I just delusional and he's ghosting me even though I'll see him around? Do I text him and ask if he is taking me out

or do I just leave it right Miles this is one for you I mean I think the right thing to do as a guy is to anyway even if it was very short term to say to a girl

just to let you know I am dating someone else if that is the case because it seems that's what he's doing because I think yeah like what are the reasons

to ghost you're dating someone else you don't want to see them anymore well this is where we need your opinion what are the reasons to ghost I think come on you've never ghosted.

Dig deep here. Yeah, yeah, I have. I'm not saying I'm a saint. What do you think the general reason is? Can I just ask? Yeah, in what way have you ghosted? Like, gone on a date and never spoken to anyone yet? Well, I think if you go on one date

and then you don't speak, I think that's fine because you've literally gone, you don't owe them anything. Yeah. I think the reasons of ghosting are, like I just said, I think you've met someone in between talking to this person you don't owe them anything yeah i think the reasons of ghosting are like i just said i think

you've met someone in between talking to this person and you just feel a bit awkward and you don't have the conversation and you think also it wasn't enough to say oh by the way i'm dating someone else yeah all the other reasons is you i don't know like this is really bad you've hooked up with them and you're like oh no this is yeah that's that's what i hate every girl's world's nightmare that is guys i'm sorry guys if you listen to this but um oh that's the hard truth it is it unfortunately it is that sometimes it happens that's also gonna happen to a girl like you might meet someone go on a date and then you're like okay the whole kind of no sex on the first date thing yeah right let's say you go on like loads of dates for a month

and it's like the perfect person and you're like emotionally invested. You get to the bedroom, guy or girl, and it's not what you thought it was going to be. What do you do? I micked out immediately.

Oh, terrible if it's great for the other person as well and they're like, I'm so not. But does that ever happen? I never think it's going to be great for one and shit for the other. It's generally like

you're both a bit like, ooh, that wasn't what I thought it was going to be great for one and shit for the other it's genuinely like you're both a bit like ooh that wasn't what I thought it was going to be like I also don't think girls unless a boy does something really fucking weird and like toes me

or something I don't know well yeah that has a weird fetish and really freaks you out yeah like I don't think they can do something unless like unless what if they're not

well endowed no it's not going to phase me oh no we know it won't phase you. Not with Jamie. Not with Jamie. No, not with Jamie. Oh, I know.

Definitely not with Jamie. I know who you're talking about. We know who that person is though. Oh, God. So, yeah, it didn't phase you at all, clearly. It did phase me a bit, to be honest. It lasted long enough. Okay, it did phase me.

Look, no, it's true. I just it did phase you. Look. No, it's true. I just think that was never quite right. I think if you fancy someone, I think it's very different for boys and girls. What can a girl do so wrong in sex? Like, essentially, we could just lie there. So, no, my theory on sex, right?

I think no one is bad in bed. Oh, God, this is golden information. So, I think you're sexually not compatible and i think when people go oh my god she was really bad in bed okay there are certain times where it could be really really god awful but most of the time it's because you're both not on the same page and emotionally you're not connecting so in bed you won't connect sure and it's a lot of when i hear my mates oh she was bad in bed she might be amazing in bed with someone else yeah it just means that you guys didn't connect in that way and it didn't work for example when I think about my first relationships the first few times were terrible and it's after we kind of got to know each other and all this that it got better the only times you kind of say oh it's really bad

it's like okay the guy comes really really quick and you're like okay you didn't really get anything out of it I'm never like oh I'll break up with him no no of course that's what I'm saying it's kind of complimentary to the girl because you're like ha I'll break up with him. No, no, of course. That's what I'm saying. No, if anything, it's kind of complimentary to the girl because you're like, ha, I've made them come. I don't know. I don't know.

Is that how it works? I think guys... I don't know about death if they don't. Well, I don't think I've ever had that. I have a friend who struggles to come.

Yeah, there's a lot of people that struggle to... Is that actually disrespectful? Do you feel like I can't make him... Oh my God, I would be devastated. It would upset me. I would be devastated. It would upset me.

I would be devastated. Okay, so reverse it because not every girl can climax. But you fake it on the first go. So unfair. That's so harsh.

Do you think I'm not going to fake it? That's so savage. Like, woo! And then I'm just like, no girl is coming on the first time. No, I agree with that.

Yeah, sure. No one. Sure. Just going back to the dilemma should she give it another go or should she leave it i think if you awkwardly see each other again at an event like you said this you know social work things it's that kind of like oh well we never went on that date and if he's interested he'll i think that's great yeah that will happen organically don't re-text it's been a while don't be heartbroken that he's ghosted you. I don't think he's ghosted you.

I think it's just nothing's really happened. Yeah. So don't worry about it. I agree. Last year, I left my high-paying job in London to move to Australia to be with who I thought was the love of my life. He's also English. We didn't have the best start to the relationship

as I found out he'd been with a girl the night before I got to Australia, but I chose to forgive him. However, things haven't been so smooth sailing since either. My partner's obsessed with golf.

Yeah, I love this guy already. Don't worry about it, brother. So much so that it's affecting our relationship. No way.

He buys me flowers, writes me poems and all the other stuff but will still prioritise golf over quality time. He plays about five times a week. I call it obsessed. Five times a week? That's obsessed, aren't it? There's no problem. There's no problem. I've taken Sundays off work to allow us to spend more time together but he wants to play more golf. Do I mean

that little to him that he'd rather play golf than spend a day with his girlfriend? As well as this, when I ask him if I was to move back to England, would he come with me? However, he always tells me he would prioritise his own happiness and he would stay in Australia. Oh.

Do you think it's time to call it quits on the relationship or am I asking for too much? Call it quits. He's in Australia. He cheated on you. He's mid-twenties.

Never date a boy in the mid-twenties. Twenty-eight is the only time you can start doing it if you want to settle down with him. Well, I started dating Toby when he was 24, so let's not

fucking say that again. I'm also 28 and I still haven't found the one, so. Yeah, but I think, like, Toby's an exception and I think if he's acting this way

and being like, I don't want responsibilities, it's lending itself to that he still might just be like, if he's prioritising golf over her. He doesn't want

to spend time with you. No. He's choosing golf. Golf is an escapism. As a golfer, I first of all, never look at my phone. It's four hours.

If you're bad, five hours. And it's, you escape. You're there to escape. You're with your buddies. You don't want to think about anyone. God, sounds lovely.

It's lovely. It's great. How many times a week? Twice a week, I play golf. Well, once actually. Okay, right. That's great.

Everyone's got to have a hobby. But this is mental. I agree. Five times a week. Does golf well once actually that's so acceptable everyone's got to have a hobby but this is mental I agree five times a week five times a week does he have a job what's mate

if you're listening to this can you what do you play off like with Anna Kat I mean I'm going to Australia soon as well so hey hit me up we can play some golf this isn't boyfriend

this is your bro bro romance bro romance but yeah guys do you know that I heard a story that when I first dated my first boyfriend called Hugo,

I... Shout out, Hugo. He asked me... Oh, where is he now? He's in Australia. Oh my God! This might be Hugo. Oh my God, guys.

He's a big golfer. He asked me, weirdly, like, if I play golf. I call my dad from downstairs. I'm like, Dad, what's a really good handicap for a golfer? My dad goes, I don't know. And I was like, not's a really good handicap for a golfer my dad goes I don't know and I was like not too good

not too bad dad's like 14 or something so I go yeah 14 handicap next day it takes me to the golf course oh my god

14 handicap is actually quite good never played I never played once in my life lied everything so yeah I got caught out doing that

so don't do that five times a week is literally like he's having an affair on the golf course he does not want to be in that house I'm not going to lie is it golf I'm like how affair On the golf course Like he does not Want to be in that house I'm not gonna lie

Is it golf? I'm like how can you Play golf that often? Who's he going to Play golf with? Oh my god Do you think guys? I just think it's too often

Do you not have a job? Something's not adding up Do we think There's a scenario Where she maybe Could just go MI5 And you know Yeah

Go to that golf course Get on that golf buggy And just First of all Find out what golf course Or golf club he works at. Get a caddy's job. It's very easy. I agree.

Right? And then just, you know, follow him, see what he's doing. Is he flirting with other caddy girls? Is it like, what's going on there? I agree. There's something going on. Just follow him. Like, what have you got to lose at this point?

My advice is break up with him or go to the golf course. One or the other, you're going to see something. And if you go to the golf course and he is just playing golf, which I feel weird that he is, I would still break up with him because go to the golf course one or the other you're going to see something and if you go to the golf course he is just playing golf which I feel weird that he is I still break up with him because he obviously go at least three times

because he might actually go play golf one of those times so I just think the five times is a bit excessive and I think it's the line I agree

there's something going on so go to the third one and see if he's actually going to the golf course keep us updated and don't worry you're so young and everything works out in the end if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be golf course. Keep us updated. And don't worry. You're so young and everything works out in the end.

If it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be. And also, you're in Australia. Yeah. There's so many hot guys in Australia. Go to Bondi. We're going to play a little game. The news section.

A news section just made. Just for this. Especially for you because we love you so much. Do you love me I don't we love this is going to be

just a bit of fun okay and you know it's called well I don't know what's going on it's called dick-tective dick-tective

okay you get it yeah detective what runs your feelings your head your heart or your hard on

my heart are you sure yeah good we love that my feelings yeah you sure yeah good we love that my feelings yeah for sure yeah 100% two

have you ever forgotten the name of the girl you're having sex with oh my god oh my god that is an awful question during sex could you name everyone

you've slept with no that's a question so if you can't name them then surely you can't name them the way you act is like

of course we can name everyone I've slept with it's like must that is a can name everyone I've slept with. It's like, Miles, that is a normal thing. Wait, are all boys they can't name?

No. I'll tell you, even the guys in this, even the guys in this room, they would not be able to say every girl they've... Miles, yes,

they would. Okay, bring them on. Do you think that you could... Don't ask this question. I know exactly what you're going to ask. No, I was going to just say, what's your body count? Yeah, no, let's...

Anyway, to this question. Is it in the ballpark of around 60 people? Oh my God, it's way bigger. It's 200. Hey! What? No, it's not. Melissa.

200? Melissa, I don't want you to have this... Do you know how many that is? That means there's a new person like almost every... Virtually every night. It's me and the dog now. Jane Miles. Okay, look, can we go over 100?

I'm not disclosing my body count on a podcast. We've disclosed ours. Okay, number three. What is your body count? Mine's five. No, yours is six, we've discovered recently.

She lied. She doesn't count her virginity. Poor guy. Right, go on, what's yours then? What about you, Melissa? You're angels. Okay on what's yours then eight you're angels okay

what's the simpiest thing you've ever done for a girl what is simpiest oh simpiest like being a simp so being like a beg to a girl

like whoa how do you know that one no no honestly I'm around 20 year olds so they tell me all these the language is this a gen z

is this added to the dictionary like from 2024 yeah yeah yeah this is like this simp what's the other one riz I found out that's like riz rizin is flirting I like that Is this a Gen Z? Is this added to the dictionary like from 2024? Yeah, yeah, yeah. This is like, what's the other one? Riz, I found out.

What's that? Rizin is flirting. I like that. Yeah. God, we were more like your peng. Yeah, yeah. Your fit peng. I know, I can't bear it.

There's no language. Okay, so what's the simplest thing you've ever done to a girl? I flew to Canada for a girl even after she didn't want me. I remember this. I remember this. I remember this.

So a month in, I said, I remember this I remember this I remember this so a month in I said I'm booked my tickets I'm gonna come to you the day before I flew she messages me don't come out of the ordinary um and I also hadn't drunk for like three months at that time that night got absolutely obliterated and then my mates were like go anyway I was in a bad place at that stage I was really I bad place at that stage. I was really, really, I had lost so much weight, like really badly. Because of this scenario?

Loads of different things, but this really hit me. I think this was the first girl since my previous relationship in terms of like love. Wow. That I had felt a new love, which was really, really weird for me. And I changed everything like for her. And then when I went there there it was like a movie I messaged her I said look I know you don't want to see me

but I just want to check in to see if you're okay because I had felt that maybe she was going through things or whatever it was and she was like yeah I'm all good how are you enjoying my city and then she was like what are you so fucking weird that you were there oh yeah and then she was like oh where are you I was like oh I'm in this mall someone told me to go to this big mall that you guys have and she was like

um I'm in the same mall and I was like well if you want to say hello you can and she I remember she was like oh my god was your heart

like out of your chest and also I looked shit the time she wanted to see me I was in trackies I had a cap on I looked a mess and she was like oh yeah I'm in Sephora I'm gonna come down this escalator and I was like wow I can I had a cap on. I looked a mess. And she was like, oh yeah, I'm in Sephora.

I'm going to come down this escalator. And I was like, wow, I can see Sephora from where I am. I literally remember she was like on the escalator and she's like smiling. I'm awkwardly smiling. I go, what the fuck is going on? Oh my God, were you just looking at her like she was an angel coming down?

Oh, it was like, honestly, it was like a movie. And she gave me a hug and she looked at me. And in the second she looked at me, I was like, I'm never going to see this girl ever again. I just just knew it she walked away and my mate was like you're buzzing and i was like something's off 20 minutes later i can't do this i'm really sorry no no no and i was just like god how funny you gotta go for your look and my dad was like oh my dad was calling me and he was like i booked you a ticket you're coming home now because i was in bits i was crying every day i was gone and then she crying every day I was gone

and then she sent that and she was like where are you and all this kind of stuff and I was like I'm on the flight and I literally got

I boarded and she was like come back and all this kind of stuff what the fuck I landed and she said I miss you

like sorry did you just land how was it I messaged her again the hope I said look if you want me to wait

I'll wait for you she blue ticked me and never responded no sorry what the fuck i can't i love you sorry it was scrap the dick sorry you're like 10 out of 10 no no i'm a dick i can be a dick but i'm forever grateful for that because i reckon life lesson i felt emotions i hadn't felt since my first love so that was like crazy for me although it hurt like a bitch it really fucking hurt i was so glad i went through that what yeah yeah oh my god i'm sorry sorry that was a diversion i've loved all these diversions so that was simpy but also just that was a simpiest that was so that was so gorgeous yeah that's the best okay

this is a really interesting one. Who comes first to you? Your mum, your missus, or your mates? Oh, I'd love to ask my boyfriend this question. Okay, so if I know I'm building a family with my person and we are about to have kids, then my wife. Great answer. Great answer.

But if it was just like girlfriend, you know, even if we see a future, mum comes first, of course. Oh, I like that answer. You wouldn't like it. I know. I wouldn't like to hear that answer. I think that happened with me and Jamie. I would still think his mum comes first.

His mum still comes fucking first. But we love it. What's the ickiest thing a girl can do? This is such a good question. This is such a tea for me. Sorry, I don't like fake tan okay that's a big ick for me i'm covered in spray that's kind of different though that's not giving me fake tan vibes when people have got it like all over their hands and you know

that you've got that like weird line around their face when they haven't done it properly oh my god i've never seen that i've never seen it. You've never seen it? I know what you mean. It's out there. Right. Okay. What's the latest booty call you've ever made? I'd probably say 4am. Yeah, but that was when I was like really young. It was like pie miles. Seven, how do you show a girl you like her? For me, I think it's your actions.

Like show her that you really like her and like be thoughtful and listen to certain things that she'll say in a conversation and then bring them up later dates things that she'll

remember that you remembered yeah like cute things the cute little things are the best things rather than doing these grand gestures

right so it's the morning after a one night stand that's it okay what happens next you kick them out you get them breakfast. Do they get a little croissant in bed or like what?

They wouldn't stay the night. I would tell them... No! Dick, dick, dick, dick, dick. Yeah, sorry. Miles. I would always say, just sit it. You know, I've got to be up really, really early tomorrow,

so you cannot stay the night. And I always give them the option, you can come back and we have some fun, but then you have to go. If not, you don't come. Right, can we just play a little stay the night. And I always give them the option, you can come back and we have some fun, but then you have to go. If not, you don't come. Right, can we just play a little scenario here? But can I just please?

Because I do not have one night stands to do a war. But let's pretend like you do for the sake of this game. Okay. You pick up Rihanna and the Bluebird, it's midnight, and you're like,

yes, we're going to get a shag in tonight. They go back to yours. The dog's there. Okay. So what happens the next morning? She sleeps tonight. Okay. Okay, so 6am you wake up for the dog's there okay so what happens the next morning she sleeps tonight okay

okay so 6am you wake up for the dog do you tap on the shoulder like you gotta go if I leave the house I'll text her to see if she's awake and be like

do you want a coffee I'm going to go get a coffee bring her a coffee lovely have a little chat in the morning now she's thinking

shit he's looking at me no then I go then you look at the what yeah I always do and I go oh shit mid conversation yep god my agent's calling me fuck okay i'm on

another tv show i would this is how i would say i'd like fuck uh that gives me two ten minutes i can go there and then shit okay not a long day um anyway uh sorry is it okay i've gotta literally rush out to do this and then i'll text text you. Unbelievable. She's out. That was so real. I genuinely thought you were going to have to rush out this podcast. Yeah, it's unbelievable. He has done that before, ladies and gentlemen. That was unbelievable. Oh my God.

Oh, I'm such a dick. I'm going to give Miles a one on the dick to scale. When I lived with you, I would say two girls, probably giving five. Yeah. Now I'd say one. Yeah, I would say three, Miles yeah and only one because I just think you break girls hearts but not necessarily meaning to like I think girls just fall hard for you and I don't think you actually you're like so hard to be this good looking no it's not that

I think I think it's hard no I think the reason I agree with that is because I think where I'm at now in my life, because I've put all these huge walls up, that's why it's annoying because when I go into a relationship or go into wanting to date someone, it's real and I really do. But then, like you said before, there's one little thing I see

and then I'm like... Yeah. And they're like, what? It's good that you know your standards though. Miles, thank you so much for being our first ambassador. We're thrilled. Thank you very much. You our first Mambasta. We're thrilled. Thank you very much.

You'll go down in history. There was no one more suiting for the role. We love you. We hope you come back on the podcast. Of course, anytime. It's been great. Thank you, girls. Maybe we make it like a yearly thing

and you come back and you improve. Absolutely. Maybe I'll have a girlfriend finally. Maybe you will. Maybe I come on with her. Yes. And then you can grill her. Future wife.

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