Wednesdays - 56. “I couldn’t think of anything worse than having ***”: Sophie’s sister, Georgia Habboo, tells us EVERYTHING about her pregnancy?

Episode Date: October 15, 2024

Sophie's sister, Georgia Habboo is back and counting down the weeks—she’s 35 weeks pregnant and ready for the final stretch! She’s sharing all, on what this stage of pregnancy is really like, from the little things she misses most to those wild cravings. Whilst, Sophie and Melissa reveal how they think Toby and Jamie would handle being dads?Georgia also steps up to support a fellow Tiny who's struggling with low libido during pregnancy, offering some advice about how tough it can be when you're just not feeling it. And we have a proper debate—do you really need to bring a housewarming gift? The girls have some BIG thoughts on this one!Want More?! Check out our premium subscription The Follow Up - AD FREE, BONUS EPS and ALL the goss wednesdays.supercast.com/If you have a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma send to [e-mail], SLIDE into our DMs @wednesdayspodcast--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Producer: @gurlinaheer_Editor: @ben_johnsExec: @jemimarathbone and Holly NewsonVideo editor: @jakeji.pVideo editor: @lizziemccarthySocial: @laurabcoughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help coming up on this week's episode of wednesdays we have my lovely sister georgia on she is here to tell us about her pregnancy journey and how she's taking her driving test at 36 weeks pregnant. And we have some juicy dilemmas with a tiny who's real sticky situation with a friend who is jealous of her. And also a pregnancy dilemma from a tiny whose libido has fallen and Georgia has some amazing advice. Enjoy the app. Welcome, welcome to Georgia

last time you were on Melissa wasn't here but how many weeks pregnant were you there I think I was like 12 I came home and I'd like just announced it so you were 12 and how many weeks are you now 35 so technically you could give birth at any moment now? No, you're full-time at 40. So you're actually pregnant for like 10 months. But from like 37 to 42, you could give birth. So you could give birth in two weeks' time? Yeah.

Do you feel nerves about that asshole? Because I just don't find you even remotely nervous. You're not giving me nervy energy. No, I'm not. She's glowing from within. Barry's so nervous for me to give birth. I am too. I really am. I can't stop thinking about it.

I mean, I wasn't until I started my antenatal classes. We go to one called Bump and Baby, and they really go into detail, and I was gobsmacked. Oh, my God. No, why? Why? Well, I don't know if I'm really stupid and don't know enough, but she was telling us about the timelines.

You can start having contractions and be at home. You're meant to stay at home for like two days before wait I thought you have a contraction you're in the hospital no yeah exactly I did two days you could be at home having contractions then when they start getting really bad and water breaks you go into hospital and then contractions come every three minutes they last for a whole minute and that minute is agonising pain and that could last for eight to twelve hours so I was like

wait I don't understand for twelve hours like every three minutes you've got a minute of pain and she was like yeah but is that for everyone

or is that just in bad no that's normal for first that's like the average oh my god so at what point do you get numbed then I'm confused

well then you can have an epidural when your contractions get really bad you say i want an epidural isn't epidural just for like the pushing it's not for the contractions or is it no that's for the pain of the contractions they actually recommend you like ease off on the epidural towards the pushing stage so you can feel the pushing is normally between like an hour to three hours wait so when do you have gas and air some people don't want an epidural they want to be as natural as possible so you can try gas and air try and help me through the pain but if you can't handle that you have a question how painful is the contractions

like do we know well little shall let you know it feels like your insides are trying to rip which always scares me that's what she said yeah I was like thank you I picture it like feels like for people who have endometriosis endometriosis I think like

the ones at home feel like really bad period pains like when they're manageable you can like be like I can breathe through these and then

oh my god I don't know just from what I've heard does that not touch the sides won't touch the sides well epidural is like you're getting basically numbed in your spinal cord. So that's how strong it has to be.

Can you move your feet? If you're having a C-section, you do it so you don't move your feet. But if you aren't, you can move your feet, but it's quite heavy. Like you sometimes have to lift your legs. Am I going to be in the room? No. I don't think generally you don't have a sister. I feel like Georgia's

getting really awkward about all of our family because she's like trying to hint that like we won't be there and we're all like mum and dad obviously live

abroad and we're all just like yeah but we'll all be there no you can come to the hospital you can come to the hospital when

she's arrived so you're not even going to call us when you're in labour yeah I'll tell you I'm in labour so Barry's going to

call us in case she's been born you can come round now but surely we'll be in the waiting room waiting for her to give birth it's not like an American scrub show Yeah, I'll tell you I'm a neighbour. So Barry's going to call us. And then Barry will be like, in case she's being born, you can come round now. But surely we'll be in the waiting room waiting for her to give birth. It's not like an American scrub show. That's what I'm picturing. What if I give birth for like two days?

Well, I'll just keep popping in and out with grapes and stuff. With ice chips. I keep thinking that like we'll all just be like getting the coffee and like the little carts. We'll be like, God, no sleep for days. Is she born yet? You go home and change your clothes I'll stay here that's the vibe

I'm like that's what I'm pretty no you don't have to do that because there's going to be so many of us so Barry's parents and our parents well your mum and dad

you'll have to call parents aren't going to come to the hospital I've said no parents you are the only person allowed to come to the hospital she doesn't want me there she's just having to say it

no I said when I've asked Barry I said Soph can come to the hospital no one else. Jamie can come too. Oh my God, stop. Why not? Just because it's too much.

Too much, yeah. And how long will you stay in the hospital for? I think you just stay overnight, like after you give birth and you get home the next day. I say to everyone when people ask me about it, and she's taken it in her stride, I don't think you've really complained to anyone else. Do you not?

No. Barry would say differently. Yeah, I feel like it's fine it's fine like you feel like you have a lot of energy you look very awake no I nap in the day I nap a lot do you feel like out-of-body weirdness because the thought of like having another thing in me like makes me feel a bit weird inside yeah I feel weird like sometimes like now I feel her move so much and you feel her like rolling about when you're like, whoa. And if you like Google what babies look like if they're born at this stage, like they're full blown babies and that creeps me out.

Yeah, that they're in there. Yeah, so I'm like, you're an alive baby and you live in my stomach. Yeah, it's kind of strange. It creeps me out. Talk to me about cravings. Apple juice at the moment. I have to have an apple juicer for everything. That's so niche.

Yeah, I literally wake up and I'm like, cloudy apple juice of ice. I have to have it. I made mum come and get one with me this morning as soon as I wake up. Basically, you've just eaten bread and fruit for about seven days. Yeah, pretty much. Wow. Bread and fruit, soup.

I'm eating a lot of soup. I feel like at the moment, I don't want to eat anything. So I'm like, I've got to have some food for dinner. So I'll just have a soup or something. It's easy. Why don't you want to eat? You're full. It's really weird.

You'll get hungry, but then honestly, after like two bites, you'll get full. And also, someone said this to me, actually, which is, I was like, that describes it so well. If someone's like, tell me what you want for dinner. I'm like, not one thing. But then if someone put something in front of me, I'll eat it and it'll be fine. If someone made me something. But if you ask me to make something for myself. Your taste buds have gone.

Yeah, there's nothing that's nice god how even when i go to a restaurant i'm like i see the dates a lot talk to me about the dates because they soften your cervix and you posted that and then i went and got myself a date and i'm like i'm not softening my cervix i thought you were just getting a chocolate protein shake. She didn't even know it was a date. Yeah, they soften your cervix. So they apparently, that is actually fact. There's so much.

How could dates soften your cervix? Do you know what? I got sent the other day and people do this. It's a wand to stretch out your perineum. Have you been using it? I haven't yet because it's apparently painful. Have you also seen this other thing? Apparently this woman to stop the like tear, whatever's called the something something tear yeah she was putting olive oil really good olive oil and clove oil i think it was olive oil on a pad like literally

in her pants and like it stops the tear from happening softens your skin basically they tell you to get a special massage oil for it or you can use olive oil or coconut oil and massage yourself well it's not a massage you like stretch it out every day from like now to the train it well you can use your hands or you can use like an app i got sent a wand to do it and then in the class they were like you can get your partner to do it if you want i was like no sorry i actually am so baffled that we have not learned this before. I know. It's probably when you're pregnant, you find out all these tips and tricks.

So many things you find out. And I also feel like the internet's probably helped us so much on like Instagram and shit. Yeah, I told mum this. She was like, we did not do that on my day. Yeah, well, mum really teared, didn't she? Yeah. Oh, God. I think mine did too.

I think everyone did. Either they cut it or you tear. Well, I was nearly ten pounds, everybody. So no wonder my mum teared. I was under six pounds. I was three did too. I think everyone did. Either they cut it or you'd hurt. Well, I was nearly 10 pounds, everybody. So no wonder my mum hurt. I was under six pounds. I was three weeks late. I was nine pounds. This one's small.

My brother was like nine pounds. Enormous. My mum said I came out looking like a two-year-old. Yeah. I said, actually, it's really quite gross. I was eight pounds, which is still quite big. Oh, I thought you were really small. Right.

Just compared to you. You've had rib pain and I'm looking at you now and you have a really small rib cage. And now I can see why you've got rib pain. Yeah. I feel like she might have moved and it's a bit better. I can feel her head right underneath my left boob. Feels like a round side head.

Hard head. It's got to be the head. And a midwife told me, she was like, oh, there, that's the head. Feel it there. Wow. Yeah. But now I can't feel it. You seem like a little foot come out with like toes and everything my stomach will move but not like the shape of

anything does that happen someone told me that you can see by your hand wow that would kind of scare me yeah it's just such a fascinating weird but a magical thing that there's actually a kid in there so you almost don't believe it I didn't know how like active they were in there until I was pregnant. Do you know what I mean? I thought they just slept. Yeah, me too. I find them really odd.

Yeah, I was going to say, are they nocturnal? Because my friend who's due near my birthday, so she's quite far along as well, and she was like, I go to sleep at night, the baby wakes up and is going mental in my stomach all night long and it keeps me awake and it's a nightmare. And then they get soothed from you moving in the day. So you often sleep in the day because it's like you're rocking when you're just walking around doing jobs. And then often I'll find if I'm sat at my desk for ages or like sat watching TV, that's when she starts

moving. Oh my God, how interesting. And what about at night? Are we sleeping well? On and off sleeping. Most people, third trimester, you don't sleep well. Because apparently it's getting you ready for the endless nights of not on sleep. Oh, by the way, I just went to get my body lasered this morning. And my lovely laser woman has got a 15-month-old. And it's all we talk about because she knows you're giving birth.

And she said that she slept for five months, two hours a night. And I went, are you joking? Wow. And I went, so how much is no not much she went two hours she said your hormones kick in I'm like I genuinely would die I think I would die I would die and she said no the hormones kick in but she was like you do kind of lose your mind in a sense like you'd find like you're really I'm sorry to say but she was like you probably don't agree but like no she was like you just like become so sensitive things like you're kind of anxious or paranoid obviously you're so sleep deprived we saw some of our like really good friends have

just given birth and when we saw them they were saying um they probably have five days after they given birth and we came around and they were like oh we've got her on a three-hour feeding schedule which is actually a really good amount of time because some babies have to feed every hour or two hours

obviously throughout the night that is as well then you've got to change them get them back down to sleep you feed them every hour at night time

well some will cry every hour but two to three hours is I think normal but three is quite lucky straight away and then you've got to get them back to sleep

and then you've got to fall back to sleep for like 20 minutes yeah 20 minutes exactly anyway they were like three hours and Barry turned around I'm like George George did you hear that three hours I was like best that's good and he was like what I was like he's not prepared but and then Tom texted him the other day um saying oh how are you getting on and they when we saw them after five days they were like it's actually great like this is fine we can do this and then all um curbs reply back was like it's hectic man it's hectic we were like oh no oh my god right just quickly will we dig into some other things how is tom feeling about your husband um i think he's way more nervous than me yeah yeah he's made me pack my hospital bag already like he just forced

me to do it I was like no I can't that's so cute I know he's packing his this week the man has to have a little hostel bag no I can't bear it I really can't and also he was like what have you packed because you've got to have like nappies for yourself and for baby so I was like I packed my nappies and disposable pants and everything and I was like, oh, I'll just pack my toiletries on the day and he was like, no, no, you need to go buy

a whole set of extra toiletries so that they're packed and ready to go. He can't sleep in less than a pack. Yeah, exactly. Can you do an Instagram for what's in your thing? Yeah, I will actually.

I feel like people like watching that. I'm so fascinated by that. Do a TikTok on that. Yeah. That's a really good idea. What's in the hospital bag? She's like, I'm never going to do a TikTok on that.

I'll do an Instagram. If were to foresee jamie it's giving exactly the same as tom berry really moment by moment word by word he'll be scared jamie will be pacing for nine whole months pacing just pacing around me yeah he will he'll be like oh my god and that hospital bag would have been packed. Probably he'll be on the phone to the doctor every day. Really? Oh God, yeah. God forbid when I'm pregnant, I'm like, oh, my army.

Yeah, he'll be like, whoa, he'll be Googling. And also, if you Google anything when you're pregnant, it could be bad. And you just can't do that. No. Yeah. I think Toby could be similar. I just don't know. It just could go one of two ways.

It's quite unpredictable, that man. He won't be calling the doctor worrying he will be pacing about yeah yeah yeah he'll be quite like stressed about it but he's got two brothers that have had kids so that will be helpful yeah well Jamie's had eight siblings and like six of them had kids that's true oh we'll just have to see it's really broody I'm this'm so broody this is going to make you more broody for sure could have the opposite effect like you could be

broody now and then suddenly you're like whoa I do think it will I'm so excited I've never felt excitement like it

everyone I know who's an auntie says it's like next level the best thing that they've ever experienced yeah I can't wait

which I kind of find like crazy I now look at auntie Jane and auntie Camille, and I'm like, did they feel this when I was getting born? It's probably different if you're the younger sibling, and your older sibling has children,

and then you get to enjoy that and be the fun uncle or auntie or whatever. But if you've got four kids, and then your sister or brother has a child, it's probably the novelty's not quite the same. Yeah. For sure, this will be the first grandkid. Yeah, this is a very special thing for your whole family, because it quite the same. Yeah. For sure, like, this will be the first grandkid. Yeah, this is a very special thing for your whole family because it's the first.

Yeah. We're first on Barry's side as well. Yeah, it's a big deal. And actually, we're first of, like, our whole generation. Oh, yeah. All of our cousins. Oh, yeah. Yeah, on both sides.

Yeah, so you're lucky. This baby's going to get a lot of attention. Mom has gone mental. Like, she's already bought her a Christmas present. I don't know, it's so cute. I'm really excited. We don't know what she's going to be called. bought her a Christmas present I don't know it's so cute I'm really excited we don't know what she's going to be called Granny? Oh I thought you meant your baby I was like don't we know the name? Yeah we do know the name

but we won't say. You've not only been pregnant but you've been learning to drive. I only started learning to drive in July. I also just picked July because of your bump touching the steering wheel. Genuinely nearly and it's like quite hard to get in and out of the car and to turn around when I'm doing like a parallel park

I'm like Oh god! Are you allowed to take these days because all these cars basically drive themselves like if you had a really fancy car could you take that

to do a driving test? You're the ones that like literally have like the cameras everywhere it makes life so easy I was thinking that every day Mine has like

reversing cameras which does make it easier and you're just doing automatic right? Yeah No point in doing manual I agree but loads of a few people said to me it's such an old-fashioned thing but you need to know if when you rent a car I'm not going to rent a manual car I was like yeah it's so true Tom my husband was

trying to tell me I need to do manual I was like well one I won't pass in time so that's stupid and two I was like when will I need it he was like well what if an emergency happens and you need to drive a manual car I was like but what emergency and he was like i don't know apocalypse i was like i'd work it out i'm sure like yeah you can always learn to do a manual and if the populace happens there'll be more automatic cars and manuals hanging around i also think there's gonna be more to worry about than driving a car yeah like if i crash crash the car who cares? You're going to die anyway. You're not going to die anyway. Right, listen, I'm so excited because you can drive to me. I know, I'm really.

Oh, my God. Please hope I pass. I'm desperate to pass. Okay, how many days is it? It's next Friday. She's going to pass, guys. Everyone put it. Well, you will have passed at this point.

I'm going to pass that for you. Yeah. By the time this is coming out, you will have passed. I know you will have passed. Okay, let's get into the dilemmas. Hey, you're a Canadian podcast listener, and that makes you important to us. We'd like to know more about you, what you think of this podcast, and the other podcasts you'd like to hear. So we put together a super brief survey we'd like you

to fill out. Complete it and we'll give you a chance to win one of three $100 Amazon gift cards. That way we can say thanks for your opinion. Just go to mypodcastsurvey.ca and have your say. That's mypodcastsurvey.ca. Dilemma one. I'm pregnant with my first first child which me and my partner are so excited about but the only thing on my mind is that my libido has really dropped since falling pregnant to be fair i've never been the most sexually extroverted person but lately i just haven't felt like being close to my partner it's not that i don't love him because i do so much i just don't have the urge to be intimate and it's starting to get into my head.

I want him to still feel loved, you know, like I don't want him to think I checked out emotionally. But I'm kind of lost on how to show that closeness without feeling like I'm forcing myself to. And then I'm starting to get into my head. What if this doesn't change after the baby's here? What if it never comes back? So any advice on how to navigate this will be helpful and any other ways I can get close to him during pregnancy I can help answer this yes well let me tell you I have zero libido I don't feel bad about it like I couldn't think of anything worse really well I've tried we've obviously we have every now and then but it's not comfortable like I can imagine and it's you

don't feel sexy like it's not I feel like a hippo you feel bloated like if I feel bloated or something exactly I'm like I haven't been anything else I can imagine having like another person nothing's nice like honestly my nipples are like the size of a fist like like honestly yeah you don't feel sexy wow the nipples really grow are they really dark, too? My friend said hers have literally gone, like, 10 shades darker. Yeah, they're so dark. They're, like, chocolate brown.

Yeah, she was, like, honestly, like, she had dark nipples before, but she's, like, they've honestly gone even darker. Apparently that's because babies can only see in black and white, so they can find your nipple. Sorry, no one taught us that either. So fascinating. Honestly, you learn so much. Right, so the nips are enormous.

Does Barry go, wow, nipples? Or is this a comic? Yeah, I've said, like, oh, my my god look at my nipples he's like ginormous um yeah I don't I know I'd say a lot of my friends I've spoken to are not interested in sex one bit so I wouldn't feel bad about that and hopefully your partner is understanding of that because if then he's not it's not very and how can you stay close with them without having sex like kissing hugging holding hands yeah you can be so intimate with someone i sometimes think kissing and hugging and like looking at each other is more intimate than so i think so well like you can have like nice conversations and just be like hugging and be close and whatever yeah like cuddling i agree

i mean look there's absolutely nothing wrong with having a low libido. I personally have always found men have a high libido anyway. Like, I've never had the same libido as my partners in my life. No, neither. It's definitely a boy thing

to have a high sex drive. Also, it's quite an obvious thing. Like, if you're really pregnant and you don't want to have sex, it's an absolutely fine excuse, a valid excuse. Yeah. I can agree more.

You really don't need to justify giving worse excuses before that's an absolutely fine excuse, a valid excuse. Yeah. I can agree more. You really don't need to justify not doing it. Even worse excuses before. Oh, God, yeah. Yeah, me too. I can imagine it's quite scary. Like, it depends. Is he trying to have sex with her all the time and she's like, no, no, I really don't want to?

Yeah. That's probably slightly harder. I think that you just have to have the conversation with him and be like, I don't feel sexy and I feel weird. Like, I personally would imagine the penis, like, poking the baby. Barry feels really uncomfortable with the idea of that himself. He's like,

no, that's my child in there. Yeah, I get it. I get it. I totally get it. And me too. I'm like, yeah, stay away. Is it true it can, like, some people get so horny.

Yeah, and is it true that it can induce? Yes. So apparently, sex is really good at inducing. We might have to force it in a few weeks' time because I don't want to be too overdue. And walking on, like, one high step. Yeah, walking on a curb. Spicy food. apparently sex is really good at inducing we might have to force it in a few weeks time because i

don't want to be too overdue and walking on like one high step yeah walking on a curve spicy food what was it else in friends i can just imagine we literally got asked this question in our class and i was like okay what did rachel do um what other thing just loads of sex spicy food that spicy food is because it makes you have diarrhea and that is close to the area. Shut up. It stimulates the area. Yeah. So anything that would give you diarrhea will probably do that. Coconut water.

Don't think you'd want diarrhea. I do. Not having diarrhea. Yeah, that would be a bit much. That would be a nightmare. That would be really messy. But yeah, sex. Because apparently sperm has the same hormone in that they put on you as a cream to induce you.

Shut up. Yeah. The human bodies are fascinating and so clever. Like, sorry, so surely this is so gross and this maybe wouldn't work, but could he not just like have a wank and then put the cum on you? Well, I also thought that and I was honestly going to ask that, but I felt a bit embarrassed. But like, surely it would work.

I'd be loving that on me from 35 years old. Yeah, I'd be like, you just sort yourself out and bring me a... Yeah, just bring me a sample pot. Are you putting it on side or 35 years old. Yeah, I'd be like, you just sort yourself out and bring me a... Yeah, just bring me a sample pot. Are you putting it on side? It has to be inside, surely. I think it has to be on your cervix, which is like a bit up there. It's quite up there.

You're also so fertile after you give birth. Yeah, I see loads of people getting pregnant again and they're like, So most people like, don't want to have sex just after they give birth.

But some do and you can like, if you have things unprotected sex six weeks after, you're so fertile. You're likely to get pregnant. So but some do and you can like if you get having unprotected sex six weeks after you're so fertile you're likely to get pregnant so don't do it but they say you should keep trying

make it a year apart right for your body to recover is that true or do they say it doesn't matter also just for your mental sanity

so a lot of stress on the body probably isn't it but it does happen to people all the time I would be so upset I don't think you're going to

at least you think about it like at least you're getting it just done no I try like the things I'm looking forward to what are you looking forward to most lying on my back no come on it's got to be food no and genuinely like lying on my back you can't sleep on your back and I can't tell you how much you'll miss that or your front obviously so it's just I'm a side sleeper anyway so you'll be fine then I'm a front sleeper but back I really miss um what about if you're sunbathing

you just have to have like your chair to sit us up which is why I got like back is not being tanned at all no and I got tan lines for my boobs on my stomachs all sat up honestly all summer I had these white moon shapes um well yeah I guess like a glass of champagne at a wedding like especially weddings are annoying sober not sober pregnant because then your feet you're tired like yeah just everyone asks you about pregnancy as well and you're like yeah I guess it's really hard because it's like such a big thing and it's like really the only thing necessarily like my friend who's pregnant she was like really it's really hard because it's like such a big thing. It's like a stamp on your forehead. And it's like really the only thing necessarily, like my friend who's pregnant, she was like, really it's the only thing going on in my life right now, to be honest. So like, I feel like it's the main thing I would want to talk about because it's the

main thing going on in my life. But then all I feel like I can do then is moan. Like I'm like, yeah, it's fine. Everything hurts. I'm very tired. Feet. Yeah. Okay, dilemma two.

I've recently become a homeowner which has been a huge achievement of mine for many years I recently threw a small housewarming for a few of my close friends putting on quite a spread entertainment nibbles and a selection of cocktails all funded by me the only ask was anything outside of what I was putting on to drink please bring your own one very close friend who didn't get me a house swimming card or a gift at the time turned up with a bottle of wine which I assumed was a gift so I put it in the fridge. At the end of the night said friend took the unopened bottle out of my fridge and took it home with them. Am I in the wrong for being really disappointed in them? I'm quite a generous friend and never turn up empty-handed and put so much effort into making the night super cute

i understand things can be expensive so i want to give them the benefit of the doubt but i can't help but be disappointed girl advice please oh my god that's so rude yeah that's rude so fucking it's a bit embarrassing of the friend so stingy just to take that back yeah i need to be better though at bringing gifts to people's house like I've often recently been cooked meals by like friends and I just often don't bring anything

I actually leave and I'm embarrassed at my baby Barry always brings a bottle of champagne wherever we go it's different if you're going with a couple

but when I just go for a girls dinner you should probably still like it's a massive effort to cook something for dinner yeah yeah I would probably bring like wine

or at least we bring nibbles or a dessert no I'm awful I've done it twice and didn't bring anything. I actually feel sick. It's fine if like you also then you return the favour

by then hosting back. That's like then fine because it's like it goes around and comes around but don't take a gift and then take it back with you. No, that's outrageous. I'd rather you bring nothing

than fucking... Shall I tell you what Jamie does sometimes? What? He'll bring like champagne and like ice cold we'll have it in our fridge and then he'll be like, should we open the champagne?

I'm like, no, no, it's a fucking gift. And then the people are like, they've got their own like Prosecco or whatever and he's basically being like, I want to drink some shit

I want to drink the nice stuff. I know, oh my God. And then I'm like, no, no, it's a gift. Anyway, that's almost as well.

No, yeah. You need the people who are hosting to say, shall we open the champagne? Yeah. You can't suggest. suggest it's actually difficult because if it's like a bring your own alcoholy situations you're bringing it to enjoy with them that's different but on that dilemma she did say bring your own so maybe she was bringing it on her own maybe she shouldn't have taken it back but maybe she just hadn't thought to bring a gift i don't think it was a gift i think she was bringing it to drink.

She was bringing it to drink, but didn't drink it and take it back. But then it's like, well, you know what? It's embarrassing. If they put on this whole, she's put this whole spread on provided drinks and food and stuff. She should have just left it there. She should have. There's no two ways. She should have, but I do think if you're hosting, like you can't expect people to bring you gifts.

No, you can't. Like it's lovely if they do, but like you can't be people to bring you gifts like no you can't like it's lovely if they do but like you can't be annoyed if they don't I guess maybe if you say bring your own booze right and this girl's like why have you put the booze that I want to drink in the fridge yeah and you're serving me your stuff that I don't want to drink I just think she's taking then all the free alcohol and then taking her own booze back with her which is wrong yeah she's so in the wrong a couple came over to my house and we hosted them for the birthday dinner I paid for the whole birthday dinner it was like really nice and he bought some beers over for himself to drink I was like fair enough and um there was like two beers left in the fridge and he took them back home with him and I was like fucking how stingy

are you like yeah and also it wasn't a special beer I'm like you can literally get that on zap like Jesus Christ. I was really quite flabbergasted and I thought that was really quite rude. Because I was like, I have paid so much money for this. Yeah, leave a couple,

you know, four pounds worth of beer. I find that like really odd. I had champagne for us at the beginning, everything. And like, you took about two fucking beers with him afterwards. I was like,

leave that. No, I don't believe that. That's really, really odd. But people do, and people don't think it's wrong. You know,

it happens. They wouldn't think, they'd be like, oh, well, I'll take it back with me's really, really odd. But people do, and people don't think it's wrong. It happens. They wouldn't think. They'd be like, oh, well, I can't take it back with me. You're not going to drink it. Some people are like massive hoarders, though. They just wouldn't leave half a packet of cereal in a rental property. They'll pack it on the plane to take home. You know what I mean?

It's the giving that vibe where I'm like, just buy a new packet of cereal. I'm confused. I don't get why you're all taking the crumbs of the golden grails or at least just say oh my gosh don't know if

this is actually your vibe will you drink that if I leave it for you because if you won't drink it I'll just take

it back with me that's fine because you can always be like you know what no just take it back with you it's fine

at least they've offered whereas if you're like oh no I will drink that you definitely leave it then

I'll leave it for you anyway so I don't think you should say anything but just you know don't take a

fucking housewarming gift for her that's all I can say do the same thing to her I have certain people in my life I know anyway so I don't think you should say anything but just you know don't take a fucking housewarming gift for her yeah that's all I can say do the same thing to her I have certain people in my life I know who are really generous

and who are really tight yeah and you just know and my generous friends I'm more generous with them my tight friends probably a bit less so exactly

I'm really like getting anxiety so I know that I've been to two dinners at the same person's house and I what and you've taken something put it in the fridge and taken it back out

no but I didn't fucking bring a thing and there's a whole spread and I walk in and I'm just like chomping fridge and taken it back out no but I didn't fucking bring a thing and there's a whole spread and I walk in and I'm just like chomping on their Doritos I think that's I don't think that's as bad

why did I not say thank you so much I mean I must learn from my own mistake that's not as bad you know what you just host back when you've got your house

when I have my house you'll host and that'll be fine you'll return it in favour don't worry about it I won't sleep for weeks with this worrying thought of how bad of a friend I am

I honestly if I ever host I don't expect anyone to bring anything no you don't I think it's won't sleep for weeks with this worrying thought of how bad of a friend I am I honestly if I ever host I don't expect anyone to bring anything no you don't I think it's different when you're just having a girls dinner to having like

the men over it's like a dinner party often I always just bring shit and then like crisp and dip and stuff and they've already got all of our stuff

it's just annoying but you're just bringing stuff to say you brought stuff do you know what I mean yeah you're just you know what I'm gonna have a house and I'm gonna host

so many parties and just like fill them with food dilemma three so I have a friend let's call her Sarah and I'm really struggling with her behavior she had a rough breakup almost two years ago and cannot seem to move on from him however we have supported her through it gone above and beyond to distract her and keep her occupied but she's so ungrateful so rude to others so bitchy about friends. I got married almost a year ago and I'm literally due to have a baby any day

and she's made the comment at my baby shower that I'm living her life. Sorry. I don't know why it's gave me goose pimples. It's just like nasty. Oh my god,

this girl's giving me like murder vibes. Yeah, it's just like, I'm not a friend. I can't call everyone a murderer. She's a serial killer.

I think Emeril's a murderer. It's serial killer I think emeralds were murderers it's like it's literally like my head's going crazy someone red flag they're gonna kill you that's it she's killing me

she's a very jealous person and she portrays that when talking about friends and achievement and wins in life I've never been in a position where I don't want to be someone's friend

there's been times when we have chatted to her about her behaviour and she almost manipulates us into feeling like it's our fault it's the kind of friendship where you have to make yourself miserable to have anything in common with her oh god i'm about to be a first-time mom and i just don't want that negative energy in my life some of the other girls are taking a step back from her and i'm trying to but it's harder said than done what would you advise i honestly cannot have her

in my life anymore but i don't want to hurt her any advice at all I'm sorry but you just need to be strong now I just would absolutely get that woman out of my life there's no part of me that wants her you're living my life this woman literally sounds she's zapping the energy out of me that I wouldn't want that energy coming in I think if you weren't a mom and you were just like she's being a bit of a shitter like maybe you want to give her the benefit out she had this bad breakup like no no you and your baby in this lovely bubble get away negative girl and your baby takes your nervous system from the mom so if you're feeling like sad or anxious i didn't know that yeah i read that i was a tick tock no but it's no it's so true it's so true that's why it's like you always tell me about i literally thought you were kind of cookie telling no oh my god it's really important no wonder i'm an anxious wreck maybe mom was

really calm when i was in the belly yeah it also has something to do with the dad's sperm as well like if when they're well my dad's the calmest man you've ever met so anyway really if you really love her and you feel like you actually want to help her you could say look I love you so much but recently since this breakup I know it's been hard for you but you've been really quite negative just be really honest but it's been really hard to be around and like I don't want to distance myself from you but like I don't want to be around you I'm finding it hard because I feel drained sometimes and I don't feel like I can tell you good things that are happening to me because there's always something negative that comes I don't know just be honest but be aware

that that could also lead to the end of your friendship potentially but it sounds like you're going to go that way anyway and just cut her out feels like you want to cut her out I mean this is like a really coward's way out but you could just phase her out yeah I was thinking phase her out it's like don't reply if any of my friends hear this I'm not phasing you out. I just don't reply to anyone. But don't reply. Be busy when she wants to meet up and eventually she'll get the message. You've got the perfect excuse. You've got a baby, so you're occupied. You can phase her out for a good five months.

And then when five months has gone, you just don't start replying again. I honestly think people have a baby, they don't talk to you for five months anyway yeah but then I do think it's quite sad because that's gonna make her like downward spiral worse and like if you really love her I think you know I mean like it's difficult like right let's say that like you and Jamie broke up and I'm just a negative bit you just went to this negative headspace then all your friends pulled away because you're in a negative headspace because of your breakup that's gonna make you in more of aspace. Like, is it fair if everyone just pulls away and goes, no, you're negative? Like, I don't know.

I just feel like you're about to give birth, and that's why I feel like it's... I would probably just, you know, you've got one of two options. If you feel like it's going to go horribly and she's not going to take the news well, then I think protect your bubble for the time being. Yeah. And once you've had a baby, you can talk to her then,

and when you feel like you're in the right headspace. If you think that she'll be receptive and listen then sit her down and be like what melissa said look i love you but you're really not being pleasant to be around and like how can i help i want to be a good friend but like i'm pregnant and i really am enjoying my life and you're just literally i think you're right wait till after you've given birth i would just maybe like zone her out until then just Just really limit the interactions until you give birth. Because it's not so much skin off your back having the odd coffee with her for an hour. No, yeah.

And then you might feel better about it if you're really contemplating it. Because you've written into us that you obviously care about this girl a lot. I think it's nice to not completely neglect her. Because it sounds like you were good friends before. So I feel like it's easy just to be like yeah cut her out she's toxic but sometimes you really love a friend

and also some people go through shit times and then the closer you are you get the brunt of it because you know you're the closest person in their life yeah

exactly sometimes a pause is also just helpful yeah just like just use the baby as an excuse to be too busy just take a bit

just take a little bit you don't have to say anything and then you might see her in a few months time and be like do you know I've really missed her and she might be great she might bounce back thanks for sending that in and please actually let us know what you decide to do because I feel like we get this kind of dilemma quite a lot in a different kind of way like there's a toxic friend or there's a friend I really do so I feel like we should know what we're going to do about this because i'd love to have some wisdom we're gonna round it off there girls because we could just talk forever but the next time george will be on she'll have a baby oh my god that's so weird yeah she will literally be the tiniest oh my god she will be the tiniest tiny i'm gonna get

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