Wednesdays - 59. Melissa shares her saucy secret to keeping a long distance relationship spicy...

Episode Date: November 6, 2024

Heyyy Tinies, Sophie’s back from her epic 30th birthday trip to Morocco, and she’s spilling all the details from her adventure! Plus, Melissa’s got a little something for Sophie — and she’s giving it to her live on the pod!  🎁Then, the girls dive into the Unhinged Notes Challenge - sharing the wildest, most random notes on their phones. And since it’s gathering season, they’re also sharing their last Amazon purchases - and some are VERY bizarre!On the dilemma front, it’s all about keeping the spark alive! We’re chatting through a Tiny’s struggles with long-distance dirty talk now that she and her boyfriend are miles apart. Oh, and there’s another Tiny who's taking her friendship to a whole new level.Want More?! Check out our premium subscription The Follow Up - AD FREE, BONUS EPS and ALL the goss wednesdays.supercast.com/If you have a dilemma, any personal advice for another Tiny, or a follow up to a dilemma send to [e-mail], SLIDE into our DMs @wednesdayspodcast--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Producer & Editor: @ben_johnsAssistant Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathbone and Holly NewsonVideo editor: @jakeji.pVideo editor: @lizziemccarthySocial: @laurabcoughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help coming up on this week's episode of wednesdays I'm chatting all about my trip to Morocco to celebrate my 30th birthday and Melissa gives me a present to open on the podcast.

I'm so excited for you to see it, guys. We're also talking on the Unhinged Notes Challenge and revealing what we've written on our phones. On the Dilemmas, we're helping out a tiny

who's taken things up a notch with a long-time friend. But is this going to get in the way of a potential relationship with another guy? And the Dirty Talk Dilemmas keep on coming in. And this week, we're giving our advice on how a tiny can keep the spark alive as her relationship goes long distance. Enjoy the episode. Good morning, guys. Hello, friends. Did you see that thing? No. It's like women loved online shop because we are gatherers. And like back in the day, all we were made to do, we were built and made to just gather.

It's all about for the family. It's all about protection. It's all about making us feel needed. Us gathering for ourselves or other halves or whatever. I am a gatherer. So when I'm on Amazon, click, click, click, click, click, buying things that I probably don't need. But I'm gathering. But you're gathering for Toby because I'm just gathering for myself.

I gather for myself. Me, myself, and I. I gather for Toby. I gather for my brother. Sometimes I'll gather for you. I don't know. I just enjoy it. Yeah, you do.

You're a buyer. It's like I just love it. Like if I feel like someone needs something, I buy it. I get like a kick of like dopamine from that, which is really quite weird. Isn't that just being a shopaholic? No, it's a gatherer. So you're a gatherer and I am just selfish because I only buy for myself. You're not a gatherer.

No, no, no, no, no. Right, so if he's a gatherer, if you're going over, the deliveroo of like the otolenghi and the water and stuff will be like in abundance. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You're a gatherer. I'm a gatherer in ordering stuff as well. Like last night, Amazon order. Like every day there is an Amazon order.

And you know what? Sometimes it's not even about sometimes checking out. Apparently, it's just about the process of adding things to cart makes me feel better. And I'm like, it's so true. Should I give you my yesterday's order? Show me your order. Okay, let's go Amazon. I mean, honestly, guys, it's always the same.

Should I get mine up too? Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's so good. Right, this was yesterday's order, your orders. Okay, so I got Arriving Today by 10 p.m spot stickers okay yeah essential then i got um the z o cleansing exfoliating mask yeah because the spot stickers served them to me so i was like oh my god i forgot about those need to get those then this is a really fun one i got a derma roller make sure it's the right one that's not going to spike your skin. Yeah, Elle told me. And then I got an antiseptic spray to clean it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Then I also got Paula's Choice Exfoliant thing. I'm really going for it at the moment. She's really going in there with the skincare. Then I got Arta Cellular Hydration. It's another form of electrolytes, but I used to have it. It's really good. It's got maca powder in it, so it gives you a real spike of energy.

Then I got Slippery Elm Complex, which really helps the gut lining of your stomach. Sorry, Slippery Elm Complex. Slippery Elm. Slippery Elm. Get that down your gob, guys. Slippery Elm. Is this a powder? Is it a tablet?

You can get it in a powder. I get it in tablet form. It really helps with your gut lining. It's essentially like having bovine collagen. That vibe. This was all because I went on to buy Dandelion Clipper Tea. Well done. That's the best one. And that's all I went on to buy. And that'sipper tea. Well done. That's the best one.

And that's all I went on to buy. And that's what I ended up buying. Right. This is the cookies. The cookie adds things. It's unbelievable. It's really, really fine. Because it goes, you may like this.

And then boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. I'm off. Oh my God. Do you want to hear how random mine is? Yeah, I can't wait. Okay, right. Bamboo toilet roll. Because I get bamboo unbleached toilet roll.

Lovely. Which, by the way, is like a creamy color. It's not white because it's unbleached apparently much better for the vagina and the butthole apparently much better for the environment much better for everyone

because they're not using chemicals blah blah blah no I like that it's looking rastic it's quite chic we're going to go with chic yeah yeah yeah it's giving to them

right glass mixing bowls like a stack of them essential lovely TV wall mount I just fancied one of the ones

that come out like this. What? So you're going to mount that? You will never do that? No, no, no. I'll get an electrician to do it. When? Where's your TV right now?

Titanium cutting board. Oh, oh, oh. Two salt lamps. 18 quid each. What are they? A white salt lamp. They made a salt really good for the air apparently. Got some of those.

And then I ordered Charlie's Angels 2011 season one. Oh, I'm surprised. Wait, what? As a TV program. Charlie's Angels 2011 season one oh my god I'm surprised wait what as a TV program Charlie's Angels oh my god the TV program I thought it was just movies

no no there's a TV program which is really shit but yeah I used to watch it when I was younger and I was like you know

it's like I'm re-watching one of those things like a hungover vibe you know what I've started re-watching and I just wish wish wish you would do it

is Beverly Hills Royal Housewives and I thought oh god I'm just gonna give it a go because I'm like do it is Beverly Hills Royal Housewives. And I thought, oh God, I'm just going to give it a go because I'm like up to date with it all. And in my mind I thought Melissa can get into it because she thought it was so old fashioned. Put it on and I was like, it's brand new. I don't know what you're complaining about. Really, should I?

Beverly Hills, I'm in it within the first episode. It's way better than currently. Really? Yes. Just give a synopsis of what's been going on recently because we haven't recorded in two weeks guys. Because Sophie's been in Morocco. Gorgie pot. Okay, come on then. Just give a synopsis of what's been going on recently, because we haven't recorded in two weeks, guys. Because Sophie's been in Morocco. Gorgie pot. Guys, I went to Morocco, Marrakesh, for, well,

it was actually for Penny, Jamie's mum's 70th. And then it was my 30th out there. How funny you both had those big birthdays at the same time. Well, no, she's not until December. But we just celebrated it early. With the most amazing time time the weather was quite crap for like the first five days and then it became sunny

and I saw on your birthday it was sunny on my birthday and the night before it was sunny and then the best thing was on the night before my birthday we had this party

with like fire eaters and snakes oh fun yeah it was really cool and like drums and dances and then out come my mum and dad because I was so confused

I saw on the Instagram page to see your mum and dad and I was thinking fucking hell they're doing a holiday together and then I was like no it must have been a surprise they just flew out my mum and dad. Because I was so confused. I saw on the Instagram page, I see your mum and dad were there. And I was thinking, fucking hell, they're on a holiday together. And then I was like, no, it must have been a surprise. They just flew out. My mum flew out.

She was stuck in customs for four hours. She had to fly from England. I can't bear it. She's so precious. She's so cute. So they flew out and we all had a really lovely time. It was like a big family bonding moment. Oh, lovely.

Like, really nice. It's like the wedding all over again. So nice. You know what, it was probably like the night before the wedding when your family sit down and like kind of bond for a bit. Yeah, and I love Jamie's auntie and uncle. I haven't really ever got to know them. Is that Penny's brother?

Penny's brother. Ten out of ten. So because it was your birthday and I obviously haven't seen you, and also you had your birthday party, I couldn't go because I had the hen. I haven't given you a birthday present slash only got it last Sunday anyway, so didn't have it in front of you. I really don't like opening presents because don't you find it... No, no, I also quite death giving it to people watching them open it because it's like so pressure us.

I'd rather just be like, here you go, open it at home. Don't open it now. Yeah, no, the worst is when people are like, open the card and you have to sit and read this massive card. I haven't written you a card. Such a waste of paper, such a waste of like... But there is something in like a written note. I'm really bad at it. Sorry, I'm not good enough for me. I'm really bad at it myself I'm really bad at it myself.

But Toby's very good at it. And it is nice. Toby loves a handwritten. Anyway, let's just give her your present now. Ready, done, done, learn. Also, this is missing so many goodies. Oh my God, it's enormous. Which is so sad.

No, it's not that enormous. Oh, happy birthday. Happy? Oh my God. I hate watching people and I'm just walking like. But wait, it's not Celine. That's right, I'm looking at it. No, it's not.

I've just wrapped it in Celine to get your hopes up. I'm really weird like that. Imagine how toxic. It's an MS. No, but I thought you got me like a hamper. You told me you got me a hamper with loads of... I told you I got all these knickknacks. I don't know where they've gone and I was going to put them inside this. Oh my God, so this is actually it. I can't find the you got me a handful of blues. I told you I got all these knickknacks. I don't know where they've gone and I was going to put them inside this.

Oh my God, so this is actually it. I can't find the knickknacks. Oh, no, you're way too generous. Okay, I can't open that one. I can't open it. I don't know, that's not important. No, I can't bear it. It's also not as fancy as you think it's going to be.

I think I know what it is. Oh, fuck, do you already have it? No, I don't. What do you buy the girl that has everything? Sorry, that's the best present. How nice. Oh, no, I can't. How nice.

And you can buy yourself the rest of the set. I love you. I love you. I love you. Isn't that a good present? I was looking for a good present. And you're going to die. You're going to die.

Because my sister, not only do we have the small bag, my sister bought me the big satchel for my 30th. So I've now basically got the whole set. She's got the full set. Now she needs the pillow long. Oh, my God. That's honestly the best present ever. How good is it? Is this a makeup bag? Yeah. So now basically you've got the whole set. She's got the full set. Now she needs to pull along. Oh my god! That's honestly the best present ever. How good is it? Is this a makeup bag? Yeah. Well, whatever you want it to be. I just got the biggest

one because I was like, you have to watch it. You could have it as a clutch. For the listeners, explain what it is Vanessa. So it's a little wash bag from Celine in the same pattern that we have our matching bags in. They're canvas, which is like really more hard wearing and also actually I feel like

very reasonable for something that you think is going to be designer that is like the best present ever and something you would never ever

ever buy yourself oh I know I smashed it god guess what you're going to get me your birthday no but my birthday

is not big this is a 30th this is guys this is not something that we do birthdays we normally will get each other like a jumper

that's like 100 quid or something sometimes we just go out for a meal that's a seriously this is a 30 that we do. No. Birthdays, we normally will get each other like a jumper that's like 100 quid or something. Sometimes we just go out for a meal. That's a serious thing. This is the 30th. I think 25th, 30th. 25th? 25th's a big birthday.

Big, big, big birthday. Not in my world, it wasn't. Oh my God, in my world, it's huge. Me and my parents, we're like... I didn't get anything for my 25th birthday. 25 is massive. Is it? Yeah.

I feel the youngest I've ever felt. I'm going to say mine. Because I am now in the 30s era. I am now in the adult era and I'm the youngest of them all. I know and I'm going to be the old bitch. And you're the oldest of the 20s. You're going to be the MILF in the car park. And you're still hanging out with the youngsters and you're still able to go. Hey, what do you mean I'm still hanging out with the youngsters and you're still able to go hey

what do you mean I'm still hanging out with the youngsters hey that mouth moved in such an impressive way it was oh my god I was so thinking back no because you're still able to go to clubs it's weird for me to do that now I'm 30 but I'm the youngest of like my generation now whereas at 29 I was the oldest what do you mean your generation I just felt like I'm in a whole new generation you don't mean your generation I like I'm in a whole new generation you don't mean your generation I do

I'm in a whole new generation oh because you're 30 so you're the youngest of the 30s my whole yeah okay so someone that's 32 you're like

ha I'm only just 30 I'm just in it got you I thought you meant of like your year group I was like no you're on a year 29 I felt so fucking old

because I was like I'm the oldest you're cusping on the end of the 20s I'm cusping on it you felt like you were hanging on to your 20s absolutely so I think now every time we get 40 do you almost look at me in like a degrading way like oh you're so young I'm the oldest. You're cusping on the end of the 20s. I'm cusping on it. You felt like you were hanging on to your 20s. Absolutely.

So I think now, every time we get 40. Do you almost look at me in like a degrading way like, oh, you're so young. I'm in 20s. Like, I know so. Yeah, I know. Gosh, she's only 20-something. She's only 28. She doesn't know anything.

She doesn't know anything. I'm actually 27. I'm not going to age myself yet. Oh my God, you're only 27. You are really young. Do you feel old? Yeah. So there's this trend going around where you like screenshot something from your notes

and then like, I think you just show people. It's like an unhinged notes trend. Right. Anyway, so in my notes, I wrote down all these things from your head. First one is hard greens and a champagne, please. Oh my God, because that's my friend Lucia who said that. I am darling! Lucia Tibbet, shout out to you.

That is so funny you wrote that down. Why? Why did you write that down? Because it was funny. Does anyone need a detox tablet? And then you go, yeah, Jamie needs one. On your hand. I didn't.

No, I didn't. Deadly serious? You did. Deadly serious? Deadly serious. 10K is such a lovely round number. That's another one Lucia said, I'm sure. Sorry, what I'm dying at is that little Melissa sat on my head, noting down everyone's chat.

It's funny. I just thought it would be funny to look back on. Okay, right, you go. Your turn. Okay, right. My to-do list. That's all she's put on there. Get the nails done for today.

Okay, order Drunk Elephant Tanning, Lip Stain, stain raw fusion Pippa Campbell detox digestion pills Oz fake tan contour Ore Ostraco don't know what any of those mean oh my god

and then I don't know right okay I'll give you some more I love notes then I've got the list for all my things I've Dr. Kong Carly

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Vintage Account Spray Tan Tuesday Wednesday Send Izzy wedding present It's under the cabinet It's under the cabinet So you've written I've not still sent

My friend Izzy I've got her wedding present Shut the fuck up I know but She's got married over a year I know no no But I love you Izzy And if you're ever listening to this

I just want you to know Also not you sat here The other week going If you don't get me a wedding present, it's such bad form. Let me just tell you, Izzy is one of my oldest, greatest, bestest friends. And she was a rise and go team

and I was a rise and go team. So I hope it's forgiven. But there is a wedding present. I almost think it's more offensive that I forgot to give it to them then. So what I'm going to do is she's having a baby and I'm just going to be... You know what I mean.

You saved yourself there. Okay, Millie to read Zoe and Pooh sample. Zoe and Pooh. So Zoe to read Zoe and Pooh sample instructions. Zoe and Pooh? So Zoe, you know the Pooh sample that I had to do for Pippa Campbell. I can't read instructions like that. Like, I read it for half an hour and I was like... Right, can I just tell you what you have to do? You shit in the fish and chip tray.

I'm doing it Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Yeah. And sending it off Monday. Monday, well done, well done. Because you have to really time it. Yeah. It's a difficult one. Can I just give you one more thing on my notes?

Yeah. Because this is just a funny one. Think dirty, then blow it. Ginkgo. What's g difficult one. Can I just give you one more thing on my notes? Yeah. Because this is just a funny one. Think dirty, then blow it. Ginkgo. What's ginkgo? I don't know. I have thousands of notes.

Oh my God. None of them make sense. Also, you'll do a new note every single time you have a new thought. Oh, a hundred thousand. There must be thousands in there. Fuck me.

Okay, guys, we're getting into the dilemmas. Let me just take a sip. Right, ready? Dilemma one. I have recently started seeing a guy who i really like and it's going really well but i've done something which could throw it all off i have a friend from uni and for the past six years we have just been friends however last week we got very drunk and ended up sleeping together it was just sex absolutely nothing more and it never will be. We are still such good friends

and having sex hasn't changed anything or made it weird as our relationship is completely platonic. I could not shag a mate. Nor me. And be like,

nor me, ick, ick, ick, ick. Go back. Just couldn't do that. Unless they were like 10 out of 10 fit. Even then, I would probably fall in love.

She's going to fall in love. I disbelieve that that's the case. However, I don't know how or if I should bring this up to my new man I don't want to keep anything from him but I also don't want to make anything weird for no reason what should I do oh no right firstly they're not exclusive so it's me and Jamie right at the beginning yeah because you've been dating for what three weeks and then you accidentally shagged your BFF. Oopsie. I wouldn't tell. Yeah, I think take it to the grave.

I'm not being genuine. There's no point. There's no benefit. It's going to make him feel weird about your friendship. At this point, he's going to break up with you. It's a difficult one because technically he shouldn't, really. But then I'm like, would Toby break things up with me if I would just shag my best friend when we were sleeping together in those early three weeks? He would probably be like, well, that's one a bit gross.

And like, am I not good enough? Like, I just want to be shagging you. Why would you want to shag someone else? I don't know. No, I think more so the issue would be that you and that friend could then never be friends. Like, Jamie would be like, you can't be friends with that guy. I do kind of agree because once you've crossed that barrier, it's like, listen, you're not exclusive. It's early days.

He doesn't need to know for all you know, he's gone shagging a few people. Do you know what I mean? I get there's a complication with the fact that he is your best friend. You should probably maybe distance yourself slightly. But you don't want to create a scene because you don't want him to come crawling back

and then be like, we slept together that one time, now you're being weird. And then the boyfriend's like, what the fuck? I would just act like nothing changed. Like if you and the friend are still just normal, happy, go Larry. And it's not a big deal with you. Because some people can just have sex and it's normal for them.

And they wake up and they're so like, lol, that was funny. Then just carry on as normal. Don't tell the new boyfriend or the new guy that you're seeing. And just wipe it under the brush. Like nothing needs to be said. Sorry, can we just talk about Sophie's sayings? What did you say? Go Larry.

Go Larry. Happy as Larry. Instead of do Larry, Larry. Go Larry. Happy as Larry. Instead of do Larry, I think. No, happy as Larry. Happy as... Oh, and you just said to push it under the brush.

Wipe it under the brush. Wipe it under the brush. Wait, are they not saying? Wipe it under the rug. Brush it, brush it under the rug is what you're trying to say. Wipe it under the brush.

Wash it under the brush. Wash it under the brush and you're happy as Larry. Just keep going on in your life happy as Larry. Happy as Larry is definitely a saying, guys. No, you're right. Happy as Larry is.

But I said go Larry. Go Larry. I thought you were trying to say do Lally. Ah! Yeah, go Larry. Oh, God. And wash it under the rug. The old sputumism spot.

Oh, God. It's fully back. It's fully back. It never goes. It never goes. Right. That is a tricky one for you because you're morally very nice. And actually, what happens is us girls, we have sex with somebody and we're like, well,

I owe him everything. But the boy probably wouldn't. They wouldn't think like that. They would be like, we've only just got together for three weeks. It's not that deep. I really don't think for three weeks he'll give a shit. I think he will cause more harm and more insecurity potentially in him if you tell him there's no need for that.

I would make sure that probably you and your friend are on the same page. I'd be like, like look I'd appreciate it if we just kept under the rug like I don't want to lose our friendship love you so much we both agree

it's just a one time thing and I've also kind of like I've got going with this guy so can we just pretend that can never happen yeah I agree because you don't want that slipping out

when you're all going for drinks in like a few weeks he's like that one time when we slept together and you don't want the friends to be told

either no don't tell anyone else you've got to keep that but he's got to keep that shit locked down keep those lips sealed got to keep that shit locked down. Keep those lips sealed. Make sure you follow up. We're very intrigued by this one.

Send pictures of you in the new book. Oh my God, guys, we need more photographs. I'm a very visual person. And it will change advice. Genuinely. It would change advice if I saw photos. I can see chemistry in the photos, etc. Yeah, I can see auras.

I can see it all. I could see... So he's a tarot card reader.. I could see if the bathroom that you were getting with this, like, 10-10, it's going to change my opinion. But maybe then we shouldn't see photos. No, no, no. I just need to visualize, okay? I need to visualize. I need to see the full thing.

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You know, since we're both frustrated from not actually being able to have sex. But here's the issue. His responses are beyond tragic. No, I can't bear it. I'm over here putting in some serious work, crafting these saucy messages to keep things fun and flirty, and what do I get in return? Nice. Or if he's feeling extra generous, can't wait to see you.

What the fuck? Like, what? Is he not into me anymore? Am I suddenly unattractive? Now I'm sparring, wondering if we're going to lose all the heat in this long-distance stretch because he can't muster a little more effort. If he doesn't, even send a cheeky photo back.

Do you know how much work these photos take? No, I'm dying. He sends photos to him, and he just goes, nice. I'd be really fucking upset. By the way, I actually think I've been in this situation. So don't worry. We all have. How do I bring this up without sounding like I'm being demanding?

I just wanted a little playful. Back and forth to keep things hot. Is that unreasonable? Please help because right now it's feeling like I'm sexting Brickworm. Sometimes people aren't seasters and clearly that's the case here, but that's just beyond annoying. It's really annoying, but I definitely feel like there have been times in my life that I have sent photos to boyfriends and I've got a similar response.

Fucking hell, your photos obviously weren't saucy enough. I was like dagger in the heart. Like I get it. So don't worry. Sorry, it's actually just rude. It's just lack of manners. Lack of manners completely. Like have some fucking appreciation.

I've put on some nice underwear. I've done my makeup. I've taken hours posing. I've retaken this photo ten times. And all I can do is say, yeah, nice. What would I do? I would just not. I've retaken this photo ten times. And all I can say is, yeah, nice. No. What would I do? I would just not.

There's nothing you can do in this situation. You may be communicating. I would stop and see if he's like, where are my pictures? And you'd be like, well, I didn't really get much response. And I didn't really get, you know, the applause that I was like expecting. I would be really like thinking about big things. I would stop. I would stop. I'd probably air him for a bit. Like, I would be moody. Oh, here we go. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would not really like You'd definitely stop Thinking about big things I would stop I would stop

I'd probably air him for a bit Like I would be moody Oh here we go Yeah yeah yeah I would not be replying If I did a photo And they said nice back I would just be like

Okay well I will not speak to you For the rest of the day I'd be really annoyed I would be very annoyed I'd be really offended I'm not encouraging you To have an argument I would just literally

Stop sending them He will come calling back And be expecting them now And he'll be like Well where are they And if he doesn't Then you know he's getting it where he's at and he doesn't need your pictures i know that's another another element of concern i've got is like is he sending the photos back to you no that's what she wants nothing selfish well i mean does anyone like a date pic no but i mean it's the thought that counts like let's let's like make the effort

you know what i mean it's a two-way street stupid it's the thought that counts like let's like make the effort do you know what I mean absolutely it's a two way street absolutely it's so funny also he should be initiating it by sending you that and then you feel oh my god I don't want to be doing this but they're so desperate for one

right rather than like the fact you're going out of your way to do this which is so generous and nice of you like really and truly really trust me

you're a great girlfriend yeah you really are but can I also just say how hard is it for him to just be like oh oh my God, so fit, gorgeous, sexy gal. Unless he's like insecure or something. Maybe. He feels like he's punching above his weight. And when he sees you all naked and looking hot, he's like, oh my God, I'm not good enough for her.

So I've got to keep her on her toes. Let's just talk through what we're going to do when we next see him. I personally think long distance is really hard. You've got to be speaking to them on the phone all the fucking time for it not to be awkward. Agree. And like I have done long distance and like it didn't end well. Like it turned out he was actually cheating on me, which was fantastic. Was that similar to this?

Was he starting to send you weird messages? No, didn't get any signs over messages at all. Even worse. Even worse. At least this guy's like giving you some form of sign. We can take it in whatever way we want. But what you need to know is that you have not done anything. We can take it in whatever way we want. But what you need to know is that you have not done anything.

You are not unattractive. You are stunning. And the likelihood is that he's insecure at how stunning you are and he's just being a dick back. Or he's shagging some girl that he's met there, in which case, good riddance and off we go. Good riddance. Or, just putting it out there, he might have, you know, wanked already.

Oh, yes. And then his reaction is, yeah, nice. That's what I think it could be. Rather than, you know, he's done it before and he's given you some compliments, got himself really in the moody, moody, sexy time. Yeah. Actually, he's just come and gone, you know, they like lose their like… They don't reply and you're like, what?

And then that's because they've been doing that. That could be the case. Could be the case. There's a few things it could be. It's a real mystery, actually. Maybe he's in school with his dick. But surely you've shagged this guy and you know what his willy looks like. A hundred percent.

What's your preferred word for a willy? Dick. Dick. What's yours? Willy. Dick. Cock. No, cock's too aggressive for me.

Sometimes it's funny in the moment. Cock. Not the moment, not the sexual moment, but I'd be like, don't be such a cock, or like, get your cock out. Quite funny. Oh my God, no, I don't say that. Dude, you say that too.

I don't say that. You know who you just gave me the vibe of? You need to watch NYC, but that just was that chat. I'm so embarrassed for not saying that. That was so what? Get your cock out. It was what? Muffin's so funny on it, but she's like that. She's like chat that was so get your cock out it was what

Muffin Muffin's so funny on it but she's like that she's like come on get your cock out she's like Tristan she's like

come to my room or don't I like she's so abrasive I feel like every black person is a bit like that too okay so Melissa

says get your cock out to Tony no no I don't actually oh my god that's horrific but I probably have said that

peace I feel like oh my god like peace like your peace Is like quite a I literally call it dick Polite way of saying it

About someone else's Penis or dick Penis Forget about that word I love penis Pen 15 Penis is great Penis or dick

I'm not sure about willy It reminds me Because my friend Victoria Called her vagina a winky And we called our vaginas winky Winky is also a willy I know And so now I can't I don't know No no no That's not right We called it a winky and we called our vaginas winky. A winky is also a willy. I know. And so now I can't.

I don't know. No, no, no, no, that's not right. We called it a winky. Oh, fuck it up. But years until my sister was like, what? Why did you call that a winky? I was like, I don't know. That's the wrong.

Do you remember front bottom? Why was that something that we used to call it? Oh, my God. Because our mum. I know. I guess it was a polite way. Show me your front bottom. They weren't going to be like, show us your vagina.

Anyway, we're going too deep into this. Right. You're so right. Okay. So I think that that's our advice. Hold back on any more news. Yeah. Let him take control over this one.

Okay. Let him initiate the next sexy conversation. Let him send a dick pic. When I've ever been sexing somebody, I'm very good at it, but I'm sat in my pajamas with a sweat cream on. That's the truth of it. Oh my God. No, it's terrible, isn't it?

They have no idea I'm sat there with my mum next to me. Reply it. Sorry, I'm thinking of when I was like, you need... This is not current events.

Not current events. I don't think it's really a sexy thing you do with your husband. Maybe you do. I'm sorry. Right, let's just move on. If Toby and I

are away from each other, it always happens around Christmas, okay? But Christmas, we spend apart and we always are quite... We're good at sending pics. We make the effort, okay? But Christmas, we spend apart and we always are quite... We're good at sending pics. We make the effort, okay?

It keeps the relationship alive. They're really good at it. One year, we did a calendar for each other. No, you didn't explain. I'm done. We did a countdown

and it got, like, dirtier and we got, like, more and more... God, do you know what? Melissa really is just like a whole other person. A whole other person. Wait, so you started with the face, then you went to the tits,

then it was like navel, then it was like vagina. And the last one was a naked video. Merry Christmas. So what, you went... It was Merry Christmas. So wait, on number one, you were like, it's the first day of Christmas. Your eye. No, no, it was like me in a bra or something.

Oh, so it started. The bar was high when you started. I had to get creative towards the end of it. Did you start this or did he? I did, I think. But Toby's response is very well to a naked body. So wait, I need to understand. So you're just at home and you're like,

I'm going to do a Christmas calendar. I'm listening to this. I can't remember how we started as like a thing and how that like became, we were grudgingly going to every day send, I don't know. But it just did a thing and how that like became, we were gradually going to every day send, I don't know, but it just did. And he was also sending you dick pics. So what were his?

Because he's got his head and then his balls and his dick. It's more like body and then like Willie might be in it, boxes might be in it, that kind of vibe. So like steamy. Just steamy pics. In the mirror photos. Yes. Some selfies.

Right. You just have to get a bit creative with it. And it's always gone down quite swimmingly for me, if I'm being honest. I've always had great reactions. I wouldn't like that either for me or him. Like, I would just find the whole thing uncomfortable. But if you are into that, that is a really good idea. So basically, you've got to say to them, let's do a countdown.

And when we let's each other, every day we'd'd fucking I'd be out of the relationship in a day I'd be like right I'd rather break up than do this yeah I do have a bit of a dirty bone it's quite weird

doesn't it does that make you feel strange that you know me and I do that and you're so vocal about it I'm so private

I'm just trying to do it for the content of the pod but get a nice fancy bra apparently they are doing these wonderful bras in Intimacy Me at the moment they make your boobs look ten pod. But get a nice fancy bra. Apparently they are doing these wonderful bras in Intimis to Me at the moment.

They make your boobs look ten times bigger. What, like a push-up bra? It's like a push-up bra. Do you remember those ones from Victoria's Secret? Where the whole cut was virtually full of padding? Yeah. Intimis to Me are doing them now. Apparently really like a bit more classy vibe.

Wow. And I might go purchase. Wait, have you not got a push-up bra? No. I've had one for years. I don't have one. I don't have one. I'm going to go and get one.

I've got a lovely, like, it's not too black lacy. Yeah, classic. But it's not too pushy where I look like I've had, like, six implants. It just gives you the perfect amount of cleavage. I need to go and try the one and figure out what my size is. I'll come with you because I could do with the revamp. The lace is getting a bit ratty. Oh, no, because I've always been in the tumble dryer a few times.

Also, one thing I will say, matching underwear doesn't go amiss. Not too much, but just sexy, subtle matching. Looks like you've made an effort, you know, get your nails done on your feet. Nothing worse than like grubby toenails. Oh right, yeah, absolutely. Not that you're asking for sexual advice, but I'm just going down the rabbit hole now. Also like grubby fake tan, like let's not have like bad fake tan in the armpits

I've heard that every boy that we've spoken to a lot of them have said bad fake tan huge dick but guys that's really

neither here nor there do it for yourself you know what I mean but like fake tan let's all just try and not have really stripy fake tan okay dilemma three

I've been friends with my best friends since nursery. Throughout primary school and the start of secondary school, we were like sisters. But it's when we started dating that things got weird. She would always prioritize her boyfriends over her friends. Now she has a new boyfriend and our whole friend group was really happy for her because this seemed like more of a mature and healthy relationship.

Now to the actual problem. Me and my best friend are a part of a group of five girls who have been friends forever. I've recently moved into a flat with one of the girls and we're planning a house swimming party. All of the girls said they would come and locked in a date that everybody could make. Two weeks later, my best friend texts me to say that she won't be able to come as she's going to her boyfriend's birthday dinner, which was planned after our party. It's not even his actual birthday just a family dinner and she has dinner with his family every weekend. Because of those reasons I got really upset with her and said it shows that we have become her

second priority once again. She is now enraged that I would act so dramatic and has accused me of overreacting and being unfair. I got quite angry at this and also told her the same back. At first I felt proud for standing up for myself, but now I feel bad as I hate confrontation. Do you think I'm overreacting? Or is she just not respecting our friendship once again? Can't she go to the birthday meal and then go to the housewarming? That's what I do.

Like, what's the deal? Yeah, like, we can meet you parents in one night. Like, we can travel. I really get it, but those sort of things just don't bother me. Like, I'd be like, oh, you're fucking annoying, but I wouldn't care. Yeah.

Like Sophie's queuing at me for having my friend's head over her birthday. Oh, fucking annoying, but what can you do? Fucking annoying, but what can I do? You know what I mean? What can you do? Listen, you've got to like

just let her get on with it. I get that it's frustrating, but like you cannot change that categorically. And it's not worth falling out that big long friendship. Ultimately, like some friends do just put their boyfriends before you. And you just get on board with it.

I also think there is an age where that just becomes absolutely necessary. Like, your partner does take priority over your friends. Yeah. It's normal. But, like, I get that she probably could have said to her boyfriend, like, oh, we've actually got the housewarming that night. Or, like, I've really got to go. Like, could we do the birthday dinner on another night?

Or is it okay if I don't come because I've got something that I've promised to go to before? I mean, the fact of the matter is she hasn't done that. She's choosing her boyfriend. And you've just got to go with the flow. You fighting against that isn't going to make a difference. It's going to push her further away into her boyfriend being like, she's being so psycho because she had a housewarming.

I can just imagine it like I can imagine it and then the boyfriend's gonna think you're crazy and then I'll probably get spoken about at his birthday meeting with the family

like I would just leave it 100% as it is she might distance herself naturally from the group and just spend all her time

with her boyfriend her fucking problem okay yeah exactly they're gonna break up she's gonna come running back and either you can welcome her with open arms or you can be like bitch you didn't come to my housewarming you're dead to break up. She's going to come running back. And either you can welcome her with open arms, or you can be like,

bitch, you didn't come to my housewarming. You're dead to me. Yeah, let's not do that. No. No, I'm joking. She might stay with him, but in time she'll become less obsessed. She's obviously in that, like, really beginning stage

where, like, obsessed with the boyfriend. Every second is so important to spend with them. Exactly. And she's, like, really wanting to get to know the whole new family and stuff. Have fun. I do understand the frustration. Totally. Of, like, this br like this bros before hoes or like whatever the sayings are. I do think about things bigger than housewarming though, I've got to say.

It is. Housewarming to me is not that big of a deal. You obviously just clearly really want her there. If I were you, I'd be like, can you please come after with your boyfriend? You know what my impression of this housewarming is? I don't think it's a big party. It's just five of the girls all agreeing on a date to have dinner to like celebrate the fact they're in their new home. And then she's agreed to it.

Everyone's agreed to it. I'm thinking it's drinking, boys, everything. No. And then she's just gone, actually, Simon's got his birthday dinner with his family. So I'm going to have to go to that. Yeah, it's really annoying. Really fucking annoying. Fair enough if she was like, I really fucked up.

This dinner was in, but she should have just told her, this dinner was in the diary before. I didn't put it in my diary. Really fucking sorry. Like, it's almost like there's not much shame in her. If I was having a housewarming party, right, saying I'm moving into my new house, and then we've all got this dinner,

and you go, guys, you would be like, Soph, I've got to go for dinner with Toby and his family. I kind of would be like, yeah, I get it. I really would be. I'm sorry. Toby and his family. I kind of would be like, yeah, I get it. I really would be. I'm sorry. Toby and his family on his birthday over me and my house. It's not his actual birthday. But it's a birthday dinner with his family over a housewarming.

I do agree. I would be like, yeah, it's fine. I can just say that I can't go. I do get it. No, I would just be like, you can't come, no big deal. I really wouldn't care. I guess this has it is grating it's been a reoccurring thing so it's almost something that you're looking out for every

time that she rearranges a plan because you're like fuck sake another guy taking over from like my best friend and my time with her like yeah I guess where it's coming from it's not a one-off yeah so I do understand the frustration however this isn't the right reason to do it because it's quite valid on both of you I think you picked the wrong time to blow up on her because she's just going to be like it's her birthday meal it's with his family what am I meant to do

make a bad impression with the family which I would so understand but I get it it's like when she bells on you on like a random Wednesday when you've got a dinner because she's like oh we want to go to the cinema we want to stay in that's annoying but this is quite a valid reason. I hate to say it. I think that you probably should just apologise and be like,

look, it's coming from a place of like, I just miss you. Yes. I would love to spend some more time with you. I feel like he has taken priority recently and like maybe it has actually been for the right reasons, which is fine, I understand that. I'm just being sensitive because I miss you. Can we make another plan?

Exactly. I just want to make sure that we don't lose our friendship. I think that's fine to say. Just be honest. I mean, you've had the blowout now, so you're not going to lose anything by saying that. The minute you apologise when you're friends, it's like, oh my God, fine.

I just don't think you should carry on. Also, nothing bad's happened here. Like, nothing bad's happened. Nothing bad's happened. She's gone for dinner with her sweet boyfriend's parents. Exactly. And I'm also happy that you do like him and you're happy for her in this happened. Nothing bad's happened. She's gone for dinner with her sweet boyfriend's parents. Exactly. And I'm also happy that you do like him and you're happy for her in this situation

because that makes a big difference. Also, hopefully he can be involved in the group now. He can be coming along to things because unfortunately you also do get to a certain point where your relationship is morphed into you almost as being one person and you do a lot more things together. Like you kind of come as a package deal at a certain point. Do you know what I mean

I agree so maybe you should try and get closer to him as well because you might want to then see them together and for one family unit

exactly good luck though can you please tell us what happens please tell us what happens yeah guys that's the end of the episode I can't believe it

can't bear it that flew by that flew by you're leaving here with a a makeup bag heavier I'm leaving here with a makeup bag heavier. I'm leaving here with a really amazing makeup bag. And you guys, you listeners, are leaving here with Melissa's sexy tips.

Oh my God, stop. I'm really sorry if that really put you off me, guys. I fucking hate sometimes listening to people's sex lives. That's not sex lives. No, no, it is not. It's like an insight into your kinky mind. Oh. Your creative naughtiness, basically.

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