Wednesdays - 7: My Boyfriend CHEATED with our 40-year old colleague

Episode Date: November 8, 2023

It’s another Wednesday tinies and we are here for the gossip. Sophie and Melissa chat Kardashian drama, Taylor Swift and her new gorgeous boyfriend and… Tupac?! PLUS the tinies are going through it with their dilemmas this week. From getting ghosted after a dreamy month together in Italy, to a housemate seriously crossing the line with your boyfriend, and being cheated on with your 40 year-old married co-worker!Instagram / TikTok / YouTube: @wednesdayspodcastEmail: [e-mail]-Credits:Podcast Producer & Editor: @kat.milsomAdditional Producer: @jemimarathboneVideographer: @jamierg99Social Media: @thechampagencyAssistant Producer: @maiaadelia.docs Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa are you a doctor uh I want to be but I'm not I'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts at anything in fact we just chatted all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help I've cracked a few crystals in my life and I worry

bad luck bad omens what how do you know don't say that no but only do you know what ones I crack

tell me gua sha's the crystal ones I'm like snap bang crackle and pop they've got and they get the metal ones yeah from Face Gym

oh my god when I was going through airport security apparently it looks like a knife and they were like have you got a knife in there

and I was like no and they were like we can see a metal object and I was like god I know what it is and they eventually found it through

my makeup bag because my makeup bag was so like deep wait do you have the Face Gym one yeah it's so good it's the best one

and you can feel like it's really hygienic because you can really get in there with the soap i'm wearing the gouache i'm like oh can i use soap on it on like the crystal i'm like no yeah and it goes in the cracks your stuff i'm like whereas this is just metal you even put it in what dishwasher yeah you're so right and it's just really it's so good nothing's better i do it in the sauna and honestly we were getting coffee today and see if he today oh plump plump face I was like that's a really polite way of saying I'm really funny is it like you look very youthful like a plump face and plump is not the right word but it's like plumped up skin I'm taking

something called NMN right now well you're not telling me about this and it's meant to like stop you from aging not like in general like what is it a tablet form yeah so it's what hayley bieber and kendall jen and all these people get in like a drip form and then why have you not told me about i will send it to you and you can get it in supplement form which is obviously not strong with the drips like 500 quid a pop and i'm obviously like i'm not gonna do that um but yeah i got the supplements it's called from youth and earth or youth and earth you know those supplements that we used to buy i'm speaking a million miles an hour this is just complete i will send it to you but what does it do it's meant to just like basically stop that slow down

the aging process and keep your keep you making young cells within your body so even your organs will be younger technically this i don't know if this is the correct description but yeah what the hell with my name? My mind's blown. And how much was that? They're just the tablets. I think they were like 20 quid a pop. Maybe a bit more.

Oh my God, if I'm really feeling frisky, I might splash out on the actual drip. I know. I don't know how often those people get it. I reckon every once a week. Yeah, probably. Because people were saying like Hailey Bieber's skincare, I do believe she uses it, but she also gets these drips. That's why her face is so amazing.

Her skin is a lauder. Like glass. But wait, it has got better over the years. This is why. Yeah. I bet Kim Kardashian's banging all the day. Oh my God, they all have it. Yeah.

Speaking of the Kardashians, I watched the House of Kardashian. What? Have you watched it? No. The documentary? No. On the Kardashians exposing everything? No House of Kardashian. What? Have you watched it? No. The documentary? No. On the Kardashians exposing everything?

No. On Now TV? What? And the Kardashians refused to comment on it. What? And they're not pushing it. That's why no one's

really heard of it, but yeah. Why have you not told me this either? I told you this yesterday. I thought you said have you watched Kardashians?

I was like, It's the documentary. It's the new documentary. And it's filled with beans. So basically, it's all about how Kris Jenner basically curated this entire family. I think I've seen this.

It's been out for a while. I don't think so. Is it brand new? I think so. What the fuck? Yeah. Okay, go on. And basically, her and Kris, sorry, Kris and Kim basically planned the whole sex tape.

Like, leaked it, obviously, but had to make it look like it was leaked so that it was like almost like a publicity stunt but we know chris leaked it we've all i know but like it's almost quite legit because you have people comment people like it's it's actually really wild they leaked their sex tape but what other things um that the products that they were like selling and like pushing i don't know like they're just not that you never hear them standing up for like things in like society i don't know they're basically just like so powerful i need to watch the last episode i've only watched the first two and it's fucking good is it really because i have watched something called the kardashians i was a bit like on now tv snore well i don't know no no it's really good it's quite it's quite like it's

almost kind of in the style like documentary it like documentary, like random people talking? Yes. And who are the random people? People that are like, no, no, no, people that are close to them. What? So it'll be like Bruce Jenner's, like Robert Kardashian's, like best friend. Bruce Jenner's on it. Sorry, Caitlyn Jenner's on it. Caitlyn Jenner's on it?

But then it goes back to when he was Bruce and then he like speaks about their whole relationship. Yeah, so good. Wait, so he started it when he was Bruce and then they filmed it when he was Kate? No, but they go back to the date, obviously go back to the time when he was Bruce and like show like how him and Chris met, like their whole story of like how it all unfolded and how she basically launched his career back up and running and then they started making loads of money. She's a dynamite.

She's an amazing, amazing businesswoman. Like incredible. But like what? Credit where credit's due. Like how does She's an amazing, amazing businesswoman. Like, incredible. But like, credit where credit's due. Like, how does she do it? I don't know. Just really charming. Just like, born out of the womb like that.

Born out of the womb. Yeah. How is someone that hungry for it? Like, they are hungry for fame. Like, they just. I know. And they talk about this too, like how hungry Kim was for fame.

Yeah, but she's quite open about that. She owns it. She's like, I just want to be famous. Yeah. Like, she was literally. I want to be famous yeah like she was I want to be on a reality show it was like her thing when she was younger she even says it now as an adult like oh that was my dream far enough well she just wanted to be Paris Hilton didn't she and she said I've seen some documentaries maybe it is this where she like would follow

you see how she like learned how to be yes from being Paris so she went to go she was a stylist yeah so she went to go and organise her wardrobe, right? And her boyfriend at the time, Ray J, was like, take my Rolls Royce or take my Bentley so that when you turn up to that house, you look like you're on par with Paris and you make friends with her. So she did.

And then they, like, had things in common and then she stops going out to Paris and getting, like, into those, like, good social groups. Yeah, and she remembers the first time, like, the paparazzi. I have seen this. Like, I'll take a photo of her. Yeah, yeah and she was like she used to always be behind paris and then once they started taking once she came out of club alone they took a photo of her and she's like this is it now i'm rolling with it i don't know and she'd learned how to or maybe i

watched that from there's another one yeah i think it's from paris's thing and then did you see when she falls in love with kanye no okay right then right. Then the whole Kanye-Chris Humphries thing comes out at the end of the first husband. This sounds... It's so good. Like, orgasmic. I can't believe it. It's good education. Great education.

Don't go to school, just watch this. What other things have we got going on there? The Will Smith and Jada Smith. Oh my God! What the fuck is going on? They've been divorced for like 20 years! Shooketh! How did they keep that keep that secret how is there so many rumors about so many huge celebrities right where it's all like they're still trying to cover up these secrets like for example like the affair with um david and victoria right obviously that's all just kind of come out

officially but whatever there's still like a lot of rumors about that will smith and his wife they've been separated for or divorced for like years and no one's separated no one said a thing living in different houses actually when you go back you sort of that will went on oprah and he was like we don't have a conventional marriage like she you know she wants to do things but it's never alluded to the fact that they're separated but even now will's come out and been like well what's your surname it's smith you're still my wife like i don't know what to believe as she basically insinuated that tupac is pack is her soulmate i'm like i feel sad who's tupac tupac who's that no i don't like how it just comes up

with a tupac boxes when i type in it tupac i think i think I'm spelling it wrong. No, it's T-U-P-A-C. Oh, I've typed in Tupac images. I'm sad. Right, how do you spell this guy's name? It's T-U-P-A-C. I don't recognize him at all. At all. He looks quite legendary, though. He was legendary.

Like, look at that. Steamy. Wait, that's Tupac. That's the 90s thrown through, that is. I'm not being funny, but I think I actually don Wait that's Tupac That's the 90s Throwing through that I'm not being funny But I think I've actually Don't know who Tupac is

Why Tupac never died Oh my god So he died in the 90s That's why we don't know Who he is That's so fine Well yeah I was literally two years old

I was like Yeah One You weren't born You actually were born The year he died 1996 Yeah I was

Yeah give me a break, guys. Come on. Yeah, but he basically used to write to Jada when he was in prison, I think, being like, you're my soulmate. You know, I want to marry you. And she basically has come out being like, I didn't think Will was deep. Like, I don't know. She basically kind of, in my opinion, this is probably controversial.

I think she sounds like a bit of a bitch. Really? Sorry, I controversial. I think she sounds like a bit of a bitch. Really? Sorry, I do. You can have an opinion. I do. I think she sounds like she, like, bullies Will. I don't like it. It makes me feel uncomfy.

She, like, laughs about him. Like, oh, I didn't fancy the Prince of Bel-Air, like, fresh Prince of Bel-Air. Like, she puts him down. And I think, my opinion of it is that she's always been like you know they she wanted to be famous too she wanted to shout her and she basically was insinuating that she didn't want to work on like Fresh Prince Bella she wanted to do movies like yeah be a

serious actress she was deep and like well there's like and then obviously he's become this global superstar and she's just her resentment resentment resentment right and now she's like well fuck you it's my time to shine and she doesn't give a fuck what she's doing she's gonna tell all their dirty secrets so that her book goes whoop and she gets the fame now that's how i see it and that might be really cynical and dark on me but i just don't like it no that's bad form it's also she that's the father of her children. Father of her children. Sorry, he went up and slapped some guy around the face. Oh yeah, for her. I've got to remember that. And also she says her love language was she wanted to be protected.

So I'm like, you look to him like that. You know, the look she gave him when Chris Rock said that. So he went and slapped you. And then you were like, don't want anything to do with it. I got all the shit from it. I just feel like she emotionally like fucks with him and he's now saying he still will like worship her and that's really sad i love will i know what he did was wrong but i mean give the guy what do you do slapped chris rock but like now you sort of understand it yeah he bit on the rocks his wife wife was getting, and Chris and him have had beef for a long time.

Really? Yeah, and apparently Chris asked Jada out on a date. So Will was probably like, look, dude, don't. Yeah, leave my wife alone. Leave my wife alone. Well, at that point, they were actually already divorced, separated. Well, this is the thing. She's being like, I don't know why he said wife.

He hadn't called me for wife for 16 years. I'm like, well, probably because he's trying to support you. Oh, God. And like, be supportive. Yeah. You know, not a fan. I'm like, well, probably because he's trying to support you and like be supportive. You know, not a fan. I feel very uncomfortable listening to her things. It actually made me feel a bit dark when I listened to it because I just felt like she, that's her husband.

And even if it's not, she was like throwing him under the bus. When he could probably do the same to her, but yeah. He's not doing that. Travis Kelsey and Taylor Swift are official. I love him and I love her and I'm here for it. when he could probably do the same to her but yeah he's not doing that travis kelsey and taylor swift are official i love him and i love her and i'm here for it all the way not the nfl player i'm obsessed with her but i don't yeah but you watch nfl because jamie's obsessed i don't watch it but i just i know who these people are. No, I... It's very American. I watched Alice... What's her name?

Alex Arlen call her daddy girl. And they were talking about it. And then they were saying how Travis Kelsey was like their dream guy. So I then obviously naturally Googled him and was like... He's gorgeous. Yeah, very manly man. Like seven foot ten. Massive.

What a lovely couple. Real Housewives of Beverly Hills is back. I'm gagging at the seams gagging at the seams gagging at the seams i'm i need to get into it still we've had i'm now too far gone i think we're just gonna accept that in the relationship you're the only one that's gonna be into it no no no no no you're not gonna live until you watch it like you don't understand just start on like start when we lisa renner came in not a fan of she's so mean Lisa Renner yeah apparently she's like managed to wangle herself into like every fashion show humanly possible no one

understands why everyone's like how have you made yourself look so high-end when you're like I don't know she's become fashion icon yeah I just you're watching she's really really just like manipulative like she's scary She throws her friends under the bus. Also, can we just talk about the mouth? The lips? It's scary. Scary, but she does her real. What?

Yeah. Really? Yeah. Well, she had, look back at photos of her when she was young. She had stunning lips. And now they're like. And now they're even bigger. Yeah, but I think it's silicone in them

rather than filler because how are they stuck they never edge like they're never a bit bigger they're never a bit smaller they're always that exact right they've been that way for ages and silicone used to be what people used to put in there can you imagine having to get it surgically removed if you didn't oh my god what as in like an implant yeah Yeah. Oh, I see. That's what Katie Price had. Katie Price had a huge implant in her lip and she had to get it removed. Yeah. Right, should we move on to dilemmas? I'm having a bit of an issue. I went on holiday with some of my friends to Italy.

I ended up hooking up with one of the boys on the trip who I knew before the holiday but wasn't particularly close with. This ended up turning into a whole month of holiday romance and debauchery what is debauchery like naughtiness oh my god fun love it we were joined at the hip cooking together sleeping together and generally doing couple of things lovely we even went as far as saying we loved each other no that's a big deal you can't just throw that in there when you're like that's like when we were made in chelsea like i honestly thought i was in love with every single cast mate because you're in that weird bubble but what the

fuck you can't just throw that in there at the end of the sentence like i wasn't prepared for that and we say we love each other not the debauchery debauchery. Debauchery. I can't. Oh. Okay, right. I didn't think I wanted a relationship and I haven't let anything for the past year get serious, but I actually think I really like this guy and can see myself in a relationship with him. Okay. Hmm.

Okay. It's cute. However, he's now flown back to England and I'm still in Italy. It was an emotional goodbye and we exchanged a few messages the day he left but since then

nothing what boys I even double messaged him oh no but he read it and ignored it

it's been almost a week now and I really don't know what to think it's making me question the whole thing any advice

no no you've got to sack it off you need to you need you need to let it go because this to him was something completely different than what it was to you which is fucked up fucked up he's love-bombed you yeah I know that is what it is I think he fancied you and he was having the best time but it was but he always knew he was going yeah yeah and unfortunately you've got to play the game i know everyone's like just don't do that like you get to an age where you don't want to yeah but are you gonna get what you want if you don't it's true also like you can't also alter someone else's feelings if he's not feeling it that much he's not feeling

it that much and like he obviously didn't love you that's just it's a lie it's not right by any means and he's a dick for doing that oh i'm sorry i actually could fall in love with somebody after oh my god it's 100 i could fall in love with someone after a week for sure i think yeah yeah like if i spent a week with him i'm pretty sure my first weekend with jamie was like enough he was like i'm not no but surely you did can we talk about the fact that Sophie's like called on the

Daily Mail Jamie Lang stalker they call me they're like she finally got what she wanted Jamie Lang

stalker all of them she managed to get a ring on her she's like god that girl's been clucking away at him for years

I'm like what how have you got this information it's so funny sometimes i double think myself i'm like am i a historical i'm not joking i suddenly think oh my god why do people think because i definitely would have known him when i was like 16 i would have seen him on main chel Yeah. Slash watched it. So then I'm like, Oh my God, maybe, maybe it's him. She finally got what she wanted. Oh God. Shit,

that's actually really made me cry. Sorry, back to the dilemma. Yeah, I think that you've been love bombed and I so get where you've come from. So it's really, it's really hard.

I could come up a month in Italy with the, with the olive oil and the red wine. Also like the heat, like. So sexy. It's such a sexy I could go on a month in Italy with the olive oil and red wine. Also, like, the heat. So sexy. It's such a sexy, loving place. It really is.

So I completely appreciate it. I really cried. You really made me cry. I can appreciate why you are going to feel like that. What have you got to do? There's nothing you can do. We can't message him again. You've double messaged.

You've tried everything. He should be calling you every night i can't wait for you to get back making plans just thinking of what i would do in your sometimes sometimes i like to live in a bit of a fantasy and i would sort of revel in the pain that you're feeling in and it sounds really weird but you've got to sort of like feel you're in a movie this is how i get through pain like shit that I don't like I'd feel that I was in a movie I'd be like right we've fallen in love

he doesn't love me I'm back in the eye word then channel it into making myself feel amazing making literally so cameras on me I'd be like going to the gym I'd be calling my friends I'd be going out

getting my haircut eating well and then suddenly you're just in the groove the movie comes real and then you find the boy you want or yeah and you're only back also i think it will genuinely take you a week two two weeks to forget about your feelings because a month in the grand scheme of things is really

not a long time i do 100 believe you can get feelings in a month serious but you can get over them quite quickly too because it's only been a short period of time i really think that and it might be one of those things that you always fancy him you always like think about who he is but like you're gonna just revel in like the the situation like it's an exciting situation i'd revel in the excitement of it it's not a mundane life you're living right now and i also think you have to be realistic and sometimes you have to tell yourself hard truths and be like okay well maybe he just wasn't into it as i was and he did love for me a bit just gotta get over it now or you would do what i do and pretend that he is in love with you but you're like for some reason he couldn't he get really into i sound

a bit crazy but you know then he likes almost manifest shit and then it happens but we don't want to give her false hope i think sometimes we need to refer back to the film he's just not that into you do you know what i mean like sometimes it's just one of those situations where you have to just refer back to that film because I think we can as girls like tell each other oh it's because you're too pretty it's because he loved you too much and it's like no he just didn't like you enough you know I do believe he liked you and he fancied you but I think that him telling you that he loved you and all that stuff was a step too far and he shouldn't have done that it's wrong but I don't think it was true because otherwise you would be together right now. You cannot.

I would delete his number. Do not message him on any circumstances. Don't block him. Like, do not keep his number or like write it down. Like, there is no trace. And if he messages you, you'll be like. Sweet. Yeah.

I had to do that in my breakup. I just deleted the number. I didn't block because I didn't need to block. You thought it was an estate agent. Do you remember? Oh, God, yeah. That was quite early on. But then towards the end of it, I knew if I block. You thought it was an estate agent, do you remember? Oh God, yeah, that was quite early on. But then towards the end of it,

I knew if I ever was like messaged by an unknown number, like a message that wasn't saved, I was like, I knew it was going to be him. But I didn't save his number and I would always delete all the messages so that I would just never be tempted if I was drunk to like send something silly. Strong, powerful woman.

So just got rid of it, got rid of it, got rid of it. Best thing you can do. And if they message you, then it's a pleasant surprise. But you're not tempted and you physically can't do it you physically we we are banning you you cannot you double message him that's okay we park it and we move on he can also come calling back to you but yeah but you're an amazing person and just totally live in be the main character in your life i've just seen the second dilemma we've got photos i have just moved into my second year uni house my boyfriend goes into the same uni as me

but lives with the boys across the street. He gets on well with all my girlfriends in my house. A bit too well with one. For the story, we will call her Emily.

I love this show. This is upsetting me. I'm invested in the story. I'm very good friends with Emily but she seems to only talk to me about my boyfriend and talks to my boyfriend

more than she does to me emily needs to be sacked off she tells him secrets she doesn't tell anyone else and i find out through him what the fuck this is one of those weird bonding things that people do when they tell each other secrets this evening it was me her and my best friend chatting in the living room for context it's the first week back and my boyfriend isn't moving back until next week due to work she was talking about how excited she is that he that he's messaged her and that she cannot wait until he comes back late come back wait wait you're saying this to your friend that's the boyfriend i'm so excited he's messaged me i'm actually hideously i can't really believe what i'm saying last year it got to the point

that she would just invite herself to come with us. That should have been just the two of us. It was constant. I don't know if I'm overreacting as I know he has zero interest, but I really don't like how invested in him she is and how open she is chatting about how much she likes him to me. That is weird. What should I do?

Am I overreacting? Please help. I don't want to fall out with her, but I can't carry on with how this is. The first picture is of me and my boyfriend. The second picture is of Emily and my boyfriend when she has invited herself. Right.

I'm really sorry. Let me just have a zoom in here. I need to zoom in. No, your sweetness. Okay. Emily needs to maybe chill out. I don't think you could. I don't think you... I don't think you really need to worry in terms of...

I don't think you need to worry. I don't feel like he's injured. But I do think words need to be heard. I honestly just think it's more so like, can't your other friends be like, dude, you're being a bit weird. What the fuck are you doing? Yeah.

Like, I would not feel comfortable. Like, say... I can't say you because... No, imagine me. Imagine I'm in flight. If you were like, oh my God, I can't... no imagine me imagine I'm in blood if you were like oh my god I'm gonna come with you I don't know but I wouldn't mind if it was you I know what it means when it's someone different like there's an edge to certain things like there's an edge and you know they always have a bit of a thing for them and you're like what the fuck

I'd be like what and you can feel it no but I would be green-eyed monster and I wouldn't be able to hold I'm the same like I would just like one day I would either be drunk or no but I would be green-eyed monster and I won't be able to hold I'm the same like I would just like one day I would either be drunk or one day I would just be on the yeah snap I'd snap and just be such a you say that but you'll never like that and there has been there has been incidences and you're always so relaxed and he was like I don't care I'm like I'm angry for you I think that's because I know Jamie's so like oh yeah because jamie's also like what the fuck he also like doesn't even notice yeah because he's so yeah i feel like women read women so much we know we freaking we freaking know like there's no also the fact that

your boyfriend has come to you and been like she's telling me all these secrets no but that's the worst because he would have been like, oh my God, so and so, Emily's doing this. And she'd be like, how do you know that? She told me. I would be like. I think what maybe needs to happen is you need to say to your boyfriend, like, look, I actually have no problem with you guys being friends. But clearly she like, I don't know if she has a thing for you. No, no, no, you don't want to plant the seed. Because when you plant the seed, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's dangerous, dangerous.

Right. I almost think your other friends, as Sophie says, it's the perfect way you they need to be like what the fuck are you doing it's actually really weird i think yeah like why is no one else stepping in if you were doing that with somebody you would be like melissa you can't keep hanging out yeah like calling her you need to be calling the girl like i think it's weird when people like buddy up especially you're naturally originally my friend i'd be like why are you now benefit i'd also be jealous of our friendship i'd be like you're my friend yeah yeah why are you like bumming my boyfriend i'd be like don't be telling him the secrets you need to be telling me it's also the weird thing i was like

oh my god i'm so excited she's text me no that's really odd that's like she's forgotten that he's his girlfriend she's literally just love his lip how much she loves him it's really odd that's like she's forgotten that he's his girlfriend and she's literally just love his lip how much she loves him it's really odd it's really bizarre I really feel for you but you have to hold your head high the less

I'm afraid the less you react in this situation the better you're going to come across and like he until he seems to do anything

inappropriate which he's not he would never do that I don't think I don't think he's into it at all I also think there's no harm

in you being like do you have some overrun or something it's fucking weird like just make a bit of a joke about it be like why do you keep talking about him like do you fancy him or something oh i just be like my god you're obsessed with so and so like i wouldn't say fancy because then back your back's against the wall but i'd be like you're obsessed with him like oh like do you prefer him to me like it's plant the seed like Like, it's obvious what you're doing. I would be more passive aggressive. I think if it goes on and on and on, I'd be like, God, you're literally obsessed. Like, can you not? It's like a bit weird, actually.

Like, you being like, oh, it's like he's messaged me. Like, what does that mean? It's really weird. Do you know who you're saying that to? Yeah. Sorry, Emily. Piss off. If Emily said that to me.

I'm picturing Emily Champion now saying it. Bless Emily. If Emily said that to me I'm picturing Emily champion now saying it bless Emily if Emily said that to me I'd be like sorry what did you say you're talking about jeez it's just really lame I'd be like are you saying I'm like picturing I'm getting agitated I know I'm annoyed for you but I think as we said you just the less we react the better unless something again quite outrageous you said like I'm excited for him to message me, you can be like, what the fuck? And also, I think if she's coming on, like, the double dates, you can be like, well, yeah, she kind of wanted to be alone. Like, this is a date night.

I would just say he's taking me on a date every time you go out. You're like, we're going... Oh, my God, but what if she, like, messages him, like, can I come and he's like, yeah. He would then get angry with him. He cannot be doing that. I would make it very apparent every time.

Not like, we're popping out to wherever. I'd be like, we're going to have some alone time. You don't even need to tell her. Bye, I'll be back later. Leave the house. I'm picturing Emily scurrying in the backseat. Don't forget me. It's super weird, right?

Super weird. She's very like... I would also maybe... You must be very nice that she feels she can even behave this way in front of you I also feel like maybe this is realming into like bitchiness which which is not nice but I would maybe confide in one of your other friends that live in the house that she's done it around and be like I feel a little bit I don't know if I'm how I'm supposed to feel about this it's kind of making me feel about uncomfortable I don't know if I'm being silly

like have you noticed things being said? And then see what they have to say. And if they've noticed it, be like, look, if something else is said again, do you mind like maybe having my back or something? Because I don't want to be mean to her, but I feel like if she realizes

that she's saying something. Your boyfriend should also slowly, but slowly like just chill out. Like he shouldn't be replying to her all the time. And he shouldn't be texting her being like, I'm on my way to uni next week. Like just stop make her know

it's not right I agree I love like your friends being friends with your boyfriend but she's weirding me out if Jamie was to message me like just on my way

back to uni that's like I don't know if like we landed I don't know it's different with you maybe he's not as innocent as we think

there's a whole other side to this story I think we need some more information please follow up with us. Follow up. I also love the photos. I'm weirded out that they like,

she was like, my turn to have a photo with him now. It's like you're in a fable. Yeah. It's not right. It's not right. I smell a fish. You need to.

I smell a rat. Dilemmatic. Three. My boyfriend and I met at work and have been together for four years we're both 25 and work in the same office stunning so they they met when they turned up gorgeous we spoke about our future and last year made the exciting decision to buy a house exciting in December last year we got the keys and also adopted a dash to a dash family complete i love you cut to a month later i start to notice a change in his behavior oh no what was once an open and trusting partner had changed into a hiding his bones spending long periods in the bathroom wanking in the bathroom also make messages why would you do that in the bathroom because she can't go in he's locked the door no if jamie

locked the door to the bathroom i'd be like what's going on i'd be like open up um spending long times in the bathroom disappearing around me sorry cheater after weeks of hiding his phone i had had enough i asked him let's watch some tiktoks on your phone he made an excuse and left the room and came back with it on do not disturb sass i actually have goosebumps i genuinely i cannot also just saying like this scares me about buying a house to someone so much i hear so many fucking stories about this sort of shit unless there's a ring on it i'm not buying a house with you like fucking terrifying terrifying I'm not buying a house with you. Like, fucking terrifying. Terrifying. Terrifying. Because I think about buying a house, you become really... I think it freaks a bloke out sometimes, or like, even the girl.

They're like, I'm locked in with money. They're like, oh my god, no. More so than a ring, I think. Yeah. And then it's, I think it's a much bigger deal than a ring. Much bigger. Yeah, way bigger deal. Putting all your money into a pot together, and then it's locked there.

Alright, don't freak me out. Sorry. You're already married. You're fine. I'm suddenly getting goosebumps he's gonna start locking the bathroom door sorry it really scares me I feel like we've had

a lot of like dilemmas about this and it's like really put me off the next day he said he was going out with the boys that evening and I took my chance

to snoop I know it wasn't right but thank god I checked I can't I opened his laptop which was connected with his iMessage and discovered pages

of sexual and flirty messages with another woman. No, I've got goosebumps. After reading into them further, I realized who they were from. Let's call her Sarah. The 40-year-old married secretary at the place we work at with a child Who we've spent time together

Sarah you little snake The texts were explicit And spoke about their future together No I really actually feel like I might vomit The texts were explicit and spoke about their future together Alongside her daughter and him becoming a stepdad What the actual fuck I'm furious

Oh my god no I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't. They had even created a share playlist on Spotify and when I looked on his laptop I could see it was being played currently and therefore they were clearly together. No, you look like you're about to cry. This is so messed up.

I feel really upset. This makes me have like no faith in love when I read shit like this. And I also feel physically a bit pukey at my stomach. I'm so, I'm honestly, this is awful for you. I'm so fucking sorry. I confronted him with evidence and he crumbled nothing to say. I kicked him out of the house and told him it was over. However, I have to see.

Oh shit, you have to see them every day. However, I have to see both of them every day at work. I've got goosebumps, which is horrendous. And they're all over each other. Sorry, I have some decorum. Oh my God, so he's just moved on, like, sweet. Like, you've almost done me a favour by breaking up with me. This woman looked me in the eye for months

while she was having an affair with my boyfriend, and now we all have to work together. Any advice? Okay, right, first of all... I would move. I would move jobs. I would move jobs. And I would tell the HR. Oh, go straight to HR.

That's not right. You shouldn't be living in... Also... Sorry, that's a situation... It will not last. He's 25,. You shouldn't be living it. Also, it will not last. He's 25 and she's 40 with a child. I feel like this is

an exciting romance in the office for them that felt very naughty and it's not going to last. It will end in absolute tears. I agree. He's been completely

and utterly sweeped off his face by what he thinks is some cooler woman. Yeah. Elder woman. Elder woman than him, yeah. I just, I'm honestly so shocked for you.

I really am upset by this. We need to get into more like advice, because I feel like I'm shooketh from the information I've just absorbed. Sell the house. Get that house on the market. Move in with your girlfriends. You are very young still

so young you have got so much time to be single and have fun and party and find another bloke you don't even need to worry about finding another bloke yet you've got fucking ages you're so young be single and put yourself moving with your girlfriends move in with you know someone have some fun get so first of all get that house in the market do it without he needs he's out the house you do not need to ask him for permission for anything he's fucked up yeah you take control now it's nothing to do with him he's gone as far as you know he's dead to you yeah get that house sold would be my advice i know that's easier said than done but stop process try and move jobs action makes you feel good you'll get satisfied by even getting it on the market totally try and

move jobs that would be the next step i know easier said than done but i reckon i would tell hr and be like you need to move me or you need to fire one of them or you need to talk to them they can't be that's that's actually on hr that's all i totally agree with that so all those three points i think is your main port of call obviously you're going to be heartbroken but i do i get the impression that you're incredibly strong and like same same so i think that you will be fine and just spend as much time with your girlfriends as possible and try and have keep busy being single and like you've got enough stuff to focus on I feel like to distract you right take like the strength back and use like the strength and the pain to like make drive you forward rather than lingering in it like use it as like right

i'm gonna fucking sell the house i'm gonna sort you take that dash down and you get yourself into a lovely house some girls yeah and he you know also he's 25 he's got a kid now yeah yeah whilst you're still in that office as well get some gorgeous swanky outfits make yourself feel a million bucks make yourself a million bucks whether that be whatever it is whatever makes you feel good and you go in there you know get a blow dry walk into that office and be like get some gorgeous perfume on oh yeah get your sass back your sass because you're a boss bitch back to feeling like you want to walk in and feel like fuck yeah i look good today i feel good fuck you You don't need that shit. I'm taking control. I'm getting rid of the house.

I'm keeping the dog. I'm going to move jobs. You two have a great future together. Let's have fun. Yeah. Looking after the child. He's actually done you a favor. You did not want to have this happen to you,

you know, another five years down the line. Thank God. He's a weak, weak human being. Also, you'll learn a lot of lessons from this. It's like,

it's really hard when you're like it's going so beautifully and five years is a long four years is a long time to be with someone for them to betray you like that like and out of nowhere really but it does happen it's it's affairs are like that you just meet somebody surely they had to be correct he's weak he's weak he's weak and you know you don't deserve that shit you don't you want a strong loyal person you are enough on your own you don't need anyone to make you feel better you can make yourself feel great all on your own and if you meet someone who adds that and boosts you even more that's a bonus so don't think you need anyone else to fill that cup up for you 100 you got this girl you got this we're really we're rooting please update us

please update us i need to follow up on this in me saying i want sneaky photos of them in the office yeah the fact they're allowed to be all over each other in the office kind of blowing my mind slightly that's why hr definitely need to be involved don't feel embarrassed about it like that's just like you can't fulfill your job. Yeah. Because surely that's just not right. You're going to be distracted. Surely that's what HR feel, right?

Mm-hmm. I thought I'd share a little story time that happened to me not too long ago as it haunts me every day and I feel like it would be something you girls would appreciate. To set the scene, I'm 23 years old. it's shortly after the first lockdown has ended and I've realised I need to think about finding a proper job and embarking on a career.

Day in, day out, I'm smashing through job applications and eventually get an interview working in a lab in the NHS. Lots of responsibility and a great opportunity. I punctually dial into the call and I'm waiting for about 10 minutes. Eventually the interviewer starts the call and I introduce myself formally and greet the panel in an enthusiastic manner. The lead interviewee thanks me for confirming who I am and says I have an interesting name. Saved on my Zoom. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

Puzzled further, I look at the top of my screen and to my horror, I met with the word slut. I quickly realized that one of my many Zoom quizzes, one with my friends during lockdown, had given me the silly nickname and I hadn't removed mine. Oh my God, that's so embarrassing. So she wasn't allowed into the Zoom call because they were like, obviously her name's slut. Like, we're not, it's obviously the wrong person.

Like, what the? I was then forced to struggle through a 30 minute interview convinced there was no way no chance i'd get the job and would certainly be the topical conversation amongst his colleagues the next day to my surprise the next day i receive a call informing me i got the job as i showed a huge amount of resilience i think the competition must have been terrible that's really good they probably thought you know what she was set back in the beginning but she powered on through

yeah she got through it resilience is key right we love you guys that's the end of this episode bye guys love you so much that's it for this week Wednesdays but god don't you just fancy some more melissa

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