Wednesdays - 88: Answering your festival dilemmas & Melissa’s Christmas Party Fantasy

Episode Date: December 21, 2022

Inviting your ex to xmas?! To spend NYE with best friend or boyfriend? Today we’re answering your festival dilemmas!We’re drinking a Sainsbury’s Prosecco!https://www.vivino.com/GB/en/sainsbury-s-conegliano-prosecco-superiore-brut/w/1616310?year=2021 Sophie Rating: 6Melissa Rating: 6 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help yum yum yum yum yum it feels like we should have we normally have music in the background but we definitely don't what oh my god i would love to just have some like christmas jingles just going throughout this whole episode i keep playing christmas jingles do you yeah tell me what the playlist is i've gone for the michael buble i just do christmas music amza what's she called alexa yeah okay alexa play christmas. And she just does it. Sometimes there's random ones that I've never heard before. Oh, what new, like, new Christmassy songs?

What's your favourite Christmas song? Just touch on this quickly. Michael Bublé. Really? Yeah. Which one is it? I don't know, he sings loads. Yeah, give me one of them.

The one that I put on my Instagram today. White Christmas? Mm-mm. Oh, I don't know. Mine's Chris Rea driving home for christmas that's driving home for christmas it's actually a nice song it's not too christmassy i kind of like the scrooges one what's it called yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah what is that what is that one i know the one you mean yeah i quite like that is a good one too but loads of people hate that one really it's an

annoying one what's the one really it's an annoying one what's the one where it's like the michael mcintyre takes a piss out and he's like oh so this is that that is that it's the same song it's the same song isn't it yeah oh my god it's so stupid you look like a little elf with that sparkly little hat so i tried to put on this sequin hat but my head is far too big for it oh that's actually guys we're drinking a mini bottle of prosecco yeah we wanted champagne but we went to the shop sophie's already had two glasses of prosecco at lunch have you yeah i know oh my god did you hear that that was one of those weird like throat like burp things like yeah but the bubble in the throat horrible stuff that was oh anyway this is a really nice it's not as bad as i thought it was

gonna be because we've got a miniature bottle yeah it's called cornelli now from sainsbury's basically it's a prosecco from sainsbury's and we got a tiny little one brute because we like dry we hate secco 2021 20 cl just enough two glasses 10.5 volt nothing oh it's basically like a water basically a glass of water rehydration right let's get down and dirty how's things been okay so guys yesterday i think actually not in the context this wasn't yesterday was it was the was the day before we had the boys on. Oh yeah, drama happened. Big dramas. No, but it got really deep.

It was really surprising. It did. Like a different turn that I wouldn't expect. I was really proud of Toby, actually. He just really just told the whole story from just how it was for him. I have the weirdest taste in my mouth, I've ever. Yeah. I've just had mango and Prosecco.

That's quite odd. I think it is Prosecco. That's why I had a lunch. You know that horrible champagne mouth. Prosecco like no yeah champagne what is it about champagne and prosecco it like dries your mouth what the hell does it do that's like like no other alcohol i've ever experienced in my life nothing else um the 11th of december which thank god is now past is the most common day i do be broken up with i would be like clinging on for dear life i'll be like january i'll dump you you know what i mean but then it gets to valentine's

day and they're like oh maybe i'll hang on for that this is how relationships drag out so 11th december is probably like got it now but no mine would be november why the 11th that's rogue who made up that fact what a weird fact what are the stats for that anyway high five to us for this lasting theory yeah we've lasted guys also no breakup harry and megan documentary okay so we both watched it what what are your thoughts i um i'm gonna say something a bit controversial here i don't hate megan in it there's one part of it the curtsying thing that so rude you're taking this out like so disrespectful i would have understood it if she was like it was obviously so overwhelming and like i had to like meet my boyfriend's parents the first time and then curtsy to the grandma like what the fuck

is that about like that's not also it's not true that you googled how to curtsy you obviously would have had someone there tell you yeah and you would have also had a stylist like things like that bothered me you know i'm just and it was just the way she took the piss out of harry's face was like you know what you're doing i can't if they left i thought i thought harry came across so bad same i actually and i actually did like her apart from that one section i liked her and i was like you know what i don't know she's just so in love and i was like i do feel like she's also really alpha and a really strong female you know so strong what did you think i was the same like i i can see i the curtsy really upset me i thought it was quite disrespectful and i didn't i also just felt bad in like lots of ways but i could see part of her point it's

a really controversial topic and look i'm a massive fan of the monarchy although i will say i don't like the crown this year this i haven't seen it don't tell me don't like it not a fan can't watch it i literally turn it off i try and get i actually haven't heard anyone talking about the crown this time it's had really bad reviews yeah yeah because the last the last season was phenomenal phenomenal it really was diana's not in it much oh that's a shame we're all watching it for that reason i know i know it's just maybe it's just not as great yeah there's just something missing the queen i love her but i'm just like you're not olivia coleman was much more she was great yeah she was fab i loved the first the first one though the first two oh yeah i and i loved um thatcher in the oh my god what's her name what's that lovely actress

she's jillian jillian anderson she is 10 out of 10 oh she's a wonderful woman this is lovely we've got some of you guys have written some funny things about the fact that we you know we obviously spoke about in the last podcast about leaving family group chats oh nice trainers leaving family group chats quite awkward when you break up with someone you just get kicked out the group chat or you have to leave awkwardly and it's just one of those things so someone's written something quite jokes guys this is anonymous as i just broke up with my boyfriend and this is what happened i don't even know how to blank out names but it is woeful so basically this girl had a was in her boyfriend's family chat and she broke up with him he left then his mum removed everyone and i was left the admin of my ex-boyfriend's family whatsapp group so like

look she's actually sent us a really joked picture and it's like yesterday and it's like she created the chat though that's almost quite cringe you know what i mean that's me creating a chat with all of jamie's family no no she didn't no she did she was the admin no she wasn't you are now admin because everyone else left the chat so she's like the point is like now i'm the admin of my ex's so like yeah so the boy ex-boyfriend left then the mum was obviously the admin of the chat then removed the rest of the family members just leaving her on it that is really awkward mine was not as jokes as that i just was gonna i can't leave you left i would have just muted it i wouldn't have ever been able to leave no but they were having conversations i still would have just say weeks later and it's just no that's too

awkward that means they'll then be like shit she's on it she hasn't left why is she staying to be fair though i was still on like i can't even talk about it no you have to go on tell us i was in um one of i was in toby's future sister-in-law's group chat for her hen party which is like it's not like it's not like an enormous abroad hen but it's like a lovely hen like thing that i was invited to which is so sweet and people were writing on it the next day and i messaged her like i don't want to like seem hostile but obviously we're not together anymore and i need to remove myself because it's just like a bit painful and it's like too awkward so i hope you don't mind

but i'm just gonna remove myself from the chat she's not even on it but i had to just like say like i'm gonna do this oh she's not well obviously not because it's but then i didn't want her friends to then be like yeah. Melissa's just hostile. She's just removed herself from the chat or left the chat. Yeah, just Melissa. So I had to just. It is quite a rogue thing. You can never like pre-warn people.

It's just Melissa's left the chat. And you're not going to be like, you can't write, guys, I'm going to leave now. Like it's just too much. You'd rather just get out. Get out of the room. There, there, there, there, there. Okay, we've got some festive dilemmas for you guys what a lovely we've got some shriek okay so one yeah a little short one not sure if i should spend new year's eve with my boyfriend or

best friends i would do best friend i would do boyfriend i would do best friend i just what but like it depends kiss i know but like i kind of think well for me i would rather do it my best friends i would love for toby to be there with me and my best friends no i would not rather be with him and his friends and then me not be with mine that's one do you know what i mean wait what are you doing for this i'm actually in bad as f news even my family's coming out no? He's got his cousin's wedding. Oh, it's true. It's true.

It's true. God, a wedding on New Year's Eve is so fun. He would have been invited to do that. Fine. And that is normally where I always spend New Year's Eve is in Val d'Azef. So. Okay, fine. Yeah, that'll be fun.

Yeah. Okay, so we're torn on this one. You say best friends. I say boyfriend. Or both if you can combine them. That's the sweet spot. If you can combine them, just try and do that. I personally, New Year's Eve for me is like a boyfriend time

like it's a real like you bring in the New Year together oh yeah okay to text my ex happy Christmas or not no

big fat no big fat stonking no no like imagine you texting it's like the same as going

happy birthday happy birthday happy birthday is actually more acceptable I think yeah happy Christmas is weird happymas is weird also happy new year's eve is quite weird happy new year's eve is like i'm thinking of you yeah yeah that's like weird no no no no no no no big bad no unless you want to get back with them then go for it so agree and i think it also depends on the situation if it's like a new ish breakup but

you guys actually on really good terms. Let's say it's been three full months. You guys are on great terms. You've seen them a few times out, whatever. And if you're not getting with someone else, if you've got a boyfriend or something, that's highly unacceptable. You just go, happy Christmas.

Or even if it's on a group chat, happy Christmas, guys. Love you so much. Not so bad. Group chat's so fine, but you can't pass it. I do agree. I just think it's a bit weird unless you want to get back with them that to me it's like if i got a text from my ex being like happy new

year i'd be like oh he loves me i know i would think that it's true because it's like you're thinking i say happy christmas to like my best friends but that's it i'd never say it to an ex yeah okay we've confirmed that. Yeah. No. No. No, no. Did you do the first one? It's a long one. Oh, God, I'm not in. Oh, and it's a festive one. Love it. Okay.

I would really appreciate your advice as I feel like I'm in a sticky situation. So me and my boyfriend have been together for five months officially, but have been together for a year, but we broke up from Jan to May. Similar to Melissa's gothic phase. Lol. I was devastated when we broke up from jan to may similar to melissa's gothic phase lol i was devastated when we broke up and was over the moon when we got back together as that's all i'd been

wanting however it's really not what i'd hoped we get along really well and i love his family have been on some holidays and have a lot of christmas plans like the theater christmas lights christmas eve and christmas day and then we have new year's eve skiing book so it's a lot of things to cancel wow oh god but i just don't feel the spark isn't there anymore i want more from a relationship fuck we've had a tough time the last few months but we've had multiple conversations saying we want to make it work and that he will put in the effort however he isn't doing so and it's just not enough for me he doesn't make me feel special it feels like he really couldn't care less sometimes and he hasn't even told me he loves me what what i'm really stuck on what to do as we often have all these fun plans coming up and it would be really shit

to break up during the festive period but i just feel as though i am unhappy and i can feel myself losing interest we don't have the same connection anymore so it's hard to come into terms with that and letting him go do i bite the bullet and break up with him now and cancel all of our plans or do i deal with this in january i don't know i don't know how you're gonna i know but i so get have i same and also it's annoying because you like spend a lot of money and it's also just christmas like it's oh i would do it now i always think you're gonna start to hate him and resent him. You're going to go skiing. You're just going to be like, I fucking hate you.

You'll be like, get off me. Yeah. It will be like that. But also, why has he not said he loves you after a year? Despite you having the gothic phase. Like, that's a long time. Really long time. No.

That's odd. Bite the bullet. Do it now. And then you're with all your family and friends for Christmas. You're drinking. You're having fun. You're eating loads. You you'll be busy you know what i mean i so agree oh my god sophie's polished off that prosecco i wasn't expecting this from her honestly she's a wild gal these days do you remember the days

and sophie just have a sip of alcohol and be like yeah lovely i think that was me down there when we would do the podcast now i turn around honestly i've had about three sips we've been sat down for 20 minutes it's gone have we actually whoopsie i don't know i'm proud of you i am proud of you yeah i know she's a good girl right okay second dilemma i have a christmas work party dilemma that i need advice for i used to see this guy from work, which ended recently. I love my job, but now feel incredibly anxious when at work, especially because I'm now pretty sure he's seeing another girl at work.

Oh, God. We have our work party coming up, and I almost don't want to go and see them being close and flirty. It sucks. Do I just not go? How can I have a nice time when seeing them together makes me feel so pathetic and heartbroken? I just wouldn't go to a work party.

No, listen. Work parties are meant to be so much fun. Have you seen... Suits? What's that Christmas film? I've shut my mind blank. I don't fucking know. Christmas party?

The office party? No, no, no. The film where there's like the prime minister and it's hugo love actually love actually the christmas party i don't remember it and the girl gets with the fit boy in the end she gets him off the christmas party that she's been in love with the whole time in the office and his name is carl do you know you know the people i can't really remember i know anyway love actually and from what everyone says like they get wild they get wasted i am i remember when i was single i would be like so bummed out i didn't have a job where there was huge christmas parties because i'd be like i'm never gonna meet anyone

because so many people like hook up and like meet their other half's at christmas parties and also like people bring their friends like it's a big deal you can't bring your friend to the christmas office sometimes you can no no no no not even boyfriend sometimes i know there's like a kind of a no another not a spouse thing and i know that there's like that kind of rule but i've heard that some men will bring their like guy friends or like friends from other departments they're like you don't really know exist melissa's got like a fancy i kind of do christmas party fantasy right okay we'll go to the fucking Christmas party I think you should just

dress up but you've got to have like a solid group around you 100% go with all your girls get a bit like tiddly but not too pissed not too pissed

do not cry don't look at them don't look at them look absolutely 10 out of 10 I can't picture them seeing them though make yourself

you know but then also equally if you are feeling just go dust you're off to another party he won't know where you're going yeah just leave if you're not feeling it and, if you are feeling... Just go, dust. You're off to another party. He won't know where you're going. Yeah, just leave if you're not feeling it.

And also if you're really, if it's making you... Sometimes we've got to just put ourselves into an uncomfortable position in order to get over things. And you've got to go out of your comfort zone. And also when you get there, if you feel really uncomfortable, there's no one keeping you there. You can just leave. Exactly, you can just go whenever you want.

You can just go home. No one needs to know where you're going. You can be like, I'm off to another party. I also don't think you'd want to miss out on it like there might it might be really fun and then you're like god i wish that boy didn't affect you and in a year you'll look back and be like god how did it affect me so much i didn't do fun things at my work christmas party like it's a once a year occasion like and you'll get phony just at home watching yeah on instagram i agree if i was you i would would just go. Right. Okay. Decision made.

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Her mum knows and has invited him to Christmas lunch as her family love him and think he'll patch it up. I think it's an awful idea that she should cut it off as she shouldn't be needing to do that to be happy in a relationship. Our other friend agrees with her mum. Wait, who's she bringing? The lover or the... This is quite, yeah, she's bringing her boyfriend. No, she's bringing the boyfriend. Okay, fine. She's obviously wanting to patch it up.

Our other friend agrees with her mum that it'll bring them close again and might stop what she's doing. What are your recommendations? I don't think spending Christmas with someone's going to patch up the whole relationship. I would just... The mum should literally sit her down and be like,

what the fuck are you doing? Stop cheating. I so agree. Don't mind me. Melissa's starving for a mango. What is this mango obsession you have? I don't know me Melissa's starving for a mango what is this mango obsession yeah I don't know delicious does anyone else have this mango obsession no it's so refreshing I like a permission permission or a shower free sorry tropical fruits over there yeah really delicious

what the hell is that yeah well I'll show you I'll put a photo promisuan what did you say a permission or a shower what does it look like like a big I'll show you i'll put a photo promisuan what did you say a permission or a shower what does it look like like a big i'll show you like a big orange oh how do you eat it you slice or peel slice they're so fucking good but no one's ever had them sorry guys this is so rude but also gotta be what oh my god they put them on the side of like a salad no no no no that's kumquats oh yeah what the hell is that about why can't you get those fruits in the supermarket you go into a restaurant a lychee as well i'm obsessed although they hurt my nails i love them it always like goes up the nail should we do a lychee martini one day we should get a

mixologist in and we should have some really cool cocktails yeah let's do it and maybe we should make a wednesday's cocktail a tiny whiny cocktail oh my god a little grapes cocktail loads of grapes on it and i'll have a grape in it you know like a martini has a little like olive olive yeah yeah we'll have a fermented grape not um so yeah this relationship's got to end i feel like at this point i would like sort of remove myself from the situation i just think it's a no-go also sorry the poor boy doesn't know i think if you knew he would be like see you later mate i would maybe tell him slip him a no no i wouldn't slip a note on this this just feels gross i hate cheating

for two years me too i'm not just like a one-off cheating i'm not really liking the fact that the mum's like yeah knows about it it's like no no all right i mean there's not much advice okay so if you're asking us what you should like what you're going to say to her as a friend i would be like i can't actually condone this behavior anymore you need to tell the boy yeah i'd be like i think this is really gross. Yeah. And like horrible. Morally, it's just not right.

But it's just so mean. And I would also. Unfair on him. Oh God, I just feel like if the mom's like on her side, I just would kind of take a step back. It's annoying because it condones the behavior. Yeah. Because she's thinking, oh, my mom doesn't mind.

And my mom is like, cool. I'd have to distance myself, I think, for this whole thing. And like remove myself from this situation. If you want to have like an element of a friendship in different areas yeah also when you get older these things actually become a bit more serious and way more like your relationships do just become a bit more involved in your lives let's just say sophie was doing this when she was 17 i as a friend would be like that's not right but crack on like who cares and then whereas if you were doing it at this age like when your relationships are more serious then obviously i would very much say to you like i actually don't think i can be your friend if you're doing this do you know what

i mean yeah um i agree i don't actually stand your ground it's not good. Right. Okay. Anniversary. My anniversary's this Saturday, can't we? Flipping hell. Not my anniversary, guys. It's when Jamie proposed to me. So it's like my proposed anniversary.

Engagement anniversary. So we're going to go to the Rosewood for a little drink. Stunning. And then we're going to meet Melissa. Tradition. Tradition, because Melissa joined us on the first night. I did. Stunning. Oh, God, how lovely. to the rosewood for a little drink and then we're gonna meet melissa just a tradition tradition because melissa joined us on the first night i did stunning oh my god how lovely how lovely so we passed the 11th of december we stayed together and we're gonna thank god she sailed

through that day she sailed through that day thank god thank god i found that that fact after the 11th i would have been on the edge of my seat you would have been like i'd have been like you're not allowed to leave um and you're not allowed to talk all day so we're excited for that i've got him a little key ring as well you know the crystal one that i said that i got him that i broke i got him a crystal key ring oh my god thoughtful thoughtful small but thoughtful oh my god no oh my always think you should do something really cool like what i don't know like a surprise like at the roadside like when he gets like a glass of champagne maybe he gets like like a singing waiter no i don't know i'm trying to think of something like a little cake like almost

like redoing the scenario but like in a smaller funnier sense no no no yeah like a cake or something what with the ring in it i don't know like just like maybe a toy ring or something cute and like a little letter or something fun like reliving it yeah and put it on a little put it on like a that's in his drink at the bottom of his champagne little harry bear ring sweetness or you could take one of his rings and put it in the bottom oh no daddy oh great harry bear ring might dissolve make it all sweet and orangutan yeah quite delicious he'd love that he loves a sweetie oh yeah he does um i wanted to tell you guys about a funny story because i don't really have a not so single diaries thing because i feel like i was bringing

my tape between mine um so a friend of mine i can't tell her say her name but they have a group chat there's three girls in my friendship group that all live together and um the group chat she goes it's like midnight she goes anyone got any triple a's triple a's the batteries oh for the old vibrator and then my other friend responds and goes um don't you mean l h r a a a or something like that because then he goes okay guys basically it was obviously for a vibrator. And it was all, like, funny because they all... Didn't you just charge them? No.

One of my friends has got an old school battery. And it's the fact that she doesn't mean, like, anyone got any AAAs. And then one of my other friends goes, no, no, it's L-H-R something, something, something. Like, knew the exact type of battery. Like, don't worry, I've got some of those. Yeah, I've got it in my stock. Lovely. Two jokes.

And then there's, like, a picture on the chat of like this vibrator like all taken apart to try and find out what the batteries are she's obviously so desperate to use it like i need more batteries did it work i think they found the batteries in the end yeah if it didn't that would have been a disaster oh my god there's nothing there's nothing worse than like 12 yeah oh no no when you're just when you for that. No, it's all you can think about. Anyone got any triple A's? Get a fucking new vibrator that you can charge in the wall. No, no, she needs to charge it.

I'm going to actually make a purchase for her. I charge mine in like a word cupboard because I don't want anyone to see it, you know. Oh, my God. I think I left one in my bathroom once and my cleaner put it back in my bedside drawer. Yeah, they see it every time. Horrible business. That's terrible business. I was mortified.

I came back and I was like, I was in the loo and I just realised it was nowhere to be seen. I was like, no, no, as if she's put it away in my bathroom drawer. They must see it all the time though. Oh, I hope so. I hope so. Did you remember me? Is it in Sex and the City?

When her cleaner or like her housekeeper... Never watch Sex and the City. Travesty. She finds one of the girls' vibrators next to her drawer and she like confiscates it and puts it in the bin. She's like, no, no. And she's like, what the fuck? That's what you said about mine.

I know. And then she got really upset about it. She was like, I never confiscated. Obviously I didn't think she did. She was like, I've got loads of my own, don't worry. God. Oh no, I didn't think she did. She's like, I've got loads of my own, don't worry. God. Oh no, I didn't mean it. Oh God.

Anyway. I think we're going to rate that Prosecco. Sophie thoroughly enjoyed that, didn't you? It was one glass. I'm joking. I thoroughly enjoyed it, although I am very quite sleepy from it. I would give it like a solid 7.5. Maybe a 6.

I'm going to give mine a 6. Yeah. Only because it's just, you know, it's just the small bottle. And we can't really... Only because it wasn't that stunning, I'm not going to lie. No, it was alright. It did the job. A coupe is also really easy to drink for some reason.

A coupe is such a lovely glass, isn't it? Yeah, it really is. But also spills everywhere. Such a spiller. But that one's not as bad. Some coupes are very much so like that. And like they're so like big and like shallow. No, that's more of like a martini glass.

They spiller. No, I mean a coupe like that. So it's like almost wider, but then the side's lower. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's like. But yeah, I know what you mean. A martini glass is also very precarious. Very precarious.

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