Wednesdays - 90. "I’m Pregnant!!!" - Sophie Gets Real About Her Pregnancy So Far

Episode Date: June 10, 2025

Heyyy Tinies!Big news… Sophie’s pregnant!! 🎉 You’ve probably already heard the news, but she’s here to spill all the juicy details herself. From morning sickness and bizarre food cravings to wardrobe malfunctions and full-on hormonal chaos - it's a full girly debrief. Plus, the way she told Melissa? Let’s just say... it’s not what you’d expect.This week’s dilemmas are bringing the drama. One Tiny’s struggling to part ways with her childhood teddy now that she’s in a new relationship - but is it weird, or just wonderfully nostalgic? That sparks a big convo about comfort items, and the wild world of adult teddies – yep, we’re talking Labubus! The girls have thoughts. And finally, one listener’s mortified by the cutesy pet names her boyfriend uses in front of her mates. Is it cringe… or kind of adorable? Enjoy the episode xGot a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail]--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Producer: @gurlinaheer_Exec: @jemimarathboneVideo editor: @lizziemccarthySocial: @laurabcoughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hey guys. We've got a really fun episode today because I speak about my pregnancy and just like any weird cravings I'm having and how I talk to Melissa and all fun things like that. I'm so excited that we finally get to talk about it. It's been a long time. Every episode is on the tip of our tongues to discuss what we have been doing. We've really reigned it in.

I know we have. So that's obviously so exciting. And then we also have some pretty like good dilemmas this week, a good variety. One about someone still sleeping with their childhood, like, or baby, I don't know what you call it, teddy bear. She's sleeping with her teddy bear still and the new boyfriend's, she's nervous about introducing him to the new boyfriend. I hope you enjoyed the episode.

Enjoy guys. Tynies. Tynies. We're back. I love how we say we're back every week and we never go. You always say we're back, I don't. Well, the thing is, is like, I sometimes do go. You sometimes take this show on your own.

That's literally happened like three or four times. Right. But you mean we're back in the chair, like we're back here again. Like, yeah, I know what you mean. We're back and we have some news. Well, I have some news. We have news to get there.

We have news. I'm pregnant. Woo! Woo! Can I just say it's honestly the funniest thing in the world? For someone who doesn't like celebrating their birthday or anything, I'm like, honestly, Jamie's like, have you called so and so and told them?

And I'm like, no, because I feel like embarrassed to do that. Why? Obviously not like you guys, but like, I don't know. Guys, the way she told me was the funniest. The funniest. And the way you told Ruby was also quite funny. I know, it's just, it's too awkward. It's because you can't bear to just do it,

so you have to like slide it into something else. So we're in Elves's having some, I think we go in for like a little chat and a coffee and we weren't planning on getting anything done specifically. No we were, we were planning. I was meant to have an appointment and you came to my appointment. Oh I just came because I just like to chat and see how I'll have a coffee and go and be kept up.

I was going to actually cancel the appointment but I'd already told Elle and I don't know why I just saw. Elle is also a postnatal nurse. She's a maternity nurse. Maternity nurse. So she knows what's up. Yes, I'd already told her. We're talking about Elle Hart Medical, by the way.

She knows what's up. So I then join and we then, Elle then goes and locks the door. She goes, right, right. And I was like, what's going on? Is this like really weird? She kept being like,, right, right. And I was like, what's going on? This is like really weird. She kept being like, you sit there, Sophie. And I was like, yeah. It was like really strange. Then Sophie goes, right, so I'm not going to get any more polynuclear tidal whatever

the skin booster was under her eyes. And I was like, yeah, about, I was about to be like, yeah, you know what? I think we just give it a break for a week. I think you're overdoing it at the skin boosters. And she goes, because I'm pregnant. And I was like, not expecting it at all. And my eyes just like filled with tears and I was like, it really took me by surprise. Does it really? Because in the delivery and there was no warning, like I don't know, it was so unexpected. It was really unexpected. By the way, I was literally like two weeks pregnant at this point.

I know, you were like fresh off the test. I knew I would be nowhere of being able to tell. To be honest, you can't really tell now. You can, that's a full-file. Not right in this angle, I swear to God. But then sometimes on the hen. You can tell. You could really tell.

You can tell, but it's like cover-upperable, but I will say like, I can't wear any clothes at the moment, so I've just had to do a whole new order, because like these are like a size 40 jean or something, and they are so baggy on the leg, like my butt. But they're fitting the waist. Can't you get like a mater 40 jean or something and they are so baggy on the leg. Like my butt. But they're fitting the waist. Can't you get like a maternity jean that's stretchy?

No, they all have like stretchy like waistbands. And then it's so obvious. I don't fucking wanna wear a stretchy blue waistband, thank you very much. We need to normalize making like cool high-waisted stuff that's like wider and then like not so wide on the legs. On the leg, yeah. Because I'm struggling.

There must be cool maternity shops out there. No, but I went on to Revolve and I tapped in maternity and they've got loads of low rise like skirts. And because it's summer, I've just gone like ham on them. And that's what I'm going to do. You're lucky that it's going to be somewhere like floating dresses. Oh, that's true. Towards the end of it, it's going to be Chilson. Well, then I'll just be like in trackies and not give a fuck.

But this period, I'm like, it's cold in England. Like, I wanna walk around in a skirt, I bought one yesterday, but no, no, no, we can't. We can't. It's also like such a weird thing that I'm like, as if there's like a small person inside your body. I know, I literally just run for a scan now.

I'm like, Sophie, you're for so. How many fucking scans? I go for a week? Every day, I'm just going for a scan. I'm like, it's like a part of her morning routine now, just going for a scan. Honestly, my sis was like, so are you doing one a week? I was like, yeah. I don't think you need to be doing that.

I think I'm going to slow off now. I just really, I got into a habit, definitely until I got to the 12 week mark. I was like, scan, scan, scan. And then I already had this booked in because the guy obstetrician I'm seeing goes on holiday and I just really love him. So he was like, do you want to see me before I go? And I was like, okay. And then he's like, I can't really get like a clear, clear picture of the baby because

the babies does backflips every time we scan me. It's literally like boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. So like every photo I'm sending to people, they're like, hmm. Can't really see it. Cause he's like, it won't stop moving. You sent me those photos and you were like circling things, like trying to figure out what the sex was. And she was like, what do we think this is? And like all these green circles of you trying to like diagnose what you thought.

I know because Emily Blackwell sent me this thing where you can like see whether you teruses or like where they wee or something. And if it's like pointing a certain way, it's a boy. And if it's pointing another way, it's a girl. That would make sense. Anyway, I'm not going to say what the sex is, but it was right. Yeah, your intuition was right. I was completely off. You were off, but I knew you were off and out.

I know it in my gut. I honestly thought I was absolutely correct and there's no way I could have been wrong. God damn it. Oh God, it's really exciting. But also quite exciting too because I'm not going to be pregnant at your wedding. No, but I'll have a little page boy or a flower girl at my wedding, like mincing down. Oh my god, stop. How could you really wear that? Oh my god, you really wear that.

I know. Okay, we need that to happen soon so I can get my teeth stuck into something. Mind you, when does a child start walking when they're like, what, one? Yeah. Yeah. One. That's really good timing. I think when they can just about walk and everyone's like, Ooh. My theory is like, there might be an announcement around my birth. That's when I'm picturing. That's where my brain, my intuition is saying. No way. Really? No way. Yeah, no way. Maybe six months after that. Five. Well, then that's perfect because then you'll do year planning.

Yeah, exactly. So we'll have a one and a half year old perfect walking down the aisle. God, we've honestly like not me making your pregnancy about my wedding. It's so funny. Honestly, it's so exciting. And then when you told Ruby. Oh my God, yes, I told Ruby. Well, the thing is, is like, I'm just not a very sentimental person as we all know, so I'm not very gushy. So I'm quite like, Hey, I'm pregnant. And people are so taken off guard and they just like burst into tears. And it's just like the sweetest thing ever. But I will say that I didn't really realize on the hen that we took this photo of me and I've got my hand on my stomach.

It was virtually like a pregnancy announcement. But the thing is Melissa, you know what my bump is like and it's way bigger than that. I was like, that's not- I remember your stomach looks flat, it's because the holding of the tummy. I think that's what made the speculation. And also I feel like people have ever since you got married, people have basically been speculating it as people do. People have been speculating it since I went to Dubai. I'm like, what? How? So I knew this information. I was absolutely shitting myself. For some reason I was then

like, how are you just walking outside? It's like such a weird thing. I was like, we need to wrap you in cotton wool. No, guys, at the hand she was like, right, you cannot come out. And I was like, we need to wrap you in cotton wool. Like nothing bad can happen. No guys at the end she was like, right, you cannot come out. And I was like. I was just worried about the super club. It was a bit much. You know what, it was actually a bit much. Yeah.

I got there and I was like, this was a bad decision, but I had to, I'm so glad I went because I got everyone in. Oh my God, if you didn't come. That would have been a drama. That would have been a drama. But can I just say my form was impeccable really, we'll say. Guys, I'm not even fucking joking. There's videos of all of us and I'm like, Sophie looks

like she's like the most battered one there, like just giving it her all down the microphone with her sunglasses on in the boat. Your energy levels were phenomenal. I know. It was like someone from above was like, God, I'll give it to you for this weekend. It was amazing. Really amazing. Because let me tell you, it's not always like that. I think something happened. Like it was just the vibe. As we said, it was a great hand. It was a really good hand. It was a really good hand. And also I felt like you were having really gorgeous, those non-alcoholic, um, mugs.

Oh my God. They were basically like organic lemonade. Oh, I was like fresh. With a bit of salt, bit of electrolytes on the side. I was like, this is heaven. Heaven. That gave her all the energy she needed. It gave me all the energy I needed. I can't wait. Right. Let's go back. Let's go back. So you told me. Right. I then I'm like, right. I have to keep this a secret from Toby, but I'm also like, I'm sorry. You need to tell Toby because I can't be with

the secret until you announce in 12 weeks because this is wild. So then we had a lunch maybe four or five days later. Four days. I literally told you on Monday. So was like so fine for me to like not tell him. But I remember I was like having to talk about other things around babies to like try and, what was it that I was saying to him? I think I went, I went, I went, I really want a baby. She wanted Toby to like gas and be like, why are you talking about babies and put the dots together, didn't you? Something. I just wanted to have a conversation around it, but I couldn't tell him, so I was like, right, anyway, I want to have a baby. Okay, right, well, let's compromise and have fun in

like a few years. I was like, what? Okay. That was like me when I was going for dinner with people and I couldn't tell, because obviously I told you, but I couldn't tell like every Tom, Dick and Sally. I just had to wait till the 12th week and I would be ordering and I'd be like, is the cheese pasteurized? And everyone was just, no one picked up on Sally. Like I just had to wait till the 12 week mark and I would be ordering and I'd be like, is the cheese pasteurized? And everyone was just, no one picked up on it. And I was like, can't have the tuna tartare today. And they were like, all right, join this instead. You wanted a lot of like barbecue meat at the beginning.

Oh my God, yeah. I think I must've been like artificial or something because I was like, I wanted to get a sausage and a burger and I was char grilling it. I mean, honestly, it was like, I wanted to get a sausage and a burger and I was char grilling it. I mean, honestly, it was like a bri. The house was smoked up and I was just eating burgers. Quite good for you though. Really good. I never had any like really bizarre cravings.

Oh my God, no, the Rome bars. She's telling me she's sat me eating these all day long, guys. These Rome bars, it's like 100% beef. It's basically a dog treat. Now I've really got off them and even thought of it literally. Really? I thought I could be sick. I'm very much now plain foods like pasta and- I was going to say, what's the current cream? Bread. If I could just bathe in fruit and a bit of bread, that would be my vibe at the moment.

What fruit? Just any. Melon, mango, neturines, peaches, mango, mango, mango all day. Mango is the seasonal. All day, every day. And just like rye bread, like nutty bread is what I really crave. Or like sourdough, not like plain bimbo bread. Right, right, right, right. That's my vibe.

Oh, delicious. Just really delicious, so hot, she. Honestly, like the snacking was nonstop on the hand. Like it was, there was nonstop, like a nut. Like she'd just have like a little nut, just chew, chew, chew. Melissa at one point was like, I think we ought to take these off. I was like, we need to stop because I'm like, you're gonna overdo it.

You can't have like an entire jumbo pack of peanuts. I did. But she did. And it's the ones where you like crunch the shells. It was like there's shells everywhere. I was just like, I had like nuts in my hair. Like I was just snacking. There was a piece of bread, like there was a piece of crisp or a nut or some sort of

like crispy corn. That corn was like crack. Oh my God. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Those fried bits of corn, they were really sort of like crispy corn, that corn was like crack. Oh my God. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Those fried bits of corn, they were really good. That was really, that's the vibe I would like to just like small salty snacks. Like I don't want like a big delicious meal that I usually would.

I mean, obviously now and again I do, but if I could really just live off snacks, I would. Snacks. Just like, and cereal. If I could lean into cereal, I'm holding back because it's going to be bad vibes. Oh my God, cereal with milk, there's nothing better. Cold, cold milk. What's your favorite cereal with milk?

If you could pick one right now to have. Shreddies. Oh my God, no, you literally wrapped my mind. Shreddies all day, every day. How is the nausea mean? Amazing, until week 11. How is that? Everyone's like, that's not normal.

And the tiredness? Until week 11, everyone's like, second semester's amazing. And then like, literally I'm on the week 13 now and I'm like, ooh. No, I'm actually fine. I've had a really, really, really nice time. Yeah, you have. Yeah, I have.

I mean, I don't know how you feel, but watching you, you feel fine. No, I feel like fine. I don't sleep, that's my biggest thing. Like I wake up at five every morning and I'm like, ping. And you can't, I just can't close my eyes. I feel so uncomfortable. And at the beginning I couldn't breathe. I was like, oh my gosh, it's actually so odd that there's a baby in your stomach. I know you need it. I was thinking, why didn't I tell Melissa to come to the scan? Cause you'll be like, what the fuck?

Oh my God, that would be so... You're going to have to. That would be then so like surreal. Because it's like, when you first told me, I was like, obviously I believe you, but it's like, it's so like mental that you almost don't believe it. You're like, as if there's a baby growing. I know. It's such a strange, it's such a thing to wrap your brain around. I think also like obviously, I've been

really lucky with my pregnancy so far. But obviously, the people who really ask, because some people are so, so sick and so, so bedridden and can't eat anything and all these things. You probably then are like, I'm really fucking pregnant. Whereas half the time at that hen, I was like- Do you like kind of forget something? I honestly had to remind myself. I was like, Sophie, it's time to go home now. And it was like 1am, I was like, I need to go home now. But the baby will just sleep in your belly, like, which is crazy, obviously. Like you

don't have to be asleep for the baby to be asleep. I remember my friend, Alice, she was like, I go to bed and the fucking baby wakes up and is kicking me all night long. And then in the day he sleeps. And I'm like, are you joking? No, no, no, not at all animal. Yeah. In like a week's time I'm gonna be able to, I've got like a heart thing and I can just listen to the heartbeat at home.

Then I was just stopped getting so many scans. Cause I think that's just like peaceful mind. What do your week will show you if I know it won't give you a second heartbeat? No, but it shows you like your temperature. I'm like my heart rate is at 120 a day. Is a day. And what is it normally? 50. Shit. That's why you walk around, you're like fucking hell. But it's not as bad. It sounds more shocking. Like you know when people are like, sorry, I don't want to put it down. Like obviously it's a lot and I appreciate that. But like,

you know, like you're supposedly your vitals are going through the same amount as if you were running a marathon every single day. And I'm like, but I don't feel like I am. But that's because you've got the hormones and everything to support it. It's a natural thing. It's so wild. Being a woman is actually so incredible. It's really wild.

But I'm having, you know, when people have postpartum and they want to change everything about them. I've got pregnancy. I'm like, right, I hate the hair now. I want to go back to brunette. Georgia was like, listen. Shut up. You're fucking joking. I don't think it's nice on the face. Or I need to dye my eyebrows. I need to bleach my brows. Something's off and it's since we've

been pregnant. So I keep looking at my fit and I'm like, what's happened? I mean, honestly, I love the hair so much. Guys, we did the hair like two, three weeks ago. Two weeks ago. A week ago. A week ago. I know. Why does that feel like that was ages ago? I know, it really does. Can we tell how you do your Ruby? We're sat in that green room. This was only a few weeks ago. So Ruby didn't know for ages. I don't know why this is so funny to you. Because it's like, it's just the way that Sophie told Ruby. So she comes in with her little avocado toast. Jamie's just in the corner like this. And she goes, right, I need to just eat my avocado toast because I'm really nauseous.

And Ruby said, oh yeah, I get that avocado toast. No, Ruby goes like this, well, go on then, just eat it. Like why are you telling me? And then she goes, because I'm pregnant, before Ruby could finish her sentence, Ruby was like, what the fuck? Like, I was so not expecting it. And I had to keep it in from Ruby for like ages. No, Melissa was like this in the corner. Like, she told her and I was like, you were really making me die. It's too funny.

So anything else you would like to report? Oh yeah. God, yeah, how's Jamie? God, not me just forgetting about him in this whole scenario. He's so relaxed, so supportive, so excited. I found the first 12 weeks really anxiety provoking just in the sense of it's a massive milestone to get to 12 weeks. And so I was quite anxious and he wasn't at all but like also let me be and also he's like so good with me when I'm like a raging bitch because if I'm hungry, like

the other day we had like brunch at like 12 and then it was like suddenly 5pm and I was like I'm going to pass out and we were stuck in so much traffic and I was like I honestly I was like I'm going to have to get out of the car to walk to a stop and get some food like I was like I will vomit all over you. And he just like has to turn away because he's laughing so much at me. He just finds it so funny, but he's so excited. He's being very sweet. You know what's nice for the guy as well? They literally have 10 months to prepare. Yeah. Well, no, six months. Oh.

I know, but from the very, very, very beginning. I know, yeah. I guess mentally they've got all that time, whereas you're actually growing the thing inside you, which is crazy. I know. I think there's like a new found respect for women. 100%. Just all of it they can see. He sees me obviously uncomfortable at 5 a.m. in the morning, every morning, like I can't fix it. So what is that about? As in when you say uncomfortable, also you sleeping on your left side and all that you have to do with sleeping?

Yeah, you have to sleep on your side from night 12. Well, yeah, I just didn't want to sleep on my front any or like on my back. But it's more just like the breathing, your heart rates really fast. Like you're so hot, like your body temperature is so, so hot. And I wake up feeling really nauseous still. So like at five, like a sickness feeling in my stomach wakes me up. Have you actually been sick yet? Yeah. Fine. Because otherwise it's not so nauseous.

And coffee wise, because you're a matric early, you normally have what, like one coffee a day or one matcha a day? Yeah. Has that stayed the same since being pregnant? No, I used to like maybe have two. Two. But no, you're only allowed one. There was a period where you were like, I'm not having anything.

Oh, yeah, I know. I just didn't want it. Well, coffee was making you feel really sick. And matcha actually, I don't know why I didn't like the look of it, but now I'm back on matcha and it's like really nice. Sign. Yeah, but you've got to be careful with all these things. And then like so many random things you can't eat.

It's just like bizarre. Papaya. Oh my God, how random. I wonder why. Well. Because I believe. It's a natural contraception. Well, apparently the papaya seeds's a natural contraception. Yeah. Well, apparently the papaya seeds are a natural contraception.

Shut. And I know this because when I went traveling, we went to this place called San Blas Islands and there was this like Rastafarian. He was like barefoot and like just living his life. And he used to meow to us. That's honestly where meow came from. Oh, I thought it came from just like a cat. No, this man used to be like meow in the morning. He used to meow. Oh, I thought it came from just like a cat.

No, this man used to be like meow in the morning. He was actually really bad. Anyway, he was shagging this girl, this like traveler who had obviously like done the boat tour with him and then just never left. She was like tan blonde. Like you can so picture it both barefoot. Anyway, they're shagging this whole time.

I'm asking them all the questions and I'm like, so you literally live off a boat, like you're eating coconuts. Like like are you on contraception? They said no, we eat the papaya seeds and that's our contraception, how we don't, because they didn't want babies. And I was like, I'm fascinated. I have never, I'm going to go for that. But also it is a digestive because papaya enzyme helps digestion. Papaya seeds contraceptive. Is it a thing? Well, has he just made that up? Because I've never giggled since. Papaya seeds contraceptive. Well, some studies suggest that papaya seed extracts can affect sperm mobility and potential

reduce fertility. There is no conclusive evidence to support that use as safe and effective male contraception for humans. I keep getting these like things coming up on my TikToks and my Instagram now. And it's like, I ate like 100 dates a day and I push my baby out in 12 minutes and I'm like, well. I know I'm gnawing on those dates. You will be great because you've been nailing those dates and stay warm. You honestly that baby will whoosh. I think it's dates and then raspberry tea or blueberry tea or something. At the end it's raspberry tea. Raspberry tea.

She knows raspberry leaf tea. Well honestly this hippie woman comes up and she's like, and I just, you know. Yeah I know, do you want to know how to. With no painkillers. It took 20 minutes and I didn't tear at all. No I didn't tear. I'm like, oh my god, and there's me literally eating the dates. Sometimes too many dates, I am a bit like. It's really high in sugar actually and sometimes it can make you feel a bit weird. It does, I feel like I've, it's a lot of sugar. You probably shouldn't have that many. 10 a day. Melissa goes, I have 10 days.

I fucking love the day. I don't know why. And I'm like, not 10. I don't believe you do. I probably do. 100%. I'm so jealous of these guys. I have one slice of chocolate with my tea in the evening and I'm like, what? I'm having really weird fucking people on my TikTok at the moment. Tell me. All these like skinny girls and they're like, this is how you say skinny and they're like skinny is

like not a chore, it's a lifestyle decision and discipline is everything. And I'm like, is this legit? Like, doesn't this feel like we've gone back 15 years? How are they? I actually saw one that was like not so bad. And ever since I've seen that, I've seen so many awful ones. But I saw one and she was like, I've always been like slim my whole life. But like, it means like, if I'm full, I don't have to eat the rest of the food on my plate

and that's okay. And I was like, fair enough. Like if I'm full, I'm not eating the rest of the food on my plate. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? So that's the only one I saw. No, no, no. And then now. I have like weird, really weird fucking people. Like what? This girl's like,

I come home from work late. I could just have food like normal person, but I discipline myself and I go to bed with the water and tea. Shut the fuck up. And I'm like, I'm not fucking kidding. I don't know why. And now because I've watched her video, they're all coming up. Oh no. Yeah. So I think it's so dangerous. but I've never seen this until recently. And now I'm like, as if this is, can I just say? That is wild. TikTok, there has to be some regulations like Bonnie blue and that. Like we got to put up with it right now.

We should, it should just be, yeah, it should just be like regulated to a degree. I think it's so wrong. I think these people are doing it for the more outrageous they do, the more lights they're going to get and the more rage they're going to get and the more comments they're going to get and therefore the more views and like, I just think it's really disgusting actually. I agree. It's also like a strange world because there's like a fine line with all of these things and I guess like anything on the internet, it's like people would do those what I eat in a day and they would do a really healthy what I eat in a day from a nutritionist

point of view, just showing an example of what they eat because that's when people wanted to see it. But then some people also have a problem with that because they're like, why are you showing me everything you eat in a day? But it's like, well, it's useful and it's a very balanced, good diet, but people still have a problem with that. There's a fine line between doing anything. Because someone could comment and be like, that's not enough protein. But I guess that argument is like, yeah, but they're doing it. Even if people are like, everyone's going to have shit to say on the next day, right? But at least the person doing

that across the board is morally right. They're not going to harm anyone. If someone wants to hate on that, fine. If they've got an issue with it, fine. If they don't really, fine. But someone being like, I have a two inch waist. Honestly, she was a size six and now she's this. And she was like, how I went from fat to this. Well, I kind of really hope that we do what Australia is doing and like regulate like the ages on it on things because like we got to put, like if they're not going to fucking stop them being on it, like you've got to like, like yeah, you got to do something. Yeah, I agree. Can't continue this way. It is fascinating like how things just are let, let, let to happen like that. How is this allowed? It's really crazy.

It's really, really wild. I will say that I really just pray by the time my kids are old enough to be having social media that it's A, not around or B, it's going to be ... I think it will do a flip. I really think we'll go back in time a little bit with it, which is nice. I hope so. We grew up with no social media. I didn't have Instagram till I was 18 years old. That is a fucking... Stop.

No. No, I had Instagram when I was 14, 15. I got Instagram the first year of uni and I thought it was an editing app for photos because you know the filters. So all I posted were just like 18 different versions of one picture because I was trying out the different filters and I just pressed. I thought it was like, what's the other one we use to edit our photos? Fiesca cam? Yeah. I thought it was that.

I'm dead. So like all my beginning photos, I think they're probably still there are like 15 photos of like me and Bella and Tharsha of like different edits like black and white. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I just like that. People used to do that though. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like, I think I was in like my last year of, I do my GCSEs, fifth year, I'm sure. I remember a lot of booties being on it. Everyone was printing booty. Yes, this Australian booty thing.

Poopty. Which I then consequently went and bought at university. That's how it, oh boo tea. Yeah, we were all using it. I thought you were like booty as in a bum and I was like, yeah, the Australian bums like in bikinis. That was a real vibe back then. Oh my God. As in like Steph Tresmit.

Yeah, she was my first follower. I followed her and I was like, this is, she's everything. No, boo tea was like a lax to tea. Yeah, the tea that just makes you shit your pants. But I didn't, we all did it. You probably promoted it the first season of A&M Chelsea. Like every, every influence. I fucking well did it, but they did when I was following everyone at A-Team.

And obviously like they don't promote it like you're just going to shit your brains out. And we took it, my whole house at uni, none of us slept. We were like, when I say like shitting all throughout the night, like, I mean, like it was the worst pain I've ever had. I thought I was wrong. Dear God, what's in it? Severe laxatives. But what is a laxative as such, like just a high, high, high fiber? Sena leaf. I know it's a thing to get you shit yourself, but I'm like, what ingredient is that? It's called sena leaf. And it's like, it's literally like elastive. Like it's not fiber.

It is like something that it makes your bowels contract. So like you're like, you're like, bear in mind, I probably had a boyfriend at this point. Oh my God, that's horrific. It was horrific. And it scarred me to this day. It really did. It actually was. I wonder how they got away with that shit. Right. Then there was no regulations on that sort of thing.

Sorry, do you know- And there was no council culture. Lucy Watson promoted a boyfriend arm. Sorry? Boyfriend arm? There was like a boyfriend's arm, so like a fake arm. Shut the fuck up. A boyfriend's arm. I only know this because I heard her say it on Private Bar. A boyfriend's arm? I think it was like, if you're feeling lonely on the sofa, you can put your boyfriend's arm around you. It was just like a fake, synthetic, aww.

And like she was just cozied up next to it. It's just actually so good. Shit, I don't think you ever did any weird pose. I did. No, we didn't. I never did teeth whiting, thank God for that. No, the high smell, I don't think I did that either. Maybe I did. I say that you're all gonna find that I did.

I did some really bizarre shit, but like you didn't know any better. You hadn't, I thought my agent, like I never thought you could- You just trust them so much. I never thought I had a say. I was like, well, if you tell me to go and jump off a cliff, like that's what I'd wanna do obviously.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I didn't know that I had a choice and it was my brand, nothing. I was like, off you go. It's very obviously different now. The weight loss stage when everyone was doing all the weight, well, I guess that is weight loss, isn't it? The weight loss gummies.

It's awful. It's awful. Weight loss gummies. Well, people are still doing it, and now the problem is people are on Azempik, and then they're doing weight loss videos. We're really going into the whole corruption of influencing world.

As M.P.I.G. thing scares me, because I've heard all these things, that it damages your spleen or pancreas. Scalder. I mean, I get it if you're really overweight and you've never been able to lose weight. I think it's an amazing thing. What's scary is the really slim girls going on it. That's a bit scary. But you never know if they have or they haven't.

And this is an annoying thing for people that have done really well to lose the weight and they've changed their lifestyle, like really worked on themselves, blah, blah, blah. And then everyone just assumes they're on a Zempik and it's like, fuck no, I've really worked hard. And I've done everything really improperly. That's frustrating.

I actually have a friend who's done that. She looks absolutely amazing. She's done it over two years, worked so hard. I never thought that, but I wonder if she probably might think, oh God, I hope people would... It doesn't matter either way. Also, the Brits are so stiff-lipped about it, wouldn't tell anyone if they were on it, but the Americans are like, yeah, I'm a Manjaro, whatever. They're very open about it.

English people are not. No, they're very open about it. English people are not. No, they're really not. Life throws challenges at all of us, but how do we cope? I'm John Robbins, and on my podcast, I sit down with incredible people to ask the very simple question, how do you cope? We explore the moments that shape them and the ways they've learned to move forward. Whether it's mental health, grief or overcoming fear, we talk about it all honestly and openly. So if you're looking for real conversations about resilience and finding light in the dark, follow How Do You Cope? Brought to you by Audible wherever you get your podcasts. Okay guys, we've got to go into dilemmas.

Hey girls, I've got a bit of a dilemma I could really use your help with. I've just started seeing a new guy and honestly I really like him. Things have been going so well and I feel super comfortable around him. He hasn't stayed over yet, but I've invited him to come around in a few weeks and I'm already starting to overthink one very specific thing. But here's the deal, I've never been in a relationship for, even though I'm in my late twenties, I've never really found the right person until now. But because this is my first proper relationship, there's something I've never had to navigate for and it's called Huffington. Huffington is my teddy bear. He's literally been with

me since I was a baby. I was expecting some Huffington. He's been with me literally since I was a baby. My uncle gave him to me when I was one and I've slept with him every single night since. He's part of my bedtime routine. My comfort, even my sleeping position is based around him. Huffington? The thing is when I don't have him, I can't sleep.

Like genuinely, I tried it before and I just lie there tossing and turning. So now I'm panicking. What do I do when this guy comes to stay? Do I try to hide Huffington and suffer through a sleepless night? Do I introduce him and just own it? I don't want to scare him off, but I also don't want to compromise my comfort. Right, firstly, tell him about Huffington. Yeah, be like, this is my thing. I sleep with him every night. But can I also just say, I think we have to mentally replace Huffington with this guy.

With the guy, me too. When you sleep with the guy, you'll be smelling him and he'll be holding you and it'll be a different... And you can get comfy in him. And you know, he's a real life human with a pulse. That will be nice. Better than Huffington if I say so myself. I think Huffington might have to take a little bit of a backseat. But also there's no problem. Him just being there in the background, that's all right.

I found it really weird. Do you ever remember at school? Like there would be like certain girls who would like pretend that they had, like I never grew up with a teddy or like a blankie or like- I had a teddy when I was younger, but I grew up quite quickly. But you know, like so many people did, right? And then like, I kind of noticed, I don't know where I'm getting this one, but I felt like there was certain people or maybe I saw it once or twice, who like suddenly had this teddy and they were like, I've had this teddy my whole life and I was like, you definitely fucking haven't. You know like the other girls who had like the bald teddy?

Right, my friend has one of those. It's literally just shreds of fabric. Shreds and like they've had it forever. It was obviously once like an ear or something and I'm like, no. I used to think that sucking my thumb. Or dummy. Was like quite cool at a certain point.

Me too. That you see like, like 11 year olds still sucking their thumb and I was like, oh, quite sick. They've got that weird habit. I'm going to start doing it. And I tried really hard and it was so gross. I was like, can't bear it. Me too. And biting my nails. Same thing. I'd be like, the cool girl's doing it. I know I did use to bite my nails, but the sucking my thumb, I remember that so vividly and I was like, this is horrible. Like, it's so slobbering.

I gave it a good go. I really gave it a good go because there were some cool girls who like very much, I remember, and they were older and they were suck their thumb. Suck their thumb and keep their blank teeth there. And like in the back of the bus. Yes! Like sleeping. 100%.

Yeah. We would have been to like Parents Get Lost, PGL, whatever that place was. And they were really, like they were a couple years older and they'd be at the back of the bus. It's a trend. It's a trend. Anyway, I always thought that was quite weird. That is quite weird. It's like the LeBubu's. I am like so mind blown because I'm like the people that have created this company have fucking genius. They are making so much cash. Apparently these things are like really expensive. I'm like, I don't want to buy something. I

don't know what I'm getting. Like, I take a long time. No, no, I really think it's the weirdest thing. Listen, I'm gonna put it out there. I think it's really strange. Olivia Atwood, you liked them first. You started a trend. I'm down with you loving them. You really loved them. Like, you wanted your birthday party with them.

You're a true LaBubu fan. I saw she gave them to you for her birthday party. She's so jokers. Everyone else, no, no, no. Let's not try and copy. Olivia Atwood's the only person allowed to have a LaBubu. But like, didn't she start the trend? No. She did. Shut the fuck up. It's all from her. Shut the fucking fuck up. Sorry, ride the tape, Melissa. No. What? Yes, she

started the trend. But there's people queuing up outside the shops all from Olivia Howard. She's pretty fucking famous. Sorry, I really hope that she has shares in Laboub because she deserves it. Fuck me. Oh, fuck me. She started the trend. She got it on her AMS bags like month, like a year ago. And like she's been- No, not that recently. Not that long ago. It was. A year ago.

And she's been posting, posting and it's just like fucking blown up over TikTok. Like people are crazy. She's like an OG fan of them And the UK have just gone nuts over it. I think it's really fucking weird. I'm being honest. I'm sorry. That's what you called influence. Yeah, that is. Fuck me. That is wild. How are we going to do something like that? We need to find like a poly pocket or something. Start just wearing it all under a second time. Should we get each other a little bit and open it on this? No, we can't join the trend. We could have a start. I just really feel it's a bit icky. I'm not trying to like, no but we can stick them on the shelf like I'm not gonna put up my fucking

handbag but I'll put them on the shelf. Can't we get like a Sylvestian family? You mean Sylvania? Sylvania family because they were so freaking cute. Right listen you're lucky that this trend is happening right now because it's making it way more socially acceptable to still sleep with your thing. What's it called? What's it called? Huffington Bear. Huffington pose. Huffington is a really cute name.

I also think there's no harm in just not introducing them straight away and just having the night with your boyfriend. Do you know what I mean? Like when he stays over. I think it's fine. He's just in the van, be like, that's my little bear I sleep with. Don't make it into a big deal. Don't make it a thing.

It's actually not a big deal at all. He probably won't even fucking blink twice at it. Sleekily girls do that. I have Toby's bear, no, it's like a seal that he used to sleep with when he was a child. He obviously stopped and then it was in the back of his cupboard once and we took it out and it's just been on the bed ever since. Yeah, it's not icky at all. But he didn't sleep with it, so maybe it's a very different thing.

I think Emily Blackquar sleeps with a rabbit or something and it's got like, or a piece of rag, I remember when I lived with her. It's this rag situation. No one's giving a fuck. Like it's quite sweet. No one cares. Right, I think this is an easy solution. I don't think you've got anything to worry about. Yeah, really don't make it a big deal. And the boyfriend can both still survive. There's room for both. Okay, right. Dilemma two. Hey girls, my best friend, let's call her Holly, broke up with her boyfriend a couple of months ago while I was away traveling. We kept in touch

and I did my best to support her from afar. But since the breakup, she's gone really downhill. She's been sleeping with lots of different guys. Go for Holly. I knew things were getting rough, but now that I'm back home and I've heard even more worrying things, I still want to support her, but she posts everything on social media and doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong. The lifestyle she's now living isn't really my scene and it's making me feel uncomfortable. My boyfriend feels the same. How do I support her without getting dragged into her life? I don't feel comfortable with. I love her and want to be there for her, but I also need to protect my own peace. What would you suggest?" She's living her hot balsamma.

She really is. But to the extreme. She's living Bratsamma. Yeah. I think like, just like be there, like don't ever just like, don't have to go out with her. You don't have to go out with her, go for breakfast. Yeah, just exactly.

Brunch is a really safe meal time. A walk, a coffee and a walk, a pastry. Yeah, perfect. And also like, surely you'd love to have the tea, because I'd be like, tell me everything. I know. What drugs did you take? What time did you stay out?

Who were you with? Who were you sleeping with? Also, where has she found these new friends to do that? It is worrying, I guess, if she's like, this isn't her, and suddenly she's going out with all these strange people, and you're like, whoa, who are you, Holly? It's really actually been my best friend my whole time. I get, but it's really difficult. I don't know how you're going to sort of, I guess

when you see her, you have to gauge and see if she feels like, if she like looks great and if she's like happy and if it is just a bit of a phase and she's just parting a bit hard and it will die down. Like when people are single, they just have this new- Lisa life. Energy and like, you know, people do like change a bit because they feel liberated and I'm not saying that this is the right way to go about it at all, but like, I think it might just be a phase. Yeah. And I think it's really important what Melissa said, like really gauge and just keep

an eye on her. Like if she is looking like sad or like not herself, like maybe then just be like, are you sure you're okay? But like But I don't think you can try and control her or tell her what she's doing is wrong. You just ultimately have to let her ride the wave and be there as supportive as you feel comfortable with. You don't have to go out with her. No. If you don't want to hear about the nights out, you also don't have to hear about them. You can talk about something different. Yeah. It's hard because you want her to feel like she can open up to you and tell you what's

going on, but then you also need to show a side of being like, I'm actually a little bit worried about that. Like, are you okay? Do you need some support in that area? You know, what can we do as the girls group? Like, do you want to start like just doing some more wholesome things? I don't know, but like from the sounds of it, you're just freaked out because you don't know this side of her and hopefully this is just a phase, but from the sounds of it, you're just freaked out because you don't know this side

of her and hopefully this is just a phase, but don't neglect her just because she's going on these nights. Do you know what I mean? You don't have to go on the nights out and involve yourself in that side of it. Yeah, absolutely not. And also, if it's a bit much hearing about all the boys, you don't have to hear about it. Yeah, that's true. You just have to like, just do what you feel comfortable with and don't push yourself because ultimately like

the more you stress yourself out, the worse it's gonna be for your friendship and like it doesn't have to be like that and just keep an eye on it. Keepers updated, don't stress yourself out too much. Remember, she's a grown adult and she's not your responsibility. I think that's really key to being

and like she will come back to you and it's just a phase. Also, you do sound quite young. You're fresh out of uni, you're fresh out of school because you've just said you've gone traveling. Do you know what I mean? I'm sure this will be over and she would have grown out of it. Yeah, we love you and good luck.

And sorry you're going through this because I can imagine it's upsetting. Okay, dilemma three. Hey girls, I need your help because something my boyfriend started doing is seriously giving me the egg. So we're one of those couples who've gotten into using silly pet names and I'll admit I was totally on board at first. We called each other things like pookie and Susie pants.

Don't judge. That's so funny Susie pants. Don't judge. It started as a joke and it kind of stuck. In private, it's cute and funny and I actually really enjoy it. But he's now started using the pet names in public and I want the ground to swallow me up. Oh no, Sweepy.

The worst part is when he says them in front of my friends, I can see them trying not to laugh or looking confused and I just cringe. I usually whisper it back to avoid hurting his feelings, but deep down I just cannot cope. I'm not a PDA person at all, especially not in front of people I don't know. I know. I don't want to pass this bubble or make him feel embarrassed, but I also don't know how to bring it up. Is this a red flag or am I just being too picky? What would you guys do? I think you're the red flag in a sense, like not in a mean way. Like I don't think you're that in, like if Jayme calls like, lamby in front of his friends, I'm not wanting the ground to swallow me up. I am a bit like, oh my God, if he calls it like, like, you

know, baby, at the beginning I was a bit like, and like, I don't care. And also I'm not a PDA person at all, but equally like, don't want the ground swallowing up. And that worries me a little bit because it feels like you can more about what your friends think than what your boyfriend thinks. I kind of think it's an age thing though, like I don't know how old they are

because I feel like at one stage I really, really was like, just like so conscious. Yeah, yeah. And it might not have anything to do with him, one stage I really, really was like, just like so conscious. You do care more about what you think when you're younger, don't you? Yeah. And it might not have anything to do with him, but it's because those nicknames are like, they're fucking funny. They're clearly a joke. They're funny and also they're more like- Susie Bounds is hilarious. Yeah, it is quite funny. Yeah, Toby and I have so many strange nicknames, but like they're not, I wouldn't, where is the wrong word to use? Soppy? I don't know.

Like it's Rick. What's that from? Ricardo? No, so, but now it's Ricardo, Richard, like it's just really stupid, but with both those things. So it's really confusing. It's like Tim. Yes. And it started, it started with like he, when he had his long hair and he'd come out the show and he'd be like, I'm Rick Dalton, nice to meet you. And then it was Dalton, Rick, Richard, Ricardo. And then it went into slippers, slipstream, socks. It's like, honestly, so many random stupid names, they just don't mean anything. But I really don't care if people say that or not.

And in the end, we were in Barbados and everyone was was calling me Rick and Toby Rick and Elle was calling Toby Richard and it was like, and then someone was like, so if you say like, I thought your name was Toby and I'm like, no you're right. Because it's so far, it's just another name. It's not even a nickname, Richie. Yeah, it's like Tim. That's how people call her Tim. When we talk about that and then like, so who's that then? I've never heard you speak like that. That's so fucking funny. It's actually one of my best friends and it's a girl.

Oh my God. Look, I think if your friends are laughing at that, they're a bit immature. They're clearly, clearly jokes. Also, it's fine to giggle at it. I feel like, lol, that's a funny nickname. It is funny and that's okay. Don't be embarrassed by it. Milk it and then, you know.

Don't whisper it because that's showing your embarrassment. You need to show that you really don't care. Override that embarrassment. I think it's like quite hot that your boyfriend doesn't give a crap. Like I would be so like cringing out of Jamie. It's like, don't call me lamby in front of people or like don't call me this. I'd be like, why do you care so much about everyone else? Like what the fuck? Like he doesn't give a fuck. He's that pookie, Susie bounce. Do you want a beer? I think that's great vibes.

Me too. He sounds like a cat. What Susie Bounce. Do you want a beer? I think that's great vibes. Me too. He sounds like a cat. What are your and Jamie's nicknames? Lam? Lam was like the original, the OG, tiny, sink, kitchen sink. It's just the same. So what the fuck is this about? Yeah, just so weird. Sink, kitchen sink. It started with Paddington Bear was one, and then it went to Bearzy. And then it went to

Tiny. Bearzy, I can't remember then how that went to Tiny Temple was one. And then it was like- It's dead. And then it was like- The Kitchen Sink. Kitchen Sink was really random. It came off Tiny Temple. I can't think how it divulged into that. And then it just went to Sink. And so they're all just outrageous. Sink? But like anything, if my hair looks a bit bushy, he'll be like, come on into that. And then it just went to sink. And so they're all just like outrageous.

Sink? But like anything, like if my hair looks a bit bushy, he'll be like, come on bush. Like far bush. Like this morning he was like, morning far bush. Like there's no logic behind any of it. Like nothing makes sense. Like I'll literally see a lamp and I'll be like, oh, come on you lamp. Yeah, I know. There's nothing. It's just endearment.

It's a whole other language really that like, you would know if you just spend those time with that said person. Yeah. I'm trying to think what that is at the moment. We used to have rings. Squidworth is a real one that I use all the time. Squidworth and I don't know where that came from.

I think it came from SpongeBob SquarePants. Yes, it does. Yes, it does. Squidworth, come on Squid. Then it came to Squidworth and that's my favorite. He's never learning. Then you'll go into Squid Ink, then it'll be Ink, then it'll be Pen. Yeah, exactly.

Like it goes to like such strange groups. I think my sister finds it so weird the names I call Bella, like her little daughter. I'm just like every single name on the sign. She's like, what? But like what? But she calls her Sprite. She's like, come on, little Sprite. And I'm like, where's that come from? Is that even a word? And then her husband calls her Peaches. That's precious. That's cute. Peaches and cream, but it's now just Peaches.

And so, and he calls his daughter Sprite. Or Babes-a-lish. Come on, Babes-a-lish. Right. There's nothing embarrassing about this in this life, yes? No, I think we just embrace it. You carry on calling him the nicknames in front of your friends, like you don't give a fuck.

Also, if you wanna diffuse it, give your friends some funny nicknames too. And then it's like, yeah, just whatever. You can call me, do you know what I mean? Not make it so much of a big deal. Jamie is such a nickname. The first time he meets you, you will have a different name.

If your name's Georgia, your name's G. And I'm like, that's not fucking right. My dad, it annoys me so much when my dad does it to people. My dad now calls Toby Rick and I'm like that's not my dad does it to people my dad now calls Toby Rick and I'm like stop no that's so sweet that's so sweet they can't don't do that I feel really upset that you just did that no sorry you know what that's actually not bad it's people that when you don't know that well and you give them a nickname I'm like they might not like that nickname it's like when someone's just met you and they're gonna say call you mills even if you do like it People try and fucking call me Mel

All the time and I and I'm not trying to correct them and say no no no don't call me that it's Melissa He's a vibe, pookie and zucy pants are fucking hilarious stick with it. Don't be embarrassed. Just be your weird self Like what's the point of living if you're gonna be embarrassed what people think? Totally Okay, that's the end of the episode, guys. Thank you so much for listening. We love you. Love you. Bye. Bye.

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