Wednesdays - 91: Is my boyfriend being inappropriate with my BFF?

Episode Date: January 11, 2023

We’re finally back in the studio with a very special guest…Sophie’s new pup Bobbie! It’s a jam packed episode as we discuss celeb conspiracy theories, what we’re leaving in 2022, and of course some juicy dilemmas. We’re kicking off damp Jan with a Tripp Lemon and Basil as recommended by you the listeners!Our rating is 10/ 10 would recommend! xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either. And we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts in anything in fact we just chatted all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help hello hello god it's been months it's actually been months it's actually been months when's

the last time you did this four weeks ago no you're joking well i've been away for three weeks oh maybe three weeks have you been away for three weeks you were away for two weeks no well i was away from skiing for two weeks then i stayed an extra six days then it's been a week could you bring a skiing resort for three weeks cold cold i was getting really good towards the end it's really annoying you sort of get your ski legs back yeah and then towards the end of the trip you're like oh i'm really into it and you leave and you're like damn it and your mom doesn't even ski at all does she no she's just potters about with the peach wait not one drop and i never put

skis on so she did when she was a lot younger the first and last time she skied someone skied in turn she snapped her cruciate ligament oh my god my mum did that yeah and they told her

you shouldn't ski again because if it happens again I think it makes you walk badly I think it also just puts you off like my mum did the same and she was just like

never again yeah really sorry how was your Christmas my Christmas I got a little peach for you bringing it up yeah so obviously

you guys have obviously met the Bobster I can't even explain how cute she is oh my god she likes to chew her little um pig's ear which or whatever hell it is but it looks disgusting and i now have to hold it it must be a pig's ear because i remember we used to give those but she's chew chew chew because she's teething right now chew chew chew chew chew chew she's very well behaved she's choo choo choo because she's teething right now choo choo choo choo choo she's very well behaved she's honestly she's learned how to pee already guys in two weeks which i think already on the map pooing is not the same she poos everywhere does she i get because she runs around like a little rabbit because i think she's like she almost freaks out she's like get it out of me get it out like frantic so i know she i can't catch her and then she'll just go somewhere really random like behind

like the plant pool guys i can't describe to you how cute and small she is in real life like it doesn't transfer on the i've obviously been sent a million pictures a day by sophie of her and she looks so cute but in real life she's i can't describe it how much smaller in real life does she look she's oh my my eyes are watering why am i talking about it she it how much smaller in real life does she look she's i'm like my eyes are watering she's so much smaller in real life like her little head is like if you picture your own hand and you go like that that's how big her head is when melissa does that she's honestly tiny oh my god and then we had new years i stayed at home with her i was really i've been really ill i'm not gonna lie for the last like month yeah i'm still just coming out of it really so now i just turned into a cold but i was like really unwell that happened to my brother and apparently loads of

people had it yeah a lot of people are getting and it lasts like good three weeks yeah it was awful it wasn't covered though i had loads of tests and i just was like i feel dreadful but it gets actually out of you quite quickly these days, apparently. It's just so clear, isn't it? We're doing the old dry jam. I'm actually doing a damp. I'm going to be honest because I've got my brother's birthday. So when is the brother's birthday?

On Wednesday. This Wednesday? Tomorrow? The 11th. Oh, okay. So I've got a little night, no, no, no. I've got a little dinner out with him and my sister and her boyfriend and yeah. And Tobes?

No, Toby's working. But then on Friday, we're all doing a dinner. With friends or is he doing a friend's dinner? So we do it yearly. So we do Jack and Hermione, who are my friends that my brother also really loves. And then Toby, myself, and then my brother and his girlfriend, sweet.

Have you met the girlfriend? Very, very briefly. Nice. Stunning, gorgeous little thing. She's so cute. brother and his girlfriend sweet have you met the girlfriend very very briefly nice stunning gorgeous little thing yeah she's so cute you can't really say no on the podcast could you but you have told me off camera so if you've seen pictures of her she goes smoke show yeah she's an absolute smoke show she's so gorgeous okay guys so with the dry jam loads of you gave us recommendations yes we chose today to drink trip which has actually got 15 mg of cbd which lovely yeah i actually need some more of that yeah i need more of that i'm a bit really nice i love them i have them at home the whole time can we talk

about this i tried one last night because toby's drinking the pink ones what's the flavor of the pink um elderflower i think this one's lemon basil oh god it's so refreshing i could drink i could honestly also just slip a bit of vodka in with it and that'd be my mixer drink because it's so yummy no they do do that that's a great so your house no it's a cocktail with trip oh my god i thought i was inventing something really cool then that's yeah they're freaking delicious anyway they're effing delicious but anyway we got loads to give you so let's read some for you clean coat clean expenses company thing yeah spence matthews he's got a really nice non-alcoholic brand out which has like

literally everything non-alcoholic rum non-alcoholic gin and does it taste really like it yeah so it tastes it tastes so good and my god wow and there's loads of different flavours like there's like a rhubarb non-alcoholic I love a rhubarb flavoured um gin yeah yeah yeah yeah

yum and then you put like a grapefruit in it it's all pink and lovely yeah yeah yeah no that's grapefruit gin that's delicious no but the rhubarb gin

I've definitely had before I have too I also have had there's another gin called like short cake gin anyway we got sent it Jamie and, I'm not sure by who. And I've never looked at it or seen it anywhere. It tastes of cakes.

And it's so stunning. Sorry, I just, I can't deal with how sweet the little pooch is. She's just happy as Larry having her too. I've just got picked it all over. It's so precious. So yeah, so Clean Co, lovely non-alcoholic wine. Oh, so Dash dash water i guess is that a similar vibe to see to trip or no dash water is literally just fruity water and they

use like wonky fruit so fruit that would have been thrown away sorry i'm so oh my god you really are right so they so like all the fruit that will get thrown away because it's not pretty enough to be like in child sure they make this sparkling flavored water from it it's like zero calories zero sugar it's delicious i prefer trip trips really calmed me down really yeah you feel lovely after oh i'm gonna just order myself a bunch i actually think i've been sent some but like years ago when it was first a thing yeah kombucha is that we both love oh guys can remedy kombucha get that gut health back in gear new year new gut new year new me new gut right another one that i i've seen on here which you guys have

recommended which i feel like we have tried because we love what i love april it's called credino oh my god shut up so you could put that with no secco or like one of the because the the the non-alcoholic proseccco's actually taste exactly like it. Yeah, the non-alcoholic Prosecco's. We used to have them. Yeah, delicious. It was last January, I think we were trying them. Pearl Fox do a non-alcoholic one and French Blue, really delicious.

Oh my God, you're right, French Blue, I recognise that. Yeah, really delicious and really, really nice to have on the table. It's got a little aesthetic, doesn't it? Yeah, I sort of love that. We can't be doing that. Okay, bad habits that we're going to leave behind in 2022. Obviously, I'm not mad on the whole New Year, new me thing. I say it and I joke about it, but I'm not doing anything different.

No, no, no. I'm actually working out less. I actually think it gave me anxiety I'm not gonna lie everyone being like the pressure the week of it like January 1st gym gym gym I'm like oh grow up really yeah I was like no but I think that's because I had a dog I meant you know I am getting married this year yeah you're gonna be getting in the gym and you're like well I'm not um yeah and it's like everyone was like being so proactive and i also felt really ill still so i was like god i push your body you can't push your body but people put a lot of pressure on you to do it in january and just like go at your own stride i so agree i mean the whole first week of january

i've been drinking and eating cheese i was still i was still skiing in france so i was just living my life yeah what's the difference from January to April you can only really also do we are both doing dry jam as we said or damp jam but I did drink oh my gosh she's so small I did drink the first week of jam anyway so I have had one sip I won't lie but that was it I'm really I'm not even going to classify that as damp January people I'm still sticking with that it's dry january bad habits what do we must have some okay my spending habits yeah i need to be a little bit more grown up and mature about what i spend my money on save a bit more we got both got to be frugal i'd be frugal as fuck i need to be really frugal i've got a mortgage that i'm paying and

just a lot of responsibilities she's a great little gal I don't like adulting but you know what it's just part of life isn't it it is I am going to eat out less and I think

that's not drinking we'll save so much money oh my god going out for meals is a fortune also I'm going to put it out there Deliveroo so expensive

no no I spend so much on Deliveroo I'm going to just do the HelloFresh cooking that kind of vibe okay any celeb slash relationship like any celebs that we're just done with you know what i'm done with hearing about corny and travis been done is it travis yeah yeah yeah been done with that for

a while i do appreciate that they're very in love but yeah i'm so done with it what happened with that guy adam lovello or whatever i've got baby brain do you think that's from the puppy no we were talking about this earlier because we're going to get onto this topic i have baby brain all the time yeah but adam levine and bloody that just went on the hearty whatever yes these things go in the press for two minutes and no one cares and it just goes no but normally like they get scrutinized but they obviously just had a very good pr yeah that that was actually kind of also probably more important things like no one cares about Adam and Eveen that much anymore do they no what is it back when

we were kids what's the Marine Pie songs no I used to love oh no no no no my age guys just just hit us up if you need someone singing at your birthday party or wedding i mean say there's a new career line for us new things to come in 2023 big big things okay any more celebs that we're done with i'm trying to think who else we just hear too much from i'm like oh i'm gonna gonna like harry and megan oh yeah yeah i've heard just a bit too much about i'm like we need everyone needs to just chill out but saying that we are going to talk about it just quickly we just wanted to let you know that kylie and travis have obviously broken up again oh my god they'll get back again she'll have another baby with him she gets him

back for the old kidaroos for those lovely genetics and then just kicks them out yeah all the kardashians need to do they like to have their babies with all of the same man which i kind of agree well it makes it less complicated just one just one person to co-parent with rather than two or three so I can understand probably not Kanye West I reckon Kim's probably thinking fuck I wish I didn't have all of these kids with him well it's remember when I told you that Travis Scott was meant to be in the like a devil a devil the luminati no yes. The Illuminati. No. Yes. That's the Illuminati. Yes. The devil worshipper. Yes. They worship the devil.

Satan. Yeah. Worshippers. And like. The Illuminati. Same with Beyonce. Kanye. They all do this.

That is what that means. They worship. Yeah. But they like sacrifice. And apparently Chris Jenner like sacrifices all these men up to the devil. Michael Jackson. Dead. Because he tried to leave the Illuminati.

Apparently that's why he died. Guys. The conspiracy theory. Wait. Wait that's why he died. Guys, conspiracy theory queen over here. Wait, wait, tell me some more. I love it. So apparently that's how Michael Jackson died, because he was given the old... Because he tried to leave the Illuminati. That's why no one really knows how Michael Jackson died.

It's all a bit mysterious and weird. Well, no, he just overdosed. He was addicted to drugs, wasn't he? But he was with a doctor when he overdosed. The whole thing's strange. He was a bit of a strange bloke, wasn't he but he was with a doctor when he overdosed like the whole thing's strange i mean he was a bit of a strange bloke wasn't he let's be honest he so was but he but the limonati does sound weird like who the fuck wants to worship satan how does anyone actually ever seen the limonati like does that is that any proof it exists it's kind of like a cult it's like a cult and scientific or whatever that's good what

scientologist scientologist apparently um chonkruz has come out that he doesn't believe in it anymore It's like a cult. And Scientifico or whatever that's called. Scientologist. Scientologist. Apparently, Tom Cruise has come out of that. He doesn't believe in it anymore. Have you heard about this? He was one of the- I love it, guys. I look to our producers for reassurance that what I'm saying is legit.

And they all look at me and they're like, come on, guys. What I'm really confused about is Melissa Tatter left 2022 not even knowing q-ton cruise was and has come back 2023 knowing every bit of detail about every single celebrity it's because my brother reads so much on stuff and he's like oh my god read this read that read this have you heard that i've just told you all the information i know he's left side

yeah so i we need you know what we're going to discuss that in next week's yeah we're going to come back we'll come back to you with the luminosity we'll come back to you with um the Tom Cruise Scientology oh yeah here we have to talk about Harry and Kate Harry and Megan I know we really do what do we think I've not watched it so I've no no we've watched the series so oh I've watched the series yeah and you've watched the series yeah we've spoken about that but i've not watched the recent interview about his book i'm watching it today i'm so i'm gonna watch it tonight i'm really excited it's like the most exciting thing to i completely forgot that that was out so the book that he's written there's some things in it which i think are quite funny that he's left in so the whole like him losing his virginity to an old

woman i'm like quite jokes you've left that in there fair enough like relatable it's a good bit like a good thing to put in a bit he's for a quick ride in the back yeah i think it's quite funny yeah i'm like yeah give me him for that be honest nothing we're not ages safe for here remember no no we're not i'm the old woman in my relationship i actually am but apparently megan guys so the reason megan and kate fell out is because megan said to kate that she was suffering from baby brain and kate got really offended by it which so that's like me going to you also she got a bit baby brain and you're getting really offended like grow up oh sorry she's like what was that she's like yeah she's like i'm really really Harry admits watching Meghan's sex scenes in suits was a mistake

oh grow up Harry no I can't Will and Kate were big fans of suits before meeting Meghan I'm still a huge fan of suits I bloody love it not the whole series again

I was so in love with the main guy I watched it when I was like 15 oh Harvey Slater oh wow wow wow wow wow, wow, wow. Wow.

I actually... That is a proper alpha male, alpha male. That's big to Hemchi. I'll give you another... He walks in a room and it's like... Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like every single girl's fair and mean. So like sniffing him out for a mile away.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And every single man's probably too. God, that's just so rare. Yeah, all the men suck his dick. Like... Who's that Lewis guy like just begs for his attention like they all do like he's so cool she's like why'd you put me down oh no no she's upset okay right also another one who also is just like absolute sex on legs and i'm so up

male is a californication the guy in that oh my god hank moody hank moody hank moody from californication she strapped me down i know i'm so with you what is it but he's not that fit he's just no i saw him in another movie i was like oh still got it you know what i watched him in zoolander oh that might he wasn't cool in it yeah like the worst teeth and he had like this weird he was like a hand model right okay but if you do what girls actually i't know why people, when people ask me who's your dude man, I would say Hank Moody. Exactly how he is. So cool.

And he's so good. But you know what? He's really nice. Okay, right. So Hank Moody and... What's his other name? Not that this is even a question. Yeah, we've just gone off on a tangent,

but just saying, you know, they would probably be up there with my top three. What else? Okay, right, hold on, hold on. This is quite weird. So William demanded that Harry shaved his beard off for his wedding grow up so the queen said to him apparently like yeah yeah it's fine you can have your beard whatever and harry was like william was like telling harry yes i shave his beard off quite controlling older brother vibes jealous

because william had to shave his beard off so he made harry do the same thing it's just it's really hard to comment on this because i know like the uk is so divided in it and i and you know i have the story that we're listening to really yeah it's one side of the story and i don't agree with what harry's doing a lot of the things he's doing i really don't i think he's shitting all over the royal family and his family and then being like oh can you all forgive me and i won't have a relationship it's like no that's not what would happen like if my sister talked about me the way he's spoken about my family i'm like you're done like i'm not gonna pick up the phone like no sure but we just don't know i find things like this just too because i also used to love harry so much you know the whole thing is really difficult but i am it's a really really difficult topic as well because i

know people are so passionate i feel like i can understand a lot of harry's like same i can understand it princess diane and all these things i just but i can also understand will and k and you know the king queen queen i feel like i feel like will is kind of like i gotta do what i gotta do queen of consort like i am the future king i've got to do i've got to do this i have no choice i can't just rebel and do what you've done okay yeah probably a bit jealous maybe should we move on to the the fact love island contestants can't have social media bars on the show wait wait what yeah because you know there's a when to island's coming up. Apparently it's quite shit though. Wait, but why no Instagram? Because I reckon they come out.

They get it when they come out, right? And I reckon it'll be because they can't come out of the show already having so much hate on social media. So you can't, okay, so I see they're doing it from a perspective, like a pastoral care. I think so, but it's a bit weird anyway, because they're going to tweet about them anyway. Like, people are going to be dicks about them anyway, you know? I guess it's like, in a way, to control mental health. I'm imagining.

But, either way. Quite annoying, though, because they can't develop a fan base whilst they're in there. They'll come out with way less following. God, that sucks. What's putting a ding in there? Yeah, I know. That is the whole point going on, isn't it? Yeah, like, remember the days when people were like, they'll come out with way less following god that sucks what's putting a ding in there yeah i know that is the whole point going on isn't it yeah like to be fair some of them i still go on for love i mean molly may yeah and and um who's the other person alex bowen and olivia yeah they got

babies they got babies like it does happen and from the first series the first ever series nathan and cara they still together still together babies married oh no that's really there is quite a few success stories we are actually so oh my god i watched one of the youtube videos the day of her at christmas and i was just like wow i just love you lovely i watch all of them so yeah so they are very wholesome they're so wholesome it's what i do in the bath i kind of watch youtube sometimes in the shower it's really weird because i like feel really alone and claustrophobic in my shower

so I have to have something on. I have to have something on the whole time. I hate silence. I hate silence. Like I will put music on. I cannot bear silence. I literally feel like

I'm like no. I think it's because we grew up in loud households so when I'm alone in my flat I'm like I'm going to be alone with our thoughts. Maybe.

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See full terms at canada.casino.fandu.com. Please play responsibly. Okay, alright, Dilemma 1. We're moving on to the Dilemma, kids. Okay, first one yeah go on i've been with my boyfriend for three years and he's absolutely the one for me he's so loving and caring and we are the best friends we have a big group of mutual friends and one of the girls has been going through a really hard time and is in a toxic relationship we were all together on new year's eve and really drunk he took his friend aside and told her that he had always had a soft spot for her i think in the hope that this

would make her feel better and more confident i'm not sure about that the girl was mortified and insulted that he would think that she would be flattered by this when she is such a good friend of mine okay so she took it the wrong way but you being you were like no no he's trying to make you feel better but she took the girl took it the wrong way i came with you she demanded that he tell me about the conversation why they had and he tried to apologize to her he told me three days later firstly downplaying it saying he told her he really cares about her and it got misconstrued construed he then said he was drunk and got confused about his feelings so no i know in my heart all over

the place i know in my heart what he means it is okay to be in a relationship but do you care for another friend have a soft spot for them and i don't think it takes away from how he feels about me i'm not sure well i don't know i feel like jamie would probably say like he would say it to me yeah but not maybe it's the way it's delivered maybe yeah i'm not sure when you're drunk being like taking away i mean like just so you know i've got a real soft spot for you no that's a bit odd i'd be like i think it's one thing being like look i'm a bit worried about you you know i really care about you i've got a soft spot for you i always take care of you and this isn't right fair yeah actually i kind of

think i'm just trying to think maybe if like one of jamie's friends took me aside when i've got a soft spot for you i'd be like oh that high but if they i would like thanks but if if they said in that way like i really care about you know i've got a soft spot for you that's different different we've got further to read on this dilemma we're not done with it yet hey go on it's the fact that he told her about it that has made me really upset and embarrassed she just the fact he announced it like just have a soft spot but don't go up to them and tell her i kind of know what you mean yeah yeah fine fine fine it's fine to say to everyone like you know i've got a soft spot for her i really care about her but i don't pull her to one side and like tell her that

that's quite weird has me really upset and embarrassed i've cleared it all up with the friend in question that there is absolutely no problem between us but now I'm left with what to do with my boyfriend I think it was really disrespectful to me what he did but then again he was really drunk and his heart was in the right place it's certainly not a dumpable offense in my eyes I couldn't throw everything away we have but I still feel hurt blindsided and embarrassed and I don't know how to deal with the situation advice I'm just trying to think about it like if Toby pulled you aside like let's say you were go you were in a toxic relationship and you were I don't know and Toby pulled you aside when he was drunk went so if I've got a soft spot I don't know I don't know because if I don't I in my mind I'm picturing him pulling her aside being like look I really

care about you for a huge soft spot for you and like i don't think you should be in this toxic horrible relationship but then why did you wait three days to tell her like why announce it to the girlfriend even like if jamie said that you you wouldn't even bother telling me just so you know the reason why he felt to tell her was because the girl reacted really badly like why are you telling me if you need to tell your girlfriend about this conversation. It's weird. That's what he then told her. No, it is embarrassing. It's embarrassing because... He obviously said a bit too much

to the point where your friend was like... Or he said it in a weird way. Yeah, to the point where your friend was like, that's what you need to tell your girlfriend about this conversation. I like her. Respect for her being like your way. Like, don't tell me that.

If Jamie came up to me and was like, oh, Melissa, I've got a really soft spot for you, and like said it in a certain type of way,'d be like you're disgusting going to I know I would be like I'm gonna go tell Sophie right now what you said yeah I'd be like Sophie I'd be like Melissa come here yeah yeah you need to join in this right repeat what you said I'd make him say it in front of you I would ask her about it I'd be like can you tell me exactly what was said yeah I would go straight to her like she's your friend and I'd just be like what was said like i feel like there's an icky feel about this something feels off i think if you haven't had a new thing from before that

like he feels a certain type of way towards that like he fancies her whatever if that's never been an issue before i don't think you should take this drunken conversation of him trying to be friendly that hard if i'm being honest i would definitely ask her to have to for peace of mind but people say weird things when they're drunk yeah i'm sorry but not your best friend that's like really she's always gonna be in your life i'm just thinking if jamie said that to you and i just had to live but i'd always every time he was around he'd be like does he fancy her yeah yeah yeah like it'd play on my mind too much just to answer your question i do agree it's not a dumpable offense but i think firm words need to be had and i think just be a bit more vigilant

i would go yeah and be straight to straight to your friend straight to your friend get all the information i feel like your friend will tell you straight up yeah and go from that i know you said that you're fine with the friend that she's done it too but i think you just need to get a little bit more information and then see how you really feel about it. Dilemma two, ready? Yeah. I was with my now ex for three years. We planned to go meet his sister and boyfriend out traveling for a few months in the year to come. However, my ex began talking about how busy with work and how stressed out he is. And we eventually ended up hardly seeing each other. The relationship fell apart. He one day decided to break up with me whilst we were in a pub garden

which for me felt so out of the blue as although we were going through a rough patch i didn't think he would end our relationship and overall the relationship felt strong besides his work getting in the way as this was my first ever experience of real heartbreak i lost my way and drank every night and stopped eating two weeks after our breakup i was out drinking and bumped into a mutual friend of mine and my ex. The mutual friend is actually his sister's boyfriend's brother, the one we were supposed to join when we were traveling. Right. I told our friend everything and he took me by the hand and told me that we're going to get drunk and have a laugh to cheer me up. I got completely smashed and blackout drunk and sadly the mutual friend ended up taking advantage of this and kissing me i was completely

disappointed with myself and knew if this came out it would hurt not only my ex but his sister and her boyfriend we were also closed before our breakup so i was completely terrified of hurting everyone turns out someone saw us and ended up telling them at first i denied it and it was completely just no i was completely distraught, but eventually came clean with very quickly. For months I punished myself for this and as I have never done anything like this before. To add to my bad luck, my grandfather then passed away.

Oh, I'm so sorry. This is awful. I've spoken to Sister separately and she seemed to have forgiven me, although clearly still cold towards me. But surprisingly, her boyfriend reached out to me and sent me a lovely message, hoping that we were still okay Lovely. gutted he also says although his feelings changed towards the breakup he still loves me he also says he's forgiven me for the mistakes of that kiss and understands that how it happens however he says he is unsure of the future as he is still going to join his sister and her boyfriend traveling

for the last four months at the end of this year which is what we were meant to do and he's also told me that this is much less appealing not going with someone as he wanted us to go together however with him telling me the multiple times that he regrets leaving me and is not happy deep down misses me etc i also awkwardly saw him on a date so he's clearly telling me one thing and doing another i'm so confused what do i do she loves him and he broke up with her maybe he's just no but you have to move on you know why don't they go traveling and see if they fall back in love he broke up with her out of the blue and now he's dating other people melissa you have been through similar situations i know and you told me you can't you have to just move on but you didn't and now you're back together i'm very happy i know but you can't she's stopping doing i actually then was like i have to like a month and a half after it or was it two

months i was like i have to get back up there and start dating now and we fully stopped talking and like that is true and you have to just accept like this is never gonna go back that's what you have to do and then if it comes back and surprises you then fine but i think you should go i think you should go he's not even giving her the option. He is. He's saying, I'd like you to come traveling. No, he's not.

Oh, I read that. He's literally playing with her emotions so much, saying like, Oh, sack him off. I don't know why in my mind. I read that he said, look, if you want to come traveling, then let's still come,

because it'd be better. I know we've broken up, but it'd be better. No. Oh, see you later, alligator. So he's saying like, oh, I quite miss you. Like, I regret the breakup,

but then not doing anything about it and then going on dates with other girls no no he's almost got a bit jealous

that you kissed that other guy and he's like I need to suck you back in emotionally keep you there on the end of the dangly little fish tail yeah he just wants to

keep have his cake and eat it absolutely also you have no choice but to sack him off like he's not asking to do anything

exactly also what was the reasoning for him breaking up with you he didn't give you one no you can't fucking wait around for that shit you've actually done nothing really that wrong who cares about his friend's sister's dog's arm or whatever it was that you kissed who cares about that yeah they're not they're not your people anymore you have to fully move on and like forget about that and you will find someone who won't leave you you've got to sack him off exactly and don't beat yourself up because what you've done is honestly so not that bad at all yeah seriously he's the one who broke up with you you can't really even get angry no exactly

right bride or bridezilla i don't know whether the dog's going to come if we can get her a passport by then. And like, she's had all her vaccines. I think she will have. She can just go on the BA flight. Yeah, she can just come. The BA lets you just take them on flights. She could just be at our villa.

Maybe she doesn't come to the actual wedding. That would be a bit stressful. We'll keep the nanny and the babies at home. Yeah. Because I don't want her to get, like, stood on by drunk people, you know? No, she would maybe be a bit of a hazard she might be a bit

of a hazard but not when she has a little bell on ding ding ding ding right okay not so single diary so Toby and I looked after his

little nephew last night only for an hour Rudy? no no normally opposite I was just I mean

he is so cute and sweet and actually so well behaved but it's so intense just for an hour i was literally thinking like counting down the minutes like oh my god thank god i don't imagine having to do that all the time are you joking no it's just like you constantly have to constantly you can't take your eye off it for a second it's not like it's worse than a puppy oh my god babies are easier than no like that is not the case oh my god i've never experienced it was just like you just didn't want them to like touch to pick something up and put it in their mouth like hit their head on

something like and also he has so much energy so he's just like boogying all the time like he like bounces around so you have to like hold him and it's like so cute i was like oh my god and then i was like can i imagine myself having one of these no no no not right now no no no no this dog i'm like fuck me i'm not having a baby for a long time yeah don't get me wrong they are very cute and he's actually ridiculously well behaved i love them them. But yeah, yeah. Is that your not so single diet? Yeah. Just a taster into adulthood.

I was like, right, she was so broody and not broody, but you were like ready for like next out and now you're like, oh, I'm not getting married. When on earth

it's like, all I want is a diamond. I don't want anything else. That's all I want really. Yeah, there was a stage where we were like don't really need to get my i don't really it's not like i don't care about it but like i'm not obsessed with the thought of like walking down like lots of people that have this big dream of like i want to be a princess at my own wedding like i don't really weirdly don't have that no not me i'm a princess every day i'm joking but i'm not i'm not obsessed with the whole big wedding thing i don't it that no not me every day I'm joking but I'm not obsessed with the whole big wedding thing I don't know it's just not something that I'm like I don't know maybe because I'm not quite

there yet with my age or whatever but I'm sure when I go to more weddings it then becomes a bit more like okay now I can see myself doing this I was saying to my friend Hermione she's like they've been together for a while and I imagine they will get engaged in the next few years soonish it's realistic for them right she was like yeah the thought of being engaged is fine the thought of walking down the aisle is like no i'm not old enough am i like it's scary thought the whole marriage part but the diamond thing didn't give me that tomorrow yeah yeah yeah just being engaged for like 10 years yeah yeah yeah happy with that okay should we rate our um alcohol food i finished it 10 out of 10 like genuinely so delicious i'm going home i'm gonna have another one trip so so delightful and also what's this about trip why are we crossing our fingers because they're holding your fingers that

everything will be all right to calm you down or they're saying take a trip with us and fingers crossed you have a good ride that's very deep marketing maybe they're just saying like peace out but maybe that was like not allowed i'm tripping like patented or whatever you call it trademarked trademarked so we're doing this so we're doing doing that. It's like the new. Cool. I might do it now. What up? My bitches.

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