Wednesdays - 94. Dating an Older Guy: How Old Is Too Old?!

Episode Date: July 8, 2025

Heyyy Tinies!This week, Melissa’s got a PSA and honestly guys… It’s so random but also kind of iconic. Sophie spills the tea on the very famous actor used to train at her gym. And, have we been drying ourselves wrong our entire lives?!We’re also diving into the latest celeb drama. What's going on with Justin Bieber lately? We’re so confused. In this week’s dilemmas, one Tiny is dating an older guy and her mum is not happy about it. But should the age gap really be a big deal? Another listener has found out that her bestie’s boyfriend is planning to propose… But it's really not the way her best friend would want it. Does she say something or stay out of it?! Enjoy the episode xGot a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail]--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Executive Producer: @jemimarathboneProducer: Helen BurkeEditor: Kat MilsomAssistant Producer: Emily D'SouzaVideo Editor: @lizziemccarthySocial: Anthony Barter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either, and we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts at anything. In fact, we just challenge all our shit. We love giving you guys advice, but as we said- We love giving you guys advice.

Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Hey guys, welcome to Wednesdays. Okay, we've got a very good episode today. I discussed what famous patterns in my gym. I tell you guys my hacks for hay fever and how I'm suppressing it. And we have a really juicy dilemma and they send in a photo and the photo is giving Thailand and that's all I'm going to say. Enjoy the app. Enjoy. You said to me, I have a hack about the hay fever and then you just minced out the room and didn't give me the hat. Right. It's an enzyme. So I saw Rose Ferguson, if no one

knows who she is, she's an amazing nutritionist. You don't know who she is? She's kind of like a Pippa Campbell vibe, but a bit more less like hormone focused, I would say. She did a whole post on hay fever and she was like a few like sort of natural things that will help LED light therapy, like red light. And then this enzyme, which I've, which I ordered from health called histamines something and it's an enzyme that helps break down histamines in the body. I wonder if that's pregnant today. So I'm taking it like three or four times a day and it is helping.

I will say all these things that you have to take more than once a day. I'm like that's never going to happen. I've got to take it in my bag. And you've got to say, are you remembering to do that? You know what I mean? Home at home I am, but if I'm out and about. Can't you just nail the three all in one go? Like what's it going to do that? You know what I mean? From at home I am, but if I'm out and about. Can't you just nail the three all in one go? Like what's it gonna do? Well no, it sort of says you just take one

before you're like eating or like when, as and when you need it. It's like the digestive enzyme situation and it's like take with meals. I'm like no, I don't remember. And don't take one of those puppies on an empty stomach because you feel really odd down there. Do you?

What an enzyme, yes, I think it's like breaking down all the food. So if you don't have, yes, I think it's like breaking down all the food. So if you don't have any food in you, it's like snogger vibes. This is fine, taking it to summit for me anyway. And because I suffer so badly with the hay fever, I am remembering to take it because if I don't take it, it's hell. Also, I feel like your hay fever is really good. Oh my God, let me tell you what is good.

Toby's been away the past few days. Let me tell you something that's changed my life. Right, so my friend Liv went to America and she was like, what do you need back? And I was like, can I have some melatonin? Because they don't give it to you here in the UK. You can buy it online, I think, from certain places. You can get it prescribed from your doctor. Yes. So I was like, I don't, I don't stuff with sleep. I'm like the best sleeper ever. But when Toby's not here, it's like my nervous system. It's just like, you can't sleep. And I'm like so annoying I'm tossing and turning tossing and turning so the second night I'm like right I'm gonna

shove all of this melatonin in it's like the let me sleep ones what it is which is what Courtney Harashian takes apparently. Yeah I've had them they knock you out. That's a lot of melatonin it's like 10 mg of melatonin. I thought it was really light. Me and Willis we couldn't get up the next day in New York. We were like, wait, what? I feel great in the morning after I've taken them. But you've got to have like a full 10 hours or eight hours. Like you can't do it on like a six hours because you're fucked.

It's almost like a sleeping pill. You should watch out with melatonin. Don't come for me guys, but it can actually cause like a hormone. Testosterone problems. And also like mental health problems. Absolutely, but this is just for me to take on the odd occasion when I know that Toby isn't here

or I was jet lagged, that's what I had them for. And I was like, perfect. Also the second night, I got into bed and I just shut my eyes and it was just bliss. Because also they've got this thing, I think they've got L-theanine in it. So you are literature. One thing that's a shame,

there's a fuckload of fructose syrup and sugar in there. I'm like, why are you giving that in a gummy for someone's sleep? Because that's just gonna also then try and like wake you up the sugar highs. But they're banging. They taste so good. But they're lovely.

I know. I always think that about Courtney Kardashian cause she actually genuinely, it's like she has an olive oil shot in the morning. So I'm like, why have you put the fructose in? Cause you're not having that for a good fed band. I don't think she makes Lemmys, does she? Is it her brand?

Melissa. Is Lemmy her brand? Lemmy is Courtney Kardashian's brand. I did not know that. Wait, sometimes I really get concerned about you, right? Lemmy is Kourtney Kardashian. Why didn't I know that? But didn't you just say Kourtney Kardashian?

Takes them. I thought she takes them. So I'm like, obviously it's safe. Oh my God, all Lemmy is her brand. I did not realize that anyway. That makes me feel even better about it. Yeah, why are you putting sugar in your fucking sweets, Kourtney? Yeah, I know.

And I'm like, are you taking them? Cause you literally have like raw matcha without and you'd have like ghee as your butter. Like you are so healthy. So I'm like, I don't know about that. Anyway, they work. They really work. I can't tell you, you need to ask me this about them.

Oh my God. We took, I'm actually going to tell you two things that happened in here. So we took the let me sleep, but then obviously jet lag fucked. It was just like bad vibes. Waking up only has six hours and the whole day we were like, just made it feel so groggy. I was like, I need to go back to bed. And then secondly, you know the collagen sachets from Davina Taylor, which guys is bovine collagen. Like it's not an electrolyte anyway. Willis, I left one in

his bag because I was like, I need this for my coffee. And he came in and he was like, this is the most disgusting taste. He put it in his water and shook it, thought it was an electrolyte and just drank it. I was on the floor laughing. Because if you know it's like clump, he was like, it didn't taste nice didn't taste nice. I bet it didn't. It's blended up beef. It probably didn't even taste salty or anything like an electrolyte. I know. And like really not doing me very well. I'm obsessed with him. She does do electrolytes in those, maybe he got confused. I think he did because there was probably one of the electrolytes in there as well because

that's why I was taking those. Right. I have, there's a public service announcement. So if you will know who these people are, it's devastating for a lot of females. So the Malloy twins, one of them is married. They've gone right to give context, guys. This is the funniest, most random thing that I've ever heard you say. Not one person will know who they are. Okay, right, girls, everyone listening, to give context, these two identical twins went to my school, right? They were like three or four years above me. They went to Warwick Boys, which was like the boys school of my area before. Before they came to Moorfield.

So I knew them. We are both aware of these twins, right? And I remember us bonding over them. Yeah, it's really quite phenomenal that we, right, what sparked up that conversation? I don't know. I must have looked at who you followed or something, continued to follow them or something, I don't know. They are, guys, the most,

they're identical twins for a start, like identical, identicals, as you can get. They are so good looking, words can't describe. And when they were younger at school, it was like real life kids. But are they still, because I haven't seen them since I was about 12. They have aged well. They've aged aged well.

They've aged really well. And one of them got married over the weekend. Devastating. Devastating for women. Oh my god, good for him. So guys, let me just give a description. What's the girlfriend? Oh, she's beautiful.

She was called Angel Face at school. So she's like absolutely stans. How sweet they met at school and they just got married. So just to describe what they look like, do you want to give a description? Very, very, very, very tanned at all times of the year. Always this golden tan. Like light eyes, blondie brown hair. Hearts will be broken across the UK. Hearts will be broken. All the schools in the area will be shedding a tear. They were like the original sort of like influences

of the world, like boy influences in my eyes. You know, and there's always someone like gorgeous at school that you look up to. There was always a girl and a guy. Well, the thing for me was it was more girl vibes because I was at a girl's school and like the boys I was just like fancy. Yeah. But the girls I was like, if there was a cool girl, that was really it. Harry Styles' first girlfriend or like one of his very, very, very early girlfriends was like very cool and went to my school. Well, this is like the sister school. There was like three schools in there. Did she have any specific traits that you were like trying to copy? Because there was a few

girls that had signature things. You know, like the messy hair to the side, maybe could have sucked her thumb. It was that vibe. So that is a sort of like child as an adult vibe. Like netball girl always in like a netball skirt, like smudged makeup. And I remember when Harry went on X Factor, we were still at school and she was like, that's my ass, like so lame. And then I think they got back together maybe like- I bet they fucking did. For like a hot minute, but he actually came to the club, my like village club called Smack,

went right back in the day. And then obviously, no, I wasn't there, I don't know. We could have been there, could have been there. But basically then he like blew up very, very imminently after like winning and everyone was like, Harry Styles has been here. And I was like, Harry Styles has been here. And I was like, and then he was like, bye Felicia. And off he goes.

And like, shout out from England, became England's heartthrob. Oh my God, wow. The heartthrobs. Have you ever seen him in real life? Yeah, obviously in real life. Loads around here. And like I've walked past him twice

down like the side streets of Marlborough and he looked at me fully once. We walked past each other on the pavement like this close and he fully looked at me, like fully looked me in the eye. You had a lingering stare. Yeah, well probably. I was probably like, my fucking god, it's Harry Styles. And he looked at me, kind of smiled. He seemed quite polite and nice and normal. And I was like, oh wow.

Who would you like really, really be starstruck to see out of a celebrity? Because like for me, Kim Kardashian and Kylie, I wouldn't be starstruck, I'd be fascinated, but I wouldn't be like, I would be like, fucking hell, that's Kim Kardashian. But I wouldn't feel like, Harry Styles, I wouldn't be able to get a word out. I'd be so intimidated. Like I would literally be like, I'm you,

and I would go bright red. Whereas like Kim Kardashian, I'd be like, oh my God, I'm in my element watching her, like in the wild. Justin Bieber also, but not at the moment, because I'm really worried element watching her like in the wild Justin Bieber also, but not at the moment because I'm really worried about it. Should we talk about this? Yeah, what's going on? What's up with all the pickies and the emoticons?

Can I just say like, I actually don't know what people are thinking. Like I did see something recently like this weekend where he was like shouting at the paps and he was like, leave me alone. Like you're going to cut this up. You're going to edit it. You're going to make me look crazy. Like I'm a dad. I'm a husband. Like leave me alone while you're out to get me. And it honestly made me feel so upset. But then on the other foot I am like, he does look a bit unwell. So I don't know what to believe. And there's loads of like massive fuck off blunts in every photo. The marijuana is like really quite right. It is legal though. I'm also

like really not good for the, his doctor, Dr. Aiman, who does his brain scans and what have you, and that he's spoken about going to before and I really helped him when he think he was coming off all the drugs and stuff, says marijuana is the worst thing for your brain health. And that's his brain doctor and he's making all these choices. I'm like, huh, you're not listening to your doc. All this shit. I don't know. Is it to do with the P Diddy stuff? I honestly, God only knows. But what I don't understand is like posting this really cute photo of like your wife with your child playing the piano and then the emoji con is just a finger up. I'm like, is this affect you to everyone who's discussing that maybe you're getting divorced on the

internet? So it's like, fuck you. No, I'm not. Or are you swearing at your, I just don't get it. And like he recently was like mother's day sucks dick or it's like fucking sucks. And then she was like father's day sucks. And I'm like, I don't understand what's going on. Like am I missing something? I think I'm missing something. Also did you see that she did this post she posted on Instagram and it was like ice lollies and therapy all summer long or something or like lemon cell lollies and therapy all summer long or something, or like lemon cello martinis and therapy all summer long.

Then she edited it and just changed it to lemon cello martinis all summer long. I don't really understand. But people had already screen shot it obviously. And then obviously there's all the videos of him like very, very like not looking like he's sober at these like festivals. And then she's just like grooving along

looking so well put together. I'm just like, I'm so confused. Someone answer some questions for me. I don't understand it. And then she's obviously just sold for a billion. Now, is she going to divorce him? I don't know. I'm so confused. Can people fill in? And by the way, I love Hayley Bieber and Justin Bieber. I'm not trying to throw shade on this. And we've not spoken about it because we were actually like, this. We've not spoken about it because we were actually like, this is quite sensitive topic, but it's getting, everyone's talking about it now.

At this point, we can't ignore it because it's just ridiculous. We can't. You know what, Deuxois doesn't even fucking know what's going on, so how are we supposed to? If they don't know, we don't know. You know the agenda made it on that one. I remember it happening. So basically, for those who don't know, DeMars is like an anonymous hip hop site for like celebrities. You'll catch Justin Bieber, a few cheated on Haley, like it's going to be caught and it's going to be put on DuMars. Like people in the public send it into this

girl. It's gossip girl. And then they say it's like Jennifer Lopez spotted getting a burrito or like everything's on there. And then lo and behold, my friend Bella sent me, she went, you're on DuMar. I was like, it's like very American basically. Jamie Lang and Sophie Booth spotted in Soho Farmhouse. I was like, whoa. Wait, was that it? Yeah. There was no gossip of like engagement, speculation, nothing. It was like photo. I think we were engaged. It was like photo of us eating sushi and I'm like, and it's like someone's taking it and it's like so blurry. It's literally the outline of like his blonde hair and like the side of my face. I was like, Jamie and Sophie spotted on a Friday night in Soho farmhouse at the Japanese restaurant.

I'm like, what an accomplishment. She fucking made it. She can hang out with her podcast mic now. Move out the way, King Kardashian. I was like, that's it. Anyway, it's a great size. It's really, really informative, I will say that. It really is informative. And I do just love to look at it now and again. I feel like I have something else I need to tell you, but I just can't get out of one of these. Oh my God, okay, right.

I have a question to ask you. So this is going so off topic. I just have a question because I'm fascinating because I saw someone do this. I'm so scared right now. I have a dressing gown, right? Which is like a towel and dressing gown gown, yeah? Right. But I get out of the shower and I dry myself with my towel. Yeah. Then I put my dressing gown on.

This girl got straight out the shower and put the towel-ing dressing gown on as the towel. Yeah, so weird. And just put it on and then tied it up and I was like, you know what fucking like dries out properly? No, I find that so so weird and sort of dried herself within the dressing gown and then put on my straights and I was just like absolutely god what on then have I been doing my wrong this wrong than my whole life right so I don't have a towel and dressing towel but I know what you mean like the hotel ones yeah no way I'm dry and then I get into my cozy dressing gown however Jamie comes out the shower, sopping wet. No, don't. Jumper on top, clothes on top, legs. I see his legs. His legs and back

never ever even get dried. It is soaking wet. Hair, clothes on, drip, drip, drip, little April showers all down his back and he's mincing out the door. And I'm like, I can't bear it. Winter, summer, spring, all year round. Oh my God, you're gonna get mold attached to those clothes. You're gonna get a cold. I agree. There's so many risks involved with that. It's like when I was younger and I used to go out

with my hair all the time, my grandma would literally, she would like, a tear would come into her. She was like, you're gonna get sick. I know. Really weird that we did that. I don't know if that actually does get you sick. I think it does. You do get a chill. Very cold. I'm not surprised it's all wet and then freeze around your head.

Yeah. I'm not surprised. I still go out with a towel. I don't do that. I dry myself completely and then I get into my dressing gown. Can anyone, if they're listening, is this a normal thing? I don't think so. What in the room? What's the consensus? Yeah, like you dry yourself first, right? With a fucking towel. I need to comment on this girl's TikTok and be like, what are you doing? I find like all of these day in the lives and also like the day in the lives and the food in the lives just absolutely fascinating. And I'm like, we live our lives in such a different way. This episode is sponsored by the Charlotte Tilbury Easy Beauty For You app, helping everyone everywhere to look and feel their most beautiful and confident every day.

Okay, so guys, as you know, we've been working very closely with Charlotte Tilbury over the last few weeks after she challenged Melissa to try out some new makeup looks. That's right, Charlotte connected with Sophie to introduce us to the Charlotte Tilbury Easy Beauty for You app, but that's not all. She also arranged for Toby and I to have a date night out, which is tonight at Nina.

Stunning. I know. Stunning, I am desperate to go there. Apparently the pasta is unbelievable. It's really order. Okay. So we know what we don't like in a date night. We don't love organized fun, but what would you say is your dream date night? I would like to take my time getting ready. That's always key. Leaving enough time to plan the outfit, do the makeup, all that stuff. And then I love a little pre-drink. So like

going to a bar or like sitting at the bar for a cocktail or a glass of champagne before I sit down for the meal. With some nuts. It's my idea of absolutely heaven. I'm obsessed. And then a nightcap as well is also quite lovely. Back at the bar or go to another bar. 10 out of 10. Yeah. So you get a little bit drunk and you feel very, very sort of like you're in a movie,

set at a gorgeous bar, lovely like thin, nice glass of something delicious. Ice. You're going to have a champagne. I know that you've got a Prosecco. That's your vibe. Delicious. set a gorgeous but lovely like thin nice glass of something delicious. You're gonna have a champagne, I know that you've got Laura Prosecco, that's your vibe. Delicious, stunning. Toby will have like a really cold nice beer. Yeah.

Oh, it's gorgeous. So predictable. Okay, but that wasn't all. So Charlotte challenged Melissa to get to work. So she used the app to put together a new makeup look for her and Toby's night out. And the Charlotte Toby app has all these beauty tools and tutorials and a whole free beauty school in your phone It really is genuinely the ultimate beauty hack. So Melissa tonight's tonight

Take us through the look you're going for. So there was a few options that I had and I've considered three quite seriously if I'm being honest with you There's so many to choose from. Right old Hollywood glam look is like the sculpted cheekbones, red lips to find eyes, and a sleek eyeliner flick. You know the drill. Then the bronze beach babe, which I do feel like is something that I go for more every day anyway. Same as you really, which is obviously very sun kissed, glowy, bronzy on the cheeks, that kind of thing.

Then there's a retro glam with like a bold cat eye, berry lips and corduroy cheeks. Again, different from my normal. So there's a few options here. Do I stick with playing it safe or do I experiment? So ultimately I've decided to go with whole old Hollywood glam. The red lip.

Yeah, it's just different from my normal vibe and I wanted to experiment. I'm obsessed. I've been playing around with the face mapping tool, which uses augmented reality to create a virtual overlay on your face. So I've had plenty of practice getting that contouring down. Oh guys, this is so exciting.

Okay, so listen, if you want to see the full tutorial from Melissa for the old Hollywood glam look, head on over to the Wednesdays Instagram. But before that, Melissa, I just need to know how have you found your journey with Charlotte Tilbury's Easy Beauty for you out? I have loved it. There's a whole four-week curriculum to learn from

that I've been taking part in at home. And as a part of this, you can actually ask the pro artists any beauty questions you have and chat with the other beauty lovers. It's genuinely a really lovely community. It really is. I am obsessed. And before we go, as someone who has spent years

building up a makeup routine, how have you enjoyed trying something new? I was very set in my ways. I'm such a creature of habit. So for me, trying new things was really quite fun, how have you enjoyed trying something new? I was very set in my ways, I'm such a creature of habit, so for me trying new things was really quite fun actually, I enjoyed it. I agree and I really liked experimenting with like eyeshadows and eyeliners and contouring,

because I just, like you said, I thought I had it down and I just really didn't. In general, how important do we think that it is that we, and the tiny, try new things and keep things fresh with makeup? I think if you look back on a photo of's try new things and keep things fresh with makeup. I think if you look back on a photo of yourself six years ago and how you did your makeup, be like, oh my gosh, thank God I experimented

and do my makeup now. So I feel like it's really important to maintain that like always upgrading, always trying to better and educate ourselves in the new tips and tricks and you know. You are so right. Cause if I still was doing my makeup how I did 10 years ago, I would just not know. That's not a vibe.

You've got to keep up to date on those trends, ladies. We really do. Okay. Well, guys, thank you so much for going on this journey with us. Remember to head over to Instagram to see Melissa's Charlotte Tilbury look in all its glory. And remember, if you're keen on a masterclass, go ahead and download the app, then sign up to Charlotte's Easy Beauty School.

It's totally free to download and use. That's the Charlotte Tilbury Easy Beauty For You app. Available on both the App Store and Google Play Store. So I'm going to Majorca. So you're coming on Friday without Toby for a quick weekend trip. He gets back today and he leaves again at 6am tomorrow morning. I don't even know where that boy is. Oh, neither do I. I'm like, where are you now? I honestly have no idea where he goes all the time.

It's exhausting. He gets back on Thursday night late. How do Amy find stuff she can do? God only knows. He needs to get some flight socks at this point. I tried to get him to wear them and we went to L.A. so he wouldn't put them on. Jamie was like, ow, ow, they're so tight. I was like, that's the point.

He was like, they're hurting. I was like, yeah, that's the point. They don't hurt. I was like, how big are your legs He was like, they're hurting. I was like, yeah, that's a point. They don't hurt. I was like, how big are your legs? Right. So where is he going? Don't know. It looks stunning. He's like really living the dream. Yeah. Anyway, I'm off to New York on Friday. I'll be there for a long weekend. And then I get back, go to Dua Lipa. Stunning. In Liverpool.

That will be a great concert. So good. So fun. And then we're getting a flight really early next morning from Liverpool to Malaga to go to Bella's wedding. We're going a few days early. I'm so jealous. Okay. So we're going to my best friend's wedding together. I'm so, it's so fun that like we've just made this friendship group and like now Melissa comes to all my friends weddings. It really is like the dream. So it's going to be a really nice wedding. I'm a bridesmaid. I'm doing a reading. I'm so nervous. You're really good at this shit. You might cry. And then I actually, the day that I fly to Bellers is the day I move into my new house.

So I come back from Bellers and I'll be in and I'm very nervous because Jamie's going to wedding guys. And I've just got this fear that all his mates will get like really fucked or whatever. And they'll be like, Jamie, you've just moved into your new house. And he'll be like, everyone come see it. And so what I've done, I know, but I've also got myself a ring doorbell as well as all the other systems. So I will see if that happens. And I will call him and I will say, get everyone out of there immediately. You can speak through the ring doorbell. I will say, you're not allowed in. Hello?

Can I lock? Access denied. Can I lock the door? I don't know if you have that sort of technology. Because I would absolutely love to if I could. But it's flippin'. Anyway, that is a bit of a fear because we know what Jamie gets like and you can imagine him being like, guys, guys, you need to come see it.

Surely he's flying the next morning so he won't be getting that drunk. Well, I mean it's his- Sunday morning, he's gonna fly. No, it's his best friend's wedding. He can't not get pissed to go to the other wedding. He's gotta just suck it up and do it. Dear God. It's like me going to your wedding

and then Bella's the next day. You'd be like, you're not skiving on my wedding. You know what I mean? It's gonna be a full, a full on me campaign, but you know what? I believe in him. Right, hump day hormones. What have you got for us?

I don't have anything to complain about other than the fact my boobs are enormous. I see. Melissa told me to say that. I feel weird saying that. I actually walked in and I was like, oh my God, whaps. No. Oh, whapping. Yeah. They're really, they're like heavy. It's a lot. You know what's really bad is I need to get new bras because they hurt. Once I eat, it's like, this is on one, you know, like one buckle at the back. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And this is like a loose bra. This is like, it used a gape on me. I need to now size up

because- Guys, they're so big. Like, they're like udders. So big. It's not cute. I promise you it's not cute. You would think it's cute. I think it looks amazing. I'll tell you why it's not cute because then like you've got this bump and like they're just really big. I think it's so gorgeous. I promise you they're just, it's like quite shocking to see yourself. You're like, whoa. And they're like, they look like they just, they don't look like

porn star boobs, let me tell you. They look more like mum's boobs. Although they are fellow milk. How weird is that? That's why they're so big. It's just fellow milk. Well, not now. Is it? Yeah, that's where they grow. What else is in there? Just the hormones making them just grow. So does it just make more fat in that specific area

until it's ready to replace with milk? Yeah, my doctor was like, the reason like most women are so hungry is also because of your growing human, but it is because the boobs need to grow. It's literally the breast tissue is like, it's like if you were training your bum all the time, your bum would want more food, cause it's like growing. Your boobs are like, give me more energy, give me more food. I'm like, wow, just eating for the boobs at this point.

The burger is for this boob and that burger is for that boob. It's like, wow. What are the food cravings this week? The food cravings are like a constantly the meat situation, but also like vinegar, vinegar, vinegar. Like I want so much salt, like just sour. Like I'm loving a gherkin. Like I always love sour food, like gherkins and pickled stuff, but like sauerkraut, it's like crap to me. Like I don't want sweet.

Like no, I could out by it. A lollipop, yeah, but like I had it and I was a bit like, regret. Yogurt, I'm like, ugh, fruit, yes please. Really like crisps give me like a crisp and a dip. Lovely. Down. Can I just say that's just like normal

human cravings in general? I know this, what Emily said to me, she was like, it's in me every day though. Yeah. But I'm like, what other cravings do people get? Do they get really weird ones? I sometimes when I'm like really thirsty, all I crave is like mango.

I'll just crave. Oh, I really crave mango. Like fruit and like water, refreshing fruit. But then I'm very,, all I crave is mango. I'll just crave fruit and water refreshing fruit. But then I'm starving in the evening. I'm like salt, salt, salt. Yeah, salt, just salt. Also, I would love to just eat a block of cheese. I do that sometimes before I eat my dinner.

I just slice it up. Slice. So I went for a really lovely lunch at my friend's barbecue on Saturday and come six o'clock, I was like, I don't know what happened to me. I was like, we need to go. Like I don't and like I can see also everyone's like then drinking vibes and I'm like, well, where's the food at? So I've gone and got the sourdough and I've got a plate of olive oil and I'm just supping up and the girls were like, oh my God, this is just like a meme of a pregnant

person just like eating half a loaf of sourdough while we're all enjoying a rose. I was like, oh, I'm that girl now. But it was really delicious. Oh my God, stunning. I'll never forget, we were at Bessey Beach and there was this chick just walking around like quite heavily pregnant, like eight months pregnant. Swinging a glass of rose. I swear that we then saw a second glass at one point and I was like, oh my God. She was like really living up and I was like, I was like, is that like a normal? It's quite, it's actually quite like freaky when you see people doing stuff like that and you're like, I don't think you're supposed to do that. Apparently in Italy if you go and you're like, oh sorry, no wine for me,

I'm pregnant, they go, oh no worries. And they come out and bring you the red wine because they're like, red wine's fine. And I'm like, that's so, I mean, each they're very a bit like, no. I don't think I'm doing that, no. It scares me to death. So we were like, so what I don't get right, and fair play to like, if you're pregnant and you make a decision, it's totally anyone's, you know, it's your choice. I'm like, a glass of wine to me and they say a glass of wine is fine, but that's like a bottle and a half for a baby that small. So I'm like, no, no, my baby's going to be drunk if I drink that. I know. I'm like, I'd rather not. I also like, I would rather

have three glasses of wine than just one. I so agree. So at that point I'm like, just give me a kombucha. I agree. Like if you're doing it for the taste, you have a lovely taste of your husband or your whatever got you. But like, what's the point in having like a meat, a small little smidge of a glass. like you're, that's a glug and then you just want more. And then it's just like, there's an absolute no point. Just get yourself a kombucha, get yourself a sparkling water and elderflower cause that is honestly elite. Yeah. Okay. So Addison Rae just did her show in the box and she performed at her underwear. So let's talk about that. I haven't actually, I think I've seen like clips of it on her

Instagram. She's done a lot of posts about it. Very raunchy, I mean, there's the box. I would love to know if she's male gaze or female gaze. I think she's obviously stunning, but our boys give me like Sydney Sweeney. Don't think so, I've never heard Toby speak up. I don't think Jamie will know quite who Addison Rae is. No, neither, he knows one of her songs,

that one that died at Pepsi, one that went viral. Oh yeah, and now she's got fame. But I don't know if he knows what she looks like. I watched the new Sidney Sweeney movie. Which one? Echo Falls with the amazing woman from Sirens. You won't like it. She's like a full junkie and it's like so intense and like. I've seen, and she has to go back to the mum and she's like I've changed or something. I did not like it. I'm sorry. I appreciate the acting. Because she killed somebody or someone has to cover up her body or something. I did not like it. I'm sorry. I appreciate the acting. Doesn't she kill somebody or someone has to cover up a body or something? Yeah. Well, let's not spoil it.

No, that's all in the preview. Oh, right. Yeah, you're right. Listen, I appreciate the acting was amazing, but that movie is not making me feel good about myself. I went to bed a bit depressed. Really? I'm not watching it. Don't watch it. I'm not watching it. But it's good. It's very good acting. Like the acting is phenomenal. And like, I was just like, no, get away. But it was interesting seeing her play something like that

because usually she's like a bit of a sex symbol and she was like, not in this. Have you seen, so Gwen Powell's like first girlfriend has done this whole, I think I spoke about this last week. So this whole interview on the fact that he cheated on her with Sydney's money and it's like gone all over the fucking internet and she's so beautiful. She's called like Miss Gigi something. She is unbelievable looking and she's like, I had to call it quits because I was meant to fly out to Australia and he told me not to come because they were like doing the press for the film and like wanted it to seem like they were kind of dating. I had so many fucking rumors

and I just couldn't deal with it anymore. The way he treated me was just like, just not how you treat someone after three years kind of thing. Oh my God. Fucked. And she's just done this whole tell-all thing. And then they bleeped out this whole section. And he was in my gym. I should have hissed at him. We don't like it, Eta. They bleeped out this whole section that she said that was obviously way too explicit to put on the internet. I wonder what they said. I know.

Who do you think gleebed that out? Like Glam Power's team were like, we will let you say it. No, the people that released the episode, the podcast episode. Obviously, Miss Gigi would have said it and been like, I need you to cut that bit. I don't know what her name is. Gigi Power is her name. Gossip? Or what?

I'm like, geez. I really find it fascinating when these girls come out and just really throw these famous guys under the bus. And I'm like, jeez Louise. I really find it fascinating when these girls come out and just really throw these famous guys under the bus and I'm like, good for you. They shouldn't get along with it. Also, don't ever come and get away with that shit. Now we can out that he went to my gym for a while, didn't he?

And I used to see him every single day with that big old trainer next to him and he'd finish his run and the trainer would give him his water and he'd be like, and I'm squeezing the water bottle. I'm like, honk. I know the vibe. You're not like it.'m like squeezing the water bottle. I'm like, you're not like it,

get your own fucking water bottle. As he sprints like 18 on the running machine. Anyway, it was so interesting because apparently all the guys in the gym who like all do weights all suddenly started doing sprints. Cause they were like, oh, Glenn Powell. Cause he was like in far shape. Like he must be doing a movie or something.

Very, very bad. Well he did when he did the Navy Wizard, you see in his body, it was fucking unbelievable. Well I think this was the situation, like he's training for a movie. I think that's why he was there. And I was like, God, can you just get off the fucking running machine, mate, and give it a rest.

["Dilemma One"] Okay, dilemma one, you ready girls? You ready, Melissa? Yeah. I'm feeling a little lost right now and need some advice. So I've recently started dating a man. We met at the end of 2024 and had a spark essentially straight away. We went for a little breakfast date at first before deciding to properly date. Fast forward to now, we've been together for a few months and I'm genuinely the happiest I've ever been. He makes me feel the best version of myself and tells me he's the happiest and most in love he's ever been. He's up for absolutely anything I suggest and our relationship is so balanced and equal. So here's my dilemma. Oh, I'm 23 and he's 40. Neither of us care about the age gap, but my friends

and family do. My mom has not reacted well to our relationships, which I do understand, but she's almost made me feel embarrassed for being with an old man. I wrote her a letter explaining how I felt and it seemed like she took it on board, but now she decides she doesn't want to even meet him. I've massively pulled away from her, which makes me really sad and very headstrong and won't let her change my mind on this, but I hate not getting on with her. I just don't know how to move forward. Please help. Yes, I've attached a picture of us on our holiday. I need the picture. I'm about to pass out. Guys, oh my God, he doesn't look 40. He looks like 25. No, no guys. That's so legit. Yeah, he doesn't look 40, I almost don't believe you.

Right, I'm describing it. They're on their first holidays, they're obviously like, dunno, maybe in Thailand or something. Can I just say, it does look giving in Thailand. It absolutely is. I don't know why, I think it might be her sort of dress. I think it's like- And also like the sort of the sofa in the background

with the woman on the pillow, it's giving, yeah. Oh, I agree women on the pillow Yeah, yeah, and the woman I know that's not the right Yeah, but it is just kind of and the aircon and also the sort of level of tanned also I pitch them going to Thailand absolutely that sort of couple, you know what I would have done I would have done a white line said is 38 Doesn't harm anybody fucking license 38 sounds so much, he's 38. Sounds so much better. And then after your mom's met him and fallen in love with him, you can then tell the truth, but you know, hindsight's a beautiful thing.

Also just say 38, like you don't ever have to tell her. He's actually 38 now. Yeah. Can I just say, look, I think it's really sad. I think you should not be so stubborn with your mom. I think that you should respect that your mom is just really overbearingly caring for you and just like wanting the best for you. And I don't think that you should cut ties with her to spite your nose, whatever that say is. Like you're being stubborn. I

think you're the one staying with the guy. Don't break up with him. He looks lovely. He looks about 25 anyway. And just be like, mom, please give it a chance or just have a relationship with her where you don't talk about him until the dust settles and she sees how happy he makes you. Yeah, that's a great bit of advice. I don't know what my mom would do if I brought her a man that was, I mean, how many years older is this? Look, I wouldn't have said how old he is because like he really. She's 23? Yes. So there's 17 years. So there's 17, oh, that's quite a lot. It's punchy, but like when you see him, it's so different. Like that guy could be 30. Can I just say, at this age,

it really probably doesn't matter that much other than the fact that he's probably gonna want children soon. So I don't know how that aligns with your goals and stuff. Or maybe he doesn't. Or maybe he doesn't. I think these conversations naturally, you would have already had,

I'm guessing that you like have the same goals. Yeah. Look, I think that you you have the same goals. Yeah. Look, I think that you should not choose a man over your mom, particularly this early on in a relationship. I think that is the wrong decision. And I think it's slightly immature, but I get why you've done it, because I would also have done the way.

Don't throw your toys out the prime because your mom doesn't support it. Just be like, mom, I know you don't support it, but I love you. Like, I don't want our relationship to be affected by it. Let's just not talk about him. Yeah. I've never, none of my friends have dated older guys.

I think my auntie and uncle was 17 years. I know and how legit and fine, oh, yes, sorry. My friend dated an old, my friend really dated an older guy. She's my age and I think her, I don't know their status at the moment, but he's like 55. He's like maybe 60. I don't know how old he is. He's really, really old. But anyway, the parents, but guys, the parents are best friends. The parents met him and fell in love with him.

So you know what? Age is just a number. Age is just a number at a certain point, but like I feel like if my brother was 40 and brought home a 23 year old, I would be like, that's fucked up. I know me too. I would, I would say that to my brother was 40 and brought home a 23 year old, I would be like, that's fucked up. I know, me too. I would say that to my brother. If we were that age, I'd be like, you can't be, she's 23. Like she's so young. Like, are you fucking?

Even someone, I know it sounds mad and I'm not passing any judgment here. I'm just trying to put myself really into the depths of like this dilemma and like put myself in the position of like what your mom almost is like trying to look at. It's funny when one of Toby's friends who's my age, we're all 28, dates like a 20 year old, we're like, she's so young. And like, it's just so obvious the age gap and like, she's just, it's just too young really for my vibe. And it's like, how is that not a thing when he's 14, you're 23? I agree. It's fascinating how that's just not even a problem, the age gap,

because I also think when you're that young, when you're 23, and you find them so interesting, because naturally they've got more years on their clock. So they've got more stories and more experience and they seem a bit more, that they have got more substance and depth and they're funnier and they're just interesting because they've got more experience in life. That novelty will wear off and then they'll just be maybe, meh. Well maybe then the reality will set and actually they're 40 and they want to have children right this second and you're like, I'm 23. I feel like this is not wanting children, this guy. That's my hunch. And also it's not really an issue for him. Like he can have kids whenever,

like he's got a young girl on his arm, like he can be 60 and have kids with her. But what I do feel is exactly what you said. Like I feel like you probably find him very interesting and charming and he's old. And then one day like it could be the case where you're like, you're not. Like that novelty wears off.

Yeah, it does. I just know where your mum's at and I feel sad that you've like distanced yourself from her. I think you should make amends. And you know what I would say? Your mum always knows best. I do sometimes think like my mum like, yeah, I don't think my mum would be like, I refuse to meet him. She would know that that would sort of push me the other way. But my mum would be like, I refuse to meet him. She would know that that would sort of push me the other way. But my mum would be like, probably to my sister, like, ugh, I can't bear him. Yeah, this is a bit weird.

Key is, you need to call your mum after listening to this podcast. You need to make amends because family runs thicker than water and then just go from there. Step by step. I hope you can prove your mum wrong and show that you're in love and she'll love him and then that would be a great happy ending.

Yeah, but we wish it. You look really sweet together. He doesn't look 40. You look the same, mate. Well, not that you look 40, you look so young. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would say he looks about 30, 32. Dilemma two. My best friend's boyfriend has told me he's planning to propose, which should be amazing news, dot dot dot, except he's planning on doing it at her birthday dinner in front of all her friends and getting his friend, who she literally despises, to film the whole thing. I know that she's going to absolutely hate it. She's told me and him so many times her dream proposal is something low key. Just the two of them on a beach on a holiday with no one

else around. Definitely not a busy restaurant with loads of people watching and a guy she hates filming the whole thing. I didn't say anything at the time because he sounded so excited and to be honest, we're not that close. Do I call him and gently suggest he rethinks the proposal or do I somehow warn my best friend about it? What's the right thing to do? Don't warn your best friend. Call him now. Just call him. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Dear god. Call him now. Although I will say, I would call him and if that was happening to you, I would definitely just be like, Toby, she's not gonna like that. Like if it was that extreme, you know what I mean? 100%.

Because like I would genuinely hate that. I would absolutely. Me too. I would almost say no, because I would be so angry. I'd take Jamie to another room and be like, what the fuck have you done? It would make me question. I'd be like, you don't know me at all.

I know. I know. Because you're doing exactly what I don't want. It's like when Jamie threw me that, my 30th birthday party and I just was like, you really, I mean, I look, I had a really fun night, but I was like, you really don't know me because this is my worst nightmare. Wait, what?

Didn't you plan that? No, he planned it. I didn't have any. It wasn't a surprise. It was meant to be a surprise, but the whole time I was like, I don't want to do this. Basically I get very, very overwhelmed and easily distracted in a big, busy space. So if I have 100 people coming over and having small talk with me, I'm like,

that is the most stressful thing in the world for me because I can't listen to them. They're talking to me and I'm like, I'm talking to that person. My brain- You're also like, you're almost in a hostessing me because it's your fucking birthday. Anyway, it was a really fun night in the end.

It actually was. And I'm glad I did it because it was fun. I did it with one of my best friends and it was great. But like at the time I was a bit like the day four. You really don't know me, Jamie. So it's the similar vibe. It is a similar vibe. I do think there's no harm in calling and being like, look, I know she has said to me before that that is like her worst nightmare. So I just want to give you a heads up. I'm not saying it's, I think it's a bad idea, but she has told me what her dream is. So like, if you want to make her dreams come true, I would do that. And I know that she would really hate that. And I can't let you do this. Also, just so you know, I know the idea is amazing,

but for me as a girl, I would also find that so intimidating and awful so that he can, because sometimes I think boys will be like, they're like this, they're so excited and they'll be like, no, no, no, she'll love it, she'll love it. She'll have all her friends there, she'll love it. And you're like, no hun, seriously? She won't. Yeah. Like I know. You need to tell him. You must tell him because that's a disaster. Don't tell her because like this, the proposal, the whole idea is that it's a surprise anyway. So don't fucking tell her. If you knew Jamie was proposing, so you saw Jamie walking into an engagement shop, right?

And you're just like off the bat, you're strolling around and you see him walking in and then you see him buying a ring. Would your excitement just be like, and have to tell me? No, I would never tell you. That would completely ruin the surprise for you. That would be so selfish. I'd never do that. But you know when like you would just want to call your friend and be like, oh my gosh, you won't believe what I just saw. I would tell another friend, but I would never tell the friend I think is getting proposed to.

Yeah, that would be awful. That's like the meanest thing ever ruining that surprise. Horrific. I would never do that. Horrific. Horrific. That's like being like, this person's planning a huge surprise birthday for you. It's really- But act surprised. You're like, what the fuck?

I know. Or like, oh my god, do you know what your 30th birthday present is? It's this. That's quite me, I used to do that to you all the time when presents, didn't I? Oh my god, so if you once basically told me what this huge present was that Toby was getting me, and I was like, shush, shush.

I was so drunk though. She was like, you sure don't wanna know, and I was like, do I don't wanna know? She was like, okay, but it was shush. I know. I was like, I'm gonna have to move away for a few minutes, you fucking really surprised me. I was absolutely gagging to tell you very very funny. I don't know what, but I think it was because I was like, I'm going to have to move away for a few minutes if you fucking bring this surprise for me. I was absolutely gagging to tell you very, very nicely. I don't know what, but I think

it was because I was like, she's going to love it. Also for me, I'm not bothered about a present. Like I can get told. Just tell him. That is the last piece of advice. Tell him that she's going to hate it. Tell him that you know that she's going to hate it and tell him what the dream is and be like, please I cannot be on board with this whole proposal. Just be really honest, but you get one shot at this, mate. You can't fuck it up and do it for yourself. You're asking, no.

This is wrong on every level. If you wanna go and do a private proposal and then you will join us for the dinner after and celebrate, fine, but you can't do it in front of other people. Just say, be firm, because like. You have to be firm and be like, I'm highly advising you and I actually hate to think

like she would be upset if you did this. Yeah. I think it's a right thing to do. Okay, so dilemma three. Okay, so I've been dating a guy for three months and honestly, I thought I was onto a winner. He's good looking, funny and so sweet. Basically about everything I've ever been looking for.

But he films himself cooking. Mars in a set. Like full on food influencer vibes. One minute we'll be chatting away and the next he set up his camera and started talking to his imaginary fans while chopping an onion. Oh wait no he, no. It's so sweet but I'm sorry, I'm going to say something really mean. I thought you were going to say he is, I was like fair it's his job but it's like there's no more marching. How do we feel about that?

I don't wanna judge, because everyone's gotta start somewhere. You might blow up, and then you might be like, I'm a dick for being judgmental about it. I get where you're coming from, and I catch myself doing this, but I would have been that person, and my friends would have been like,

you're cringing me out, Sophie. Imagine being a guy dating a girl and watching them set up their phone being like, so this is my outfit and they have no following. I get it. It's like really fucking cringe. But also- I think it's less cringe for a girl because I think the boy would be like, oh, maybe that's how it works and like it goes viral. But can I just say, TikTok, he doesn't need a following. He could just go viral.

It's a good feeling, I'd say. At first, I thought it was quite funny until I realized he actually posts these videos on TikTok. I'm desperate to follow this guy. And no, he doesn't have loads of followers, not even Kose. Now I started avoiding going around his actual house because I generally can't sit through another, hey guys, welcome to my kitchen intro. But I can't avoid going over forever. What do I do? Is this a choir keeper of his personality I've just got to deal with or do I tell him the pretend cooking show is giving me the ache? I think this is a thing where you've got to just not be so judgmental and I can appreciate it, but really it's so sweet. I also really rate his confidence. He obviously gives zero fucks, which I actually find quite

attractive. I think you've got to like, this is more of like a woman thing where we are like slightly too care about what other people think. Like I think you're like worried about what your friends are gonna think. Like strip that down, he doesn't give a fuck. Then it's kind of attractive actually.

I agree. Let's flip this. He's not embarrassed. He's like loving what he's doing. And he's like, I don't care that no one's watching this. I'm having a good time. Yeah, It's actually really so sweet. It's actually so sweet. And it's cooking. It's not, it's not like, Ooh, yeah, it's not like me in the gym. Like, Oh, that's icky. I agree. Cooking shows also are great to watch. I'm like, I sometimes

see the most random person. They don't have any following on TikTok. And I'm like, obsessed with you. I'm obsessed with you. It's like, let him go. I know. And leave this for. I think we encourage this behavior actually. Also fantastic, you've got your own chef. Hello. I thought I was thinking these are. Do you know how rare that is? I was thinking these are the same thing. Like then you get to eat that delicious food.

Absolutely. You've really got to train your mind to be like, no, this is sweet. This is really sweet and just quick and cute. And you probably almost feel a bit sorry for him because you're like, oh no, like no one's watching. It's like cringing me out. I get it. But it only takes one video to go viral. So let the boy go. Yeah, I think he'll be successful TikTok-er, TikTok-sha. Oh my God, I hope he goes viral after this podcast. We're all touching him. You should have given him like his name. We'll find out what his at is and then everyone go follow him and like his cooking videos.

And then you won't be cringed because then it'll go viral and then it We'll give him his at. We'll find out what his at is and then everyone go follow him and like his cooking videos. Yeah, and then you won't be cringe because then it'll go viral and then it'll be getting loads of views. Guys, you better make this go viral. This is really embarrassing. We are thinking it's going to go viral and it doesn't. And there's five views. But I think it's cute.

I agree. I get where you're coming from, but I think it's cute. Yeah, let's embrace this. Anyway, guys, that's the end of the episode. We love you so much. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. you so much. Bye

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