Wednesdays - 94: My boyfriend is still using his Ex’s Netflix account!

Episode Date: February 1, 2023

We have a lot to catch up on this week! We’re finally reunited in the studio and back to reading all your messages and dilemmas (and another wild vibrator story!) We’re discussing should you or should you not look through your boyfriend’s phone, using an ex’s netflix account with your NEW girlfriend, and an update on Melissa’s romantic retreat and Sophie’s wedding outfits!This week we are drinking a delicious Cabernet Sauvignon Merlot Melissa’s rating: 7Sophie’s rating: Our first ever 10!! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. melissa are you a doctor uh i want to be but i'm not i'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts in anything in fact we just chatted all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help We love giving you guys advice. But as we said. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. This is the first time we've done a podcast together in literally months. And we're drinking real wine. We're break, well, we knew that.

No, it's one day. It's one day. Oh my God, you're so right. It's the last day of January tomorrow. Oh my God. Mic drop. Wow. That is our new favorite saying

that really tickled you when I said that didn't it my job no what really tickled me is that Boris Johnson DMs your boyfriend I know how weird wait he she requested to follow one of Toby's other friends that's the girl the other day it's really odd I don't Carrieson what are you doing she also follows quite a lot of people that we know shall i see if she follows me imagine oh my god she might follow you now she won't i'm having a sip of this right this wine which is carrie johnson also quite rude she's even no follow back she follows me follow back oh my god click on message oh my god because she's private so you've got to Oh my god, click on message. Click on message. Click on message.

Oh my god. No, because she's private, so you've got to request her. No, but click on the top right and then click message and see what happens. She's not gonna have message me. She might have done. Oh my god, you made it. You check now. Oh, but she hasn't for me. That's so disappointing. God, she looks gorgeous. I didn't even know what she looked like. Do we think she controls her own Instagram? I'm not sure we know. No. No, she doesn't follow me.

Gutted. I hope BJ doesn't come for us. Bojo. Oh my god, also, can we just talk about your nearly-wed-like thing? It's so dramatic. I can't wait. I saw you, like, crying in Jamie's arms and I was like... is so dramatic i can't wait i saw you like crying in jamie's arms and i was like no i really wasn't oh but they've made it really dramatic i

was really cold don't give it away spoiler alert yes fucking hell when do we get the full episode it's out is it i'm gonna watch it not me scoffing your tortilla like literally with my hands straight off the pane i was like so lovely and brown golden goddess i did a lot of spray tan did you i was like she looks really good really really good I'm gonna do something tonight and watch that that's gonna be my inspiration oh my god anyway we've not seen each other in a while actually a very long time haven't spoken much either it's because you were away we never talk when either of us go on holiday we always like don't speak as much as we do when we're in London yeah because we can't FaceTime when you're away trying to like relax and then you came back and then went off straight

away again and this is the first and then it was the weekend it's been two weeks yeah it's been two weeks we've had to check out to be fair we have FaceTimed okay so we're drinking a Cabernet Sauvignon it's really nice yeah that's really nice I think it's called campaigns campaigns drift I believe is the name of um the wine but we'll leave it like in the bio so you can see the spelling a little bit um and it's a lovely cabernet sauvignon merlot i would call that compagnie's drift okay you heard it here from soph i can't i'm not really product of south africa love it but i'm just watching this anne hathaway video because we're about to discuss it. Oh my God, look at herself.

Wow. What do you mean, wow? She just looks so young and sexy and stunning. She looks the same as she always had. I don't understand what everyone's fussing over about. Because she looks really young. So basically everyone's saying- She looks better than she used to. She used to.

And I saw another video of her doing an interview and I was like, this must be a really old video. And then obviously it's not. I recently followed her, actually. Do you know what? I really love her. I'm a big fan i know she's really hit miss people don't like her i'm like have you seen the princess diaries have you seen devil wears prada i watched it the other legend an absolute legend how can you not like but she was never someone that i was like oh my god same i was never like obsessing over her like oh my god my God, she's my idol. I love what she wears.

Anything like that. But I always loved her. Like she was a feel good actress. Like whatever she was in, I was like, it'll be a nice film. She kind of annoyed me. Sorry, everyone. Oh my God, she's one of them.

She's one of them. No, I didn't dislike her, but I was like, there's something about her that irritates me. Irritates you. There's another actor who does, but I sound like a bitch because I don't know them.

But now I'm a fan. She was also in that film with the Parkinson's disease what was it called Love and Other Drugs she was excellent in that she was in Les Mis as well oh my god

I haven't seen that bit of a series I don't think I'll be good at that it's a musical yeah I'm not I'm not a musical kind of gal oh my god Les Mis is the best thing in the whole entire world

really next level good next level I've seen it in theatre three times I know every single song yeah watch me we need to go and see in the theater apparently it's fantastic and such a reason i pictured mulan and i was like no no mulan rouge apparently it's so fucking good and we would really enjoy it it's really good fun i may have seen in the theater it's also quite long i get a

bit itchy feet halfway through also awkward timings for dinner before i don't get me wrong i love a good theater experience but like the whole it's a bit of it's a whole it's a half to noon you have to block out the whole afternoon evening for me the cinema and the theater are just too long I think I've got like itchy feet like halfway through I'm like once the snacks are done I'm like oh I'd rather be watching this at home oh no but that's where these places are going out of like people they're going I know no people sit still and enjoy things like that. I'm just an itchy girl. Like I know.

But you know why? That I'm the same now. When I go to cinema, I'm like, oh, I need to check my phone. I'm like, no, I don't. It's because our phones have like made us have such short attention spans. Whereas we used to probably sit in the cinema for hours and really enjoy it and be so engrossed. For hours and hours and hours. My dad took me to Lord of the Rings three times when I was younger.

And then listen to this my mum used to always be like stop eating all the popcorns like she was like wait don't gobble it before it starts so true so she put it behind my back right and i was leaning forward i was really young and this little boy from behind eating it eating all of it and my mum saw and she was like his mum saw oh no and my mom was just like well poor them they must not have any popcorn so go for it and i got it and i was like why is it all soggy oh no so he was like seven but his mom was like oh no that's terrible oh my god don't let your children creep and use especially in these days now with all the covid germs and everything i mean i was literally about seven yeah yeah fair enough fair enough fair enough pete davidson story go on oh listen email from you guys hi girls love the pod just felt like i should have emailed following your speculation surrounding

the size of pete davidson's dick my ex was six foot eight and had a below had a below average size dick perhaps this perhaps his body was too exhausted trying to grow such a big body and ego so he stopped bothering when it came to

his other regions very disappointed to say the least six foot eight that's like you can't go through a doorway at that height I like it

I get I'm like don't get me wrong it's very magical but like it's quite inconvenient no my mum always goes to really tall people how tall are you and I'm like mum that's kind of, but it's quite inconvenient. No, my mum always goes to really tall people.

How tall are you? And I'm like, mum, that's kind of rude. Is that going to a short person? No, they'll love it. No, apparently they don't. Richard, what's his name? Osmond. He is incredibly tall, and he said all through his life,

the only conversation is, oh my God, you're so tall. And he's just like, I'm not just a tall man. And then the first time I met him, I went, how tall are you? You're so tall. And Jamie was like, no. Oh, that's really sad isn't it why am I looking at Jamie I can't because I was just I was just imagining you like saying I don't know if I would it's always like saying I guess it's kind of like saying to a short person like oh my god how short are you you would never do that being tall is like quite impressive and it's also it's like I've got so many like little friends and like I'm quite small myself so like shortness being tall is quite impressive, especially as a man. And it's also, it's like, I've got so many little friends

and I'm quite small myself. So shortness to me is way more common than a really tall person. I guess it's like you don't see it that often, do you? Especially not me. I'm taller than Jamie. No, I'm not actually. No, you're not.

But when I meet a tall guy, I'm like, whoa, you're tall. Yeah. It's kind of a bit annoying. The tallest person I think I've ever seen is six foot six. Oh, I know. Yeah, you've met him too. The guy I've ever seen is six foot six. Oh, I know. Yeah, you've met him too.

The guy, the palm rocks guy. So tall. So, so tall. Oh my God, I saw him the other week and my dad went, he's just like a god. I know, yeah, he's very godly. Like with the spear, the spear from the sea. The goddess of the sea.

The goddess of the sea. There was nothing up his nose, but like you could see. Yeah, because he's so tall. He's so tall.'s so tall i've never seen anything like but in proportion as well stunning guy yeah lovely looking bloke so that is the tallest person i've ever seen in my life in real life oh no no i've seen richard crouch don't peter crouch he's so if i so tall peter crouch i've seen in real life when i was thinking

and i didn't know who he was i was with someone at the the time and I was like, fucking hell, that guy's tall. And she went, oh, that's Peter Crouch. And I was like, who's that? She's like some famous, and then obviously you know who Abby Clancy is,

his wife. I was like, oh, fine. Who else is he? But he is, like people like stop and stare and look at him regardless to recognising

him for his football because he's just so tall. That would be quite annoying if it was spectacle. But I think it's great. She's got to embrace it. I think being tall is great but I also think

being short is wicked. Like roll with the punches, guys. I think being tall is great, but I also think being short is wicked. Like, roll with the punches, guys. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I really don't think, for me, a boy height is not an issue, obviously. As long as they're taller than me, that's all I care, but it's not hard to be taller than me, so.

Yeah, being shorter than me would be a bit annoying, but I don't remember heels, say lovely. Yeah, some boys also like it when there's a girl taller than them. Like, my girlfriend, her boyfriend loves it when she wears heels and he's so tall. Yeah. It's just supermodel-esque, isn't it? I quite like it.

Anyway, vibrator story. Do you want to read this out? Oh, I love a good story. Vibrator story. I just watched your AAA batteries reel and I have to tell you this story. My parents went on holiday, so I had a big house party. I was only 18 and there was a lot of alcohol involved so i was absolutely wasted i took myself off to bed as i was so drunk and two of my girls came up to bed and got in with me one of them said she would sleep

on the floor being the hospital host i am apparently i said apparently because i don't remember any of this insisted that i slept on the floor instead. I always lose my memory after I drink. So in the morning, we were piecing the night together and my friend said, oh, by the way, what the hell were you looking for last night? You were rummaging under the bed for ages

and eventually you must have given up. Oh my God. I immediately died on the spot because even though I had no memory, I knew exactly what I was doing. No. My two other friends had brought me a pink rampant rabbit

for my birthday and i was recently single and became obsessed with it i hid it from my mum under my bed in its box which is why in my drunken state i couldn't find it the fact that i could have laid on my bedroom floor and orgasms whilst my powers were in bed above me makes me feel sick haha i think 12 years later I might actually tell them the full story that is so hilarious they'll know now because you're ranting around oh my god no no no no no sorry how drunk no no no you must be so drunk to not then forget oh my friends are in the bed above me I need to find my ramp oh my god that is fucking fantastic I actually have a funny story to tell myself nothing to do with me but one of my funny story to tell myself. Nothing to do with me, but one of my friends.

Are you ready? It's nothing to do with vibrators, it's just quite funny. Okay, go on. So, Melissa loves vibrators. What? Can I just say, I kind of think they're underrated. They really get in the way. What?

Vibrators. Underrated? They get in the way? What do you mean? They get in the way. They're just annoying. You mean they're overrated? Oh yeah, they're overrated. They get in the way what do you mean they get they're just annoying i mean they're overrated oh yeah they're overrated they get in the way when you're having sex yeah yeah especially a rampant rabbit i don't have that but like i know that you guys have like

put that on your instagram before and it's like lols but like that is that that is huge no no no no no vamos vamos vamos okay, vamos, vamos. Okay, right. Whoopsie daisy angels. Anyway, so Sophie thinks that vibrators are overrated. That's quite good. Good for Jamie. He's obviously doing an accent job. No, but if you're on your own, they're obviously not. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

To try and know I so agree. And he like puts on my fucking leg. I'm like, oh, give up. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Anyway, let's just talk about this story. So we could dive on and make a whole other podcast from vibrators couldn't we terrible i really think we should bring one out and call it the pete davidson okay anyway so my friend was going out on a date but he had i think had a wild weekend

before and i slept with someone and the girl insisted that he didn't have a condom on right so he didn't wear a condom and sat with somebody whatever so he was like okay sure i should do an sti check she insisted or he was like oh cba i think she was like i'm on the pill and was like whatever and then he was kind of like uh-oh sti this is a thing so he did an at-home sti check when he got home and that is the one where you have to like prick your blood and like pee in a cup right never done it neither have i but apparently you have to do all these things and you put it in an envelope so you've got your blood and your wee in this envelope right weird so he was like oh okay i'm going on a date tonight there's a post office a post box on the way to my date so i'll just drop it off on the

way off he goes and his date completely forgets he's got this in his pocket oh my god no on this date chat chat chatting away having a whale of a time drinking drinking drinking and then he gets up to pay and he's like oh shit i've got but surely it's in an envelope so she's yeah yeah yeah but still he's like oh my god as if i've sat here for this entire day with piss and blood in my pocket anyway things start to heat up they go back to his i think it gets a bit hanky-panky on the sofa and he's like trying to like like how do i get this the whole time he's just thinking how do i get rid of this fucking thing in my pocket goes to learn like hides it somewhere in his bathroom and it's all fine. But isn't that disgusting?

Boys just blow my mind. Hey, girls. Love the pod. Literally gives me life. Thank you. That's so sweet. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and he's so amazing.

But I can't help but think he's not sexually attracted to me anymore because I'd never get him turned on pretty much when we have sex it's when he randomly feels it and nothing I do to try and initiate anything oh my god nothing ever works I have never initiated it in my life yeah neither but you know what this is like i kind of have a feeling that if he randomly gets horny it's all down to the hormones i wish jamie had less something to do with testosterone some boys have it loads and they're just you know four times a day ding ding oh he's doing a lot of porn oh yeah that's another option well let's just get further into it okay so you said nothing that when you try to initiate it nothing ever works i've made little comments

here and there and feel and he feels terrible and when and then tries to start some sexy time but i just feel he does that because he feels bad he also never kisses me even during sex and i've told him repeatedly it's my favorite thing i'm not sure if it's the fact that he's just he's just so used to seeing my body that it doesn't excite him anymore or he just doesn't find me attractive not sure what to do or say to him any advice would be amazing well firstly I think straight away that he does love you and I think he has a really low sex drive because if you when you mention it he tries to have sex he definitely does love you and feels attracted to you yeah and he obviously feels embarrassed like he's not having loads of sex exactly it's an embarrassment thing now and he's becoming a bit insecure that's probably why he doesn't want to kiss you because it's almost like

it's becoming more of a thing because you've spoken about it and it's hard these things are so difficult I think men feel really emasculated when they when women are like we never have sex yeah like when men say it to us I'm like give a fuck yeah yeah yeah yeah but if you said that to a boy they'd be like panicking yeah I. I don't know. It's really hard. Because men typically do have a higher sex drive than women. Typically they do. And also, I guess, you know, we, there's no pressure on us to like get it up. Like we're just, they're ready to go.

And the boy has to, their body has to physically do something. And if, you know, their hormones aren't there or whatever, then it's never, it's not going to, at least actually I think way more common. I don't think people talk about it enough. It's actually gonna at least actually i think way more common i don't think people talk about it enough it's actually like quite no i think loads of boys don't like no people don't really talk about it and it's always like yeah it's always as you say like the the guy's like being like oh she never puts out and it's always like a funny joke so boys who actually don't have the sex drives must be like oh yeah yeah yeah yeah what are we gonna give this to give you confidence i think he is attracted to you i really don't want you to think that i think you should have an open honest conversation just

be like is everything okay also i have heard that apparently like medication like hair loss medication yeah yeah yeah and he might just be embarrassed to tell you he's on something or very true anti anxiety yeah depression tablets all of those really even if you have anxiety apparently or you're stressed about stuff at work right tend to like then shut off their emotions or their like hormones or whatever in other ways and sometimes that can mean their sex drives lower or you know some people just have borne out the womb with maybe not that much sex drive the womb the womb yeah some maybe he also work a lack of working out can sometimes mean that your hormones aren't balanced like you need to work out i also just think it's different like some girls are horny as fuck and some girls literally have zero sex drive and also you go through phases sure i mean

toby actually said it on when he came on the podcast he was like I feel like sometimes with men it's similar to like women's hormones like sometimes it'll be like all you can think about is sex and then the next week you're like oh no I really don't like I just want to sleep like I don't I'm not horny at all so like it does happen in phases but I think from what you're saying that this is like another I think you just have to have a really lovely open and honest conversation and be like I love you so much and I'm so attracted to you and like it's quite normal maybe after a year to have you know a bit of a dry spell like maybe we should spice things up or like maybe we should get I think there's like supplement like maca they put in like boys stuff stuff like that maca yeah maca's really good for um sex drive or horny goat weed isn't that oh yeah probably so i once found

that my parents my mom's back and i was like what the fuck is horny goat weed i don't know whether that is what it's for but i was like 13 and i was like what is the name it's quite crass horny goat is that actually what it's for it probably could be for like iause or something yeah it will all be a similar thing love ginseng ginseng good for hormones no maybe mac is definitely the best one for oysters oysters aphrodisiac dark chocolate no but i think mac is genuinely it really does work it's a good one i used to always put it in my smoothies yeah because they put it in loads of smoothies when you have like normally a cacao and maca that's a very common combination i love that and it tastes nice but it's quite caffeiney i'm like is it right should we move on i hope we've given you some good advice that i do feel like

can i say one other thing i think if you try it on with him it will emasculate him too much because he will be aware that he's not trying it on and then he'll be like fuck she's really i think you should have a really open honest conversation and be like it's everything he could be like do you know what i feel really anxious at the moment yeah sometimes yeah it's just one of those things i think just be like it's totally fine be like i know we you know i i go up and down as well be like sometimes i'm not on you at all just say stuff like you know i would play the vulnerable card as well and be like is it because you're not attracted to me no i think that's worse because it puts more pressure on him no i don't think yes's i think is he then be more

inclined to tell her the truth maybe being like why aren't you sexual yeah he definitely loves her because whenever she says it he tries to have sex yeah sexy time the efforts being put in there from his part bless us all yeah so sweet yes, I do think he's a try-to-gym. FanDuel Casino's exclusive live dealer studio has your chance at the number one feeling, winning, which beats even the 27th best feeling, saying I do. Who wants this last parachute? I do. Enjoy the number one feeling, winning,

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Must file by April 30th, 2025. Excludes TurboTax full service and desktop. Okay, I've been seeing a guy for almost five months. Pretty much as soon as we started dating, I noticed that he was still using his ex's Netflix, Disney, Amazon, et cetera. I kept my mouth shut at first because I didn't really think it was my place to say anything

however now that it's been six months it's really starting to bother me so cheeky of him so cheeky so quite funny also she'll be able to see because it's like recently viewed recently viewed what the hell i did that with someone actually of course you did it got brought up a couple of weeks ago when we were both drunk and I mentioned I'd noticed it. We didn't speak about it again until I messaged him a couple of days ago. I told him that I found it really uncomfortable

that we'd cosy up together and use his ex-girlfriend's account to watch films. I'd just be like, fucking pay the five quid, mate. I'd be like, stop being so tight. What's wrong with you? Also, why is she not noticing? I know.

If I was the ex, I'd be like, get out. No, I'd just if i was the ex i'd be like get out no i just changed my password and they'd be locked out so annoying yeah that's quite suspicious i even suggested he could log into my account instead oh okay lovely you've given him an option there not to pay the five pounds a month i rate that i thought i don't even know if it's five pounds you know what i mean it not like, it's like 10, I think it genuinely is about 13 pounds a month for Netflix. Very niche number. I thought he would be understanding.

However, he said it's her problem for not taking him off and has a point blank refused to log out of the accounts. It sounds to me like it's almost like, no, but it's almost like an emotional thing now, more than attachment. Yes.

More than anything else, actually. Yeah. This really shocked me i've had a gut feeling that he might still be seeing his ex yeah that's weird and obviously that would be a reason why he couldn't log out of her accounts and onto mine as she would see it i'm so confused and angry that i feel like this might be a deal breaker for me am i being a lunatic or if or is this bang out of order i think if you've got a gut feeling

this would speak to me in volume if the person i've been seeing for six months is still logged in he won't log out is a bit weird yeah because fair enough he was like it's quite annoying like quite jokes like she hasn't even noticed like i'm saving the money like lol but if she's then being like could you log into mine he'd be like surely like oh yeah let's just do that that That's so much easier. I just read his phone. You just take his phone. Wait till he doesn't do that. No, no, no. If it was me,

I would read through the phone. I would wait till they're asleep and I'd read through the phone. If it was me, I'm not telling you to do that. I'm just telling you what I would do. That's so psyching. Six months,

you'll never find something you want. Like you'll see a group boy chat. Oh, you'll see something you don't like. You'll go on photos and there'll be some tits and you'll be like it was you and then they'll be like no it wasn't it was on a group chat and then you feel like such a dick you'll probably find not that i've ever done that before obviously obviously obviously oh my god that's just not even enough vocabulary to do it but if i was in your scenario you could get their thumb on there do you remember when their. It's face recognition now.

You don't even have to move their hand. When we... Fantastic. Thank you, Apple. I know, it's amazing. I actually know all Jamie's passwords. I've never actually gone onto Jamie's phone, but... Neither have I.

I've had it before where I've actually... I've had someone's laptop and I've seen their feed of whatsapp or iMessage coming through live in front of me you know when it's connected yeah yeah and I've seen it live conversations and I've been like get the popcorn out what was it cheating yeah you watched it live what the fuck it was for like 15-20 minutes not if I loved him but if I didn't i know i was like yeah i've got you red-handed i was like and they still try and deny it why do they do that

i'm like no to be fair i was 17 years old did you scream did you take photos you need evidence i think i then i don't know what i did don't think we're psycho because we're definitely not we are terrible i was watching a live feed of my ex she told me and i just watched it for hours watch the conversation no i'm joking it was literally for us a mat it was like a matter of like minutes that i watched and then he was back in the like back in the room so i was like i had to be so quick and i was like oh my god my adrenaline was like what did you call him out yeah obviously and what did he say oh i don't know it was so long ago this is literally going back like oh my god is it 10 years ago it is 10 years ago this is going back guys really sad so i was

obviously really young and he was obviously very young but yeah i also think there's something to say for if he allows you to just go on his phone change the song can you message my mom can you do this whilst they're driving there's nothing i don't think there's anything for you to be afraid of if he's sketchy about it i'd be like why are you being sketchy then there's something to be suspicious about and then i'll grab it and then no no no don't grab it i would i would grab it i'd go why are you being sketchy yeah yeah what are you hiding and then i've locked myself i've got a feeling about this this and this if you promise me there's nothing will you please like let me just have a look at the phones for my own peace of mind oh no no no no i'm saying borrow go can

i call my mom okay so we're gonna go through with planet yeah follow through with planet if he sketches you know there's a problem if he goes one minute yeah sure one minute do do do do do or what are you doing i go red flag yeah you run lock the door and you go through everything lock the door well if you go into the if you go into the women's toilet and you're like i just need to make a phone call to my mom it's private i'm just gonna leave you're thinking now this is what i'm and you're like, I just need to make a phone call to my mum. It's private. I'm just going to leave it to you. Oh, you're thinking now, right? I take the dinner. No, this is what I'm thinking. You're out in public, so you can't recharge your phone.

You need to go out all day with low battery, wait for the phone to die, and go, fuck, you're a maggot, mum. I don't know where you are. We need to check ourselves in, because we are crazy. P.S. So sorry, Jamie and Tegan. I actually have never done that, i would definitely do oh i would 100 do it you gotta do what you gotta do same if something was sketchy i'd be like give me the

goods give me the information i hope that was helpful slash love you sending you loads of love and you know what we always have a gut feeling and i feel like most of the time it's true yeah guys you know that i woke up in the middle of the night i told melissa this yeah it's like my boyfriend's cheating on me this wasn't obviously jamie and then i found out six months later he was with the girl that i imagined and i'd met her once fully psychic guts are just yeah i think women have this sixth sense we know we're magical creatures right should we move on to dilemma three yeah i had a long distance breakup in october since then i've been somewhat involved with this guy who lives in the same city as me now he's at a different uni but we live 10 minutes from each other we have met initially we met

initially back in january and i just kind of dismissed him for a few months i went traveling he went back home for summer then my first night out after being single in october i met him in the club he came straight up to me and we ended up spending the night together at the club we were messaging for the weekend and then he came around monday evening when my flatmate was away we were together all evening and most of the following day then after the contact became kind of patchy a few weekends after we were texting and i was out with the girls i asked what he was up to for the night and he sent a photo of him in bed i kid you not 10 minutes later this boy was in the same bar as me i introduced him to my friends and they did not like this vibe i didn't like his vibe

either that night so one of so one thing led to another and we kind of fell out that night i said my piece and decided to leave it there then three days later i was at work at my bar and he was there on his night out he was all over me flirting chatting hugging me he proceeded to phone me that that night all friendly asking to see me the next day i sent him a message just jokingly saying oh so we're friends again he ignored it since then contact has been scarce he phoned phoned me a few times sends messages and then and then deletes them as in like unsends them i'm guessing that's what she means that's what i hate i sketch so much yeah why what the hell have you said also if it's a regular thing that's weird so when i was drunk

the week before christmas i sent him a really lovely text just saying i'd love to see him before he went home to resolve anything and call a truce he said ara no he felt uncomfortable and that was it and i respected that okay fine right before christmas he messaged me asking to be removed from my close friend's story knowing full well he can remove himself without messaging me can you remove yourself from someone else's close friend's story don't know but i'll be doing that oh my god i didn't know that i opened the message i removed him and left and left it I didn't say a thing. Changed his name to ghost in my phone. Oh no, she's changed it to like a plaque, like on a funeral plaque.

Like a coffin. Yeah, yeah, yeah. In my phone and cleared our chat. Then I got a Merry Christmas. Kiss, kiss, kiss on Christmas day. What in God's name does this guy want? Right. Oh, just ignore him.

He's just a weirdo. He's just a fucking weirdo. Yeah, I think you were right. Leave him as a ghost or, you know, dead to me. Also, if my him. He's just a weirdo. He's just a fucking weirdo. Yeah, I think you were right. Leave him as a ghost or, you know, dead to me. Also, if my friends don't like somebody, it would be the end of it. Oh, yeah, 100%. That would give me the ick about them. Same.

That's never going to work. No. I'd be like, and the fact they told you, they really didn't like him. And the fact that you also were like, weird vibes. Like, you even thought yourself that he was weird. He's icking me out. I don't know what he wants. I think he's...

I think he was bored at Christmas. Yeah. I was at home with what he wants i think he's i think he was bored at christmas i was at home with their parents yeah he's like a bit of something something also i always well obviously not now but like christmas same there's there's there's certain people that we all have as humans that you message when you're bored and you haven't got a better option i think just christmas anyway if you're alone you want to text somebody yeah you just sack this guy off i'm sorry no ghost keep him as a dead to me dead to me not putting him as a coffin that's absolutely sad yeah don't you're so much better than that you're not invested you haven't had sex or anything so you're fine yeah mine's going down swimmingly guys i've only drank once since christmas day she's been excellent you've been

so well i went to the mayor clinic so I've been so healthy. She's detoxed. No, but now alcohol is sending me like, whoa. Really? Yeah, it almost is. Quite nice.

Cheap night out. I'm not sure I quite like the feeling. Not so single diaries. We went away for one night and then we went to Toby's family's house for two nights. We had a nice little outside bath,

played some cards. Got really drunk. Are you very much honeymoon period still? Has it like repeated itself after the breakup? I don't know. It's just very, I guess it's very different now. Why? I don't know.

For me, I'm just constantly paranoid he's going to break up with me again. Melissa! She's got PTSD. Oh, PTSD. I can't do anything. Poor bloke can't do anything. No, he can't do anything bless him

he's so perfect and so wonderful perfect and wonderful but yeah we had a lovely time do you ever get drunk and the anger comes out yeah every now and then but it's quite fun I think he secretly quite likes it he's like I know you're pissed off because I broke up with you

oh you're not like a shouter though you're like a moody yeah yeah i'll just be moody oh like i'm a crazy bitch i'm never no i'm never like it always ends up like us like laughing and joking about it like it's never actually a serious like psychotic moment that i have not like me melissa calls jamie and me and goes sophie needs to stop drinking she gets so mean to you i was like melissa i was like the behavior hasn't gone unnoticed. She was like, Jamie, Sophie's behaviour when she's drunk to you has not gone unnoticed.

I was like, you're on my side. I am on your side. And I had to call Sophie afterwards and be like, just FYI, I have said this to Jamie. Right. Yeah, so that was a lovely, so we had some champagne in the bath or Toby actually had beer.

Then we had red wine. Then we played some card games. You guys love to get a little bit drunk together I love it yeah yeah see that would end in arguments with us it was so fun got back Toby just passed out oh so no sexy time no sexy time oh no when we were getting ready for dinner lovely pre-dinner yeah cut that out don't cut that out you're keeping in right bride or bridezilla okay we've got so much to discuss with sophie on this guys we've got weeks to catch up on um okay loads has gone on i wanted to cancel the wedding so stressful i went to spain i'm so excited everything is sorted our wedding planner is

phenomenal she has the best taste ever like she's honestly the best I wanted guys the tablescaping is the most magical thing I've ever seen in my life do you like it unbelievable and I was with my grandma when you sent it to me and I showed it to her and she's like oh my god what is that and I was like I know I designed it it's incredible and I chose all the plates and the chairs and everything. It's stunning. So it's really exciting. It's all coming together. And I actually have hired a stylist to help me do my hen looks because that was my biggest stress.

Who is it? I mean, it's a big old cost in my life, but I'm just like... It's worth it. Worth every penny. You only have one hen. It's a really... Not many people know of her, but she's called Bettina Looney and she's actually like a big influencer. i was like i love her style and she had a wedding

that i was like loved her wedding like very unique very chic okay and then i messaged her wedding planner being like where did she get some of her she did herself and she was like she's actually got a styling company so they're doing oh my god that perfectly. I've got the email today of all my outfits. We can go through them today. They've sent me 20 looks so we can go through them. Obviously my wedding dress is not. Wedding dress is sorted. What about day one and day three?

They're doing that thing. Oh my God, sick. Which takes a lot of the pressure off. Yeah. And then Georgie Lurie is obviously helping out a lot with gorgeous, gorgeous stuff. So it's all coming together. We're very excited. It's all booked.

It's all done. Pressure's off. Pressure's off. Now we can just get excited. And the invitations. It's all done. Pressure's off. Pressure's off. Now we can just get excited. And invitations. I'll show you tonight. Guys, I'm so drunk. I've literally had two sips of wine.

And I honestly, genuinely can't talk. What are we going to rate this? Well, it's made me absolutely drunk. But that's probably because I did dry down. But I think that was delicious. I think I'm going to rate it a seven. Nine. We've never rated anything a 10, ever.

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